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He's a closed book in the bedroom!

Q.   my husband is a closed book when it comes to the bedroom. i try to get him to open up and he doesnt. our sex life is becoming so repetitive that i am getting bored. he also doesnt last long and i have been finding myself needing more. he is also ...

A.   9 December 2008: This depends on how much you like sex and how open and experimental you are. I'm in love with a man who is just someone he uses for the sex. Its the best ever and is why I can't cut things off. Heartbreaking. But, because he does not love me, some... (read in full...)

I need help to decipher this Tarot card!

Q.   By no means do I blindly put my faith into anything. So when I was introduced to Tarot cards for the 1st time I was hesitant. Over the summer I went to stay with my uncle in the states. After a day @ the beach my uncle decided to surprise me by ta...

A.   9 December 2008: Hi there, that isn't a traditional tarot deck. But even so, each person translates and interprets cards differently. Don't take hat reading so seriously. She is not god and it was just a glimpse into a moment in time. But just off the top of m... (read in full...)

My rational side tells me to run away from my married boss, but my emotions say something else!

Q.   i am 18 years old and i am absolutly head over heels in love with my 30 year old boss, and yes, the feeling is mutual. the problem is he is married with two young children. now, the rational side of me is telling me to run away from this...

A.   9 December 2008: Find a new job. This man is stringing you along. Men almost always want as many women as possible.Married or not. You flatter his ego. This is such a common scenario and all that results in these sort of things is hell for the children due to a ... (read in full...)

How can I undo what I did and get their friendship back?

Q.   I liked a guy in college. I got jealous of my best friend and told my other best friend to kinda spy on her because she was talking with that guy. I deeply regret it. They are not talking to me now. Please tell me what to do please....

A.   9 December 2008: For one thing I wouldn't grovel and beg as that puts them in the power position of being able to be more abusive to you. These people don't actually sound like very kind people and by the way they are treating you I don't quite understand why you ... (read in full...)

How can I control my controlling behavior?

Q.   ok... i have a bad problem. ok im young like high school young and so is my bf! we have been together for almost 10 months and i really think that i love him and he loves me to! but my problem is that i am verry controlling and i dont like it w...

A.   9 December 2008: The best thing about this is that you have self awareness and are able to look at yourself honestly ! I know so many people even past 40 who have zero! Best thing to do is see about trying to control your impulses and try not to drive someone ... (read in full...)

Is my lust for a teacher unhealthy and should I talk to someone about it?

Q.   So I’m kind of anxious because I truly feel that I’m beginning to have an emotional attachment to my English teacher. He was my teacher last year, and he's my AP teacher this year. When I speak to him, I accidentally stare into his eyes, appearing ...

A.   8 December 2008: If in fact you are age 10 - 12 I'd be surprised because the writing style appears to be that of an adult. Is this perhaps the teacher?... (read in full...)

I need help decoding a man!

Q.   Ok.. So theres this boy, he is 22 and i am 19. We have known each other for about 2 yrs now. I need advice, he is soo confusing. We have been on and off for those 2 yrs. He has told me he really likes me and i have told him too. Once we had like 5 ...

A.   8 December 2008: No matter how old a boy or man is, there is really no way for a woman to ever understand them! Men can think they love you and treat you like the best thing that ever happened to them and out of the blue, they are gone. Also, there is no way to ... (read in full...)

Is this too big of an age gap?

Q.   Hi everybody, I met a guy who is older than me and we and thinking about getting into a relationship. I am 20 and he is 26. Is this age gap ok or is it too wide? Thanks for all your help. :)...

A.   8 December 2008: 20 /26 is pretty much equal. 20/29 would not be as equal.... (read in full...)

I'm starting to fall for him... what should I do?

Q.   I'm a 36 year old just out of a long-term (13 years) relationship, but it's complicated as we're still living together with our toddler son as I'm at uni for the next year and seeing as we're best friends it is easy to stay in this situation. ...

A.   8 December 2008: This guy is very skilled for his age! Just always remember he is only 21 and most 21 year old men are after only 2 things, sex and ego boosts. LOL Have fun if you like but just realize he is still a boy emotionally and chances of a relationship are ... (read in full...)

How can I undo what I did and get their friendship back?

Q.   I liked a guy in college. I got jealous of my best friend and told my other best friend to kinda spy on her because she was talking with that guy. I deeply regret it. They are not talking to me now. Please tell me what to do please....

A.   8 December 2008: Love makes people do really stupid things! LOL All of us have done something we regret in the name of "love." You didn't say what happened that would result in them not wanting to talk to you. Did the one friend betray your secret? Is it o... (read in full...)

Me and my friend are both pregnant by the same guy and now we're not talking... help!

Q.   hi me and my friend are both 14 and we both got pregnent by the same person please help, we are loosing are friendship over this the guy is gonna be 17 in 2 weeks and we both love him he bought us both the same ring and me and my friend just figured ...

A.   8 December 2008: Abortion or adoption depending how far along you are. Since your parents are going to be grandparents you need to ask them what to do. Us strangers can only give you ideas, but your parents will know exactly what to do. If both of you girls ha... (read in full...)

My friend is so gullible!

Q.   Hi I need help / advice quickly please!!! I am 21 and live in the UK. I have a friend who has recently started hanging around with this guy who works in the local pizza place. He originally comes from Libya and is muslim. My friend is christ...

A.   8 December 2008: By the way, I forgot to say that when your friend is an adult, she will look back and think about this much differently - She will LOVE you for caring so much and for being wise enough to step in and help her.... (read in full...)

My friend is so gullible!

Q.   Hi I need help / advice quickly please!!! I am 21 and live in the UK. I have a friend who has recently started hanging around with this guy who works in the local pizza place. He originally comes from Libya and is muslim. My friend is christ...

A.   8 December 2008: In this case it is best to loose her as a friend for saving her from a VERY bad situation! TELL HER FAMILY!!! The family will LOVE you forever. This is not different from telling a family of any other dangerous secret behavior. If she were going to ... (read in full...)

After listening to my manager's confession I'm so depressed, are all men cheaters like him?

Q.   Hey friends! I am unmarried and working in a bank. I have good terms with my manager.He is a big flirt. I have seen many girls pleases him to get hike or promotion.He is married. One day i asked him that why you do all this. How can you touch so...

A.   8 December 2008: This guy basically is a very cold and unemotional person. Probably a narcissist. Most people, men and women are not narcissistic users with no emotions. He lives in a very small world of self involvement. I agree with the others, pity his sorr... (read in full...)

I'm 13 and want to date but parent will not let me. Are they afraid of me growing up?

Q.   Im a 13yr old girl...and not allowed to date... I have once but my parents dont know about it. Are they just afraid that im growing up. They freaked out when i started my period... I havent had any contact with guy...close enough to touch....

A.   8 December 2008: Not so much afraid of you growing up but afraid that you think you know what you are doing at such a young age... like emporessmystique said, so many young girls end up pregnant and that is probably what they are worried about because your parents ... (read in full...)

While I know it is none of my business, I am upset she slept with someone else when we separted temporarily

Q.   I have been with my girlfriend for about a year and half and, about two months ago I thought I fell out of love with her after moving to uni. To see if this was true I decided it was best we went on a break. She lives about four miles away in other ...

A.   8 December 2008: The thing is when you broke things off and broke her heart, she needed a way to deal with it and usually people find rebound sex. This never really helps, but its what people do. This is your problem alone and it is not fair to ask her for deta... (read in full...)

I'm soon to be married to a she-devil.

Q.   Dear Cupid, I'm a 28 year old man from India. I'm an investment banker and about to be married to a lawyer in about 60 days time. In the last 150 days of our engagement, we have gottent to know each other a little, even confessed love. But...

A.   8 December 2008: ----At this moment, I'm totally confused, don't want to spoil the love I've found in my life for something trivial. Don't want to get in a relationship that will get me and my family into lifelong pain.----- LOVE?????? Nothing you have said in... (read in full...)

My friend is so gullible!

Q.   Hi I need help / advice quickly please!!! I am 21 and live in the UK. I have a friend who has recently started hanging around with this guy who works in the local pizza place. He originally comes from Libya and is muslim. My friend is christ...

A.   8 December 2008: This sounds like they might be converting her without her knowledge. Muslims are forbidden to have relations with non-belivers! Infidels! Does her family know about this? This is NOT GOOD! She is in store for a very nasty reality if she goes alo... (read in full...)

They constantly talk about me and it's really getting to me.

Q.   Okay so here's the story. This girl is trying to make my life a living hell. She dated my ex bf and once she found out I was with him and he got stuff for me she acted really wierd. I met her on sunday at her sisters house who is in my grade (9th) ...

A.   8 December 2008: Gosh I feel bad for you because I know how this sort of ridiculous drama triangles create unnecessary pain. Basically, most relationship problems are due to some sort of triangle. Other people messing things up between 2 people, willing or not w... (read in full...)

My mind is flooded by irrational thoughts and negativity, how can I ENJOY life?

Q.   ok so i have been struck by panic attacks for quite a long time. i am 22. i cant control my thoughts and my mind is flooded by irrational thoughts and negativity. i got scared of life and fear has been ruling me every second followed by mood ...

A.   7 December 2008: From my personal experience - as I am not a young gal - to have these feelings and mood disorders at your particular age is common - even if the psychiatry profession seems to over look this phenomenon. I have no idea what causes it. Perhaps ... (read in full...)

What did she mean by this strange behaviour in the offce?

Q.   Hi. All very odd. There's an attractive woman at work who has been around for a good few years now. I've said 'hello' a few times when passing in the corridor - but just kept going (thinking nothing more). The other day she called after me down the ...

A.   7 December 2008: if she is married, just forget about the whole thing! LOL... (read in full...)

I'm soon to be married to a she-devil.

Q.   Dear Cupid, I'm a 28 year old man from India. I'm an investment banker and about to be married to a lawyer in about 60 days time. In the last 150 days of our engagement, we have gottent to know each other a little, even confessed love. But...

A.   7 December 2008: How did you end up engaged to someone you barely know? She obviously is very self involved and has no regard for you at all other than someone to cling to for all of her needs. If its at all possible to cut off all contact with no explanat... (read in full...)

How can a beautiful girl become sexy, hot and appealing for guys?

Q.   Guys say "What a sexy and Hot girl" to some girls. My friends say that I am beautiful, have a good figure but I don't look sexy and hot. I have also seen, guys find my friend appealing who is not beautiful. I get a lot less attention. How can a...

A.   7 December 2008: Because you are young it makes sense that you might think being hot is better than being naturally beautiful. The thing about the hot girls that men "want" is .... they want these girls usually just for sex and boosting their ego. From what I hear, ... (read in full...)

Used for sex!

Q.   During my holiday from England, I met this gay boy on the gay beach with his friends. He chatted me up and constantly complimented me on my appearance and made it quite obvious he wanted to have some fun with me. I wasn't too keen at first but fell ...

A.   7 December 2008: Not to be insensitive about this, but at your age I would assume you realize that the world of male homosexuality centers around casual encounters. Very few gay men I know are seeking relationships until they are in their 40s. Men rarely seek a ... (read in full...)

Is there a movie that portrays a much older man dating a younger woman?

Q.   Is there a movie that portrays a much older man dating a younger woman? With that Heather Locklear TV-movie "Flirting with 40" on tonight, I was curous if there is a movie that portrays the opposite of "40"; showing a much older man dating a younger ...

A.   7 December 2008: Hopefully you aren't interested in an older man. They take total advantage of younger women because the women the same age know what their game is by now and they can't get away with all the BS. Most older guys need viagra too. But, live and learn. ... (read in full...)

How do I explain my attraction to him if they are only going to make fun of me?

Q.   I really like this kid he is in seventh grade. I am in 8th. All my friends think he is ugly and way to short for me. I hate it. I met him at are local skating place. He was soo sweet ans i thought he was really cute!!! We couple skated and i t...

A.   7 December 2008: Sometimes the cool nerds are the best! Its always best to keep your romance secret from others who you think are your friends because they tend to make trouble and interfere and judge. Enjoy having fun with your friend and do not tell anyone because ... (read in full...)

Should I break up with him over this?

Q.   Im a vagan and my boyfriend (im 15 and hes 16) eats meat like it's the only food left in the world. I tried not to let come between us but one day we went to a restaurant. He ordered veal When he got it he was bf: Look its Betty the cow. He...

A.   7 December 2008: You might be a little overly sensitive about your position. Most people think being vegan is sort of funny. Not to be mean or disrespectful, I wouldn't break up over something like that if you love him! Is he good to you in all the other ways? He ... (read in full...)

He told me he didn’t fancy me anymore but how could this happen?

Q.   About 9 months ago my friend told me that he was attracted to me and I admitted that I had feelings for the guy too but we decided to just stay friends. One night, a few months later, he came over to mine and we had a cuddle and ‘dry humped’ and he ...

A.   6 December 2008: Letting go of someone you care for is the hardest thing in the world. One-way love is horrible! All of us have been in a situation like that, more times than we would like. He hasn't had enough life experience yet to be the man you want him to b... (read in full...)

How do I make sure he's not playing me?

Q.   Hi everyone, I am 22yr old and have just come out of a 3yr relationship. My first love and sex experiance. He ended it with me and i was devastated. Its been a month now i feel better in myself and i seem to be getting interest fron men. One in...

A.   6 December 2008: --- he has slept with 35 people! but apparantly he isnt a player hes just looking for the right girl. ---- Oh, this guy is a total player! You don't sleep with that many girls to find the right one. The right one is not going to sleep with him... (read in full...)

Did he dump me?

Q.   I have been dating with this guy for 3 years.He recently lives in Lisbon for getting an Portuguese residence.He used to call me and we talked on the phone every week.I live in Madrid since we dont see each other alot,i knew that he doesnt have a ...

A.   6 December 2008: 3 years is a long time to know someone and then act as if they hardly know you. Best thing to do is stop calling or texting and let him wonder what happened to you. If he continues to call you then he is still interested. If you do all the call... (read in full...)

I'm falling in love with him... but it's his fault!

Q.   Hi there. I have a problem. I'm 14 and I have liked this boy for a while now and he has said in the past (only a few days ago) he likes me too. The thing is, he has a girlfriend BUT he says he likes me aswell. He flirts with me on msn and webcam ALL ...

A.   6 December 2008: Have you actually met him in person? Thing is, this is an infatuation which people usually think is love since the emotions are so powerful. Infatuation or love, unfortunately can not go away just because you want it to! LOL There is no cure oth... (read in full...)

My wife doesn't want sex but this other woman does...

Q.   Hey guys i need your advice. I am married since last 7 years. I am tall and with good physique. My wife has become overweight. Her belly has become very fat. She remain frustrated all the tiem. Has no charm in life. Go to job , come home , eat and ...

A.   6 December 2008: This woman has suggested to come to your house? That is really a bitchy thing to do! Tell your wife NOW about what you are thinking and that nothing has happened yet! She might feel motivated to get her figure back and have sex again. She might be... (read in full...)

Do I date my male manager or female co-worker?

Q.   Dear Cupid Members, I need some killer advice... I am 19m and I am bisexual. I have a crush on my manager he is a sweet caring guy and we flirt all the time, but I dont know what his sexuality is he found out I thought he maybe gay, and h...

A.   6 December 2008: Getting involved with a manager is a good way to get fired! He has the control and power over you. WIth the girl, try to be friends for a while before making it sexual. If you are friends first, things have a way of working out better. But b... (read in full...)

2 men are being friendly... or are they being more than friendly?

Q.   I would like to know whether either of these two men are showing interest in me. First one at my child's school. He came past and very politely said hello and on the way home from school he passed me on the opposite side of the road and smiled ...

A.   6 December 2008: Sounds like typical flirty behavior. If either is interested in more, they will ask you out. And still, it could be just for sex. So stay out of bed until a man starts to treat you with respect and consideration. But, at this point, its all abou... (read in full...)

We're friends who have sex, but are we really friends?

Q.   Yet again I find myself let down. Story of my life really. I seem to meet blokes who constantly lie to me and use me. Anyway point of this question is that I met a guy a few months ago, who I really like - I think he's totally amazing! He lives ...

A.   6 December 2008: Women always feel like they are getting close with a man when sex is involved and men are very different which is unfair! LOL It seems the only way they develop feelings is by having to chase a woman for a long time and get in the habit of treat... (read in full...)

I'm falling in love with him... but it's his fault!

Q.   Hi there. I have a problem. I'm 14 and I have liked this boy for a while now and he has said in the past (only a few days ago) he likes me too. The thing is, he has a girlfriend BUT he says he likes me aswell. He flirts with me on msn and webcam ALL ...

A.   6 December 2008: He has no idea how it feels to be in your shoes. Even if you tell him he is too young to understand the effect he has on you. Try to be strong and cut things off. He is too young and immature to have a love relationship anyhow. You are both sti... (read in full...)

Pro's and Con's of being friends with benefits for a guy who's never had a girlfriend...

Q.   I have read lot about FWB( Freinds with benefit) Relationship. Some are having it with one, Some are simultaneously having it with 2-3 partners. Some are involved in it premarital, some are inovolved in it after being married also. I am 20Y old....

A.   6 December 2008: The only way you can enjoy FWB is if you don't have feelings for him. Otherwise you will cry yourself to sleep every night. emporessmystique is right about pleasure / pain. I've been involved in that for 5 years now and its been the worst emotiona... (read in full...)

I really need someone to shake me up and tell me to get a reality check.

Q.   I know this is like a lot of typical cases.. but I really need help. I'm in my second year in high school, and I've had this same crush since the first week of freshman year. This guy had shared one class with me last year- which is how I got to ...

A.   6 December 2008: You are a very sweet and caring young woman lava and thank you .... you will be just fine. Bad boys always get the best of us, but hopefully the one you end up with is devoted to you and is not as bad as the loser bad boys! Happy holidays Lava!... (read in full...)

I really love him and need to tell him!!!

Q.   Hi There I hope you can help me. Well what it is... I'm totally in love with this boy but he doesn't know about it and I really wanna tell him but I dunno how to coz it's pretty embarrassing in case he doesen't like me :( I've known him for a w...

A.   6 December 2008: Telling someone you love them when you don't know them is a sure way to scare them off! Start slow! LOL Just say hi my name is --- you're kind of cute. Its better to flirt just a little to peek his interest. I think just saying anything like tha... (read in full...)

I'm completely put off by my boyfriend snorting cocaine.

Q.   HI - I feel let down and have lost all respect for my boyfriend. The other night my boyfriend and I went to a house party, we both had a really brilliant evening. The next morning we went back to the house where the party was and spoke to the girl ...

A.   6 December 2008: That probably wasn't his first time nor his last time. Promises usually don't last very long once temptation is calling their name.... (read in full...)

I really need someone to shake me up and tell me to get a reality check.

Q.   I know this is like a lot of typical cases.. but I really need help. I'm in my second year in high school, and I've had this same crush since the first week of freshman year. This guy had shared one class with me last year- which is how I got to ...

A.   6 December 2008: You sound like a very smart and delightful young lady! Thing is, most girls fall for the bad boys! The unfortunate girls get mixed up with them but there is something compelling about them since they are outside of normal society. Enjoy your cru... (read in full...)

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