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Are marriage counselors always right?

Q.   I have recently been to marriage counselling with my husband twice now. our last session ended up with us both getting upset and me crying. she told me to go and see the doctor to get help with my anxiety which is due to me thinking my husband is ...

A.   20 April 2018: This is orw. I dont think he likes to hear the truth about things and when he is in the wrong. i would walk away and have wanted to so many times. the closest ive got is staying in a hotel for the night to get away from him. i havent anyone i can ... (read in full...)

He said he loved me but then he dumped me out of the blue! Do I just walk away and forget it all?

Q.   Hi Everyone I have a really big dilemma and don’t know what to do. Long story short. I was seeing this guy for a little over 2 months. Things were going amazing, we got along well, we wanted the same things out of life, we had many of the same ...

A.   20 April 2018: I’m the OP for this post. Firstly I want to say thanks for the responses! There has been some very thoughtful input. I should mention that his friends have “adopted” me for the lack of a better way of saying it. I have been told that he has... (read in full...)

I'm still sexually attached to the guy that my ex pretended to be. How can I get over this?

Q.   Thank you for reading this. About 10 years ago, I broke up with this guy after a few months when I realized he was abusive. I felt betrayed because we had supposedly been childhood friends. I broke all ties with him. Like most abusers, at first he ...

A.   19 April 2018: Thank you... (read in full...)

Should I be thankful for the little I've got?

Q.   Yes, mod, I’m 17. The only person I can talk to about my depression and anxiety is my boyfriend but I’m stuck in a polygamous relationship with him and his girlfriend. However, I love him and I’m getting tired of sharing him. I just want his body ...

A.   19 April 2018: Thanks for the advice. You helped me see my worth. I should see a therapist but my dad will not care. He never has. I’ll just wait until I turn 18 at the end of the year. I also have social anxiety and anger issues making it hard for me to make new ... (read in full...)

How do I deal with bullying?

Q.   Hi, I am 16. Basically, I get bullied by a lot of people in school. I'm in year 11 now but it's been going on since year 10.It started off with a group of 4 girls, in year 10. They would patronize me, try to embarrass me in front of people to get ...

A.   18 April 2018: But I'm doing exams and they are constantly stuck on my mind ??????... (read in full...)

I'm dating a 48 year old man who lives in utter filth and doesn't know what he wants from life

Q.   I've Been seeing a 48 year old man for about 5 weeks now. He is not physically attractive in anyway. I looked past all this because I am actually pursuing a serious relationship and my criteria isn't based on looks. It would help but doesn't matter. ...

A.   18 April 2018: Just to clarify somethings. I wrote this in the heat of my anger. Yes, I might be desperate to settle down but he is a very gentle and kind man. Both of us are actively seeking a real long term relationship but I guess i can't imagine being stuck ... (read in full...)

My hsband left me for another woman but wont considera divorce.

Q.   My husband left me with other woman his (mistress) it's been 2 weeks now since he left. I'm 37 yr old My husband is 54 and his mistress is 45 year old she's older than me . I want to divorce him coz I don't trust him no more . But my husband ...

A.   17 April 2018: Thank you guys for all your advice. I live in Missouri. Yes! I will go see a family divorce lawyer for consultation. I don't have plan to take him back . He is a betrayal a cheater Im no longer trust him.... (read in full...)

He didnt hurt me enough to leave bruises, but scared me, did I cause this?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for over two years and we have even recently been looking at getting our own place together. We had a lovely weekend. He took me out for food and drinks Saturday and paid for everything. We laughed and danced. It was p...

A.   17 April 2018: I'm going to sound pathetic now. But I'm not strong enough to go through a break up. Before him I was with another guy for 5 years till it ended. I don't understand it. I believe you have one partner forever like our grandparents did. How can you ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend takes his problems out on me because I am white.

Q.   Background info: BF and I have been dating 4 years. We live together now. He's my best friend, and when we are both sober we are happy. My boyfriend is half Navajo Native American (Dine tribe to be technical, as Navajo is a derogatory term ...

A.   15 April 2018: Thank you for those who responded. I read these responses for the first time tonight, after yet another drunken racist rant by my bf. They made me cry. And made me realize that I am being abused. I am not just simply an outlet for him, I'm a damn ... (read in full...)

I've never had a boyfriend but am considering losing my virginity.

Q.   36 F, never had a boyfriend, considering losing virginity So I'm 36 f, considering having sex for the first time. Myriad reasons it hasn't happened yet I suppose. I've never had a boyfriend just don't seem to be attracted to me ...

A.   13 April 2018: OP here...well, issue is that he isn't my bf...he said he's not ready to date. I'm not expecting him to commit or something if we sleep together, I think you misunderstood me answerer #5. My thing is whether or not it will be hard for me to deal ... (read in full...)

Is it okay to tolerate "triggered" disrespectful behavior when I know she doesn't mean it otherwise?

Q.   I'm in a long-term relationship (about 7 years). I've accepted my girlfriend's personality, both the good and the bad. However, I'm finding it more and more difficult to tolerate the way she treats me when we disagree. It seems her "go-to" when ...

A.   12 April 2018: Thanks, everyone, for your input. I'm sure it's difficult to answer a question like this without knowing more. I apologize, I was trying to keep the post brief. So yes, we've had stupid (very stupid) fights off and on over the years. When I s... (read in full...)

My husband has turned into a hateful old man.

Q.   My husband of many years has become very verbally and emotionally abusive. He hates everyone including me. He has alienated even our children and no one comes to visit. I have a 50th high school reunion this summer and I intend on going..I am not ...

A.   11 April 2018: thanks for responding sure a lot has to do with the chronic pain but last night was the straw that broke my back Our grandson came over with his girlfriend and had dinner with us, My husband sat at the table and later in the living room ... (read in full...)

How do I deal with the occasional need to be away from my boyfriend and his daughter?

Q.   Hello all, I am in a relationship with a loving, doting, compassionate father of a two-year old who while is not mine, is a true beam of sunshine and I'd do anything for her. I am twenty, yes--young, was raised without a father and a vague, abusive ...

A.   11 April 2018: Hello all, again :) First, thank you Fatherly Advice and WiseOwlE for your feedback there is not a word I'm not thankful for. WiseOwlE as you put it, "Your family-situation has nothing to with that innocent child. Your boyfriend has no obligation to ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is going to be sleeping at his ex's house this weekend

Q.   My older bf (46), told me(29) that this upcoming weekend we were not going to see each other because he was going to go back to the city where he lived before with his ex wife, and that he was going to do some things, like look for a ...

A.   10 April 2018: @Dionne' Yeah he asked me in the most normal an natural way, are you fine that I stay there or not? an my min went blank and I said with not a lot of enthusiasm,:'' I trust you!!, I feel so stupid I should just have said NO! it's not apropriate even ... (read in full...)

How long before I can tell her I love her?

Q.   I’m in my 40’s and I’ve been seeing my new girlfriend for about 2 months. It’s going well so far and I have really fallen for her. I’m going through all the usual feelings of missing her / wanting to be with her / wanting to message her / thinking...

A.   8 April 2018: Thanks ladies. Both your answers make total sense to me. Overriding everythimg though, I don’t think there is one single correct way to play this. Every person and every set of circumstances is individual and different. One month may be appropriate ... (read in full...)

I don't want to nag but my boyfriend never texts me first!

Q.   Hey all! So my boyfriend and I just got together officially. I noticed in the first month that we talked quite a bit and he initiated the conversation a lot of the time, and he would always call me in the evenings before bed. When we got into the ...

A.   8 April 2018: It’s true that he is otherwise a good boyfriend, the texting is the only issue. And as I said, I noticed this issue happens when he’s not away at school. We see each other 3 to 4 times a week. This past week I spent Monday, and Tuesday with him and ... (read in full...)

He lied about an ex. Should I end things?

Q.   Last night I caught my bf of only 3 weeks in a lie. We started dating in January but only became an official couple in March. When I first started dating him, I asked him when did his last relationship end. He told me he had a gf in the summer of ...

A.   7 April 2018: I appreciate everyone’s advice... I will say that I do get insecure and feel like I’m not enough sometimes because in the past, I was never enough for the guy. I did decide to forgive him and I haven’t thought about it much in the past few days ... (read in full...)

Coping with a mum with BPD and its consequences

Q.   Hi hi, I posted last year about being anxious about how to handle my upcoming wedding, ( i have a mother with undiagnosed BPD) whether to elope or have the party. I had lots of helpful advice on here :) We decided for a wedding party over...

A.   7 April 2018: Thank you WiseOwl, very insightful and very moving words. really helps, my partner says somewhat similar advice, but I feel its bias towards making me feel better! but hearing it from someone else, just concretes I'm doing the right thing I guess, ... (read in full...)

He has a girlfriend but he took my virginity and I think he's the "one" for me

Q.   Hi, I’m in love with a taken guy. We’ve been through so much together. He took my virginity, we fell asleep together, and his mom absolutely loves me. She’s constantly asking about me and says that I should come over more. BUT, he has a girlfriend. ...

A.   7 April 2018: No we never used condoms. ... (read in full...)

Should I let my crush know that I am now single?

Q.   I have a crush on an older man from out of state. He is 39 and I am 28. At one point he showed interest in me but he backed off after realizing I had a boyfriend (we met through a facebook group a year and a half ago). I didn't do much to encourage ...

A.   7 April 2018: I never said I already knew everything. You are correct that this is public forum, however, it applies double. You can say what you want, but I can stand up for myself. And you may call it as you see it, but it appears to me that you are reading ... (read in full...)

How to deal with the pain of family estrangement?

Q.   I was estranged from my abusive BPD mother for eighteen years, because I could no longer take her abuse. My brother, who likely also suffered from BPD, saw this as a personal rejection and wanted nothing else to do with me. He threatened me with ...

A.   6 April 2018: Yes, I'm married to a wonderful man. He and I are very close, but he has been working long hours the past few months. I also have two adult sons, and I'm close to one of them. One of the others has autism, and it's impossible to get close to him. I ... (read in full...)

I've found the love of my life in a chatroom in Poland and I'm planning to move there to be with her

Q.   Last time I post on here, I had visited an escort. I had visit an escort only once and never again. I decided to get back into dating, but I had no success. One day I joined a chatroom and I happen to meet a Polish woman who lives in Poland over a ...

A.   5 April 2018: I live in San Francisco Bay Area and problem is there is too many single men here. It makes dating hard here too much competition. I have tried Plenty Of Fish, OkCupid and apps like Badoo and Tinder. I have not gotten any dates from there or a any ... (read in full...)

Is the size of the take out he brought home a sign he is becoming cheap?

Q.   After dating selfish cheap guys, I'm pretty gun shy. My bf has always been generous w/me and we do pay for each other pretty often. Today he went out to eat and I couldn't make it, so I asked him to bring me some soup. I'm not one to eat a lot, but ...

A.   4 April 2018: My biggest concern is him getting away w/doing the bare minimum out of convenience for himself. ... (read in full...)

How can I fix the relationship I have with my mother?

Q.   It's rare me and my mother ever have an emotional, bonding conversation; I try and start a conversation with her but she just says "Yeah" or "Mhmm" or something to cut the conversation short. The only time we actually have a conversation is when ...

A.   3 April 2018: Thanks WiseOwlE! I didn't think this was a good place to ask this sort of question but I wanted good answers ... and this is where I usually come for the best answers on the internet lol! My biological father is still in my life, I see him about ... (read in full...)

I invited him for some "fun" but he didn't respond. Should I give up or contact him again?

Q.   Hi, I met this guy - 2 years older than me - through a dating site on Wednesday evening. Right after, we told each other that we had clicked, and wanted to get together again - we live really close to each other. Yesterday, when I suggested we m...

A.   2 April 2018: One more thing: he's gay, but maybe he used the date with his female friend as an excuse to meet another male. ... (read in full...)

I'm 25 my girlfriend is 67, its time we went public with the Age Gap.

Q.   This question is about being true to myself in front of my family and friends. I seem like a normal 25 year old guy. I graduated from college 3 years ago. I have a good job. I don't smoke. Don't drink. I go to church when I can. On occasion, I date ...

A.   2 April 2018: I moved in with her this weekend. I didn’t have a lot of things to move, but it still took some time, and of course, she wasn’t much help, but she did try with the lighter things. We were really too busy to settle in, but we did sleep in the same ... (read in full...)

Why my brother is giving me silent treatment ?

Q.   I am sorry ..i know this is a forum where people only discuss about their love problems. I have been a part of this forum for a long time..My issue is related to my family so i decided to share it here only.I don't know whether i am allowed to do ...

A.   30 March 2018: A little update whenever some fight occurs..instead of saying sorry he will completely ignores me. He will act like i am invisible in the house. Like i said..he didn't talk to me for 1.5 month in last was me who went to him and apologised ... (read in full...)

Should I accept a screen role with nudity?

Q.   Hi uncle and aunties. I need some advice. I am an aspiring actress who is still in the middle of completing my bachelors degree at uni. I have done occasional work in TV commercials when I was a child growing up in my home country. I have also acted ...

A.   29 March 2018: While I do not doubt that I would not have gotten the role without my looks, I wouldn't say they created my character just as eye candy. It is hard for me to describe the context of the nudity without giving away the plot. According to my ... (read in full...)

Could this guy have a girlfriend, can I trust him?

Q.   There’s this guy I like and we tend to flirt a lot when we’re around each other. Mainly playful flirt. However he has never explicitly mentioned a gf. And on his cel-phone he has a picture of a random sexy girl (a body builder girl). He even once ...

A.   29 March 2018: Hi guys! Thank you very much for your answers so far. I really appreciate them. HoneyPie: Yes this is the guy from the gym. I have checked his FB and he has no status :S. He never mentions a gf even though I have casually said things like "Oh ... (read in full...)

Anyone have friends or family who knew of your partners affair and DIDN'T tell you?

Q.   Me and my girlfriend been together for over 9 years, only couple of days ago she dropped a bomb shell on me saying she’s been cheating on me with my best friend, my heart sunk, I was heart broken to be hearing this. We met in 2008 till now we still ...

A.   29 March 2018: Not sure how to approach my friend with this... (read in full...)

Was I unreasonable in not accepting my ex boyfriend's friend (female)?

Q.   I had a row with my boyfriend and we broke up last year. I am torturing myself every day with the thought that I was unreasonable and it was my fault. I cannot move on in my mind. I am replaying the whole relationship over and over. My issue was ...

A.   28 March 2018: Thank you all three of you marvelous people. I really really needed to hear those words of support.You all have made me feel a bit better. It still hurts but I know you are right. You all have told me how it is and validated my feelings.You have ... (read in full...)

I'm really into my best friend's ex

Q.   Okay, so this is a very simple story. I am extremely into my best friends ex. We were really good friends while they were dating, and she brought us closer. I always found myself helping them out, and literally being to solution to their problems...

A.   28 March 2018: Also, they broke up because they just werent into eachother anymore. They've been broken up for about a month, and yes we are friends, but they don't hang out anymore. They rather kind of despise eachother.... (read in full...)

Am I wrong to not be friends with my ex because he’s re-established contact with the woman he was hitting on behind my back?

Q.   My ex and I broke up about two months ago because he's moving away. Now, in the beginning of us dating and getting to know each other we had an issue with him talking to and hitting on this one girl behind my back. I ended it with him when I found ...

A.   27 March 2018: This is the OP. Totally understand where you guys are coming from. It's just hard because we started as friends and didn't end on bad terms at all so I wanted us to be a part of each other's lives at some point but I feel almost betrayed and idk how ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants me to take a lie detector test because his brother says him and I had sex

Q.   I have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months now whom I love dearly. I’m 28 and he’s a year older. We live together. So my boyfriend wants me to take a lie detector test because his pathological liar of a younger brother said that we slept togethe...

A.   26 March 2018: Thank you all so very much for Taking the time to reach out to me with advise. I just needed to get out of my head and see what other people thought about the situation and u all have helped me come to a decision so here’s the update! So I went... (read in full...)

I’m worried about my boyfriend and Emily!

Q.   Hi, I'm worried about my boyfriend. Basically, a few months ago, I met him with my friend (let's call her Emily). Emily said she fancied him and I did. He then asked me out which was fine. But Emily was constantly texting him. One day she asked ...

A.   26 March 2018: I am finding it hard to forget about Emily she is always in my mind 24/7. I have ended the friendship yes. But I'm finding it hard to forgive and forget and to stop being so paranoid about the past. How do I forget and move on?... (read in full...)

I'm feeling under pressure and trapped.

Q.   Hi all, I have an issue really bugging me at the moment and beginning to stress me out. I'll give a little bit of backstory: I'm 26 years old, recently gotten together with my first ever GF and everything was going swimmingly and I was very ...

A.   26 March 2018: The situation took a bit of an interesting twist yesterday. Basically what happened was on Saturday, one of my friends asked me if I wanted to hang out which I agreed to. I had been with the same friends on Friday evening. My GF asked if we were ... (read in full...)

Am I crazy for wanting to blow up my marriage and the last 20 years for my first love from 30 years ago?

Q.   I arrived at this site searching on line for "I'm still in love with my boyfriend from 30 years ago", (sigh). I read a really good post, similar to my issue, but in many other ways not similar. My college BF - we will call him "T" - definitely my ...

A.   25 March 2018: Thanks all for replying. Clearly I am teetering, I know what the supposedly "right" thing to do is, but I am not convinced that doing the "right" thing (in this case) is in the best interest of any of us in the situation. I failed to mention that ... (read in full...)

How can I build the sexual tension I need without being labelled a tease?

Q.   I’m currently dating but I’m having a problem with the sexual side of things. Basically, it takes me quite a bit of time to feel ready to have sex with someone. I’m talking about a good few dates to give the sexual tension time to build up and for...

A.   25 March 2018: Thanks everyone for your replies. CMMP you say: “I think you just don't go home with him or bring him home until you're ready for sex” This is exactly my problem in a nutshell. It’s not that I need to get to know the guy more, it’s like I need... (read in full...)

Why am I hopelessly infatuated with this man?

Q.   Hi, I was just wondering if someone could give me advice I'm with my husband for 16 years married 6 and have two wonderful children we had out up's and down's over the years I've been in and out of counselling due to child abuse and suffer with ...

A.   23 March 2018:  Thanks everyone for their responses I took something from each of them, I still feel I could have a connection to this man I tried so hard not too think about him, but he is on my mind so much. I never experienced such strong feeling. I've given ... (read in full...)

I don’t want to hurt this new man, and I also don’t want to wind up in a controlling relationship! Advice please!

Q.   Hello, so I have two questions, both are related. First a bit of background, I was in a relationship with (and married to) a man who ended up being a narcissist and was abusive. (verbally, mentally, sometimes physically) We were together 7 and half...

A.   23 March 2018: First, I want to thank you all for your advice. It is so appreciated. I am not going to mask or justify being in a relationship that is bad for me under the guise of "but I love him so much." Yeah, not happening. I did that once and let me tell you ... (read in full...)

I need advice on stepping back gently from a friend!

Q.   So i have a friend who ive known since i was 9 we are now 40. We do not live near each other about a 2 hour drive away. Its not that i do not want her in my life as she is a nice person and we are there for each other. She has lots of issues (...

A.   21 March 2018: thank you all for your replies. I think as someone has mention below i am seeing that it give me an outlet to bring out the negative in me also and whilst yes life gets crappy i myself am more the type that wants to take control. I have had mental ... (read in full...)

I feel I shouldn't move in til he sorts his children's visitation issue.

Q.   I have been dating my bf for 2 years now. we live separately for the moment he has his home and I have mine. He has asked me to move in his home but, I have declined at the moment for this story I will tell. he has 3 children 9,10 and 18. I have ...

A.   19 March 2018: Thank you once again for your great advice. I wanted to add that finally, my boyfriends three children showed up to his over the weekend . The oldest daughter drives and brought her siblings over for an hour. I was not there and I was so thankful ... (read in full...)

Should I forget him or give him time?

Q.   Hello Everyone, My problem is rather silly. but since it is eating my brain up i decided to post it here and look for answers as to what i shall do next. i have an online friend for a year. we had very friendly conversations but that was about...

A.   19 March 2018: Thank you for answering...... (read in full...)

I wonder if my boyfriend is losing interest in me.

Q.   Hey guys! Need some real advice on this matter. I started dating a guy about 7 weeks ago. I met him last year at random and we would just check in from time to time. One day he asked me out for ice cream and the rest is history.. Anyway, I no...

A.   18 March 2018: Thanks for the advice... I’m not sure why the question was changed to say he was my “boyfriend” but to be clear, he’s not my boyfriend just yet.. We are still hanging out often and talking every night but the texting and calling is what really bugs ... (read in full...)

Is something wrong with me that I’m aroused by evidence of my wife’s cheating?

Q.   I found out that my wife reconnected with a former boyfriend after 28 years via email. They were exchanging email and vivid sexual chats. When I confronted her, she said that it was just imagination and nothing. Although she apologised, she refuses ...

A.   18 March 2018: Thank you for your comments. I still love my wife although she refuses to admit what she did. I guess time heal all wounds. I realized that she is just like any human being, imagining or doing things with another guy. For me, I just take whatever it ... (read in full...)

Do the Aunts think this seems okay at face value?

Q.   Okay, so this has been a big/hectic day. I've been in this relationship 5+ years. It's always been a life partner type scenario. Well today, we got into a fight, words were said, and she threw the "I want to break-up" card. We've had a really rou...

A.   17 March 2018: I should also mention that we both have a realistic idea of how no one is perfect and everyone has flaws. If either of us were to fall in love with another person, it would only mean tackling a different set of problems. Maybe the new person would ... (read in full...)

I missed an opportunity with him that I will never get again.

Q.   About 2 months ago I felt an instant attraction towards someone at my local gym and I know he felt the same way because we were literally staring at each other longer than necessary. Anyway I screwed up because he said hi to me one time and I ...

A.   17 March 2018: Hi everyone and thanks everyone for your responses! :) I had a good giggle because it really is a childish game between us! And it's really annoying! I'm 20 and his 22 years old. I know his is interested in me but his very intimidated by me now all ... (read in full...)

He has broken my trust and lied to me so many times and I love him to bits!

Q.   My partner and i have been together for 2 years in April i am pregnant with his child but he constantly checks out other women i have looked on his phone history and he has been on porn sites i confronted him about it he swears blind he didn't do ...

A.   17 March 2018: Thankyou for your advice but how do i leave him he says he loves me more than anything and we have talked about breaking up in the past and he said he'd be heart broken but i feel like id be more heart broken than he would so how do i do that ... (read in full...)

Older attached man keeps flirting with me

Q.   Hi, agony aunts. I don't have a huge relationship problem or...anything. But I think this older man likes me but I Don't like him. I find him a womanizer and likes young women and teens. Well, he has a girlfriend and a child with her...

A.   15 March 2018: My mom said's ignore him, just like you all did and....she said i'm a grown man. I don't need to answer to him'' I'm with my parents all the time and I don't interact with him really...just a hello and goodbye sort of thing. I don't really live in a... (read in full...)

Why do I feel so rotten when he hurt me so much?

Q.   I made a huge mistake, I've been in a relationship for many years, I have been hurt very badly. Yet I continued to go back time and time again. Long story short he is in a bad place and I tried to be nice and it back fired, now all the I'm sorry's ...

A.   15 March 2018: I need to be stronger then ever now, I am so physically and emotional exhausted, seems like our whole relationship has been dealing with his drama and the rotten things he did. Forgot about the emails, got to block that too. I'm getting emails about ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is on the dole and his mother wants money

Q.   hi my boyfriend of 2 years moved in with me.he is on the dole.he gives me 30 pounds a week to help with bills and food.i work min wage so I pay for all the bills really.if we go out I pay.i never expect my boyfriend to pay because he only has ...

A.   14 March 2018: thank you for your point of was his mam who asked for the money.yet she has another son working full time he hasn't been asked.nor his sister.just my boyfriend he appears to be a soft touch.... (read in full...)

Family and friends want me to present as more "girly girl."

Q.   I’m a girl, I’m not really girly but I don’t dress like a guy either. I just prefer to wear normal casual clothes like a crop top a bomber and nice jeans, vs heels and dresses. I don’t wear makeup, I don’t judge people that do but they seem to judge ...

A.   13 March 2018: I had on a bomber and crop top that day lol and I had went to TGIF. I thought I looked fine. Not trashy, not ugly, not uncoordinated, but simple and cute. [Mod note: link to OPs image deleted due to site guidelines.]... (read in full...)

My fiance lied to me about his health

Q.   Dear cupid , Ive been engaged for a year now , my fiance and i we're supposed to get married at the end of this year , but last minute he drops a bomb on me saying that he has financle issues he needs to take care of and cannot get married this yea...

A.   10 March 2018: Yes my relationship with his is long distance, he is deployed i only see him 1 every 6 months, we hardly spend any time together, i tried so hard to try yo get him to focus on us and our relationship since he promised me marriage at the end of the ... (read in full...)

I'm married but cheating with my old flame and I'm hopelessly in love

Q.   I went to a reunion and as soon as I stood in front of my old flame I knew. I hadn't thought of him in 40 years. I'm happily married and live a plush life. He never married. Even though we live in Different states we've been together twice And...

A.   6 March 2018: Andie I do not pretend I've done nothing wrong There are various ways to be done with an affair.. Counseling won't be based on whether they recommend Disclosure or not ... that is my decision. Counseling is therapeutic for insightful feedb... (read in full...)

I hate sex with my husband!

Q.   OMG. I hate sex with my husband. It was always not great but I thought it would improve over time. I love him very much and I didn’t think that was a reason to break up before we got married. I’ve never discussed this with anyone.A...

A.   6 March 2018: WiseOwlE— nope. If I didn’t love him it would be real easy to think that moving on would be the best plan. I DO love him. That’s exactly why I believed things would certainly improve after we got married. Intimacy may not be driving this ... (read in full...)

15 yr old Daughter completely cut me out of her life without even a hint why.

Q.   Need some advice from the aunts, I hate these problems that you have to try and squeeze into a box, cause there's so much more to it, but I couldn't possibly address it in its entirety but leaving anything out u may not get the whole gist of it, so ...

A.   6 March 2018: Hello everyone, I had a little time and thought I'd jump on here, yes I'm still sober,yes still going to a shrink,the intense guilt has seemed to subside, something I wasn't able to touch on or make clear in this whole situation, and I'd like a few ... (read in full...)

Please help me deal with my family and their unfair expectations!

Q.   I have 3 siblings.2 boys and 1 the middle girl child. I often plays the roles in the family. And sometimes i just sacrifice my time just for my family.Wherever my parents go I always follow them. Whereas my big brother have married and younger one ...

A.   5 March 2018: Noted.Thank you!??... (read in full...)

Should I try a free cuddle buddy website?

Q.   Does anyone have experience with free cuddle buddy websites or know anyone who has used one? I may sign up for one and would like to hear other people's experiences with it because I'm not ready for another relationship, but I do miss being cuddles ...

A.   4 March 2018: Thanks.... (read in full...)

As much as it hurts badly do I need to cut guy 1 off to give myaelf time to get over him? And focus on guy 2?

Q.   Dear Cupids! I am torn between two men in my life. Guy 1 and I dated for 7 months then he had to go back to Greece as his contract for work ended. Now we still chat long distantly it was hard and I broke it off with him. We still talk via Skype a...

A.   4 March 2018: Hey y'all, So the update is that i told guy 1 who is long distance about me dating someone new since i had already been unhappy with a long distance relationship. Ofcourse he wasnt happy and we said we'd have to move on separately. We havn't spoken ... (read in full...)

I was working towards a goal that doesn't exist now.

Q.   I know this isn't a relationship question but everyone on here gives good honest advice. I feel so lost. I was training for the job position higher than mine, and I moved to another department and increased my hours hoping that will leave a goo...

A.   4 March 2018: Thank you both for your advice :) After spending a few days obsessively job hunting late into the night after work I applied for a job nearby that didn't require experience and got an interview and trial shift and have got it :) I start next mon... (read in full...)

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