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Why won't my friend admit that he is married?

Q.   Hi, Aunts! Of late, I've been speaking with one of my friends who is married for 2 months now. The issue is that he has fallen for me and won't even accept or acknowledge his marriage, when I already have seen their pictures (why would he lie to ...

A.   20 January 2017: Thank you, all the Aunts. Your views were indeed helpful. I feel better now to cut him off my life. Seems like the burden which haunted me has gone away. ... (read in full...)

I lied to my husband about maxing out my credit card and he found out

Q.   So today my husband found out that i maxed my (our) credit card. He was upset by this. Which i dont blame him. Ive totally broken his trust in me. I was going to say that i dont know why i lied about it. But i do. I lied because he gets ver...

A.   19 January 2017: I feel so silly. I've downloaded an app for my phone to help with budgeting and i've organised financial counselling for myself. this is something he will refuse to attend. Im doing something to help myself. i think my marriage is over after 8 ... (read in full...)

Is there any way I can change his perceptions about me? How should or could I attract him back to me?

Q.   Its been 50 days. My boyfriend broke up with me.. It was all my fault. Its been 2 years. For 1 year we were together when i was working ..but from last 1 year we are in long distance. I live with my parents and i am jobless. My career is ...

A.   19 January 2017: Thank you every one..last time when we had a conversation he said the day you will prove to me that you can live without a man..that day you will be attractive to me. The way he said those things.. it still hurts. I texted him after that conv... (read in full...)

Is he using me? He's spending more time with his ex than he spends with me.

Q.   I'm going out with this bloke on and off for over a year now, but what gets to me is he spends most off his time at his ex's house. He says he's there for kids but half of the time the children are not there. He leaves at 8:00 in morning and ...

A.   19 January 2017: Every time I say it's over he tells me his got nothing to live for n say his gonna kill his self I didn't get pregnant 2 keep him it just happened my uncle died the other day n he still rather spend time down there n all he dose is txt saying he ... (read in full...)

Do good relationships go through this?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 7 months. From the moment I met him I felt that he was the one I would marry. We have been through a lot in the last year. My Nan got cancer (she is okay now), my Grandfather passed away, and I was ...

A.   19 January 2017: Hello all, wow that was definitely hard to hear, but I understand and appreciate your perspective. And it has answered my question - I have been wayyyyyy too hard on him. I will be doing all I can to thank my bf for what he has given me already... (read in full...)

Is she his EX? Is my BF being honest to me? He seems very emotionally connected to his woman he says he is helping due to the woman's health issues

Q.   About almost TWO years ago, my boyfriend who is 37 years old asked me (28 years old) to do him a favour and to please call his female ”friend” (27 years old) to give her an address (which I looked up and it happened to be of a lawyer as far as I can ...

A.   18 January 2017: To me it sounds fishy! why so much drama for more than 3 years! So much communication between them, she could of looked for help long time ago, and get away from her crazy ''abusive'' husband. Why so much ''talk the talk'' instead of walk the walk... (read in full...)

My girlfriend told me that I have 'dry 10 second sex'!

Q.   My girlfriend told me that I have "Dry 10 second sex" and I took it as a insult because to me it felt like she was saying that she doesn't enjoy my sex anymore. I told her how I felt and tried to move past it but I just couldn't it makes me feel ...

A.   18 January 2017: Hello everyone it was my question. And it's not that my sex actually last for 10 seconds, she's just over exaggerating because her sex drive is through the roof. She wants to have sex for hours back to back every day its exhausting. When we first... (read in full...)

Logically I know it doesn't matter, but I am struggling with my Girlfriend's past!

Q.   I know a lot of you are going to say this is just another guy with hang-ups and insecurities suffering from hypocritical retrospective jealousy – and to a certain extent you may be right – but I really am desperate to fix this (fix myself?), so ...

A.   18 January 2017: Thank you everyone for your replies. They are all helping in their different ways and I really appreciate the effort. I just wanted to try and clarify a few things. I initially asked about her past, because I wanted to know what I could be letting... (read in full...)

I still feel embarrassed 8 months later.

Q.   I expressed interest in guy that I was interested in 8 months ago but he turned me down. I felt disappointed but brushed it off and acted like it was no big deal. However, the long term effect was embarrassment. I thought he was interested in me...

A.   18 January 2017: Thank you everyone for your insights.The thing is,sometimes it takes me a while to process things.When he rejected me,I didn't feel embarrassed.We were working for the same place but dufferent departments.I was already thinking about leaving my job ... (read in full...)

My mother's judgmental, cruel and poisons my relationships!

Q.   So this is about my mother and her opinion about my relationships. I am a 30 year old guy and I've had a few long and short time rekationships where I introduced my gfs to my mother. Most of the time they got along well - when we visited, my mom ...

A.   17 January 2017: Thank you all very much for the answers! I'll keep these in mind and tell her less about my life, that is the best thing to do.... (read in full...)

What was my colleague's intention?

Q.   Hi there, Looking for advice on how to handle this situation with a colleague at work. I'll start by saying I'm not usually one to assume that everyone is flirting with me or attracted to me. There is a relatively new man at work in quite a high u...

A.   17 January 2017: Hi everyone, Thanks for all of your replies and the insightful advice given so far. I do agree I DID(before these most recent events) like this man but mostly I think out of pity. I'm sure that makes me sound like a horrible person but as I said he ... (read in full...)

How can you talk to a platonic friend everyday you used to have feelings for?

Q.   Hi Ive been wondering something recently... would love people's takes on it- particularly men! My bf is best friends with a girl he says he "used to think he loved" This was years ago but she rejected him. However he still talks to her ev...

A.   17 January 2017: I know it's weird :/ I mean on the plus he doesn't call her, just fb chat (I dont have fb) He said once he'd never felt this way about a woman before to me, and does text me, show signs of love. Another thing he's insecure about his looks/... (read in full...)

I feel like my boyfriend isn't really committed to me!

Q.   Hi, I'm just looking for some advice. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and I'm really unhappy. I feel like he isn't really committed to me, I'll give you some examples. He's messaged other girls behind my back and admitted he l...

A.   16 January 2017: Thank you so much for your responses everyone, it really means a lot that you've taken your time to respond to me. From the bottom of my heart thank you. What you're all saying makes perfect sense xxx... (read in full...)

Do I stay with this guy or do I leave?

Q.   Hi. I am needing advice. When I was 18/19 I got engaged to my ex, we were together almost three years. I was 21 when we split. I met my current partner within three months of my ex and I splitting up (my ex cheated and got engaged to s...

A.   16 January 2017: Thank you for all your advice. I forgot to add that the last time I gave my boyfriend money, he took 6 months + to pay it back... He doesn't want to buy a house until his like fourteen thousand dollar loan is paid off, or most of it (which h... (read in full...)

I text my bf on an alias phone pretending to be an admirer. And he fell for it.

Q.   After forgiving my cheating bf who got me and another woman pregnant 5 yrs ago, i forgave him and we are now back together for the past year. i put up with him going to spend time with his son at the other woman's house of which sometime he sleeps ...

A.   16 January 2017: I got weary of watching him having the hots for a character i created and constantly blowing me off. So today i've decided to let Rosy text him something that will push him away, "Can you lend me some money and I work it off? my friend can join tig... (read in full...)

He says I mean everything to him so why don't his actions show that?

Q.   Hi all!! In need of advice and I turn to you. Ive been with my guy for a few years. And he messed up HARDCORE a cpl years ago lying, cheating and hiding things. He got busted by being sloppy. And all that he did seriously messed my up in the head, ...

A.   15 January 2017: I don't have a bad look at you at all for giving me your honest outlook on my situation, I greatly appreciate it. I will let you know that the reasoning that he gave me for doing all the stupid junk behind my back was "I've been hurt many times by ... (read in full...)

My LDR boyfriend hasn't wanted to video chat. Does it mean that he does not miss me?

Q.   So far in my LDR, I have been the one to mostly initiate video calls, though we text throughout the day. I have asked for more vid chats, shorter times, but I usually have to ask for vid chat. It wears on me that I usually have to always hint/ask....

A.   15 January 2017: I have talked to him again and hopefully he calls me when he said he would. Video chat is something we can't seem to get past lol. I had the same issues w/him communicating via messages everyday, but after expressing how disconnected I felt, it ... (read in full...)

Should I just quit the job I hate?

Q.   I have been working for the same company as a CNA for 5 years and I absolutely hate my job. I went back to school for dietary aide and I just got a offer in different facility to work in the kitchen.I went for training and I must say I like the job ...

A.   14 January 2017: Hey,thaks for your advice.CNA I'm referring to is Certified Nursing Assisting which is proving assistance with bathing, dressing, eating, toileting and oral care to people who cannot do these tasks alone...especially elderlies .It is a high stress ... (read in full...)

Being just friends makes sense but I don't know how to approach this!

Q.   Hi everyone, I (23/m) met a girl (22/f) last year over the course of a job where we were both away from home. During our time there we became really good friends and it was after the time had ended (and I had broken up with a different girl) ...

A.   14 January 2017: Thanks all, I really appreciate the responses. Great insight ... (read in full...)

Why do men disappear? And should I reach out?

Q.   Why do men suddenly disappear? And should I reach out or let it go? Here's the situation : I met a guy a year ago. I gave him my phone number. He lives in a different city but for one year, casually kept in touch (maybe one text a month). Then i...

A.   14 January 2017: But Aunt Honesty - is it too early to ask those kind of questions? You know, men view it as a "talk" and might freak out?... (read in full...)

Why guys appear to disappear?

Q.   I was talking to this guy for 9 months. We argued after and hurt his feelings. He did not forgive me. Then i gave it a time. I did not text him for a while. All of a sudden, he texted me as if nothing happens for 2 weeks. He lives in San Diego an...

A.   13 January 2017: Honeypie:: how am i going to move on? I was ready to move on when he did not answer my texts and forgive me. Then he appeared and texted me nonstop. He might find another person. ... (read in full...)

What makes a relationship different from a friendship?

Q.   What makes a relationship diffrent from a friendship? I'm twenty one and my boyfriend is eighteen. At first he would call me pet names say random sweet things and say he loves me randomly and he hasn't done that for the last couple of months (we've ...

A.   13 January 2017: Thank you for your answers, but I wasn't asking if I should leave him. I was just wondering if that was normal because all my exs were extremely mushy so I was used to that. I brought it up to him again and he assured me that he loves me and wants ... (read in full...)

Is this the old him again

Q.   I broke up with my husband two months ago we spent a month apart. We split as he had issue with favoritism towards his kids and a dislike of my eldest girl and my father. He also tried to control me. Generally his attitude stunk towards my kids and ...

A.   13 January 2017: Thank you. I have put a deposit on a house and we will leave. I couldn't have done it without you xx... (read in full...)

Is it over or not? Should I text her something? Try calling again?

Q.   I don't know if it's over or not. She's 35. We met about a month ago and hit it off really well on our first date, so we've been seeing each other regularly since then. She recently invited me to see her at a dance competition. I met her friends ...

A.   13 January 2017: So I caved and called her a week later. She answered, we had a nice conversation, I asked her out and she gladly agreed. 2 days later she cancelled on me, wrote a 4 paragraph long text message explaining why she ghosted me and why she thin... (read in full...)

My sisters deserve better. What can I do?

Q.   Hello all, im in a very strange situation.. I hate the husbands of my sisters. I regret they didn't marry other people. My sisters are both beautiful and good people. My first sister's husband might not be a very bad guy but he embarrasses her in ...

A.   12 January 2017: you are very much right, thank you for your help... (read in full...)

My previous LDR did not work. My current LDR treats me better. Based on how things are working out does this current LDR have a chance of working out for the best?

Q.   My bf came down to visit me for a little while and we talked about the future. The thing is he is younger then me and much less stable then me. I guess when I started dating him, I should have walked away, but I couldn't and we fell in love. ...

A.   12 January 2017: This is why I brought up all these issues because in the past I was blindly in love. its also the reason I asked flat out if he wanted to break up, I want to know and even if the truth hurts I don't want to be delusional.... (read in full...)

Should I be concerned ? He came home from his class, wearing cologne

Q.   My boyfriend is a self defense instructor at our gym. He teaches an hour class one evening each week voluntarily. I noticed this evening that he came home from his class, wearing cologne. This is the first time that I have ever noticed him wea...

A.   12 January 2017: Thank you!! He actually came directly home from the class. His colonge was at our condo...So it's not like he has it on him.... (read in full...)

Did I over-react when I was upset about his weak excuse for canceling his visit?

Q.   My long distance bf who lives 3 hours away was suppose to come this weekend to see me. I was really looking forward to it since its a long weekend which means we will have more time together .However he has Monday to Friday job so he is only ...

A.   11 January 2017: Update You guys were right...He admitted that he has a new interest and he's met someone else closer .Now he won't give me the time of the day :( This is upsetting to me,I'm heart-broken:(.I'll just have to accept it and hopefully I will find som... (read in full...)

Can a seven year relationship be over because of a lie said 6 years ago? Am I completely in the wrong here ?

Q.   My Partner [30 F] of 7 years broke up with me [32 M]for lying. She found out I met my son (1year old at the time) when I was abroad 6 years ago. Myself and my partner had just broken up at the time so I was single when abroad. I never told her I...

A.   11 January 2017: Wise owl, thanks for the comment. So I broke up with my sons mom when he was 3 months old. And got with this girl pretty soon after. She knew exactly that I had a child,FULLY KNEW! My son lives about 10 miles from me and his mom is settled with ... (read in full...)

How do I make my cousin love me back?

Q.   Hey guys and girls im 14 year old and im 9th grade i love my girl cousin and she lives in another country so only 3 times i saw her 2006 2011 2016 so this year i loved her so much and we had really really good times but she went to her country back ...

A.   11 January 2017: I really love her ?? I dont know but she is loving me too but i dont know if its fake or bo... (read in full...)

I need advice on making my marriage better. Should I feel guilty about the flirtation I had on a weekend away?

Q.   I need some advice on making my relationship better. I'm married and have been for 13 years, the first thing I want to say is I love my wife. I am in my mid 40's whilst my wife is 7 years older than me, up until last year I was fairly overweight ...

A.   10 January 2017: Once again thank you for your responses they have been very thought provoking. You ask about our lifestyle both my wife and I work and we have a teenage daughter. We eat fairly well and I do much of the cooking from scratch my wife's (and mine... (read in full...)

We enjoy each other's company but nothing seems to be starting! Any advice, aunties?

Q.   In April last year I met a guy at a local sports club I go to and over the course of the last few months we've built up a friendship and now regularly see each other outside our sports club. We're both single and in our 30s and at the start of las...

A.   10 January 2017: Thank you for the advice. I've felt confused as I thought I was receiving mixed messages. I'm due to see the guy at the weekend but I think after that I'll back off as I just don't want to end up hurt if feelings are not reciprocated...... (read in full...)

Do women daydream too?

Q.   I have to admit, that when i see a beautiful woman, i sometimes start to daydream about her. What might happen if we got to know each other and where this may lead... Do women do this too when they see an attractive man? Please let me know a...

A.   10 January 2017: @andie Any idea where to find such a group?... (read in full...)

I tried my best and I want him back. But were my words about his ED too confronting? I apologized, but he has big trust issues as well.

Q.   Hello, I met this guy at the airport and he was my passenger then we exchanged the phone numbers. He moved to California for his job and he is 45 years old. I am 30 years old and live in New York. He comes to visit his family here, in New York. ...

A.   10 January 2017: You guys were so right. He did not come to Ny and he disappeared on me again. At least it was not my fault. I just do not understand what i did wrong. why he was texting me everyday then he stopped it? Either he has issues or he found someone else. ... (read in full...)

My abusive ex is dating again. Would it be weird or wrong if I warn his new Gf about him?

Q.   Hello all, Ok here's the short situation I was married have two kids with the guy. He cheated and abused me verbally and physically. We ended up getting a divorce and I'm finally free of him. He is living in another county now. He does n...

A.   10 January 2017: Ok so I really appreciate all your input and I have decided to not say anything. I don't wish what he has done to me or my children on anyone but the fact of the matter is my children come first. Hopefully she gets out without damages but I ca... (read in full...)

Do women dream about male virgins too?

Q.   Dear female cupids Many men dream of making love to a virgin Girl and teach her all about sex. Do women dream about male virgins too? Personally I haven't had this Kind of desire, although i lost my own virginity to another virgin. My ...

A.   10 January 2017: Thanks for all your answers. Maybe it's another Thing that fascinates me about this Fantasy. I think there is also a bit of a dom/Sub active/passive element in it. In my Fantasy the woman would clearly take the lead. Showing me where she wuold like ... (read in full...)

Do his comments about other women signify insecurity or a potential cheat?

Q.   Hey, My boyfriend is very loving, sweet, complimentary etc but he does this thing that is really starting to grate on me... Basically when we watch films/ tv when a fit women comes on he's VERY vocal about it I.e. "id put it in her" "she's so s...

A.   10 January 2017: Thanks all for your responses... I did get rid of the captain kirk lock screen ha :) will ensure no more disrespectful talk happens...... (read in full...)

I still haven't met his teenage daughter after a year of dating and I'm tired of feeling like a mistress

Q.   Hi everyone! I've been dating my BF for over a year now and he has a 14 told daughter. last year, two months into our relationship, he suddenly disappears for 2 months without even a text or a call. Although I had just started to date him, I w...

A.   10 January 2017: Aunt honesty, thank you sooooo much. It means a lot... (read in full...)

My crazy abusive ex got a job where I work.

Q.   I was in a emotionally abusive relationship for years. I finally had the strength to get away. For years, the cycle was that she would do something horrific to me, and then break up with me. We would proceed not to speak for a while until she ...

A.   9 January 2017: Thanks so far for all of the wonderful and thoughtful responses. To answer some questions, she still has my contact information because I hadn't changed it. For a long time, I wasn't ready to completely cut ties. I had held on to a hope that somehow ... (read in full...)

Should I leave my wife?

Q.   Should I leave my wife? I have always trusted her, but because she had gone out one night about 5 years ago and returned home at 4:30 in the morning, I had started to have concerns. That night, I was supposed to pick her up at 11:00. I had cal...

A.   9 January 2017: I decided to provide an update, as so often when I read other posts, I wonder what ultimately happened. Shortly after posting this, I decided that perhaps I needed to go for counselling to try to get my head straight. I should have done it lon... (read in full...)

How do I make my boyfriend more comfortable with talking intimately on the phone?

Q.   My boyfriend can't talk intimately over the phone, and when I do it makes him uncomfortable. Everything's great when we're face to face together but we're in a long distance relationship and spend a couple of days each month together. We've been ...

A.   9 January 2017: Thanks for the responses I just wanted some second opinions. So far as the distance, we're at separate universities that were already confirmed when we stared dating. So a distance we can do nothing about. I'm on a course that lasts for a few more ... (read in full...)

Is he being a bit too selfish or not?

Q.   Hi, my boyfriend (45) and me (34) live in two different (European) states. We have been on an LDR since last Sept.(when we first got to know each other). Then we struck a “whatsapp relationship” until I flew to him for a week during the New Year ...

A.   9 January 2017: He originally comes from the same region as me..He's told me he was in 2 abusive relationships -to the point of being totally ignored by his wealthy providing partners. It seems that he wants to take it out on me by trying to put a barrier between ... (read in full...)

What do I do? How can she still want to be with someone who she is not sexually attracted to, nor IN love with?

Q.   Apologies if I ramble but I have some much to get off my chest ?? My Fiancée of nearly 14 years and the mother of my 2 beautiful daughters (11 and 6) had told me she loved me but is not IN love with me several years ago. We have also not had...

A.   9 January 2017: Firstly I would never do anything to hurt my children. Ever! Hence why I would never have followed through with my thoughts of hurting myself. Secondly they are my world and I love them to bits. They certainly do not get the impression that Dad... (read in full...)

Present employer could jeopardise new employment

Q.   Not a dating/relationship question, but would really appreciate any input from anyone who has any ideas/thoughts on this problem, as it could turn out to be a big problem for me. I have worked for a number of years for a small, family-owned com...

A.   8 January 2017: Thank you so much for all your very helpful replies. I will certainly look at the Acas site. (Don't know why on earth I didn't think of that myself!) In reply to RubyBirtle: the interview I am worried about is the one for the new job. I didn't e... (read in full...)

I'm now embarrassed making noise during intimacy, any reassurance?

Q.   I have a chronic illness and doctors aren't sure what it is. I'm in pain meds, even controlled ones, so I try to take as few as possible when the pain is bearable. I frequently get flare-ups that cause crippling pain and I just have to wait it ...

A.   8 January 2017: Thanks for trying, Anon, but I've been going to doctors for over a year, after a couple of hospitalisations because of the pain. It's a long fight because my GP has to keep referring me to different specialists and the specialists are passing me off ... (read in full...)

Why cant my wife say sorry?

Q.   I have been noticing for a few years now that my wife never can bring herself up to say sorry! I am much more of a perfectionist than her. She has messed up a lot of things in the past - like check writing (once she added $1195 and 25 to en...

A.   7 January 2017: Thanks very much for your replies. I did a lot of soul searching and realized what a pain I have been to live with! I am slowly learning to let go of the little imperfections, in myself and in others.... (read in full...)

How to get over the embarrassment of rejection?

Q.   I expressed interest in guy that I had my eye on 9 months ago but I was politely rebuffed. I felt embarrassed but brushed it .However,I try to be polite and friendly whenever our path cross but things are extremely awkward between us.I wish things ...

A.   7 January 2017: Thank you for your advice WiseOwl... (read in full...)

A brief text on Christmas but nothing since then! What does this mean?

Q.   Really need advice Haven't spoken to a guy who I got close to but it didn't work for various reasons We had a huge falling out but last year (January )he asked to meet me and we had a coffee After that we didn't talk again So this year...

A.   7 January 2017: Thanks all for your time We're really good friends before any of this and I would like to build on that but I was gonna ask him for a coffee but bit nervous to... (read in full...)

I don't feel good that my husband talks to his ex behind my back! What do I do?

Q.   I have been cheated on in the past and I just can't stop with snooping. I've talked to my husband about it but I just keep finding him communicating with his ex and he deletes them right away. I just saw that he told her I don't like them keeping in ...

A.   7 January 2017: His other female friends are usually just coworkers, and when we started dating he said this ex gf was his only best friend, so it sounded to me like he had problems letting go of this ex. I don't know if he cheated on me before, but I'm thinking ... (read in full...)

Am I selfish, or is he crazy ?

Q.   Hi, I need your honest opinion on this situation. My boyfriend calls me selfish all the time. I'm honestly tired of hearing it. But I feel he asks for too much from me when we've only been together for 7 months and don't even live together or know ...

A.   6 January 2017: Yes I've posted about him before about that. And yea it's what I have to do. Thanks for you reply everyone ... (read in full...)

Is he ghosting me? He's not anywhere online. What must I make of this?

Q.   I hooked up with a friend of a friend. I first noticed him on Facebook and grew interest in him. Over time I asked a friend to organize for us to meet. My friend told me he was single I am also single. He's 41 and very handsome. I had hinted t...

A.   6 January 2017: Yes, He came back on the 2nd of January. He tells me his phone broke and the screen went blank. He informed his mother and son and other few people whose numbers he knew by heart. He went into a surprise trip with friends outside the province and... (read in full...)

He wants me to be his accountability partner!

Q.   I write articles online and some commenters are allowed to message me on an anonymous mail for private conversations. My type of articles are centred around happenings in everyday life and the struggles faced by youths but I'm in no way an expert...

A.   6 January 2017: I have to clarify some things. @you wish, not internet porn. He told me he needed someone to be accountable for in his long-term goals, who goes through his daily plans and monitors his progress. He has a loan he wants to obtain. and according to ... (read in full...)

I've fallen for my friend's ex! What should I do?

Q.   I have fallen in love with my friend's ex. What should I do? I have been crushing on him for just over a year now and can't stop thinking about him, they broke up about 2 and a half years ago and she is in a relationship with this new guy who she ...

A.   6 January 2017: I don't think he likes me back though so it would be awkward foe ne to ask her and he doesn't like me, that's my provlem... (read in full...)

How do I even begin to respond to him, when he ignores my good news?

Q.   Hey guys. So I (27yrs) just started dating this older gentleman (45yrs) whom I've grown quite fond of. We've been dating for a few months now. He doesn't outwardly flirt with me, but he use to ask how I was feeling and if I was having a good day. W...

A.   6 January 2017: I was wondering if the age difference makes a difference in his texting style? He sends me texts that read like emails. It's always this long drawn out text that tells me what he did that day, what he's currently doing and what he plans to do. It ... (read in full...)

I'm anxious because he doesn't contact or text every day.

Q.   Hi all Wanted to know if this is normal behaviour from my bf of four months... Ok he's so caring and affectionate, telling me how happy i make him above all else, he loves me compliments etc. But he isn't a big texter/ caller... Ok he plays a ...

A.   6 January 2017: Thanks for your reponse... For me I don't want a boyfriend who can't even take 10 mins out of his day to text his gf back cos he's playing ganes games etc. He even said earlier that he wants to set up some controllers for us to play together, as its ... (read in full...)

Can you be pregnant with negative test results?

Q.   I had sex with a guy one night in September. I dont really remember what happened but i know we had sex. We used a condom but i am unsure if he secretly slipped it off or of the condom may have failed. It isvDecember now and my stomach looks ...

A.   5 January 2017: Hi everyone, Thank you for all of your advice and helpful words. I haven't been able to move up the appointment, since my doctor is booked. They said they will call if anything opens up. I may try another doctor but I will wait until the end of t... (read in full...)

He is using me as his "get out" clause.

Q.   So basically me ex fiancé who I have a son with told me that he would stop seeing the girl he's talking to if I had an issue with her and her being around my son. He doesn't seem partically happy about them talking they hardly ever see each oth...

A.   5 January 2017: She has never met my son before, he said this too me before he has even introduced them, they have only met up a few times maybe 5 at most since October if what he says is true! Which is why I feel like he wanted me to say I didn't want her around ... (read in full...)

My married lover wants me to move to his country with our son

Q.   Dear readers, I am in a really complex situation. 8 years ago, I met a man - we were both married at the time. I didn't have any children, because my then husband did not want any, despite my wanting a child desperately. The other person (OP) has ...

A.   5 January 2017: Thank you all of you, who took the time to respond to me. I really do appreciate it. Just to add, I live in Singapore and he lives in India, though we are both originally from India. WiseOwl, it was never my intention to deprive him acce... (read in full...)

How do I tell my boyfriend I'd like to watch him masturbate

Q.   I have a fantasy and I am not sure how to approach my boyfriend about it. I don't want him to think I'm weird/something wrong with me or to embarrass him. I know it is natural for men to masturbate and I have no problem with him doing it. However, ...

A.   4 January 2017: Well I just couldn't get the nerve up this past weekend. I'm so afraid my boyfriend will not be receptive to my fantasies. I really just don't know how to introduce the subject. Thank you for your advice I just wish I could find the nerve to do as ... (read in full...)

Crippling retroactive jealousy - does it get better?

Q.   My battle with retroactive jealousy: - It's been almost 2.5 years. Improvements: - It is getting better. I can function normally in last one year. - Hearth shattering instant images no longer pops up. - It is getting less visual. - I kinda g...

A.   4 January 2017: Well , I've been to another psychiatrist. I've been told that I'm very unlikely to get over it.. ever. But obsessions are like humans and they do age therefore I'll be most likely be a little bit better in the future. On the other hand he also ... (read in full...)

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