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How long should I give him to get back in contact?

Q.   I met a guy through an online dating site, and for the first time in my life, after messages and phone calls, I met up with him in ‘real life’, for coffee during the day. The date went really well, and he is very different to guys I know and have ...

A.   21 September 2019: Answered appreciated, and au see where you are coming from. Just to clarify, it was one date...but we have been in contact for a month and there were a handful of phone calls. He has taken himself off the dating site, as he has realised he wasn... (read in full...)

Should I confront him or break it off?

Q.   I have been seeing him for just over two months. We have a great connection, the sex is amazing and we can talk for hours. We are comfortable around each other. It’s really great most of the time. I noticed when I started seeing him that he had ...

A.   21 September 2019: Hi all, Most of you that responded to my question suggested about a month ago that I break it off with this guy about a month ago. I didn’t do that and we have kept things going. He is still in Berlin. I am going overseas next week and he want... (read in full...)

I really like the co-worker who I slept with but she's non committal and there's this other girl who's interested in me. What do I do?

Q.   I’ll get right to it, I have a friend that’s also a coworker and we’ve been friends for years, and honestly I’ve always wanted more but haven’t expressed myself. Until recently, I expressed my feelings and we talked and it was just a line that we ...

A.   16 September 2019: I really appreciate all of the insight and advice, there’s not I’ll intent on my end and I’ve truly never been in this situation before, it’s a difficult thing but I know the right thing to do now. Its deffinatley hard to the right thing sometimes ... (read in full...)

Wife lied, she wasn't a virgin. What do you think? What should I do? 

Q.   Ever since my wife and i met she has always been a very conservative virgin girl, her choice and she was very string that it was important to her. I knew she had a BF before me but she insisted she was a virgin and it was very important to her. This ...

A.   15 September 2019: Thanks everyone for your comments i do appreciate it. We are starting to open a dialogue about things, and she has said to me she will try to be more open and honest. I must admit some things she has told me are very eye opening...... ... (read in full...)

He's avoiding defining the relationship even though I know he likes me. How long should I keep patient? 

Q.   I have known this guy I am dating for only 2.5 months. I met him on vacation to Texas and then three weeks later, moved to Texas. Not to be with him but because the friends I was visiting allowed me to come live with them for a fresh start. Anyw...

A.   14 September 2019: I wasn't just on vacation to Texas, I was also looking for jobs while here. I moved because of a job opportunity and my friends here letting me rent out their spare bedroom made it possible to do quickly. This guy knew I was moving to Texas, ... (read in full...)

My ex girlfriend's relationship with her brother in law seemed too cozy to me

Q.   My ex gf 5yrs+ and I just recently broken up few days ago . Long story I went to go visit her for the second time at her place (long distance relationship ) stayed 3 weeks. The first week was hot romance and she couldn't get enough of me and than ...

A.   12 September 2019: Thank you all for your time to respond! Yes the ex and I had a mutual break up.Just need space to move on from the bad times. Responds to Honeypie ,The ex does show PDA when we were together when the BIL is around its just no kissing thats all ... (read in full...)

What can I put in a letter to my ex to make me feel better?

Q.   A while ago, I broke up with my first boyfriend after a 18 month long relationship. We, unfortunately, went to the same school and so I had to be around him for a year. Within 3 months, he found a new girl, who acted very oddly towards me, fairly ...

A.   10 September 2019: Thank you for your responses! I thought I should clear up, I didn't want to ever send the letter - it was more that I wanted to let out my feelings and then get rid of it, I'd never give him the satisfaction as to send it. I'd also like to add... (read in full...)

I’m still trying to understand why she did what she did 26 years ago!

Q.   Hi I was married more than 26 years ago. The problem troubling me is that when I knew my wife then, she was going out with someone whom she will never and can't get married to. She didn't inform me of her status then, and we went out. Only after ...

A.   10 September 2019: I have to thank all the 4 female readers who replied to my question. Other than Tisha, the rest of them have not answer any of my questions. All the agony aunt could say is point out my infidelity. They never ever consider the tormenting w... (read in full...)

I feel insecure about the wait in our long distance relationship

Q.   hello, me and my girlfriend are in an Long distance relationship and talk online. her parents make her study and have taken all form of communication to me away from her and she can barley say 1 word to me per day. she said itd be over in around 10 ...

A.   31 August 2019: First of all id like to thank all of you for taking the time out of your day to respond to this ??, I apprecaite all the advice all of you have given me but for now it looks like I will try to focus on myself and my studies and everything instead of ... (read in full...)

She was texting and working during our date and seems to be ghosting me! Do I go on our next date?

Q.   About a week ago I went out with a girl that I dated and was intimate with for 5 months a year ago. We drifted apart as she moved to another state but remained in contact during that year apart, texting and calling on and off. She's now moved ...

A.   30 August 2019: Thank you so much for your advice so far. I've decided to not contact her again unless she contacts me. And if she does I'm going to be clear with how I feel. So far she still hasn't contacted me by Facebook, Whatsapp, or Instagram, so I'm pret... (read in full...)

We've never met I'm in the US she's in France. Is there any point in continuing this?

Q.   So a couple months ago I noticed a beautiful woman followed me on Twitter. I followed her back and we started exchanging DM's on twitter. Turns out she lives in France. I live in Nevada. But we did click. Our interests lined up in many ways (it...

A.   28 August 2019: Thank you so much for your help! I decided to not keep my hopes up because like most of you said, the distance really is an issue. I've maintained contact and will propose a trip to see her at some point, but again, will keep my expectations in ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend still in touch with ex says he needs his privacy and says he will pay for sex. Is he cheating?

Q.   My boyfriend has a well paid job and I know he has money, but he is too stingy. We had a small argument over money issue and he told me, if he want sex, he will just make a call and he will get it and that he needs his privacy that's why he don't ...

A.   26 August 2019: Thank you so much uncle. I appreciate your advice. ... (read in full...)

Do I leave a 10 year relationship? Or settle for her?

Q.   Hello all. This post is as much venting as asking for others input. The sad truth is that I have nobody to talk to. So sorry if it is long. The big life question I have is: break up with my girlfriend, or settle for her. It is more than just...

A.   26 August 2019: Thank you all, especially @Honeypie and @Fatherly Advice. The thought of strangers trying to help me without any hidden motives or expectations of reciprocation has left me touched. I cannot thank you enough. This is another long ramble from... (read in full...)

Am I being an overprotective cat mom or is it cruel to leave my little kitten at home alone when I go to work?

Q.   Hey i just bought the most divine cutest himalayan kitten, he is 2 months old and has been taken away from his mummy and daddy, and his other 2 brothers in the litter my friend and her husband took the 2 brothers! I absolutely ADORE him he is the ...

A.   26 August 2019: Thanks guys!!! you are all correct , he is absolutely amazing!!! i only had him a week so i was very overprotective at first but now he is fantastic, he seems absolutely fine by himself and when i get home wow the affection is adorable !!! he comes ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't seem to understand that I want more from the LDR

Q.   Hi, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend since two years. It is mostly a long distance thing. Previously, like every relationship it used to be very romantic, but now it seems the spark is gone. He is no longer romantic, he no longer ...

A.   24 August 2019: Thankyou for responding. Will give it a thought??... (read in full...)

I'm interested in an older guy, how do I find out if he is married?

Q.   for the past two months or so ive been wanting to speak to someone who is older then me , a lot of people who ive spoken to about this have give me mixed opinions . its the first time ive ever wanted to speak to someone older , he is older then me ...

A.   20 August 2019: hi , thanks for your responses. this answer applies to most of the answers . I would like a friendship from him or just to meet up for a drink and see what hes like . Ive been wanting to talk to him as due to finishing uni and with me having no fu... (read in full...)

How to make an approach to the guy I can't stop thinking about

Q.   I met someone about 5 months ago and I haven't stopped thinking about him since , does this mean I have a crush on him or im obsessed with him ? I know a lot of the time I think about people especially people who have meant a lot to me , who im f...

A.   20 August 2019: I do often make a situation more complicated , I think Im finding it difficult as I feel I need to justify why I want to talk to him and because I am younger and I just am unsure of what to say... (read in full...)

Will he come back to me again after taking space?

Q.   I met a wonderful guy a few months ago and we hit it off immediately. He told me that I was everything he ever wanted in a relationship and I felt the same. He has a young son (3) with his ex girlfriend and I was introduced to him a couple weeks ago ...

A.   19 August 2019: Thank you all for your input. The thing is I really don't think he's a player or wants to hurt me. I think he legitimately doesn't know what he wants and maybe didn't expect to have intense feelings for me this early. I kind of blew up at him when ... (read in full...)

I really like this girl but I don't know where to go from here

Q.   I dont know what to do here! please help, sorry ahead of time this is kind of long. I work at a book store that this girl is a customer of. ( we have a strict rule about not asking out customers, reasonable rule, i have no arguments about ...

A.   19 August 2019: just one last update, I don't make it a habit to meet girls through my job. I work 40 + hours a week and freelance art when not doing that. The bar/club scene never worked for me and I've been trying (paid subsctiption on and off) for 8 years. ... (read in full...)

I think my parents are treating me unfairly for shoplifting

Q.   do you think I desrve to be punished this severely for shoplifting ? 3 days ago I got caught shoplifting,as the shopkeeper knows my mum he called her instead of the police he told her he expected me to be punished, my mum promished the shopkeeper I ...

A.   17 August 2019: i have spent all of today Saturday LOCKED UP in my bedroom, it has been VERY VERY boring and miserable, today has been warm and sunny and I have been shut away in my room while my friends are out having fun, I have completed two 4 page punishment ... (read in full...)

How do I come back from being the bad guy in the marriage? Its affecting me both mentally and physically

Q.   I’ll just dive right in since I don’t really know how to begin. My husband and I separated for a while for many reasons, two of the biggest being he neglected and ignored me for two years and I ended up having an emotional affair with one person for ...

A.   15 August 2019: Just a quick update....I’m only temporarily a stay at home wife—I do have a new job in my career it just doesn’t start for a month. I felt like I needed to explain that since apparently I’m coming off as a moocher to everyone. A very big part of ... (read in full...)

I'm pregnant and sick, and by husband shuts the door on me!

Q.   Im pregnant and when I brush my treeth it triggers me to throw up. Most of the time I manage not to throw up, but I will still caugh a lot. I have tried to not put the toothbrush too far into my mouth, and then I am fine, but wont be able to clean ...

A.   14 August 2019: I am surprised people are still replying to this even though hubby has apologized long time ago and gotten involved. What I dont get is how none of you are able to understand what I asked about... I was wondering how to not get hurt by his action, ... (read in full...)

I'm jealous of my girlfriend's room mate. Overthinking or should I be worried?

Q.   Hi DearCupid, Me and my girlfriend have been together for just over a year now, we're both a little damaged from our last relationships but we make sure to talk to each other if we're ever feeling insecure/upset etc. Usually I'd just talk to her...

A.   14 August 2019: Hi CindyCares, Thank you for your answer, but maybe I need to clarify a few points: They don't work at the same place. My girlfriend's room mate is unemployed so is always at home, my girlfriend goes to work at 3pm, so they spend all the morni... (read in full...)

My soon to be ex wife threw out my personal belongings. Do I confront her? Or let it pass?

Q.   A few days abo, I promised you guys the occasional rant about my divorce and my ex-wife's behaviour. Just to make sure I keep my promise, here comes another one ... Some years ago, I spent a lot of time on B and W photography doing everything...

A.   13 August 2019: Dear anonymous female, I did not throw her stuff out because we agreed I wouldn't. We agreed certain things ware allowed to stay, I'm not complaining about the things that were not supposed to stay; I'm complaining about a pattern with which she ... (read in full...)

Why would my partner text to his ex "there is nothing here" regarding our relationship

Q.   Hi, me and my partner have been together 10 years his previous partner he was with for 15 years. I was looking at his messages and found a message where he stated to her that there is nothing here for him and I have questioned him on this but so far ...

A.   11 August 2019: This is the partner in question y I said that to my ex is because I needed to get it of my chest because that's the way she makes me feel (not always) like I love the girl so much an things will be going great for us (getting along ,sex ,life in ... (read in full...)

I want more from my boyfriend

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. We moved in together around 4 months ago. I love him, he loves me. At the start of the relationship he was the one persuing me and wanting more of my time and attention. Now the tables have turned. I want to ...

A.   11 August 2019: Things changed before we moved in together. I noticed that if I didn't go to him, I wouldnt see him all week. Now I notice that if I do not ask for sex, we won't have it. It's been 2 weeks and it bothers me, but not him. He seems content with going ... (read in full...)

I'm jealous of the time my wife is spending with an ill member of her clergy

Q.   one day I observed my wife walking down the road with a neighborhood guy. they were conversing and smiling, basically enjoying each other company. needless to say I felt jealous, and I told her so. flash forward, I been coming home lately and ...

A.   10 August 2019: wise owl, I hear what you are saying and to tell the truth, we have resolved whatever issues there were between us. This matter is a dead issue between my wife, myself and the other guy. if she is still seeing him, at least its not where I can see ... (read in full...)

How reliable is an STD-test?

Q.   After a relationship of 10 years, I'm getting divorced. As I manage to put the pieces of my emotional puzzle together, I will probably be addressing an issue from time to time. One thing has been bothering me for a few months. When we starte...

A.   7 August 2019: I just went to the GP's replacement. His answer: you can only test HIV and hepatitis A&B in blood. You've had vaccines for hepatitis (when I travelled to a remote area in the Himalayas). And as you're a regular blood donor (that is, I've stop... (read in full...)

My girlfriend betrayed me in front of my family. Was I justified in dumping her?

Q.   My girlfriend and I were together for 3 years. We have an age gap relationship. She’s 22 im 33. Out of all three years this one has had to be the most stressful. For the last 6 months I’ve been unable to make ends meet. If it’s not one thing it...

A.   6 August 2019: She made me look like a loser. Things like this are supposed to be known on a need to know basis i wouldn’t talk to her family about her shortcomings. She violated my privacy and trust and talked to vindictive people about me that’s two faced ... (read in full...)

Even divorcees with kids have it better than me when it comes to dating and marriage! What am I doing wrong?

Q.   This is more like a frustration rant. My last relationship ended years ago. Since then, I have been going on dates, dating events etc but have not found anyone suitable. A year back, I have also signed with matchmaking agencies where I spent over ...

A.   4 August 2019: Thanks for all the great advice. I do agree with WiseOwlE that I shouldn't have spent so much on matchmaking services, I feel rather stupid for doing that. I have gone on several dates, some repeated ones. There are those that have expresse... (read in full...)

Boyfriend deleted his ex girlfriend's texts

Q.   I've been living with my bf now for almost 2 years. Recently, his ex texted him again. I know because he told me that she did. I asked to read the texts a few days later, but was told that they had been deleted. I asked why he had deleted the...

A.   2 August 2019: They talked via text - he deleted the conversation that they had with one another. I'm worried that he was attempting to hide something. Am I crazy for thinking this?... (read in full...)

A guy keeps coming back when he doesn't want a relationship.

Q.   My ex and met online game site 3 years and we hit it off. However, after 5 months he broke it off because he felt like we don’t live within reasonable distance to support a relationship. We live 5 hours away from each other of driving distance. We ...

A.   30 July 2019: @CindyCares , we haven't had contact for the last 5 years at all since he had no way to contact me. We had zero contact. However we haven't seen each other in person for the last 2 years when we were on the on and off phase because he would always ... (read in full...)

Friend inviting me on holiday and professional/personal boundaries.

Q.   Two situations I need help with, that involve professional/personal blurring amongst gay men: - I have this friend; he is very well connected in the art world. He is friends with a hotel owner, who has offered him a full paid up trip in Europe, ...

A.   29 July 2019: Thanks guys, these are excellent responses and very helpful to me. I think in the first situation, the problem is I really wasn't sure if he had a sexual interest in me, as he doesn't show any signs of it in typical way. There are people who ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend's hoarder sist.er wont move out

Q.   My girlfriends sister (41) will not move out! My girlfriend (28) and I (27) have been together for about three years...for most of that we have lived together. The first year my girlfriend rented and I moved in with her and not long after her s...

A.   26 July 2019: I should add that she already has one giant storage unit. As i said in the first post she is a hoarder.... (read in full...)

What are the chances they are having an emotional affair?

Q.   We purchased a home for my son and his fiancée and their daughter with his trust. We have been renovating the home to have it ready for them by August . I noticed my husband becoming more and more distant and him working different hours than he ...

A.   26 July 2019:  To clarify things my mother paid for the house. Not my husband. I understand she has input but we all work at that house together 20 hours a week. We have no contractors. We go everywhere with them to pick out appliances, wall colors, everything is ... (read in full...)

My partner is into beastiality

Q.   My partner is into beastialiy Not sure how to deal with this one? I have known for some time that my partner of 6 years has always watched porn and I can’t say I was thrilled about it but I put up with it. Now I’ve recently discovered that ...

A.   26 July 2019: Hi. Thank you for the replies. We don’t live together which is a god send. He comes to mine approx 3 times a week and he leaves his iPad. Like I said previously I thought he was up to something so I had a look as everything he puts in his search ... (read in full...)

My Baby Daddy never follows through on promises, how can I make him happy?

Q.   I have been with my baby Daddy boyfriend for almost two years. I have stayed with him when he was unemployed for 6 months, quit jobs and been broke. I have worked full time even when I was pregnant. We split up for two weeks because I finally ...

A.   24 July 2019: Here is an update. After reading replies & considering everything that I have been through I ended it. I have not heard from him since. ... (read in full...)

I'm attracted to a married man at work and need to rebuild the boundaries.

Q.   A gentleman in my workplace has been increasingly attentive. He is a little older and happily married. I love having a strong work ally I respect him and his commitment to his family. I have found myself having thoughts about him. At points I wond...

A.   24 July 2019: Thank you. I think there is clearly something I need but do need to look in the right place. I am very respectful of his situation and would not allow anything to escalate. I wondered if balance could be achieved and maybe it will but for now I’m ... (read in full...)

I just found out my girlfriend doesn't like her breasts touched during sex

Q.   i been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about 5-6 years and i love her very much and i just founded out that she doesn't like it when i touch or caressed or fondle her breast when we were being intimate or playful she say it makes her feel ...

A.   23 July 2019: everything is going well so to speak of like we kiss and cuddle from time to time and sometime my hands do wander on to her breast slightly and i dont think she notice but if she does i think she does enjoy it and knowing how long we been together ... (read in full...)

I'm single and pregnant, despite complications with the baby the father doesn't want to know about us.

Q.   So I was dating a guy for 2 months, going really well then he ended the relationship due to the fact he didn't like the fact I have children, 3 weeks later I found out I was pregnant with his child, (implant broke) he said when he found out he ...

A.   22 July 2019: Thank you all for your help!!! I decided to have the baby due to when I had my last child he tore me apart so I was told that if I conceive again that it will be my last child hence why I went ahead and kept the child!!! I won't be having any ... (read in full...)

I have a crush on a Chinese student friend and I'd like to know if anyone has any experience of courting Chinese girls or foreigners?

Q.   Hi there, So I'm a British university student, currently in a private halls of residence. Since everyone except me moved out of our section over the summer it has just been me until some Chinese girls about my age moved in. They are all really ...

A.   21 July 2019: Thank you for all your replies. I definitely agree that focusing on the friendship aspect is the most important at the moment. As obviously we're still quite new to each other any way and I don't want to freak her out. Plus I'm hoping the ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants to get married but all of his baggage is making me wonder if its a good idea

Q.   I've been seeing my new boyfriend a little over a year. He is a very sweet guy. He wants to get married, and I'm unsure I really want to. I know that my reasons will sound very vain. He doesn't have a tax paying job, he works for cash doing whatever ...

A.   21 July 2019: Thanks for all the answers, I guess all this does bother me more than I realized. For the one that wrote that his ex wife probably divorced him because of finances, that wasnt the case. She never worked, he took care of everything, but then he had ... (read in full...)

Do I continue in my loveless marriage? I reconnected with my ex

Q.   I have been married about 21 years. The last 7 have been really bad, it is almost just like sharing a house with a roommate. My last kid will be moving out is September. This opens a new chapter. Do I continue this loveless relationship? ...

A.   21 July 2019: Very good advice. I do need to clean up my mess first. ... (read in full...)

Cheater?? Just your first instinct, not full evaluation!

Q.   Ok... Just be straight... Being paranoid, or boyfriend totally cheating on me?? He has a friend contact, saved on his phone as "Wifey S" when questioned, said nothing to worry about, just a female friend.... what are your first thought... backgrou...

A.   11 July 2019: So.. The worst thing ever.. This time last year,,my now ex boyfriend,,met up with and started a serious relationship with her!! He managed to keep her secret from me until feb of this year!! Instead of breaking up with me, and moving out... he chose ... (read in full...)

Can you make yourself love someone?

Q.   Well. Where do I start? Six years ago I met my husband and he inspired me to stop doing the party girl thing. Overtime i realized I had been shallow and never given men like him a chance before. (He is not physically what I was use to dating) I ...

A.   9 July 2019: Do not know where "pity" and "cheater" are coming from but sexual attraction is not love. That was the only part in the beginning i had an issue with. My problem now is the refusal to get a job and the refusal for me to get a better job. I want to p... (read in full...)

Why has my husband of 15 years suddenly become so interested in anal sex?

Q.   Hello I’m wondering why my husband of 15 years is suddenly only wanting to have foreplay with my anal it’s bern a couple months and I feel he’s prepping me slowing he started touching me there then kissing and licking and now he’s trying to do it ...

A.   9 July 2019: Thank you all so much for taking the time to give me some insight on my question!... (read in full...)

Its been 2 years why can't I move on?

Q.   It's been two years since I cut contact with my ex. We met in high school. I didnt have friends, nor did I have a stable home, I was always abused physically and verbally by my mother, so you can say I was the broken, weird kid at school. Fast ...

A.   8 July 2019: I've been to therapy but I never talk about it, I'm too ashamed too.... (read in full...)

A second chance in the gay dating world??

Q.   Hi..I am really surprised how so many guys stand others up - me included - on the very first date. I contacted a visiting guy by 5 pm (local time)today; we swapped pics and agreed to meet up by 9 pm. He didn't show up. One hour later he texted me ...

A.   5 July 2019: Thanks everyone for the valuable input.... (read in full...)

I am in a sexless marriage! What can I do?

Q.   Hello. I have been married for almost three years now. When we were dating our sex life was great. My then boyfriend was spontaneous, he would initiate most of the time. But after we got married and I got pregnant our sex life just dwindled...

A.   4 July 2019: Thank you all for your advice. I really appreciate it. and just to clarify some things. yes both pregnancies were planed. And my husband is always the one in the forefront about having kids. He only makes serious effort when he wants to knock me u... (read in full...)

My male cousin offended me. Should we just not go to his house again?

Q.   I have a male cousin, whom I used to be close to. Things have changed but weren't too bad until our last visit. I was really offended because he hardly talked to me for the weekend that we were there. What was worse was he talked a LOT to my wife. ...

A.   3 July 2019: Thanks for the replies and maybe I was overreacting in my idea. However, I forgot to add another data point: in the last 6 months, this guy has sent my wife about 20 emails. In the same time period he has sent me zero. It hurts because we use... (read in full...)

IVF - is it painful to do eggs retrieval without general anaesthetic?

Q.   I've just started IVF and wondered if any woman here has done this process, and if its possible for them to do the eggs retrieval without being under general anaesthetic. I am really scared of generals and my fertility doctor tried to relax me by ...

A.   1 July 2019: I have done this now twice without anaesthesia and it was painful both times for like 1 second but yes its a woahhh pain but as it only lasts for 1 second i was very happy that i wasn't put to sleep for that!! it's literally a 4 minute procedure ... (read in full...)

I think I really insulted my bf....how should I fix this?

Q.   A few days ago my bf came home from work and he came into our bedroom where I was reading/studying and to get my attention he took his penis out and wanted me to play with it....I told him to go away bc I was busy. When he came back to bed a few ...

A.   29 June 2019: WiseowlE I think you are right on and he is playing games with me. Thank you!! Just curious though....Am i a boring or bad lay bc I refuse to do those “ kinky” things and because I get grossed out about uncleanliness? Thanks!... (read in full...)

We are both married but how do I let go of this man who is my real love?

Q.   This is going to sound ridiculous and like me and this other person are the worst people in the world. I am married, but separated and this man is married with kids. We have been talking for quite some time now. We have never done anything sexually ...

A.   22 June 2019: I guess I should have added that I can’t finalize my divorce so quickly. I live in NC where the law says it doesn’t get finalized until a year after the separation. If I could finalize it now I would. Really I was looking for a way to cope wit... (read in full...)

Should I stay with my fiance even though I love someone else?

Q.   Dear Aunties and Uncles, I will try to keep this short as possible. I've been in a long term relationship for 14 years and have a 14 year old daughter who my partner raised as his own since she was 2 weeks old. We had an amazing relati...

A.   20 June 2019: Good afternoon Aunties. It's been over 2 years since I asked for help and I have an update for you. my last updated consisted on having a conversation with my partner telling him how I felt and looking for my own place. After that so called a... (read in full...)

He didn't respond to my texts, should I have given him a second chance.

Q.   Hi..This guy visiting my city hit me on a dating site today at 1 p.m (local time). We shared the basic information and pics, agreeing to meet up at 8 p.m. One hour before the meeting time, I texted him just to say hi again and ask what was up with ...

A.   18 June 2019: Thanks everyone for the valuable input..... (read in full...)

Why did I panic in the middle of our BDSM thing?

Q.   My husband and I are new to BDSM and have been experimenting a lot the last couple months. Last night after he did his thing he was pushing to try and get me to finish (which hasn't happened yet). I was liking what he was doing but started getting a ...

A.   10 June 2019: I trust my husband but when it comes to finishing at the hands of a Male I have huge issues because of past abuse from an ex. He understands I believe but still wants to help me get past it. I would like a do over but not today. BDSM is truly ... (read in full...)

I feel guilty about unfriending a friend of my husband, on his account!

Q.   Before we met, my husband used to work for this couple who owned their own business. He worked for them for about seven years. He was good friends with them both, but especially the wife. When we started dating, whenever they threw their annual ...

A.   10 June 2019: I posted an update late last night, but don't see it, so I will re-post it. Last night I 'fessed up to my husband, and he actually found it funny. It is such a relief not to keep this secret anymore, dreading his reaction. I really appreciated ... (read in full...)

Crushing on the Walmart guy!

Q.   I'm going to try and keep this as short as possible! I have been single for almost 4 years. I haven't dated anyone I just haven't found anyone that I'm interested in until now. A few months ago I seen this guy that works at my local Walmar...

A.   7 June 2019: UPDATE! I went shopping alone, and he came up and talked to me. Turns out that he has noticed me and wanted to talk to me several times. He is single, with no kids, and knows my daughter's dad. We exchanged numbers and agreed to hangout tomorrow... (read in full...)

Who is the guarded one? I’m ready for a relationship and am willing to work on opening up!

Q.   I’m looking at online dating and chatting with a guy.He keeps saying, I’m guarded.But I’m prepared to trust, tell him whatever he needs to know,. I’ve told him to ask, what does he want to know.? I want to get to know him and have told him so. He ...

A.   7 June 2019: Thank you honeypie, solid advice fromyou there, Nice to know it’s natural to be cautious, but I guess I knew that. Just not sure what this guy wants me to do or say? Only been chatting about a week or so online. Exchanged quite a few messages, so I ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend treats me like glass since I'm a virgin

Q.   Hi y’all. I’ve taken some of your advice to put myself out there and date and get to know a guy. He’s actually a classmate of mine and my friends set us up. We’ve been dating for for a while but he treats me differently. The conversation of sex c...

A.   7 June 2019: Hello y’all, I’m the original poster. I appreciate the advice. I’ve talked to him about how I feel and he still does the same thing. I’m just going to break up with him and take a break from dealing with guys and put all my focus on school. ... (read in full...)

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