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I think I did the right thing in breaking up a LDR but I still feel sad!

Q. Hi there, I broke up with my long distance boyfriend about a week ago. He lives in Boston and I'm in California. We were together almost 4 years and were incredibly in love. He was my first serious boyfriend. We saw each other about 3 times a ...

A. 24 May 2013: We actually met online 5 years ago and were friends for awhile and then started dating. We broke up once before a couple years ago and didnt talk for 6 weeks but then got back together. I'm just feeling very regretful. I've never had a real breakup ... (read in full...)

Why do I still have such strong feelings for him? Is this love or am I just crazy?

Q. I fell in love with a guy 26 years ago. It was love at first sight for me. The whole nine yards. To this day all I have to do is think about him and I get butterflies in my stomach. After dating for 7 months we figured out we were first cousins. I ...

A. 24 May 2013: I left town many years ago after we broke up. We didn't speak for almost 20 years. We did have a phone conversation about 4 years ago and talked for 2 hours. It was a great conversation. We haven't spoken since. I am back home now and we live in a ... (read in full...)

Is it fair on us to be considering a LDR with her, in view of our past together?

Q. Dear Cupid I m in a tricky situation. my ex and I broke up last November after about 3 years . The relationship wasn't perfect but good. She had trust issues and at times she used to be really angry over the smallest things. We had loads of fig...

A. 24 May 2013: Thank you both for your responses! You both are right and I felt the same way since November that we can never be same again! 'I love you' missing is well pointed out and It came as surprise that I didn't mention it when she was once someone I w... (read in full...)

When is the right time to take down dating profile when you've met someone you like?

Q. Hi Aunts I've been dating someone for several weeks, all is going well, and it's getting increasingly intimate though we havent had sex. I only date one person at a time, which is still normal for my generation in the UK. I met him online and...

A. 24 May 2013: Fair enough, anon. I won't take down my profile but I'm not comfortable dating other people. It's not 'normal' for me and it goes against the grain. It's not really typical in the UK for people to date multiple people (compared to the US), though ... (read in full...)

Guys 20 and up--what's your take on this guys action and what should I do next?

Q. So we are both in our mid-20s and studying the same course at university. We're not friends, but we're friendly- have done a few group assignments together and sometimes talk to each other before class. I honestly have no idea how he feels about me- ...

A. 24 May 2013: Thanks for those suggestions- it's just a waiting game now, until we go back to university but it's eating me up- wondering whether I will get a chance to talk to him, and how I can make him see that I was being genuine in asking him out, but all ... (read in full...)

Is he interested? I'm not sure what to do next!

Q. Hi guys, I am ordinarily a well put together 36 year old woman but find myself in Unchartered territory. I have recently been having a flirtation with a guy (which is an alien concept as I have been on my own for a long time) in person he is ...

A. 24 May 2013: Thank you to everyone for all of your comments. I was so consumed with the fact I found this man attractive that I was letting my heart rule my head. As I stated previously, it is rarely I find someone attractive although I am asked out on dates all ... (read in full...)

I caught my husband texting a co-worker. He says its not cheating but I think it is!

Q. I caught my husband texting a female co worker. She is much younger and a single mother (pretty too). He was texting her late in the evening and even from business trips. He never texted me from the business trip. I caught him in some lies about ...

A. 24 May 2013: Thank you for all of the advice. I am going to speak to my husband tonight. ... (read in full...)

Should I put it out there that I have feelings for her?

Q. I know I shouldn't be, but I'm really pumped right now, and my head is swimming in possibilities. I've known this girl for 2 years, she was one of the first girls I met at college. I've always thought she was great, but up until about 8 months a...

A. 24 May 2013: Thanks Mandy!! I do appreciate you taking the time to read and type that out. I mostly just wanted to type this all out because that helps me get a clearer picture of what's going on in my head lol. Plus it doesn't hurt to get a second opinion.... (read in full...)

My long distance girlfriend has been avoiding me

Q. Actually my girlfriend has started behaving strangely from past few days.. we are in a long distance relationship and now we are going to complete our 2 months. so here my problem goes.. we have met just 2-3 times then we came in a relationship o...

A. 24 May 2013: thnx wiseowle.. i am totally satisfied with your answer. I will try my best to forgot her but its very difficult for me because i have loved her more than my life..!! :( and i also wanna add that we didnot met online. Actually i have gone to... (read in full...)

At what point has a relationship boundaries been crossed and the necessity for privacy to go by the wayside?

Q. Hi, I've been struggling with some issues in my relationship. My girlfriend of a year has remained in contact with some exes. She has stated that its not a big deal they just message her on occasion and the conversations do not really go beyond...

A. 24 May 2013: @Abella - I agree with some of your points regarding previous relationships. I do not agree with her as having an ego or 'needing' attention. She has always been very self sufficient. In terms of true love; I can say that I love her unconditionally. ... (read in full...)

What is appropriate? From the moment I was introduced to this woman, she has been rude and condescending to me. Do I stay home or demand he end the friendship?

Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for the last year. Very early in our relationship I was introduced to a female friend/colleague of his. This woman was the partner of one of his close friends, he knew them as a couple for almost 20 years. The ...

A. 23 May 2013: Thank you for all your replies, your opinions are appreciated. I did not let this woman see me cry, I was alone with my boyfriend when I let myself give in to tears. I do not react at all when she makes all of her snide comments. I feel that if ... (read in full...)

What advice can I give my friend whose long distance boyfriend seems aloof?

Q. Hi there, It's been a long time since I was here. You all were great help. So now I'm back with a question for my friend. My friends have been in a relationship for 5 years. Mostly they are in Long Distance Relationship, since the boy went to st...

A. 23 May 2013: PS: they are truly in love, because the boy does seriously think about their future as getting married or settling down together. ... (read in full...)

How can I tactfully reject him?

Q. Hello, First off thank you in advance for taking the time to read and offer advice :) I have a FRIEND that insists on hanging out with me and stuff. He invited me to a wedding in Washington state, he calls me "sexy", "Pretty lady" and things...

A. 23 May 2013: Correction: i didn't mean that he will "always be readily available" I mean that he is always willing to accomodate to my circumstances and while that is AMAZING... it just loses its appeal after he is willing to accomodate to my every ... (read in full...)

I don't know if I've had an orgasm. What does it feel like?

Q. Hey, I'm just going to get right down to what I want to ask. I just recently lost my virginity and before any of you very nice agony aunts ask if I used protection and all that. I did, that was the first thing I made sure we had, it was a whim, bu...

A. 23 May 2013: Thank you so much for the responses. I'll try out some of them things and hopefully I can get my first orgasm! :) ... (read in full...)

Why does my ex want nothing to do with me?

Q. My ex broke up with me 7 months ago and has maintained no contact since then. I have always loved him and a part of me still does, and I accept that he does not want to be with me anymore, but why doesn't he at least want to be friends with me? I...

A. 23 May 2013: This is the OP. Thank you all for your advice. My ex could not handle emotional intimacy. It scared the hell out of him. I believe he may have had Schizoid Personality Disorder. He could not feel what I felt, which was love. I thought the ... (read in full...)

Am I too needy or is she not really as into me as I am thinking?

Q. This might be long because I really need help and want anyone who can help to have as many "facts" as possible, but I'll be as brief as I can... I became friends with my girlfriend over a two year period that eventually blossomed into romance. A...

A. 23 May 2013: Wow, all of these responses were incredibly helpful and I didn't expect that. Almost every response seems to have shed light on some aspect or another of this relationship. After reading through these responses I think I am probably just being too ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend may be hiding her past from me. How can I know whether she's a virgin?

Q. Hey friends.. I have a girlfriend and i love her much. we are in relationship from past 2 months. we met and became friends in her hometown. actually i guess that she is hiding her past from me and i dont feel good..so here her past goes.. ...

A. 23 May 2013: thnx for your answers but as i told you she is a fast forward type of girl. I did not even asked her any questions related to genitals she only started first, so i have to respond in a positive way.. Actually someone told me that if someone press... (read in full...)

He wants to get married and have children and I'm not sure yet. Do I stay and have kids or do I let him go?

Q. I have been together with a guy for two years. We live together and for the most part, things are fine. We come from different cultures and are quite different as people, but we get on well in many respects. I'm happy enough with him but he doesn't ...

A. 23 May 2013: Oh wow, thank you to everyone who took the time to respond. You have all pretty much said what I knew deep down but have been afraid to admit - that this guy is not right for me and having a child with him would be a big mistake. I know that 27... (read in full...)

Struggling to trust my girlfriend after she kissed another man....

Q. My situation is that my long term girlfriend of 9 years kissed another man at work. She came clean about it all and turns out that this dick has been pursuing her for about 6 years! She said she got curious and kissed him and that she immedia...

A. 23 May 2013: I'll give you a little more info. This man doesn't actually work for the same company. He's a delivery guy who makes regular deliveries to her place of work. I have brought up the subject and i agree with you, it is harassment. The problem is, this ... (read in full...)

How do I teach my partner to apologise and show him it isnt a sign of weakness?

Q. My partner doesn't know how to sincerely apologise. He can do something wrong but he will never say sorry, let alone mean it. He will most likely get angry with me and find something to blame me for and turn it all around. My question is, how...

A. 23 May 2013: Thanks for the response, appreciate it. Is there any way your mum could go about it differently that you have noticed in any way so I could try a different angle with him (as in, say something different that might help him understand where I'm comi... (read in full...)

Why did she go out of her way to unblock me from Facebook?

Q. In short... .I got lead on by a girl for 3 months. .She wasn't over her ex boyfriend which is why she ended things after 3 months. .She was kind of sorry for hurting me badly but tried to cover it up. .She said she wanted to remain friends...

A. 23 May 2013: I know but why not keep someone blocked forever. She obviously thought about unblocking me.... (read in full...)

Do you think he has started having different feelings? If so I might as well end this relationship.

Q. So for the past 5 months I have been in a fwb relatioinship with a friend I met thru a friend. The thing is I'm married and he's not married but is already in a relationship himself. So we work on eachothers schedule. Now the sex isn't always the...

A. 23 May 2013: thank you I really appreciate your words.... (read in full...)

Had the second date and I really like her, but she's not responded to my texts for a week!

Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, I have been on two dates with a wonderful woman and over the course of these dates I have found out that she is perfect for me in every way. The problem is that even though the dates were successful it seems that I'm n...

A. 23 May 2013: I gave her a call yesterday but only got voice mail and got no response today. I guess I'll just take it as it is. I'm not interested in dating anyways and only wasted my time because it was just something that came my way. ... (read in full...)

I don't think I'm dating material, I worry too much about my skin color

Q. I don't think I'm relationship material. I'm a darkskinned black woman who is very insecure my complexion. If I go out on a date with a guy, I fear that he will look at lightskinned women and wish he was with them. Or he'll notice prettier women. ...

A. 23 May 2013: No man wants me. In my city everytime I see a black guy with a black girl, she's lightskinned. ... (read in full...)

Dodgy messages on husband's phone, suspicions of a prostitute, should I phone the person to see who it is?

Q. I have been married for almost ten years and we have a six year old son. My husband has always been interested in porn (every year or so he slips up and I "find" something, particularly quite young women although not illegal), but I have had no ...

A. 22 May 2013: Hi everyone, Can I just say that all your replies were very good and very positive. I am new on this site but found it very worthwhile, unlike some sites which are just magnets for trolls... Well, I followed the advice re contacting the person, a ... (read in full...)

How come he can't find 5 minutes for me? please help, what should I do?

Q. hey everyone. i'm right now in a disturbing relationship. my bf is older than me, he is very sweet, intelligent, and he loves me a lot. we have been together for one year. in beginning he was not too good but was not too bad either. he texted m...

A. 22 May 2013: i think the same, i think he wants to leave me but is afraid to do so, maybe its pity or something. but whenever i confront him, he starts to spend time with me for somedays. i dont feel secure in this relation at all... (read in full...)

I'm truly in love with my teacher, should I wait 2 years to be with him?

Q. I'm in love with my 35 year old maths teacher... and, please don't tell me it's just a crush, because I've researched into what love feels like, and I asked my mum (not telling her about my teacher though) so I know for sure that I'm in love with ...

A. 22 May 2013: Oh my god. I just logged into my account after two years and read through all this, and I have to say, I can't believe I was so stupid! Hahaha! I may as well provide all of you with an update whilst I'm here, I'm 17 now and in year 12 at college.... (read in full...)

Broke up a month ago. Does he still love me? He said his "real friends" are stopping him from dating me again.

Q. I broke up with my boyfriend around a month ago. we've dated for 2 and a half years, though i was the one who suggested a break up, i miss him so much, and i actually want him back. The reason why, i suggested a break up was because we always h...

A. 22 May 2013: Thank you for your advice... He told me that he will take me back but he wants some time but i was very impatient and asked him if he actually wanted to beback together as i didn't want to force him if he didn't want to and also asked him how long ... (read in full...)

How do I ask my parents permission to stay over at my Bf's house so I can meet his parents?

Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly three months. We met through my friend going out with his friend (kinda complicated but that's the basics). I'm 17 and he's 19. He's met my parents and he wants me to meet his, and they're really ...

A. 22 May 2013: Firstly, sorry it's taken me so long to get back to you all, I had my last exam at college this week so I've been preparing for that. Secondly, I asked my parents in the end if I could stay over at my boyfriend's house. It took a little conv... (read in full...)

What do you think? Why does he choose to talk to me about girls he thinks are hot? It makes me uncomfortable.What to do?

Q. My boyfriend seems to be really comfortable talking about how some girls are hot. It makes me feel really uncomfortable and puts the thought in my head that he might go after another girl. Am I overreacting? Also yesterday, he mentioned ...

A. 22 May 2013: When it comes to saying "I love you", I'll say it back to him and then he says "you better". Makes me confused... (read in full...)

She flirts virtually, not as much in real life, I'm interested: not sure what to do

Q. Very recently, I met a girl through a professional social network (weird, I know!). We started chatting, texting every other day, till we decided to meet. After the first meeting, I made it clear that I was interested in her romantically. (I said it ...

A. 22 May 2013: New development! 'yay, so exciting' - which shows that my gut feeling wasn't wrong. She went dark last Saturday, for no reason. After a text and an 'are you okay?' email, she came back to me tonight to say: "...I have been wrongfully leading you on ... (read in full...)

I really love him but feel like running away. I can't cope with the fact that he had a daughter from a one night stand

Q. My boyfriend and I have been together since June 2012. He had a one night stand with a friend before we ever got together. Turns out she got pregnant. When she found out he he had denied being the father because she had slept with other guys too. ...

A. 22 May 2013: I don't think I'm ready to tackle the step mom role and I don't think I will be able to. You're right about everything you said and it's comforting that you said not a bad person for feeling the way I have been because I have felt horrible about ... (read in full...)

He told me he's not thinking of marriage yet! Am I wrong to be disappointed?

Q. Hi im with a ldr now with my boyfriend and we been 3 years knew each other via skype and call. And always visiting me here every year, despite of the distance he always make effort to see me. He lives in Slovakia and i lived in Singapore and im ...

A. 22 May 2013: thank you so much for your advices. so now I don't know what to do makes me feel dissapointed I was thinking to be alone for sometime and avoid his calls and text. just to try to forget him,. maybe I should wake up in my dream and face the reality ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend tells other women he's single when he's not

Q. I don't know where to start, other than to say simply -- I'm conflicted. I have been with the same person for four and a half years, since I was 17 and he was 18. I was his first serious relationship, and we were each other's first loves. But he h...

A. 22 May 2013: Thank you both for your well thought answers, and for taking the time. k_c100, that is exactly what I needed to hear, and exactly what I would tell anyone in my situation; it's just hard to see it in myself. It's hard to think that it's just not... (read in full...)

Should I confront my ex-bestfriend who is now sleeping with my soon to be ex-husband?

Q. My best friend and my husband are now lovers. She left her husband, he left me. She has two kids and we have one. She and he have discussed kicking me out of our family home and them moving in. I suspected something was going on for so long...

A. 22 May 2013: Good idea.... (read in full...)

New relationship advice needed! How much togetherness is too much? Do I push back on the alcohol issue?

Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for almost 2 months. We met at work and so far everything has gone fairly well. So far, we only have 2 issues that cause a little tension. When we first started talking as friends, she mentioned that there was an ...

A. 21 May 2013: Thanks for the encouraging words. In response to the last post, I do see her as possibly being "the one", and yes she is still deciding. It's just really hard to not see her since we live literally a building apart, and at times I can tell it ... (read in full...)

So girls, would you rather have a chat and a long cuddle etc from a guy you are attracted to, or better that he not approach you at all, if he can't give you more time?

Q. Question for girls, I have quite long periods when I don't have time to date girls, due to time restraints of work and being on call there. My job requires me at times to be in the busy nightlife area. I often get signals from girls trying to get me ...

A. 21 May 2013: OP here: ....or, so very confused....maybe when a middle age woman sees a young girl on the hands of a handsome middle age guy...would she possibly get a trifle jealous and think "that's not fair, he should be with me...."? BTW, after telling ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants to call me a different name during sex!

Q. Ok so now my Long term boyfriend has asked if he could call me by another girls name during sex. Im very uncomfrotable and seriously am thinking of breaking us up. Is this normal??? And then when I told him no he went soft during sex. Lost his hard ...

A. 21 May 2013: Based on the fact that he didnt talk about role play before the request and I simply dont believe him. Im pretty sure even tho he didnt give me a answer as too who she is I think Its a porn Star. That um strangely he may be crushing on. Or Mybe he ... (read in full...)

Why is he really chatty with other girls but not with me?

Q. Why does he do that? I don't understand him? So there's this cute guy that I've liked for a while now. He has alot of girly friends and is very chatty with them but he tends to be very quiet with me. Whenever he's talking to them and ...

A. 21 May 2013: He randomly told me he needs a massage but I couldn't say anything. Why am I so shy with him:( grr I hate that!! ... (read in full...)

I'm scared that my new boyfriend with his shady past may hurt me, or leave me!

Q. My boyfriend has a very shady past,he ws never in love,has had meaningless sex and not treated women thaat well! And I met him and the first 2 dates I thought may be he wants the same from me,but after those 2 dates he started liking me more,wan...

A. 21 May 2013: He was in my city for study purpose,he's done with that,and I meant him at the time he was giving up his apartment and was ready to leave the city for good! He even pushed his tickets back for a week just to spend time with me! He got a good job... (read in full...)

How can I help my grandad fulfill his dreams when my family is standing in the way?

Q. My grandad is 86. He has prostate cancer, dementia, severe arthritis, can barely walk or sit up on his own and has been in and out of hospital recently for traces of pneumonia in his lungs which are now (fingers crossed) gone. I would like to cr...

A. 21 May 2013: I'm not sure about you, but I would also call completing a year of college as "furthering my education" - or was that overlooked/forgotten?... (read in full...)

Pregnant and lonely, husband is always working?

Q. Dear cupid, I don't know what to do or who else to talk to about this but I really need to let it out. I'm halfway through my pregnancy with my first child and I'm feeling so down all the time. It was planned and I'm not unhappy that we're havin...

A. 21 May 2013: I'm the OP, I meant to put husband to be at the top x... (read in full...)

5 years together...and then a new girl enters my life.

Q. I have been in a relationship for 5 years. And I admit that i'm a good and committed lover. In-fact, this is my first relationship. Well Everything's going well. The honey moon period is over, we had our good and bad times together as a coup...

A. 21 May 2013: Thank you, i have made up my mind to stay as where i am now till the fire burns out, then i'll sort my mind out. At this point of time, everything is far too painful. ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend said he needed time to "discover himself" does it sound completely over? And how can I cope?

Q. My 21 year old boyfriend and I (also 21 y.o.) split last night. It's more of a "break" but he doesn't want to call it that because it might not be a temporary thing. Basically, in a nutshell, my boyfriend of more than 3 years hasn't been himself ...

A. 21 May 2013: Tisha, thank you SO much for your advice. I ordered the book. You are great! I am ACTUALLY doing a LOT better and it hasn't even been a week yet. :)... (read in full...)

Is it normal to climax quickly after the first round of sex?

Q. Hello guys, this is a thing disturbing me and I'll try keeping this question as short as possible. Am 19 and whenever I've sex my first round is like a "quickie". I can bearly last for more than 2 min but the second and third round I can at least...

A. 21 May 2013: you shouldn't be thanking me, it should be me thanking u instead. you mean he last longer while with urine? am yet to try that. ... (read in full...)

Who is right for me, my ex who calls me a big sh**t or the lovely new guy?

Q. I need a litle help... this is a complex story and my head heart and body mind all torn! Well, I met my boyfriend november 2009 we were so happy both dairy farmers and so much in common going everywher together, now I had personal problems at home...

A. 20 May 2013: I won't lie I'm still very hurt by my ex and feel the ejection of it all daily but my partner is so special and thinks the world if me, but I think once again I have a controlling man but this time he wants to help me reach my dreams not drown them ... (read in full...)

If I want optimal results, should I be clean shave, have some stubble, or full beard?

Q. I know looks are only part of what women want, and other factors for attraction come into play, like how active I am, how I take care of myself, etc. But, my question here is, what should I do, facial hair wise, to get some more potential suitor...

A. 20 May 2013: My facial hair is growing at a somewhat slow rate. Why is this? I hope it's not age, as I'm only in my early 20's.... (read in full...)

Attempts at sex cause pain and bleeding. This isn't right is it?

Q. So I've been trying to have sex with my boyfriend and whenever he inserts his penis in my vagina the pain is awful and then I begin to bleed. So as soon as its hurting I ask him to take it out, which he does. I thought once you inserted at least ...

A. 20 May 2013: My boyfriend is experience and is going slow and gently. It's just pain is awful. The blood I can expect and the pain but to the level of how painful it is I didn't expect. We have tried with fingers no problems even managed 2.... (read in full...)

My husband has been hiding that he's talking to his ex-fling on FB. What to do about him?

Q. We've been maried for 3months now. i'm just 22 and hes 24 maybe too young for marriage. We've been LDR for 2years then got married. We've been LDR again for about 2 months now, and he did it again, chatted wih his ex fling, admits he did but refu...

A. 20 May 2013: We are now taking things slowly and still working out on our relationship. I told him that i cudnt forgive him for it but im giving him a chance for the sake of our marriage and my love for him. But before we settled to this a really hardcore figt ... (read in full...)

I was hurt by what he said but he acted fine afterwards. Is he just taking me for a ride?

Q. So I'm with this man 6 months now and we are spending all the time we have 2gether,its not a lot of time but when we are 2gether we are so happy. This man thinks the world of me,he thinks I'm the most gorgeous woman alive and feels lucky to be with ...

A. 20 May 2013: Thanks so much for ur answer janniepeg,was very helpful. From the sounds of it do u think his love for me is genuine enough though?that's what my whole confusion is over really,small things like this just kinda triggers it off!! I've always been a ... (read in full...)

When to reveal a disability during online dating?

Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...

A. 20 May 2013: If I still live with my partner, and am going through a messy divorce, I wouldn't go on a dating site!... (read in full...)

Is it right for an ex to buy you jewelry?

Q. Back once again about the obsessive ex. He texted me and said he has to see me tomorrow night (mothers day) because its important but says he won't be up until 9 at night my son is in bed by then. So I asked him why and he said he had to drop ...

A. 20 May 2013: Well new update. We asked him to return the earrings he refused so my step mom suggested I return them and put the money in an account for my son since he refuses to give me anything for him. The other day he texted me and said he was at peace about ... (read in full...)

Hidden past, hypocrisy and lies. Problem is I'm deeply in love with her and I don't know what to do anymore

Q. I was in a miserable 15 year LTR for the sake of a child. I have been faithful my whole life however, until a certain girl arrived. I fell deeply in love with her, explained it to my LTR and left. My new girl left her boyfriend and we became ...

A. 20 May 2013: Thanks, Yos.... (read in full...)

Should I participate in hanky panky with a colleague while out of town?

Q. Just feeling a bit naughty I suppose. Soon I will be going out of town to San Diego for a 4 day class and conference. My husband has declined to join me so I am thinking of sharing a hotel room and bed with a very nice attractive young gentleman in ...

A. 20 May 2013: Thank you for all responses:)... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has a one way ticket and is trying to sell all his stuff!

Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 5 years and have for the last 6 months or so been having some issues, out of frustrationa and feeling hurt from all his bullying antics i told him i wanted him leave. We spoke about it again after and i topd ...

A. 20 May 2013: Thank you for your advice. ... (read in full...)

I haven't heard from him for a long time, and miss him a lot!

Q. Thanks for help first. I knew a man three years ago from a party. Since I was married at the time, we never talked and saw each other again. I am separated now. Since I was lonely, I went to sing and met the same man again. I told him I wo...

A. 20 May 2013: Thanks, but he did ask me out before and had dinner with me before. and he did say that he liked me. I feel when he was asking me out to doing thing together that was the first step of dating. I do not understand that why he stopped to call and ... (read in full...)

I feel unwanted and unworthy of being in my family. What can I do to distance myself as much as possible and not just revert back to "forgiving" them and letting them continue it?

Q. My parents are ALWAYS on my case and never follow through when telling my 14yo brother to do something. It sounds petty, but it's constant and my brother takes advantage of it and shoves it in my face. If I could afford to move out, I would, but I'm ...

A. 19 May 2013: I never said that to them - they've talked to me about it.... (read in full...)

My only problem with him is his parents!

Q. Let me start by saying my partner and I are 27 and 28. We have pretty much the perfect relationship. We never argue, fight, lie or hide anything from eachother. We are so happy together. We have had problems in the past from outside influences but ...

A. 19 May 2013: I made the typo of husbands!! I meant husband!!! Also here - I cant understand how easy it would be for a son to be blinded by it all and not back up their partner. Its can not cant :)... (read in full...)

Want a low cost way to get a flat stomach by Dec 2013. Is my goal achievable and how?

Q. I am 1.63m/5'4" and I weigh 66kg/146lbs and 20 percent body fat. I want to get a flat stomach and get my body fat down to 10-12 percent by mid December. I don't know how to do this when I have a limited budget for food and can't eat 5 times a day ...

A. 19 May 2013: Thank you all for the advice. and @abella I will update this post every month. I think knowing people are paying attention to my progress will keep me motivated to achieve my goal... (read in full...)

I yelled at her and due to her past it's left her feeling traumatized. Now she's ignored me for 2 days. How can I make things right?

Q. in need of help... two nights ago, out of frustration and in the heat of the moment, i slightly raised my voice at my girlfriend of 6 months. this was the first time I ever did that. I simply got upset over something involving us. later on i...

A. 19 May 2013: @ anonymous: "You need to NOT yell unless its a very serious situation." I don't think I yelled @ her. I would say "defensive raised voice" as you put it. @ anonymous: "Honestly you need to work on your temper and communication in... (read in full...)

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