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How can I distance myself from a friend without hurting their feelings?

Q.   I am currently a grad student in college. I used to be best friends with this girl all throughout middle school. We grew apart through highschool, and I am now a graduate in college. Half a year ago, I thought it would be cool if to reach out to her ...

A.   18 May 2017: I honestly think what you have done is terrible . You were feeling bored and thought you know what maybe such such wanta to catch up as in a t a loose end . Loose end sorted now it's Oo no how do I get her to back off Really ?? Why even bot... (read in full...)

I don't trust him as he's still active on the dating site, but I really don't want to end the relationship!

Q.   We met online dating site. Agreed to close accounts once established relationship. He agrees exclusively, yet is still active on dating site! He denies any chatting or meetingsd x but refuses to close the account. . I was with him when he recieved a ...

A.   10 May 2017: My advice .. get your friend to continue messaging said bf . Make a date and then she can take you along as moral support . When you see him gasp and act all how can you do this to me .. maybe that will give you the power to walk away . Him actually ... (read in full...)

What should I do? Four years after we broke up my ex still hangs around, tries to get my attention and stares at me whenever he sees me.

Q.   Hi I split from my ex boyfriend 4 years ago, after I had a miscarriage. Neither of us wanted to split up but after the miscarriage he ended it with me i moved on met another man and had a baby girl. Yet my ex still hangs around and stares at me an...

A.   9 May 2017: Do you live in the same neighbourhood ? Or near each other . How often is the passing by .. daily .. weekly .. monthly .. If he feels there still some sadness sourrounding the breakdown of the previous realtionship that maybe the reason he stare... (read in full...)

Are we really just friends with benefits?

Q.   Dear Cupid, I have been friends with this man since college and when we met he told my friends there was "something different about her" and was very into me. I was into him also but because he dated someone I knew we flirted a lot but it never ...

A.   8 May 2017: Your far to sweet and far to into him .. He means what he says .. he likes you .. your good company the sex is good but he is not that into you to commit . Take this advice and stop sleeping with him . Hang out if you can handle it . Do n... (read in full...)

Pipeline wives: how do you do it?

Q.   my husband has presented the idea of him going to work on the pipeline on and off for the past two years or so now. i feel bad because every time he brings it up, i turn into a bitch (i'm woman enough to admit that) and nag until he drops it. i know ...

A.   7 May 2017: Sorry this may be dumb but what is a pipeline wife ? Sorry I have these blonde moments .. ... (read in full...)

I give my manager the cold shoulder but he still tries to be friendly!

Q.   My head manager acts friendly with everyone. He is very helpful. All the female employees are attracted to him. Some even flirt with him. I just keep a low profile and do my job. But he seems to try to get my attention a lot. He tries making s...

A.   7 May 2017: I agree with youcantbeserious, this post is just slightly juggled about but reads the same as one previous . So my qs is why are you so hung up to me as honey pie suggests there is an element of jealously on your part and it comes over pretty clear ... (read in full...)

Can this turn into a real relationship despite the small amount of time we actually get to spend together?

Q.   I have a ten year old daughter, her dad not around. I'm seeing a guy who as two kids that are 18 and 17 his 17yr old lives with him but he sees the 18 regularly. We started dating in December, at the moment we only see each other once a week norm...

A.   5 April 2017: Once a week is totally fine in the beginning of a relationship it's been what just 4 months or so . I know it's like dating we did when younger but when you have a ten year old, needs must . I also congratulate you for not jumping in and waiting a ... (read in full...)

I have a tiny group of friends. I find it difficult to bond with people. How can I learn to enjoy life more?

Q.   I have a tiny group of friends from school consisting of 3 girls... One of them has had a baby and rarely comes out which I totally understand and I visit her when I can. The other two work or go to uni and tend to go out a bit I found lately ...

A.   2 April 2017: You have a younger sibling not much younger than you .. honestly and your pinning over girls who sorry don't .. deserve it and secondly don't give a cwap about you. So here my advice, get your glad rags on .. dress up and you and your sister h... (read in full...)

Is he a commitment-phobe? Is there still a chance?

Q.   Hello! I'm a 39 yr old female who was dating a 38year old male. We dated for four and a half months and he broke up with me almost a week ago. I was on the verge of suggesting we take a break but he beat me to the punch. Sex was enjoyable ex...

A.   29 March 2017: This is tricky because . Somehow you don't match what you say .. I nensing sweetie you say you wanted to break up for a while so then it should be more a relief that he has or is your ego took a little knock ? You talk about all the things h... (read in full...)

Should I ask him how he feels now? Or wait a while before I ask?

Q.   Hi, I have a relationship issue and would love some advice! For the past nine months I have been in an ambiguous relationship with my housemate. We started sleeping together last summer. I knew he had fancied me for a while and he even starte...

A.   28 March 2017: Let's clear something; it is not desperate and it is not weak to want love and to love someone .. he is not the someone though .. he isn't .. What do you do .. you formulate a plan and you stick to it.. are you looking to move out ? If not then... (read in full...)

Should I ask him how he feels now? Or wait a while before I ask?

Q.   Hi, I have a relationship issue and would love some advice! For the past nine months I have been in an ambiguous relationship with my housemate. We started sleeping together last summer. I knew he had fancied me for a while and he even starte...

A.   28 March 2017: I think you posted about this situation before sounds very similar to me . Look you really need to see the trees, the woods are clouding your vision . The advice given previous is I'm sorry sweetie the same I'm giving today . You; need to ... (read in full...)

What should I do? I want my parents to allow me to hang out with this boy and stop being so strict

Q.   hello, i'm a 13 year old girl that comes from a muslim family and I really need help when it comes down to boys and dating. my parents are extremely strict when it comes down to these things and don't allow me to hang out with boys or have bo...

A.   26 March 2017: As a parent .. a mother .. myself I must say stop being dishonest with your parents . I'm raising a 9 year old and being honest no she won't have. And at 13teen . Boys who can be friends but no bfs . The reason being sweetie; is life for girls ... (read in full...)

Going silent on me after I asked him how he felt about me by telling me he would talk to me when he is ready.

Q.   Hi. I don't know what to make of my bf's behavior. I asked him a week and a half ago ago who he felt about me, because we are in a long distance relationship and do not get to see one another very often. I don't know how he feels about me, th...

A.   26 March 2017: Honey pie nails it . I only want to add this isn't about you it's him . He wants to keep you hanging as a maybe; an option . I feel you are doing the best .. I do think ldr can work if two people are committed and connect to each other . I however ... (read in full...)

Is she just lazy or what?

Q.   This has been eating away at me for way too long! I feel like my wife never thinks about me. More times than I probably should I go out of my way and above and beyond for my wife. For Christmas, she was saying that she wanted a specific makeup. I ...

A.   25 March 2017: My honest truth you do too much. Draw back a little and get her stuff you'd love this Christmas and see what she says . She not listening to you because you spoil her and she not bothered so she keeps doing it . Sorry to say people who care abo... (read in full...)

I overthink and cannot just let things be in the moment.

Q.   Dear aunts and uncles, I often do overthink stuff and I feel like I am in this situation too. All I am asking here if for you guys to hear me out and give me your views and comments. Sorry if this post gets too long. Thank you in advance to al...

A.   25 March 2017: I think the fact that he has decided since he's hooked you to take the texting or effort down quite significant to me . I'm the kinda person who feels a texts takes a moment especially if your not living together, coming home to each other or ... (read in full...)

Just had a baby, but now I am scared about returning home, due to his abusive actions while I was pregnant. What can I do?

Q.   Dear aunties and uncles. I am a first time mom to a month old baby and my husband and I have had a fair share of ups and downs but we love each other a lot and wouldn't dream of spending my life with anyone else. Last year, while in my first trim...

A.   24 March 2017: As a mental health nurse . I beseech you to tell your mother about the events and stay there . Your husband is in no fit state even now. As you two rowed and amazingly he has no recall of it ? I find that odd !! Unless he was drinking again . ... (read in full...)

We went on a date but I think she still feels an obligation to her ex

Q.   Hey all! I would like some advice please. OK so my work moved locations a couple months back and since we moved we don't have our propane set up yet so we have to go to a local gas station to fill up pretty much daily. I'm the one that has to do ...

A.   6 March 2017: Okay texting a girls is like having a convo; so start with .. good morning how's the weather your way ?? the sun so dazzling here I need super shades or just your pretty face to look at .. .or whatever your weather like try and make texting fun ... (read in full...)

He's looking to stray.

Q.   Hi I've been with my fiance 3 years but this past few months I feel like he's getting bored of our relationship. we have a one year old daughter together and i have a older daughter from a previous relationship. last weekend I caught him browsing...

A.   6 March 2017: I would call him out on his staring .. everyone looks at someone who's attractive it's normally, staring isn't .. it's creepy and insulting to you and his family .. say please don't stare at female like that when out with me it's insulting or next ... (read in full...)

I just want to know if this is all due to him being bipolar or if I really am just stupid enough to not see that he was just using me all along.

Q.   My boyfriend (now ex) is bipolar. I have been with him for more then a year now and I do love him, but also know it's past time to throw in the towel. So I just want to make it clear that this is not a question of if I should get back with him. I ...

A.   6 March 2017: If he has been two -timing you and being honest I think he has .. so sorry sweetie then I think this was a kinda rub you're face in it moment .. I seriously as a mental health nurse see this as anything to do with bipolar .. She wanted you to k... (read in full...)

I work with her. Should I act as if I do not know that she blocked me on FB? Or do I confront her?

Q.   My friend at work blocked me on fb... I think it's pathetic, so do I confront her or not? (I'm thinking that I wouldn't really like to give her the satisfaction of knowing it's annoyed me...versus the making her squirm/lie about it...!!) ?? How d...

A.   6 March 2017: I think wise owl says it all .. your above all this sweetie . Some people are just idiots so leave them be . Why waste your time with any of it . She a coworker .. go into work cheery like you haven't noticed as that will really get her goat beli... (read in full...)

I missed the boat and it's breaking my heart. I wanted to be a wife and a mother. Will I ever get over this?

Q.   I don't see how I can ever be happy. I LONG to be a wife and mom. I want it so badly that it breaks my heart. Realistically, I know that it can never happen because everyone knows that men aren't attracted to a woman who is over thirty. I'm i...

A.   5 March 2017: Gee you are really hard on yourself aren't you .. your not over the hill to start wanting a partner . Maybe your looking in all the wrong places .. clubs and pubs will be more lusty guys looking at young stuff .. doesn't mean because your 30 ish ... (read in full...)

Is he "distancing" himself because he likes me or because he doesn't?

Q.   I've been talking to a guy for nearly eight months. He lives 200 miles away and we met through a mutual friend (his ex, who I'm not close to and they've been split up a year). We were constantly texting every single day during this time and in the ...

A.   3 March 2017: When a guy likes you; really really wants you 200 miles is peanuts . As the thought is to connect and somehow get you with them .. this guy likes you but I don't think it's any deeper than that .. so you now know and can act accordingly .. who says ... (read in full...)

How do I get my friend to stick up for herself

Q.   This unfortunately sounds like something from the school playground . My best friend had this other friend who bullied her for years and 'controlled' her . she told her where they would meet and go out what she had to wear it was always her way or ...

A.   3 March 2017: This isn't going to end well for you if you continue down this path . Your friend finds something in that destructive relationship " what " I can't say . But you will only get blamed and turned on if you continue . I would subtly remind her she ... (read in full...)

I hacked into his email and discovered he'd applied for another flat! What do I do next?

Q.   Hi! Me and my boyfriend have been dating for over two years now. Two months ago we moved together in a new city. Two weeks ago I did something horrible, something I can never forgive myself. I hacked, literally hacked into his email account. ...

A.   1 March 2017: Oo sweetie kick his ass to the grass now .. he wants out .. good pack his stuff now and when he gets home say here you things .. start looking for a room mate now .. get some poster up .. put some words out .. no matter if it's s female or male get ... (read in full...)

He contacted a girl on social media after I'd asked him to remove her!

Q.   Ok so this may sound petty but I'm pretty worried about where my relationship is going and how much I trust my boyfriend at the moment. Now, I know mobile phones have taken over but whenever me and my boyfriend would go out we would try not to be ...

A.   1 March 2017: Totally agree with honey pie on all what she put . Can only advice that you start that convo asap . To me what he did was absolutely disrespectful and has no baring on your feelings And please let us know how he will handle you adding guys who... (read in full...)

I am worried my boyfriend's new job means the end of our relationship.

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together almost 6 months. I'm very happy with him. He is consistently supportive and thoughtful and treats me so kindly and respectfully. He recently got a new job and it started today. His previous job didn't have ...

A.   28 February 2017: I can relate to this as my friend went through the same with her bf so here my advice and it worked for them .. it's okay to be honest about missing his textes's not that you want a text relay back and forth but you would feel so good if he ... (read in full...)

We/ve been back together for a year but it just isn't like it was.

Q.   Okay so I don't quite know how to start this, but my friends have been helpful and supportive, but I suppose I'm still lost. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years minus the 2 that we were broken up for. We broke up because he said he ...

A.   27 February 2017: You've only be 12 months back together, that doesn't mean you have no right to ask questions or talk about what happened . Clearly he is defensive thinking your raising it to somehow rub his nose in it so he subsequently shuts down and tell you... (read in full...)

We both want to have sex but I'm not sure I am ready

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 months and he has fingered me and I have given him a hand job. We've both considered having sex but I'm not sure if I'm ready. Sometimes I want to have sex and I feel confident but sometimes I get too scared I ...

A.   27 February 2017: Far far to young .. I know I know you feel grown up .. believe me you are not .. having sexual intercourse to early as a female and not being excited because your too tense can actually cause damage to your vagina area and that experience is the one ... (read in full...)

We/ve been back together for a year but it just isn't like it was.

Q.   Okay so I don't quite know how to start this, but my friends have been helpful and supportive, but I suppose I'm still lost. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years minus the 2 that we were broken up for. We broke up because he said he ...

A.   27 February 2017: I too dated young and then married the guy so I can understand you debate on " this is all I know " I would say or ask " do you know why he broke up with his ex fame " .. what did he say to you Why did he want to get back together since he ... (read in full...)

Am I going through a mid-life crisis? I have everything going for me but I'm so unhappy and empty inside

Q.   I want to get to the point- ever since I was 9 years old I have always wanted to be around people - I hate being alone and most people; the ones that know me well say that I'm never satisfied and I'm never happy. lately I feel like the rug has been ...

A.   27 February 2017: Happiness begins with you sweetie .. I read your post and just want to say here sit with me have a cuppa and warm blanket while you tell me all about it .. How was your mum at 9 with you ? Did you get cuddles and feel loved or did mum think yo... (read in full...)

Workplace problems... Did I deal with Jimmy in the right way? How do I handle the situation now?

Q.   I've worked at 4 different job locations during my 8 years of working for this company. I've never really had "true friendship" with any of my co-workers because I was always the "new person" to join the facility. I came to this location about a ...

A.   27 February 2017: So your saying that no one is allowed to decline any offers made with in the company .. they don't have free will to say .. hey. I like where I am I work hard as I enjoy my work and feel at home ? That isn't tolerated .. what country do you live in ... (read in full...)

Is it too soon to sleep with him?

Q.   I need your opinions and thank you in advance. I am 40 dating a guy who is 48 for 3 weeks. We have been on 16 dates already. I know it is too much with some standards but he is just head over heels for me and has told all his family and friends and ...

A.   27 February 2017: Your not a teenager however guys can think if she so quick to give this piece of honey to me, who else would she be willing to give it to .. Saying your his date and gf are two different things in my opinion . If I weee in your shoes and I too am... (read in full...)

Wife friended EX on Facebook and it has caused issues in our marriage

Q.   One evening my wife was typing on her smartphone because she got a message on Facebook. It turned out, an ex-boyfriend wanted to friend her and she asked if it was OK. I asked her if he knew she was married and she said it was on her profile, so I ...

A.   25 January 2017: Wise owl and I are on the same page .. in fact he wrote the page and mine is just a foot note .. your wife tried to be friendly ; it didn't work so she has now told you everything and shown you and it's natural to feel uneasy but why, Why why .. ... (read in full...)

I feel inadequate!

Q.   Here I am..again. Now trying to stop loving my wife. During the last 6 months 3 of her former FWB have written e-mails to her remembering their pleasure moments...I found out reading those e-mails (not spying , given we both have open access t...

A.   23 January 2017: I think my qs would be .. is why are her Fwb former ones even . Sending emails ?? What is your wife saying about this ? ... (read in full...)

My son punched a guest, when guest videoed him and girlfriend having sex.

Q.   My son is 19 he has been dating his girlfriend since he was 16 and she was 15. We have a pretty open relationship with them. Over the weekend they went out to a party with their friends and at our house my husband and I threw a surprise party for ...

A.   23 January 2017: I think as the previous aunt posted your son was well within his rights . Tell your so called female friend that if this male friend wants to take it further maybe he'd like to explain to the cops how come they were snooping and I mean that .. they ... (read in full...)

We had a social scheduling conflict so my boyfriend cancelled his plans with me

Q.   My boyfriend and I used to set up social events for our large group of friends as a pastime. However we became busy and stopped, and finally set one up for this weekend which we had been planning to for awhile. 10 said yes and 10 more said maybe ...

A.   20 January 2017: Is Anne your bf friend more than Dave . As normal the guys name would go first not other way around .. maybe it's me but I tend to pick up on lil silly things . There is certain loyalty to a friend and then there loyalty to your signific... (read in full...)

Was he wrong for hitting me or am I being dramatic?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together 8months, I was pulling a silly face he didn't like and to stop me doing it he slapped my face, not hard by enough to shock me a little. He knows how I feel about face slapping (from previous bedroom antics) ...

A.   20 January 2017: If I may can I ask a a qs or two , only answer if you want too. 1. You said he knows you don't like this face slapping from previous bedroom antics ? So am I correct in thinking he slap you during sexual intercourse ? If I'm wrong please say... (read in full...)

Do good relationships go through this?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 7 months. From the moment I met him I felt that he was the one I would marry. We have been through a lot in the last year. My Nan got cancer (she is okay now), my Grandfather passed away, and I was ...

A.   19 January 2017: Your bf needs a medal !! What for you may ask .. well he must have supported you through your grans cancer and your granddad death and then your stomach issue and you've only been together 1 year and 7 months . Do you know some long lasting ... (read in full...)

I’m angry with his mom and his sister and have reached a breaking point. I need input!

Q.   Hello everyone, This is a long so please bear with me. I live with my boyfriend and his sister. Some background info: his sister is the youngest. She is a bit spoiled by her parents and doesn't have friends for various reasons. She's a princes...

A.   18 January 2017: I agree with the previous aunts post; I think this was lack of communication . I mean I've been on holiday as a family unit and we have pets and being honest I check in with who's taking care of them .. and if you had you could have asked enquiries ... (read in full...)

I am worried about letting my daughter's father back into her life.

Q.   Hello everyone. I'm a single mum to my beautiful 8 year old daughter and I have struggled in the past but I have always got by. I was 16 when I found out I was pregnant with her, and at the insistence of her dad, I went through with the pregnanc...

A.   14 January 2017: To begin with I'm overwhelmed by the inspiration and responsibility that you rose to as a young girl yourself what a wonderful mother and family you have . I'm also struck by the security that your daughter feels .. as she so secure she never need... (read in full...)

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