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Is this guy I met online showing serious red flags?

Q.   I joined an online dating app two weeks ago haha, put a few pics of myself up and filled up my bio which tbf was pretty detailed. Anyway I got a message out of the blue from this guy, not unusual ofc, but he lived like 5 hrs away (on the other si...

A.   28 April 2017: @CoreMessage - Yes, that was one of the major red flags for me, its odd that he has a very bad picture of himself up. Not even a "catfish" so much as dodgy for all I know he could be married or something just tryin to chat up girls online. Think... (read in full...)

My wife's co-worker gifted her diamond jewellery. Would "just friends" do this?

Q.   My wife recently received a "HW" diamond ankle bracelet and matching toe rings (2) from a fellow worker who she swears is just a good friend. They go out of town on business trips two or three times a month staying for at lest 2 nights each ...

A.   28 April 2017: I wish to thank all the support received here. Saw a therapist today it feeling good just to verbalize my feelings to her (The Therapist) with her giving me permission to accept but also to vent. More later.... (read in full...)

Is it normal for men to have sex when women are having their periods?

Q.   I'm meeting up with my bf next month who stays in another city. The problem is that the date when I will be going, I might be on my periods. I've told him that already to which he has said that he's fine with it. What can this possibly mean? Is he ...

A.   28 April 2017: Thank you, everyone for your precious time. The answers were indeed helpful. :)... (read in full...)

I want to help my boyfriend but I know I'll leave him eventually because my relationship is dead but I'm terribly attracted to his brother

Q.   Hello there, So I have been in a relationship for 9 years. We started out as friends with benefits and then when I got into trouble financially I moved in with him. He's nice and we get along...we would be great friends. I have occasionally tri...

A.   27 April 2017: Thanks to all to replied. I know I should stay away from the brother....he's just there and I'm so lonely. But it would hurt my bf bad and he just doesn't deserve that awfulness. And just because he thinks I'll cheat its no excuse. Thank you for ... (read in full...)

He's still receiving messages from women on a dating site he joined earlier. How can I raise the subject with him?

Q.   I met my man through a dating site and all is fabulous 13 weeks on. He says I'm the one for him, and I love him dearly. Since we mutually agreed, that we are 'in a relationship' we both decided to cancel our match accounts. Mine is gone complete...

A.   27 April 2017: Thanks for your replies, hmmm yes, I hear what you are saying, it is suspicious, and yes, I'm naive, it's too early to know someone enough to love them after just 13 weeks. However, it was he who first declared his 'love' to me, telling me, I am the ... (read in full...)

I am at the end of desperation with my relationship problem.

Q.   I am a married man and I got involved with this super nice girl at work. I love her slightly more than my wife but I can't leave my marriage because of my children. I wanted to leave my wife until my children confronted me and I had no choice. When ...

A.   27 April 2017: I am only staying in this marriage because my children came up to me and asked me what was happening and why was I doing all these to their mother! I had no choice but to appease her so that she will not keep on quarrelling, fighting and shouting at ... (read in full...)

Fallen for my old classmate but now he ignores me.

Q.   Good morning. I met my high school classmate online after 37 years. He is married for 30 years. He said he had an affair with two married women while his wife was working abroad. He became alcoholic too. And with the help of her mom, he ended into ...

A.   26 April 2017: thanks. you're wirds are enought to enlighten me.. though it hurts I'll do my best to keep myself busy and do the No contact rule until I find myself recovered from this fantasy love affair. You opened my eyes and made me think on your last phrase ... (read in full...)

15 yr old Daughter completely cut me out of her life without even a hint why.

Q.   Need some advice from the aunts, I hate these problems that you have to try and squeeze into a box, cause there's so much more to it, but I couldn't possibly address it in its entirety but leaving anything out u may not get the whole gist of it, so ...

A.   25 April 2017: I knew this wouldn't come across properly, so I have more then excepted my part of being a shit show, that's just it, her and I regardless of what we went through stayed thick as a rock, we had lots of good times and fun, and it was never at a place ... (read in full...)

I keep thinking that married life is the happily ever after and I feel very insecure about being single

Q.   I'm feeling insecure by comparing my life to other peoples'. I am very happy with my life. I'm living abroad, I living the adventure I always dreamed of. Then I see my friends back home who are moving in with their partners, so in love, getting ...

A.   24 April 2017: Thanks everybody. This was a wonderful boost reading your replies. And I totally agree, the detours make it all worth living. Take care of yourselves :)... (read in full...)

An uncomfortable situation with boyfriend's sister and friend is causing us to almost break up

Q.   Hi I don't know how long this will be, but I desperately need opinions on this situation that has been getting me down for quite a while and im not too sure if it's worth staying in my relationship. So here goes.. I've been with my boyfrien...

A.   24 April 2017: Thank you for both of your advice. We didn't break up he came to my house for a ''chat' he finally said he could see my point of view etc, but then yesterday he told me despite seeing my side he's not going to stop laughing and joking with her even ... (read in full...)

Do any men have this problem? I cannot orgasm from oral sex

Q.   This has been bothering me for a fair few years. Even more so that my wife has tried to help. I have unfortunately never cum from a blowjob, ever. I think it bothers me so much because i really enjoy them. Its like listening to your favourite s...

A.   23 April 2017: Thanks chigirl for your reply Infact you are quite right about one thing i had overlooked. I had a unfortunate childhood that i wont get into too much, but lets just say my brother used me for his education. This is probably a massive facter. It's... (read in full...)

Boyfriend travels constantly and has friends and family he refuses to let me meet

Q.   I'm 44 years old, my boyfriend is 53. We have been dating for 4 years now. He has 2 jobs. One job has fee flying perks. So far in 4 years he has gone to Costa Rica, Dominican Republic, Mexico, Philippines, Thailand, Japan, he went to Las Vegas and ...

A.   22 April 2017: Thank you all so much for your opinion. Reading all of it came in at the right time when I was so close to reaching out to him again. Everything I've read I already knew. I just refuse to acknowledge it. Thank you all.... (read in full...)

How should I behave to advance the friendship that had developed between the man in the cell phone shop and myself?

Q.   I've become friends with this guy, at least I think I have, who works at a cell phone store where I recently bought a fone from. It was very busy one day and i needed to get a new phone. When i was the last customer we got to talking. I found out ...

A.   22 April 2017: I did as was suggested. Laid low for awhile. And I found out he calls all the girls he knows "honey" so that answers that. The last time I stopped by to get the booster for my cell he told me he was so glad he hadnt given it to me yet because it ... (read in full...)

Should I be unfriendly and block my ex on facebook?

Q.   Am no longer in a relationship but remain on FB as friends. The man private messages me with casual conversation frequently but doesn't openly address my posts/pictures. He recently asked me if he should accept a friend request from a superior at ...

A.   22 April 2017: Thanks for your response. That"s the very reason I severed ties. I do believe he borders on psychopathy given many events during the relationship. I left the company we both worked at and he insisted I give him my personal email which I did not and ... (read in full...)

How can I stop feeling that I was ''not good enough'' and comparing myself to her?

Q.   Hi, A year ago I was seeing a guy I had been friends with for 5 years. He said he had always liked me and used to be in love with me despite me not being interested so he was really happy to be with me. I was really happy with him, but things w...

A.   21 April 2017: Hi everyone, I want to say thankyou to you beautiful souls for your love and support. God knows this kind of love was what I needed at the time, my self esteem was soooo on the rocks. I can proudly say I healed this insecurity and stopped cari... (read in full...)

Why was all the porn my husband watched incest related? He says its just a coincidence

Q.   I found my husbands browser history and all of the porn he had watched was incest porn, mostly step sister and step mom. He claims he didn't look at the titles. He just clicked on a few that looked good from the picture and waited to see which one ...

A.   21 April 2017: Thank you for your answer, I've had the same ideas as you but somehow seeing them from someone else it makes more sense. ... (read in full...)

Is it weird that I don't feel anything for him after losing my virginity to him?

Q.   Hi I'm 17, soon to be 18, and a few weeks ago i lost my virginity. Me and this guy have known each other for some time over a year and have been good friends ever since. Although we've been just friends there's been this kind of sexual tension (for ...

A.   20 April 2017: Thank you everyone for your comments i really appreciate it and just figured I'd respond and hope you read it. So firstly, we did use protection - it was not planned but he had condoms (he's a guy after all) and i would not have done anything with ... (read in full...)

I'm attractive but never approached by men. Do other women have this problem?

Q.   I am 22 and I am never approached by men. I live in America where men are notorious for approaching women. Yet, strangers tell me that I am beautiful/pretty. I talked to a guy and he assumed I had a bf, when I said no, he was in shock. He said I was ...

A.   19 April 2017: So I do live in medium sized walkable city but yea, I never get approached. Also men, usually older than me, will tell me I am beautiful but this is because we coincidentally had a conversation but I've never had a man just approach me for a date or ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend has still kept nude pics of his ex despite being with me for 4 years and 2 kids together

Q.   So I was trying to get photos off of my camera and save them to my external hard drive using my boyfriends computer. I Accidentally clicked on his porn folder (I don't care that he has porn saved to his computer) my eye was caught by a photo of...

A.   19 April 2017: Thanks for the suggestions and advice guys. I have talked it out with my BF and everything has been resolved. I discovered the computer is the culprit for my dismay. I went to delete the photos and got error messages stating the path was corr... (read in full...)

Do I call this married man?

Q.   I'm 23, and I am dating a married man, who is 35, for 8 weeks now. We haven't had sex yet, but we've been kissing, making out and stuff. However, he used to call me whenever he was free. But now, all he says after making out is "Call me!" Last time, ...

A.   19 April 2017: Yah, but the thing is I can't stay away from him. And yes, I am vulnerable to older, bossy men because of a thing in the past. I want to make him more interested in me, while not having sex at least now. And there is this thing, when calls me on t... (read in full...)

Toxic, controlling, abusive and violent relationship. But I do love him. Plus I recently cheated. What should I do?

Q.   I met my current partner 3 years ago, we were dating and then I moved into his place and sub letted my place to my sister as she had moved to London. At the time, three years ago, when I met my partner, my grandad had just passed away and my dad w...

A.   19 April 2017: Thanks everyone for your answers and support. It has been a very difficult time for the last two and half years (when I moved to his). And, I have had a lot of other personal problems which have added to this from family which has probably made life ... (read in full...)

He pressured me for sex, even started undressing me. But disappeared when I revealed my status as a virgin!

Q.   I went for a few dates with a guy. He was very insitent about sex but everytime I refused him he was ok and still wanted more dates with me. He tried to get me at his place after our very first date and at our second too, but i refused. However we ...

A.   18 April 2017: btw, we went on only four dates because of the exams we both had, but this...thing lasted for a month.... (read in full...)

Is it worth breaking up over this situation?

Q.   Alright so this is kind of a confusing situation for me and I'm really in need of opinions/advice. I've been with my fiance for a little over 3 years. A couple months ago, I found out that he was talking to another woman basically the same way...

A.   17 April 2017: Thank you for your answers. I see that it's been brought up how it seems I didn't care about him scamming. I am upset about that fact too, which is part of why I felt I had to contact the woman to let her know. I feel I was in disbelief of the whole ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend's casual sexual encounters are bothering me

Q.   My gfs sexual past has been bothering me more and more recently. When we first started going out she was my first, I have no sexual experience with any other women whatsoever. So when I found out she'd slept with 8 other men, including one night ...

A.   17 April 2017: Thanks guys. I agree and in no way feel like she is in the wrong or look down on her for what she did before we were going out. Half the reason i haven't spoken to her about this yet is i don't want to make her feel bad about this because of my in... (read in full...)

Do you think that something else is going on here, what are your thoughts?

Q.   So yesterday I was talking with “A” a good male friend of mine from university,and I was talking about myself and that I had a boyfriend(“S” ) for some time now, this and that…., and “A” happens to know my boyfriend from university because they ...

A.   16 April 2017: @RubyBirtle, I decided to confirm my doubts with ''A'' because he was their neighbor, like door to door, he knew what went on in there, even though ''A'' just told me: ''I dont know your ex because first I never went out a lot and was minding my own ... (read in full...)

Is my ex girlfriend crazy and a hypocrite?

Q.   My ex girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago. Literally the day after my bday actually. On my actual bday she was giving me the cold shoulder all day. She was more concerned with watching shows on her laptop then spending time with me. We were ...

A.   16 April 2017: Her best friend is a woman. They are like sisters so there's no weirdness there that I ever sensed. And there's no other guy. She's just very unhappy with herself. She's a heavy set woman. She Would Always Be Really Hard On Herself And Put Herself ... (read in full...)

Can a relationship survive if there is no intellectual compatibility at all?

Q.   So I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months now, going on 8. It was really good in the beginning but now it feels like things changed, at least for me. He's one year younger than I am, and that didn't seem like a problem at first because I th...

A.   16 April 2017: Thank you everyone for your kind contributions, you helped a lot to make a decision now all it takes is the implementation which I know is hard but I will try to do. Also thank you Aidan for the rational discussion of the matter.... (read in full...)

Can this very complex relationship work?

Q.   Ok so to start with I'm in a fairly new relationship with a girl who I do care quite a lot for and I feel this relationship is worth persevering with. When we are together things are really great. Since the beginning we seem to be very comforta...

A.   15 April 2017: Thanks for the advice guys, not what I wanted to hear, seems I have some thinking to do! Just to clarify tho, I didn't meet this girl online, we had some time together while travelling and we lived together for a few months, but unfortunately though ... (read in full...)

Was sending that message to my BF the best option? Or did I just stoke the fire more?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months and have been friends for years before that. One thing I know about him is that when he gets upset he doesn't want to talk right away so when I know he's upset I'll just leave him alone until he's ...

A.   15 April 2017: Thank you everyone who responded to my question. Responses were harsh to read but that's simply because they held truth to them. As I read them, I felt empowered to take control of my situation. Thank you. I did speak with my boyfriend today ... (read in full...)

I don't trust him and I'm worried he'll give me a STD. Is it time to break up with him?

Q.   Should I end this relationship? Me and B we were friends for years and I had my boyfriend who I was stable for 4 years and we have a kid, me and him and B lived together for 9 months. One year ago he kissed me and we made love. Before letting ...

A.   14 April 2017: Thank you all for your support! I've been dealing with this. He currenty has an outbreak. What could have suddenly triggered an outbreak if he's never ever had one?... (read in full...)

Mixed signals in a FWB

Q.   Currently in a 4 month fwb with a guy who has been divorced twice. We are both in our 50's age wise. I originally agreed to this fwb, because I am in the process of moving to his town (decision to move to that town was made before I met my FWB)and ...

A.   14 April 2017: Thank you for all your responses. This is a strange situation. My so-called FWB has asked for the day off on Saturday, so he can come to my town to see me. It's interesting, I receive a text every morning, if I don't respond, I receive another ... (read in full...)

She says I'm psycho but I hink she is cheating.

Q.   Hi everyone Recently My girlfriend went out for a night-out and came back with a boy (who was her friend) and was in her bed watching a movie.Her flat mate (who has been her best friend since a young child) said she heard the bed moving, breathin...

A.   13 April 2017: I found out she did in fact cheat on me i found texts on her phone were over now, thankyou for all your advice ... (read in full...)

Did I overreact? I felt discredited in front of my colleagues

Q.   Hello, sorry if this is long, but I really need your input on what follows: I teach and translate as a civilian in a military institution; however I'm only paid for teaching, so kind of overlapping. Over the last three days, my colleague and m...

A.   13 April 2017: Thanks for the feedback. Could it also be that he was trying to undermine me and please my colleague, too? [I think this guy attended a 4-month language course with my colleague some months ago - She mentioned his name in passing to the secretar... (read in full...)

When is it ok to have "the talk" or expect to be exclusive ?

Q.   Hi all .. How soon is too soon to expect a guy to commit when it's a long distance relationship? You know us women are always being told not to "scare" me away by putting too much pressure on them. I've been dating a man long distance since N...

A.   13 April 2017: My gut is always right. Just confronted him over video chat. The girl that stayed with him is his ex from 8 years ago and they recently gave it another try. He claims they ended it recently and it was platonic this weekend. He said she's not attr... (read in full...)

Does my brother's friend likes me? 2

Q.   That day,my brother was messaging to his friend. Suddenly he said playfully that he wants me and his friend to date.Its very rare for my brother to say such thing.Did his friend said anything about me?Once,I gifted shoes for my brother and his frie...

A.   12 April 2017: I really likes him a lot.I can only date him if this relationship will last forever.As in we must get married.If not this will afftect their friendship.even no matter how much he likes me,Im very sure he will not make a move as I know that he is ... (read in full...)

Online guy just vanished into thin air! How do I get over this when there's been no closure?

Q.   I am on this site where I post my poems and stories on. Back during the last week in October of 2016 I started talking to this guy through PM's. After a few weeks talking he confess to liking me. That was fine, I told him I didn't feel the same and ...

A.   11 April 2017: To WiseOwlE, read my last reply. I have never been the L-word junky and I already have trust issues so I was skeptic when he started saying he loved me. ... (read in full...)

Do I let him make a move or speed things up?

Q.   Hi, I have used this site before about a guy let's call him "Gibbs" who is 9 years older than me, I'm now nearly 19 (him being nearly 28). A couple of weeks ago I managed to corner him alone and I'm sure he was about to kiss me, unfortunately my ...

A.   11 April 2017: Thanks for all the advice, I asked Gibbs to come out with me tonight for a few drinks unfortunately he is "busy" tonight but he is taking me to a music concert tomorrow night. He's asked my Nan and Grandfather three weeks ago and after they found ... (read in full...)

What does he mean by "family forever"?

Q.   Im past my 100th date and during dinner the man I was with said that he and I would be family forever. I Was wondering if anyone knows what "family forever" means within the relationship.....

A.   11 April 2017: Fatherly advise Yes I'm frustrated and worried. Frustrated because I don't know where I stand and worried that if I pour my heart out it may get broken. Yes, I'm willing to do that within reason.... I feel it's more flirting at this point and yes ... (read in full...)

Is this a normal reaction to porn?

Q.   I'm a guy who rarely watches hardcore porn but I do like female forms, so will sometimes watch very simple videos of a girl removing clothes or posing nude. I've been noticing that in some cases, with just the "right" (to my mind) face and body ...

A.   10 April 2017: Oh yes yes I can control it. It's only if I really relax, let go and do what comes naturally that I get in the zone. I never oogle women in public or talk about their bodies. I don't even believe in casual sex and am still virgin. So watching stuff ... (read in full...)

Why wouldn't he want an emotional attachment? I feel discarded, by him.

Q.   Ive been seeing this guy for over a year and it has been a FWB situation due to our inability be together because of our jobs and his current relationship. (long story about that ) We deployed to 2 different locations in which he kept in contact ...

A.   9 April 2017: Thank you for your honesty. I think you have it all wrong, i d not want to be in this anymore. i have told him this multiple times. if i tell him immune and take action to do so, he will work extra hard to bring me back. if i agree to be his ... (read in full...)

Should I message him on the dating site to reestablish contact between us?

Q.   Hi,I have been meeting with this man 2-3 times a year for the last 3 years, when he comes to my city on business from a neighboring country. We like each other a lot but distance makes things harder. Plus, he's also a bit inconsistent, and doesn't ...

A.   8 April 2017: I think, you're right. He had recently told me that he considers me more than a sexdate, though...... (read in full...)

My fiance, my toddler, my crush and my life... I am looking for advice!

Q.   Myself and my fiancé have been together for over ten years. To start off with things were great, I felt like everything was perfect and he was amazing and always looked out for me. He'd help if I struggled with anything we would share the load for ...

A.   7 April 2017: Thanks for your advice! I often bring up the marriage discussion and he always uses money as a get out! I always believe if he was keen to actually follow it through we would save and set a date as a goal. But he doesn't seem to see it the same way. ... (read in full...)

Do I stand a chance of things working out for us?

Q.   Dear agony aunts and uncles, Can you give me some advice? I'd appreciate any thoughts on this. I have been seeing a great girl for about 4 months. She and I have had a passionate and very lovely time together, I would say we were a great team i...

A.   7 April 2017: Hi guys, Thanks for taking the time to reply, I do appreciate the advice and am taking it onboard. One thing I've decided to do immediately is stop treating her like a princess - she doesn't seem to value being "cared for" very much anyway, so I won... (read in full...)

Is there something between us that could mean something?

Q.   Hello seeking a little advise.. We meet six months ago via internet finally met in person with our children spent a week together. Because of the kids we kept our distance neither one of us telling of our feelings. I've hinted that I'm interested ...

A.   6 April 2017: Anonymous thanks for the input the children as in his two to my one... we were fine the vacation was in an extreme tourist area hotels where not close to one another we met each day at a certain times never the same and I took a cab upon my return ... (read in full...)

Is the breakup real this time?

Q.   Is this a real break-up or a stalemate? I have been in a relationship for 6 years with a woman that I'm inexplicably just drawn to. I love her and I believe we have always had a mutual attraction. We've been content not getting married until ki...

A.   6 April 2017: Thank you for the answers, this is constantly on mind so getting your viewpoints are helpful. There is definitely a pattern and we've basically always agreed that it's a personality conflict between us that leads to the fights. My psychologist ... (read in full...)

His sister is so negative, how can we put a stop to this madness?

Q.   i have been with my current boyfriend for 16 yrs. his sister calls from time to time and when she does she always dumps her problems on him, always negative for as long as i have known her, he gives her advise on how to better her life but she ...

A.   6 April 2017: I also forgot to mention that she has alienated her grown children, grand children and her sister. It's not fair to me to have this poison coming into my home, she tries to lay a guilt trip on her brother for retiring and moving, she is 60 years old ... (read in full...)

How much detail should I put in my online dating profile?

Q.   I have cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair but am a bit unsteady on my feet at times. I have got a dating profile on Match, should I include my disability on there?...

A.   5 April 2017: I do contact them sometimes and ask them about something on their profile.... (read in full...)

Can this turn into a real relationship despite the small amount of time we actually get to spend together?

Q.   I have a ten year old daughter, her dad not around. I'm seeing a guy who as two kids that are 18 and 17 his 17yr old lives with him but he sees the 18 regularly. We started dating in December, at the moment we only see each other once a week norm...

A.   4 April 2017: How about the fact I have a daughter and I can't always get a sitter... (read in full...)

How do I end things without hurting him?

Q.   Dear Cupid, I am a 45 year old woman married for 18 years . The marriage has been more of a business relation tand there has been no sex or romance...there were a lot of family issues....i never thought of a divorce since i had basically accepted...

A.   4 April 2017: I appreciate all the answers. I have a question for Wise owl. Will I be justified in divorcing my husband? The reason i stayed on in this marriage is not entirely due to the benfits it offered me, it is also cos I didnt want to be ungrateful by ... (read in full...)

Are there any signs that he still loves me? I caught him cheating

Q.   i recently broke with my ex. he was having an affair with another girl and when i asked he denied it. we broke up and he said he is not a suitable guy for me and my family. but we still do video calls and talk for the whole night. actually we talk ...

A.   4 April 2017: Sir I don't know whether it's true or what! Because she declares him as her boyfriend and he denies it. It's my first love and I have not experienced this kind of situation in my life. It's quite complicated. ... (read in full...)

How can I cool this without offending him? I'm feel anxious!

Q.   I am 70 and have been a widow for 8 years, a married man has been very kind, but recently bought me a rose plant, took me to lunch, and a couple of other visits. He is ok as a friend, the places we have visited are not of interest to his wife, but ...

A.   3 April 2017: Thank you aunt honesty for your answer, it is simple, i know. I think he may feel sorry for me, and he is trying to be a good friend. This Saturday he invited me to his house to have coffee with him and his wife. I have been before, but this time ... (read in full...)

We are not meeting so often and he is blaming his work!

Q.   Hi, Aunts! I've been seeing a guy for 2 months now. We used to talk throughout the day and text and meet often, but of late he initiates contact less. It's very frustrating when "Work has been very hectic" is the reply I receive as an explanatio...

A.   3 April 2017: Sorry for such a late reply. Almost a month. Had been busy. We are still together, instead of fussing about his calls/meetings, I've picked up hobbies of my own to keep myself engaged. That works just fine. ?? ... (read in full...)

Married man says he's in a loveless marriage and likes me insanely but won't get in touch with me till I contact him

Q.   Good day dear aunts and uncles. I met a charming man on a conference I was heading. We exchanged few words and couldn't stop looking at each other. 2 months later I bumped into him on another business venture and we felt the connection. Then we ...

A.   3 April 2017: Thank you so much dear aunts, you are so right! He seemed so honest and my coworkers live him and respect him so much that he almost tricked me. You are right. I think he doesn't get in touch cause he's afraid his wife might know. I just got in ... (read in full...)

Does he like me or just want sex?

Q.   Just when I'd totally shut my self off from dating then the world gave me this guy. I have known him since 2012 but I always ignored him and blocked his calls. Recently I haven't been going out much and he suddenly contacted me. I decided to hang ...

A.   3 April 2017: @male anon. Yes I am a virgin and I have had just one LTR. i need financial help but I don't think he has any to offer me. I am just needy.... (read in full...)

I'm becoming close with my best friend's hubby's best friend! Is there something there or is this wrecking a friendship?

Q.   I've becomever very close with my best friends hubbys bestfriend. We hang out all the time and he stays at my house most nights or I'm at his.(unfortunate event car accident and he's got to vehicle)people think we are dating but we are "just ...

A.   3 April 2017: Thanks for the advise. In response to some questions or comments and clarification. We do everything together it's like a relationship missing the sexual parts. Hes alwsys doing nice things like carrying my bags, pays for my dinner almost always I'm ... (read in full...)

What should I do? Should I let him go? 2

Q.   I have been talking to this guy for over a month now and now has been going downhill from there. There will be days where he treats me like his girlfriend and call me "his beautiful" and tells me to stop worrying about him, then there are other da...

A.   3 April 2017: Thank you so much for the wonderful responses! Your right, his definitely not "mine" nor I'm "his", we really don't share a lot in common, nor he could give a rats ass to show interest in what I love and of course his playing mind games! It hi... (read in full...)

Is my LDR guy taking me for granted? Or is he cheating on me?

Q.   Hey, Aunts! I'm in a LDR with my guy for some months now. I understand it's difficult cause we don't get time together like we used to before. Nevertheless, communication was indeed great in our relationship. Since the last month, I've been ob...

A.   2 April 2017: Thank you so much for your suggestion. I'll try the 'pulling back' technique. It will be easier for me 'cause I will be taking up a new project from tomorrow and engage my mind in other activities. Besides, he called a few hours back and said tha... (read in full...)

We met online. He didn't ask my phone number. Was he not really interested in me?

Q.   I met with this guy on the dating website. We had alot of things in common. After a week, we decided to meet up. He asked my phone number so he can send me the direction of the restaurant. I did not want to write my number on the dating website and ...

A.   2 April 2017: I was expecting him to ask. Thats why i waited till the end of the night. When he did not, i had to text him in the dating website. What does not make sense is if you are not into me, why you are asking me if i made home safely and that see you soon... (read in full...)

We booked a weekend away to save our relationship and he wants to play soccer! Am I selfish? Am I not a priority to him?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been having fighting almost non-stop for the last 3 weeks with things being hard since the new year. Every time we make up and promise not to fight, we do it again. We have been together almost 2 years and been through ...

A.   31 March 2017: Hello all, thank you so much for all your replies! So in answer to the question: we have been fighting about everything. * He started talking about marriage and I pulled away * I was nit picking at him because when we first started dating t... (read in full...)

Do we need to go on more dates?

Q.   I've been talking and seeing this guy towards the end of November. We have been on only 4 dates, but thats due to work, family commitments and illnesss. We speak on the phone and he texts me. We have tons in common, we have fanstic connection and ...

A.   30 March 2017: The reason it's only been 4 dates I got sick was out for a month and he got sick and was out for a month plus other engagements that were planned before we meet each other.... (read in full...)

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