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Should she tell, will police notify people at work anyway?
Q. Help, my daughter has was caught using work mobile whilst driving. Police issued immediate fine and points to licence. She is traumatised as her work mobile phone policy states that moibile phones should not be used whilst driving, and breach o...
A. 23 September 2009: Unfortunatly the law is the law and if you choose to break it then you have to face the consequences, if i where in this situation i would tell my boss i think it would be easier and then she wont have to wait for the consequences later. I wish her ... (read in full...)
He blames all of our problems on me or my insecurities
Q. Is there something wrong with me? My bf says there is. He blames all our relationship problems either on me and "my insecurities" or he blames our problems on my ex bf and claims I am judging him based on how badly my ex treated me. I find it...
A. 17 August 2009: Why the hell are you with this guy? Do you think that you deserve to be treated like this? Deep down do you really think he loves you? I think he see's you as a dormat and i cant believe that you are putting up with this! Sounds like you have jumped ... (read in full...)
He's going away for 6 weeks and I can't survive without him!
Q. My bf is going away for a long time- 6 weeks overseas. I wont get to talk to him much, because hes not taking a phone due to how expensive it would be. He said he will try to find a internet cafe when he can, but hes not sure how often he will be ...
A. 17 August 2009: Huni you just cope dont ask me how but you do, my other half if in the army and has been in afghanistan since march and is not home till the end of september, i have seen him for little over a week since he has been away when he came back for leave. ... (read in full...)
I know my guy friend still likes me, so how can I make him jealous?
Q. My guy friend and I haven’t been talking. I texted him the other day saying that I heard he was going out with someone and he texted me back twice asking who I heard it from. I never answered him. I know that he’s not in a relationship! When I go to ...
A. 9 August 2009: Do you not think life is to short to play games? I dont mean to be rude but this post just sounds so immature, grow up life is to short ... (read in full...)
Is the married man I'm seeing the one for me?
Q. I really don't know how to put this without seeming like the bad guy or appearing incredibly stupid. But I am going to try as I really need advice even though it seems so stupid. I have been seeing a married man for over 2 years now. He is slightly ...
A. 9 August 2009: Huni wake up to the reality this man is MARRIED, he has a wife. If he wanted to be with you he would leave his wife and be with you, all this about waiting for you to leave uni is a delaying tactic, when you leave uni it will be maybe you should go ... (read in full...)
He has a gf but I love him! How do I deal with this?
Q. Dear Cupid i have loved this boy for ages now. but he has a girlfriend. the girlfriend is totally in love with him but she doesnt treat him good. me and him always flirt with each other and i like it because i know what ever happens it wont get out ...
A. 9 August 2009: Your not going to like my answer, but leave this guy alone he has a girlfriend if he was unhappy or wanted to be with you then he would be with you. He has a girlfriend and its not you, you have to realise this and move on dont waste your feelings ... (read in full...)
How do I go about making a threesome in the best way for both of us?
Q. Me and my fiance have been together for a long time and had our ups and dwns and I want to make things interesting by having a 3 sum before we tie the knot to make up for the too low of a budget for bachlor and bachlorette parties. I'm fine with ...
A. 9 August 2009: I think this is really a bad idea threesomes tend to ruin relationships more then anything, but its fully your decision so i will just offer advice.
Firstly NEVER use someone you know, find someone out of town (like you have already said) th... (read in full...)
Boyfriend trying to change me too much?
Q. Hi, I just wanted to share some concerns I have about my 3 year relationship. About a year and a half into our relationship my boyfriend started trying to change little things about me. For instance, he decided he really didn't like my reddish/b...
A. 9 August 2009: Sorry to say this you may not want to read this or like what i am saying. But if a man loves you then he loves EVERYTHING about you, he is changing you into a diffrent person and you are not the same person that he met. To give up being a vegetarian ... (read in full...)
I have a constant need to urinate, even after I relieve myself, what is the problem?
Q. right... i have a small problem. i constantly need to pee, and when i do urinate, after i have finished, it feels like im still peeing/need to pee still. has anyone ever had any thing like this/ know what it is? thanks loopyloo x...
A. 6 August 2009: I would go see your doctor but its sounds a bit like cystitis, dont be embarressed go see your doctor instead of suffering in silence ... (read in full...)
Why did he go cold, after we were having such a good time?
Q. hi there.i was dating online, and got talking to someone who i was interested in. we hit it off straight away and had so much fun talking every night, and speaking on the phone. he wanted to meet so he could spoil me. told me all the time how ...
A. 3 August 2009: Some men have a habbit of ignoring people because they dont want to say how they feel.
Im sorry this has happend to you but maybe he has met or has someone else, maybe he didnt feel the spark, who knows i do know that he seems a bit of a coward f... (read in full...)
They want photos of me with no clothes on!
Q. 0k.. I am currently single but i talk to a LOT of guys they always send me dirty pictures of themself but they want me so send them a dirty picture of myself and i take some HOT pictures but i have clothes on and they want pictures with my clothes ...
A. 2 August 2009: I agree with all the other aunts on here this is not a good idea and i would stongly suggest that you dont take pics of yourself, you can only imagine what may happen with them. But if you ignore the advice of us on here atleast take pics that dont ... (read in full...)
I want to completely wax my vaginal area. Is this wise?
Q. Female help needed! I want to get rid of my vaginal pubic hair, completely. I really don't want to shave it because I've tried that in the past and it doesn't last long and it's irritating when it's growing back. What I would really love to do is ...
A. 7 June 2009: Im a qualified holistic and beauty therapist my advice is to go to a salon and get it done, dont feel embarressed about it, we dont get embarressed. I wont lie its a bit uncomfotable at first but it does give s really smooth finish and lasts for ... (read in full...)
Problems with sweating!
Q. This probably isn't the appropriate question to ask on dear cupid, but I would like some opinions please. This is a health related question. I am male, 25years old, and fit and healthy, however I have have a problem with my underarms, I am ...
A. 29 May 2009: Go to your doctor, my brother had the exact same problem he was so aware of it he would wear dark colours and jumpers even in the summer, he put it off for as long as possible but in the end went to the doctors and was perscribed this underarm stuff ... (read in full...)
13 years old and pregnant. Unsure of what to do?
Q. This will be quite long so lease bear with me. I came from a good loving family and has good reputation. My mom, my aunts, all the ladies in my family were married first before sex. Except for one, my aunt who was left by the man who didn't know ...
A. 27 May 2009: Well not to be rude but are you really mature enough to handle a baby if your planning on running away? Its all good saying your boyfriend is going to marry you and his family will take you in ect ect, but your still very young and to be honest ... (read in full...)
Does she really care more about him than me?
Q. Basically, my girlfriend of nearly eight months has been talking to this guy over the internet for about four years. She says they used to be, sort of together, long distance but then she broke with him (she says). Thing is, she always wants to ...
A. 27 May 2009: To be honest i think the best option is just to get rid of her, she says she loves him and says she wishes you were more like him? Thats just wrong this is not a real relationship she is just using you for what ever reason. I think you should leave ... (read in full...)
Just by looking, can you detect virginity?
Q. Hi all, I'm not sure whether this is the right place to post but, I have been wondering can people tell who is a 'virgin' or not? if so, how? (e.g. the eyes, the way they dress, act?) ...
A. 21 May 2009: Well no of course you cannot tell whether or not someone is a virgin just by looking at them, well not unless they are wearing a sign to say whether they are or not. ... (read in full...)
He built up my hopes for nothing?
Q. ok so i met this really amazing guy he was so sweet and stuff calling me all the things i've always wanted to hear in my life and i thought finally!!! i'm going to have the relationship i've always wanted! so i wanted to meet up with him Satur...
A. 18 May 2009: Yeah you have every right to be angry i certainly would be, he is messing you around and he cant even be honest about it, ignoring calls and texts is just so childish, and asking you for a lift th guy has some nerve, you deserve better, delete his ... (read in full...)
Help me please
Q. help I am so unhappy in my marriage i no longer trust my husband and cannot get over his cheating he wont talk about what he has done and gets violent and throws things and he crabs me hits me i know i should leave but have no where to go an...
A. 18 May 2009: Firt of all of course you have some where to go to get a way from him there are womens safe houses all over the country, my advice go to your local police station tell them exactly whats going on and they will get you into a safe house domestic ... (read in full...)
How can I boost my husband's confidence?
Q. My husband and me have been married for 4 years now. He's recently started taking confidence classes after having worries about his confidence in social situations, and has done well in them. Recently we had a dinner party at our house, and ...
A. 8 May 2009: My brother used to lack confidence he would not talk to anyone he didnt know would not speak up in public, he was just so scared of rejection and people judging him.
He tried everything classes, he saw a councilor none if it helped. Howveer ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to fake my own death to see if she still loves me?
Q. Well basically my ex havn't been going out for ages, but I'm going out for her best mate (2 months) and she's always trying to get her to dump me but the girl i'm with doesn't want to dump me so i'm thinking. Is it wrong to fake my own death to prov...
A. 17 April 2009: If this is a real post then i think you need to seek proffessional help because the fact that this thought has even popped into your head makes me think you make have some kind of mental health problem. Suicide is no laughing matter and even joking ... (read in full...)
I'm really angry, my ex and my best friend are going out 2 days after we broke up!!
Q. i brokeup with my boyfriend lastthursdy after goin out for 4 weeks but yesterday i found out that only 2 days after splittingup him and mybest friend were goin out, i got really angry. what should i do ?...
A. 9 April 2009: I will be honest there is nothing you can do about this, she obviously is not a true friend and he obviously cant bear to be single for more then 5 minutes.
Your better off without them ... (read in full...)
Being too harsh on my ex girlfriend?
Q. I dumped my GF last year and we were on and off since then. I told her i would consider getting back with her if she lost weight she is a size 14-16 but good looking i must say, I prefer size 12. I just dumped her again recently and she's angry...
A. 9 April 2009: You seriously need to grow up dumpning someone because there not the size you like!? Thats possibly the shallowest thing ih ave ever heard i would expect that from a teenager not an adult.
You need to answer your phone meet up with her and have... (read in full...)
Having kittens here!
Q. My cat has just had a kitten about 4 hours ago. Now I'm new at this and dont quite know what's all going on. Will she have more kittens? or since she had one 4 hours ago that will be it? ...
A. 26 March 2009: My cat had kittems to years ago and like all animals they do not need to be fussed over while it is happening in fact if anything they like to be left alone so please do not interfere unless she is in distress. Make sure she has a quiet corner where ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant, haven't told my b/f yet and very confused
Q. I've just recently turned 18 andfound out today that im pregnant, my parents and cdlose friends know but i haven't yet told my boyfriend. I've always said that if i ever got caught i could never abort because i'm totally against it, however there's ...
A. 22 March 2009: I think you need to sit down with your boyfriend and tell him and decide together im sure your family would help out, a baby is a blessing but if you and your boyfriend feel that you cant cope then its either abortion or adoption, im afraid there ... (read in full...)
Bleeding alot, different than usual..anyone know what it could be?
Q. Firstly, can I ask that nobody judges me or comments on what I am about to say. I'm asking for advice on my problem, not my method of contraception. I've been having regular unprotected sex with my boyfriend for about 2 months. About 3 weeks ag...
A. 22 March 2009: Huni i will be honest sounds like you are having/ had a misscarriage, i think you need to make an emergency appointment with your doctor this cant wait two weeks especially if you are still bleeding this heavy it could lead to complications.
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My mother is cheating on my dad and its killing my sister & I!
Q. Hi, My mum is having an affair - I dont know what to do. I'm 18 - Not a wee girl anymore, I love my parents truely and when my mum actually admitted wht was happening when i confronted her about it on the phone, I burst into tears, I got mys...
A. 18 March 2009: What i would do is confront my mum and tell her if she doesnt tell her husband whats going on then you will. This is unfair on you and your sister you should have to worry about your parents problems.
Its more then likely that your dad knows an... (read in full...)
Could my husband be tempted again?
Q. If you have read my previous postings you will know that my husband of 32 years had a text affair with a colleague who works at different premises. It has definately stopped but he still has to see her at meetings and tonight is the AGM. I am ...
A. 18 March 2009: Only you can decide if you trust your husband enough not to be tempted. You cannot sit there and think will he wont he? You will drive your self mad and make yourself ill the more you think about it the more worked up about it you will get.
He st... (read in full...)
Do I reply after all this time if he is still married?
Q. Hi guys, I started seeing a man just before he got married. I know, bad move... I stopped seeing him as he needed time to figure out his life and what he really wants. I told him if it is me that will make him happy then I will be here for him. If...
A. 18 March 2009: Its been 6 months and this is the first time he has contacted you? Either he has realised his marriage is not going to work because he no longer loves his wife, he wants to have an affair, or worse he could want to string you along and see if after ... (read in full...)
Questions the doctor will ask me...
Q. Hello, I'm 16 and I'm going to have the contraceptive implant today, my mum suggested this but she thinks I'm a virgin. I know my doctor will ask if I'm sexually active and I was wondering will I get into trouble with the law if I tell my doctor I ...
A. 18 March 2009: The doctor will only ask if your sexually active he wont want to know the details and what you say to the doctor is confidential, however i know several people who have got pregnant on the implant so please remeber to use a condom with each new ... (read in full...)
Should I get tested or am I being paranoid?
Q. I have been reading posts on this site about cheating and one of the answers said about getting tested for aids. My husband cheated on me between 1992 up until February 2008 with different women(3) I never thought of getting tested but it's ...
A. 18 March 2009: I would go get tested for everthing HIV and clamydia have no symptoms at all and HIV is deadly and clamydia makes you sterile.
You should both go and get tested it would keep your mind at rest and it does not take long at all, and you can get ... (read in full...)
Bump after unprotected sex 3 weeks ago..pregnant?
Q. Hi, im 15 and 3 week ago i had sex for the first time, and we didnt use protection, i know it was stupid not to, but now ive started putting on weight, to form a sort of bump on my stomach, and people have started asking if im pregnant, and i keep ...
A. 17 March 2009: It could be wind thats very painful and will make you bloated ... (read in full...)
He's already got a g/fbut I like him!
Q. Hi well i am 20 years old and single i've been through alot with guys alot of them treat me badly and tell me things that in the end turn out not to be true. But i work full time at a solicitors office and there is a guy who often comes in he is ou...
A. 17 March 2009: What should you doo hmmm, oh i know leave him alone he is not single so off limits dont try stealing someone elses boyfriends its just cruel and heartless find a single man... (read in full...)
Should I avoid my so-called "friends"?
Q. hello today i had a bad day at school a boy who i thought was my mate was nasty to me for no reason it got so bad i creid he kept calling me mean and untrue names. my freind who sits next to me ( who got a fight and was kinda under the weather)...
A. 17 March 2009: Sounds like bullying to me and teenage girls always seem to be so good at making others cry (i was bullied at school and i know how hurtful it can be) best thing to do break all contact and make other friends ones who will stick by you and stick up ... (read in full...)
Can a man have sex and not feel anything for the woman?
Q. Can a man have sex with a woman if he feels nothing for her or will he always have some sort of attraction? When men have affairs they tend to say its "just sex" - but surely it must be "just sex" with some sort of attraction?...
A. 17 March 2009: Men are diffrent from women when we have sex we usually have to feel something and see it as more then just an animal act, SOME men just have sex for the satisfaction and to soothe there ego's and natural urges... (read in full...)
Bump after unprotected sex 3 weeks ago..pregnant?
Q. Hi, im 15 and 3 week ago i had sex for the first time, and we didnt use protection, i know it was stupid not to, but now ive started putting on weight, to form a sort of bump on my stomach, and people have started asking if im pregnant, and i keep ...
A. 17 March 2009: I dont think you would have a big bump at 3 weeks, 3 months yeah but not 3 weeks, you could just be bloated, are you due on soon? Because i get bloated before im on. If your that worried then go to the doctor but i dont think you are pregnant ... (read in full...)
Lumps on my neck & tattoo a few months ago..related?
Q. Hello there, Recently I have been noticing little lumps on my neck around the sides, just below my ear and back of nect etc. I've noticed them for about 2 wks now and was getting a bit concerned. Today a big lump come up on my neck and it w...
A. 17 March 2009: I dont think it is to do with the tats as you would have a reaction within the first few days not 3 months on, i suggest you book in and see your doctor hun might not be anything but best to let someone check it out for you. ... (read in full...)
G/f depressed because she's obese
Q. My girlfriend is depressed because she’s obese. She’s tried quite a lot of diets but nothing seems to work as she gives up after a couple of weeks. Generally I’d say she eats about the same amount that I do and if anything I’m underweight. What can ...
A. 17 March 2009: Offer to take up excercise classses with her go running/walking get her a puppy so she knows she has to walk it every day ( but remeber a dog is a memeber of the family and buying one is a decision thats not to be taken lightly) book her in for pole ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants her & me!
Q. I am in a dilemna and could really use your help! Where to start. I started dating my bf in February 2005, we had some problems later that year and he turned to someone else. We worked out our problems and everything was great until recently. ...
A. 17 March 2009: This is easy your boyfriend is having his cake and eating it two girlfriends both in love with him. Huni if he loved you he would not be with someone else you love him and dont want to be with someone else at the same time (as far as i can tell) do ... (read in full...)
Should we keep our TWINS a surprise?
Q. My husband and I are pregnant with twins, this is our third pregnancy and it will be our last. We were thinking about keeping the TWIN part a surprise until they are born. We will be having a planned c section and were thinking that the he could ...
A. 16 March 2009: I think its a good idea but i had a colleague who was pregnant with twins and at 5 months she looked like she was 9 months gone, sop i expect you can keep it quiet but do not be too suprised if other people can gues by your size! ... (read in full...)
I am not sure how to turn him down nicely!!
Q. I have been serving this male customer for about a year now, and he has finally asked me out. We have good brief chats whenever he drops by. Unfortunately I don't fancy him at all but am not sure how to turn him down nicely!! Please help....
A. 16 March 2009: I agree with Gina just say "im flattered but unfortunatly im seeing someone at the moment" ... (read in full...)
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