No gift from BF on birthday....?
Q. I have been with my BF for three years. He has always been really romantic and thoughtful in the area of giving gifts on special days. However, our 3 yr anniversary passed about 6 wks ago and he did not get me a gift. A card, which was nice, but ...
A. 19 November 2009: Mmmm.... this sounds like more than just a gripe about a birthday present...
Your bf is obviously feeling like you dont love him, you havent been intimate for ages, hes put on a lot of weigh, so hes probably feeling really down about his self est... (read in full...)
New girlfriend vs daughter from ex wife
Q. I've been divorced for over 2 years now. I've got a 4yr old daughter that lives with mom. I see her on Mondays and have her every second weekend, holiday etc. The divorce was easy, friendly and we're still friendly. I've been dating the girl of ...
A. 19 November 2009: Hun, your gf needs to come to terms with the fact that she is not your first..... It sounds that she is a bit immature and lacking in self-esteem.
Everyone has a past even her... just as I am sure that you were not her first boyfriend or lover...... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to quit my job and let him support me?
Q. my boyfriend and i been dating for 3 years. we been through so many break-ups. he is a very jealous person. he can be controlling also. he is a great person when he wants to be. there's one problem though. i met him at my place of employment. im a ...
A. 18 November 2009: Hun, do not give up your job, by him giving you an ultimatum he is forcing you into a position where he can control you.
You have said that your relationship has endured many breakups and that he is jealous... red flags here....
Why would you... (read in full...)
What should I choose, earth shattering sex or the great looking guy who is not so good in bed?
Q. Which one should I choose earth shattering great sex you know the kind that brings a tear to your eye and make you pull out the hairs on your head and ok looks or do i choose that guy when he walks in the room everyone creams their pants. You know ...
A. 17 November 2009: Oh.. no question about it.. definitely the sex..
Being with mr gorgeous is not fun... you would spend your time wondering if he was being a bit more than just friendly to all those women who will be throwing themselves at him....... (read in full...)
Guys only - circumcision advice needed!
Q. ok this is a strictly GUYS ONLY question, so please i suggest that girls, dont read this. i developed a urinary tract infection, so my doc said that it is best if i get a circumcision done, as it will prevent further infections.so th...
A. 17 November 2009: Hun... sorry got to have a say here... I have to say that sometimes the drs are very quick to circumsize when all that is needed is some education on how to keep the penis nice and clean.
It is a drastic move to have a circumcision at your age... (read in full...)
Sad I'm not his first love...
Q. Hey. :( I'm in a relationship, and in love for the first time. However, I'm jealous of my partner. Who had been in relationships, and in love before. He's my first, but I'm not his. And it just bugs me, and I feel like I'll never be as impor...
A. 17 November 2009: Hun, whether you were with this special guy or any other guy for that matter - you would probably not be the first love...
However.... this guy is now with you and not with them.... is that not more important that wasting your precious time wor... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to marry someone who already has a child, can I ever be sure if this relationship is serious?
Q. hi i dont know if u can answer my question. im in love with this guy i really do love him so much, my problem is i have a child and he dont have any and he once told me that he dont want to marry a person who have a child, though it was hard to ...
A. 17 November 2009: Sorry hun, time to show this man the door - he has no commitment to you, you are his secret...
If a man loves a woman he will accept her and her child/children.... so rather move on with your life...... (read in full...)
Why do I want to see him have sex with another woman?
Q. I moved out a month ago because my boyfriend felt caged in and wanted out frankly so did I. He wants to have sex with other women and wants me to be tolerant. I do not believe that he can or wants to establish boundaries with these women that would ...
A. 17 November 2009: What your boyfriend wants is an open marriage/relationship - so that he can have your blessing to sleep with any woman he chooses...
You both have parted ways, which shows that there are problems in the relationship - yet you want to try agai... (read in full...)
Why lead me on if nothing is to happen? Or does he want something to happen despite having a girlfriend?
Q. I started a new job a month ago. Working with a nice guy, but he's giving mixed signals to me (I think). He has a girlfriend and they've been together for 2 years but he flirts with me. He's sent messages/emails saying 'I love you', always...
A. 17 November 2009: This guy is not worth knowing - he is looking for a bit of excitement at work.... and if you decide to sleep with him, I am sure the whole office will be told the gory details of how good/bad you were in the sack!!
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Do I believe that he has learnt his lesson? Or should I walk away?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for a year but a few days ago two girls came to me and told me they had been sleeping with him. i truely love him and i dont doubt how he feels for me but i just cant believe he has done this to me. we had been arguing ...
A. 17 November 2009: Hun, he has admitted to cheating and is not going to change... he uses the excuse of when you fight he goes off and sleeps with someone..... shows lack of commitment and respect for you.
Do you really want to go through this in your relation... (read in full...)
Which guy do I choose, the new guy or the one I have history with?
Q. ive bin seein this guy for 4 months he split up with his girlfriend the same night i split with my boyfriend an we became quite close and got together however hes got 2 children and his ex announced she was 3 months pregnant just after we got ...
A. 17 November 2009: You were on the rebound when you met your ex - he has issues with his ex and a history with her... chances are that he will go back to her...
As for the new guy... well if you like him, give him a chance... but forget about the ex!!... (read in full...)
Thinking of getting back with my ex but he frequently doesn't answer my calls!
Q. my ex and i might get back...we have been talking a little over 2 months. We will probably be meeting within the next few weeks..the thing that bothers me is its been about 5 or 6 times when it will be my turn to call and i do and there is no answer ...
A. 17 November 2009: Sorry Hun, but you dont sound like you are on the top of your ex's list of important people!!!
Give him his space, stop contacting him and let him do the chasing... if he really wants to get back with you he will make the effort.... (read in full...)
He doesn't like using condoms and says if I get pregnant, so be it!
Q. Hi All, Im 19 and have a 23 year old BF, I love him very much and he loves me too. The problem is he doesnt like using condoms, Im not on any form of birth control and I dont want use any, except condoms as I feel more safe. I really DONT want a ...
A. 13 November 2009: Hun, in all fairness... it is your body you tell him what you want - and as you well know, our country is riddled with HIV and STI's... so no condom means no sex!!
He is trying to force you into doing what he wants and surely if he loved you he w... (read in full...)
How do I encourage him to show a greater interest in me, without scaring him away?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm have just started a new relationship with a man who is going through a divorce. He is still young and has no children - he was only married for a few years before he realized it wasn't working - he has been separated for ne...
A. 12 November 2009: This man obviously has a lot on his mind and all he wants from you is sex and physical company.. hes not asking questions because he probably doesnt want the relationship to become anything special until he has had time to sort out his life.
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Could one little white lie ruin my relationship?
Q. Me and my man have been together since may this year and i feel like he does not trust me. For example, yesterday i had to work and had only two dollars to get me to work and no money to get home. I called a couple of my friends to pick me up but ...
A. 12 November 2009: Well your first call should have been to your bf to ask for help in getting home... now he finds that you have rather called on your ex for help...
I can understand that he is angry with you, but you are going to have to be very honest and open... (read in full...)
Are my Irregular periods normal?
Q. I am 13 years old and started my period in May 2009. I had it for about a week and then didn't have my next period until September and then just recently started at the end of October and i'm still on it now so, for about two weeks ......it is ...
A. 12 November 2009: Hun, usually it takes a while before the hormones in our bodies start behaving themselves, thats why you are having irregular periods, however, a cause for concern is the fact that you have been on your period for nearly 2 weeks...
You need to ... (read in full...)
Is it safe to use vaginal cream after two weeks of abortion?
Q. Is it safe to use vaginal cream after two weeks of abortion?...
A. 10 November 2009: Need more info on this one... what is the cream for??... (read in full...)
He cheated on me all through our seven years! And he doesn't feel guilty! What the?!?!?
Q. Hi Aunts/Uncles. I discovered my long term partner had been cheating on me all through our relationship (7years). I turned to all of you for advice. Which you gave me and I greatfully took. The problem now is, he says he didn't feel guilty wh...
A. 10 November 2009: Hun, its time to walk away from this relationship. The fact that he shows no remorse for what he has done should be a sign to you that he will continue to cheat regardless. By staying with him you will condone and accept his behaviour and un... (read in full...)
He cheated on me all through our seven years! And he doesn't feel guilty! What the?!?!?
Q. Hi Aunts/Uncles. I discovered my long term partner had been cheating on me all through our relationship (7years). I turned to all of you for advice. Which you gave me and I greatfully took. The problem now is, he says he didn't feel guilty wh...
A. 10 November 2009: Awesome advice Baby Duck!!! ... (read in full...)
How can a man approaching his forties age gracefully?
Q. Hi I'm a 37 year old male. I've been told I look good for my age by several people (mainly female). However, my looks are changing, body etc. I look after myself as best as I can. But I'm aging (godammit), as is everybody else. I know it's ...
A. 10 November 2009: Mmm..... I have a friend who is totally grey and he is only 45 [this is not meant to scare you] but what makes him so attractive is the fact that he always prides himself on good hygiene, and his hair is always neat, short but neat, and he wears ... (read in full...)
My ex and I are still friends and have sex, he is not sure he wants to get back together, what should I do
Q. my exs and i broke up..we are still friends and he tells me that he misses me alot and thinks about us and we still have sex. but hes not sure if he wants to get back with me. what should i do? ...
A. 10 November 2009: Hun, stop the sex... you are now a friend with benefits... I think that when he thinks about you its in the context of sex not as a partner....
You need to take control of the situation, no sex unless he makes up his mind... unless of course y... (read in full...)
Should I get a part time lover to avoid demanding sex and attention from boyfriend all the time?
Q. I have been dating a guy for about six months now. He is everything i have ever dreamt of, loving, caring romantic, sensitive, except: 1. He rarely has time for me. We live 5 minutes drive apart, we are always free after 4pm but only meet about on...
A. 6 November 2009: Why a part time lover?? You need a new boyfriend!! I am in total agreement with the other Agony Aunts!!... (read in full...)
Does this guy like me or am I over thinking this? What should I do?
Q. I feel this guy likes me, and I am scared to go talk to him again. He stares at me a lot and tries to have eye contact. He'll go out of his way to walk by me or tries to get my attention when I don't see him. I'm not sure if i'm reading the wrong ...
A. 6 November 2009: You must be flattered, so much attention!! Sounds like this guy has a major crush on you but is too shy to do anything about it.
Why dont you casually ask him for coffee and see his reaction. Maybe he is afraid of making the first move because ... (read in full...)
How can I stop my addiction and stop these fantasies running through my mind?
Q. Hi everybody. I'm 16 year old and I have a pretty big problem. I never thought that I'd go through this but it has gone to this extent that I have to get external help. I am and have been addicted to pornography for about 5 months now. Ever since I ...
A. 6 November 2009: Hun, you sound like a healthy very highly sexed young lady!! There is nothing wrong with fantasising about people you meet who turn you on....
Rather than watching porn, use your imagination its a lot more fun!! And maturbating is normal, ... (read in full...)
How can he not like sex and prefer masturbating?
Q. I am in a relationship with someone, but the thing is, he doesn't like sex. We've had it before, but he says he gets bored and it doesn't interest him/ doesn't feel as good as masturbating. "Why should i do in a vagina, what i can do with my hand?" ...
A. 6 November 2009: Hun, your are friends with a guy who finds himself sexually more exciting than you..... he must have some issues about about sex, does he understand sex is not just the act of putting his penis into your vagina...?
Sounds like your relation... (read in full...)
Cheating GF wants to work on our relationship but won't give up her friendship with her affair partner.... What do I do?
Q. Hey all. My girlfriend of 3.5 yrs cheated on me. We have a beautiful son together. I have forgiven her and done everything I can to try and work out our relationship. The one thing I have asked of her is for her to not have any form of ...
A. 6 November 2009: She says that she wants to work at the relationship but does not want to give up the ex??? Sorry, but the way I see it, if you really meant so much to her and she really loved you she would give up the ex to make things good in your relationship.
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The love of my life cheated on me...is he at it again?
Q. I have been cheated on 3 years after I was married, by the person whom I knew for more than 10 years and who showed me nothing but pure love, respect and trust. We had a beautiful love story that a lot of people envied and wished they would have the...
A. 6 November 2009: Dont confront your husband until you have enough evidence.. he seems to think that you will believe anything he tells you, keep him thinking that way. He will then leave a trail for you to follow. I dont for one minute believe that he went for... (read in full...)
She had sex with her ex, so I went out and had sex with another girl. Is this relationship doomed?
Q. hi my girlfriend and i are together for like a year. we jumped straight into relationship literally the day after she finished with her ex of 3 years. a few days ago i found out she had sex with him again a couple of weeks ago. in anger i we...
A. 5 November 2009: The way I see it, if your gf was really committed to the relationship with you, she would not have contact with her ex. Furthermore, since both of you have cheated on each other, there is no trust left in the relationship, and a relationship nee... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he make me feel sexy?
Q. MY boyfriend doesn't make me feel sexy, but gets mad if i don't talk to dirty or try to turn him on. He laughs at me when i try on cute outfits and try to be hot or if I do say somehing sexy he makes fun of me. I want to feel sexy so I can act sexy ...
A. 4 November 2009: Sweetie, this guy is seriously denting your self-esteem. Surely this cannot be a healthy relationship.
Sounds like far too much give from your side and far too much take from his.
Talk to him and if he doesnt change the way he treats you, move... (read in full...)
14 year old girl scared about sex with her 15 year old boyfriend
Q. my boyfriend is 15 and he wants to have sex with me but i don't know if i want to remain abstinent or have sex with he says he's ready when i'm ready but i don't think thats true and he might dump me i'm scared though that it will hurt and i will be ...
A. 4 November 2009: Sweetie, If he says he will be ready for sex when you are ready, then make him wait UNTIL you are ready!!
Chances are if he is not into you he will move along pretty quickly, and then you can congratulate yourself not giving up your virginit... (read in full...)
What do you think of a man, who...?
Q. What do you think about a man whom, you leave a phone message in the morning asking if he wants to have dinner and at 8:30pm he calls, leaves a message that does not mention the call, you try to call back and know he is there because he is on ...
A. 4 November 2009: Sorry.. this guy is selfish and it sounds like you are just one of many other women he has an interest it...
He is not worth wasting the effort of texting to!!... (read in full...)
She is 30 and he is 74. Is he actually interested in her mind?
Q. He is 74. She's 30. First of all, let's say he is a thin, very attractive, elderly man. It may seem gross to some people, but she says she is actually attracted to him. It may be weird to some, but she said something about him is fascinating to h...
A. 4 November 2009: This old guy is a professional at what he does!! I have no doubt that your friend is only one of a string of women he has had relationships with...
Oh.. and the sex thing, yeah right.... first opportunity he will be right there with his viagra!!... (read in full...)
If you lose weight can it make your penis bigger?
Q. So, my penis isn't really that big. I'd say maybe 4 inches when erect. I know that 4 inches is long enough to satisfy a girl, but I would rather be average of maybe 5.5 inches. That would make me feel more confident with myself. I'm also a bit on ...
A. 4 November 2009: Mmmmm... I dont know about making your penis bigger but I am sure that by losing weight around your stomach area it will make your penis appear to be larger.... (read in full...)
Friend & I become very involved and now his g/f is upset. Should I try to intervene?
Q. Hi I'm in a strange problem.I'm a happily married woman immensely in love with her husband but was somewhere lonely.my husband switched his job to a foreign country and i had to stay here for one year. soon after reaching there, he got busy and had ...
A. 4 November 2009: No I dont think you should intevene.. whatever happens in their relationship is up to them to sort out.
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My brother asked me to look at his because to judge its size
Q. My older brother asked me if I could look at his erect penis and tell him what I thought about its size. I know he is really self conscious about it and I just wanted to help him out. I've seen his dick before when we were really young. But never ...
A. 4 November 2009: Your brother should find himself a girlfriend and ask her if she thinks his penis is an ok size... asking you is inappropriate behaviour!!... (read in full...)
Alcohol takes over me and I attack my husband... do I have a drink problem?
Q. Please help guys...? I'm not sure what to do anymore. When I have far too much alcohol (which isn't often) I have attacked my husband (scratch and bite)(I'm sounding like a wild dog which I'm so ashamed of)...it's as if I have a blind rage and t...
A. 3 November 2009: Sweetie, get in contact with AA and they will help you if you want to help yourself.
Sounds like the alcohol is altering your personality and certainly not for the better. Do not leave something like this as it could lead to the breakdow... (read in full...)
Was that a form of verbal abuse that I went through?
Q. i was in a relationship with a guy for 7 months, and when the relationship started it was all good he would talk nicely well a week after talking he wanted to meet up for coffee i said we can. We spoke for long and after dropping me off he asked if ...
A. 3 November 2009: This man is an abuser and yes he was abusing you. You dont need this kind of kak in your life.
You need to get this man out of your life before it escalates into physical violence.... (read in full...)
What do these mixed signals mean that she has been giving me?
Q. There is this one shy girl I like, who happens to be my best friend's sister. Lately, I have been getting the impression that she likes me (i.e. she'd look at me when I'm not looking at her, act surprised when I say something to her, talks to her ...
A. 2 November 2009: mmmmm.... sounds like she is very shy but does want to make friends with you...
Why dont you make the first move by talking to her, ask her out, then I am sure you will find out whether she likes you or not...... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has rejected me sexually for over 18 months...
Q. For well over a year my gf has been cold towards me. Some of this I explained in my earlier question - not allowing me to say I love you or express my feelings to her etc. Also she as rejected me sexually for nearly 18 months. At the start she used ...
A. 2 November 2009: Your girlfriend is using you - she has all the security she needs without having to have sex with you... that is not love.
She makes you feel guilty if she gets a hint that the relationship might be falling apart... emotional blackmail comes to... (read in full...)
I can orgasm with my vibrator but not with a man... why?
Q. I have this problem that I'm not really sure how to overcome. I know what I should do but maybe need some advice. I hope this isnt too descriptive or anything.. So I'm in my early 20's and I've never been able to orgasm with a male there. I've...
A. 2 November 2009: mmmmm.... either 'assist' him by rubbing your clit while he is giving you oral or use the vibrator during sex so that you can orgasm too...
And... you need to relax!! Sounds like you are so obsessed with having an orgasm that you are stopping... (read in full...)
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