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Should I feel (too) embarrassed about my teaching mistake?

Q.   Hi..This is a question unrelated to dating/relationship.. I come from a non-English speaking country, and I have a degree in this language, which I have been teaching for 14 years now. Two months or so ago, I started teaching beginners — sha...

A.   24 May 2019: Thanks again everyone for the time and considerate comments. Sorry, for any possible slips while typing on the cell phone.. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is divorced but still treats matters as though he is married

Q.   First I want to apologize for my English. Well my story is very simple. I have a boyfriend, who lives with me 1 year ago and we are together for almost 2 years. When I met him, he was separated to almost 3 years but he still married and promised me ...

A.   23 May 2019: Thank you for the answers. I'll talk to him and say I do not take it anymore. I want to make it clear that I do not mind him helping their children. I care about him still playing the role of husband. Everyone knows of our existence, but whoever ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is very casual about his daughters' privacy and I find it very very odd

Q.   Ive been seeing a guy who's super awesome. We're both single parents of two girls each. They stay the night frequently. My girls are 9 and 13, his are 9 and 11. Despite having lived in an all girl house for the last 5 years or so, my daughters and ...

A.   19 May 2019: I'm the op. We talked further after he told his daughter to start using wet wipes because she had odor down there. I asked how he knew that and he said from their dirty underwear. His daughter called him a creepy dad after he said that and i ... (read in full...)

We're both unhappy in our marriages and have a long history. Should we have sex?

Q.   When I was a teenager While visiting family i met a boy, through high school we crushed back and forth on each other secretly and living in different ends of the country made it impossible for anything to happen. As young adults be told me he liked ...

A.   19 May 2019: Yes it could happen but I said it was joked about not agreed upon and planned out in detail what would happen. Do I think the possibility is there yes but not a guarantee ... (read in full...)

Why are men so cruel? Is that the way of the world?

Q.   I’ve asked for help in the past and am very grateful. Which is why i’m Asking again. As I need to process something clearly. I am 44 years old. Divorced twice ( arranged marriage in Asia and an alcoholic husband in the UK). I have worked all ...

A.   19 May 2019: Thank you Honeypie. Your answer was what I needed to hear. And I am interviewing for a new job and it’s my focus but I want to let this man go and not be around . Thank you. For your advice. Am stronger now and will cut my losses faster. ... (read in full...)

Seeking advice for a first time crush on a trans man

Q.   I am a single heterosexual cis female. I've recently started spending a lot of social time with a 24yr old transitioning man (ftm), and have suprised myself by developing a crush. He and I aren't super close, and to be honest if nothing else the...

A.   15 May 2019: OP is 31yrs (Sorry, thought it would include my age at the top.)... (read in full...)

He says he loves me but has a girlfriend. How do I get her out of the picture?

Q.   I’ve been dating a friend that I have known for over 30 years. Only thing is that he has a girlfriend. He has been with her since August 2016. My husband passed away in 2017 early and he has been there for me. We started seeing each other in Late ...

A.   10 May 2019: A "Homewrecker" I am NOT. Everyone has their own idea of what a Homewrecker is. A "Homewrecker" is someone who knowingly enters into a relationship with someone who is Married and/or Engaged to be married in my opinion. He is NEITHER of those. ... (read in full...)

Break up - No contact method or turn up at his house to get him back?

Q.   I've been seeing this guy for 4 months and officially been his girlfriend for 2 of those months. In a moment of stupidity and because I let my overthinking get the best of me I tweeted "I'm single". I would have never acted on those words and I even ...

A.   10 May 2019: He came back begging for me after a year so... LOL... (read in full...)

HOW can I salvage the rest of my life so I don't feel so depressed and like such a failure?

Q.   When I was very young my mother left my brother and I with my grandmother to take care of us because she wasn't happy with her life so she immigrated to this country. When I was 13 she brought all 3 of us over(also made my grandma sell her house ...

A.   10 May 2019: Thank you all for your comments:) The first female responder, I think you hit the nail on the biggest problem is that I compare myself to others( collateral damage of how I was Europe we were not concerned with how much... (read in full...)

How do we move past what I did?

Q.   Just a little background to begin.Married for 16 years,2 teenage kids,work and money have been a huge source of stress for the past year.My wife is often gone with one of my children out of town for sports most weekends for the past 2 years. over ...

A.   10 May 2019: Thank you for your responses. Sorry for the delayed response but work took me away from town.The reason I didnt mention her cheating before is that I had done my best to put that behind me.I could elaborate on what she did but I think at this point ... (read in full...)

How do I overcome my fear of meeting the men I meet online?

Q.   Hello I'm 23 and gay I'm a very shy and introverted person and I was wondering how do i who's socially withdrawn low self esteem and afraid to meet other guys with whom I chat online overcome this fear and gain more confidence when meeting guys?...

A.   8 May 2019: Thank you very much for your advice much appreciated... (read in full...)

I want to hear from you - especially the male ‘aunts’ - if you think he likes me?!?

Q.   I'm really confused and need your help. Sorry, buckle in... it's gonna be a bit long but the details are important. I promise. I started University in August, and my major is really small. There's this really shy/quiet guy in my major, so he's e...

A.   8 May 2019: Thanks for all of your feedback guys. I definitely see what you're all saying, and you've all given me a lot to think about. To clear up some things: his girlfriend knows we're friends and hanging out. I told him that her knowing we were moving p... (read in full...)

She can’t choose between us two!

Q.   I had a girlfriend who we met when she was in a relationship i won her then after few months she dumped me and went back to him,after 9 months she came back stalking me saying im the love of his life and she is still with her boyfriend when i ask ...

A.   7 May 2019: I never cheated on her with her ex, when i was stalking her she told me about him and i told her i can't share. So after some weeks she came and told me im the one she loves,i did not believe her there after they broke up because she found him ... (read in full...)

Why is he withdrawing after we have had sex?

Q.   Hello dear Agony Aunts My concern is this: I just met E who lives in another country. He came here for short holidays and we crossed paths at a beach party 9 days ago. We immediately got attracted to each other and we kissed on the beach when we go...

A.   6 May 2019: Update: Apart from the fading sexual desire, we get along very well. We laugh and joke together, play together and dance all day at his place like kids. He takes videos of me when i do something funny and saves them in his phone.... (read in full...)

What rules/boundaries/routines to set out when finding a housemate/flatmate?

Q.   Hi all, simple questions really, but still needs detailed thought and I’m struggling to think of everything. When finding a housemate/flatmate what am I supposed to look for? Also, what are the rules/boundaries/routines/etc to set out? Do you set ...

A.   4 May 2019: Thank you. I appreciate the help!... (read in full...)

Should I agree to move in with his parents or cut him loose and send him back to his mama?

Q.   I have been living with my 50 yo boyfriend for about 5 years and lately he keeps mentioning how much better things would be(financially mostly) if we moved into his parents house in the basement where he used to live when I met him 7 yrs ago. The ...

A.   3 May 2019: Thank you all so much for your time and advise!! I hope I did not come off as resistant......some stuff was hard to hear because its true. If anything I was perhaps a bit detached and factual because I want to protect myself from being hurt and... (read in full...)

Should I make him my friend with benefits

Q.   So I met a guy about 14 years ago and was instantly attracted to him. He had a girlfriend at the time and I had just got into a new relationship too. I’m not going to lie there was one or 2 nights we hooked up and did things we shouldn’t of ...

A.   2 May 2019: Thank you all for your answers. You are a feisty bunch I must say! I have 100% taken your advice on board. I know you are all right and actually once I’d had sex with him I think I’d miss our sexual tension and flirty banter as it wouldn’t be ther... (read in full...)

I just want to know that I am sane. He made me feel crazy

Q.   I have posted about this particular man some years back. I met this European man on a dating website. For almost 4 years of whatsapp messages, we have only video called on Skype twice, the first video call was both our ideas and the second video ...

A.   29 April 2019: So nobody really answered my question here. My actual question was is it too much to ask for a call from someone you intend to have a relationship with? I only ask this because I read articles online where people said they experienced the same thing ... (read in full...)

I don't think he's over his ex yet. What should I do now?

Q.   To cut a long story short...A guy I’ve dated previously (but never been in a relationship with) and someone who remained a friend for about 5 years suddenly exited his toxic relationship of six months. I hadn’t seen this friend in a year or so but ...

A.   29 April 2019: Thank you to everyone who took the time to respond. I found out that he’d cheated on me anyway...just a few weeks into the relationship. The girl he was cheating on me with...who isn’t even in the same country...sent me screen shots of him basically ... (read in full...)

My mother threatens to cut me off over the clothes I wear

Q.   I'm a 31 year old woman who lives and works away from my parents. My parents were never the overly controlling kind, although my mother is kind of very conservative when it comes to certain things. She doesn't approve of partying or wearing ...

A.   27 April 2019: Well, now you're contradicting yourself. You did say, "If your parents have authority on you then you're not an adult". The debating point was authority of parents. I didn't say that I have a low opinion on people of Asia, I'm an Asian myself ... (read in full...)

Adult son's fiance is too old for him

Q.   My wife and I have been aware of our son’s dating preferences since he left home for college. He prefers older women. We believed it was a phase and did our best not to get bent out of shape. We have met several of his older girlfriends over the ...

A.   23 April 2019: Easter came and went without anyone in my family making a scene in front of Greg and Doris. At this point, I’ll call her by name, because I have accepted that she’s going to marry my son and there’s nothing in the world anyone can do about it. ... (read in full...)

He broke up with me and now I'm pregnant

Q.   Hello all! I’m in a tough situation.. So last week my boyfriend broke up with me because of pressure from his family. Here’s the gist of it: We started dating a year and half ago. I’m bi-racial, half black and half Hispanic. He’s Indian. When we ...

A.   22 April 2019: I know he wouldn’t abandon me but now I’m just thinking about the future, and school.. I’m thinking about his future too and I feel just so awful that we got ourselves into this situation. But morally I’m not okay with an abortion either. It would... (read in full...)

My boyfriend got a cake and presents and its not his birthday

Q.   Dear All, Today my boyfriend of 3.5 years received an anonymous gift, cake and a red rose. It mentioned his petname and said "your smile is everything to me." The cover of the cake mentioned " happy birthday". It is not his birthday. My boyfri...

A.   22 April 2019: Thank you so much for these answers. I guess I will have to take stock of this relationship. I am insecure, true. I appreciate these pointers so so much. ????... (read in full...)

I am not sure that I can be the support system I think my b/f needs

Q.   Hi all! I have been dating my BF for about 4 months now. The relationship was very fast moving and we basically were pretty "offical" after a few weeks of dating. He was pretty intense, But I felt like I had finally found someone who really cared...

A.   17 April 2019: Thank you to everyone for the much needed advice. I am on a break of the relationship right now. Hopefully I can figure something out. Thank you again!... (read in full...)

One night stand why didn't he call back

Q.   To make a long story short, I had sex with a guy from my office last week and he bailed right after. I noticed he had been staring at me over the last several weeks, but we were never introduced. At a late office party at a hotel last week (where I ...

A.   17 April 2019: Thanks for the hard talk guys and gals :)... (read in full...)

Is my mother trying to create drama in my life for her amusement?

Q.   I've come to realise my mother may perhaps be creating drama in my life to fuel her amusement, however, I could be wrong. I'm 22 years old and my mother is my go-to person for advice for everything. Many incidents have occurred where I feel she is ...

A.   15 April 2019: Thank you for your advice! My mother has always been apart of my life and has been through alot with me. She has helped me with different problems, and has given good advice and bad. I only just noticed recently drama has really settled down, ... (read in full...)

I have feelings for a younger woman that's moved into my home and I don't know what I should do

Q.   Dear 'Cupid' I have been in a sexless relationship for over a year and we finally split up. My evenings became about beer and take out and over many months I put on weight and didn't bother with dating or about the opposite sex barely at all. ...

A.   14 April 2019: Awesome advice - it's been very helpful to get some perspective on this and look at all the angles. I'm feeling better about myself day by day and really, her being just someone I get on with and enjoy the company of is a nice thing in itself. T... (read in full...)

If he takes days to respond, is he not interested?

Q.   I met this guy online a few months ago, we live an hour away from each other. We were talking casually for about a month before meeting up. We had a great date and ended up hooking up afterwards. I wasn't planning on it but it sort of happened when ...

A.   12 April 2019: I should add that he works weekends in the evening (he's a server) and also has another job so it's difficult for him to have a completely "free" day. The one time he came up was on a Wednesday night. It wasn't ideal for me but I agreed because I ... (read in full...)

I'm afraid to be skinny again, and am happier being fat.

Q.   I've had weight issues my entire life. I used to be around 150lbs (8-10 size) and was very tall for my age in high school. Family members and bullies would degrade me and call me derogatory names, that I should stop eating even though I rarely a...

A.   12 April 2019: Thank you for your answers. The last time I was weighed was at the OB-GYN and it was 299.7 in late February. I am very mobile and can go down the steps without getting tired. (Yes I am losing weight slowly the right way, not like the "My 600 Pound ... (read in full...)

My wife knows I don't want children and remarked that she could easily just "accidentally" get pregnant

Q.   Dear cupid, I've been married for the past 7 years (plus 6 more of dating). Lots of ups and downs of course, but I think we've been improving - or at least I am. Yesterday my wife said something (another one... yeah, maybe I suck at relationsh...

A.   5 April 2019: Thanks jls022, your answer seems quite on point. Which leads me to her comments about being devalued - this is 100% her trying to determine whether you are worth making this sacrifice for. I haven't thought about it from this perspective. ... (read in full...)

Am I being sent signs that I should stay single?

Q.   I met a man on a drunken, fun night the other night. We clicked and had a lot in common. he was quite sweet. he took me for dinner and gave me sweet cuddles. I had asked God if maybe God would want me to have a boyfriend or a husband a couple of ...

A.   5 April 2019: I have some time in my hands and would like to remind those, who are of a different opinion to me concerning God... That I shall no longer drink again. I shall give my whole life to God. I shall not go out amongst my fellow neighbours to party th... (read in full...)

Should I burn bridges with my new employer to move to another country?

Q.   Hi all, I was hoping for some advice. I have recently accepted a job offer after some fairly vigorous interviews. On accepting the job is was sent through a timetable stating it was actually an apprenticeship and that the first 3 weeks would...

A.   4 April 2019: Hi all, thanks for your replies. I decided to be completely honest and I phoned my employer up today to explain my situation and how I felt about my options. He was actually really kind and understanding and said “well how can we compete with NZ?... (read in full...)

I think my boyfriend should end it if he isnt happy with me anymore.

Q.   Last night my boyfriend jokingly said "go find someone else then", but I didn't find it funny. We spent the evening together just hanging out, watching comedy on TV. At the end of the night he said lets go to bed. I said yeah and like waggled my ...

A.   30 March 2019: Thanks Honeypie. I'm going to see him tomorrow so hopefully we can talk thibgs through and work out what is going on. I've strangely just been given a month's notice by my landlord, so I need to find someone to share a flat or house with, as on my... (read in full...)

We don't have the same sense of humor and it causes problems

Q.   I dont know what's going on with my relationship. I've been with him for 2 years but things seem so rocky at the moment. We are arguing quite a bit and he's drinking a lot. But the thing is the arguments are over such trivial things. We had plans f...

A.   30 March 2019: I've just seen his social media . He's been out clubbing till 3am. The other week he said it would be gaming and takeout. Has it done this to upset me by putting it all over social media? How do I know he hasn't been with anyone? Well I don't do I... (read in full...)

Is this flirting behavior from my doctor?

Q.   I have just been detecting a vibe. He is a bit touchy feely, like he will touch my hands (playing with my fingers) or my shoulder, and sit close and lean in. He also runs hot and cold. If I am serious he starts to flirt or if I start to flirt he ...

A.   29 March 2019: Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I am receptive to any future comments as this situation is still ongoing.... (read in full...)

Is my male coworker playing mind games with me?

Q.   There is a coworker who works in a different department, “John”. He doesn’t go to meetings, has attitude, gossips, flirts, dates fellow coworkers, likes to mess with people, etc. When I first talked to him about something work-related, he...

A.   28 March 2019: I just don't understand it because I've worked with other guys like this and they are married with kids.... So do they act different around other people? Do the women just "put up" with their behavior? Or maybe they don't see it? Or they don't care? ... (read in full...)

Need help in dealing with feelings of hatred for my mother for the pain and hurt she's inflicted on me and my sisters while we were growing up....

Q.   We hear so much in the media about child abuse but we grew up in the 60's when such things were taboo. I am writing this on behalf of my two sisters and myself, we are all in our 50's. When we were growing up we were all abused by our mother, not ...

A.   27 March 2019: Hi, I am the OP of this question from way back in 2011. My sisters and I are all in our mid to late 60s now and none of us are in good physical health having suffered cancer, heart problems, chronic pain and a host of other problems. My mother is ... (read in full...)

My best friend separated from her partner and is now turning to anyone for comfort

Q.   hey so two of friend's just separated, one's my best friend (they grew apart). i have tried to be the best possible friend through this and have been happy for this to consume my life basically! always been checking in, trying to plan fun things ...

A.   21 March 2019: thank you guys i really appreciate your responses & they will go some way to getting things in my head straightened out. I have stepped back as of last weekend but it is just playing on my mind whether I will look like i don't care when things are ... (read in full...)

Why would a man leave like this, could this be related to anything I could have done without purpose? Is there any possibility to get him back?

Q.   I dated a guy I work with for a month(I started working at this place 2 months ago),but we don’t work in the same office. It was a really intensive dating. We met almost everyday, spent a lot of time together. He was really into me and I liked him a ...

A.   15 March 2019: From the beginning of our dating, he stated that he wants a serious relationship and his behavior was according to what we talked. That was the reason I panicked and noticed immediately that he was ghosting. He had ‘mood swings’ earlier too, but I ... (read in full...)

Why would he spend so much time courting me then suddenly act like we never happened?

Q.   I started seeing this guy about 2 months ago. Hes a nice person, was married for about 8 years but divorced for 1, he asked me out a few times before i finally agreed, and was as sweet as can be the whole 2 months we were dating. Refused to let me ...

A.   13 March 2019: I want to add that the two months were very drama free, I'm the easiest person to get along with, i don't like arguing and drama. I can honestly say the only disagreements we ever seemed to have before that weekend was over whether or not i ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend tells me he doesn't want kids, I leave crying and I haven't heard from him since. How is he so cold?

Q.   My LDR boyfriend of a year and a half finally admitted to me that he had 100% decided that he doesn't want kids. I am 40, have frozen my eggs and most days I feel the incredible yearning for a family. I say "finally admitted" because he has k...

A.   11 March 2019: UPDATE: He came back after a month. Saying he made the biggest mistake of his life and saying he would do anything to win me back. ... (read in full...)

Do I stay with my job with little time off and great money or go for something less stressful?

Q.   This isn't a relationship question, but a work one instead. Last year I posted a question about becoming a chef and got loads of great replies. I love most of my job and the pay is good and I have had a promotion and my manager wants to promote...

A.   10 March 2019: Thank you for all the responses so far! The thing is, at the start I thought I wanted to train up and become a head chef myself, I felt the long hours and exhausting shifts wren't too bad as I was doing what I loved. I still love it, and love to ... (read in full...)

3 plus affairs, Do my wife really love me?

Q.   My wife and I have been married for 28 years. However, in those 28 years, my wife has had 3 affairs on me that I catch her doing. I now have the same feeling that something is going on. What I am mostly concerned about is do she really love me or is ...

A.   10 March 2019: Let me first apologize. I am not by any means an arrogant person. In fact, I am very humble. I wouldn't even know that I had good qualities of such without my wife sharing it when we are with family and friends. It wasn't my intentions to make ... (read in full...)

Do I have a valid reason to leave him?

Q.   Hi. I am currently confused at the moment. Can somebody tell me what to do? So i met this guy on a dating site a month ago. Everything went well, we do video call for hours, we made plans for the future, he tells me i love you and misses me. But as ...

A.   8 March 2019: Thank you all your advices :) i really appreciate it. I just hope i will have the courage to let go, as when I tell myself not to message him nor answer his calls, but i lost all control. but why does he stay in contact with me if he doesn't like ... (read in full...)

Colleague thinks my new man is settling for me! Should I do anything about it?

Q.   So basically my question is around a new romance I have just started. Myself and the man I’m seeing both work in the same industry but we don’t work together in the same company. But our paths sometimes cross at networking events etc which is how we ...

A.   8 March 2019: Thanks everyone for your advice. You’ve all said what I expected to be honest, I think I was just a bit worried as I’ve been burned before by someone choosing me as they couldn’t have the person they wanted and it was in the back of my mind that I ... (read in full...)

How should I handle this situation with my boyfriend?

Q.   I apologize in advance for the length:) I have been with my current boyfriend for almost 7 years( lived together for almost 5!)I am 42 and he is almost 50! His parents have never been very nice to me( the first day I went over to meet them I b...

A.   6 March 2019: I do not like them either yes because of how they treat me( with complete disregard and politeness.....they never use my name, I am always she, her, that one.....they never talk to me directly, its always, hey(they son's name)what does she/that one ... (read in full...)

I have a boyfriend but had a one night stand. Pregnant and not sure who the father is

Q.   I habe been dating my bf for almost 6 months now. He is a great guy and i really like hin. But i made a huge mistake. I have been talking to a guy I met in an online chat room for almost a year now, 2 months ago he flew to my home town and we spent ...

A.   5 March 2019: I was on the pill when I got pregnant. By bf and I recently stopped using condoms and the guy I met online asked not to use them because he "liked" it better with out one. I did tell the online guy this afternoon, he kind of acted like I acce... (read in full...)

I want to teach my cheating ex a lesson

Q.   Hi! I'm 29 and got married last year. I'm happy with my husband, but my ex bf still calls me despite he being married. He says that he can't forget me, and still wants me. I cleared the air that I'm happy with my husband and won't ever leave him for ...

A.   5 March 2019: I answered the cheap prick's call because I have purchased a new phone a few months ago and didn't have his contact preloaded so that I could block him. Besides, he has multiple numbers. I've blocked all the numbers that are in my knowledge, he had ... (read in full...)

I feel confused and anxious about him not speaking to me except by text Saturday evening!

Q.   I have been in a relationship for 18 months with a great guy.This is an intensely passionate but in my opinion emotionally healthy relationship.We have hurdles but we have overcome them.Apart from one massive issue which is my fears of abandonment ...

A.   5 March 2019: Thank you guys so much.I totally agree with all the comments.l know it's my problem and not his .I have taken a step back and know that if I continue this behaviour I will lose him .My heart tells me he's a good guy but my head goes into overdrive ... (read in full...)

Why didn't he want to come home with me?

Q.   I've been dating this guy for about a month now. He said he likes me and wasn't seeing anyone else. On our last date, we had a passionate make out and he said that I was beautiful and sexy and really turned him on. In fact, he had to stop himself a ...

A.   3 March 2019: Thank you both for the help. He is certainly not religious or traditional at all! I guess I'm just worried that I did or said something during the dinner that really put him off. He couldn't wait to get the check and it felt like he was rushing me ... (read in full...)

Could these have been semen stains ... is he cheating on me?

Q.   Hi guys. I just need some advise. I’m driving myself mad and keep toying between am I just being super paranoid or is my gut instinct trying to tell me something... basically I want to know show I be weary of my partner! We have been together ab...

A.   27 February 2019: N91 - thank you for your reply. I know I’m being really stupid, I suffer from really bad anxiety and have done for a few years since a really bad previous relationship, I’ve never really been with someone who’s treated me right and then when someone ... (read in full...)

Why would my friend make a remark that she knew I would overthink and possibly be hurt by it?

Q.   Recently, I was crossing paths with a friend whom I haven't seen for a while. I was walking on footpath and she was driving by. I messaged her today to see how she was doing and mentioned that I'd been busy and had a'lot going on, so felt more...

A.   27 February 2019: Thank you for the time taken to writing a response to my concern. There was also negative expression in food choices. I feel that the lady named, without me, is on point with her perseptive in observation. Especially with the point make on sensi... (read in full...)

Starting out in serious relationships: Coping with "forever" ending and trusting the next "forever"?

Q.   Please bear with this question. I'd really appreciate supportive answers, rather than blunt or patronising answers, if possible :-) I've only been in one relationship and it did feel like it would last many more years than it did, though it lasted...

A.   25 February 2019: Thank you for your advice! I'm not someone who rushes into relationships or develops crushes easily - more like the opposite, if anything - so I'm not concerned with thinking "forever" too soon, which is one less thing for me to be worried about! ... (read in full...)

Should I send my crush a Valentine’s card?

Q.   hey everyone, i consider myself a shy-ish person and so talking about any of my crushes is a bit difficult for me. no one has ever known who i've liked or do like. i am trying to open up. anyways, there's someone i like currently, let's ...

A.   24 February 2019: Hello, just thought I could update everyone. He texted me on the day, and we've been texting ever since. He said he appreciates it and it surprised him. (Haha) The thing is that he never reallyyyy looks at his phone, but he at least he still make... (read in full...)

Am I fighting a losing battle? She is still speaking to her abusive husband!

Q.   So... there's a woman I've been talking to for a little over a month. And when we're together, things are good for the most part. The problem is... this woman is married to a man that she has been involved with for a few years. He has threatened h...

A.   21 February 2019: Thank you all for your thoughtful and honest answers. I do agree I've been trying to be a white knight- and ultimately it's her that has to want to take necessary action- which she is more than capable of doing. And I fully understand she's ma... (read in full...)

My husband has ED only during intercourse

Q.   I wonder if anyone has any insight or advice to offer on erectile dysfunction. My partner and I met while I was leaving an unhappy marriage and he was in a sexless marriage. We fell in love and are now living together. My children are living...

A.   20 February 2019: Hey, thank you to everyone who took the time to answer. Just wanted to update you in the weeks since then. I really thought about what you all had said, and you were so so right. My poor love had been dealing with so much, and he is the kind of p... (read in full...)

The gossip has taken all the good that I do and turned me into nothing.

Q.   Hey Cupids, My questions are about moving on after divorce/separation. I met my beautiful lover earlier this year when he was in an unhappy marriage. We started seeing each other but feelings were serious enough that he left his wife after 7 wee...

A.   20 February 2019: Thank you all for taking the time to offer comfort and advice. Over Christmas I did have a breakdown which looking back was a long time coming. I am feeling much stronger in myself now, and I am starting to know myself better each day. I don’... (read in full...)

I’m falling out of love, but can’t manage to walk away! Any advice?

Q.   Hi everyone my name is James, i am currently in a 9 year relationship. For the last few years i felt like ive fallen out of love with my girlfriend. I am the only source of income in the relationship. Im very ambitious she is the complete opposite. ...

A.   19 February 2019: Thank you everyone for the taking the time to reply..i read each one and appreicate the time and effort you guys took to respond. Now im still sitting here comteplating how will i lay it out. I know what i need to do but its just easier said than ... (read in full...)

I don't like children at all but why am I thinking about the possibilty?

Q.   I’m 26 and have never ever ever wanted children in my whole life and the thought of giving birth and being pregnant makes me feel sick and squeamish. I don’t even find babies or children cute and I get very uncomfortable around them~ at Christmas I ...

A.   19 February 2019: Thank you for the replies so far; singinbluebird~ To be honest I haven't grown up with young children so am very unfamiliar with them and have only really judged when I see badly behaved ones or ones that won't stop screaming. There have been ... (read in full...)

Do you think he’s basically telling me to leave?

Q.   So last night my S/O and I got into an argument. We were at walmart leaving and our daughter stopped to whine about getting some gumballs so I wasn't paying attention to where I was walking and accidentally bumped into the entrance doors of the ...

A.   18 February 2019: Same thing I thought. We have been together almost 7 years, and I just feel like there’s not much here anymore aside from our daughter. We’re just very much used to each other. I do love him, we’ve grown up with each other and have a beautiful ... (read in full...)

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