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How can I cool this without offending him? I'm feel anxious!

Q.   I am 70 and have been a widow for 8 years, a married man has been very kind, but recently bought me a rose plant, took me to lunch, and a couple of other visits. He is ok as a friend, the places we have visited are not of interest to his wife, but ...

A.   22 March 2017: Oh Honeypie, this is part of the problem. We both belong to the same group, and I organise the trips. He has been very kind in suggesting places, and taking me out to have a look at them. It has been very helpful, but one day we were out and he ... (read in full...)

How Do I Move On From This Affair?

Q.   Hey Aunts and Uncle's.. I recently got myself into something stupid. I know many of you will judge me for what I have done and say I'm a bad person. But I have a good heart and really need some advice. A year ago, I started working at my ca...

A.   22 March 2017: Exactly!! I'm going to go to the gym whenever I want.. And we're practically neighbors, so I cant avoid going places, or passing his house on my way to work. It is what it is.. I'm just not going to do anything like that again. And to the anon... (read in full...)

Do you think I have the right be upset since technically he is still married?

Q.   I moved to a new town and got a job as a server at a local restaurant. One of my co workers is very cute and a lot of the girls like him. They are always going out as groups and hanging out with each other outside of work. We became really ...

A.   22 March 2017: No I don't want to be that girl. When we went out I tried advoiding him at first but once we started drinking I let that guard down and totally fell for his lines. I texted him this morning and told him that last night was a mistake and Within ... (read in full...)

Bad sign or just a poor planner?

Q.   After a week of talking, I finally met the guy for date. He was late to the 1st date, which is ok once in awhile. We spent about 6 hours together and we were planning to spend today together. There was never a time set up. There is an event I've ...

A.   22 March 2017: So far, outside of the cancelled date, he has been really good w/calling/messaging and paying attention to me. I really just want to have fun, but after experiencing so much disappointment, I can't help but overanalyze, something I know will ... (read in full...)

My friend doesn't know if he likes her or not or if she has a chance with him

Q.   Just wanted to say thank you for taking your time to read this first. This has nothing to do with me, my friend is having problems reading this guy she likes and I thought asking here would help as I understand a lot of people here give out go...

A.   21 March 2017: OP here.Thank you for your responses, unfortunately though my friend still believes that she has a chance because he hasn't stated how he feels even though I made it perfectly clear what "I'm not looking for a relationship" means and she's going to ... (read in full...)

Why is he so hard to talk to?

Q.   I've been seeing this guy for the past month and It's so frustrating because he has no trouble talking about himself and other things in life, but he doesn't really enquire about me, other than if I asked him "Have you done ___?" he will say, yes/no ...

A.   20 March 2017: Thanks for your response! It was quite helpful! You are right, with his friends; he is always the "clown", gets the attention with his friends and he might see himself as entertaining and doesn't like the silence. Today, recently was talking to ... (read in full...)

Why can't I quit him? Heart says yes and mind says no?

Q.   I have been talking to this guy for a good month now and we were getting pretty flirty and didn't think about the future. He had to move back to his family in another state for work and he told me he couldn't do LDR, even though he likes me a lot, ...

A.   19 March 2017: Thank you for all of the response! I recently used the "no contact" rule and he seemed concerned after 24 hours ... only because he knows I didn't ask him how his day was etc. Thankfully, have gotten over him now. I've realised he isn't the kind of ... (read in full...)

Is this a normal change for me to consider? Don't want to spend my birthday with family

Q.   Hi, in a few days I'll turn 35, but unlike the other years - when I used to get together with family members, this time I don't feel like celebrating or focusing on it at all. Is this normal? Thanks.....

A.   19 March 2017: Thanks for the feedback. Denizen, I'm just wondering whether it's normal to feel like this year, finding such a get-together meaningless..... (read in full...)

Is he insecure, jealous?

Q.   Hi, I've been seeing this man for 5 months. I'm 49, divorced twice, no kids. He is 51, divorced twice, two kids 18 and 20. His second wife cheated on him. He was adopted. His adoptive father died when he was young and the adoptive mother was ...

A.   19 March 2017: Thank you for the advice. You've giving me some insight and different perspectives. Maybe I am naive. I appreciate you taking the time to respond and I will follow your advice. I will try to be more understanding and sensitive to his feelings. But ... (read in full...)

Do we need to go on more dates?

Q.   I've been talking and seeing this guy towards the end of November. We have been on only 4 dates, but thats due to work, family commitments and illnesss. We speak on the phone and he texts me. We have tons in common, we have fanstic connection and ...

A.   19 March 2017: Well you got that wrong, we both agreed to hold of on sex because we don't want it to just be about that. When we started to talk we said we were looking for a relationship. My question was we've only been on 4 dates is that enough time to be ... (read in full...)

Should I continue dating someone who's 15 years older than me?

Q.   Hey guys, My question is should I continue to pursue a relationship with someone who's 15 years older than me? Okay so I am 21 next month , my boyfriend is 35. I did not know he was 35 when we first met because he told me he was 26. He said he k...

A.   18 March 2017: Thank you everyone!! Here's a little update on my situation and I am also going to try my best to answer all questions in one go. I feel like i need to be completely honest and not sugar coat it this time it's now 2 months later and everything i... (read in full...)

We are really close friends but I want more!

Q.   I really need some help. For the last 2 and a half years I've been crazy about this girl. We have known each other for years, and are extremely close friends. Over the last couple of years, we've been close to becoming more than friends a few times. ...

A.   18 March 2017: Thanks a lot N91. Looks like I'm going to have to tough it out. I cannot lose her as a friend, even if I can't have more. It's bloody hard though. It's absolutely destroyed me... (read in full...)

Husband's penis smells like condoms and we never use them!

Q.   Yesterday my husband came very late from work, and he had been drinking and his penis smelled like condoms!, Earlier he called me from work and said hey! I want to take you to the mall and didn't say for what reason, he wanted it to be a surprise ...

A.   18 March 2017: It's been 9 days and guess what ? 2 days ago I got a nasty infection which seems to be an std...... I spoke to my doctor and I´m getting exams done next week. I have never had something like this! I don´t wanna blame it on him but could it be ... (read in full...)

She doesn't want to ruin our friendship but I don't want to lose her to another guy!

Q.   So I have been friends with this girl for 7 months and the friendship has been amazing but the one thing is I want her, but she "doesn't want to ruin the friendship", but we have been in a relationship 3 months ago but we just took some time apart, ...

A.   16 March 2017: No it was about a month or so later... (read in full...)

I fear I'll regret breaking up with him

Q.   I want to break up with my boyfriend of 2 years but I'm worried I'll regret it. I love him a lot and I don't even know if this is the right choice or not. He's nice sometimes and used to make me happy all of the time for the first year, but now ...

A.   16 March 2017: I'm not scared of being alone, I'm scared he will kill himself if I leave. I don't want that. And it isn't an empty threat, he will do it I know he will. That's why I'm scared to leave. [Mod note: physical violence, verbal abuse and suicide thre... (read in full...)

I don't appreciate so much mystery,I feel he is hiding things and something fishy is going on,what is your honest advice?

Q.   Ok, so I happen to be in a relationship for almost 2 years, with my bf who is in his mid to late thirtys, and honestly I have come to the conclusion that he is somehow mysterious, I mean I get that he is discrete, but it just comes off as mysteriou...

A.   15 March 2017: @ RubyBirtle I just think he is to discrete, He has talked about his family and all that jazz, but I do perceive his as being mysterious, the problem was that at the begining of us dating I asked if he had facebook and said no(he should have said I ... (read in full...)

How can I stop coming on so strong?

Q.   Hey everyone. So I've been posting here for quite a while about all of my struggles with attracting women. I think I may finally realize what's been going on. I come on too strong and over analyze things on pretty much every attempt. It's just who I ...

A.   14 March 2017: So far, you have barely answered my question. In fact, I feel like you've pretty much only callled me a jerk. If I was overly egotistical I wouldn't have the humility to admit that there are times where I do disregard others. And I'm not bragging ... (read in full...)

What can I do or say, that might encourage him to ask me out?

Q.   Hello. I know one of my guy friends likes me. But he wont say anything. His best friend used to go out with my sister and it ended badly. His best friend said that he might not say anything because of this Is there a way to help change his min...

A.   14 March 2017: Thank you for your answer. Since posting my last question this happened. We were out with a few friends watching the rugby and he got a little irritated when another guy started to talk to me. A friend noticed him staring and fidgeting. But when i ... (read in full...)

Does he like me or just want sex?

Q.   Just when I'd totally shut my self off from dating then the world gave me this guy. I have known him since 2012 but I always ignored him and blocked his calls. Recently I haven't been going out much and he suddenly contacted me. I decided to hang ...

A.   14 March 2017: @ honiepie, I ignored him because he worked with my bank and was crossing the professional line by being flirty with me. Besides, I had no interest in him.the same favour he did 5 years later was what made me block him 5 years earlier. I knew he ... (read in full...)

He never comments on facebook but refers to facebook in real life

Q.   My apologies for a really silly question to do with facebook (I know life is too short but it intrigues me) and I am old school (in my 40s). If a guy you are friendly with on facebook never comments on your statuses but comments on others that y...

A.   14 March 2017: Thank you for this and your right it wasn't a question I realise that now just a comment.... (read in full...)

Why can't she see he is not a good person? Do I just leave her to get on with things? Since she is not listening

Q.   Hello. My good close friend who is 27 has had a rough few years. Her Mother passed away, the Father of her 2 kids left her (he still regularly sees the children) She has begun having a relationship (now 10 months and I have met him once) with someo...

A.   14 March 2017: Update: I messaged my friend on Sunday about my 30th next year and she hasn't responded. My other friend has seen that she has booked to go away for the weekend with her boyfriend this week. So now I'm being ignored and left for dust. I won't ... (read in full...)

Should I stay with my fiance even though I love someone else?

Q.   Dear Aunties and Uncles, I will try to keep this short as possible. I've been in a long term relationship for 14 years and have a 14 year old daughter who my partner raised as his own since she was 2 weeks old. We had an amazing relati...

A.   14 March 2017: You're right aunt honesty. Last night I went home and was completely honest with my Fiance. He is understandably upset and my daughter said she just wants me to be happy. So as from today, I'm making plans to get my own place, not far from my ... (read in full...)

His behaviour has broken my trust in people

Q.   Hello everyone. I hope you're doing well this Sunday. I was recently in a 3 year relationship. This whole time I thought I had a sweet, brutally honest, loyal, friend, lover, team mate. Everything came crashing down. Turned out he was not loyal or...

A.   13 March 2017: Trying to overanalyze his side and my "anger issues" bc you know me SO well, doesn't help my situation. He's not here to defend himself, it's not his post, it's mine. Hear MY side bc that's all you have. The passive aggressive responses which ... (read in full...)

I think my best friend is trying to be me. I cannot handle her behaviour any more. What can I do?

Q.   I'm on a very difficult situation lately. I've known my best friend for 7 years and we've been through ups and downs but this time, I had enough. A few days ago, I was thinking about my friendship with my (best friend) and I've realized that I'v...

A.   13 March 2017: If you were me would you cut her off completely or what? I don't know if I'm overreacting or doing the right thing to ditch my best friend I've been with for 7 years. Should I do it for my own dignity and in order to avoid negativity?... (read in full...)

Was he right to say I need "more education?"

Q.   Hi.. I've been with my bf for about 7 months. He has a degree in classics, privately educated, where as I have A levels and I quit a dead end job because of depression and couldn't handle it. I still am intelligent and we have deep conversatio...

A.   13 March 2017: Thank you all for your responses! I'm going to do a course in whatever I want and something that will help me in the future. If he doesn't agree with my choices he can swivel lol:)... (read in full...)

Based on his words and actions since November, is it reasonable to ask if we are exclusive now?

Q.   I had a conversation with the guy i'm seeing and we were talking about which friends are single and which are with someone. So I said when you coming off the market and he said well I am kinda off the market. I said not really then he said ok, ...

A.   13 March 2017: No didn't meet him on a dating site. I feel it's going at a good speed, he said he said he wants to form a emotional attachment before he sleeps with a women. His told his kids about me he is looking for a relationship. Before I rushed into things ... (read in full...)

Am I being paranoid, or is he following me?

Q.   I befriended a guy twice my age (already a bad idea, I know) and knew he liked me. But I was honest and told him I didn't see him that way. We were friends and workout buddies. But after a while, I realized he was very immature and kinda creepy. I ...

A.   12 March 2017: Well, i have mentioned many times to him that his behaviour is inappropriate. He doesn't care. And im not the first girl to have told him that he's acting creepy. Before we started working out together, he would always workout in the mornings... (read in full...)

Why cry? Was she feeling guilty? My LDR is currently studying overseas. She has started a new friendship there but promised me that they would not have full sex

Q.   Hello guys, My gf is studying abroad currently in a relationship with someone else, we were arguing cause i was asking how far their relationship is. The sex) She promised she wont have sex with her current BF but then when i asked if she did to h...

A.   12 March 2017: ok guys sorry , i wasnt able to think straight and now that i read my question again i feel like its a mess. Let me explain the whole situation and how it happened. She is in her early 20 and we were together for 5 years, she went to study abroad ... (read in full...)

Should I ? I'm tempted to contact the other people involved and ask them

Q.   Looking for some advice here.. About a year ago, I found out that my fiancée and two of her (our?) friends had been exchanging intimate photos - and had even been together a couple of times. I confronted her, she broke down, told me that the o...

A.   11 March 2017: aunt_honesty, I think you've nailed it there: I have become insecure in this relationship. Something I've never been before. That's probably why I'm finding it hard to just walk away. I know I'll be happier without her in the long term, maybe I'll ... (read in full...)

Can you be pregnant with negative test results?

Q.   I had sex with a guy one night in September. I dont really remember what happened but i know we had sex. We used a condom but i am unsure if he secretly slipped it off or of the condom may have failed. It isvDecember now and my stomach looks ...

A.   10 March 2017: Honeypie, I had an abdominal and a transvaginal ultrasound. That's how they knew it was fibroids and not something else. They couldn't see my ovaries I guess because the uterus is so enlarged. I'm having a saline infusion sonography ultra... (read in full...)

Is she being very friendly or flirting with some motive?

Q.   I shall try to make this short. I met a girl on a taxi when i was going to work. We chat and walk till i reach my work place. She ask my contact no. And we exchange our number. We didn't meet for the next 2 weeks. One day we happen to meet again on ...

A.   10 March 2017: Thank you guardian wind and rubybbirtle , for your valuable advise and opinion... I get a rough idea of what is going in her mind... ... (read in full...)

Why do I feel like I lost out after the break up with my boyfriend?

Q.   So its been probably a month post break up. My ex and I were in a long distance relationship. I really love my ex and care for him immensely, despite the fact that he is directionless, has no goals/ambition, very lazy in everything and he was/is ...

A.   10 March 2017: I know no one is perfect, heck I know I'm not. Maybe it is true that if someone was a prize, I would have to look at myself. For example a guy I went on 2 dates w/, I didn't feel good enough for him because he had a more disciplined lifestyle then ... (read in full...)

I try to put myself in his girlfriend's shoes, but I still like him.

Q.   I began liking this guy (who I see at my bus stop everyday and goes to a different school) in the beginning of Feb and we never speak. A friend gave me his snapchat and we started talking from there and for two people who are shy, we were very ...

A.   9 March 2017: My friend said to me that he's always talking about me in class because they're partners & that he finally smiles, laughs and talks more than he usually does because apparently he's very silent and doesnt smile at all. She said that he says he was ... (read in full...)

How can I convince my Twin sibling that her BF is potentially abusive?

Q.   She's only known him a few weeks but they are REALLY moving fast and apparently he's saying he loves everything she does already and inviting her over for sleepovers. They haven't slept together yet apparently he has told her that he expects ...

A.   9 March 2017: Thank you all for advice :) She just stopped seeing him! (without me intervening). Apparently they were sexting (without pictures) and he pretty much said that he would rape her given the chance. And when she told him off and about the Asian th... (read in full...)

My husband is a serial cheater. Am I fooling myself to think he will change?

Q.   I have been married to my husband for 23 years. We were young when we got married - 20 and 21. Early on in our marriage he cheated on me twice. I was not very confident back then and terrified of being alone, so I forgave and stayed. And I guess ...

A.   9 March 2017: Thank you all for the responses. I did not know what quality of messages would be here but they have all been very affirming. I think I was looking for unbiased people who could tell it to me like it is. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend appears to be attracted to transgender women!

Q.   A few weeks ago I noticed my boyfriend had sent a friend request to a young lady. When I went to her page her pics were mostly of her in sexy lingerie and telling all to visit her on webcam. I also noticed she had obvious breast implants and a ...

A.   9 March 2017: Thanks for asking. Yes I did and it was easier than I thought it would be. There was no yelling nor were there any recriminations or accusations. It was as if a light switch inside me had been flipped to off. I walked away with a bit of sadness ... (read in full...)

Due to health issues, asking a relative to help seemed like a valid option. My relative is reluctant to help. What are my options?

Q.   I have a dilemma and I'm looking for some advice! I've recently been diagnosed with cancer and am thankfully getting treatment but unfortunately this has meant an extended period of time off work that I was financially unprepared for. I will n...

A.   8 March 2017: Thank you for the replies so far. To answer a couple of questions should you be able to offer any further advice... The rest of the family are not likely to need to receive any imminent support from my grandmother. We're a small famil... (read in full...)

He was so attentive and now not so much. How do I get him back?

Q.   I have been talking to this guy from another state and he told me I was gorgegus, from there we have been messaging each other everyday. However in the beginning he moved alittle too fast for me, he was calling me beautiful and added "xx" at the end ...

A.   7 March 2017: Thank you! I so needed to hear this and you are right; he might only be using me for an ego booster. Which is what I had initially assumed in the first place however he kept telling me he wasnt trying to push me away and he wanted me to text him as ... (read in full...)

How much detail should I put in my online dating profile?

Q.   I have cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair but am a bit unsteady on my feet at times. I have got a dating profile on Match, should I include my disability on there?...

A.   7 March 2017: I have put it at the start of my profile - is that a good position?... (read in full...)

I don't know whether to tell my boyfriend that I cheated or not

Q.   Okay so I went out one night at the start of my relationship and I barely remember anything. I'd gone out with a few friends and end up in a club on my own. I got speaking to a guy and he walked me part way home. He ended up giving me his number but ...

A.   7 March 2017: Thank you all so much on your great of advice and help. What I've learnt from this is to sort my drinking habits. Of course I only drink socially, I'm not an alcoholic but do have the odd binge from time to time where I have gaps in memory. It ... (read in full...)

We went on a date but I think she still feels an obligation to her ex

Q.   Hey all! I would like some advice please. OK so my work moved locations a couple months back and since we moved we don't have our propane set up yet so we have to go to a local gas station to fill up pretty much daily. I'm the one that has to do ...

A.   7 March 2017: Yeah gotcha. I just don't know how to handle the situation I guess with the ex and her past with the drugs. Should I just try to be a friend and don't try to flirt with her and stuff. I don't want to fall into that frindzone permanently but I am ... (read in full...)

Garment crisis in the carpark

Q.   Hello everyone, My husband and i work in the same company different departments . So i just came from ethiopia to USA and i am experiencing cultural shocks! so the other day there is a fire alarm at work and all co-workers had to stay outside in ...

A.   6 March 2017: Thanks a lot guys, i agree with what you said , he overreacted! but i also take responsibility for not considering and thinking through how my actions might make him feel. So i apologized sincerly and  we are in good terms now. Of course , will ... (read in full...)

My co-worker was pushing invitations to her church, was my response rude?

Q.   My co worker that I'm friendly with would always invite me to her church and church related activities. She got really pushy and told me not to disappoint God...that it is for my own good.I never had any interest until one day I decided to just see ...

A.   6 March 2017: Thank you guys for your insights Also She would always hand me religious pamphlets at work and forwarding religious images, videos and Christian inspirational quotes on WhatsApp  In addition, whenever I bring up a problem in our personal conversa... (read in full...)

Am I wasting my time hoping something will eventuate between us? So far he's ignored my texts, shouted at me, and told me it will not work between us

Q.   I met a guy 6 years ago he was going through a divorce and I a separation. After couple conversation we had words and he said that we will not add up. Sometimes I would message him and he would ignore my messages. I recently moved and last ...

A.   5 March 2017: He didn't shout at me. He saw me slowed down wind his window down said hello and asked how I was doing? That's what I meant by shouted me During the time he said we wouldn't work I was still living with my husband and one day he passed to give me a... (read in full...)

Did I lose my chance with this guy because we met on T

Q.   I am a fun, bubbly, warm, funny, kind/caring, and positive young woman. I know it sounds silly to say, but I made a Tinder earlier in the year thinking that people used it to find relationships and stupidly, I found out most used it for hookups. ...

A.   5 March 2017: Thank you for all your answers, guys!... (read in full...)

He was my friend a long time ago. But he now has a girlfriend. Could I ever mean more to him? Or is he destined to be only a friend?

Q.   I fell in love with a old friend i met 39yrs ago. i were dating another one also. I chose my husband over him who is now deceased in whom were also a friend at that time. My friend came back in my life after 26yrs. To support me thru the ha...

A.   4 March 2017: I want to think Denizen for his reply on my question.Heart is feeling must better.I had not yet gotten a response on my question until he answer. I went thru the EMERGENCY ROOM since I posted the question. We need more people like DENIZEN to look at ... (read in full...)

Is he "distancing" himself because he likes me or because he doesn't?

Q.   I've been talking to a guy for nearly eight months. He lives 200 miles away and we met through a mutual friend (his ex, who I'm not close to and they've been split up a year). We were constantly texting every single day during this time and in the ...

A.   4 March 2017: I didn't choose to fall for him, we were friends who just kept talking. While I appreciate and obviously understand he doesn't want to be in a relationship with me - calling me EVERY day? Texting me all the time? Wanting to find out everything about ... (read in full...)

Does his behavior indicate that he's an emotional abuser? Should I breakup with him?

Q.   1-) In life, we should have certain words filtered, my boyfriend does not seem to have one. I am upset because, he has this tendency of referring to woman as bi***es, ”oh tha b*tch does this or that, in a very despotic way, he does not say this all ...

A.   3 March 2017: @ Caring Aunty A, Indeed, indeed, I AGREE with you, I was actually telling my Aunt which I happen to talk a lot to, that in my mind I have a very strong feeling that some woman did something very shitty to this man,he got heartbroken or even deeper ... (read in full...)

Did he not know what to do with our relationship? What could have triggered his response? I am very confused! Need honest advice!

Q.   I, Guess I Kind of broke up with my boyfriend ( 37y/o) I could not stand his erratic behavior anymore. last friday he came for his graduation, and he messaged me on past Thursday saying that on Friday he was coming early here to town where I live, ...

A.   3 March 2017: @ 02DuszJ,You are right, He actually graduated from med school that day!, But as many of you said there was a big miscommuication, I kinda of changed plans, but I was still willing to go out with him at the time he proposed, the reason I send him ... (read in full...)

Can anyone help me with the basics of starting afresh? I cheated on my fiancee. Then I confessed and he forgave me. My guilt is affecting my ability to go forward

Q.   Aunts, I need your help. I had committed a major mistake of cheating on my fiancé with a married man. But I realised my mistake and owned up to it, confessed my fiancé and broke up with the married guy. He (my fiancé) has not been resentful, ...

A.   3 March 2017: Thank you, everyone for your help. We've been together for the last 11 years (he is the only man I've ever been in a relationship with). We used to be a great couple, but maybe lately we were taking each other for granted. We've booked an appointm... (read in full...)

How am I so bad with women?

Q.   I'm at a place now where I'm rejected 100% of the time. It's mind boggling how awful I am at attracting women. They're put off my me almost immediately and if they're not, I get their number and they stop talking to me. It takes talent to be this ...

A.   1 March 2017: Hey guys! Thanks for all the answers. To further clarify, I've actually been able to start conversations and get the numbers of a few women I'd say are solid 9s if we're talking looks, hence why I don't believe it's my appearance. It's something I'm ... (read in full...)

What is happening here? Neither my girlfriend nor I were virgins when we met. So why am I suddenly bothered that someone else before me had sex with her, before me?

Q.   I’m with my girlfriend since almost 3 years and none of us were virgins when we get together. For me non virginity is not a problem at all, but since 1 week the idea of someone other than me inside her started to pop up in my head. I love her fro...

A.   28 February 2017: Thank for your reply, I've just found what is retroactive jealousy after some research. a lot of people tend to say it's insecurity about being worst than her ex partner's but I don't think at all I'm worst than him, we have very good sex since al... (read in full...)

Would you keep cheating if you could get away with it?

Q.   Here is one for the girls and the lads.... If you cheated (whether you were drunk or sober, intentional or unitentional) and you got away with it. I mean either your partner didn't find out, or your partner did find out and either forgave you or d...

A.   28 February 2017: Hiya Shania... No idea if you are still on this website or not... I stumbled back on here after nearly 10 years as on of my friends was having some trouble so I directed here and got curious.. I just wanted to post to say... it did not happen ... (read in full...)

I'm scared to follow my dreams in case my past could be viewed as a scandal!

Q.   I married a man who is my mother's ex-boyfriend's younger brother. Let me explain. So my mother dated a guy for two years, ten+ years ago. I was 18/19 at the time. The man lived with us as a 'step-father'. I was never around due to college, a jo...

A.   28 February 2017: Thank you! I'm so relieved that I decided to put all of this out there. I also think that it's a great idea to print these answers out as reminders so that I don't get sucked back into my family's issues and negativity. This conversation has help... (read in full...)

I'm worried my reaction means I am not over him.

Q.   I had a one year relationship. The guy was a jerk, and anyway we boke up. After not even seeing eaach other for like 3 months i suddenly see him on the road and i vomit. why does this happen? please tell me it's normal and that i don't still have ...

A.   28 February 2017: Thankyou guys. it meant a lot :)... (read in full...)

I wondered if he could be flirting because his comment seemed out of place.

Q.   Hello everyone, a business meeting was scheduled with the owner of a company through common friends. So here i was walking into the conference room where he was waiting for me and introducing himself. he was very proper, professional and pleasant ...

A.   26 February 2017: Dear male reader, thank you for your right advice and objective view on the subject. Ur absolutely right, only time will tell. It might be an innocent remark with innocent intentions. Thank you very much for the right reply :) ... (read in full...)

We are not meeting so often and he is blaming his work!

Q.   Hi, Aunts! I've been seeing a guy for 2 months now. We used to talk throughout the day and text and meet often, but of late he initiates contact less. It's very frustrating when "Work has been very hectic" is the reply I receive as an explanatio...

A.   25 February 2017: Thank you for all your insights. You are right, if he liked me he would have proved it by his actions. Anyway, I am going to discard him from my life before he does so. ... (read in full...)

My husband and I had a threesome with a guy. Should I push the issue or let it go on naturally?

Q.   Recently I found porn on my husbands phone and confronted him. He confessed that he was turned on by the fact that he wanted me to do a three-some. Well yesterday he brought a male friend home and after several drinks I found myself going down o...

A.   24 February 2017: Thanks it better than it has been, we got our sex life back... (read in full...)

I honestly don't know what to do. What can I do? She blames her childhood for her major trust issues

Q.   Hi, I have been together with my fiance for about 8 months now. Unfortunately, she has major trust issues and she fuels it by giving me no space to breathe. she expects me to tell her everything in detail. ie if I get a message from a friend(ma...

A.   24 February 2017: Hi All, so here is were we are at. yesterday there was a massive fall out and she proved again that she has not managed any of the issues, so i picked myself up and left her. I feel lost and sad, i am an emotional guy sadly. but it is for the best... (read in full...)

So many questions with him paying for porn

Q.   Hi there, I know the topic of my question has been discussed a lot but I still feel the need to ask. I have been with my boyfriend for 1year and a half and everything has been great, I had my own place and he has his. Then, this summer, my lease...

A.   24 February 2017: Thank you all for replying Yes I guess i knew all along he has a problem. I am a hopeless fairytale type of girl and I was hoping other people's inputs might help me see the positive. Though I knew deep down, when I was writing my first post that... (read in full...)

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