My period is irregular even though I'm on the pill. Am I still protected?
Q. hi sorry to ask a medical question but i cant get a doctors appointment untill four days away and im kinda worrying. im on the pill - have been for about 6 months and it took ages for it to settle down and for my periods to be controlled by th...
A. 16 July 2008: A co-worker of mine is a statistic -- part of the 1 percent who used the pill and had a child anyway. Don't add yourself to this; use another method of birth control (in addition, or instead).... (read in full...)
An enemy "told" on me to a boy I fancied, and it ruined everything. How can I recover?
Q. :( problem is i love this lad to bits , everything wa sfine between us until my enemy said to him that i fancied him , and yes i do but i kept it to myself so i didnt ruin anything , so i denied it of course to save my friendship , but now he ignor...
A. 16 July 2008: You have 2 choices:
(1) pretend nothing happened and act the same way you did before. (This has the benefit of one-upping the person who told, as it looks like she has no effect on you.) or
(2) level with your crush. Let him know that it... (read in full...)
At 26, should I stick to sex with guys or try switching to girls?
Q. I am 26 years old and never had sex with a girl, only guys, I never had the loving for girls, until few months ago, what is the best way to see if I like girls,as i am trying chatting a going clubbing but cant get any girls, should i just stick to ...
A. 16 July 2008: Sexual orientation is who you fall in love with. Wait until you find a connection with someone, whatever gender, and go for it.... (read in full...)
How does timing affect a pregnancy test?
Q. would the pregnancy test come up negative if i took it too early ?...
A. 16 July 2008: You can get a false negative for a while. When I had my first son, I took the test several times after my missed period and got "negative" each time. But I FELT different and so kept trying. Finally the blood test at the docs confirmed that I was ... (read in full...)
I want answers from real women about parenthood!
Q. Hey girls( andblokes without sonding too sexixt)! I'm in a dilemma at this point in my life. You see, I really think that I might want a baby. Im 26, have a great career(well okay career- I'm a family planning nurse-the irony!), loving partner, ...
A. 16 July 2008: I had my sons at 37 and 39. You have LOTS of time. Don't rush into it, because it's a lot of work and a lot of sacrifice. (And a lot of joy.) Wait until you know you're ready, the go for it.... (read in full...)
Can I work out the date I conceived?
Q. my last period start 2 march then i have no periods till now i check it its positive now i m pregnant and i want to know my concive date i had sex on 13 march 15,16,18 march i visit to doctor 21 may they tell me by ultersound my baby is 11 weeks...
A. 16 June 2008: If you're concerned about parentage, you can look into getting an amnio.
Amniocentesis is usually done when a woman is between 16 and 20 weeks pregnant. Women who choose to have this test are primarily those at increased risk for genetic and chro... (read in full...)
Can I work out the date I conceived?
Q. my last period start 2 march then i have no periods till now i check it its positive now i m pregnant and i want to know my concive date i had sex on 13 march 15,16,18 march i visit to doctor 21 may they tell me by ultersound my baby is 11 weeks...
A. 3 June 2008: Okay. Assume you have a regular 28-day cycle. Count the first day of your last period as day 1. THAT'S the day they count as the first day of your pregnancy, for the full 40 week term, even though you probably CONCEIVED on or around day 14 (when ... (read in full...)
Insecure girlfriend, what do I do?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 3months now, but she keeps thinking that im going to cheat on her, she says she trusts me, but i cant go out without her getting worried, and she hates how she is and wants to change because she doesnt like it, and ...
A. 2 June 2008: She probably doesn't feel like she deserves you or that she's as good as you are, and so she doesn't trust the relationship. Until she gets some self-confidence she's not going to believe that she's good enough for you, which means she'll always ... (read in full...)
Unhappy with my boyfriend, all he wants is sex. Your advice on how to dump him, or at least try and make this work without sex?
Q. I've been dating this guy, lets call him Sam, for 6 months now, and it was all going great. Until a couple of weeks ago when we lost our virginities together at only 15 (using protection). Before this the only sexual thing we did was kissing....
A. 2 June 2008: Tell him the truth: that you weren't ready for sex and don't want to have it again until you feel you really are ready. And that you'd like to stop talking about it for a while, too. If all he wants is sex then HE'll break up with YOU, and so ... (read in full...)
Please help me, I'm still mourning my dog's death, I have exams and I'm not eating! I just feel that I don't care about anything.
Q. Please help me. I feel like I have changed so much, and I dont expect anyone to put up with it, or even care. I dont understand it but recently I just have been feelin that I dont care about anything and I just cant be bothered. And thats not like ...
A. 29 May 2008: You're showing classic signs of depression. Please talk to someone (school counselor, if not a parent) so that you can get help. Talking helps.
When we had to put our 19-year-old cat to sleep, the vet gave me this poem and it helped me:
G... (read in full...)
Am I throwing away a friendship to prove a lie?
Q. I dont know what to do ! im feeling pretty low right now. I feel like im about to lose something i could of had, because of my friends. me and my friend wre talking in a conversation on msn. She thought i liked this boy that i have been talking ...
A. 29 May 2008: why don't you want your friend to know that you like him?... (read in full...)
I slept with my wife's sister and best friend, one is now pregnant...what can I do?
Q. Hi all This is all a complete mess!!! I slept with both my wifes sister and her best friend and dont know what i can do now. They both came onto me and are so hot that i could not resist either of them... The problem i have now is t...
A. 29 May 2008: You need to know that you had a choice. "they came onto me" is a REALLY LAME excuse, and one that your wife won't take. Man up, accept responsibility that you COULD HAVE said NO, even if you don't say anything to anyone about it.
How would yo... (read in full...)
How do I cope with this first time hook up? I'm completely and utterly disappointed in myself...
Q. I really don't even know where to start. I'm completely and utterly disappointed in myself and filled with regret. I met this guy Dan through a friend a couple of years ago. We really hit it off, but he was then deployed to Iraq. I haven't seen ...
A. 29 May 2008: I'm sorry hon. Yeah, I'd let him go, and good riddance. Don't beat yourself up, though. You deserve much better. Just make sure you hold out for better next time. All the best to you.... (read in full...)
Is this size small for a 5 foot 5 inches tall man?
Q. is a 6 and a half inch,2 inch wide penis small for a 5 foot 5 man?...
A. 29 May 2008: You sound normal to me! Tisha has the perfect answer.... (read in full...)
Why isnt my girlfriend keen on moving in together?
Q. ok i've been dateing my girlfriend 6 months were engaged, where trying for a baby, we spend as much time as possible with each over but i wanna move in with her and i asked her the other day if she wouldn't mind looking for somewhere sh...
A. 29 May 2008: well, lots of people don't move in together until just before they marry, so I wouldn't worry about that. What concerns me is that you're "trying for a baby" but you don't ALREADY live together. Put the breaks on the baby until everything is ... (read in full...)
I'm furious with my boyfriend for the way he broke up with me!
Q. I'm so hurt. So, so hurt. My boyfriend and i got back together yesterday. We had a faboulous time! He had broken up with me because of things from the past. But we got back together and spent most of the day together. Then, at night, he got up...
A. 28 May 2008: "What you accept becomes your standard." Do not accept this treatment. From anyone, especially not from him. Walk away from him with your head held high; he's the idiot, not you. ... (read in full...)
Odd period following unprotected sex, pregnancy or STI? I'll go for a test if you think there's a chance!
Q. I slept with a boy a few weeks ago and we didn't use a condom (yes i know it's stupid so please don't lecture me) the thing is now though, i was late on my period by about 2 weeks but now i've come on but it's more like a black colour and literally ...
A. 28 May 2008: "spotting" can sometimes be a darker brown; the blood takes longer to come out and so it's not the usual bright red. And yes, you can "spot" when you're pregnant.
Don't delay. Take a test -- both for pregnancy and for all the STDs. Better s... (read in full...)
Should I pay for this holiday if I don't end up going?
Q. I am considering splitting up with my boyfriend. I don’t want to go into why, but there is a slight problem if we can’t sort out our problems and do split up - we are due to go on holiday in 6 weeks and I don’t know what to do. He paid for the ...
A. 28 May 2008: My sister had a situation like this. She called the company that they had planned to go on holiday with, and got her part of the holiday transferred to another date. Then she and some girlfriends went together. He still had his reservation for ... (read in full...)
What do you think is sly, liking his mate and not breaking up with him, or breaking up?
Q. Dear Cupid I used to like this lad but when i started to go out with him i stoped liking him and started liking his best mate. Everyone says its sly but i think its sly not bracking up with him. What do you think Lots of love Despreat x ...
A. 28 May 2008: You should break up with the bf, because you don't like him the way you used to. You're right there. But I would let some time go before you try to get with his mate. Otherwise your bf could get really hurt. You don't want that kind of rep. ... (read in full...)
What if you tell your partner you'll get married, but you don't really mean it? If you've just said it to get out of child support?
Q. Hi! What if your partner stressing you to get married but you really aren't ready but if you tell your partner that your not ready she/he will threaten to take your child away from you and take you to court for child support but you know you can't ...
A. 28 May 2008: So the child is yours, not his/hers. [I'm going to use the masculine pronouns here for your partner, for ease of typing, without prejudice meant.]
If I understand you correctly, he believes he has a right to half the house, and he basicall... (read in full...)
What if you tell your partner you'll get married, but you don't really mean it? If you've just said it to get out of child support?
Q. Hi! What if your partner stressing you to get married but you really aren't ready but if you tell your partner that your not ready she/he will threaten to take your child away from you and take you to court for child support but you know you can't ...
A. 27 May 2008: Are you saying you NEVER want to marry, or just that you aren't ready now? How old is the child? Are you currently living together?
Whatever you do, DON'T marry just to avoid child support. It's postponing the problem; the relationship won't ma... (read in full...)
Help!!! We've never kissed on the lips! I need advice!
Q. hi,me and my boyfriend are really close and love spending time together and we sit next to eachother in class and really trust eachother. But we've never kissed on the lips and we've been going out for 4 months and we're both quite shy. So how and ...
A. 27 May 2008: TALK to him about it. Communication is a huge part of any relationship. Let him know that you've been thinking about kissing him, and what does he think about that? Admit that you've never really done it before and are concerned that you might ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to tell my teacher how much I love her?
Q. i want to tell my teacher how much i love her but i dont know the best way to go about it .. i am female and so is she but that is not a problem as i know she is gay herself but i dont know which way is the best way? * letter * email * face-t...
A. 27 May 2008: If you really love your teacher, leave her alone. You will ruin her career. By law she can't have any kind of relationship with ANY of her students, no matter how she feels about you. At best she would lose her job (and never be able to teach ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and am thinking of having sex with my bf but don't want to get caught. What should I do?
Q. i am 15 and have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 months i love him more thank anything and i have been thinking about having sex with him but i dont want to get caught what do i do?...
A. 27 May 2008: Well, first, please reconsider. You only get your "first time" once, and in the back of a car or other alternative isn't great for building romance or memories. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do; your body your rules!
Secon... (read in full...)
Any alternatives to wanking? PS I don't have a girlfriend.
Q. Ever since last year where a friend of mine said that most males wank 3 times a day I have been wanking at least once or up to 5 times a day. But am getting a bit bored of it now and am wondering what a guy can do to himself to get pleasure without ...
A. 27 May 2008: Oh, there are lots of things you can do; some of them might even help you meet girls. Physical activity of any kind, playing a sport, taking a dance class, run. It will help you do something to keep from being bored and could even improve your ... (read in full...)
Should I get a tummy tuck?
Q. I'm a plus size lady that has big tits and ass but the only thing is my stomach is also big. i've lost weight but my stomach didn't go anywhere. i don't have any problems with the guys but i want to get rid of it. should i get a tummy tuck?...
A. 27 May 2008: If you have the money and don't want to spend it on something else, I don't see why not. Talk to your doctor first (not the plastic surgeon, your GP). Make sure there are no health risks or problems that this can cause later. Good luck.... (read in full...)
He uses a wedding ring... is he married?
Q. Started seeing a guy lately and whilst we have been flirting with each other I have noticed he has a wedding ring. I asked him if he was married, and he said he was separated - why then would still wear a ring?...
A. 21 May 2008: Run like your ass was on fire. Seriously.
Separated isn't divorced. And still wearing his ring means he's still in the marriage. Do not get involved with this man. Hold your head high and walk (or run) away proudly.... (read in full...)
I want to find my niece to apologize. I have no expectations, only hope. She was disowned by my sister 11 years ago, and I regret not helping her then.
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, im not sure this is the type of relationship this site caters for but im hoping for some outside advice. My sister and myself were raised strict roman catholic, we both married into catholic families and raised our own fami...
A. 20 May 2008: The hard part will be finding her. You could start by "googling" her (look her name up on Google). She might have a profile of some kind on MySpace or Facebook, or even just on Yahoo! or gmail.
Whether she forgives you is up to her, and she may ... (read in full...)
How can I finally make a clean break from my secret relationship?
Q. I'm 27 years old, and have only really cared about one man my whole life. We worked together and eventually slept together (the first time for me). At first we tried to stay away from each other because we knew it wasn't a good idea to date at work. ...
A. 20 May 2008: Oh hon. I'm so sorry. You won't believe this now, but it really does get better.
Let the people who love you LOVE you. There's nothing to be embarrassed about. Sometimes the heart just wants what it wants, and it over-rides your brain for a wh... (read in full...)
My 3 year old is masturbating, how should I to handle this? Is it normal?
Q. hi i'm a mom, i have a question if a girl 3 year old she is masturbation herself is normal? if it is what can i do for that, to me is not normal cos she just too baby please somebody help me?...
A. 20 May 2008: Absolutely normal. Just let her know that this is something reserved for her "private time."... (read in full...)
He wants naked pictures of me
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 months. Its a long distance relationship. To be honest Ive never met him before yet. He is a friend of mines boyfriends brother. We enjoy talking to each other everynight for more than 4 hours. We just ...
A. 20 May 2008: You don't know him well enough. Don't send him any pictures that you don't want to see plastered on the Internet, just in case. What happens if the relationship ends badly and he wants to "get even?" ... (read in full...)
He called another woman his "sex toy," now he is repentant and swears he hasn't cheated physically. Your advice, please!
Q. me and this guy have been dating on and off for like 5 years i should also probally state there is a huge age differance between us about eighteen years i am in my thirtys .i recently found a message where he is calling another women baby and his ...
A. 20 May 2008: Dear Female anon:
I agree with you -- online cheating is cheating. It's really nice that Uncle Sneaker has such an open relationship with his spouse; it's something to aspire to. But without that kind of understanding up-front, it's cheating... (read in full...)
It was sex and nothing else, but now?
Q. Me and a male friend, whom i have known for a couple of years, both have been single, both want someone special but havent been able to find someone. So, we decided to have mutual sex, and on a regular basis. This is a agreed on sex relationship, ...
A. 16 May 2008: Well, I don't have a man's perspective, but I was in your place once a long time ago.
My FWB and I talked it out. We decided that we were wrong for each other (long term) and didn't want a romantic relationship. (Yes, I was falling for him, and... (read in full...)
I want him to notice me. I need tips on flirting
Q. hi, i like a guy and i need some tips on flirting, is it wrong to flirt with one whose got a girlfriend? how do i get him to notice me even if he has someone? and how do i get to win his heart, we work together....
A. 16 May 2008: It is wrong to flirt with another girl's guy. How would you like it if you had a guy and he was flirting with someone else?
Also, I don't ever recommend flirting with someone you work with. If it goes badly (say he wants to stay with his girl... (read in full...)
We are ready for sex. Recommendations?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are ready for sex.We've talked about different methods of contraception and are thinking about a condom since they're easy to get. I'm just wondering though if intercourse feels better without one-especially semen pouring ...
A. 16 May 2008: Actually, a lubricated condom for your first time could help things along for you -- there's less friction so it might be less first-time painful. And it certainly helps you feel better since there's no worry about getting pregnant or STDs. ... (read in full...)
I've lost interest in my baby's father
Q. I got a great issue goin on for of all I just had my healthy babyboy born on easter and am very happy about that. To continue I have this ex-boy that I can't let go. Reasons for that is cuz when we did go out I had many friends and lifestyl...
A. 16 May 2008: Don't do anything that will ruin the relationship you have with your babydaddy. Right now your hormones are all out of wack because of having a baby. Give yourself some time, and wait until you're getting sleep again before you do anything.
... (read in full...)
We both tested positive for Clamydia, does this mean she cheated?
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for one year. We recently got tested and we tested positive for chlamydia. I have never cheated on her and I know it can be symptomless for a while. Funny thing is, I had my symptoms a couple of days after her. I ...
A. 16 May 2008: Talk to her. Don't put her on the defensive, but tell her you have some questions because of the timing of the symptoms.
Communication is one of the most important things in any relationship, and unless you can somehow clear this up you will... (read in full...)
Did he ever really get over his ex?
Q. hi. i met my boyfriend in march and he had an affair at that point with a girl from another island closeby afetr he had just brokne from his ex girl which he was dating for 9 years..from what he said he wanted to move on thats why he was trying o...
A. 13 May 2008: walk away. you deserve to be the center of some guy's attention, not on the side while he talks to his ex. It may be nothing, but I wouldn't play it that way.... (read in full...)
He dosen't allow me to see my mates and makes me feel guilty!
Q. i am a young female aged 17, i have been with my boyfriend for 10 months and we are very much in love, we see each other every single day, and stay at each others house every night, we are very close, but i work through the day while he goes out ...
A. 13 May 2008: Anyone who loves you doesn't want to cut you off from other people who love you. He's insecure and controlling -- this could lead to abuse. I think you'd be happier in a different relationship. Good luck hon.... (read in full...)
We both tested positive for Clamydia, does this mean she cheated?
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for one year. We recently got tested and we tested positive for chlamydia. I have never cheated on her and I know it can be symptomless for a while. Funny thing is, I had my symptoms a couple of days after her. I ...
A. 13 May 2008: There's a section of http://yourstdhelp.com/talking_with_your_partner_about_stds.html that talks about whether the partner "cheated" -- it says that for chlamydia, the symptoms (if there were any) would appear 1-4 months after infection.
I'm w... (read in full...)
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