I'm pregnant. My boyfriend wants me to get an abortion, but I don't feel its right. What should I do?
Q. We are not at a financial state to have a baby. We have no money. We are both students. But the more I think about having an abortion, the harder it becomes. I already feel an emotional attachment to my baby, but my boyfriend doesn't understand ...
A. 9 June 2013: Almost 5 years ago, a courageous young woman gave birth to my son. She was 16 at the time and had the maturity to make a selfless decision regarding her baby and decided on adoption. Today she is attending school at a university and pursuing her ... (read in full...)
My fiance said her ex was a better lover.
Q. Hello everyone, sorry for the long post,this is the first time asking a question, although I have been reading many posts here trying to come to terms with something that happened to me recently. I have just recently come back from Europe where I a...
A. 2 November 2012: Welcome to my world! I know exactly how you feel and have posted a similar question on this site. Just have to swallow it down, put it aside and move on. I understand completely the desire to be her best everything, including lover. ... (read in full...)
Am I bound by this contract?
Q. I live and am employed in California. When we were hired, we signed a contract stating we must give a 1 months notice before quitting. I want to leave as soon as possible because I have a new job offer but I still have to stay an extra month. Do I ...
A. 30 October 2012: Is your contract defined for a set period of time? If not, it is subject to change at any time. Is California an "at will employment" state? If so, you can quit or you could get fired at any time.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend can't get off from blow jobs
Q. My boyfriend says that he can't come from blowjobs. Is this true of some guys or am i just doing it wrong? Tips?!...
A. 4 September 2012: I have to be really fired up or it has to be just the right speed for it to happen for me. Doesn't mean I don't LOVE them if it doesn't happen!!... (read in full...)
Men: Would you chose a nature program on tv or sex with your girlfriend?
Q. If you were 45 years old and had your 21 year old girlfriend ask you to bed for a blow job and sex would you choose a nature programme (that could be recorded) or your girlfriend. i would appreciate your comments ...
A. 29 July 2012: I absolutely love them. So I honestly would never turn down a blowjob. I like Cerebrus' idea, though. Problem solved!... (read in full...)
If my gf is pregnant, she says she does not want to keep the baby but is afraid of the guilt of an abortion. What can we do?
Q. I've got a real dilemma here. Me and my girlfriend have been together for less than 2 months. About 3 weeks into our relationship we started having sex. We used protection each time. Anyway, her period was supposed to begin at one point during the...
A. 20 February 2012: My wife and I adopted our son 4 years ago from a reputable adoption agency. His birth parents were teenagers who were unable (not unwilling) to provide for their baby. They made an unbelievably mature and loving choice to give their baby up for ... (read in full...)
Does anyone regret having sex too young and not waiting until marriage?
Q. I'm just wondering had anyone regretting having sex too young, or not waiting till marriage as ive been in a steady relationship now for over a year and a half but havent had sex... me and my boyfriend are happy about this but im wondering about ...
A. 2 November 2011: I don't necessarily regret not having waited until marriage before having sex. My wife had a couple of lovers before me. Had I been her first, I definitely would have regretted it. All that aside, I do regret who I lost my virginity to. The girl ... (read in full...)
Why would my girlfriend say that her ex was "just too huge"?
Q. I've been going out with my GF for about a year, and we're discussing marriage. I've done quite well in my career, and some of the things my GF has said have given me the definite impression that this is quite important to her in a potential husb...
A. 29 October 2011: Ugghh. Of all the things she could have used as a comparison, why did it have to be the penis. No guy wants to know they are smaller than the last guy. I think women don't realize the seed that can be planted when divulging such info... (read in full...)
What do I do about this friend request? He and I were more intimate than my husband knows...
Q. I'm not sure if I should tell my husband or not. My husband and I met and got married young. We started dating when I was 17, and he was 18. We got married right after I turned 19 and right before he was going to turn 20. We're married a little o...
A. 22 September 2011: I think a vast majority of men would be delighted to know that their wife had only given one man some handjobs prior to marriage. I know I would. However, I am not your husband. The timeframe might be more distressing for him. He could ask, why ... (read in full...)
He asked about my sexual history and now he's become extremely jealous.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for coming up on 5 months. We love each other very much and have been discussing moving in together. However,last night we had the conversation of 'past' relationships/flings etc. Before I was with this guy, I was married ...
A. 19 July 2011: I suggest you give him some time to digest this information. Your number of sexual partners aside, swinging & threesomes is not what one considers a typical past and would be surprising to most men. I think you should stress that this was not a ... (read in full...)
To give head or not to give head? That is the question!
Q. To give head or to not give head? That is the question. Okay, talk about an icebreaker! Here's my situation. I've been dating a guy officially for a month this coming Saturday. Before officially dating, we casually dated for another month. W...
A. 17 July 2011: I'd say go for it. But try to give his inexperienced self an ego boost if you can. Guys with less experience can sometimes need to feel special when their partner has been with others and they have not. As far as swallowing goes, it has never ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a two-year-old to want to nap/sleep/lay on her dad's chest?
Q. Is it normal for a two year old girl to want to nap/sleep/lay on her dad's chest? She's definitely a daddy's girl but a friend of mine told me she shouldn't want to lay on him. As soon as he lays down even if she's not going down for a nap or rea...
A. 12 July 2011: Tell him to enjoy it while he can! My six year old daughter is embarrassed to kiss me goodbye when I drop her off at school.... (read in full...)
Is there any point to dating and relationships if you are infertile?
Q. My partners ex, was fertile and had children for my partner. I am infertile and cannot have any children. My partner seems okay with this, but his mother told me that I should do the right thing and leave him, so he can have a family and be happy ...
A. 8 July 2011: My wife and I adopted our son just over 3 years ago. I am his father, my wife is his mother. If you both want to be parents, biology doesn't have to get in the way. Perhaps it is best your partner's mother's genes don't get passed on anyway. ... (read in full...)
Questions regarding a threesome...
Q. My boyfriend really wants a threesome. It will be me and him (obviously) and one of his friends, who is male. I have told him i wasnt interested but he is kinda talking me into it. however i do need some questions asking. Is it a good idea to be ha...
A. 2 July 2011: I think if your boyfriend doesn't mind sharing you with another guy says it all. He doesn't care about you and doesn't respect you. If you want the experience of being used by two guys or if you get off on being the center of attention of two ... (read in full...)
Question for the ladies: Do you find that there's a lot of variation from one man to the next in terms of how good the sex is, or do the vast majority of men tend to fall roughly in the middle range?
Q. Question for the ladies: do you find that there's a lot of variation from one man to the next in terms of how good the sex is, or do the vast majority of men tend to fall roughly in the middle range? As a man, I'd have to say the old saying that ...
A. 2 July 2011: Male Anon has some very valid points. I remember my college roommate stating that he suspected that Rosie O'Donnel's vagina wouldn't feel that much different from Madonna's. Most men are simple and extremely easy to please. Most of us feel lucky ... (read in full...)
Why should I care? She dumped me!
Q. my girlfriend broke up with me a month ago and we were on pretty good terms.i started hanging out with an old friend alot(a girl)and when my ex asked me if i was seeing anyone i lied(my mistake i know) and told her that i was interested in someone ...
A. 6 June 2011: I have to disagree with others that find you at fault. You SAID you were interested in another girl and going to go out with her. Your ex immediately went out and spread her legs for some guy as an "I've moved on and gone further before you have." ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's hygeine keeps me from doing more than handjobs
Q. Hi this is kind of an embaressing subject and I wasnt sure where else to turn... it's less about the relationship and more about my boyfriend's hygiene... basically I always put off giving him more than a hand job because he always has a slight bit ...
A. 29 May 2011: I'm not going to mention your age in my response. You don't have to bring up his hygeine at all. My wife will not even go down there unless I have recently showered. In fact, if I showered an hour ago, but have peed since the show... (read in full...)
I am crushed. I read what she wrote about my size and don't how I am going to work this, or our new LDR, out with her.
Q. I need help with a difficult situation. I met a girl about three months ago through a work friend and we hit it off. We have been dating since then and I feel as if the relationship is the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me. ...
A. 11 May 2011: Personally, this would be a deal-breaker for me. My wife told me to my face that her former lover was BIG and could make her orgasm w/ vaginal sex. This has messed with my head to no end since I am average and have to give her "O's" manually. As ... (read in full...)
Would you date an escort?
Q. Would you date a girl who was or is an escort? but she is really loving, smart, honest and does everything for you. It's just her job and she's only doing it a few years to save up some money and invest in something good. (house, car etc) ...
A. 19 April 2011: I'm one of the guys Danielepew refers to. This would bother me to no end and I don't think I could get over it. Sex is an intensely intimate act for me and I would hate to be number X in a long list of guys who had been there before. I have ... (read in full...)
Men: would you be turned on or freaked out or something else by this?
Q. Hello lovely men of DearCupid :D How are we today? So, picture this... You wake up in the morning with a hard on only to find your girlfriend/mrs was already 'attending' to it... Reaction please? Would you be turned on? Freaked out? ...
A. 11 March 2011: Turned on. It's a fantasy of mine. It will never happen to me though. My wife will only do that immediately after I shower. Hard to sleep through a shower. ... (read in full...)
Why can't my bf give me an orgasm?
Q. Hey aunts and uncles, I've been with my bf for almost a year now. He has not been able to make me have an orgasm. He expressed it to me that he feels so sad that he can't do that. I've made him cum quite often, but sometimes he used his hand to...
A. 23 February 2011: If you can make yourself have an orgasm, then so can he. I can't bring my wife to orgasm during sex, but I can "finish her off" with my hands. Long ago, she instructed me how and isn't shy about "directing" me to this day. ... (read in full...)
Was a vibrator for Valentine's Day a bad idea to get my man?
Q. so for Valentine's day i couldn't figure out what to get my man. I was talking with a friend a week or so ago and she suggested i get a vibrator to spice things up a bit and give it to him with a dirty note. even though our sex life is great like it ...
A. 15 February 2011: You should go out and get him a Clone A Willy kit. Then you & he could have had the fun of making a mold of his penis and cast a rubber clone of his member. Then you would have a dildo of his dimensions (no feelings of inferiority on his part) AND ... (read in full...)
My wife's ego-devastating details of her sex life with her former Latin lover have led me to have terrible feelings of inadequacy and resentment...
Q. I am in need of some advice. Background: I have been married to my wife for 13 years. She ended things with her previous boyfriend to start dating me. Shortly after we became intimate she implied that her former Latin lover (almost every wo...
A. 10 February 2011: Thank you very much for your comments. I know this is just a hang-up of mine and I do go through up and down phases. I just want to be her best everything including lover. I want to be the total package. I just don't want to feel like she has ... (read in full...)
German boyfriend insulting me or just joking around?
Q. I have a German boyfriend, we have been together long distance for five months now (I am American). He is a 28 year old PhD student in Physics, smart, organized, and nerdy. He seems quite considerate usually and loving, but sometimes he says some ...
A. 19 January 2011: He sounds like an inconsiderate A-hole regardless of his nationality. Pointing out what he perceives as faults is rude and humorless. ... (read in full...)
When guys ask women about their sexual pasts, do they really want an honest answer?
Q. This question seems like a no-brainer at first... who's going to say they DON'T want honesty? But then I read all the posts on here from people (mainly guys, it seems) who are insecure about what their partners have done before them, and with whom, ...
A. 5 January 2011: Be honest in general. But don't go into any details. Be very vague. I NEVER asked for ANY details, but my wife volunteered about her previous lover....larger size, lack of circumcision, stamina, ability to give her orgasms in certain positions ... (read in full...)
He is a lot younger than me ... I am stupid!
Q. Hello I have a problem and I feel so stupid! I am 27 years old and have slept with a 19 year old! He was asking me for my number etc I kept telling him I was too old for him,(even though I was extremely attracted to him and he acts a lot older) h...
A. 4 January 2011: 8 years is nothing. If it bothers you that he is still a teenager, time will quickly remedy that.... (read in full...)
Why was he so quiet during oral sex?
Q. I hadn't seen my boyfriend of 11 months, in 6 days. When we met up, I thought I'd surprise him with a blow job, our first, and because I was on my heaviest day of period. I did not feel comfy with regular sex. It was amazing for me, and I hope for ...
A. 21 December 2010: You gave him a blowjob to the point of ejaculation. He asked for a repeat performance and he came AGAIN. Then he went and baked you a cake? You should be giving pointers to others. I too am very quiet when I'm in extasy. I can't always cum ... (read in full...)
Can't get over her bigger ex!
Q. I can't seem to get past the fact that my girlfriend had the best sex with the guy before me, and it was largely because he was more well endowed than me. She used to say all kinds of things, like "there is such a thing as too big" and how ...
A. 15 December 2010: I understand that you overheard a private conversation. However, in general, why do women reveal such things to us? It is a form of mental torture. There is nothing a guy can do about his size. Women have the luxury of commonplace breast ... (read in full...)
I can't make him cum by hand stimulation, I feel guilty, any advice?
Q. Been with my boyfriend for about 5 months. Completely happy with him and like things how they are. But there is just one thing, when I am giving him a handjob I can't make him cum. He takes ages and my arm ends up aching before he does so he gets ...
A. 28 November 2010: It may be awkward, but ask him to masturbate in front of you. "Take notes" on his technique. Another question to ask is: "How long does it take him to satisfy himself?" It may not completely be because of your technique. ... (read in full...)
Did it take you a long time to conceive?
Q. I just have a simple question for everyone out there who has kids, or is expecting. I would just like to know, did it ever take any of you a long time, months, years possibly, for you and your partner to conceive? I know some people it cou...
A. 18 November 2010: It took my wife and me over a year to get pregnant with our first child. We waited until we were out in the workforce and financially stable before trying though. We were in our early thirties at the time. My sister on the other hand, went off ... (read in full...)
He makes no noise when I perform oral sex on him
Q. He's nice a hard worker student still lives at home. I've been giving my guy blowjobs for about 4 wks. I can't tell if he's enjoying it! He doesn't do anything. He sits or lays there with hands folded across chest eyes closed. Not a moan or ...
A. 16 November 2010: I don't think you have anything to worry about. If you are getting him off, he's enjoying it. My wife wishes I would be more vocal, but I'm very quiet and reserved. ... (read in full...)
He's nice but he's also a pimp!
Q. i have been single for 4 yrs because i have been burnt and didnt want to get involved. a few weeks ago i was at gym and this guy came over to me and we started talking. there was instant chemistry and i felt really free and happy with him we meet in ...
A. 12 November 2010: Seems like he is actively recruiting & and looking for new "ho's". Run for your life.... (read in full...)
No matter what I do, I can't seem to bring him to the point of ejaculation!
Q. OK - how to put this delicately...! I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now, and in many ways we do have a satisfying sex life - from my point of view at least, and he seems to enjoy it to. The thing I worry about is that no matter w...
A. 8 November 2010: I suppose another alternative you have is to let him get to a certain point by himself and then finish with you. It might work if he "primes" himself and then you take him to the finish line. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants his friend to watch us have sex
Q. My boyfriend wants me to have sex with his friend infront of him ! I don't know what to do! help me please xx...
A. 7 November 2010: Flush this turd and find yourself a new boyfriend. It's that simple. He is showing zero respect for you by wanting to display such an intimate act in front of a buddy of his. ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with her even although I'm a virgin?
Q. I'm a virgin, and this really attractive, and fairly experienced girl wants to have sex with me.. I really would rather save myself the embarrassment of telling her I'm a virgin, but then she'll probably think I'm just shit in bed, i don't know what ...
A. 3 November 2010: I'd say hang on to your "V-card" for now. I lost mine to a girl when I was 18. She suspected I was a virgin and initially said she wouldn't sleep w/ me. I had no idea about her sexual past. I know she listed a bunch of previous boyfriends. I ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 28 October 2010: @Gabrielle- I vote BJ any day. However, for release sometimes a handjob is needed to finish. That may be because of partner BJ technique or endurance though. There's just something about a woman taking you in her mouth that can't compare.... (read in full...)
How to completely satisfy a circumcised man?
Q. i will be with a man who is circumcised i want to please him and leave him satisfied...since i always leave my guys satisfied by my bjs, but ive never had a circumcised penis before. i would like to know if the head [underneath the head] is more ...
A. 27 October 2010: The mechanics are basically the same. I agree, though...just ask him and you can also see how he responds to what you are doing. ... (read in full...)
Are guys OK with inverted nipples?
Q. I have somewhat invertd nipples. They look normal when i simply sqeeze my boobs but whn they are just being thmself, they tend to go in. Im a little self consious so ive been surfin the net for guys opinions on them. Most guys dont care, but a lot ...
A. 23 October 2010: I think most guys would be delighted to have real live boobs in front of them and couldn't care less about the nipples being inverted or not. ... (read in full...)
If you last 4 minutes while masturbating, how long do you last during sex?
Q. between sex and masturbation,what stays longer?if somebody is masturbating 4 min.how longer do you expect him 2 stay during sex?...
A. 23 October 2010: I would guess less. Masturbation is simulating the "real" thing. Especially if you are comparing it to your first time with someone. Although, nobody knows how to please you like you do. ... (read in full...)
My sister in law doesn't mind being naked with me!
Q. My sister-in-law (single and attractive) graduated college and recently took a job near where my wife and I live. My wife told her to stay with us in the spare bedroom until she found a place of her own. Initially, she wore a robe over her ni...
A. 15 September 2010: Normal is such a relative term. Just enjoy the show and don't ask questions!... (read in full...)
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