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Should I kick him out of my house and my life?

Q.   Hi All!! First thank you for taking the time out to help me... Ive been dating the same guy for 5 yrs now. And for the past couple yrs he has changed into an unpredictable screaming heartless prick towards me. Im always caught off guard when he gets ...

A.   9 October 2017: Hon, this man is abusive, he is cheating or has cheated on you. He is not a safe partner. You deserve more. Get him out of your house and out of your life. (((hugs)))... (read in full...)

Why does this guy flirt with me when he asks about dates I've been on?

Q.   There's this guy I've known for a little over a year. I used to have a huge crush on him for a long time. I eventually got over him emotionally, but I am still attracted to him. We have been friends but there has been times where I get mixed ...

A.   9 October 2017: Why don't you ask him out - nothing serious, coffee perhaps. Maybe he is too shy to ask you out, feels that perhaps he wont measure up to you?? I does sound like he likes you, so what have you got to loose by asking him out for coffee?... (read in full...)

I feel I can't even communicate anymore because of his crazy reactions!

Q.   Ok so myself and my husbsnd just had a huge fight. It happens every couple of months but ive just realised that i think he oveereacts. He shouts, spits, throws things and wont talk to me for days. This time it started like this.... We h...

A.   9 October 2017: Hon, get yourselves into some relationship counseling. There's definitely something odd going on with your husband. (((hugs)))... (read in full...)

He found the girl he dumped me for was too costly and wants me to take him back.

Q.   So, this guy and I were dating for almost two years and he proposed to me in May. A few weeks later he tells me hes going on vacation with his old crush/ friend since high school there both 28. But they have been friends forever. So, he breaks off ...

A.   9 October 2017: Hon, You are going to have to take a hard line with this guy. Tell him to leave you alone, if he doesn't then file a complaint with your local police station - he is stalking you! Secondly, he thinks that since he has dumped his affair partner ... (read in full...)

So hard to control my feelings

Q.   I've been in a problematic "relationship" with a married acquaintance from my work for the past few months. We aren't full-time co-workers but we work together alone enough when he's around. I'm 23 and he's around 39-40ish. I had developed a bit ...

A.   17 May 2017: Hon, if you really want this to work, you have to find new employment, cut this man off totally, no chatting on whatsapp or social media. Block him completely. If he doesn't leave you alone, keep copies of all messages etc., and man up and go and ... (read in full...)

I'm worried how rude the nurses will be

Q.   Im going into hospital tomorrow for a minor procedure and the nurses are known to be nasty, what can i do? Am staying overnight and on the ward im going to overnight on the nurses are well known to be sarcastic and cold... I have spoken to s...

A.   17 May 2017: Hon, say please and thank you and treat them how you would like to be treated. Smile and be nice to them. Unfortunately some people think nurses are their own private slaves. Go into hospital with a positive attitude, and if they are rude to you, ... (read in full...)

He told me that he is falling in love with me but is he just trying to get into my pants?

Q.   I've been friends and getting to know this guy for a month now. We hang out and he messages me everyday through text without fail. So two days ago we were texting because both of us were about to go to bed, before he says goodnight he say...

A.   28 November 2016: My advice is to take things slowly. If you need time to trust someone fully - then take the time. Don't sleep with him. If he really is so crazy about you he will respect your wishes. ... (read in full...)

We are both still married. Should I get involved with my married friend?

Q.   Hello everyone, Over the past few years, I have run into a lot of issues with my husband and have discovered that the large bulk of our problems stem from some physical and mental health issues which cannot really go away. This has taken a toll...

A.   28 November 2016: Hon, you made vows to your husband and he made vows to you. "In sickness and in health" stick to them. To be honest your husband sounds like a caring loving man, he is aware of the problems and is willing to give you a separation! Have you been ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend makes me feel so bad about myself

Q.   I don't know what to do, ive been with my boyfriend for about a year now and we've lived together for about 5 months, he's mostly a really nice guy, but he doesn't show me any emotional support whatsoever, i have told him i need him to emotionally ...

A.   28 November 2016: Hon, sorry to say but you are more into your bf than he is into you. He is emotionally abusing you and destroying you in the process. Dealing with depression is hard, you cannot expect to feel better when he is continually beating you down emo... (read in full...)

My husband is divorcing me we have a severly disabled son

Q.   Me and my husband have been married for 12 years. We have a severly disabled son, he is autistic, with learning difficulties and he cannot speak. he is very aggressive at the moment. Friday he pulled me onto the floor by my hair and head butted me. ...

A.   28 November 2016: Hon, I am so sorry to hear of your troubles with your child. The aggression your child is showing is very worrying. Is he not medicated to help control these emotions? As hard as it is to say this, but maybe it would be better for your child to ... (read in full...)

I love him but I hate him. Where do I go from here? Its officially over but I still have feelings

Q.   I don't know where to start but Ive lost so much over the past year and the losses still keep coming. I'm 38, two sons (18 and 15) and divorced for a little over a year. My sons are great...my oldest is a freshman in college out of state and my ...

A.   11 October 2016: Hun, the only suggestion I can make is that you need to see an Individual Counsellor. You are dealing with a lot of issues which a trained professional will be able to assist you with. ... (read in full...)

I haven't spoken to my boyfriend in 2 months! Is he trying to end things?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for just under a year. In the last two months he has said to me he's been really busy and needs some time and space. He hasn't contacted me for 2 months everytime I message him on what's app he says well chat next week ...

A.   11 October 2016: What a jerk! He obviously doesn't have the guts to even send you a text message breaking it off. He is showing you what he is really like - believe him. Surely you don't want someone so inconsiderate in your life?... (read in full...)

I'm married no sex with wife but am meeting men behind her back

Q.   I am a married man, 2 kids and have over the last year not had sex with my wife. Instead I have joined a dating agency, gay sex site really and had numerous encounters, which I have fully enjoyed, Truth be told I feel more comfortable with mal...

A.   11 October 2016: Dear Poster I am not going to bash you for your actions however you are continuing in your cheating but say you feel bad about your behaviour?? You have chosen to cheat - that is your own choice and you need to own it. I suggest that you... (read in full...)

Should I send my ex boyfriend a Christmas card with a small gift?

Q.   I have been single for about 4 months now after coming out of a 3 year relationship, I have recently been thinking of him again the relationship ended on bad terms. Its coming up to christmas and it will be weird without him should i send him a ...

A.   11 October 2016: No, you have broken up - move on with your life. ... (read in full...)

Am I being mistreated? Is this emotional abuse?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for 2 years. I don’t know if this is emotional abuse or if there is something I can do to fix the problem. This morning I had gone to make a shake for him and when I poured the material inside ...

A.   11 October 2016: Hun, you need to value yourself more - get out of this abusive relationship. Low blood sugar?? I suspect he is using this as an excuse to treat you badly. Could you imagine yourself in say, 10 or 15 years from now? It wont get better in fa... (read in full...)

Would the average guy spend 1.5 hours in a store or was he lying?

Q.   Is it possible for a guy - your boyfriend - to be in a store for 1.5 hours??? The same store??? He was out for awhile and I asked him about it and he said he was at an auto parts store for that long. He said he was browsing. That there were lots ...

A.   20 September 2016: Hon, personally I think you are very insecure and have some serious trust issues. An auto parts store to a man is what a shoe shop is to a woman! They can literally spend hours looking at all sorts of stuff! I think that you need to address ... (read in full...)

How can I combat these rumours?

Q.   Recently a male friend of mine became my worst enemy when I turned down his proposal. Now he is spreading false rumours of the kind that I was in love with him. What shall I do?...

A.   16 August 2016: If anyone asks you about the rumours - laugh and ask them back "Hey would a girl like me Really want to be with a guy like him??" That should put an end to his stupid rumours! Shows how childish he is. ... (read in full...)

I really do want to stop hurting my husband and my lover's wife. But how can I stop?

Q.   If you want to judge, please stop reading this right now. I need advice, not lectures. I have been married for nearly 20 years now, no kids. I have never felt the need to seek fulfillment elsewhere since me and my husband have been truly happy...

A.   16 August 2016: If you really wanted to stop - you would - but you don't - sorry that is the reality of the situation. I know you didn't want lectures but bear with me here... You need to cut off all contact with this man and I mean ALL contact - then s... (read in full...)

I really do want to stop hurting my husband and my lover's wife. But how can I stop?

Q.   If you want to judge, please stop reading this right now. I need advice, not lectures. I have been married for nearly 20 years now, no kids. I have never felt the need to seek fulfillment elsewhere since me and my husband have been truly happy...

A.   16 August 2016: If you really wanted to stop - you would - but you don't - sorry that is the reality of the situation. I know you didn't want lectures but bear with me here... You need to cut off all contact with this man and I mean ALL contact - then s... (read in full...)

Any suggestions on how to deal with this angry and feeling-entitled stepdaughter?

Q.   I have posted in 2013 about my husband having a child which he never knew off. She contacted my youngest daughter via fb and after having paternity tests done it was confirm it is his child. She is 34 this year. She was rude from the beginning, ...

A.   4 April 2016: Contact the local police and file a harassment charge against her. Go to your attorney and get him to draft a cease and desist letter to her. ... (read in full...)

Love triangle. Should I just leave him? He says he loves her, but he also loves me.

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for two years now. While I was pregnant I checked his emails and found that he had been talking about how much He loves and misses his ex. When I confronted him he calls and tells her he's going to be with...

A.   4 April 2016: Hon, for your own peace of mind and wellbeing - dump the man! He clearly is cheating on you with her and on her with you. Stop being an option for him. File for child support for your little one and keep things very formal between you. Di... (read in full...)

My wife duped me into marrying her!

Q.   dear cupid, ok here goes. i have been married to a great woman for 5 years, problem is i was duped by her, while i was a virgin when i married her she wasnt, she clearly lied to me when i asked her about her sexual past. i found a sextape of her ...

A.   4 April 2016: You married her knowing she was not a virgin. You seem overly hung up on this. Now, is your wife still in contact with this ex-lover? If she is, then there is need for concern. What excuse has she given for not destroying the sextape? It is a ... (read in full...)

My dad is having an affair! Will it last?

Q.   My dad is having an affair with the tennant that lives in our house that we rent. She is literally the scum of the earth (this is not an opinion). She is possibly on job-seekers allowance, claiming benefits, she's never owned her own house ever, all ...

A.   4 April 2016: Please read Agony Aunt YouWish's reply. Now read it again. Excellent advice!... (read in full...)

Should I respond to my ex? Do you think I would look like a fool if I did? Or should I leave it and just delete his number?

Q.   3 days ago, my ex boyfriend texted me out of the blue and asked if I wanted to meet up for lunch and catch up. I decided to ignore the text completely, but honestly it has been on my mind constantly ever since. I think the reason this is botherin...

A.   4 April 2016: He cheated on you, he was rude and disrespectful... and he's your EX. I don't see why you should meet up with him... he probably is just looking for some ego stroking to make him feel good that you are still pining for him. Time to block... (read in full...)

Should I marry him, considering that I have major trust issues?

Q.   Ive been with my fiance for 6 years and last year he proposed to me. Our relationship has its ups and downs. Ive known his positive and negative traits more than anyone he knows. Probably more than his family do. He is quite loving and caring ...

A.   26 March 2016: " i have some trust issues regarding what he has done in the past" A very interesting statement. I suggest you and your bf attend relationship counselling as you have trust problems which need to be addressed and by your own admission he has prob... (read in full...)

My wife says she has feelings for her boss!

Q.   2 days back me and my wife were having casual discussion and my wife informed that she is having feelings for her boss. I was stunned to hear this. She further said that she is feeling for him for past 3-4 months. She said she wanted to control her ...

A.   22 March 2016: So sorry you find yourself in this position. Your wife needs to leave her job. Yes, she needs to break all contact with this person, then both you and she needs marriage counselling. There is nothing you can really do, it is all about her. ... (read in full...)

How do I deal with this girl whose nickname is my name?

Q.   Hello. I met a girl this year at varsity she uses her nickname as my name. See, my parents gave me this cool name from birth and she liked the name before we met. Its a very rare name and it has many meanings in science. The problem is the girl ...

A.   18 March 2016: She sounds quite childish! I agree with Ciar's sentiments!... (read in full...)

Blocked by my ex and his new girlfriend. How do I make things better?

Q.   How do I make this situation better? My ex and his new girlfriend fell out with me big time. I tried to talk them round - but they didn't want to know. So I got annoyed and sent them 1 or 2 nasty anonymous text messages - but they guessed it was ...

A.   18 March 2016: Sorry Hon, but your actions caused them to block you. Use that as a life-lesson and don't do it again. I don't believe there is anything you can do that will rectify the situation without you appearing as the nasty EXGF.... (read in full...)

I'm overwhelmed and don't know what to do. Is his behaviour part of his grieving or something else?

Q.   I am a 21 year old female with a same age boyfriend, we both are in school and work part time jobs. We have been together for 3 1/2 years. With a 7 month break up 2 years ago. It was a very ugly breakup, which was very hard on both of us. We bot...

A.   18 March 2016:  "I do so much for him, laundry, his cleaning, homework, scheduling classes" Stop! He needs to grow up and stand on his own feet - you are mothering and smothering him. "threaten to leave or not talk to me at the littlest things" he is emotiona... (read in full...)

Would it be a bad idea to text him? There was no formal goodbye to our relationship

Q.   I dated someone for a month, which ended two months ago. There was no formal goodbye. The communication just faded on his end. I never reached out again but I find myself thinking about him all the time. I was very attracted to him physical...

A.   18 March 2016: Honestly, why bother to waste your time? After 1 month's relationship things just faded away. I have no doubt he has moved on and probably forgotten all about you. Stop giving this issue space in your head. Go out and enjoy yourself.... (read in full...)

I'm not sure its healthy for him to be in contact with me when he has decided to try again with his LDR ex!

Q.   For the past 2 months I've been in a primarily texting friendship with a guy I met when I was visiting friends on the other side of the country. We've become very close, and it's basically been a never ending marathon of instant messaging, voice ...

A.   4 March 2016: Hon, This guy as nice as he sounds needs to get off the fence and make a decision. Either you or his ex. It sounds like he cannot make up his mind and needs a Plan B in case Plan A doesn't work out. Does his gf know that you two are in conta... (read in full...)

Should I ask her to delete my contact information from her cell phone? Or if I ask her that I will show that I'm hurt?

Q.   I used to go out with this girl, I was in love with her, hut she wasn't into me. One night we ended on her kitchen floor and I started caressing her hair and arm, i realized she got excited when I was doing that but she turned me down at that spot. ...

A.   1 March 2016: Hon, I don't think you need to have any further contact with her.. She clearly is not into you. You need to move on with your life.... (read in full...)

Boyfriend wants to continue being friends with her but it upsets me

Q.   I'm looking for pretty open minded advice here so bare with me lol. My boyfriend and I were together for about 4 years. We had a great relationship but towards the end we had some difficulties outside of our relationship that we couldn't really ...

A.   1 March 2016: Hon, As I see it - he has a choice - either YOU or HER. Since he so clearly still wants to be with her, let him have her. Please understand that he was having AN EMOTIONAL AFFAIR with this woman whilst he was still with you. And the choice t... (read in full...)

I met a woman on a dating site, we had a nice first date but now, she's stopped responding. Any advice appreciated!

Q.   I need some advice here. So, I met this woman on OKCupid and we started writing to each other. I noticed that she logged in only once a week but she did respond whenever she logged in. The messages were also good. If I wrote 2 paragraphs her reply ...

A.   29 February 2016: Sorry but she sounds like she just didn't 'click' with you and didn't have the courage to tell you that it wasn't going to work.. Move on there are loads more women out there to chat to!... (read in full...)

Dating a 37 year old guy. How can I tell him to use anti- wrinkle cream in a nice way?

Q.   So my boyfriend is 37, happy guy and it takes much to irritate him. Though he doesn't look far older than his age, his face wrinkles a lot especially when he smiles. I can't change this fact but it might at least be lessened if he uses moisturi...

A.   29 February 2016: So he has laughter lines on his face - so what! Laughter lines on a man's face is are very attractive feature. Now you want him to slap on some anti-aging cream to hide those features.. erm not going to work.. You should be more concerned a... (read in full...)

Texting. Is there a difference between a big X or a little x in a text from a man?

Q.   Hi I am 40 and been briefly texting a guy that I know. After our initial chat by text I text him again on Friday and we had a 4.5 hour chat by text and as we were having a drink his texts became more loose but nothing bad and eventually we stopp...

A.   29 February 2016: This is the type of question I would expect from at 13-15 year old... You are reading far too much into this....... (read in full...)

Is my ex manipulating me?

Q.   Dear cupid, is my ex boyfriend trying to manipulate me? My 3 year relationship ended several months ago. He told me he was no longer happy and that he met another woman and was very sorry for hurting me. Only about 3 weeks after our break up, he...

A.   29 February 2016: Hon, He just wants you to be his "Plan B"... if the relationship with the woman he left you for [and he did leave you for another woman regardless of what he is saying] he wants good-ole-you to be there. Actions speak louder than words, and ... (read in full...)

Beautiful girlfriend makes me feel worthless

Q.   I really need help. My girlfriend is threatening to break up with me and it seems all I do is not enough. Right now she's telling me she's broken up and that she doesn't want me. But come later that may change. It's the same yesterday. We agre...

A.   29 February 2016: Sorry but all I see in this post is a lack of trust in each other. A relationship needs trust - and yours, well... already sounds like it is over. Your gf wants to know she can trust you and you will go to the ends of the earth for her... and d... (read in full...)

Would it be crazy to leave my husband who gives me everything for a man who couldn't give me what I have?

Q.   I really need some advice.... Firstly what I'm about to admit is horrible - I'm not here for sympathy or understanding and I know I'm completely 100% in the wrong and nobody could be more disgusted with me than I am. I married my long term boy...

A.   29 February 2016: Hon, You are comparing your husband, who you know well with a man who you only meet up with for business. You might 'connect' with him at work but I am sure he is a totally different person at home. This part worries me: "but I know he has fe... (read in full...)

How do I contact this married man to tell him I'm pregnant? I want him to help support me!

Q.   Dear Cupid I'm the op of this post "He lied to me..he was cheating on his wife with me. Do I tell her?", which I posted a month back. I found out that I'm pregnant few days back and I'm positive he is the father since I didn't have sex with an...

A.   29 February 2016: I am shocked to see some of the nasty comments here - come Aunts, this poster is reaching out to us for some advice not condemnation. Dear Poster from your question I can see that you are in a very difficult position. As some of the Aunt... (read in full...)

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