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My ex boyfriend had me arrested for harassment charges! Has anyone else experienced this?

Q.   I need some advice please. I was with my boyfriend nearly 2 years and the relationship was great, we had so much in common and were lovers but also best friends. I have abandonment issues and eventually started to self destruct until, after weeks of...

A.   27 June 2017: Have you blocked him yet? Or have your legal counsel not advised that yet? "Heresay information" Is usually from a 3rd (or more after the matter handed down information), but in many cases so are he said/she said cases regarded. At least from wha... (read in full...)

Is moving to a big city a good idea? or am I leaving a REALLY good life?

Q.   Hi all, Thank you for taking the time to read. I have a huge question. I am 29 yrs old, I have a finance degree, I live in a pretty good state (UTAH, USA), the economy is booming, the state is clean, safe. I rent a pretty cool apartment, I ...

A.   26 June 2017: Why not stick it out a year more? Save up as much as you can and don't MOVE till you have another job lined up. Also are you a practicing Catholic? If so maybe you can find time to volunteer at your church and meet more people? Moving to a b... (read in full...)

Boyfriend did nothing for me on my 21st birthday and says I'm stupid if I expect things to be romantic

Q.   so i dont want to sound like a nag or like im being selfish but here it is. 25th june was my 21st birthday i had a meal and a night out planned. on the 24th my boyfriend didnt want to spend it with me but i told him if he doesnt try its over bec...

A.   26 June 2017: Aside from him not wanting to do anything... he is a little selfish BITCH and maybe you need to outgrow him. He isn't GOING to change. Everything is your fault according to him, how is that not a good reason to dump him? I get that being on an... (read in full...)

Crushing hard on a new boyfriend, but I found out he is into live webcam sex

Q.   Hello, so I've went on a few dates with this guy, and we have really been hitting it off. Like, I can see marriage and kids so far, and we are so so similar in person. I have a huuuuge crush on him and he seems to feel the same about me. However, I ...

A.   26 June 2017: You know that someone who does this EVERY night is not likely to give it up for you, right? It becomes an addiction or obsession - it's a fantasy that ALWAYS goes his way because ... he pays for it. While he isn't engaging in physical sex, I ... (read in full...)

How can I break this impass on marital strife?

Q.   I've been with my wife for 12 years. We've been going through a bit of a tough patch lately, but I don't think it's something that we can't work our way through. Now, please don't think that I am claiming to be perfect - I have problems that I need ...

A.   26 June 2017: Seeking advice from friends are adding on to her isolation so I suggest you DO NOT do that. Because now she will want to stay away from YOUR friends too instead of perhaps joining in with you. And if you are talking to FEMALE friends well, that ... (read in full...)

My ex boyfriend had me arrested for harassment charges! Has anyone else experienced this?

Q.   I need some advice please. I was with my boyfriend nearly 2 years and the relationship was great, we had so much in common and were lovers but also best friends. I have abandonment issues and eventually started to self destruct until, after weeks of...

A.   26 June 2017: I don't think it's HER manipulating HIM - I think it's HIM using her for his own end. The only REAL solution I can see is you changing your phone number, remove him AND her from any social websites etc and STOP having ANY kind of contact with the... (read in full...)

Invitation is too close for comfort

Q.   Hi! A guy I have a crush on has extended a general invitation to hang out sometime. He doesn't know I like him and our relationship right now is just friends. However, he has a girlfriend. Just to clarify I am not allowing my personal feelings for ...

A.   25 June 2017: I agree, don't "hang out" just the two of you. That would be not only smart but considerate.... (read in full...)

Are we playing the "he loves me..he loves me not" game?

Q.   I had been dating a guy for a year and everything was going fine. And suddenly he stopped receiving my calls or replying to my texts. After continuously texting he replied and said he didnt want to hurt me but he needed space and time.The next day ...

A.   25 June 2017: Oh so now that it's vacation time he REALLY can't be bothered with you... Sorry, OP I'd block this one and move on.... (read in full...)

I found out the man I'm dating is married

Q.   Am dating married man but on the first he didn't tell that is married,I found it by mi self.I feel like leave him but he is caring man every woman need,He says that he loves even he took me to his home but wife unknowing that am co,What can I do?...

A.   25 June 2017: You can end it? The longer you continue to see him the more you will feel for him and the more it will hurt when HE dumps you (and he will when the wife finds out). He is cheating ON you and his wife - that isn't exactly a good man's actions - ... (read in full...)

Why is he becoming distant?

Q.   Why would a man pull away just because the relationship can't go anywhere? Why can't he just live in the moment? I'm asking because if a man really likes a woman, how is it so easy for him to pull away? It seems backwards. If I really like someone, ...

A.   24 June 2017: Maybe he doesn't like you AS much as you think he does or he SAID he does? Or maybe he likes you MORE and doesn't want to take it further and get hurt when it ends. Not every man is up for a casual fling. As for HIS specific reason? We can ... (read in full...)

Why is he still looking for me? He's married now.

Q.   9 years ago (15-16yrs old)I dated a guy in H.S. But we only dated for about a month before he broke up with me over the phone. In that month we were together we had sex and seems like all the guys were talking about it..Well next school year he ...

A.   24 June 2017: Just block/delete the stupid ex-bf and live your life. The ex is not looking to reconnect, he is looking to USE you and be an ass to his wife AND you. You have already shown him that you are easy to convince to doing sexual favors for him THAT is ... (read in full...)

His history has me worried

Q.   If you hear a guy beat up his ex' and you're kind of seeing him what would you do? I talked to him about it of course, yet it keeps bothering me... At first, though he admited it and said he took two years alone to fix himself i was okay. Yet i ke...

A.   24 June 2017: I think you should end it. WHY? Because you are walking on eggshells with him. You are constantly "looking" for signs that he might be an abusive fellow. Which means you can't relax around him or drop that guard you have up. That ISN'T healthy for ... (read in full...)

Co-worker complains about boyfriend. Do I have a chance?

Q.   I like my co-worker but she is involved with another co-worker and has a child. We have been spending a lot of time together at work and outside of work, but she complains about her bf a lot. I constantly tell her to stay with him and try to make...

A.   24 June 2017: I have met someone that lit up my life but he was single so things proceeded. Right now HER life (as far as her relationship with her BF) is not going so well so it's NOT hard for her to USE you (since you are volunteering) to make herself ... (read in full...)

Are we playing the "he loves me..he loves me not" game?

Q.   I had been dating a guy for a year and everything was going fine. And suddenly he stopped receiving my calls or replying to my texts. After continuously texting he replied and said he didnt want to hurt me but he needed space and time.The next day ...

A.   23 June 2017: My guess? He is interested in someone else and while (maybe low key) pursuing HER you are kept on the backburner. JUST in case, the other girl doesn't work out. He isn't HAPPY with you as his partner. If he was he wouldn't be needing all thes... (read in full...)

I have huge mental blocks regarding finding a partner but I really want one

Q.   Hello all, I turned 18 last year and I'm still a virgin. I crave to be with someone, preferably another girl. I'm just scared. I've tried posting ads and online "dating" sites but I never go through with anything. My main issues are 1. I'd get cau...

A.   23 June 2017: So, I have to ask... WHY would your parents "end" you if you started dating? Do you have a social life at all? Do you work or go to school? Do you participate and meet other people that way? Why is online dating your first option when you ... (read in full...)

Why is he becoming distant?

Q.   Why would a man pull away just because the relationship can't go anywhere? Why can't he just live in the moment? I'm asking because if a man really likes a woman, how is it so easy for him to pull away? It seems backwards. If I really like someone, ...

A.   23 June 2017: If nothing can/will come of it then WHY waste the time? Most people who ARE looking for a partner are hoping to find a LONG TERM one. Not just a fling or "fun". And those who ARE just looking for a fling or fun wouldn't back away. Let me ... (read in full...)

Co-worker complains about boyfriend. Do I have a chance?

Q.   I like my co-worker but she is involved with another co-worker and has a child. We have been spending a lot of time together at work and outside of work, but she complains about her bf a lot. I constantly tell her to stay with him and try to make...

A.   23 June 2017: My guess is she is using you to make herself feel good. Think about it. If the BF was so horrible don't you think she would dump his sorry bum? Would you want someone YOU are dating to flirt with other guys behind your back? Does that seem lik... (read in full...)

Is my pedicure cause for concern?

Q.   I am not sure if I should be offended or not? But I AM!! I just got a pedicure and I love it. I like the colour. It is bright and summery. My boyfriend did not share my enthusiasm. He said pedicures with any colour draw attention to feet, and he ...

A.   23 June 2017: First of all, ENJOY how the pedicure made you feel (not his comments). I think he is one of those people who claim they always speak the truth but he does so without consideration for anyone else. While I DO think speaking the truth is good, a ... (read in full...)

Told my boyfriend I got a new job at a hotel. He was concerned men would look up my skirt.

Q.   I told my boyfriend I just got a new job! It will help me pay my bills and I really needed a job right now. It's in housekeeping at an upscale hotel. The first question he asked is what will I be wearing? He was concerned it would be a skimp...

A.   23 June 2017: Maybe he really doesn't want you working? OR he wants to "pick" what kind of job you do. Why not ask him what his issue is with you working at a hotel? Does HE have experience in that job field? Or is his bias from what he "thinks" could happen? ... (read in full...)

I met him online, lied about everything and now 4 years later I know I need to tell him the truth but I don't know how

Q.   I met someone online 4years back when I was 17 - 18, so I joined in just for fun..members were not really serious about relationships but everyone was there after a breakup or divorce. And I decided to hide my identity and just to have chat with ...

A.   22 June 2017: I think you should come clean and at the same time ACCEPT if he wants NOTHING to do with you afterward. you didn't just give a small white lie, you lied about EVERYTHING and for 4 years!! You have had 4 years, to tell the truth in and you didn't so ... (read in full...)

The man I'm dating lied he said he was 30, he's almost 44

Q.   Aunts and uncles! Please help.. So I've been seeing a guy for 5 months, I'm 25 and he's 30.. Things are a bit rocky here and there, but today iced the cake. I seen a comment on Facebook and decided to Snoop... I see him address his 38 year old brot...

A.   22 June 2017: I totally agree, that IS a HUGE deal. He should have either COME clean BEFORE getting intimate with you or at the VERY least before getting into a relationship with you. Like there other ladies mentioned if he lied about his age, what ELSE d... (read in full...)

How to make someone who doesn't like you fall in love with you ?

Q.   I know a man who fancy me sexually but doesn't like me personally. This is odd I know, please open your mind. This is a player, someone who sleeps around and goes from a girl to a girl like a bee in the spring lol. He is good looking, char...

A.   22 June 2017: You can't. It's really THAT simple. For one, he ISN'T looking for love, he is looking for females to play mind games with (including you). And since you didn't "play" the game on his terms he is no longer interested in playing any other game tha... (read in full...)

How can I get hime to be more romantic?

Q.   I'm dating a guy for almost a year and he isn't the romantic type. He's said he's not a mushy type about 6 months in so I pulled back a lot and decided to move on. After two weeks apart he texted me and called wanted to try again. Still the same no ...

A.   22 June 2017: You accept who he is. He isn't going to change FOR you because YOU want him to. THIS is who he is. Unromantic and not at all interested in talking about feelings. I think I have rocks in my garden that are more romantic than my husband. He DID ... (read in full...)

We don't want kids or pregnancy but husband is against abortion. Help!

Q.   My husband and I never wanted children. I dislike children and the thought of being pregnant. He is fine with them but prefers not to have any of his own. We have always used condoms. I have never used any other kind of birth control. I do no...

A.   22 June 2017: Tubal ligation is a small procedure these days. If you get a full hysterectomy it's a much bigger surgery and has way more effect on your body and recovery. And with YOU getting a tubal ligation the "responsibility" of NOT getting pregnant... (read in full...)

Do I ask him about marriage? children? He says he doesn't ever want to marry again

Q.   Is it wrong to ask my boyfriend to think about having children and getting married? We both have a daughter each, and he has been divorced for the last 3 years officially. He is 10 years older then me, and we met while he was in the process of g...

A.   22 June 2017: I think it all comes down to ONE thing. Is marriage a deal breaker for you or not. It doesn't sound like HE wants to go through marriage and the possibility of divorce ever again and that marriage is a no go for him. A commitment ring WHATEVER... (read in full...)

Told my boyfriend I got a new job at a hotel. He was concerned men would look up my skirt.

Q.   I told my boyfriend I just got a new job! It will help me pay my bills and I really needed a job right now. It's in housekeeping at an upscale hotel. The first question he asked is what will I be wearing? He was concerned it would be a skimp...

A.   22 June 2017: I would tell him that no matter what you have taken the job and you will DO the job. I have worked at two hotels, once as maid/kitchen/front house staff (when I was 16) and once as a receptionist when I was 18. I never had to clean up puke/poop, ... (read in full...)

I don't get his on-off attitude

Q.   I have been dating a guy for 1 and a half years. He asked for space. He asked for space and then said sorry the next day, and again stopped contact with me for a week. Suddenly he texted me again when he needed me and now again has cut off contact ...

A.   22 June 2017: I think he likes you at his beck and call. That HE gets to set the tone, the tempo, the rules of the relationship. He is the "leader" and you the "follower". Has he given ANY excuses for these disappearances? That made sense? Like an exam he has t... (read in full...)

Is my son over-reacting?

Q.   My son is 20 and my older son 27. They started college around the same time. My oldest is going to a for-profit school for culinary arts; meanwhile my youngest is attending a community college on a full pell grant.. my oldest needs the car to attend ...

A.   21 June 2017: Are you serious!? If your oldest NEEDS the car HE can drag his bum out of bed and DRIVE you. OR he/you can take the bus. Your youngest has OBVIOUSLY worked hard to get a Pel grant and has been SMART by doing community college so he gets more ... (read in full...)

I'm being bullied. How do I stand up to these girls?

Q.   I had an argument with this girl, let's call her Nelly. It was about 2 months ago now. When we were arguing I told her to "peice out" in other words go away. Now every time I walk past her in school, her and her friend always shout at me "peice out ...

A.   21 June 2017: I think you have several choices here: 1. do as "nonny" suggest and record them and then talk to a teacher. 2. totally ignore them. After a while, it's just not fun for them to keep at it. The more you talk smack back the more AMMO you give th... (read in full...)

Should I end my it with my cybersex buddy ?

Q.   Hello Dear cupid , I have a issue..... I have a pen pal in another country he is in the U.K. And I'm in the USA we met on Instagram it started out friendly but gradually got flirty and sexual we are both really attracted to each other and have ...

A.   21 June 2017: OP I don't think it's realistic to stay "friends". If you started to date someone and he kept a girl he had cybersexed with would YOU be OK with that? If he claimed they were "just" friends now? I think a clean break might be better for both ... (read in full...)

Does her telling me to move on really mean its over?

Q.   Hello i was in a relationship with a woman for 17 months , she ended it because we argued, quite a bit , as she wanted to settle down,and i did , but not yet , she said at begining of april ,can,t say goodbye , so i,ll say goodnight, that was the ...

A.   21 June 2017: Good grief OP... Women don't say one thing and mean another.. I don't know where you read that kind of crap... Some men's magazine? That is like saying no really means yes with women, NO NO NO. OK? Block her number and MOVE on. IT IS ov... (read in full...)

Am I selfish or is he trying to guilt trip me?

Q.   I feel my boyfriend has the most unrealistic expectations of me and it's really pushing me away. Hr told me this evening on the phone that his back went out of place so he had to take the day off work to rest as well as see a physio. He also ...

A.   21 June 2017: I think HE is the one being a BIT selfish here AND inconsiderate. Now I get it, he isn't feeling up to driving but still wants to spend time with you so he was hoping that YOU wanted that too and were willing to drive and pick up and then drive and ... (read in full...)

I even left my daughter at home for 4 days for the sake of my affair and now he's disappeared. I feel so lonely!

Q.   I met this guy in Vegas over two months ago. He approached me and my friends at a club. I told him from the beginning I was married and he respected that . The night went on and everyone was having a great time. He would dance next to me because he ...

A.   21 June 2017: Maybe you should figure out your marital situation first? Rather than this "affair" with an almost total stranger. If you ARE so unhappy in your marriage what are you teaching your daughter by staying? Life IS short. Why stay and be miserabl... (read in full...)

Should I end my it with my cybersex buddy ?

Q.   Hello Dear cupid , I have a issue..... I have a pen pal in another country he is in the U.K. And I'm in the USA we met on Instagram it started out friendly but gradually got flirty and sexual we are both really attracted to each other and have ...

A.   21 June 2017: I think for him the "fantasy" ended when you decided to see someone for a date. Which is fine. The Cyber-thing wasn't going to last and there was no future in it outside of mutual gratification and a pseudo "friendship". He IS giving you space be... (read in full...)

My girlfriend dumped me because she thinks I watch porn

Q.   Long story short my girlfriend of almost 3 years broke up with me cause she thinks I'm lying to her about not watching porn. It's rediculous if you saw how beautiful she was you'd understand. We've been exploring our sexuality together and I went o...

A.   20 June 2017: I agree with FA, It's not just ONE misunderstanding that made her drop you. Her world view is skewered in HER favor. If you do something she will NOT listen to an explanation because it's EASIER for her to make ASSUMPTIONS. That way YOU fit into... (read in full...)

Why did he give up his trip with the boys?

Q.   My boyfriend turned down a golf trip with the guys next weekend. It's out of town and they go every year. He said it's because he knows I worry and he doesn't want to upset me. In the past I have given him grief. Many of the guys go to strip club...

A.   20 June 2017: He did it to both please you and placate you and maybe even to get out of going. Any f those 3 options could be the "one" true reason. I think you are doing a BIG mistake in NOT encouraging him to do things with his friends. Because if you thin... (read in full...)

Is there any way I can stop from vocalizing the thoughts in my head?

Q.   Good day everyone, I apologise for the long post. My problem is that I don't like the person I've become. I grew up as a very quiet child and teenager, often not saying anything when I should have. It affected my grades, at my work place and rela...

A.   20 June 2017: Maybe start by practicing some self-restraint and self-control. If you get mad or have a need to say something COUNT to 10 first and think it over what you want to say and whether it is appropriate. you will find that 9 out of 10 times they are not ... (read in full...)

I think my wife had experience before we married but I'm afraid to ask her

Q.   I was a virgin until I got married. I did not know to use condoms. My wife taught me to use condoms correctly and after using dispose them also. Some where in my mind I am having a doubt whether she had experience before marrying me. I don't have ...

A.   20 June 2017: I don't know if teens are taught sex-ed in your country but in many places, GIRLS, as well as BOYS, are taught how to put on a condom. Or she could have googled it. OR learn it by doing it. IS it important to you to know? If you aren't sure ... (read in full...)

When I say I love you, he says thank you. Should we be in a relationship?

Q.   I just want to know a thinkg ....my bf is a kind not intrstd in marriage he just says we will be in relationship for how long we can be.and if I say love he just says thank you...wat does it mean...I INA confused statsle now..should I finish this ...

A.   20 June 2017: Sounds like he REALLY doesn't want to be emotionally attached to you as he foresees marrying someone else at some point - maybe an arranged marriage? That YOU are the "hold over" until he has to marry someone. So basically he is using you until hi... (read in full...)

If he liked me wouldn't he be texting me more?

Q.   I think i know the answer to this but would love some advice anyway. Ive been friends on facebook with this guy for a while, i actually went to juniour school wkth him. Hes actually now a minor celebrity- he has his own television series. Thats no...

A.   20 June 2017: Personally, I'd say people are getting more dating inept as they rely way too much on tech to keep in touch. I'd say he would want to CALL you to hear your voice if he was really keen on you - but... I'm old fashioned. If I were you I'd stop pur... (read in full...)

My girlfriend dumped me because she thinks I watch porn

Q.   Long story short my girlfriend of almost 3 years broke up with me cause she thinks I'm lying to her about not watching porn. It's rediculous if you saw how beautiful she was you'd understand. We've been exploring our sexuality together and I went o...

A.   18 June 2017: I'm sorry OP, IF she has decided that you are doing things behind her back and that she can't trust you... there isn't ANYTHING you can do to convince her otherwise. And there isn't ANY point either. My guess is, she was looking for a wa... (read in full...)

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