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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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My girlfriend is in debt due to paying some of her adult son's expenses. Should I help her financially? She hasn't asked me to
Q. My gf works in a low paid job.I also work, and earn more than her, but not a fortune.Which is why I pay for all our holidays, going out to restaurants, and most of her new clothes (which she spends quite a lot on). On the other side, I live in her ...
A. 3 October 2016: The good news is that she owns her own home: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-should-we-divide-up-living-costs-in.html It’s rather surprising that you haven’t worked this out after this many years. In another post you report you have been tog... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is in debt due to paying some of her adult son's expenses. Should I help her financially? She hasn't asked me to
Q. My gf works in a low paid job.I also work, and earn more than her, but not a fortune.Which is why I pay for all our holidays, going out to restaurants, and most of her new clothes (which she spends quite a lot on). On the other side, I live in her ...
A. 3 October 2016: One thing to add, how much extra are you paying for the insurance on an empty property? In personal experience, it wasn’t possible for us to afford to leave a vacant property because the insurance company wouldn’t insure it.
Unless you are misr... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is in debt due to paying some of her adult son's expenses. Should I help her financially? She hasn't asked me to
Q. My gf works in a low paid job.I also work, and earn more than her, but not a fortune.Which is why I pay for all our holidays, going out to restaurants, and most of her new clothes (which she spends quite a lot on). On the other side, I live in her ...
A. 3 October 2016: Hi there! You wrote about this girlfriend two years ago, I think: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/who-do-i-leave-my-money-to.html In that post, you were wondering how much money to leave to your girlfriend and if you could cut off your bone-idle ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for your BF to have a tryst in an hour?
Q. Likely or unlikely? Possible or not possible? Your boyfriend goes to the Home Depot and is gone for exactly one hour. Is it possible for him to leave his car in the Home Depot parking lot, have another woman pick him up, take him somewhere ...
A. 3 October 2016: "He is trying to prove to her once and for all that he is not cheating. And wants to calm her fears and worries." Ah but this woman's fears and worries are so out of control she's trying to figure out if a trip to Home Depot is a secret tryst.
T... (read in full...)
Is it possible for your BF to have a tryst in an hour?
Q. Likely or unlikely? Possible or not possible? Your boyfriend goes to the Home Depot and is gone for exactly one hour. Is it possible for him to leave his car in the Home Depot parking lot, have another woman pick him up, take him somewhere ...
A. 3 October 2016: You have a GPS tracker on him and what has it done to settle your questions and upset?
Nothing. Zero. Zip.
You’re still writing in asking if he can find a way to sleep with another woman in the few minutes you let him out of your sight.
OP.
This... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for allowing my husband to sleep with other men and women?
Q. My husband and I have been together off and on for 25 years and been married 13. He has cheated on me a lot in the past and I've forgiven him, he promised it would never happen again unless he talked to me about it. He works in another state, h...
A. 29 September 2016: Have you spoken with your doctor yet? That would be the next logical step in helping yourself.... (read in full...)
Is becoming angry a normal reaction to being accused of cheating?
Q. If you accuse your boyfriend of cheating and he says he is remaining calm because if he doesn't he will become violent and walk out the door and never come back, would that raise a red flag? He said he doesn't like being called a cheater. Is t...
A. 29 September 2016: Hi again. Yes, it could be considered an extreme reaction; however, your continuous accusations of cheating could also be considered an extreme reaction.
This is the married boyfriend, you are the mistress of several years now and the cognitive diss... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for allowing my husband to sleep with other men and women?
Q. My husband and I have been together off and on for 25 years and been married 13. He has cheated on me a lot in the past and I've forgiven him, he promised it would never happen again unless he talked to me about it. He works in another state, h...
A. 26 September 2016: “He tells me I’m trying to act like a victim” “if I wanted to go out I could get a sitter”
How about he finds the sitters? Organizes the kids’ after school activities and transportation? He can do it from ten or ten thousand miles away.
Then ... (read in full...)
I told my chick friend who has kids that I won’t date women who have kids and she seems to have taken offense?
Q. A couple of months ago I moved to a bigger city along with my chick friend who has kids. We don't live together but since we don't know anybody in this town we occasionally hang out. We are both really close since we went through a big ordeal in our ...
A. 26 September 2016: I’m guessing that you aren’t as close as you thought as she didn’t know this preference after being through so much together.
She’s probably feeling you judge her in a negative way. You told her some of the personal details about your life but didn... (read in full...)
I found oral contraceptives and condoms in my boyfriend's room. What should I do?
Q. I found used oral contraceptive in my boyfriend room which I didn't use and also found 3 condoms under his pillow I asked him and he said he just bought it. Please what should I do ...
A. 26 September 2016: A used oral contraceptive? You mean an empty pill container? I’m trying to understand what a used oral contraceptive would be.
Were the condoms under his pillow in their wrappers or used?
Are you sexually active with your boyfriend? Do yo... (read in full...)
I've been catfishing my ex for 8 months to discover out what kind of father he would be to the child he doesn't know he has with me
Q. I have been catfishing my ex for the last 8 months. I originally did it for information because after he moved away, I discovered i was pregnant. I couldn't reach him for 2 years and when I came across him I was scared so I made up a Facebook ...
A. 26 September 2016: Catfishing is a cowardly way of approaching this problem.
Lying to him by omission, that is, not telling him that he’s a father is unfair to him, AND to the child.
You now know how to reach him. End the charade, shut down the fake profile and deli... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for allowing my husband to sleep with other men and women?
Q. My husband and I have been together off and on for 25 years and been married 13. He has cheated on me a lot in the past and I've forgiven him, he promised it would never happen again unless he talked to me about it. He works in another state, h...
A. 26 September 2016: You’ve agreed to an open marriage, it seems, but haven’t set the rules and boundaries for that.
He’s broken laws by recording sex with this woman and sharing it with people without her consent.
Do you want an open marriage? Yes or no? If no, then... (read in full...)
My boyfriend makes purchases with my credit and doesn't pay them off
Q. Hello. Last year my bf bought an iphone. He didnt have the money to buy it so he borrowed my credit card and he is making the payments. I realized he hasnt pay the full amount and it has been a year already but he makes monthly payments. Yesterday ...
A. 22 September 2016: I have a link for you: http://www.nfcc.org ( National Foundation for Credit Counseling) The number to call is 800.388.2227
Get on this NOW so you don’t pay the price later.
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My boyfriend makes purchases with my credit and doesn't pay them off
Q. Hello. Last year my bf bought an iphone. He didnt have the money to buy it so he borrowed my credit card and he is making the payments. I realized he hasnt pay the full amount and it has been a year already but he makes monthly payments. Yesterday ...
A. 21 September 2016: I wouldn't cancel he card. That would affect your credit too. I would contact the company, tell them you've lost the card and ask for a new one with a new number. Change all passwords on your account and your email address.' In the agreemen... (read in full...)
Would the average guy spend 1.5 hours in a store or was he lying?
Q. Is it possible for a guy - your boyfriend - to be in a store for 1.5 hours??? The same store??? He was out for awhile and I asked him about it and he said he was at an auto parts store for that long. He said he was browsing. That there were lots ...
A. 20 September 2016: I think all signs point to this relationship being over. You called the store and interrogated the manager and had him question all his staff? You actually emailed a picture of your boyfriend to them?
This is so over the top I can understand why ... (read in full...)
Would going to the movies with an older male colleague be a mistake?
Q. Hi everyone, A few months ago, I moved to a new city for a new job. Most of my colleagues are a lot older than I am, and I am basically the 'new' blood being brought in to compensate for those who are going to retire soon. Anyway, I'm new to t...
A. 18 September 2016: Good on you! You've been getting great advice.
One thing to add is that you should read the employee manual (if such a thing exists in the company) to be thoroughly familiar with the company's stated policies.
I found some good advice here: ht... (read in full...)
I met up with someone from a dating site, didn't like her and don't know how to tell her
Q. There is no way to say this without sounding bad but here goes: I met this girl on a dating site and she said her profile that she was looking to 'casually date with possibility of more' she even said she wants to talk 'awhile' before meeting i...
A. 17 September 2016: “Beth, I have tried to let you down gently but as you keep insisting on meeting up and have actually gone to my workplace, it’s apparent I have to do something that makes me uncomfortable.
“Here goes: there is no attraction from toward you. I enjo... (read in full...)
How can I find a way to trust my boyfriend? Because I feel I can't trust him
Q. PLEASE HELP ME. I am at the END of my rope. I have been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years and I just CANNOT trust him no matter what. No matter what he says or does. I CANNOT trust him. I CANNOT DO IT. It is making me paranoid, jealous, ins...
A. 17 September 2016: Hi.
I know you’ve posted here many times about this boyfriend, and your worries about his “fidelity.” I put that term in quotes because your boyfriend is actually married.
I also know you were so over the moon when you got together that you igno... (read in full...)
Would going to the movies with an older male colleague be a mistake?
Q. Hi everyone, A few months ago, I moved to a new city for a new job. Most of my colleagues are a lot older than I am, and I am basically the 'new' blood being brought in to compensate for those who are going to retire soon. Anyway, I'm new to t...
A. 12 September 2016: “Bob, you’ve been around here a while, I know. So I have a really important question for you. I have this friend. She’s new in a workplace. She seems to have acquired an admirer, an older guy who is starting to weird her out. He keeps asking really ... (read in full...)
Are there any safety concerns in being a nudist?
Q. When I am home alone, I enjoy walking around completely nude. For me, there is nothing sexual about it, I just don't like wearing clothes. I am just wondering if this is a sign of something wrong with me mentality or is normal for some people to ...
A. 12 September 2016: Wear sunscreen and bring a towel to sit on, in the nudist camp. Beyond that as long as you aren't exposing genitals to minors, what you do in your home is up to you. ... (read in full...)
When does an age gap become too big?
Q. How big do you think age gaps in relationships should be? In all kinds of relationships: friendships, romantic relationships, sex buddies. Do generational differences get in the way? When does an age gap become too much to relate to someone in ...
A. 12 September 2016: It’s interesting that you mentioned “sex buddies” as one of the relationship choices.
“Sex buddies” means what, exactly, to you? If you asked your parent how would they define “sex buddies” what do you think they would say?
... (read in full...)
Should I be upset my toyboy wont spend my birthday with me?
Q. Ok here goes ive been having a long distance relationship with a guy since March because of distance we see each other at weekends. I'm 40 hes 29. Which i worry about but hes okay about it. Its my birthday in 2 months but when i brought it up it...
A. 11 September 2016: Well, if you are in love with him, and he’s not a toyboy, then start integrating yourselves into each other’s lives. Get to know his longtime friend. Suggest you and he take her out for a birthday meal.
How long distance is this relationship? An h... (read in full...)
I have nothing in common with my work colleagues. How do I get out of spending time with them? Any coping strategies that might help?
Q. I'm a fairly new member on this forum but thought I would post as there seem to be some people who talk a lot of sense when posting on here. I would be interested to hear your views on my situation.(Apologies in advance for the length of the post...
A. 10 September 2016: Just continue to use the same excuse. Over and over again. It will become apparent if it’s not already to your MD and your colleagues that you aren’t into socializing in the same way.
Or say this: “I appreciate your efforts to foster a positive work... (read in full...)
Should I be upset my toyboy wont spend my birthday with me?
Q. Ok here goes ive been having a long distance relationship with a guy since March because of distance we see each other at weekends. I'm 40 hes 29. Which i worry about but hes okay about it. Its my birthday in 2 months but when i brought it up it...
A. 10 September 2016: Have you met each other’s friends and specifically have you met his about to be 30 yo friend? Do you two go out with his friends when you are together on the weekends? Do you two go out with yours?
Have they been friends a long time? You’ve know... (read in full...)
Can people tell when they're "the mutton dressed as the lamb"?
Q. Just in case people are not familiar with the term “mutton dressed as lamb" - it refers to older people who try to appear younger (and usually fail dismally). And it's most often applied to women who wear clothes that are aimed at a much younger ...
A. 10 September 2016: Oh my dear, some lambs dress like mutton these days! They think they look great but they look awful.
I lived in the UK for a short while and found there was much more pressure for conformity and that commenting negatively on older women, heav... (read in full...)
Would going to the movies with an older male colleague be a mistake?
Q. Hi everyone, A few months ago, I moved to a new city for a new job. Most of my colleagues are a lot older than I am, and I am basically the 'new' blood being brought in to compensate for those who are going to retire soon. Anyway, I'm new to t...
A. 9 September 2016: “Bob. Dude. Take the hint. Seriously. Stop asking me out on dates. Ain’t gonna happen.”
“Bob, because I work with you I’m trying to be kind. Here’s the situation and your brief. We aren’t going to go out again. Stop asking. Simple. No offsite frie... (read in full...)
Would going to the movies with an older male colleague be a mistake?
Q. Hi everyone, A few months ago, I moved to a new city for a new job. Most of my colleagues are a lot older than I am, and I am basically the 'new' blood being brought in to compensate for those who are going to retire soon. Anyway, I'm new to t...
A. 9 September 2016: He’s only good at talking when someone is listening. Stop listening.
Don’t tell him the outing was fun and that you’ve reconsidered. Just say “no, that won’t be possible” when he suggests another outing.
If he persists, “Bob, you’re starting... (read in full...)
What sort of outcomes have others experienced after taking allergy shots? Hesitant about this option suggested by my therapist.
Q. I have been debating something for awhile now whether to get allergy shots are not. I've suffered from allergies for awhile now. Hives and Seasonal Allergies. I get a lot of sore throat, itchy eyes and nasal congestion. I have been taking nasal sp...
A. 9 September 2016: What is keeping you from taking simple medications every day?
If you are so scared of the shots, why not focus on managing your symptoms through the common sense of taking simple medications every day?
You are able to do some simple tasks every da... (read in full...)
Is it possible that my therapist may like me a bit too much?
Q. I haven't had a session with my therapist for a while. I met him again recently and he was acting differently to me (I've known him for a while). His eye contact felt like he was staring at me and he was constantly smiling at me. We also joked ...
A. 9 September 2016: It’s time to change therapists. Whatever happens in the next session, you now have thoughts and concerns about him and his feelings towards you intruding on the progress you may make.
Don’t worry about hurting his feelings or anything like that... (read in full...)
Would going to the movies with an older male colleague be a mistake?
Q. Hi everyone, A few months ago, I moved to a new city for a new job. Most of my colleagues are a lot older than I am, and I am basically the 'new' blood being brought in to compensate for those who are going to retire soon. Anyway, I'm new to t...
A. 9 September 2016: You’re right, this is not normal “just bein’ all friendly ’n’ cozy-like” behavior. This guy is looking for an affair so hard his pants are splitting. You are not ‘friend’ material for him, he has all the friends he needs. You are ‘get in the sack’ ... (read in full...)
My fiance risked our relationship for one night of fun
Q. I am engaged to be married on the 24th. Last weekend my bf had his bachelor party weekend in New York . I couple of his buddies were egging him on to hook up with a random girl. They ended up inviting a group of girls back to their hotel were he ...
A. 9 September 2016: So how are you doing? And what did you decide?... (read in full...)
My fiance risked our relationship for one night of fun
Q. I am engaged to be married on the 24th. Last weekend my bf had his bachelor party weekend in New York . I couple of his buddies were egging him on to hook up with a random girl. They ended up inviting a group of girls back to their hotel were he ...
A. 7 September 2016: And just to frame the argument for him in a way that might reach him, paint the scenario of you getting cunnilingus from a male stripper at your bachelorette party.
But that would be after I spoke to the people who are paying for the wedding.
If... (read in full...)
What can I do? She can't bring herself to believe me, nor let it go.
Q. The relationship between me and my girlfriend of a little over a year has been pretty rough lately. We recently took a break that was originally supposed to be a month. It ended up only being a week. Anyway, during the break I bought some condoms,...
A. 7 September 2016: You are 18-21, you’ve been dating a little over a year, you’re supposed to be in your honeymoon phase.
Instead you had to negotiate a break that was supposed to last a month (which in a relationship of only 13-14 months is a pretty big chunk of time... (read in full...)
My fiance risked our relationship for one night of fun
Q. I am engaged to be married on the 24th. Last weekend my bf had his bachelor party weekend in New York . I couple of his buddies were egging him on to hook up with a random girl. They ended up inviting a group of girls back to their hotel were he ...
A. 7 September 2016: Oral sex IS sex.
You’ve told an aunt.
He was with friends.
It’s not going to be a secret for very long.
My guess is that he’s self-sabotaging the wedding. He doesn’t have the guts himself to call it off so he allowed himself to wind up in a sit... (read in full...)
How do I approach getting her number or asking her out?
Q. all of my relationships have come from being around someone for a while before asking them out. such as school, work, gym. how do you go about asking a girl out that may not know you that well? there is a girl who i see maybe every other week...
A. 7 September 2016: “Hey, thanks for making grocery shopping something I look forward to. I like your attitude and you are very attractive!
“Let me ask a hypothetical question, if a guy was to ask for your number, a guy who had a lot in common with me, ok, the guy is m... (read in full...)
Are we still friends or is it over?
Q. I am friends with a female at work. we have fallen out a couple of times but have always made up. last week i sent her flowers at work in the hope of she would put me back on facebook as one of friends but it back fired on me and things seem to ...
A. 6 September 2016: It is over. You overstepped the boundaries. She isn't going to be your friend in the way you hope.
... (read in full...)
Frustrated by lack of libido
Q. ok I'm 81. Married but wife no longer able (because of illness ) not able to have sex. I used to be able to masterbate but now I can't get excited enough to get hard to accomplish. I take lots of medication. Any thing I can take that won't interfere ...
A. 2 September 2016: See your doctor to discuss this! Go in with the list of all your medications and your conditions. I found some articles for you to read, this one http://www.m.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/features/romance-after-60 suggests men should have ... (read in full...)
Our therapy dogs don't get along and my boyfriend has issued me an ultimatum. What can I do?
Q. I have PTSD and anxiety due to sex abuse. It started happening when I was in preschool. My boyfriend has Anxiety and PTSD bc of prison bc he used to be an armed robber and he accidentally murdered his ex. He became a dog handler in prison. He has ...
A. 31 August 2016: Contact the organization(s) that provided said therapy dogs, get them (and yourselves) additional training and deal with the aggression issues. Simply put, get professional help for the dogs.
And why would Pete need to move to a halfway house? Why ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was supposed to accompany me to the health centre, but we had an argument beforehand and I had to go alone. Was he being selfish?
Q. Do you think this was selfish?. My boyfriend and I have been having problems for a while. Lately, his phone has been switched off more, or I have called his phone, and he hasn't answered. He agreed to meet me at my home on Friday to go to a health ...
A. 29 August 2016: "A doctor would have checked the lump if we had gone to the health centre. I have anxiety, and can’t go on my own.” Just assume for your personal health’s sake that he’s an infantile responsibility shirker and due to his IRS he’s unable to be a prop... (read in full...)
I want to have sex without a condom but I'm not taking birth control pills. Will emergency contraceptive pills after sex work just as well to prevent pregnancy?
Q. This is a contraceptive related question. I wanna have sex without a condom, i'm also ovulating and i'm currently not on the pills. If i use plan B pills after sex can it be equally effective ? Or will there be a chance of unwanted pregnancy....
A. 29 August 2016: The short answer to your question is NO, emergency contraceptive pills are NOT as effective as prescribed birth control pills.
Talk to your doctor about your birth control options. I see your flag shows you as in Egypt so I can’t direct you to a cl... (read in full...)
Was my Bf being insensitive for not texting me all day? Or am I expecting too much ?
Q. I need some objective advice. I am too close to the situation and too emotional I think. My boyfriend and I have been together for more than 3 years. Yesterday, he had family over for the day and did not contact me at all. I texted him at th...
A. 22 August 2016: Wait, re-reading this post reminds me of the woman who's been having a passionate sexual affair with the married man.
In which case, his lack of texting and attention makes sense.
If he's a married man, hasn't separated from his wife, and you'... (read in full...)
Was my Bf being insensitive for not texting me all day? Or am I expecting too much ?
Q. I need some objective advice. I am too close to the situation and too emotional I think. My boyfriend and I have been together for more than 3 years. Yesterday, he had family over for the day and did not contact me at all. I texted him at th...
A. 22 August 2016: Why aren't you with him during family visits if you've been together for over 3 years? I guess you were prevented due to work or your own family commitments?
By this point after over 3 years together I'm sure you've made connections with a few memb... (read in full...)
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