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We had plans, should I keep him as a friend?

Q.   I have been friends with this guy for a year now and we have recently gotten pretty close. se seemed like a really easy going person and cool guy to hang out with. He really opens up about his life and we have many deep conversations. Well this past ...

A.   23 November 2017: I would not advise you to keep this guy as your friend. He has already proven to be a big let down and he lied to you above all else. Even a friendship cannot be sustained by 'his actions". For any type of relationship to work lon... (read in full...)

How do I tell him his breath smells?

Q.   I am seeing the most amazing person I have ever met, but I have a problem. His breath always smells and I have no idea how to bring this sensitive subject up without hurting his feelings. I did not notice it at first, but recently I have become ...

A.   23 November 2017: Firstly, bad breath (halitosis) is quite a common issue, even if you do brush your teeth daily. There are MANY things that can cause bad breath, but the primary factors that cause bad breath are, -Poor oral hygiene -Obvious illness ... (read in full...)

I've never cheated but my husband is accusing me off it because he says I am "loose"

Q.   am a young woman of 25yrs I have two children all through c section,av never slept with any other man for the past six years.my spouse is accusing me of cheating because my vagaina is loose he had started an affair outside..am shattered what can be ...

A.   22 November 2017: Your husband is very abusive and is using this pitiful "excuse", as HIS EXCUSE to behave abusively and sleazily toward you. He is a horrible person and i can assure you that your vagina is not loose, as HE CLAIMS IT TO BE. A woman's vagina i... (read in full...)

Can you help explain my boyfriend's strange behaviour?

Q.   I have a bizarre problem! I've been seeing my boyfriend for ten months and we often go away and stay at hotels but the thing is he picks me up after work about 3pm then when we arrive at our hotel he wants to literally go to bed straightaway and ...

A.   22 November 2017: Why don't you try a totally different tactic here? When he asks you to go to the hotel with him, let him know that you won't be this time around, as you don't like the way he's acting and be totally upfront with him about exactly what you like/dis... (read in full...)

I'm like a weekend hobby for my boyfriend while his sister and nephew are his real family

Q.   I have been dating a guy in a long distance relationship for 2 years. He lives 50 miles away and I only see him at weekends. In the week he lives with his widowed sister and works with her son to help him out as he is retired. The other week for the ...

A.   22 November 2017: You shouldn't simply SETTLE for a man, just because YOU like him. Your bf lives far away from you and it's little wonder the two of you aren't closer. You simply haven't spent enough one on one time together and no relationship can stand this t... (read in full...)

I feel that my boyfriend's ex wife was living my dream life and I'll never match up to her

Q.   Dear Cupid, I am off for the next week due to holidays and as my boyfriend is working, I offered to work on clearing out his storage. Now he has an ex wife of 10 years(divorced in 2009) and I brought home a ton of boxes that were never unpacked. ...

A.   22 November 2017: Oh i do sincerely apologise, as i meant to refer to you as your partner's girlfriend, not his wife! I should make note, my msg is still relevant, with the exception that you're both not married to one another, however, if you do love him enough t... (read in full...)

I feel that my boyfriend's ex wife was living my dream life and I'll never match up to her

Q.   Dear Cupid, I am off for the next week due to holidays and as my boyfriend is working, I offered to work on clearing out his storage. Now he has an ex wife of 10 years(divorced in 2009) and I brought home a ton of boxes that were never unpacked. ...

A.   22 November 2017: For your own sake, please LET GO of the past and specifically, "your husband's past". It's actually quite easy to do. You don't dwell on it, you don't waste all of your time thinking about it and what transpired before. You are comparing YOU... (read in full...)

I'm married but starting to get obsessed with the guy my husband and I had a threesome with

Q.   Over a year ago my husband and i had a sexual threesome with a single male friend of ours after a night of drinking...this was totally my husbands idea..I was always attracted to this friend but had no intentions of taking it any furthur, even ...

A.   22 November 2017: You should either work very hard at saving or salvaging what's left of your marriage, or file for divorce. You can't go on indefinitely, playing games between your husband and your lover. Your husband actually deserves more from you.... (read in full...)

I'm married but starting to get obsessed with the guy my husband and I had a threesome with

Q.   Over a year ago my husband and i had a sexual threesome with a single male friend of ours after a night of drinking...this was totally my husbands idea..I was always attracted to this friend but had no intentions of taking it any furthur, even ...

A.   22 November 2017: My question? Did you ever love your husband in the first place? From all you've written about your husband, i believe i can answer that one for you. I doubt it very much! You're clearly obsessed by this guy and you've already broken th... (read in full...)

He's taken my wife. Should I be worried?

Q.   my wife an I have been married for 3 years. however things have been interesting for last 18 months. we have a neighbour Raymond who is divorced for a long time and is 44. he has two girls about 8 and 12. me and my wife are both 28. however 18 ...

A.   22 November 2017: I think you're "taking the Micky" out of all of us. Your story sounds pretty "weird" to say the least. If you are legit, surely you know the truth?! Your wife's made her decision hasn't she? The worst and saddest part. You guys don't ... (read in full...)

The guy I've liked from afar is being a little wierd

Q.   Hi, I need some advice, I haven't dated in ages, I am 43, just went through a rough patch with major losses, illness etc, now better but I am still fragile. Anyway, since last year I meet maybe every 2/3 months this guy through work, older (I ...

A.   22 November 2017: Have you thought about joining a local social group for people who have lost a loved one? There are such groups around and i'm thinking it may really help you on a number of levels. I know you mentioned that you're going to "therapy" groups... (read in full...)

My confidence is wrecked, I regret telling people the truth about my ex boyfriend.

Q.   I just want to vent about a situation that still bothers me. Basically I had a 6 month relationship with a guy I worked with. He was the first person I'd been with after my marriage broke up. I guess because I was vulnerable and feeling really crap ...

A.   20 November 2017: It's never easy, nor fair, when these things happen to us, HOWEVER, what's truly most important, is that you've learnt from this experience. NO life experience, good or bad, is ever a waste of time, because ALL experiences teach us importan... (read in full...)

I sent him a nude, I hope he hasn't lost respect for me.

Q.   I posted a while ago saying i had a met a man with quite an usual job- he's a travel author (fairly successful). He is 35 years old, is in the public eye quite a lot and has a lot of female attention. I went on 2 dates with him back in june but then ...

A.   20 November 2017: Sorry, a typo made within my previous reply. Never, ever be too trusting of somebody you've just met or don't know very well. Also, think about this. If you really liked a guy and he sent you images of his penis, either flaccid or erect,... (read in full...)

The guy I've liked from afar is being a little wierd

Q.   Hi, I need some advice, I haven't dated in ages, I am 43, just went through a rough patch with major losses, illness etc, now better but I am still fragile. Anyway, since last year I meet maybe every 2/3 months this guy through work, older (I ...

A.   20 November 2017: Thank you for your reply and it's nice to hear your thoughts. I'm sorry to hear that you've only just lost your Father and haven't been well, but do know, that in time, you will begin to see the light again and life will be much more enjoyabl... (read in full...)

Am I reasonable to choose money over potential happiness?

Q.   Dear aunts, I am in a fix as I type this. I made a first attempt at online dating about 7 months ago and the only guy I really had an interest in, we hit it off. It was rocky at first but we are amazing now and not a day goes by without us chatting ...

A.   20 November 2017: Also, you've stated that you reside in the US, yet you tell the reader you live in Africa. Why?... (read in full...)

Am I reasonable to choose money over potential happiness?

Q.   Dear aunts, I am in a fix as I type this. I made a first attempt at online dating about 7 months ago and the only guy I really had an interest in, we hit it off. It was rocky at first but we are amazing now and not a day goes by without us chatting ...

A.   20 November 2017: Honestly, you have tried to start something with somebody else, all based on untruths and lies. You should have informed this guy, from the BEGINNING, that you do not work, haven't worked for 5 long years and cannot support yourself. Simply ... (read in full...)

The guy I've liked from afar is being a little wierd

Q.   Hi, I need some advice, I haven't dated in ages, I am 43, just went through a rough patch with major losses, illness etc, now better but I am still fragile. Anyway, since last year I meet maybe every 2/3 months this guy through work, older (I ...

A.   20 November 2017: I have had personal experience with this situation and i didn't allow anything more to come of "his moves". In the end, he was fired, because he was caught sleazing onto somebody else! This is what these men do, they will try with one and if ... (read in full...)

The guy I've liked from afar is being a little wierd

Q.   Hi, I need some advice, I haven't dated in ages, I am 43, just went through a rough patch with major losses, illness etc, now better but I am still fragile. Anyway, since last year I meet maybe every 2/3 months this guy through work, older (I ...

A.   20 November 2017: This guy is not a SERIOUS GUY and doesn't appear to have a true interest in anything serious with you. You guys meet up at these work meetings and it's all very casual. Casual meetings, casual moves, on his part and very odd ones at that! ... (read in full...)

I sent him a nude, I hope he hasn't lost respect for me.

Q.   I posted a while ago saying i had a met a man with quite an usual job- he's a travel author (fairly successful). He is 35 years old, is in the public eye quite a lot and has a lot of female attention. I went on 2 dates with him back in june but then ...

A.   20 November 2017: I should also add, you've already turned this guy on with your "nude image", you've "titillated" his senses by way of "visual temptation" and now he wants the "real thing". Ask yourself, is this how i really want to be treated/viewed by a guy that... (read in full...)

I sent him a nude, I hope he hasn't lost respect for me.

Q.   I posted a while ago saying i had a met a man with quite an usual job- he's a travel author (fairly successful). He is 35 years old, is in the public eye quite a lot and has a lot of female attention. I went on 2 dates with him back in june but then ...

A.   20 November 2017: You sent this guy a "nude image" of yourself and then he "suddenly" ramps up his interest in you. Can you see the connection here? See this a "red flag", because by offering your body to him via text/social media, has made him "see" you as an ... (read in full...)

Do I fight to keep her or let her go?

Q.   So out of the blue my fiance has broken up with me, we've been together almost 3 years and engaged since May. I love her and want to be with her, she says it's because of my messiness and it's effect on her mental health. I've never been this ope...

A.   20 November 2017: Thanks for your update and i'm sorry to hear that both you and your fiance have depression and anxiety and on top of that your fiance has cyclothymia. I can imagine that it would be very hard for you, to understand her sudden mood changes,... (read in full...)

How can I learn my value?

Q.   How Can I learn my value? I am insecure and I have let people walk over me - use me- and leave me - friends and lovers . I have worked on the outside (lost the weight - got the degrees - got a better corporate job) but I still fear saying no- I ...

A.   17 November 2017: Reading through your post, i could "completely relate" and it was as though i was reading about my "former" self. I was EXACTLY like you, so i really get where you're coming from. You know, you DON'T need to become a harder, colder or differ... (read in full...)

Is it too much to hope that things might work out with my ex?

Q.   My ex text me after a week. After breaking up, briefly getting back together, then breaking up again, my ex text me asking how I was. We'd been having difficulties for a while because I just felt that my bf wasn't giving me any of his time. He was...

A.   17 November 2017: You've written in recently and i remember replying to your question, so too, many others with smart and well meaning advice. Sorry to sound rude, however, did you read everybody's comments? If so, most of us advised you to NOT get back with yo... (read in full...)

How do I tell potential dates that I do not engage in sex outside marriage vows?

Q.   Hi I am going to start online dating . I don’t want to have sex before marriage . I am not virgin I was married before. Mostly folks respect your decision ( not sex before marriage) if you are virgin . If you are not virgin they don’t respect ...

A.   17 November 2017: Just be open and honest about your preferences from the beginning, because you don't want to end up with somebody who "assumes" you're open to sex before marriage and then finds out from you that you're not. Imagine if you spent some time with a g... (read in full...)

Should we remain friends

Q.   I left a man i love because he preferred open relationships. He took the initiative to remain in touch with me by occasionally texting me and asking me out. One one hand, i was still attracted to him and my heart beat whenever i saw his messages. On ...

A.   16 November 2017: You should make sure that when you say you've "blocked" him, that you NEVER go back and "unblock" him, because if you ever do, you're right back at square one, with the same feelings and the same problems. You are both incompatible long term, as... (read in full...)

Does she really love me like I love her?

Q.   I just recently found out that my wife, I'm a lesbian, only watches straight porn. I'm questioning a lot now, not so much about how I feel about her but if I could ever truly make her happy or if I have ever truly satisfied her. She's brought it u...

A.   16 November 2017: I am sure your wife loves you totally and is very turned on by you, OTHERWISE, i doubt you'd still be together. You know, your wife's fascination with "straight porn" may actually be purely out of "CURIOSITY" if anything. She may just like to... (read in full...)

Help me sort out my feelings

Q.   Hi, I'm not sure where to start really. I've been in a relationship for 4 years. Basically I felt that he couldn't commit to me. He never asked me to move in or when we'd talk about it he'd come up with so many excuses, he had issues showing h...

A.   16 November 2017: I don't think that either men are good for you and you should cut all ties with both. Your ex couldn't commit to you, when he had 4 long years to do so and this guy at work, please don't waste your time. Dating work colleagues is a bad idea an... (read in full...)

If we could be friends should I try?

Q.   Should I keep speaking to him, and try and be friends? I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years about 2 weeks ago and it's killing me. We broke it off about 2 months ago, then briefly got back together before we realised nothing had changed. We'...

A.   16 November 2017: You're still young. The world is your oyster, so please try not to worry about your ex bf. As many have mentioned, if he was genuinely interested in you, he'd definitely make time for you and he'd NEVER place you right at the bottom of his prio... (read in full...)

My dad intentionally tried to shame and humiliate me at my wedding.

Q.   I've had a very distressed relationship with my family since I was born really. It's pure dysfunction. My mom is mentally ill and I no longer communicate with her. Leaving me and my sister to look up to and rely on my dad as a sole parent for most ...

A.   15 November 2017: I should also add and i'm sorry for not mentioning it prior, however, i am sorry for what you had to endure on one of the happiest days of your life, your wedding day. You can still choose to remember it as that very special day and without ... (read in full...)

My dad intentionally tried to shame and humiliate me at my wedding.

Q.   I've had a very distressed relationship with my family since I was born really. It's pure dysfunction. My mom is mentally ill and I no longer communicate with her. Leaving me and my sister to look up to and rely on my dad as a sole parent for most ...

A.   15 November 2017: I can strongly relate to you and what you've been and are going through. I've dealt with much milder symptoms of what you regularly endure, but still, i have endured. My advice would be, steer clear of all those who give you a hard time and fi... (read in full...)

He never wants to spend time with me!

Q.   Hi everyone I've been with my fiance now for 4 years we have 2 children I already had my daughter when we met then we had a baby girl who is now 2 the problem is he never wants to spend anytime with us he goes to work on a morning comes home at 4.15 ...

A.   15 November 2017: Try having another serious chat with your fiance and let him know EXACTLY how you feel and what you EXPECT from him and from your relationship. Let him know that his continual ignorance isn't helping your relationship at all and that even your dau... (read in full...)

Can you help me find the words to express how I feel about him?

Q.   hi there im 35, ive been speaking to a man for a while now, i find it very hard expressing myself, i want to tell him the strong feelings i have for him, but i get embarrassed, would someone word it for me please xx...

A.   15 November 2017: You should meet this man first and get to know him much better before declaring your feelings for him. Sharing this very personal part of you with another, is only worthy, if/when you can see/feel that those feelings are somehow being reciproc... (read in full...)

Do I fight to keep her or let her go?

Q.   So out of the blue my fiance has broken up with me, we've been together almost 3 years and engaged since May. I love her and want to be with her, she says it's because of my messiness and it's effect on her mental health. I've never been this ope...

A.   15 November 2017: You're not an alcoholic, a thief, a gambler, a womaniser, a drug addict, so i don't see why you being "messy," is enough for your ex fiancee, to break up with you after 3 long years. Whilst i don't like mess myself, i certainly wouldn't break up... (read in full...)

Mum kept hitting me with a shoe

Q.   I can't talk to my mum and I think she's being abusive. So this is the thing right. My mum just loses it all the time. It's like there's a war going on in my house. It always happens when I come home from school. We just yell at each other. She ...

A.   15 November 2017: I should also add, you should prepare a roster, either on a blackboard or a written roster for all required daily chores, then place it on the wall, where you walk past daily, so you can see it and not forget to check it. You may only have to ... (read in full...)

Mum kept hitting me with a shoe

Q.   I can't talk to my mum and I think she's being abusive. So this is the thing right. My mum just loses it all the time. It's like there's a war going on in my house. It always happens when I come home from school. We just yell at each other. She ...

A.   15 November 2017: Whilst i believe that you must always show respect toward your parents and you must always do ask you're asked by your parents, i do not think that your Mother should be hitting you with a plastic shoe. In many countries, this is called, child ab... (read in full...)

Accepted a job but I feel over qualified

Q.   Hi. I have done my postgraduation in biotech in 2014. Since then till now at end of 2017, I am continuously giving interviews for research post. As some people may know, there are very less jobs in biotech in India and that too ask for NET ...

A.   15 November 2017: I should also add, do never forget that EVERY SINGLE JOB, on earth, exists because it has it's place in society and because it's required and needed. Don't forget that ever. I work within the medical field and i regard myself as well educated... (read in full...)

Accepted a job but I feel over qualified

Q.   Hi. I have done my postgraduation in biotech in 2014. Since then till now at end of 2017, I am continuously giving interviews for research post. As some people may know, there are very less jobs in biotech in India and that too ask for NET ...

A.   15 November 2017: May i say, do not carry so much arrogance and behave so narcissistically. You may have credentials, however, you've no proper, nor real practical experience, so there's no need to get yourself so worked up and to feel so embarrassed. To even... (read in full...)

Whatwas he trying to prove?

Q.   Had a major fight with my husband and then he went online (on my computer) and looked up ALL of his exes and past flings on social media! Don't think he contacted any of them but why would he do that?...

A.   14 November 2017: Your husband is passive-aggressive by the sound of things and actually, he's very "emotionally immature". For a grown man, he still hasn't grown up "emotionally", hence his ridiculous behaviour. Honestly, a quarrel within marriage, should... (read in full...)

Should I risk involvement when he might travel abroad?

Q.   I am dating a guy, we have been conversing for a good few weeks now. He seems very interested and we get on really well. He recently told me however that he is planning on going abroad to live with his friend next year. When he said this he s...

A.   14 November 2017: You've only just known this guy for a "few weeks" and honestly, in the grand scheme of things, 2 weeks is nothing. I am unsure if you've had prior experience with dating, however, it's going to take "much, much more" than 2 mere weeks to get to k... (read in full...)

I'm growing uncomfortable with his questions! Should I go meet him for coffee?

Q.   Dear Cupid, I met a 41 year old guy who describes himself as sophisticated, also wants a sophisticated lady, online.He writes he is ready for a new relationship. He writes he has never been married, has no children and lives alone. He has a ...

A.   13 November 2017: This guy isn't interested in pursuing a "proper" relationship with you and all the signs are right in front of you. This guy, he's got a few favourite fetishes up his sleeve and he wants to use YOU to make his fetishes come true. He's tapped i... (read in full...)

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