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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Girlfriend and I like different things in the bedroom? Do I stop liking anal? Or what?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 4 years now, since she was 17 and I was 18. We were both virgins (if that matters at all). We have amazing sex and often use toys, ties, etc. There is however one shameful problem with our sex lif...
A. 13 April 2016: Check out http://yourbrainonporn.com for help with letting go of watching the porn stuff.
As for the aversion therapy, studies have shown you don’t actually have to do anything physical. You just need to become aware of your thought patterns. The ... (read in full...)
How can I best deal with my insistent ex? He's weirding me out
Q. My ex has reached out 5 years after we broke up. We haven't seen each other since we broke up. He has intermittently throughout the 5 years making efforts to keep talking, but I moved countries, grew up, had new experiences blah blah I feel li...
A. 10 April 2016: Okay, if that’s too short and not emotional enough, I think WiseOwlE had a nice way to put it. Let me rephrase for you.
“Hi, Ferdinand, I received your message about meeting up. I appreciate that you would like to get together to ‘catch up.’ You ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong for not letting him move in?
Q. I met a ma online. We chatted and he gave me his number. I didn't call until a week later. He wanted to meet that day I was reluctantly and wanted to wait until the following Saturday. He agreed but tried to send a facechat call. I declined. We ...
A. 10 April 2016: “We met on Saturday and he asked for an account number so that he could pay a bill I told him no thank you. “
That moment right there should have told you that you are dealing either with a con man or a man who is just not right in the head.
Which... (read in full...)
If a guy has a wart on his penis, then is it genital warts ? And for how long can genital warts be dormant in a person?
Q. Hi all my boyfriend has a wart on his penis which he is not sure where it came from. We have been together for nearly 3 years and I know he has been completely faithful as am I. I don't have any warts or anything. My question is, For how lon...
A. 10 April 2016: This is a medical question, and as such, should be directed to your medical health providers. I did find you a link: http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Genital_warts/Pages/Introduction.aspx
"How do they spread?
Genital warts can be spread during vaginal ... (read in full...)
How can I best deal with my insistent ex? He's weirding me out
Q. My ex has reached out 5 years after we broke up. We haven't seen each other since we broke up. He has intermittently throughout the 5 years making efforts to keep talking, but I moved countries, grew up, had new experiences blah blah I feel li...
A. 10 April 2016: “This isn’t a good time for us to ‘catch up.’ Thanks for reaching out but I will have to pass at this time. I realize that you have made an effort to keep in contact but this is no longer a relationship I care to continue, intermittent though ... (read in full...)
I need my mother to understand why I want to move out!
Q. Hello everyone, I'm 24, employed and living at home. I've been helping out with bills etc and when my mom told me she was buying a house with my stepfather I got concerned because I've been wanting to move out for ages. She doesn't make a lot and ...
A. 8 April 2016: I don’t think your mother would have any trouble understanding why you’d want to move out. I think what you’re afraid of is that she won’t accept it as a happy thing. There’s not much you can do about resetting her cultural norms, that’s just ... (read in full...)
30 years and she still wont listen to the truth!
Q. Just found out some one I like over thirty years ago been mad at me all this time, our last date she thought I put something in her drink, a drug, I didn't, she left me that night and went home with this other guy, who was trying to make me out the ...
A. 8 April 2016: You’ve told her the truth, she’s just chosen not to accept it. I would stop trying. Some things just can’t be fixed. Especially 30 years later... it’s past time for you to let this go.... (read in full...)
What should I do so he could leave me alone without hurting his feelings?
Q. My ex and I broke up about a week or 2 ago because he felt as though we weren't "compatible". I ve been coping with it and I honestly don t want to talk to him nor see him because it makes getting over him easier. Ever since we broke up he s been ...
A. 8 April 2016: Feelings schmeelings, indeed! CindyCares has this one completely covered.
Just tell him it’s going to be up to you to decide when and if contact will be made for the time being, then merrily block his number on your phone. Set up your email so anyt... (read in full...)
Am I in a position to help her? or should others advise her instead?
Q. I'm having a moral dilemma, me and my exgf broke up over a year ago, a few months ago we decided to be friends again since we shared the same group of friends. So I'm dating my current girlfriend for over 3 months now, I've made an effort for my c...
A. 8 April 2016: My high school boyfriend broke up with me shortly before the end of school. I was upset at the time, I remember. I started talking to this super-hot guy who went to a different school. I didn’t know him well at all, but it turned out he was a bit of ... (read in full...)
In debt and I'm feeling low. Is there a way to get through all this pressure?
Q. I feel my life is going down a dark hole. me and my ex decided to give our relationship another go but hes made no effort and is on a dating site , he doesnt know that i know hes on there (my friend told me so i checked it out myself ) i have 1 ...
A. 8 April 2016: I would spend as much time as possible on trying to find a job that works for you. You seem to be putting a great deal of emphasis on the boyfriend and not enough on getting yourself set up to be independent.
Talk to family and friends about relo... (read in full...)
Not sure if he was trying to steal from me?
Q. Hi everyone, I have an odd question, maybe, I think it's odd anyway. I think my boyfriend has tried to steal money from me. I won't go into too much detail but we are long distance and when I come to visit him, I will sometimes stay in cheap h...
A. 8 April 2016: This sounds like you really don’t trust him. If you are LDR, you think you see semen stains on his trousers and that he smells of someone else’s perfume and you think he’s been in your wallet?
You could set him up by leaving money where he’d find... (read in full...)
What would be the easiest way to get rid of my feelings for her?
Q. I'm looking for the easiest way to get rid of feelings for someone. I'm in a very odd situation with a girl that I know. Basically we started out as fwb, it messed up when I wanted more but she said she wasn't ready for a relationship aft...
A. 8 April 2016: You want the “easiest way to get rid of feelings for someone.” Ah. The shortcut to not feeling bad about something.
I believe that if that existed we’d all know about it. But as we don’t, you are here asking an age-old question.
I’m a big fan of m... (read in full...)
Do I expose his lies or just blank him ?
Q. Hi everyone 4 week ago me and my ex decided to give our relationship another go he spun me lines and i fell for them. My friend is on a dating site and saw him on there so told me im glad she did , im tempted to message him and tell him liars al...
A. 7 April 2016: I think the confrontation you think you’ll have when you show him the evidence that he’s on a dating site probably won’t go entirely to your plan. I guess the question for you is, what do you hope to get out of a personal confrontation? An angry ... (read in full...)
Am I in a position to help her? or should others advise her instead?
Q. I'm having a moral dilemma, me and my exgf broke up over a year ago, a few months ago we decided to be friends again since we shared the same group of friends. So I'm dating my current girlfriend for over 3 months now, I've made an effort for my c...
A. 7 April 2016: Sam, have you tried simply telling her what he’d said to you and your male friends?... (read in full...)
My Bf had two pictures of his ex in his jacket pocket. Now what do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having the same recurring issue. When we first moved in I found a letter from his ex, from when they were going out. I got mad at him and told him to throw all the stuff out. Now today, 3 months after I look into his ...
A. 7 April 2016: Hi Midsummer, I hope that job situation with your new boss was all sorted out? And you have managed to find a place to eat lunch? And paying for the rent and utilities has all been sorted out with your boyfriend?
Anyway, yes, you have had seve... (read in full...)
Should I let him do things his way? Or am I right in feeling this way about his reluctance to introduce my daughter to his family??
Q. Hello, I apologize for the novel and thank you in advance to those who take the time to read and offer any advice! I am a 24 yr old female with a daughter and have been in a relationship with 27yr old male for a little over a year and a half ...
A. 7 April 2016: I think my vote would be to keep the daughter from experiencing a judgmental family to the extent that they pretend someone doesn’t exist because it doesn’t fit into pre-conceived notions. It’s possible and probable based on their behavior that you ... (read in full...)
Is it morally wrong, and selfish on my part to tell him how I feel, and tear him away from this woman?
Q. I dated a slightly older man for about a year and half until I left to finish my college education. We had decided to break what we had off since we weren't keen on the idea of a long distance relation ship and we had different goals to focus on...
A. 7 April 2016: He’s an EX with a life plan which doesn’t include you. I’d get on with the business of building your own life plan. This will be a good lesson for you going forward: if you really want a relationship with somebody, you find a way to make it work.
Y... (read in full...)
She can’t have a simple argument, she blows everything out of proportion! I’m in a pickle!
Q. I have been in a relationship with a woman for the last three years. Throughout that time we in the main have been really really happy. We don't live together but have spent a lot of time with each other. When we do occasionally have the odd ...
A. 6 April 2016: When you two are both calm, I’d talk with her about fighting fair. Leaving someone 100 miles from home with no transport is not fighting fair. Going silent for a month after a fight? Also not fighting fair.
A self-help guru posted a list of rule... (read in full...)
Girlfriend and I like different things in the bedroom? Do I stop liking anal? Or what?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 4 years now, since she was 17 and I was 18. We were both virgins (if that matters at all). We have amazing sex and often use toys, ties, etc. There is however one shameful problem with our sex lif...
A. 6 April 2016: You’re liking anal or you are obsessed with it? There’s a bit of a difference there. I like peppers but they don’t like me back, as the saying goes. So I don’t eat them. No big deal. I’m not obsessed with the peppers to the extent that I eat them ... (read in full...)
What considered proper etiquette for college evaluation visits?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for years We now live together. He has been divorced for 16 years and his 17 year old son has recently started looking at colleges. So far he and his ex wife and son have done day trips but they may turn into ...
A. 6 April 2016: If you haven’t met the ex-wife and have no relationship her then I’d avoid having the first meeting at your boyfriend and his son’s college tour.
Obviously your relationship is longstanding and a serious one or you wouldn’t have been together for ... (read in full...)
Confused by my son's behaviour
Q. I'm a 42 year old mom, My son is 13 and while changing his sheets awhile back I found 3 pairs of my panties under his mattress along with some pictures of me from college in a bikini. I quickly realized he has been using them to pleasure with and he ...
A. 5 April 2016: My parents left educational books out for me to find. When I did read one, my Dad made sure I knew he knew I was reading it. It wasn’t super comfortable, nor was it fun but I was fully aware that they were PAYING ATTENTION.
Going into your draw... (read in full...)
Can a nine year age gap work?
Q. My boyfriend is 9 years older than me, I love him with all my heart we match a lot and sometimes I forget that he is older than me. I don't know how to react to friends and make them see how I love this guy. I believe that he is my soul mate and...
A. 5 April 2016: If he’s good for you then being with him will be natural and there should be plenty of time for you two to demonstrate why you are good together.
What sort of huge sacrifices are going to be needed in order for you to keep seeing him?
There... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on how to deal with this angry and feeling-entitled stepdaughter?
Q. I have posted in 2013 about my husband having a child which he never knew off. She contacted my youngest daughter via fb and after having paternity tests done it was confirm it is his child. She is 34 this year. She was rude from the beginning, ...
A. 5 April 2016: I have to agree with Honeypie. It’s time to contact a lawyer and ensure that your children are protected from her.
It’s very sad that your husband didn’t deal with this properly from the beginning but there you are.
Your children shouldn’... (read in full...)
My ex gave a weak excuse for breaking up
Q. Dear cupid I think my boyfriends excuse for breaking up with me is a cop out and that he won't tell me the real reason why he wanted to break up. He told me that he wanted to break up because of how neglectful I was the first 3 months of our re...
A. 5 April 2016: It. Doesn’t. Matter. If his “excuse” is valid or not. The thing you need to recognize is that he’s ended the relationship.
It may be he has a new girlfriend. Or his mommy said she needed him to drop you. Or he’s gay and needed to end the rela... (read in full...)
I gave him an ultimatum, but am wondering if I’m being an idiot for giving him a last chance!
Q. Me and my current partner have been together for nearly a year now. i moved from manchester, fifty miles to be with him. we live together, our sex life is great, everything is going smoothly. we've discussed our future, kids, marriage etc. Howeve...
A. 5 April 2016: An escape from what? A girlfriend he’s been with for a year? Omg, the horror! It’s too much, he can’t cope he needs an ESCAPE!
I completely agree with Honeypie’s advice and would suggest you get an STD panel as part of the miscarriage afte... (read in full...)
We have great sexual chemistry but there are red flags all over. Should I continue or leave him?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about 3 weeks. We are both young I'm 20 he is 21. I'm in university and he has a part time job. We have amazing sexual chemistry and he is a very considerate and affectionate guy, a "good guy. But he has broken some ...
A. 5 April 2016: He’s being reckless with his own valuables and money? Or someone else’s?... (read in full...)
So many decisions. I need help. Do I consider the guy who wants children or the guy who only wants one child?
Q. I'm 23 next month and my boyfriend is 22 next month, been together for two years this September. Issues - has only met my friends once, doesn't really show an interest in them but says they can come out camping....shows an interest in 4wdi...
A. 5 April 2016: Was that your followup OP?
You are 22 years old. If you are panicking about having children and getting married then you may well wind up making poor choices.
Ask your current partner your questions. You’ve been together long enough to know if ... (read in full...)
How do I cope when he goes away?
Q. Hello My husband an I are middle aged, he is in his early 60s and still works full time in a factory. Conditions are not good there but he wants to stay there until retirement. We have been on vacations to Cuba but I don't really enjoy it there m...
A. 5 April 2016: OP, assuming that’s your followup, I still say to you: SEE YOUR DOCTOR. You are talking about anxiety, depression, crying, inability to eat, becoming ill with anxiety, irrational worrying, can’t cope and panic attacks. You don’t have to live lik... (read in full...)
Am I potentially getting myself tangled in something too big for me to handle?
Q. I met a guy online about a month ago. After our 2nd date he started telling me some really personal stuff about himself. I got a run down of all the problems he has ever had in his life including an 8 year relationship that ended badly and his suff...
A. 5 April 2016: Or simply, “Josh, thanks for dinner the other night. While I have enjoyed getting to know you a bit better, I have come to realize that we aren’t a match at this point in time. I wish you well in your struggle with depression and that you find a ... (read in full...)
Am I potentially getting myself tangled in something too big for me to handle?
Q. I met a guy online about a month ago. After our 2nd date he started telling me some really personal stuff about himself. I got a run down of all the problems he has ever had in his life including an 8 year relationship that ended badly and his suff...
A. 5 April 2016: “Noah, let me start by saying I appreciate your honesty with me. It’s refreshing to meet someone who is willing to share their issues in an open and honest way.
“I have to tell you that I’m concerned for you, that your depression is returning and ... (read in full...)
How do I cope when he goes away?
Q. Hello My husband an I are middle aged, he is in his early 60s and still works full time in a factory. Conditions are not good there but he wants to stay there until retirement. We have been on vacations to Cuba but I don't really enjoy it there m...
A. 4 April 2016: I found this one too: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-husband-has-gone-for-a-hoilday-and.html You said you were suffering from anxiety attacks AND depression in that post. You definitely need to speak with your physician. This is somethin... (read in full...)
So many decisions. I need help. Do I consider the guy who wants children or the guy who only wants one child?
Q. I'm 23 next month and my boyfriend is 22 next month, been together for two years this September. Issues - has only met my friends once, doesn't really show an interest in them but says they can come out camping....shows an interest in 4wdi...
A. 4 April 2016: How about... neither?
Break up with boyfriend as you don’t sound like it’s really working for you.
Older guy with dodgy history might be a possibility but to me it’s VERY odd that he wants kids and marriage with you despite not having seen you... (read in full...)
How do I cope when he goes away?
Q. Hello My husband an I are middle aged, he is in his early 60s and still works full time in a factory. Conditions are not good there but he wants to stay there until retirement. We have been on vacations to Cuba but I don't really enjoy it there m...
A. 4 April 2016: Thank you for the followup.
Well, then spend this week learning on how to avoid mosquitos, learning how to maintain calm in the face of adversity while traveling, so that next year you CAN go.
That mosquito thing, I’ve been attractive to them sin... (read in full...)
Confused by my son's behaviour
Q. I'm a 42 year old mom, My son is 13 and while changing his sheets awhile back I found 3 pairs of my panties under his mattress along with some pictures of me from college in a bikini. I quickly realized he has been using them to pleasure with and he ...
A. 4 April 2016: This sounds like an incest fantasy problem. What did your husband say when you discussed this with him?
In the meantime, I would confiscate the photo of yourself in the bikini, making it clear that you know he had it.
Lock your bedroom door whe... (read in full...)
He says he likes me but he doesn't seem to want to see me
Q. I am 31 years old gay, I met a guy on a dating gay app 2 weeks ago, the guy is 27 , I am not active on these kind of apps and I keep deleting my profile, but sometimes I find myself online. When I met the guy both of us were after some fun ! but o...
A. 4 April 2016: I would stop trying to figure out why he’s doing what he’s doing and just block him. You may have enjoyed one date, the second didn’t sound that great and since then he’s been very scarce and hard to reach. He’s not worth the investment of time and ... (read in full...)
I like him a lot. How can I show him I'm worth a chance?
Q. ive joined a dating site about a month ago i got chatting to a lovely guy we met up had a great date and made plans to meet again. I took my profile off public so i wouldnt get messages off anyone else , but this dating site is saying I'm online w...
A. 4 April 2016: Just to add to the good advice you’ve already received, if this guy is on the dating site, he’ll learn soon enough how it works. Someone will think he’s still active on the site when he is not. Just a matter of time. Then he’ll know you were telling ... (read in full...)
How do I cope when he goes away?
Q. Hello My husband an I are middle aged, he is in his early 60s and still works full time in a factory. Conditions are not good there but he wants to stay there until retirement. We have been on vacations to Cuba but I don't really enjoy it there m...
A. 4 April 2016: Hi! I found an earlier post you wrote about this situation here http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-it-just-not-right-for-my-husband.html for more background for the aunts.
I would tackle this as an anxiety issue.
Obviously in the couple of years... (read in full...)
Should I respond to my ex? Do you think I would look like a fool if I did? Or should I leave it and just delete his number?
Q. 3 days ago, my ex boyfriend texted me out of the blue and asked if I wanted to meet up for lunch and catch up. I decided to ignore the text completely, but honestly it has been on my mind constantly ever since. I think the reason this is botherin...
A. 4 April 2016: Oh and block his number if one text from him is sending you into an emotional tailspin. You’ll feel better knowing he can’t bother you that way any longer. :)
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Should I respond to my ex? Do you think I would look like a fool if I did? Or should I leave it and just delete his number?
Q. 3 days ago, my ex boyfriend texted me out of the blue and asked if I wanted to meet up for lunch and catch up. I decided to ignore the text completely, but honestly it has been on my mind constantly ever since. I think the reason this is botherin...
A. 4 April 2016: I would have simply texted back "no thanks" then got on with my day. ... (read in full...)
Why do some guys lie about losing their virginity?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together six months. Last week we talked about having sex for the first time. I asked would I be his first and he didn't answer, he just retorted by asking would he be mine. I said no, I was not a virgin. He then began ...
A. 4 April 2016: If you are in a longterm committed relationship, then I might suggest that rather than asking the question “Why do guys lie and say they have had sex before when they haven’t?” you might ask, “why did my boyfriend lie?”
You’re assuming that all men ... (read in full...)
Why is my BF of 2 years suddenly expressing concerns about my high sex drive?
Q. I've been dating a man who is 10 years older than me for the past couple of years. It's been a good relationship. The sex is especially good and has been since the beginning. He has always loved my passion and energy and that I have a high sex ...
A. 4 April 2016: He’s tired of having to prove his love through x number of sex encounters per week.
He feels like a performing monkey.
Look, he’s not a sex vending machine. Just because you are feeling worried or inadequate doesn’t mean that he has to do x y AND ... (read in full...)
How do I ask my Mom for the package I ordered? It's a vibrator
Q. Okay I've been thinking about sex a lot and often. At my school and area it's not hard to hook up and I'm not like that,so I bought two bullet vibrators. My mom ordered a mouse pad for her computer and lucky me they came on the same day.... She got ...
A. 2 April 2016: "Hey Mom, I think you accidentally took a package that was addressed to me the other day. Could I please have it? Thank you!"... (read in full...)
Did I make a mistake when I decided to let him go? Broke up last night
Q. i really don't know how to express myself still i will try. Its been 2 years since i am dating my boyfriend. Both of us are in our late twenties and this is the 2nd relationship for both of us. We started dating in 2014 before that we were ...
A. 31 March 2016: I don’t think you made a mistake. You want to feel valued and loved, and he was never able to do that. I think you’ll find that once you get over the mourning period, you’ll feel much better.
I would suggest that you research the stages of grie... (read in full...)
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