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How do I support my husband in his business stress?

Q.   Hi all Im wondering how i can support my husband in his stress. He runs two businesses that could be successful but due to outside factors, things arent going well. He literally cannot catch a break. He most recently said: "if i have to deal wit...

A.   23 May 2018: One thing i do know, is that when you DEMAND respect, you will RECEIVE it.... (read in full...)

How do I support my husband in his business stress?

Q.   Hi all Im wondering how i can support my husband in his stress. He runs two businesses that could be successful but due to outside factors, things arent going well. He literally cannot catch a break. He most recently said: "if i have to deal wit...

A.   23 May 2018: You both need to talk asap and you need to let your husband know, that no matter what he's going through, you find it very hard to relate to him, when he gets upset or lashes out at you. You know what? THis man is your husband, so he must show ... (read in full...)

I’m a first time dater and find myself stressing about the romantic/ affectionate part of it!

Q.   Does anyone have tips for letting yourself be more romantic/affectionate with someone when it's totally outside of your comfort zone? Been seeing someone for a couple weeks now (first time ever dating) and can tell he wants more from me physical...

A.   22 May 2018: By the way, i should also mention, as you've only known this person for a few weeks, you definitely shouldn't rush into intimacy. You don't know him well enough, nor can you even trust him fully, to be too close to him. Please remember, most y... (read in full...)

I’m a first time dater and find myself stressing about the romantic/ affectionate part of it!

Q.   Does anyone have tips for letting yourself be more romantic/affectionate with someone when it's totally outside of your comfort zone? Been seeing someone for a couple weeks now (first time ever dating) and can tell he wants more from me physical...

A.   22 May 2018: There may be various reasons, but i was thinking, perhaps you're afraid of moving too fast, especially if you're thinking way ahead and thinking that when you are ready to allow this person to enter your personal space, he may try to take things ... (read in full...)

In a long term relationship but now some things are bothering me!

Q.   Hi. I am in a long term relationship (over 4 years) now. I do love my boyfriend very much, however recently a few 'issues' which ordinarily I would just ignore have started eating away at me. The first, I have found myself looking at other guys more ...

A.   21 May 2018: Have a think about the pros vs cons of what you have together and see what weighs in more. Never take risks or chances with others, UNLESS, you can truly see that you've no real future together. Your wandering eye, well it sounds as though... (read in full...)

Why does my married boyfriend love me one day and hate me the next?

Q.   Hi. I have been in a "relationship" with a married man for approximately 5 years. Before I begin, I am asking not to be judged. I truly and honestly go through enough pain because of the situation I put myself in. And I know what everyone here will ...

A.   21 May 2018: May i also add, As you've placed yourself "out there" via this site, you have placed yourself in a position, to receive "constructive criticism". ... (read in full...)

Why does my married boyfriend love me one day and hate me the next?

Q.   Hi. I have been in a "relationship" with a married man for approximately 5 years. Before I begin, I am asking not to be judged. I truly and honestly go through enough pain because of the situation I put myself in. And I know what everyone here will ...

A.   21 May 2018: You don't want to be judged nor criticised, HOWEVER, i am hear to let you know, that regardless of what you say, you WILL be judged and criticised to some extent. Why? Because this entire situation exists, not because of this scumbag, sleazeb... (read in full...)

Does he have a disorder or is he just a liar?

Q.   Hello i have a question, i have been dating this guy for 3 months but am confused about his character.The first time met him, he told he was born Jan 30th, the next time i asked he said 20th feb 1979 i asked to see his Id it was 1th Jan 1978. Last ...

A.   21 May 2018: This guy is a compulsive liar and yes, he does know exactly what he's doing, even though he may not realise the severity of his actions. It doesn't sound as though he respects himself enough to tell the truth, so how can he remotely respect ... (read in full...)

Our sex life is non existent

Q.   Me and my gf sex life is non existent. Sometimes I look forward to it and it can be over so soon. No foreplay happens, she doesn’t let me go anywhere near her for foreplay. She used to be really wild, and now it’s gone to nothing. I’m still up for ...

A.   21 May 2018: Oh and do not play the "blame game". Speak on behalf of "both" of you and be "inclusive" regarding your concerns, rather than being "exclusive" and trying to make your gf feel bad or guilty. Remember, she may not be doing anything with "i... (read in full...)

Our sex life is non existent

Q.   Me and my gf sex life is non existent. Sometimes I look forward to it and it can be over so soon. No foreplay happens, she doesn’t let me go anywhere near her for foreplay. She used to be really wild, and now it’s gone to nothing. I’m still up for ...

A.   21 May 2018: You mention you're 29 & your gf is 24. Your age bracket noted is between "30 to 35". You need to TALK to your gf about this issue and how you feel about it. When you sit down together and discuss your concerns, then i am almost certain, your gf... (read in full...)

He's addicted to sex sites and internet dating. I want my old man back!

Q.   My live in man of 20 yes he is addictied to internet dating and sex sites.his treatment of me in last couple months he says not doing anything but he is I am a worthless I have tried everything just to get him to come bed with me he say ok then ...

A.   21 May 2018: This doesn't sound good at all. Your man is "addicted" to online dating and online porn unfortunately. Addictions can be very hard to overcome, but they can be overcome, if the person with the addiction, really wants to put effort into tryi... (read in full...)

I have a huge crush on the perfect girl but we're both in relationships. Should I still get her number in case we break up with our partners in the future?

Q.   Im in a class with a girl, who when I first saw her thought she was pretty but didnt think much of it. As Ive got to know her a little better over the semester and she is so smart! Probably the most intelligent in the class. She honestly seems so ...

A.   19 May 2018: No, you should not maintain contact ongoingly, with this female classmate. Why? Because you know you want more than mere friendship. You are both within respective relationships and even though you like this girl very much, it isn't fair... (read in full...)

How to change her behaviour and thinking?

Q.   I have been in a relationship for 3 years now and I have the known her very well but sometimes still our thoughts,thinkings are very different and I think she usually takes a situation negatively and I mostly get angry while handling situation and ...

A.   18 May 2018: Your comments come across as a bit 'bizarre". You cannot change anybody's personality and ways of thinking. Your gf is in your own words, "negative and stubborn" and you are mostly "angry" when dealing with a situation. This is what individu... (read in full...)

He hasn’t initiated a date and I’m wondering if I’m being played!

Q.   Hello everyone! So I’ve been on a few dates with this guy, who I really like! He’s a mutual friend, but I don’t know much about him. The first date was good, we had plenty to talk about but we were trying to impress each other quite a lot b...

A.   18 May 2018: Forgive me, however, you are coming across as a bit "paranoid" and "desperate". Desperate to hear from this guy and a guy you've only dated twice! It sounds as though you are now living much of your daily life, revolving around HIS and this is ... (read in full...)

Should I keep in touch and message him from time to time? Or leave it to him? And how long are we on hold for?

Q.   i met someone in february at a friends party and we hit it off immediately, only he suffers from mental health issues because of a past abusive relationship anyway recently my mum had a go at him through Facebook for going to see his friend instead ...

A.   18 May 2018: I hear that you really like this guy, however, he is dealing with a mental health issue and really, he should be taking care of "himself" before he can engage in a healthy/stable relationship with "you". I am not being discriminatory here, bu... (read in full...)

Why does my husband look up his ex after we argue?

Q.   Anytime I have a really big argument with my husband, the next day or day after I check his internet history. I did this once years ago as I felt paranoid after the fight. I really really hate arguing, it freaks me out. So the first time I did it, I ...

A.   18 May 2018: Only your husband knows the full truth/reason behind his connecting with his ex's, however, i would be more concerned, as to why you both have to argue the way you do. You shouldn't have to argue all the time and certainly not do things that wil... (read in full...)

I don't think this party girl is girlfriend material. Should I break up?

Q.   I'm 32 years old my girlfriend is22. We're dating for four months and I still have doubts about her if she is gf material to me. Bottom line is she's a party girl, to me a girl who likes to party and drink and have sex with a lot of dudes is not ...

A.   18 May 2018: I haven't got a huge amount to say here, bec it's all been covered wonderfully by other readers. You are really NO DIFFERENT to your younger gf. The age difference, i personally think/feel is the real issue here, bec you're both at differen... (read in full...)

Any advice on dealing with my strange boss?

Q.   I have recently started a new job that I really enjoy and my new boss is very strange. One minute he is full on saying the coffees on him as I done a great job ...then leaves before the pre arranged meeting time so we have no coffee and no ...

A.   18 May 2018: Just give yourself more time, to get to find out more about your boss's personality, as you've admitted you do like your job. You wouldn't want to make any hasty/ill informed decisions, to only find out later, that your boss was actually a well m... (read in full...)

Boyfriend ignores me for computer games, should I be upset?

Q.   Hi, I feel like this is a bit of a strange question and I'm not sure if I am allowed to feel this way or not. Hopefully you can shed some light for me. I've been with my boyfriend for 10 years and recently moved in together 3 years ago. I fe...

A.   18 May 2018: If he really and truly wishes for your relationship to survive the long haul, then he is going to have to make a change here. He is with YOU, he is not SINGLE and if he wants to play games day and night, night and day, then he shouldn't be in a ... (read in full...)

Two people in as little as a week have brought me to a choice, and it's tearing me apart.

Q.   For someone bisexual who hasn't had any experience in dating or relationships, I've suddenly been forced with a choice. A woman at work has taken interest in me, and we talk every now and then. Surprisingly, she asked me out on a date. She's nice ...

A.   17 May 2018: I agree with "Youcannotbeserious". You don't need to rush at all, nor make any hasty decisions that you may later regret. You definitely need to meet this guy in person first, so you can really assess your physical connection, before coming to... (read in full...)

Did my boyfriend snub my son by not saying goodbye to him?

Q.   Something is bugging me. I drove my boyfriend to work today. His car is in the shop and he doesn't live with me. My 13 year-old son was in the car too. After I dropped off my boyfriend, I was going to drop my son off at school. Well, my boyfr...

A.   17 May 2018: UNLESS you know something "negative" about your bf and your son's relationship, then i would say, try not to worry too much, about your bf not saying a specific goodbye to your son. I know it may seem rude to you, because you're his Mother, ... (read in full...)

I wish he would look at me and see I'm drowning, instead of calling me lazy, or belittling my parenting, cooking, whatever.

Q.   I have a laundry list of concerns that I have really no one to turn to with. So I moved across the country to be with my bf and so our family could be together. 2 and a half yrs and 2 babies later, I'm unhappy. It hurts to admit. I have a roof ove...

A.   16 May 2018: Also, in reference to your relationship issues, have you guys ever thought about seeing a Relationship Counsellor together? I'd always advise everybody, to give their relationship their very best shot, before ever throwing in the towel. UNLESS ... (read in full...)

I wish he would look at me and see I'm drowning, instead of calling me lazy, or belittling my parenting, cooking, whatever.

Q.   I have a laundry list of concerns that I have really no one to turn to with. So I moved across the country to be with my bf and so our family could be together. 2 and a half yrs and 2 babies later, I'm unhappy. It hurts to admit. I have a roof ove...

A.   16 May 2018: Ok, i hear you and it all sounds quite complicated, however, in the grand scheme of things, it's not. You have numerous options here, however, the PRIMARY option is this. You should talk to your partner, REGARDLESS, of how he feels/reacts, ab... (read in full...)

I feel like a blow up doll!

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for over two years and when we first got together we had so much sex. Non stop multiple times a day. He even gave me my first ever orgasm. Things were great. But for some reason the past year I've been less wanting to ...

A.   16 May 2018: I agree with all Honeypie has stated, however, i would also add, a healthy relationship isn't only about "sex". I'm sorry, but as much as healthy sex in a healthy relationship is important, it's certainly not the be all and end all. What wo... (read in full...)

Do I give my ex with a drinking problem a second chance?

Q.   Do I give my ex with a drinking problem a second chance? I had been with my boyfriend for about 11 months now and I recently decided to end our relationship because of his drinking habit. I wasn't happy about his drinking early on but I t...

A.   16 May 2018: I can so relate to you & your situation, because i've been there, so here goes............. Do NOT take this guy back, because UNLESS he's in the midst of seeking serious treatment for his drinking problem, then guess what? He will NEVER chang... (read in full...)

I am upset at how he dealt with Mother’s Day! What would you do in my shoes?

Q.   Hello. My bf and I are 35, cohabitating. We have kids but not with each other although I am quite close with his. I was really upset on mother’s day because I woke up to an empty, messy house but a gift and cards left out. Apparently he thought the ...

A.   16 May 2018: Your bf didn't tidy up before he left, but just maybe, he didn't want to make too much noise, so as not to wake you up, plus he was getting ready to take the kids out. I am sure he didn't mean to leave everything to you, to do on Mother's Day. ... (read in full...)

I am upset at how he dealt with Mother’s Day! What would you do in my shoes?

Q.   Hello. My bf and I are 35, cohabitating. We have kids but not with each other although I am quite close with his. I was really upset on mother’s day because I woke up to an empty, messy house but a gift and cards left out. Apparently he thought the ...

A.   16 May 2018: I seriously think you created an "absolute drama" out of nothing. Your bf, so far as HE knew, was doing the very best he could do for you, "under the "circumstances" of that day. His actions have nothing to do with how he feels for you and it d... (read in full...)

Possibly pregnant from a one night stand

Q.   Im probably overthinking this at the moment , i had a date with a guy and we both got pretty drunk. We went back to his and slept together im now thinking if we had a little accident then i would be pregnant. its too late for the morning after pill. ...

A.   15 May 2018: You may be pregnant, however, you actually may not be. As you're in your 40s, pregnancy doesn't always occur quickly, although it can. I would strongly encourage you, to arrange an appointment with your GP asap. There is no time for delays h... (read in full...)

Why his sudden change in behaviour?

Q.   I met a guy through mutual friends age took my number . We had an amazing first long conversation on call followed by a couple of video calls sessions . There were no romantic talks but we were planning to meet up. I agree he is busy but he used to ...

A.   14 May 2018: You cannot do anything and you do not need to do anything. You both met, you both got on well, you both liked each other, however, this guy, he may not be ready for anything more. He may not want to pursue anything with you or anybody at this ... (read in full...)

My ex said hurtful things about my body. I'm self conscious and my get up and go has gone

Q.   I I hope you guys don't mind me asking for advice. I have been feeling low since splitting with my ex around 5 month ago, I have lost my get up and go and I work and then come home and that's it or I go to bed and fall asleep crying. My ex said I ...

A.   14 May 2018: It really is amazing how cruel the human race can be! The human tongue, specifically, is the sharpest thing ever. People should always THINK before they SPEAK/ACT, yet most people don't unfortunately. What we must remember though, is that... (read in full...)

My ex-girlfriend's confession has re-opened old wounds

Q.   My girlfriend of close to 3 years split up with me a couple of months ago. It felt like a total blindside because I never saw it coming. I haven't taken it well. I've dealt with significant anxiety and depression since. I had asked extensivel...

A.   13 May 2018: Your ex gf is messing with your head and this isn't really about the two of you, but about HER. She has been selfish and she lied to you, by way of not disclosing her affair with you. If she truly loved you and cared about you, she would NEVER ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend says he wants to get back together eventually

Q.   Background story: My boyfriend and I broke up in what initially was in good terms last month. We were together for 7 years, we were fighting too much and became so busy with our own lives that maybe we drifted away. We figured maybe we needed time ...

A.   13 May 2018: I agree fully with all Agony Aunts. You are wasting your life and precious time with this man. 7 years together and he still doesn't know exactly what he wants?! Sure you're both young, however, after 7 years he would have committed "fu... (read in full...)

Getting over my married boss

Q.   I have a huge crush on my male boss who retires next week-what should I do? He is married, 55, with grown up children. I am 31, living with my bf but he's pretty boring and things haven't been great in terms of my emotional connect with him for ...

A.   13 May 2018: Sorry, i meant to add, you're in a relationship, so you should focus on your own relationship, rather than focus on something "unattainable and wrong". If you're having serious relational issues, then you and your partner go to professi... (read in full...)

Getting over my married boss

Q.   I have a huge crush on my male boss who retires next week-what should I do? He is married, 55, with grown up children. I am 31, living with my bf but he's pretty boring and things haven't been great in terms of my emotional connect with him for ...

A.   13 May 2018: Also, i forgot to mention. You should keep a wide berth from your boss, to the best of your ability, as you know this cannot be healthy. Don't allow yourself to be placed in a position whereby you and he are alone, knowing full well, that this ... (read in full...)

Getting over my married boss

Q.   I have a huge crush on my male boss who retires next week-what should I do? He is married, 55, with grown up children. I am 31, living with my bf but he's pretty boring and things haven't been great in terms of my emotional connect with him for ...

A.   13 May 2018: This is very simply solved and you've pretty much summed it all up for yourself, by all you've expressed. You know what's going on here and you know what you'd like to happen, but guess what?! You CANNOT and WILL NOT have this man, period!! ... (read in full...)

How to tell my best friend I am transgender

Q.   dear cupid i have to tell my best friend that i am transgender but he is not good with change and i don't know how i should tell him as not to like freak him out about this big change ...

A.   13 May 2018: This is your best friend and best friends are supposed to be our greatest supporters and they don't "judge" us as others may. If your best friend is truly sincere toward you, then you telling him about you being transgender, shouldn't really b... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and I have very different views

Q.   I have very different views of life to my partner. We get along great, I am very comfortable with him, he goes out of his way for me, we like each other's company, he makes me feel attractive and is into me. However, sometimes he says things t...

A.   13 May 2018: Sorry, however, i meant to say, your partner should show "full respect" when in your company.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and I have very different views

Q.   I have very different views of life to my partner. We get along great, I am very comfortable with him, he goes out of his way for me, we like each other's company, he makes me feel attractive and is into me. However, sometimes he says things t...

A.   13 May 2018: Your relationship, to you, may sound great for the most part, but to an outsider like me, it doesn't sound too good, to be brutally honest. I don't think that your relationship is in dire straits, however, if you and your partner are to survive ... (read in full...)

Why does being a mistress feel worse than being alone?

Q.   I 've been seeing a man who lives with his common law wife and their toddler twin boys. I believed he will leave his live in Significant other as he promised and it would turn into something more . Well it seems like he was in strictly for sex.He n...

A.   12 May 2018: You feel worse off, because this man isn't in love with you, he isn't committed to you, YET he can still sleep with you, at his every command. You know he isn't going to leave his wife for you and you know he is using you sexually and this mak... (read in full...)

Why did he invite me, then say nothing about me going with him?

Q.   I’ve been seeing a guy for almost 4 mths. I’ve met his friends but not yet his family. From what he has said they know about me and he’s tried to introduce us before, however that was about 2 mths ago, which I felt to soon. He has met some of my f...

A.   12 May 2018: Just go with the flow and there is never any need to rush. Honestly, if things are meant to be for the two of you, they will be. When two people are very keen on each other, they'll always work toward making things happen and making things wo... (read in full...)

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