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12 July 2012: In October of 2002, I moved from The San Francisco Bay Area, back to my hometown of Dallas Texas. In November I got a job at the wonderful world of Wal-Mart (said sarcastically) I worked back in receiving, my job was a soft-lines processor. I was ...
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My b/f is unemployed and we had a fight over me spending money. How do I make things right?
Q. i'll try to make this short: my boyfriend and I have been together for little over a year. Everything's perfect. However, he's broke and unemployed and that means I take the financial burden. We both live with our parents, as we're in our 20s...
A. 12 January 2015: He IS taking advantage of you, whether you want to realize it or not.
Instead of thanking you for every thing you have done for him, he throws a temper tantrum like a two year old, and lays a guilt trip on you. You are not the one who should b... (read in full...)
We've not dated or had sex but he said he would leave his wife for me!
Q. Hi guys, I'm in such a pickle and I wish I didn't have this to worry over right before Christmas. Me and my partner have been together for six years, happy years and I love him dearly. My partners boss is 14 years older than myself and ...
A. 19 December 2014: You said yourself, the two of you don't even know each other - so what would happen if he left his wife and children for you, and then it turns out that the two of you ar4 completely incompatible. The fantasy is gone, and reality has set in, and a ... (read in full...)
Living with his lazy dirty family has me at the end of my tether
Q. Hello. I don't know how much longer I can put up with this. His family is starting to become a deal breaker for me. Right now, I live with my boyfriend and his family. We pay rent, we buy our own groceries, and we pay for whatever else we use. We ...
A. 18 December 2014: Well my question to you would be, why do you need a two bedroom place? If it's just the two of you, and you're obviously sleeping together, surely you can share a one bedroom apartment - for that matter, you could even get by with an efficiency ... (read in full...)
I want more than an ordinary life, but my husband is very ordinary
Q. Hard to know where to start and I'm going to try not to waffle on for hours.... In a nutshell I have been with my partner 3.5 years, married in August (so married for about 4 months now). For the majority of the relationship it has been happy, ...
A. 18 December 2014: In all of your explanation, you never once said you loved your husband. You talked about how much he loves you, but you never indicated that you return those feelings. You went into this marriage already knowing that this wasn't what you wanted. I ... (read in full...)
Boy friend says I have nothing to worry about. Is this something I should be worried about?
Q. Last weekend my boyfriend met a girl when he went to hang out as his cousin's house. Basically she's a good friend of his cousin and his other friends. My boyfriend didn't even know she was going to be there because it's usually just an all guy ...
A. 11 March 2014: From what you've said, it seems like she is pursuing him. It may appear all harmless, right now, but as song as he continues to be open to her chasing after him, that could quickly change.
You're in a bit of a sticky situation, because he hasn't r... (read in full...)
Have I lost Mr Right???
Q. Have I lost Mr Right?? Years ago I fell out with him and his family As he never told them the truth. Recently we have been meeting up and having intercourse and floor play. It's just as and when needed. He gets married next year. ...
A. 5 March 2014: I'm sorry, I have to agree with Aunty Bim Bim - He's engaged to be married, and he is fooling around with you. He is NOT a "Mr. Right".
The last thing you should be doing is entertaining the idea of having a baby with this man.....he doesn't ... (read in full...)
Can't stop thinking about the ex even though I'm with someone
Q. I have a boyfriend for 5 months now and things have been going okay. However I can't stop thinking about the last man I dated. We didn't even date for long but during that short time it was really really amazing. I felt like he had a lot of qualitie...
A. 20 September 2013: Since the relationship ended against the wishes of both of you, and before you had a chance to see where it could go, you're going to be comparing ALL guys to your last boyfriend - You didn't really have any closer.
Why didn't the family approve ... (read in full...)
My husband's semen changed consistency. Does this mean he's cheated?
Q. My husband has always had very thick, gloopy semen. He lost interest in sex a year ago. A full physical and blood workup proved him to be healthy. He started taking Cialis. We had sex 1 time since he began the Cialis , 1 month ago. His semen was ...
A. 30 July 2013: The change in consistency could be a side effect of the Cialis, or even a change in diet, but it is most certainly NOT due to cheating.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has had money troubles and now he wants to transfer my name over onto his bills. Why? Is he just using me?
Q. My boyfriend has had quite a few financial troubles in his past, and has had a few court cases in which people owed him money and vice versa. He seems to be paranoid and wants his name off a lot of things. For instance, he has a mailbox in anoth...
A. 9 February 2013: Is he involved in any illegal activity that he is trying to hide from?
This is a major red flag, and it has bad idea written all over it. DO NOT under any circumstances allow your name to be attached to anything belonging to him - that would ma... (read in full...)
Retroactive jealousy is tearing us apart
Q. my partner and i have been together for 8 years, hes just gone 40 and i m 36. we have been friends for 19 years after meeting when i was 17 and seeing each other for a few months. we stayed friends after this and i had my son with someone else and ...
A. 8 February 2013: So_Very_Confused is absolutely right
The past obviously can't be undone, so the constant obsessing over it is a form of OCD. He's going to drive himself insane over this, if left untreated. It's time to seek out some therapy.... (read in full...)
Retroactive jealousy is tearing us apart
Q. my partner and i have been together for 8 years, hes just gone 40 and i m 36. we have been friends for 19 years after meeting when i was 17 and seeing each other for a few months. we stayed friends after this and i had my son with someone else and ...
A. 8 February 2013: "he thinks im gonna cheat on him because ive been easy in the past."
You could just as easily turn this around and say that you think he is going to cheat on you, because he is the one who HAS cheated in the past. Sounds like he's trying to proje... (read in full...)
Retroactive jealousy is tearing us apart
Q. my partner and i have been together for 8 years, hes just gone 40 and i m 36. we have been friends for 19 years after meeting when i was 17 and seeing each other for a few months. we stayed friends after this and i had my son with someone else and ...
A. 7 February 2013: I agree with Anonymous 123 - you've been friends for 19 years, and your sexual past has never bean an issue. He even used it to his advantage, ie, cheating on two previous girlfriends with you.
Something has triggered this sudden bout of jealousy... (read in full...)
I feel like my bf doesn't consider me because he wont do sexual favors and forgets me on holidays what do I do?
Q. I have a small problem that is difficult to over look. My bf doesnt ever want to go down on me. When we first got together he would say how he did it to his ex, which of course was annoying because he was just doing it to brag... we have been ...
A. 17 January 2013: He brags about how he treated his ex girlfriend better then you? That just isn't right - what the heck is even the purpose of that?
You're not being selfish for wanting him to put in a little effort and do those little things that say "I love you... (read in full...)
My ex husband doesn't love me anymore but wants us to have a child together
Q. I have my ex-husband who told he doesnt love me anymore with no reason and now he wants us to have a second child outside a relationship and he is extremly proud. and i still love him. What do i do to get him back?...
A. 17 January 2013: If he doesn't love you, I don't understand why he wants to have another child with you.
Contrary to what some people believe, bringing a baby into an already stressed out, loveless marriage, will not salvage your relationship.
If he does no... (read in full...)
He said he just needed a few weeks and now he's using the same lines on her as he used on me!
Q. my boyfriend told me he felt lost so i told him to take some space, he told me we could still talk but just a little (we usually talk all the time nearly 24/7) he said that he didn't know if he loved me anymore and that he just needed a few weeks, ...
A. 17 January 2013: It sounds like he has taken an interest in someone else, and just wants to keep you on the hook in case that relationship doesn't pan out.
You don't want to be a string-along, or "the ole sack lunch" that he keeps handy, in case he doesn't ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating? Should I believe him, or the people who say he's cheated?
Q. Please aunts and uncles can you help me?? .. Here goes.. I have a profile on a popular dating site. One day goin back 2+ years I received a msg from 'M' saying he saw me driving along, and so we struck up a conversation. It was on and off chatting...
A. 17 January 2013: You say you see each other on and off, but you haven't said anything about actual;y being in a committed relationship with him. There's a difference in casual dating, and actually being together as a couple.
If the two of you have not made tha... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my husband's fantasies and learn how to dominate him?
Q. My husband confessed to me last night that he wants to wear panties and be dominated by me. I am a submissive person by nature and was kinda sick by his fantasy. I like a manly man! I know he has talked about this and has acted on it with another ...
A. 14 January 2013: Sorry, that's supposed to be "can't" force yourself.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my husband's fantasies and learn how to dominate him?
Q. My husband confessed to me last night that he wants to wear panties and be dominated by me. I am a submissive person by nature and was kinda sick by his fantasy. I like a manly man! I know he has talked about this and has acted on it with another ...
A. 14 January 2013: Cerberus hit the nail right on the head. your problem isn't how to dominate your "panties wearing" hubby - your problem is that your hubby has been cheating on you. THAT is what you should be concerned with.
You can force yourself to become s... (read in full...)
He wants to be faithful to his girlfriend, but I want to tell him how I feel. Is this a good idea?
Q. I met this guy about a year ago and recently, in September, we began to hang out and we became "close" like intimate. I liked him and I still do. The problem is that he has a girlfriend now. For about two months, we fell off because of a conflict ...
A. 14 January 2013: In my opinion, you don't tell him. He wants to be faithful to his girlfriend, and he SHOULD be faithful to his girlfriend.
If he were yours, you would not want another girl pouring her heart out to him - you would also want him to be faithful... (read in full...)
I always ignore the red flags because I think I can change them! How do I stop this?
Q. I can't seem to stop picking "fixing upper" guys...they're always already broken somehow. My first boyfriend had family issues and subsequently could not have feelings in a relationship. My most recent boyfriend felt like he wasn't good enough for ...
A. 14 January 2013: One more thing I forgot to add - Never date someone, hoping they will change or that you can fix them. My ex husband had a horrible implosive temper. I was naive enough to believe he would grow out of it, and of course he never did.
Pay attentio... (read in full...)
I always ignore the red flags because I think I can change them! How do I stop this?
Q. I can't seem to stop picking "fixing upper" guys...they're always already broken somehow. My first boyfriend had family issues and subsequently could not have feelings in a relationship. My most recent boyfriend felt like he wasn't good enough for ...
A. 14 January 2013: It seems to be a trait most of us women suffer from. We're natural born nurturers, so we have a tendency to fall for men who need "extra" nurturing.
I can completely understand where you're coming from. I used to be highly drawn to the "dark br... (read in full...)
How long do I wait for my husband to make up for a terrible 20th anniversary weekend?
Q. Married 20 years, received only a handful of birthday, anniversary, special occasion gifts. Read all the help columns and told husband exactly what I wanted for anniversary which was a week trip so we could reconnect. I started planning and he said ...
A. 14 January 2013: A relationship takes BOTH people giving a hundred percent, and it's obvious that you're the only one putting out any effort. He's made it clear that you're not high on his list of priorities, and that's really sad. I wouldn't wait any longer for him ... (read in full...)
She knows that I love her but says that "she doesn't see me that way" How can I change her feelings?
Q. I have known this girl for almost 5 years,we became classmates but got to know her well from past 3 years. Back then i had a crush on one of my thai friend, so my classmates use to make fun of me. And this Indian girl i use to consider her as a ...
A. 14 January 2013: I'm sorry you're in a really tough situation, but you can't make someone love you - it just isn't going to happen.
You've been pursuing her for three years, and she isn't willing to see you as anything other then a friend.
I know you don't w... (read in full...)
He's older, but his financial issues make it difficult. Is this a fair enough reason to finish this relationship with him?
Q. I dated a man much older for almost two years. I was a student going to school full-time. He paid for many things and I pitched in when I could. I gave him my education checks that came in monthly to buy food, rent, etc. During the last few mon...
A. 12 January 2013: Well in my opinion the fact that he thinks he's entitled to decide whether or not you work, is a fair enough reason to break it off with him.
The two of you don't have children who need looking after - you're not married to him, you're only dat... (read in full...)
Should I tell my parents my boyfriend is older?
Q. My boyfriend is a few years older then me and i don't know if i should tell my parents about him because they might not let me see him anymore, what do i do?...
A. 10 January 2013: Well, how much older are we talking, and how long before you turn 18?
You are still a minor - "a few years older" means he's an adult. I don't know the laws in your country, but aside from the legal aspect of it, there are reasons your parents ... (read in full...)
Did I cheat? What did I do? Mind is messed up - what do I do if anything?
Q. So, I'm currently in a long distance relationship (sort of - we're not wanting to call it a relationship quite yet), and it's going well. We've been talking daily since the end of October, and just after Christmas we agreed to commit to each oth...
A. 8 January 2013: In my opinion, I don't believe you've cheated. Some others may disagree with me, but let me explain why.
You're in an online "relationship", sort of. You've never met this girl in person AND neither of you have considered yourselves in a relation... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend do everything with me?
Q. This is kinda annoying... It's not that I don't love him, I do, I really do but I like to do my own stuff and what I'll say may seem kinda superficial but it's kinda annoying... My boyfriend does everything with me... I know how girls complain...
A. 4 January 2013: Do you live together? If not, then having some alone time should be easy. Do either of you have jobs, families, or other friends that you spend time with? Surely the two of you aren't together twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week?
Tumbl... (read in full...)
Got mad when I found him clubbing with other girls, then he drops me?!
Q. Hello everyone i really need some advice!! I caught my boyfriend with girls on a night out and dancing with one of them and was really drunk and lashed out! we were fine afterwards and the next day he dropped me home and i phone him within an hour ...
A. 3 January 2013: Yep, sounds like he has trouble taking responsibility for his own actions. He needs to find something to blame on you, so he can justify what he's doing.
This doesn't sound like a stable relationship. Look at this break up as a blessing in disgu... (read in full...)
He wants to break up --- is my old engagement ring just an excuse?
Q. I have a boyfriend of 6 months where things have been progressing quite quickly. This morning he called to call off the relationship because he realized 2 days ago that I was wearing an engagement ring from a previous man. Please note that as we ...
A. 3 January 2013: Why are you still wearing an engagement ring from a previous relationship? To most people this would be a sign that you have not let go and moved on.
"He is now stating that he cannot get over the 6 months of pain that I have inflicted him with... (read in full...)
Are his reasons for keeping it casual and unofficial valid?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a little over 6 months. We were boyfriend and girlfriend until the end of November when he broke up with me. He said he wanted to break up because he's too stressed because he got fired from his job and he needed t...
A. 2 January 2013: By "hooking up" I assume you mean sex. He's not wanting to be in a relationship with you, he just wants to be friends with benefits - no strings attached sex.
If you want to hang out and be friends, then do that - but stop sleeping with him. If... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is overly friendly with another girl, now he's travelling miles away to visit her and has booked a double room......is he cheating?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, I'm in a bit of a predicament with my partner right now and I have no idea what to do. We have been dating for five months, almost six, I really like this guy and we spend loads of time together but he met a girl at a festiv...
A. 2 January 2013: The whole thing does sound a little suspicious. I highly doubt that this other girl is going to sleep in a separate room, away from her boyfriend. Not the kind of thing lovers do when they go on a trip together.
Would he be alright with you goin... (read in full...)
My Cheating Boyfriend won't end his "affair" but I can't find the strength to leave him? How do I find the strength? What can I do?
Q. I am 22 years old and have been dealing with a major issue in my relationship with my son's father. I have been with him for 6 years and our son is 2 years old. A little over a month ago I found out my boyfriend was cheating on me. He is 29 and ha...
A. 1 January 2013: If you've been with him for six years, then that means you were sixteen and him twenty-three when you got together?
How long has he been sleeping with her? Sounds to me like he has a thing for teenage girls and you no longer fit that bill. Wh... (read in full...)
I'm married and had an affair with a colleague, but he decided to stay with his GF. I'm so miserable and crushed, and can't face seeing him at work.
Q. I am married 6 years with a young child. 10 months ago I started texting with a guy I work with, who lives with his girlfriend. We had an instant connection and starting texting non stop. We fell in love...always wanting to see eachothe...
A. 31 December 2012: It's clear that you truly feel remorse for this, and that is a very good thing. it will help you get over him.
You need to evaluate your marriage - because it's been my experience that people in happy healthy relationships don't usually fall int... (read in full...)
My ex said we can get back together if things don't work out with her current boyfriend, but I can't handle the thought of her giving her virginity to someone else.
Q. The relationship with my ex-girlfriend is a long and complicated one so I’ll try to explain it as clearly and concise as possible. (The names used are not the real names of people involved) We first started dating during our sophomore year o...
A. 31 December 2012: I understand that you really love this girl - but you have a bigger problem then her giving her virginity to someone else. Her leading you to believe that IF things don't work out with her current boyfriend, MAYBE you and her can get back together, ... (read in full...)
I'm married and had an affair with a colleague, but he decided to stay with his GF. I'm so miserable and crushed, and can't face seeing him at work.
Q. I am married 6 years with a young child. 10 months ago I started texting with a guy I work with, who lives with his girlfriend. We had an instant connection and starting texting non stop. We fell in love...always wanting to see eachothe...
A. 31 December 2012: "I originally wanted to be there for him as a friend because he was having trouble at home"
This is a typical line that cheating men use to lure women in, because we are nurturing by nature and thus naturally drawn to men with a sob story. ... (read in full...)
Had an amazing date with my friend but now haven't heard from him for a week. Was he making excuses when he cancelled another date? We are both in relationships with other people.
Q. Hi I have this friend L, we to talk to each other/hang out with friends etc. Nothing ever happened as he has a gf and I have a bf and he was moving to another country. However, we were both unhappy with our relationships and we do talk to each oth...
A. 31 December 2012: I think you may have answered your own question. He's leaving the country and probably doesn't want the hassle of an LDR - He also isn't ready to leave his girlfriend, and doesn't want to cheat on her - why would you want him to? If you're both ... (read in full...)
She told me to date other women. Trying to forget her but it's hard. Any advice?
Q. So I met this single mom from a dating website. Things were going great. Until I began to be unsure about dating her. I thought she would be better off dating someone that was on her level(career wise, ect.). She replied to me by saying "I'm not ...
A. 22 December 2012: Looking back, you probably shouldn't have asked her the hypothetical question, but you know what they say about hindsight.
She sounds like she may be just a little too high maintenance. Don't even try to figure her out, I would just back away and... (read in full...)
Should I trust my husband? He cheated with my sister!
Q. my is love marriage,iam 30yrs and having 9 monhts baby girl,i got shock when i came to know that my husband and my elder sis having a relationship since one and half year in my 2yrs of marriage.i consider her as mother and she knew about it even ...
A. 22 December 2012: No, you should absolutely NOT trust your husband. Infarct, you should find a way out of this relationship as quickly as possible.
If telling the rest of your family will help you get out of this relationship, then do it. ... (read in full...)
I don't completely understand my feelings myself, how can I expect others to understand them.
Q. Hi Guys, So.. me and this guy are really getting along, we flirt, we text, we talk, laugh, ... everything. We're falling for eachother.. hard. And we both know it, because we told eachother. But we're keeping it a secret for our friends and fami...
A. 22 December 2012: A relationship kept in secret isn't much of a relationship. Who's idea was this in the first place? It's always a red flag when someone wants to hide the fact that they are in a relationship.
If the reasons you're keeping this a secret are vali... (read in full...)
What do I do? Who do I choose? Please help!
Q. I have a dating problem. I'm 16 years old and I've been dating this guy and have been for 7 months. The problem is that I like another guy who lives on the block down from me. We've known each other for seven years and I've liked him for quite ...
A. 22 December 2012: If you don't love your boyfriend, then you seriously need to let him go - BUT as far as this other guy is concerned, he isn't available. He has a girlfriend - so unless he plans on leaving her, there is no choice to be made there.
Serio... (read in full...)
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