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My girlfriend is worried about our future

Q. I need help and i dont wat to do. My gf and i who ive been with for 4 and a half months and we both love eachother, are having a weird issue thats happened b4. We both go to the same school and hang out all the time, however recently, since the ...

A. 20 November 2009: im not the one who's insisting on talking about our future though:S we both do it?... (read in full...)

Should I risk the friendship and tell him how I feel?

Q. I met my best friend 2 years ago when I landed a new job. We talk on the phone several times a day, text, and can't go to sleep without saying goodnight to each other. We have talked about each other in romantic terms before and discussed that we ...

A. 20 November 2009: Sorry, I forgot to mention an important detail, this man is 9 years older than me.... (read in full...)

Ex still wants sexual favors... WHY?

Q. my bf and I live together but have just recently broken up. He asks me for hand-jobs, why? We are broken up but he asks me for hand jobs and also asked me if I still want something from him. I said I don't want anything sexual from him because we ...

A. 20 November 2009: Hi everyone, thank you for the responses! I appreciate it. I really don't believe he is using me. For the fact that we are only taking a break from our relationship at the moment. We were very clear on that. I am positively sure he is not seeing ... (read in full...)

I got my friend's wife pregnant, now he's coming home from military duty!!!

Q. Ok, so i have a problem, I'm in a huge dilemna. I've been sleeping with my friends wife who is at the moment in iraq. (He's a soldier) he comes back in 1 week. They've only been married for about a year, right before he got deployed they got ...

A. 20 November 2009: I don't think she loves me or wants to be with me though? she told me it was strictly just a sex thing... (read in full...)

I told her my feelings too soon and now she's backing away!

Q. Hello, I wanted to get your feedback on my little dilemma and perhaps guide me to a decision. I've been seeing her for a little over 6 weeks. To be honest, I'm surprised it even happened at all. We live in separate states, she's 23 and I'm 36, and ...

A. 20 November 2009: Thanks for your input, I really appreciate it. After giving this some thought and observing her (lack of) response over the past couple weeks, I can safely conclude that she's just not that interested. I also think there were other motives at work ... (read in full...)

Have I lost him for good?

Q. First I'm new to this site. I've been with my boyfriend for two years. Well would be two years in twelve days. Everything was perfect. he has a child with another women before we met. His daughter is two. In the first two months of our relationship ...

A. 20 November 2009: Soon, they were not married nor were they living together. He was living with his parents since she was 5 months prego because she cheated. She has five kids only has custody of two. His daughter and her other daughter. Yes he paid her money every ... (read in full...)

He just wont touch, kiss or hold me...and we've only been married 46 days!

Q. Hi. I've been married for just under 2 months, been with him 5 years. We're both 25. Lived together for 3 years. In the past 2 years, our sex life has diminished drastically. Mind you, in the past two years, he's been in University doing a ...

A. 20 November 2009: Thanks to all of the responses. I married him because he is my best friend. I am the main provider for us but he paid for most of the wedding. When I found out about the tranny porn, I left. I flipped out and left. We talked about it endless... (read in full...)

How do I turn my FWB into something more?

Q. So there's this guy that I like, but I don't feel like he feels the same way I do. We are currently in a friends with benefits relationship, but I want it to be more. It would be very hard for us to be in a relationship, because I do online ...

A. 20 November 2009: Hey, I just wante to say thank-you to all of you that wrote me comments to help my question.... (read in full...)

How do I leave my married boss and not lose my job?

Q. Hi everyone, i really need help. I am 21, i am a student, i live here on my own. My parents live in another country.Last year i started working and yeah beginning my boss was trying wooing me all the time and i didn't really like him, cause he...

A. 20 November 2009: Thanks for your reply Gina, I know he is a cheater and a liar. I was a virgin when i first slept with him and yeah i know he is taking advantage of me.i just wish i could walk out. I am actually looking for another job but with the recession it... (read in full...)

How can I dress more attractively?

Q. i am a short , fat and black guy. plsss pour your suggestions for dressing attractively. i usually wear jeans trousers and t - shirts. but my friends insist me to wear formals that 'd be looking nice for me... plsss yur ideas!!!!!!!!!!!...

A. 20 November 2009: thanks a lot buddies... dazey as you said, i'd do my best. and one more friend suggested, many of my friends used to say that my eyes are pretty. how to make it more attractive???... (read in full...)

Why do women sleep with married men?

Q. Why do women who fool around with a married man get it into their thick skulls that men are using them....why do these women persist with married men, is it low self esteem issue, does it give them a high that this man whos morals are clearly not ...

A. 20 November 2009: My husband cheated because the men he hung out were bragging how every man does it, and life is tooo short. You cant just have sex with one woman all your life, they even gave him advice on how to find someone who would do everything, and not be e... (read in full...)

I think about him all the time...even when I'm with my husband. Am I wrong?

Q. Ever since I've meet my professor two years ago I've had a crush on him. I'm in college and majoring on the piano, he's my piano teacher as well as the teacher for a few other classes. At first I wasn't worried about it, this isn't the first time ...

A. 20 November 2009: Hey this is me again, the person with the question. I just wanted to add in the fact that my husband does know about this and keep tabs on me. He's not to worried because it's just a crush and he knows people get those all the time. I want to be ... (read in full...)

He's getting me a promise ring for Christmas. What should I get him?

Q. What should I get him for Christmas? He's getting me a PROMISE RING. So, im 16 years old and my boyfriend is 17. We've had a great relationship, we've been together for basically 6 months, but we both know that if we met sooner, we would have be...

A. 20 November 2009: thankyou, youve helped alot! :)... (read in full...)

I'm in a relationship that I feel is not good for me.. I'm stressed and have lost my friends!

Q. hello i have been in a relationship for 5 year's and i know it's not good for me am stressed most of the time ,i lost all my friend's because of him,when i talk on the phone he makes me stress ,so i don't talk on phone now.am 41 he 48 and he control ...

A. 20 November 2009: I would like to thank you all for your help. To the female that answer my qustion ,i know am 41 and belelive me it's hard to leave when he is my only family. I did take your advice ...we will see what happen's THANK GOD FOR INTERNET... (read in full...)

How to steal my ex back from rebound?

Q. My ex and I still talk frequently (almost every day, or more). How do I steal her back from her rebound boyfriend? ...

A. 20 November 2009: Still no reply. I don't understand why she's ignoring me. She could at least call to reassure me or tell me she's changed her mind. . . ... (read in full...)

Is my girlfriend cheating on me?

Q. Been dating this girl for two months and while she appears to be awesome there are things that I wonder about. She was great. But....we live an hour away. She is a nympho. She has druggy friends. She smokes pot. Loves tattoos. I have no problems ...

A. 20 November 2009: Thank you for the answers every one. I am still formulating what I am going to do. I have driven up and surprised her and everything was fine. Of course it was a night where she was texting me the whole time so I was sure nothing was going on that ... (read in full...)

Did I do the right thing in telling her the truth?

Q. I am 21 years old and im dating my best friend's ex girlfriend. I knew for a long time that my best friend was cheating on her but never knew enough. Fortunately i fell in love with her but was in a dilemma of keeping my friend's trust or falling in ...

A. 20 November 2009: more answers please. ... (read in full...)

Please, help? I love him but its complicated. I just don't know what to do!

Q. Hi there, So, I dated a guy almost year ago after he moved here to start school. I found out after we had been together for a year that he still had a girlfriend back home. We broke up, but remained friends. It has been 11 months, and we ar...

A. 20 November 2009: Well, some more stuff has happened which has me even more confused than before.....Sorry for the length of this post btw.... First I should mention, with regard to the other woman, she is away at school in a separate country from where he and I li... (read in full...)

My girlfriend had a one night stand before she met me and my family knows about it!

Q. I lost my virginity to my recent girlfriend and she has slept with two people before me. Only one of them bother me since it was a one night stand which she ended up having sex with twice. My cousin was there in the same house the first time she did ...

A. 20 November 2009: is that what you would do?... (read in full...)

Overly jealous fiance???

Q. Why does my fiance keep wanting to know about my past. He wants to know was he the first to finger me, had I ever had sex before and such. I don't understand how my past has any effect on me and him. He refuses to accept that he is my first and he ...

A. 20 November 2009: He has told me that if I were to ever cheat on him (not that I would), he was going to get me and the dude (revenge). I perceive this as him telling me that I actually belong to him, and I also felt very threatened by this comment. Any advice? Has ... (read in full...)

Why is she always so mean to me?

Q. I just started seventh grade, and some mean girls have started making fun of me. One of the girls lives by me so its really embarrassing. She's started telling people I'm a lesbian. She's also saying she's scared and that I ask her a lot of ...

A. 20 November 2009: Thanx so much!... (read in full...)

I'm so dependent on my boyfriend and now he only wants to be friends!

Q. My bf asked me to be friends because there were too many problems in our relationship. The thing is we have been living together 1yr. and 1/2... I love him very much, but I am so hurt. Every time I try to work it out with him he wants to, at ...

A. 20 November 2009: Thanks for the responses and advice. I am not employed because I have many medical conditions that stand in the way. I hate myself for giving up so much for him, that he can't even appreciate me. If I had money a long time ago I would have ... (read in full...)

What gave me this sudden, intense chill???

Q. In the middle of my last class I got this sudden intense feeling down below (which felt good) and it gave me a chill? Like a sudden very short chills. Although I did not do anything at all I was just talking to friend in the class (and when this ...

A. 20 November 2009: It wasnt exacly a 'im cold chill' though. it was right after I had the feeling down there as it felt good... (read in full...)

Oh my god!!! Could I possibly be pregnant???

Q. hey, i have a question. im currently on bc, and i got my period last weds. but yesterday, when i was sitting under the dryer at the hair salon, i started feeling really sick, and ended up throwin up. then i drank some water and threw that up too. ...

A. 20 November 2009: i been on my bc for about 6 months now, it never made me sick. so i dont think thats it. and i also read that a woman can experience vaginal bleeding, that is similar to a period but not quite during pregnancy, which is whats concerning me. but im ... (read in full...)

After sex I'm afraid he'll disappear!

Q. I've been dating a guy for a cpl of months.Not sure what we are.Hadnt seen him in a cpl wks.So we got together - had a fun movie/pizza night.So one thing lead to another and we slept together.I dont normally have sex until I'm sure im in a ...

A. 20 November 2009: true true. he wrote me today to let me know hes busy this wknd w/ classes but maybe we can hang next wk. i just wont worry bout it anymore.. and will have a talk w/ him when i see him..if i do or over the phone. thanks for the advice :) ... (read in full...)

What does he want? sex? Playing around? Or is he just full of bs?

Q. I met this guy from online.We talked/flirted daily for a wk before meeting. We met and despite our flirty chats..he was sweet, a gentleman and our drinks + coffee date ended w/ passionate kiss, followed by a txt tellin me he had a great time.He ...

A. 20 November 2009: thankyou :) ... (read in full...)

He cant cum when I give him a blowjob because of the big "mental' component to it! What am I doing wrong?

Q. Hi Guys, I've been going out with a friend of mine for about a month now, and although we're both VERY different we get along great. However, the other night I decided to give him a blowjob, which he thoroughly appreciated (OK, who wouldn't), but a...

A. 20 November 2009: thanks for the great answers guys, they were really helpful! mervy. xx... (read in full...)

Christmas alone...

Q. I have no family and all my friends have their own lives/families at Christmas. Can anyone recommend ideas how to spend christmas without having to spend a fortune on hotels? One would think there must be lots of other people alone at Christma...

A. 19 November 2009: Thanks for those great suggestions I will try some out Thanks for your concerns xx... (read in full...)

She ended it out of the blue. How do I get her back?

Q. So I dated this girl for about 2 months and we both liked each other a lot. After getting back from a trip she calls me and breaks up with me. She didn't say why. We've been separated for about 3 or 4 months now and I've realized that I really w...

A. 19 November 2009: Thanks alot for writing Pepper, I do think making friends first is the best way to do it because that's how we started the first time. Although, I kind of worry that she could think that some of the ways I go about this are too much like last tim... (read in full...)

Why wont he make the first move when we have sex?

Q. Okay, so I am wondering. Why is it that I ALWAYS have to get it going? In order to have sex, why can't he ever do it? And how can I make it more comfortable to give him a bj? I mean I used to swallow but one day it was just so much that I gagg...

A. 19 November 2009: Okay, thanks for the advice so far. But there's only one weird thing about him being sorta scared to initiate sex. We have been together for 4 years.... (read in full...)

How to approach the subject of giving and receiving oral?

Q. Hi i need some information on how to approach a girl whilst in foreplay and to either give or recieve oral?? Because im too shy to ask for a blowjob and im scared to pull her pants down and give her orar due to she might freak out and run off or hit ...

A. 19 November 2009: Thanks people :) ... (read in full...)

Do I stay with him even though I am not sure about him?

Q. ok, well I am in a somewhat serious relationship for about 12mos. I really care about him but I dont feel completely happy. and for some reason i'm falling in love with a man that already has a partner also. what is wrong with me? what do i do?...

A. 19 November 2009: When I wasnt dating I just fantasized in having him. Now that he is my partner, I just don't feel happy anymore. I feel so bad because he is a great guy and my family loves him. but I just dont know anymore. Thank you very much for the advise.... (read in full...)

I want to spend as much time with her as possible but her family are getting in the way!

Q. Hey guys, Me and my GF is in a long distance relationship right now. We haven't seen each other for 7 months and counting. Now, I'm going to visit her soon, and me and my whole family are going out of town to a nice beach resort. So I asked my GF...

A. 19 November 2009: She wants to go, but she's scared to ask her parents because she know they would say no...I mean, it would be fine if she at least try to ask her parents, at least I knew that she tried...... (read in full...)

She went 'off' me and I can't figure out why?!

Q. Hi, bit of an awkward one here. Im 20 years old and recently decided to go on a social website which contained a chat room, one girl started talking to me who is gorgeous, we got on really well and the day after we exchanged numbers, for about a ...

A. 19 November 2009: True, but whenever we text now, its me who texts first and me that texts last, even though she's saying stuff like ohh i miss you and i wanna come back, im just thinking that if i let the whole situation go now it wont take too long to heal due to ... (read in full...)

Are they husband and wife?Cousins? Or brother and sister?

Q. My son married my best friends daughter a few yrs ago and have a kid. 5 months ago i hooked up with my friend and now she is expecting our kid. How do we figure this out. The new baby will be both our kids half sibling making them not only related ...

A. 19 November 2009: The question is does my son and his wife now become brother and sister because me and her mom have a baby. And does that make me my sons wife step father in law?... (read in full...)

He wants to get married in the near future but he's not sure if I'm the One!

Q. I have been dating my bf for two years. I am co_dependent /insecure so breaking up has always been hard for me. We have a very loving relationship, except for the marriage issue. I am 28, he is 29. He tells me he wants to get married in the next...

A. 19 November 2009: Just wanted to add this. i do everything a girlfriend/wife would do. Right nor, he even lost his Job, i have been the one feeding, helping him in everything. i wash for him, cook for him, take food to his house, support him, i am submissive. What ... (read in full...)

My husband just never wants to sort things out!! He expects me to be fine.

Q. I need some advice here. I've been married for just over 2 years now. My husband is a wonderful man who's totally commited, faithful, caring and hard working. But...if we have an arguement, he doesn't like to talk about it afterwards. Now I'm a...

A. 19 November 2009: Thanks for all your advice guys...although alot I disagree with. The one thing my husband is not and that's controlling and we don't play mind games. I'm waiting for my work visa to be approved so I have alot of unwanted time on my hands..we have to ... (read in full...)

I know nothing about dating! Has anyone got any advice?

Q. I am a 20 year old male who has never had a date because I've always been to shy to ask anyone. I am, now, perfectly confident in myself and can talk to girls much more easily. The problem is I don't really know absolutely anything about dating and ...

A. 19 November 2009: Wow, Thank you agony-aunts for the very thorough answers! I really felt as if I learnt a heap, what you said made a lot of sense and I really think I can apply it to my current situation. The only thing puzzling me now is why I didn't ask som... (read in full...)

Who the heck is "Sadie?"

Q. the guy I ve been seeing just text me, he said ok tks sadie, thing is my name isnt sadie....what shall i do...

A. 19 November 2009: been seeing him since june, but hes a single guy living in town and im home alot minding my kids, he has alot of friends ? he texts girls that is...... (read in full...)

Am I right to be concerned or am I thinking too much?

Q. I met a great man on this dating site. He's nice, caring, loving. We both like the same things and we feel comfortable around each other. When we go out, it's not that I'm proud to show him around but I feel comfortable around him. It's not like I'm ...

A. 19 November 2009: Actually, everything now seems very smooth and nice. I've solved the intimacy part, we have a lot of fun with sex toys and other things. We have a great sex life. He's a very mellow person, and in the everyday things we get along pretty well since ... (read in full...)

I have had unprotected sex for 5 months and not fallen pg, does this mean I cant have kids or something?

Q. im 17 years old i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year, hes 23 years old, ever since we got together we havent used protection once, i dont have to worry about STD's because we have been tested and we are both okay. the thing is i dont want ...

A. 19 November 2009: no i dont want a baby, if i did i would obviously admit it, the reason we use no protection is 1. because he dont like it, and 2.i dont ever think about it in the heat of the moment and never think its gonna happen to me, and luckily iv never had a ... (read in full...)

I am taunted about my chest size. Is it really that important?

Q. i am 15 and have small bust, one of my friend (girl in the group who i get along with less) keeps taking the piss out of the size of my bust and was laughing about me when a lad said 'she'll never be able to feed a baby...', it got me down and my ...

A. 19 November 2009: thanks for everyone's reply's so quickly, i didn't expect so many. i guess they've all helped. so thank you :)... (read in full...)

Can one catch an STD through oral sex?

Q. I really want to know if you can catch STD's through having Oral Sex? Thanks :)...

A. 19 November 2009: Thankyou for your help and advice :)... (read in full...)

No gift from BF on birthday....?

Q. I have been with my BF for three years. He has always been really romantic and thoughtful in the area of giving gifts on special days. However, our 3 yr anniversary passed about 6 wks ago and he did not get me a gift. A card, which was nice, but ...

A. 19 November 2009: Thank you to everyone who has answered! I am looking forward to more advice.... (read in full...)

Why no erection?

Q. hi. i'm 17 boy. i masturbate rarely. except masturbation, i never had a erection in my life. i never had any girlfriend, i don't watch porn. but i get attracted by physical beauty of girls. i've never been closer to any girl. so do you think my not ...

A. 19 November 2009: Hey, i'm again saying i made a mistake in question. I don't watch porn and i don't mix with girls closely. I also have erection regularly but those are not sex related. My problem is that i'm not getting sex related erection except masturbation.... (read in full...)

Please help me... he hits me on a regular basis...

Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, i love him very much even though he hits me on a regular basis, I'm 17 he is 23 so when he does this to me i cant stand up for myself because hes too strong, i cant leave him because i have no one else to ...

A. 19 November 2009: thanks for caring, he made me believe that no one cares. i want to pack my things and go when hes out of the house but i cant because hes the suspicious type. my friend is letting me use her phone to ring some of these help lines, thanks so much for ... (read in full...)

My life has changed for the better for ever but how can I now deal with my friend/ work colleague who I suspect is jealous?

Q. Hello all. I wonder if you might offer me some advice on how to cope / deal with a jealous freind/ work colleague? I recently changed my life, and now have an active , busy life , and am pursuing my interests, goals and hobbies, doing well at wo...

A. 19 November 2009: Thank you Tisha. I have found your advice very helpful. You are right - I am going to have to maintain the same behaviour so as not to confuse her, and accept the freindship has changed.. forever. I still have a small nagging fear that I may one day ... (read in full...)

To date or not to date?

Q. I've been talking to a guy for almost a year and the past 2 months we've been spending more time together. I have a couple of questions.. he has bad credit and short on money. I feel so shallow when I think of that being the dealbreaker for going to ...

A. 19 November 2009: Thank you guys for your feedback. To reply back to some concerns he hasn't asked for money. He's short on cashflow because he just doesn't make much (has a fulltime job). He is irresponsible with his money. He knows that I have my finances in order ... (read in full...)

New girlfriend vs daughter from ex wife

Q. I've been divorced for over 2 years now. I've got a 4yr old daughter that lives with mom. I see her on Mondays and have her every second weekend, holiday etc. The divorce was easy, friendly and we're still friendly. I've been dating the girl of ...

A. 19 November 2009: Thanks PeanutButter. As in all things of life it's not quite that clear cut. K is trying. Hard. We've talked about how it's unfair on li'l k, but I think you're right. She lack some maturity. She's even told me I need someone more mature that can ... (read in full...)

Should I stay in this relationship or move on?

Q. Should I stay in this relationship or move on? I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend of 3 years and I am deeply in love with. She loves me too but not anywhere near the intensity or passion that I have for her. I accept that, because we all l...

A. 19 November 2009: Thank you ladies. I think I need to stop wearing my heart on my sleeve. I need time away from her and back out a little. I think I've shown and given way too much and need to concentrate on myself a bit more as I feel like I'm losing myself a bit. ... (read in full...)

Obsession or Procrastination? How can I focus on my work?

Q. I'm supposed to be writing a thesis but find myself thinking about my lover all the time, and scouring pages like these for answers. I don't think badly of him or suspect him of anything (except being a gorgeous rascal), I just wonder about him and ...

A. 19 November 2009: Thanks for the advice. I kind of know all this but it's immensely helpful to read you lot telling me this so I'm taking all your advices starting with getting a timer, getting off the internet and hopefully finishing some time next week with a ... (read in full...)

Should I tell my family I'm gay?

Q. [Moderator Note: OP, there isn't a third gender. If there were, threesomes would be much less messy.] hello to everyone. i need your advice. please tell me what to do to overcome this problem that i am facing now. i belong to a third gender(gay...

A. 19 November 2009: i would like to thank all the good friends who gave good advice to me. i hope you will give some pieces of advice again whenever i need them. thank you so much and God bless.... (read in full...)

I'm in love... with a dead woman!!!

Q. Ok people...this might sound insane but i cant help it. About a year back i saw a picture of a girl and read her life story and i think i am falling over for her. I think i am in love... but the catch is... she died way back during the second ...

A. 19 November 2009: ok guys and gals........ thanks a lot for all your suggestions.... but i would like to point out a few things. 1- she was NOT a pinup girl or glamour model for GOD'S sake !!! she was just a 15 year old normal girl . no sexual fantasies here. 2... (read in full...)

Why are him and his friends staring at me?

Q. There is this one guy from my class that stares at me in the hallway for at least three seconds. He also smiled at me a couple times or smiled in my direction. In class he will look at me but look quickly away. He used to stare at me for a minute ...

A. 19 November 2009: I think your on to something. He brags and shows off a lot, but sometimes he does seem a bit shy. I know he had faced rejection by this one girl he really likes, so he might be terrified to talk to me. If he messes up on one thing he tends to get ... (read in full...)

She reaches climax too soon!

Q. hey this is my first time asking for help...anyway.... I'm 19 and I love my girlfriend so much,but I'm having problems with her in bed. What I mean is that she cums really really fast. 5 minutes fast. This is frustrating caus it takes me about 45 ...

A. 19 November 2009: well we have tried alot more forplay on me so I can be alot more turned and cum faster but she still comes fast,we've tried different positions and going at different speeds and the end result is the same. I think she's not confterble with ... (read in full...)

How can I make our relationship work and get him to trust me?

Q. I don't know what to do, i've been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 10 months now, but when i'd only been with him for a month i left him for my ex. i realised how big a mistake i'd made and left him straight away. i talked to my boyfriend and he ...

A. 19 November 2009: I don't know what to do, i've been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 10 months now, but when i'd only been with him for a month i left him for my ex. i realised how big a mistake i'd made and left him straight away. i talked to my boyfriend and he ... (read in full...)

Should I look for someone else?

Q. I've began seeing a man of a different ethnicity than I am. Although I think this isn't such a big problem, I'm unsure if he would be serious with me because of culture/ethnic issues in the future. We are both adults, way past the issue of parents ...

A. 19 November 2009: Actually, I'm not angry at accusing me of being a racist, it only made me wonder where you came to that conclusion. This is what I got from your "opinion" that you were assuming that I had sex with the other guy also. I wrote that he was at least ... (read in full...)

She I leave her to sort out her past?

Q. Hi - I need help at this point in my life! I have met a wonderful woman - we met through an internet dating site. Everything was amazing from the very start - a great friendship, common interests, physical attraction, the best sex I have ever had in ...

A. 19 November 2009: Thank you so much for this insight... this is what my heart is saying but just don't know how to go about it. Does anyone else have any ideas/thoughts/advice? This is really, really important to me...my heart is aching. ... (read in full...)

Am I still with him because I am afraid of being alone?

Q. So me and my boyfriend have been dating on and off for about 3 years now. I love him very much, the deepest love i have ever felt for anyone. We have broken up 3 times and I have been the one to break up with him. The first time we dated 3 mont...

A. 19 November 2009: I want to talk to him about it again, have a really serious conversation, but last time what i wanted to get me a hug, kiss and i love you baby got me an argument and comment i wasnt expecting. He told me that he loved me and wanted to be with me ... (read in full...)

Pregnant and boyfriend not ready...have you experienced this and can you help me?

Q. I'm 23 and I just found out I am pregnant. My boyfriend, 20- almost 21, is not ready to have a child... For the main reason that he doesn't want to disappoint everyone. His father is a pastor and his parents would be devastated. The people in the ...

A. 19 November 2009: Thank you guys for the help.... In response to who just last wrote something on here... I got the abortion because I was EXTREMELY sick and couldn't handle it. His parents acutally found out and they were very supportive of keeping the baby. That ... (read in full...)

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