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My boyfriend is all about himself during sex, but never about me.

Q.   Hello, I was hoping I could ask for some help regarding my sex life. I have a wonderful 2 year relationship with my boyfriend. Genuinely feel like I've found the one for me, I think he's amazing. However, he's the first person I've slept with...

A.   19 April 2018: I think you do NEED to talk about it. Sure he doesn't like to hear that he IS BAD in bed (because let's face it, if he spends the 4 minutes you are having sex focused on HIS pleasure ONLY then he is a BAD lover). If he was a bad cook, would yo... (read in full...)

A guy I was seeing went quiet on me, he says he is following legal advise.

Q.   Im just wondering what are peoples thoughts. I was seeing a guy who went quiet on me we had been seeing each other for 6 month. i heard from him a handful of times in 2 month and didnt get to see him . I didnt sit about waiting for him i got on with ...

A.   19 April 2018: I would just block him, OP Him seeking legal advice COULD be because he has been stalking someone. The fact that he didn't REALLY give you an explanation, just some vague excuse, kind of point to him being in need of legal advice because HE did s... (read in full...)

I have an ex that wont let go.

Q.   Me and my ex girlfriend split up 4, maybe even closer to 5 years ago. In the end, she got quite nasty and I ended up blocking her on Facebook. Fast forward a few years and I get a message request from a previously deactivated account of hers,...

A.   19 April 2018: BLOCK her? why even click on her requests? Don't accept request from people you don't know in person. That way you can NOW allow her back. Unless she stalks you in person or harass you, YOU are in change on who gets access to you online. I... (read in full...)

Should I be thankful for the little I've got?

Q.   Yes, mod, I’m 17. The only person I can talk to about my depression and anxiety is my boyfriend but I’m stuck in a polygamous relationship with him and his girlfriend. However, I love him and I’m getting tired of sharing him. I just want his body ...

A.   19 April 2018: Why do you think you will be alone for the rest of your life? You are 17!! Not 97!... (read in full...)

No kids, no spouse, and nearing 30.

Q.   Does anyone else freak out that their hitting their thirties with no kids and husband/wife? I have tried online dating and that hasn’t worked (honestly most people I have met look for sex) and I am traditional ( I would at least like to date a b...

A.   18 April 2018: Amen to what Code Warrior said. I married at 28 and have been married for over 20 years. My husband married the first time at 19, divorced at 21 and then married me at 28. Marriage is DEFINITELY not what you imagine. How do I know? Because I ... (read in full...)

I'm not shy but I shake when public speaking.

Q.   I have a problem with speaking to people. Sometimes it’s a new girl who is looking at my school, sometimes it happens when I am writing the answer to a question on the board in front of everyone at school, sometimes it happens during a presentation ...

A.   18 April 2018: Yep, sounds like stage fright. Just START whatever public speaking you are doing by letting people know that you are just a just not good at public speaking. It will make you relax because EVERYONE will know, and you have ACKNOWLEDGED it openly. ... (read in full...)

I'm back with my ex but sometimes he is not enthusiastic!

Q.   My ex and I were together for 2.5 years. I ended the relationship about a year ago due to his immature habits (gambling and binge drinking on weekends). After the break up we tried working on things but ultimately not enough time had passed and ...

A.   18 April 2018: I think you are his "go-to" girl. He knew his relationship was ending and didn't WANT to be alone so while his relationship was crumbling... he started to reach out to you. He doesn't WANT to be alone. And if he isn't really working though W... (read in full...)

Should I be thankful for the little I've got?

Q.   Yes, mod, I’m 17. The only person I can talk to about my depression and anxiety is my boyfriend but I’m stuck in a polygamous relationship with him and his girlfriend. However, I love him and I’m getting tired of sharing him. I just want his body ...

A.   18 April 2018: I agree with Andie's Thoughts, If you WANT monogamy, THIS guy isn't for you. That is NOT what HE is looking for. You are 17. What is the hurry? Why settle for something that doesn't make you happy to be involved in? So you can talk to hi... (read in full...)

My boyfriend can't stay hard!

Q.   My boyfriend can't stay hard. The first time me and my boyfriend got intimate physically he avoided intercourse and satisfied me in other ways. However, after multiply attempts to have intercourse he eventually told me that he has a problem doing it...

A.   17 April 2018: So this was an issue 10 years ago as well and he hasn't gone see a doctor? There can be so many reasons why this happen, but if he doesn't KNOW the actual cause... it won't improve. So I'd suggest he goes see his doctor and have a check up.... (read in full...)

He didnt hurt me enough to leave bruises, but scared me, did I cause this?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for over two years and we have even recently been looking at getting our own place together. We had a lovely weekend. He took me out for food and drinks Saturday and paid for everything. We laughed and danced. It was p...

A.   17 April 2018: You ARE strong enough to break up. UNLESS you want to show him that his actions are totally OK with you. That he can throw tantrums, choke you and you will just keep dating him. YOU need to have more self-awareness and self-preservatio... (read in full...)

He compliments others and insults me.

Q.   My partner of many years verbally attacked me for the things I do to 'beautify' myself such as have hair nails and skin appointments etc done . I have never had cosmetic surgery and am not going to. He says I'm insecure and he wants someone who is ...

A.   17 April 2018: Taking care of yourself, SELF-CARE can definitely include getting hair and nails done. I know MANY women who enjoys that. And I know some who can't be bothered, they have "other" SELF-CARE regiments. I think if getting hair, nails, skin what... (read in full...)

He didnt hurt me enough to leave bruises, but scared me, did I cause this?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for over two years and we have even recently been looking at getting our own place together. We had a lovely weekend. He took me out for food and drinks Saturday and paid for everything. We laughed and danced. It was p...

A.   17 April 2018: No, no no this needs to end OP. This is ONLY the beginning OP. You need to end this ASAP. No more spending time alone with him. Did you antagonize him? Yes, but not doing what HE commanded you to do. But here is the thing, HE is not in charge... (read in full...)

Why is she so attention seeking??

Q.   Yesterday a 44 yr old female work colleague with 5 kids had her wisdom teeth out,she posted a post surgery selfie of her swollen face on our works fbook page, Is this pure attention seeking? She’s a quiet and good worker, invisible.. like...

A.   17 April 2018: I agree with Auntie BimBim Different folks different stokes, why is it any of your business what she posts on social media? why care?! I get that you are scared and alone, she can be worried or whatnot REGARDLESS of having a family. Let h... (read in full...)

My hsband left me for another woman but wont considera divorce.

Q.   My husband left me with other woman his (mistress) it's been 2 weeks now since he left. I'm 37 yr old My husband is 54 and his mistress is 45 year old she's older than me . I want to divorce him coz I don't trust him no more . But my husband ...

A.   17 April 2018: You FILE for divorce. He can't DENY you divorce. I don't know which state you live in (as different states has different laws) but I would advice you to seek LEGAL advice. Since it's "only" been 2 weeks since he left you can't quite use "abandon... (read in full...)

My eccentric fiance's behaviour is starting to concern me

Q.   Hi... I am looking for some outside advice/perspective on my relationship with my fiancé. We've been together for two years and are just recently engaged. When we first met, we clicked immediately and have been mostly insperable. I grew up in a v...

A.   16 April 2018: I think you have a couple of options here. 1. talk to him. He might think his behavior is endearing and charming... but to you it's a little alarming. 2. accept that this is who he is - then you can choose to stay or go. 3. knowing that... (read in full...)

He compliments others and insults me.

Q.   My partner of many years verbally attacked me for the things I do to 'beautify' myself such as have hair nails and skin appointments etc done . I have never had cosmetic surgery and am not going to. He says I'm insecure and he wants someone who is ...

A.   16 April 2018: I would end it and walk away. He is using the common manipulation trick of tearing you down so you will think that no one will want you (except him) and then you end up as his personal verbal punching bag. A partner is supposed to add to your l... (read in full...)

My girlfriend left, I want to fix it but she is ignoring me.

Q.   My girlfriend of 12 years has just left me. For the last 4 years we've lived together in our own place after a spell living with her family, we moved in shortly after my father passed away. I really struggled to deal with my father's passing...

A.   16 April 2018: Work on yourself, OP Now that you are single, you have all the time in the World to deal with your issues. If you over the LAST 3 years mistreated, abused and hurt your GF (maybe not in a physical form but come on... EVERYONE has a limit and ... (read in full...)

Should I sue my ex?

Q.   I broke up with my boyfriend 2 weeks ago, It was not a nice relationship at all . We have been together for 2 years, he cheated on me twice, he stole money from me, he used my bank card several times without telling me, and the list goes on and on, ...

A.   15 April 2018: Go see a lawyer, see if you actually have a case.... (read in full...)

I'm dating a 48 year old man who lives in utter filth and doesn't know what he wants from life

Q.   I've Been seeing a 48 year old man for about 5 weeks now. He is not physically attractive in anyway. I looked past all this because I am actually pursuing a serious relationship and my criteria isn't based on looks. It would help but doesn't matter. ...

A.   15 April 2018: You are dating a "fixer upper" not the guy you really want - so you try with all your might to fit those square peg into a round hole so HE can be what you want. It's not realistic. So you want marriage and kids... Then why date this seemin... (read in full...)

I am in the wrong for talking to my married coworker as a friend?

Q.   I am in the wrong for talking to my married coworker as a friend? Hello aunts I want to preference that I would never commit adultery - simply I don’t want the karma and believe in it . Long story short the colleague that hired me is 44 I’m 32 ...

A.   15 April 2018: What is the reason you are asking? If this friendship has been going on for 2 years, what has happened that bring you to question it? Is his wife not happy with it? Have you ever met her? I'm curious and would love the additional info b... (read in full...)

Can we really be future friends respectively?

Q.   Same sex best friends for four years and we crossed the line and had emotional and physical affIr for 4 months. We are both married and won’t leave our husbands and families. We still work together and continue to have lunch and talk at work only ...

A.   15 April 2018: I agree with mystiquek, I think you REFUSE to accept that she wants her family to stay intact and that means she wants nothing to do with you for now. She is doing the right thing, whether you like it or not. Its not realistic to expect your h... (read in full...)

Is he interested or not, or is he just shy?

Q.   A friend of mine has been trying for months to hook me up with a guy she knows, but I really hate being set up so I've been brushing it off. She constantly tells me how alike he and I are; we're both family oriented, determined, somewhat shy around ...

A.   15 April 2018: It's hard to say if he is really interested or just really bad at making a first, second or even third move. I would just try and talk to him or include him in conversations (when you are in the group of friends) but try and do it without putting ... (read in full...)

The man who was my companion contacts me through my daughter after 2 years!

Q.   Hello peeps I have a question that I'd like your honest opinions about - please...? I met this lovely, magic but crazy guy in 2016. We clicked. It was very strong whilst it lasted. But he liked his drink and we both got drunk a lot and that was...

A.   15 April 2018: What do I think? I think you need to get a grip. And I mean that in the NICEST way possible. You are coming up with all these "Pseudo science" reasons that he and you are meant to be together, because ? You are lonely? You don't want to pu... (read in full...)

I’m tempted to ask her out but fear embarrassing her!

Q.   There is a girl at my work that I have liked for years, but I never had the courage to talk to her until recently, after she asked a colleague who I was and was I single. We get on quite well but there is a little bit of shy / awkwardness when we ...

A.   15 April 2018:  Normally I'd advice against looking to date coworkers. 1. If she isn't interested it might feel VERY awkward for her to have you ask. If it just doesn't work, it might be awkward for BOTH of you and awkward for the coworkers too. So, I g... (read in full...)

Does having a car really make you the better option to date?

Q.   Does having something that the next person doesn’t make you the better option to date? Will it stop your boyfriend from losing interest? My friend was messaged a screenshot/picture by her ex boyfriend’s new girlfriend that showed a status ...

A.   14 April 2018: No having a car doesn't matter SO much that a person would dump ONE person for one with a car. Now if you live out in the boondocks with little to no transport it's DEFINITELY nice to have. Your friend need to CUT this guy totally out of h... (read in full...)

We're having sex, he has another girl and I have feelings and a third girl is spreading nasty rumours.

Q.   This is a little bit long winded so i do apologise in advance. I went to the pub one with my friend and she introduced me to one of her guy friends and kept teasing us both that we are both single. That night i plucked up the courage to messa...

A.   14 April 2018: Cut then BOTH out of your life. He is a cheat (who probably wasn't as "single" as he claimed when you met) He is done with the drama. Your friends (true friends) won't judge you without talking to you over some lame rumor. So give it a li... (read in full...)

Everything I do my friend copies.

Q.   So ive had the same best friend for atleast ten years, we have had our ups and downs but anything that would end a friendship.. But my peoblem is, lately, shes been doing everything EXACTLY like me.. Like let me explain, if i say im changing...

A.   14 April 2018: She is copying you because she hasn't found her own style and preference and she thinks you have. We ALL kind of copy things from other people. THAT is how fashion works. There is nothing really original in fashion. Often times friends sort of ... (read in full...)

My online guy has been professing his love for me but I've found out he has a girlfriend!

Q.   Basically I've been with a guy for 8 months and we're long distance (he's also from a different country than mine we just met in the summer) . It was his choice for us to stay together although we are far from each other and we always skype and keep ...

A.   14 April 2018: Just block, delete and forget. Not much else you can do. There is no need to confront him, if you "fall of the Earth" (as far as contact) he knows.... If he does use another Skype account or name to contact you you tell him you want nothin... (read in full...)

What does this married man mean when he says he finds me physically attractive?

Q.   I've met this guy at work. He is married. We have a lot of things in common.He is a very private man. He doesn't talk much to anybody until I started working there. He said he likes me and enjoy being his friend. He is always careful about what he ...

A.   14 April 2018: You know what it means. You also know that you shouldn't ACT on it. That you need to keep some professional boundaries here, because HE sure isn't! I know it's flattering that this guy finds you attractive, but OP... THINK! the guy is married, ... (read in full...)

Am I wrong for checking his activity on Instagram? Is my not reaching out to him an overreaction?

Q.   I have a question regarding this issue I have in my relationship. My boyfriend follows hundreds of “Instagram models”, strippers, half naked ladies etc... and I’ve seen from his activity that he frequently likes their posts. Two days ago, he ...

A.   13 April 2018: Yes, you are wrong for checking. And here is why I say that. YOU made the choice to date him even if he behaves inappropriate. You think HE should change because it bothers YOU - but he SURELY doesn't feel that way. HE basically doesn'... (read in full...)

Am I being unrealistic wanting 2 breaks when our twins are 3 and 4?minths?

Q.   So my boyfriend and I are expecting our twins to be born over the summer. We're both excited and getting everything ready for their arrival. These are our first kids so it'll be a new experience for us both, mainly me because my boyfriend has ...

A.   13 April 2018: I think (and that is speaking as a mother of 3 kids, all teens now) that you might see differently when your kids are there. You won't be so focused on YOUR needs but theirs. You have no idea (and I don't say that to scare you) how well your kid... (read in full...)

I'm having an affair wih my fiance's best friend.

Q.   I’m engaged due to be married September, I’ve started having an affair with one of his best friends. Now I don’t know whether I love his best friend. He’s asked me to not get married. My fiancé is a good man great father and stable. His frien...

A.   12 April 2018: Return the ring and break your engagement. Then take some time being single before you throw yourself at your "soon-to-be-ex-fiance's best friend". It's too late for the "stay with my fiance for stability". You ruined that chance when you ... (read in full...)

Husband says he lied to me about talking to a female coworker to spare my feelings

Q.   I’m currently battling depression. My husband recently lied to me. He told me had to step away to make a phone call to his buddy. I had a feeling something was off because he would never step away. I later find out he called a female coworker and ...

A.   12 April 2018: He could have bought YOU something from that store to reach platinum status... I mean let's be realistic here. that was a bogus excuse that he had to buy HER shoes to get to platinum level... I would also have a chat with him (if I were you) ... (read in full...)

Can I get an std from someone using no protection who came back with a clean bill of health

Q.   So I have 2 sex partners and both are clean ( before you question how I am sure, I have had both men take std tests as well as taken one myself so everyone is safe) but I’m curious if I can still get an std from either of them from unprotected sex? ...

A.   12 April 2018: Yes, men can carry HPV for instance and unless they have the "warts" type it doesn't show up on a test. Also... a STD panel doesn't test for EVERY STD. and if they have the "non-warts type" it puts YOU at risk for a the type that can cause cancer. ... (read in full...)

Husband says he lied to me about talking to a female coworker to spare my feelings

Q.   I’m currently battling depression. My husband recently lied to me. He told me had to step away to make a phone call to his buddy. I had a feeling something was off because he would never step away. I later find out he called a female coworker and ...

A.   11 April 2018: EH!! EDIT I wrote: He should SHARE your MEDICAL issues with coworkers as it is. it should have read (of course) He shouldn't SHARE your MEDICAL issues with coworkers as it is. ... (read in full...)

How do I deal with bullying?

Q.   Hi, I am 16. Basically, I get bullied by a lot of people in school. I'm in year 11 now but it's been going on since year 10.It started off with a group of 4 girls, in year 10. They would patronize me, try to embarrass me in front of people to get ...

A.   11 April 2018: Should you have a fight? No. What would that resolve? Taking it to the next level and adding violence? Is that going to make it better? Is it going to make them stop? OR... will it potentially make life in school even harder? The teachers aren't d... (read in full...)

I'm falling for the new girl and my current GF is jealous.

Q.   I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 3 years, we live together and on the whole we're very happy. I've recently met another girl and just click with her so well- we've hung out as a three a few times and to start with my gf really g...

A.   11 April 2018: WiseOwlE.. The poster is a woman, but the advice is the same :)... (read in full...)

Husband says he lied to me about talking to a female coworker to spare my feelings

Q.   I’m currently battling depression. My husband recently lied to me. He told me had to step away to make a phone call to his buddy. I had a feeling something was off because he would never step away. I later find out he called a female coworker and ...

A.   11 April 2018: Unless it was noisy where you two where or the reception was poor, and THAT was the reason he had step away for a phone call. It would make me go hmmm that's odd... Buying a FEMALE coworker a pair of $200 shoes is NOT OK. Buying her a $200 gif... (read in full...)

I've never had a boyfriend but am considering losing my virginity.

Q.   36 F, never had a boyfriend, considering losing virginity So I'm 36 f, considering having sex for the first time. Myriad reasons it hasn't happened yet I suppose. I've never had a boyfriend before...men just don't seem to be attracted to me ...

A.   11 April 2018: You do know that YOU will still be you after you have sex, right? You will not change in some profound way. If this guy is willing to hang out with you, is a little physical with you... then why can't you two just date? Now, I get that... (read in full...)

I want my boyfriend to stop paying for porn before we move in together.

Q.   I'm not sure if I am being extremely jealous or whether I am right to feel this way.. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now and we are even looking at apartments together however there are a few things that really bother me. First of all ...

A.   11 April 2018: OK, OP... Here is my take on. You have a BF who is "addicted" to porn. Who ACTS like a single guy even when sitting right next to you. NO it's NOT normal for a guy with a GF to also PAY women on cams/snapchat for sexual content. Or at least i... (read in full...)

I'm falling for the new girl and my current GF is jealous.

Q.   I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 3 years, we live together and on the whole we're very happy. I've recently met another girl and just click with her so well- we've hung out as a three a few times and to start with my gf really g...

A.   11 April 2018: If the shoe was on the other foot you wouldn't like it one bit either. You aren't being a platonic friend to this new girl and you know it. And so does your GF. She has eyes and she can see YOUR reaction to all the messages and all the attentio... (read in full...)

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