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Why did he block me?

Q.   There was a person who messaged me on this app I'm using, he was the first person i spoke to on this app anyway i thought were friends (we talk a lot and joke around) anyway today i said hi to him then he goes like I'm not going to speak to you ...

A.   17 February 2018: Because you were being naive.. what do you think he meant by a picture? Obviously a nudey.. so when he didn't get what he wanted he moved on to the next clueless young girl who would give him one.. Look, you really can't be in the age bracket ... (read in full...)

I love him, but his deception can’t go on!

Q.   Hi Aunts! I'm 29 years old and in an alleged relationship with a married man for the last one and a half year. It wasn't intended to happen cause we were only friends, but developed nonetheless. At first, he kept his marital status a secret from me....

A.   17 February 2018: You love a horrible manipulative cowardly cheat. Like the others said if on the extremely slim chance he leaves his wife for you (he won't) what makes you think you're so special he won't cheat? He did it to the one he chose to MARRY. You'r... (read in full...)

My husband spends more time with his female co worker than he does with me.

Q.   My husband has a female coworker that he has been friends with for a while. They go out to lunch together and text each other here and there. I’ve never had a problem with this, I have male coworkers that I am friends with as well. My problem is ...

A.   13 February 2018: BIG RED FLAG: he won't let you meet her.. hey if she's become this great *new friend* wouldn't he want to introduce her to you? So you can do stuff together from time to time? YOU'RE the one that should be prioritized YOU should be the most spe... (read in full...)

Do I contact him again?

Q.   im not sure how to go about this and would rather see it from other peoples views. A year ago i joined a dating site i met up with a guy i had already had 1 date with previously couple of years earlier. we drifted apart and lost contact. Anyway last ...

A.   29 January 2018: Why chase after someone who's told you no, when there are a million guys out there who would say yes? Let go of him ... (read in full...)

LDR has been 8 years now he wants me to wait 4 more before marriage

Q.   Hi, am a 25 year old arab lady and ive been in a long distance relationship for like 8 years now. I love this guy and we use to have it all clear that marriage is the goal. he recently said that marrige is not possible until 4 more years. he is ...

A.   28 January 2018: In eight years of knowing you, being long distance hasn't he had enough time to sew his oats/ go jet setting? How often do you actually see each other on average? Because that's WAY overdue to still be long distance! And if you're sitting in front ... (read in full...)

Is he hiding something? Is he only trying to make me jealous that he has a girlfriend? Does he EVEN got back with her? What is he aiming for?

Q.   I've known this guy for about 2 months. We talk everyday all day Mon stop. When we first met he was single, and then he started to flirt and trying to take it into a relationship. I don't want a relationship with anyone right now, and he knows it. ...

A.   28 January 2018: I agree with Honeypie- not only has he said he's not even SURE about his ex/gf, he's spending all his time messaging another girl? He is using her and lying to her and keeping you close! Not ok behaviour.. is this the signs a guy treats girls well? ... (read in full...)

He’s very affectionate towards everyone! Does this sound strange?

Q.   Hi there I started seeing a guy around 3 months ago. One of the things i love about him.is that he is very very affectionate towards me. At gome and out in public. He sometimes says to be before we go out'can i kiss you a lot tonight in publi...

A.   28 January 2018: My boyfriend is a very affectionate person. And he had a difficult childhood with bad relations with his dad.. maybe men that don't have strong masculine role models are like this? He's not just huggy touchy with me, he's like it with everyone... (read in full...)

He seemed so into me, said he had no wrong intentions... Then why did he ghost me after that evening of no sex?

Q.   I commute to work and every Friday, as I'm waiting at my bus stop, a young man would come and wait for the bus as well. We would exchange polite nods of the head, smiles, "good mornings" and then both of us would retreat back to our cell phones, ...

A.   28 January 2018: And not even messaging you back shows a weak character and what a coward he is... (read in full...)

He seemed so into me, said he had no wrong intentions... Then why did he ghost me after that evening of no sex?

Q.   I commute to work and every Friday, as I'm waiting at my bus stop, a young man would come and wait for the bus as well. We would exchange polite nods of the head, smiles, "good mornings" and then both of us would retreat back to our cell phones, ...

A.   28 January 2018: Sorry- pressed too early. I do think the attentive constant phonecall gentleman act was just that- an act. He did just enough to get you to sleep with him.. he's handsome so a lot of young naive girls he probably doesn't have to woo too much! He saw ... (read in full...)

He seemed so into me, said he had no wrong intentions... Then why did he ghost me after that evening of no sex?

Q.   I commute to work and every Friday, as I'm waiting at my bus stop, a young man would come and wait for the bus as well. We would exchange polite nods of the head, smiles, "good mornings" and then both of us would retreat back to our cell phones, ...

A.   28 January 2018: I know it seems intense after just three weks, I went out with a guy for this long, he dumped me horribly and I was distraught for weeks.. but honestly? You're missing the very simple fact that when you wouldn't give it up after only three weeks, he ... (read in full...)

Should I ask him if he's ever had sex with her?

Q.   Hi guys! Quick question.. I've been having a sexual relationship with a man for almost a year. We used to work together but we now both moved on to other jobs right after the first time we had sex. So here's the thing- Right before we had se...

A.   20 January 2018: Why don't you go and live in the bunny mansion if you're happy to be used as one of many women? Come on you're worth more than this, cut it off and get out there and develop yourself as a person- find a passion and work towards achieving a goal- ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend shows no respect

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now and we have been practically living together since day one. First off he is a total momma's boy, which I have no problem with. But I know he will never out me first before her. My problem is that he ...

A.   20 January 2018: If you ALLOW someone to keep doing something does that act as a deterrent to them to stop doing it?? NO it gives them more and more power and confirms their suspicion that THEY have the control to do whatever they want.. like a spoiled child if ... (read in full...)

How do I get my life back?

Q.   Husband found out I have been using tumblr for fandom stuff and threatened to smash my phone. He didn't understand what "reblogging" meant and thought that character pictures were actually real dudes. I'm not allowed to talk to "strange people on ...

A.   20 January 2018: I agree it's emotional abuse.. whatever you did in the past he either gets over it or he leaves. Actually DICTATING to you what you can and cannot do is not healthy and shows he sees you as an object possession, not a lover. Taking things a... (read in full...)

Thiinking of leaving because husband is so controlling

Q.   Hi I have been married for 25 years. We have had some good times but my husband is very controlling and demeans me. I am not allowed to have any male friends because in his mind it’s wrong and that means I am having sex with them. If I enjoy...

A.   20 January 2018: "You WANT to leave" and be in a relationship where you don't feel like a possession and unhappy.. this drove you to an emotional affair. So what really is there left to salvage? If he loved you he would trust you.. you can't have love without trust. ... (read in full...)

Does he want me anymore?

Q.   Hiya sorry if this is long I’ve been with my partner for 4 years we have a 2 year old daughter together we have had a few relationship problems this last few months such as our sex life has been non existent then I find porn on his phone which makes ...

A.   20 January 2018: Seems like he knows that whatever he does to you, you'll stick around.. guess what adding people on fb because they're *attractive* is not behaviour common to a faithful relationship. I guess if they started sexting him he would say no? Yeah ... (read in full...)

I feel I owe this married man an apology

Q.   Hello Aunts, I met this man sometime in 2015 when i was on a temporal job in another state in the country. He is Married with a son. When we first met, he was attracted to me and we pretty get along so well. He dropped hints about dating me bu...

A.   20 January 2018: WHY would you owe someone a apology who has chucked you aside every time he goes back to his wife? You honestly BELIEVE when he goes "distant" he's not spending *quality family time* with his wife??? You surely can't be that naive! I'll say what... (read in full...)

Should I ask him if he's ever had sex with her?

Q.   Hi guys! Quick question.. I've been having a sexual relationship with a man for almost a year. We used to work together but we now both moved on to other jobs right after the first time we had sex. So here's the thing- Right before we had se...

A.   18 January 2018: Why are you *just* in a sexual relationship with him? You obviously want more for YOURSELF so why settle? If in fact this is just friends with benefits then surely you logically know you're not exclusive! In other words he can have as many slices of ... (read in full...)

My husband raised a boy as his own, but now he is 19 I don't want him included in our family!

Q.   Hi Just need a bit of advice...my husband met a woman who already had a child 17 years ago. My husband then helped bring him up, however when this child become 13/14 he came into a lot of trouble and trouble has followed him since. Oliver no...

A.   10 January 2018: I agree with the last anon poster. Him being associated with you may bring criminals to your door. I would make this clear to your husband that your family are the thing you'll protect first and foremost. I would tell my husband to meet him ... (read in full...)

Events of 30 years ago still hurt!

Q.   my husband had an emotional affair with my mom, and this went on for four years, as she died in an auto accident. He claims sure was fun to be with and that all they did was kiss, no sex. #1 how could it last for this long with non sex, # how can ...

A.   10 January 2018: 99% of women would not be ok with their partner being incest.. are you sure you were ever ok with it? Were you just too blinded by love and locked it in a little box of denial in your mind? Have either of you seen a psychologist because seems like ... (read in full...)

His email to his brother hurts more than his affair

Q.   My partner and I have been together for 3 years in January, he cheated on me with someone I knew in October. In our bed When I was away for 2 days. When I came back he acted like nothing had happened but I knew in my heart and then my friends told ...

A.   10 January 2018: Go to the STD clinic too... (read in full...)

His email to his brother hurts more than his affair

Q.   My partner and I have been together for 3 years in January, he cheated on me with someone I knew in October. In our bed When I was away for 2 days. When I came back he acted like nothing had happened but I knew in my heart and then my friends told ...

A.   10 January 2018: No matter how much you love him HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU. What's he going to do next? Turn to physical abuse? Rape you? Maybe not actually because the MENTAL emotional abuse hurts you enough for him to get his rocks off. What more does he need to ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend doest take care of herself and has no ambition

Q.   Is it me? Is it her? Are we fizzling. I feel like my gf of 4 yrs doesn't make effort. Everytime we are going out we isn't putting effort in. I don't mind until I realised its everyday. In my family my mum and sisters always make sure they presen...

A.   9 January 2018: I'm completely with youwish. You're obsession about her being this trophy wife accessory to show off and *compare* her with other women, the comparing to others is the worst- you're actually CARING what some floozies in the office think more than ... (read in full...)

Why me? Why now?

Q.   I probably sound pathetic but sometimes things get to me and usually I have no-one to talk to because no1 understands. This week I told my boyfriend I would see him this weekend we both agreed (it fits in with us both). I called him. He answered. I ...

A.   25 December 2017: Yeah I'm sorry why me? Does sound pathetic- YOU chose a partner that doesn't give you the respect you're due- furthermore the level of respect you demand from people shows how much you respect yourself.. people that choose partners that shit on them ... (read in full...)

Feeling guilty I missed hen do

Q.   Hi everyone. I'm having a friendship dilemma. A close friend is no longer speaking to me because I didn't attend her hen do. I declined months prior due to the dates not being good for me - it's a month of birthdays and prior planned trips. ...

A.   11 December 2017: If you've already planned trips, it's unreasonable for her to expect you to cancel if it's non-refundable, which usually is. I don't think it would occur to anyone to help plan something they're not a part of tbh.. I will say I would be upset if... (read in full...)

Religion may be the stumbling block for us

Q.   I'm an atheist (born to Christian parents) and my fiancé is Christian. We both want kids. She recently asked me if I was willing to give them a Christian upbringing when they arrive. I want them to make the decision about a deity when they can think ...

A.   11 December 2017: You have very strong views that CLASH with her also strong views.. you can't agree and whichever way it eventually swings one of you will end up resenting the other.. this stuff is causing a great divide,even when it's hypothetical- what's it going ... (read in full...)

Just lost a parent and he’s gone away. Should I break up with him for this?

Q.   Hi All, Just looking for some advice at what is already a confusing and low time. I’ve just lost a very close family member, a parent and I feel like my partner hasn’t been as supportive as he could. I’m not taking it well at all. We were very clo...

A.   11 December 2017: A partner should always have your back- considering that he deserts you and ALWAYS prioritises them over you, even at the heardest time of your life, shows what a disloyal, uncaring dick he is.. I would say if you can't RELY on someone to prote... (read in full...)

Our sexual needs are different

Q.   My girl friend and I got in an argument last night about sex. I get tired it’s me who wants sex. She never starts it, and now she is too tired, because of work, one full time job an one part time job. I realize that, but now it’s the holidays. She ...

A.   11 December 2017: You know that saying, sex happens between the ears not the legs? If you have a good sex life usually and that's CHANGED, that indicates there's something going on in her head- that or she has a medical condition.. there is nothing someone's too ... (read in full...)

Do I owe her an apology?

Q.   Dear cupid, Guys I've done something stupid and I don't know how to make it up. I feel like I am a dirt bag for this but I feel like I was being taken advantage of and I lashed out. See I've kind of sort of been seeing this girl for the past 7 m...

A.   11 December 2017: Yes- you're being too nice. You know how their are so many male "players" out there? Well there's a good amount of female players/ man eaters.. I don't think you've found a great girl here. Look- imagine you were REALLY into a girl (like this one... (read in full...)

My ex's actions make me feel like I was never worth fighting for

Q.   Hi guys, So this is an ongoing problem with my ex bf that has left me feeling confused, angry, resentful, but mostly hurt, and I need advice on how to deal with the situation. So earlier this year, I posted on this website about whether or no...

A.   4 December 2017: He's his own person and we can throw all kinds of clichés at you that will relate to people time and time again. I.e you can't make the horse drink etc. Look if he went out shagging girls left right centre whilst lying to you would THAT be your ... (read in full...)

What do I do and say? His depression is hard to deal with

Q.   I need help. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 months and a bit more , and I love him so much but he has depression . I help him as much as I can and I’m here for him all the time but he always complains to me how he feels and I understand that he’s ...

A.   3 December 2017: As another one of gazillions that suffer from depression I want to state that you CAN'T cure him- the only thing that can help him is professional help- and at his age without professional help, understanding and control over his illness, there's ... (read in full...)

He wants me to trust him but he doesn't behave as someone that I can trust!

Q.   Hello. Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I've been seeing my current boyfriend off and on for about eight months now. During that time we have had several breakups. Once over him being too flirty with another girl as I stood by as a ...

A.   3 December 2017: He can't even stay FAITHFUL after 8 months? Well WHY does he deserve your trust? Or one more minute of your time, out of your LIFE? He's a cheat. That's all there is to it. Use your brain, gather your courage and get out now, before he hooks yo... (read in full...)

My pretty friend gets constant attention. How do I cope?

Q.   This is long but I feel that details and some background info are important to get an understanding for some answers. This is not your typical, my friend is evidently prettier than me story. I have a friend who is very pretty. She's not a supe...

A.   3 December 2017: This is an insecurity issue.. if someone is naturally pretty and goes out with painted lips and curls, they ARE going to turn heads and shouldn't affect you like this! If she dresses to show off her figure in a slutty way that is going to get her ... (read in full...)

Should I have an affair with a married man?

Q.   This is going to make me sound like a horrible person... Maybe I am. I've been infatuated with this man for months. I can tell he doesn't care about me emotionally because once I say no to a booty call, he says good bye. I'm not going to lie, I'...

A.   3 December 2017: By the way if a married guy came onto me i would tell his wife what a sleazy piece of shit she's married to... (read in full...)

Should I have an affair with a married man?

Q.   This is going to make me sound like a horrible person... Maybe I am. I've been infatuated with this man for months. I can tell he doesn't care about me emotionally because once I say no to a booty call, he says good bye. I'm not going to lie, I'...

A.   3 December 2017: You may be young and impressionable but you're old enough to have a husband yourself- how would YOU feel if you were this guy's WIFE?? I tell you if you were how would you feel about him? Guessing you would hate his guts and see him for the JERK he ... (read in full...)

The boyfriend and the friend who doesn't know we're together: I want to be put first for once

Q.   One of my boyfriends friends and I don't get along because of things that happened in the past between us, so we mutually agreed not to speak to one another. My boyfriend tells me that he likes the guy, but they aren't that close. I don't mind them ...

A.   2 December 2017: You're dead right- a true lover will ALWAYS have your back and defend you against poisonous words/ people. He is upholding this guy's wishes and demands ABOVE YOURS-in turn showing you great disloyalty. Closeted? Nah.. There s a reason for the ... (read in full...)

He chose my friend over me but now I think he likes me

Q.   Me and this boy went out for about a month then broke up,he then turned for me for help cos he liked my friend.I got jealousy missed him and told him I love him.whilst he was making up his mind we were making out at mine.he then decided know and ...

A.   1 December 2017: Woah. Cut your actions short.. you don't seem to understand that you're CHEATING ON YOUR BF and that's NOT OK. At any age. This is the thing.. no matter how mature you think you are, you are going through massive biological changes, and your rag... (read in full...)

Should I treat this like I just got out of a BPD relationship or am I going about evaluating this situation wrong?

Q.   I am in high school right now and my first girlfriend recently broke up with me. We dated for about a month and a half and the way she broke up with me was not what anybody does to anybody else. I'm trying to understand and make sense of why this ...

A.   24 November 2017: Mate, look at her health issues.. she's got a LOT on her plate and focusing on school is hard enough, let alone a full blown relationship.. you guys are ridiculously young anyway.. She's been DIAGNOSED with those two conditions- NOT BPD. AS someo... (read in full...)

I'm in a horribly abusive relationship and I need a way out for me and my daughter

Q.   Hi basically just looking for some advise plz, I really don't know what to do or how to. Basically I haven't been happy with my partner we have been arguing lately quiet a lot we have a small child but the arguments ain't in front of her as he ...

A.   24 November 2017: The strength needs to come from wanting to PROTECT YOUR DAUGHTER. And yourself while you're at at- she needs her mum. THIS has gone beyond abusive relationship THIS is a survival issue- this man is a psycho and we need to be doing more in this ... (read in full...)

Head over heels in love with my teacher!

Q.   Hello everyone, I'm a bachelor student. I am sorry for my grammar mistakes. First of all, I want to say that during my school and HS years I've never had this feeling before. Last year, I met one of the best persons and teachers in the world. She is ...

A.   24 November 2017: This is infatuation and will wear off. You obsessing is futile, because she's not going to give up the family, the career she LOVES for an infatuated student. If she did start anything with you, it would come out eventually and she would lose BOT... (read in full...)

Lost my virginity and I didn't even enjoy it but now I'm wondering if I could be pregnant

Q.   I just lost my virginity, tbh it was painful and i never enjoyed it at all, according to my friend its because he never did foreplay. Even though i was not satisfied, apparently he was because he came on the inside of my thighs. The cum wasn't alot ...

A.   22 November 2017: It's unlikely pre cum but POSSIBLE. NEVER TAKE THE RISK. Unless you want to be THAT girl with the baby/ abortion See your Doctor for contraceptive advice- yes it does hurt the first time for EVERYONE. But if you're going to be doing this regularl... (read in full...)

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