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Love in absentia

Q.   After several months of mutual attraction between myself and a very nice man, we met up and discussed establishing our relationship. Asked if I wanted to take our friendship further or just remain good friends. We decided to take this further. We ...

A.   20 May 2010: Reading this - makes me wonder a little. Is seems it was him that asked you whether you wanted to take this relationship further yes? Why did he do this if he cannot or will not commit any time to you and your relationship. As a previous Aunt ... (read in full...)

He has no passion for anything

Q.   My husband is emotionally unavailabe. He is passive agressive but not in a hurtful way. He never tells me "No you cant go here or do that" but when I go ahead and do things, he literally lays on the couch the whole time I'm gone and feels sorry for ...

A.   17 May 2010: I dont want to simplify anything but these traits seem to be classic signs for depression! He needs help and soon... Steve... (read in full...)

He is afraid of divorcing his wife because of the children, and I love him so much. Please help.

Q.   First hello dear cupied, my name is ari, my life has passed through a lot of problems , I was married beforefour year and I divorced for a big reason i had, he was an alcoolical man, and my life with him was like in prison and God helped me to ...

A.   17 May 2010: Hello Ari, You have a very simple decision to make: either end the relationship or ask him to make decision, you or her. If he loves you as much as he says he does - he will leave his wife for you. But I doubt he will! Good Luck Steve... (read in full...)

Should I see if the other guy can satisfy me?

Q.   I`ve had three lovers in my life and the biggest of the three was my ex hubby just at 5inches and 5inches in girth before my bf now witch is almost 4inches long and 4.5 around. I noticed the difference the first time he put it in and I was let ...

A.   17 May 2010: Sorry to hijack the thread but... Is it just me that HATES - text speak? Apart from that - size does matter... but so does a nice V! If you cheat on your BF it would sure serve you right if he tried a female with a tighter V, just so he could... (read in full...)

Teacher acts weird around me because I think he`s interested...I`m not.

Q.   I'm 17 atm and at a private school where increased interaction between students and teachers is acceptable. However, there's this teacher who's 30 years old that I'm having a few problems with. He's an English teacher and only arrived a year a...

A.   23 March 2010: Increased interaction in ANY school whether private or not has boundaries as laid down by the LAW and by the Teachers moral code. There are clear and well laid out boundaries about what a teacher can and cannot do with regard to pupils. If you ... (read in full...)

Threesome with husband & best friend gone wrong... I think??

Q.   Hello, My husband and I had a threesome with my best friend the other evening. I wasn't exactly into it and I told him but he kept insisting and finally when we were all watching tv he made the move. I wasn't exactly expecting him too but I thought ...

A.   23 March 2010: I cannot imagine the way you are feeling right now... its almost like your Spouse has cheated on you, right in front of you, and all with your consent. My guess is that this is really what he ultimately wanted, your consent to commit what would be ... (read in full...)

Will he be missing me as much as I am missing him?

Q.   hello,i need to explain what happened before you can help me!..i work on a militry base behind a bar and i love my job,last sept my dream guy walked into the bar and started to chat..to shorten this tale a little..he was posted in for 8 weeks and ...

A.   17 March 2010: There is a difference between missing you and missing you - he misses the rush of cheating on his wife and making out with you as you seem to have pretty much made it easy for him. Then there is the missing his wife and his children - what ... (read in full...)

3 years have gone past since our break up and I still can't move on...

Q.   my girlfriend and i split up about 3 and half years ago. we were engaged and living together. i havent moved on yet but she has had a few casual boyfriends and one serious one she lives with and is expecting his baby, i think they been together 2 ...

A.   17 March 2010: Judging by what you are saying - you live nearby and maybe friends, family are constantly reminding you of what you had thinking you may be genuinely interested. You need to advise them that you dont care and for them please to stop telling you... (read in full...)

Should I go out on a date with my friend in spite of being married?

Q.   i am married but i want to be with my friend and he wants to be with me but i don't think it will lead to sex should i go out on a date with him or not? I mean i am not saying I don't want have sex with him I do but we are both a bit more mature ...

A.   26 February 2010: NO - its that simple really!!! Steve... (read in full...)

Why does he not want his family to know about us? Is he unsure of where the relationship might go?

Q.   I've been in an relationship since october 2009. I'm white, and my boyfriend is from Bangladesh. I love him deeply, he's the most amazing person I have ever met, he always makes me laugh,he's so sweet and kind it's almost unbelievable. but i have ...

A.   19 February 2010: Sounds to me like one amazing conspiracy against you... I hope I'm wrong but by looking at the facts he loves you - but not more than his family and he is weak. In your position I'd tell him that you will tell them all if he doesn't about the rela... (read in full...)

There is a chance my girlfriend could be pregnant, is there anything I can do or say to help?

Q.   I have been seeing this girl and she thinks she might be pregnant, I did what i thought was right and reminded her that I love her and that no matter what happens i will be there for her, is there anything I can do or say to help? she says i keep ...

A.   19 February 2010: Hope things have gone ok - you should know by now the results... she may just be stressing out but just be there for her man, let her know you care! Let us know how you've gone on ok? Steve... (read in full...)

I'm scared my insecurities will ruin my relationship, how can I overcome this?

Q.   hi, i am 19 years old and i have just found the most perfect guy for me, i have never felt like this before and i know he is the one for me. i have completely forgotten that other attractive guys exist because i only have eyes for him. howeve...

A.   17 February 2010: So you're insecure.... Stop Googling, dont watch Soa's, ignore the Mags and listen to him - he's with you! You're being brainwashed by the media and you're getting worse! Society doesn't dictate what yu should look like or be like - he's with... (read in full...)

Catholic girls are supposed to be saints, but I have ended up getting pregnant at 15

Q.   Ok im 15 and pregnant.. But Im also Bi.. but Idk what I should do.. because I was raised to be a Catholic girl... Catholics are supposed to be "saints". I need advise, but dont need to be judged.. Please help?...

A.   17 February 2010: The idea that Catholics are supposed to be Saints is in your mind... You did something that Catholics aren't supposed to do, so do another thing and either get the boy to own up to his responsibilities or terminate the pregnancy - you said you... (read in full...)

There is a chance my girlfriend could be pregnant, is there anything I can do or say to help?

Q.   I have been seeing this girl and she thinks she might be pregnant, I did what i thought was right and reminded her that I love her and that no matter what happens i will be there for her, is there anything I can do or say to help? she says i keep ...

A.   17 February 2010: First things first - she needs to be sure whether there is a pregnancy or not. Pregnancy Test? The Doctors then if results are positive to have it confirmed... Then you need to plan what you're going to do... Without the first step there is ... (read in full...)

Am I just fooling myself trying to believe that he is not cheating?

Q.   I have been married for 5 years. Husband is from a different counrty and speaks excellent english. We have had a great relationship I thought. I have been back and forth from the US to his country and last year when i returned to his country, I ...

A.   17 February 2010: He may not be cheating however, he is doing something that makes you believe or doubt he is so therefore you need to nip this in the bud and ask him outright to open up the phone and let you look. Trouble with this is - once you cross the line of ... (read in full...)

My sisters breasts are bigger than mine, will he choose her over me?

Q.   Hi, I am with a man, and I love him and he loves me deeply. But he is very, very sexual. He watches porn all the time and he basically has one of the highest sex drives knows to man. Well, I have this insecurity. I have really small brea...

A.   11 February 2010: Large beautiful breasts aren't everything... to him! But it sounds like they are to you! Be thank ful you have breasts that wont drop so quickly, likely to have nicer more sensative nipples and allow you to exercise and perform sport better. ... (read in full...)

Will the court take my kids away from me just for smoking pot?

Q.   Hi there...I smoke weed and have 3 kids...I don't smoke around them and they don't know that I do it. My ex-husband knows that I have always smoked weed and now that I pushed for child support, he started calling DCF on me...twice in the last 6 ...

A.   11 February 2010: Here in the UK its breakng the law... I'd do the same as your ex! Just because you smoked for years doesn't make it right! You need to stop - NOW! Steve... (read in full...)

Is it normal for a man not to send their loved one, a Valentine's card?

Q.   Should a man you are seeing send a Valentines? Hi - well my guy has never really been Mr Romantic and he does send Xmas and birthday cards - but last year there was no Valentine and this year he said he hasn't got round to getting me a card yet (so ...

A.   11 February 2010: I dont think there are rights or wrongs about this. Its very subjective - afterall, it was created by the card companies to generate sales. In my view, the last 12 months have been very difficult for my Wife and I, I have spent many many nights a... (read in full...)

I no longer want to have sex with my husband. How do I tell him?

Q.   How do I tell my husband how I feel? I have been with my husband for 20 years and I no longer want to have sex with him. I do love and care for him but there is no emotional connection whatsoever. No kisses, no sex, no nothing! My feelings towards ...

A.   11 February 2010: How sad that this is how it is - it actually sounds like you have both drifted apart. The choice is - do you want to mend it or not? Does he want to mend it or not? You obviously need two positives or two negatives to conclusively mov... (read in full...)

I'm sick of my wife being lazy and doing nothing! I deserve better, don't I?

Q.   Right, I'll try to keep this short and to the point. I have been married for 10 years (together with my wife for 13 years), all in all we've had a pretty good marriage so far and I was pretty content. Until our new neighbours moved in. Now...

A.   10 February 2010: First things first - stop facilitating your combined financial and emotional suicide trait, get rid of the Cleaner! The Kids, your Wife and YOU are healthy? Then get off your combined butts and help each other to regain or discover your fa... (read in full...)

Why do men like fake boobs so much?

Q.   Why do men like fake boobs so much? In my country, guys seem to prefer fake boobs. These are some famous models in my country, which all men drool over (no nudity, just bikini clad, but probably NSFW): http://i48.tin...

A.   10 February 2010: If I can be bold about this - the guys that like these kind of boobs also like the sex connetation associated with it - big 'fake or not' boobs equals porn equals sex... the guys that usually like this type of girl would also NOT consider marrying ... (read in full...)

I no longer want to have sex with my husband. How do I tell him?

Q.   How do I tell my husband how I feel? I have been with my husband for 20 years and I no longer want to have sex with him. I do love and care for him but there is no emotional connection whatsoever. No kisses, no sex, no nothing! My feelings towards ...

A.   10 February 2010: Whilst i agree with what CaringGuy has already said - I would seek the help of relate as things may not go the way you intend. I guess he already knows from your current situation - unless you are still sharing intimacy. You need professiona... (read in full...)

Not sure how long to wait and he's the one who said Ican call him.

Q.   I met a guy from online..we met at a bar and we seemed to like each other..the conversation went well..he offered to buy me another drink..and then he said after awhile he isn't really a big drinker and do i want to go to another place after this ...

A.   8 February 2010: I'd not read too much into this - as he was laready trying it on with you; you refer to him grabbing too much?, then I'd not go back for more. Sounds to me like he was maybe a gentleman (?) already grabbing to much, he was pushing his luck! ... (read in full...)

Was it reasonable to push her when she came at me with a hot iron?

Q.   I've been married 10 years. On Thursday evenings my wife drops off our 7-year old son at football training and I drive from work to collect him. A few times there has been a last minute change and my wife has texted me but I don't think I've...

A.   29 January 2010: Lets dissect your post: A few times there has been a last minute change... I've frequently asked my wife not to text but speak to me... OK - little conflict going on here! I think the real story is that you have regularly been late (not ... (read in full...)

He says he feels trapped, should I give him an untimatum

Q.   six years ago i caught my fella with another woman this wasnt the first time and i threw him out. i took him back on the understanding that we went out as a couple and he could go to the local occasionaly. recently hes been going nightclubbing with ...

A.   28 January 2010: Many of the comments 'tag' a "man" - women also have affairs and its also difficult for the guy (or partner) to forgive. Back to the point - it does sound like your guy wants to relive his adolescence, its up to you whether you accept this beh... (read in full...)

Husband looking at porn sites rating wives?

Q.   Is it normal for a man to be looking at a porn sight which focuses on other adults rating videos posted in of them having sex with their wives (it is actually called something that is about rating wives) when he has only been married less than a ...

A.   5 January 2010: As sad as it is - people sometimes commit to marriage without actually getting to grips with whom they really are, which is what it seems this guy has. He probably just felt it was the right thing to do and found a woman who; what sounds like, was... (read in full...)

How do I ever trust him again?

Q.   Ive, been in a relationship for 18 years, we have three children. My partner has always flirted with other women even in front of me which has been hurtful but when he kissed a girl in front of me four years ago I told him to leave, he swore it ...

A.   18 December 2009: You are theorising... without facts you can only guess at what is going off. You say "other small signs" - this has all manner of connotations and not proof of Extra Marital Affair (EMA). You say you have recently become very close... it... (read in full...)

Three years on I haven't met his kids, aged 11 to 17, because he doesn't want to unsettle them

Q.   I have been in a relationship for three years,my boyfriend has four children and was seperated from his wife for 18 months before we got together,they were divorced two years ago. I can truly say that he is the love of my life and is everythi...

A.   18 December 2009: When you first embarked on this relationship did he mention he has children? If so then he wanted you to consider the thought that one day you will meet them. If not then he has something to hide... I doubt he is just being over cautious... S... (read in full...)

I get a sinking feeling when I realise it will never happen again

Q.   My husband is circumsized, and lately I've found myself CRAVING sex with an uncircumcised man. I've been with both cut and uncut men before, and hands-down I've found sex with uncut men to be more pleasurable. My husband knows that I've been with ...

A.   14 December 2009: As the skin is cut to the length and joined behind the glans when erect, there is little difference between the two when erect. The only difference is when flaccid. The skin is just more 'floppy and loose'. I feel the difference is pu... (read in full...)

Converting between Christian Religions?

Q.   I was born and raised a catholic, recently I've been going to a Christian services and I absolutely love it. My question is it bad that I want to convert and be baptized as a Christian?...

A.   14 December 2009: I agree with the previous poster about personal preference. My children; although Christened Church of England, now want to be un-Christened as it is not their choice. I believe in the U.K. lots of us are Christened through Peer Pressure, not beli... (read in full...)

My dad doesn't want me dating black guys

Q.   My dad doesn't want me dating black guys. Which I think is terrible, but there's nothing I can do to change it. I just started going out with this back guy (I'm white), and I'm afraid of how my dad might react.. it's not that he's racist, he ...

A.   14 December 2009: Its a difficult one to deal with this... I am in a similar situation with my daughter... I am white and not racist, for the record one of my best friends was Pakistani. Your Dad is looking out for your best interests first and foremost. Here i... (read in full...)

I have been married for a few short months, but the no sex is getting to me

Q.   I have been married several months now. Things didn't start too postively when my wife was too tired to make love on our wedding night. It was a tiring day so this was fair enough and I didn't create a fuss. Howver ever since we have sex so ...

A.   14 December 2009: I doubt many couples actually make love on their Wedding Night... :-D As they say; Wedding Cake is the best form of concraception... but seriously, was the sex ok 'before' the Wedding? If so, has her illness suddenly got worse? It all sounds... (read in full...)

I feel my life slipping away and I want to be happy!

Q.   I have been posting asking for advice in relation to moving on a mutual attraction. I have been trying to get out of a relationship but find it hard as do not want to be totally alone. I feel b/f is seeing other peoplke as he has not been with me ...

A.   14 December 2009: OMG - this posting is so sad... Why do you stay in a relationship that you are not happy in? Despite your fear of being alone, I think it is a time for reflection. Time to come to terms with who you are, where you are and to regroup and ultimate... (read in full...)

I want sex but how do I tell my boyfriend...

Q.   i am 14 years old and i think i am ready for sex. i have a shy boyfriend who i have dated for about 3 months now, and we barely do anything. i feel left out because the closest of my friends have all had sex; i don't think its fair. i get horny ve...

A.   1 December 2009: I dont usually respond to questions such as this but I thought in this case I'd make an exception due to it being quite a mature type of question. Whilst I think its commendable that you have found need to ask the question, it kind of begs oth... (read in full...)

Can lack of affection and sex contribute to or even cause depression?

Q.   Can lack of affection and sex contribute to or even cause depression? I have been in a 25-year marriage and being rejected or deprived of affection and sex is making me nearly ill to the point that I am questioning my desirability. and wonderin...

A.   1 December 2009: Of course it will depress you - feeling undesired, unwanted, unfancied - un-everything takes it's toll! Has he always been like this or is it recent? At the end of the day - this is a primary example of why affairs begin, you dont have to be ... (read in full...)

I think I.m in love with the tattoo artist,,should I ask him out for a drink?

Q.   just under 3 weeks ago i had a tattoo done. it wasn't my first tattoo, it was a cover up of an old one. the tattooist was a man in his late 40s, who didn't look like a typical tattooist at all. he was just an attractive older man. he also had a ...

A.   27 November 2009: I'd just bite the bullet and ask him out now... it seems he is playing the professional etiquette line. Steve... (read in full...)

How can I make our break-up easier for the children? They are very upset and confused

Q.   My husband of 16 years has left the family home, me and my two young children. He says he does not feel loved enough by me then says he feels suffocated by me. I am very confused and don't know what to do to get him home. We all miss him very much ...

A.   24 November 2009: You need to take a step back and assess what it is YOU want now, this will bring home to him that you have to make plans too. It sounds to me like you are a very emotional person who has doted on him for ever - and now he appears to be letting ... (read in full...)

How often per week should a couple have sex?

Q.   Ok since this has been a reoccuring theme on this site of late, I would like to settle once and for all, how often per week should a couple have sex. My theory is: 3 times combined with 3 times asking how her day was and back/foot rub. And one day...

A.   24 November 2009: Judging by how many responses thought your joke wasn't very good, I'd suggest posting another post, posting as an immature kid looking for a macro-sense-of-humour. It's postings like this that simply drags down this site and wastes peoples ... (read in full...)

How often per week should a couple have sex?

Q.   Ok since this has been a reoccuring theme on this site of late, I would like to settle once and for all, how often per week should a couple have sex. My theory is: 3 times combined with 3 times asking how her day was and back/foot rub. And one day...

A.   23 November 2009: This cant be a serious question right? Why would a 30-35 year old be asking teenager questions? Steve... (read in full...)

I think I.m in love with the tattoo artist,,should I ask him out for a drink?

Q.   just under 3 weeks ago i had a tattoo done. it wasn't my first tattoo, it was a cover up of an old one. the tattooist was a man in his late 40s, who didn't look like a typical tattooist at all. he was just an attractive older man. he also had a ...

A.   23 November 2009: Sounds like he's interested but make sure you are not treading on anyone's toes hun... Steve... (read in full...)

I think I.m in love with the tattoo artist,,should I ask him out for a drink?

Q.   just under 3 weeks ago i had a tattoo done. it wasn't my first tattoo, it was a cover up of an old one. the tattooist was a man in his late 40s, who didn't look like a typical tattooist at all. he was just an attractive older man. he also had a ...

A.   13 November 2009: Hmmm... have you ever fallen for someone else who makes you feel valued and attractive i.e. your Doctor, Teacher, Lecturer? It is quite common to think you have fallen for someone who makes you feel good. Its like a temporary ego boost, but that's ... (read in full...)

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