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This woman is getting close on the train!

Q.   I catch the busy train to work in Tokyo everyday and there is this cute younger lady who gets on along the way. I am usually standing near the door anyway but somehow she seems to find her way in front of me so we are hugged and crushed together. We ...

A.   19 October 2017: I think if I was back in my own country, the UK. Then I will probably have acknowledged or say something by now. But train in Japan are sooo quiet. Nobody talks, mobile phone use is forbidden (talking that is). I'd just feel like an outlaw trying to ... (read in full...)

His online world has me worried

Q.   Hi All My husband is addicted to Facebook, constantly checking his Facebook even when we are out shopping/socialising etc. I have had to accept this and we have had many arguments over it. He does not listen. Recently he has set up an Inst...

A.   18 October 2017: Hi to all you wonderful people who have taken the time to reply. I will read the book by Prof Lundy Bancroft, thank you so much for your insight. I know that I am the only person who can decide on whether or not my marriage continues, it is a d... (read in full...)

I'm struggling with taking care of my ailing mother!

Q.   I'm struggling right now. I'm feeling guilty and I just don't know what to do. About 8 months ago my mother suffered with gout. During the time she suffered from anxiety and depression. She found it hard to get out of bed. She self diagnosed herself ...

A.   17 October 2017: Thanks you guys. I know she's family and of course I would do anything for her! I'm just afraid she's going to get into that state again where she pushes me away. And because I live with her, it's Just me and not my siblings 'problem'. I am taking ... (read in full...)

My brother's wedding showed me how regretable mine was

Q.   Jealous of Sister In Laws Family Hi community. I just attended my brothers wedding and it was amazing! Such a great day with lovely speeches and an amazing vibe. I got married two months ago and looking at both I'm so jealous of my sister in l...

A.   16 October 2017: Thanks for all the responses. You are all right, this is irrational thinking and I'm being selfish. I wasn't thinking of my husband, who is the best human on this earth, I wasn't thinking of my friends who travelled 3 hours to see me, and I wa... (read in full...)

Is my friend's sister not interested? Or is she just forgetful and not very organised like her brother?

Q.   Hey all, I'm in a situation that I'm unsure how to judge. Basically randomly one night, I ended up sleeping with one of my very good friends sisters. We have never really spoke previous to that time and it was a bit of a whirlwind how it all ha...

A.   15 October 2017: It seems I was massively overthinking the whole thing and can happily say that she's now my girlfriend! Thanks to everyone that answered ... (read in full...)

I'm struggling with wanting more attention from him through texts!

Q.   So I have posted about this previously, but I’m starting to get that feeling of neglect again.  I feel terrible as I know my bf is working very hard and I hate asking him for more attention.  The situation hit a breaking point a couple weeks ago, he ...

A.   14 October 2017: Thank you for all the advice! I def do not over text and sometimes let 5 or so hours go by, allowing him to concentrate on his job. I'm also never one to have lengthy text convos in the morning or at night. Today I did pull back, he noticed ... (read in full...)

Why doesn't my boyfriend want to delete his exes from facebook?

Q.   Why doesnt my boyfriend want to delete his exes from fb? Hes sayin that they r just friends and their break up were amicable but i notice a constant interest of them on his posts and messenger and also hints and subliminal comments One of them ...

A.   13 October 2017: Wise owl u r rite Da ting dat was confusin fo me is most of his free time he d luv to soend it wif me, so i know he luvs bein wif me But we had few arguments bout his exes in his digital life(i dont know if he sees them live at da times we r not t... (read in full...)

I can't wait to get married - but family issues putting a dampener on it.

Q.   Hi, I'm looking for some advice. My fiancé and I are engaged and are soon to start planning our wedding. I have an extremely difficult mother, and because of that she has pretty much damaged all family ties I have with aunts/uncles/cousins. ...

A.   11 October 2017: Thanks - yes you are right, that makes sense, whether eloping or planning a day. Weddings do cause drama's, but i suppose only if you let it. My family tends to have high expectations(never understood why), but also very judgemental and selfish.... (read in full...)

I feel like I was second servings!

Q.   Okay i really dont know what to do in this situation. So my freind is friends with this guy and they are just friends nothing more. So one day he spent the night at our apartment and I ended up having sex with him. I felt weird about sleeping with ...

A.   10 October 2017: Okay I get your point I'm not cut out for casual sex. I'm not upset with him at all if I were in his shoes I'd gladly take what she offered. I am upset with her because were I in her shoes I would have never offered. The you got what you deserved ... (read in full...)

Why do I put up with my sister in law's rubbish?

Q.   Hello all, Could someone please tell me the meaning of when something is on the up and up? I am so angry right now and thank goodness I love my husband enough to put up with his family's crap albeit we do have arguments before I go out with t...

A.   10 October 2017: I think she meant it exactly how I perceived it by her tone and facial expression...when I started explaining myself she said oh well that's good. ... (read in full...)

I feel I am not good enough and cry everyday

Q.   I am 25, single and VERY lonely. My now ex bf recently broke up with me because he lost feelings for me. I think it is all my fault, but he says it is not. He says his feelings fizzled out over time and insists there is no new girl. I am scared of ...

A.   10 October 2017: Other advice would also be helpful... (read in full...)

I am exhausted and my boyfriend is no help.

Q.   I know I'm right but someone please knock some sense into me. I'm in a relationship, we don't live together but I spend a lot of time at his house. Work everyday and come home to him sitting on the couch everyday watching tv and has done nothing ...

A.   9 October 2017: I let some time go by without communicating with my boyfriend, and when I finally did go back to talk to him I realized I don't even want to be in the same room as him, so I handle things in the worst way possible, I was so emotional beat and among ... (read in full...)

I want to build better relationships with my family

Q.   I have an unusual issue that I've not really heard of many people discussing on this site before, I've asked questions in the past and received good advice but never on this topic. Basically, I feel like I don't really have a great relationsh...

A.   9 October 2017: Thank you for your answers. I have organised to take my mum out for some drinks with the girl I'm seeing so they can get to know each other better, I think she will be happy with that. I am also going to the hospital with my mum tonight to s... (read in full...)

My ex bf new gf texting me how good their relationship is

Q.   I've been in a relationship for almost 2 years now. We've had our ups and downs but we pulled through. We also had lots of arguments. On our last argument we had I went to work, came home and he packed his things and left. My ex bf now, left a ...

A.   9 October 2017: I want to thank everyone for their answers and advice's. I really took everything into heart, that yes I do deserve better than my ex. It will take time to heal, as I love him very much. Thank you again... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is afraid of my beauty and that I will leave him!

Q.   My boyfriend said he's scared of my beauty and is afraid I will leave him.what do I do to prove I won't and he doesn't take me out, prefers me staying indoor with him is dat y?. And I love this guy so much and it hurts me anytime he saids dat..pls...

A.   8 October 2017: Thanks so much #chigirl, #N91, #youcannotbeserious and #honeypie. This is my first serious relationship dats y, And I was thinking it was because of the way his ex left him was the reason. And actually i haven't met any of his friends before but ... (read in full...)

Is this a positive sign or is she just being nice?

Q.   My ex broke up with me a couple of weeks ago. I had been working on the things she didnt like about me and I sent her an email updating her on how I have been changing i.e getting better and that I love her and hopefully in future we might cross ...

A.   7 October 2017: Thank you for all your answers, just wanted to give an update. We got back together!... (read in full...)

He was looking at provocative image!

Q.   Hi I'm looking for some advice I've never had to do this before. My question is how am I supposed to feel about my partner of 15 years was working on his laptop and stepped outside for a smoke I was unpacking shopping and on his screen was a picture ...

A.   7 October 2017: Thanks for the replies they have been most helpful there has been a very disturbing development from yesterday when I posted this. He went to kiss me goodnight and I declined he said what's wrong I said you know the image on your laptop he got very ... (read in full...)

Should I suggest to my ex she seek professional help?

Q.   I recently went through a bad breakup with a woman I thought was the one. Even though she did it in a cold hearted way I still care deeply for her and have been told that she loves me just not like I love her. The relationship is in the past so I'm ...

A.   7 October 2017: I also should explain that she talks in her sleep. Often would roll over and look me in the eye and say stuff If it was gibberish then I knew she was actually asleep... (read in full...)

Am I lacking backbone?

Q.   Hi there, I wonder if you can help me a little further. I am fundamentally unable to deal with mood swings from my wife. They are rare and for the majority of the time we’re absolutely fine. Then suddenly, out of the blue she will descend into wha...

A.   6 October 2017: Thanks everyone. As a point if fact she does suffer from Anxiety....sometimes she's really quick to tears. The fear I experience is as a result of a powerfully painful reaction I had some time ago to a break up with someone else. I am fearful of ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend stole money from my purse, I broke it off but am feeling sad.

Q.   I am 48 years old and in a telation with a man my age ,we r engaged but since i knew him i felt that there is something missing in the relation and i wasn't sure that i love him and kept postponing marriage.he is so kind with me and generous in ...

A.   6 October 2017: Now he sent me his location at my dead father's cemetry. He said he dreamt of him and he decided to visit him to tell him he is not a theif and that he loves me and i will never find one who loves me and take cate of me like him... (read in full...)

Do you bleed the second time you have sex?

Q.   Hi,I lost my virginty 3 months ago I had bleeding I bleed for four days and I had craming along with it I didn't know if it was my period or that and he didn't go all they way in either. I didn't had sex after that because it hurted alot I wa...

A.   6 October 2017: Okay I will be... (read in full...)

How to come to terms with my academic failure?

Q.   So basically, I've spent the past two years working towards my masters degree as well as working full time. Up until this summer I've been doing really well (average grade 75, on track for a distinction), only to choke in my last few months and ...

A.   4 October 2017: Thanks Code Warrior. You're right of course, a MA isn't necessary at all for writing. It's actually a screenwriting degree I did so I took the course more to learn about proper formatting techniques as well as the overall craft and to make con... (read in full...)

I constantly feel jealous about his exes!

Q.   Any advice on how to get past jealousy. My boyfriend has clearly had other girlfriends as we have been together only a few months. Yesterday he said about going to Italy and when I asked who with and he said his ex girlfriend from 8 years ago I feel ...

A.   4 October 2017: I had already seen early August he had liked an ex girlfriend's picture on Facebook, and attractive woman who had had an abortion (his). Apart from her and this woman I have seen last night he has liked several attractive single women's pictures ... (read in full...)

Feeling the pain but finding it hard to let go

Q.   Hi, I went through an extremely bad breakup lately and it has left me reeling worse than any other breakup and has shaken my confidence, as well as my desire to date. But the worst is that I still contain feelings for the girl even though she did ...

A.   3 October 2017: I guess the real problem is that I do want her back and she is never coming back, nor will she talk to me. We got together during a rough time, shortly after we started dating a lot of people passed on both sides. I wish we could see each other now ... (read in full...)

He says he loves me but I feel jealous of the way he treated another woman he liked

Q.   My boyfriend lost his job last year and since I have been with him he has been trying to secure work. I'm not with him for money at all and love him for who he is. By his own admittance he had a good job and he liked a particular woman, she didn't ...

A.   3 October 2017: His explantation for the bag was that at the time he had the money and in reality he was being big headed when after he felt he was silly for buying it. He has told me several times that since losing his job last year he feels he didn't like himself ... (read in full...)

Is she seeking attenton from me or just comfortable?

Q.   We chat a lot. She seems to remember conversations like from two weeks ago, like we had a conversation about buses and she was per your conversation two weeks ago, she'll remember stuff about me things that I do etc We've known each other for q...

A.   2 October 2017: @aunthonesty - nahh I'm actually a 12 year old typing.... ( sarcasm btw. I've not had much dating experience so logically one can understand why I posted ...... (read in full...)

How do I handle his mood swings?

Q.   Hello Aunts, I am struggling with an issue that I have with my husband whom i love very much. This is not a new issue but sometimes it gets so ridiculous i stop and think why is this happening? Hubby and i have a pretty good life, we've had ou...

A.   2 October 2017: BrownWolf, thank you. Often when he's on a rant I just listen and when I don't respond he's like You're not saying anything! I'm not because I don't agree with him and if I say what I'm thinking it would start him up more however my lack of words... (read in full...)

I thought things were progressing well so why does she seemed to have slowed down?

Q.   A few days ago I was on cloud nine. I had finally gone out with a great girl after a couple weeks of chatting on Facebook since we were both moving back to our hometown. We clicked really well while we were chatting, she was very responsive and f...

A.   1 October 2017: Turns out she had a boyfriend she never mentioned. She just tweeted about him on Twitter. Oh well. ... (read in full...)

Does my close friend have a crush on me?

Q.   I have a very good boy friend,and I am single. Our friendship is very confusing because we always flirt with each other.But these day,I begin to notice some change about him. For example,last Saturday we went shopping together.As we passed by the...

A.   1 October 2017: To be honest, I don't quite understand my feeling to him.Sometimes I seem to be attracted to him,but other time,I just happy to be his friend.I'm very confused because I have never been into a relationship.I don't know how it suppose to feel when ... (read in full...)

How do I control these erections I get so easily?

Q.   Hello everyone! I've got sort of an awkward issue, and I'm going to try to make this brief. I get erections incredibly easily and it's starting to annoy me. Especially around my girlfriend. I'm a very physical person, it's how I show affection, ...

A.   30 September 2017: Thanks for the reassurance everyone. Last night we took a step up in our relationship so I'm not thinking it'll be as unusual now. I'd never push her to have sex or do anything she wouldn't be okay with. I just needed to hear some anonymous advice. ... (read in full...)

Is this too much for a first and second date or is he just trying to control her?

Q.   So, a friend of mine is seeing this guy.. They started talking through Bumble. He's slightly older tha her, she's 22. They've only know each other a couple of weeks or so. He's a volunteer police officcer. So, they met at the weekend. Saturda...

A.   30 September 2017: "not being funny" @andiesthought why do people always start a sentence with that and then proceed to say something that no one would ever perceive slightly humourous... anyway, that's your opinion. I've friends older, younger. etc. No younger than ... (read in full...)

Why am I the one suffering when all I tried to do was help my family?

Q.   I am in some real need of help here. Or maybe just a little support. Its a long story but here goes... ok so after 25 years my husband left me, my kids were 18 and 23. My daughter moved in with her then boyfriend. My son,who was my best friend i...

A.   29 September 2017: Thank you all so much... I appreciate your comments, and you would not believe how much it has helped me. Blessings to you... (read in full...)

How to forget about your ex

Q.   Hi me and my ex boyfriend resently break up two months ago we were together from last year January we were on and off .. we broke up four times because people told him things I never said about him and he was believing them he block me on everything ...

A.   29 September 2017: I am minding my own business I ain't looking at his social media and it ain't a competition between me and his ex I dislike her many people do she even slept with one of my friends boyfriend to and the reason why she doing this was because she still ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and I argue constantly but I love him.

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together 2 and a half years. Things were great in the beginning but more recently we seem to argue about everything. Things are lovely when we're getting on but we seem to argue most days and he goes silent and will ...

A.   29 September 2017: Thanks for your advice Dionee. I know you're right.. it's just a scary prospect. Thanks again!... (read in full...)

Is she hiding something or cheating?

Q.   Before I get started let me just say that women have the right to enjoy sex as much as men. I'm not a sexist person and raised a Young lady on my own. I met my high school sweet heart after 30 years of no contact. We had sex later that evening. We ...

A.   28 September 2017: Thank you all for your comments. I asked this question from two different prospectives. Once under just wanting to vent. I've been through the hurt and anger and I've finally settled on acceptance The complete truth is we dated for 3 1/2 years and ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has a new friend & he seems to care more about their relationship than ours.

Q.   I've been in a relationship for five years, and cheating has never been something I was concerned about. But about six months ago my boyfriend made a new friend through a club at colleg, and they became close friends real quickly. They talk all the ...

A.   26 September 2017: OP here. Thanks for all of your input guys... I'm glad to hear that I'm not being paranoid or jealous. There are a few things I need to clarify: 1. We do not live together because he's currently in a PhD program. We've talked about marriage... (read in full...)

What is going on? Are these just excuses?

Q.   After still feeling neglected, I told my bf exactly why I was feeling down. In the last couple of weeks I have noticed that I was initiating the messages, which is ok, but I feel like I'm pestering esp being the only one initiating Messaging was ...

A.   26 September 2017: Last week I actually pushed myself to get out there and went out a couple nights out of the week. He was very concerned about me going out w/out him, but I wasn't going there to flirt w/other guys, though I went the last I went out and felt kinda ... (read in full...)

I'm very confused about our relationship and what we are to each other, if anything

Q.   We are friends for 4-5 years. He is younger then me and he likes girls always have lot of different girls mostly one night stand and also few relationships for maximum 4month. He always goes out with me Im like his homeboy and also bro however I ...

A.   26 September 2017: Thank you all guys I understand your point and I agree with you all. Thank you for answers I wont think of it anymore I still think in few years if we still be like that :D we would have no other choice just to try it out but not now. I really dont ... (read in full...)

He says he will never marry me because of my past!

Q.   Hello, My question there any hope for a future with my ex-boyfriend? We dated for six months and he always suffered from retrograde jealousy for me. During this time I foolishly, casually mentioned my exes, not fully grasping what to...

A.   26 September 2017: Thanks to all of you... You're very right and are speaking exactly what my intuition already knows... it's just always hard to give it a nudge so that it acts on it. You've helped me a lot. I'm still thinking about him, of course, but in a d... (read in full...)

I know I could have an amazing life with mistress but don't want to hurt my wife and children

Q.   Hi. I am really confused and need advice. Here goes with a bit of background and my position. I am an almost 49 year old man and have been married for almost 25 years.we have 3 of which has now left home. My wife gave up work 17 years ag...

A.   25 September 2017: 47 divorced with 1 child. Not divorced when we first met... (read in full...)

Am I crazy? Is something amiss in the way he behaves with his daughter? What should I do?

Q.   I recently broke up with a man I'd been seeing on and off for the last five years. I have always been attracted to problematic people, and this guy is no exception - he is bankrupt, alcoholic, cheated on me over and over and over, and admits openly ...

A.   24 September 2017: Hey! It's been a long long time since I posted this, but I wanted to give you guys an update. I did call Child Protection Services in the end - the kicker was meeting one of my ex's old work colleagues in a bar. The guy was a little bit tipsy and ... (read in full...)

My wife's sexual past has become a sticking point for me

Q.   OK this might be a bit long winded but here we go. So I have been happilyish married for nearly ten years now. I met my wife in 2003 while on my OE in London and we got together and started dating and then eventually the "how many people have you ...

A.   23 September 2017: WiseOwlE Thanks for your respons. To flesh this out a bit more and answer some of your questions, I did talk to her about it. We have spoken so many times over the last 4-5 years about this but it never really gets resolved. She tells me what sh... (read in full...)

I'm a 27 year old virgin who just wants to be loved..

Q.   Hi I'm just looking for advice I'm a 27 year old female and I have never been in a relationship I'm also a Virgin. I just seem invisible to men or only the wrong ones I'm at the age all my friends are settled down and having babies and I can't help ...

A.   23 September 2017: Thanks for all the replys and advice. I do socialise and have loads of friends I'm also in a local drama group which I go to twice a week where I have plenty of friends. However one guy I've liked a long time I know he likes me too but he has a ... (read in full...)

Difficult LDR, I feel I'm becoming close to my ex. Should I isolate myself from all girls so I don't find myself slipping?

Q.   Greetings Agony Aunts and Uncles, To give you a bit of background Im in a LDR with mg GF for about a month now and the separation is killing us. We met in college and our both living near our families in different states. Unless one of us is willi...

A.   23 September 2017: We see each other twice a month, and we are planning to change it to once a week but the thing is, if we're both feeling lonely wont that eventually drive us apart. I am just trying to see where this will go long term, we were practically living ... (read in full...)

He was still receiving photos from his ex!

Q.   So I found out that my boyfriend of 9 months still received pictures from his ex. He knew that it bothers me everytime she send texts, call or send selfie pictures. However, I do understand that my bf has no control of what his ex is sending him. ...

A.   22 September 2017: Thank you all for all your advise. I dumped him last night, but making me feel such a shallow of doing it for a pic.... (read in full...)

Is this a genuine concern or is he blowing me off?

Q.   My bf and I have been together for a couple months. He treats me really well and is different from the other guys that I dated. One thing though that has really started to worry me, is him trying to drop me off at home early in the day. He works ...

A.   22 September 2017: He does take me out and our time together is amazing. Lately I've been feeling quite a bit of neglect.... (read in full...)

Is it too soon to mention I'd like more contact?

Q.   Hello and thanks in advance for reading. I'm having trouble dating and trusting men after a very difficult year that I'm slowly getting through and coming to terms with. This year I've had to deal with sudden job changes, dates going wrong a...

A.   22 September 2017: Thanks for taking the time to read,the advice is greatly appreciated, thanks so much. I've decided to calm down and just let things flow, try not to get too bothered over contact/etc. and what happens, happens, I'll deal with it as it comes. ... (read in full...)

She's going into an arranged marriage, unhappy with the man. Please help!

Q.   I am an Indian. In our culture arrange marriage system is prevalent. Recently my best friend got engaged to someone. Her parents found that guy for her. Its been an year but not a day passed when she didn't complain about him. She always tells me ...

A.   21 September 2017: No i don't have any romantic feelings for her. She is like a sister to me. I am already dating a wonderful man. I know you all are right..its her life and she should be the one to take decisions. I told her the same. I told her stop asking me..ask ... (read in full...)

Should I give my old teacher this small gift?

Q.   Last month I went on holidays to do a language course in another country. I told that to a teacher of my uni and she recommended me a shop which of course I visited and liked a lot. I bought some presents for my family and friends and also something ...

A.   21 September 2017: Thank you all! She was very happy to see me and she liked the present a lot. Thank you for encouraging me to do it :)... (read in full...)

I want to marry this woman and find it hard to let her go! Please help!

Q.   Help help help. In a previous column I told everyone about how my x dumped me after 3 1/2 years by text. I also found that she had a dating profile. We talked on the phone. She says she feels like a horrible person for what she did and we had long ...

A.   21 September 2017: I know how ridiculous it sounds. Trust me I do. I have a past and truly don't care that she has one also. I've wanted to marry her for awhile now. The person she has been the last month is not the person she has been for the last 3 1/2 years. Don't ... (read in full...)

I'm worried I can't ask her to do the same thing again!

Q.   A few weeks ago I helped my girlfriend clean and put the dishes away. Afterwards she filled the sink with dishsoap and undressed me. She wanted me to sit on the counter over the edge of the sink. I was reluctant at first but I did it. She then used ...

A.   19 September 2017: I am not disputing the affects of it and appreciate the advice not to use. I did not have any side affects from it and will not allow her to use it again. Thanks ... (read in full...)

We're already close. Do you think he is ready to move on and try something with me?

Q.   Hi! Maybe this will be pretty obvious to you but I'm terrible when it comes to relationships and understanding men. I like this friend of mine (we were friends first) and he knows I like him, and we've kissed before but we were always drunk and st...

A.   18 September 2017: Hello, it's been a long time I know but when I finally got some calmness in my life I couldn't find the website and then i didn't remembered my credentials but here i am. So, news... Lets see if I can explain, I hope I won't be too confusing :) ... (read in full...)

The sex is just not working out. What are we doing wrong?

Q.   My boyfriend often complains that we don't have enough sex. But he doesn't initiate ot, or try to turn me on. The other day we were hugging in bed then he rolled over, saying that he had to because he was horny ... like, sex could've happened if he ...

A.   18 September 2017: Thanks. I had a talk with him today and told him if he wants more sex he needs to initiate it by making moves on me. It's really annoying and a turn off when he complains that we "don't have enough sex" and makes little sarcastic comments about it, ... (read in full...)

Any advise on this relationship will be welcome.

Q.   I met a woman online about 2 yrs ago where she had posted she was divorced but was actually still married and her husband left her and was seeking a divorce. I told her she needed to finish her divorce before we could date because I don’t date ...

A.   16 September 2017: My apologies. I wrote that too quick and didn't read it. To clarify, she said that I must have found "the one" and that I suck. I have no idea what that means or why she would accuse me of finding someone unless she was just mad that I quit ... (read in full...)

Her messaging with a guy makes me uncomfortable!

Q.   Hi, my girlfriend of 7 years has been talking to a guy on and off for about 3 years now, I tell her that I'm uncomfortable with it and I get mixed responses. One time she said if you don't like me talking to **** Ill stop, I don't want to hurt you...

A.   16 September 2017: Thank you to both aunt honesty and youcannotbeserious you have provided a helpfull insite and I am going to try and have a long discussion with her tonight about everything that needs addressed. ... (read in full...)

I want to get over crushing on my teacher!

Q.   Hi, I'm a 19 y/o female student and I have this burning question within me for a year already, and I don't exactly know where to get my answers so I thought I'd give this platform a try. Anyway, I have a HUGE crush on a same-gender female teacher ...

A.   16 September 2017: Thank you so much for the advices :) I hope all goes well... (read in full...)

How can I repair the damage done to our friendship?

Q.   Hello folks. Just looking for advice. About 2-3months ago I meet a younger guy. I'm 33 he's 24. We met at work. I was between jobs and looking to earn while I looked for something else so found a part time job where I met, I'll call him Tom. I wo...

A.   15 September 2017: Thanks guys! Very helpful advice. Yes, it was stupid to let Mary tell Tom. I'd never planned on telling him because it wouldn't end well and because I was not 100% in it. Mary says he confronted her today,a week after she told him. He wanted to know ... (read in full...)

Is my husband bisexual, I see he's been looking at gay porn!

Q.   I found my husband has been looking at gay porn. He also looks at regular porn... more than the gay. The regular doesn't bother me, I'm open to a lot but this has me totally freaked! Is he bi? Is there anyway a straight man would view this? Please ...

A.   15 September 2017: Thank you for your input! So last night I didn't have the courage to ask him right out, I said my girlfriend had this 'problem' with her husband. He said he didn't think he was bi unless he watched it on a regular basis. Which my husband doesn't.. ... (read in full...)

My mother always gives me such a hard time

Q.   Have you ever felt heart ache ? well I have. The feeling of light pain and sour when you're really depressed,and I had one experience for my dying grandma, another one for myself. My mom is a very traditional woman.she always wants me to learn ever...

A.   15 September 2017: thanks for you to spend time answering my questions .Some of your methods seems very useful, and I will like to give it a try.thanks a lot.... (read in full...)

Husband has changed after marriage, is aggressive in bed and demands rough anal sex. How do I fix things?

Q.   Hi was looking for some advice. My husband has changed since we got married he, he became really fussy about everything I do and he's quite aggressive when it comes to being intimate. Nothing I ever do is right or good enough for him anymore. I ...

A.   14 September 2017: I have family but we moved 200 miles from them. We are both British. Christians. We got married last year and dated for about 8 months before then. He was always protective of me. Just before the wedding he asked me to take leave from work then ... (read in full...)

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