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Hi there! If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)

Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. Peace is within you. Just give yourself space to feel it. I really liked The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle

All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.

"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama

"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay

"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain

I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html

http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/

So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.

“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.

The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.

If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.

http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html

If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.

You have my permission to say “no.”

If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.

There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’

Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.

Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.

Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.

I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.

I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html

More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm

I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171

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A.   22 May 2013: I go back to letting him know how his inability to acknowledge fault affects you, and what the consequences of that will be. If you can't talk to him calmly about this without him growing angry… Tell me what is so wonderful about him?... (read in full...)

How do I teach my partner to apologise and show him it isnt a sign of weakness?

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A.   21 May 2013: If your family perceives you as being helpless at helping yourself, they no doubt consider you a bit hopeless at helping others. Put the emergency oxygen mask on yourself first, then you can think about assisting other passengers in this spac... (read in full...)

Boyfriend said he needed time to "discover himself" does it sound completely over? And how can I cope?

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She's too years younger than what I normally would date. Should I ask her out?

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How can I help my grandad fulfill his dreams when my family is standing in the way?

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How can I help my grandad fulfill his dreams when my family is standing in the way?

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How can I help my grandad fulfill his dreams when my family is standing in the way?

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How can I help my grandad fulfill his dreams when my family is standing in the way?

Q.   My grandad is 86. He has prostate cancer, dementia, severe arthritis, can barely walk or sit up on his own and has been in and out of hospital recently for traces of pneumonia in his lungs which are now (fingers crossed) gone. I would like to cr...

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About Intimacy with BF vs. Self...

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How can I help my grandad fulfill his dreams when my family is standing in the way?

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Boyfriend said he needed time to "discover himself" does it sound completely over? And how can I cope?

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Boyfriend said he needed time to "discover himself" does it sound completely over? And how can I cope?

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A.   17 May 2013: He's done this 3 times already? Okay, time for some tough love. He's kind of broken up with you but wants to hang out and still have you hanging around for him? Screw that. YOU decide if you are happy with this mishymoshy wishy washy limbo. I... (read in full...)

His wife has moved back in with him and he cant divorce her, but he wants to continue seeing me. What should I do?

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Does this sound normal for "down there"?

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If I want optimal results, should I be clean shave, have some stubble, or full beard?

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Should I be worried about my wife's sudden interest in astrology?

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A.   16 May 2013: My internet search history is a weird and wacky list of odd sites. I look for links to answer people who ask about STDs. I look up help sites for people who are being abused. There are many topics on this site that need a little more research and I ... (read in full...)

HELP!!!! My weight is ruining my relationship

Q.   I have had two children and I am now 70 pounds overweight. I'm very unhappy, angery and out of sorts with myself. I know that I need to lose weight, but after working, taking care of my dads kids and then taking care of my own kids, I find I h...

A.   15 May 2013: The boyfriend is your kids' dad, I trust?... (read in full...)

HELP!!!! My weight is ruining my relationship

Q.   I have had two children and I am now 70 pounds overweight. I'm very unhappy, angery and out of sorts with myself. I know that I need to lose weight, but after working, taking care of my dads kids and then taking care of my own kids, I find I h...

A.   15 May 2013: You've got some great diet and exercise advice, so I won't add mine. But I do have a brilliant idea for you. (*cough* she says modestly) The moment he says, 'You're fat and need to lose weight.' Say, 'Oh, thank you darling, I appreciate the feed... (read in full...)

His wife has moved back in with him and he cant divorce her, but he wants to continue seeing me. What should I do?

Q.   Hi, how I’m going to start this. I read some of “my boyfriend has a wife” discussion and I’m in the same situation now. We start as a friend since then all of our friends knew that his separated to his wife. He has a kid, and that is the only thing ...

A.   14 May 2013: I would end the relationship, if it were me. Married men make lousy boyfriends. They never can join you for major holidays, you spend most nights and weekends alone. The children and wife, heck, even the family dog, come before you on his priority ... (read in full...)

When to reveal a disability during online dating?

Q.   I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...

A.   13 May 2013: Hi, every time you receive an answer, including the ones you post yourself, you will be notified. So you aren't missing answers, you are just being notified that you have a response, including the ones YOU post. Hope this helps clear up the ... (read in full...)

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