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Oh well some don't like my thoughts. Got a few poor ratings there, anyway ive made many people happy too. Honestly, i wont tell you what you want to hear ill tell you what i believe.

Mind you please keep in mind this is not advice im giving you they are mearly my thoughts, feelings, and impressions I feel when reading and answering your questions.

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Information on how to make a Russian girl happy on a date

Q.   I know it's silly to ask, nationalities aside, people are people. Saying that, I do need some advice regarding a certain wonderful woman that I have met that happens to be Russian: I want to know what NOT to do and what I SHOULD, how to make her ...

A.   31 March 2011: Some of the things you describe are the exact same way you would make many other women happy on a date. Regardless of nationality. Just be yourself and do something romantically original.... (read in full...)

Could this be bad for our marriage?

Q.   I am a 59 year old woman married for 28 years. When my husband developed health issues that affected his ability to get an erection I thought my sex life was over. He tried Viagra and and some other stuff and when nothing worked he started telling ...

A.   31 March 2011: Once he rips you and your husband apart I give it about six, maybe twelve months after you marry him and he will then divorce you taking everything you owned with him. don't fall for the cougar trick! Set up a few fall backs for yourself just in... (read in full...)

Has anyone ever come across the male counterpart of a cock-tease?

Q.   Hello all. I was talking with someone earlier this evening who told me a story of coming across a 'minge-tease' or the male equivalent of a cock-tease in her recent dating life. I was wondering, if any of you had ever come across this yourselves ...

A.   19 November 2010: Rugby players, a nice guy, boxers and international swimmers what ever! waiting for the right time my ass! If he intended to get to the bed and got that close almost to the point of penetration then pulled away I think that's just lame, stupid and ... (read in full...)

Should I end this LDR when she comes to see me in two weeks because of her lack of respect for me?

Q.   Okay, I'm a long distance relationship here... we been going out for 8 months but in august she want to college to another city. sometimes she comes to visit but we do have problems. For example, we argue, and she some times disrespects me as thou ...

A.   13 November 2010: You have to sit down and have a long hard think. Which you probably already have. But to cut a long story short you need to ask yourself if you can really see you both together happily. if it such a stress on you to be with her then maybe she's not ... (read in full...)

How obvious do I have to be with these signals?

Q.   How obvious do I have to make myself before he realises the signs im sending him. I really like him! Here we go again ... I like this guy in the year above me and we don't actually talk at all. We used to but we drifted apart because none of ...

A.   11 November 2010: This is really simple. You see all you are doing is exchanging signals. Who cares about signals they just slow you down and can be taken totally the wrong way, ie: the way he looked at you like "what are you doing" thing. Just lay the cards on the ... (read in full...)

I don't have the money to lend him!

Q.   my boyfriend and i have been togethere 4 a yr we r verry happy together and we r very open with each other its really nice. well at the moment my boyfriend is in a big financial crisis hes on the brink of loosing evrything he ever built and its a ...

A.   11 November 2010: The best thing you can do is support him when he falls, for that he will appreciate you so much. Funny how love, something that is free, can do wonderful things. Money is just an object invented by some people thousands o yets ago ... People still ... (read in full...)

Should I end this LDR when she comes to see me in two weeks because of her lack of respect for me?

Q.   Okay, I'm a long distance relationship here... we been going out for 8 months but in august she want to college to another city. sometimes she comes to visit but we do have problems. For example, we argue, and she some times disrespects me as thou ...

A.   11 November 2010: No, don't end it. You see I have the inclination that she may have another love interest and she is waiting for you to dump her so she can then make a move. I don't know why, but some girls/women lure you into dumping them because they can't stand ... (read in full...)

Has anyone ever come across the male counterpart of a cock-tease?

Q.   Hello all. I was talking with someone earlier this evening who told me a story of coming across a 'minge-tease' or the male equivalent of a cock-tease in her recent dating life. I was wondering, if any of you had ever come across this yourselves ...

A.   11 November 2010: No worries, I was just pullin your leg! But what a weird bloke! I've lived in England and noticed how toooo "pussy boy" the blokes are there ... Rediculas!Nits 2010 not 1810. Sorry, no offence to you of course but this bloke you speak of has topped ... (read in full...)

Would you consider making a pass at my best friend cheating?

Q.   My gf made a pass at one of my best friends late one night. When he told me I knew it was true, because that was the exact same way she expressed interest in me the first night I met her. Is that cheating?...

A.   11 November 2010: No, but when you are in a car you are in a machine. Big difference when speaking face to face to someone as apposed to driving a car under an influence. Two totally different things. Sorry mate, you can't blame her if she was at a party or something ... (read in full...)

In the end doesn't it only matter about maturity in the situation, not age?

Q.   So at the end of last summer me and this older guy really started something. We met through one of my close friends one day and later that night hooked up in the back of his car (No sex). I was expecting it to be a one night thing, but we started ...

A.   11 November 2010: Legally, age matters certainly for you darling. But I can understand where you are coming from with the maturity aspect of this, especially if you have genuine feelings for him. But the law is the law, and this law is in place for your own and other ... (read in full...)

Has anyone ever come across the male counterpart of a cock-tease?

Q.   Hello all. I was talking with someone earlier this evening who told me a story of coming across a 'minge-tease' or the male equivalent of a cock-tease in her recent dating life. I was wondering, if any of you had ever come across this yourselves ...

A.   11 November 2010: Your kidding! Your friend and yourself have only just experienced this? Where have you been? He's just playing the game, giving her something to chase. Building the anticipation ... It now depends on how much she really wants him and how importan... (read in full...)

Would you consider making a pass at my best friend cheating?

Q.   My gf made a pass at one of my best friends late one night. When he told me I knew it was true, because that was the exact same way she expressed interest in me the first night I met her. Is that cheating?...

A.   11 November 2010: When you say "pass" what exactly do you mean? If she's just simply expressing interest then it is not cheating. She only expressed an interest and she has the right to do that as a human being. Although it would be a very disloyal thing to do to her ... (read in full...)

I gave him 15 years and he moved on in a week... I'm DEVASTATED!

Q.   My husband left 2 weeks ago. I told him I didn't think there was anything he could do to fix the marriage and it was over. The next day he packed and left. 2 weeks in and I know I made the WRONG decision. I want him to come home more than ...

A.   10 November 2010: I can understand that you told him that the marriage was over and I can see that was irrational at the time. The thing is, you need to make him understand that too. You can do that by simply apologising to him but it won't be as simple as saying ... (read in full...)

How long should I wait until I let him get under the shirt? I want him to respect me!

Q.   Im new to dating - been seeing this guy for a bit over a month (we met online, im 21 hes 22). Im a virgin and am waiting to be in love, and also generally inexperienced with intimacy. on our fourth date we had our first kiss and make out session; ...

A.   9 November 2010: Wait as long as it takes for you to be comfortable and ready. The trick is to not be too overly cautious with guys otherwise you'll end up losing eitherway. Talk to him let him know how you feel. Have you agreed yet to see each other more often? And ... (read in full...)

He doesn't love me but wants to be with me?

Q.   my boyfriend told me straight out he dosent love me but that he still wants to be with me. he said he dosent think he will ever love me but still wants our relationship to work. what do i do?...

A.   8 November 2010: No brainer. Move on you deserve to be in love with someone and someone with you. You only live for around eighty or so years so why waste your time with someone who dosent love you. It will be difficult for you to move on but you need to do what ... (read in full...)

Why do people chase you and then drop you?

Q.   as your aware my last question was over my ex i moved on and met someone else, at first he was really funny told that i was the one, and that he loved me dearly we went on holiday together but he woud blow hot and cold with me, i felt real close to ...

A.   8 November 2010: No, it could be that you held up too much of a high wall for too long for him to climb and after a while he realised he's never going to be with you and thus suggested you remain friends. Mataphorically that is. It's possible that there may have... (read in full...)

When is it love and when is it an obsession?

Q.   When is it love and when is it an obsession? My boyfriend texts me up to 200 times a day (sometimes less although I think he does this because he is bored). He calls me first thing in the morning when he is still in bed. When he is at w...

A.   8 November 2010: It's really hard to define what obsession is because one persons obsession could be greater than anothers it also depends on the individual who feels that someone is obsession over him/her. In your case, I think it has more to do with your boy... (read in full...)

How can I get the girl I like to accept me? Is there even a chance of this happening?

Q.   two boys and two girls. Boy B1, Boy B2, Girl G1 and Girl G2. B1 like G1 and B2 like G2. At this point, all of them are just friends, not in a relationship yet. Both boys treated both the girl they like equally. But the outcome is different. In th...

A.   8 November 2010: You need to understand her likes. And when you text her does she reply? if not, then you could be persistent but let her know that if you annoy her you will let her go. This shows that you respect her feelings and that your not the type who stalks. ... (read in full...)

Do I have a high tolerance for pain and just don't like sweet romantic stuff?

Q.   I'm not quite sure how to put this, so I'm gonna do my best. From the beginning. When I was younger, I used to have a lot of fun with my friends. We'd play and talk and have all sorts of adventures together. One such game we used to play involved ...

A.   7 November 2010: Depends what you call sweet romantic stuff. Romantic stuff and pain are two entirely different things, you can't even compare them. You've got to look into your heart if you want to feel anything romantic. If you don't you may never have the benefit ... (read in full...)

BJ with or without a tongue piercing

Q.   How does a blow job feel with a tongue stud compared to one without? I've never had one with, but I am very turned on by a pierced tongue. I'll never get to experience a BJ with one, but was just wondering. ...

A.   7 November 2010: Yeah it's a good thing!... (read in full...)

How can I save money!

Q.   Hi i'm a college student, currently not working. i'm a bad spender when it comes to money, it's like having water in pocket. i need help with saving money, can someone pls give me some ideas on how to save money...

A.   7 November 2010: You can look at your overall net income and save a mandatory 25% after all your expences such as rent, groceries, etc. For example if you earn $200 per week net then you would save $50 (25%). The rest would be yours to spend, although $200 per week ... (read in full...)

How do I find out in a subtle way what my chances are with her?

Q.   Hi everyone I would like to use this platform to get as many different ideas and suggestions from as many different people on this as possible since I have no clue what to do next. I am a bisexual woman in my mid twenties and I am in love wi...

A.   6 November 2010: Oh and another thing. Incase she may give a negate response when you scope out other women be sure not to confuse a negative response with jealousy. Jealousy is another sign she likes you more than just a friend in this example. But you seem lik... (read in full...)

How do I find out in a subtle way what my chances are with her?

Q.   Hi everyone I would like to use this platform to get as many different ideas and suggestions from as many different people on this as possible since I have no clue what to do next. I am a bisexual woman in my mid twenties and I am in love wi...

A.   6 November 2010: I think the best subtle way would simply to first let her know you are bisexual if she doesn't know then when you tell her she'll drop a positive or negative line and say things like: I'm not interested in women Or if she is interested she'll talk ... (read in full...)

Is "true love" just a myth?

Q.   Dear Cupid Is true love exist? Is it really stupid to believe that one day we'll find our true love or soul mate? What if we find soul mate but the other person (soul mate) doesnt acknowledge it? Thanks in advance for your answers...

A.   5 November 2010: You can still love someone even if your love is not reciprocated. You'll just have to come to terms with that and leave it be. If that's the case the best thing you can do is be their friend. Because it will last forever then. ... (read in full...)

How do I become more than your "nice guy" ?

Q.   I will be 25 within the next couple months and have never had a girlfriend. I've kissed two girls and by some miracle lost my virginity a few years back, so I've had sex a total of one time in my life. I don't really go around broadcasting this ...

A.   5 November 2010: Sorry, I meant do your current friends help you out with finding a girlfriends now? Do they ever introduce you to anyone? These damn iPhone keypads!... (read in full...)

How do I become more than your "nice guy" ?

Q.   I will be 25 within the next couple months and have never had a girlfriend. I've kissed two girls and by some miracle lost my virginity a few years back, so I've had sex a total of one time in my life. I don't really go around broadcasting this ...

A.   5 November 2010: I'm a nice guy, I don't have any problem with being with women. Being a nice guy has absolute nothing to do with it. It's more about your attitude. It's probably got to do more with the vibes you send to women and I can tell by the way you ment... (read in full...)

How can I control the thoughts that pop into my head?

Q.   this is more of a pshycology question, why do random thoughts pop into my head??? and why can't I control my own mind?? some thoughts pop into my head, and they're thoughts I'd never think of otherwise, because one is of my amazing girlfriend ...

A.   4 November 2010: Protect her from what? You'll and up freaking her out mate. Its pretty normal to have things stuck in your head. Songs are a good example of that. Images are the same sort of thing. But I think really it's about why the content is that you are thin... (read in full...)

Help me! I feel like a pathetic loser!

Q.   i am a 15 year old girl who lives in Holland. I moved to a bilangual school recently which half of the lessons are in dutch. I feel like a pathetic LOSER because i am not white or dutch, I have such an accent when speaking dutch, all the other kids ...

A.   4 November 2010: If they laugh, laugh back. joke around with them a bit. Make it fun. ... (read in full...)

Friends with benefits?

Q.   Alfredo has been one of my very good friends for a long time. But as you know female-male friendships are a lil hard keep. Eventually it happened, we had a lil too much to drink and we had sex... then it happened again.. and again.. We became s...

A.   4 November 2010: Truly, there is no such thing as friends with benefits. Eventually one or the other person's heart will grow fonder and it will either break or be loved. Friends with benefits is just a layed back way to gain a proper relationship with another ... (read in full...)

Will I ever love again?

Q.   I dated a guy for six years. He was my first real relationship, I guess you could say my first love. We got engaged and had plans to get marriied. After we got engaged we started having a lot of problems. I loved him and he loved me though he wasnt...

A.   4 November 2010: I believe it's somewhat true that yes you only fall in love once (but only one unique way to one individual) The reason why I believe this is because when you love someone it's complely unique to that individual person. The next person you love will ... (read in full...)

Why don't intelligent people see this guy for what he really is?

Q.   I,m writing this as i can of need to vent my feelings. I know a guy who at first i thought was pretty decent, seemed nice etc... turns out i couldn't have been more wrong, let me explain. We slept together a few times last year, i thought he he ...

A.   4 November 2010: This is a little off topic but be aware that just because a guy puts on charm does not mean he's casting a wide net. That's just speculative, some guys do it because they want a genuine relationship with someone and It's up to you to figure it out. ... (read in full...)

Why is it so difficult to find a really nice and honest man?

Q.   I'm a 39 year old single mom with 2 kids. I've been single for almost 4 years now. Of course my kids mean the whole world to me, but at times I do need someone for intimate moments, to share the good and bad times together, to talk about everything ...

A.   4 November 2010: I wasn't saying you are a fussy person. I was simply asking you what qualities you are liking for in a man. That's not being fussy. When you know the answers to these questions and understand them, then youll know the right man for you. You won'... (read in full...)

How do I get out of this relationship? I am a saver, he is a spender and it is just not working!

Q.   my boyfriend of several years is upset im not buying him a house, car, and lavish gifts. I make much more money than he does, and its a sore spot. Im a saver, he is a spender. He has had several flighs over the years and refuses couciling, stating ...

A.   3 November 2010: Leave him otherwise he will probably take control of all your assets. Your nearing retirement and the last thing you'd want is someone so financially reckless.... (read in full...)

Am I destined to be alone because I don't want children?

Q.   I am a 25 year old female and I do not have children. I dont want children- never have and never will and this is something that I will not compromise on as its not fair to bring a child into this world that is not wanted. Anyways, that ...

A.   3 November 2010: No, you may not be destined to be alone. Having children can still be very lonely. Having children is our legacy, children are the only things that allow us all to live on for generations and be remembered because when we leave this earth they are ... (read in full...)

Help me! I feel like a pathetic loser!

Q.   i am a 15 year old girl who lives in Holland. I moved to a bilangual school recently which half of the lessons are in dutch. I feel like a pathetic LOSER because i am not white or dutch, I have such an accent when speaking dutch, all the other kids ...

A.   3 November 2010: Don't worry about anyone else or how they feel about you. Just try to learn and enjoy yourself. I dont hink anyone would be fussed about your color dont worry about that. Just keep learning and soon enough you will make friends. These things take ... (read in full...)

Should I let him go, or hope that I will fall in love with him eventually?

Q.   I've been seeing this guy for sometime now, for about a year. He's in love an I'm not. He want to be a family with me an my kids honestly I could care less. Do I need to just let go or keep hoping to fall in love with him. ...

A.   3 November 2010: You need to look into yourself and ask those questions what do you like about him and why? Does he do anything romantic for you? I bet when he's gone after you decide you don't want him you'll change your mind. men love a good chase and your giv... (read in full...)

I regret telling him how I feel about him.....

Q.   The thing is that I told this boy I love about my feelings... and now I kind of regret it and feel very anxious and guilty ALL THE TIME.It`s like a torture,I feel stupid for sending him a letter I knew that he would not respond positively,it never ...

A.   3 November 2010: Your looking at this totally the wrong way. I did that once and I don't regret it at all. Although my love was not reciprocated I feel good that I told her I love her. She still talks to me and we are friends now but I never regretted anything I did ... (read in full...)

He told me part of him wants to be with me, but the other part wants to give the mother of his child another chance!

Q.   my boyfriend txt me and letting me know that part of him wants to be with me, and part of him feels like he needs to give his daughter's mom a chance together, and yet his saying he just letting me know and he doesnt know what his going to do yet ...

A.   3 November 2010: I think he needs to understand that the relationship with his daughters mother ended for a simple reason ... It didn't work out. However If he goes back the same thing is bound to happen again if you weren't involved in the original breakup. But i... (read in full...)

Why don't intelligent people see this guy for what he really is?

Q.   I,m writing this as i can of need to vent my feelings. I know a guy who at first i thought was pretty decent, seemed nice etc... turns out i couldn't have been more wrong, let me explain. We slept together a few times last year, i thought he he ...

A.   3 November 2010: Just because he's a nice guy it dosent mean that all nice guys are bad. He just played you and is a twisted twat who is unsure of himself. You could always set him up and both you and your friend play a game back on him to meet at a pub for a fe... (read in full...)

How do guys feel about pointy noses?

Q.   Do guys love it when girls have pointed nose? or they simply hate it. am a girl. my nose is very pointed just like the indian hero ''saif ali khan'' i really don't like the way it is. Especially when i looked myself on the side, i feel disgusting. i ...

A.   3 November 2010: A you have to do is find out a fashion style the suits.... (read in full...)

How do guys feel about pointy noses?

Q.   Do guys love it when girls have pointed nose? or they simply hate it. am a girl. my nose is very pointed just like the indian hero ''saif ali khan'' i really don't like the way it is. Especially when i looked myself on the side, i feel disgusting. i ...

A.   3 November 2010: Dont worry about your nose. Some of the most beautiful women in the world has them ... Most top models have them. The most beautiful woman I've ever seen has one. ... (read in full...)

Why is it so difficult to find a really nice and honest man?

Q.   I'm a 39 year old single mom with 2 kids. I've been single for almost 4 years now. Of course my kids mean the whole world to me, but at times I do need someone for intimate moments, to share the good and bad times together, to talk about everything ...

A.   1 November 2010: Forget dating sites they don't work. What are the main things your looking for in a man other than being honest and nice?... (read in full...)

Could this be bad for our marriage?

Q.   I am a 59 year old woman married for 28 years. When my husband developed health issues that affected his ability to get an erection I thought my sex life was over. He tried Viagra and and some other stuff and when nothing worked he started telling ...

A.   16 June 2010: It could potentially get out of control but not if you let it so. It's good that your husband is so caring and loving and to be honest in the long run that is the one thing that will count far more than a sexual encounter no matter how good it makes ... (read in full...)

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