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| | TELLULAH's profile:Hi, I have been through loads in my life. Marriage break up, boyfriend break ups, and been a single parent. I have been treated really bad sometimes, but i think this is all to do with life. I dont hold grudges, and have a good sence of humour. I just love all my friends and family, and have loads of support from them. So i thought i could share that with a few of you. I have asked for advice a few times. You dont always want to hear it, but there are some smart people out there.
I have now found, after a lot of searching, my soul mate. But lifes not all a bed of roses for us. But he keeps me smiling, well most of the time anyway. |
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I think her BF is cheating on her, and I like her. What should I do, forget her?
Q. Hi all Got myself a bit of a pickle. Last weekend i was out with my mates and we ended up in a nightclub. I met this really really nice girl there, we ended up dancin and talkin for ages. tho she was very shy and kept smiling whenever i looke...
A. 6 May 2008: Advice is:: Dont get involved. If you tell her she will not thank you for it believe me!
I know its hard when you like someone, but the fact is she is taken and didnt use your number, so that is a clear indication that she wants her boyfriend. If h... (read in full...)
Is it over or can we save this destructive relationship??
Q. Hi I'm in a situation and I don't know what to do. I'm going out with my boyfriend nearly 3 years and we moved in together last September, things have got pretty bad since we moved in together. I'm just not happy anymore and I don't think he is ...
A. 6 May 2008: Hi!
This is so weird because my son and his girlfriend are in exactly the same situation, even down to the fact they have just been on holiday together. I joined them on part of it and they seemed fine but told me they were going to split up. They... (read in full...)
Does anybody have experience of getting back after splitting-up??
Q. My partner left me in the fall of last year and since then I've been looking after her daughter and our 5 kids and I'm coping pretty terribly. The eldest three are teenagers so they don't really need any looking after but the younger three are ...
A. 6 May 2008: Wow!! why did she leave all the kids with you?. Im a mum and no way would I leave my children.
And dont say your not a good dad, you cant be that bad as you have kept the family together, with no help. So hats off to you, because I know many men ... (read in full...)
Will he expect me to sleep with him? We've been sex texting and I sent him a raunchy picture of myself...
Q. I have been sex texting (quite explicit) a guy and sent him a raunchy picture of myself. He is taking me out for dinner next week. Do you think he will be expecting me to sleep with him as I've sent him these raunchy messages? I have already been ...
A. 2 May 2008: What do you think!!! of course he will be expecting it. You have given him the signal that you are up for it by sending him pictures and messages. If you were young and not old enough to know better, I would think you were just a bit naive. But your ... (read in full...)
I am very inexperienced with sex and relationships, and was raped 6 years ago by a bf, now I've started dating a new guy...but I need some advice!
Q. Hi I've never posted here before, and I kind of need some advice. I'm in my late 20's, and am going out on a third date with a guy I've known for a couple of months. We get along really well and really dig each other. The thing is, I know that in ...
A. 2 May 2008: Hi, Sorry to hear that was your first experience, it must have been awfull. But you have dealt with it and got on with your life, so that is brilliant.
Maybe you could just tell your partner that you dont have much experience and need to take thin... (read in full...)
I feel rejected because my ex is with a younger woman. Is he self destructing?
Q. Hello - two months ago I broke up with my 40 year old boyfriend but I hoped it would just be a separation. I haven't contacted him and was surprised that he hadn't contacted me but now I have found out that he is seeing a 26 year old girl. I am ...
A. 2 May 2008: Honey! I was with a guy for nearly 12 years, and he made most of it misserable. Eventually I plucked up the courage and left the bugger. He then went out with an American girl who was almost 20 years younger than me. Although I didnt want him, I ... (read in full...)
I feel there are three people in this marrage: my husband, I, the wife and his ex girlfriend! Am I overreacting?
Q. I have been married for over a year now. my husband has become distant in our relationship. I recently found a bill with calls and texts to one number on a daily basis, ranging from one up to six times a day for the last 3 months. I confronted my h...
A. 2 May 2008: No I dont!
How dare he do that behind your back, then tell you that you are over-reacting. He is your husband and he should tell you everything important. If he is phoning her a few times a day, I would say thats pretty important. Sorry but his ... (read in full...)
How Do I Play Hard To Get In a 6 month Relationship?
Q. Hello Friends, please advise me on what I should do. I met a man 6 months ago and we fell deeply in love. Or at least I fell very hard for him and told him this right away, thanks to my vodka tonic. What I liked about him was that he is extr...
A. 2 May 2008: I dont understand then! The world is your oyster, so why bother with him if he cant be bothered himself.... (read in full...)
I am driving myself insane wondering if am I a fool to think he will not repeat his past as soon as we get into problems?!?
Q. Really need some unbiased advice. Sorry this is long, feel you need enough information as possible. I can't stop worrying about whether or not my partner will cheat on me eventually. I am finding it so hard to trust him, but I can't break up w...
A. 2 May 2008: This is a really hard one, because your partner has already proved that when the going gets tough he lines up the next girl.
He has a point that you should not be with a person if they dont like your child, but I find it disturbing that he cann... (read in full...)
My cousin's friend is awaiting for my answer to decide if he will travel to work overseas or stay here to love me!... What to do??
Q. please can someone telll me what they think may be going on here. I met this guy who is a friend of my cousin. i thought he was really irritating to be honest although gorgeous but now i think i love him!!! Firstly we met and we didnt have much ...
A. 2 May 2008: Blimey that is long!!
Well! He likes you otherwise he wouldnt come over, and you like him or you would have said "No dont bother" so I dont understand what your problem is really.... (read in full...)
How can one use somebody for sex and NOT feel guilty??
Q. How do guys (or girls) who use someone for sex, sleep at night? I mean honestly I just dont understand how they can use someone for sex and not feel guilty at all. What makes them think its OK to use someone like that? What goes on in there mind? ...
A. 2 May 2008: I have wondered this myself. But I think that its just a case of one person will get attached and the other wont. I have always thought that sex should be with a person that you love, but many of my friends would not agree, and think its fine to ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 2 May 2008: Uncle Phil is right babe!! dont hang it out anymore than you have to. Except he is gone and have a good cry, but for goodness sake dont let those solicitors have any more of your money. Even if they get him to admit he is the biggest ar**hole in the ... (read in full...)
Do you think he'll cheat? He has his cell phone off! I don't even know if it counts as cheating!
Q. Me and my BF are kind of on a break... He went out of town and is returning on Saturday. Just before going away yesterday, we fought and he dumped me. I had seen him a few days before. he almost criend when he said he'd miss me. I gave him my...
A. 2 May 2008: Just because he has his phone off, does not mean he would cheat. You are running ahead of yourself a bit, but I dont blame you in the slightest. He should not give you mixed messages, and make you think that you are getting back together, if your ... (read in full...)
My son was accused of attacking a family member, now my husband and I are having problems. Can you please help?
Q. A year back one of my husband's sisters-in-law saaid in front of every one that my son try to attack her. She was telling lies to proove my son wrong in front of all the family members. She is a currupt person, but still all the family members ...
A. 2 May 2008: This is more common than you think, so your not alone. My partner has hardly spoken to his brother for 15 years. All because the brothers wife said something completely stupid but very hurtfull at a family gathering. The family have all learned to ... (read in full...)
How Do I Play Hard To Get In a 6 month Relationship?
Q. Hello Friends, please advise me on what I should do. I met a man 6 months ago and we fell deeply in love. Or at least I fell very hard for him and told him this right away, thanks to my vodka tonic. What I liked about him was that he is extr...
A. 2 May 2008: Personally I think that it rather soon to be playing games for either of you. There is obviously an atraction for both of you, but both playing hard to get?
I really hope that this isnt a taste of what you have to come if you stay with this man.... (read in full...)
Went to a foreign country and slept with 3 male prostitutes. Should I tell my husband?
Q. I had sex with 3 male prostitutes last week while visiting a foreign country with my female friend. I feel so guilty now, and I want to tell my husband. I know he will most likely leave me though and we have two children, one is just 6 weeks old and ...
A. 1 May 2008: Most people in your situation would have done the same? Sorry I dont think so!!!! Your just trying to make yourself feel better love. You acted like a complete slut, and are trying to justify it by blaming it on the size of your husbands penis.
E... (read in full...)
My wife wants to be painted nude. Is this normal?
Q. Hi my wife would like to have a nude painting done of her and is quite turned on by that fact that people will see it. is this normal or what...
A. 1 May 2008: I adore nude art, I think its wonderfull that your wife would want to do this. She must be very secure with the way she looks, and thats such a wonderfull thing to hear in this day and age.
Suport her, and let her know that you are a unco... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 1 May 2008: Honey!! I cant believe that you called him. Its so obvious that he doesnt want anything to do with you, why keep hurting yourself. You know deep down that the only reason you called him was to get him to respond to you!! I dont know why you bother? ... (read in full...)
Does a relationship with a married man ever work?
Q. I was in an unhappy marriage,ready to leave.Met this married man and fell in love.Subsequently i drifted out of my marriage.Now am together with the married man,he really loves me and helps me out alot both financially and emotionally.Will it really ...
A. 30 April 2008: My partner was married when we got together (they were unhappy though). The only advice I would give to you, is let him leave her first then you can be with him without having any mud thrown at you. Its very hard to live with the fact you broke up a ... (read in full...)
Am I the only one who thinks it is wrong for married guys to flirt too much?
Q. Hey guys, I have a bit of a common problem, I guess. This guy at my work clearly has a 'thing' for me. He also happens to be married. In my eyes this is inappropriate in itself, but someone told me once there is a line. Supposedly some actions ...
A. 30 April 2008: It really depends on how bad his flirting is. If it offends you, its inapropriate and should be stopped. Some girls can take this behavour with a pinch of salt and other's cant. You have to make up your own mind, if this is really a matter that ... (read in full...)
He seems to be no longer interested in sex and I am getting a strong impression that he feels that we are a bit past all that !
Q. Iam a 53 yr old woman and having relationship problems with my husband of 30 years and it is now to the point where i am having moments of serious anguish.He seems to be no longer interested in sex and I am getting a strong impression that he feels ...
A. 30 April 2008: Its such a shame, but very common. My partner has had a pretty wild past, and now he is with me he says that sex isnt important to him anymore. I was really upset about this, because I felt un-loved and it really hurt. When I finally got him to talk ... (read in full...)
Would you feel a bit rejected, even though it was first night sex?
Q. Ok guys, if you had amazing sex after a first date after loads of talking. You sent her lots of messages saying how fantastic it was and you wanted to continue with it. But, the girl suddenly backed down a bit and said she was unsure and confu...
A. 30 April 2008: I would think you are being a bit to keen. Its lovely that you want to see her again and have not just used her for sex. You sound like a really nice guy, so just hold back a little.........well that my advice anyway.... (read in full...)
I'm the perfect guy for her, but she thinks she doesn't deserve me!
Q. hey to all.. Im a bit down. Yesterday i asked a question on how to ak a girl out to be my girlfriend.. Well thanks for all the advice i got from my family.. Thats now you guys!!!! Uhm i did ask her out, although i didnt the answer thati wanted but ...
A. 29 April 2008: You are the kind of guy that us girls dont apreciate until we have worked our way through some stinker's.
This girl has been honest with you, so take it as a compliment. Your girl will come along one day, it may even be this one. But for now just... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is now starting to feel unloved and blame himself as my Church back ground teaches sex is bad!
Q. This portion has already been posted, but I would like to add to it.....I am 24 years old and I am a virgin. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. I love him with all of my heart and want to marry him but I am so scared to have sex. I was ...
A. 29 April 2008: I really feel sorry for your predicament, but you should not have to have sex just to make your boyfriend feel loved. You have chosen to stay a virgin until you get married, there is nothing wrong with that. But also there is nothing wrong with ... (read in full...)
Sex chatting on the internet to chat to men, is this cheating my husband?
Q. help me..i have a good husband, my problem is i have a high sex drive and i have turned to sex chatting on the internet to chat to men. Is this cheating, what is wrong with me,i feel guilty afterwards, i just so frustrated. Anytime i want sex with...
A. 29 April 2008: Sorry!! but yes its wrong. And I'm sure that your husband would see it as cheating.... (read in full...)
I want to trust my husband but I don't think he cares if he loses me or not!
Q. I have been married for slightly over a year and into our 4th month of marriage I found a text where my husband is saying he is thinking about some other girl. I asked that he stop talking to her and he didn't. Then once again I asked and he did ...
A. 29 April 2008: Are you sure that they are not just mates? If your sure then he sounds like a complete rotter. I would call his bluff and throw him out, if he refuses to give up with this girl and you have doubts about him being faithfull.
Its horrible that he is t... (read in full...)
How to ask a girl out - please help
Q. well.. How are all my favourite people doing ha? I need help! Theres this girl! She is single... Im single.. We see each other a lot i guess! We kissed once before. We both said that we would love to do it again.. So ja heres the help i need. uh...
A. 28 April 2008: I'm OK thanks, although it would be a lot better if I could win the lottery. Oh well never mind!!
Anyway!!to your problem sweetheart.
Right well! there is definatly an attraction between you both, so that's the hard part over with. So that lea... (read in full...)
How long does it take for somebody's feelings to heal after abuse?
Q. Hi my husband and I are trying to build our relationship back. He left me because I was being mean to him, I used to put him down as a lover and call him names. Since then I have done everything to prove to him that I love him and that I've changed. ...
A. 28 April 2008: Even better babe X... (read in full...)
Is it ok to put a golf ball in your girlfriend's vagina? Just throwing that out there....
Q. is it ok to put a golf ball in you girlfriends vagina and the have sex with it still in there and when your done swollow it?...
A. 28 April 2008: Eh! What swollow the golf ball?
Are you bleeding mad, it will choke you.
Eyeswide!!!!! what about a space hopper?
XX... (read in full...)
Said he loves me, but he can't commit. This was obviously a fling???
Q. I have been seeing this guy.. he says he hasnt been with any other girl in 3 yrs.. and well I'm from a traditional Catholic family.. so u know I'm still virginal'and all.. and the other night he and I got too far (heavy petting, but no sex- i ...
A. 28 April 2008: Maybe! or it could be that he respected your wishes and didnt lie to you just to get you to sleep with him.... (read in full...)
So many women would pay to see me naked, so how can I change her "errors" about premarital sex?
Q. I am hoping that some of the aunts on this site can help me with my problem. I am an extremely handsome, smart and funny 28 year old male. I have an excellent job and earn a very substantial sum of money indeed. I have two Ferraris and live in a ...
A. 28 April 2008: Sounds like he should have the bat up his ar** loosened. Stop fighting them off Phil, you know you want it!!! he!he!... (read in full...)
How long does it take for somebody's feelings to heal after abuse?
Q. Hi my husband and I are trying to build our relationship back. He left me because I was being mean to him, I used to put him down as a lover and call him names. Since then I have done everything to prove to him that I love him and that I've changed. ...
A. 28 April 2008: See!!!! it takes time.
You go and have a really good time, and love will come back when you least expect it.
XX... (read in full...)
How long does it take for somebody's feelings to heal after abuse?
Q. Hi my husband and I are trying to build our relationship back. He left me because I was being mean to him, I used to put him down as a lover and call him names. Since then I have done everything to prove to him that I love him and that I've changed. ...
A. 28 April 2008: I think if what you say is true, he has made a fantastic effort to try again. Those feelings dont just happen, and he could be waiting for you to revert back to how you were. The only thing you can do is prove to him that it wont happen, is to give ... (read in full...)
So many women would pay to see me naked, so how can I change her "errors" about premarital sex?
Q. I am hoping that some of the aunts on this site can help me with my problem. I am an extremely handsome, smart and funny 28 year old male. I have an excellent job and earn a very substantial sum of money indeed. I have two Ferraris and live in a ...
A. 28 April 2008: I dunno!!! you sound a bit wingy (british for complete twat) to me. If your so fantastic why do you have so many ex's then? Maybe this lady can see you for what you really are, just a user for sex. ... (read in full...)
Clueless about how to dress alternatively?
Q. hey im thinking of changing my style. i want to become an indie but i have no idea about the fashions, hairstyles and music - i know that sounds a bit wierd bieng as i just said i want to be one but i want to be away from the mainstream fash...
A. 25 April 2008: Oh! I'm so sorry I didnt look properly at your post, and thought you were a girl. LJ001 gave you some good points, its about being diiferent. You could wear what you want really.... (read in full...)
Do girls make passes at guys with glasses?
Q. Do girls think guys with glasses are nerdy? Im tall, 6'2, im not horribly thin but i am not that muscular and i have glasses so basically i am the normal tall,skinny,nerd. I was wondering if getting contacts would make me more attractive, w...
A. 24 April 2008: My partner is quite skinny and wears glasses. I think he is sex on legs. I love it that he's a bit nerdy looking, and I have never been atracted to the typical good looking man. So no!! dont change, there are loads of girls out there that will like ... (read in full...)
Clueless about how to dress alternatively?
Q. hey im thinking of changing my style. i want to become an indie but i have no idea about the fashions, hairstyles and music - i know that sounds a bit wierd bieng as i just said i want to be one but i want to be away from the mainstream fash...
A. 24 April 2008: Hi darling,
Well a person with true style never follows anybody else. You should only wear what suits you, and that may not be what everyone else is wearing. Be individual, thats what Indie is all about.
Buy some trendy magazines, Elle do a junior... (read in full...)
My husband left me for his young mistress. Will they work out in the future?
Q. i am the typical story of the wife whos husband left for the young mistress. im sick of hearing that a husband never leaves in those circumstances because im proof that they do. He was happy until she came into the equation and then he completely ...
A. 24 April 2008: Then!! I wish you every happiness I really do. If my partner had wanted to go back to his wife, I would have let him go. Of course I would be upset and devastated (thats only natural if you fall in love) but I would understand. Its like I said ... (read in full...)
I was his mistress and now we are together. Why am I still competing with the wife?
Q. i am a 21 yr old who is dating a 33 yr old man. He left his wife for me and i believe he loves me very much as do i him. He has 3 kids who absolutely dispise me as well as alot of financial stuff from his past with his wife.I know his wife is still ...
A. 24 April 2008: Hi,
Although I agree that a married man should be off limits, it depends on the situation. There must be trouble at home, because if he was happy he wouldnt have gone with you would he?. Its true that sometimes the grass can look greener, and you ... (read in full...)
My husband left me for his young mistress. Will they work out in the future?
Q. i am the typical story of the wife whos husband left for the young mistress. im sick of hearing that a husband never leaves in those circumstances because im proof that they do. He was happy until she came into the equation and then he completely ...
A. 24 April 2008: Looweez,
I think that you miss the point. Are you saying that just because a man or woman no longer love thier partner, that they should stay in an unhappy relationship, just to please the other person. Also, why! wouldnt you care about a pers... (read in full...)
My husband left me for his young mistress. Will they work out in the future?
Q. i am the typical story of the wife whos husband left for the young mistress. im sick of hearing that a husband never leaves in those circumstances because im proof that they do. He was happy until she came into the equation and then he completely ...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi,
It may not be that you would want to hear from me, as I am in the same position as your husbands present partner. Although I am not younger, than my boyfriends (still) wife, the situation is the same.
My boyfriend keeps close contact with his... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 14 April 2008: I kind of agree with the last poster. Solicitors will do anything to earn some more out of the poor sod going through this pain.
Really it doesnt matter what you divorce him for, its not as if he will have lying cheating sh** across his head. No b... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 10 March 2008: I wish I could give you a hug, I knew you would get there in the end.
Hip Hip Horah XXXXXX... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 5 March 2008: Thank God!!! you are actually staring to fight this man back. I can also tell you why he cant look you in the face, it's guilt nothing else. For whatever reason he has for his actions, does not mean you have to take it laying down.
Go for what... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 1 March 2008: Hi Honey,
Reading your post, I can see that you have still got extremely strong feelings for this man. I know that its hard to let go of any hope, but I think that your husband has proved over and over again that you have no option. He has move... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 13 November 2007: Hiya!
I am so pleased for you, your sounding so much better, and a hell of a lot more positive. Good for you.
Its so nice when you try and help someone and they feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel, and then they begin to see that... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 20 September 2007: Hi,
I have been sitting reading what has happened to you with a lump in my throat. Its so sad when you are in love with someone who falls for someone else. I should know this has happened to me.
But surely by now you can see that the only time he ... (read in full...)
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