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My husband offered me to his friend. Does he just want an open relationship?

Q. House party out of control. I am rather confused and upset. I have been with my husband for 5 years, married for 3 with two young children. We used to have house parties all the time and my hubby would either not drink or drink very little, he was a...

A. 9 May 2008: Thank you for the fast response. I was hoping to become soul mates with him, he has always made it clear that he loves me alot and we go to bed and sleep with each other everynight (well almost). I run a business from home and he goes out to work. I ... (read in full...)

Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....

Q. Just a little light comic relief, some entertainment if you like - sort of based on some of the problems here on Dear Cupid. Feel free to lighten your load : ) I'll start by submitting 8 things that I think guys would 'LOVE' to hear from their ...

A. 9 May 2008: Phil, I'd like to see you wipe your's on my horizontal metal blinds, heeheehee!!!..the image would be just like you're slicing a salami in a deli. : ) ... (read in full...)

I love him, but there's no sexual contact between us

Q. Hi well I dont know where to start.Im in love with my fiance very much.We live together.But for the last 5 months we have been like friends. No sexual contact,2 kisses a day.I told him i was highly sexed when we met.we were ok.but then after we move...

A. 9 May 2008: Thank you who ever gave some advice.I didnt slap him cause I was too upset.He is ok company but i am 43 Im not ready to give up on passion.Like you said whats holding me back I have no kids at home now,He dont like going out to pubs.He likes his pc ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend has lied to me about her sexual history! I hate what she's done to herself but she says she's different now?

Q. I know this is not a new topic, I know this has been discussed over, and over... i know that some of you will say get over it, but I don't think I can... Or at least, not always. My problem is that my girl friend has been with more people than...

A. 9 May 2008: Thank you, all of you. Thank you for your insightful words, your help, and your care. It really means a lot to me that people understand where I am coming from... I tried to talk to her about this before, obviously how I got my details... Once it ... (read in full...)

Would you stick it out just for the kids?

Q. I am married 11 years with 2 kids. We have been living abroad for the past year. This is our first time away from fam/friends. He has made the move as he moved from another country to mine 15 years ago. Our relationship has never been passoinate ...

A. 9 May 2008: Thanks for the replies. I have asked a bunch of strangers as I cannot confide in anyone else. I am away from friends/family and if they thought I was going through this they would be so upset. I am not expecting to ride off into the sunset, I am ... (read in full...)

We're trying to conceive but he can't ejaculate! What can I do?

Q. Hi, I hope some of you will be able to help. This is probably going to be long but I need advice real bad. I don't know what else to do! OKay, so my partner has difficulty ejaculating for some reason. But the sex is good, at least I think so, so i...

A. 9 May 2008: Thanks for the advice so far. I guess I should have mentioned that I am 21 and he is 27. It was a joint decision for me to come off of the birth control when we knew the time was right. As for getting married, I know that that should probably... (read in full...)

Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!

Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...

A. 9 May 2008: Hi rcn( i laughed at your joke as i thought the same about my cat,always sweet. i know what you mean its the injustice of things that get to me. It can be heartbreaking in itself. i try to do alittle bit for the planet with freecycle, who keep goo... (read in full...)

Can someone shed some light on my secret fantasy?

Q. okay I am hoping someone can shed some light on my secret fantasy. I am not normally turned on by other women, and have a boyfriend, but sometimes certain women really turn me on (if they are attractive and have the right personality). ...

A. 9 May 2008: Thanks guys. Don't worry, I wouldn't do anything behind my boyfriend's back. I dunno, I'm always checking out women and well, I don't know if that's normal. I am not attracted to my female friends, except the one who might be attracted to women bu... (read in full...)

My daughter is 19, unmarried and pregnant. Any pointers?

Q. My daughter is 19 and lives with her bf. I was against that decision, but she's grown. Now, she tells me that she is pregnant, I don't know how to handle the situation without alienating her. I don't approve because she is not married. It's not what ...

A. 9 May 2008: Thank you for your response. I have always been open with my daughter, and she knew that getting pregnant b4 marriage is not what she should've done. She is happy, but I can't be for her. I love her, and I told her that yesterday before her bf ... (read in full...)

I'm having difficulties satisfying my girlfriend due to erection problems.

Q. Hi, I'm having trouble having sex with my girlfriend. As i seem to be suffering from erectile dysfunction. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. We have only been able to have missionary sex, with me on top. However i don't feel like she is s...

A. 9 May 2008: Thanks for your advice, I think it is due to anxiety. However I'm also having a problem where by I can't ejaculate through any contact by her, even when we are having intercourse, which means the only way i can ejaculate is through self ... (read in full...)

I love my married soulmate, but he is married and not to me!

Q. Well....I met my soulmate backin 1994. He was determined to get my attention, and when he did, we were instantly in love. We were both young, I was 17 and he was 19. Of course, at the time, I had no clue he was my soulmate, but did know that I ...

A. 9 May 2008: Wow, I never thought I would find someone else who is going through the same as I. Here's an update for you.....I last saw him in January for our birthdays, his is the 16th, mine the 18th. He is now stationed in the U.S. not close to me, I am in ... (read in full...)

Why is she taking so long in deciding whether she loves me or not?

Q. Please help me! I've been with this girl for 6 months and I love her, she told me she'll feel the same way soon about me. She's said before that she wants to make sure everything will work between us. I'm doing my best to wait for her to make up h...

A. 9 May 2008: To clear something up, we have been dating for 6 months... (read in full...)

I want him in my life, I couldnt bare it if I never heard from him again

Q. Hi im not really gd at explaining myself but il try. This guy who i completely think the world of has gone all distant on me. we clicked str8 away.. we met up for about 6 months..we got intimate..we were so close now its changed. He says he hasnt...

A. 9 May 2008: thanks for ur replies,u know where uv all said about not texting.. well i do that but i still dont hear from him. Im afraid iv ruined our friendhsip. im blaming myself all the time..but people keep saying i havnt. I dont know what to beleive ... (read in full...)

Is it possible to be with a partner and not trust them 100%, but disconnect yourself emotionally so you don't get hurt?

Q. Hi there, My problem is that I can't trust my current girlfriend. We have been together for a month. But have known each other for 4 years. The problem stems from a few text messages i read on her phone from her ex boyfriend, which read 'I love you ...

A. 9 May 2008: Thanks for the advice guys. I believe she does really like /love me. However she can not separate herself from her ex boyfriend. They split up about a year ago, but were still seeing each other up until a month before we started dating. But she said ... (read in full...)

I feel like I'm sexually frustrated! Please help me get back to normal!

Q. Can you help? I've been without sex for over a year now, and it's starting to make me quite frustrated. I don't know why that is, but it has started to affect my mood. Today I was quite grumpy, and the only conclusion I could find was that it has ...

A. 9 May 2008: I'll be honest, I don't really have many girl friends (friends who are girls). In my college, there are only 3 girls out of BOTH year groups. One of them is taken, the other one is very quiet and doesn't speak, and the third... well, we aren't ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my teacher who is 11 years older than me...

Q. Alright, so I'm in high school and I'll be graduating in a couple of weeks and turning 18 in June. My teacher is getting laid off and won't be at my school anymore. We get along great, sometimes he talks to me randomly, he's extremely sweet with me ...

A. 9 May 2008: Thank you, guys. Maybe I'm not totally in love with him, but I feel like I am. He's all I think about, I've never felt this way before and it's just so confusing and sad because the one person I actually like, I can't have a relationship with. :( I ... (read in full...)

I can't cope with his porn habit-Could our marriage survive this?

Q. Ok, deep breath, here we go. I'm in a lot of pain at the moment and don't know where to turn so I hope someone out there can help me. I've been married for nine months. Three years ago when we were due to move in together I found out that he'...

A. 9 May 2008: Thank you so much guys, I'd never thought of it as an addiction before. I sat and talked to him about him and he refuses to accept it's an addiction even when I pointed out that, once he admits the addiction we can get help. He walked out last night ... (read in full...)

I feel his response shows his lack of interest in me. What do you think?

Q. There's this guy who is in one of my classes at university and I kind of like him. He always sits next to me in class and we talk about stuff other then class work. He doesnt talk to any other girls in our class. He asked me to work on a project ...

A. 9 May 2008: Thanks for the replies guys, I never thought that maybe he just wasnt into texting type conversations. I saw him today and he playfully hit my arm with his hat a few times....perhaps that was flirting? ... (read in full...)

I'd expect this from him when I'm old, but not now!

Q. I just caught my husband masterbating to images on the internet. When I confronted him, he said he does this often. I am a 25 year old, 92lb girl, many guys say he is a fool! I'm a very mellow person, and I happen to enjoy porn a lot too, so I didnt ...

A. 9 May 2008: Yeah, I completly understand that, on his defense. I have 7 brothers, so I really am accustom to that kind of thing. My problem is that even though I know it's really not a big deal, I still cant help feeling like i just dont cut it. Like no lingure ... (read in full...)

I am in big mess I don't know how to come out of it.

Q. Iam a 28 year married woman.I am going through a bad phase in life,Iam not happy with my marrige coz i found this guy who is single and very caring.When i met him first time we just clicked,i like everything about him.There were problems in my ...

A. 9 May 2008: Thanx fr the help .I am finding it very hard to leave that single guy.He is going to his home country in couple of months.I dont knw how i will be able to cope without him,iam just so use to him.The idea of sharing him with some one else just turns ... (read in full...)

How am I going to last 6 months without him?

Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. We see eachother every weekend and only on the weekends because it's somewhat long distance (he lives in NY and I'm in NJ). I love every minute with him, but I miss him so much during the week. I ...

A. 9 May 2008: Thanks for the postings. I may seem young in years, but in life experience, I've probably seen and gone through more than most. This relationship is something that I cherish, but it is not something that consumes me. I have other things in my life ... (read in full...)

I don't even know if I can trust guys anymore..

Q. Why do guys change their minds so quickly???? I had a very serious 7 month relationship (albeit long distance but incredibly intense) with the most wonderful and reliable guy. Even though we had been together for such a short period of time, ...

A. 9 May 2008: Thank you for that wonderful response. To update the situation, I've already been feeling very neglected and unloved for the past two weeks, and although I tried to talk to him about it many many many times, he'd just brush me off as busy. And w... (read in full...)

I am having trouble meeting my husband's sexual needs. Any suggestions to make him want me?

Q. I can not seem to satisfy my husbands sexual needs, I am tired with work and kids etc. Trying to take care of myself to feel better about myself-which is starting to work. But I have no imagination for new ideas and am uncomfortable to initiate ...

A. 9 May 2008: Thank you for the responses. Kids are still very young. Long hours at work including travel time. Husband is also busy, we do not have time to get away at all, keep talking about it , but no chance. I see now that we must make time. Thank you.... (read in full...)

What does "Be Yourself" really mean?

Q. Can anyone really define "BE YOURSELF" properly, so we all know what it means? People use this expression all the time, yet it does not parse in an intelligible way. If I were to "be myself", I would never leave my land, and spend most of my life ...

A. 9 May 2008: Thanks, everybody, for your empathy and concern. There is a lot of love on this site, and I really appreciate it. Complex has mentioned the need for reflection, and if I did any more, I'd be a mirror! Kimaxsi just has all kinds of good thoughts, ... (read in full...)

I want more sex. Is it his age and will it get worse?

Q. I am in a bit of a bind and don't know what to do. I have been in a committed loving relationship with a man almost 20 years older than me (I am 24). The problem is sex. He would be happy with once a week or fortnight while I start to not cope after ...

A. 9 May 2008: I am so aware that this must be hard for him as well. He never says it is, he just gets annoyed with me but perhaps that is a guise. I read your words last night and thinking about them I think you are probably right about him still feeling ... (read in full...)

She broke my heart , took it back and now another guy?

Q. Ok heres the deal I have been dating a young lady for 1 year now. We have always been friends.last year we grew closer and became best friends and then of course decided to pursue a relationship. The love between us has been so amazing! We broke up ...

A. 9 May 2008: ok guys i am taking all of your advice and now it seems she is so happy and in love. I dont get it? Can anyone explain this crazyness ... (read in full...)

I need to know if he feels the same, as I have a huge crush on him.

Q. I have a huge crush on my best friend, but I don't want to freak him out and tell him until I know for sure that he likes me too. So how do I really find out without anyone else in school knowing? And if it helps; he is the same age as me(12), we'v...

A. 9 May 2008: Thanks for the advice, I will try to tell him soon and if he doesn't like me back then at least we will still be best buds.... (read in full...)

When he hears your voice and instantly turns, is he interested?

Q. when a guy hears your voice and he instantly turns around does that mean he is interested?...

A. 9 May 2008: no i called his friends name... (read in full...)

I discovered my husband enjoys porn. Now I'm going off sex. How can I rebuild it?

Q. Okay. So, after I discovered my hubby enjoys watching internet porn, a little too much, I have not felt sexy...at all. I have accepted my hubby's hobby, because it's just who he is, so that isn't my concern as much as my scarred sex ego. Im only 25, ...

A. 9 May 2008: huh. good point. I explained that without the "love and romance" factor, sex is no longer a spiritual bond between the 2 of us, and in fact, I was feeling like meat. He was hiding the porn thing from me, and I caught him with his hand in the cookie ... (read in full...)

It's so hard to work with someone I love without showing my feelings!

Q. I work with a married co-worker who flirts with me constantly. The thing is he has flirted with me for so long that I now have feelings for him. I know He has feelings for Me too. I know it's wrong. The thing is I can't quit my job. It is hard to w...

A. 9 May 2008: Thanks a lot for giving Me some advice.In my mind ,by the way He is always staring at Me ,does anything for Me,protects Me if someone offends me,gets jealous if I mention someoneI'm dating,gets silly around Me,just made Me feel that this guy had ... (read in full...)

He treated me MUCH BETTER than he treats her!! He still cares, right?

Q. okay well me and my bf broke up and he now has a new gf. We dont really talk but once in a while we will. but anyways, he kept all my comments to him on myspace and they say how much i love him and all that. Why would he keep them on there, Everyone ...

A. 8 May 2008: he broke up with me, He even admitted to still likeing me after he did it. People tell me all the time that they can see that he treats her nothing liek he treated me, He actually admitted to loving me. Yeah but he keeps my comments on his profile ... (read in full...)

He's fighting for his kids..but then again - is he just keeping me on the side while he sees if it is going to really work with her?

Q. Well i wrote about a week ago with the problem i had with my boyfriend not being honest.. well it just got a little more complicated!! I started seeing my boyfriend about a month after he had filed for divorce.. but him and his wife had been se...

A. 8 May 2008: Thank you to both those who took the time to answer my question.. i take both answers to heart. ... (read in full...)

I'm being stalked by a telemarketer?

Q. This is bizarre and the whole thing makes me feel like a nutter. Everyone knows telemarketers can be annoying and I've never had much patience with it, I usually hang up as soon as I realize where its going or ask to be removed from the list. ...

A. 8 May 2008: Oh th bugger called again 3rd time today he said his name was Frank Jefferson with his really heavy foreign accent, I really wonder...that just sounds so fake to me...... (read in full...)

I'm in luv but I don't know if he is gay

Q. I am in skool and im like in luv with this boy in my 1st and second period classes. I dnt kno if hes gay or not. And tha twist is he has a girl friend. But at tha same time he always flirts with me. Like yesterday he wanted me to smell his calone ...

A. 8 May 2008: I kno but he trys to cover it up by saying gay guys make him puke... (read in full...)

I feel bloated after I eat and suspect the effect is due to the pill. Any advice on dieting?

Q. I'm 19, and am on the dianette pill. for the past few weeks i seem to be constantly bloated every time i eat. my stomach is flat in the mornings but as soon as ive eaten my stomach gets so bloated that i look pregnant! could this be due to the ...

A. 8 May 2008: thanks 4 ur help guys, ill keep yas updated... xxx... (read in full...)

I don't trust him Am I going paranoid?

Q. hey my boyfriend has had a very bad past. he has had a lot of girls that slept with him and co he was a bit of a player. he was really tempted to luk at girls n touch them and he was a real flirt. ive bin 4 him 4 3 years now and he says that he ...

A. 8 May 2008: but generally hes a great boyfriend and he loves me a lot. i was away for a months holiday and he didnt cheat on me... (read in full...)

Can you recommend how to calm my nerves about presentations? I get stomachaches by only thinking of this.

Q. this may sound petty, but i am soo worried. i have to present a book i have been reading to my class, and i am so nervous. recently when i read aloud in english, i get really nervous and i sound nervous and i have to take deep gasping breaths ...

A. 8 May 2008: to "a female reader anonymous" @ the top, i couldnt really do alot to get over the nerves, i just walked up and said what i had to say. i found that the more i talked the less nervous i felt, and i was so nervous that i didnt end up thinking... (read in full...)

I have been stalking a teacher that I am in love with, now all the teachers are watching my steps! What can I do to stop this?

Q. this is a weird problem to be honest, and im not sure if i can explain it properly but, here it goes ... About six months ago, the teacher [Miss X] i was head-over-heels for found out that i had been .. stalking her, so to speak. Within t...

A. 8 May 2008: thanks (: id also like to point out (as i clearly havent explained this properly) they are NOT looking through MY emails! theyre mailing each OTHER, through their own accounts :L. i know this because Miss X goes on her computer, and sudden... (read in full...)

Question for the BOYS and MEN on this site about strip clubs!

Q. Hey Question for the BOYS and MEN on this site... ladies are welcome to write their comments as well.... After a boys night out in a Strip club .. coming home to your wife,fiance or girlfriend ... wanting to have sex with her at that moment...

A. 8 May 2008: Thank you Tisha! I have to say I am trying what you are doing ... just go out w friends while he is gone and have a lots of good time and flirt with men around me. I have to say .. the next day (while I am upset he went) he is upset too, cause he... (read in full...)

Should I be worried about the girls he chats to on the pc or should I just brush it under the carpet?

Q. Hi, any suggestions or help would be gratefully appreciated. My partner and I have been together for 3 yrs and had a baby son 4 mths ago. We've had our ups and downs as most couples do, mainly to do with money as we own a house together and...

A. 8 May 2008: Thanks for your advice... I think I am slightly too forgiving & willing to roll over & play the dutiful girlfriend as I dont want to rock the boat & make things worse. I think I have lost my trust in him & I know that's an unhealthy relation... (read in full...)

My wife wants a 21 year old guy for 24 hours for her 50th!

Q. Hi I am looking for anyone who has been through this situation before. My wife is turning 50 next month and i asked her what she would like for her birthday. (she has every thing you could wish for) or so i thought. She could come up with an...

A. 8 May 2008: Hi all well she did it. spent 24 hour with her toy boy and when she came home she slept for 24 hours. we have since talked and i know what went on. she says she as got it out of her system for another 10 years ... (read in full...)

I'm constantly tired .......help?

Q. I'm always really tired, and i've been to the doctor about it but he basically didn't help. I had a blood test to test for anaemia because i'm pretty pale and faint a lot, but my blood didn't show signs of that type of problem. But it's getting ...

A. 8 May 2008: Thank you all so much :) Well i'm a vegetarian so this could be it.. I do quite a bit of exercise, do take long baths (love them), I do live at home yes and my mum cooks for me quite a lot. I've got a boyfriend (been with him almost a year and half... (read in full...)

She doesn't want to break-up but wants to experience "Single Life"?

Q. My partner and I are both deeply in love with one another. We have known each other now for 5 years, and are very serious with one another. She has told me that she would like to marry me, and spend her life with me. I would like the same. However, ...

A. 8 May 2008: When I say she only wants to be with me, I mean, she only wants to be in a relationship with me, she doesn't want a relationship with anybody else, she simply wants the experience of going out, kissing or sleeping with someone, and that's it. She ... (read in full...)

I don't know how to tell my partner of 2 years that it's over.

Q. I've been with my partner for 2 years now, but i recently found someone else that treats me better. I don't know how to tell my partner of 2 years that it's over. Can anyone help me?...

A. 8 May 2008: my only problem is that she, just moved out here, from out of state to be with me. This is the reason i feel so guilty... (read in full...)

Missing my ex and need advice on what he has done....

Q. Hey everyone... I feel down and just wanted some opinions or advice. Last year my friend of 2 years asked me out, and we were so happy. Anyway I was crushed this year when he broke up with me. He told me that he didn't feel the same way, but we...

A. 8 May 2008: Thanks for the advice sugarwaffle, I appreciate it and it was very helpful :-) I do agree with what you've said, I guess it's early days still and the fact that we're still friends makes it harder for me to put him out of my mind completely...but I ... (read in full...)

Why doesn't he care? is it just me, making something out of nothing?

Q. My fiance just doesn't care about my feelings. His brother and wife don't like me becoz i don't wear name brand clothing (that's exactly what was said)and now they ignore me when we are family functions and when i ask my fiance why does he not ...

A. 8 May 2008: Thanks Jen86 i wish it was that easy to just up and leave. Your advise is much appreciated. It feels good to know that i'm not the one who is wrong because that's what i always thought. He's breaking my spirit. ... (read in full...)

I'm damned if do and damned if I don't, so what do l do I now?

Q. I really have no one to ask about this. Okay, I'm 40, I've been married, had several relationships, etc. I'm not new to the whole relationship thing is what I'm trying to say, I guess. But, about 2 months ago, our office got a new employee. She'...

A. 8 May 2008: Thanks everyone for the great responses. I really appreciate it. She and I had a very long talk last night, and I basically just laid it all out for her. She wasn't exactly surprised. She's very mature for 26. While talking to her I realized that ... (read in full...)

His mother is a cheater and liar - does he take me the same way?

Q. Hi everyone My BF grew up in a broken family. His mother cheated on his father, she also lied couple of times. She tried to come back to his father many times (11years on and off), but only to use him and than go back to someone else. My BF ...

A. 8 May 2008: Yes, he talks to his father on daily baces. They are very good friends. His father still loves his mother and wants her back, but she doesnt know what she wants, She just likes to use everyone and than leave!!! She does not have any kinda drug pro... (read in full...)

Since he confessed he likes me, he drew back, appearing to feel guilty, twice. We are both unhappily married. What to do?

Q. Nine months ago I met a man thru our dog club who I was instantly attracted to as he was me too. He is difficult person, not well liked, drinks but brilliant trainer and respected in that way. I not bad trainer either, we similar in so many ways, in ...

A. 8 May 2008: restarting a friendship... another update. This man, he definitely is not over me EITHER. I need advice on how to restart this friendship, even if just on a friendship level. The other morning just before dawn I out working with my dog, 'tracking'. ... (read in full...)

How to make our parents trust us, as I feel we are really responsible and play safe?

Q. Hello, I have a big problem and this seems the right place to get some advice. Well my boyfriend's brother has got his girlfriend pregnant and now his mum is trying to keep my boyfriend from staying around mine. I respect her views because being pr...

A. 8 May 2008: Thanks for the great advice guys. The thing is though i don't think my boyfriend wants me to meet his parents (mum especially) I have asked him why and he says because she will ask loads of questions and things. I do not mind this and i would like ... (read in full...)

How do I give her an orgasm without a vibrator?

Q. hi there,im in a long distance relationship with my and she occasionally talks about making love and related topics.we had sex once when we met last year,i didnt cum.neither did she and she says its very hard to make her cum.she said for me to use ...

A. 8 May 2008: hi thanks to both people that answered my question,i appreciate it.i will give it a go when i finally see my gf in 2weeks... (read in full...)

Should I risk friendship if there is the chance of a relationship?

Q. Hi guys hope that your advices help me to take a decision. I really like my flatmate. I'm 30 and she is 29. We live together for 3 months now. We get along very well and I really enjoyed her company. I'm trying to decide if I tell her what I'm fee...

A. 8 May 2008: Hi guys..I have some news for you. Let tell you what has happened since our last contact. I started to play a game of flirting and courtship with here for at couple off weeks ago trying to found some signs in here and trying to read if she was also ... (read in full...)

I can't just stop liking him. He's so perfect... one in a million. What do you think I should do?!?

Q. Ummm well my sister has this friend Ray. And I really like him. Majorly. Everything he does is completely awesome. But he is probably the least liked guy at my school, simply because of the way he dresses. He doesn't really care about that and ...

A. 8 May 2008: I was just re-reading some of my old questions (it's quite interesting for me to see what was playing on my mind at different stages in my life!) and I stumbled across this. Anyway, it turns out my sister was madly in love with the same guy! So ... (read in full...)

Am I doing the right thing waiting for him?

Q. So I met my boyfriend my fresh year in college. He had a girlfriend and I a boyfriend. Well my 2nd year in college, we both went to the same party and were both single and now have been dating 3 months. He leaves June 2 for Basic in the marines. WE ...

A. 8 May 2008: yeah i went to the family meeting ik what not to send. i have 6 years left in school and he leaves for boot camp the 2nd and is in it for 5 active 3 inactive..so maybe after training is all over we can talk about marriage. i will be well almost ... (read in full...)

What's the definition of adultery?

Q. Technical question - Are you committing adultery if you aren't the married person in the affair? If you are the girlfriend of a married man, are you still considered to be an adulteress? And would you only be his mistress if he supported you in ...

A. 8 May 2008: Many Thanks to oldfool, Danielpew, Irish49 and all the posters who took the time to answer my question!!!! ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is falling into drugs again, what should I do? I need help desperately.

Q. This question seems so simple to answer from an outside perspective but for me it has been tearing me apart for months. My boyfriend and first real love is a drug addict. Since we first met he has had a problem with controlled substances,(benzos, ...

A. 8 May 2008: thank u so much everyone. i left him today and hopefully hell realize and seek help. i cant live my life like that. thank u everyone it really helped me. i feel better now/relieved.... (read in full...)

I can feel myself gaining weight. I have love handles like I've never had before.

Q. I'm 116, weight 110 pounds. But i can feel myself gaining weight. I have love handles like I've never had before, obviously i want some hips, so i'm not a box, but not as much as i have now. What's the best way to get rid of it - that you know off,...

A. 8 May 2008: im 5'4, and yeah well people say im thin. but im gaining weigh t and i know its going to be a problem eventually. really all i care about are these damn love handles lol but thank you :)... (read in full...)

My bf of 2 yrs wants a break - to date other women! Help!

Q. My boyfriend of almost 2 years is requesting a break, but we're in an awkward situation because we live together and I just started a full time job (there is no way I could live on my own right now). He's not gonna kick me out or anything. We're ...

A. 8 May 2008: But now he's confusing me because now he acts as if he never brought it up and never said that. When I would bring it up, he would get all sad about it and would get this sad look on his face. If a girl walks by us sometimes I'll say "oh that must... (read in full...)

To who ever might be listening and may have or be in my shoes help!

Q. To who ever might be listening and may have or be in my shoes help..... My fiance and I have been having financial problems for the last year, it has put a strain on us but I thought we could make it through. About a month ago I came home ...

A. 8 May 2008: I was out of work for a while do to a really binding non compete, so things got really hard. He is a pilot and makes good money but with the daily and monthly responsibilities things got hard. He kept reassuring me we were ok and would make it ... (read in full...)

Will this one last?

Q. My girlfriend says she needs space. Not break up space, but just time for herself sometimes. We had some issues during spring break and when she left back to Minnesota(we have a long distance relationship) things have seemed different. We used to ...

A. 8 May 2008: Hi anonymous, thanks for the story. I just hope I'm not too late, I've been blind for a few weeks now it seems. I wish I'd seen it sooner that space is good for us, not apart and without communication, but just not always talking every second we get ... (read in full...)

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