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How do I get him to stop?

Q.   I work at my church as a secretary but now I'm afraid this stranger is going to send a link to my sex blog to my employers and potentially ruin me. I have never looked at or worked on my blogs outside my home. I have a regular one where I blog about ...

A.   17 March 2024: Do you know who he could be? If so BLOCK him from your blog.? Set up some security on the blog? (if possible) If you get outed, you get outed, you CHOSE to put a sex blog out there, it's unreasonable to expect no one will find it. YOU are resp... (read in full...)

They hate the fact we are doing so well!

Q.   After a rocky few years with my health issues and some financial issues things have started to turn around for me and my husband for the better however it seems that some so called friends and even some family aren’t really happy for us and ...

A.   17 March 2024: Are these "people" someone you care about? Do you care about their opinions? If not, ignore it. If you do care about them, ASK them straight up, why do you say that to me, after knowing how hard the last few years has been for us? Can you not ... (read in full...)

Why does she want a black dildo

Q.   Hi, my gf 27, me 34. recently mentioned she wants a dildo. So I said I will look for her. When we were looking she pointed she wanted a black one. We are white. So it made me think is she into black men? She doesn’t watch porn but I don’t know if ...

A.   17 March 2024: The only one who knows the answer to this question is HER. So, ask her?... (read in full...)

Why does she want a black dildo

Q.   Hi, my gf 27, me 34. recently mentioned she wants a dildo. So I said I will look for her. When we were looking she pointed she wanted a black one. We are white. So it made me think is she into black men? She doesn’t watch porn but I don’t know if ...

A.   17 March 2024: test ... (read in full...)

Should I stay or should I go? Help!

Q.   Please can I get some career advice - I’m so torn….. I’ve been working for this company in customer services for almost 18 years. I’ve always felt a bit over looked and never really given much opportunity to progress - unfortunately it...

A.   16 March 2024: The fact that your current job didn't want to PAY you more until you handed in your notice should tell you how LITTLE they actually valued you. They KNEW they had a good employee in you but they CHOSE not to pay you more, they CHOSE to USE you ... (read in full...)

Would it be acceptable for my cousin to walk me down the aisle at my wedding?

Q.   When I was 19 years old, I had a one night stand with a friend and ended up pregnant. My parents, who always been judgemental and verbally abusive kicked me out when they found out. My cousin, Justin, who is a year older than me, was always close...

A.   15 March 2024: Sure, why not? If your hubby is OK with that, then why not? It's your and your husband's wedding! Do what you want!... (read in full...)

Is he normal following girls 1/2 his age on social media?

Q.   My boyfriend who is 42 years old has an Instagram account where he added over 100 girls half his age, shaking their boobs and butts. So last month, my BF decided to create an Instagram account because he wanted to follow some singers and foodies....

A.   13 March 2024:  I think IF a guy is single (or gal) they can follow whomever they like. It's all good. I do think once you get married it's no longer appropriate to do so. Men are no more "visual being" than women. And yes, EVERYONE likes to look a... (read in full...)

I ended things with my ex but now feel sad and confused

Q.   I feel so heartbroken right now, I have told my ex I want nothing more to do with him as I can't take the emotional torment anymore. Wee wee were together for four years and in that time wee have had some really good times but really really ba...

A.   12 March 2024: I'm so sorry for your loss of your grandma. I think your EX has issues with intimacy (not the "sexy kind") but the interpersonal kind. Breaking up IS the best choice, he isn't what you WANT in a partner. Buying gifts and spending money isn't... (read in full...)

A friend told me that my husband is having an affair

Q.   I’ve been told that my husband of 25 years is having an affair with a woman we know. The person who told me has said they’ve been seen together in places they shouldn’t be and that it’s been going on a long time. There is no proof and he’s never ...

A.   12 March 2024: I guess it comes down to trust. Do you trust your husband? Or your friend more? I think you jumped the gun (unfortunately) by accusing him without any evidence. If I were you, I would pull back with the accusations and pay closer attention... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is a good man but is it time to walk away

Q.   I have been with my partner for four years when I met him he was amazing and wee just seemed to click. I also have a young daughter and after about a year he started offering days out with her too, which made me fall in love with him more that he ...

A.   12 March 2024: I forgot to add, He can be a "Good man" but not a "GOOD man" for YOU.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is a good man but is it time to walk away

Q.   I have been with my partner for four years when I met him he was amazing and wee just seemed to click. I also have a young daughter and after about a year he started offering days out with her too, which made me fall in love with him more that he ...

A.   12 March 2024: You have to decide if this works for you long term or not. I think it IS a total dealbreaker to say things like:" hurtful things to me like he doesn't love me and doesn't want to be with me " I do get that he SHOWS love but that doesn't mea... (read in full...)

Crazy man I've never met will not leave me alone

Q.   I matched with a guy online. We have FaceTimed one and agreed to meet on date however before the date I changed my mind as he was very pushy and whilst at work he sent me repeated messages despite knowing I was at work asking why I was ignoring him, ...

A.   10 March 2024: Yikes! Whatever social media you are on, SET your privacy settings ASAP. Especially your pictures. Set them so only "friends" or "mutuals" can see your posts. As much as it SUCKS - get a new phone number. Also, call the Police and ask... (read in full...)

Tired of his drama

Q.   Hello, I met someone online and we began a relationship. He has moved to where I am and I'm seeing a lot of red flags. I didn't ask him to move here, firstly. He did it on his own. Once he arrived here he got angry that I didn't see him ...

A.   9 March 2024: He sounds unhinged! I think you need to not only be VERY careful but also step back from whatever you had with him. ASAP. I would tell him that work keeps you too busy to have the kind of relationship HE wants, so you are wishing him well... (read in full...)

Should I say something or let it go

Q.   I don't know whether I should speak up or let it go. So me and my boyfriend now (fiance) have been together since we were 16 years old. We have been living together since 21 years old we are now 32. Last year he decided to incorporate sex toys into ...

A.   5 March 2024: You still have a good sex life, right? " I feel like I'm always the one initiating sex but he never rejects me. I just thought we were doing so well with each other. " Him masturbating without you isn't him cheating or not wanting you. He ... (read in full...)

Have a made a fool of myself with this guy?

Q.   I recently ended things with my partner of 7 years around a month ago, things fizzled out a long time ago as i felt like i loved him but wasn’t in love with him and stayed with him purely for our two young children. I went online and was chatting...

A.   4 March 2024: Yes, you messed it FOR YOURSELF. You didn't take your time to ACTUALLY getting to know this man. A month of "chatting" doesn't mean squat. The guy could have been lying about being separated. He just wanted someone to give him sex without too ... (read in full...)

My husband buys the worst gifts

Q.   It’s my birthday next week and I know my lovely husband has bought me an expensive gift. Unfortunately it’s not something that I want. I know that sounds so very ungrateful and even childish, but he does this every birthday, every an anniversary and ...

A.   2 March 2024: I think some men are just not great at gift giving and some are. And... some CAN learn. My husband is the latter. You know, he gave me a steam cleaner for my birthday once?! Yep, a steam cleaner... After that I just gave him access to MY Ama... (read in full...)

How can I make my dream a reality?

Q.   I know that this will seem like a silly want to others, but there is something I desperately want. Some women want a baby, some Women want a career, some women want a Gucci bag. I love horses and have always dreamed of learning to ride one, an...

A.   28 February 2024: Find a place that does adult classes for beginners and advanced riders. They do exit. "I’ve been shot down because I’m an adult and I’m “stealing it from a deserving little girl.”" A little girl can still get lessons, you aren't taki... (read in full...)

Get together that left me feeling excluded

Q.   Myself and 3 friends went out for dinner saturday night. I don’t drive so when we go out one of them usually picks me up (all 3 of them live quite close by to me) and I always offer to pay towards petrol or buy them a drink so it’s not as if ...

A.   27 February 2024: I think they don't see you are a friend they want to keep. I would simply ASK the one you are closest to, what was up and tell her to be honest.. ... (read in full...)

Whom to tell this sad news

Q.   Hi! It’s hard to talk about this, but here goes. A dear friend has just told me that she has eight weeks to live (medical prognosis) and of course I will visit, etc. She’d like that, she said. What I’m wondering is, how to decide who to tell. Mo...

A.   23 February 2024: It's not for you to share. Your sick friend can PICK and CHOOSE who she wants to tell and whom she doesn't. I'm sorry that your friend is in this situation.... (read in full...)

Should I allow my son to quit football?

Q.   My youngest son is a junior in high school and has been playing football for his school since the 8th grade (his school is a private school that goes from 5th grade to 12th grade). Justin always loved playing football until recently. Justin ju...

A.   23 February 2024: I agree with Ciar! I would sit him down and tell him that you will SUPPORT whatever choice he makes. And I would add " I do think he should do it before the season starts and not during the season." As a kid/teenager I was ALL over the place... (read in full...)

Is it normal to hurt when your ex has a new girlfriend?

Q.   Is it normal for it to hurt when your ex gets a girlfriend? So 2 months ago me and my ex split up after he cheated on me. I caught him and he still lied to my face. It has almost nearly broken me but I’ve managed to pick myself up and I was star...

A.   23 February 2024: Yes, it's "normal" to feel hurt that not only did he think so little of you that he CHOSE to cheat but he also moved on real fast. However, what you NEED to realize and accept is that as painful as it is, it's the BEST thing to happen to you! He ... (read in full...)

How do I go about meeting the ideal woman?

Q.   How do you approach a woman to flirt? Or even talk, striking up a conversation to feel around and see if she's into women? I know basically what I want so I'll start there: A woman who looks and especially acts like a female. Not an obnoxious gir...

A.   21 February 2024: Sounds like you are looking for a Unicorn, not a partner, OP I'd say look in places where you can meet people you have something in common with. Like, your faith. You aren't the first or the only lesbian/asexual girl out there. Or of you h... (read in full...)

I cannot tell when men are interested

Q.   I've never had a bf and I am bad at reading signs of interest from a guy (yes, I know I am almost 30 and still boyfriendless). A guy and I were in a conversation, and because I liked him, I started laughing randomly mid-conversation. There was ...

A.   20 February 2024: Do you have hobbies? Do you do sports? Participate in religion? If you can yes to one or more of these, then that is a good place to MEET someone that you might have a future with. Someone you SHARE something GOOD in common with. Let me give y... (read in full...)

Should I be suspicious of his ex-wife?

Q.   Friend with benefits just got out of the hospital for open heart surgery. His ex-wife has been at his house twice a day to cook breakfast and dinner since he came home, though I offered to help. Should I be suspicious that something more i...

A.   18 February 2024:  If you want to be a casual partner (FWB) then you have no say. If you want something more serious don't settle for FWB. You WILL get hurt when you realize (and you really should see this) that his EX-wife is more important to him than you are... (read in full...)

She’s angry I didn’t tell her, her ex got married!

Q.   I fear I have just lost a dear friend and long friendship over a silly mistake that I didn’t even know I made! My friends fiancé cheated on her 3 years ago. Obviously she was devastated. My friend does not have a facebook account, never h...

A.   17 February 2024: I'd leave her be. YOU did nothing wrong. SHE had asked (or rather DEMANDED) that you do not tell her anything about HIS life. You followed "orders". She can't pick and choose what you CAN and CAN NOT tell her about him. While I can abso... (read in full...)

Should I be suspicious of his ex-wife?

Q.   Friend with benefits just got out of the hospital for open heart surgery. His ex-wife has been at his house twice a day to cook breakfast and dinner since he came home, though I offered to help. Should I be suspicious that something more i...

A.   17 February 2024: You are just FWB, his friendship/relationship with his ex-wife is none of your business.... (read in full...)

They sold their house without giving us a chance to make an offer!

Q.   My husband and I are a little upset with our neighbors and no idea why what happened, happened… We have been living in our house for 6 years. One of our neighbors who lives in our cul de sac has a beautiful bigger house. We’ve al...

A.   4 February 2024: It's their house, they can choose who to sell to. Often, it's done through a real-estate agent and the seller takes the highest bidder. Telling someone that you LOVE their house doesn't mean you want to put a bid on it. ASKING them which real est... (read in full...)

She is in pursuit of me

Q.   So about a month ago this girl I was close friends with cut contact from me. We kind of had an argument and then other people said some things/rumors she got upset about. For the past week or so she seems to be for lack of a better word 'in pursuit'...

A.   28 January 2024: How about you USE your words? Ask her? Talk to her? ... (read in full...)

Should I limit exposure to my family for my mental health?

Q.   I am the youngest in a family if four. My sister's are 10 years older than me and brother is 5 years older. All I heard growing up was that my brother wanted a brother and a bike for his birthday. Well I was born on his birthday, but was a sister. ...

A.   28 January 2024: Yes, of COURSE you should limit your exposure to toxic people, even if they ARE family. The fact that they (your siblings) blame you for "being born" basically, should tell you that they are a bunch of ignoramuses! I mean HOW can a newborn ... (read in full...)

Sister in law has some odd quirks which at times cause hassle!

Q.   My sister in law has some funny quirks- she is a nice lady and makes my brother happy which is the main thing but sometimes she does things that make no sense and just create more hassle. I’m probably going to be told to mind my own business ...

A.   26 January 2024: Yeah, that is annoying and odd behavior. My guess is that her social skills are not that great. And that might never change. But I would also say this, IF your brother is OK with her strange behaviors, then I don't think it's up to YOU or any... (read in full...)

Something just feels off about him

Q.   I started seeing this guy at the end of November 2023. On our second date, he asked me about my dating history and he proceeded to tell him his. He told me he still talks daily to his most recent ex and that she is always asking him to get back ...

A.   25 January 2024: You are getting these "feelings" (we call them intuition) because you know something is off about him. Are you OK to be part of a harem? Get STI's from other women through him? Do you have so little self-respect? He sounds like a dick. ... (read in full...)

He is controlling and I'm worried that the bad outweighs the good

Q.   I was in a relationship for 8 years, 2 children and a wedding booked when I found out he was having an affair with a woman he worked with. We split up but stayed amicable for our children. 3 years down the line and I went through some serious ...

A.   25 January 2024: Don't marry him until this is either sorted out or never. That isn't healthy behavior. While I do think it's important to let your partner know that you have made plans, this is just too much. Facetiming you because you made plans with a fri... (read in full...)

Curiosity killed the cat

Q.   Curiosity got the best of me. I am almost certain she isn’t honest but I feel bad because I don’t think she’s comfortable but I asked my friend indirectly if she was gay. It’s several reasons why I want to know and think she is. Anyways when I asked ...

A.   23 January 2024: How is her sexual preference any of your business?! And discussing HER sexual preference with other people? What the ACTUAL F! Shame on you! "I don’t understand why she is so upset " REALLY? Are you always this dense? It is NONE of you... (read in full...)

Unhappy with hairdresser should I call and tell her or put it on social media?

Q.   Been going to the same hairdressers 2 years now, Before that I went to another one for longer. I always get my roots done and a wash and blow dry and it costs £60. The one I go to now is never been as good as the one I went to years ago. This hai...

A.   19 January 2024: Find a new salon. Pay the extra money. 60 sounds cheap, so you somewhat got what you paid for. Not what you wanted. Which is annoying, I get it. I don't think you should blast her on social media either, not without talking to her first. Alway... (read in full...)

Feelings for my no strings partner of 10 years

Q.   Cutting a long story short. I have had a no strings attached for 10 years with the same person. We both live separate lives and have sometimes gone 6 months with no contact. I used to be really happy with the random hook ups, but within the last ...

A.   19 January 2024: You CHOSE to waste 10 years on a guy who in fact DID use you for sex, just as YOU used him. If nothing of significance has happened to make this from a casual screw partner "thing" - it won't happen after 11 or 12 years or more. You caught fe... (read in full...)

Guy I'm dating pressures me

Q.   Hello, and thanks I'm currently in a dating someone for approximately 8 months. He pressures me to see him frequently. He pressures me to talk on the phone. As an example. I'm sick and have barely any voice he will start texting and I'll...

A.   9 January 2024: Just dump him. If he has sex with other people, he isn't committed to you. He sounds like a douche. If you are sick and can barely talk, then you can't not be on the phone. That is logic. And girl. you are in your 30's, you can say no, yo... (read in full...)

Don’t want my friend tagging along to my birthday weekend!!

Q.   I know this is going to make me sound spoilt and like a coward… It’s my 40th birthday coming up shortly and my husband is treating us both to an overnight stay in a cabin in a zoo- it’s something I’ve wanted to do for years. A few ...

A.   9 January 2024: Since your husband invited her, he needs to be the one to dis-invite her. Or you can put on your big girl panties and just tell her, hey I LOVE spending time with you, but I would rather spend my birthday weekend with my husband alone as we do no... (read in full...)

I am confused about what he wants

Q.   Hey everyone and thank you in advance for your advice. I met a guy from the USA while he was working in my hometown ( I'm European). We hit it off on our first date and long story short we've been seeing each other for 2 months now. He recently...

A.   9 January 2024: I think you should hold your horses. You have been seeing him for 2 months! "When there is a genuine connection I don't feel that how long you've known someone is the biggest factor." I think you are wrong. You might FEEL a connection, ... (read in full...)

I want to tell my family I have an 18 year old daughter

Q.   When I was 18 years old, I got my girlfriend, Stephanie, pregnant. She is the same age as I am. Due to different reasons, we choose to put our daughter up for adoption. Her family knows that she had a daughter and that I'm the father. Stephani...

A.   8 January 2024: Just tell them. I think most would be happy for a new bonus family member. :) You can't change the past or how THEY react. Tell your parents first. Then tell your siblings. THEY in turn can tell their kids. Good luck ! This is ... (read in full...)

My family found out I don't keep the gifts they give me. How do I handle this?

Q.   My family (my parents, my brother, my sister-in-law and my sister-in-law's family) are terrible at buying gifts for me. They usually buy me clothes that don't fit, items that I don't need or want and other items that are useless to me. I us...

A.   8 January 2024: I'm so sorry for the loss of your dog. "Should I asked them not to buy me anything?" You can do that now. Or you can suggest that a gift card or a donation to XYZ charity in your name would be welcome over a gift. It's OK. "Part of ... (read in full...)

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