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I'm 42, married with 3 kids and a couple of pet. Been married little over 13 years. Been thru good times and rough times. Thru open communication and love we overcame problems in the marriage and thru all that I learned a lot about me and about relationships.

I have a college degree, which I do not use at the moment. I'm hoping to go back to school for another which I do intent to use:)

I have strong family bonds and have traveled the world.

I'm a good listener and I try to "put" myself in whomever's shoes. I believe in honesty, morals, values, love, trust and good communication. So the answer I give out I do so with a lot of though and honesty behind it.

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Why was this girl so rude and tried so hard to dominate the conversation and make me feel uncomfortable

Q.   All of my boyfriend's friends live on the opposite coast, where he grew up, so I don't get to meet them often. One of his friend's came out to visit our area with his girlfriend last week. I was so excited to meet them. I had heard all about this ...

A.   26 October 2014: She is an attention whore, pure and simple. It's look at ME! Listen to ME! I'm the center of the universe! Some people are like that. Mostly because they really aren't all that interesting themselves so they pull the "memory lane" routine, t... (read in full...)

I've been dating him for 2 years and he won't show me where he lives?

Q.   I have been dating a man for two years but he refuses to show me where he lives.he took me to visit jis family out of state; but he can't show me where he live in state.he tells me he lives with a family member.he get many excuses about the ...

A.   26 October 2014: You don't have his address? If you have his name, date of birth and the town/cityState he resides in you CAN (and I would suggest you DO) spend the $6-10 for a background check. Because it's not adding up. http://www.in... (read in full...)

My ex was friendly but then he sent me a really nasty email and deleted me. Was this the work of his girlfriend?

Q.   Slightly confused tonight. My ex and I broke up about 8months ago and we both have new partners. We kept in touch, but hardly spoke really - when he did speak to me he would try and get me to meet him or would he would speak about how much he ...

A.   26 October 2014: Does it really matter? If you two rarely speak I would just block him and let it go. And it's not really appropriate to have an ex hit on you like that (NOT that it's your fault, but I suggest you nip that in the bud by deleting him as well.) ... (read in full...)

I'm a compulsive cheater and I suffer depressed. What help do I need to stop this cheating? I do love my older Bf

Q.   I'm a 30 year old woman in a committed, loving relationship with a man who is nearly 50. I'm a compulsive cheater. I can't help myself and I hate myself so very much. I've had numerous one-night stands with various men. It is hard for anyone to ...

A.   26 October 2014: I agree with Auntie Bim Bim Seek help - professional help. DEAL with the issues at hand, don't use them to EXCUSE behavior.... (read in full...)

I was drunk and punched my boyfriend in front of his co-workers. Now he's telling me to come get my things!

Q.   My boyfriend is a senior managering director in a company with 750 workers and met me at a social event that my company went to and i work in a factory making pies and at another event i got what you would say had far too many drinks and he did not ...

A.   25 October 2014: GET your thing from his place and move on. I'm sorry I do not find it funny to punch someone in the face and then laugh at it. Had HE been the one punching you, HE would be in jail. Being drunk is no excuse. YOU messed this up and I don't thin... (read in full...)

Problems with neighborhood kids. Should we call the cops?

Q.   We just bought a new house in a great neighborhood after a week the house right across from us was rented out. Now we regret buying our house cause the their kids put a baseball goal on the road almost everyday and now there's ALOT of kids running ...

A.   25 October 2014: Have you walked over and talked to the parents? Maybe go say hi to the kids? I mean playing basketball is CERTAINLY not the worst things kids could be doing outside. Ask them to not litter in your front yard and I would suggest you tell them tha... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants to try a position I don't and won't take no for an answer!

Q.   *contains sexual content* hey there aunts and uncles, Ok so im in a happy loving relationship me andy partner are very sexually experimental .. outdoors .. toys .. role play ... dress up .. he has had 2 previous partners one at age 14 an...

A.   25 October 2014: Wow, why are you still with him? IT IS OK to say NO, I don't want to try anal EVER again. IT IS OK to say I don't want you to take a dump on my chest (yea, some people apparently like that too) IT IS OK to have some limitations to what you don'... (read in full...)

Is it common for CrossDressers to have multiple personalities that don't always communicate

Q.   My boyfriend is a crossdresser as time hit gone on he has become more and more into dressing up for atleast the last 6-9 months he has been doing things like wearing my favorit lingerie while Im not home usually hes on Craigslist looking for other ...

A.   25 October 2014: And he hasn't sought help? I mean, WHO wouldn't be freaked out of their mind if they found out they had had sex and don't remember? I think he is making up bullcrap to cover the fact that HE chooses to have sex with random strangers. One thi... (read in full...)

Dating a coworker that cheated on his gf, will we last????

Q.   I just started dating a coworker, he is 8 years older then me. He was in a relationship with someone he lived with for over a year. He wasn't happy and we started talking and flirting and it lead to more. We got really close. Well one night out we ...

A.   25 October 2014: I have to agree with Auntie Bim Bim. What kind of foundation do you two have? The guy is keeping his options open by keeping in contact with HER. And honestly, YOU should have known better then get involved with a guy who is dating someone e... (read in full...)

If he cheats to be with you, does that mean he will 100 per cent cheat ON YOU?

Q.   Hi everyone. I have been dating a married man for almost a year and a half. He does have genuine feelings for me and we have great sex and chemistry and a good friendship. He is comfortable with his wife and not leaving. I am not totally okay w...

A.   24 October 2014: Even if I don't agree with you, or your actions, I can try not to be too judgemental and give you my .2 cents. You write: *** I feel jealous and insecure even though I am a very attractive and confident woman who does have the total package.*** ... (read in full...)

Does my coworker like me as more than a friend?

Q.   There's a guy that I work with and we always joke around and hit each-other in a friendly way. So I told him as a joke that we have a very abusive relationship. He's like not relationship. And I was like yea...abusiveee....and he says friendship. ...

A.   24 October 2014: He might have pointed out the "friendship" part because he has a GF and don't want you to read more into the banter and games you two play at work? He might like you, but I don't think he likes you the way you WANT him to like you. (as in a romant... (read in full...)

I just found out my boyfriend I'm planning a future with already has a girlfriend

Q.   Hi I wouldn't usually ask questions on sites like this but I really need some advice-not even really advice but maybe to make me feel better :/. I recently met a guy online who is a technician in the army, he is based about an hour from me,he's 27, ...

A.   24 October 2014: Lots of red flags here. Talking marriage after only 3 weeks, it's just too soon. (as you found out, you don't KNOW another person after 3 weeks) Even being exclusive and intimate (IMHO) is too soon. You said he ticked all the boxes - or .. he... (read in full...)

I'm interested, but she's cancelled twice in a row

Q.   met a nice girl. went out for dinner, both said we had a nice time and wanted to meet up again. So arranged a time and place - we both sounded positive in communication etc. But the day before she said she had to postpone - concentrate of h...

A.   24 October 2014: Maybe give her one last chance? Let HER pick the day/time and if she cancels again, then YOU stop wasting time on this one. Though I would be tempted to think she isn't THAT into you as she might have seemed to be. Cancelling twice in a row is (to ... (read in full...)

Why is he always insulting me?

Q.   There's this guy i've known for a few months, who i've been told, likes me. He texts me quite a lot and calls me just to chat. He's also asked me out twice but i've made excuses both times as i don't like him in that way. What's bothering me is ...

A.   23 October 2014: You might like him as a friend, HE ISN'T ACCEPTING this. He doesn't WANT to be your friend. He wants to PUSH you into going out with him because he is convinced you just don't understand how great a guy he is. What kind of FRIEND would do what he ... (read in full...)

Do I have the right to be mad at her for reading my diary?

Q.   So i have this friend who i was really close to but now she has done something that i don't think i can forgive her for. We are both holiday reps working abroad and for the last six months we have shared an apartment. She has always been my best ...

A.   23 October 2014: Yep, you have EVERY right to be mad at her. JUSt because SHE doesn't BELIEVE you didn't sleep with "some" guy doesn't give her the right to INVADE your PRIVACY and read your diary. Or even GO through your personal stuff. The fact that she fel... (read in full...)

Why is he always insulting me?

Q.   There's this guy i've known for a few months, who i've been told, likes me. He texts me quite a lot and calls me just to chat. He's also asked me out twice but i've made excuses both times as i don't like him in that way. What's bothering me is ...

A.   23 October 2014: It's easy enough, block him and ignore him. I agree with YouWish - you are enjoying the positive attention, the flirting and flattering, but when he gets immature (there really IS no better way to describe his actions) you get upset. HE IS g... (read in full...)

If I'm not wanted why did he put in so much effort?

Q.   Thank you in advance for your help. This is a bit wordy, but hopefully, the information will paint a more complete picture of what happened. -December 2013: began e-mail contact with a man who had similar interests; we got along very well. -E...

A.   23 October 2014: I have to agree with YouWish here. Why did he drag it out? Because he wanted to have his cake and eat it too. He wanted a GF to have sex with (the married lady) and he wanted a GF whom he could bring home to "mom". SOMETHING told you to put ... (read in full...)

No one will rent an apartment to me because of my children! Advice?

Q.   I've been apartment searching for 3yrs and I have been rejected hundreds of times. I have no criminal back, my credit is decent because I never had credit cards. Its not great but not bad its almost 700. People have been discriminating against me ...

A.   22 October 2014: If you have had a lot of short term leases (as in getting kicked out - or asked to move) your background check can look sketchy if you have had a LOT of addresses in a short amount of time. If you are unemployed that can also be another reason, ... (read in full...)

Cheating boyfriend?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend known each other for 10 years but have been together romantically for the last year. A few weeks ago I noticed he had been sending sexual messages to another girl over skype; when I called him up on it he broke down in tears, ...

A.   22 October 2014:  Aww... he even FAKED some pretty wet little tears for you and you still don't trust him??? (that part was absolute sarcasm) He wasn't SORRY about his actions he was SORRY because he got CAUGHT. When you snooped just a little deeper you found ... (read in full...)

Am I trying too hard to get this girl?

Q.   Hi there. Quick recap: Met a girl at a bar and we hung out the entire night. Danced, laughed, etc. I drove her home and we kissed outside her door. Made out up the staircase almost to her main door entrance. Not only made out but she let me put m...

A.   22 October 2014: CALL her, maybe Thursday, and ASK her out for a nice dinner date - give a weeks heads up - if you are available FRI/SAT suggest she can pick either day, if that works for her. ALWAYS give a girl a good 3-4 days advance for a date, that way it ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend went away on a trip and I am upset it was not a long, romantic good bye like I expected.

Q.   My boyfriend went away with his family for a couple of weeks on a holiday. Before he left, he kissed me on the lips. That was it. We talked for 45 minutes first. He was joking and playful with me. Generally seemed happy to be with me. He kissed me...

A.   22 October 2014: Long goodbyes doesn't make his feelings for you better or "bigger" - life isn't a movie and if... it was... would you really be picking "Pretty woman? Seriously? The movie about a hooker with a golden heart, and a guy who buys her? Come on, girl.. ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is not making an effort to do things for me!

Q.   I do a lot for my girlfriend and I don't feel like she is doing much for me. She doesn't really ever surprise me, give gifts, or even just little things. It kinda makes me unsure how much she likes me. Her birthday is in 2 days and I'm not sure how ...

A.   22 October 2014: You should read 5 languages of love, you two might actually SPEAK two different "languages". YOU show love by gifting her and expect the same in return. She might show love by being supportive and caring. Love isn't black or white. People sh... (read in full...)

Is it shallow to want to break up with someone because they lack intelligence?

Q.   It's is shallow to want to break up with someone because they lack intelligence? I'm having a hard time being in this relationship because my boyfriend's lack of intelligence and common sense. His decision making is poor, and his mental capacity is ...

A.   21 October 2014: No it's not shallow. He sounds like he needs a MOM more then a GF, and with 3 KIDS he acts THIS irresponsible? Any of those kids his? Or does he just not GRASP the severity of having kids? Does he have a learning disability? He kind of sounds l... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend gay? Would another guy not want me because of the acne between my legs?

Q.   Ok my boyfriend and I have been together for 9 years the past few months our sex life has been dead! Now we are busy I work all the time an we have kids but we have had times where we can have sex but we both don't act on it I keep telling him I am ...

A.   21 October 2014: Acne on your crotch? You sure it's not razor bumps? Either way, acne or bumps, go see your doctor. If it can be foxed why not do it? Not for any GUYS sake, but for yours. And for him to say no other man will have you is a load of bull crap. Ev... (read in full...)

Am I trying too hard to get this girl?

Q.   Hi there. Quick recap: Met a girl at a bar and we hung out the entire night. Danced, laughed, etc. I drove her home and we kissed outside her door. Made out up the staircase almost to her main door entrance. Not only made out but she let me put m...

A.   21 October 2014: So she texted you back? That I would say is a good sign, but YouWish is right you SHOULD have called her and ASKED he out. The whole "vague" I might do this I might do that, doesn't come off as a "I'm asking you out". You asked vaguely, she repl... (read in full...)

Can dating profiles be cloned over multiple sites or is my boyfriend lying?

Q.   Hi all, So I have been going out with my boyfriend for 18 months and we met on a dating site. 2 months into our relationship I found he was still logging in to pof the site we met on and my only dating site I joined. He said that can't be right he...

A.   21 October 2014: Wow, well your follow up didn't REALLY surprise me at all. Of course he would be mad at you for thinking he could be passing along STD's - I mean no one would want that "label" put on them. And NO big surprise that "some" of the profiles WERE/ARE ... (read in full...)

My best friend said its either her or my boyfriend!

Q.   Please help! I recently fell out with my best friend of 11 years. the reason we fell out was a little to to with alcohol and alot to do with our boyfriends! basically me n my friend used to see eachother every weekend we went to university toget...

A.   20 October 2014: I have to say I agree with Ciar. Friends don't give friends ultimatums like this. Your BF was sticking up for you the night at the party. Maybe because he KNOWS you aren't the confrontational sort and he wasn't comfortable with your "friend"... (read in full...)

Met her at a bar, the evening went well -- how long should I wait to contact her?

Q.   I need some advice. Last night some buddies and I went out to a bar. Two girls come up and we engage in small chat. My buddy isn't doing so great with one of them but I think it's going really well with the other. Let's call her Whit. About an ...

A.   20 October 2014: She might be trying to stick to some "lame" rule so she doesn't seem TOO eager as well. This is the hard part when meeting someone new. Depending on what you texted her, I would wait for her to reply before calling.... (read in full...)

Have I ruined my life as a result of having an affair with a married man at a vulnerable time in my life.

Q.   For a period of time from 2011-2013, I had an affair with a married man. I make no excuses for my behavior, which was terrible, but I had earlier that year been assaulted, had gotten out of a long-term relationship, and my self-esteem was at all t...

A.   20 October 2014: Have you dealt with the assault at all? In a counseling/therapeutic manner? BEcause IF you think part of the reason you got involved with a this guy in the first place, then maybe you need to work on the root of your problems. And having been ... (read in full...)

I like my job but my boss and I just don't seem to click. Suggestions to improve things?

Q.   My boss is very young (24) and new to the boss job (but not new to the workplace, shes worked here 3.5 yrs) shes good at her job, is lucky to have it at her age, and I dont dislike her but wondet why shes so cliquey, her age maybe? shes supe...

A.   20 October 2014: I wouldn't worry. You are there to work, so keep being professional, courteous and friendly. If she doesn't WANT to be chatty with you, that is her prerogative. My guess is, she might be a little intimidated by you, because of your age. Just li... (read in full...)

How do I negotiate this issue? Don't want to feel I betrayed my roomate nor her Bf.

Q.   My close friend and roommate has been dating a guy for several months now. I don't know him that well, but recently he has been sending me texts and facebook messages asking how my close friend acts in relationships. For example he sent me if he ...

A.   20 October 2014: I would ignore him. And I would tell him WHY you are ignoring him. That you ARE not one of the TWO people IN the relationship and you have no intentions of being put in the middle. NOW IF, this guy was a gOOD CLOSE friend of yours I could understa... (read in full...)

How do I stop beating myself up for my stupidity at spending my money?

Q.   My grandparents sold their house at the start of the year. From the money they got from it, they gave they're grandchildren some of it. I got around £1500. At the time I was in a job that paid horrible money, less than minimum wage. The plan was to ...

A.   19 October 2014: Well if you already spend the money, there is only 2 options left. KEEP beating yourself up... OR LEARN from this mistake. LEARN to budget, LEARN to NOT use credit cards unless you can afford what you are buying and you really NEED to "stuff".... (read in full...)

Can dating profiles be cloned over multiple sites or is my boyfriend lying?

Q.   Hi all, So I have been going out with my boyfriend for 18 months and we met on a dating site. 2 months into our relationship I found he was still logging in to pof the site we met on and my only dating site I joined. He said that can't be right he...

A.   19 October 2014: You already know he is full of dog-doodoo. That is why you're here asking. Because you for whatever reason DO NOT trust your instincts (and you really should). SOME people MIGHT have taken his info, but if the e-mail address is his, WHAT would th... (read in full...)

I think he's lost interest in me but I'm afraid to leave him

Q.   Hey guys.. I have a "boyfriend" but it's a long distance relationship and he tells me he loves me, usually just by words.. He asked me for nudes and I said no way but he kept insisting and saying he loves me. I used to be a shy and quiet girl but I ...

A.   19 October 2014: My advice? Block his number, unfriend him and block him on social website, send him an e-mail letting him know that you are going to cu the contact, that you feel pressured into doing things you AREN'T comfortable and you don't see the relation... (read in full...)

Met her at a bar, the evening went well -- how long should I wait to contact her?

Q.   I need some advice. Last night some buddies and I went out to a bar. Two girls come up and we engage in small chat. My buddy isn't doing so great with one of them but I think it's going really well with the other. Let's call her Whit. About an ...

A.   19 October 2014: I wouldn't WAIT for any specific time to call her, the sooner the better IMHO - IF you are interested then CALL. I'd also go REAL slow with this one.... (read in full...)

Boyfriend's ex is contacting him and he's stopped telling me and is deleting texts. Why??

Q.   Hello, Ive asked a question about this situation before but there has since been developments therefore i need further advice. My boyfriend of 2 years met up with a friend back in august. This friend wasnt just a friend it was some who he live...

A.   19 October 2014: Yea, the whole "I want nothing to do with my ex" is a facade. If he REALLY didn't want anything to DO with her, he would block her. delete her number, tell her to stop harassing him. However, I think he only says this to your face to make you think, ... (read in full...)

Enjoyed our first date together.Is it too much to send her a card wishing her well?

Q.   Just a quick one. Went out with someone (first date if you will), and had planned to meet up again soon. She's since postponed this, I think she has a lot on with work - stress etc. Is it too much to send her a card wishing her well? Have sort ...

A.   19 October 2014: I agree, it might be cute... but I think it's over the top to be honest. Find a new time/date for date #2 instead.... (read in full...)

He's not speaking to me. Not calling me back. If he cares so little should I be worried about his car insurance premiums?

Q.   My bf of 4 yrs hasn't spoken to me properly since last sat when he as meant to come down for weekend. he works away. I'm actually and have susected he's actually found someone else... but only the other week he was taking about spending xmas her...

A.   19 October 2014: I agree call him. And TAKE yourself of as the main driver, you are NOT his mom. HE NEEDS to be responsible for his OWN car and HIS insurance. If you are the one on the insurance, TAKE yourself OFF you CAN do that legally. http://www.ci... (read in full...)

Is there anything that can be done to increase the friction when my wife and I have sex?

Q.   I am a married male in my early 40s. When my wife and I have sex she gets so wet and slippery that after a while there is almost no friction. The other night I couldn't even feel anything to the extent that I lost my erection. I had to pull out ...

A.   18 October 2014: You could try some of the various condoms with male and female "sensations". And look for positions that let her grip on better.... (read in full...)

Was it strange that my Bf's Ex was checking me out on FB and discovered that I'd blocked her? Then she rang my Bf to ask why I did that?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. We have had a couple of discussions about his ex. She is gorgeous (I thought she was pretty but reasonably average but his friends and him seem to think she's the hottest thing in the world). I ha...

A.   18 October 2014: No more strange than your own behavior. My guess is she wanted to "obsess" over YOU, the NEW GF, just like you have been OBSESSING over her, the OLD GF. But for HER to ask him why you have her blocked I do find cheeky. It's none of her business... (read in full...)

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