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Am I falling for the wrong guy?

Q.   I liked my brother's friend for 1 year.I never seen him or talk to him before.But I developed feelings for him when my brother tell about him.I started to talk to him a few days ago without telling my brother.I told him that I like him.He said he ...

A.   13 October 2017: Yeah you're pretty and confident like a million other girls he might "just" leave for his girlfriend.. How would you feel if if it was you he left for a quick lay/ passing fling?? Mate he's not insecure. He is immature, sounds quite lazy and has ... (read in full...)

I think I deserve better. I'm pushing too hard to make this relationship work?

Q.   Hi all, Ive been dating this guy for the past 4-5 months. He's very different from my part relationships. I had a bad pattern to go for unavailable men but I changed it consciously. My relationship is going well with this person and there were a...

A.   13 October 2017: You do realise that he will eventually realise YOUR resentment and disrespect for him- and return that. When you have no respect for your partner everything they do becomes a royal pain, until you just want to explode. Without respect everythi... (read in full...)

My ex cheated on me, it took me 2 years to get over him and now he wants to try again

Q.   At what point can you be sure you have forgiven someone for hurting you, and take them back? 3 years ago my then boyfriend of nearly 2 years left me for someone else. It took me a long time to get over it, but I did. I never really forgot he...

A.   13 October 2017: He didn't write you a heartfelt letter apologizing- because he's not thinking with his heart. I really agree that an apology text after two years shows how much respect and care he thinks you deserve- maybe a minutes worth, the time it takes him to ... (read in full...)

Do any girls here go to bars alone?

Q.   I have been on my own for a long time now. It has been bothering me for a while but it has only become a problem recently. I don't have particularly great coping skills and the feelings of loneliness have become overwhelming. I really need to make ...

A.   12 October 2017: You've got everything to live for- and don't need to resort to crawling bars on your OWN looking for what... love? In a bar? Honestly it's an unwholesome attitude and people will smell your desperation- because no to answer your question- it's not... (read in full...)

Do any girls here go to bars alone?

Q.   I have been on my own for a long time now. It has been bothering me for a while but it has only become a problem recently. I don't have particularly great coping skills and the feelings of loneliness have become overwhelming. I really need to make ...

A.   12 October 2017: Where are you getting this hopelessness from? You're at college studying to make steps to improve yourself and you're young, free and HEALTHY... (read in full...)

I overshared family information about my heritage with a professor and am now feeling very anxious

Q.   I overshared information a week ago with my university tutor and have had severe anxiety since! I was showing my tutor some of my work for the class which included a reference to Aboriginal Australians. I then blurted out that my father is ...

A.   11 October 2017: Seriously? I'm sure your professor sees how hard you work and views you as an individual- not a STEREOTYPE. Because you're not a stereotype. He's probably more wary of what a nervous wreck you appear to be- this is something you need give NO ... (read in full...)

Why does this guy flirt with me when he asks about dates I've been on?

Q.   There's this guy I've known for a little over a year. I used to have a huge crush on him for a long time. I eventually got over him emotionally, but I am still attracted to him. We have been friends but there has been times where I get mixed ...

A.   10 October 2017: For me my spider sensors would be tingling- why didn't he want you when you were available? he's giving you mixed signals- which toys with your affections and a sign he might be emotionally unavailable.. does he compliment your personality or ask ... (read in full...)

I feel like I was second servings!

Q.   Okay i really dont know what to do in this situation. So my freind is friends with this guy and they are just friends nothing more. So one day he spent the night at our apartment and I ended up having sex with him. I felt weird about sleeping with ...

A.   10 October 2017: I would also like to say find some real friends with better character, as this girl isn't very loyal or principled- you wouldn't have swooped in there with him if she was planning on spending the night with him- so yes you have every right to be ... (read in full...)

I feel like I was second servings!

Q.   Okay i really dont know what to do in this situation. So my freind is friends with this guy and they are just friends nothing more. So one day he spent the night at our apartment and I ended up having sex with him. I felt weird about sleeping with ...

A.   10 October 2017: I agree with the others that you're not cut out and secure enough for casuals- I think you're letting your insecurities tear you up into this wreck where you're obsessing that"she's better than you in some way"- well stop that mentality, because ... (read in full...)

How do I handle his awful younger sister who assumes she's one of my bridesmaids?!?

Q.   Hello everyone, I am not sure how to ask this question. My boyfriend and I are getting married (yay!!) but have one small problem. I hate, and I mean *hate* his younger sister. She has been an absolute mess to deal with our entire relationshi...

A.   4 October 2017: You need to get a hold on this and realise that this is the do or die moment- either she becomes the future dictator or you stand up to her. There's no better time, as you're never going to be in a more entitled position to stand up to her- it's ... (read in full...)

How else do I show my long distance cheating girlfriend that I love her?

Q.   I am in a complicated relationship with my girlfriend. We both have a distance between us which has affected our relationship . I found out a few weeks ago that she had been sleeping with her ex gf which made me very upset. She opplpgised to me and ...

A.   3 October 2017: Her irrational behavior and the fact she cheated shows she's not emotionally ready for a relationship and to truly love someone; when people blow hot and cold it's because they love to feel needed- when they get the stability and love, they get ... (read in full...)

He's bragged about cheating on me behind my back but denies it when I confront him!

Q.   Have been told by strangers, friends and family that my boyfriend of twenty years has bragged about cheating on me every chance he gets when he's working out of town. He actually butt dialed me during one of his bragging sessions to a friend and I ...

A.   3 October 2017: What do you expect any of us to say? That he's not cheating?? You can add another 20 of DC aunts to the list voting he's a cheat. It's BLACK AND WHITE in front of you. MAYBE AFTER 20 YEARS OF BEING "UNMARRIED" THERE'S A REASON HE DOESN'T WANT TO ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend keeps asking to meet my former best friend

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating for 16 months. We met through a social group in which we both joined around the same time, and that group is my main circle of friends. I do not keep in touch regularly with anyone else. I have friends whom I call ...

A.   3 October 2017: Have you told him that's she some sort of promiscuous devil-woman? If so be very wary because this is the likely reason he wants to "get to know her" and he might not be the faithful guy you thought he was. You still can't truly know someone after ... (read in full...)

After a week of dating he wants to have sex

Q.   i met this guy a year ago and he wanted me to be his girlfriend but i refused ... we were not in a relationship then but now after that one year he came back and i again refused so after four months i started having feelings for him and i talked t...

A.   2 October 2017: You won't give it to him, so he keeps pushing for it- you're what wiseowl said- a conquest. Give it to him and you wont be his beau or his lover, you'll be a notch on his bedpost. Please get a hold on yourself. You're clever enough to get into... (read in full...)

I'm heartbroken but he said he wouldn't get back together with me because I was acting crazy!

Q.   Okay so I'm looking for a little perspective... I was dating this guy (both in our early to mid 20s) for 6 months. During this time it got very intense. In the beginning he was incredible... suggested we go on holiday together after 1 month, a...

A.   2 October 2017: While he's clearly a dishonest person that messed you around, I agree that you are getting too emotionally attached and thinking about it too intensely- definitely for such a new relationship. I used to be like you and know the obsessiveness and the ... (read in full...)

What's with his constant stares?

Q.   My husbands friend will always glance and stare at me and I know it doesn't always mean attraction or something just because someone stares but I'm just getting some kind of weird vibe.  He always looks straight into my eyes, even when we aren't t...

A.   2 October 2017: Flirting with others is iffy. Flirting in front of his wife is disrespect. And unashamedly trying to start something with another woman- you is beyond disrespect- to his wife, to your husband (his "supposed" friend) and to you- you've done the ... (read in full...)

I feel like leaving my husband how do I change this feeling ?

Q.   I need advice, I'm 22 and my husband is 39. We are married one year and have a 6 month old daughter. My husband and I got on well most of the time and he was generally someone I could call my best friend but Lately I have just felt like leaving him. ...

A.   29 September 2017: I agree with dancergirl- you've proved you can provide for yourself and your kid- your worth is more than keeping him on his pedestal. He's got it pretty easy, cushy part time job, having a wife deluded that she needs him, keeping her under ke... (read in full...)

He's rejected me but is open to having sex. I'm upset but tempted to, since I'll be bored and alone in his city.

Q.   I apologize in advance...this is a long one! I met a guy on Tinder back in March of this year. I was going to be in San Francisco for a few days and wanted to meet people while there so I changed my location to SF and started talking to him. ...

A.   21 September 2017: Aside from the fact he's a sleazy user, he's treating you like a piece of shit- "I want to F u but I don't want to date you" men/women have those thoughts but to have so little respect and SAY you're not worth dating; to not care for your feelings- ... (read in full...)

How do I get him to understand my loneliness?

Q.   Hi everyone. I'm just looking for a bit of advice. I am married to my partner who I've known since we were kids. I've been feeling so lonely recently as I feel like I've lost connection with my friends. I work and sit at home waiting for my husba...

A.   19 September 2017: You are living a half life.. You're not a withered old prune, you're an elastic band, full of youth and your whole life ahead of you- not that anyone at ANY age should settle or be unhappy. How many years have you got ahead of you though? Like Aunty ... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriends best friend trying to break us up? Should the relationship be put after his best friend?

Q.   So this is a bit of a long story so I do apologise in advance. Back in December my boyfriend broke up with his ex girlfriend, then on a drunken evening on New Year's Eve he slept with his best friend, that was all it was to him. We are all part of a ...

A.   21 June 2017: I just want to add that my bf has a female nest friend and I love him so much.. But if he started showing her more affection/ prioritising her I wouldn't stay. Its so painful and if a man disrespects you, fight back with your self esteem- regardless ... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriends best friend trying to break us up? Should the relationship be put after his best friend?

Q.   So this is a bit of a long story so I do apologise in advance. Back in December my boyfriend broke up with his ex girlfriend, then on a drunken evening on New Year's Eve he slept with his best friend, that was all it was to him. We are all part of a ...

A.   21 June 2017: What is really sad is that you have been way too trusting- given him so much freedom and support and he's ABUSED this gift. He slept with her, kissed and she outright disrespects you- while he does F all. I'm telling you most women would NEVER put ... (read in full...)

Worried he will drop me if I don't go further

Q.   I am 14 and i have been in this relationship with this boy we have been dating for 3 months and i really like him. The thing is normally we would shift and kiss and all that but he said that he wants to top me this means to take off my shirt and ...

A.   14 June 2017: No man that cares about you will put his sexual urges first at the expense of your feelings. That's what's known as a guy who badly wants a lay that sees you as a coke can or a sweet wrapper to be chucked away when used. WHATVER he says remember if ... (read in full...)

Should I worry about the attention he gives her?

Q.   I've been seeing a guy for about two months now. Everything has been going great. He's affectionate, caring, etc. We've dated before a few years ago and it didn't work out. He had cheated on me with a very permiscuous chick who has a reputation for ...

A.   14 June 2017: You really need to be strong and follow your gut here. You're doing yourself a massive disservice by letting him disrespect you this badly. Yes that IS unhealthy interest in a ggirl that ISNT his girlfriend. YES it is flirting. Maybe he does... (read in full...)

Should his life choices be a dealbreaker?

Q.   I met a man at my job and we worked together a few months. I since have left the job because I got something better :) I never date co-workers but we did flirt a lot at the job. Only after I left did i agree to date him. He revealed to me a DUI he h...

A.   14 June 2017: I agree that long term lifestyle differences and priorities make a couple incompatible; most psychology articles on relationships actually state that short term and long term differences are what keep a couple together, and more important than love- ... (read in full...)

Should I worry about the attention he gives her?

Q.   I've been seeing a guy for about two months now. Everything has been going great. He's affectionate, caring, etc. We've dated before a few years ago and it didn't work out. He had cheated on me with a very permiscuous chick who has a reputation for ...

A.   1 June 2017: You obviously cant trust him- for good reason. He cheated before and whatever BS he spews or even if he denies it to himself, he is showing a very unhealthy amount of interest in this girl who ISNT his gf... why would he evem think to show you ... (read in full...)

Should I date him when he had asked out my best friend and she turned him down?

Q.   Hello, Please I need some advice. There is this guy asking me out. We met at my sister's wedding. I like him too. It turned out that he had asked my best friend out some months back but she said she was not interested. I asked my friend about ...

A.   28 May 2017: Yeah, I'm sorry but this is a situation you want to stay clear of- If you ended up together, you would always have that niggling doubt and worry everytime she came around I think. And like honey-pie said she called her up WTF?? I would really watch ... (read in full...)

How do I hide a love bite?

Q.   It was my school leavers party on friday night where all of my year and people from different people from other schools came to get drubk basically. I was with my friends which included this boy I know. we were drinking and smoking and we were quite ...

A.   28 May 2017: PWhen I had one a concealer stick worked best.. Any half decent brand will do as long as it's more than a pound I do want to say though that starting drinking at your age is extremely bad for you- you're still developing mentally and physically a... (read in full...)

Does he feel the same way or did I make him uncomfortable?

Q.   Hi. I'd love to get a third person's opinion I fell hard for an old friend but we live in different cities. He used to flirt back and forth and met a few times. I'm not sure of he had feelings for me. After 3 years and I finally told him everyth...

A.   28 May 2017: I have never understood how an LDR could work, and if someone proposed it to me, even if I really liked them, I would probably knock them back... unless i was deeply in infatuation zone. He clearly likes you as a person but not enough for a rel... (read in full...)

What lessons must I learn to love myself?

Q.   I just want to know how a young girl is supposed to love herself in a world where ideal beauty standards are plastered all throughout television, all different genres of music, and even in our family and friends through their language. How am I ...

A.   16 May 2017: Thank you media for giving basically every women a major psychological complex. It's a poisonous industry that harbour vain, cutthroat people that will screw anyone over for an extra dollar. Especially younger girls more vulnerable to it. mY b... (read in full...)

How can I stop coming on so strong?

Q.   Hey everyone. So I've been posting here for quite a while about all of my struggles with attracting women. I think I may finally realize what's been going on. I come on too strong and over analyze things on pretty much every attempt. It's just who I ...

A.   14 March 2017: I think you should sees therapist- you're aware you have this problem of seeing everything including PEOPLE as conquests- that's NOT fair on them. Although you're probably teaching women the signs that a guy is jut trying to get them into bed so ... (read in full...)

Does he like me or just want sex?

Q.   Just when I'd totally shut my self off from dating then the world gave me this guy. I have known him since 2012 but I always ignored him and blocked his calls. Recently I haven't been going out much and he suddenly contacted me. I decided to hang ...

A.   14 March 2017: Guy is creepy and unsavoury... He's basically a sex pest that isn't taking no for an answer- that you BLOCKED. Alarm bells?? If you're turned on by that kind of sleazy behaviour then use protection because he likely has some type of STI. Like hone... (read in full...)

Do I quit my job? I feel my coworker doesn't like me, and some of the behaviour at work feels like bullying to me.

Q.   I work for a warehouse factory that distrubutes sporting things such as football tops and trophies etc. I'm being bullied at work from my boss and the assistant of the boss and they can't seem to leave me alone for five minutes. everytime I go into ...

A.   14 March 2017: If you feel this is damaging your health (sounds likely)you shouldn't have to put up with it..why not get a sick note from your doctor? Explain how you feel, what's been happening, say you're anxious ams depressed and he can authorise ESA benefit ... (read in full...)

Did he not know what to do with our relationship? What could have triggered his response? I am very confused! Need honest advice!

Q.   I, Guess I Kind of broke up with my boyfriend ( 37y/o) I could not stand his erratic behavior anymore. last friday he came for his graduation, and he messaged me on past Thursday saying that on Friday he was coming early here to town where I live, ...

A.   2 March 2017: I agree with honeypie that he is just to gutless to admit he doesn't see the relationship as long term- and thinks its ok to string you along for sex- again on his terms. He doesn't have the consideration he should have for his gf... The fact tha... (read in full...)

Does his behavior indicate that he's an emotional abuser? Should I breakup with him?

Q.   1-) In life, we should have certain words filtered, my boyfriend does not seem to have one. I am upset because, he has this tendency of referring to woman as bi***es, ”oh tha b*tch does this or that, in a very despotic way, he does not say this all ...

A.   2 March 2017: You can see straight through him... Why DO you need our advice... You may as well ask us if you should run away if an axe wielding murderer was coming towards you... NO emotionally healthy, sane person would stay in the relationship. If you do y... (read in full...)

She says I'm psycho but I hink she is cheating.

Q.   Hi everyone Recently My girlfriend went out for a night-out and came back with a boy (who was her friend) and was in her bed watching a movie.Her flat mate (who has been her best friend since a young child) said she heard the bed moving, breathin...

A.   2 March 2017: That's pure BS. That is NOT acceptable behaviour... Like honiepie said if you did the same thing would SHE like a girl in your bed watching movies?? I cant actually believe how manipulative some people can be... She KNOWS this is not acceptab... (read in full...)

I hacked into his email and discovered he'd applied for another flat! What do I do next?

Q.   Hi! Me and my boyfriend have been dating for over two years now. Two months ago we moved together in a new city. Two weeks ago I did something horrible, something I can never forgive myself. I hacked, literally hacked into his email account. ...

A.   2 March 2017: Is there any way you can go to citizens advice bureau or something? Not sure want country you're in but you NEED to get out of this setup- he's a dirty rat of a CHEAT. I'm sorry but random strangers care more about you than this JERK. He's tak... (read in full...)

I hacked into his email and discovered he'd applied for another flat! What do I do next?

Q.   Hi! Me and my boyfriend have been dating for over two years now. Two months ago we moved together in a new city. Two weeks ago I did something horrible, something I can never forgive myself. I hacked, literally hacked into his email account. ...

A.   2 March 2017: Is there any way you can go to citizens advice bureau or something? Not sure want country you're in but you NEED to get out of this setup- he's a dirty rat of a CHEAT. I'm sorry but random strangers care more about you than this JERK. He's tak... (read in full...)

He contacted a girl on social media after I'd asked him to remove her!

Q.   Ok so this may sound petty but I'm pretty worried about where my relationship is going and how much I trust my boyfriend at the moment. Now, I know mobile phones have taken over but whenever me and my boyfriend would go out we would try not to be ...

A.   2 March 2017: I hate to say it,snooping IS wrong- but the underlying reason for is not TRUSTING who you're with. Going through his phone is a breach of trust, but god gave us instinct and that instinct can lead you to these things. Everyone wants to feel se... (read in full...)

I'm tired of living under my brother's shadow! How do I get over this?

Q.   My older brother has always been the centre of attraction to every family member including my parents. Every good thing I do I somehow get compared to him even if he is not good at what i just did. I feel like people like me because of him. Most ...

A.   15 February 2017: People dont know s**t. Im sorry but think about the crap songs bands release that become number one- where as the gems get overlooked. People voted for hitler... And trump! So who's to say you're not as talented or "important" as your brother?... (read in full...)

Why does he now decide he wants to do this?

Q.   I've been having a fwb relationship with this guy for a few months now. My partner and I have been having unprotected sex for the last couple times we had sex. Today he decided to cum inside me. What does this mean? Is he starting to have feelings ...

A.   14 February 2017: So- he's happy to offer NO commitment to you, whilst knowingly putting you at high risk for pregnancy... Sounds like a GREAT GUY that really cares about you... :/ Have you actually got a brain? If you don't use any contraception yo... (read in full...)

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