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Why does my mother always seem to favor my sister over me?

Q.   My mom treats my sister better than me and makes me share everything. We're 14 and 13 and about the same size so when we go clothes shopping she makes me go with what M (my sister) wants which is usually shapeless pastel t shirts or lacy dress on...

A.   4 May 2016: Have you asked your mom this? As for the bike... well, getting a second hand one isn't a bad choice, it's a bike not a fashion statement and honestly.. a $100 bike can run just as well as a pre-owned $15 one. But you COULD suggest that YOUR sis... (read in full...)

How does a teen get over a celebrity crush?

Q.   I have a celebrity crush. I understand that at my age, this is completely normal, but I think that I have crossed the line. I won't explain how (I'll leave that to your imagination) but I know that I've gone too far. I've tried to find obtainable ...

A.   4 May 2016: I think it's VERY normal. And it can happen at ANY age.. yes, you might not really outgrow it. What CAN be a warning sign, is when it turns from a crush/infatuation into a obsession and then stalking and total fantasy la-la delusion. A crush is... (read in full...)

Shouldn’t we be going at it like rabbits?

Q.   Hi , I've been with my girlfriend for almost two years now , and our sex life is almost none existent, maybe once every two weeks. She is 19 and I'm 23 , shouldn't we be at it like rabbits ? We used to be very active , we used to buy all sorts of ...

A.   4 May 2016: How IS the sex when you have it? (other than boring) are you BOTH satisfied sexually? My guess is, SHE isn't. And hasn't been for quite a while. Not wanting to to have fun in bed can stem from several things. 1. drop in libido. And for ... (read in full...)

Does my fiance's female friend fancy him? Should I be concerned? How should I handle this situation?

Q.   I really need some advice please I feel awful. My boyfriend and I got engaged recently and I couldnt be happier about it, there is just one thing that is really getting me down and making ne question everything. He has a female school friend w...

A.   4 May 2016: Here is the thing you NEED consider. If he thinks it's OK to pop around her house, to text all hours at night with her.... while being with you, dating, engaged and soon to be married - HE WILL NOT drop after the wedding. So SHE will be part of ... (read in full...)

I distrust males. Is this likely to be a permanent problem?

Q.   I have and had a crazy family life, most of the problems that my mom and I have encountered were caused by men. Don't get me wrong, I don't hate males or think they are lesser people in any way, but ever since a particular event occurred, I haven'...

A.   4 May 2016: I think by learning and accepting that NOT every male are LIKE the men you and your mom have encountered. That holding people RESPONSIBLE for other people's bad behavior because of their gender isn't really fair, and won't help you in life. ... (read in full...)

After our marathon 8 hour fight, what can I say to my LD guy?

Q.   Before knowing my current boyfriend (lets call him S) I went to a party and kissed a guy who was way older than me, I was 16 he was 20. It was nothing else apart from a kiss, caused by being tipsy and 'lovin the single life' so yeah.. In my opinion, ...

A.   4 May 2016: Oh good grief! You kissed a guy! and then your BF thinks it's OK to call you a slut? And to make you out to be some whore of Babylon? First of all it happened BEFORE you met your BF, so in ALL respects none of his business. And certainly not an... (read in full...)

Why would he be messaging his ex in the first place? And why ask her for pictures? If he misses her, is that a bad sign?

Q.   I found out and saw that my boyfriend was texting back and forth was his ex girlfriend. He asked her to send him a picture of her (not sexual just normal) and then he told her how gorgeous she was and that he missed her. I asked him about it and...

A.   4 May 2016: Of course he didn't think it was inappropriate! That would be like him having to admit he doing things that is not OK in a relationship. Asking for pictures, praising her looks and telling her he misses her, is not platonic behavior. Would h... (read in full...)

How can I move on? He had multiple social media accounts and took drugs and smoked!

Q.   Help me, I can't stop thinking of my ex and its making me really sad. I ended the relationship 2 weeks ago today (Sunday) because my mum wanted me to. He said he wanted to speak and then he started blanking me and I'm really confused. Today I was ...

A.   4 May 2016: I wouldn't, and I'll tell you why. IT doesn't matter whether he was or was not. It doesn't change how he treated you, it doesn't change a single thing. And.... you won't really know if he is lying or not. Don't give him so much power over your tho... (read in full...)

Hookups where the women only get oral?

Q.   Hookups where the women only get oral? I've seen some women mention that they do this online and that it's a mini-trend now, but I wanted to see some stories. What did the guys do or how did they react when you made it clear you only wanted them to ...

A.   3 May 2016: Amen Tisha! Hello HVP and Herpes!! Specially if these are casual hook ups where you have NO idea of the sexual history of your partner. Now OP if you insist on trying this, invest in some dental dams and/or roll of saran wrap/clingfilm! ... (read in full...)

He swears there's nothing romantic going on. Should I believe him?

Q.   Hi guys. I'm a single mom, I'm stuck in a rut. I've been seeing this guy for a year now. We've had some major ups and major downs. Lately though, it's just all downs. He's befriended a waitress at his local bar (he goes just about every day)...

A.   3 May 2016: So have you finally kicked him to the curb?... (read in full...)

He swears there's nothing romantic going on. Should I believe him?

Q.   Hi guys. I'm a single mom, I'm stuck in a rut. I've been seeing this guy for a year now. We've had some major ups and major downs. Lately though, it's just all downs. He's befriended a waitress at his local bar (he goes just about every day)...

A.   3 May 2016: I'm not going to sugarcoat my answer, OP. You are SO down the river of denial. He is using you, while buttering up her, or rather... "grooming" her. Your friends are right and I can see why they are SO frustrated with you. Because your d... (read in full...)

What do women think of very hairy guys?

Q.   What do women think of very hairy guys? Is it a turn off and a major deal breaker when a guy is very hairy on his body? Be honest....

A.   3 May 2016: This is just MY personal preference. Would I tell someone I was dating to shave/manscape? No. It's HIS body, his choice. If he asked, I'd give my honest opinion. Would I be turned off sexually by a very hairy guy? Doubtful. If his personal... (read in full...)

Was I in the wrong for asking him about the pictures and did he only tell me he wanted to make things work so he could have sex?

Q.   Hey my ex broke up with me about a month ago. Everything was going really well we'd made plans to live together when we'd both finished uni as I finish this year but he has one year left. He said that he never had a connection like the one he had ...

A.   3 May 2016: He sounds like a very petty and manipulative person (from what you write) and I agree with Cindy, there is a good chick of the "story" missing, bur regardless... If I were you, I'd accept that he wasn't such a lovely guy as you thought. That he ... (read in full...)

How soon is too soon to go on a trip together? I'm a virgin.

Q.   I've been seeing someone for 3 weeks, seven dates, and we speak daily. Our connection is amazing and we share everything. However one subject we haven't mentioned is sex. I went to his place once and we didn't do anything physical except kiss. Just ...

A.   3 May 2016: Yes, I think it's WAY too soon for travelling and personally, for sex. If you feel you are ready, then talk exclusivity FIRST. I know after 7 dates you feel you know him, but honestly... you don't. Sure, if he JUST wanted sex he could wine an... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to screen out women as potential partners due to their past sexual history and how many partners they have had?

Q.   I spent a lot of my teens having low self-esteem and have very little dating experience. I had a girlfriend in high school. Still a virgin even though I have done everything else. I used a lot of that time to make sure I have an amazing future and ...

A.   2 May 2016: Auntie Cindy is right. You do know, OP, that a GREAT lover is NOT the "hot guy" but the guy with the willingness to attune himself to his partner. Getting to KNOW her body, getting know her. Washboard abs are LOVELY to look at, but let's face i... (read in full...)

Do tough guys like it rough too?

Q.   Do dominant guys like to be manhandled in bed too? When I usually hear people talk about rough sex they usually only talk about what the guy does to the woman. Are there any guys who aren't submissive who liked to be choked, slapped, or even bruised ...

A.   2 May 2016: There are people who aren't submissive outside of the bedroom and not always IN the bedroom either. It's not a given that EVERYONE likes to be choked, slapped etc. Like Chigirl said, it's a fetish. It's not about the pain as much as the giving u... (read in full...)

Can he change? There's good and bad.

Q.   Married five years. With the exception of my pregnancy, my husband has emotionally and physically abused me the entire time. He talks down to me and expects everything in the house to be done his way from meals to laundry. When I do something wrong ...

A.   2 May 2016: Why not GIVE the couples counseling a chance? But I would suggest he doesn't come BACK in the house till you two have worked THROUGH this, or at least keep separate bedrooms. He seems willing to do anything, but that doesn't mean he WILL change. ... (read in full...)

Did he just need some time for himself? Or was my Bf trying to create distance between us?

Q.   Would you be upset with your long time BF if you just spent two weeks on vacation and the last two days you had together when you got back back home he did not stay at your place? Instead he went back to his for some "me" time? He could have s...

A.   2 May 2016: I get why you feel hurt, but I also TOTALLY get his point of view. You two don't live together normally so spending 2 weeks can seem rather "immersive" and wanting to have a few days of "me-time" and rest before going back to the job and daily ... (read in full...)

Still in love though we have never acted on it. How long does it take before you fall out of love?

Q.   I am in love with a guy and I know that he's in love with me too (don't want to bore you with details). We are both married (he has kids) and work together. So it is totally inappropriate. We never acted on it and I never plan to act on it. ...

A.   2 May 2016: I don't think it's entirely uncommon for this to happen. The fact that you both haven't acted on it is (IMHO) a good thing. What I would suggest is you starting to nip it in the bid EVERY TIME you think of him or the "what if's". And you start... (read in full...)

Is breaking up our friendship my only option? Or is there a better way to deal with this problem?

Q.   Hi aunts and uncles some friend and parenting advice please. I have a friend called T who lives a few houses down from me in the same street. We have been friends for a couple of years and our daughters play together. Recently things have been...

A.   2 May 2016: I agree with Ivy. You can correct BOTH girls in a calm manner. As a parent you should NOT just sit by and wait for other parents to STOP their child from being being a bully. Seriously. You are teaching your daughter that YOU do NOT stand up for h... (read in full...)

How can I move on? He had multiple social media accounts and took drugs and smoked!

Q.   Help me, I can't stop thinking of my ex and its making me really sad. I ended the relationship 2 weeks ago today (Sunday) because my mum wanted me to. He said he wanted to speak and then he started blanking me and I'm really confused. Today I was ...

A.   2 May 2016: How can you move on? By accepting that HE was a loser and your mom was right in suggesting you end it. You can't move on because you CHOOSE not to. The fact that he blanked you, makes you feel like you have something to prove to him. YOU don't. ... (read in full...)

If you've already had sex, then which do you think is better - Affection or Sex?

Q.   I don't think I want to have sex. I thought I did and I was getting ready to lose my v card soon. But every time I think about sex...I'd say ninety percent of the reason I'd have it is because the guy wants it. I know it sounds stereotypical bu...

A.   2 May 2016: I so agree with Cindy. You CAN have both, but many settle for less. Many people settle for FWB, F-buddies, casual relationships that focus mainly (or solely) on sex. They settle for it because they think they can rush things. Get "instant... (read in full...)

Love my Gf but my ex occupies my thoughts, a lot. What should I do?

Q.   Hey guys, I'm going to try keep this brief for you. A year ago I was made heart broken when my girlfriend split up with me. It was very out of the blue and was a total shock. Throughout last year I suffered from a severe breakdown because of it, a...

A.   2 May 2016: I think it's pretty unfair for your current GF that you got back in touch with the ex and is still talking and meeting up. NOT cool. I'm pretty sure YOU wouldn't like a partner doing THAT. You aren't over your EX, which means while you might ca... (read in full...)

If our LDR is really over then why is he still responding to my messages?

Q.   Hello, and thanks in advance for your advice you are able to offer. I was together with my partner for 16 months. It was a long distance thing, and we saw each other most weekends. Were have been apart for six weeks new, he finished it with...

A.   2 May 2016: Why? Because while he wanted to move on "relationship wise" he likes the familiarity of having you "around" to talk to, and MAYBE he also feels a bit guilty for dumping you. Another thing could be that he is keeping his options open, keeping you ... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to screen out women as potential partners due to their past sexual history and how many partners they have had?

Q.   I spent a lot of my teens having low self-esteem and have very little dating experience. I had a girlfriend in high school. Still a virgin even though I have done everything else. I used a lot of that time to make sure I have an amazing future and ...

A.   2 May 2016: I think it's fine having some "wishes" on your check-list, not just for yourself but FOR her sake too. A girl who have had more partners might NOT want to deal with a guy who is more worried about HER sexual past then building a future together. ... (read in full...)

Is it better to just ignore his text or pretend I never received it?

Q.   I went out on Friday night with some friends and their friends (whom I had never met). One of the guys asked me for my phone number before I left. He knows I don't have a boyfriend. I gave it to him but I'm not interested at all romantic...

A.   1 May 2016: If you give out your number, you need to follow up with HONESTY. Either tell him, I'd met up for coffee as long as you understand that I'm not looking for a BF. Or you can go, have coffee and tell him in person. IF you have NO interest in a guy...... (read in full...)

He's drunk and abusive. How do you reason with someone like this, for the sake of your kids?

Q.   I've been with my partner, "Bill", for 12 years and we have a family together. Tonight he told me for the umpteenth time that he was sick of my bad attitude and that I need to "know my place". Then he told me it's over and to expect all my thing...

A.   1 May 2016: He might WANT you to stay at the MIL house on the grounds, doesn't mean you HAVE to. I would suggest that you record (if you can without his knowledge) next time he goes off. (consider a voice activated little recorder device, they are about $2... (read in full...)

Why do guys want intercourse so badly?

Q.   Why do they want to have sex so badly? I was skimming the online forums about this; like those pua forums with the creepy guys who do everything they possibly can to get sex. And...I was reading all the replies and different terms, and I want to ...

A.   1 May 2016: Sorry, Chi! Don't know if you can google Saturday Night Live and then the "Pick up artists" skit. :(... (read in full...)

Why do guys want intercourse so badly?

Q.   Why do they want to have sex so badly? I was skimming the online forums about this; like those pua forums with the creepy guys who do everything they possibly can to get sex. And...I was reading all the replies and different terms, and I want to ...

A.   30 April 2016: I think if you read about sex on PUA forums you are reading the post of guy who are DESPERATE for sex because they think sex will validate them as "men". So it's a PRETTY skewered view you get. The whole notion of "Pick Up Artists" is so sleazy and ... (read in full...)

When travelling, what are your pet peeves about the people you meet and the places you visit outside of your own country?

Q.   This is not a relationship issue, it's just something recreational if any of you wants to humour me up. So : yesterday I was reading on a travellers' forum a thread called "Why Italians are so rude." Now, .. Italian can be rude, I am not argui...

A.   30 April 2016: To anon female who wrote: "I've found Italians can be dishonest - e.g a taxi driver will tell you a price then when you get to the destination will charge you a whole lot more" --------------- Honey, that is not just the Italians... Same thi... (read in full...)

When travelling, what are your pet peeves about the people you meet and the places you visit outside of your own country?

Q.   This is not a relationship issue, it's just something recreational if any of you wants to humour me up. So : yesterday I was reading on a travellers' forum a thread called "Why Italians are so rude." Now, .. Italian can be rude, I am not argui...

A.   30 April 2016: Good grief Chi! That hairstyle is a hideous trend! It's as ridiculous as the pants handing below your butt trend here in the US. I don't want to see your underwear, or your butt! Pull your pants up, man!! Funny enough, both trends were star... (read in full...)

What are the main reasons that would motivate a woman to want to break up with a guy?

Q.   I would like the opinion of the lady's an men who write in all the time, my question is what's the main reasons for women to dump the guys? Is it they found some one new, he cheated , he treats her bad, got bored of him, he was to nice, came on ...

A.   30 April 2016: I still don't get what "too nice" means. My first BF was/is a REALLY nice guy, and so was/os my second. They were lovely, caring and compassionate. I CERTAINLY didn't end either relationship because they were "too nice". The first ended because ... (read in full...)

When travelling, what are your pet peeves about the people you meet and the places you visit outside of your own country?

Q.   This is not a relationship issue, it's just something recreational if any of you wants to humour me up. So : yesterday I was reading on a travellers' forum a thread called "Why Italians are so rude." Now, .. Italian can be rude, I am not argui...

A.   30 April 2016: I guess I'll list most of the places I have been. I love Italians :) Their food, culture, country, wine, beaches, sight and sounds. However, I do NOT like getting my bum pinched by Italian men. When I was in Rome last time, my poor bum was full... (read in full...)

Is my cheating any worse than the abuse he inflicts or threatens me with, regularly? Is getting help as impossible?

Q.   My husband and I have been married for 8 years.I'm cheating on him. My husband has been abusing me for the last 3 years.Apart from the physical abuse which he exercises every day he abuses me verbally as well. He calls me all the names under the ...

A.   30 April 2016: This isn't a who is "worse" - this is YOUR life! I agree that you NEED to tell your family and you NEED to get out of that house and marriage. While you might feel like what YOU are doing is "freeing" and enjoyable - consider that the OTHER m... (read in full...)

Advice needed, please? Would my subsequent actions be enough for me to get pregnant?

Q.   So today I hooked up with this guy and we had oral sex. We didn't have sex. Everything was fine, he ate me and I sucked him till he came on my chest. When we ended, I might have gotten some semen on my fingers since it got on my shirt too, but I ...

A.   30 April 2016: It's unlikely. Though sperm CAN survive for a good while outside the body, I don't think you got pregnant from it. Don't forget you also need to be ovulating. There aren't just eggs hanging around waiting to be fertilized. Plus the vulva and clit ... (read in full...)

What are the main reasons that would motivate a woman to want to break up with a guy?

Q.   I would like the opinion of the lady's an men who write in all the time, my question is what's the main reasons for women to dump the guys? Is it they found some one new, he cheated , he treats her bad, got bored of him, he was to nice, came on ...

A.   30 April 2016: Sure that CAN be the reason, but I don't think it's the "major" reason. I have seen more women take a longer "break" from dating after a break up, than I have seen guys. It does seem more common that guy jump into a new relationship to get over... (read in full...)

We’ve been dating one month and I found his arrest records online! Should I ask him about it? How?

Q.   I’ve been dating a wonderful man for a month. We’re very compatible, he’s family oriented and successful, and does everything big and little to show he cares for me. All signs are very good. He’s an entrepreneur and there’s plenty of info about him ...

A.   30 April 2016: You COULD ask him, or you can spend $15 on a background check. Personally, I'd do that latter since you have only known him a month. And YES, I DO think it's important to know what it is. If he is on the sexual offenders list for instance... (read in full...)

Wearing jewelry from an ex whilst out on a date with a new partner... thoughts?

Q.   I want to know what everybody's thoughts are on wearing jewellery from an ex partner whilst out on a date with a new partner. Thank you!...

A.   29 April 2016: I don't see the problem UNLESS it's an "old" engagement ring. I don't see a reason to explain where you got it from, but if he asks, why not be honest? Do you think a new guy would cross examine you on your jewelry? I mean it IS just jewelry.... (read in full...)

He thinks I stole his money! I’m so hurt! Should I leave?

Q.   Dear cupid I’ve been seeing a man for almost 6 years I’m now living with him he say he lost so I'm money and the first person he blames is me because we are the only 2 people live in the house but his son is always comes in as he please a...

A.   29 April 2016: Wow, his first reaction to not being able to find this money is to accuse you of theft? You, his partner? I'd be looking for some place else to live and to end it. A relationship with THIS level of distrust is not healthy.... (read in full...)

What do I do about this? He doesn’t return the favor!

Q.   so here goes... From the ages of 15 (lost my virginity) to 21 I've always had oral sex given to me with out asking (im now 23)...(by boyfriends not randoms) My current boyfriend of two years this september has only gone down on me a hand full...

A.   29 April 2016: He doesn't like giving head, but he doesn't want to offend. Some people are just not that into oral. Let's say for a minute that YOU didn't like to do something sexual. Like... I don't know? Random example.. sticking your finger in his bum whil... (read in full...)

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