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What would you do in my situation? Travel first or settle down now, travel in retirement?

Q.   I have been in a relationship with a man for a year. I'm pretty happy with this guy. We've had ups and downs, but overall things are good between us. We love each other. We have a holiday booked together and are planning to move in together. Howeve...

A.   16 July 2018: HI everyone. I just wanted to say a really big thank you for all of your kind answers. I was overwhelmed by the advice you have given me. Thank you. Ok, so, I want to say that I do have a really good relationship with my boyfriend. We have only bee... (read in full...)

This confusing guy is sending mixed signals!

Q.   So I met this guy off a gay dating app. We had tremendously good sex. As he left my house he told me he "really wanted" to see me again. He lives in a different city and for a hook up from an app, it was brave of him to say that. I asked him when he ...

A.   15 July 2018: Hi guys, maybe some details I left out. But I definitely agree with a lot (but not all of the advice given). We met on Tinder, we had matched once before and 6 months later he tried again. The day before we hooked up I went and met him with his ... (read in full...)

I overheard my wife saying that her ex was the best sex she'd ever had and now my ego is shattered!

Q.   So my ego has been devastated and I really don’t know how to handle this. Turns out I’m not the best sex my wife has ever had. Any advice is appreciated. About a week ago my wife had one of her friends at our house for some drinks. After ha...

A.   11 July 2018: Thanks everyone for the replies. I’m reading some really harsh responses by some, but maybe these hard truths are necessary to hear. I actually agree with what has been said. I AM grateful to have a wonderful wife who the act of cheating hasn’t ... (read in full...)

My ex has I have slept together too many times!

Q.   My ex and I go to the same college. We see each other a lot considering we have many of the same friends. We broke up two months ago because I was stressed out a lot, and he was too about school and things happening with his family. But rece...

A.   7 July 2018:  I took your advice. I distanced myself, stayed away from him. And he stopped by a few days ago to tell me that he didn't want to have sex anymore, that he wanted to start over. I turned him down, to work on myself and my independence and growth. ... (read in full...)

To have sex or not ever have sex?

Q.   Mod note: combined posts Why are people hypocrites when it comes to sex? And by that I mean, I am a 26 year old virgin and my friends tell me to wait and how my virginity is such a great gift. They will tell me I am lucky to be virgin, that sex ...

A.   4 July 2018: Everyone, thanks for the insight. I’m just going to wait until marriage to have sex. I’ve waited this long, so I might as well just keep waiting. I won’t confide to my friends anymore about my sex life (or lack thereof) / virginity. I’ll simply ... (read in full...)

I need help in letting him go!

Q.   We met online, he is kind, sweet, committed and just a good soul. I wasnt awfully attracted to him physically but he is the kindest man on this planet so I decided to meet him anyway. I was still not attracted to him but felt because he is such a ...

A.   3 July 2018: Thanks for the replies... I did say there's some level of attraction considering I am ok with him when we are ALONE. He is just very touchy n although I dont mind that, with him I feel embarrassed and yes I feel bad about it and I dont know what to ... (read in full...)

Some colleagues at work are targeting me and I feel that they'll complain against me yet again and have me fired. How do I handle things?

Q.   Hello everyone, how do you deal with a petty, catty work environment? Honestly, I feel like I just need to vent to some helpful strangers with the comfort of knowing no one will ever find this. However, any advice will be appreciated. I am a yo...

A.   2 July 2018: Youcannotbeserious, I cannot thank you enough for that answer. It was so reassuring and kind, and genuinely helpful. Thank you 3... (read in full...)

How could my girlfriend move on from a 4 year relationship so quickly and already be with another man?

Q.   Two Weeks ago, my relationship of 4 years ended with my girlfriend. i have been devastated, things have not been good for a while, but i was willing to do whatever it took as i never saw myself being with anyone else. we have not been intimate in ...

A.   1 July 2018: Thank you all, I think I’m just searching for vaidation in my feelings, it’s hard, and after 4 years this is going to take time. Letting go is what I need to focus on, it’s just hard. Things should have ended a while ago, I was just hanging on to ... (read in full...)

My pregnant wife swears and breaks things when angry, sometimes I think I'd rather raise the baby as a single dad.

Q.   She is 36 weeks pregnant. I've been night shift all week and sleeping during the day. I have university 2 days per week and I will go straight from work to a half day of uni. Return home about 4pm and sleep until 10pm then go to work. I'm full ...

A.   30 June 2018: 3 months after the birth, she now has been charged with an AVO. Every year for the past 7 years she has gone back to China alone. Says she needs a break from me. She chooses times that I cannot come with her. This time she wants to go for 2 week... (read in full...)

How to tell my family that I may never get married..

Q.   Hi. I'm a 36-year-old guy living in a traditional society. Physically speaking, my interest in women is almost nonexistent, as have been scarce my sexual experiences with them. Until two or three years ago, I used to go on many dates with girls, i...

A.   28 June 2018: I'm not against dating and having an LTE, but this would be much more realistic with a man. The hitch is that this is also virtually impossible where I live due to also me not being out to my family etc..... (read in full...)

I planned a trip with friends and now they are going on a day I can't go

Q.   I planned a trip to a theme park and invited a couple of friends. I was excited about this. Then one if those friend's invited another couple of friends. One of those friends can't go on the day I am going, so they are now going on another day that ...

A.   28 June 2018: Yeah, when it came to deciding a day everyone was flexible until the extra person, who I didn't invite, said he couldn't go on one day that turned out is best for me and my travel options. So I said, I have to go on this day, but they'd already ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend tells me he doesn't want kids, I leave crying and I haven't heard from him since. How is he so cold?

Q.   My LDR boyfriend of a year and a half finally admitted to me that he had 100% decided that he doesn't want kids. I am 40, have frozen my eggs and most days I feel the incredible yearning for a family. I say "finally admitted" because he has k...

A.   28 June 2018: Thank you for all your kind and honest answers. This board has been a great support for me. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's ex wants to meet him for coffee!

Q.   My boyfriend asked me if I would be okay if he met his ex for coffee. His ex reached out to him wanting to catch up while she is in town for some official business. My boyfriend's ex ended their relationship a year ago and is currently seeing ...

A.   27 June 2018: Thank you for your responses. And thank you for assuring me it was the mature thing to do. I ended up telling my bf that I thought it was unnecessary for our relationship at this point, but nothing more. So he will be meeting her tomorrow. I ... (read in full...)

Am I mean to delete all our photos from his phone?

Q.   I plan to break up with my boyfriend but I don't want to let him know until I delete all our photos together from his phone. Am I mean to delete all our photos from his phone? I never wanted to take pictures with him in the first place because I ...

A.   26 June 2018: why i did this is because before we started dating. He was already showing pictures of me to his friends which I detest. I am not a trophy and he doesn't even treat me as such. When i asked him to delete pur photos, he refused and he has pict... (read in full...)

What if I fail ......

Q.   Hello everyone! I am in the middle of some crazy studying because very soon I’ll be taking a competitive examination (if I pass I will have to take another three competitive examinations in the course of the next year) to upgrade my career and get a ...

A.   26 June 2018: I would like to thank you all from the bottom of my heart for your wonderful replies. Thank you for taking the time to reassure me, share your experience, give advice and help me put this situation into perpective. I really appreciate it. I will ... (read in full...)

I want to let the past go and move forward from this dead relationship, thinking about it has been holding me back!

Q.   I'm in a bit of slump, again. Been with this guy for awhile now. He told me upfront that he was depressed from the start but i went straight to it without knowing what i've gotten myself into. I was 17 back then. He gave me a sweet memory at ...

A.   25 June 2018: Thanks for your reply janniepeg. We go to the same school and we did many things together outside of school. That made it easy for us to bump into each other before and repeat the unstable on and off part of it. It was harder for me to untangle m... (read in full...)

How do I make my girlfriend feel special and loved?

Q.   Hi guys, Thanks in advance for taking the time to read my post. Basically, my GF of almost one year has told me that she feels more like my best friend than girlfriend. I really need help in fixing things as I care about her a great deal and ...

A.   25 June 2018: Thank you guys. I have received some great advice here and I appreciate every single one of you taking the time out to help me. I have read them all and will take them into consideration moving forwards. I have a lot to go off here.... (read in full...)

I suffer from OCD and crippling jealousy and my husband's occasional comments about other women's looks drive me over the edge

Q.   Hi, I hope you guys can give me some wise advice, because i can't deal with and handle my OCD and my jealousy. I do suffer from OCD and now my OCD appears to have crossed into the realm of the physical too, whereby i get obsessed by a part...

A.   23 June 2018: Hi guys, To you all, i wish to convey my absolute thanks & total appreciation! None of you can possibly know, how much you've helped me. I have read each msg thrice over & yes, that's my OCD again!! but also because i was that in awe of all... (read in full...)

My bf drunk texted his ex FWB and now I feel like I have a right to go through his phone

Q.   My boyfriend of a year and 8 months drunkenly text a girl whom he used to see sexually before we started dating. I feel like I have a right to go through his phone now but at the same time I don’t. He feels terribly about the situation and has since ...

A.   22 June 2018: Thank you for the responses, this actually happened two weeks ago and it’s just been popping up in the back of my mind. I haven’t and most likely will not go through his phone. I have chosen to give him a second chance and have told him that if ... (read in full...)

I’m worried about having sex due to the shape of my penis!

Q.   Hi. I'm 19 years old. A boy who has never had sex due to the shape of my penis. I have a down curved banana penis. I'm scared to try it out. What should I do?...

A.   22 June 2018: I read somewhere that peyronies is accompanied by pain during erections. I don't experience any pain in my case. I'm as normal as any guy but the curved down penis... (read in full...)

He blocked me on Instagram then lied about why!

Q.   He blocked me on Instagram and lied to me about it saying his app had a problem. Yes I believed it. I have another account on Instagram for makeup and fashion posts. He commented on another girl’s picture saying “Dayyyuuumm”. He has all his exes and ...

A.   22 June 2018: It’s dear* instead of dead. Sorry for the typo. ... (read in full...)

I miss my abusive ex who cheated on me

Q.   Now that I broke up with my verbally abusive ex ( it’s has been a few days)who also cheated on me, I miss him. All I can think about is the good times. I’m trying so hard not to contact him. It seems impossible. What do I do?...

A.   21 June 2018: I now feel like it’s my fault and I will ruin all my relationships for being needy. He used to say he abused me cause I’m annoying. While he ignored me. ... (read in full...)

Wife Left Me For Her Married Boss. How do I get over her?

Q.   My WS wife took a job as a restaurant manager in March of 2016. It was a new establishment and very high end. Business is very good to this day. I had a regular 9-5, and she had been looking for something more fulfilling and better pay for quite so...

A.   21 June 2018: Only now, after 5 months, is she starting to reach out to her friends to make up with them. It infuriates me. It’s like she is winning and I am losing. I know at some point a few of them will welcome her back. I didn’t have the affair. I’m the one ... (read in full...)

I'm waiting for a girl to come and sweep me off my feet.

Q.   Please bare with me and sorry for the long post. Im in a bit of a slump the past year. Essentially I once again broke up with a girl I'm madly in love with because circumstances prevents us from being together, that being a long distance relatio...

A.   20 June 2018: Okay thank you Honeypie. I am actually socializing more now but as Ive said I feel these girls couldnt compare and just didnt follow through on their advances. But knowing now that getting over someone does take really took some pressure ... (read in full...)

My ex best friend is confusing me and I don’t know what to do!

Q.   Me and my best friend have been on a roller coaster ride this past year. It’s a long story so I’m going to try to keep my sentences to the point. We had a falling out almost 8 months ago. He didn’t say why he was mad and didn’t want to talk to me. ...

A.   20 June 2018: I made plans with him last night to hang out today. I knew his cousin was going to come. When I came by just his cousin was there. I texted him and said “why didn’t you come” and he said “I didn’t feel like going.” I was embarrassed and his cousin ... (read in full...)

Should I reach out to him again after a long time away?

Q.   Hi everyone! While working a contract gig, I developed a huge crush on someone in our building. We chatted a little bit, kind of had lunch once, but our schedules were never consistent. On my last day, he left early. I planned to ask him out for ...

A.   17 June 2018: Hello everyone. Thank you all so much for your insight and suggestions. I eventually reached out to him again. We chatted a little bit but it became very evident to me that he was not interested in seeing me. That's totally ok, and I have s... (read in full...)

How do I stop being so insecure about my boyfriend’s last relationship?

Q.   Hello all.. So I’ll get right to it. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months now, officially 3 months. I actually met him a year ago at my job. I sold cars and he was a customer of mine but he ended up buying a car from a competitor. But ...

A.   17 June 2018: Sorry it took me so long to respond. Well, I actually had an emotional breakdown over this a couple of days ago in front of him. Even though I’ve told him before how I’ve felt, I don’t think I ever fully went in depth about how much it has affe... (read in full...)

Is it normal to miss a toxic relationship?

Q.   We are both 30, in the good days, we had an amazing relationship, we had a TONNNNN of things in common, we agreed on a lot of things, we traveled many times and we were a team, when things were good, they were amazing... rarely things that we ...

A.   15 June 2018: Thank you so much for your response. YOu are 150% right... sometimes, it is hard but I do feel that there were many issues as to why I allowed him to treat me the way he's all on me now to be strong and weather the storm...... (read in full...)

All the staring, sexual tension and then ignoring me... What's going on here?

Q.   I met a guy at my university last year. We had instant attraction and started liking each other. Though the school year had ended, he was coming to uni as he was involved in a protest/occupation against the school. He would keep staring at me an...

A.   15 June 2018: Honestly, there are two possibilities 1) He was either toying with you and just wanted sex 2) He liked you, maybe still does and has misunderstood something, feels hurt and is spiteful about the situation hence the aggressive reaction to y... (read in full...)

I have a big decision to make

Q.   I'm at a crossroads w/my relationship and I am deeply torn. I love my bf and he is my best friend, but there is something I have to consider as well. Since he left college, he has been working a mediocre job in which I know he isn't happy (h...

A.   14 June 2018: We started working out together and have actually set a schedule. He is the one pushing for it and I don't have to hound him to work out.... (read in full...)

The relationship started off terribly and it’s still rocky, but we really love each other! Do I leave or stay?

Q.   I’m in this relationship with a guy for a year and a half now. The relationship started off terribly because he started ghosting me after a month. We hardly met and he never replied to me. He used to ignore me for most of the time. I made a fake ...

A.   13 June 2018: It’s a nice time when we are out on a date. The abuse etc is over the phone. He makes me believe it’s all my fault. I want to get out so bad, but part of me wants to stay thinking it’s my fault the way he reacts. ... (read in full...)

She has a guy friend stay over!

Q.   I am dating someone and have been for 4 or 5 months now. She is having a guy friend stay over, which makes me uncomfortable on a level of respect. I have stayed at another girls place with a previous gf and was told by family that this shouldn't of ...

A.   11 June 2018: There has been some very good advice which I appreciate. I have had a long discussion at first she couldn't see what the harm was until I mentioned the respectful things I done she then said I've told him he can't stay then she has ass for a while. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend says if I don't lose weight after our baby's birth he will dump me!

Q.   I am 24 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend is constantly calling me fat. He says he is teasing. He also said that if I don't lose the weight after the baby is born he will dump me. I have taken all these things to heart. I was really skinny before I got ...

A.   10 June 2018: Yes it for real... (read in full...)

Love triangle without an end

Q.   So this is what happened. I started dating this girl one year ago. She is 30, I am 35. At the beginning, it was exciting, she was classy, elegant, fun, spicy, etc. In the first months we had great sex and she was seeing the whole thing as fuck ...

A.   10 June 2018: I saw her yesterday and decided not to see each other for some time. She told me she didn’t expected to come back to the ex, that she thought that it was finished, and in the same time didn’t expected to have something so serious with me. And it was ... (read in full...)

Tales of attraction, games, betrayal and the wifes condundrum

Q.   Seeking some guidance around my husbands relationship with a highly promiscuous, devious and highly NARCISSISTIC Slor€ (that's her appropriately allocated nickname btw from her own family - which I was told in advance meant slut crs whore because ...

A.   7 June 2018: Just want to clarify that the question does NOT ask for advice on who to "blame" with majority reminding what I obviously already know. Ultimately my husband is responsible and I did articulate this in my post to try and avoid what a few comm... (read in full...)

Does kissing get easier over time?

Q.   I recently asked this question on here, and you guys gave me some great advice and I've been trying to incorporate what I was told. Essentially the advice was to go...

A.   6 June 2018: See I asked those around me if it was considered stringing him along because I didn't want to do that and everyone told me it wasn't. I was told stringing along someone is when you date even though you see absolutely no future with someone. But I do ... (read in full...)

My sister and my boyfriend lied about having sex while we were courting.

Q.   So my sister was having some marital problems and she met this guy who she confided in and he gave her some advice well atleast that's what she told me. I was single for approximately for years. She introduced this guy to me after some months and ...

A.   5 June 2018: The thing is she was not there when he told me about it and when I told her he told me she said he's a MF. Funny enough she left her email open on my laptop and I saw their whats app chats. Its almost one month since I confronted her and to date am ... (read in full...)

I smelled like latex when only using lube and no condom after sex with my girlfriend

Q.   After having sex a couple of times with my gf at the time, we didn't use condoms, and this was our first time together in a few months, since we live apart (I also noticed it once more that week, but not as strong, and one other time prior), I ...

A.   5 June 2018: My GP or GF? Not sure what GP is haha. But yes, I asked her. It didn't go over too well, she got defensive, but assured me nothing was happening, but it still doesn't explain anything in my head. It's easier to just keep denying in today's dishonest ... (read in full...)

Is it really a big deal that I didn't call?

Q.   I’ve been dating this guy (no official relationship) for a few months. We were old friends who got really close and started a romance. He did the chasing and I finally caught feelings after a while. We would hang out all the time. He would call me ...

A.   3 June 2018: Janniepeg, thanks so much for your responses. I think you are completely right about the emotional issues and it’s most definitely not what I need, and not at all something my son would benefit from. I’ll have to cut my losses on this one! Thanks ... (read in full...)

How to deal with the pain of family estrangement?

Q.   I was estranged from my abusive BPD mother for eighteen years, because I could no longer take her abuse. My brother, who likely also suffered from BPD, saw this as a personal rejection and wanted nothing else to do with me. He threatened me with ...

A.   3 June 2018: Honeypie and Wiseowl, I agree with all you said. I don't plan on giving her money again, but I would get food for the kids. Perhaps, she doesn't really care about me, but my concern is the kids' welfare. When I was putting groceries in my niece's ... (read in full...)

My youngest children have fallen out with my oldest child!

Q.   I have 3 children who are now young adults and 2 of them have fallen out with their eldest sibling. I have tried for almost a year now to get them to talk and they’re all willing to talk to each other as long as the other party says sorry first. ...

A.   29 May 2018: Thank you all for your help x... (read in full...)

Which is more important Love or Sex??

Q.   I have been married for 40 years this year. It was only 10 years ago that I discovered my husbands porn stash, he promised me he would never do it again, I believed him, only the cycle continues, he tries to hide it , I find it, he tells me he does ...

A.   28 May 2018: Hi All, I am the original OP, and I would like to answer the questions of the Male Reader, Anonymous on the 26th May, he asks when I last had sex with him, well that's an easy one to answer, December 2017, and here we are now going into June. It... (read in full...)

Is this just a great friendship or does he have a crush?

Q.   Ok, so this is a bit complicated. We are two cross cultural couples- my husband and I are Asian while the other couple is European. We used to live in the same country but we returned to our own after a couple of years. During our time there, ...

A.   28 May 2018: Code warrior : Why would I show my husband? It s because we are not able to is why we are on this forum. See any thread.. It is people in a situation that they don t know what to do about and they can t speak to anyone about, least of all their ... (read in full...)

We're both in relationships but I'm extremely attracted to my co-worker and don't know how to deal with it

Q.   I am in trouble and it hurts. I have a boyfriend and I respect him and love him. However, there is a guy at work who I think I may have developed feels for. We are both bilingual so joking around is fun. He makes me laugh with the things he sa...

A.   27 May 2018: Thank you everyone. Although it was hard to read most of the words I appreciate taking the time to provide input. I won't text him anymore. If he starts texting me I will be short and maybe with time he will stop reaching out to me. It's over...... (read in full...)

I kissed a girl and my boyfriend didn't like it, what do I do?

Q.   My partner and I have been together for 2 and a half years. During this time we've both expressed desires and fantasies in the bedroom and things we want to do. My boyfriend asked if I would have sex/be sexual with a girl while he watched, or have ...

A.   27 May 2018: I don't think we're equally to blame because my bf didn't do anything. I should have involved him from the get go. And not acted without his say so. I can understand that the ball is in his court, but isn't that where it's suppose to be? I was in... (read in full...)

Was my co worker trying to start an affair with me?

Q.   I'm friendly and cordial to this co worker who works in the same department with me,just like everyone else. He got my number from the office so he texts me outside work when he wants to exchange shifts.However,lately he has been been sendin...

A.   27 May 2018: It appears he got the message and has left me alone since our last texts exchange.What said to him was pretty straight forward. Not sure how I was suppose to phrase it In addition,I tried ignoring him the first time hoping he will stop when he see... (read in full...)

Am I playing myself for a fool with this older guy?

Q.   My boyfriend is 8 years older than me. I met him in early February while he was non exclusively dating a 21 year old .I met him in a little store near my house and one thing Led to another and now we are a couple. When i first initially met him he ...

A.   27 May 2018: Or maybe he told her that so that she’s hate him and move on... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is extremely shy, but can put on fake confidence which is starting to worry me

Q.   I don't get my boyfriend lately. After being together for nearly 2 years, i feel that I don't really know who he is sometimes. When we first met until about a year, he was VERY insecure, very shy. The type that would hunch over while walking. And ...

A.   24 May 2018: I think some of you are getting the wrong impression of me here. I dont control my boyfriend, I love him with all my being. But to see him change suddenly, worries me with the possibility of him being fake towards me. I don't know, that's why I've ... (read in full...)

I just learnt that my girlfriend was sexually abused by her stepfather and his friend but I can't seem to move past this information

Q.   I’ve been dating this amazing girl for two years. We took our relationship very slow because we both had been in long term relationships that ended badly. Our relationship is close to perfect we’ve actually talked marriage recently. We were talking ...

A.   23 May 2018: I have no anger towards her at all. It’s the opposite actually , I wish there was a way I could go back in time and protect her from all of it. I get angry thinking that someone hurt her, took an innocent piece from her. I get angry at the thought ... (read in full...)

Why does it seem like my boyfriend is stringing along his ex ?

Q.   My boyfriend is 31 his ex is 21 and I’m 23 , my current boyfriend of two months left a girl he was dating in February to be with me. He told me he complained to her about standing up to her family and she never did it and how her family didn’t even ...

A.   21 May 2018: Well after reading the replies i feel i had to.. i don’t want to be used to make someone else jealous ... (read in full...)

I've only had sex once, have a long distance g/f I'll never meet and I want experience

Q.   I am 27. I have never had a phyiscal girlfriend. I had sex once at 24. I have no friends to speak of. All I have is a long distance "girlfriend" i met a few years ago. She lives in another country, and that along with money means that we will nev...

A.   21 May 2018: I do have genuine feelings for her, but they are currently muddled with the fear of being alone and the realization that I am treading water and basically living in a fantasy that can never be. As for meeting people, I don't have the drive... I j... (read in full...)

I don’t feel a spark with her but I still had sex with her!

Q.   Me and this girl broke up a while ago, after about a month she came over to play some video games and chat. It was getting real late and she was getting tired so I offered her to stay the night. During that we began cuddling and making out and it ...

A.   20 May 2018: I wanted to thank everyone for responding to this question. I feel like I should have given more clarification to the situation. Currently, we both want to keep in contact with each other. I want to at least talk to her more because i dont have many ... (read in full...)

Do I mean anything to him? Why is he with me if he doesn't see a future with us?

Q.   Some background: I (27 years old) have been seeing this man (33 years old) for four months now. We get along incredibly well and always have fun together. It is very comfortable when we are around each other and we naturally give off an impressi...

A.   20 May 2018: So here's my update on this situation... yes, it's been still going on... We have gotten really close the last couple months and we have become an important part of each others' lives in the sense that we talk about each others' issues and spend... (read in full...)

He broke up with my but regrets it 1.5 years later. I still love him, but what is the right thing to do?

Q.   My ex and I are high school sweethearts and each other’s first love. We had been together for a decade and the last 4 years were long distance. I thought he was the guy I was going to marry and spend the rest of my life with;unfortunately he ...

A.   19 May 2018: And please don’t mistake me. I do love my boyfriend, I am extremely happy with him, but there are days when I still cry thinking about the past. I just thought it is because of how much I was hurt after all those years of relationship. But seeing my ... (read in full...)

do I look gay, or is it just a good way to attract attention from women?

Q.   25 year old self professed hipster here. Not really a macho alpha dude but I do work out. I am still on the slim side though. I am definitely not gay. I was in a relationship with a girl for 3 years during college but have been single for 2 years. ...

A.   18 May 2018: Sorry for the late reply. The date never happened. Half an hour before our "date" was supposed to happen, she texted me saying she couldn't make it. She doesn't reply to my text messages or answer the phone either. I really don't understand... (read in full...)

Is it possible to be in love and committed to a man, whereas developing only sexual interest in others?

Q.   I will turn 30 next month and my life's in a big mess. I've a good career, a loving would-be husband (getting married in early fall this year). We've been together for 11 years. You're wondering where's the messy part? Well, the sex between ...

A.   16 May 2018: Thanks for your insights, both the ruthless and the sympathic ones. Societal pressure, image issues and a lot of other non-sexual things has been keeping us together for 11 years. Our sexual life was great before. Since the last 2 years, the pass... (read in full...)

My wife is bi-curious and has talked about a threesome then never does anything about it! What is she thinking?

Q.   Over the years it has been obvious my wife is bi-Curious, she came home one night and told me she kissed another girl, I thought wow tell me more.. she said it was just messing around and we laughed and I though cool .. nothing got mentioned again ...

A.   14 May 2018: Thanks guys ... just to clarify .. I never bring it up it's her that does ... the facted she's already kissed a girl again and tried to cover it up upsets me.. why she mentions it drunk and not sober is the question ... I asked her once sober and ... (read in full...)

My wife and I are going to have to go the IVF route and the fog just won't lift

Q.   So we had our follow up at the fertility clinic Monday. We are going to have to come up with roughly $40,000 for IVF and medications. They talk to us as if we have the money under our mattress, expecting to start right away. Yeah..... no. 2 cl...

A.   14 May 2018: Well for some reason I can't figure out how to fix my age, I'm 33, wife is 36, married 6 years, homeowners 5 years. The IVF is $28,000, as many tries as we want. Also refundable if we don't conceive and decide to give up. The medications start at ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and I have very different views

Q.   I have very different views of life to my partner. We get along great, I am very comfortable with him, he goes out of his way for me, we like each other's company, he makes me feel attractive and is into me. However, sometimes he says things t...

A.   14 May 2018: Hmm... We do talk and I did tell him exactly what I thought. He just said can we stop, I don't want to argue about it, basically. He has negative views on a few issues, I guess I would call him closed minded in some respects, that's the way he is. ... (read in full...)

Will the intimacy return? Do other new parents feel this way?

Q.   Okay, to put a little background into this for better understanding, my wife and I have 2 kids. One was born at the end of January this year, but with the way I am, I don't handle the infant stage very well. I have quite the temper and crying ...

A.   13 May 2018: Sorry, i forgot to add something that's actually pertaining to your answer. I'm the one who watches the kids during the day. My son likes to come into the room at random times of the night to take over half the bed and my wife co-sleeps with the 2 ... (read in full...)

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