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i wont go into it because it would depress me, but i have had councelling for years and have a very open mind and good ears lol.
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Ladies: How long do you wait to have sex?
Q. ladies,how long do you wait before you have sex with a guy-I'm confused because if you make them wait a long time,they may cheat and if you don't they may use you-what to do ?!...
A. 27 September 2009: there is no such thing as a right time.... you will know when you feel comfortable with the idea.... and you obviously arnt at the moment.... so wait a bit... if he liked you, he wouldnt cheat, simple as....... (read in full...)
Went on a date, I hear from him 2 months later?
Q. I recently went out with a guy who said he had liked me for 2 years but was way too shy to approach me. The date went great and he said he felt it went the same way. Then for 5 weeks i heard nothing. i text him(nothing too pushy just a hi, how you? ...
A. 27 September 2009: why dont you ask him? just say... look i text you and didnt get a reply... why do you want to reply now? that is the ONLY way you will find out whether he is into you or not.... honestly... 2 months is a long time, however there could be a good ... (read in full...)
Who's right? Him? Or me?
Q. Please help me out...Recently I asked about my relationship. And now my boyfriend wants his question answered.He wants to know is it right for me to text or call him like every 3 hours when he is not home..But here is why I do In the first part of ...
A. 25 September 2009: no one has the right to harass someone else.... men find a new baby hard, and yes, he was acting like a jerk, but pestering him with your insecurities will only push him away, and you really might end up alone. maybe try some couples couselling to ... (read in full...)
I'm worried my vagina isn't as good as the other girls' he's known!
Q. I've got a boyfriend and we've been dating for a few months and we want to start on foreplay. I like the idea of it but I'm quite sensitive about my vagina. I know this may sound creepy/strange/etc. but I've fingered myself and I'm quite ...
A. 21 September 2009: i will tell you now that vaginas are not the best looking things in the world lol.... but, like penises, they come in all shapes and sizes, some have big puffy outer lips, others have samller outer lips, some are brown, some are pink... some have ... (read in full...)
Family problems and I want to move out!
Q. Home life has always been bad for me whilst growing up - my dad has always been abusive (hitting me and my siblings). It got quite bad the way he treated us, consequently mum divorced him (4 years ago now). Dad is now engaged to a nasty piece of ...
A. 20 September 2009: i doubt if at that age you would be granted a place in a hostel, but you can apply to go on the council house waiting list... you would need your mum to write you an eviction notice to have any chance of moving soon.... you may be put up in a b and ... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me what this smelly discharge is?
Q. This is quite embarassin. I am 21 and off the pill. I recently started gettin a yellow white substance comin from my vagina. It looks alot like cum but its not. Sometimes it smells a bit too. This is really annoyin me and makin me feel wierd bout ...
A. 20 September 2009: im not a doc, so it would always be an idea to get a checkup... a simple swab woul be all it needed to answer your question....
it sounds as if it could be bacterial vaginosis... if its accompanied by itching? ... (read in full...)
My friend is so screwed up and I want to help her!
Q. I'm really worried about my best friend, she has been out with about 25 guys (no exaggeration) in the past 2 years. I'm getting worried, because she is only 13 and she is not a virgin anymore. And she goes on webcam and shows more than she is...
A. 20 September 2009: is there a responsible adult you could talk too? this poor girl is putting her life at risk by behaving the way she is. you really need to talk to someone neutral... a teacher would be a good place to start. Im sure you know what tough love is, and ... (read in full...)
Family problems and I want to move out!
Q. Home life has always been bad for me whilst growing up - my dad has always been abusive (hitting me and my siblings). It got quite bad the way he treated us, consequently mum divorced him (4 years ago now). Dad is now engaged to a nasty piece of ...
A. 20 September 2009: as you live in th UK, there are a few things you can do. You sound quite mature for your age.. and i think the best thing to do would be have a chat with your mum... even write her a letter... explaining that things are hard on you at the moment and ... (read in full...)
How can I change my sexuality?
Q. i think im gay but i dont want to be. how can i change my sexuality so that i dont think about men and stop watching videos....
A. 14 February 2009: watching gay porn doesnt necessarily mean that you are gay, just curious. there is nothing wrong with being gay, but maybe you should take some time out to experiment with these feelings... you cant change who you are, and its best that you embrace ... (read in full...)
Anyone know what this pain might be?
Q. for about 8 months now, ive been in quite alot of pain, its constant, i am sexually active im 15 i started my periods at 13 i use tampons every period, umm ive been sexually active for about 1 year and a half, ive been with the same partner for 2 ...
A. 14 February 2009: why come on the site if you dont want to see a doctor? we cant make a diagnosis for you, maybe you should grow up a bit before postng anymore quaestions and listen to what we ave to say, if you dont want to listen to our advice, dont ask a ... (read in full...)
Best friend keeps stealing my guy!
Q. Well to start off there's this one girl I used to be best friends with last year, this one guy liked me and she liked him. She constantly was jealous and now we enter the next grade and another train wreck. 2 long months of my ex-bestie getting ...
A. 3 February 2009: next time, bag the man before she finds out you like him.... it mite be an idea to ditch the 'friend'... (read in full...)
How can I get my g/f to put out
Q. my screen name says it all! help ne one with advice been with gf for 12yrs have a 3yr. son i get close she gets pissed ne advice on how to approach her she tells me when she ready to have sex we will which of coarse i cant make her have sex with me ...
A. 2 February 2009: I think satin desire was a bit harsh about ur grammer, i write like that a lot of the time!!!!! Ur gf is prob just feelin unsexy and stressed and you need to prove to her that you love her and she is your world, and that you still fancy her... it ... (read in full...)
How do I comfort my sister after breakup?
Q. Hey, Recently my sister (15) got a new boyfriend. Last night, after having dated for about a month he broke up with her. She was devastated. Shortly after I found out she had sex with him during their relationship, thus losing her vi...
A. 2 February 2009: The best thing you can do is buy her tissues, chocolate or some other comfort item, and listen to her moans... slagging him off occasionally will help too!!!! apart from that, there is not much you can do... hard as it is, she needs to deal with ... (read in full...)
Sex wasn't a great experience for me
Q. So i was making out with a girl in a club and i was llike really hard that time but then we wanted to take it further..so we went to the beach and we tried to have sex over there ..i got reaaly hard..and i went inside her but it was winter and ...
A. 2 February 2009: The problem with sex is, unless you feel an attraction or atleast severe lust towards the other party, that its not always as good as you expect it to be. I wouldnt worry that this experience wasnt as you hoped it mite be... i presume this waas your ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be interested in older women?
Q. First of all, in order to understand wher I am coming from, it might prove beneficial to know a little about me. I am 18 years old, and in college. I study Computer Information Systems and Network, with a minor in German. German is my real ...
A. 2 February 2009: I would say the reason that you are lusting after the older woman is that you are very mature for your age, and dare i say it, your tastes ar alternative to what i lot of people your age's tastes are. Your passion for reasons and deep thinking is ... (read in full...)
Pregnant a possibility?
Q. hello everyone, I had sex in november and i had my period 2 weeks afterwards and i had one december but it was late! i didn't have one in january which really concerns me. i've looked up symptoms for pregnacy and i dont really have any. i ...
A. 2 February 2009: Pregnancy is always a possibility if you have had unprotected sex, periods or no periods after. I had a period regular as clockwork throught my whole pregancy. I would get a test, but also i dont mean to be rude at all but why are you so worried ... (read in full...)
I'm just not happy with who I am
Q. I really hope this doesn't sound stupid... In the last few years, I've had a few problems in my life, as everyone does. I struggle with my mum's relationship with my brother. He's a year older than me. I'm very envious, which often makes ...
A. 2 February 2009: you poor thing! These past few years must have been horrid for you! It might be worth a chat with your doctor, to see if he can help, it might be that you have become depressed yourself? There has been a lot going on, and that is hard to deal with. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her I love her?
Q. I have a good friend named Jenny who is in a long term relationship who I'm in love with. I'm single and we hang out a lot because her boyfriend lives the other side of the country. I've had a crush on her for a long time but just recently my ...
A. 2 February 2009: Omg what a predicament!!!! i would reccomend that you dont confess your love just yet... and take a serious look at this woman. I know you really wont want to hear this, but why is she flirting with you if she is in a LONG TERM relationship? surely ... (read in full...)
DearCupid had over one million people visit the site in January!
Q. I have just peeped at our visitor figures for January 2009, the month just gone, and I'm excited to see that DearCupid passed 1,000,000 (yes, one MILLION!) unique visitors/month for the first time. According to Google Analytics we had 1,040,812 ...
A. 2 February 2009: Wow! What fantastic news! congratulations! i would invite you over for a bottle of bubbli 2 celebrate, but i dnt know where you live, and i dont have any lol.
happy 2009... (read in full...)
Anyone know what this pain might be?
Q. for about 8 months now, ive been in quite alot of pain, its constant, i am sexually active im 15 i started my periods at 13 i use tampons every period, umm ive been sexually active for about 1 year and a half, ive been with the same partner for 2 ...
A. 2 February 2009: it sounds like it could possibly be a problem with your cervix as i had a similar pain when my partner was too hard and ruptured my cervix.... this does not mean this is the answer however, i would strongly reccomend that yyou see a doctor as soon ... (read in full...)
It's been four years and for some pathetic reason, I can't feel anything for anybody.
Q. It's been four years and for some pathetic reason, I can't feel anything for anybody. He is always on my mind, I've tried doing new things with other people but it feels like I lost a part of me. What must I do? ...
A. 1 February 2009: fortunately, time is a great healer... but only when you can accept that its over. You need to go out with the intent to have fun, not to find a replacement. it will take time, but u can make it, all the best... (read in full...)
My boyfriend just got his fiend to rape me, what should I do? I cant leave him.
Q. My boyfriend just got his fiend to rape me, what should I do? I cant leave him....
A. 1 February 2009: Update guys, i know it has been a while. I was rape d5 more times to pay for my ex's drug addiction. I have finally managed to leave him, and it was thanks to your concern and advice that i had the stregnth to leave, you have no idea how many times ... (read in full...)
Stuck in the middle, don't know who to choose.
Q. My New Bf {shaw} He's Wonderful we been together for almost 3 months we were friends first before anything. A month ago My ex {alex} came to my basketball games he was also my first love and he also has my virginity. But we broke up over the summer ...
A. 20 December 2008: The only thing i can say is that you and you and your ex split up for a reason. Stay with your current bf as he doesnt seem to be doing anything wrong, going back to your ex, you will only re-live the same problems you had before, you will split up ... (read in full...)
He wants me, but without commitment...huh ?
Q. Sorry for this-its going to be long. My boyfriend broke up with me, and Im trying to make sense of this. He sent me this (after he broke up, I might add): “ok, this is the way i look at it, i dont want a relationship. period. but i do want somebo...
A. 23 November 2008: do whatever you feel comfy with babe... can you do that with him? if yes, go for it, if not, dont, simple (ish) lol. all the best hun... (read in full...)
It hurts so much when being fingered, what's wrong??
Q. I've been fingered a few times and each time it hurts and thats only with one finger! Trying two fingers hurt too much and one doesn't even feel good, i can't tell that its in or not. is something wrong?...
A. 23 November 2008: you need to spend a lot of time getting turned on, so that you are nice and wet, otherwise it will hurt... you can get the guy to use some lube, or wet his fingers before he uses them... all the best... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a pack-rat...Help !!
Q. Hi I hope you can give me some good advise on this, I have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years now and recently I have moved with him to a 2 bedroom flat in Chafford Hundred, I lived with him previously in hornchuch in a one bedroom which ...
A. 23 November 2008: that is reasonable, sell the stuff definately, try and get back some of the money you wasted babe.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend took me to a swinger's club !!!
Q. My boyfriend and I went to a swingers club and he wanted to join a couples room of course not knowing what it was I said yes the woman opened the door and there was like six couple having sex or just oral sex. I told him I couldnt do this and he ...
A. 2 November 2008: i am currently at a 24hour naturist/ swinging club as we speak... and i love it. however, you should not be forced to do anything that you are not comfortable with... if you want to work with him, go one time with a view to just watching and build ... (read in full...)
My question is what is the easiest way to have sex the first time with least pain? and what do you think about our decision
Q. Me and my ex boyfriend dated for over 2 years. Its been months since we broke up but we havent gone out with anyone since, we've had little "flings" but there over and meant nothing. We hang out all the time now and remain best of friends. We still ...
A. 2 November 2008: i dont think your doing the right thing as your virginity is too special to loose when your not even in a relationship. having said that, it seems like you have made your mind up. the best way to do this is to make sure u have loads of foreplay... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a pack-rat...Help !!
Q. Hi I hope you can give me some good advise on this, I have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years now and recently I have moved with him to a 2 bedroom flat in Chafford Hundred, I lived with him previously in hornchuch in a one bedroom which ...
A. 2 November 2008: you cant live in a situation where you are that unhappy. you were right, and you may face loosing him... however, would you rather live in an unhappy situation and build up resentment which will lead to arguments, or make a clean break and be happy... (read in full...)
Is this abuse? Should I get out of my relationship now?
Q. Should I get out of my relationship now? I am currently taking a break from my relationship with my boyfriend because I am working on issues from my past. My question is if he is abusive. Since we've been together for about 7 months a few things ...
A. 5 October 2008: I dont think he is, i think it is your head. you are obviously not ready for a bf atmo... because of the bad stuff that has happened in you past, which is understandable. It sounds as if he is trying to sort things out with you, and you are puchisng ... (read in full...)
Does sex have to feel so mechanical?
Q. Another one of the thousands of sex questions on this site, but I really have no one else to talk to about this sensitive subject. I have a boyfriend who I've been with for 8 years... but we're really just best friends now. About 4 years ago, the...
A. 3 October 2008: You could always try lube... the problem with the parents situation is that you never let yourself relax... you couldnt... thats why the camera thing was fine... i bet you were more relaxed. If you live on your own, invite him round, otherwise... (read in full...)
How do I accept that marriage will never happen for me?
Q. I am 36 years old and never married. I have been living with my boyfriend of 5 years for the last 3 years. I have a 13 year old daughter.(not his) Anyway, He convinced me to quit my job and help him build his buisness. Which I did, with no pay. ...
A. 3 October 2008: You dont need to accept that it wont happen. Sit your partner down and say how much it means to you... if he still says no, ask him for some money when you work, save it up and then get out of there.
There is always state benifits. PLease dont stay... (read in full...)
I need help with 'squirting' - how can I get there?
Q. Hello..I have been sexually active for a very long time and my boyfriend of about 8 months..we have the greatest sex I've ever had or can imagine .... I am very confused, I find myself searching up how to have an orgasm all the time. Yes, I hav...
A. 3 October 2008: I am afraid that not every woman can ejaculate.... However, speaking from someone who can, I wouldn't wish is on anyone lol.... its really messy... so you can't just curl up in a ball and go to sleep, you need to change the duvet, get in the show... (read in full...)
Please help me NOT text my old teacher, I'm so tempted but I know I shouldn't!
Q. I need help. I left school May this year and promised myself that this was going to be great as i was gonna finally get over my teacher, thing is i cant. Everytime i see a barbie doll, or even the shop borders! i think of him, due to memories and ...
A. 26 September 2008: the best thing you can do is delete his number. Why do you even have his number? Teacher/ student relationships are never good, even if you have left school, as there is likely to be a fairly big age gap, and most importantly, it could damage his ... (read in full...)
I have depression and despite this he pushes me into situations that I'm not comfortable with, does he truly love me, should I walk away?
Q. Can anyone help? im 23 and have been in a serious relationship for almost 2 years and living together for about 1 year.Recently i have been beginning to wonder if i mean as much to him as he says i do.I have depression and despite this he pushes me ...
A. 26 September 2008: you really need to talk to him babe, it does not seem to me as if he cares, but you have not specified what kind of situations he pressures you to go into. i hope you can sort this out.
x... (read in full...)
I'm bothered about all these pictures he has of another woman and some ex's, what should I do?
Q. This gonna be as concise as possible. I found six pictures of a woman in provocative dress (lingerie, bedsheet) in different poses in my boyfriend's email address. I confronted him about it and he got mad and said that he only asked for those be...
A. 16 September 2008: If you have spoken to him, and he lied, and refuses to delete them, leave him.. he might delete them to your face, then change his password and get them back again!... (read in full...)
What is all this? I have a boyfriend already? Why do I have these feeling for my cousin?
Q. i am 22 years old and i have a cousin (my mothers sister's son), he's 2 years younger to me. We have always been friendly n never really acted like brother-sister, but this time when i met him i began to have feelings for him that are not so ...
A. 16 September 2008: You need to stop this now... you will hurt yourself, family, friends, and your Bf, let alone your cousine. You are related and this would be incest... please think carefully... its ok to have a crush, just dont let it go any further than that... (read in full...)
Should I shave or not? That is the question.
Q. I dont no what to do. I dont no wether to shave my pubes or not! I mean, if I do then how much do I shave off! I shaved some a while back, and kept it up for a few months but there were always little bits of stubble. Please help! xx...
A. 16 September 2008: i always shave, coz i think its untidy... however, i must admit most the guys i have been with dont really notice! do what ever you feel comfortable with... some girls just like a bit of a trim, and others like it all wild, or all off. DO what feels ... (read in full...)
How can I know my girlfriend is ready for sex?
Q. How can i know that my girlfriend is ready for sex?...
A. 15 September 2008: You could try pushing the boat out.. buy her some sexy underwear, and see how she reacts, give her a lovely dinner to set the mood.
Dont push things, but hint that you are ready and comfortable, and see if she feels the same... see how she reac... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to hate his mum?
Q. i love my boyfriend to death..everytime hes in my house he asks like himself.but wen he is at his house next to his mom he totally changes..he acts like he is big..not by weight..but by attitude. i hate when he does dat..also i dont let him look an...
A. 14 September 2008: you cant make your bf hate his mum. MAybe this is not the right relationship for you. You are only a baby your self ( i dont mean to be patronising, but i was still playing with dollies at your age) and are obviously to insecure to handle a ... (read in full...)
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