Have any girls on here gone to a bar alone?
Q. I have been on my own for a long time now. It has been bothering me for a while but it has only become a problem recently. I don't have particularly great coping skills and feelings of loneliness have become overwhelming. I really need to make some ...
A. 13 December 2011: if you are going to the gym and coffee shop alone and have not suceeded in making friends there, what are you going to do differently in a bar? presumably you fee like you and others will be more friendly because alcohol has loosened you up, which ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm being a pest.....do they really like me?
Q. Basically, i started highschool about a week and abit ago, and so far everything has been going brilliantly, i'm doing well with the work, my sets are getting sorted out and my anxiety ( i have a severe anxiety disorder) is getting easier to ...
A. 13 December 2011: you have had trouble with people in the past and this is why you find it difficult to trust peoples motives now. you seem to have a great personality and i am pretty certain that these people that hang around you actually DO like you.it IS hard to ... (read in full...)
Am I just a convenient arrangement for him? Or am I being over-sensitive and too demanding?
Q. Am I just convenient? I have been dating a man for just over three months. He is 36, I am 34. At first everything seemed brilliant - he was attentive, complimentary and in constant contact. We were seeing each other for about two months before w...
A. 3 November 2011: hmm, a few things to think about... while you do not need to know the 100% truth of his past sexual partners, you really need to have at least an inkling as to whether he is horn-dog player man-slut or not. i wouldn't worry too much about 'how to ... (read in full...)
She is no longer the wife or mother she used to be and the whole family are feeling neglected, how do we talk to her about this?
Q. I don't know what to do anymore. My wife of 19 years is no longer the woman I married. We have three children 11, 13, and 19. In the last few years she has taken in pets and recently has taken on 8 more added to the 15 she already has. She spends ...
A. 1 November 2011: sounds like she is using the animals as a form of escapism from her routine with the family. talk to her. is she menopausal or pre-menopausal? (a blood test can detect this) - if so this can do crazy things to a woman's mind as she experiences the ... (read in full...)
How is he still confused about how he feels after being with me for a year?
Q. I just want to know is it possible to be confused on if you love someone or not for almost a full year? The man I am with has been unsure about how he feels for a while. This does not make me want to leave him, but it sure makes it hard for me when ...
A. 1 November 2011: love is a confusing thing for those that really think about it. the easiest thing in the world would be for him to say 'yes, of course i love you' just to make you feel better and relieve your concerns. he wants to be 100% per cent sure before he ... (read in full...)
Am I just a convenient arrangement for him? Or am I being over-sensitive and too demanding?
Q. Am I just convenient? I have been dating a man for just over three months. He is 36, I am 34. At first everything seemed brilliant - he was attentive, complimentary and in constant contact. We were seeing each other for about two months before w...
A. 1 November 2011: you are not being unreasonable. it sounds as if in the early pursuing/chasing stage he made it number one priority to impress and woo you. now you have given up the 'the goods' he does not have to do the chasing anymore. and as you have grown more ... (read in full...)
Lovers for 5 years. Both married, but not to each other. How can I deal with this much pain? He said he loved me but where is he now?
Q. I starting having an affair with a man since 2006. We both are married and I lived a distance from him so I wasnt worried to get attached. Well I thought it would be just a short period this would last. We were together for almost 5 years. ...
A. 1 November 2011: it will get easier but only when you accept it is over and stop referring to him as 'best friend' - isn't your husband your best friend? your marriage must be very lacking in something if you needed to have a five year affair in the first place. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's sister dislikes me and its getting very uncomfortable for me!
Q. I feel like hell. I've been dating this amazing guy for 4 months and its just amazing. But I don't think his sister likes me. Every time he asks me to go away with him and his youth group I decline because his sister is going to be there and she ...
A. 1 November 2011: i think if you want to carry on being with him you will have to brazen it out with her. just put your most confident front on, be friendly to her, don't let her know you are intimidated. yes i know this means faking it as it sounds like you don't ... (read in full...)
Will our child miss out on so much because he will grow up without extended family? Since we don't have one
Q. Today my family had a halloween party. I was having fun until i started to notice that my cousins and their kids got along so well. I started to feel jealous of how they all were talking and hanging out and their i was just sitting down. I tried ta...
A. 1 November 2011: there is nothing you can do to change this matter so it is not worth getting upset about. lots of families have many members but that does not always mean that they will be close or even like each other! people who come from big families are not ... (read in full...)
He thinks I am playing games. Is it wrong for me to withhold sex from the guy I'm currently seeing?
Q. is it wrong for me to withhold sex from the guy i'm currently seeing? i just don't feel like i know him well enough yet to sleep with him, but in his mind i think he's getting frustrated because he thinks i'm just using it as an excuse and that im a...
A. 1 November 2011: you are not wrong, men are always keen to get women into bed, its just nature. if you are being genuine when you say that you feel you don't know him well enough and you don't feel ready yet then absolutely you shouldn't cave in just coz its what ... (read in full...)
Technically speaking was it not cheating? since we had had a break up. Am I right in my assumption?
Q. My girlfriend dumped me and after three months she came back . We were together for 2 years before I picked up fight with her over small issue which resulted in a being dumped in the last week of July this year. During those three months, I was ...
A. 1 November 2011: your girlfriend didn't want you back despite all your efforts, so why should you not look elsewhwere? i really don't think you have done anything that most people would do. why should you remain true to someone who is watching you beg and crawl and ... (read in full...)
Do you ever get over a first love?
Q. Do women get over their first love that they had sex with for their first time, or even if it wasn't a first love that they had sex with the first time?nEven if it has been several years since it took place? I would like to hear views from the lady...
A. 29 October 2011: ok well there are a couple of things here that you cannot change -
you cannot change the fact that your wife was with someone before you met and that she had sex with and had feelings for him.
your wife is not actively doing or saying anythi... (read in full...)
He's married and won't always pay attention to me!
Q. Im 22.. And I'm having sOme affair with a 31 yrs old married man.. He says that he is not happy because her wife is already 51 yrs old and he really wants a baby.. Which her wife can't give because of the age (unable to bear a child) he's just ...
A. 23 October 2011: look at the facts ...
married to an older woman purely for visa
messing around with you and wants to get you pregnant presumably?
lying to her
picking up and dropping you whenever it suits
all this tells me that he is NOT a good person. yo... (read in full...)
Do you ever get over a first love?
Q. Do women get over their first love that they had sex with for their first time, or even if it wasn't a first love that they had sex with the first time?nEven if it has been several years since it took place? I would like to hear views from the lady...
A. 23 October 2011: your marriage sounds lovely and i think you should just enjoy it! some people are never lucky enough to find that special someone who they want to give their heart to and stay with forever. you are SO fortunate! and i agree with the last comment by ... (read in full...)
I told him about my past, he went silent and now wont speak to me until he has 'forgiven me'!
Q. I need some help. When I was 12, i was quite badly raped and beaten to within an inch of my life (I was in ICU for the following 2/3 months afterwards.) I did not open up to anyway and I still remain that way (like, i will jump if anyone touches me, ...
A. 23 October 2011: i am glad you have told him to 'stuff it' (or whatever words you used!) you are not SO damaged that you have to tolerate that sort of treatment from anyone. always remember that! he has got no empathy. you can do WAY better than him.
best ... (read in full...)
I am very upset that someone else is treating my son in this way - what should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid My son is 8 and lives with my ex-husband and his wife every second weekend. Last weekend, the wife had an argument with my son and my son lay face down on the couch. The wife told him to stay there until he had calmed down. He went t...
A. 20 October 2011: that definitely sounds abusive. speak to your ex. see what his take on the incident is. speak to her as well and let her know that if there is any repeat you will be involving the cops. adults often think its ok to restrain kids and 'discipline'... (read in full...)
Army wives and girlfriends - do they ALL cheat when soldiers are deployed?
Q. I am in th army and I leave for deployment in less then 3 weeks. My current girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 10 months, we have a great relationship. This will the first time either one of us will eb dating someone who is deployed. a few ...
A. 19 October 2011: i believe that this is a very stupid and sweeping statement that your friends have made. of course SOME will cheat, but not all all. some girls are just not the cheating kind, no matter were you are in the world they just won't do it. talk to your ... (read in full...)
A girl at work is very touchy-feely with me but she has a boyfriend.
Q. A girl I like text me to wish me happy birthday. She works with me and is quite a bit younger than me (I'm late 20s, she's early 20s). The texts were really informal, call me by my short name and had lots of x's in them. She even sent a text (the ...
A. 19 October 2011: sounds like she's got it BAD. what is your problem exactly though? do you like her? and is so does she know? she is not happy with the boyfriend by the sounds of things, or maybe she is just incredibly two faced and she may be just as flirty and ... (read in full...)
My wife's old journal mentioned sex with her ex and now my imagination is making me jealous
Q. I was wondering if you could answer a couple of questions: I recently found my wife's journal, and of course I should have put it down but I read part of it and she had a section in there about sex with her Ex... She was quoted as saying "I have ...
A. 19 October 2011: maybe you are experiencing a bit of a fear of the unknown, because you do not KNOW how they had sex, your imagination is filling in the gaps and making it some epic that it might never have been. she was younger and less experienced back then and ... (read in full...)
Do you ever get over a first love?
Q. Do women get over their first love that they had sex with for their first time, or even if it wasn't a first love that they had sex with the first time?nEven if it has been several years since it took place? I would like to hear views from the lady...
A. 19 October 2011: you are probably over-thinking this, i can only tell you from a woman's point of view and can tell you that me and my friends never ever chat about our first loves with each other, so therefore, they are not on our minds. obviously i cannot comment ... (read in full...)
Why is my fiance trying to look different?
Q. Ever since we got engaged, my fiance has been trying to look different. While I want her to have all the freedom she wants (I don't want to be controlling), She is no longer recognizable to the attractive, beautiful woman she was. She used ...
A. 19 October 2011: what is your relationship like, in general? do you think she might be feeling a bit stifled or controlled by you? if everything else is ok, then i don't think you should worry about her appearance. lots of girls get bored with their look and want a ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to see a red flag -- is it really there?
Q. I wanted your guys or girls opinion on something? I met this realy nice lady, we are about the same age we hit it off great and actually still are, though we have been going out exclusively with eachother for only 6 weeks. Now this woman has neve...
A. 19 October 2011: gosh - you sound like my EX boyfriend, the way you read into her getting home at 1.45am, 'bar time' thats just the sort of thing he used to accuse me of (of note - prior to meeting me he was having an affair with a married woman, so he knew a thing ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to see a red flag -- is it really there?
Q. I wanted your guys or girls opinion on something? I met this realy nice lady, we are about the same age we hit it off great and actually still are, though we have been going out exclusively with eachother for only 6 weeks. Now this woman has neve...
A. 19 October 2011: gosh - you sound like my EX boyfriend, the way you read into her getting home at 1.45am, 'bar time' thats just the sort of thing he used to accuse me of (of note - prior to meeting me he was having an affair with a married woman, so he knew a thing ... (read in full...)
Do you ever get over a first love?
Q. Do women get over their first love that they had sex with for their first time, or even if it wasn't a first love that they had sex with the first time?nEven if it has been several years since it took place? I would like to hear views from the lady...
A. 18 October 2011: i got over mine years ago! this is a very broad question though and i think it depends on who the lady is and who the first love is and the relationship that they had. some will get over, some will not
x... (read in full...)
I neeed HELP!!!!!! virgin about to make biggest mistake of his life!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Q. My friend is 19 and a virgin. We are both going to the same college. He met this girl at a school party and she gave him head over the weekend. She later asked how many gilrs he has been with and he said 0. Her roomate is leaving this week and she ...
A. 18 October 2011: i know your intentions are good but you are just gonna have to let him live his own life and make his own mistakes (which it might NOT be by the way) tell him how you feel but don't be disappointed or annoyed if he decides to go ahead with his plans ... (read in full...)
I hit my girlfriend's brother in the face during a game of cricket and now she wont speak to me! Is she blowing this out of proportion?
Q. 10 days back, while playing game of Cricket , I hit my girlfriend’s brother in the face. Before that , he hit me for two long hits "Six Runs hit" which I couldn’t digest and bowled the next delivery with my full force, the ball took off from goo...
A. 18 October 2011: Normally I would take your side and advise your girlfriend to stop being silly. Injuries are common in sport but no, u sound as if you thoroughly enjoyed this 'accident' and it has made her see you have a cruel streak. All u can do is try to make ... (read in full...)
Haven't had any male interest since I was 14
Q. anon because I don't want anyone I know to see this thread :( Basically what the title says. I'm a 19 year old heterosexual female and I haven't had any male interest - ie. males asking me out / going on dates since I was 14. No one has asked fo...
A. 18 October 2011: ok, maybe it is that all the other girls have grown up too and now you have more competition or are you known as a girl who doesn't put out, where as the other girls do? I AM NOT SUGGESTING YOU START TO - just merely offering an explanation as to ... (read in full...)
Facebook etiquette?
Q. hey guys i had my first day at a new job today and when i got home i started to search someone on facebook to add them as a friend but i only knew her first name. anyway as i was searching i kept clicking on profiles to look at the picture to s...
A. 18 October 2011: instead of adding her directly why not ask one of your friends who she is friends with about her and if they would put in a word for you? you don't know this girl, she might HATE if some randomer tries to friend her coz he's spotted her on a friends ... (read in full...)
Was I hoping for more than my FWB can give? Should I wait or contact him to ask about his "no show"?
Q. Hi everyone my fwb was supposed to cook for me last night, and I was supposed to be staying at his. But I have not heard from him for over a week now, this is not unusual, though what should I do? should I text him? or should I wait for him to get ...
A. 18 October 2011: hope is not a tangible thing is it? like wishes and faith. next time you get so involved with someone - get something more concrete from them from the start. i have heard that men and women feel differently about sex - for us women it is more about ... (read in full...)
Is getting him back a realistic aim? My bf went back to his wife, will he ever come back to me?
Q. I am 29, 5 months pregnant. My bf left me after I called him COWARD because he was too afraid to show his face to my parents and stand up for our baby. After a day, his sister told me that he's gone back to his wife. I am in so much pain right no...
A. 18 October 2011: so he is married and he played around with you and got you pregnant and now he's walked out on you and gone back to the missus?
not a good man to have as a partner or a dad for your kids. so tell me again - why do you WANT him back??
of cour... (read in full...)
Why is my fiance trying to look different?
Q. Ever since we got engaged, my fiance has been trying to look different. While I want her to have all the freedom she wants (I don't want to be controlling), She is no longer recognizable to the attractive, beautiful woman she was. She used ...
A. 18 October 2011: why the change? has she gotten new friends? does she go out more or has changed her job? has she started to idolise someone who looks this way? (a celebrity or someone she knows) maybe she did not really feel confident before, and it does not sound ... (read in full...)
Why do I have the worst of luck in everything, including love?
Q. My main question here is why do I have the worst luck. I wonder, am I cursed? I mean, I haven't had one girl say that they liked me, I also was rejected once. I don't mean to start any religious conflict, but does someone "up there" hate me?? Let me ...
A. 18 October 2011: this is not unlucky. lots of young guys find it hard to get girls but when you get older it will get easier, especially in your thirties - if you are still single then you will have plenty of divorced single mums throwing themselves at you! :)
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do guys even want to be in a casual relationship with a girl who doesn't want to offer him sex?
Q. i've recently starting hanging out with a guy who is in an open relationship with another girl. this works for me as i'm not interested in anything serious, i just enjoy the flirting and the company because we are both attracted to each other. the ...
A. 18 October 2011: well if its gonna be a casual relationship then he is still free to pursue other girls to have sex with.
there is of course the old routine -
her - i won't be having sex with you
him - of course not, that's fine. i love you for your mind
... (read in full...)
I told him about my past, he went silent and now wont speak to me until he has 'forgiven me'!
Q. I need some help. When I was 12, i was quite badly raped and beaten to within an inch of my life (I was in ICU for the following 2/3 months afterwards.) I did not open up to anyway and I still remain that way (like, i will jump if anyone touches me, ...
A. 18 October 2011: 'forgive' you? sorry this is a deal breaker, to say that to you and walk out on you with no further contact is absolutely appalling! i hope if he does come back you tell him where to go!
after what you have been through you need someone who will... (read in full...)
How many men think sex isn't good unless a BJ in involved?
Q. How many of men consider that sex is not good without blowjob? Is intercourse alone not enough to satisfy a man? How many women would perform oral sex on a stable partner vs a casual sexual encounter?...
A. 18 October 2011: a bj is good for them coz it requires no work on their part, and also they don't have to worry about you getting an orgasm like they would be if having sex, so its good for a bit of quick relief for them, as long as a man doesn't pass up sex with me ... (read in full...)
Personality vs looks?
Q. Hi, So I was wondering... Is personality or physical attraction more important? Any thoughts would be appreciated!...
A. 18 October 2011: depends how superficial you are.
some people can be happy with only the personality and still be able to love someone they are not attracted to
some people can stay with someone who treats them like crap just coz that person is attractive
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I'm starting to see a red flag -- is it really there?
Q. I wanted your guys or girls opinion on something? I met this realy nice lady, we are about the same age we hit it off great and actually still are, though we have been going out exclusively with eachother for only 6 weeks. Now this woman has neve...
A. 13 October 2011: very often people pick up on things and it pricks their intuition but then they bury it, the question them self and try to convince their self they are over reacting. so this is tricky. the bruise and the telling you about the ex does not strike me ... (read in full...)
I'm 18, single and unemployed but I want a baby
Q. I have posted a question on here before and received good advice, therefore I wanted to ask for opinions on something that has been puzzling me for some time. I am 18 and my boyfriend is 20, despite my young age, I am desperate for a child. My ...
A. 13 October 2011: got one word for you...
hormones!
it is very natural that you have this yearning to have a baby. it is what nature intended. but i don't think you should do this just yet. it would be better if you could get a bit more of a career and money... (read in full...)
B/f wants a foursome--3 guys and me! I kind of want it too!
Q. I've had the biggest crush on this guy for like a year now. He's super adorable. We flirt all the time. He and I have been "talking" for like two months now. I love when people give me attention and he gives me the most. Last month, we were at his ...
A. 13 October 2011: it is weird yes, i find it more weird that he would want a sibling of his to be involved. is he joking?? but if you want to do it, then go ahead
but... consider the following...
you will need to practice safe sex, obviously.
and ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is not virgin! How do I forgive her?
Q. i have a relation with a girl since march 2011. after 2 months when she come to know that i love her, she told me that she is not virgin. she cried the whole night and told me that she was force by her ex-boyfriend when she was having a severe ...
A. 13 October 2011: well if what she says is true and the ex boyfriend forced her into it, it should be HIM that you need to forgive. she has done nothing wrong in my opinion anyway, but listen, if you insist on your girl being a virgin, that is your prerogative. the ... (read in full...)
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