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He's a sweet person except when he's turned on!

Q.   Dear Cupid(s), I am very confused. At the beginning of the year I met a guy and things seemed to be going really well. Both of us were virgins, and when we finally had sex it felt like that became all our entire relationship was about. I started...

A.   16 August 2017: I'm afraid I agree with everyone else - ending things again is your only option. And for what it's worth, I don't blame you. I wouldn't want to put up with a man who basically got himself off while I sat there awkwardly! I'd feel like he was ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wont give me a BJ!

Q.   My girl and i are in long distance relationship since the starting and we love and trust each other deeply. We do occasionally meet and have wonderful sex . Currently we are even planning to get married and get our parents involved . Now m...

A.   10 August 2017: And OF COURSE I don't want you to speak like that! I'd be delighted if you could simply accept that the only way to solve this issue without someone doing something they don't want to is to part ways. Whereas your posts read like 'These damn ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wont give me a BJ!

Q.   My girl and i are in long distance relationship since the starting and we love and trust each other deeply. We do occasionally meet and have wonderful sex . Currently we are even planning to get married and get our parents involved . Now m...

A.   10 August 2017: You suggested he should ask her how she felt if he stopped spending money on her. Why else would that matter unless you're suggesting he try to guilt her into changing her mind?! Not all force has to be physical.... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wont give me a BJ!

Q.   My girl and i are in long distance relationship since the starting and we love and trust each other deeply. We do occasionally meet and have wonderful sex . Currently we are even planning to get married and get our parents involved . Now m...

A.   9 August 2017: Male anon, I did say 'some men' and the control I'm talking about is the attempted control of female sexuality. For a small group (again not all) of men, the idea that another man 'got' something they didn't from the same woman is their absolute ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wont give me a BJ!

Q.   My girl and i are in long distance relationship since the starting and we love and trust each other deeply. We do occasionally meet and have wonderful sex . Currently we are even planning to get married and get our parents involved . Now m...

A.   8 August 2017: Male anon, what sort of 'special handling' are you talking about? All people are suggesting here is that the OP respect the clear sexual boundaries his gf has set. Surely that should be the same for anyone regardless of gender? If that doesn't work ... (read in full...)

I want sex every day

Q.   Hey just need abit of advice. Me and my partner have sex at least once a week, but i want to have more so everyday after i do ask if shes up for it but all she says is shes too tired been working go play with yourself i used to work alot of hours 4 ...

A.   6 August 2017: Ok having come from a relationship where I had the lower libido, fair warning that this answer is going to reflect that... Honestly, I've now been single for two years and your answer completely brought back all the stress and pressure I felt whe... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wont give me a BJ!

Q.   My girl and i are in long distance relationship since the starting and we love and trust each other deeply. We do occasionally meet and have wonderful sex . Currently we are even planning to get married and get our parents involved . Now m...

A.   6 August 2017: Another vote for you moving on I'm afraid OP. Differences like this can rarely be resolved since one side will always resent the other, whether they are the one that has to 'go without' or the one who 'gives in'. And, based on personal experience, ... (read in full...)

Are there any safe areas to have public sex?

Q.   I would like to find out if there any safe areas in public where I can have sex with a guy? The agreement with my mother was that I can only bring home a new boyfriend after I have met him away from home a couple of times. I am a gay guy aged 54...

A.   6 August 2017: No definitely not! Why can't you book a hotel or private room in a hostel or something? ... (read in full...)

Are we fading to nothing?

Q.   I don't know what to do with my relationship or life. I cant speak to anyone else. I was studying 4 years ago when I met my girlfriend. she was living with parents, I was renting. She didn't have money, but I didn't care. Our love was enough. When ...

A.   24 July 2017: Ok, first of all lose the 'women are always right' stuff because you know fine well that's not true. However you are right in that you are going to get advice on what YOU can do to fix this situation because, well, it's the only thing you have any ... (read in full...)

Is his request weird or not?

Q.   So lemme know if this is weird or not. My boyfriend has been serious/joking with me about if I we had kids, that he'd want to drink my breast milk from my boobs. I shudder at the thought, and I can only imagine the issues women have with their ...

A.   12 July 2017: Another vote here for it only being a little weird as far as requests go, but his entitled attitude after you said no is a big red flag to me.... (read in full...)

I'm always trying to please my husband so he won't get upset

Q.   So I have been married a little over two years, he knew while we were dating that I did not like to cook and also lacked the gene for cooking. When I do try to cook for him, he is brutally honest and also criticizes me on what I could of done ...

A.   11 July 2017: I'm sorry but I wholly disagree with the idea that you should learn to cook because he demands it! No chance!! If you both work full time then you should share the household duties, and since you hate cooking and he seems to be a wannabe masterchef, ... (read in full...)

She strung me along to cancel three times ...

Q.   Hello everyone, so about 2 years ago I was in a short film with an actress and we hit it off really well, great chemistry. There was a kissing scene but it wasn't awkward at all. She even suggested "practice kissing" during rehearsal. However, ...

A.   3 July 2017: Homestly, I think you put her on the spot by calling her out of nowhere and she felt pressured to say yes. Similarly with the second call, so she switched her phone off the third time in the hope you'll 'get the hint'. I know that sounds terrible... (read in full...)

Is a man without a big wallet a deal breaker for you?

Q.   Dear Cupid, I have recently met a great man. We've been dating for a few months but we have met each other's parents because we are serious about each other. Recently though, my worries have been our financial status. He is a hard working chef a...

A.   2 July 2017: Personally, wallet size means nothing to me but I do value a strong work ethic and a level of ambition in a partner. So I'd much rather a poor chef who works hard and wants to do well in his job, to a trust fund baby who is happy drifting along on ... (read in full...)

What is the correct protocol for children that don't live at home and being invited out with us?

Q.   I have a question for other blended families, I have two kids ages 12 and 7 and my fiance has two kids 22 and 18. The 22 and 18 year old live with their boyfriends and my children live with me and my fiance. Here is the question. When planning...

A.   1 July 2017: I can see where they are coming from to be honest. To them, you are trying to incorporate their Dad into YOUR family with YOUR kids while they get left out simply because they are older. Just because a person is an adult, doesn't mean they don... (read in full...)

What is the correct protocol for children that don't live at home and being invited out with us?

Q.   I have a question for other blended families, I have two kids ages 12 and 7 and my fiance has two kids 22 and 18. The 22 and 18 year old live with their boyfriends and my children live with me and my fiance. Here is the question. When planning...

A.   1 July 2017: I can see where they are coming from to be honest. To them, you are trying to incorporate their Dad into YOUR family with YOUR kids while they get left out simply because they are older. Just because a person is an adult, doesn't mean they don... (read in full...)

How can I get hime to be more romantic?

Q.   I'm dating a guy for almost a year and he isn't the romantic type. He's said he's not a mushy type about 6 months in so I pulled back a lot and decided to move on. After two weeks apart he texted me and called wanted to try again. Still the same no ...

A.   24 June 2017: I always find questions like this interesting. I'm generalising here, but they most commonly come from women and often the poster is told to get over it/accept that her partner isn't romantic and it's not fair to ask him to change. Yet when we get ... (read in full...)

Do I ask him about marriage? children? He says he doesn't ever want to marry again

Q.   Is it wrong to ask my boyfriend to think about having children and getting married? We both have a daughter each, and he has been divorced for the last 3 years officially. He is 10 years older then me, and we met while he was in the process of g...

A.   23 June 2017: I think you just need to tell him what you told us - you've been thinking about it recently, you've realised that marriage is something you'd like and you were wondering where his head is at on the matter. Of course there is a chance he'll say that ... (read in full...)

I did not choose the dress my boyfriend loved. Did I make a mistake?

Q.   Hi. I took my boyfriend shopping. He is one of the rare guys who enjoys shopping with his girlfriend. He likes to help me find clothes and watches me as I try them on and always gives me his honest opinion. Yesterday we were out shopping...

A.   5 June 2017: It's your sister's wedding and your body! You chose correctly in my view. Your boyfriend is entitled to an opinion but not to make the decision for you. Personally I'd completely ignore his petty little huff and continue to get excited for your ... (read in full...)

Girlfriend doesn't want to move abroad

Q.   We've been dating for only a few months, our first month I told her I have a dream to move to another country and she said "Yeah if you go we'd break up because I wouldn't leave my family behind!" We decided to stay together but recently a few d...

A.   3 June 2017: My ex boyfriend of 6 years was always talking about how he wanted to move abroad. He never did anything about it so I assumed it was a bit like how I say I'd like to learn the piano - I absolutely would but it's not a priority or something I ... (read in full...)

Why does my wife lie about her sexual past? I overheard a convo she had with a friend. Should I tell her?

Q.   I have been married for many years my wife had a couple of sex partners before we met. She always said that when she was with the them that they didn't have a lot of sex which would not have bothered me if she did. My problem came up as we talked ...

A.   1 May 2017: The problem with asking questions like this is that the only answer a man ever wants to hear is that he is GENUINELY the biggest and best his partner has ever had and, well not to be too harsh, that might not always be the case. That means the wife ... (read in full...)

We used to text a lot up until yesterday. Should I be worried?

Q.   I've been dating a girl for about a month or so no. We really get on and when we are together time flys, we text quite a lot too.. More or less every morning she sends a good morning message, if she falls asleep before receiving my good night t...

A.   27 April 2017: As someone who is currently working 40 hours a week and studying for a masters, I know all about being busy so I feel I'm more than qualified to answer this question. While I'm usually very good at replying to people, recently there have been a f... (read in full...)

Why do girls do things that make them unapproachable and rude?

Q.   Why do girls always have to be glued to each other or have their noses in their phones or in a book? Don't they realize that makes them unapproachable and that it's just plain rude? Also, they do the same things on dates too and act rudely just to ...

A.   20 April 2017: Maybe they don't want to be approached OP? Just because you want to talk to them doesn't mean they are obligated to respond. And yeah, most people don't accuse someone of stalking unless they are seriously crossing some lines. What sort of things do ... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to end things with a good person when they are not your type?

Q.   Is it wrong to end things with someone cause they are not your type? they treat you wonderful,they come on really strong,you wish your ex would of treated you this way. the one who treated you bad you fell for,now I have someone who would do ...

A.   20 April 2017: I think this is exactly what your ex will have felt. Sometimes a person can do everything right and be perfectly lovely, but there's just nothing there. No click or no spark. It doesn't mean you are being punished for being too nice, it means you ... (read in full...)

Girlfriend doesn't make any real effort to lose weight despite wanting to

Q.   I've been in relationship with my girlfriend for about 7 months now. I liked her for her personality and character but her weight had always bothered me right from the start. She was actually slim just under 2 year back(she looked amazing) but gai...

A.   31 March 2017: Definitely end it. You started seeing her at this weight and had it in your mind that you could get her to go back to the weight she was before. That's not kind or fair. Next time, never start a relationship with the intention of trying to change ... (read in full...)

Was I being used, by her ?

Q.   I was dating a girl for 5 weeks – I felt there was something special there and every time we met there was always at least one point where we both laughed so hard we were crying. We even had cute pet names for each other (I called her peach). ...

A.   29 March 2017: Definitely keep up the no contact and accept that she just wasn't that into you. I'd also suggest you reframe your thinking. Many people believe they have been 'strung along' or 'taken for a ride' when the other person simply wasn't feeling it. ... (read in full...)

Should I tell her that on our break I paid for sex?

Q.   Hi, my and my gf of 5 years have sort of had a bit of distance come between us, on my end mainly. She was always so insecure and sort of clingy and although I loved her it chipped away at me and I felt I needed space. We took space and things were ...

A.   29 March 2017: If you were not permitted to see other people, then the fact is you cheated on your girlfriend with a prostitute. So yes I do think you should tell her. Wouldn't you want to know if she'd cheated on you during this period of 'space'? Or would you be ... (read in full...)

Her past bothers me, though I do like our sex life!

Q.   Hey guys, I've been dating a girl for a few months and it's going really great, but her past has come up more than a few times (mainly by me) her lifestyle bothers me a bit she's 22 and loves to club. Has had 12 sexual partners her last dude wa...

A.   24 March 2017: One thing I can never understand about questions like this is actually covered in what you wrote. Some men put such a high value on virginity and women behaving in a way they deem 'respectable', but they also value wild and exciting sex lives! O... (read in full...)

How can I stop coming on so strong?

Q.   Hey everyone. So I've been posting here for quite a while about all of my struggles with attracting women. I think I may finally realize what's been going on. I come on too strong and over analyze things on pretty much every attempt. It's just who I ...

A.   14 March 2017: I'll be brutally honest with you, I find this a very difficult question to answer because I would warn any woman to give a man like you a very wide berth indeed. You are a grown ass man, you shouldn't need to be taught patience with women (or anyone ... (read in full...)

Why douche and hide it from me?

Q.   My girl had to douch before we had sex for the first time after I got home from prison...and she tried to hide it from me that she did it. Does this mean she slept around recently before I got home...why else would she douch and hide it from me?...

A.   2 March 2017: For the exact same reason you might have chosen to shower and clean your penis before you had sex with her - for freshness! ... (read in full...)

How can this be resolved? I want a Baby. He couldn't think of anything worse.

Q.   My husband told me the other day he never wants to have children. I’m devastated. Don’t get me wrong I love him completely and can appreciate that it’s just how he feels but I feel angry and bitter and am having serious thoughts about leaving him if ...

A.   22 February 2017: I think you need to start thinking long term to make this decision. Can you envision yourself as an elderly woman with no children or grandchildren? Will you resent him if he's your only family in old age? I ask these questions as I have an aunt ... (read in full...)

I need help to deal with new found info about wife's past. What should I do?

Q.   My wife and I have been married for five years and have two kids. I have never asked anything about her past all I knew is she wasn't a virgin when we met. This past summer we were at a pool party and one of my best friend's from school was ther...

A.   12 February 2017: 'I went through life thinking I had to take responsibility for everything I ever did! I refrained from doing things that were stupid risks or might come back to haunt me' That's great for you male anon, but expecting everyone in the world to have ... (read in full...)

I need help to deal with new found info about wife's past. What should I do?

Q.   My wife and I have been married for five years and have two kids. I have never asked anything about her past all I knew is she wasn't a virgin when we met. This past summer we were at a pool party and one of my best friend's from school was ther...

A.   9 February 2017: I understand this must be upsetting OP, but I'm not sure you need to get too worried quite yet. I find it really hard to believe any woman who had a threesome in front of a large crowd at a party full of people she's still friends with would manage ... (read in full...)

Is this male theory correct? Do woman wear matching black bra and panties when having sex is intended?

Q.   Is there any truth to the theory that women wear black when they are planning to have sex with someone and also if you're going to have sex you wear matching bra and panties?...

A.   8 February 2017: Nope definitely not true in my opinion. 90% of my underwear is black and I always make sure it matches, yet I've not had sex in about 18 months. To me it's similar to wearing odd socks. Even if no-one would see them underneath my boots, it's still ... (read in full...)

Why do men say they need porn?

Q.   Why do people so often say men need porn when it's clearly a want not a need. No man has ever died of lack of porn and although men may prefer porn to masturbate with porn , men for thousands of years masturbated without the hardcore porn available ...

A.   1 February 2017: Any man who says he NEEDS porn for any reason, is simply trying to make excuses for the fact he uses it. In short, he's an addict. Personally I'm not overly bothered about porn use, but I do get annoyed at the number of stories I hear of men lyin... (read in full...)

Should I dump uni' for a small screen role?

Q.   Hi everybody, I have a difficult decision to make. I am a student at uni studying accountancy. About half a year ago I suffered a nervous breakdown and was allowed to take break from my studies. I was experiencing a deep depression and took this ...

A.   30 January 2017: If it were me, I'd postpone my studies and go for the dream. It might not lead to a career, yet equally it might. The only way to know is to try and see what happens. You're in a position that so many would love, so if it's something you want I t... (read in full...)

I hid a recorder and heard breathing, is he cheating or watching porn?

Q.   Hello Everyone, I have a unique issue. I don't trust my husband. For varies reasons. Alot of people thought I should hire a Detective. I really don't have the money for that. A friend of mine suggested I get a voice recorder and set it in the m...

A.   27 January 2017: "I just keep hoping he will grow up and see what he's doing to me and change" With all respect OP, why would he? There are literally no consequences to his actions because you put up with it. Sure you might complain or shout at him, but from his... (read in full...)

Moving in together and disagree on houseguests. Help!

Q.   My boyfriend and I are both 26 and moving in together for the first time. We’re doing it for the right reasons and discussed everything we could think of before making the decision together. Currently we spend most of our time together at his place, ...

A.   20 January 2017: I'll be brutally honest, I'd have a real problem living with someone that refused to accommodate any houseguests EVER. When I first saw the title of your question, I assumed he was prone to inviting people back to stay on the couch after nights out ... (read in full...)

Present employer could jeopardise new employment

Q.   Not a dating/relationship question, but would really appreciate any input from anyone who has any ideas/thoughts on this problem, as it could turn out to be a big problem for me. I have worked for a number of years for a small, family-owned com...

A.   8 January 2017: Many companies now refuse to issue a reference containing anything more than the basic facts as they are afraid it could be used against them in the future if the other company or employer disagree with their opinion. So I don't think future ... (read in full...)

Do his comments about other women signify insecurity or a potential cheat?

Q.   Hey, My boyfriend is very loving, sweet, complimentary etc but he does this thing that is really starting to grate on me... Basically when we watch films/ tv when a fit women comes on he's VERY vocal about it I.e. "id put it in her" "she's so s...

A.   4 January 2017: My ex told me he'd 'ruin' a girl once too. I told him if he did I'd ruin him right back, then jokingly used my fingers to mimic scissors and pointed them at his nethers! He never said anything like that again! :D... (read in full...)

Is my jealousy justified?

Q.   Hello aunts. I am writing this because I really need help with a recent situation that I am just not handling well. Thanks in advance. First, some background. I'm 30 and I met my current wife two years ago in a business dinner. We flirted a bit an...

A.   4 January 2017: Male anon what does meeting halfway look like though? A person can't change their past so the only options the sufferer has are to either find a way to accept it, or find someone else. Most people presume the OP wants to stay in this marriage so ... (read in full...)

Is my jealousy justified?

Q.   Hello aunts. I am writing this because I really need help with a recent situation that I am just not handling well. Thanks in advance. First, some background. I'm 30 and I met my current wife two years ago in a business dinner. We flirted a bit an...

A.   4 January 2017: So basically you begged, pleaded and badgered her until she dated you and now you're annoyed that not all guys had to do that to get her? I'll be brutally honest with you OP, I don't think there was much of an initial attraction there with you... (read in full...)

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