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He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 8 September 2008: Fade's comments about addiction to alcohol and addiction to relationships were interesting in their own way, but they seem wide of the mark here. The fact that you gave him money (again) may have been a retrograde step, but on the other hand you ... (read in full...)
Fed up with one position, one sided sex with an older man.
Q. Hello, I'm a 23 year old female involved with a 56 year old male. My problem is our sex life is pretty much one side. He only wants to have sex in the missionary position since he believes this is the only way to get me pregnant. He tends to fo...
A. 5 September 2008: Glad you've made the break! Good luck with your new life! You're lucky to be away from this creep. I cannot believe how he treated you.
... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 5 September 2008: I think his behaviour can be explained quite well by the "don't want but want to use" concept.
He's aware that he doesn't really want you, but he's like a little leech. He needs his fix of blood every so often, and you're the one he turns to. Afte... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 5 September 2008: When I meant was that, maybe he isn't "conniving" all this. It could really be a weakness. He wants to get rid of you, and then he gets the sexual urge or the need for money and decides that he wants to keep using you. Then he realises he doesn't ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 4 September 2008: I don't know if he planned it through at all. My suspicion is that he was completely driven by his hormones. A drought of, how long, over a month? brought out the intense lovey-doveyness in him. And then when he'd blown his load he suddenly realised ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 4 September 2008: Well, I can only say congratulations! That was brilliant!
I must say his post-coital talk was pretty revealing -- "he doesnt no what i want, that he wants to be on he's own, and that he as a regret for tonite happening, and that he shouldnt... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 3 September 2008: I don't think there is any guarantee that Ladybird won't yield to the blandishments of this user.... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 29 August 2008: "she bet her life on it that the ex friend would not be arranging another evening in the place with him....[my ex-friend has] changed in the sense she's loved up and bang into her new man...so that reassured me more"
Why are you still so jealous ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 29 August 2008: Sorry to hear about the pleurisy.
If it helps you reach closure, by all means go to the scene of the crime.
But I can only repeat what I said. He still matters to you, what he does still matters to you, and you won't be over this until he do... (read in full...)
Fed up with one position, one sided sex with an older man.
Q. Hello, I'm a 23 year old female involved with a 56 year old male. My problem is our sex life is pretty much one side. He only wants to have sex in the missionary position since he believes this is the only way to get me pregnant. He tends to fo...
A. 26 August 2008: "I've sort of made a mess of things because I wanted to believe my lover so much".
So you didn't listen to a word we said? You believed this creep and you didn't believe us?
Now that you've totally ignored our advice and got yourself in deep... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 26 August 2008: "cant bear it that he thinks he has one over me"
Your feelings are perfectly understandable. But what we're talking about here is "pride", not "love". Don't let your feelings of upset about him and your friend get in the way of kicking him out ... (read in full...)
I do not like my physical appearance, and I have very low self-esteem, how do I stop thinking negative thoughts, and increase my low self-esteem?
Q. 1st of all id like to ask God for forgiveness for not appriciating what he gave me. Hi im 18 years old and im very slim and 5 feet and 1 inch tall... I really dislike my physical appearance... everywhere I go people ask me if im 12 yrs old or so...
A. 25 August 2008: Well, this is not a philosophical answer to your question BUT, I love short slim girls. LOVE! And I love girls who look younger than their age. You sound very very appealing!
Since you're only 18 I can understand that it's galling to be compared... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 25 August 2008: Ladybird, sometimes you come out with the most telling statements. "not to contact him as sooner rather than later he will be begging for me, CANT SEE THAT PERSONALLY" is one of them.
This is your problem. You're stuck on the idea that:
* The a... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 22 August 2008: "I really could do with a good seeing to"... Can someone tell me what he means? Sometimes these expressions go right over my head!... (read in full...)
I'm older than the girl I met, is that bad?
Q. I am a 29 year old male from the UK. Two months ago, I met this lovely 21 year old young lady. I have fallen head over heels for her; we are very much in love. But, the age gap bothers me. Does it really matter that my girlfriend is many years yo...
A. 19 August 2008: There is absolutely no problem with this age gap! What if she was 31 and you were 39? Would you regard that as a problem? How about 41 and 49? This is hardly an issue!
The only caveat that I would add is that 21 is a young age in absolute terms. I... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 18 August 2008: As to whether you should confront him about this, I'm really rather dubious. His guilt and moral ugliness is now out there for all to see, but if you confront him you open the way for him to tell you more lies ("It wasn't like that!") and start ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 18 August 2008: The ugly truth about this guy keeps on coming out. The more you pine and obsess, the more we realise what an arsehole he is. Why do you keep giving him the benefit of the doubt? You've been taken for a mug; even you knew that. So now we've found out ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 14 August 2008: I don't see any problem. Just as your "final" text message doesn't turn into the penultimate semifinal maybe-we-should-just-send-one-more-to-get-things-straight-and-see-how-he's-doing message.
He's trying to leave the door open with his "keep in... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 7 August 2008: I didn't mean to say you were a bitch. What I meant was that from HIS point of view you started being a "bitch" (that is, you weren't easy pickings any more).
I know you're being honest. Trying to make sense of his actions and his feelings... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 7 August 2008: “Would he give up so easily and walk away, i know you all think thank god he's walked but its something i cannot fatherm....because if i had a good thing i wouldnt walk so why has he”
Because it was only a good thing while you were putting ... (read in full...)
I want a married woman at work to start an affair with me?
Q. Hi. Here's one for you. A guy develops a thing for a woman at work over a period of years and then decides to test the waters by sending her a Valentine card with plenty of 'clues'. She suspects the card is from him and strikes up a conversation ...
A. 31 July 2008: I'm sure the road to hell is paved with "good fun". Enjoy your fling while the fun lasts.... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 28 July 2008: Yes, I guess my tone was a little harsh, again, as q1605 noticed. But my post on 25 July was virtually the same in meaning as Pepper's on 24 July!
We are both saying: Don't keep looking for meaning or emotion in his actions. Don't keep thinking... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 28 July 2008: “I HAVE TO EXCEPT HE DONT CARE LOVE WANT OR EVEN LIKE ME AND LIKE YOU SAID PROBALY WITH SOMEONE ELSE!!”
I didn't say he's probably with someone else. I said it's irrelevant whether he's with someone else or not. You're going through all the refl... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin? Sorry, but I'm a bit confused!
Q. Hey, Just a few questions regarding sex, sorry if they are a bit vivid, but don't know how else to word it! Basically, I was a virgin before last night, but was in bed with a girl (who wasn't a virgin), and the following happened.. she tossed ...
A. 25 July 2008: You're not a virgin. Does it really matter? What difference does it make? Do you have some fancy idea that if you didn't come inside her, you can still tell the next girl that you're "still a virgin". The fact that you did this with the girl means ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 25 July 2008: Ladybird, you wrote this the other day:
"it hurts that 5 half years was so shallow to him to just walk away and forget, thats howi feel then to forget me he must be happy with someone else, these are the things im thinking!!!!!"
Your thought ... (read in full...)
I was so mad I slapped her across the face!
Q. My brother died couple of weeks ago because he had canner. I even missied a week of school because of it. When I told my best friend say I'm "obsessed" with him and need to forget about him. I was so mad I slapped her across the face1!! Why would ...
A. 24 July 2008: Well, that's two undesirables out of your life! Things can only get better!... (read in full...)
He's much older than me, and I don't allow him to kiss me. I'm not sure I understand everything about love and lust. Opinions, please?
Q. I am 20 year old. Last year I met a man who is 38 through a common friend and we became good friends. I know it sounds a bit odd as the age difference is too much to be friends.he is divorced. After knowing him for four months one day he told me ...
A. 18 July 2008: You don't understand his intentions? Why don't you ask him? Why do you want to kiss me? What do want to be to me?
It's not good for him to be coming on physically like this. If he is in love with you, he should make it clear that he wants to be wi... (read in full...)
He asked if I would wear a strap on and take him from behind?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 8 months now. We were fine at first but now.... He has started asking really difficult sexual favours from me. He recently asked me if i would wear and strap on and take him from behind?!?! I didnt know what ...
A. 18 July 2008: Wow! This guy sounds kinky! And I don't mean that in a bad way.
The problem is that he's going too fast for you. You're obviously a staid, normal, sensible girl and this guy's wild sexual ideas have thrown you a bit. Ask him to slow down, take a d... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's memory problems... are they a sign that he's not interested in me or something medical? For example, he completely forgot that I had been in hospital!!!
Q. I am feeling upset and that my boyfriend doesn't care about me because he has forgotten some things which have been important to me. I love him so much but I feel like I am getting little in return at times. I am starting to worry that he has a ...
A. 17 July 2008: I'm also the forgetful type, and I think a lot of guys are like this.
Whatever people's troubles might be and no matter how sympathetic I may feel when I hear them, they very quickly slip my mind and I say things the next day that show I've com... (read in full...)
We divorced without any communiction, and now that we have talked , we realize it could have been a mistake, how do we repair this situation?
Q. I have an unusual problem which I can relate to the misunderstanding which ended the lives of Romeo and Juliet. I was married to my wife several years; we split up for a while and were out of touch much of the time. Her family had contributed ...
A. 17 July 2008: If it's good enough for Elizabeth Taylor, it's good enough for you!
http://archives.record-eagle.com/2004/jan/25spouse.htm
... (read in full...)
At 26, should I stick to sex with guys or try switching to girls?
Q. I am 26 years old and never had sex with a girl, only guys, I never had the loving for girls, until few months ago, what is the best way to see if I like girls,as i am trying chatting a going clubbing but cant get any girls, should i just stick to ...
A. 17 July 2008: This is not such a difficult question.
Of course you should try it with a girl! At least then you will know what you are missing out on. If you like it, try it some more. If you don't, you can always go back to men with renewed vigour.
But it'... (read in full...)
How can I stop my masturbation habit? It feels like I'm cheating on the girl I love!
Q. I am in great problem.. please someone help me get out of this crap.. i am not able to have a firm control on my mind.. I love a girl a lot. and she too loves me a lot.. now a days because of some problem at her place, we are not able to be in to...
A. 17 July 2008: Masturbation is not a problem. And it's good to keep your genitals and prostate in working order by masturbating.
It's not good if you masturbate in preference to having sex with her, but that doesn't seem to be the problem here.
Pornography i... (read in full...)
Can you buy viagra legally in Cyprus? Or is there anything better you can buy?
Q. I have trouble getting hard when wanting sex when drunk and going on holiday to cyprus next month can you viagra in cyprus and also is they anything betting you can buy. I bought some blue pills from ann summers but i tried one because i wanted...
A. 17 July 2008: Why do you need to get drunk to want sex?
Try having a few less drinks and you will enjoy sex much more anyway. Viagra should be used as a last resort. Nobody wants to rely on drugs to get an erection. It's a sad, sad thing that most men would ra... (read in full...)
Okay guys, last day on earth! Who would you cheat on your wife with?
Q. Paris Hilton, Britney Spears, Lindsay Lohan, Jessica Alba , Pamela Anderson, Beyonce, Christina Aguilera, Jennifer Lopez, Madonna (shes still a virgin). Who do you prefer?...
A. 16 July 2008: This is indeed a rubbish question.
Besides there are lots of girls working in the same office as me that I'd rather be with sexually than a bunch of "stars".... (read in full...)
We didn't use protection, but he pulled out. Could I be pregnant?
Q. umm, i had sex without protection and he pulled out of my vagina. after he pulled out i seen pre cum and real cum came out at the same time. but it didn't get inside of me. could i be pregnant if that happened ?...
A. 16 July 2008: I've used the withdrawal method a lot in the past. I never got a girl pregnant. Then I got my current girlfriend. She got pregnant twice even though I withdrew. It's not safe and you should use contraception or protection.... (read in full...)
Was it wrong for him to do this?
Q. hi every body im 13 years old ... is this wrong? a boy held me down and kissed me asked for sex asked for pictures and then when my friend calls him he says he doesnt know me so i talked to him and hes like o i remember you and i was like duh and ...
A. 16 July 2008: Of course it's wrong! Make no mistake about it, he's treating you like a piece of shit. Don't let boys treat you like this. Ever.... (read in full...)
My fiancee had sex with another woman, I'm having a hard time dealing with this.
Q. This is crazy! My fiance' and I have been together for a number of years. We have kids together and life is just what it is, life. We have great sex and have had a threesome in the past and the topic has come up to have another and possibly ...
A. 16 July 2008: The problem is one of honesty and openness. I don't know what your rules are on foursomes, threesomes, etc. are, but she should be honest with you.
I suggest she may be afraid to be honest with you, and in that case you need to give her reassura... (read in full...)
I've lost weight and dress sexier for him, yet he keeps watching porn. Was I right in scratching his collection so he can't see it??
Q. My boyfriend and I had a disagreement a few months ago. It was about porn. I've tried to keep an open mind about it, but it torments the life out of me. I've tried to say "that's how men are, i shouldnt be so selfish" but it doesn't help. He ...
A. 16 July 2008: Good to see that it worked out!... (read in full...)
Fed up with one position, one sided sex with an older man.
Q. Hello, I'm a 23 year old female involved with a 56 year old male. My problem is our sex life is pretty much one side. He only wants to have sex in the missionary position since he believes this is the only way to get me pregnant. He tends to fo...
A. 16 July 2008: Hey, I'm 54 and I don't act like that!
This man sounds like an insensitive domineering type (to put it mildly) and he's using his age and experience to cow you into submission. The fact that he's been married 5 times and has 13 children also mak... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 16 July 2008: The margins? The margins blew out on 7 July when ladybird typed:
ANGRY....AAARRRGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
That was quite a release!
It's good to see that you're not contacting him and getting on w... (read in full...)
I was so mad I slapped her across the face!
Q. My brother died couple of weeks ago because he had canner. I even missied a week of school because of it. When I told my best friend say I'm "obsessed" with him and need to forget about him. I was so mad I slapped her across the face1!! Why would ...
A. 15 July 2008: Oh dear, that's a terrible, terrible thing to say. I can't believe that anyone would say anything so hurtful as that. I'm sorry, this person is not a true friend. You should forget about her. One day she may wake up to what a heartless person she's ... (read in full...)
I've lost weight and dress sexier for him, yet he keeps watching porn. Was I right in scratching his collection so he can't see it??
Q. My boyfriend and I had a disagreement a few months ago. It was about porn. I've tried to keep an open mind about it, but it torments the life out of me. I've tried to say "that's how men are, i shouldnt be so selfish" but it doesn't help. He ...
A. 14 July 2008: Incidentally, in this case it is obvious that there is no room for accommodation between the OP and her boyfriend. Since it torments the life out of her, causes her to break down crying, and causes her to take extreme action like destroying her ... (read in full...)
I've lost weight and dress sexier for him, yet he keeps watching porn. Was I right in scratching his collection so he can't see it??
Q. My boyfriend and I had a disagreement a few months ago. It was about porn. I've tried to keep an open mind about it, but it torments the life out of me. I've tried to say "that's how men are, i shouldnt be so selfish" but it doesn't help. He ...
A. 14 July 2008: I don't think this is a pro-porn board. The people here try to avoid extremes.
* One extreme is represented by women like marieclaire with their implacable hatred of porn in any form or in any circumstances.
* The other is the phenomenon of po... (read in full...)
I was so mad I slapped her across the face!
Q. My brother died couple of weeks ago because he had canner. I even missied a week of school because of it. When I told my best friend say I'm "obsessed" with him and need to forget about him. I was so mad I slapped her across the face1!! Why would ...
A. 13 July 2008: I don't know if you've seen your friend, but it's possible she feels horribly ashamed of what she said.
She may have felt at a loss how to deal with something so deeply affecting as the loss of a brother, and her way of wishing the discomfo... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 11 July 2008: “Have i been totally deleted from he's mind, have all i put into that guy a distant memory or is he still playing a game with my mind by giving the silence ready for attack again, i think ive lost the plot”
You've got to STOP WORRYING ABOUT HI... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 8 July 2008: I don't think it's a bad thing that you got this information. You may be obsessing, but that's rather natural after 5 years. Clearing up the mysteries is just part of flushing him out of your system.
It's good that you found his address and his ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 7 July 2008: "So he thought i'd neva find out where he lives, mission accomplished, i also found out where he's ex wife lives.....and thinking back, he so lied to me about things, theres me thinking i was going mad and thanks to finding out these addresses im ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 7 July 2008: I stand humbled before the pain that these women have had to endure. I salute Audrey (Sunflower) and Ladybird and wish them strength in their efforts to throw off these soul-devouring men.... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 3 July 2008: Oh well, I guess we've got to take the downs with the ups!
He lied to you about being home all weekend, so the rest could be lies too. On the other hand they might not. I wouldn't actually worry too much what the truth is. The fact is that he'... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 30 June 2008: Sorry if I sounded harsh. Even you can understand what is so wrong about this man (that's why you came to us), so it's a little frustrating sometimes when you give in to your weakness and text him again, with predictable results.
I hope you mana... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 30 June 2008: Everything you tell us about this ponce only confirms us in our feelings.
The guy has been feeding off you for years. 7,000 quid for a botched up garden! Given that you paid for his furniture, why couldn't he have done it for free? Somethin... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 27 June 2008: The moron is still sending you sarcastic texts? I feel like retching. What kind of fucked up character has he got? If he has no feeling for you, why the hell can't he just leave you alone!
I can only think you must have got to him. Perhaps ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 25 June 2008: I'm sorry to hear things are going so horribly for you. Even without this monster things would be hard enough.
The things he said show how totally lacking in human feeling this guy is.
* "He only really stayed with you as he felt sympathy fo... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 24 June 2008: Well, I'm back on line again and "no news". Hope that means "no bad news".
Looking at this, a couple of things strike me.
First, he's trying to shift the relationship back to old familiar ground. When he said he'd come around and talk and you... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 23 June 2008: Oh, by the way, if he comes around today (this evening?), I think you should be prepared. He's already laid out the next step in his game plan.
His objective is probably sex. It'll be easier for him to force you into a sexual situation in your hom... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 23 June 2008: Well, so much has happened to Ladybird since I last came on the forum, it's amazing how things have moved.
I think your contact with him has only proved conclusively to yours and everyone else's satisfaction that he's not going to change. He seems... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 14 June 2008: Ladybird, the other aunts are right. His texting you means he's getting desperate. (Perhaps he wants you to fork out for new shoes.) At any rate, keep ignoring him.
One day he may stop blaming everything on you and start showing remorse for his ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 11 June 2008: I was fearing the worst, but you handled it with great aplomb!
It seems like you are both moving out of your comfort zones. You waiting on him hand and foot. Him being waited on hand, foot, and somewhere else to boot. This was never a good com... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 10 June 2008: Wait, I forgot to ask!
Did you give his shoes back?... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 10 June 2008: Well, well, he's doing just what we said he would. He turned up right on cue!
All your fault! HAHA! I cannot believe this man's hide. I don't blame you for feeling bad. He would make Saint Theresa want to puke (if she was still around).
Anyw... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 9 June 2008: Oh, yes. You're still in control as long as you don't react. Just keep ignoring him. He'll probably go to further extremes, but don't get drawn in.
One thing you need to think about is if he comes around unannounced. What will you do? What wil... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 9 June 2008: He's still playing head games. He's winding you up and rejecting you, virtually in the same breath. ("he'd been thinking hard and as much as he misses me he is going to leave me be as he's head is telling him no more"). He's just trying to maintain ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 7 June 2008: Just to add to that: This is a contest of wills. He's waiting for you to give in and contact him. He knows how to play you. Don't give in! It'll only reestablish his dominance over you. Wait for him to contact YOU. He will, when it's clear that ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 7 June 2008: Just curious: What exactly do you want to contact him about? Are you planning on asking him back? Wanting to find out how your furniture is going? Or are you simply concerned how tough it is for him to be going barefoot these days?
If you want a b... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 6 June 2008: There is a Chinese saying: "The man of Qi fears the sky". It's based on an ancient story about a man from the land of Qi who had an unreasoning fear that the sky was about to fall.
Your fear that this lump of a man is going to find someone ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 5 June 2008: You need every bit of support you can get. As a friend she probably should have stayed with you.... but I think we can understand the desperation she felt over his treatment of you. As long as she doesn't come on with too much "I told you so", she ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 4 June 2008: And I thought DiovanLestat always wore a cowboy hat....... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 4 June 2008: Well, if you're going to use business analogies, I think this man is like a crooked Chief Accountant, one who swindled every cent out of your business that he could and sent it bankrupt. And you sound like you want him to come back!... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 3 June 2008: More aptly:
"Why ask your former Chief Accountant to come back and work for you after you found he'd swindled every last cent out of the business".... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 3 June 2008: You sound fine to me!
But it's not over yet. You'll pine for him one day, hate him the next. Strong feelings lurching from one extreme to the other. It will take time, but now you're finally on the road to forgetting this jackass. One day at a tim... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 2 June 2008: Sorry, I've been away for a couple of days.
Reading all this, my first instinct is to say that you are your own worst enemy.
So the psychic said "he will think im a physcho and hold my outburst against me,even tho i was driven to it so that ha... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 28 May 2008: Does he hate you now and think he's had a lucky escape? I hope so! But unfortunately I suspect he'll be back. Having you around is the best thing going for him. He might even act a little contrite. But you'd be crazy to have him back. I'm not even ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 27 May 2008: Actually, it was quite funny reading about his antics, putting his hands on his ears and singing la-la, accusing you of holding him hostage, trying to escape out the back door, and especially leaving without his shoes! You sent him with his tail ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 27 May 2008: You are so nice to him!
He showed that he is utterly unprepared to change! Your "big night out" turned into this wretched affair. It's not your fault that this happened, it's his. He pushed you beyond breaking point and you broke. So don't fe... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 24 May 2008: No, you haven't let anyone down. If you hadn't kept your promise you would have let yourself down.
Anyway, this little episode has just shown you AGAIN exactly how he's going to treat you. So it's probably to the good. If you ever have any illu... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 23 May 2008: If you do contact him, and he then comes back with some message that sends your mind into confusion, just relax and reply in your OWN SWEET TIME! Resist the impulse to react immediately. Reply that evening, or early the next day, or put it off for ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 23 May 2008: Sorry, I've been away for a day.
“HI THERE, CAN YOU WAX MY BACK THURSDAY FOR ME OR ARE YOU BUSY???”
What is that "or are you busy????" at the end. Is he trying to be sarcastic? Is he trying to imply that whatever you may be busy with, it ca... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 21 May 2008: Anonymous, you are too nice for this man.
You tackled him head on and he dismissed you like that!
I think you have a fight ahead of you. He has no plans to take anything you say seriously. He's going to keep manipulating you, and he's going t... (read in full...)
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