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Ever since I can remember people have always fascinated me. I seemed to be very adept at solving people’s “life” problems and I never tired of the constant flow of friends asking for my help.
I have always been a great listener and have a lot of patience and empathy for people and I have written for advice columns in the past.
I am a Relationships Councillor and Life Coach and am in the middle of a degree at the moment (Social Sciences and Psychology). I have a special aptitude with people and have been told in the past “I tell it like it is!” My hobbies include Dream Interpretation, Astrology and Psychology.
I'm very much a positive thinker and hate being around negative people. Life is for living, it's too short to moan all the time. I'm determined, grounded, independent, strong willed and love life. Be careful what you water your dreams with. Water them with worry and fear and you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream. Water them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate success. Always be on the lookout for ways to turn a problem into an opportunity for success. Always be on the lookout for ways to nurture your dream.
If you realized just how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought. The difference between school and life? In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson.
Eve
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My husband has started to cheat. What should I do?
Q. Hi i have been married since 3 years and have 2 months baby boy.my problem is tht my husband has started cheating me without any general reason .i m 23 and he is 24.i cant stand this as he does not love me and care for me any more.he doesnt even ...
A. 14 July 2008: You have just had a baby 2 months ago and have been pregnant 9 months. I am by no means condoning your husband's actions but could it be that he feels a bit left out? All of your attention is now on your new son and towards the latter part of your ... (read in full...)
I'm so deeply hurt and desperately need some wise advice.
Q. Hi everyone, I would truly appreciate some advice/opinions on a really upsetting situation that I have recently found myself in. You won't believe the unbelievable piece of bad luck that I and my girlfriend just experienced... I'm 31, my girl...
A. 6 May 2008: He was a charmer and put on a front for her, probably pretended he was things he wasn't and she slept with him ONLY because she was high. However after she came to her senses she seen him for what he really was and wasn't waiting around to be taken ... (read in full...)
Still in love with someone who moved on - do I fight for her back or am I chasing lost hope?
Q. I've been with this girl for almost 5 years with a couple minor breaks here and there. Over the past year we've grown comfortable and eventually both grew uninterested. I have had a bad habit of lying (things about finances or errands not done) and ...
A. 22 April 2008: If I were you I would send her a letter explaining to her the way you explained here in your question. Let her know you're making positive changes about yourself and not being from an emotional tactile background found it difficult to express your ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: New feature, "watched questions" list
Q. I've added a new feature that lets you add questions to your "watched questions" page. It's just an easy way to make a list of questions that interest you and that you want to keep track of. It's easy to remove items from the list or clear it. ...
A. 20 April 2008: Very helpful new feature. You said I was to remind you about the questions being categorised ie teenage questions, period questions etc. Just reminding you like you asked me to (winks). I know lots of people would like to see this added. I know ... (read in full...)
I'm frightened, can you help?
Q. Referring back to a previous question, but that horendous posessive civil partnership has not ended, he keeps threatening me, today I recieved a message along the lines of "i know why you broke up with me, you ****** cheater, im gonna tell everybody ...
A. 9 April 2008: I haven't read your previous question but in my opinion, the best way to deal with this is to rise above it and do nothing. I would completely ignore his texts and if they continue, then change your sim card (mobile number). Texting him back is ... (read in full...)
I feel that my vagina hole is small. Only one finger fits up and if you try two it hurts!
Q. I feel that my vagina hole is small. Only one finger fits up and if you try two it hurts! Also a dildo can't go up inside because it's so small. What's wrong ?...
A. 8 April 2008: If a vagina can open up to let a baby's head out then it's highly unlikely that you're too small. You're just too tense. You need to relax more and when you do this your vagina will stretch easily. This is why sex can be painful for some people ... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as someone out of your league?
Q. I have a crush on a professor of mine. But putting the ethics aside of whether it's appropriate dating a professor, is there such a thing of someone simply out of your league? Because that's how I feel. Of course, I don't think that he'll like me, ...
A. 6 April 2008: People can seem out of your league for many reasons, it may be they're from a higher class background, are better looking, seem more popular with the girls or have a successful career. The term "out of my league" is a negative state of mind from ... (read in full...)
Does he love me or is he just playing me?
Q. Hey everyone !! I'm 15 and I have a great guy in my life(16).He's not exactly a boyfriend but we act like it . He wants to ask me out offically when he see's me . ( we have never met before but it feels like i've known him forever!) he goe...
A. 6 April 2008: The word "babe" is a pet name a lot of people use, it doesn't necessarily mean you're an item. This guy is probably friends with a lot of other girls the same way you probably are with a lot of other boys. Both of you like to flirt with others, ... (read in full...)
Is it Ok for him to share thoughts, feelings, experiences with me by email if he's married?
Q. I friend I made a year ago, we met 4 business, but he left (GI) and go back to his base and family shortly after that. We keep in touch as friends, I always send good wishes to him and family. But I wonder cuz he talks about feelings (to his family) ...
A. 6 April 2008: It seems to me you like this man as more than a friend and you are looking for more from him that he can give you. You're playing a dangerous game with him and need to know that he IS married and is therefore unavailable. Only you know deep down ... (read in full...)
I've just got engaged but now I feel like pulling away for a little while?
Q. hello agony aunts, i am just recently engaged and have been with my fiance for 10 years. although i know that this engagement is the next logical step in our relationship, i can't help but feel that there is something missing. all of the pass...
A. 6 April 2008: You're in the 26-29 age bracked and have been with your fiance for 10 years which means you got together very young and probably haven't dated many men. Now that you're engaged you feel tied, resentful and unsure if this is what you really want. ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with him and try and make it work, or should I move on?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost four years now...we have a big past, we've both cheated...we've taken breaks....For a long time, I was the one chasing him around while he didnt want to settle down...now, he has changed his ways, and is ready ...
A. 6 April 2008: You've been together for 4 years and have a past together, he's probably the most serious relationship you've had and it's all become somewhat of a habitual relationship now. You are both maturing and want different things from life. Not all ... (read in full...)
Am I just a shameless flirt?
Q. I have a problem ... maybe mental problem ...or just a shameless flirt ... who knows I am madly in love with a boy I've never met in person! I really like a girl that's a really good friend (she knows but I told her I loved the guy so she backe...
A. 6 April 2008: You are perfectly normal, you're a teenager and that's the way teenagers act. The boy that you "love" that you've never met in person is simply a crush (I've had them too). You don't love him, you don't know him, you just have these feelings for ... (read in full...)
It's hard when you feel like there's something wrong with you.
Q. I'm 23 and never had a proper boyfriend. I'm very shy, a little overweight and have low self-esteem. The men I've liked have been horrid to me, going out of their way to embarrass and make fun of me. You start to wonder what's wrong with you and ...
A. 3 April 2008: You first need to work on who you are in the INSIDE and learn to love and be happy with the person you are. When we lack confidence it's only natural our self esteem takes a nose dive too and the more someone makes fun of you the worse you'll feel. ... (read in full...)
Do people really ever get over there ex's or even worse first exe'?
Q. My ex cheated on me and we have now been seperated for 8 months. I was in alot of pain as he continued to see her after we split. I always felt more pain as he had stayed with her and I used to think 'if only he was with someone else it would not be ...
A. 3 April 2008: If you know there is no chance of a reconcilliation then you need to close the door on it and eventually, with time things will get less painful. Try not to ask him about his personal life and if he tells you about it then let him know you'd rather ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Over half a million visitors in March!
Q. I'm pleased to say that according to Google Analytics, March 08 was the busiest month ever for Dear Cupid! We had 519,747 unique visitors (i.e. people!) visit the site from 1st March 08 to 31st March 08 inclusive. Over HALF A MILLION people.... ...
A. 1 April 2008: Great news Andrew but not surprising. This site is a godsend for people young and "old" alike. 1 million hits WILL happen, I'm sure of it. Irish, I'll bring the wine! (winks).
~Eve~... (read in full...)
Anyone have an free English dating website recommendations?
Q. What are the best dating websites that are free that are england ...
A. 30 March 2008: A very reputable FREE dating site to try out is www.plentyoffish.com.
~Eve~ ... (read in full...)
We once had threesomes with my mate does he now like her more than he likes me?
Q. Hi I have been with me boyfriend for 3 years now, that is never a good relationship. He never cuddles me, we would never sit together on the sofa at home and we hardly ever had sex, he spent most of his time in the put as well. About 2years a...
A. 27 March 2008: Oh dear, what a mess. One of the reasons why NOT to have a threesome! Why on earth would you even consider this when you knew deep down your boyfriend like your friend? It was silly of you to go behind your boyfriend's back and see other guys and ... (read in full...)
I wanted to know how other infected people deal with this, and how do they manage to get on with their lives with no sex?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles: I found out in January that my now-ex gave me HPV-genital warts. I couldn't bring myself to forgive him (he had insisted I trust him, that he didn't have anything and that if I didn't trust him then we were over. So I trusted ...
A. 19 March 2008: A friend on mines confided in me that she had anal warts and was terrified to go to the doctor about them. After I spoke with her about it she reluctantly took my advice and paid her GP a visit. The warts had spread and she had more than 40 of ... (read in full...)
My wife and I are considering getting her tubes tied.
Q. My wife and I are considering getting her tubes tied. What are the chances of her getting pregnant even though her tubes have been tied? And is she able to give birth to a baby if she DOES become pregnant?...
A. 19 March 2008: For a woman having her tubes tied, there is still a very slight chance that she CAN fall pregnant. The tubes are "tied" and can always, through time slacken again. The best way to avoid this happening is for her to have them CUT and not TIED!
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Any tips for my weekend away with my gf and her parents??
Q. Okay, first off, I'm really grateful for all the feedback I received for a previous question I had, So, basically, my question is, I'm seeing this girl and the next time I see her, she wants me to stay the weekend with her. I'm worried on how t...
A. 16 March 2008: Just relax, be yourself and have fun basically. Oh and good manners go a long way too especially in front of her parents so be a gentleman. Find something you both have in common and you've got it made. Have fun!
~Eve~... (read in full...)
She has rocked my whole life to the core... how do I move on?
Q. Hello everyone and thanks for taking the time to read this plea for help. I'm naturally drawn to questions involving my age group, I wish they could be placed into 'age specific' groupings? But that's for the web people to consider! Anyway, m...
A. 16 March 2008: Whether you decide to leave your wife or not is up to you, you are asking how to move on after your experience with your ex so I'll concnetrate on that.
You have probably went many years without feeling truly loved and wanted but when you got back... (read in full...)
Is it possible he doesn't masturbate to the porn on his computer??
Q. I recently found some porn pictures of nude female models in pictures by themselves and a couple of videos of girls undressing on my boyfriend's computer. We have been dating almost 2 years, and from the time I met him he has always told me that ...
A. 15 March 2008: Danielepew couldn't have put it better. The female body is beautiful. It's like going into a man's place of work and seeing a nude calendar up on the wall. The models are attractive but having them there doesn't detract how he feels about you. It ... (read in full...)
Why would he ask for my number...say he will call and still not call??
Q. Well, I'm 18 and I met this guy who is around 33. I met him by chance and we started talking and well I know him a bit and it was pretty nice. He was really sweet and all and he had asked me if i was alone or witn company and where I lived, but unfo...
A. 15 March 2008: If he WAS crazy on you AND HAD NO BAGGAGE then he would have called you. He's either fobbing you off, being nice to you to your face with no intentions of calling but just doesn't want to hurt your feelings or he has a girlfriend or a wife at home! ... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't know what to do and I surely don't.... Should I wait and give him time or should I just move on?
Q. I met this guy at a work function about 6 months ago. We got along great from the 1st day. At the end of the week I went back to my home and he went to his (a few hrs away from me). We talked just about every day since online and on the phone ab...
A. 15 March 2008: There is too much chemistry between both of you to just stay friends. He has to make a decision on this. If his feelings for you are strong enough then he will make the decision to first leave his wife and THEN he can have a relationship with you. ... (read in full...)
Does he still have feelings for me and want me back?
Q. My ex broke up with me about six weeks ago, I didn't think we'd speak again. There seemed to be no reason for the breakup other than that he was under alot of stress at the time and couldnt handle us anyway he deleted me from his phone, his ...
A. 15 March 2008: The only thing you can do now is wait... He has your mobile number and if you're still on his mind, I can guarantee you he'll be back in touch and if he is then great (followed by him dumping his girlfriend). If you don't hear from him again and ... (read in full...)
I don't fancy him any more but how can I tell him without hurting his feelings?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months now, and to be honest I just don't fancy him much anymore the 'spark' has gone, I've told him this and then he started to get upset so I told him that it's back again. He's told me he feels the same as he did ...
A. 14 March 2008: He'll get over it! When I was very young I was in your position, I didn't fancy him any more (we were even engaged) and when he asked me why I was quiet one night I told him I didn't think things were working out and thought it best if we finish ... (read in full...)
He says he needs time to think if we are compatible, how much time am I to wait?
Q. My boyfriend (of a little more than a year) and I recently had a small spat, but it seems to be a culmination of little unhappinesses lately. He says he needs time to think about whether we are compatible. I'm giving him that time, but at the same ...
A. 14 March 2008: Then I feel he still needs this time out to see if he thinks you have enough in common to want to stay with you. If you could try share some of his interests, that would help but in the meantime I would give him the space he's asked for and let him ... (read in full...)
Is it selfish to expect this from a close friend?
Q. Here's the scenario: Before my friend Vicky's birthday, she went clubbing with my ex and one of my ex's friends. My ex and I had a really bad break up and she knew that he hurt me pretty bad by cheating on me. Anyways, she invited him thinking that ...
A. 14 March 2008: I would say yes, it is a bit selfish of you. Just because you've broken up, life goes on doesn't it. Okay he hurt you but you've moved on now and have another boyfriend. I would brush it off, don't blame your friend, she was only being polite ... (read in full...)
He says he needs time to think if we are compatible, how much time am I to wait?
Q. My boyfriend (of a little more than a year) and I recently had a small spat, but it seems to be a culmination of little unhappinesses lately. He says he needs time to think about whether we are compatible. I'm giving him that time, but at the same ...
A. 14 March 2008: Give him that time and let HIM chase you! Let him see what it's like to actually miss you. Don't text, call or email him, let that come from him! If he asks why you haven't been in touch then tell him you're just respecting his wishes and giving ... (read in full...)
After 24 years of marriage, my husband says he still loves his ex and has filed for divorce!
Q. I have been married 24 years and my husband just told me a month ago that he is still in love with his old girlfriend before me. He told me that he has never stopped loving her and that he doesn't love me the same way, never has. We have 2 grown ...
A. 14 March 2008: This must have been devastating for you to hear! What brought this on? Has he been in touch with his ex of late or met up with her at all? Something has brought this to a climax. How did this all come about? Had your marriage been having ... (read in full...)
Should I go to a "Gentleman's Club" to lose my virginity or am I selling myself short?
Q. Hey guys, I've been pondering this for a while now, but I'd like to get some outside opinions on this. I'm still a virgin at 20, and quite frankly I'm over it. It hasn't happened yet, I can't see it happening anytime soon, and I just feel bored ...
A. 14 March 2008: You're selling yourself short here! You just need to believe in yourself more. Life is a learning curve, okay so you screwed it up with a couple of girls, learn from it and move on and make sure you don't make the same mistakes with the next one.
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I feel like a slave but he doesn't hit me too hard so maybe he will be better after we have children...
Q. My husband comes from a family where the men are always in charge. He was very nice to me when we were dating and after we got married he changed like he thinks he is my master. I feel like a slave sometimes and if I don't do what I am supposed to ...
A. 14 March 2008: Do you want my honest opinion here? RUN AS FAST AS YOUR LEGS CAN CARRY YOU! This man is a bully and a control freak. He seems to have some strange fetish where he wants to dominate you and it will only get worse with time. The WORST thing you ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to find love again?
Q. If someone you know is single and has a hard time moving on because of losing the one they loved and only saw themselves with that other person? Is it possible to find love again or only that one person was their true love?...
A. 14 March 2008: Yes, it's possible... with time! Time heals all wounds, even deep wounds like the one you describe. Can I ask how long ago did this person lose their loved one?
~Eve~... (read in full...)
I feel like my dad doesn't approve of anything in my life...
Q. hi, im sixteen and i need some advice. I want to be an architect but my dad keeps saying that job doesnt pay well for women and idk what to do. Thats something i really want to do, i just feel like my dad doesnt approve of any part of my life, he ...
A. 14 March 2008: An architect is a good career! Is your dad successful? Are you an only child? If you want to be an architect so badly then I would go for it. I think your dad is a bit frightened to let you go. He sees you're growing up and he's trying to hold ... (read in full...)
How do I stay strong when I feel like he messed up my life and no one knows the real him?
Q. I was keeping the message in my inbox on myspace from my ex in case i would ever need to report him for stalking, and today i noticed he changed his profile picture to one with 2 girls kissing him. So, stupidly I checked out his page and in almos...
A. 14 March 2008: This guy isn't worth your attention, he's keeping the door open for you, you did right to ignore him. The best thing you can do is NOT look at his myspace any more or anthing else he's part of, you are only feeding yourself with thoughts of him ... (read in full...)
My friend is unhappy due to a death and from abuse by a guy at school, how can I help her?
Q. Hi everyone I have this friend that I just met about six months ago. She is having troubles and I think I'm starting to like her. She lost a friend in a car accident a couple of months before we met, and she's still sad about this. Then she like...
A. 14 March 2008: The best thing you can do for now is be her friend. Don't ask her out on a date or pressure her in any way as she's got too many emotions running through her head just now and she'll be very vulnerable. Tell her you're there for her as a friend if ... (read in full...)
I'm confused with what he wants with me....should I tell him I missed him??
Q. hey guys, So this kid who i had a thing with for a little while, we ended things like last month and we ended off really bad. He said he doesnt want to be my freind or anything. Starting two weeks ago i guess he decided to be mature and talk ...
A. 14 March 2008: Everyone likes a bit of attention! He does like you but history is repeating itself here and you're doing exactly what you did when you got together before. He just doesn't want to get hurt again and is a bit apprehensive in case the same thing ... (read in full...)
My husband is having extra-marital affairs with younger women and I am pregnant, what should I do?
Q. We have been married for seven years and my husband is having an extra-marital affairs for six years with another young women with two illegitimate children. With me, we have 3 children and i am pregnant now. What should i do ?...
A. 14 March 2008: If you know your husband has has these affairs then why on earth did you get pregnant to him again? You need to sit down and decide what you want. Are you willing to continue in this marriage knowing that he's sleeping with someone else? Have you ... (read in full...)
Should I go to a "Gentleman's Club" to lose my virginity or am I selling myself short?
Q. Hey guys, I've been pondering this for a while now, but I'd like to get some outside opinions on this. I'm still a virgin at 20, and quite frankly I'm over it. It hasn't happened yet, I can't see it happening anytime soon, and I just feel bored ...
A. 14 March 2008: Unlike guys, looks don't matter as much as personality to a woman. And by the way, a guy DID answer you! Look again lol.
You know what's holding you back! I suggest you try to get rid of the bitterness and pessimism you feel and work on trying t... (read in full...)
Does he still have feelings for me and want me back?
Q. My ex broke up with me about six weeks ago, I didn't think we'd speak again. There seemed to be no reason for the breakup other than that he was under alot of stress at the time and couldnt handle us anyway he deleted me from his phone, his ...
A. 13 March 2008: I think he genuinely still has feelings for you and was pleasantly surprised when he saw you again in the supermarket. He was honest enough to tell you straight off that he'd been seeing someone else too, maybe to get you out of his mind, who ... (read in full...)
Should I go to a "Gentleman's Club" to lose my virginity or am I selling myself short?
Q. Hey guys, I've been pondering this for a while now, but I'd like to get some outside opinions on this. I'm still a virgin at 20, and quite frankly I'm over it. It hasn't happened yet, I can't see it happening anytime soon, and I just feel bored ...
A. 13 March 2008: You're still very young, what's the big deal? There's more important things to life than having sex. There's nothing to be embarrassed about being 20 and still a virgin, I say good for you! I admire you! It shows you respect yourself and aren't ... (read in full...)
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