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Hey All,

I really enjoy being part of this website because i like to think not everybody is perfect and that by helping each other out this world would make so much more sense.

I know i'm probably not as professional and experienced as some of the agony aunts on here but i try to give out help anyway i can through unbiased perception or maybe through the experience i've actually gone through.

I like to give and ask for answers because like i said not everybody's perfect and every little advice helps! I do try and say it as it is but sometimes i find it hard to say it gently. Some people may find this annoying but others might find it more useful. Anways what i'm trying to say is i can only be truthful and sometimes the truth does hurt. cliche much. but you get my drift :)

Please feel free to ask questions so that i don't feel as useless in this world hahaa

but being deadly serious truth is the best answer there is :)


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22 July 2011: ... haha sorry about the title. Lame i know :). I also know that this may sound dramatic, emo, cliche, cheesy, etc etc etc... BUT I had a momentary moment of absolute peace when i thought of this... When you're in a situation that just t...

Do women want to see men dressed provacatively?

Q.   We All know men love to see womens' bodies - especially the private bits. Women often play upon this in how they dress, to get attention. My question is whether there is any reciprical feeling in women. Do women like to see any part of the anatomy ...

A.   3 September 2011: Gawd i love a guy in a tux or suit and tie. It is just so sexy! It sends the i-am-proffesional-and-very-masculine message loud and clear. Howeverr....It does definately differ from one male to another just like a girl with a nice figure can real... (read in full...)

How do you give a hickey?

Q.   Its a random question but how do you give hickeys/love bites? My friends told me all you do is suck on the skin but for how long? I tried giving my boyfriend one last night and Nothing happend. Seriously How do you like make them??...

A.   3 September 2011: biting lightly might help too... but obviously not too hard... you don't want to be a vampire.. drawing blood or anything. ... (read in full...)

How should I make my next move on this girl?

Q.   Hi everyone. I am the same guy with the post Please read through it cause I want guidence really bad. Since then I have moved a little further. I talk to her almost on...

A.   25 August 2011: Umm that's kind of a cheesy pick up line you got there fella, and it makes you sound like you love yourself. First off, just be honest but don't show too much confidence. Be genuine but not trying-too-hard-to-be-funny. the next time she's not busy... (read in full...)

I think I like this guy but relationships scare me! What should I do?

Q.   I am 20 years old and never been in a relationship and have never had sex, there is this guy who likes me and has made it obvious and we got quite close intimately one night we did not have sex although nothing has happened since. The whole ...

A.   25 August 2011: What scares you in particular? is it the commitment, having to go through the effort? or is it not knowing what to do to make a relationship work? IF it's either of those then you are definately not ready to go into a relationship. Take it nice ... (read in full...)

Has he stopped liking me coz I lied that I talk to other guys?

Q.   What should I do about this guy? does he even like me? I've been speaking to this guy that I really like. He gives me signs he like me too. He rang me from aboard when he went on holiday. He tells me how nice of a person I am and he thinks am re...

A.   25 August 2011: He's bored- texting and calling you while he's on holiday and also talking to you about his ex. He really doesn't show potential commitment... Listen to your friends, he's not worth it. OR if you're really really really into him. wait. gi... (read in full...)

I told my cousin I am attracted to her. She doesn't feel the same way

Q.   Ok to start I have this problem I think I'm in love with my cousin or maybe it's just a lust. Im 28 and she's 22 I always been close with her since she was a teenager but this attraction didn't start until late last year. I don't know why it started ...

A.   25 August 2011: she's your cousin. it will get frowned upon. don't waste your time if she doesn't even feel the same way. There is plenty more fish in the sea, fisherman :) good luck chuck... (read in full...)

Will a guy still like you even if you don't want to have sex?

Q.   Well I was reading someone's question on here about Teen Sex, my question is, will a guy still like you even if you don't want to have sex? I mean, I would love to find a guy that likes me for me and fall in love, but I don't want him to leave me ...

A.   23 August 2011: Why don't you try to flip the question? will you still like guys if they don't want to have sex?... Guys may think more about sex than girls factually but it doesn't mean they are all going to be wanting JUST sex in a relationship. You don't ne... (read in full...)

My mom and I are having major issues, and I just don't know what to do anymore. I need advice!

Q.   Hi there, I need help about not getting on with either of my parents and generally just feeling really down. I'm an only child, I don't see my Dad on a regular basis (once, twice a year if I'm lucky - he has a wife and stepkids so he chooses to ...

A.   11 July 2011: I feel for you. I really do. I know you may feel daft when reading this from your computer like 'great... someone who thinks they give a damn' but i seriously i know how it feels when your mum is showing she doesn't really give a shit... One thing... (read in full...)

Could this method make me seem like a virgin again?

Q.   hi everyone i need to no if any wome had used alum/salts to make your vigina tight like a virgin? you see i had sex about too year ago and i havent had sex since ,i know my hyem is gone cause i bled when i slepth with my ex but im due to marry in...

A.   11 July 2011: No. Alum/salts does not tighten your vajayjay :| And unfortunately once you've lost your virginity, you can never take it back :( sorry.. that's why it is known to be precious! Of course there have been known to be extreme measures of women try... (read in full...)

Do you think my girlfriend's relationship with her brother is weird?

Q.   My girlfriends brother who is 13 lives in a care home as their parents have a variety of alcohol/drug/mental health problems. They have a really weird relationship though she insists on seeing him every weekend and has him stay over at least 1 night ...

A.   11 July 2011: What's weird about that? This is a family relationship, don't feel like you should interrupt. i know you're probably not going to but still... there's nothing wrong with big sister loving. They are allowed to be close like that, it definately ... (read in full...)

I haven't had a period in over 2 months, but I'm a virgin! Help!

Q.   Alright so let's start off by saying, I'm 16 and I've had a semi-regular period since I was 11 years old. So here's Problem #1. . . Well, like any girl, I dont enjoy my period, but it's reassuring to get it every month. I havent had my period si...

A.   11 July 2011: CALM!... every girl is different. Some are irregular some are regular. It's fine, don't worry yourself too much, there is nothing wrong. You're completely healthy, just make sure you're eating healthy, exercise regularly, blah blah, etc. :) haa... i ... (read in full...)

My flatmate is threatening to evict me, I feel hideous because of my terrible ache problem and I have no love life. I just want to crawl into a hole and stick my head in the sand and not come out.

Q.   First, thanks loads to anyone reading this. My problem is this: For the last year I've lived in another country. I live with a girl and another guy (they're not a couple) and we're all of different nationalities. They sublet my room to me. The ...

A.   10 July 2011: Hey, So you said that there is another tennant. The guy. why don't you try talking to the guy about her, afterall they maybe closer and this girl may take it more seriously if both of you are confronting her about her problems. Concernin... (read in full...)

Is it illegal to have gay sex at 16?

Q.   Ok, i'm a lesbian and recently i started going out with my best friend, we made out once and we've been on several dates now for about 2 months, but now she wants to take it further, i agreed to do it at hers next weekend, but i was sort of drunk ...

A.   2 July 2011: To answer your first question.. are you too young? yes. you are young BUT it is LEGAL at the age of 16 to have sex. Sex is sex, it doesn't matter whether you're gay or not. Just a little link about it: http:... (read in full...)

Is he being truthful, is there hope or should I just walk away?

Q.   I recently went through a break up with a guy I was with for 3 months. We knew each other for about 4 months before we dated, but only through a coffee house and as much as you can get to know someone at karaoke once a week. I knew the whole ti...

A.   2 July 2011: Well the first things first is that you have just experienced the 'new' thing of going into a polyamourous relationship. You know now that because he's also caring for someone else and is sorting that out first, you know straight away that you ar... (read in full...)

I love my FWB but he is flirting with other girls! What should I do?

Q.   Me and this guy have been friends for ages and we both decided to be friends with benefits he is 3 years older than me, anyway i was supposed to see him on a certain night but i couldn't get to him so i told him and he got sorta ignorant with me, ...

A.   27 June 2011: I'm sorry but you should know that having a FWB means that you've agreed to the fact that you're not going to be the only girl in his world. :| If you didn't know that, break it off now because it will hurt in the long-term. You've got to be qu... (read in full...)

He is my FWB and now he tells me that he cares for me and likes my company, what's that about?

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A.   27 June 2011: Basicly the problem with having a FWB is that if you both enjoy it soo much for an amount of time, one of you is going to realise that they are falling in 'love'. And it just happens to be him. It all depends whether you would want the same. An... (read in full...)

I dread being around my family. Anything I can do to make this better?

Q.   Whenever we have a family reunion/get-together, my self esteem, no matter how I feel about myself when I arrive, is usually shot down to about zero, or so it feels. Now we have a big upcoming family event, and part of me secretly dreads it! I feel ...

A.   21 June 2011: BE YOURSELF. Relax, everytime you feel that you're being ignored or hurt, take 5 slow breaths, clear your mind and don't respond! Change the subject of the conversation, maybe you could try and impress them with your general knowledge cos everyone... (read in full...)

Any advice for getting rid of stretch marks?

Q.   Hi there! Well last August I had an accident, in which I fell off my horse at full gallop and landed on my back. I didn't break anything, but my lower back and hips, and upper thighs were all scraped and bruised, and all swelled up. Almost a year ...

A.   10 June 2011: I use Vaseline- Cocoa butter body oil. It's really effective however you will have to be persistent and patient with it. You apply it after every shower/bath time on stretched marked areas and massage it in well. You'll maybe start to notice c... (read in full...)

Tips for dealing with stress?

Q.   Hi there, I'm 23 and I'm looking for some tips to deal with stress because I'm really struggling to cope at the moment. My dad had a stroke last year and isn't doing to great, now his sister (my aunt) has had a stroke and two heart attacks la...

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I saw my boyfriend kiss another girl!

Q.   i saw my bf kiss another girl but he conntinues to kiss and hug he, but im not sure what i should do because i know he loves me but after i saw that im now not so sure. we have been going out for 3 years and he made me wear a promise ring that i ...

A.   8 June 2011: He should not have given you that promise ring!! He is such a hypocrite!! Shame on him! What you need to do is confront him, ask him straight in the face if he has been kissing other girls. If he lies then you definately should ditch him. Loyalty ... (read in full...)

Should I block my ex on Facebook, again?

Q.   Yes, it's a question involving the dreaded Facebook. My ex-bf and I don't really have mutual friends in real life, but on Facebook we do. I initially blocked him so I wouldn't have to see him keep popping up on other people's Facebook pages. ...

A.   7 June 2011: I was in that same situation. If you can't stand him. Please don't just block him, delete him! I found the same things happened when i blocked my ex and i found stuff from friends about him that i didn't really want to read e.g. finding out he's... (read in full...)

Is it a crazy idea to have a baby at 15? Or a good idea?

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A.   7 June 2011: Heyy, Well basicly i have quite a bit of experience with young children because i used to be a teacher in drama dancing and acting for 6 years. As well as this i have a little baby sister who is just 11 months and i help to look after her. ... (read in full...)

My cousin is going to blackmail me unless I do sexual things with her, and she's only 13!

Q.   help cupids! im in a really BAD situation. basically, my cousin is blackmailing me for not doing sexual things with her. let me explain. my cousin admitted to me she loves me (though previously, i think she just adored me and now i know its jus...

A.   6 June 2011: Okay first of all if you agree to do something to her that will give her REAL evidence that you have molestered her. DON'T DO ANYTHING! This is childs play, don't go along with it. She is 13! Let her say what she wants, she is not going to get a... (read in full...)

Can Someone pull these knives out of my back? 2 friends are muscling in on my love interest. What do I do?

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A.   6 June 2011: OKayy soo this sounds kind of baad :/ First things first. Always remember. Bros before hoes or Chicks before dicks. Seriously. No matter how gorgeous this guy is, you must choose your friends over him. So your friends may not be the perfect ... (read in full...)

How can I be like the pretty girls? Do I have to fix something to be like them?

Q.   I always get discriminated because people think I'm ugly. People think I'm of mixed ethinicity because of how I look like. I'm naturally tanned and people think I don't look like the ethnicity I'm supposed to be. People my ethnicity are 'racist' ...

A.   6 June 2011: When i read this i was like... you're beautiful. Despite the fact that i've never seen you and i've only taken 2 seconds to read this. But what i'm trying to say is, don't let the pretty girls get to you. There's proof that you are not ugly. Yo... (read in full...)

I betrayed the trust of my boyfriend in the bedroom. How can I find his forgiveness?

Q.   My boyfriend and I of 2 years have been experimenting in the bedroom over the past few months. We started with him, at my request, being more and more aggressive with me, i.e., holding me down. Then I asked for him to tie me up, which after a lot of ...

A.   6 June 2011: The question you have got to ask yourself is.... what is more important him being happy, you being happy or both of you being happy? So it seems that you've just got into s&m, and you like being in control. Try and not turn this into a bad thin... (read in full...)

We had potential but I ruined it!

Q.   Hey all, Basicly i just want to ask for some advice on what to do next. i got with this guy, let's call him 'K', at a club one night and we stuck together and had been on 3 dates. On our 3rd date we went clubbing together and i did some...

A.   6 June 2011: Thank you for responding to my question :) I also wanted to add that my 3rd date didn't actually start out going to a club, it was supposed to be a nice pub drink at 2 in the afternoon :/ Our intentions weren't to get drunk but he kept buying m... (read in full...)

Was he never interested or is he trying to make me jealous?

Q.   Hello. I was wondering if someone could tell me whether or not this guy is trying to make me jealous or if he's just either lost interest or never liked me in the first place. Things he's done to make me think he likes me; 1) When he saw me hi...

A.   5 June 2011:  I know this is an odd thing to suggest but have you tried doing the same thing? Do what he does to you and see. U should try it and look at him very closely to see if he shows signs of jealousy or anything. It might spark some sort of reac... (read in full...)

I get attached too fast!

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My GF thinks I'm not a good listener...I don't know where that came from?!

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