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What are the odds of this girl getting pregnant?

Q.   Hello. I went out on a date with a young 26 year old lady that I met online, and things went pretty well. Anyways afterwards she invited me to her room and well we started making out and one thing lead to another and we ended up undressing and ...

A.   12 December 2017: Anyways, I had a chance to talk to her again. I did ask her about it and she came out and said that she wants to get pregnant. She said she was disappointed that we stopped having sex and would actually want to meet up again. I told her only if we ... (read in full...)

Red flags are everywhere. He's a nice guy but was I right to end it?

Q.   I met this guy online, tall, good looking, we met at a coffee shop right away and everything seemed fine until after I got home that night. He was texting me the longest messages I’ve ever seen. They were paragraphs. Usually guys tend to be the ones ...

A.   11 December 2017: Hi wiseone, no! Not at all! Sometimes I need a slap in the face to realize things. And yes, the things his friend told me I think must be real and not a lie just because he was mad. They were too specific in detail to be made up. If he was just mad ... (read in full...)

I'm obsessed with the man I had a little bit of fun with, 16 years ago!

Q.   This is really weird. So, some 16 years ago, I had a one night stand with this acquaintance - we traveled together to a new city with a group of friends and stayed in the same house. I was relatively sexually inexperienced and socially inept. The ...

A.   11 December 2017: So, I read my journals from way back then again, not just about him but other things as well. Worked through my feelings and my need for affirmation. It gave me clarity. Then I made a list of things that I wouldn't do. I did write a story about hi... (read in full...)

Wifes past haunts me.

Q.   I have been married almost 20 years now. When I met my wife she told me that she had been raped. A few months into our marriage she told me that she had been gangraped as well, I didn't question her too much about it and just left it. A few months ...

A.   11 December 2017: Ok so we have sat down and talked about everything and she has finally opened up completely to me. It seems that her uncle started abusing her from the age of 10.As time went on she developed an infatuation with her uncle and she had a sexual ... (read in full...)

Why would she pull away when things are going so well?

Q.   MOD NOTE: 2 questions dealing with same issue combined I'll try and keep this short while still providing the necessary context. A couple of months ago, I went to a wedding where I caught up with some old college friends. I ran into a girl that I...

A.   11 December 2017: aunthonesty, thanks for the reply! it's been a month since i asked this and she and I are still dating. we hashed out the misunderstanding the day after I posted this and she confirmed that she misunderstood me. we are doing well now.... (read in full...)

This is the second abusive relationship I've been in. Am I picking the wrong type of men?

Q.   Last night my boyfriend punched me in the mouth. I've left him. He asked me not to leave. But I said I have to be alone right now. It came about after an argument over a male friend of mine. My boyfriend said that my face lit up when my friend a...

A.   11 December 2017: Ok, the reason for not leaving immediately was because it had been snowing and I did not want to walk up a snowy, icy hill in the dark to get home. In the end, when I started walking he felt bad, appologized and convinced me to stay the night. I ... (read in full...)

I'm paranoid about getting someone pregnant.

Q.   I'm paranoid about getting someone pregnant. I'm currently 31 and have had 1 or 2 sexual partners every year since my mid twenties. Every time I do have sex I use the condom properly, and most of the women I've been with are also on the p...

A.   10 December 2017: Thanks for your kind words everybody. I have seriously considered getting a vasectomy as well. I don't even know if I really do want to raise a kid one day. I've had several sexual partners but only two girlfriends, and both of them broke my... (read in full...)

Am I asking too little of him?

Q.   I have posted before and thankfully we solved a little issue in our relationship. This may be hella stupid for me to be resentful of how he treated his ex, but I kind of am. Idk how true this is, I'm only hearing his side of the story, but ...

A.   9 December 2017: Allumeuse The reason for rides issue isn't that I can't do it myself, its because its nice to have a partner who goes out of his way once in awhile. I am willing to take the bus to his place, but I wouldn't mind having a lift once in awhile. Btw I ... (read in full...)

I am devastated to think maybe our marriage doesn't have a future

Q.   Hi everyone, not been on here for absolutely ages and had a rough few years. So my question is the following! Sorry it’s a bit drawn out. Ok so I met my husband 22 years ago at work, he was married to the daughters boss, but not happily. Anyway I...

A.   9 December 2017: Thank you both for such great advice. I do love him, but your right I have lost respect for him. He is a very clever man, and can turn his hand to almost anything but just lately he won’t be bothered. He has a lot of pressure at work, and although I ... (read in full...)

I have feelings for my drug addicted friend's girlfriend

Q.   Hey guys! I'll try be brief. So I have a friend who is going psychotic due to his drug use that he denies to a psychotic extent. He twists reality and makes everyone his enemy if they try to confront him (I have tried a few times and he angrily l...

A.   9 December 2017: Thanks guys, I was a little spun out when asking this question. I think you are 100% right Denizen, you can't just jump from one relationship to another, especially one like this. I am choosing to give them space. I have offered my help if needed. ... (read in full...)

Dealing with low self-esteem and body image from acne scars

Q.   Hi guys, I have been dating a guy for close to 2 months. We have a great connection and i really like him. But he cares too much about physical appearance. I think I am good looking, both body and face, but have hypopigmented acne scars on my...

A.   8 December 2017: Thank you all for being so kind. You are right, even if i have to deal with rejection, I would at least know i didn't lose a good one. That is more important. @Allumeuse I have been wondering the same. But to be fair all of us are superficial duri... (read in full...)

Triangle friendship double cross!

Q.   Ive been friends with my friend (Samantha) for 5 years and its really had its ups and downs throughout the years but things started to get worse, the competitiveness, the jealousy etc. We love each other very much but there is a lot negativity and ...

A.   8 December 2017: I've apologised a hundred times and she keeps emailing me back really really nasty messages, this is like pre-school!! I got so upset from the last message yesterday, it was like this is the end! do u know how many times she's said that to me? she ... (read in full...)

What is this feeling I have for him?

Q.   i have a childhood friend who is four years older than I am and for the most part I've seen him as a big brother because my friend has always been by my side. But there is another part of me that gets jealous when I see my friend flirt with peo...

A.   6 December 2017: Thank you for the advice. I think you might be right on a few things and I know my friend is bisexual because I've seen my friend show interest in guys before. Our friendship means a lot to me and I guess its cause I don't really have many friends. ... (read in full...)

Am I being over sensitive about this guy who keeps cancelling on me?

Q.   Hey guys, I need a little advice on weather or not I handled something correctly.. So a few months ago I was working for a company and I became friends with my manager's younger brother who had just started working there the week I left. I left ...

A.   6 December 2017: Sorry for late response guys, and thank you for all the advice. So, I thought I was being over sensitive because I told this exact same story to my mother, who said my last response to him about him not showing up was "B*tchy". I was surprised by... (read in full...)

Handsome man being hot, but now cold. Should I just assume he's not interested?  

Q.   Long story short, he asked me for my number. He texted me that day saying that he'd like to go to the movies later with me. I had a really busy day and didn't reply till the following day cause I didn't want to rush and say the wrong thing. I re...

A.   6 December 2017: Update: I just opened up my Whatsapp last night for the first time in a while and saw that he send me a message saying "Hey you" with a picture of himself. I had check the time and date of when he sent this message and saw that it was actually sent ... (read in full...)

I feel he's lied about his past and I can't shake that off!

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for over 6 months, i love him and can see a future with him, we get on well and i feel he acts like he feels as much for me as i do him and he has told me recently that i am the love of his life. My problem is i fee...

A.   5 December 2017: I have spoken to him at length and clarified things more. Firstly which I knew already he had out stayed his visit to America some 18 years ago so he returned. I spoke to his relative and she told me that his account of his marriage and how she was ... (read in full...)

What is he saying to me?

Q.   I was talking with a guy online and never met him .We chat for month so. He had to travel for work. We were still in contact when he were out of country for his work. Finally, he came back to state and wanted to meet me. I told him I don’t wa...

A.   5 December 2017: Thanks aunt honesty for your reply ... (read in full...)

My ex isn't apologetic about his behavior and its starting to turn me off

Q.   I broke things off with him because he kept gaslighting me. Anytime I wanted to talk to him about something he’d call me a drama queen, sensitive, emotional. I got so drained trying to salvage things. The last straw was when he told me to shut up as ...

A.   5 December 2017: You’re right. I’m literally just going through the motions. It’s silly to even waste anymore time thinking... (read in full...)

My pretty friend gets constant attention. How do I cope?

Q.   This is long but I feel that details and some background info are important to get an understanding for some answers. This is not your typical, my friend is evidently prettier than me story. I have a friend who is very pretty. She's not a supe...

A.   4 December 2017: I want to thank you all for your opinions and advice. Even as I was writing this post, I felt pathetic letting this crap bother me and I definitely have a lot of insecurities that I need to work out and not just with my looks. I?t felt good writing ... (read in full...)

Any advice on Dear Cupid burn-out?

Q.   I know I'm not the most active poster here and I'm not hoping that anyone would recognize me but I'm just gonna post this here for a message and maybe some advice. I'm thinking of leaving DearCupid for some time, all this posts about cheating...

A.   3 December 2017: Thank you aunt honesty, chigirl, wise owlE, and Anonymous 123. I know its something that I have to work on though I hate to say that dearcupid is affecting me negatively because it certainly hasnt, everyone helps everyone here...and it pains me to ... (read in full...)

Why not everyone we find ourselves emotionally invested in is made for us

Q.   I watched a film a few days ago you may of heard of, '500 days of summer'. I had it recommended to me by a friend who knew of the bizarre situation I was in with a girl I know. I thought a rom com isn't really my idea of fun but thought what the ...

A.   1 December 2017: Thank you, I'm glad you enjoyed the read. And you're right, I have met someone since that I'm now in a happy relationship with because I learnt what behaviours I wouldn't accept and what I wanted out of a future partner. I think a lot of g... (read in full...)

What can I do to make her pull her weight at home?

Q.   We have been married for over 5 years. I do the cooking, cleaning, shopping, house repairs, car repairs, take care of the animals, etc. Meanwhile my wife comes home, gets on her social media, and messes up the house. Shoes everywhere, papers, books, ...

A.   1 December 2017: So I had a life changing moment last week. A family member almost passed away, and I had to take a step away from my own drama to help my family in need. Things there seem that they will be ok. Fingers crossed. My wife stepped up to help get thin... (read in full...)

What is he doing? His last text said he still wants me but that was November third!

Q.   hi i am seeing a man, don't what sort of relationship it is but hes not text me in 2 weeks and not seen me in 2 months now, i did text him 2 weeks ago asking whats going on my text to him was " how are you ive not heard off you in weeks how can yo...

A.   30 November 2017: thankyou everyone... (read in full...)

How do I become a more submissive girlfriend?

Q.   My personality has always been very jokester and very sarcastic (think of every character on Roseanne type of sarcastic) and I? know when to be serious and turn it off, but in my everyday life it is just who I? am. But I’ve been dating this guy for ...

A.   30 November 2017: Thanks ladies! You know when I was writing this out I realized how crazy it sounded. Honestly he’s just one of those people that likes to be in control to make up for what he “lacks” If you get what I’m saying, but after another argument he’s been ... (read in full...)

I have these gut feelings she's cheating so how do I figure out what I do?

Q.   I'm a female in a relationship with another female. I have trust issues due to previous infidelities in past relationships. I know that it's unfair for me to question her when she's done nothing wrong, but, honest to god, I can't help it. I feel ...

A.   29 November 2017: I appreciate all the feedback. It always helps to have other views weighing in on a topic. I guess I should have clarified about all my questions and insecurities... I've never voiced them to her. It's all in my head and just a battle that I ... (read in full...)

Can we get back to normal after swinging?

Q.   Do you think there’s any hope of a relationship going back to normal after swinging? My husband and I have tried it - yes we had a lot of fun - but the lifestyle isn’t for me. When I tell him I want to stop we fight because he doesn’t want to stop. ...

A.   28 November 2017: I appreciate all of your answers. Another problem I’m facing is tearing apart the family. I feel as though if we break up over this, I’m not destroying just our relationship, I’m tearing my children’s lives apart. I feel as though not complying is ... (read in full...)

Dealing With Catty Customers At Work?

Q.   I work for a "posh" retail store which has a lot of female customers, I've been awarded employee of the month for customer service before and am always friendly to people, I've only been there since last year but already know a lot of people by name ...

A.   28 November 2017: Thanks for all the helpful replies. I'll mention it to my manager, although she often acknowledges in private that some of our customers can be very rude as well and says that she doesn't always like interacting with them! Unfortunately a few of my ... (read in full...)

I'm like a weekend hobby for my boyfriend while his sister and nephew are his real family

Q.   I have been dating a guy in a long distance relationship for 2 years. He lives 50 miles away and I only see him at weekends. In the week he lives with his widowed sister and works with her son to help him out as he is retired. The other week for the ...

A.   28 November 2017: No need to be rude. Look at "baggage reclaim - men who live with their mothers" this is a similar situation ....... (read in full...)

I was a virgin, didn't bleed and now my husband says I wasn't a virgin

Q.   It was totally my first intercourse, but i did'nt bleed....i only felt a very little pain...even my hubby said that i'm not virgin as my vagina is loose. He said my vagina is not like virgins have.... But It was my first time. Why it happens to...

A.   27 November 2017: Guyz i dont wanna leave him....i loved him from the core of my heart..i want him ,i need him what should i do to convince him?? Its not about that i dont want to turn to my mother infact my family cut off with me, because tgey are against of love... (read in full...)

Things seem to have went cold in our LDR. Do I end things and ask to be friends?

Q.   hello guys, I am 19 years old, my boyfriend is 21. we were in a long distance relationship for two months; we chat online. we met once for a very short time ( cause we both didn't have enough time to stay for long..) anyways, it was weird, w...

A.   26 November 2017: hey guys, thank you so much for your answers. We actually talked about it all. we are now nothing but friends. we still talk online from time to time. But i'm over him as a bf. It's great not loosing someone only cause of distance. thanks :)... (read in full...)

Difficulty with old and new loyalties

Q.   Hi. I will try to make this brief but there is a lot going on in my life at the moment. I have been separated 6 years now coming to the end of a divorce although we are amicable my spouse wants still to be friends. We both have new partners alt...

A.   26 November 2017: Thank you very much or all of your answers to my situation you are all singing from the same hymn book! I know its a dilemma for me but realize I have to make a decision for the best. Thank you once again for your guidance.... (read in full...)

Do I tell my son she's cheating?

Q.   My son's wife is cheating on him. Both she and my son are 29 and have been together for just over 9 years. I received an e-mail about 4 years ago from someone who has sent me evidence that she has been cheating on him for the past 5 or 6 years w...

A.   25 November 2017: I.havent told him yet... (read in full...)

I'm trying to get it all together to be an adult and be ready for the world but my mom thwarts my every move!

Q.   Hey, I'm in a frustrating situation right now. I am a legal adult and I want to become independent and learn how to handle school and work at the same time; however, my mom is dead set against it (even though she helped me apply for a job at Publix ...

A.   25 November 2017:  First of all, thanks for replying! I really need some advice right now. As for the job, I can choose any place I want, and so it happens that I live near the workplace and can walk to work. My best choice right now is to do part-time. As for ... (read in full...)

What does my partner's comment mean?

Q.   My partner has told me that he has never been into one night stands and always has relationships with a view to taking them seriously. He has also told me he has never really loved anyone and I'm the love of his life. I told him last night by te...

A.   24 November 2017: Sorry I don't want to seem dumb. But he doesn't do one night stands so he has been with other women ( naturally at his age I know )with the view of liking and dating them. I am quite insecure as I feel I'm older and I have seen one or two of his ... (read in full...)

My confidence is wrecked, I regret telling people the truth about my ex boyfriend.

Q.   I just want to vent about a situation that still bothers me. Basically I had a 6 month relationship with a guy I worked with. He was the first person I'd been with after my marriage broke up. I guess because I was vulnerable and feeling really crap ...

A.   22 November 2017: sorry I did mean to rate you all excellent I clicked on it wrong just incase you get an alert... (read in full...)

The guy I've liked from afar is being a little wierd

Q.   Hi, I need some advice, I haven't dated in ages, I am 43, just went through a rough patch with major losses, illness etc, now better but I am still fragile. Anyway, since last year I meet maybe every 2/3 months this guy through work, older (I ...

A.   22 November 2017: thank you, yes, I am quite depressed, in the last two years I lost my career, most friends, most family estranged, was deadly ill (now healing), lost all my possessions to mold, spent 6 months looking for an apartment and 4 months in bed after being ... (read in full...)

Would it be lame to send him a thank you card for the interview experience?

Q.   Ok lame idea or not? I posted before about the fact I completed my masters degree in creative writing recently, and I choked whilst writing my final project. As I suspected, my grade for that project was terrible and while I still passed, I’ve bee...

A.   21 November 2017: Thank you to everyone for your thoughts. To give you an update I ended up going for it and I sent the card off last week. Then today I got a call out of the blue from the exec producer telling me that the first choice candidate turned the position... (read in full...)

My world has come crashing down because my wife just told me that the daughter we've been raising is not mine but from her affair after the marriage!

Q.   My wife and i have been married for 3 years, 6 months ago she told me something that rocked my core. the daughter i have been raising is not mine. she had an affair 2 years ago. the reason she cheated was that she was a virgin when we got married ...

A.   21 November 2017: Divorce, might be the answer, but why can't I enjoy my self as well. Am a man ain't I, thats what we do, that's what she told me, she said how come a handsome guy like me never had any sexual experience. She didn't believe me because she said I made ... (read in full...)

Why do I feel so insecure about his ex and his other relationships?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for six months and right from the start we really liked each other. He has been married and split up with her several years ago. He married young and went to another country where she lived to be with her. I feel th...

A.   21 November 2017: She had two children, he went to America and married her. The children did not come back to the UK, they had a father back over there. She has stayed in this country for many years and left her children over America. They were not around when he ... (read in full...)

Does this guy who works with the man I'm sleeping with like me?

Q.   Hello, I'm going to make this question as quick as possible haha! About 8 months ago, I got involved with my boss. He has just quit the company the day we slept together, so technically he wasn't my boss anymore that night, but you get t...

A.   21 November 2017: Yes I get all that. We've always used condoms and birth control.. He's asked me in the past if I was involved with anyone else and I told him I wasn't, but I've never asked him just cause.. Im not sure, I guess I just rather not know. In my mind... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't last long in bed, wha can I do to help?

Q.   I’ve been with my boyfriend only a few months, been best friends for a few years.. we have had talks before and hes pretty open about this issues with me only... He can’t last very long while having sex, my question is what are some options to help ...

A.   20 November 2017: He always focuses on me first. He’s just embarrassed about it and wants to be able to last longer than 3-5 mins.. which i told him was Okay..... (read in full...)

We still sext even though he has a girlfriend, how do I move on?

Q.   For the past two years ive been sort of sexting/sending the odd nude to this guy. Recently though he's gotten into a relationship, however we have still continued sexting etc. We've never slept together its strictly 'cyber'. A few weeks ago (I ...

A.   20 November 2017: These replies.. ouch. Truth hurts but youre all right, I need to burn my bridge and move on.... (read in full...)

Am I reasonable to choose money over potential happiness?

Q.   Dear aunts, I am in a fix as I type this. I made a first attempt at online dating about 7 months ago and the only guy I really had an interest in, we hit it off. It was rocky at first but we are amazing now and not a day goes by without us chatting ...

A.   20 November 2017: I finally told him the truth and he decided we shouldn't give up. He said he will visit me in the new country and we see how it goes from there. He also told me he didnt know the gravity of my situation and would not ask me to pay for flight tickets ... (read in full...)

New Relationship Reflection, Age Gap and Polyamory

Q.   I have been recently seeing a man that is 10 years older than me, I am 21, he is 31. Saw him at the bar and asked for his number, had a date, was pretty nervous but ended well with us making out and finding out we were really physically compatible. ...

A.   20 November 2017: So as an update, neither of us has seen other people. And neither is actively looking. The relationship is acting exclusive except in the label of it being open. I know this does not mean I should expect it to remain this way and need to still check ... (read in full...)

Would this relationship be wrong?

Q.   I've already asked this question but I didn't outback detail in to it so I'm gonna try again! Is it wrong for me to be falling in love with my soon to be step uncle ? I've recently turned 18 and he's recently turned 21. My uncle is marrying ...

A.   19 November 2017: Just want to say thank you to all the answer. Little update we told the family and Everyone but my uncle is happy about it ... (read in full...)

How to overcome the guilt of dating my friend's ex

Q.   Dear Cupids I met this wonderful man. We have been dating for less than two months but our relationship is moving quite fast. It feels so right and ever-since we dated we have not spent a day without talking to each other. He calls and we mee...

A.   18 November 2017: Thanks for this advice. It's not me who is mostly into getting married it is my man who mentions it often. He told me straight up he's looking for a wife but I had told him I do have intentions to marry one day but let us work on building a ... (read in full...)

Help me sort out my feelings

Q.   Hi, I'm not sure where to start really. I've been in a relationship for 4 years. Basically I felt that he couldn't commit to me. He never asked me to move in or when we'd talk about it he'd come up with so many excuses, he had issues showing h...

A.   18 November 2017: Thank you all so much for taking your time out to give me some really good advice. I really appreciate it and I have found it very helpful ??... (read in full...)

Could this relationship be wrong?

Q.   I am falling in love with my soon to be step uncle and I don't know what to do. Do I end things now before it gets out of hand or do we carry on being like we are and tell people about us ? Is it forbidden to date him ??...

A.   17 November 2017: Just want to say thank you to everyone answers ?? As we haven't told the whole family I have spoken to my Nan about it and she's very supporting and said she will talk to the family about the situation ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has hooked up with his best friend?

Q.   I've been dating this guy, and we are crazy about each other. The only thing I'm a little uncomfortable with is the fact that his best friend is someone he's had strong feelings for and hooked up with in the past. plot twist: she is a lesbian. I ...

A.   17 November 2017: I've definitely told him! He's assured me it's not like that anymore so I do trust that but of course it's always in the back of my mind... (read in full...)

Should we remain friends

Q.   I left a man i love because he preferred open relationships. He took the initiative to remain in touch with me by occasionally texting me and asking me out. One one hand, i was still attracted to him and my heart beat whenever i saw his messages. On ...

A.   17 November 2017: Thanks Femmenoir! I still feel unhappy but will try to get through it.... (read in full...)

How do I tell potential dates that I do not engage in sex outside marriage vows?

Q.   Hi I am going to start online dating . I don’t want to have sex before marriage . I am not virgin I was married before. Mostly folks respect your decision ( not sex before marriage) if you are virgin . If you are not virgin they don’t respect ...

A.   17 November 2017: Thanks for all helpful advices. You guys are blessings... (read in full...)

Should I be the first to call like always, or should I let her reach out this time?

Q.   I have been in a seven-year relationship with my girlfriend/ex-girlfriend (I'm not sure which is accurate at this point). We have always struggled with how we resolve conflict. We've been through the break-up-make-up cycle many times. Each time ...

A.   16 November 2017: Thank you again, everyone. I'm having a hard time with this. I didn't have to decide whether to help her or not, about 30 minutes after the text, she sent me another text apologizing for having asked for my help and to never mind, because sh... (read in full...)

Do I fight to keep her or let her go?

Q.   So out of the blue my fiance has broken up with me, we've been together almost 3 years and engaged since May. I love her and want to be with her, she says it's because of my messiness and it's effect on her mental health. I've never been this ope...

A.   16 November 2017: I'm self admitted to being messy, we both have depression and anxiety, she has cyclothimia as well (mild form of bipolar) Everything I've done over the years has been for us, busted my ass working and getting promoted 6 times to ensure we would stil... (read in full...)

He duped me! How do I learn the red flags and move on?

Q.   I had seen this guy in a walking group over the past 5 months. We were friends a few years ago but lost touch. Over the months he has dropped hints that he likes me, has cuddled and held me for long periods of time and kissed my cheek in a loving ...

A.   13 November 2017: I went to the party. He kept staring at me throughout the evening. At one point he and his friends were talking and looking at me. His friends came over and said hello to me but he never came over. He looked again later and a mutual friend shouted ... (read in full...)

I am the mother of five young girls and just found my boyfriend looking at teen girl porn

Q.   My boyfriend is looking teen porn almost every day. He promised me a couple months ago to never do it again when I found stuff that looked WAY too young and wrong. I about had a break down because I have 5 girls almost ready to be teenagers. How is ...

A.   12 November 2017: Yes. I should of been more clear. He used search terms 13teenxxx.. He typed that in.. to me, that's going too far when you look for 13year olds, even if they aren't 13. He never looks at abusive rude crude stuff.. He has been found. So the concern ... (read in full...)

Now he seems interested in finally setting a date I don't want to marry him.

Q.   Hello, new to the site. hoping for some help. I 39 years old and my bf is 46, we have been together for almost 3 years and engaged for 2 of those. When we got engaged i was so happy that i would be planning my wedding, but every time i mentioned ...

A.   11 November 2017: One answer asked if i had ever been married before, no i havent. He has been married twice before. i guess that some thinking and taking needs to happen. I know a lot of things have changed in the time we have been together, yes we have made a life ... (read in full...)

Did I overreact to a situation? Some co-workers say I did and now I feel uncomfortable

Q.   Hey guys this is not a romance question But I just need an opinion as to wether I'm being silly or not Ok there was a work leaving drink a few weeks ago At the drink was a guy ive never seen eye to eye to at work My friend who I was with h...

A.   11 November 2017: Hi thanks for replying Think you've misundestood what I said I didn't say a word It was my friend who took it upon herself to confront him So obviously I was angry and asked her why she did that To which then the other colleague decided... (read in full...)

I am male and I have no sensational feeling during sex

Q.   Hi, I have a very big problem - I do not feel anything during intercourse! Please help me! I am 35 years old and i have had this problem since my sexual debut. And the problem is really simple, yet very complex - I do not feel anything! When I...

A.   8 November 2017: First of all, many thanks to all the answers! I appreciate it a lot and I also understand that it is super difficult to find the solution. Some things to clarify: - Tyler Sage; well "feeling nothing" is that I just feel the warmth of the woman.... (read in full...)

Do I keep trying to contact him? Or cut contact despite his debts to me?

Q.   Dear Cupid. I think I know the answer but I need some advice... So, I have been helping out an ex from seven years ago with rent while he's jobless for the last six months (He rents out a room in a house) (I offered to help him) on top ...

A.   8 November 2017: I'm 24 now. so yes 7 - 8 years with this ex using me. so turns out, he has turned off messages on facebook so I can't contact him, and it appears he has blocked my number too! Is there any point in contacting the police over this? So I tested... (read in full...)

There is no intimacy in our marriage .... is my wife having an affair?

Q.   I have been married for 15 years. Beginning of marriage the sex life was great. Then all of sudden I had to wear a condom didn't want me to orgasm inside her. The kissing stopped was only just a peck on the cheek or lips. Once a month she has dinner ...

A.   8 November 2017: We communicate every chance we have. When I am away working I send her emails and flowers. When I arrive back home take her to dinner, movies, ask her whatever she wants to do we will do. No don't insist believ I mentioned try. But thanks for your ... (read in full...)

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