Who wants to marry someone when you can't trust what they say?
Q. I have posted several times before about my relationship but just when I thought the mass confusion was over..... Basically we have been together for 7 years and have a 4 1/2 month old son together. He can't hold a job so we all live with my par...
A. 20 July 2008: Hi,
the worrying thing for me is you have said you have posted several times before. I cant recall these but I can guess they would have to do about how this man treats you like dirt. Yet you still write in asking whether you should be mad at him?... (read in full...)
Is it really possible to have an anal orgasm?
Q. recently I have been exploring my butt and and had been liking it. I was wondering of anyone had any good ways to get max pleasure, and is it really possibleto have an anal orgasim....
A. 20 July 2008: Geez, things sure are different from my day as a teenager.
An anal orgasm? holy cow.. sounds absolutely horrid.
But different strokes for different folks i guess, you are only 13-15 mate, how about simple masturbation for a start like the rest of ... (read in full...)
He told me to leave him alone and stay away. I haven't heard a word for a week. Should I wait?
Q. don't know what to do here. the man i've been sleeping with for four years jusy recently cursed me out like a dog for coming down to his told me to leave him alone and to stay away from him. i in turn sent him a letter saying i was sorry for making ...
A. 20 July 2008: Oh dear,
you sound like you have absolutely no self confidence, why on earth did you go crawling back to him.
You have to pick yourself up and realise that if a man abuses you after he cheats on you he is a scumbag not worthy of your love. The soon... (read in full...)
Do guys REALLY want skinny girls?
Q. ok heres my question do guys really want really skinny gf's???? i know its talked about all the time but nobody ever asks real everyday men! i'm 14/16 is that too big? is that normal? what do you guys think of women and their bodies...
A. 20 July 2008: Only the most superficial guys tend to like skinny girls. Personally myself and every guy I know likes girls with some flesh on their bones... so don't worry, you are not too big you sound just right.
Guys like girls who are confident about thei... (read in full...)
What's the best way to leave my rageful husband?
Q. i am 24 and have been married for almost 5 years. things were wonderful for the 5 months before the wedding, but afterward, everything went to chaos. he goes through these frequent periods of what i can only assume to be depression (sinc...
A. 20 July 2008: Hi there,
yes, take the advice of the other posters. Get out now, or at the very least start making plans right now so you can leave at the drop of the hat.
You are in danger and he may end up hurting you or worse.
Personally, I think you really n... (read in full...)
My b/f doesn't understand why I'm feeling uncomfortable about how our schedule is affecting our relatonship!
Q. Ever since I took a fulltime job I feel out of sync with my b/f and it's causing problems. We used to both get off around 4:00 PM every day and do things together. Now I don't get home until 5:30 or 5:45 and he's been getting off at 2:00 PM. I ...
A. 19 July 2008: My dear,
do not abuse posters who are only trying to offer advice on the information you have given. You only reaffirm their opinion that you are obsessive and demanding.
In MY opinion that is exactly what you are, most people arrive home at diffe... (read in full...)
Why are women expected to degrade themselves for men's pleasure, but not vice versa?
Q. I do not understand why it is almost expected of women to degrade themselves to please men when men won't do the same for us. Men's minds are so poisoned by the porn industry that they think it is NORMAL for women to take it in the ass and so on. I ...
A. 18 July 2008: Hi,
you have free will, you can say no and find another boyfriend, one who doesnt want to degrade you.
It really is as simple as that.
The porn industry is not to blame....sorry,but you can make your own decisions without passing on the b... (read in full...)
My wife told me she would cheat on me with George Clooney if she had the chance!!!
Q. Guys, would it bother you a lot if this happened to you? My wife and I were watching tv last night where a woman was asked a question, if George Clooney asked her to have sex with her and there was no way she could get caught would she cheat on her ...
A. 14 July 2008: Seriously brother, you need to get out more.
George Clooney!!, what girl wouldnt?
good grief.... (read in full...)
Quiz on guys!
Q. I have couple of fun questions on you GUYS !!! 1. Why do guys loose intrest in kissing after couple of months of dating? It seems to me, that first you are all into it, beeing kissed and such, and than, you just loose intrested and its more lik...
A. 14 July 2008: I think you are the one without a sense of humour my dear.
Don't ask the questions then.. how's that for some new advice.... (read in full...)
What do I do about my posessive boyfriend?
Q. I have this problem... the thing is I really care about my boyfriend... but he's can be a little possesive... He doesn't like me being around my friends because he says I act different around them, basically I don't smother him with affecti...
A. 14 July 2008: Hi,
You're 16-17?? good grief, dump him! Move on . you'll find someone else special( though he is nothing special believe me) real soon. Life is way too short to be hanging around with possessive controlling arseholes mate.
And that is what he ... (read in full...)
Cheap boyfriend who won't share - should I just move on to someone who doesn't put money first?
Q. I am 46 and broke, my previous husband took me to the cleaners, I became homeless and had to live with another family for 6 months until I got on my feet. I have now managed to do this and have met a man who is wealthy. He won't pay for meals when ...
A. 13 July 2008: Hi,
yep, lose this one mate. He is a tight fisted a-hole.
He can sit alone at home at throw his money in piles all around him in the future.
good luck...send him an itemised bill for the meals.
... (read in full...)
Quiz on guys!
Q. I have couple of fun questions on you GUYS !!! 1. Why do guys loose intrest in kissing after couple of months of dating? It seems to me, that first you are all into it, beeing kissed and such, and than, you just loose intrested and its more lik...
A. 12 July 2008: Hi,
I have a very simple answer for you.
Change the type of men you date. You are going out with insecure little boys who probably make themselves out to be rough tough blokes but are in reality nothing but.
I have never cared how many partner... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is very experienced, I am a virgin, I don't want to let this get in the way but I can't stop thinking about the number of times she's done it! help!
Q. Ok well unfortuantly I don't exactly have the most self-confidence and well i'm often subject to be jealous of one of my gf's ex's they did it about 35 times while they were together over about 8 months or something like that (I know unfortunately ...
A. 12 July 2008: Hi mate,
normally I get very angry when guys start obsessing over their girlfriends past, as it is none of their business.
But you are a little different you at least know that it is wrong and you are sensitive to her needs.
So believe me champ... (read in full...)
We're ready to have sex, I'm not sure what to do, and I'm worried about my penis? help me!
Q. Ok then this is really wierd for me to be putting this here but it feels like I need answers for my question than other peoples. Ok so I am quite literary really scared of sex i've never done it before, I have a gf and i'm 18 and she's 17 and she...
A. 12 July 2008: O.K. dude, from one uncircumsized guy to another.
The foreskin generally doesnt retract until the head of your penis is well lubricated.
Try this, get some lubricant ( like KY Jelly )and apply it to the tip of your penis. Then slowly "pull down t... (read in full...)
Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
Q. Just a little light comic relief, some entertainment if you like - sort of based on some of the problems here on Dear Cupid. Feel free to lighten your load : ) I'll start by submitting 8 things that I think guys would 'LOVE' to hear from their ...
A. 10 July 2008: Puts hands up.
Guilty as charged Big Sis.. but me thinks you know that already!
here's a quickie for you.
Q: What's geographically wrong with Australia?
A: Its above sea level.
... (read in full...)
Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
Q. Just a little light comic relief, some entertainment if you like - sort of based on some of the problems here on Dear Cupid. Feel free to lighten your load : ) I'll start by submitting 8 things that I think guys would 'LOVE' to hear from their ...
A. 10 July 2008: Ha!!!
nice one big sis.. you are the greatest!!
... (read in full...)
He texted me 80 messages, but still, my confidence level is low, does he really like me or what?
Q. And please dnt tell me its in his kiss lol! im having this problem with a guy in work that i really really like we have had many converstaions about the whole situation and he totally knows how much i like him! he has told me that he is totally fl...
A. 9 July 2008: Hi there,
holy cow. 80 messages in one day!!.. and you are still thinking whether he likes you or not.. My dear you don't know very much about men do you.
If he texts you 10 times he nuts about you, 80 times? he is almost obsessed with you.
So... (read in full...)
When would be the proper time to try, to have sex with her, she is very shy?
Q. I love my girlfriend she is a pritty shy girl to be honest. her ex boy friend treated her badly but was more advancde then me , i dont no when i should make the move to have sex with her and how? i dont want to make a move then get rejected i would ...
A. 9 July 2008: Well the key question is how long have you guys being going out together. If it is just a very short period then you will need to wait a while.
But with her past problmes, she probably is very nervous about sex. What you need to do is show her... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a husband I think is too good for me?
Q. Hallo I am quite average looking. Plain really. Never dated. Tried a few times, but not very successful. Never thought I would get a very attractive partner in life, but that was ok, as long as he was a good friend. Then I met this guy a...
A. 9 July 2008: Hi,
well the first thing you need to do is stop feeling sorry for yourself. I dont mean to be rude, but somebody needs to give you a good wake up call me dear.
You have a husband that is in love with you for who you are.He is right, these bimbos... (read in full...)
I think my gay boss fancies me. Am I imagining it?
Q. Hi I'm a straight man, 21, but I think that my gay boss (24) fancies me. Even though he has said in the past that he doesn't believe in relationships between work collegues I think he's showing signs that suggest otherwise throughout the last few ...
A. 9 July 2008: Yeah mate, I think we can take that as a given.
So do something about it if it makes you uncomfortable, you have a right not to work in an environment where you think sexually suggestive comments are being thrown at you.
You dont have to be rude ... (read in full...)
I am a teenage male, who is seriously interested in losing my virgin status, how do I go about this??
Q. hi. im a 14 year old boy and i REALLY want to have sex. i can't stand it... im tired of people saying "just wait till your older. i want to now... i have friends at school who have already had sex. and if i get to i WILL wear condom...i just wa...
A. 9 July 2008: Mate, just suck it up. I was gagging for it at 14 as well, so tough luck champ, that's life, get a packet of tissues and do what the rest of us did at your age.
... (read in full...)
Do some girls object to receiving oral sex
Q. is it true that some girls dont like being eaten out?...
A. 9 July 2008: Oh dear, I love giving noral sex but I was in the unfortunate position of going out with a girl who hated it. She hated the fact that it brought her to orgasm ( she hated to lose control )...you are bringing back bad memories.. :)
Fortunatley my c... (read in full...)
Fortune teller predicted an early pregnancy ... and the condom broke.
Q. my mother has recently had her tarrot read. It says about me going to have a baby when im really young. I had sex with my boyfriend and the condom broke. What should i do?...
A. 9 July 2008: I hate to be the party pooper, but I really despise these so called mystics who influence the way people lead their lives. They are money grabbing shamen if you ask me, nobody can tell the future by turning over a pack of cards made in a factory in ... (read in full...)
I think my gay boss fancies me. Am I imagining it?
Q. Hi I'm a straight man, 21, but I think that my gay boss (24) fancies me. Even though he has said in the past that he doesn't believe in relationships between work collegues I think he's showing signs that suggest otherwise throughout the last few ...
A. 9 July 2008: If it makes you feel uncomfortable simply tell him it does, but I understand that can be hard for a young bloke to do.
Or start talking about girls and girls you fancy.
I don't think there is much harm in it to tell the truth, but most gay guys... (read in full...)
I recently found out my husband has been seeing a prostitute. What do I do?
Q. I have been married for five years and have recently found out that my husband has been seeing a prostitute. When I confronted him he was sorry but I believe that he was sorry he was caught. I am very depressed and cannot stop thinking about the ...
A. 9 July 2008: Hi again,
It is a shame to see that there are children are involved as well as it will be so much harder for you to just up and leave, but I'm sure if this is the path you are going to follow then you can find a way. He is not living up to his r... (read in full...)
Do people who have trouble with intimacy tend to "disconnect" from their lovers?
Q. Do people who have trouble with intimacy tend to "disconnect" from their lovers? I fall in love easily and deeply. But I tend to self-sacrifice my needs, always putting others, espeically my man, ahead of my own desires. I frequently put up with ...
A. 9 July 2008: Hi,
I think it is a problem with the men you choose not with you. You do have a self preservation instinct but you don't you dont have good taste in men.
I would advise not to give up, there are plenty of men out there who will give what you giv... (read in full...)
I recently found out my husband has been seeing a prostitute. What do I do?
Q. I have been married for five years and have recently found out that my husband has been seeing a prostitute. When I confronted him he was sorry but I believe that he was sorry he was caught. I am very depressed and cannot stop thinking about the ...
A. 9 July 2008: Hi,
that is totally understandable. Unfortunately a lot of men , married or not, use prostitutes.. I personally cannot figure out why having sex with a heroin addict provides pleasure. But you only have to look at any paper and see pages on page... (read in full...)
My husband caught me cheating for the third time. I can't help it. Would I be better "swinging" or with an open relationship?
Q. my husband has caught me cheating for the third time. i really love my husband but i cheat regularly. often an attractive man hits on me and i just can't resist and i am in bed with him. i explained this to my husband and i told him that i ...
A. 8 July 2008: Hi,
well I wont judge you. Your story matches a story my friend told me about his boss. Once his wife had children she became insatiable and demanded that she be allowed to sleep with other men. Apparently since she's been going to swingers... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is sexually abusing me....
Q. my boyfriend wants to have sex with me.we already had twice this month.whenever he gets a chance,he starts fingering me.last night,he just pulled open my top and started sucking my breasts.he wanted my naked photos which i gave him.i never refused ...
A. 8 July 2008: Hi,
he is abusing you and raping you. My god girl, you have to get out of this relationship as soon as you can.
But beware, he will use the photos against you. that was a huge mistake but you cant take it back. Don't fall for his threats, you soun... (read in full...)
What should I do next? Have I royally screwed it up?
Q. So, I havent seen or really heard from a guy I've recently been seeing in a week, save for a Happy Fourth! text message. After calling once and leaving a message on Sunday, I sent the following: "So, should I go through your secretary to schedule a ...
A. 8 July 2008: Hmmmm.for someone with a bit fo a chubby complex I imagine he took your comment the wrong way. It does sound a bit insensitive.
But heck, I am the last person to tell people about insensitive jokes ( I make several every day ) but I usually make... (read in full...)
How can I get him alone to ask me out?
Q. I know this waiter and he always goes out of his way to talk to me and my family. I think he is interested but he never ask me out yet. The last time we saw him we were not even in his section and he was off work but came over to talk he sat at the ...
A. 8 July 2008: As Tremor says , go into the restaurant by yourself. Good grief! wouldnt that be obvious? Ahhh, what love does to us eh..makes us obvlious to the most obvious signs.
He is probably waiting for you to come in by yourself, there is no way he will ask ... (read in full...)
The man I love has just left his wife. Should I leave my husband?
Q. The man I am in love with has just told me he's left his wife. I am so confused and don't know what to do. We are both married and I have worked things through with my partner - I'm still completely miserable but I guess that's normal when you give ...
A. 7 July 2008: Hi,
only you really know. I don't think your marriage is the bed of roses you make it out to be if you are already having an affair with someone else.
Your marriage obviously deserves to be worked on , as the excitment and thrill of the lover wi... (read in full...)
I'm feeling insecure about my performance in bed with this new woman!
Q. My situation is this. I am 30 and have been in a long distance (5000 miles) relationship with a woman about same age as myself for the last 6 months or so. We are very much in love and have been since the first date. Over the last couple of weeks...
A. 7 July 2008: Hi,
good grief mate. You are bringing all this drama on yourself. Sorry to be blunt, as it must be daunting trying to live up to what you think are her sexual expectations.
But they are all in your head, if she was unhappy she would've dumped y... (read in full...)
He's addicted to porn but he's perfect in every other way. I don't know what to do.
Q. I'm pretty depressed right now. I've been with my 42 year old boyfriend for 3.5 years. I am 40. At the start of our relationship he was upfront about his porno tapes. About 6 months later when feelings started developing I became insecure with ...
A. 6 July 2008: Hi,
I'm sorry to say but you sound very controlling.
It is not healthy to try and control people, why are you doing this? His porn viewing is not affecting your sex life and he does it in the privacy of his own home, but you use deceit to ma... (read in full...)
Should I stay in this marriage?
Q. I have been married for six years and have a beautiful son who is four. My husband and I looked like we had it all. However, there were some things going on behind closed doors that I never allowed anyone to know including my family, friends and ...
A. 5 July 2008: Hi,
Well how can you love someone who is blackmailing you. It's impossible. Your husband is an unstable character and under no circumstances should you let him have custody of your child.
Go see a good lawyer, make a list of everything he has done... (read in full...)
I saw my 44 yearold mother having sex - surely she is too old?
Q. I am 24. My mom is 44 she had a divorce after long married life of 28years.She was shattered and had lived a lonely life all alone for a year in her small parental town. When I got setelled with good job in a bigger town she came to live with me in ...
A. 5 July 2008: O.k dude, nobody wants to see their parents having sex, so we'll cut you some leeway here.
But you are 24 for gods sake, grow up.
O.K , sorry about that, you are a good decent bloke for helping out your mum and you should be commended for being th... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 5 July 2008: Were they happy with such a small payout??... (read in full...)
I woke up to find him having sex with me. Am I still a virgin?
Q. i need to know if im still a virgin!! i have been with my boyfriend for 4 months and he stopped at mine on thursday and we both fell asleep but then when i woke up he was in me, ive never had sex before and i didnt feel him on me but he was actually ...
A. 5 July 2008: Hi,
I'm sorry to say but he has raped you.
There is no excuse , drunk or not for non consensual sex.
I was a horny teenager once, and on more than one occasion turned down by a drunken female when trying it on, and you know what, I took my... (read in full...)
Are girls who grew up without a father attracted more to "bad boys"?
Q. My question put simply: Do Girls who grew up without knowing their father (i.e the father left home when they were born) have a tendency to be attracted, and go with "Bad Boys" who dont really care for them, and ultimatly cheat on them and treat th...
A. 4 July 2008: Hi mate,
wow you cant force a girl to fall in love with you even if you are nice. It goes beyond that , sexual, intellectual etc.
Not having a stable father figure in the house is bad for any child boy and girl. But plenty of people grow up in o... (read in full...)
We argued, then she slept with someone. I'm finding it hard to forgive and forget.
Q. Hey, me and my girlfriend have been together for a year and a half, things were going so great, but we started arguing a lot while drunk and it was mostly my fault because I tend to dwell on things to much and make them worse than they are! Well we ...
A. 4 July 2008: My apolgies for the lousy grammar ..forgot to delete certain words, so hope you can still understand what I'm trying to say... (read in full...)
We argued, then she slept with someone. I'm finding it hard to forgive and forget.
Q. Hey, me and my girlfriend have been together for a year and a half, things were going so great, but we started arguing a lot while drunk and it was mostly my fault because I tend to dwell on things to much and make them worse than they are! Well we ...
A. 4 July 2008: Hi,
You both are to blame but your actions against your girlfriend are disgraceful. But I think you have to split up. It's not just about your or and its not necessarily because of her sleeping with another guy, its because at your age if you are ... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 3 July 2008: I must be reading a different article from everyone else.
The way I read it, Big Sis is merely stating that she has picked the wrong type of men in her past ( and she admits it ) and now she aint gonna take that shit no more. And everyone... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 3 July 2008:
Twist of fate, me old matey what can I say, you just keep providing further examples of primeval behaviour, prey tell does your long suffering wife have to shave your back regularly to keep people from throwing bananas at you?... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 2 July 2008: Twist of fate... mate you are living proof of why ikind considerate women like Big Sis have to write these type of articles.
I just hope you're single mate.... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 1 July 2008: All I can say Big Sis is they were fools to treat a classy act like yourself this way.
So a big thumbs down to those deadbeats and a big thumbs up to Big Sis - you're the best baby!... (read in full...)
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