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I think I broke my hymen. Am I still a virgin?

Q.   so this is pretty embarrassing??? but i was masturbating with a hairbrush handle and it was rather large and i like popped my cherry??? i didn't bleed or anything but i felt the pinch-y stretching feeling and now i'm like looser??? like is this ...

A.   29 September 2016: It didn't get "lose" from inserting a brush. The vagina is a muscle, not an old sock. My advice though is to stop sticking stuff up your vagina. You can end up with an infection. "Virginity" is defined by whether you have had penetration BY a... (read in full...)

Why he'd come back after 3 years after things ended so horribly?

Q.   Long story short, I was briefly acquainted with a man 3 years ago and it went downhill very fast. We were supposed to be strictly friends and things started getting weird and complicated with attraction and feelings and miscommunication. We were ...

A.   29 September 2016: Could be so many reasons. 1. He is bored. 2. He is lonely. 3. He wants to reach out to you to either find some "closure" with what happened with you two. Etc. I could probably guess more reasons, but I don't know him, you did... 3 yea... (read in full...)

10 years later my ex writes me to say she's sorry. Do I ignore?

Q.   A random question here .. about 10 years ago with my first gf ,, we was going out for a couple of months and then she ended it and spread loads of bad things about me .. which tbf didn't help me and probably hasn't helped me to this day .One thing ...

A.   29 September 2016: That is entirely up to you. Personally, I think it's time after 10 years to let go of that old hurt and put THAT in the past with her. So I'd tell her all is forgiven but that I want no further contact from her. You COULD also take this opport... (read in full...)

Is there hope that my mother will learn to love me?

Q.   So my mother and I have always had a weird relationship. One minute I'm the best thing that ever happened to her, the next, she will ignore me for days or weeks. Long story short, she had me when she was 20, and finally told me after having d...

A.   28 September 2016: You mom is selfish. That is it. YOU didn't mess up her life. Having kids young doesn't mean you can't achieve anything. YOU were just the excuse she USED for not reaching whatever lofty goals she had for herself. I would actually stop ca... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has always been rather shady. Is this a red flag?

Q.   I would like some advice on whether the following scenario would raise a red flag: Today I was driving home from work, on the phone with my boyfriend. Suddenly he said he had to take a call, so I was like OK, call me back. When I got home 40mins l...

A.   28 September 2016: Honestly, OP I have no idea if it means someone else is calling from a sideline account or TO his normal number/sideline. All I know about sideline is that you can have 2 numbers on your phone and only pay for one line. I have thought of doing... (read in full...)

Considering my reasons for going in, my boyfriends comment, my age and his age and our desire to have kids, is it too late to join the military?

Q.   For some time now, it has been a dream of mine to join the military. I was in ROTC for a bit in college but to be honest, did not succeed very well. I got out after a year but then after graduating with my degree about 2.5 years ago, I got the same ...

A.   28 September 2016: No Denizen, joining the military is not about becoming a professional killer. There are plenty of NON-combat MOS's. There is Communications, Logistics, Cooks, Mechanic, Medicine, Intelligence, HR, Finance.... just to mention a few. While you STIL... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has always been rather shady. Is this a red flag?

Q.   I would like some advice on whether the following scenario would raise a red flag: Today I was driving home from work, on the phone with my boyfriend. Suddenly he said he had to take a call, so I was like OK, call me back. When I got home 40mins l...

A.   28 September 2016: If someone calling HIM used a "sideline account" I TRULY hope your BF wasn't stupid enough to give out ANY bank info, NO bank would use a "sideline account" to reach out to customers... however, scammers will. And they can sound VERY convincing. In ... (read in full...)

A text from another woman has made me wonder if I can trust my boyfriend

Q.   I've been with my b/f for 3 years and just found a text from a woman saying she misses him too. I questioned him and he said its nothing just someone he's helping find a job. He says she's nothing and not to worry about it.I said why would you tell ...

A.   28 September 2016: I think you have to figure out what you NEED from him in order to start trusting again. And HE needs to be the one to DO the work to regain your trust. It's NOT just a matter of you "getting" over it. Personally, I'd like to get her number a... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is moving into a house with a guy she once cheated with. I'm not happy about this!

Q.   Hi, My girlfriend recently moved out into a student house. I've been with her for a few months but shes moving into a house with the boy who she cheated on her boyfriend with previously. He has no respect for boyfriends and always tries to hit on ...

A.   28 September 2016: I agree with FA, Wish her well and then end it. CUT all contact, block, delete and whatever you need to do, then move on. While SHE might say: OH you should just trust me", she should also consider how it makes HER look when she CHOOSES to m... (read in full...)

I want to be courted but the men seem to want to go from "hi" to sex immediately!

Q.   How do I always get the opposite of what I want? I've always been told I should go on "more than just a few dates" before I get in a relationship. But there ARE NOT even that many dates. Men just want to go straight from hi to relationship. Or, just ...

A.   27 September 2016: I think you are right to have some standards. While most people YOUR age don't have the same, you might find some that do. Waiting 6 months to have sex I don't think is unreasonable, but most guys your age might. You have to stick to what yo... (read in full...)

Am I crazy for allowing my husband to sleep with other men and women?

Q.   My husband and I have been together off and on for 25 years and been married 13. He has cheated on me a lot in the past and I've forgiven him, he promised it would never happen again unless he talked to me about it. He works in another state, h...

A.   27 September 2016: OP Deal with your issue of "self-medicating" before you go for the divorce. That way you "give" him ONE less piece of ammo. I get that you feel lonely, sad and neglected in your marriage, but drinking doesn't solve anything. Good for you ... (read in full...)

How does forgiveness start?

Q.   There is so much to be sorry about but my ex has done so much towards me purposely to hurt me. I want to say sorry and just talk but do not want to be together at all. How does this all start? How does forgiveness start?...

A.   27 September 2016: For me? Forgiveness doesn't start till you CAN forgive. Sounds vague, but here goes. Someone who has hurt you doesn't automatically DESERVE to be forgiven. You don't OWE them that. BUT you do OWE yourself to at some point DEAL with the issue, l... (read in full...)

Why does my boyfriend keep making jokes about kids?

Q.   So been dating my boyfriend for 5 1/2 months and lately he been making jokes about me having his kids or when we do it he ain't pull out! What does he mean by this? Why he keep making jokes about babies? Do he wnt kids secretly? Where is this coming ...

A.   27 September 2016: I hope you are on birth control because he doesn't seem to take having kids very serious. If he wants kids, so what? You have ONLY been dating 5 1/2 months and you are both ( I presume in your late teens/early 20's) it's not the time to be m... (read in full...)

I'm dating a new guy but emotionally still tied to my ex

Q.   I was dating a guy off and on for about 2 years. I know a part of me will love him forever, or at least I think so. Our relationship was not the most healthy. Lots of fighting,drama, and he had some narcissistic tendencies.It was like a roller ...

A.   27 September 2016: I agree with N91 cut off and block all contact with the ex. It's the only way to eventually get him out of your head and heart. And going slow with the new guy I think is a very good idea, but... I do think you jumped the gun on going back to ... (read in full...)

How Can one forgive BETRAYAL of someone you love, cheating and now the the woman is pregnant?

Q.   I met the man of my dreams, my best friend over a year ago. we live together and his kids come over every other weekend " I Love Them". we went on vacation 5- months ago and I saw a girl kept calling? I asked who is she then my life forever cha...

A.   27 September 2016: You really should look up Matthew Hussey on YouTube, he makes SO MUCH common sense it's refreshing. Start with this one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bCdFzjEuQrY... (read in full...)

How Can one forgive BETRAYAL of someone you love, cheating and now the the woman is pregnant?

Q.   I met the man of my dreams, my best friend over a year ago. we live together and his kids come over every other weekend " I Love Them". we went on vacation 5- months ago and I saw a girl kept calling? I asked who is she then my life forever cha...

A.   27 September 2016: Maybe you can forgive this and maybe he can show you he is worth trusting again down the line. My guess is no though. You have been together little over a year... and in that year he knocked someone else up, so not ONLY did he have unprotec... (read in full...)

Boyfriend fails on work related questions

Q.   Please help me understand his thoughts. I can't seem to be able to talk to my boyfriend about work related things. I'm senior management and when talking to my boyfriend about taking on new tasks or training/motivating my team, his one and only res...

A.   27 September 2016: I agree with Cindy. He is looking at it from HIS perspective, not yours. And... let's face it, MEN are definitely "better" at asking for a raise and they (in general) expect to be paid more, the more they put into their job. Whereas women want to ... (read in full...)

Should I back off and forget about him or am I being a bit dramatic?

Q.   Hi, I really fancy this guy at work, the other girls have been trying to set us up for months but we're both a bit shy so nothing's ever happened. We were out with everyone from work a couple of weeks ago and he told one of the girls he was inte...

A.   27 September 2016: You should back off because he already is out dating SOMEONE else. He might be shy but not too shy to go out with another girl. And #2, work romances are usually not a great idea. The workplace is NOT your private dating pool. If it was... i... (read in full...)

Why can't he find more time for me?

Q.   I am dating a divorced man with two children of 12 and 13 he has shared custody with them and it's amicable and settled. I haven't met the children yet as we have only been dating two months but plan to in time and he wants me to. He also works away ...

A.   27 September 2016: I think YOU have to decide if once a week is enough for you. He does seem to have a busy schedule and I'm sure YOU can remember what it was like when your kids were "tweens". There are school engagements, sports, friends and then he also juggles a ... (read in full...)

I can't stop wondering about her

Q.   Everything my logical brain thinks of says DO NOT CONTACT HER, yet I still want to know how she's doing. I want to know if she is doing well. Obviously this is about my ex'. Im curious and hoping she's doing well. I can list a number a of reas...

A.   27 September 2016: If it was so perfect, how come it didn't work? Have you asked yourself that?)... (read in full...)

She confessed to cheating just 2 weeks into our LDR, I’d love to resolve this but don’t know what she’s thinking! Any advice appreciated!

Q.   Hello, today im requesting a bit of relationship advice Me and my girl met a while ago and remained freinds but this year we got a lot closer and started going out for a month, just before the month was up i had to leave and go overseas for wor...

A.   26 September 2016: I agree with Wise, I'd let her go and wish her well. Someone who can't even stay faithful for two weeks isn't REALLY looking for a serious relationship. I think you are wasting your time on her.... (read in full...)

Am I crazy for allowing my husband to sleep with other men and women?

Q.   My husband and I have been together off and on for 25 years and been married 13. He has cheated on me a lot in the past and I've forgiven him, he promised it would never happen again unless he talked to me about it. He works in another state, h...

A.   26 September 2016: I agree wholeheartedly with Tisha. One thing is an open marriage, it works for some. But YOUR marriage ? It's not an open marriage, it's YOU "allowing" him to cheat on you so you can stay married. Because you KNOw that IF you said, no you can't go... (read in full...)

Is it possible that there actually isn't anyone out there for you?

Q.   Is it possible that there actually isn't anyone out there for you? I can't imagine finding anyone who suits my needs, I rarely see anyone who I would like to date. There must come a time when you finally meet someone who is trustworthy and ...

A.   26 September 2016: There aren't someone who is a perfect match out there for everyone. Maybe not even for anyone. You will meet a lot of people and depending on YOU, a small or large amount will attract you and a smaller amount will be someone you can see yourself... (read in full...)

How to react when the honeymoon period is over?

Q.   I feel like in every relationship once the honeymoon period is over, you reach that point where you're like, is there enough good stuff here that you want to move forward even though you're not high on love anymore, and give love a chance to grow ...

A.   26 September 2016: How long have you two dated? How often do you two meet up? Are there ANY plans to make this a non-LDR? If not... what kind of future is there, part from glorified pen-pals who meet up occasionally for intimacy? Maybe you have lost tha... (read in full...)

He always wants to hang out but then starts talking about other girls. Where do I stand with him?

Q.   So a couple months ago i met a nice guy at a friends party. We hit it off since that night and exchanged numbers and have been talking ever since. We've gone on several dates now and hang out often. He always seems to send me mix signals. He always ...

A.   26 September 2016: I don't think he sees you as more than a friend. And IF he did, don't you feel it's a bit of a dickweed move to talk about other girls? Would you really want to date a guy who is still actively looking for another girl? Any girl? So my advice,... (read in full...)

He shut me out for 3 months, contacted me again but now is ignoring me again?

Q.   So I have met this guy once, it went well, he texts me straight after to say he wanted to see me again. He then had a close friend die suddenly and so we didn't talk for 3 months since he completely shut me out ( to grieve I suppose ) he then texts ...

A.   26 September 2016: I'd chalk this up to, NOT really all THAT into you and act accordingly. I know a couple of other aunties/uncles suggest you give him a week, me personally? I'd just block him and be done with it. I can see that losing a good friend is somethin... (read in full...)

I told my chick friend who has kids that I won’t date women who have kids and she seems to have taken offense?

Q.   A couple of months ago I moved to a bigger city along with my chick friend who has kids. We don't live together but since we don't know anybody in this town we occasionally hang out. We are both really close since we went through a big ordeal in our ...

A.   26 September 2016: I think you suffer from foot in mouth and her from being a little too over politically correct. So, yes I would apologize if she took offense. Having a kid doesn't compare to being short or broke. I would just tell her that you don't feel you can ... (read in full...)

I found oral contraceptives and condoms in my boyfriend's room. What should I do?

Q.   I found used oral contraceptive in my boyfriend room which I didn't use and also found 3 condoms under his pillow I asked him and he said he just bought it. Please what should I do ...

A.   26 September 2016: I'd wish him well and end it. Why would he buy oral contraception to have to lie around his room? I call absolute BS. And condoms UNDER his pillow? Unless you two are sexually active and use condoms, I just don't see it being anything but a sh... (read in full...)

I've been catfishing my ex for 8 months to discover out what kind of father he would be to the child he doesn't know he has with me

Q.   I have been catfishing my ex for the last 8 months. I originally did it for information because after he moved away, I discovered i was pregnant. I couldn't reach him for 2 years and when I came across him I was scared so I made up a Facebook ...

A.   26 September 2016: Be honest with him. IF he still wants contact, go for it. If he doesn't.. accept it. Catfishing is NEVER Ok. Sorry, but no excuse justify playing with someone's emotions or spy on them.... (read in full...)

I wonder if my boyfriend is cheating, how do I know for sure?

Q.   I would like to know whether or not my boyfriend is cheating. Of course you can never really know but understanding the signs my boyfriend is presenting would be great, if any at all. I have been dating this guy for roughly 2 months and a bit...

A.   26 September 2016: You know, he should be lying to his mom and YOU shouldn't have to lie to his mom either. Yes, it sucks for him that she KNOWS he was lying. And yes it sucks that he is upset you mentioned it to his mom. But... Maybe he should come clean to hi... (read in full...)

Dating has gotten me confused about what I want!

Q.   Dating and making decisions... Need advice! I am on a dating site. I agreed to meet two men on there. One I have been writing to for a few days, and we share the same goals in life, he is very handsome, and I can see a future with a man like him. He ...

A.   26 September 2016: Thanks for the update, sorry it didn't pan out. You "win" some, you lose some. Both were good men, just not a GOOD match for you. ... (read in full...)

I want to ask my boyfriend's mom if I could go with them see b/f but am afraid of her reaction

Q.   Ive been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half now. He recently went off to college and we have been doing long distances since. His mom is the type of mom who is really protective. It seems as though she is jealous of me and worried that her ...

A.   25 September 2016: I'd just talk to your BF and find a time where HIS parents aren't visiting and then go myself. Christmas might be expensive so perhaps wait? But I understand his parents, even though I think the mom is babying him a bit there. I mean he was in... (read in full...)

My husband doesn't like me wearing makeup and criticizes me

Q.   My husband hates the fact that I wear makeup. When we first met I was into more of a "barefaced" look (meaning I only wore mascara). Once I started working again(after taking care of babies for a few years), I went back to my glam-girl ways and ...

A.   25 September 2016: He sounds like an ass. Honestly, I have no better words. He IS, like chigirl said, trying to manipulate you into not wearing make-up by criticizing you. Tear you down, when he SHOULD build you up. And I do agree that a divorce is the only way ... (read in full...)

Am I crazy or is this gaslighting?

Q.   Am I crazy? My husband has the habit of lying to me about little things. For example, he'll say he has nothing planned for the weekend and the weekend will roll around and he'll tell me that he has to go to work (and he does- I can verify that and ...

A.   25 September 2016: I agree with YouWish and Cindy, it's not gaslighting, but it is a type of avoidance on his behalf. Kind of like the " rather apologize for whatever afterward than ask permission" situation that some teens use... What I'd do, is MAKE plans fo... (read in full...)

I wonder if my boyfriend is cheating, how do I know for sure?

Q.   I would like to know whether or not my boyfriend is cheating. Of course you can never really know but understanding the signs my boyfriend is presenting would be great, if any at all. I have been dating this guy for roughly 2 months and a bit...

A.   25 September 2016: I don't necessarily think he is cheating. I just think he hasn't grown a whole lot in those 7 years and you... carry some of that "baggage" from the past where he would just vanish. It's not totally strange that you don't trust him, but I think yo... (read in full...)

Is my partner setting things up to look for a fight?

Q.   My partner is very forgretful. He puts his phone down and forgets where and says he cant find it. Then he pushes up the stress by indirectly accusing me or someone else of taking it. Then he gets aggressive and abusive to me, telling me I get...

A.   24 September 2016: Impossible to say. Have you tried to call his phone from your phone and see if it rings? IF you have and nothing rings, I'd walk away from him. Leave the house if you have to, after telling him you have no desire to take his phone and if he ... (read in full...)

I feel like my trust meter is broken. How can I tell if this guy is trustworthy?

Q.   I am in the middle of a divorce. I had sworn to myself to stay out of the dating scene until at least the divorce was finalized. I even purposely stopped dressing nicely or wearing makeup in order to avoid attracting attention. My soon to be ex ...

A.   24 September 2016: Best way? To take things slow and watch if his words match his actions. A trustworthy person has their actions matching their word. Basically, their word is their bond. Now that doesn't mean every person who keeps their word is always trustwort... (read in full...)

Would going to the movies with an older male colleague be a mistake?

Q.   Hi everyone, A few months ago, I moved to a new city for a new job. Most of my colleagues are a lot older than I am, and I am basically the 'new' blood being brought in to compensate for those who are going to retire soon. Anyway, I'm new to t...

A.   23 September 2016: You are still the one who DID it. YOU stood up to him, YOU told him enough, you told him this is inappropriate. When you posted your initial question you KNEW it was inappropriate of your co-worker or at least "iffy". So you have good instinct... (read in full...)

Would going to the movies with an older male colleague be a mistake?

Q.   Hi everyone, A few months ago, I moved to a new city for a new job. Most of my colleagues are a lot older than I am, and I am basically the 'new' blood being brought in to compensate for those who are going to retire soon. Anyway, I'm new to t...

A.   23 September 2016: I hope the new job situation will work out for you. And I hope your boss (es) will understand that you HAD to go to HR because enough is enough. Still TALK to your boss about the HR/Bob thing. He should be in the loop. Seems like you have fo... (read in full...)

How should I handle her reaction? I feel I'm being completely blown off by my FWB friend

Q.   So I've got a Fwb relationship that's been on going for quite some time now. Roughly 10 months. We have been friends since 2012 but the sleeping together started last November. This is not your typical fwb relationship. I've never had a relation...

A.   23 September 2016: You act like a GF. You treat the FWB like a relationship. That is just my observation of your post. No matter how GREAT a pair of friends you are, an FWB is NOT a relationship. It's a mutually beneficial arrangement between friends. And ... (read in full...)

Would going to the movies with an older male colleague be a mistake?

Q.   Hi everyone, A few months ago, I moved to a new city for a new job. Most of my colleagues are a lot older than I am, and I am basically the 'new' blood being brought in to compensate for those who are going to retire soon. Anyway, I'm new to t...

A.   23 September 2016: I wish you good luck, OP. And I wouldn't be surprised if this isn't the first time HR have heard about his shenanigans, though they probably won't tell you that. Do the company have other branches? That is also a possibility. I know it could se... (read in full...)

Would going to the movies with an older male colleague be a mistake?

Q.   Hi everyone, A few months ago, I moved to a new city for a new job. Most of my colleagues are a lot older than I am, and I am basically the 'new' blood being brought in to compensate for those who are going to retire soon. Anyway, I'm new to t...

A.   23 September 2016: I do think you have to go to HR ASAP. He still isn't accepting that YOU have stood up for yourself. I mean when I read your story he shifts from manipulation, accusations, "forgetfulness" and then to bribing. Honestly? those are like CLEAR si... (read in full...)

Dating has gotten me confused about what I want!

Q.   Dating and making decisions... Need advice! I am on a dating site. I agreed to meet two men on there. One I have been writing to for a few days, and we share the same goals in life, he is very handsome, and I can see a future with a man like him. He ...

A.   18 September 2016: Well, #1 was a dud in the match in reality. Like you thought he was "too good to be true". Which I'm not surprised over really, he is a successful lawyer, that takes confidence and self-assurance, which can come off as arrogance. Think about it, his ... (read in full...)

Would going to the movies with an older male colleague be a mistake?

Q.   Hi everyone, A few months ago, I moved to a new city for a new job. Most of my colleagues are a lot older than I am, and I am basically the 'new' blood being brought in to compensate for those who are going to retire soon. Anyway, I'm new to t...

A.   17 September 2016: Yes, be prepared. but also.... if they ask you to leave because they don't want to deal with this, GET it in writing. Take it to a lawyer. SERIOUSLY. Because THAT is totally MESSED up attitude from their side. And IF that is their attitude, it's NOT ... (read in full...)

Dating has gotten me confused about what I want!

Q.   Dating and making decisions... Need advice! I am on a dating site. I agreed to meet two men on there. One I have been writing to for a few days, and we share the same goals in life, he is very handsome, and I can see a future with a man like him. He ...

A.   17 September 2016: GL on date with #1 !!... (read in full...)

Would going to the movies with an older male colleague be a mistake?

Q.   Hi everyone, A few months ago, I moved to a new city for a new job. Most of my colleagues are a lot older than I am, and I am basically the 'new' blood being brought in to compensate for those who are going to retire soon. Anyway, I'm new to t...

A.   17 September 2016: Before you go to HR - WRITE down the whole story from start to "end". Add dates and times if you can. It's easier than going there nervous and THEN have to explain it. I think going to HR would be a good idea. I didn't really think he would be... (read in full...)

Dating has gotten me confused about what I want!

Q.   Dating and making decisions... Need advice! I am on a dating site. I agreed to meet two men on there. One I have been writing to for a few days, and we share the same goals in life, he is very handsome, and I can see a future with a man like him. He ...

A.   16 September 2016: Number #2 is a waste of your time, no matter how yummy and amazing that first contact was. He would be a "fixer-upper" for you. Think about it. So many things HE or YOU would have to change. Would you give up your dog? Should he give up living o... (read in full...)

Would going to the movies with an older male colleague be a mistake?

Q.   Hi everyone, A few months ago, I moved to a new city for a new job. Most of my colleagues are a lot older than I am, and I am basically the 'new' blood being brought in to compensate for those who are going to retire soon. Anyway, I'm new to t...

A.   14 September 2016: Good for you OP! You grew a set, didn't you?! At least you didn't let him intimidate (which I think was HIS plan when he cornered you). Instead, you stood up to him and gave him VERY sound and rational reasons as to WHY you don't want to be his "... (read in full...)

Would going to the movies with an older male colleague be a mistake?

Q.   Hi everyone, A few months ago, I moved to a new city for a new job. Most of my colleagues are a lot older than I am, and I am basically the 'new' blood being brought in to compensate for those who are going to retire soon. Anyway, I'm new to t...

A.   13 September 2016: Good for you! I don't think it's weak to not want to have that conversation face to face. After all, you know yourself and you have had a glimpse of him and he seems VERY persuasive. My guess is he will do one of 2 things: 1. try and pret... (read in full...)

Would going to the movies with an older male colleague be a mistake?

Q.   Hi everyone, A few months ago, I moved to a new city for a new job. Most of my colleagues are a lot older than I am, and I am basically the 'new' blood being brought in to compensate for those who are going to retire soon. Anyway, I'm new to t...

A.   13 September 2016: No one is "annoyed" with your lack of spine here :) maybe you are, though? It's OK that you are not comfortable with confrontation, but if he doesn't "get" the point of yu pulling away you might have t obe blunt. And you know what? it's OK to be... (read in full...)

Would going to the movies with an older male colleague be a mistake?

Q.   Hi everyone, A few months ago, I moved to a new city for a new job. Most of my colleagues are a lot older than I am, and I am basically the 'new' blood being brought in to compensate for those who are going to retire soon. Anyway, I'm new to t...

A.   13 September 2016: I think he has noticed that you are pulling away and that is why he is now "stalking" you or latching on to you. He doesn't feel confident that you are so easy to manipulate as he had first thought. So you ARE on the right track. You might no... (read in full...)

Would going to the movies with an older male colleague be a mistake?

Q.   Hi everyone, A few months ago, I moved to a new city for a new job. Most of my colleagues are a lot older than I am, and I am basically the 'new' blood being brought in to compensate for those who are going to retire soon. Anyway, I'm new to t...

A.   10 September 2016: Hey, if it helps to talk it through with all of us here at DC, go for it! Having a sounding board is good. But take the advice given to heart, consider it and If you find that it FEELS right, USE it. YOU do not OWE him squat. Yes, you work to... (read in full...)

Would going to the movies with an older male colleague be a mistake?

Q.   Hi everyone, A few months ago, I moved to a new city for a new job. Most of my colleagues are a lot older than I am, and I am basically the 'new' blood being brought in to compensate for those who are going to retire soon. Anyway, I'm new to t...

A.   9 September 2016: I agree, STAY clear of him. If he suggests another outing tell him no thanks, that you PREFER to keep it professional and also DO NOT share any more tidbits about your life or past other that the little casual things people will share with a s... (read in full...)

Would going to the movies with an older male colleague be a mistake?

Q.   Hi everyone, A few months ago, I moved to a new city for a new job. Most of my colleagues are a lot older than I am, and I am basically the 'new' blood being brought in to compensate for those who are going to retire soon. Anyway, I'm new to t...

A.   25 August 2016: I'd go. But I would keep conversation to work/casual, nothing about your love life (none of his business). If he starts talking about problems with his wife, the whole my wife doesn't understand me or other bull crap to try and make you feel sor... (read in full...)

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