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Help! I'm crushing on a younger man.

Q.   Help! I think I may be crushing on a much younger man - it’s embarrasing . I am working at a retail store to pay of my student loans and I work there every weekend . I am 32 year old single woman. I must admit I am lonely since it has been two years ...

A.   16 April 2018: I agree with the last post there's little that's shameful about it, you're both adults. I used to work in retail and there was a guy who came in every day that asked me out! I would say tone down anything in front of your manager, and don't as... (read in full...)

My girlfriend left, I want to fix it but she is ignoring me.

Q.   My girlfriend of 12 years has just left me. For the last 4 years we've lived together in our own place after a spell living with her family, we moved in shortly after my father passed away. I really struggled to deal with my father's passing...

A.   16 April 2018: Imagine if your daughter was with someone like this.. would you want her to get back with him? Or would you want the BEST for her?? Real love is selfless. She deserves better, you've already put her through 12 years of SHIT so if you truly lo... (read in full...)

He compliments others and insults me.

Q.   My partner of many years verbally attacked me for the things I do to 'beautify' myself such as have hair nails and skin appointments etc done . I have never had cosmetic surgery and am not going to. He says I'm insecure and he wants someone who is ...

A.   16 April 2018: He is clearly attracted to the fake glamour girl look, this is not about him having some moral objection to it- seems like his only real *principle* is to make YOU feel bad about yourself. A guy that puts you down is a MAJOR RED FLAG. A guy that... (read in full...)

The man who was my companion contacts me through my daughter after 2 years!

Q.   Hello peeps I have a question that I'd like your honest opinions about - please...? I met this lovely, magic but crazy guy in 2016. We clicked. It was very strong whilst it lasted. But he liked his drink and we both got drunk a lot and that was...

A.   15 April 2018: Sorry if I sounded harsh everyone acts/thinks recklessly when there's strong feelings involved. Just thought he seemed like the type to go crazy on you or use your daughter as leverage. People that have substance abuse issues don't even know what ... (read in full...)

I'm dating a 48 year old man who lives in utter filth and doesn't know what he wants from life

Q.   I've Been seeing a 48 year old man for about 5 weeks now. He is not physically attractive in anyway. I looked past all this because I am actually pursuing a serious relationship and my criteria isn't based on looks. It would help but doesn't matter. ...

A.   15 April 2018: Look, the guy may have some personal issues/ fundamental character flaw/ aspergers, some other social ineptitude, even messed up psychological stuff..but the point is you clearly have nothing but dislike and disdain for him, so why are you keeping ... (read in full...)

The man who was my companion contacts me through my daughter after 2 years!

Q.   Hello peeps I have a question that I'd like your honest opinions about - please...? I met this lovely, magic but crazy guy in 2016. We clicked. It was very strong whilst it lasted. But he liked his drink and we both got drunk a lot and that was...

A.   15 April 2018: By your own admission he's not a normal guy who behaves NORMALLY.. searching for your DAUGHTER high and low is crazy intense! Bordering on stalkish. You know how many people are on facebook.. You say he's crazy.. crazy people are INTENSE.... (read in full...)

I want a sexual relationship with my professor. Should I pursue it?

Q.   I am in love with my professor and want to take thing to a sexual relationship. I need advise on how to keep it a secret. We flirt all the time we even exchanged pictures. Should I pursue this at all? ...

A.   10 April 2018: If he's unprofessional enough to do it with one student what makes you think you're the ONLY one?? Just please calling this "love" is giving love a bad name, as BJ said.. you can't LOVE someone you don't know! Exchanging messages, flirting... (read in full...)

Did my boyfriend’s dad just sexually harrass me!? I’m crying

Q.   My boyfriends dad just sexually harrased me?! I feel so embarrased to even write this! Please help I am in shock I live with my boyfriends parents and something happened I was eating late meal in the kitchen and he came in, we were having a ...

A.   9 April 2018: You do realise that by keeping quiet you're giving him the POWER over you. What's more when this eventually comes out (the truth always does) people are going to question what was REALLY going on- i.e. why did you put up with it for so long, WHY you ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend ridiculed me saying that I have small boobs and a big tummy!

Q.   Dear cubid, The other day my bf of 2 years and i were video chating and i was wearing a tank top without a bra so he made a comment saying " ur boobs need serious help why doesn't the fat from ur stomach go up to ur boobs , just rotate the fat" ...

A.   3 April 2018: You know what actually, I just reread your post. "your boobs need serious help" Who is he to say what you NEED to do?? "should" "need" are all words to be avoided as they put unnecessary pressure on the individual, whoever says them. You don't ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend ridiculed me saying that I have small boobs and a big tummy!

Q.   Dear cubid, The other day my bf of 2 years and i were video chating and i was wearing a tank top without a bra so he made a comment saying " ur boobs need serious help why doesn't the fat from ur stomach go up to ur boobs , just rotate the fat" ...

A.   3 April 2018: It's not about him making a joke, there's no humour involved here and he knows it. He said it out of disrespect- saying that it's a joke is just a way of covering up the nastiness of his comment. He said it as a sly hint to let you know he wants... (read in full...)

Is my husband being shady, buying a gift for a coworker?

Q.   My husband recently bought a gift for a female coworker. I found text messages of him asking other people what this female coworker likes. When I saw the gift, I asked him, oh who is this for and he ignored my question and started talking about ...

A.   30 March 2018: "I hope to give you something better next time" is definitely over-friendly and is clearly not part of some kind of workplace gift pool- it's singling her out and on her personal phone. I agree it's not a good idea to go in guns blazing as it ju... (read in full...)

He has a girlfriend but he took my virginity and I think he's the "one" for me

Q.   Hi, I’m in love with a taken guy. We’ve been through so much together. He took my virginity, we fell asleep together, and his mom absolutely loves me. She’s constantly asking about me and says that I should come over more. BUT, he has a girlfriend. ...

A.   28 March 2018: *support fromr family/ friemds. I hope you have a loving family. There is always the school counsellor if you really feel you can't talk to your mum or anyone right? Take care of yourself and binge watch some comedy TV! ... (read in full...)

He has a girlfriend but he took my virginity and I think he's the "one" for me

Q.   Hi, I’m in love with a taken guy. We’ve been through so much together. He took my virginity, we fell asleep together, and his mom absolutely loves me. She’s constantly asking about me and says that I should come over more. BUT, he has a girlfriend. ...

A.   28 March 2018: Heartless? Well you hit the nail on the head- his feelings don't come from his "heart" at stage he's at. He stayed with HER because she TOLERATES his bad behaviour because she's either too naive or dense to see him for what he is. She's useful to ... (read in full...)

We’ve been dating 18 months! Do these signs he’s been giving indicate anything?

Q.   Been dating a guy for 18mnths. We havent ever said we love each other but we know we care deeply for each other. The other morning we were "making out" (we've never had sex) and he was on top of me. He gradually stopped and then just looked in my ...

A.   27 March 2018: After 18 months it's important to feel comfortable with and trust one another, if you can be physically intimate but you can't discuss feelings, there's a problem somewhere in the relationship. So like Wiseowl said- ask him straight up what's wrong. ... (read in full...)

He has a girlfriend but he took my virginity and I think he's the "one" for me

Q.   Hi, I’m in love with a taken guy. We’ve been through so much together. He took my virginity, we fell asleep together, and his mom absolutely loves me. She’s constantly asking about me and says that I should come over more. BUT, he has a girlfriend. ...

A.   27 March 2018: You are NOT a POS. You are young, hormonal, emotional, misguided and still trying to find yourself. You were caught in his trap that most of us could easily have fallen into at your age. I know our words were harsh but we just wanted you to realise ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants me to take a lie detector test because his brother says him and I had sex

Q.   I have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months now whom I love dearly. I’m 28 and he’s a year older. We live together. So my boyfriend wants me to take a lie detector test because his pathological liar of a younger brother said that we slept togethe...

A.   26 March 2018: WOW. Your bf is screwy.. I would flat out refuse to take the test. If he doesn't trust you enough or know when you're telling the truth it's not going to change. Trust is just as important as love- without it there is no foundation to build the ... (read in full...)

How do you handle flirty guys?

Q.   I think I have written this before, not sure... So I'm 30 and right now I have been going to the gym. I get along with my trainer very well to the point that he teases me, tickles me and what not. I actually like him, but I do know (because he...

A.   25 March 2018: If you're interested in them there's no harm in being flirty. Flirting with someone doesn't mean you're going to sleep with them. Flirting for many is a fun lighthearted way of meeting people or just socialising- particularly for people who are ... (read in full...)

He has a girlfriend but he took my virginity and I think he's the "one" for me

Q.   Hi, I’m in love with a taken guy. We’ve been through so much together. He took my virginity, we fell asleep together, and his mom absolutely loves me. She’s constantly asking about me and says that I should come over more. BUT, he has a girlfriend. ...

A.   25 March 2018: And "they're not soulmates"? Well do you honestly think that out of the billions of people on this earth you just happen to meet him in the same Street/ town as you. A guy who is LYING TO TWO girls. Look at the facts!... (read in full...)

He has a girlfriend but he took my virginity and I think he's the "one" for me

Q.   Hi, I’m in love with a taken guy. We’ve been through so much together. He took my virginity, we fell asleep together, and his mom absolutely loves me. She’s constantly asking about me and says that I should come over more. BUT, he has a girlfriend. ...

A.   25 March 2018: And "they're not soulmates"? Well do you honestly think that out of the billions of people on this earth you just happen to meet him in the same Street/ town as you. A guy who is LYING TO TWO girls. Look at the facts!... (read in full...)

He has a girlfriend but he took my virginity and I think he's the "one" for me

Q.   Hi, I’m in love with a taken guy. We’ve been through so much together. He took my virginity, we fell asleep together, and his mom absolutely loves me. She’s constantly asking about me and says that I should come over more. BUT, he has a girlfriend. ...

A.   25 March 2018: His gf "doesn't care" he's cheating on her? I suggest you show his gf this post and watch her try and scratch your your eyes out- what would you do if you were her and you read this?? I doubt you'd be "ok with it" If he was the one what reason w... (read in full...)

I feel I have met the right person at the wrong time ... and he is lying to his girlfriend!

Q.   I’ve known of this guy for about a year but I never knew his name I just knew him as we had mutual friends. I will add at this point that I had (and still have) a massive crush on him. I saw him whilst I was out clubbing at the start of this year ...

A.   17 March 2018: I agree with N91, put yourself in his GFs shoes, would YOU think he's the RIGHT guy to be with? He does know what he's doing, he actually could write a textbook on *how to lie and deceive your gf* WAKE UP. The lengths he goes to to cover his dirty ... (read in full...)

Do the Aunts think this seems okay at face value?

Q.   Okay, so this has been a big/hectic day. I've been in this relationship 5+ years. It's always been a life partner type scenario. Well today, we got into a fight, words were said, and she threw the "I want to break-up" card. We've had a really rou...

A.   17 March 2018: To be blunt.. no. I'm sorry to say but the bottom line here is she wants to sleep with other people and she wants to be SINGLE. Even if it's for a "break" period it shows that she doesn't currently want the relationship, and after that realisation I ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend didn't think I could do a hard major in college and now I've lost confidence

Q.   Hello everyone, My boyfriend and I have been kind of rocky since the start of this year. I am currently a computer science student and he has already graduated with his masters and is currently working in the field. I am currently a receptio...

A.   12 March 2018: You're lucky enough to have found something you're passionate about and GOOD at. Don't let anyone ever take that away from you. You win scholarships, you enjoy it so you're likely very good at it- the only obstacle you have is self doubt. There... (read in full...)

He's acting as if I don't exist.

Q.   Should I try to make this work? Me and my boyfriend took a little break from each other because of him constantly keeping in touch with his ex that he got out of a relationship with because of me a few months ago. We worked it out and things were ...

A.   9 March 2018: You know why she doesn't reply to his nude requests? Because she's probably blocked him. Most women can EASILY see him for what he is. If a guy is making moves on someone when he has a girlfriend and doesn't break up with his gf that's called c... (read in full...)

He's acting as if I don't exist.

Q.   Should I try to make this work? Me and my boyfriend took a little break from each other because of him constantly keeping in touch with his ex that he got out of a relationship with because of me a few months ago. We worked it out and things were ...

A.   9 March 2018: You asked us for advice on the same cheating rat last week.. why don't you reread that advice rather just ignore it? He doesn't give a dime for you or anyone else.. just his labido. http:... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is unemotional and giving me the silent treatment!

Q.   Dear Cupid I'm living with my bf of 3 years , and he is nice most of the times, but he is very unemotional and practical and had not told me he loves me yet, though I said couple of times and no response So I got pregnant , we both agreed it...

A.   8 March 2018: This post makes us all sad.. we're complete strangers. But WE seem to give more of a damn than HE does.. what does that tell you? He can NEVER give you what you want and doesn't seem to have a caring bone in his body. Man an abortion would ... (read in full...)

He pursued me and now I’m in love with him, but he has a girlfriend. Do I tell him how I feel?

Q.   Please don’t judge me too much for writing this.. but I’d really appreciate some advice. This guy works in a different department in my office.. we knew each other vaguely for 2 years and and he started messaging me randomly around 6 months ...

A.   6 March 2018: IF he was genuine about you he would leave his gf. It's as simple as that- look at his ACTIONS, not words. He's pursued you for 6 months? Think that's enough time for the *heart* to decide what it wants.. but deep down you know his primary interest ... (read in full...)

I friend zoned him, he is trying to be more, which annoys me!

Q.   I have known this guy for 4 months, everything was good and we had a very good connection. After a while, he started falling for me, he confessed his feeling to me and he wanted a relationship. He was so desperate for my love which turned me off a ...

A.   1 March 2018: How is he your *best friend* after 4 months? I agree it's selfish to keep him around for your own feelings when it's tugging at his heart strings. I've been the gf of a guy with feelings for his friend. When he finds a nice girl who may be the o... (read in full...)

Help please! Need some career advice.

Q.   Hi everyone, less of a dating question and more a career one. I left college two years ago and decided not to go to university, it was a good move for me personally because I don't like what is happening to universities right now. I've ...

A.   1 March 2018: When I had trouble finding work my best result came from employment agencies- look up local ones in your area, so you have the option to go in and register in person, so they can put a name to your face. The agency that got me the most work was a 20 ... (read in full...)

He doesn't want children but I want one of my own

Q.   I feel like ive wasted my time , my boyfriend ( of 4 month) just blurted out he doesnt want kids .We havent talked about having any or any anytime soon. i dont know why he just said it , he already has 2 ( pre teen )but i always wanted one and he ...

A.   1 March 2018: A guy that you've been dating for four months who already has kids that SAYS he doesn't want more kids is not going to be the father of your baby I think your best bet is a sperm donor or adoption due to age- for many the cut off point is 40 for g... (read in full...)

My boyfriend still trying to get back with his ex but he can't love her! He gave me the ring

Q.   what should I do? So for the past few weeks I’ve been on here trying to get advice. Trying to figure out if I’m a rebound or not. A week ago he was still hitting up his ex trying to give her oral sex, as well as physical sex. She turned him down ...

A.   28 February 2018: He doesn't LOVE either of you; he's LYING to both of you.. you are both of equal worth to him i.e. human blow up dolls. The ring is obviously a way to throw you off the scent and just another lie.. you think he would have told you straight up he was ... (read in full...)

Is my ex playing me or testing the waters?

Q.   so my ex girlfriend has just told me that, if our age difference which is 11yrs, and she didnt have 2 kids wed be pretty much perfect for eachother we get along found eachother attractive and enjoyed our company. is this just her way of playing with ...

A.   28 February 2018: Two kids are going to take up a lot of time in her life, leaving her little time for messing guys around.. she's obviously at a mature stage where she wants to prioritise the most important things in life. Take her for her word because most wom... (read in full...)

I have a new date but my ex has contacted me.

Q.   Im not sure what to do , last year i started seeing someone who had mental health problems i was very flexi with him and would fit in with him to make life easier for him. id only been seeing him once a week for 2 month he would go silent on me to ...

A.   28 February 2018: I've gone out with two people with mental health issues and honestly? You got a lucky escape. They don't process things like normal people do and you will always be left up the creek without a paddle- you can't understand them unless you're a mental ... (read in full...)

Why would he send this text to me? “Hi beautiful”?

Q.   Hi everyone. I got a strange text from BF of 5 years today. It said “Hi beautiful, just checking in to make sure you haven’t forgotten me, and that you are flourishing as usual. Very busy with school sports for the kids at the moment but enjoying ...

A.   28 February 2018: Well that was no way a text meant for you, that's clear as day. He's your husband so you should be able to be completely honest with each other- tell him how it made you feel and why you're worried about the "hey beautiful" thing. JUst ask him ... (read in full...)

Why did he block me?

Q.   There was a person who messaged me on this app I'm using, he was the first person i spoke to on this app anyway i thought were friends (we talk a lot and joke around) anyway today i said hi to him then he goes like I'm not going to speak to you ...

A.   17 February 2018: Because you were being naive.. what do you think he meant by a picture? Obviously a nudey.. so when he didn't get what he wanted he moved on to the next clueless young girl who would give him one.. Look, you really can't be in the age bracket ... (read in full...)

I love him, but his deception can’t go on!

Q.   Hi Aunts! I'm 29 years old and in an alleged relationship with a married man for the last one and a half year. It wasn't intended to happen cause we were only friends, but developed nonetheless. At first, he kept his marital status a secret from me....

A.   17 February 2018: You love a horrible manipulative cowardly cheat. Like the others said if on the extremely slim chance he leaves his wife for you (he won't) what makes you think you're so special he won't cheat? He did it to the one he chose to MARRY. You'r... (read in full...)

My husband spends more time with his female co worker than he does with me.

Q.   My husband has a female coworker that he has been friends with for a while. They go out to lunch together and text each other here and there. I’ve never had a problem with this, I have male coworkers that I am friends with as well. My problem is ...

A.   13 February 2018: BIG RED FLAG: he won't let you meet her.. hey if she's become this great *new friend* wouldn't he want to introduce her to you? So you can do stuff together from time to time? YOU'RE the one that should be prioritized YOU should be the most spe... (read in full...)

Do I contact him again?

Q.   im not sure how to go about this and would rather see it from other peoples views. A year ago i joined a dating site i met up with a guy i had already had 1 date with previously couple of years earlier. we drifted apart and lost contact. Anyway last ...

A.   29 January 2018: Why chase after someone who's told you no, when there are a million guys out there who would say yes? Let go of him ... (read in full...)

LDR has been 8 years now he wants me to wait 4 more before marriage

Q.   Hi, am a 25 year old arab lady and ive been in a long distance relationship for like 8 years now. I love this guy and we use to have it all clear that marriage is the goal. he recently said that marrige is not possible until 4 more years. he is ...

A.   28 January 2018: In eight years of knowing you, being long distance hasn't he had enough time to sew his oats/ go jet setting? How often do you actually see each other on average? Because that's WAY overdue to still be long distance! And if you're sitting in front ... (read in full...)

Is he hiding something? Is he only trying to make me jealous that he has a girlfriend? Does he EVEN got back with her? What is he aiming for?

Q.   I've known this guy for about 2 months. We talk everyday all day Mon stop. When we first met he was single, and then he started to flirt and trying to take it into a relationship. I don't want a relationship with anyone right now, and he knows it. ...

A.   28 January 2018: I agree with Honeypie- not only has he said he's not even SURE about his ex/gf, he's spending all his time messaging another girl? He is using her and lying to her and keeping you close! Not ok behaviour.. is this the signs a guy treats girls well? ... (read in full...)

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