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Are men instantly turned off because I'm not young and thin?

Q.   I am 49 years old and single. I feel like there is not much hope for me in finding a guy who would be interested in me. I think age is against me, and the fact that it is harder and harder to stay in shape. I'm not that heavy--but definitely not ...

A.   30 July 2009: To tell you the truth ... I am young,pretty and good body ... and I HAVE THE SAME EXACT PROBLEM .... i dont think it matters if you are older or slimmer or chubbier. Men like different women . as women like different men ... I just have a feel... (read in full...)

Parents split up how do you comfort little sister?

Q.   My dad and step mom just split up and my little sister (11) is taking it really hard, I want to comfort her but I don't know what to do. She's not a girly type and hates it when I give her a hug, I've been told just be there for her, but when I try ...

A.   15 July 2009: some people act like that ... are angry and mean when they are sad and upset ... maybe you are better off just leaving your sister alone, she will deal with it in her own way good luck... (read in full...)

Parents split up how do you comfort little sister?

Q.   My dad and step mom just split up and my little sister (11) is taking it really hard, I want to comfort her but I don't know what to do. She's not a girly type and hates it when I give her a hug, I've been told just be there for her, but when I try ...

A.   15 July 2009: Hey I am very sorry to hear your story. I will try to give you some advice. My parents almost got divorced when I was about 11. My brother was 5 at that time. They were separated for about half a year and it was soo hard. I remember taht everyone... (read in full...)

Pregnant girlfriend and the sex has stopped!

Q.   Why Doesnt my girl wanna have sex with me anymore? We use to have sex constantly, but until she got pregnant and cut down on the sex extra hard. She is now 6 month or so and i have seen nothing....

A.   26 June 2009: Lots of women do not want to have sex during their pregnancy ... some are affraid they will hurt the baby inside (which is not gonna happen) and some are just not happy about the way they look or how they feel. You have to understand and try to b... (read in full...)

Questions about porn...

Q.   I have some questions about porn: 1. Why do most (notice I said 'most') women in porn have HUGE breasts and are blonde? Those are obviously fake, and men always say they don't care about size, and that they hate implants, but is this a lie? I me...

A.   11 June 2009: LMAO .... Jeeezzz girl !!! Guys like different things ... girls like different things .. some guys love ass some guys love big boobs ... it doesnt matter no one will love you or that you are less of a woman !! Why women have fake boobs? Because men ... (read in full...)

Questions about porn...

Q.   I have some questions about porn: 1. Why do most (notice I said 'most') women in porn have HUGE breasts and are blonde? Those are obviously fake, and men always say they don't care about size, and that they hate implants, but is this a lie? I me...

A.   11 June 2009:  I love when people lie ... for example when they say to fat girls .. oh baby dont worry men dont care if you are fet or skinny ... BS - been there done that!!!! Men do care !!! When I was fat guys wouldn give a flying F ... if i was around ... (read in full...)

Questions about porn...

Q.   I have some questions about porn: 1. Why do most (notice I said 'most') women in porn have HUGE breasts and are blonde? Those are obviously fake, and men always say they don't care about size, and that they hate implants, but is this a lie? I me...

A.   10 June 2009: to the Anonymous guy that wrote the long comment: ALL WOMEN DO NOT HATE PORN!! Thats a fact ... there are many women that do not care or actually like it as men do. I am not a freak that watches porn every week, but I do not mind it, and I will w... (read in full...)

Questions about porn...

Q.   I have some questions about porn: 1. Why do most (notice I said 'most') women in porn have HUGE breasts and are blonde? Those are obviously fake, and men always say they don't care about size, and that they hate implants, but is this a lie? I me...

A.   10 June 2009: Hey Girl Ok so first .... Why are porn stars blonde and boobelicious? Well .. men love breasts !!! Most of them dont care about if they are real or fake and thats the truth ... but there are some, that do NOT like fakes (most dont care..as lo... (read in full...)

I want to make love to my boyfriend, but it is wrong in my culture

Q.   I am so confused. I'm 18 years old girl i've got a 24 year old boyfriend he's muslim i'm sikh. we've only been dating for a month but knew eachother 2 months before and we have even had our little up and downs but i love him so much and vice ve...

A.   25 May 2009: This is very hard subject... I am not religious, but I went through something lil simillar. Was dating a Greek guy, was suppose to get married, he was ready to go against his fathers will and was ready to go against everythign to be we me - so I t... (read in full...)

Why are older guys attracted to younger women?

Q.   Why are older guys attracted to younger women. And why are some younger girls attracted to older men? ANSWER MY QUESTION........PLZ!!!...

A.   15 May 2009: Its definetely because women mature faster than men .. and men in their age are not mature enough for them, and so they look for someone lil older. It has been always like that for many many years ... Now ... older men look for younger women fo... (read in full...)

Getting over someone you absolutely adore

Q.   What is the best way to get over someone whom you love so very much , but they have lost all love for you?...

A.   13 May 2009: Hard answer to this guestion ... I am trying to find that on my own ... I guess, you just need time to heal ... and to find someone new, that will show you love again and when you fall for this new person, you will forget about the other one. ... (read in full...)

Does he not want to see my face?

Q.   Last night me and my boyfriend were having sex. We hadn't been able to have sex the whole week, so we were both very turned on. We were on the couch, he was sitting and I was on top of him. We were face to face. Suddenly I noticed it was taking him ...

A.   10 May 2009: oh God ... I love doggy style .. lol ... I always wanan do it that way ... I dont see anything wrong with that ... everyone likes different positions ... its not about not seeing your face ... sex is sex ... its not as serious as people take it ... ... (read in full...)

Masturbation help!

Q.   I recently asked about masturbation and whether it was a sin or not. I'm catholic/christian. I'm pretty sure it is. However, I wanted to make sure that it doesn't affect young girls from becoming infertile in the future or lose their sexual appetite ...

A.   10 May 2009: oh Please .. its absolutely fine ..make yourself happy girl !!!!! :)... (read in full...)

Seriously guilty over having cheated

Q.   I love my fiancée very much. Last month I went out with some buddies and cheated on my girlfriend with not 1 but 2 girls I met at the bar. I was really drunk and started flirting with a girl thinking it would never amount to anything, next thing I ...

A.   8 May 2009: Oh yeah .. tell her ... go ahead ... she will never ever trust you again ... you wont be able to go out w guys, she will be even going crazy when u going shopping - calling u nonstop ... or ... she will just leave you ... Im sure there wont be ... (read in full...)

Seriously guilty over having cheated

Q.   I love my fiancée very much. Last month I went out with some buddies and cheated on my girlfriend with not 1 but 2 girls I met at the bar. I was really drunk and started flirting with a girl thinking it would never amount to anything, next thing I ...

A.   7 May 2009: YOU SHOULD FEEL GUILTY !!!! YOU ARE GUILTY !!!!! AND YOU BETTER PRAY FOR YOUR FIANCE NOT TO FIND OUT ... cause If that was me ... You would never see me ever again !!!! This is disgusting !!! you did this to her before you marry this woman? How ... (read in full...)

I told her the cold truth - and she hates me for it!

Q.   Hey, My friend (not me at all) just told me she is pregnant, with this guy that left her right after she told him. He was never a real relationship, which all her friends kept telling her, but she didnt listen. He had her just for the weekend fun, ...

A.   6 May 2009: No, she has no papers .. no insurance She could go back home, but she doesnt want to - she would have a gerat life w a baby back home, her mom woudl help her. The family she works for knows, but has no idea she wants to keep it. Yes, she ... (read in full...)

A survey about Birth Control pills.

Q.   Okay, so this will be a survey concerning birth control pills and its effectiveness.This survey is for my own purpose only, not for any scientific purposes. The subjects will be those of you who had or taking birth control pills, and have one par...

A.   5 May 2009: 1- I take my pill every night - dont realy care about the time that much .. def forgot couple of times 2- my partner does not use a condom 3- he does ejaculate inside of me .. pretty much all the time (thats like the best feeling !) ... (read in full...)

My wife is going to sleep with another man tomorrow

Q.   I do not have a direct question, I just want some love from the dear cupid community. My wife of 12 years has plans to sleep with an old boyfriend tomorrow. She is in another state visiting her mother. While there, she met up with this guy. Th...

A.   29 March 2009: are you mad??/ stop her now!... (read in full...)

I feel like I am at this point in my life where I am missing out on things and it breaks my heart he does not want to be there with me.

Q.   My husband and I have 2 children together (8 years old and 18 months old). I am due in June with our 3rd child. I am a stay at home mom for the most part, running two businesses from home aside from being a super mom, maid, cook and wife. My husband ...

A.   24 March 2009: He doesnt wanna go out? Good ... get a babysitter, get dressed and go out .. im sure you have at least on GF .. go out .. WITHOUT HIM .. and if he complains .. tell you, you are the maker of your own happiness and if he is not interested to go out ... (read in full...)

Her libido is way off the richter scale!!!

Q.   I've been with my fiancee for two and a half years. I couldn't ask for a better lady. She's intelligent and absolutely stunning. The thing is though, she has a massive sex drive. She's never satisfied with just vaginal intercourse, she has to have...

A.   23 March 2009: I have much bigger sex drive than my partner ... and yes, you are absolutely right ... if my partner saiz, he is tired and he doesn;t want me ... I get all upset and think he doesnt love me anymore, and Im not attractive at that moment etc ... W... (read in full...)

Do women have a preference on a man being uncircumcised or circumcised?

Q.   i am a 22 year old male and circumcised and i am just wanting to know if women have a preference on a man being uncircumcised or circumcised? do women really care about this?...

A.   23 March 2009: DEFINETLY! I'm sure most women do have a preference. I do prefer a circumsised penis from not circumsised, just because it's much cleaner! But I have been with men that were not circumcised and as someone else said, I wouldn't kick the mout of ... (read in full...)

My vagina is really red and itchy

Q.   I'm 13. I had sex with my boyfriend of 5 months for the first time last week. He's 14. This is a little embarasing but, my vagina is really red and itchy. I've been having headaches and stomach aches, frequently. I get a bit of a burning sensation ...

A.   23 March 2009: blader infection .... go to pharmacy and get someting for it ... you have to pee before and after sex btw YOU ARE WAY TOO YOUNG TO HAVE SEX ... (read in full...)

Tips on how to end my relationship?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now. It's the usual story, relationship started off wonderful and then gradually it's began to become unbearable. I have had a long think about what to do and have decided it's time to end it. My ...

A.   23 March 2009: There will never be the perfect place, the perfect time and the perfect way to say it ... all you can do, is just do it. It will hurt him, and maybe he will say some bad things to you and maybe he wont ... if you really feel unhappy in this ... (read in full...)

I don't understand why I don't have a boyfriend. Help please!

Q.   i don't understand why i don't have a boyfriend. it seems like ever since i broke up with my boyfriend of two years i cant seem to find another boyfriend..i mean i have been in relationships after that but they just have all gone wrong. plus some...

A.   10 March 2009: Hm Sounds kinda like me ... I have broken up w my fiance about 7 months ago ... dated couple of guys here and there .. but everything went wrong ... and even tho all I want is to be happy and to be with someone that will love me, I seem not to be a... (read in full...)

My life pretty much stinks on ice!!!

Q.   I don't know what to do... I always feel so down and lonely... my life pretty much stinks on ice!!! I'm always depressed, nothing ever comes easy for me and I dont think I can handle it any more... and to put on to that misery.... I rarely get ...

A.   8 March 2009: Yeah ... pretty normal ... I think 70% of people your age go through it. Its just hard. I went throught it. I didn't get along w parents, hated everyone, felt like everyone is hurting me and doesnt understand me ... it went away when I was abou... (read in full...)

Can you make love for 5 hours and NOT be in a loving relationship?

Q.   Is it possible to make love constantly for 5 hours and not be in a relationship that is based on true love?? ...

A.   27 January 2009: Of course you can!!! sex is sex ... love is a different thing .. ... (read in full...)

My b/f needs to be shocked into going on a diet. How do I do that?

Q.   Well people may seem this as mean but i really need advice on this. One of my best friends is abit over weight by that i mean she is 13 and a size 12 or 14 in adults. I never saw that as a problem she is still a great friend it never changed ...

A.   27 January 2009: Well, you said 14 women size right? That is big for that young girl. I am 27 years old and I ahve been overwerigt until I was about 20 ... I use to be size 14 when your age .. adn than I just went to size 20 from absolutely nowhere. I didnt have ... (read in full...)

Can I still get him back?

Q.   My boyfriend of a year and a half just broke up with me four days ago. we had some rough time but we finally getting better (at least i thought we were). My birthday was three days before and we had a good time, but he seemed a little distant. The ...

A.   27 January 2009: Break ups... God... they hurt soooo bad. I absolutely undertand your pain. I have broken up with my fiance about 5 months ago... we had a wonderful relationship and were planning our future together but his father didn't agree and my fiance wasn't ... (read in full...)

How far can a stripper go during a lap dance?

Q.   Hello all! Something has been bothering me about my boyfriend's past that isn't really important in the big scheme of things, but despite knowing this it still bothers me. Here's the deal: My boyfriend went to a (fully nude) strip club right be...

A.   7 January 2009: I broke up with one of my exe's because of strip club .. and I am everything but jealous. I love sex, stripping and even porn. I am not a frigid little girl, but strip clubs where someone elses vagina is in my BFs face? ABSOLUTELY NO-NO! Guys can ... (read in full...)

Getting off on pornography....need some advice!

Q.   I have been married to my husband for three years now,when i first met him we would walk around and he would turn his head at any sexy girl,i thought this would pass,,,but since last september of 2007 he has gotten worse,on once occasion we went to ...

A.   7 January 2009: Hm .. sometimes women are just not as much into sex as guys are and thats why guys go and jerk off over a porn .. I check out weird porn sites just for fun .. not to do anything, just to see a weird stuff .. so it doesnt mean that transexuals make ... (read in full...)

Should I forgive my boyfriend for watching porn?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been going out for 4 years. We do not live together and we are both virgins. He recently confessed that has watched porn at least once a week for the last 3 years. I was really hurt when he told me. He seemed to feel bad ...

A.   7 January 2009: Eh not only guys watch porn .. its perfectly normal for women or men .. ... (read in full...)

My ex said we will never get back together

Q.   I NEEED SOMEONES ADVICE..PLEASE.. My boyfriend broke up with me about 4 months ago. We had went out for 10 months. we were inseperable, we spent so much time together probably to much. It was my first real relationship and I found myself acting ...

A.   7 January 2009: Give him time, you don't know whats going to happen in 3 4 months from now. Stay friends, that gives you the oportunity to be in his presence ... and just go with the flow .. do not rush, do not ask, do not act stupid, be happy even when you are ... (read in full...)

Just want too much sex

Q.   This is tad embarassing but anyway... I had probably an average sex drive and was in typical health but over the past two years have improved my diet and lifestyle and now have a VERY high sex drive. I want it at least every single day and my...

A.   7 January 2009: Lol, I can have sex even 3 times a day and its still not enough. There is nothing wrong with you, its just how your body works. Some people have bigger libido than others, but there is nothing wrong with that. My boyfrend usually think I am craz... (read in full...)

Has anyone gone to a psychic?

Q.   Did anyone ever went to a Psychic .. and how lucky were you???...

A.   2 January 2009: Well I never went to a psychic ... but my mother is big in this, so when I broke up w my BF and I was hurting as hell and such (everyone knows the cyrcle) ... she went to this woman that supposely has red her cards million times and always came true... (read in full...)

Anyone has an idea what is "abandoned child syndrome" for an adult guy? I want to help him!

Q.   Anyone has an idea what is "abandoned child syndrome" for an adult guy, who was left by his cheating mother. Now he hates her and lives only for his father ... his relationships are great .. but least exactly year and a month, and he dumps the ...

A.   25 September 2008: to Irish49 thank you sooo much for your help. I absolutely agree with everything you wrote. He is very difficult and he always was. His story is lil different I guess. He is Greek, raced by a very Greek father. There wasn't only this "syndr... (read in full...)

Please explain why it is that when men look at porn and get aroused, they don't go to the wife to include her!

Q.   I have a problem with my husband wacking off to porn! I'm a woman that believes in pleasing her husband! Even if I'm not in the mood, I will still give him sex. My other delima is that I want sex at least 2-3 times a day every day and he is usually ...

A.   16 September 2008: Ok, so at least porn is not the issue I absolutely understand where are you going with this. It is very hard and flusturating to you! Do you know what exactly is he looking at? Maybe it is something you can't give him that he likes. Maybe it is ... (read in full...)

My husband had an affair and now she's pregnant! Where do we go from here?

Q.   Let me explain more in detail I am 46 my husband Is 36 we have been together for 12 years. I have 2 kids from a previous relationship. He want children but I can't give him any.He recently had an affair like 5 months ago. now shes pregnant,and of ...

A.   18 August 2008: Ok well I dont think there is no need for him to be with her anymore. If he loves you, he will choose you, if he loves her, he will be with her. He has to decide where he wants to be tho, because this situation is killing you!!!! This can't go on f... (read in full...)

Should I ask her to wait for the wedding?

Q.   So My fiance is probably pregnant as you probably heard in the last question, sorry if i bug you guys. But she says that if shes pregnant she wants to get married before we have the baby. I would marry her tommorow if i could, but id rathernot have ...

A.   11 August 2008: I would get marryed in just register office .. just to be married before the baby is born and than have a big real wedding after the baby is born ... (read in full...)

Should I be worried about my boyfriend's trip?

Q.   Well I'll start by saying that my boyfriend and I have been together for almost four years and we've had our share of arguments, but we've both pretty much always been on the same page. It's a serious relationship and we're both aiming towards ...

A.   7 August 2008: I dont know girl I would not trust a word he is saying! I mean, how can he leave to a different state for a week to a womans house, that he have met only online??? Why is he going there without you? What is the main reason??? I do not blame yo... (read in full...)

I had a piercing done 3 days ago, how long do I have to clean it, days, weeks, months or forever?

Q.   i had a piercing done 3 days ago i am wondering how long do i have to keep cleaning it for? is it days, weeks, months or all the time cheers x...

A.   5 August 2008: its different. I got my belly button done long time ago ... they told me its 6-8weeks,but its not really a true....It has been 6months and I still get infections and stuff ... I do clean it and take care of it .. but I guess my body just doesnt a... (read in full...)

My husband had an affair and now she's pregnant! Where do we go from here?

Q.   Let me explain more in detail I am 46 my husband Is 36 we have been together for 12 years. I have 2 kids from a previous relationship. He want children but I can't give him any.He recently had an affair like 5 months ago. now shes pregnant,and of ...

A.   31 July 2008: Wow I am soooo sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately my opinion is, that if woman is that much older than a guy, sooner or later, he will go after a younger one, cause lets face it ... women age faster than men ... unfair, but true Any... (read in full...)

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