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| | Aunt Audrey's profile:Hi I'm a female of 41 living in the U.K.
I'm married with 4 children, ages ranging from 18 to 6.
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He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 10 July 2008: Morning Ladybird,
I'm sure as time goes by and the hurt and pain starts to subside he will no longer be in the forefront of your mind, time and distance is a great healer in it's own way. You can not expect to forget him or your love for him to die ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 9 July 2008: Hello ladybird, i hope you have had a positive day today, I think i have. I went and had my hair restyled, my nails done and bought myself a lovely baby pink trouser suit, just have to find somewhere to go and wear it!!!!!!!
It seems that beca... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 7 July 2008: Come on Ladybird! You are not letting anyone down! YOU ARE HUMAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! No more or no less than the rest of us! What you are feeling is natural, you have been hurt by someone who couldn't give a! Please........... take a deep breath and ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 7 July 2008: Hi ladybird, sorry you're having a bad day, I had a bad weekend, feeling very much like you do yourself today....
It's good that you found the address, but don't let him know you know, another piece of the puzzel fits as you say and I unde... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 6 July 2008: This is one of my favourite poems by Khahil Gibran, from the book the Prophet. It has seen me through many a dark day, I hope you see some truth in it ladybird next time you are feeling sad.
Then a woman said, "Speak to us of Joy and Sorrow."... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 5 July 2008: Ladybird for the first time in all the time i have ansewered posts and tried to give advice to those that have issues with whatever, I have to say that your last post made me cry! Why you might ask yourself,so forgive me but I will be honest.
I... (read in full...)
My ex won't talk to me ever again!
Q. Hello everyone, There is a girl I had a relationship with, but for the most part we've stayed good friends. We broke up because she liked another guy, and i got pretty angry at her, but then apologized, and we went back to being friends. However...
A. 5 July 2008: It looks to me although you say you want your friendship back to how it was, you in fact really want to give your relationship another go and feel it will be easier to judge when the right time might be to approach her about this if you're still ... (read in full...)
My ex husband wants to come back, but now I can't find him and I don't know what he's up to. Can anyone help me understand?
Q. hi everyone, i just dont know what to think or do about the situation im in, after 20 yrs of marrage, my husband decided he wanted to leave, he also decided that he wanted a younger woman, so i decided to file for my divorce, place a restraining ...
A. 5 July 2008: If your ex wants to talk to you about a possibe reconciliaton let him contact you. I don't think that it's right your son is in the middle of all this, and what proof do you have that this conversation actually took place between your ex and your ... (read in full...)
I caught new wife having sex for money!
Q. This is true. Ive been married since February and Ive recently caught my new wife of 24 (im 39) cheating. The problem is she was cheating with a previous "client" for money. She used to be a dancer at a strip club. She claims there was no ...
A. 5 July 2008: I agree with DiovanLestat here, your reaction to your wife cheating on you seems to be void of any real emotion. It's like you knew what she was capable of when you married her, was half expecting it to happen and was not really that suprised! You ... (read in full...)
I'm going to be married and miss having a crush on a guy!
Q. I'm sorry this is so long.. but I wanted to get in as much details as possible and PLEASE read it I really want some input. Okay I'm feeling so confused and worried. I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years, and best friends with him...
A. 5 July 2008: I get the feeling you're starting to think the grass is greener on the other side......
This will unsettle you in your relationship and it's what's making you compare your boyfriend with other men. Do you want a more exciting man in your life? You ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Over 600,000 visitors last month!
Q. Just a quickie We broke the 600,000 unique users/month (i.e. people!) last month. According to google analytics we had 638,310 visitors from June 1st to June 30th. Doesn't seem that long ago we passed the half a million mark. Thanks to all t...
A. 4 July 2008: Well done Andrew.....(cyber hug) xx... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 2 July 2008: Hi Ladybird, well what can I say........ firstly you haven't let anyone here down, just a slip, a blip and nothing that can't be put right you know!
It's normal for you to feel the way you do, we can all say what we like we have no emotional atta... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 1 July 2008: Hi Ladybird, I'm glad your feeling better and I hope your mother is recovering well.
I've just caught up with all the lastest posts and it looks to me that you are still so much stronger than you were to start with, so that's a positive thin... (read in full...)
A secret email account... What else is he hiding?
Q. Hi, I'm really confused at the moment. I have a lovely boyfriend whom I have been with for many years - we both love eachother very much and he means more then the world to me. Recently I discovered he had a second email address that he...
A. 24 June 2008: All the questions you have just asked us you really need to ask him face to face, only he has the answers there...
Obviously there are things on that account that he knows you would not approve of, maybe emails sent by other women, contacts you know... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 24 June 2008: hello again, I hope you are feeling better today, although after the weekend you've just had it will probably take a few days to get over.....
Sooooooo you go out for dinner with prince charming and it's a total disaster and once again you paid... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 19 June 2008: Hi there, no doubt the funeral will do your head in, but it just shows you how short life can be and that we are all here by the grace of God, and that it's so important to be happy while we're here living and breathing.
I'm sure he'll give you a lo... (read in full...)
Can a relationship ever work out if you've split a couple of times before?
Q. Hi everyone - can a relationship ever work out if you've split a couple of times before? I had been with my partner for 4 years when I ended the relationship. Although we didn't live together, I felt that we were at different points in our li...
A. 18 June 2008: If you ended the relationship the last time because your feelings had changed and you feel no differently towards him now, there's no point going back and trying to make yourself feel something that is no longer there.
You could remain friends if y... (read in full...)
I can't take it anymore, my ex won't stop calling and it's messing with my head!!
Q. So I took everyone's advice on here and stopped calling my EX. He moved across country and didn't want to be with me--Fine. I'm learning to accept it. Now comes the fun part---he won't stop calling me. He called me on Saturday, twice on Sunday,...
A. 18 June 2008: You need to ask yourself if he wants to talk about a possible reconsiliation if (a) you still love and want to be with him and (b) if you can cope with a long distance relationship or whether you might be better off calling it a day and moving on.
I... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is still in love with his ex, but wants to be with me, what should I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 5 months now, he was previoulsy married for 6 years with 2 little girls. He is in the process of finalizing the divorce in which he filed for but he is still in love with his ex. They didn't get ...
A. 16 June 2008: Well it might work for him, but I doubt you're going to be happy knowing you come second in his affections, it will lead to resentment, and I think he is being quite unfair in telling you this, hardly a strong foundation for a new relationship is ... (read in full...)
She more or less ignores me - Help!!
Q. She is waiting to be with her text man. even though they have never met. No sex just text. She writes in her diary that he is what she allways wanted in a man and feels nothing for me, It reads they will be together one day, she has been playing me ...
A. 16 June 2008: I'm not sure that I agree with the fact you read her diary. Equally the way she is treating you is not good either, but quite obviously you need to know where you stand with your partner. Does she know you know about her text friend, or do you know ... (read in full...)
Verbablly abused my husband for years but I have now changed. Should we part ways or try to go on?
Q. Hi I really need a few opinions! I love my husband very much, but he's very unhappy with me. Over the years I would verbally abuse him. This was due to the ill treatment I received from his family. I was never good enough. I started to resent my ...
A. 15 June 2008: From what I can see here you have made a great effort in changing your ways and stopped the abusive behaviour that caused so much hurt in your relationship.
However what you are dealing with is the aftermath,clearing up after a storm takes time... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 15 June 2008: Hi there, sorry to hear he has you in a bit of a state, but it's good to see you are well aware what he's all about and that you are still standing strong, even if you are doubting yourself right now.....
He is getting desperate, you are still in c... (read in full...)
My husband cheated on me twice and I just can't trust him! Is there no hope for us?
Q. Hi, My husband of 12 years cheated on me twice last year and we have been trying to rebuild our relationship ever since. Tonight (a year later) is the first night he has gone out alone with mates and I am shocked how little I trust him. Even ...
A. 13 June 2008: This is something I say time and time again, taking a cheating husband back is one thing, forgetting the infidelity and the hurt it caused you is another....
You have decided to give him a second chance and now you find the insecurity that the affa... (read in full...)
Children too soon or too late?
Q. My husband and I have only been married since March, and already he wants to have children, it is all he talks about. I realize that since there is such a huge age difference between us (he's 34, I'm 42), the biological clock is ticking and I need ...
A. 12 June 2008: I think too much emphasis is put on age these days with regard to having children. Many women are finding that due to careers or simply lack of finding the right partner in their 20's or 30's that they are settling down later in life. If you are fit ... (read in full...)
Children too soon or too late?
Q. My husband and I have only been married since March, and already he wants to have children, it is all he talks about. I realize that since there is such a huge age difference between us (he's 34, I'm 42), the biological clock is ticking and I need ...
A. 12 June 2008: I think too much emphasis is put on age these days with regard to having children. Many women are finding that due to careers or simply lack of finding the right partner in their 20's or 30's that they are settling down later in life. If you are fit ... (read in full...)
Can he really change after sleeping with an escort in our marital home?
Q. Hi, I've been married for 15 years, my husband never showered me with the love and affection I craved for. We have 3 beautiful children. I went away with the children and found out that he had an Escort in our house two days in a row. When I ...
A. 11 June 2008: Sleeping with an escort is one thing, but to do it in your family home is disgraceful and disrespectful to both you and your children. Forgiving him for his infidelity is one thing, but to forget is another, for you will remember what he has done ... (read in full...)
I want him to be my boyfriend, not someone I sleep with - but how do I calm down my worries before I lose whatever we have?
Q. i have recently started seeing an ex boyfriend again, we have been going out, talking and sleeping together, like old times, but are currently not boyfriend and girlfriend, this is his choice rather than mine, as he feels we should take it slow. ...
A. 11 June 2008: It sounds as if you have no doubts about this relationship, but maybe he isn't too sure just yet and as you say wants to take things slow so that he does not make the same mistake twice. There's no saying he wants someone else, but if you are ... (read in full...)
I like my work colleague but I hear rumours that he is interested in someone else! Can I take a risk and tell him?
Q. I work very close with a guy at work and have found myself falling for him over the past year. We get on very well and have even had a drunk kiss on my birthday, however nothing else was said about it. I dont know if I should say that I like him and ...
A. 11 June 2008: Well nothing ventured nothing gained, why not invite him out for a drink or a meal and take things from there, he can only say he doesn't want to get involved romantically, there's no reason for it to affect your friendship.
He may well be inte... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 10 June 2008: So glad you've decided to get help with the agraphobia, it is a big step for you to admit this and I'm sure the doctor will be sympathetic and point you in the right direction to receive the help you need.
You have come so far on your journey alea... (read in full...)
Spotted Dick. Has he got his just desserts for cheating?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a bit and we always had a great sex life until he started a new job as a labourer. Since then we've had sex about 10 times in the last 7months!! He says he doesn't want to have sex because he keeps...
A. 10 June 2008: Your boyfriend needs to see a doctor to find out what the problem is, it maybe nothing or something, but if it's affecting his sex life I can't understand why he hasn't seen his GP yet.
If it is an STD you will also need to get checked out agai... (read in full...)
Might my son's father snatch him from me?
Q. i have a 14 month old son by a turkish man and he wants me to take him to see him im being warned he might snatch him any views on this ...
A. 10 June 2008: Is he asking you to take him to Turkey, or somewhere in the U.K?
The thing is, if you are taking your son out of the country to visit his father, you have to use your gut instinct.....Is he the sort of man who would snatch your son, you know him,... (read in full...)
Have you any advice as to how I approach finding a compatible long-term partner?
Q. I did not lose my virginity til I was 32 - less than a year ago. I am quite attractive, funny, intelligent and love women although they never seem to give me a chance. I have had short sexual relations with two women - both of whom I unashamedly ...
A. 10 June 2008: Well I suppose playing the field is one way of improving your sexual experience, but I doubt it will get you what you're looking for, a long term partner.
You have dealt with the virginity problem, but I think you are now dwelling on the fact that... (read in full...)
Should I believe that there is someone else because of the way I feel neglected?
Q. Hi all. I really need some advice. I'm married just under a year with my husband. We have been together for 5 years. Like any relationships, we had our bumps but stuck through with each other. Recently, when he was away on business for 2 w...
A. 10 June 2008: Have you asked your husband if there is someone else in his life, or are you too frightened that your suspisions may be true?
Obviously there is a problem with your relationship if he is saying that you have changed and you no longer have sex. Apar... (read in full...)
Am I being just another married man who wants to have his cake & eat it?
Q. I should start by saying that this is going to sound very stupid coming from a 57 year old man, but it is honestly causing me a great dilemma. Over the last 6 years we have spent many fantastic holidays in Phuket, staying in the same res...
A. 10 June 2008: I think you are massaging your ego while you let your Thai lover massage other parts of you! You have a wife of 35 years, and from what you write you have a happy marriage and a lot of respect for your wife. You no doubt have children, what would ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 10 June 2008: Morning,
you see the old you would have contacted him long ago, the old you would have been begging his forgiveness for the things you said, you would have returned his shoes to his mother's because you still wouldn't know where he lives, he woul... (read in full...)
I am getting back together with my boyfriend of 8 years, do you think he will change?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years and have a child with him. Last December, I broke it off with him because we never spend time together. We had time to spend together but it's more like we were roomates. For example, he would be in the ...
A. 6 June 2008: If you have already moved in with him you must have some idea whether or not he has changed, it may be early days and too soon to tell, but you have probably jumped in too quickly, maybe you should have started dating again, taken it a lot slower ... (read in full...)
My marriage has quickly become angry and bitter over my husbands job opportunity in another country... how should I handle this?
Q. My marriage has quickly become angry and bitter over my husbands job 'opportunity'. He works for a finance company who wants to set up offices in Australia (either Sydney or Melbourne they are not sure which at the moment) and they have asked him ...
A. 6 June 2008: This should be a mutual decision and you should not be pressurized, you will both have to weigh up the pro's and con's before a final decision is made which means you will need to discuss your fears and reasons for not wanting to go, maybe he can ... (read in full...)
It's his ex. And it's his ex. And it's his ex again. I don't know what to do.
Q. Argh, I am so confused and there probably is not answer, but maybe someone can share something? I began dating my boyfriend casually, we live in separate cities and so communicated alot through email and sending things in the mail and stuff. He wa...
A. 5 June 2008: I don't think there is any point in you continuing with this relationship if you are in any doubt as to whether he'll keep his word about severing contact with his ex as it seems to be the root to all your problems. I can understand your ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 5 June 2008: Wow what a difference a day makes.... the vision of you eating that flake in the car, fantastic, made me laugh...
I'm sure I don't speak for myself when I say you are being so brave and everthing you said to yourself in your little bedtime chat is a... (read in full...)
Should I cut my ex out of our kids lives?
Q. Hey, just wondering if anybody had any advice for me. I split with my ex last year and now she's starting playing silly games. She arranged to take the kids out on Sunday (I look after them) and I'd made 100% sure with her that it was fine for her ...
A. 5 June 2008: Unless your ex cannot be trusted with the children whilst they are in her care, I do not think you should consider cutting her out of their lives altogether as they may resent you for that in the future.
However, I think you need to sit your ex down... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 4 June 2008: Goodmorning, you seem a little brighter today.....
It is impossible to erase your ex from your brain completely, and why would you want to? He taught you a valuable lesson, one you will hopefully remember for future reference, so I guess you have... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 3 June 2008: Depression will run hand in hand with your situation, it's normal. You have been used to filling your mind and your time with him, and now you are lacking something to focus on. So time for you to find something to do.I always decorate my house when ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 31 May 2008: Oh no you're doing what we all advised you not to, you are spending your time moping and thinking...... not good, stop analyzing the situation, even if you hadn't had said those things to him how would your weekend had differed? You would probably ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 31 May 2008: Glad you took the time to cook dinner for your friend and it's always good to have a mate to have a good old rant to and blow off some steam. You are going in the right direction keeping yourself busy, taking your mind off him just for a few hours ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 28 May 2008: So he managed to dictate how you spent your evening AGAIN, made you pay AGAIN and left you feeling like c**p AGAIN. Why do you feel bad about giving him a tongue lashing and venting your anger at his total disregard of you? DON'T
Reading your post... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 23 May 2008: You have to refuse to spend another penny on this man, he is manipulating you and the only way you can gain control of your life again is to stay away from him, he knows your weak points and he uses them to his advantage. He tells you! ("you can't ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 21 May 2008: Good for you for making a change by not calling him back. It may seem like nothing really but in your situation any change no matter how small shows you are ready to take steps to putting an end to his conrtol over you. Standing still and doing ... (read in full...)
He's the one who dictates everything now, and I'm so confused!
Q. Hi there...... I really hope someone out there can help me and hopefully knock some sense into me as everyday that goes by im feeling lower and lower and all i can put it down to is an addiction, but of what is the confusing scenario!!! B...
A. 20 May 2008: He treats you this way because he has conditioned you to believe you are unable to live without him so he knows you are going nowhere.....
YOU SUPPORT HIM so cut off the support line, stop paying for him to abuse you!!!!! You need to stay away from... (read in full...)
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