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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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Have I ruined everything with the man I love?
Q. I've been with my bf for 6 months. He's a complicated creature, very sports orientated from a young age so his appearance has always been important to him so he regularly goes to the gym. He has also never been on holiday with anyone and canno...
A. 4 November 2009: Here is a little tip for the future when it comes to selecting a man.
The list of issues a man can has is NOT a checklist where more is better.
When you buy a car do you look for one with a soggy suspension, cracked radiator, leaky brakes but... (read in full...)
If you lose weight can it make your penis bigger?
Q. So, my penis isn't really that big. I'd say maybe 4 inches when erect. I know that 4 inches is long enough to satisfy a girl, but I would rather be average of maybe 5.5 inches. That would make me feel more confident with myself. I'm also a bit on ...
A. 4 November 2009: The penis extends through the layer of fat, the tinner the layer, the more stands out.
So, no the penis itself won't be longer, but there will be more out there.
Also, fat is bad for the heart and the penis is powered by the heart. The healt... (read in full...)
My good friend wants to see my penis. Should I show her?
Q. i have a realy good friend and she ask me to show her my penis i dont know if should show her but at the same time i dont know why she want to see it can someone help me with this...
A. 4 November 2009: Only if she also shows hers... (read in full...)
My boyfriend took advantage of me while I suffered alcohol poisoning!
Q. Alright well, i'll try to explain this the best way i can. On halloween, last saturday, i went to a party with about.. 6 people. one of which included my boyfriend. We obviously were drinking since it was halloween and just for fun, you ...
A. 4 November 2009: "Obviously were drinking, since it was halloween."
A kid of 13-15.
I don't even know were to begin.
Oh, and you don't have a boyfriend, just a rapist. On the whole I would recommend against keeping one of them around.
That you even... (read in full...)
I have a full life, but worry that I may not find love. Are there others out there like me?
Q. Hello all, I am an attractive, and very young looking 41 year old woman.I never meet men around my own age, as they always think I am too young for them, and do not approach me, and the guys I do meet are never really settled, or they are unsuita...
A. 4 November 2009: Guys of 41 think a woman of 41 is to young? I thought the rule was half your age + 7. You must REALLY look young.
So, you go out but don't look... just leave it to fate.
What message could that send in your posture. The message you send to men ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me with two men and now wants me to give her time before we break up!
Q. 5 months ago me (32) and my girlfriend (23) moved in together. Previously we had been having a long distance relationship for 2.5 years. Things were going very well and then she went on a 2 month medical elective on a pacific island. A month into ...
A. 4 November 2009: Her version of events... eheh. You ain't ready for it, or she hasn't time yet to come up with a story she thinks you might swallow.
Come on, what she wrote in her diary is NOT what happened?
Yes, I would give her some more time, but then I... (read in full...)
Family: Where does your priorities lie?
Q. Wife Question to husband Who do you see as our family? Husband Answer to wife You and the two kids of course Wife to husband No one else? Husband to wife No. No one else Husband to wife Who do you see as our family? Wife to ...
A. 4 November 2009: You probably see "family" as the one you created.
She means something else.
Frankly, I find her list odd as well. Mother first above chosen partnet AND kids?
Listing kids first would be more normal. Odd that she ranks them so clearly as... (read in full...)
She cheated on me and I forgive her, but now she does not know what she wants.
Q. Well here it goes, I was went on vacation and I kept in contact with my girlfriend that I love very much, and i suspected something was going on and I was right She was cheating on me and she admitted it and asked me to forgive her I was raged but I ...
A. 1 November 2009: MissKin says it shows strength that you forgave each other... that is one interpretation. It isn't mine.
I think that the both of you are no longer in love, but in convenience. You been together for a long time especially considering your age and ... (read in full...)
My mum made me have an abortion but now I can't stop thinking about the baby I gave up.
Q. Im 14 years old, 15 in march. This February i had an abortion, my mom made me have an a abortion as i was too young to keep the baby, but i was too scared to tell my mom that i wanted to keep the baby. All i do now is think about what if i kept i...
A. 1 November 2009: Let me get this straight.
You were old enough to have sex.
You were old enough to think you could raise a child.
You were not old enough to tell mommy no.
Do you see the conflict? You agreed with your mother, because you didn't want ... (read in full...)
He has two kids with two other baby mommas but he's not interested in his baby with me...
Q. I just had a baby girl, whose absolutely beautiful, for my ex boyfriend. He knew I was pregnant but wasnt sure if he was the father. Well he has 2 other kids with 2 baby mothers but is taking care both of them. He had doubts about being the father ...
A. 1 November 2009: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=baby's+momma
You use the term yourself, I wonder if you know what it truly means.
He is not a father and she is not his daughter. YOUR daughter is just a piece of bragging rights: "Look I could kn... (read in full...)
Advice needed. I think I'm in love with my best guy friend but he does not love me back
Q. I know this is a repeated question and it is quite long, but please bear with me. I have the most wonderful guy friend you could ever ask for. He is my best guy friend, and I love him dearly. He is always there for me when I am down, he tells me ...
A. 31 October 2009: I am probably way to paranoid but what does "I'd be willing to do lots of things for him" mean?
Are we talking FWB here or what?
Anyway, you think he does not love you so you don't show him you love him... he thinks you do not love him, so he ... (read in full...)
We have just become 2 people sharing a house not a home.
Q. As I can tell by many of the responses to my early question about private email, does my wife have the right to view my email. Let me go a step further and explain and ask my question in a a clearer and more understanding way. My spouse had an ...
A. 31 October 2009: Do me a favor, go rent "war of the roses" for the two of you and then both a lawyer and end this marriage.
It is over, you two are just trying to hurt each other. It now seems both of you have "forgotten" to mention important parts of the story.
... (read in full...)
He asks me to split the check - is he really interested in me?
Q. I'm a little old fashioned and always had the idea that when a man is truly interested in you he pays for dinner. I've been on four dates with this guy and each time he ask to split the check. Is this guy really into me?...
A. 31 October 2009: Maybe, I am kinda old fashioned that way myself and if you ask someone out, you pay for it. Even friends.
How do you know the other person can afford to pay halfs anyway? You might be putting a lot of pressure on them to pay for somethin... (read in full...)
Are these signs that my coworker likes me??
Q. Does my coworker like me or is attracted to me?? here are the signs: - He chats with me - He makes eye contact when we're talking and smiles but its an honest smile like he's happy and not just polite. I dont know if its just because he's hap...
A. 31 October 2009: Wow, you certainly seem to be aware of every little thing he does.
Do you like HIM? If so, then why not make the first move yourself? It is the easiest way to find out for sure. ... (read in full...)
If you can afford me 2
Q. This is for women to answer, since men can't know the answer, unless they got it from a woman already. A woman who used to be a prostitute (so I figure she was low self esteem), told me all men who pay for dates are paying for sex/relations...
A. 31 October 2009: The man pays for the date, the women pays for the clothes and make-up. The price difference might surprise you. A high quality suit IS expensive, but it LASTS for YEARS and can be worn for more then just a date. How many men get a haircut that costs ... (read in full...)
Should privacy still be allowed even although you're married?
Q. My spouse and I are at odd ends! I want to know if it is wrong of me to not give my spouse my email password. I have been told time and again that when you are married your not allowed to have personal email's or anything that is not disclosed. My ...
A. 31 October 2009: Interesting that your wifes question which is posted right above this one paints a different picture.
You "forget" to mention that you cheated on her.
And you "accidentally" put the wrong age when you posted this.
The first especially ... (read in full...)
Am I unreasonable to ask to see his email.
Q. My spouse has in the recent past had an affair. He hides his income He tells me that it is none of my business. i have no access to, or knowledge of his income. He tells me that it is not my business who he knows or what he does, and that i just ...
A. 31 October 2009: Privacy is a private something between two people, it is up to you two to define it.
However, he said he would rather be divorced. That means he drawn a line in the sand and basically, the relationship is over.
A relationship is two people wo... (read in full...)
Will I ever meet someone I'm truly attracted to?
Q. Have you ever saw the movie Becoming Jane with Anne Hathaway, who plays the role of Jane Austen, the English writer who never got married because she couldn't marry the one she truly loved. Well, I feel just like her. I'm 32 years old and never be...
A. 31 October 2009: There is a fine line between settling and having impossible standards.
On the other, if there are some people who fall in love all the time, then perhaps there are also people simply do not fall in love.
It might be time to ask yourself, what i... (read in full...)
My man masturbates on a regular basis but won't do it in front of me...
Q. Dear Cupid, my man masturbates on a regular basis but he won't do in front of me. He claims its something he has to do in private. And when he does it he has to watch porn to perform it usually oral sex clips. My question is I wouldn't mind him ...
A. 31 October 2009: Perhaps give him a show yourself? See what happens?
But as for the reason for masturbation, you might be surprised. Sometimes we just do it, to get it out of the way.
Think of it as eating, sometimes you enjoy a fine meal and sometimes you ju... (read in full...)
What do you class as cheating?
Q. OK, I wanted the aunts views on this.... What would you class as cheating?.... naughty phonecalls, texts, emails, pictures, thinking about someone else, a kiss, or full sexual contact?... My reason for asking is that I checked my bf's emails o...
A. 31 October 2009: Challenge to the reader... can YOU spot the red flag?
"My reason for asking is that I checked my bf's emails on facebook and he had some messages to and from another girl.. they were flirting and he'd said she was sexy then at one point he said ... (read in full...)
At 16 I'm Pregnant with my teacher's child
Q. MOD NOTE: Poster is in a vulnerable situation, aunts DO NOT give nasty or negative advice PLEASE!!! Oh my God!Even me myself don't know what to do. I'm 16 years old.For the past year,since I started high school(it's the way in Macedonia-from 15...
A. 30 October 2009: Alright, you are thinking of keeping the baby.
That is going to be hard. It would be a brave choice... if it is a choice and you are not just running away from making a hard decision.
You see. In my mind your post fails at the end. You cry "do... (read in full...)
No guy will like me, they all just want sex. I just want to crawl into a black hole and not come out. Can someone help me?
Q. Okay so me and my well now ex have been dating for about a year and a half. I was 16 when I met him and we started dating when I turned 17. I'm 18 now and he's 21. We recently broke up for I don't even remember, but he "joked" that he wants to get ...
A. 30 October 2009: You feel dumb. Well, that is good, maybe it will encourage you to be smart in the future.
A lot of women use "I love him" as an excuse to stop thinking. You did. What you told here it must have been very clear that this guy is a loser and asshole.... (read in full...)
Is 8 partners too many at my age?
Q. Im 20 and have been having sex since i was 17. i have had 8 partners and when i told my new bf he looked shocked. he said it was becouse im not loose down there. but i feel like he thought that was alot. is 8 partners at my age to many?...
A. 30 October 2009: Is it? The question should be answered by yourself.
My personal answer, for me, as a man, would be yes. It does not fit my personality. You been active for 3 years. You mean SEXUAL partners, so lets assume that you also had 4 relations that did... (read in full...)
How do females get labeled?
Q. hey ok question most girls seem to think because your not having sex guys wouldnt call u a slut...or any sexual preference of any kind... is there anythi ng else females can do that they can get labeles as a slut?...
A. 30 October 2009: Simple, you take them to the vet and they got a special gun that puts the label in their ear.
That way, if they got lost, they can be returned to their rightful owner.... (read in full...)
My 17 year old daughter hasn't had her period. Any advice?
Q. I have a 17 year old daughter that has not started her period. I have taken her to several doctors. Does anyone have advice or information on this subject?...
A. 30 October 2009: None of the doctors have come up with anything yet? Has she been to a gynecologist yet? If not, why not?
... (read in full...)
Should I have an affair on my husband?
Q. Soon after getting married, my husband had an unfortunate incident where he became paralysed, resulting in us not being able to have a sex life. I love my husband dearly and I did not leave him. I look after him and attend to him the best way I ...
A. 27 October 2009: How would you feel if the situation was reversed? And don't lie the easy lie. How would you really feel?
This is one of the those things we prefer not to think about. For better or worse, but without ever considering how bad the worse can be if it... (read in full...)
How do you tell guys you don't like certain things about them without hurting their ego?
Q. Well here's the thing. I am currently with my boyfriend of almost 2 years. He is about 11 years older than I am and I'm in my 20's. I am very happy with him he treats me better than most other guys but lately he's starting to be a bit controlling. ...
A. 25 October 2009: "I am very happy with him he treats me better than most other guys"
Wow. High standards! Especially the MOST bit. So if 5 out of 10 guys kick you in the gut and 1 punches you while four do not hurt you at all, you go for the gut puncher?... (read in full...)
Is an hour for sex too long?
Q. Sex with my fiance' usually lasts 45 min to an hour. She complains that it takes me too long, but i have "trained myself" to last like this, and now its difficult to have an orgasm in a hurry (less than 15 min). She complains about it, but I though...
A. 25 October 2009: This is a common problem. What is too long and what is too short.
And yes, an hour is to long. Because we are not talking about making love here, we are talking intercourse.
Imagine chewing bubblegum, for an hour. Wouldn't your jaw get tired? S... (read in full...)
How can anybody tell when an autistic person needs them?
Q. i'm dating someone on the autistic spectrum i know because my dad is, sister and other members of my family so i picked up on a few things. for example my boyfriend doesn't like too many hugs. he can't cope with anyone but me drinking from his...
A. 25 October 2009: Just a note of warning. Sometimes an asshole is just an asshole. It is becoming very easy to find an excuse in the form of a mental condition.
I am saying this because the other two posters so far seem to have taken your amateur assumpti... (read in full...)
Is it normal to get engaged so quickly?
Q. Hi. I have a relationship question. My ex and I dated for 5 years. We were in love with each other, and he was ready to get married. I constantly told him that I wanted to marry him, but I just wasn't ready to get married by the time I was 23. When ...
A. 25 October 2009: Is it normal to want to get married, but not get married? You made your choice, they made theirs.... (read in full...)
Sex after having a baby
Q. I just had a baby and during labor i tore real bad. i didnt tear down i tore on the side. and it goes real deep in my vagina. its heeled up now but it hurts to touch it and wipe and i have been holding off on sex till my 6 week doc visit. well its ...
A. 25 October 2009: Wait for the doctor to give you the all clear and not before and then take it REALLY slow and with lots of preperation and lube. You could even try with a didlo so you won't have to be afraid of a horny guy pushing to hard. Yes it might hurt, y... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to not be ready for sex after 4 years together?
Q. Is it wrong for me to not be ready for sex when my boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years on and off? My boyfriend keeps breaking up with me for the non-sex part and than wants to get back together with me. We had around 5 breakups. Each ...
A. 24 October 2009: Well, you haven't been together for 4 years, have you? You broke up 5 times. Each time over you refusing to have sex, making it pretty clear why he is with you.
You don't want to have sex, because you are unsure, well, who can blame you. You say ... (read in full...)
How do I obtain a dildo?
Q. I want a dildo, I am 17 and i want a dildo very badly. Every website i go to says 18.. and every store i have been to asks for I.D.. There is no way i am asking my mum to buy me one and i have tried other homemade objects and it's not doi...
A. 24 October 2009: Wow. I think we found the first person who when asked to verify their age, tells the truth.
A rare find.
As for everyday object, those toothbrushes with a battery inside or a Gilette razor for men that also vibrates?... (read in full...)
My best friend has a history of cheating and is now attracted to me!
Q. One of my best male friends is currently in a long-distance relationship, and has been for about two months now. He has a history of infidelity but he insists that this time around, he has changed for good and will remain faithful. I tend to ...
A. 22 October 2009: There once was a mouse, it was sitting on the kitching counter and could see the WHOLE kitchen and all the other mice.
One mouse was sitting on the floor. A cat walked in, it ate the mouse.
Another mouse sat on the chair, the cat jumped up an... (read in full...)
Is it ever ok to give an ultimatum?
Q. Ok everyone I need your advice. Is it ever ok to give an ultimatum? I have been with my boyfriend for five years and I have had it. We have been in the same holding pattern for the last three to four years not moving forward not moving backward only ...
A. 22 October 2009: What angry spells? You say it as almost an afterthought but it does give me the impression that something more is going on? What exactly?... (read in full...)
Think I've met ''The One" but I've slept with two of his best friends..help!.
Q. I am 26 yrs old. I split up with my boyfriend in March, which was a mutual decision, even though we were both very upset to let it go. Since then I have been partying a lot, drinking and doing drugs to get out of my head. Not good! In June went...
A. 22 October 2009: You think you met the one, and sleep with someone else.
and now you are asking wether the best way to start a relationship after all, is to start it with a lie.
It all depends on him. Personally, I would call you flakey as hell and getting clos... (read in full...)
Guys: did you give it another go if you thought she was worth it?
Q. Hey Guys, I was involved with someone 3 months ago. We were only seeing each other for about 6 weeks, it was a long distance thing. However, we talked on the phone daily for hours and text'd message in between, etc. We clicked extremely...
A. 21 October 2009: Yeah, sometimes we do contact ex'es. But it might be just to give it another try to get into her pants. Your over her, but since you spend some energy, you might as well give it another go. Just a small warning, not all ex'es who contact want you... (read in full...)
Why does he go soft during sex?
Q. Me and my husband been together for 4 years, our sex life has been very good.but up to now when he foreplays and oral sex, and touches me, he gets really hard but when we start having sex he gets soft in the middle of having it.i get upset because i ...
A. 19 October 2009: Are you always 100% wet, your nipples stay rock hard the entire way through? Unlikely, lube isn't sold for nothing.
Men, don't have such a simple aid, the slightest blip, and it shows. Men can't fake an orgasm.
And the stress gets to men. And... (read in full...)
What does it mean when someone send you two blank text messages?
Q. What does it mean when someone send you two blank text messages?...
A. 19 October 2009: That they butt-dialed. ... (read in full...)
Can my abusive ex be any different second time around?
Q. My abusive ex bf wants me back. But I dont understand why. The reason he dumped me in the first place was because I wouldn't let him control and abuse me, I would stand up for myself. So why would he want me back if I stood up for myself? Does h...
A. 19 October 2009: You have changed? How exactly? You are still intrested in the same guy, still getting the hots for an abuser.
If you haven't changed, why would he?... (read in full...)
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