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Despite out 6 year age difference, do you think this relationship could work out well for us ?

Q.   Hello. I'd like to get some advice, as I've never been in a similar situation before. I've met a really good, caring and beautiful girl, and in short, we talked a bit, she told me she liked me since the last year, and later on, we kissed a few ...

A.   24 May 2017: I don't think the fact that she has a child is a big obstacle (unless you really dislike kids) her being 6 years older and having a bit more experience might and it might not. I say GO SLOW - very slow. And PLEASE don't get involved with the kid.... (read in full...)

How can I erase this mental abuse?

Q.   How can stop measuring my value by a man- since being young my parents and grand parents have lived a life according to what society thinks is right. My mom married my dad and stayed in a physically abusive relationship only because she didn't like ...

A.   24 May 2017: Did you try CBT/CEBT? (Cognitive emotional behavioral therapy) or just a therapist? THERE is a huge difference. YOU (if you have been diagnosed with OCD and have these VERY obsessive thoughts) need a therapist who specializes in this. And yes... (read in full...)

How do I play it on the 2nd date?

Q.   Hey guys, I'll try and keep this short and sweet, basically I met a girl on a dating site, after a few days of messaging, we went out on a date the other night. She said beforehand how shy/ nervous she is, anyway, we went on the date, and it went ...

A.   24 May 2017: I wouldn't put my arm around her in the cinema. YOU are still a stranger to her (and vice verse). It can seem a bit forced. TAKE it slow, cowboy! Going to see a movie is NOT always a great idea for the first kind of dates as you can't really T... (read in full...)

He said he needed time away from me but still texts every day.

Q.   So my boyfriend of a year and a half told me last week out of the blue that he needs time away from me. At first I thought he was joking and I said are you casually trying to break up with me and he said no that he stressed and that I've been mean ...

A.   24 May 2017: Did he say he is swamped with work and can't SEE you in person for a while? OR did he say he needs a BREAK from you? IF he needs a BREAK from you! Just tell him that you want to give him space and thus will NO LONGER text and that HE shouldn'... (read in full...)

Advise needed about my husband's therapist!

Q.   Hi all, I'm really confused and would appreciate your help. My husband's therapist wants me to LIE to my husband and I'm not comfortable with it. My husband has been in therapy for almost 10 years. The last shrink changed our lives 8 mont...

A.   24 May 2017: I agree, FIND another therapist. Asking you to lie? What? Taking a patient of meds that he has barely seen? What? First, contact your Family doctor and get a list of therapists. There IS such a thing as "adult ADHD" so the therapist might b... (read in full...)

She's broken up with her boyfriend, is it too early to ask her out?

Q.   Hey there everyone! Hope you all are well! I'd like some advice of you could. So I'm a 30/male this girl I need advice about is 25 I believe. She moved in to the apartment next door to me about 6 months ago. I instantly thought she was one of the ...

A.   24 May 2017: IF you want t obe more than a rebound, I'd say wait. Talk to her, keep yourself "fresh" in her mind but don't pursue her just yet. SHE just broke up. While SHE was the one to break up and kick him out (which possibly means she has wanted to end i... (read in full...)

Do I date him or not? My mother says NO to dating him. My friend says Yes, or she'll not be my friend.

Q.   So this guy likes me and i sorta like him back but people tell him not to date him but my best friend says if i dont she wont be my friend and people that said no because they wont let me date him and my mum says i should say no what should i do?...

A.   23 May 2017: Why does your mom say no to dating him? Is it to dating in general (for you) because of age or THIS particular guy she doesn't want you around? Does your mom tell you NO for a GOOD reason or not? And secondly! WHAT kind of friend DEMAND that ... (read in full...)

Does anyone act this way after a break up?

Q.   Does anyone have this pattern of having on to an ex until someone else comes along- I have never "truly" gotten over someone until I got someone else. Example - my ex and this wasn't a long relationship left me- he did it in a disrespectful way and ...

A.   23 May 2017: I think, up on till a point, that it's "normal" behavior to question WHY someone treated you like crap. I think it's universal (as in both men and women think this way) that after a relationship ends we rehash certain events, think back, wanting ... (read in full...)

I think I made a mistake in getting married to him as I don't think I can accept his culture and all the family involvement. What should I do?

Q.   I am a vey independent woman who likes a lot of space and I do not like being told what to do. I rarely see my own family as I am busy with my life and they with theirs. My husband comes from Egypt and would like me to go and live there but I don'...

A.   23 May 2017: What's the best thing to do? It's hard to say. You didn't put your own country of origin on so I can't even begin to guess how different your culture is from his. But when someone starts to think they have made a mistake in the selection of the... (read in full...)

How do I get the spontaneity back in our sex life?

Q.   How do I get the spontaneity back in our sex life. Since our second child or sex life has slowed down to maybe 3-5 times a month if that's a good month. It's always planned. She suffers depression.theres times I feel although she'...

A.   22 May 2017: Is she getting help with the depression? With the kids? Do you two spend time together JUST the two of you? Have you TALKED to her about how you feel and asked how SHE feels about sex and the relationship in general? I agree with N91, peo... (read in full...)

How can I make my partner's ex not hate me?

Q.   My current partner and I got together while he and his then wife were going through a slightly bumpy divorce. Our relationship evolved pretty fast, and I didn’t see this as an issue because they had since moved away from each other, living in their ...

A.   22 May 2017: Nothing you can do. I'm sorry. She rather BLAME you for the marriage not working (even if you didn't start dating till it was already broken and the divorce started). I think if ANYONE can tell her to tone it down it's your partner. Howev... (read in full...)

How can I become more wet during sex?

Q.   How do I become more 'wet' during intercourse? My partner often notes that I don't stay 'wet' long enough. I love my partner and am excited and aroused when we snuggle and make out, but I'm just not excited when we have intercourse because he is ra...

A.   22 May 2017: Do you two have SUFFICIENT foreplay? You say you are not excited about sex - because he is small? YOU do know that you can get pleasure from other things than his penis, right? So hand, mouth, little bullet vibrator? Something? How can you b... (read in full...)

5 years with girlfriend, losing attraction, annoyed and frustrated

Q.   I been with my gf nearly 5 years, we are still living apart due to money issues and our permanent jobs. But things have changed. I'm avoiding her because I feel like i can't really speak to her like I speak to the guys. For example, I mentioned I'm ...

A.   22 May 2017:  You two lack in your communication skills. YOU presume she KNOWS how you feel, just like SHE presumes that all is well. Yet, I think you BOTH know things are not well. Sex has gone stale. The time you spend together feels more like it's done out ... (read in full...)

He says he wants a child and gets upset when I give my reasons for why it doesn't work for me now!

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 months now and he just brought up wanting a baby with me. I've had an abortion in a past relationship. We are both still in college and as much as I want a kid I just don't see it as a good time to have one ...

A.   22 May 2017: I agree with the other ladies, this is NOT cute NOR a good idea. It doesn't matter if you have known him for 10 years, you have only BEEN a couple for 3 months. YOU are BOTH still in college. How would you two pay for the cost of raising a chi... (read in full...)

Does my ex have unresolved feelings for me?

Q.   So I dated this girl long distance about 3 years ago. The relationship was fine until the very end when she started lying and treating me horribly. Long story short, she ended up cheating on me with her best friend (shd denied that she cheated on ...

A.   21 May 2017: I do think she is trying to appease her own guilt. It's not about you, it's about herself. After all, SHE has had to live with the knowledge that she not only cheated on you but lied. THAT she was the reason the relationship fell apart. My g... (read in full...)

I can't have an orgasm so I always fake them. Is there something wrong with me?

Q.   I am in a relationship, almost a year now and we have amazing chemistry together. Every time we are having sex I can't seem to orgasm even if I try my best. On my own Its every time, so I fake it to not upset him or to get it over with.What do I ...

A.   21 May 2017: Faking it will NOT fix the issue. SHOW him HOW you get yourself off - TEACH him HOW to make you orgasm. You are not sparing his feelings by faking it. You are "letting," him think he is a better lover than he is, so you get "bad sex" becaus... (read in full...)

I don't know what to do, yet I don't want to give up on us.

Q.   I recently read a post where the woman didn't know what to do because get man was still visiting online dating sites even though they are together and so neither of them are no longer single. I wanted to answer her, yet I can't honestly give her ...

A.   21 May 2017: My guess is you feel you HAVE to keep him around because he is part (in a way) of your little family and that quitting is not an option. Unfortunately, you CAN continue with this man just know that NOTHING will change. You will NEVER be able to ... (read in full...)

He argues about everything! Will our relationship last?

Q.   My partner and I have been fighting a lot ever since getting together 2.5 years ago. I love him a lot but often have doubts about whether we will work long term. Whenever I ask him to do something small (like take his shoes away from my front do...

A.   21 May 2017: IT was YOUR phone's "fault" that he screamed? I mean I GET the frustration trying to have a conversation and the phone cuts out.. it sucks. YOU, however, are BOTH old enough to know better than chatting while driving... yes? He seems like a guy (f... (read in full...)

What do her words mean?

Q.   hello, I've been seeing this girl now for 6 months, but out of no where, she been acting moody and distant with me lately and I don't know why. So I confronted her about it and ask if I was us and she said yes. she went on to say "I don't know h...

A.   21 May 2017: Sounds to me like she is done but doesn't know how to break it off. Sorry. I'd just let her know that you wish her well and is going to cut the contact. Don't be so desperate to have a GF that you will let a girl treat you like you aren't impor... (read in full...)

I feel used. Should I tell his Gf?

Q.   I had been speaking to this guy that I met online.. we had been flirting away and getting on super well. Time passed as he asked to meet which I agreed. However he didn't make it and I found out it was because he has a girlfriend. I've accepte...

A.   21 May 2017: You could tell her. My question to you is this, WHEN you know the MOMENT he told you he had a GF that nothing would come of it (as far as romance) why didn't you just cut him off or block him? When he continued to "flirt", you could have AT ANY ... (read in full...)

He didn't invite me to a family function. Should I tell him how I feel?

Q.   Hey, Thanks for taking the time to read my post I'm going to keep it short I've been with my partner 10 years I'm 27 hes 28 we've had a very happy time together no real drama or anything we have always been great together I cant imagine anyone in...

A.   20 May 2017: I this something he has done before? Sort of forgotten to "invite" you to family things? It CAN be that whoever asked HIM to come didn't specify "bring your GF" so he didn't think about it. He might not be very detail oriented or very consider... (read in full...)

Do I message "his secret woman" and ask how many times he has seen her?

Q.   After finding a 3 year old secret twitter account of my long term partner I was gobsmacked the tweets 4/5 times a day hugs and kisses can't wait to see you tonight etc he'd been working with her every night for 8 years in 10 years I've never met one ...

A.   20 May 2017: I agree with N91 You have written before and gotten great advice. I think, however, you rather ignore the advice to END it with him and stick to "blame" her and focus on her. YOU can't change who he is, you can't control his actions. ONLY ho... (read in full...)

I'm 18 years older than him, I know its crazy but its so intoxicating!

Q.   I feel like I've completely lost my mind here, so maybe someone can give me some perspective. I'm a 38 year-old mother of one. I've been divorced for years. I've always thought of myself as a rational person until now. For reasons I cannot explain, ...

A.   20 May 2017: 1. You ARE old enough to be his mother. 2. I think (personally) the age gap is too big - not for casual sex (though for me... it would feel way to robbing the cradle) for a serious relationship? Eh? The BOY is barely out of his teens. He has LITT... (read in full...)

Can a relationship work when you love their personality but aren't attracted to them sexually?

Q.   I talked to a guy for a long time via text before actually meeting him. I loved talking to him and we share the same humour. Upon meeting him I continue to love his personality but I am not physically attracted to him. Can a relationship ever work ...

A.   20 May 2017: Short term? Yes, perhaps. Long term? I don't think so. I think there HAS to be some physical attraction to build a strong relationship. Of course, there needs more than JUST a physical attraction as well. I say you need both. UNLESS you are both... (read in full...)

Does this look like a deeper relationship?

Q.   I've had a FWB about 6 months now. We casually meet every other week, do our thing, split ways and just chat via messages the rest of the time. Lately, when I go to his house, he wants me to spend all night, go out to the movies, go eat, he kisse...

A.   19 May 2017: I think he has been testing the waters as to how YOU feel about it. I think his "we should be more" is him basically asking you if you want more without asking you straight up because he doesn't want to be rejected or have you end the FWB. So, h... (read in full...)

Why's my teacher acting so cold?

Q.   My favourite teacher in the whole world is my art teacher. He's 30 so he's younger and is able to connect with certain students really well. He's the type of person who can make stupid or rude remarks that make you laugh, but he'll only do this ...

A.   19 May 2017: So is this the guy who you are "in love with"? My guess is that he has picked up on your crush and he is trying to nip it in the bud. He knows you have developed f... (read in full...)

My LDR boyfriend wants to try to have a baby but we would still be long distance after the baby was born.

Q.   hi guys and girls, i need some advice, i cant wrap my head around a situation what could happen. Me and my long distance relationship have been talking about the future, ( before I go into too much detail, we have been together over a year and a ha...

A.   19 May 2017: Personally, I wouldn't do it. But... you are not me and I'm not you. IF you WANT a child and can HANDLE being a single parent (in most respects) and you WANT him to be the father - then perhaps it's not the worst idea ever. However, I think to... (read in full...)

He's engaged and 13 years older than me. Could things work out?

Q.   How many years apart is too many? The man I love is 13 years older than me, I believe it's one sided, but I'm just curious on what people believe. He's also engaged, could this possibly work out for me at all?...

A.   19 May 2017: No. He is engaged which means it's a PRETTY serious relationship and MARRIAGE is the next step on THEIR (not yours) journey. THEY (him and his fiance) have decided to enter a LEGAL contract, THAT is marriage. That USUALLY also involved being FA... (read in full...)

My crush is suddenly avoiding me!

Q.   I met my personal trainer end of March 2017 and immediately we clicked. We had so much fun together we would laugh all the time. He inspired me to push harder and even to go to the gym. Sometimes he would touch me in an unusual flirtatious way (but ...

A.   18 May 2017: Yep, two things: 1. he has a GF - he was WAITING for her to show up (not you). And he was nervous because he knew he has crossed some lines WITH you and didn't want you to tell his GF. He knows you have a crush on him and while it might be flatt... (read in full...)

We've become really close and he likes me ... but he has a girlfriend!

Q.   So, I've been friends with this guy for about 5 months now. Yet, somehow, I can't remember much of my life before our friendship. We've become really close. He has admitted to liking me but we never actually got together because he had a girlfriend. ...

A.   18 May 2017: He sounds like a complete selfish idiot, to be honest. HE HAS a GF! and he is TOYING with your feelings. If he was REALLY so into you, he would end it with the GF and pursue YOU. I think you are being naive and a bit... silly to go along with... (read in full...)

Can anyone advise on this embarrasing problem?

Q.   Ohk so my question is me and my husband had sex and for some reason for the past two days have had alot air coming out of my vagina no pain but alot of air releasing.. ohk so now I guess my question I have tried so many things to release and the air ...

A.   18 May 2017: It depends a LOT on 2 things - the positions you two use - CHANGE then up and where you are at in your cycle. The vagina actually changes shape (a little) depending on where you are in your cycle, during ovulation you might produce more ... (read in full...)

How can I distance myself from a friend without hurting their feelings?

Q.   I am currently a grad student in college. I used to be best friends with this girl all throughout middle school. We grew apart through highschool, and I am now a graduate in college. Half a year ago, I thought it would be cool if to reach out to her ...

A.   18 May 2017: You could be honest and tell her :" I don't really feel like we have a lot in common and I don't want to continue this friendship". Yes, it will hurt her feeling - but it's honest. Or you can STOP being available, be slow in replying to texts an... (read in full...)

I'm worried how rude the nurses will be

Q.   Im going into hospital tomorrow for a minor procedure and the nurses are known to be nasty, what can i do? Am staying overnight and on the ward im going to overnight on the nurses are well known to be sarcastic and cold... I have spoken to s...

A.   18 May 2017: I have never met a rude nurse - rude doctors - YES but not nurses. They are generally very nice (in my own personal experience). Does it mean that a nurse can't have a shitty day and not be super nice or cater to a patient's whims? Sure. TREAT... (read in full...)

Do many females masturbate ? I feel ashamed when I do so.

Q.   Do lots of girls/ladies masterbate? I get so paranoid that I'm abnormal for doing it because my friends never talk about it and sometimes someone will make a comment that it's more of a boy thing and I'll feel ashamed. ...

A.   18 May 2017: Good grief, YES! It's satisfaction guaranteed! Why feel ashamed? Because it's very primal? Or because "good girls" don't touch themselves? The BEST way to know what REALLY ticks your boxes sexually is to know your body - intimately. That... (read in full...)

So hard to control my feelings

Q.   I've been in a problematic "relationship" with a married acquaintance from my work for the past few months. We aren't full-time co-workers but we work together alone enough when he's around. I'm 23 and he's around 39-40ish. I had developed a bit ...

A.   17 May 2017: How do you do it? 1. put yourself in his wife's shoes. JUST for a minute. (or long term GF, whatever). 2. you accept that he will NOT leave HER for you. He will fool around with you, he will USE you but he knows that he OWES his wife/gf some... (read in full...)

Boyfriend created fake marriage documents with his ex so that she could have residency in the US. Do I tell him I know? What do I do now?

Q.   I live with my boyfriend of a year. We moved in together 2 months ago and everything has been wonderful from the start of our relationship. Today I finally unpacked our last box. I opened a notebook I didn't recognize and it was a journal he wrote ...

A.   17 May 2017: Do a background check on him. It's $20 max and it will tell you whether not this marriage was fake or not. INS are not easily fooled when it comes to documents, so I am a bit doubting that they "so easily" could create fake documents that convince... (read in full...)

Help me with this family situation, my father thinks I'm avoiding an event!

Q.   I have a difficult situation with my over 65 yr old parents Need advice please My parents live in another state that is a 1hour plane flight away I visit once a year and they come to my state, once a year to visit and and we talk on phone sometim...

A.   17 May 2017: Since it's not until August are you SURE you can't wrangle your schedule to take an extra day off for this? TRUST me when I say, you WILL regret not going. Not because you dad keeps bugging you but because LIFE is short. If I could have ONE m... (read in full...)

Why does she keep cheating on me?

Q.   The last three years have been very turbulent ones. We have broken up and got back together so many times. Usually couples just stop getting on and end up drifting apart. Not in our case, because its only ever been one thing that has ever caused ...

A.   16 May 2017: OP, is cheating a deal breaker for you or not? If you don't WANT to be with a cheater, you really only have one option and that is to end it. You can't change her and I doubt yo can REALLY change how you feel about it either. She does it b... (read in full...)

I thought the online military guy from the UK liked me so how did he suddenly lose interest?

Q.   Hey there Aunts and Uncles! I have a quick question for you guys, you may think it's stupid because it probably is. So a week ago, I created a profile on this dating app and met a guy pretty quickly. We exchanged face pics and added each ot...

A.   16 May 2017: I think reality set in faster in his end than yours. The likelihood of anything coming of this is minuscule. You are so very young and live half a World away. It might be fun to chat with each other and live a sort of fantasy courtship, but reality? ... (read in full...)

He's a nice guy but it's just not working out

Q.   Why do I always feel so down? I have been with my boyfriend for five years and we have had several ups and downs. I can't seem to look past his flaws and at times he can't see past mine but we tried hard enough for so long.bThis has been my first ...

A.   16 May 2017: If you at 18-21 have been with the same guy for 5 years it might not be totally strange that you have either outgrown the relationship or outgrown him. What we want (in a partner and out of life) at 15-16 might not be what we want in out 20's and... (read in full...)

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