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Should I own up to my size?

Q.   I only have 4 inches erect and I met this girl about month ago. She is very beautiful and has great personality. We have gotten more physical in the relationship but due to nervousness I invent excuse to leave before she sees me naked or before sex ...

A.   17 December 2017: It makes me really sad that you feel you need to make any sort of apology or announcement about your own body OP. Why on earth would she feel deceived? You are who you are and anyone worth having in your life should accept you as such. I know you... (read in full...)

What can I do to make her pull her weight at home?

Q.   We have been married for over 5 years. I do the cooking, cleaning, shopping, house repairs, car repairs, take care of the animals, etc. Meanwhile my wife comes home, gets on her social media, and messes up the house. Shoes everywhere, papers, books, ...

A.   16 November 2017: This sounds awful OP, there’s nothing worse than feeling like you’re being taken for granted so I really do feel for you. It also would be awful living with someone who takes no pride in themselves or their home. One question I would ask you is w... (read in full...)

I'm afraid to have sex with my boyfriend

Q.   I'm afraid to have sex with my boyfriend... I've been seen this guy for 3 months now and things are moving forward. However, every time we start getting intimate, I freak out and stop all interactions. I'm a virgin and this is the first pro...

A.   12 November 2017: I think this is the time for complete honesty OP. At the moment, neither of you actually know what the other is thinking, which is leaving you open to misunderstandings on both sides. For example, you assume he is becoming frustrated, when he might ... (read in full...)

Why doesn't he offer birthday wishes?

Q.   Dear Cupid I'm with my bf for approx 2 years and he doesn't acknowledge my bday and never even wishes me happy bday. It might sound childish but I wish he could atleast wish me. If I tell him om the day its my bday, and ask whether he is go...

A.   5 November 2017: To be honest I wouldn’t stay in a relationship like this. That might seem drastic to some, but I believe this says a lot more about his character than you realise. Asking the person that is supposed to love you the most in the world to wish you... (read in full...)

How do I explain to my fiance that I want to go out dressed up as a female without hurting her feelings?

Q.   I'm engaged to a wonderful girl. I've always considered myself a female in my heart. I have been crossdressing secretly in the past but I can't anymore. I really want to go out and be feminine once in a while. I explained my fiancee my situation. I ...

A.   27 October 2017: All you can do is ask her, but you’ll need to do so knowing that you must respect her wishes if she says no. I know some people might argue that you have the right to express yourself in any way you see fit, which is right to an extent, but not ... (read in full...)

I think it's degrading to give oral if it's not reciprocated and he thinks I owe it to him because I gave it to other lovers!

Q.   An Oral Sex Dilemma My boyfriend and I have been discussing about oral sex for a few weeks now. We have very different opinions and want the opinion of outside individuals. I think that it is degrading to give oral when if it is not reciproca...

A.   4 October 2017: I'm guessing by degrading you mean that you feel he views sex as all about him. As something the woman gives and the man takes rather than something you both share to pleasure each other? If so I do get that. Honestly, it sounds like he has some... (read in full...)

Why can a woman reject sex but if her boyfriend does it, it's the worst thing ever?

Q.   Why does a female get so offended when you reject her from any pleasure? I been in relationship nearly 4 / 5 years. She doesn’t have same sex drive as me, she felt up for it once in our week long holiday, but because I’m so used to not having it she ...

A.   2 October 2017: OP it sounds like you are both having the exact same issue. You are annoyed when she rejects you, and she is annoyed when you reject her. It just sounds like neither of you want to back down or 'lose' so you're stuck in this stalemate. When ... (read in full...)

I am tired of feeling unsatisfied and sexually frustrated!

Q.   My boyfriend of over 1 year now will not satisfy me sexually. I feel like my needs do not matter to him! When I say I still haven't cum yet. Hes like "well what do you want me to do?" Then I tell him to finger me or something. He usually falls ...

A.   30 September 2017: Honestly I don't think there is much hope here. You've told him how you feel and how he can fix it and he seems unwilling to do anything about it. His response that you already 'did it' shows you that in his mind, sex begins and ends with his orgasm ... (read in full...)

Why am I stuck with the girl that doesn't want to give but wants me to do all the work?

Q.   I been in relationship for 4 years. She was virgin before we met. I have high sex drive , she doesn’t. I tried to accommodate this by doing stuff in shower and not bothering her. Sometimes I ask her to go down, and she won’t put in effort, when she...

A.   28 September 2017: Oh I almost forgot. If she needs to be drunk to want it? That is the clearest sign you will get that sex with you is not a good experience for her. Perhaps something else to think about...... (read in full...)

Why am I stuck with the girl that doesn't want to give but wants me to do all the work?

Q.   I been in relationship for 4 years. She was virgin before we met. I have high sex drive , she doesn’t. I tried to accommodate this by doing stuff in shower and not bothering her. Sometimes I ask her to go down, and she won’t put in effort, when she...

A.   28 September 2017: "So I wonder why does the guy do so much for her friend. I never understood" I think your problem is summed up in this one sentence. Your entire post reads like you view a relationship as one big transaction, where the man spends money/do... (read in full...)

Is it normal for sex to slow down in long term relationships?

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years we were friends with benefits prior to this for 2 years. In the beginning sex was great and frequent and lately has gone to maybe only once a week and has caused some problems in our relationship. ...

A.   26 September 2017: I couldn't agree more with Honeypie. While a drop in sex is normal in all relationships to a certain degree, in my experience problems begin when the focus changes from 'I really want you' to 'I really want sex'. If you can try to spark more desire ... (read in full...)

It seems women lose interest in sex after a while ...

Q.   Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while? Maybe this Isn't the case with all women, but it seems to be like a continuously notorious pattern in my relationships. Women lose interest in sex but I still want it....

A.   31 August 2017: 'You are saying listen to us or you won't get good or regular sex anymore.' Yes that's exactly what I'm saying, but not because I view sex as a commodity or a bargaining chip. I'm saying it because it's the only way to ensure a long term fulfilli... (read in full...)

It seems women lose interest in sex after a while ...

Q.   Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while? Maybe this Isn't the case with all women, but it seems to be like a continuously notorious pattern in my relationships. Women lose interest in sex but I still want it....

A.   30 August 2017: I'm afraid I'm going to have to respectfully disagree with you on that Denizen. Sure there might be some women who have low sex drives but pretend to be interested to hook a man - I mean many people pretend to be something they are not at the ... (read in full...)

It seems women lose interest in sex after a while ...

Q.   Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while? Maybe this Isn't the case with all women, but it seems to be like a continuously notorious pattern in my relationships. Women lose interest in sex but I still want it....

A.   30 August 2017: Denial in what way Denizen? I can only speak for myself but everything I've here sums up exactly how I feel...... (read in full...)

It seems women lose interest in sex after a while ...

Q.   Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while? Maybe this Isn't the case with all women, but it seems to be like a continuously notorious pattern in my relationships. Women lose interest in sex but I still want it....

A.   29 August 2017: Couldn't agree with Cindy more! :) ... (read in full...)

It seems women lose interest in sex after a while ...

Q.   Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while? Maybe this Isn't the case with all women, but it seems to be like a continuously notorious pattern in my relationships. Women lose interest in sex but I still want it....

A.   27 August 2017: I can only speak for myself here, but as a woman who has gone off sex with previous boyfriends, I'll tell you the reasons why and see if any of them help. 1. Im sorry if this is blunt, but one of the main reasons I've gone off sex in the past is ... (read in full...)

I want my boyfriend to be more tactile!

Q.   I am just back from a lovely weekend with my bf of 45 of one year. Things have been strained as he has joint custody of two pre-teen children and he works away twice a week plus there is 50 miles between us. There is no drama with his ex or ...

A.   26 August 2017: Questions like yours always interest me because often, you will find the advice is usually to accept that some people aren't overly affectionate and throwing away an otherwise good relationship for a lack of romance is silly. Yet, if someone ... (read in full...)

He's a sweet person except when he's turned on!

Q.   Dear Cupid(s), I am very confused. At the beginning of the year I met a guy and things seemed to be going really well. Both of us were virgins, and when we finally had sex it felt like that became all our entire relationship was about. I started...

A.   16 August 2017: I'm afraid I agree with everyone else - ending things again is your only option. And for what it's worth, I don't blame you. I wouldn't want to put up with a man who basically got himself off while I sat there awkwardly! I'd feel like he was ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wont give me a BJ!

Q.   My girl and i are in long distance relationship since the starting and we love and trust each other deeply. We do occasionally meet and have wonderful sex . Currently we are even planning to get married and get our parents involved . Now m...

A.   10 August 2017: And OF COURSE I don't want you to speak like that! I'd be delighted if you could simply accept that the only way to solve this issue without someone doing something they don't want to is to part ways. Whereas your posts read like 'These damn ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wont give me a BJ!

Q.   My girl and i are in long distance relationship since the starting and we love and trust each other deeply. We do occasionally meet and have wonderful sex . Currently we are even planning to get married and get our parents involved . Now m...

A.   10 August 2017: You suggested he should ask her how she felt if he stopped spending money on her. Why else would that matter unless you're suggesting he try to guilt her into changing her mind?! Not all force has to be physical.... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wont give me a BJ!

Q.   My girl and i are in long distance relationship since the starting and we love and trust each other deeply. We do occasionally meet and have wonderful sex . Currently we are even planning to get married and get our parents involved . Now m...

A.   9 August 2017: Male anon, I did say 'some men' and the control I'm talking about is the attempted control of female sexuality. For a small group (again not all) of men, the idea that another man 'got' something they didn't from the same woman is their absolute ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wont give me a BJ!

Q.   My girl and i are in long distance relationship since the starting and we love and trust each other deeply. We do occasionally meet and have wonderful sex . Currently we are even planning to get married and get our parents involved . Now m...

A.   8 August 2017: Male anon, what sort of 'special handling' are you talking about? All people are suggesting here is that the OP respect the clear sexual boundaries his gf has set. Surely that should be the same for anyone regardless of gender? If that doesn't work ... (read in full...)

I want sex every day

Q.   Hey just need abit of advice. Me and my partner have sex at least once a week, but i want to have more so everyday after i do ask if shes up for it but all she says is shes too tired been working go play with yourself i used to work alot of hours 4 ...

A.   6 August 2017: Ok having come from a relationship where I had the lower libido, fair warning that this answer is going to reflect that... Honestly, I've now been single for two years and your answer completely brought back all the stress and pressure I felt whe... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wont give me a BJ!

Q.   My girl and i are in long distance relationship since the starting and we love and trust each other deeply. We do occasionally meet and have wonderful sex . Currently we are even planning to get married and get our parents involved . Now m...

A.   6 August 2017: Another vote for you moving on I'm afraid OP. Differences like this can rarely be resolved since one side will always resent the other, whether they are the one that has to 'go without' or the one who 'gives in'. And, based on personal experience, ... (read in full...)

Are there any safe areas to have public sex?

Q.   I would like to find out if there any safe areas in public where I can have sex with a guy? The agreement with my mother was that I can only bring home a new boyfriend after I have met him away from home a couple of times. I am a gay guy aged 54...

A.   6 August 2017: No definitely not! Why can't you book a hotel or private room in a hostel or something? ... (read in full...)

Are we fading to nothing?

Q.   I don't know what to do with my relationship or life. I cant speak to anyone else. I was studying 4 years ago when I met my girlfriend. she was living with parents, I was renting. She didn't have money, but I didn't care. Our love was enough. When ...

A.   24 July 2017: Ok, first of all lose the 'women are always right' stuff because you know fine well that's not true. However you are right in that you are going to get advice on what YOU can do to fix this situation because, well, it's the only thing you have any ... (read in full...)

Is his request weird or not?

Q.   So lemme know if this is weird or not. My boyfriend has been serious/joking with me about if I we had kids, that he'd want to drink my breast milk from my boobs. I shudder at the thought, and I can only imagine the issues women have with their ...

A.   12 July 2017: Another vote here for it only being a little weird as far as requests go, but his entitled attitude after you said no is a big red flag to me.... (read in full...)

I'm always trying to please my husband so he won't get upset

Q.   So I have been married a little over two years, he knew while we were dating that I did not like to cook and also lacked the gene for cooking. When I do try to cook for him, he is brutally honest and also criticizes me on what I could of done ...

A.   11 July 2017: I'm sorry but I wholly disagree with the idea that you should learn to cook because he demands it! No chance!! If you both work full time then you should share the household duties, and since you hate cooking and he seems to be a wannabe masterchef, ... (read in full...)

She strung me along to cancel three times ...

Q.   Hello everyone, so about 2 years ago I was in a short film with an actress and we hit it off really well, great chemistry. There was a kissing scene but it wasn't awkward at all. She even suggested "practice kissing" during rehearsal. However, ...

A.   3 July 2017: Homestly, I think you put her on the spot by calling her out of nowhere and she felt pressured to say yes. Similarly with the second call, so she switched her phone off the third time in the hope you'll 'get the hint'. I know that sounds terrible... (read in full...)

Is a man without a big wallet a deal breaker for you?

Q.   Dear Cupid, I have recently met a great man. We've been dating for a few months but we have met each other's parents because we are serious about each other. Recently though, my worries have been our financial status. He is a hard working chef a...

A.   2 July 2017: Personally, wallet size means nothing to me but I do value a strong work ethic and a level of ambition in a partner. So I'd much rather a poor chef who works hard and wants to do well in his job, to a trust fund baby who is happy drifting along on ... (read in full...)

What is the correct protocol for children that don't live at home and being invited out with us?

Q.   I have a question for other blended families, I have two kids ages 12 and 7 and my fiance has two kids 22 and 18. The 22 and 18 year old live with their boyfriends and my children live with me and my fiance. Here is the question. When planning...

A.   1 July 2017: I can see where they are coming from to be honest. To them, you are trying to incorporate their Dad into YOUR family with YOUR kids while they get left out simply because they are older. Just because a person is an adult, doesn't mean they don... (read in full...)

What is the correct protocol for children that don't live at home and being invited out with us?

Q.   I have a question for other blended families, I have two kids ages 12 and 7 and my fiance has two kids 22 and 18. The 22 and 18 year old live with their boyfriends and my children live with me and my fiance. Here is the question. When planning...

A.   1 July 2017: I can see where they are coming from to be honest. To them, you are trying to incorporate their Dad into YOUR family with YOUR kids while they get left out simply because they are older. Just because a person is an adult, doesn't mean they don... (read in full...)

How can I get hime to be more romantic?

Q.   I'm dating a guy for almost a year and he isn't the romantic type. He's said he's not a mushy type about 6 months in so I pulled back a lot and decided to move on. After two weeks apart he texted me and called wanted to try again. Still the same no ...

A.   24 June 2017: I always find questions like this interesting. I'm generalising here, but they most commonly come from women and often the poster is told to get over it/accept that her partner isn't romantic and it's not fair to ask him to change. Yet when we get ... (read in full...)

Do I ask him about marriage? children? He says he doesn't ever want to marry again

Q.   Is it wrong to ask my boyfriend to think about having children and getting married? We both have a daughter each, and he has been divorced for the last 3 years officially. He is 10 years older then me, and we met while he was in the process of g...

A.   23 June 2017: I think you just need to tell him what you told us - you've been thinking about it recently, you've realised that marriage is something you'd like and you were wondering where his head is at on the matter. Of course there is a chance he'll say that ... (read in full...)

I did not choose the dress my boyfriend loved. Did I make a mistake?

Q.   Hi. I took my boyfriend shopping. He is one of the rare guys who enjoys shopping with his girlfriend. He likes to help me find clothes and watches me as I try them on and always gives me his honest opinion. Yesterday we were out shopping...

A.   5 June 2017: It's your sister's wedding and your body! You chose correctly in my view. Your boyfriend is entitled to an opinion but not to make the decision for you. Personally I'd completely ignore his petty little huff and continue to get excited for your ... (read in full...)

Girlfriend doesn't want to move abroad

Q.   We've been dating for only a few months, our first month I told her I have a dream to move to another country and she said "Yeah if you go we'd break up because I wouldn't leave my family behind!" We decided to stay together but recently a few d...

A.   3 June 2017: My ex boyfriend of 6 years was always talking about how he wanted to move abroad. He never did anything about it so I assumed it was a bit like how I say I'd like to learn the piano - I absolutely would but it's not a priority or something I ... (read in full...)

Why does my wife lie about her sexual past? I overheard a convo she had with a friend. Should I tell her?

Q.   I have been married for many years my wife had a couple of sex partners before we met. She always said that when she was with the them that they didn't have a lot of sex which would not have bothered me if she did. My problem came up as we talked ...

A.   1 May 2017: The problem with asking questions like this is that the only answer a man ever wants to hear is that he is GENUINELY the biggest and best his partner has ever had and, well not to be too harsh, that might not always be the case. That means the wife ... (read in full...)

We used to text a lot up until yesterday. Should I be worried?

Q.   I've been dating a girl for about a month or so no. We really get on and when we are together time flys, we text quite a lot too.. More or less every morning she sends a good morning message, if she falls asleep before receiving my good night t...

A.   27 April 2017: As someone who is currently working 40 hours a week and studying for a masters, I know all about being busy so I feel I'm more than qualified to answer this question. While I'm usually very good at replying to people, recently there have been a f... (read in full...)

Why do girls do things that make them unapproachable and rude?

Q.   Why do girls always have to be glued to each other or have their noses in their phones or in a book? Don't they realize that makes them unapproachable and that it's just plain rude? Also, they do the same things on dates too and act rudely just to ...

A.   20 April 2017: Maybe they don't want to be approached OP? Just because you want to talk to them doesn't mean they are obligated to respond. And yeah, most people don't accuse someone of stalking unless they are seriously crossing some lines. What sort of things do ... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to end things with a good person when they are not your type?

Q.   Is it wrong to end things with someone cause they are not your type? they treat you wonderful,they come on really strong,you wish your ex would of treated you this way. the one who treated you bad you fell for,now I have someone who would do ...

A.   20 April 2017: I think this is exactly what your ex will have felt. Sometimes a person can do everything right and be perfectly lovely, but there's just nothing there. No click or no spark. It doesn't mean you are being punished for being too nice, it means you ... (read in full...)

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