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What are some good tips and ideas to help get started on repairing the trust I broke with my husband when I cheated?

Q.   I have cheated on my husband and I told him about it, it broke him completely and he is just hanging on by a thread with what little piece of heart he has left. He feels that our whole marriage of 2 years has been a lie because I broke that vow a...

A.   28 July 2016: Marriage counseling/couples counseling or even a "pre-marital counseling" session or 3 might do you both good. There is no instant fix here. Instead of asking us, ASK him what HE would want for you, HOW you can show that you IN TIME will be wor... (read in full...)

His ex got engaged just yesterday. Since they were still on social media together, is her engagemet likely to bother him?

Q.   Hi Ive been with my boyfriend 2 years, when we first got together, he had only recently broken up with his ex, they were together 10 months. They still have each other added on social media but as far as i know they dont talk. She got enga...

A.   28 July 2016: Ask him? For some it's a good thing that the ex has moved on and is happy, for others, not so much.... (read in full...)

My mother-in-law is terrible to my wife! Should I say something or stay out of it?

Q.   My 73 year old mother-in-law has always been manipulative. Back when I was dating my wife 20 years ago she would guilt trip her into coming to visit for months at a time and bribe her with gifts to stay if necessary. That really hurt our developi...

A.   27 July 2016: I agree with Sage, IT IS hard to deal with someone with not only some kind of bipolar/manic/depressive disorder but then adding onset dementia? MUCH harder. SUPPORT your wife the best you can. Remind her that, this is her mother's ILLNESS... (read in full...)

Why do men act the way they do ? Not replying? Changing plans at last minute?

Q.   Im hoping a few men will reply to this. I want to know why men do and say things the way they do . If a woman asks a basic question like how you doing fancy meeting up next week ? and the man has seen the message but doesnt reply and its been 5 d...

A.   27 July 2016: So he is a shitty flaky friend.... Not much else to glean from that.... (read in full...)

How can I get my son to sleep through the night?

Q.   My son is 8 months old. He wakes up EVERYNIGHT between 2-3am. Usually goes to bed between 8-9pm. .. he never sleeps through the night. Any tricks to get him to sleep through the night?...

A.   27 July 2016: He is probably starting to cut his teeth, so it might not be the right time for him the "learn" to sleep through the night. Double it up with the fact that kids around that age start having separation anxieties ( usually around 9-12 months). It ca... (read in full...)

Will a man automatically fancy a younger women than once closer to his age?

Q.   Hello, I'm 37 years old and I fancy a guy of 45 who I suspect fancies me too. However, there is a pretty girl of 26 that also likes him. Will he automatically fancy her more because she is younger? When I found out she liked him I have been avoiding...

A.   27 July 2016: *chuckle @ Tisha* I don't think EVERY guy will choose a younger woman over an "older" (in comparison to the younger woman). I think a guy in his 40's knows that compatibility is WAY more important than age. IF he is looking to start a family, ... (read in full...)

Should I ask him if he is messing about with his old flings?

Q.   Hi everyone, I got back with my ex who promised he would like to have a serious relationship with me and would not mess with other gals again. My rule is he can have his friends but he can't cheat - just be honest and he is free to go. Don...

A.   26 July 2016: What you have to decide if THIS guy is someone you can see yourself with long term, THAT would include whatever friends HE may have. I think if you have suspicions and doubts ALREADY (or rather again) then maybe HE isn't worth trying a relation... (read in full...)

Why do I always have pain when we have doggy style sex?

Q.   hello everyone, please i have a question, I don't know if something is wrong with me each time my husband and i try to do the doggie style I always feel pain in my stomach so we will end up stoping it, and this is the style my husband love most ...

A.   26 July 2016: My guess is it hurts because he is banging on your cervix/top of the uterus. He is going deeper than what you physically can provide or harder than what's comfortable for you. Go see your GYN. And find other LESS painful ways of having s... (read in full...)

I'm worried about my son's safety while at his father's family homes

Q.   Im a 26 year old single mother of a 8 month old beautiful baby boy. I have never been married. The father of my child and i have recently broken up which offically ended the relationship. I have a few concerns about coustaty. Mt sons father is c...

A.   26 July 2016: I think you need to talk to your lawyer. If you are already in the process of getting full custody, talk to the lawyer about visitations. If the brother IS a convicted sex offender/child offender you should have an EASY time of NOT allowing... (read in full...)

I feel guilty that I got involved with him when all he wanted was to sleep with me

Q.   Hi, I met a guy over a dating site and it was my first ever date , I always wanted a serious relationship and he said he wished for the same...he was really good to me and it was love at first sight for me, I was really serious about him,,as days ...

A.   26 July 2016: You can't change the past OP. So feeling guilty, won't help. What you might want to consider is this. THIS man was NOT a good guy, he pursued you long enough to bed you and then he cut you off. What kind of guy does that? Specially when h... (read in full...)

He wants to benefit from her success

Q.   Hi, So my boyfriend has this female friend who is a lot younger than he is and has known her probably a couple of months before he met me.So this woman is trying to establish herself and is faring quite well and my boyfriend told me "I need to hang ...

A.   26 July 2016: I agree dumbest excuse EVER to spend time with another woman. Unless they are on the same team and will be promoted AS A team the excuse is ridiculous. Even if she did get promoted, she probably can "pull" him with her, she would get a promotion ... (read in full...)

Why do men act the way they do ? Not replying? Changing plans at last minute?

Q.   Im hoping a few men will reply to this. I want to know why men do and say things the way they do . If a woman asks a basic question like how you doing fancy meeting up next week ? and the man has seen the message but doesnt reply and its been 5 d...

A.   26 July 2016: First, I don't think that is JUST men. Secondly, If he isn't into you, I think its more common than a guy who IS interested. Thirdly, if you encounter a guy like that, WHY do you stick around for that? If he can't reply a simple question,... (read in full...)

How do you get your guy to seperate physical affection and sex?

Q.   He does do some things seperately like holding hands or hugging. But like tickling or cuddling or play fighting always leads to sex! I really like sex but this makes me feel used, like everything he did was for sex. It'd be nice if he just jerked ...

A.   26 July 2016: Tell him. Maybe he feels 1+1=2 and you seems to think 1+1=3 As in... tickles and play fight usually leads to sex, so instead of either ASKING if you want sex or trying to seduce you, he tickles you thinking it will lead to sex. You are giving h... (read in full...)

Did it mean anything or was it just the drink?

Q.   Hi. I need help to figure out this guy's behavior. We have been friends since a long time now and went out on dates as well. We never had a physical rel but he knew I was into him. He is an introvert and too shy to even ask me out for dates. He ...

A.   26 July 2016: My guess is he is trying the line "I love you" to see if it will make you drop your panties. So many women go a little ga-ga when they hear "I love you" because WHO doesn't like to be told they are loved? If you do NOT want some kind of cas... (read in full...)

Why would someone go out of their way to not be searchable on social media and delete their online date profile on the day we were due to meet the first time?

Q.   Why would someone go out of their way to not be searchable on social media and delete their online date profile on the day we were due to meet the first time? Wed been chatting for over a week through a site and thought we were getting on ok. Had to ...

A.   26 July 2016: There can be a few options: Cat fish? As in it was a semi fake profile. Someone with a partner already checking out and seeing what's "available". He met someone else. Or he is hiding his profile from YOU specifically. With online dat... (read in full...)

Is it OK to steal him from his girl friend?

Q.   I fancy my brother's close friend. He's two years older than me but I've known him for years. We've always had a thing many people have said he has a thing for me. He sadly has a gf with a girl I know but I am single now and he's been quite flirty ...

A.   25 July 2016: I fully agree with FA's advice. To be blunt? No it's NOT OK to chase after a guy who has a GF. If this GF is so demanding and horrible, he can DUMP her. No one is holding a gun to his head telling him he HAS to continue to date her. And a gu... (read in full...)

Healthy eating is a bone of contention

Q.   Hi please advise. My boyfriend is trying to have a healthier lifestyle because he is about 20 pounds overweight so he's trying to eat right, etc. I myself (in my opinion) should probably be around 125 but I' almost 140, so I'm at the upper end of ...

A.   25 July 2016: I think this has less to do with "eating healthy" and more to do with YOU not liking being told what to do, and him not grasping that you ARE content with your current weight. If you have ever met someone who quit smoking you might understand h... (read in full...)

Does my obliging nature cause women to think I'm too boring a guy, for them?

Q.   Am I boring in relationships, I like going out dancing to live bands, taking walks in parks, going shopping,going to movies, holding hands, nice places to go eat, I like cooking, if a woman needs help at her place, I can do a lot when it comes to ...

A.   25 July 2016: I don't think it makes you boring, but is that "gentleman behavior" an act to woo the ladies, or just how you are? Do you think it comes across as being genuine? To me (and no, I don't prefer "bad boys" or men who doesn't treat me well) i... (read in full...)

I do love him, but was I right to break up with this man who is childish and one sided in his behaviour towards me?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for over 6 years and he recently broke up with me. He has a total of 6 kids and I have only 1, all of his kids are grown except for 2 whose ages are 16 and 9. He gets them every other weekend, so I thought I would ...

A.   25 July 2016: I think he was looking for a way out and used ANY excuse he could find, using his kids is hard to go against. Though, I will say this, HE allowed the kids to have stuff in the care that later ? caused ants. And if the car was dirty... Why not just... (read in full...)

I dislike my boyfriend because he's low-income and I have to keep providing for him.

Q.   Is it wrong for me to dislike my boyfriend because he is low income? I live with both parents who have good jobs and I get allowance. I should be getting a job at the age of 20 but I am in college. My boyfriend is 23 and in college as well but ...

A.   25 July 2016: OK so YOUR parents provide for YOU and YOUR BF. That should stop. I'm sure your parents are OK with providing for you, their daughter, but for your BF? Sorry, as a parent myself I would HOPE I had raised my kids to understand the value of money a ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend of 10 years didn't bring me back a gift from his Usa vacation. Am I spoiled?

Q.   NB Previous question didn't go through I don't think. Boyfriend of ten yes ten years standing has just returned from USA and didn't bring me a single thing back! Don't get me wrong I wasn't expecting a side of American beef but just a tiny slice of ...

A.   25 July 2016: I think if he in those 10 years have SUCKED at little thoughtful gifts for you, then maybe you are a little unrealistic in expecting him to do it THIS time. I agree with anon male on that. However, in the future when he travels why not tell him... (read in full...)

How could my boyfriend leave me right now like this?

Q.   I have been with this guy for almost a year but its been a turbulent relationship, when we were together he did everything for me and we were so in love and we had the best sex, but bad things happened, we both kissed others but we forgave each ...

A.   24 July 2016: First of all, I'm sorry OP. Having your heart broken is never easy. But from reading your post I see a few things, I'd like to mention. 1. You guys had troubles almost from the start and you both kissed other people. To me that shows a bit o... (read in full...)

Should I text to ask where his head is at as I'm confused or just leave him to it?

Q.   Hi aunts. Am after a perspective as to weather I this situation is a waste of time and a dead loss. Been with a man for 18 months. LDR. We have a lot of problems but we have tried to talk them through and find a way forward. Most recently we were...

A.   24 July 2016: How often do you two see each other in person? I think LDR's (in general) are doomed when after 1-2 years there are NO concrete plans to make it a No Distance Relationship. ... (read in full...)

Has his interest in me lessened? Or has he just become used to dating me?

Q.   Hi everyone, Just need some dating advice please. (Backstory) I have been seeing a guy for about 2 months.. Everything was going well, he texted me daily and we go on a date usually every Friday night. So after 2 months we had sex and everything w...

A.   24 July 2016: I think once he had sex with you he figured he "had" you "hooked" and thus doesn't need to put in as much effort. Sounds like a lazy guy to me. Someone who after ONLY! 2 months take you a bit for granted. I think the first 2 months he put hi... (read in full...)

Did he really want to date me? Or is it the cable that he wanted to watch? How do I hint that I want to go out with him?

Q.   Help .... I'm dating a guy who only wants to sit on my sofa and watch tv... How do I hint to him that I want to go out ??? We have been dating a month I have known him for years he is a friend of a cousin , in one month we have only gone out 3 ...

A.   24 July 2016: Have you tried turning the TV off and suggesting you two go for a walk or out for a coffee/pint? Personally, I think he is acting WAY to familiar WAY too soon.... (read in full...)

I need to return an item to my ex, but don't want to see him when I do it because I'm not over him. Is this wrong of me?

Q.   I had written in here a few weeks ago. I broke up with the guy who I was dating. Since I do not date much, it's been increasingly difficult to not cry because I got attached. He was super cool, casual about the whole thing. He moved on very ...

A.   24 July 2016: Make sure you block him on your phone and social media afterwards as well, don't let him try and jerk you around any more. And OP, I think there is a silver lining here, YOU dodged a bullet with him, he seems a totally uncaring kind of guy who ... (read in full...)

I was swept off my feet, then devalued and then discarded with no emotions

Q.   Was I targeted by a sociopath? I met a 45 yr old guy online. It turned out we had many mutual fb friends. One of my exs was actually a friend of his. On our 2 nd date he'd told me he told him he'd met me. By our 3rd date he'd said he wanted more tha...

A.   24 July 2016: Hide his feeds on FB. Spare yourself the pain of watching that. Secondly... I think he is one of those people who think love is like instant noodles, just add hot water and voila! And when it doesn't pan out like his fantasy he looses interest... (read in full...)

What's the best way to deal with tactless, annoying people?

Q.   Hello. I sometimes find it difficult to deal with tactless people. I can be really indifferent by nature but I'm not sure whether indifference and silence are the best way to handle such people, at least in most of the cases. For example, I was ...

A.   24 July 2016: Since she is family I'd go the "kill her with kindness" route. Don't engage in "arguments" or "putting her in her place" - unless you just point out in a matter of fact way that her state was lame and homophobic. However, truth is... you can't FIX ... (read in full...)

He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!

Q.   brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...

A.   24 July 2016: I agree that it shouldn't matte if you are dating or not, to look at someone face/eyes when talking. You know how little kids when caught doing something they shouldn't, don't like to look the adult in the eyes? Maybe he avoiding eye-contact ... (read in full...)

Cheating. How do I respond to this? I really loved this girl, and was going to propose to her

Q.   Well me and my gf are both 26 years old and have been with each other for the past 4 years. Met her in my last year of College and have been with her since. We started living together about 3 months of getting together and everything was lovely, ...

A.   24 July 2016: Could also buy a couple voice activated recorders (about $20) and put one in the bed room and one close to the front door. It might be safer to put up a couple of cameras or recorders than showing up and confronting them.... (read in full...)

Why are all the girls wearing shorts that show their butt?

Q.   Why are teenage girls and young adults wearing cutoff shorts so short that there cheeks hang out the back ?? I have seen this for most of the summer and is this the new fashion, to show off as much of your bottom as possible ?? I myself wear cut...

A.   23 July 2016: It's a trend that has come and gone since what? 1960? If they are brave enough to have half their bum-cheeks sticking out, more power to them. Who cares? If you don't like wearing shorts that short then don't, I doubt no one is trying to "force... (read in full...)

My girlfriend doesn't like traditional sex. Is that a red flag?

Q.   Maybe this is a problem a lot of guys would wish to have, but my girlfriend of one year doesn't like traditional sex. She loves to give me oral and when we do have sex she always steers it towards anal sex. I say this jokingly, but feel like I a...

A.   23 July 2016: Are you guys using condoms? If not.. could be she is prone to UTI's or infections if her vagina is very sensitive to ph balance getting out of whack (from sperm). Could be she feels like she isn't "tight" enough for you OR... she just REALLY ... (read in full...)

Is this stringing him along?

Q.   Is it wrong of me to accept help from a guy who was interested in me before? Im not sure if he is still interested or not, I have not spoken to him for two years. Just happened to run into him, and he offered to help me when I mentioned I was in the ...

A.   23 July 2016: I don't think it qualify as stringing along. Now he MAY (or may not) be hoping for more than a thank you... afterwards, he might just be a nice guy.... (read in full...)

I need to return an item to my ex, but don't want to see him when I do it because I'm not over him. Is this wrong of me?

Q.   I had written in here a few weeks ago. I broke up with the guy who I was dating. Since I do not date much, it's been increasingly difficult to not cry because I got attached. He was super cool, casual about the whole thing. He moved on very ...

A.   23 July 2016: Are you making a huge deal? Kinda, but maybe you can't HELP how you feel. And if you don't want to cry seeing him, just put them in a bag and hang them on your front door knob. On the other hand, MAYBE it should be part of your healing process ... (read in full...)

What help is available for a man who feels "lost"? Loving wife and family, and yet I feel so very alone and isolated

Q.   I am at the apex of my career. I have a wife who loves me and three great kids. Everyone sees a picture that is so far from what I feel inside. I feel increasing disconnected from everyone and everything. I have no one whom I can ask for help, or...

A.   23 July 2016: I think finding a therapist might be good for you. That way you can LEARN how to share your feeling. I don't think that is something you are super great at (no offense many men aren't because they are raised to NOT share and not show these kind of ... (read in full...)

My potential date is acting strangely. How should I approach this issue? What can I say?

Q.   My friend and i have decided to go on a date next week. We always chat online ( we have met in person ). The other day he said him and his family were doing something for his dads birthday going to a seaside so the original date was canceled til...

A.   23 July 2016: I agree with Denizen. Move on, girl. You are wasting your time here. IF HE really was so excited about the date, don't you think he would have CALLED you if he had a new phone number? And do you really think he would be screening YOUR c... (read in full...)

Cheating. How do I respond to this? I really loved this girl, and was going to propose to her

Q.   Well me and my gf are both 26 years old and have been with each other for the past 4 years. Met her in my last year of College and have been with her since. We started living together about 3 months of getting together and everything was lovely, ...

A.   23 July 2016: Hmm, this friend across the road is she REALLY looking out for YOUR best or does she perhaps have ulterior motives? I agree with Anonymous123 that it's NOT EVER a good idea to involve others in these kind of domestic situation. THIS is between YOU ... (read in full...)

He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!

Q.   brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...

A.   23 July 2016: OP, Both Anutie Bim Bim and Auntie Cindy put it so well, WE CAN NOT (just like yourself) read his mind or glean his personality or behavior from the little you wrote. All we can do is give advice on what WE would do in a similar situation. Who k... (read in full...)

Almost twice my age, will he freak out if I tell him I find him attractive?

Q.   How would men in their late 40s feel if a girl in her mid 20s had feelings and a few x-rated thoughts about them? Would they be repulsed or find it a joke, or be interested in her? Yes I do like a man a bit older and I'm so scared to hell him inca...

A.   23 July 2016: Is he single? If he is then I would NOT start out by revealing that you have x-rated thoughts of him. I'd just ask him out for lunch/coffee and see where it goes. IF it them develop into more THEN you can tell him. If he IS not single then just... (read in full...)

How can I stop caring about what people say about me?

Q.   This is a tough question as I have spend most of my young and early adult life caring about what people think- my life revolves around other people's opinions and how to be a people pleaser - most recently I have gotten a great corporate job and it ...

A.   23 July 2016: I doubt you would lose your job is you don't fit in with a bunch of 20's somethings... unless THEY are actually running the company. Even if they are, it's not high-school but a company. Do your job to the BEST of your ability, BE professi... (read in full...)

He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!

Q.   brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...

A.   23 July 2016: Stop wasting your time on this dude? He doesn't want to be your friend, accept it. He didn't work out as more either, so accept that too. Be polite when you see him but don't waste your time trying to converse with him, talk to some of your oth... (read in full...)

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