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How to get him to see the urgency for a house and a family?

Q.   I have been with my husdand for just over 6 years and we are newly wed only married for 5 months. I find I am increasingly getting down and upset as we have been living in a caravan for 5 years together on his parents farm and we now have a good ...

A.   12 November 2018: I have found out that his parents have been influencing and saying ' he doesn't want to leave or move far' - yes he does we need to! Haha. Also he is concerned that if we buy a house in a street he won't like it after not really having neig... (read in full...)

Are LDR's real relationships, even if you haven't met them yet?

Q.   Hello, I am currently in a long distance relationship with a man. He is from the US, and is 21 years old, and I am from the UK, and am 18 years old. We met online, and have been together for a couple of months now. We are still going strong...

A.   12 November 2018: Oh, and I forgot to add, I fully understand that he may be only showing me the side he wants me to see, but I'm not sure. I mean since we're on call all day every day, I'm always listening when his sister picks on him about his 'hairy chest', or how ... (read in full...)

Worst mistake of my life!! Don’t know what to do

Q.   I’m in the worst situation I could ever be in in my life I’ve made the biggest mistake ever and now I don’t know what to do I am suffering badly! I am 14 weeks pregnant but ended up cheating the night before I found out I was pregnant I know how bad ...

A.   12 November 2018: I feel absolutely awful everyday and don’t think I can rest until I tell him, I feel trapped everything has changed in my life so quickly and I don’t know how to deal with it. People are noticing at work that I’m not quite myself. The thing is I ... (read in full...)

Why is his dad trying to set us up and should I go along?

Q.   Long story short, am a virgin and one day my mom met an old time neighbour (who moved away but is living here again) who has one son. She kept bragging about how her daughter is "a princess" and then the guy said I have "a prince". Ever since he has ...

A.   9 November 2018: Yes thanks for your input @Andie'sThoughts and @WiseOwle I have abandoned this silly notion. It was flattering at most but its over now as I dont want to be the cause of a breakup. I told his dad and he said the reason he pushed it was because ... (read in full...)

We have fun and the sex is amazing but then why doesn't he fall for me?

Q.   Hey all. I feel like a spoilt brat here, like Verruca Salt when she can't get what she wants. I've completely fallen for a co worker. He works in another office and lives 80 miles away. He lives alone (divorced with a son) as I live with parents ...

A.   6 November 2018: Part 2 of response. am annoyed with myself I will try and be strong and be unavailable but I'm worried I'm gonna learn the hard way here ??... (read in full...)

After making him my facebook friend he held my wrist.

Q.   I just made a new friend via Facebook on Sunday. I sent him a quick text and he read it but replied the next day being Monday morning. The same day (Monday) I saw him as I was walking in the evening. It was dark but he recognized me. He ...

A.   6 November 2018: Good day Aunts, thanks for all your responses. Turns out thats how he shouts out friends. Yes @AuntieSusie got it right... (read in full...)

I don't understand why she did this to me

Q.   I know part of the answer. She's selfish. Has some severe mental health issues but so do I, so I'm trying not to hold it against her. Been scouring all over the internet to understand. Narcissist? Bipolar? Just trying to make sense of all this. ...

A.   5 November 2018: An update for the curious and those that took the time to answer. I asked her to meet me one last time, but I was aware of what I needed to do. I knew it was really over, despite how much I wished it was different. How I wish she was the girl I t... (read in full...)

How do I make my intentions known without coming across as creepy?

Q.   Hi this may seem trivial but I have not long gotten out of a long term relationship nearly 10 years. But I have no idea how to express interest in another woman it's been that long. There is one I am really interested in but 130 miles sepertes us. M...

A.   5 November 2018: To add a little bit extra. The children would be staying with me and Im potentially going to be seeking custody. When I say game I dont mean playing games. I mean that I've forgotten how gain a woman's interest and keep it. With regards ... (read in full...)

Where do you draw the line on honesty, versus someone indirectly putting another person down?

Q.   Dear Cupid I would really value your opinion now. Where do you draw the line on honesty, versus someone indirectly putting another person down? At what point do you realize that someone is being genuinely helpful, or is just putting you ...

A.   2 November 2018: I am so overwhelmed by the thoughtful and amazingly insightful response here. My intuition is saying that she is trying to bring me down. Many of my other close friends have said how well I am doing in progressing past life's setbacks and it'... (read in full...)

I'm hurt, confused, angry and betrayed.

Q.   So Last night I texted my gf and asked her how it started and she said that they met at a mutual friends house and he went up to her and they started talking about regulsr shit at first. Eventually they started chatting over what...

A.   2 November 2018: Thank you everyone for your opinions on the subject. My mom came forward and said she was sorry for not telling me and was aware of it the whole time but didnt know how to present it without upsetting me because of my anger issues that I have ... (read in full...)

I think my bf is bored with me and I'm feeling insecure about sex

Q.   So lately I’ve been feeling insecure about sex. Me and my bf had an argument that he was following strippers on Instagram. He ended up deleting it. I told him that it made me feel disrespected and insecure. He said that he thought about why he ...

A.   31 October 2018: WiseOwlE, I haven’t made him get off of it easy but he has deleted it and told me he wouldn’t. If he happens to do it again then I’m not going to end it. I don’t want to disrespected and feel hurt by this. But for now, I can only trust that he knows ... (read in full...)

Why did my boyfriend treat me so badly and not care that he accidentally hurt me?

Q.   My boyfriend was getting ready to go to work today and we were talking to each other. We both moved in closer at the same time and the brim of his hat hit my nose really hard pushing it backwards and my nose made a cracking noise. I fell back in ...

A.   31 October 2018: Well, actually I really don't think I was being overly dramatic. To clear things up I DIDN'T cry when we bumped into each other. It hurt and I did say, "Oww my nose!" and I held my nose. And yes, I know it was a hat and I understand that may ... (read in full...)

A friend is interested in a poly-amorous relationship but how do I tell my wife?

Q.   I and my wife have been married for 40 years and our love for each other is as solid now as it ever has been. Our sex life up until 8 years ago was very satisfying. Eight years ago my wife sustained an injury which has left her house bound. She ...

A.   30 October 2018: After reading all of your answers and doing a lot of soul searching I have decided to just drop the whole thing. I have NOT spoken to the other woman but I broached the subject with my wife. We were honest with each other and in the end I told her ... (read in full...)

I seem to get looked over for the more "shiny" people

Q.   Options. Everyone has options and like marketing the ones that are the shiniest are the ones that actually make it through. I've been meeting new people and just when I get close to them they start to be become distant and then you see them on ...

A.   28 October 2018: Thank you so much for the advice. It has been a few weekends since I posted and I'm just enjoying my time now. I'm trying to just focus on working on myself and empowering my thoughts to be positive and honestly just forgetting about the world. Hope ... (read in full...)

I believe my husband has sick fantasies about my daughter. She trusts him. What should I do?

Q.   I found a spare phone in my husband's truck and saved to his favorites was "Stepdaughter fucks step dad".. I have a beautiful 18 year old daughter that lives with us . I'm leaving him because to me, that is unacceptable and I will never look at him ...

A.   26 October 2018: Thanks for all the advice! I did move out and my daughter is with me. I had already showed her the phone and pretty much just told her that staying there was not an option. She seems really angry with me but I can live with that. I dont think I ... (read in full...)

Online dating but he's much shorter than me and we've never met. I don't know where this is going

Q.   Okay so basically I met this guy on a dating app. We really hit it off and I don’ usually hit it off with guys. I usually get bored or they annoy me. I honestly don’t know how to explain it any other way. Anyways. I met this guy. He’s 29 and I’m ...

A.   21 October 2018: Thank you for your quick response! But we did talk about it a few times and after about two months he added me on Facebook. And I like you maybe thought it may be a typo because he was joking how he made his dating profile while drunk, but no. He ... (read in full...)

Regret kissing a girl I didn't find attractive that turned out to be an alcoholic on a date whilst drunk and now she wants more.

Q.   Hi to everyone, I have gotten myself into an awkward situation with a girl I went on a date with last night. To elaborate I met this girl very briefly about 3 weeks ago at a club, she took a photo that I wanted so we exchanged details and she ...

A.   16 October 2018: Hi again all :) Thank you again for your replies. Especially Honeypie for coming back a second time! (Also, I am in agreement with everything you said in your last response so thank you). She just asked when she was going to see me again so I t... (read in full...)

I've been with him for 15 years. Am I stupid?

Q.   Am I being dumb? I have been with my partner for 15 years We have 2 children together. His mum is constantly on the phone texting call and bitching about me. I have recently started a new Job, but that's more for her to bitch about me. I n...

A.   16 October 2018: Hey. We get on great we got engaged but he was unhappy being engaged last to know that too his mum was first to know as normal. He has admitted he we need time as a couple and some family nights. As for the ex they only text each other I kno... (read in full...)

Good date but no sparks. Should I ask for a second?

Q.   Hi all, I went on a first date with a girl last night. We met on a dating website. I am unsure what to do next. She was a nice girl and I think the date went well. It was comfortable and conversation flowed. She said at the end that it felt lik...

A.   15 October 2018: Hi everyone. Just a quick update. We are still occasionally messaging but I think the interest has inevitably drifted. Thank you for your insightful and helpful advice all! ... (read in full...)

Should I date her even though I'm intimidated by her?

Q.   I am talking to someone on a dating site that seemed very keen and has gotten me excited about prospects but I am quite intimidated by her to the point that I think I am putting her off... She is quite far away but we hit it off chatting away to...

A.   15 October 2018: Thank you everyone for your comments. I have just let things take their course as it stands. We still talk, but less, and she actually comes across as being quite trusting with what she tells me as if we are becoming friends. I probably have ruined ... (read in full...)

Struggling to get over ex and finding it hard to look at dating again!

Q.   Hi all, I guess this is a slightly multi-layered problem. Firstly I am single as of close to year ago. I mention this as I feel it potentially explains certain things as of yet mentioned. It was a strange breakup that never really had clos...

A.   15 October 2018: Hi all, thank you very much for the replies. They were all quite hard to read as I know that they all ring true. I can't say I am closer to getting over her but the truth of it all is sinking in slowly. I have taken a step back and am reevaluating ... (read in full...)

Is he flirting or am I reading too much into his actions?

Q.   I recently transferred into a different team at work and started working very closely with the guy who recommended me for the role. I REALLY like him as as a person and we get along great. Sometimes have suspicion that he 'likes' me, but then I t...

A.   11 October 2018: Thanks for your response Honeypie. I mean.. it was horribly patronising and unpleasant. But probably very valid. One extra point; I've never been in a real relationship, I used to weight over 140kg and lost it all two years ago (for the l... (read in full...)

I honestly don't know what to do. What can I do? She blames her childhood for her major trust issues

Q.   Hi, I have been together with my fiance for about 8 months now. Unfortunately, she has major trust issues and she fuels it by giving me no space to breathe. she expects me to tell her everything in detail. ie if I get a message from a friend(ma...

A.   9 October 2018: Hey everyone. Thank you so much for the love and support you've shown through this. We'll I've been single since then and my health and general feel of life has improved ten fold. I spend more time with family and yeah good. Ive been back on the ... (read in full...)

I’m stuck, I feel alone and lost!

Q.   Hi, I'm struggling with life at the moment. My relationship is a mess and even though i want to make things right i just don't seem to be doing anything right. Work is the same, i have a great job and career but due to the troubles of life my repu...

A.   9 October 2018: Thank you 3 for the wonderful advice. It's been a while and I've taken your advice and slowly but surely started to get there. Still frustrated with life but I know one day at a time. Love from SA... (read in full...)

My partner is googling how to flirt sites.

Q.   Hi all Just seeking opinions as to whether there is a need for concern or just over reacting. Bit of back ground info. Been in a relationship for 10 years. In the earlier part there were bouts of cheating on his part. We worked through it but I ma...

A.   9 October 2018: Thank you ladies. Well I took a deep breath and calmly asked him if he had an interest in anyone. He said no, asked why. I showed him the screen shot 'Psychologically proven flirting techniques-ways to flirt with any girl'. His response was to ... (read in full...)

My wife's adult children are bums whose lifestyles I pay for.

Q.   Hi all, I have a problem. First off, I've been married for over 21 years. We largely get along -- mostly because I don't complain about much. During that time, I have raised my wife's 2 children from her previous marriage. They are cur...

A.   6 October 2018: Thanks for the responses. Yes I will admit I am a doormat. This has been accumulating over the years. And to be honest I sort of knew this going in that my wife catered to the children's every whim. I just figured it would get better over tim... (read in full...)

My friends remarks upset me, am I too sensitive?

Q.   My best friend has always been there for me during extremely horrible times. She has defended me behind my back and so on... However, as of several months ago I have grown increasingly mad and resentful... I feel that when I need to vent and I te...

A.   5 October 2018: Thank you for your advice. No, we do other things,we cook, we travel together, we hang out at her pool, she comes over to my house to watch netflix, we got to brunch, but we both rely on each other to vent (we used to have the "vent hour" typically ... (read in full...)

Is it okay to ask out a girl from my workplace just for the fact that I find her beautiful?

Q.   Hello Agony Aunts and Uncles. I’ve recently broke up with a girlfriend (if you can call 1 year as recent). I’m not used to the whole dating game and being single thing but I’m thinking of asking out this girl. I’ve never dated anyone since my break ...

A.   4 October 2018: Thank you Honeypie and WiseOwl, I actually stopped falling head over heels for anygirl who gives me a bit of attention when I stopped dating for a while...but when I decided to get into dating I cant help myself idealizing prospective women. I apo... (read in full...)

Do you think she doesn’t want to see me?

Q.   do you think she doesnt wanna see me? so this all happend last year when i was at work and i went out to the lobby and i saw the girl i used to liked back in high school sitting at the table with her boyfriend i guess she was waiting for her food...

A.   4 October 2018: i guess she doesnt wanna see me then because the other day i was at the store and she saw me there and she was walking fast and she went the other day lol so i guess shes advoidng me then... (read in full...)

How do I know if he's my boyfriend?

Q.   so here goes... i had the hugest crush on a guy eight years older than me. we met four years ago(i was much younger then)and started out as friends. we have been good friends ever since. he has visited my home, met my parents and i have met his f...

A.   2 October 2018: He was just a user who didnt get to use me, good riddance !... (read in full...)

Does he love me or is it the sex?

Q.   dear cupid, i have been friends with this guy for 5 years. now he wants to take it to the next level. we have kissed once but we never actually started dating as yet. he met my parents but i have not met his as yet and he is dying for me to me...

A.   2 October 2018: Thanks for all your responses, yes, that guy turned out to be a user. No, I didnt have sex with him and then he broke it off citing " It was because you didnt have sex with me" What a prick. Thanks again you guys!... (read in full...)

Can I fool this new guy into thining I'm not a virgin?

Q.   Hello! I met a man online. We have been talking for three months on an dating app. We’ve clicked and have a lot in common. The conversation of us being intimate has come up. However, I don’t want to tell him I am a virgin, I’m 26 and he is 22...

A.   1 October 2018: I guess ... (read in full...)

First crush and self-loathing thoughts, how do I cope with them?

Q.   I think that all started last october when I realised that I really liked a boy at school who is a year older than me. I remember being walking and chatting with a friend of mine along the corridor when he appeared out of the blue and greeted both ...

A.   30 September 2018: Thank you all for your replies, they really made my day! By the way, I actually wrote this question about a month ago before school started since I really needed to vent, but I didn't feel confident enough to post it. The other day I decided t... (read in full...)

I lied to my b/f that I've never done anal and now I am afraid he'll know

Q.   Hey guys, well i've been lying to my boyfriend honestly about having anal, i did it before so many times and now he insist about doing it and im afraid he will notice that im not tight, well is there any type of way that i can save this situation ? ...

A.   29 September 2018: Thank you guys for your answers, but the point from my question is how can i hide the anal thing, not he insist or not, itd not always about him i mean i'll face thid problem with other guys so the thing is how can i HIDE it, is there any technique ... (read in full...)

Dad needs some help in his relationship.

Q.   Hello, Please could someone help give me some good advice, I don't know what else to do.... I am currently in a 10 year relationship and we have 3 young children and the kids are our worlds and we do love each other, but I am deeply disappoin...

A.   29 September 2018: Thank You to all who took the time to write back in.... I think I should also add that I know all 3 kids are mine (they all look exactly like me and have strong facial features from my side of the family). I was only thinking "Could our 2nd c... (read in full...)

I lied about my age. Can I salvage this relationship?

Q.   Hello, Im new to the Dear Cupid community. I never thought I would resort to a site like this but I really want to save my relationship or get advice whether or not my relationship is worth saving. I know this entry will be a lengthy one.. so...

A.   28 September 2018: After continuing to fix this problem, despite all the discouraging advice, we have made little progress. It's gotten to the point where I don't feel loved and cared for and I think it's time to put an end to this relationship. Thank you guys for ... (read in full...)

Am I wrong for not trusting my man?

Q.   A few months ago I met this guy out of state. We really hit it off and he ended up moving in my state. He has an ex girl that he still has pictures with on social media. When she noticed that he moved to my state she immediately called him then ...

A.   27 September 2018: UPDATE: He left his phone while he went to check the mail and I noticed on his phone he was talking to multiple girls complimenting them and asking where he can meet up with him. after confronting him he says while he's on the road it makes he... (read in full...)

Does he love me or just think of me as a sex toy?

Q.   I've been with my bf for 3 years and now I feel like he just wants me for sending him sexy pictures and wants to see me for intimacy he barely even talks about himself like how he's doing, or anything other than spicy pictures and am not sure what ...

A.   25 September 2018: True but he knows we shouldn't have sex until were married but now am not even sure if I want him because he doesn't even treat me with love nor value me I guess he just made a whole lot of promises and broked them once again it hurts because I had ... (read in full...)

What do I do about this weird attraction for my teacher?

Q.   Lately, I've been feeling a weird attraction towards my teacher, I know it sounds inappropriate, but I really like him! Some days, I can't stop thinking about him, but other days, I just feel uncomfortable around him, I know that most of you reading ...

A.   25 September 2018: Thank you guys for responding, it's been almost a year now and he has moved away, so that has helped and I no longer like him like that, thanks again.... (read in full...)

Cheated on my boyfriend 2 weeks before getting pregnant help!!!

Q.   I am 24 years old and found out I was pregnant about 3 weeks ago. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and thought things were fizzled out, I looked for company else where. I have never cheated on him before and can’t believe I did it this ...

A.   24 September 2018: I know I have messed up bad here and am paying the price. I don’t think there is a chance that it could get out (he was in a relationship too) I know we all make mistakes but never thought I’d end up in this situation. I am around 6 weeks now and ... (read in full...)

I am at my wits end with laziness of my husband

Q.   I am a full time worker and also a house wife of a man that is on disability due to mental state he can still do things but chooses not to do anything but sit on the computer all day consuming negative news . I work for Hospice and work long ...

A.   24 September 2018: Schizophrenia and psychotic disorders... (read in full...)

He threw out something important to me for no reason, WHY???

Q.   I had been buying second hand toys and saving them for a friend of my husbands who had asked for help with a co-worker with a 5 yr old who had no money for toys. I collected two shopping bags of quality toys (Dora the Explorer talking doll hou...

A.   24 September 2018: I'm the original poster. To answer some questions, my husband and I are both in our 60's with grown children (no grandchildren yet). I have asked him repeatedly why he threw the toys away but he can't give me an answer other than he thought ... (read in full...)

Her husband abruptly didn’t want to move! Any advice on how I can advise her?

Q.   A good friend of mine is very upset. She had accepted a promotion with her company to move to Florida. Her husband is a pilot for a major airline and also made arrangements to relocate to Florida. So my friend went through the process to buy a house ...

A.   24 September 2018: Thank you anonymous, that was a very interesting perspective on abuse. I had not thought of that. Thank you for sharing your experience. ... (read in full...)

I’ve been bullied by my brother-in-law for 17 years! What is the best revenge?

Q.   I have a brother in law and for 17 years he has disliked me from the very moment he laid eyes on me. I am a very likeable and confident, and id like to say hot girl lol i am hilarious and fun love to tell stories and make people laugh i dont have ...

A.   24 September 2018: this is to 'ucannot be serious" no just because i lied about my age here to protect my identity does not mean i lied about anything else at all. I think you are a very judgy person unlike all the other agony aunts who are way understanding and i'm ... (read in full...)

Jealousy and insecurity... how to deal with the sexual past of my girlfriend?

Q.   I've been in a relationship with this girl for a little more than 4 months. Although we have some differences, the feelings we are growing for each other seem to be very strong. I'm aware that 4 months is not that much time but we spend a lot of ...

A.   23 September 2018: Thank you both, Ciar and Anonymous Reader for the wise advise. ... (read in full...)

Follow up to an earlier question about some decisions I have to make

Q.   This is technically a build on my initial concerns that I raised a question about in January. I am fortunate and pleased to say that an excellent career opportunity presented itself, moving back in to my desired career field and I have regained a ...

A.   20 September 2018: Thank you I do agree with you. Im embarassed that it is a mess. Im also quite surprised at my lack of courage in how to approach the conversation. One way or another I will, i want to figure out how, before it unravels at the wrong time, but trying ... (read in full...)

Why would my cheating wife try to contact me after 6 months of NC?

Q.   Well it's been almost 7 months since my cheating wife left me for her boss. Although she never admitted to an affair I have mountains of evidence proving otherwise. Long story short... I thought I had her blocked on everything. I have been ...

A.   19 September 2018: She has no personal belongings there. Nothing that reminds me of her. She didn't even take her kids photos and keepsakes. I boxed those up months ago. I am doing very well, actually. The only thing I felt when I saw the email was a little d... (read in full...)

I feel I am not loved even though he says he does love me

Q.   I've been with the same person for almost 6 years. he has never been super loving or supportive. but the last 2 years it seems like he is ignoring me more. we have had sex the entire relationship maybe 20 times. so sex less than 1 time a month. he ...

A.   18 September 2018: Thank you all for answering. I think I should consider moving on. Some background on to why its been so long and why I've stayed; I just got out of foster care and was working going through college, we met because we both were computer science... (read in full...)

Am I being paranoid about my girlfriend’s interactions at work with this guy?

Q.   I work at a restaurant with my girlfriend. We just got into a big fight which was my fault. So we’ve barley spoken for a few days. I come into work and i notice my gf getting her shirt sleeves rolled up by a guy coworker. Then i see she’s ...

A.   18 September 2018: So i talked to her about it. she says that’s how they always are and that it means nothing. hmm i’ve never seen them act like that in front of me. so if i’m there at work and she doesn’t play around with him but when i’m not there they are? ... (read in full...)

Is she worth pursuing?

Q.   I'm in a really low place right now. I've been dating a girl for the past 4 months ( I'm 30 she's 26) and during the past month she's grown incredibly distant. She only texts me when I text her now, sometimes it takes her days to reply, she never ...

A.   17 September 2018: You were all correct. She was clearly over me. I just didn't want to see it. I didn't contact her for over 10 days and heard nothing from her. I checked my Whatsapp and found out she had either blocked me or changed her number as the profile pic ... (read in full...)

I’m ready to have a baby but my husband wants to go traveling first!

Q.   Me and my husband have been together for 9 years and married 1 year, we both discussed from day 1 about getting married and if we wanted children. I'm 25 nearly 26 and my husband is 27 nearly 28. I am ready to have a baby and have been ready for the ...

A.   17 September 2018: problem with him is i know I will be waiting another 4 years or even 6 years ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend spends more time with my dog

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. We do live together and for the most part it’s great but, lately he hasn’t really been affectionate. I have 4 dogs but my one female he is particularly close too. Well anyway my problem ...

A.   17 September 2018: Just an update for everybody it was not spite or punishment moving the dogs out of the room. The move out of the room was to fit more furniture that he wanted in the room. So since this is an advice forum please try to remember people this is ... (read in full...)

I dumped my boyfriend for sponging off of me but now I feel guilty

Q.   I’ve been dating this guy for 9 months now. Things started off great and though we have had a few issues I feel like they can be worked through. The latest issue though is surrounding money. He lost his job a few months ago and has been having a...

A.   12 September 2018: Thank you all for your responses. I allowed myself to be manipulated due to my compassion and desire to help someone I got close too. I see now this was the best decision and a lesson learned! As a parent I have to ensure the decisions I make have ... (read in full...)

How could he move on so quickly?

Q.   I ended my relationship with my ex back in February not because we no longer loved each other but because we both had different out looks on life. Realistically it wasn't going to work. I left our house and moved back home. My ex was distraught and ...

A.   11 September 2018: OK. I was just struggling and wanted to stop feeling bitter about it and be happy for him maybe. So asked for advice. Thank you everyone x... (read in full...)

I am recuperating from surgery and my boyfriend is having some girl I've never met pick him up and go out drinking

Q.   I need to know if I'm being Ridicolous and this is just petty. Or if what he is doing is wrong. I ended up having emergency surgery Wednesday which was completely unexpected. My boyfriend has been amazing. Coming to see me straight after work and...

A.   10 September 2018:  Then he says I shouldn't feel threatened and proceeds to tell me how much he loves me. I tried to reverse situation and ask how he would feel and he just sort of laughs and say do it then. I keep trying to say how I feel and he keeps respondi... (read in full...)

Please help me figure out why I am so upset about being ghosted by an old friend.

Q.   Please help me figure out why I am so upset about being ghosted by an old friend. I met Ann in high school. We were very close our senior year. We went to colleges in different states, but kept in touch. After college, we moved to differe...

A.   8 September 2018: Thank you for your responses. I will not contact Ann again. I’m not wondering what her reasons are for ghosting me. (It’s obvious that she decided not to keep the friendship going because she can’t be bothered, ie she doesn’t care.) The ball is n... (read in full...)

After one date his messages have become short and infrequent. Should I give up?

Q.   I connected with a guy on a dating app and we hit it off. We seemed to be on the same wavelength, there seemed to be a lot of chemistry, a real attraction. We continuously messaged each other. We arranged to meet and counted down the days. The ...

A.   5 September 2018: Hi all, Just a follow up... I’ve heard nothing at all in a week but every time I log into what’sapp (I generally am a creature of habit and always go on at the same time) he is there constantly online. It’s like he knows that I’ll be there an... (read in full...)

Does this indicate that there is more than a friendship or just nothing to worry about?

Q.   Ok so my boyfriend has a female friend which happens to be his accountant but he told me they are also friends,they around the same age group, he is older than me, when my bf did his housewarming get together he invited me and my family plus his ...

A.   5 September 2018: @Youcannotbeserious well, he did in fact answer her yesterday and told her sorry that he had been in the disney parks til late and plus his battery was dead and then he invited her to eat to thereby talk about business, she said she couldn’t cause ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend's family word is golden, mine doesn’t count!

Q.   I need some advice. I have been dating a guy for five years, his family is top priority with him, I am bottom of his list. I will add that his family absolutely dislike me, no matter what I do, it is always wrong. He has a large park RV that his...

A.   5 September 2018: I want to sincerely thank each of you for your input on my situation. I greatly appreciate each of them. You are all absolutely correct, I do deserve better and be treated with I respect. It's up to me to close this chapter and move on, no one ... (read in full...)

How do I stop being a glutton for punishment?

Q.   I was involved with attached guy for over a year.I'm not sure if he is actually married or common law but he lives with his kids mother and thier twin boys.When we met he told me that their relationship was over but just trying to figure out what's ...

A.   5 September 2018: Thanks guys for your responses. When he contacted me again I got my hopes ups that it meant he was actually going to do what it takes to offer me a real relationship and realized what he lost.Then it soon became clear that nothing changed ,he just ... (read in full...)

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