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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband...
and Long distance relationships... we were 2 ours apart by car and just recently became live in partners...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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My Wedding. Does any one have any solutions? I'm just terrified of everything and everything revolving around me
Q. Hi! So I dont really know what to do for this, but I'm afraid of my wedding. I'm not afraid of commitment or anything and Im not afraid to go to other peoples weddings- just afraid of my own. I start looking at venues or dresses and just panic. ...
A. 22 May 2013: if it bothers you that much then don't have a wedding.
go to the court house and get married there.
you can always renew your vows and have a big party when you are no longer so uncomfortable with the concept.
there is no rule that... (read in full...)
So girls, would you rather have a chat and a long cuddle etc from a guy you are attracted to, or better that he not approach you at all, if he can't give you more time?
Q. Question for girls, I have quite long periods when I don't have time to date girls, due to time restraints of work and being on call there. My job requires me at times to be in the busy nightlife area. I often get signals from girls trying to get me ...
A. 21 May 2013: he's my husband already. I LOATHE that he's younger than I am to be honest.
Trust me it's not about jealousy when I see a younger woman on an older man's arm or vice versa.
The REASON you should not take ADVANTAGE of younger women is tha... (read in full...)
So girls, would you rather have a chat and a long cuddle etc from a guy you are attracted to, or better that he not approach you at all, if he can't give you more time?
Q. Question for girls, I have quite long periods when I don't have time to date girls, due to time restraints of work and being on call there. My job requires me at times to be in the busy nightlife area. I often get signals from girls trying to get me ...
A. 21 May 2013: At your given age OP a woman of 50 is more who I would like to see you with than a girl of 19
and as you said "I would think many young ones would prefer a cuddle to nothing."
and that to me is the key... they settle for crumbs instead o... (read in full...)
Would you date someone with so many tattoos? Or would you fear it would ruin your reputation?
Q. Today while on lunch break a friend said to me, very openly and out loud, "did you see all the tattoos on that guy's face? He must have been to prison!" I quietly nodded then thought of something... I was very attracted to another friend who had m...
A. 21 May 2013: I’m inked. I’m 53 and it’s very much against the religion I was raised with.
I have one small tatt on my wrist but my others are covered by business clothing and when folks who don’t know me well find out I’m inked they are surprised.
I work ... (read in full...)
I really love him but feel like running away. I can't cope with the fact that he had a daughter from a one night stand
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together since June 2012. He had a one night stand with a friend before we ever got together. Turns out she got pregnant. When she found out he he had denied being the father because she had slept with other guys too. ...
A. 21 May 2013: Parents are a package deal. You must accept his daughter or you must leave him.
What is it that bothers you so much about this situation?
... (read in full...)
Why do I want my ex back? Why can't I accept that its over?
Q. I am 18 years of age and my ex boyfriend is 22. We have been together 2years today. We have been split up for 3 weeks tomorrow. My ex split up with me because he said he needed a break because we had been living together for a few weeks because I ...
A. 21 May 2013: you want him back because even when it's bad, for some the idea of being alone or meeting someone new is harder than staying with the known same old thing.
It's EASIER to stay in a bad relationship than it is to branch out and allow yourself to ... (read in full...)
Guys: what's your opinion on strap-ons?
Q. During an alcohol-fueled conversation with a (straight) male friend about a month ago, he let it slip that his ex-girlfriend had sex with him using a strap-on...and he loved it. My boyfriend has requested that I come up with some new things to do in ...
A. 21 May 2013: I've had several men love being done with a strap on.
usually we used doggy style (with me in back)
LOTS of good lube (anal-eze is specifically for anal intercourse)
Personally if I could find a strap on that would stimulate my clit... (read in full...)
So girls, would you rather have a chat and a long cuddle etc from a guy you are attracted to, or better that he not approach you at all, if he can't give you more time?
Q. Question for girls, I have quite long periods when I don't have time to date girls, due to time restraints of work and being on call there. My job requires me at times to be in the busy nightlife area. I often get signals from girls trying to get me ...
A. 21 May 2013: I will gladly chat with folks any time, but to be honest I would not want a hug from a stranger.
But then I think that's a function of my age... I've seen young girls around 19 or so, who are desperate for physical contact take any hug... (read in full...)
Are relationships at 19 inevitably pointless?
Q. I'm 19 and currently at university, and I'm quite focused on stuff like my career, my studies, developing a good personality and making long-lasting friendships as that seems to be stuff that will last me for life and actually matter. Because I...
A. 21 May 2013: Old lady here…
First of all you will find it harder to “find a partner for life” if you don’t date. DATING is about finding someone not “hooking up” or sex.
My mother met my father at age 16. She married him at age 19; she died 48 years lat... (read in full...)
What city should I file for divorce in?
Q. I am thinking very seriously about divorcing my spouse. I was wondering if I plan on moving after I give him the papers do I find a lawyer in the city I live in now or then city I plan to move to? It will be in the same state. ...
A. 21 May 2013: I would think it would be easier to do in the city you are in now.
best thing to do is find an attorney. Most of them will give you free phone consults.
If you plan on moving AFTER you serve him with papers (that's actually nea... (read in full...)
Does this sound like normal puberty?
Q. Im 13. Ive had discharge for two years nonstop with no period. My breasts hurt i get headaches, ive noticed lots of blackheads and clogged pores, and i am constantly grumpy and hateful. What does this mean? help, i think puberty hates me...
A. 21 May 2013: When my stepdaughter was about your age, she was cranky, she was breaking out, she was grumpy and miserable.
IF you looked at her the wrong way she burst into tears....
I asked her one day "what's wrong?" (I knew but I wanted to see what s... (read in full...)
She's too years younger than what I normally would date. Should I ask her out?
Q. Hey guys, I've recently started talking to this girl I met on Tumblr over Facebook and more recently Skype. We've been sending messages back and forth over Facebook fo almost 3 weeks now asking eachother all kinds of questions about our lives ...
A. 20 May 2013: As a supporter of age gap relationships I can tell you that I personally would not want my 16 yr old dating a man of nearly 23.
So my advice to you, FIRST is to CLEAR IT WITH HER PARENTS.
If she's all that and you are really THAT ... (read in full...)
Is it right for an ex to buy you jewelry?
Q. Back once again about the obsessive ex. He texted me and said he has to see me tomorrow night (mothers day) because its important but says he won't be up until 9 at night my son is in bed by then. So I asked him why and he said he had to drop ...
A. 20 May 2013: yes you can get supervised visitation and child support.
contact an attorney in your area for further advice.... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 20 May 2013: I'm so sorry OP but it sounds like she HOPED she would be able to find someone to distract her from her divorce and now she realizes it's not fair to you.
I would not get my hopes up with her any more.... (read in full...)
Am I naive to hope he'll change his mind about marriage and kids?
Q. Hi. I've been with my lovely boyfriend for five years. We want the same thing for our futures but he wants them much later than me. Instead of breaking up about it, we've decided to just take it day by day. I can't imagine being with anyone else. ...
A. 17 May 2013: He may change his mind he may not. IF he was 30 I'd say NO he won't change his mind but at 24, yep he may. I would say promise to stay as long as you can bear it. B
24 is pretty young now-a-days for marriage and kids. Even 30+years ago... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's mom had a health scare and now she drops everything for mom!
Q. My GF needs some help and I'm not sure what I can do. I've been with her 4 years and everything has been good. We're compatible, we resolve disagreements quick, etc. I'm not going to bore you with a list of how great things usually are... ...
A. 17 May 2013: The first thing that jumps out at me is your comment “it turned out to be completely benign and nothing is wrong.” That sir is your FIRST mistake. SOMETHING is VERY WRONG. It’s just not what you think.
The bond between mother and chil... (read in full...)
How can I help my grandad fulfill his dreams when my family is standing in the way?
Q. My grandad is 86. He has prostate cancer, dementia, severe arthritis, can barely walk or sit up on his own and has been in and out of hospital recently for traces of pneumonia in his lungs which are now (fingers crossed) gone. I would like to cr...
A. 17 May 2013: I've buried an aunt FOUR grandparents in 1969, 1981 and then 1998 (he was 93) and 1999 (she died of a broken heart from her spouse dying the year before), my MOTHER, (1995) and a few other family members and friends.
I watched my mother deterior... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend has no time for me but always has time for his games and his friends
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together in a long distance relationship for a year. My boyfriend is a gamer, he spends most of his time with his friends playing video games all day long. I always feel ignored, i always feel like he'd rather spend ...
A. 17 May 2013: "we have nothing in common"
"I don't know what do do"
if you have nothing in common, if he does not call you, if you do not take his calls, why not break up and get a fresh start?
My husband is a MMO gamer and was when we met a... (read in full...)
How can I break up with my b/f? He always brings it up that he'll kill himself if I break up!
Q. hy!! 7months ago i asked for help to break up with my boyfriend. well every1 asked me to tell him the truth and breakup with him nicely. . here i go I'm still stuck him. . i tld him that i dnt love him nd i even cheated on him with ex bf. and he ...
A. 17 May 2013: IF he threatens to harm himself to keep you he's emotionally blackmailing you to stay and that's no good.
What you do is you tell the current boyfriend "WE aren't good anymore and I want us to not be a couple. I am NOT responsible for you and ... (read in full...)
If I want optimal results, should I be clean shave, have some stubble, or full beard?
Q. I know looks are only part of what women want, and other factors for attraction come into play, like how active I am, how I take care of myself, etc. But, my question here is, what should I do, facial hair wise, to get some more potential suitor...
A. 17 May 2013: I personally HATE the stubble look. IT’s so NON-committed. IF you WANT a beard and can grow a decent one (because nothing is as unattractive as a man trying to have a beard when he can’t really support it based on hair follicles) then do it for ... (read in full...)
Does my child's father have any rights? Hasn't paid support and his name isn't on the birth certificate
Q. Hi i have a son who is nearly 5 his dad has never seen him he told me to have a abortion or he was going to get someone to make me miscarry i had my son and brought him up alone but his dad has tried to get in contact with me he has nit paid a penny ...
A. 17 May 2013: IF he can prove he is the father he will have legal rights AND responsibilities.
Personally you should not have to go this alone. His parents may want to embrace this grandchild anyway.
I would contact a lawyer and find out how to get a pat... (read in full...)
Sex for the first time. Birth control options?
Q. I'm 22 years old and a virgin. I have been single for two years. During my previous relationships, I wasn't ready or interested in sex, but now I am. I've been dating a guy for a couple months. The relationship is still new, but I want to be ...
A. 17 May 2013: You must at your age be seeing a gynecologist for regular well woman visits.
IF you are not, find a gynecologist(or a local planned parenthood clinic) and when you go for your well woman visit, they will ask if you are sexually active. You ca... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't understand his ex-wife and her daughter are manipulating him
Q. hi,im 34 myparthners 52. we have 3 kids together. i love him but for some strange reason he thinks I don't love him but I love his money or etc. hes terribly wrong! he lived with his ex for 20 years.they have no kids together.we would have a har...
A. 17 May 2013: If you don't care about the money, then tell him to send them a weekly check via the bank, with the amount you can afford to spare the more the better. Then he's giving them what they want and they will leave him alone.
Problem solved. IF it's... (read in full...)
Relationship problems with my younger mate
Q. I'm 36 and he's 28 when we met and start dating everything was cool and going great. After we end up in a relationship later down the line, I was even more happy. Making a long story a little short, he now stay with me and my 14 year old son. He sm...
A. 17 May 2013: Maybe the other women walked out because he mistreats them the way he mistreats you?
My husband is not supposed to smoke in our house but he does. ON THE OTHER HAND, what's mine is his and what's his is mine... that means 100% of his paycheck... (read in full...)
I'm sick of his ex! Will she ever be out of the picture?
Q. hi all thank you for taking the time to read this. i have fallen in love with a man who is 25 yrs older than me and im having his baby. the problem is, is that his stupid ex wife will not get it through her head that i am with him now. i had to w...
A. 17 May 2013: OP, you having a baby does not mean he will be with you 100% forever. DO NOT base your belief that he's "all yours" on the baby in your belly. I grew two babies with my first husband, I never thought I'd get a divorce.... guess what, people ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of people judging us over the age difference
Q. Im 21 and my boyfriend is 62. I am falling in love with him. When we go out Im a little nervous about people staring or asking questions. How do I get over this? He is the most amazing man I have ever met. Hes so patient, kind, and understanding. He ...
A. 17 May 2013: OP no one is angry with you.
We really do want everyone here to be happy healthy and whole.
Sometimes with age and experience comes wisdom that we could not imagine ourselves at your age. I know it has for me. And every day I get older, I l... (read in full...)
How can I help my grandad fulfill his dreams when my family is standing in the way?
Q. My grandad is 86. He has prostate cancer, dementia, severe arthritis, can barely walk or sit up on his own and has been in and out of hospital recently for traces of pneumonia in his lungs which are now (fingers crossed) gone. I would like to cr...
A. 16 May 2013: Honey I'm so sorry.
Get some counseling NOW to help you cope with this.
IF they have stopped chemo and they are upping his pain meds, then the end may be closer than you think...
When we got to that point with my mother They told us 6 wee... (read in full...)
We both like each other and want to go on a date but we are too busy to meet up, how do I act in this situation? Can I flirt with other guys or not?
Q. I confessed to liking him and he told me he likes me back. He has tried asking me out, but since we're both busy with exams at the moment, we haven't really decided on when. What is he expecting from me? Does he expect us to be dating now or a ...
A. 16 May 2013: It really doesn't matter what he EXPECTS from you.
You haven't even gone out on a date and you are already asking if you are "ALLOWED" to flirt with other guys?
DO NOT buy him food. If he pays for the movies, then you can pay for the meal... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about my wife's sudden interest in astrology?
Q. I recently saw my wifes Internet search history on her phone and she had visited a horoscope site and specifically looked up "how to seduce a Scorpio". Sounds innocent enough, except for the fact that I am a Cancer!! Been married 19 years. Should ...
A. 16 May 2013: who do you know born around thanksgiving?
seriously... after 20 years of being with this woman you are afraid to ask her what's up?
and like Tisha my Dear Cupid searches might make my hubby's head spin.... (read in full...)
Is what she told me about birth control pills for her true?
Q. Me and my fiance were talking about birth control one day and i asked her why doesn't she start taking the pill.She told me that she went to a doctor about it and they said that because of her size (she is close to 100lb over weight) that all it ...
A. 16 May 2013: I'm betting the doc was thinking mini-pill. She can and should get a second opinion I know lots of SMO (super morbidly obese ([a MEDICAL term not an insult]) that are on BCP for birth control.
It's MANDATORY after gastric bypass and some of ... (read in full...)
How can I help my grandad fulfill his dreams when my family is standing in the way?
Q. My grandad is 86. He has prostate cancer, dementia, severe arthritis, can barely walk or sit up on his own and has been in and out of hospital recently for traces of pneumonia in his lungs which are now (fingers crossed) gone. I would like to cr...
A. 16 May 2013: I think that unless this location is VERY local, that the dream to take him there may be a bit far fetched.
At 86 with chronic health problems, heavy medications, and very limited mobility as well as dementia, it may actually upset him more to ... (read in full...)
Thinking about moving in together so I wanted to go furniture shopping, he just tells me to go on my own so he can go out drinking! Is this what our life is going to be like?
Q. I am 27 and have been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years. We have recently been talking about moving in together, but it has started causing problems between us because we have such different ideas about what it will be like. At the moment we have ...
A. 16 May 2013:
It seems to me that you guys have not worked out all the details about moving in together.
“I THOUGHT we would get to a more ‘couply’ place since we would be more committed.”
An address does not make you more committed. If you THOUG... (read in full...)
I'm sick of his ex! Will she ever be out of the picture?
Q. hi all thank you for taking the time to read this. i have fallen in love with a man who is 25 yrs older than me and im having his baby. the problem is, is that his stupid ex wife will not get it through her head that i am with him now. i had to w...
A. 16 May 2013: Let me go line by line young lady,
1. You say “his stupid ex-wife” Calling others names because you do not like their behavior is childish and immature and indicates that you do NOT feel secure in your standing.
2. Just because you had to wait ... (read in full...)
Do I have any right telling my boyfriend to stop talking with this girl that I feel uncomfortable with?
Q. Do I have any right telling my boyfriend to stop talking with this girl that I feel uncomfortable with? This girl has only known my boyfriend for about a week and she has been talking very openly about how much she likes sex and been telling him...
A. 16 May 2013: What does HE think about her behavior?
You can't forbid him from talking to her but you can express your concerns about her behavior.
The issue is NOT what SHE does but rather HOW your boyfriend REACTS and RESPONDS.
If a woman ... (read in full...)
Do you think I have any right to be angry? Or was I to blame for being naive?
Q. Well I was dating a guy for a month. It was a LDR and on the third date, I had to spend the night at his, due to distance. The date did not go too well, we had a bit of a falliing out but made up. In the night, he said he would prepare the spare ro...
A. 16 May 2013: with your follow up, your anger is still unjustified and yet you have the right to be angry at yourself! NOT at him.
I would have slept on the couch vs in his bed if I was so sure I did not want to send the wrong signals.
Talking i... (read in full...)
Will it be weird if I'm the only one wearing a long dress?
Q. Im going to graduation soon and i bought this white long dress to wear during graduation. It looks really nice to me but all of my friend says they are going to wear knee length dresses. I want to know what are your opinions and advices and should i ...
A. 16 May 2013: When I had graduations we had a dress code. NO LONG dresses was one of them. DO YOU HAVE A DRESS CODE TO FOLLOW???
IF not, and you are ok being picked on by folks, then by all means wear what you want.
BUT NOTE that at 13-15 part of feelin... (read in full...)
My boyfriend runs hot and cold.....is he a narcissist?
Q. Well my bf this notorious habit of being extra vigil about his phone and email and need lots of female attention too. He runs hot and cold and I am rarely sure what he is thinking now . I first thought its me and I have some jealousy issues....
A. 14 May 2013: I don't think he's a narcissist. I just think he's a bit immature and not ready to settle down.
Your gut says something is wrong and you are correct.
He is not to be trusted.
He is not to be believed.
I would end it with him, ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend suddenly needs space. Do I give him space? Or dump him?
Q. My boyfriend of 5 months suddenly says he needs to "reconnect" with his friends (aka drinking buddies) and plans to stay out every Friday night with them. He says I'm not invited "for now" - and besides I work at 7AM on Saturdays and he wants to s...
A. 14 May 2013: Gawd I would LOVE my husband to go out one night a week with friends....
I don't see where a man at 5 months into a relationship saying he wants to go out on a Friday night with his friends as requesting space. He still wants to see you the ... (read in full...)
His wife has moved back in with him and he cant divorce her, but he wants to continue seeing me. What should I do?
Q. Hi, how I’m going to start this. I read some of “my boyfriend has a wife” discussion and I’m in the same situation now. We start as a friend since then all of our friends knew that his separated to his wife. He has a kid, and that is the only thing ...
A. 14 May 2013: My aunt was the mistress of a man who would not leave his wife for 25 years. He died, she could not publicly mourn him.
she lives alone now in her 70s no children to care for or love her, parents gone, siblings and niece and nephew out of t... (read in full...)
Dating a girl for 2 weeks, saw some strange messages on her phone then her best friend calls me to tell me to walk away from her! What should I do?
Q. I have been online dating for about a year and I go on about 2 dates a week. I'm no Brad Pitt but i'm a good looking guy and have just qualified as a children's doctor. I met a girl (M) 2 weeks ago and we have been on some dates. She is cute ...
A. 14 May 2013: Dear Spiderman,
What should you do?
1. ALWAYS wear a latex condom do not rely on her to practice birth control
2. Watch her actions NOT her words.
You have known her a mere two weeks. THAT is NO TIME AT ALL and it means you don’t re... (read in full...)
Is it right for an ex to buy you jewelry?
Q. Back once again about the obsessive ex. He texted me and said he has to see me tomorrow night (mothers day) because its important but says he won't be up until 9 at night my son is in bed by then. So I asked him why and he said he had to drop ...
A. 14 May 2013: Dear Connorsmommyy,
You need to NOT be speaking to your ex about anything that is not related to your child. Telling him that you did not LIKE the earrings is NOT telling him his behavior is unacceptable and inappropriate.
Arguing w... (read in full...)
Is it right for an ex to buy you jewelry?
Q. Back once again about the obsessive ex. He texted me and said he has to see me tomorrow night (mothers day) because its important but says he won't be up until 9 at night my son is in bed by then. So I asked him why and he said he had to drop ...
A. 13 May 2013: he got your diamond earrings? RETURN THEM.... in fact, have your FATHER return them to him... totally inappropriate.
... (read in full...)
Is it right for an ex to buy you jewelry?
Q. Back once again about the obsessive ex. He texted me and said he has to see me tomorrow night (mothers day) because its important but says he won't be up until 9 at night my son is in bed by then. So I asked him why and he said he had to drop ...
A. 13 May 2013: Let him take you to court for custody. What a childish blackmailing thing to say. He can’t afford Support but he can afford to sue for custody. I call BS he’s trying to scare you.
I would go to a lawyer and get court ordered child support ... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 13 May 2013: YOu need to WAIT till she is no longer living with her estranged husband. At this point she is legally married and living with her spouse. Something she should have told you from the get go.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of people judging us over the age difference
Q. Im 21 and my boyfriend is 62. I am falling in love with him. When we go out Im a little nervous about people staring or asking questions. How do I get over this? He is the most amazing man I have ever met. Hes so patient, kind, and understanding. He ...
A. 9 May 2013: OP, he is 62 with children that are young for his age. I assume their mother is also YOUNGER than he is by a bit…. In which case, carry on as happy as you can be but look closely at why his last relationship ended…. Does he TARGET younger women? ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of people judging us over the age difference
Q. Im 21 and my boyfriend is 62. I am falling in love with him. When we go out Im a little nervous about people staring or asking questions. How do I get over this? He is the most amazing man I have ever met. Hes so patient, kind, and understanding. He ...
A. 7 May 2013: The one thing you have to have when in an age gap relationship is a thick skin. Folks will stare. They will point, and talk… and wonder. If it bothers you, then you are not built for an age gap relationship. Truthfully even with the man being ... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 7 May 2013: why wait till half term? why not ask about this weekend?... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 2 May 2013: Yes to me it would be important to know you did not drive. but you can explain it quite naturally by saying when you make the plans, I don't drive so can we meet at such and such a place which is near the train station...
My girlfriend is marri... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 1 May 2013: Sure... you can ask... but I would not ask her to pick you up...
offer to meet her but tell her you need it to be close to public transportation (if you do, I know if i did not drive walking would be difficult for me so I would need to be c... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 1 May 2013: GOOD LUCK and keep us posted!... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 1 May 2013: STOP OVER THINKING THIS OP!
you told her in a most lovely way
she responded in KIND
IT sounds like it's going WELL
how far apart are you guys? what's the transportation issue?
why can't you just ask her for dinner or a drink next... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 26 April 2013: I think you should ask her for coffee soon Very soon. not sure how far Kent is from Crawly but if it's doable meet up
Do you require assistive devices to walk? CP can manifest itself in many ways and I think that the level of your "impair... (read in full...)
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