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These rides to work are really pissing me off!

Q.   My husband and I have been married for 21 years. He has started a new job and is giving a female co-worker a ride to and from work. He picks her and her kids up in the am and takes the kids to daycare. Then after work around 3:30 he hangs out ...

A.   4 November 2008: Well done! Bravo! You really stood up for yourself and your family! I bet you feel a lot better. Keep us updated please. xo... (read in full...)

These rides to work are really pissing me off!

Q.   My husband and I have been married for 21 years. He has started a new job and is giving a female co-worker a ride to and from work. He picks her and her kids up in the am and takes the kids to daycare. Then after work around 3:30 he hangs out ...

A.   30 October 2008: I think you need to tell him to stop with the rides etc. now or he not bother to come home. Finding a ride is her problem. He is putting these people over his own family and that is just wrong.... (read in full...)

Should I pull out now completely (not even friends) and move on?

Q.   I've been dating a guy for five months. He is 32 and I am 27. In the beginning we both wanted to be free and enjoy life and time together without labeling our situation. I warned him that as we progress my feelings could change and I may want to ...

A.   29 October 2008: It could be seen as the other way around. He is blackmailing you with commitment, IOW keep seeing each other and having sex and maybe or maybe not I'll commit. A lot of guys will do that. Make you audition for a permanent role that they have no ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend thinks I take her for granted !!

Q.   What do i do when my girlfriend thinks i take her for granted. I feel like breaking up first. who has got a better plan ?? (I want to marry this girl when im old) for the whole story scroll down Hi my girlfriend and I are together for 1 y...

A.   29 October 2008: Well why do you want to be mean to someone you care about? What would you do if she decided not to have sex with you anymore?... (read in full...)

I'm not sure I wnat to marry her. What should I do?

Q.   Okay you may remember me, the guy with the fiancee' with the visa. She wasn't sure if she wanted to marry and I didn't know what to do since we only have 90 days to marry. Well now that she is here she does want to be my wife and get married but ...

A.   22 October 2008: It sounds like she just wants to get married to have US visa and stay there. I wouldn't do it.... (read in full...)

I'm resentful that my boyfriend has so much money when I have all these health/financial problems! Why is he sooo frugal?

Q.   Hi, I am feeling jealous, resentful and bitter that my boyfriend has so much money and I don't know how I can get past this issue. I'm not working and am on disability for lupus and kidney disease and I'm staying with him rent free. I get aro...

A.   21 October 2008: I think he is being horribly selfish. If you are living together, I'm sure he is getting benefits from you living there. I don't get the he is letting you stay there for free attitude. You and he are supposed to be partners not roomies. I can thin... (read in full...)

He is threatening to take away my child once it is born!

Q.   What do i do my boyfriend physically and mentally abuses me. Im pregnant now with his kid and he is threatening to take my kid and leave me and get me for child support... weve been dating since i turned 16. i got pregnant about 8 weeks ago. i just ...

A.   13 September 2008: His threats are empty. No court will take a newborn away from it's mother unless there is something severely wrong with her. ... (read in full...)

How do I tell my wife I don't want her to get a boob job?

Q.   My wife wants a boob job. She really thought bigger is better. I don't like the idea, because they look so fake. How can I tell her I dont want her to get a boob job?...

A.   13 September 2008: What are the reasons you don't want her to get one? I had one a couple of years ago and nobody can tell they are fake. The bf loves them. He loved them before though too. I'm glad I got them.... (read in full...)

Does love mature when you get married or does dating pretty girls just set you up for disappointment?

Q.   I'm a popular guy and I've never had trouble getting girlfriends. And whenever I want a girlfriend I always make sure I get a pretty one. But I'm worried if this makes me shallow. I'm scared that if I get married to a woman she'll grow old and I w...

A.   11 September 2008: It is probably normal at your age as you are still immature. Like the other poster said, you are going to get old too; maybe balding and wrinkly. I think if I was going to spend 50 years with someone, I would make the most important thing ... (read in full...)

When your boyfriend plays video games for hours and hours a day does it turn anyone else off?

Q.   When your boyfriend plays video games for hours and hours a day does it turn anyone else off? My boyfriend and I live together, and he is always on, and when he isn't doing that it's porn. His love of video games is so juvenile and puts me in a...

A.   11 September 2008: Yes, it is a huge turn off for someone to spend hours with a game and neglecting everything else. Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy games but not at the expense of my loved ones. I introduced my bf to one of my favorite games and when I went over... (read in full...)

Asking Stupid Questions!

Q.   How many woman out there cant stand the "oh babe, is it that time?" Come on you know what i mean, right!? I hate being asked that question. Most of my guy friends ask me everytime i start, to complain. Some dont bother cuz they know not to ask me ...

A.   6 September 2008: I think sometimes men say that to try to dismiss legitimate complaints. Not every complaint is because of PMS. Sometimes the guy is just doing something stupid and we're calling him on it. :)... (read in full...)

Together for three years, I moved in with him, asked if he thought we would be together in the future, he did not know, couldn't promise love or commitment, I am devastated, should I just wait around or leave, I love him?

Q.   Im in a difficult position, I recently asked my boyfriend whether he thought we would still be together in the future, so we could make plans. His answer was I hope so but I cant promise I will still love you then, and to stop planning for the ...

A.   3 September 2008: If you have a good job, then find an apartment and move out. Please don't buy a house with him either. If he doesn't know after 3 years if he wants a future with you, then he doesn't. Best wishes xo... (read in full...)

My parents think my boyfriend is with me for my money! Why do parents always think they are right?

Q.   Why is it parents always think there right. I have a boyfriend and I love him very much but they seem to think he's on with me for my money. He doesn't earnt the same amount as me and therefore I pay for pretty much everything but he always says ...

A.   2 September 2008: I don't think anyone who is using you will admit they are just because they ask. Your Mom should stay out of your mail though. You said he was in a lot of debt. What kind of debt is it? If he has problems handling his own money, that is n... (read in full...)

My parents think my boyfriend is with me for my money! Why do parents always think they are right?

Q.   Why is it parents always think there right. I have a boyfriend and I love him very much but they seem to think he's on with me for my money. He doesn't earnt the same amount as me and therefore I pay for pretty much everything but he always says ...

A.   2 September 2008: If you want to find out if he is around for your money, simply stop paying for everything. Let him pay for what he can afford. What would he be doing if he was dating someone who make less than him? Try it and see what happens.... (read in full...)

Is the guy I am dating toying with my emotions and feelings? I never know if today I will be loved or ignored.

Q.   I've heard of this trend in the dating scene where a guy purposely makes a girl feel insecure (through put downs, ignoring etc), just so she will feel bad about herself, more desperate for him, vunerable and hopefully (for the guys) easier to get ...

A.   31 August 2008: It does sound like he is playing mind games with you. The only way to combat this is to never put up with it. Get rid of any guy who does this and you won't have to deal with it. It more gals dumped at the first sign of this nonsense, maybe more ... (read in full...)

We only have sex when he wants to and in his manner, friends say he is using me, what to do?

Q.   Another weekend and I am feeling sick - my bf and I have been together for 3 yrs - since July things have been rocky when I confronted him about advertising himself on the sex friend sites. He has his girls who are 11 and 13 hating me and he ...

A.   31 August 2008: So why is the decision on what to do so difficult in this case? He is potentially cheating or wants to. His kids treat you like dirt and he allows it He has no regard for your feelings What more does he need to do to be able to dump this foo... (read in full...)

I suspect he is cheating; but why would he then still want to hang out with me without being intimate and why would he talk about our future?

Q.   I met a guy on a dating site about four months ago. After seeing each other for awhile, we also became intimate. I usually went to his place every other day and stayed over. We usually watched movies together; had dinner; had great sex; etc. I am ...

A.   31 August 2008: I get the impression that the relationship wasn't really defined at the beginning...if you two were going to be exclusive etc. It seems that he thought of this more as a casual dating situation rather than a serious relationship. Finding him o... (read in full...)

How do I convince my sister to stop wearing this bikini?

Q.   My cute younger sister (she's 16) hangs around the public pool wearing a thong bikini. From behind, it looks as though she is totally naked. The boys there gather around her, many whispering, all staring, some spreading the word. If I ask her to ...

A.   31 August 2008: I like the take a picture of her from behind idea! lol You could just make the trashy bikini disappear.... (read in full...)

Does he like me for me or for my ethnicity?

Q.   I am 22 and at University and there is a guy on my course who fancies me because I am Chinese. I find this rather disconcerting because I am not sure where I stand with him and if he likes me for me or just for my ethnicity. He already has a friend ...

A.   20 August 2008: Motives of most college boys are pretty transparent. They think a girl is hot and want to get with her. It's just the nature of hormones and youth. ... (read in full...)

How can I keep my boobs perky?

Q.   Hi there. I have a weird question, maybe some women can help.I am 30 and attractive with a good body and very firm breasts.In fact I have an obssession with them, i.e. I don't like saggy breasts, so I ALWAYS wear a bra, I avoid dresses and blouses, ...

A.   19 August 2008: It is mostly genetics and also if you gain and lose a lot of weight or have and nurse babies. If you boobs sag, you can always get a lift. My boobs were deflated and starting to sag and I got new boobs about 2 years ago. Best thing I ever did! :)... (read in full...)

I'm thinking of emigrating to Australia, is this a fantasy or..?

Q.   Please help. I went to Melbourne Oz for a couple of months earlier this year and I loved it so much now I'm back in England I feel so depressed and the idea of emigrating there is building up in my head. I am excited by this but think its such a ...

A.   13 August 2008: If you want to do it, just do it! I came to Oz from the USA and it was one of the best things I've ever done. Go to the www.immi.gov.au/ website and have a look around. If you are under 30 there is a working holiday visa and of course there is ... (read in full...)

How do you know how long you'll last in bed?

Q.   well im 14 and i still havent went through full puberty. ( i got pubes and the parts are beggining to grow) so how can i know i can last in sexual intercourse? i mean i want to know because i dont want to last 5 minutes with my 1st time. sincerly ...

A.   13 August 2008: 10 seconds if you are lucky! :D That is if you don't blow before you get inside. Don't worry though it is all natural and normal not to last long the first time.... (read in full...)

My Red Flag has gone up... Should I be suspicious?

Q.   My boyfriend is 12 yrs younger than me, and we have been living together for 2 yrs now. I have never trusted him due to an ongoing issue of him gawking at younger women. I am not beautiful, but I am not too bad. My self esteeme level is diminished ...

A.   12 August 2008: From what you described, he doesn't seem like much of a catch. I don't think wandering eye or alcoholic would be at the top of many people's lists in a mate. Maybe you should cut things back to casual dating with this guy and go out and date oth... (read in full...)

Between a rock and a hard place with his personal hygiene, what should I do ??

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been living together for the past year. At the beginning of this his hygiene never seemed to be a problem but now one year later, he goes for 3 or more days without having a shower. This disgust me soo much. He is 38yrs ...

A.   11 August 2008: I went through this with a guy before. I made the mistake of trying to be polite about it. Finally his employer told him that he stunk and not to come into work unless he was bathed and clean clothes. The bluntness did it! So tell him he ... (read in full...)

Why do I hurt during sex?

Q.   I'm 16 and I lost my virginity about a month ago. ( didnt bleed but it was the 1st time ive ever had sex) Every time Ive had sex since then I hurt really bad when my bf goes deep and I cant figure out why. I'm worried I could have some kind of ...

A.   11 August 2008: Hunny why do you keep having sex if it hurts so much? It would be a good idea to go to the doctor and get checked out. Are you on any type of birth control? best wishes xo... (read in full...)

My girlfriend enjoys oral sex, but her pubic hair is a turnoff for me, I've talked to her about it, but so far it is still the same, what do I do now?

Q.   My girl says she really enjoys guys giving her oral sex. I really want to but im put off by her pubes. I don't want her pubes in my mouth. I've talked to her about it and she says she might get it waxed but that was months ago and still the bush ...

A.   8 August 2008: This hairless thing is a fairly recent fad. Did you know men have been eating at the Y for years with full bushes and never once complained? I can't imagine anyone's pubic area shedding so much you are getting clumps of hair in your mouth. ... (read in full...)

I have to make a choice between my boyfriend and my education.

Q.   i went out with my boyfriend 2 years ago, then we got back together last year, its great because although we hadn't seen each other in the two years we were apart, we just got the spark straight back and it was like we hadn't even seperated. i'm ...

A.   8 August 2008: Always put yourself and your education first. I promise you will never regret it. Someone who truly loves you would want you to be your best and would never think of holding you back from bettering yourself in life. A partner is the icing on ... (read in full...)

When she moves my hand away after I'm masturbating her, does that mean she's had an orgasm?

Q.   Yo everyone, i have a... well not a problem, it's just that my girlfirend wont "cum". I dont have a problem with it, but it just seems strange. I mean, we have sex, sure, and when i come i take "it" out and start masturbating her, and she gets an o...

A.   8 August 2008: The reason I move my boyfriend's hand away is because he is hurting me! He is rubbing too hard! Boys have a tendency to treat the clitoris like it is a an x box game stick when they should be touching it like you would pet a kitten.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend says my vagina is loose and that he does not feel a thing... what can I do? How do I fix it?

Q.   I have not cheated why does my vagina feel loose... my boyfriend thinks that I've cheated... before he even mentioned it, I have been noticing a diffrence with our sex life... when we have sex my vagina has no tightness to it.. I try and ...

A.   8 August 2008: I agree with the others. Dump this guy! He is just being mean to try to get over on you. You should tell him the problem isn't your tightness but that he is too small. Tell him to put that in his pipe and smoke it! Never let someone else try... (read in full...)

My husband thinks my vibrators are "dirty things" and he doesn't sleep with me

Q.   My husband and I have been together 3 years, married 8 months of those. We have 2 young children, my husband was very very keen to have a family hence why we had one so soon plus he is 10 years older than me. For the first 6 months, sex was ...

A.   6 August 2008: I don't know if you are still reading but I was just wondering how you are doing? It does sound like he duped you. Pretended to be a great guy to get a family and housekeeper and then his true colors came out. I was married to an older guy and... (read in full...)

It's been two years and my boyfriend won't tell me where he's living!

Q.   My bf wont tell me where hes moved to recently?, we have short brakes where he tells me he neads to be sucsefull and he cant do that while living or comitting to me. he tells me hes got a lot of work on, turns off his phone. Then i tell him where ...

A.   6 August 2008: What he is doing isn't any way to treat someone he claims he cares about. Don't put up with this shoddy bad treatment and kick him to the curb. You can do much much better. Best wishes xo... (read in full...)

I had unprotected sex with her, cheated on her... now she's pregnant and wants money for an abortion!

Q.   i was talking to this girl for about a month. she REALY liked me. and i was really into her too. we had sex a few times and we didnt use a condom one time. i ended up cheating on her with another girl. and the girl i was talking to found out. than ...

A.   5 August 2008: Part of being a man is being responsible for your actions. Go with her to the clinic and pay for the abortion if that is what she wants. Both of you get checked for STDs. Did you have unprotected sex with the other girl too? As you have found o... (read in full...)

Everytime my bf touches my clit it gets sore and inflamed...why is this??

Q.   Heya Im really worried, everytime my boyfriends pokes me my clit and surroundings get sore and inflamed!! Why is this? it hurts for about a day after. Ahhhh!Please help me! Thankyou!!!...

A.   5 August 2008: Because teenage boys have no idea what they are doing. Have him get some lube and put that on and have him rub very gently. ... (read in full...)

I'm 14, catholic, & want to have a baby!

Q.   well i'm 14 and reallllly want to have a baby. i want to be married and, 5 months pregnant right now. i have babysat a lil a baby before but so i know its not a walk in the park. and i know they refuse to sleep and cry and stuff and im catholic so ...

A.   5 August 2008: Hi honey, You're right the Catholic church does frown on unwed teenage pregnancies. There is plenty of time for babies after you have finished university, have a good paying job, and are married to a loving decent man. Why not try some volunte... (read in full...)

For four months, I have been involved with a man who is wonderful, but who does not want to have a relationship, but will not let me go on my way to find someone else, I am tired of the yes, no, maybe so, what should I do?

Q.   Help! I have been dating this amazing guy for four months and he is everything I could possibly want in a man; however, he has issues with relationships. He has been hurt a lot before and tells me that "relationships are just exhausting" to him r...

A.   5 August 2008: Unfortunately he is using you for emotional and physical comfort when he needs it. He doesn't want to give up his friends with benefits with you. It is up to you to cut the cord and make it stick. Best wishes xo... (read in full...)

I'm 13 years old, going to have sex for the first time. What position is best?

Q.   I am 13 and me and My And My Boyfriend have been together for nearly 3 months now and i no he wants too have sex and so do i but i am a virgin so he will be my first. i am really scared.! What position is best for the first time? Everyone says ...

A.   5 August 2008: Are you wanting to have sex because you really want to or mostly because he does and you want to please him? The right time is when you feel absolutely no pressure from a boy to do so and when you are not doing it because you think a boy will lik... (read in full...)

We have been together 4 months, when is the right time to have sex?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 months now and I was wondering when is the right moment to have sex or if we should wait a little bit longer?...

A.   5 August 2008: When you feel absolutely no pressure from a boy to do so and when you are not doing it because you think a boy will like you more if you do. When you have talked about pregnancy and STDs and have a reliable form of birth control and condoms.... (read in full...)

I'm heartbroken and a doormat when it comes to my ex. What can I do?

Q.   I dont really know where to start, im just heartbroken and I need to talk to someone...so here goes Me and my ex have been on and off for about 10 years (im 28 hes 31), we have had about 4 breakups in that time, mainly because he wants to be sing...

A.   5 August 2008: Hi Hunnie, you know he isn't good for you but it is hard to let go. You really can let go and move on. Can you see a counselor? There are some good books out there on how to heal from a break up too. The first thing to do is to stop all contact... (read in full...)

I have been seeing this guy for eight years, now we broke up once, got back together, he will not take me around our town, if we go out, what is the problem?

Q.   Ive been seeing a guy for 8 years now, we've had our ups and downs as all couples do. He did cheat on me once and I broke it off but we got back together. Why after all this time wont he been seen with me around town, when I mention it he kicks off ...

A.   5 August 2008: I suspect he has someone else. Maybe it's time to see what else is out there?... (read in full...)

I've been seeing a married man for 6 years and I think he's talking to other girls online!

Q.   Hi: I have been seeing a married man for 6 years now, he tells me he loves me but he keeps chatting with women on line and wanting to get to know them better. When I ask him about he says it is not true but I know otherwise, what should I do?...

A.   5 August 2008: I'm not sure what you are expecting from him? He is cheating on his wife with you so why wouldn't he cheat on you too? As hard as it may be, it sounds like it is time to let this one go. There are plenty of men out there who would love to be with ... (read in full...)

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