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My ex boyfriend had me arrested for harassment charges! Has anyone else experienced this?

Q.   I need some advice please. I was with my boyfriend nearly 2 years and the relationship was great, we had so much in common and were lovers but also best friends. I have abandonment issues and eventually started to self destruct until, after weeks of...

A.   27 June 2017: Thanks honeypie In the UK if someone makes an allegation of a domestic nature it gets investigated, malicious or not. That's why we have so many false allegations, so people can get parental custody etc. I can assure everyone on here that thi... (read in full...)

I'm confused about her behavior. She seemed into me but then would not get off the phone??

Q.   Hi, I met this girl whilst I was going to work. She works in an airport. I travel a lot on short flights. I noticed this girl was very friendly to me a few weeks ago. Also when I entered the airport the other week I noticed she had spotted me and ...

A.   27 June 2017: Hi, I sent her an sms a few hours ago saying that ir was great talking with her again. I added that would she like to get together sometime soon. She hasn't replied :o.... (read in full...)

Is moving to a big city a good idea? or am I leaving a REALLY good life?

Q.   Hi all, Thank you for taking the time to read. I have a huge question. I am 29 yrs old, I have a finance degree, I live in a pretty good state (UTAH, USA), the economy is booming, the state is clean, safe. I rent a pretty cool apartment, I ...

A.   26 June 2017: btw, I do not mean to come off as a show off, all I am trying to say is that currently I can afford to live pretty well off in this place but I am sooooo lonely and frustrated when Im out of work... Miami is my dream place but everyone that has ... (read in full...)

I'm worried that once my LDR boyfriend gets his own place, his female friend might try to make a move. I know she likes him!

Q.   I am in a long distance relationship with an amazing guy. We have know each other for 3 years and are planning to soon meet and start a future/family together. He is the kind of person that I call my best friend and soulmates. He is my person and I ...

A.   26 June 2017: Thank you tennisstar and you are right..... the sooner I let go of my fear the better for both me and him and us. I just hate to feel those bumps along the road, those small feelings of " what ifs". I opened up to him this morning again about my ... (read in full...)

I feel inferior to my girlfriend's wealthy family

Q.   Hello DearCupid Aunts, I am a 25[M] in a relationship with an amazing 23[F]. I am working as a Teaching Assistant and pursing my Master's Degree and hopefully, I will finish in a year or so. She is a last year engineering student. The relationship...

A.   25 June 2017: @Denizen Thank you for your reply as well as following up. These concerns have been brought up many times and she assured me it is no problem. All she cares about is to be happy The last time I brought it up, she felt angry though. I am overthin... (read in full...)

Co-worker complains about boyfriend. Do I have a chance?

Q.   I like my co-worker but she is involved with another co-worker and has a child. We have been spending a lot of time together at work and outside of work, but she complains about her bf a lot. I constantly tell her to stay with him and try to make...

A.   25 June 2017: I would any relationship that does come out as result is doomed to fail, I know that. Plus, i had no ulterior motive. I was just being her friend because besides her bf she doesn't have anyone. She isnt lose with her family and friends and I know ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wants to wait but I'm frustrated

Q.   My girlfriend doesn't want to have sex until she is married. She is a virgin. I am frustrated telling her how important sex is in relationship and how deeply emotionally we can be connected. She even used to give her ex bf liberty to have sex with...

A.   25 June 2017: Thxs for your opinion. I respect it. Yeah I think I gotta respect her belief. I love her very much I just can't leave her just because I can't have sex. Is there another thing I can ask with her, or try something intimate, without actually asking f... (read in full...)

Why is he becoming distant?

Q.   Why would a man pull away just because the relationship can't go anywhere? Why can't he just live in the moment? I'm asking because if a man really likes a woman, how is it so easy for him to pull away? It seems backwards. If I really like someone, ...

A.   24 June 2017: no, he is not with anyone else. I'm not looking for advice, i just ant to understand how its easy for a man to pull away from a woman he really likes because of the fact that it wont go anywhere. since it cant go anywhere, why not just enjoy it for ... (read in full...)

What goes through a man's head when he sees his wife having sex with another man?

Q.   To make it short my husband and I are into guys joining us for sex . But husband has always joined for sex until recently when at a party when a black guy paid attention to me more than normal. So at husbands request I invited him home for a ...

A.   24 June 2017: 1st I love my man we are swimming in love for each other and be honest I enjoy other men as much as I enjoy him with other women ... (read in full...)

The man I'm dating lied he said he was 30, he's almost 44

Q.   Aunts and uncles! Please help.. So I've been seeing a guy for 5 months, I'm 25 and he's 30.. Things are a bit rocky here and there, but today iced the cake. I seen a comment on Facebook and decided to Snoop... I see him address his 38 year old brot...

A.   23 June 2017: Thank you guys so much. When I confronted bhim, he said I just assumed he's 30 and ran with it, which is a complete fabricated lie, who just assumed someone's age and never asks them in all of 5 months. Youcannot- I'm not sure if you're fami... (read in full...)

I feel disappointed by my friends' promiscuity

Q.   I am a gay guys with have two other gay friends, who are extremely sexual and attractive. Every time we meet someone who is remotely attractive they make a b-line for them within minutes. They have slept with or tried to sleep with maybe 85% of the ...

A.   22 June 2017: Agreed, with both of you. I definitely don't mean to come off as judgmental (though I am being judgemental without realising). Im trying to figure out my own relationship between love and sex. I think you can meet a potential partner anywhere, ... (read in full...)

I don't think he wants a divorce but he wants his freedom

Q.   My husband left me for another women but came back. He was with her for 18 months. I was devastated and profoundly affected. Our marriage wasn't perfect but we had been together for 22 years. We both had a hand in it but I never would hav betrayed ...

A.   21 June 2017: Thanks to everyone. I really do appreciate someone taking the time to respond. I am able to read these answers and understand one thing very clearly. It is extremely difficult to explain a relationship in a few paragraphs especially when you are ... (read in full...)

I even left my daughter at home for 4 days for the sake of my affair and now he's disappeared. I feel so lonely!

Q.   I met this guy in Vegas over two months ago. He approached me and my friends at a club. I told him from the beginning I was married and he respected that . The night went on and everyone was having a great time. He would dance next to me because he ...

A.   21 June 2017: Hi everyone that's gave feedback, He wasn't a complete stranger. I have plenty of pictures of him in uniform with his badge and in civilian clothes ..I knew who he was. I have badge number,social media , sisters number (he's called from her ... (read in full...)

My army guy only contacts me when he's down

Q.   Hello, I met this guy online and started to talk for almost 2 months. He is in military active but he is a national guard. We went on several dates. Most of the times he texted me when he is depressed cause of his family issue or he is lost his...

A.   21 June 2017: My heart is broken. He is back from training and i know he had tough 2 weeks. As soon as he is back, he texted me that his sister is arguing with his mom and that he is tired of playing nediator. Next day it was raining and he asked me to take a wa... (read in full...)

I think my wife had experience before we married but I'm afraid to ask her

Q.   I was a virgin until I got married. I did not know to use condoms. My wife taught me to use condoms correctly and after using dispose them also. Some where in my mind I am having a doubt whether she had experience before marrying me. I don't have ...

A.   21 June 2017: Good if she learnt for protection & prevention of STIs. Thank you all.... (read in full...)

Is there something going on between my husband and his co-worker?

Q.   Why is my husband gets annoyed when i ask him a question about the woman that he always with most of everyday at work? Is he having an enotional affair with this woman? It does not mean that i am doubting him. I tried to not be negative about i...

A.   19 June 2017: I really appreciates the adbices and suggestions. Yes he had cheated on me for so many times. I habe caught him texting other woman that she met online. Now it his friend that i am just curious because they talk a lot tru text messages but then i ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend dumped me because she thinks I watch porn

Q.   Long story short my girlfriend of almost 3 years broke up with me cause she thinks I'm lying to her about not watching porn. It's rediculous if you saw how beautiful she was you'd understand. We've been exploring our sexuality together and I went o...

A.   19 June 2017: And reading some of these answers, shows me how close minded people are, again the woman assuming I was the one initiating these sexual related things.... (read in full...)

I changed my mind about having children, he wants children would this be the end of our relationship?

Q.   Hi everyone, this one is a difficult one for me. I recently got engaged to a man I love and think the world off, the time we been together we have had minor disagreements, but other than that the relationship has progressed smoothly. Lately I have ...

A.   18 June 2017: @wherelifewouldtakeus thank you very much for taking the time to respond I appreciate you actually taking the time to read my responses. Yes I do think I was upset and so I said the things I said, I will be talking to him today and clearing things ... (read in full...)

What's the best thing to do? I have a crush on a hot co-worker

Q.   Well, I have a crush on coworker, but she is dating another co-worker and has a kid with him. She asked me if I think her boyfriend would cheat on her. I told her "no, I didn't think so". She supposed to come over and hang out, but Im not going to ...

A.   18 June 2017: Well, things are good. We are just having fun and I'm being the perfect gentleman. Haven't tried anything and probable won't. We have been almost more time together usually when her man is at work, but again haven't done anything except very light ... (read in full...)

He is getting married next month, I want to tell him I still love him!

Q.   Hello, My ex will get married in one month from today - should I tell him I love him? We met nine years ago while travelling and had a whirlwind long-distance romance / relationship. I've never experienced being pulled towards someone lik...

A.   18 June 2017: Hello, Thank you all so much for your advice and opinions. I've heard you. Still torn. ... (read in full...)

My husband has me earn lovers by performing painful or degrading acts with him

Q.   Hi I'm a bit lost and in need of help. I have been married for 20 years to a man I have always loved. He has always had strange sexual practices and I have always played along, I have always looked up to him and always felt that he was better t...

A.   16 June 2017: I would just like to thank you all for your advice and let you know that I have since had several appointments with a person who is helping me to love myself again and put all this behind me (analyst). I'm taking steps to leave my husband and move ... (read in full...)

I love my girlfriend but can't get my ex out of my head

Q.   I've been with my current girlfriend for 2 years. I love her to pieces but I can't get my ex out of my head. I miss her and want to talk to her again. She had been upset about me for a long time but she may have gotten over me. I've ways loved her. ...

A.   15 June 2017: She had a bunch of exes on her case who admitted to still loving her. She claimed she was only friends with them but the fact that she kept them around upset me. She was one of those people who said that of the love was real it never went away. ... (read in full...)

It's been five days and I haven't heard from him.. How can this be resolved?

Q.   I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a few months. The relationship has been really rocky lately but we continued to try and work through it. A couple of weeks ago we broke up because we have been arguing too much and he didn't seem to w...

A.   15 June 2017: Thanks for your help everyone. It's helping move on in a more peaceful way ??... (read in full...)

My husband and I are struggling to move on. Any suggestions on how we can resolve this?

Q.   Hi. I am a married mom mid thirties. My husband and I have been together for 20 years, married for 13 years. We have 5 children together. We have had a wonderful marriage up until recent. Back in Feb 2015 my husband started to receive texts fr...

A.   13 June 2017: What am I in denial about? Lol. I think your crazy. I did not say my husband didn't like it. He liked every aspect of the attention and the compliments and who knows about the sex. I mean it's sex so what's not to like. I have seen pictures Of ... (read in full...)

Despite what he says I feel I'm not good enough for him. Should I feel this way?

Q.   hi everyone, i have recently got into a new relationship with a really nice man and he pays me a lot of nice compliments telling me i am beautiful, intelligent etc. except i don't feel that i am and i feel insecure about things. the thing is i am 43 ...

A.   12 June 2017: thank you again and you are very right wise owl, I appreciate your advice and lot :)... (read in full...)

I'm married but cheating with my old flame and I'm hopelessly in love

Q.   I went to a reunion and as soon as I stood in front of my old flame I knew. I hadn't thought of him in 40 years. I'm happily married and live a plush life. He never married. Even though we live in Different states we've been together twice And...

A.   12 June 2017: no he has not dated married Women ...I know what you're saying is what I Should do... I don't want to jeapordize my marriage But I have chosen to with the choices I've made. My husband would be so hurt..he does not know. I have no intenti... (read in full...)

I'm married and have fallen for a married friend. Do I pursue this?

Q.   I am 29 years old. Im maried in 2010 with 2 kids (3 and 5). I met my wife when i was 15 and have been with her ever since. I have never cheated on her or even talked to another woman inappropriately. But the other day we were hanging out with some ...

A.   12 June 2017: Just going to answer a few of these as a whole. Looks like most of the people answering didnt read my while post Yes i have tried to resolve the issues with my wife. Like i said in original post. I have told her point blank multiple times what the... (read in full...)

Struggling with intense feelings for a married colleague

Q.   I'm married with one child and I'm infatuated with a male colleague that's also married. Although we work together in the same team, we aren't in the same city so don't have to see each other every day but we do tend to have some form of daily ...

A.   12 June 2017: Hi youcantbeserious My marriage hasn't been great really from the start! We got married very quickly and fell pregnant very quickly and from the moment we had our child, it's been fraught. We've had a lot of financial strain, I had post natal d... (read in full...)

What can I do? How should I handle this? Her sexual past and her ex who was her FWB are issues that are making me feel insecure.

Q.   Ok so me and my gf have been going out for about 8 months. And I've been struggling with her sexual past a lot recently. She's slept with about 10 people before me, they were all ons apart from one friends with benefits she had just before we start...

A.   11 June 2017: Thanks for your answers, they've really helped me get some perspective on my issues. I completely agree that they are my issues and I would never make her feel bad or think she should feel bad about her sexual history. It's just difficult for me to ... (read in full...)

Any suggestions on how to gain the attention of this gorgeous Turkish girl when I return to Turkey for another vacation?

Q.   Hi people I'm a college student from France. So I want to share my story with you all and hopefully find a solution. A couple friends and I went on vacation to Turkey 2 weeks ago, and I met this gorgeous Turkish girl. I've never seen anything li...

A.   11 June 2017: She's deffinetly not the stereotype of a Turkish person. She's westernized, her English was honestly way better than mine and she told me her parents were doctors in town so I assume they're educated and modern aswell. She isn't practising her ... (read in full...)

In process of breaking up with my partner. Is my physiotherapist flirting with me, or not?

Q.   Hey everyone. So, I've been with someone was 4 years and we have a child together. Over the past two years or so, the relationship has become incredibly fraught and there's no passion or excitement. It drains the life out of me and my partner t...

A.   11 June 2017: Thanks judgedick. He owns his own practice so there's no risk of being fired or thrown out. I think the issue here is his confusing messages - like I felt he is pursuing me but just dropping it and I don't know what his intention is. He is aware of ... (read in full...)

Should I tell my boyfriend the truth about a small crush?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 10 years. In the past 4 years, I've started to become really unhappy because he has broken so many promises, has lied so much, and I want to be married. He says he want's to be married too, but...

A.   11 June 2017: Thank you all for your responses. I don't know if I want to go through the drama of dating this guy I've started to like. I think I would need time to think about that. With regards to my boyfriend, it has always been difficult to leave him, sinc... (read in full...)

What were his intentions in messaging me everyday, only to then friend-zone me?

Q.   Hello everyone. I've been friends with this guy for a little over a year now. He was a friend of a friend, and one day he messaged me and started talking about relationships. I responded and it followed with us messaging each other back and fort...

A.   10 June 2017: I think he must be dense right now lol... (read in full...)

I met a very genuine guy, but could this be too good to be true?

Q.   Hi! I'm currently a in college, and have recently gotten out of a relationship about five months ago. He was my first relationship and first love, as we talked for months over the summer before I entered college. He was very respectful and we did ...

A.   9 June 2017: Thank you, WiseOwlE! I didn't mean to make it sound as if I thought all men are the same, at all, and I apologize if it came out like that. You are completely right saying that my father must be a good role model as to what to look for ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has been mock hitting me

Q.   Hi, we've been in a relationship my boyfriend and I for 8 mth, we live together, he is a musician, gets hard for him to be talkative so I beleive he is not that skillful linguistically, and I understand the musician he is and how introvert he could ...

A.   9 June 2017: I am also not the leave you type, I pretty much count. Too much more important stuff we've been through, much more important such as good times, well shared responsibilities and great commitment, so I can't even compare. Today I talked to him ab... (read in full...)

My partner for 3 years loves me. Would it be wrong to take a chance with another man who I've loved for 27 years?

Q.   Dear Cupid, I have recently been contacted by the man I've been in love with for 27 years. There are songs I couldn't listen to, our anniversary date that I still hold dear to my heart. I hadn't laid eyes on him in 18 years and that one time wa...

A.   8 June 2017: I didn't write this to be insulted, belittled and criticized, I wrote it to get advice. I'm not delusional, it's not taken from romance novels or movies, I'm not circling like a vulture. Remember, he contacted me. It all has to be his decision ... (read in full...)

Is something going on behind my back? Should I trust him?

Q.   Is it strange for your partner of 17 years not to add you on Facebook when he says it's for workmates ..which is a lie I've never met one person he works with in 8 years has been in the same job . By accident I came across a 3 year old Twitter ...

A.   6 June 2017: So I finally txt the woman 're : him visiting with workmates..she clarified ..he went twice and ALONE both times ..nothing happened ever and her dad was there..I confronted him politely and said I know the answer so time to man up..who went to ... (read in full...)

I feel deeply conflicted over my 8 year relationship. What should I do?

Q.   I am deeply conflicted. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over 8 years now. That's right, 8 years. And yes, lately the 8 years have been wearing down on me. I am 32, and I want to be married. He says he wants to be married...

A.   6 June 2017: Thank you all for your advice. I have a lot to think about.... (read in full...)

What are his intentions if he messages me everyday?

Q.   Basically, I have been talking to this guy for 4 months now everyday. We met over an app and I asked if there was anything else I could talk to him on, he asked to add me on facebook and he added me on snapchat. Without a beat, we text everyday; he ...

A.   5 June 2017: @Cindycares Thank you for responding back! Means alot! And I can agree with you; I do emotionally invest too much which could explain his current behavioural patterns right now. I realise I might force him to put in emotionally by asking personal ... (read in full...)

I need help so I can stop having an irrational hatred towards women

Q.   I did some therapy but it didn't really help. Through strength and determination I’m a much more positive person that I was a year ago and I’m proud of myself for my growth. Core Problems: 1. My earliest experiences with the opposite sex were ve...

A.   5 June 2017: Sorry for the late reply guys. Thank you all for your responses. I'll try and put them to proper use. ... (read in full...)

Should I tell my fiance how I came up with the name for our unborn daughter?

Q.   Hi guys So I am 29, engaged and pregnant. To be honest life couldn't be better right now. My summer wedding is around the corner and everything's great. Here's my question. Me and my fiance are having a girl and have come up with the best n...

A.   3 June 2017: Thanks for all the responses. The name does not remind me of my ex. I just remember how I came up with the name and how i have loved it ever since. I'm not naming my child after my ex because it's a mixture of my name too. I could honestly say... (read in full...)

My wife wants my mother's house signed over to me before she will move!

Q.   I am married. About a year back I lost my job. Finding a new job has become challenging since I am nearing 50 years. I have a house which belongs to my mother. My wife wants to stay in a rented house which I have been paying high rent. I requested ...

A.   2 June 2017: Thank you for your reply. You are correct. I am running my family from my assets. She has not even bothered to ask me how I am managing without salary. I don't know what she does with her salary. When I die, my child will have one earning parent. ... (read in full...)

My mother says it will ruin my reputation if I am with this guy

Q.   Me and this black have been talking and i told my mama about it and she doesn't approve. she mad me feel horrible about the whole situation and I told him that we were gonna have to be friends. I dont know what to do because i dont see what the big ...

A.   2 June 2017: Thank you aunt honesty. Thats exactly what i was thinking. Its sad because no one should be treated differently because of their skin color. Also he told me that he would still be here for me when we both got our lives together. I told him he ... (read in full...)

Have I the right to feel narked?

Q.   I have met someone and seen him a few times. I knew it was his birthday coming up weeks ago. I have asked him if he wants to come over the day before his birthday which he has said he would love to do. I mentioned my daughter working at a race ...

A.   2 June 2017: Thanks for the advice everyone, all points taken on board,I've wished him a happy birthday and seeing him on Sunday :)... (read in full...)

I have literally no interest in pursuing girls anymore, is this normal?

Q.   Hi all, I have a situation where I can't decide whether it's normal or not. Basically, I have literally no interest in pursuing girls anymore. I'm 25 years old, never had a GF, my sexual experiences are one night stands or brief flings and...

A.   1 June 2017: What else can I refer to her as? You don't know her so we can't talk on a first name basis. Am I wrong for not wanting a GF when I was younger? It takes two people to willingly take part in sexual intercourse, I was very upfront about my intentio... (read in full...)

Should I talk to my co worker about our fling, or let it go?

Q.   Hey guys, need some work/relationship advice!! So I recently started working at my job a little over a month ago. One thing I love about this place is there are a lot of people my age and we're all motivated to work, but can still have a good time...

A.   1 June 2017: Hey everyone, thanks for the advice! So quick update: I haven't brought anything up to him since this all happened. I figured it was right to just let it die and not make matters worse. I figured he wouldn't talk to me and probably tried t... (read in full...)

Is it over with my married lover? Or is he just cooling down?

Q.   Hello everyone, through common friends I met a guy at a dinner and we clicked instantly. I have been single for 3 years and I'm very hard to connect with someone immediately. We spoke the entire evening and exchanged numbers. The next morning I had ...

A.   1 June 2017: Honeypie I didn't mean by haters the people whom I'm seeking advice from. I meant the society in general, I came here because I needed u guys to help me do it wasn't meant for u. I'm sorry you were cheated on.. and I do know how it feels because It ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is lying about porn again. what are my options?

Q.   Hi i've been in a relationship with my partner for a few years, the beginning was perfect great sex almost every day. He would always please me go down on me and stuff, compliments all the time he made me feel sexy and confident. we even watched...

A.   1 June 2017: I never used to have body issues i was about 13 stone at one point and i got a PT lost a load of weight now im 9stone, the fact is that he never EVER compliments me he never tells me he loves me i am so hurt by this so of course im going to get ... (read in full...)

Should I tell my friend?

Q.   My best friend started dating a girl from our college. But I've had 3some with that girl before. Should I tell him this?...

A.   1 June 2017: Because I fucked his girlfriend.... (read in full...)

Drunken fumble, was what the guy did normal making out or was it more than that?

Q.   I was at a party recently and we both were pretty drunk and horny, and started making out and it turned into a very intense one. He started moving my hands all around her body including my breasts and my butt, and cupped my breasts and butt ...

A.   31 May 2017: But would a lot of girls let a guy do this? Or did I do something out of the ordinary? I mean I really didn't wanna go to second base with him and I thought it's part of make out nowadays.... (read in full...)

I want to tell his wife that I was his mistress

Q.   I am a 44 years old divorced woman. 15 years ago when I was 29, I dated this one guy who was an American soldier. I wasn’t very much attracted to him at first, so it took a lot of effort for him to get me into a relationship. We never said ‘I love ...

A.   30 May 2017: Thank you all for the wise words. I know I should not contact his wife. I will never do that in real life. But I wanted to vent out my secret desire because it’s a thing that I cannot discuss even with my best friend. I have moved on. I comp... (read in full...)

My daughter feels I am being inconsiderate having my lover stay over

Q.   hi all, I have been on my own with my daughter since she was 6 months old and in that time i have never introduced her to any potential partners, i have chosen to stay single. my daughter is 18 years old next month and also has a boyfriend of nearly ...

A.   29 May 2017: thank you aunt honesty:)... (read in full...)

Does she like me romantically or just see me as a friend?

Q.   Not entirely sure with this, I'd like to think she likes me but I really struggle to tell the difference between what counts as friendship or relationship material. Basically put I met up with this girl who I got talking to online and I met up wit...

A.   29 May 2017: Thank you for your answers Honeypie and N91. I'm going out on a 2nd date with her tomorrow and you were right, she didn't say it directly but she gave some very big hints to say she likes me romantically. Thank you for your help :)... (read in full...)

I thought we'd made plans but she hasn't texted back!

Q.   Hey all! Need some advice here please. Earlier in the week a girl said I was amazing and that we should hang out this weekend. I texted her yesterday asking if the plans were still good and she said heck ya so I replied sweet that's what I like to ...

A.   27 May 2017: I did not meet her online she is actually my neighbor haha. I didn't ask her or even imply we should hangout. We have kinda flirted in the past. She had a boyfriend but apparently now doesn't. I'd rather her come up with excuse then just not texted ... (read in full...)

Why can't men just say they are not interested in pursuing anything anymore rather than string you along with the crumbs?

Q.   I did it again. I swore never to talk to another man online due to my past experiences of getting too close without having any kind of commitment. It took time to get over the last guy I spoke with for 18 months (I found out he was dating someone ...

A.   26 May 2017: Thank you so much Denizen for your words of wisdom. The phrase "Swap the humiliation for disappointment in him" is a very good thing to rather dwell on than the former! Very helpful indeed. And, yes, I am a little naive I think.. or maybe a lot!... (read in full...)

My married lover seems to have lost interest in me. Why is this?

Q.   Dear aunts, I met a wonderful man through work and the chemistry between us was unbelievable. We had few business meetings with other people and he finally told me that he's very much attracted to me but never contacted me. I found out he was ...

A.   26 May 2017: Thank you all so much. Your advices are very helpful and spot on. He did call me yesterday after 3 days of no contact, I was with a friend and didn't answer and by the time I finished it was too late to return his call. I agree with you all, It w... (read in full...)

Do you think our relationship go anywhere?

Q.   I have been talking to this guy for nearly 4 months who I met online. We are from different states, would be a 10 hour drive there. Originally, I was only talking with him for something to do, casual flirting here and there, nothing serious. He ...

A.   26 May 2017: Hmm I know... I would like to perhaps talk to him over the phone but his an introverted guy. Just to get things kicking out of text because texting can be boring sometimes. Im not sure how to go about it though. Was going to casually bring it up and ... (read in full...)

Should I tell my art teacher of my feelings in case I never see her again?

Q.   So I'm a 16 year old girl I'll be 17 in 2 months. And I am in love with my female art teacher. Sadly she is straight and has a boyfriend. I want to tell her how i feel after I graduate just to get it off my chest but I'm afraid that she will never ...

A.   25 May 2017: I know nothing will come of it. I know she doesn't feel the same. I just wish she knew. its not just a crush. I've had crushes before. this is more. ... (read in full...)

Was he drunk or did he experience memory loss?

Q.   hi, i am 43 years old and been on my own for 17.5 years, my ex left me when my daughter was five months old and i have remained single. i have met someone i really like and we have seen each other a few times. last night he came to see me and sa...

A.   24 May 2017: now another weird thing has occurred. He told me he was married with two step children (which he was) and when they divorced she took a lot of money and he also put aside £250,000 each for the two children to go to university and since they didn't ... (read in full...)

She's broken up with her boyfriend, is it too early to ask her out?

Q.   Hey there everyone! Hope you all are well! I'd like some advice of you could. So I'm a 30/male this girl I need advice about is 25 I believe. She moved in to the apartment next door to me about 6 months ago. I instantly thought she was one of the ...

A.   24 May 2017: Thanks for your replies everyone! I do appreciate it. So last night we texted after I asked for advice on here. She ended up telling me that I'm amazing and that she's glad I live next door and that we should sit on the patio and have some drinks ... (read in full...)

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