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Should I let her go unless she takes the initiative?

Q.   I have been in a relationship for many years. We do not live together because we both agreed we would wait until each of our children are grown before we combine our households. There have been "ups and downs" over the years, but never anything ...

A.   22 January 2019: Thank you to ALL of you. Based on my viewpoint from being in the relationship, I think WiseOwlE hit the nail on the head. The thing is, I don't think she's just a selfish person who intentionally manipulates me, I think this is all on a ... (read in full...)

I'm separated and my friend of years is making subtle moves on me. What do I do?

Q.   im falling out of love with my husband do to his emotional and verbal abuse.Been married for 15 years but together for 25 there is no intimacy for the last year or so.Occassional hug here or there .However he is great with our daughter relationship ...

A.   22 January 2019: Thank you to everyone whom replied.I really appreciate the feedback.Your comments Help me tremendously.Im going to update all of you on what has happend.Im looking into counseling for myself.Trying to get my hubby to move after him telling me ... (read in full...)

How do I get in touch with him?

Q.   Hello everyone reading; On Wensday (02/01), I had to get my hair braided at my hair dressers house. While I was there, the was his gentleman who came to the living room (Where my hair was being braided). He stood next to me trying to take someth...

A.   21 January 2019: Thank you all for your answers. And am going to go with staying away from him and letting things work out. If we are meant to be we will. ??... (read in full...)

Should I ask my married lover for baby?

Q.   So I have been seeing a man who lives with his common law wife and thier 2 kids.When we met he told me that he was in process of leaving her but now almost 2 years later he still lives at home and he won t see me outside his work hours. Anyways, ...

A.   20 January 2019: I'm already 34 so chances of finding a single men who WANTS the same thing as me before my fertility declined are slim.If he refuses then I'm planning to go the sperm donor route.Whats the difference? I would be a single mom regardless.At this point ... (read in full...)

Why do people at work bully other people?

Q.   Why do people at work bully other people? I have a close relation with someone at work. I am at a managerial position and she is at Junior level. This girl is good at her job but still her manager has an issue with my friendship with her. She ...

A.   19 January 2019: @Wise OwlE- Totally agree. Her boss doesnt like Me and sincs i am a manager, they cant do anything to me so they are troubling her. Now i did raise concern to my VP and since she is from US she will need time to understand Indian culture. This is ... (read in full...)

Should I tell him what I know and see if he has had closure from the past?

Q.   Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, he is awesome, treats me like a princess, (him and I met in January 2018,) but in early 2017, he started going out and getting to know this other girl which was in his day to day work ...

A.   17 January 2019: So you do think he might still think of her, the thing that ever since he talked to me about her in more details for some reason I felt crushed, maybe insecurity. There can also be a chance that his ego was hurt, cause he thought it could have wor... (read in full...)

Older man wont leave his girlfriend for me.

Q.   I started an emotional and physical affair with a man I work with around this time last year. He started seeing someone about 3/4 months before me and him started talking. He's 15 years older than me,I'm 32 he's 47. We connected on a level I never ...

A.   17 January 2019: Just said I'd quickly update. We work in distribution and im the admin that has to text the lads with the orders during the day. Fortunately it's quiet right now so we're talking about 1 text at most per day. He does not have to text me back. He has ... (read in full...)

Am I reading too much into our friend with benefits relationship?

Q.   Hello, I am trying to figure this person out and hoping to get some advice. I am in a Friends with benefits relationship . I am with man who I am getting the most weirdest signals, we started dating in July and usually back than it was just the ...

A.   17 January 2019: I kind of figure my self... all I got from home when I told him I like him is. “Aww thank you baby girl”...... (read in full...)

Am I friendzoned or is there a chance she might change her mind?

Q.   Met a girl from Bumble and here's how it's gone dating wise: Sat 29 Dec - went for a few afternoon drinks. Sun 30 Dec - Went out for a meal and more drinks, ended up staying over at hers kissing most of the night, slept together but we didn't h...

A.   17 January 2019: @anon I think you're right about her talking to someone else on Bumble, she was definitely active on there in the few days before she did eventually end it with me as I noticed her location kept changing. Maybe being with me triggered somethin... (read in full...)

Why did she cheat in this way?

Q.   Hi everyone! So I recently just got out of a yearlong distance relationship with another woman. I was half her age and was the older one in the relationship and she was also the “man” as well. She lives in another country and even has a fiancé of ...

A.   16 January 2019: Yeah I know it’s done now and even if we don’t remain friends which I doubt it cuz I just know lol. I am older and more paitent but she worries way too mich about what other people think about her and so many reasons actually. Like her getting ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's 12 year old doesn't like me and boyfriend will not step in and do anything

Q.   Hi I’m in a bit of a dilemma and seriously need some advice. I’ve been with my bf now for 7 months. We both love each other And have spoken frequently about marriage and living together. However here is my problem. I have met and get on ver...

A.   13 January 2019: We have known each other most of our lives, talking about our future does not mean we are going to rush into anything. Also his son is far from shy, his actually quite forward. Uses obscene language, and is very controlling. However thank you for ... (read in full...)

Is the whole world incapable of keeping a date? Am I doing something wrong? Am I just unlucky?

Q.   I’ve been trying online dating for the past month or so. I’ve been using Tinder, Bumble, and OkCupid because apparently they are the 3 most popular dating apps. I figure the more people I talk to, the better my odds of success are. I’ve talked with ...

A.   12 January 2019: OP here, Thank you so much everyone for your insightful advice. I decided to change my approach. I had been justifying jumping to a date by saying talking in person is better than talking by text. I still believe that fundamentally, but I was insp... (read in full...)

Boyfriend says he doesn't have time to be with me when I am sad or upset

Q.   My boyfriend of 10 months has been staying away from me for a few weeks now after we had this fight. It was over the matter regarding my promotion and i was talking to him about it and got carried away talking about the promotion related other stuff ...

A.   10 January 2019:  So i told him that i can't be in a relationship where i don't really know whether it is a relationship anymore without expressing love or commitment or interest. He said 'ok. GN'. I guess i now know how important i was to him... (read in full...)

Will I ever get the chance to massage her all over?

Q.   Hi, on the question of massages, I have a friend who will let me massage her back, neck, etc and feet, but not butt. She has also allowed me to see her topless, but she doesn’t fancy me and we also cuddle in bed a bit when she sleeps over. She ...

A.   9 January 2019: Thanks all! Appreciated!... (read in full...)

We got into a fight and now my friend no longer wants to be friends

Q.   Recently i got into a row with one of my best friend. We have known each other for 9 months now and we used to be very close. We have had lots of fights and now she gets irritated on small small things. If i ask her to come out to meet, she ignores. ...

A.   7 January 2019: Dear Andie's thoughts most of fights cz she delibrately provoked me. I would say i will not fight n then that day or next day, she would delibrately say or do something to provoke me and then when i get angry she would say I was just testing ... (read in full...)

Has my husband lost interest in me sexually?

Q.   Hello!! Me and my husband have dated for 3 years and we just got married last summer. I love him so much and he loves me the same. But there was things of been bothering me....:( We used to have very active for sex when we started dating. And i...

A.   7 January 2019: Thank you for the answers everyone. This really make me feel better because I couldn’t share with nobody. And yes I think it’s addiction and I read and googled a lot for this porn addiction and seen this is kinda common.... well me and my husband ... (read in full...)

Should I delay IVF-treamtment, in order to get married in my dream dress?

Q.   My boyfriend and I are engaged to be married in 6 months. We have been trying for a baby for close to 2 years now. Last year, we underwent a fertility check as we didn't manage to get pregnant. Turns out he's got low sperm quality and I have ...

A.   7 January 2019: Honeypie, thank you for your answer. As I already did buy a dress, suggesting that I get a cheaper one wouldn't do me any good :p But as it stands, I bought a used dress worth about 2200 USD for 430 USD. That's the skinny dress. My "preggo" dress so ... (read in full...)

Was I in the wrong to tell her to let my boss know? Is ending our friendship justified?

Q.   So My husband works in the oil field industry and we live 12 hours away from home. We are alone in the state we are in, and have no family close by. In 2017, My husband befriended his coworker and wanted me to meet his coworkers wife so I could have ...

A.   7 January 2019: Thank you both! I appreciate the help. I decided to let it go. Real friends don’t put you in that position.... (read in full...)

I thought he liked me but then he went ahead and completely ghosted me!

Q.   To make a long story short: Started talking to this guy online..We hit it off. Met in person about a week later. Had great first date. He texted me when he got home to tell me he had a great time and wants to see me again and said he is inter...

A.   6 January 2019: Thank you for your great answer. They're officially split..She has a live in boyfriend, as well. I actually don't drive. You're right. The uncertainty is killing me. He's obviously not who I thought he was. Blocking him is best, rather than hoping ... (read in full...)

Is this long distance relationship worth pursuing or should I just move on?

Q.   Hello everyone. So I have reached a point in my life when if someone were to ask my relationship status, I would say, "It's complicated". Basically, exactly one year ago I was on a pretty long layover, I downloaded a hookup app and star...

A.   4 January 2019:  Hello, Not sure if anyone will even read this, but writing is therapeutic for me, so here goes an update. I ended up traveling to Europe for over a month, and he and I did manage to meet a few times. The first time we met, it was i... (read in full...)

My husband is abusive and I wonder what I'm doing wrong to provoke him

Q.   Hello, I have been married to my husband for 5 years. We have been together for 12 years. We have a 11 year old together. I so have 3 older kids. But he normally only tells people he has one child. He has always had a temper but it has gotten worse. ...

A.   3 January 2019: Wow, I'm extremely annoyed by the one writer. If I was a step parent I would love my step children the same. Or at least treat them the same. And my husband should be telling people he has 4 children not just one. ... (read in full...)

Accused of being antisocial for turning down a guy?

Q.   My dad loves to accuse me of being anti social and saying "that's why you have no friends". We were at a friends place and there is a single guy there who I see a couple times a year. We aren't friends (acquaintances) and we do not share interests. ...

A.   3 January 2019: I have tried to do social things, nothing has really worked out. Atm I'm happy where things are. In the future I will not be telling my family much, I just found the situation funny.... (read in full...)

Why am I not as interested in sex as I should be?

Q.   I dont quite get it. Im 22, have been having sex since i was 16. I've never really been one for it thoughm and it seems like the older i get the less it even interests me. My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years and things were hot and ...

A.   2 January 2019: @wiseowlE Ive had a full check up with my ob not even 3 months ago. I am in love with my bf and by being turned on but not wanting to do anything i mean. I can like feel it down there i wanna do something but every time we go to do somethin... (read in full...)

My boyfriend lives with his child's mother!

Q.   To begin, my boyfriend and I have not been together long. I really care about him! I have two children and at first I thought he only had one. When we are together it's great and when we are not together things are also great. He will spend 95% of ...

A.   31 December 2018: He was married! I told his wife everything and cut ties with him.... (read in full...)

He constantly needs reassuring and I am being turned off by it!

Q.   Hi so I started seeing a guy about a month ago, he is lovely but lives like 400 miles away! I really fell for him, and him me, but he seems borderline obsessed with me, he got me presents for Xmas very sweet I thought, but he is very insecure and ...

A.   30 December 2018: To Anon I am very affectionate, yes I’ve been single a long time but I still have a lot of love to give! He knows how I feel, and I’ve been very good to him. So please stfu as you have no idea about me! I was simply saying I am an independent woma... (read in full...)

How can I ask my family to back off from my pregnant girlfriend?

Q.   I’ve been dating my gf for 6 months. My family met her for the first time over the holidays and they weren’t very welcoming. When we met she had just found out she was pregnant. She also has a two year daughter. She left her ex because he was chea...

A.   29 December 2018: And I thoughts - there’s no way I can live with her and let her kids needs or wants not be met if I can help it. They didn’t ask to be in this situation, they didn’t ask for me to get involved in this relationship and she has never once asked me for ... (read in full...)

I'm flying 1/2 way across the world to see me girlfriend who is probably going to break up with me?

Q.   For the past few months, I've been in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend of 6 years. The long distance is supposed to last another 5 months. I'm planning to visit her next week for a few days on my way to a conference, and then again ...

A.   27 December 2018: Thanks for your replies. I told her she should come to me but she just ended it over the phone as Honeypie predicted. I spent the few days going to Christmas markets and trying my hardest to meet people rather than spend the whole time alone. I’m ... (read in full...)

Should I give her a Christmas present for her son.

Q.   Over the past couple of months i have been getting to know a really nice woman that i have met locally to where i live, she is 37, and im 42. We are taking things really slow at the moment as we both have a lot going on at present. Things are ...

A.   25 December 2018: thank you all very much guys. I gave her the presents last night. She text this morning to say she loves her present, and her son absolutely loves his tractor, and said thank you for thinking of her son, so i'm really happy. Thank you all, and... (read in full...)

I’m having trouble forgiving and forgetting! How do I get past this?

Q.   I posted about a month or so back about a situation with my boyfriend. In the mist of an argument i took him to his old roommates place to check his mail and after about ten minutes inside i finally walked up to find out what was taking him so long ...

A.   23 December 2018: Im the op. I think what really bothers me the most is that i can't trust him to handle situations like that now. He seems to think i shouldn't have gotten upset and even had the nerve to ask for a ride there the very next day to check his mail ... (read in full...)

Any chance an ex might reach out after 5 months?

Q.   Sorry for the long post, I am hoping that by writing all this down it will be a bit cathartic and you guys might be able to give me a bit of a support. Basically back at the beginning of January I met a slightly older woman and we kind of hit it o...

A.   17 December 2018: Thanks for taking the time to respond, it does help. I do know that I’m taking much longer than I really should get over her, it’s just my nature really, and I am such an over-analyzer. I think what stung is the fact she hasn't just introduced him ... (read in full...)

Why do men string me along?

Q.   Hello. I am a 43 year old woman who asked for advice with her I’ll health and dead end personal life last hear and I got good advice. This year, I worked in a better job and started dating people in may. I do meet men but they are usually youn...

A.   15 December 2018: Thank you for your answers. I thought I was slowing it down but I seem to fall into the trap easily cos I felt he was intelligent and kind. I need to wait a little longer. I have dated men older than me and they seem to behave the same way as the ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is obsessed with sex!

Q.   My boyfriend is obsessed with sex! He constantly tells about sex, tries it on.even when I have been ill. I had a colopscopy procedure a few months ago and it was meant to be 6 weeks recovery time..after a few days he told me I should be having s...

A.   13 December 2018: I'm definitely going to look into that book as even the gaslighting stuff on Google sounds familiar. The way he causes arguments if he doesn't get sex and looks for reactions from me by saying if I'm not sleeping with him then I'm obv sleeping with ... (read in full...)

I'm planning on getting married but afraid of divorce

Q.   I am engaged and planning the wedding next year. But off late I have been having recurring fears about divorce. I am worried about my husband (to be) falling out of love with me when we grow older. Not because i will stop loving himbut because I am ...

A.   12 December 2018: Thank you that made me feel so much better! My previous boyfriend cheated on me, just when we were beginning to talk marriage. I never realized how much it has affected me as a person and my self-esteem. ... (read in full...)

I'm keeping it light and my options open, does this make me a bad person?

Q.   Hi, so I’m a single mum, I’ve been on my own for about 7 years now, I haven’t dated in a few years as I just couldn’t be bothered anymore. But recently on a Facebook group I’ve met two men, I like them both, and they are both aware of each other, ...

A.   11 December 2018: Honey pie, who said anything about me moving?! I know one would relocate if we got serious, and aside these two men I want to move anyway at some point, I’ve never intended staying here forever. And as for jobs, I work for myself so that’s not an ... (read in full...)

How do I overcome the misjustice and abandonment inflicted by my father?

Q.   Dear Cupid I feel quite upset after realising my dad has cut me off family photographs. We haven't spoken for five years. It was his choice to cut all ties with me when seeking help from a psychologists. Childhood issues were brought up...

A.   8 December 2018: Thank you so much for the time and effort taken to write in connection to what I've wrote. My dad is stubborn and from what my mom has said, he wanted to take legal action. When telling a friend, she said he would gain no benefit from a legal per... (read in full...)

Is this relationship even worth working towards if she is so secretive about her past?

Q.   In July I met a girl at work, she had just moved to my very small hometown a few weeks before we met. She is 23 and has a 1 year daughter. We quickly became friends and I started crushing on her at the same time. She very quite but lots of fun once ...

A.   5 December 2018: Thanks everyone, I truely meant no harm in looking through her photos. I just wanted to know more about her. Yes I have called it a “relationship”, we’ve been on several dates, spent the night together on more then one occasion and recently became a ... (read in full...)

She is comfortable being naked around me? So is she sexually attracted to me?

Q.   She isn't an exhibitionist and I am not a creepy pervert or anything like that. I just happened to bump into her while she was naked a couple of times but she was cool about it. I thought she would avoid me or move out but she didn't. She acts as if ...

A.   3 December 2018: Sorry for the late reply. I want to thank everyone who gave me advice here. I did go on a date with her, but I didn't follow through with my plan to tell her about my feelings for her. However I found out that she really loves me like a brother. For ... (read in full...)

How do I handle another party with friends where everyone is partnered up but me?

Q.   Well, I’m here posting on this site again. I probably started complaining about my singleness close to three years in. Now, sometime in March, it’ll have been seven years... Seven. Years. I’ve been on three dates in that time and they all sucked. ...

A.   1 December 2018: There was an answer asking me to clarify more, I am actually the anonymous answer about third down, starting with ‘I vented in a post’ (I forgot to log in before I did so). And in reading what I said earlier I made myself seem pretty busy, but ... (read in full...)

He knows I like him but went on a date with someone else. Is that a sure sign he doesn't care for me like I do for him?

Q.   Hi, So there's this guy that I work with who I have a crush on. He knows i like him actually but i dont know how he feels. Anyway we talk a lot at work and have started talking outside of work too. Well he told me today how he went on a date this...

A.   30 November 2018: Thanks everyone... (read in full...)

He's extremely possessive and mentally abusive but I still love him. Advice please!!

Q.   Hi. I am new to this so very nervous. I really need some advice about my partner. I have been with him for just over a year and I feel like I can't do anything right. He mentally abuses me constantly..well this is what I'm guessing it is?! He will ...

A.   29 November 2018: I have asked him to leave , he's going to be staying at his mum's. I'm evil and a psycho apparantly but didn't expect anything less than name calling to be fair. He hates now I'm fighting back...I guess that's him losing his control over me? Xx ... (read in full...)

The lack of affection, is it a lack of love or due to upbringing? shall I move on?

Q.   Greetings everyone. I have been with my partner for 4 years. We recently got married. Over all I was happy with the way things were and I grew very accepting of the fact that my partner is just not as affectionate as I am or at least that he do...

A.   28 November 2018: Thank you everyone. Thank you very much for your feedback. I have tried to talk to him about it many many times in the past. I have often thought he might have autism. I have brought it up to his attention and he thought it might be a strong p... (read in full...)

I’m crazy in love with my best friend!

Q.   Ok so here’s the thing, I’m like crazy in love with my best friend right but I don’t know if he likes or loves me back and I don’t want to ruin the friendship and I don’t think I can stop loving him what should I do?...

A.   25 November 2018: Thank you so much for the advice let’s see if it works lol ... (read in full...)

Should I ask her to wear leather to bed to spice things up?

Q.   Hi, this is quite a awkward question but I wondered if anyone else has had something similar. I want to spice up me and my girlfriends sex life. I have a bit of a fetish for girls in leather boots and gloves. My girlfriend is by far not someone ...

A.   25 November 2018: Thank you very much for all your help. We have been together for 2 years now but she has mentioned she wants to try new things in the bedroom but I am sure shes not thinking the same as me. I will approach this subject cautiously and sensitiv... (read in full...)

Is he interested in sex? Companionship? What?

Q.   I’m utterly confused and would love your help. A man I’ve known for years has been texting me with cryptic messages. We live in different states. He asked me to visit him. I laughed it off. But he asked again and nowI know he’s serious. He teases ...

A.   23 November 2018: Thanks for answering my question. He is single and I think what is complicating all of this is he has been a family friend for years. Our moms are best friends. His dad recently passed away and he was here for the funeral and we connected there ... (read in full...)

He says I'm "the one", but how can this work with the distance?

Q.   I've got a dilemma. Last year I was studying in the US for a semester, and I fell for someone. We tried to ignore our feelings for a long time because I wouldn't be staying, but the electricity between us was like nothing else I've ever felt ...

A.   20 November 2018: Thank you for your responses. I know I should probably accept this won't work out. But it's just so hard. How do I break this off without destroying him? It's like he's never even considered us not ending up together. He's fond of saying (and this ... (read in full...)

My best friend and my boyfriend were flirting with each other on my b-day right in front of me

Q.   I went out for my birthday with my boyfriend. We met up with friends. Later in the night my best friend came to join us in a bar. We all sat around a table, me, a friend, my boyfriend and best friend sat next to each other. They were both very ...

A.   20 November 2018: I hear you and although most of my "friends" didn't make it, I did get some great gifts and well wishes. I was just feeling a bit down because a few people who had said they were coming, cancelled on the day. Rationally I know it's life, but I felt ... (read in full...)

Waiting to hear outcomes of interview - too soon to follow up?

Q.   Hi all I attended an interview for executive assistant on Monday which went really well. I was told a member of the panel was on leave straight afterwards until Friday so I would hear back then. It's now Monday and I haven't heard anything. ...

A.   20 November 2018: Thanks so much for your answers. I caved and called just now and wasn't successful on this occasion. She said they don't tend to notify unsuccessful candidates!! How bizarre. Fingers crossed for the next one!... (read in full...)

He literally flipped in 8 hours! Is he blowing me off?

Q.   Is he blowing me off? I've been friends with this guy for years. We talk daily and have recently decided to take things to the next level since we are both finally single at the same time. Plus, he always lived about 6 hours away and now hes only a ...

A.   19 November 2018: I sent him a text last night and said, just wanted to say hi and check in on you. He said, I'm doing ok I guess. Thanks for checking in baby and sent 3 little heart and kissy faces. I said you're welcome and I miss ya. He said yeah me too I'm sorry ... (read in full...)

I've fallen hard for him but do I wait?

Q.   Hey Cupids :) I've been single for 2 years. A few months ago, I started talking to a guy who I first met 3 years ago. He's now single, but is still very affected by his break-up (from 5/6 months ago-I think they were together a couple of years....

A.   18 November 2018: Thank you both for your advice. I do agree when you say I might be his unintentional rebound (even though he told me that he didn't want me to be.) He said he feels bad and guilty about this, maybe this is another reason for the distance between us ... (read in full...)

I’m excited at the concept of an open relationship but I’m not really happy with the current situation.

Q.   My girlfriend of 6 years is studying abroad for a year (since mid-September). We’re fairly committed to each other so we are trying to do long distance. We are also fairly sexual people but have only ever really been with each other. We are also ...

A.   18 November 2018: Well.. I'm pretty much convinced that an open relationship was/is a bad idea, but I can't find the rewind button so here we are. The most positive outlook I've come up with is that we will either find people we like better, or decide we need each ... (read in full...)

Are LDR's real relationships, even if you haven't met them yet?

Q.   Hello, I am currently in a long distance relationship with a man. He is from the US, and is 21 years old, and I am from the UK, and am 18 years old. We met online, and have been together for a couple of months now. We are still going strong...

A.   14 November 2018: If you guys read the question properly, I had only asked for some genuine opinions, and made it pretty clear that I wasn't going to break up with him, and that's all I emphasized in my follow-ups. And yes, I did agree with some of the advice, ... (read in full...)

How to get him to see the urgency for a house and a family?

Q.   I have been with my husdand for just over 6 years and we are newly wed only married for 5 months. I find I am increasingly getting down and upset as we have been living in a caravan for 5 years together on his parents farm and we now have a good ...

A.   12 November 2018: I have found out that his parents have been influencing and saying ' he doesn't want to leave or move far' - yes he does we need to! Haha. Also he is concerned that if we buy a house in a street he won't like it after not really having neig... (read in full...)

Worst mistake of my life!! Don’t know what to do

Q.   I’m in the worst situation I could ever be in in my life I’ve made the biggest mistake ever and now I don’t know what to do I am suffering badly! I am 14 weeks pregnant but ended up cheating the night before I found out I was pregnant I know how bad ...

A.   12 November 2018: I feel absolutely awful everyday and don’t think I can rest until I tell him, I feel trapped everything has changed in my life so quickly and I don’t know how to deal with it. People are noticing at work that I’m not quite myself. The thing is I ... (read in full...)

Why is his dad trying to set us up and should I go along?

Q.   Long story short, am a virgin and one day my mom met an old time neighbour (who moved away but is living here again) who has one son. She kept bragging about how her daughter is "a princess" and then the guy said I have "a prince". Ever since he has ...

A.   9 November 2018: Yes thanks for your input @Andie'sThoughts and @WiseOwle I have abandoned this silly notion. It was flattering at most but its over now as I dont want to be the cause of a breakup. I told his dad and he said the reason he pushed it was because ... (read in full...)

We have fun and the sex is amazing but then why doesn't he fall for me?

Q.   Hey all. I feel like a spoilt brat here, like Verruca Salt when she can't get what she wants. I've completely fallen for a co worker. He works in another office and lives 80 miles away. He lives alone (divorced with a son) as I live with parents ...

A.   6 November 2018: Part 2 of response. am annoyed with myself I will try and be strong and be unavailable but I'm worried I'm gonna learn the hard way here ??... (read in full...)

After making him my facebook friend he held my wrist.

Q.   I just made a new friend via Facebook on Sunday. I sent him a quick text and he read it but replied the next day being Monday morning. The same day (Monday) I saw him as I was walking in the evening. It was dark but he recognized me. He ...

A.   6 November 2018: Good day Aunts, thanks for all your responses. Turns out thats how he shouts out friends. Yes @AuntieSusie got it right... (read in full...)

I don't understand why she did this to me

Q.   I know part of the answer. She's selfish. Has some severe mental health issues but so do I, so I'm trying not to hold it against her. Been scouring all over the internet to understand. Narcissist? Bipolar? Just trying to make sense of all this. ...

A.   5 November 2018: An update for the curious and those that took the time to answer. I asked her to meet me one last time, but I was aware of what I needed to do. I knew it was really over, despite how much I wished it was different. How I wish she was the girl I t... (read in full...)

How do I make my intentions known without coming across as creepy?

Q.   Hi this may seem trivial but I have not long gotten out of a long term relationship nearly 10 years. But I have no idea how to express interest in another woman it's been that long. There is one I am really interested in but 130 miles sepertes us. M...

A.   5 November 2018: To add a little bit extra. The children would be staying with me and Im potentially going to be seeking custody. When I say game I dont mean playing games. I mean that I've forgotten how gain a woman's interest and keep it. With regards ... (read in full...)

Where do you draw the line on honesty, versus someone indirectly putting another person down?

Q.   Dear Cupid I would really value your opinion now. Where do you draw the line on honesty, versus someone indirectly putting another person down? At what point do you realize that someone is being genuinely helpful, or is just putting you ...

A.   2 November 2018: I am so overwhelmed by the thoughtful and amazingly insightful response here. My intuition is saying that she is trying to bring me down. Many of my other close friends have said how well I am doing in progressing past life's setbacks and it'... (read in full...)

I'm hurt, confused, angry and betrayed.

Q.   So Last night I texted my gf and asked her how it started and she said that they met at a mutual friends house and he went up to her and they started talking about regulsr shit at first. Eventually they started chatting over what...

A.   2 November 2018: Thank you everyone for your opinions on the subject. My mom came forward and said she was sorry for not telling me and was aware of it the whole time but didnt know how to present it without upsetting me because of my anger issues that I have ... (read in full...)

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