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How do I become more comfortable with sex when my own body isn't responding the way I want it to?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 25 March 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   So, there's this young man. We've been together for a couple of months although we've known each other for longer than that. The mutual attraction developed slowly over several months until at one point it was undeniable, but it still took us a ...

A.   25 March 2019: Congratulations, you sound to have found yourself a proper gem in your boyfriend. I think you are concentrating far too much on "the deed" and that is (possibly) why you are getting these anxiety attacks. For the time being you need to take ful... (read in full...)

Do I wait until after his birthday to break up?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 24 March 2019.

Q.   I am kind of on the young side. I have been dating this guy for 2 and a half months and just seemed to have lost interest in him and am starting to have feelings for another guy. I want to break up with my current boyfriend but still be friends. How ...

A.   24 March 2019: I think you should try to be kind and let him have a great birthday. If it was your birthday, I think you would want him to have at least shown you that much sympathy. I want to teach you a little something since you are very young. It might no... (read in full...)

I'm very attracted to a man who has kids and is separated. I'm torn about whether to move forward with him

Answered by YouWish + on 24 March 2019.

YouWish agony auntQ.   Hi all - any advice or thoughts on the following would be much appreciated as I'm at a total loss, something very uncommon for me. A series of events happened in my life that caused me to relocate to a brand new city without knowing anyone. ...

A.   24 March 2019: Yeah, I also say SLOW DOWN here! This guy, with 2 kids and not divorced from his wife, is not in any position physically, emotionally, or financially to have a rich, full relationship with someone else. He has unfinished business, tons of bagga... (read in full...)

I'm very attracted to a man who has kids and is separated. I'm torn about whether to move forward with him

Answered by mystiquek + on 24 March 2019.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   Hi all - any advice or thoughts on the following would be much appreciated as I'm at a total loss, something very uncommon for me. A series of events happened in my life that caused me to relocate to a brand new city without knowing anyone. ...

A.   24 March 2019: You would be wise to step back and not get involved till you know more. He's already being rather shady and holding back information and that doesn't bode well. Why would he joke about something like that? Are you sure he's not a player? People will ... (read in full...)

I'm very attracted to a man who has kids and is separated. I'm torn about whether to move forward with him

Answered by CMMP + on 24 March 2019.

Q.   Hi all - any advice or thoughts on the following would be much appreciated as I'm at a total loss, something very uncommon for me. A series of events happened in my life that caused me to relocate to a brand new city without knowing anyone. ...

A.   24 March 2019: What you really need to do is find out if he's still living with her. If seperated means "we live together but don't get along", that is just cheating. But if he lives in his own place it's not uncommon for people to remain married for years af... (read in full...)

I'm very attracted to a man who has kids and is separated. I'm torn about whether to move forward with him

Answered by Honeypie + on 24 March 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi all - any advice or thoughts on the following would be much appreciated as I'm at a total loss, something very uncommon for me. A series of events happened in my life that caused me to relocate to a brand new city without knowing anyone. ...

A.   24 March 2019: I think you need to pull WAY WAY back here. NO dating etc. UNTIL his divorce is final and the "dust" have settled with the divorce and sharing of custody. It will give him time to have worked through the divorce and you time to decide If you... (read in full...)

Is my male coworker playing mind games with me?

Answered by Honeypie + on 24 March 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   There is a coworker who works in a different department, “John”. He doesn’t go to meetings, has attitude, gossips, flirts, dates fellow coworkers, likes to mess with people, etc. When I first talked to him about something work-related, he...

A.   24 March 2019: Yep, I agree. He can ONLY "play" games with you, IF you play along. So far you have. IGNORE the man. DO your job. If he wants to "tsk" walking by your desk WHO cares? And why are you upset that he talks to OTHER women and not you? He is... (read in full...)

Is my male coworker playing mind games with me?

Answered by CindyCares + on 24 March 2019.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   There is a coworker who works in a different department, “John”. He doesn’t go to meetings, has attitude, gossips, flirts, dates fellow coworkers, likes to mess with people, etc. When I first talked to him about something work-related, he...

A.   24 March 2019:  He can only play games with you, if you play along. But if you go about your business and work as if John did not even exist, (and as you should do because you are there to perform a job , not to socialize with everybody or to get distracted ... (read in full...)

We broke up and he's acting like nothing every happened

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 24 March 2019.

Q.   hi i ended my 5 year relationship 2 weeks ago due to his lazy immature behaviour as soon as he got home from work he would start getting stoned then by night time he would be falling asleep on the settee and basically I got bored he spends hundreds ...

A.   24 March 2019: Correction: "You aren't working full-time; and he's your primary source of income." "You will also have to get a full-time job. ... (read in full...)

We broke up and he's acting like nothing every happened

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 24 March 2019.

Q.   hi i ended my 5 year relationship 2 weeks ago due to his lazy immature behaviour as soon as he got home from work he would start getting stoned then by night time he would be falling asleep on the settee and basically I got bored he spends hundreds ...

A.   24 March 2019: You aren't working, and he's your only source of income. How would you feed and shelter yourself and your children? He can't be smoking pot around small children. Child protection authorities could intervene, and your kids can be taken away fro... (read in full...)

I'm very attracted to a man who has kids and is separated. I'm torn about whether to move forward with him

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 24 March 2019.

Q.   Hi all - any advice or thoughts on the following would be much appreciated as I'm at a total loss, something very uncommon for me. A series of events happened in my life that caused me to relocate to a brand new city without knowing anyone. ...

A.   24 March 2019: You had to pull the information about his wife and kids out of him. Establishing your marital-status is at the top of the list; if you are pursuing someone romantically. That's not an "oh...by the way" type of discussion. Before any flirtations were ... (read in full...)

Is my male coworker playing mind games with me?

Answered by N91 + on 24 March 2019.

N91 agony auntQ.   There is a coworker who works in a different department, “John”. He doesn’t go to meetings, has attitude, gossips, flirts, dates fellow coworkers, likes to mess with people, etc. When I first talked to him about something work-related, he...

A.   24 March 2019: In all honesty, why do you care? You’re at work, not a social gathering. If he wants to act like a child then let him. Concentrate on the job you’re being paid to do.... (read in full...)

Is my male coworker playing mind games with me?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 24 March 2019.

Q.   There is a coworker who works in a different department, “John”. He doesn’t go to meetings, has attitude, gossips, flirts, dates fellow coworkers, likes to mess with people, etc. When I first talked to him about something work-related, he...

A.   24 March 2019: You first describe "John's" cringiness; and then by the end of the post you seem disappointed he doesn't seem to like you. You're far too aware of his every move! Seems you'd be too engrossed in your work to notice him much! What exactly ... (read in full...)

I'm very attracted to a man who has kids and is separated. I'm torn about whether to move forward with him

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 24 March 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Hi all - any advice or thoughts on the following would be much appreciated as I'm at a total loss, something very uncommon for me. A series of events happened in my life that caused me to relocate to a brand new city without knowing anyone. ...

A.   24 March 2019: All I can say is that life seldom pans out EXACTLY as we envisage. If you put it out there that you will NEVER fall for someone who is/has XYZ, you can almost guarantee the universe will challenge that and show you that life is not that black and ... (read in full...)

Is my male coworker playing mind games with me?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 24 March 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   There is a coworker who works in a different department, “John”. He doesn’t go to meetings, has attitude, gossips, flirts, dates fellow coworkers, likes to mess with people, etc. When I first talked to him about something work-related, he...

A.   24 March 2019: Honestly, why do you even care? You say yourself, the man is a jerk. I am tempted to leave my response at that, but will elaborate. You are at work to work, so I would just keep my head down and work (you can check personal emails in personal... (read in full...)

Is it normal to be a bit incompatible in your sex life?

Answered by anonymous on 24 March 2019.

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and when we first got together, we had quite a lot of sex. Before him, I hadn't really found anyone that I "clicked" with so kind of went without. When we were first dating, we did it a LOT. Like, 2 times a ...

A.   24 March 2019: Simple, Don't do anything you don't feel like doing. Only do what you feel comfy doing, however, do think about your bf's needs to, because when in a relationship, it's not just about you.... (read in full...)

How do I get the feelings I had for my dead ex into my new relationship?

Answered by Honeypie + on 23 March 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I'm in distress thinking about an ex who passed away many years ago I'm in a relationship at the moment I do love him but it feels in a different way to cut a long story short although they wernt always happy between my ex and me I see are memories ...

A.   23 March 2019: Don't compare. It really isn't fair. Make NEW memories with your new partner. Things you didn't do with your ex, placed you haven't been etc. New relationship and new partner is a NEW adventure. It shouldn't be a continuum of the past one. It... (read in full...)

She thinks there was a hidden message about being fat in my fruit and yoghurt comment

Answered by Honeypie + on 23 March 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   So I have been with this woman for 18 months. Our relationship has been perfect so far, no arguements, always get on. Today she had an arguement with a friend and was not very happy after. She sent me a message saying she was going for a walk and ...

A.   23 March 2019: I'd say UNLESS she ASKS you for advice on what to eat, or what is healthy, I';d leave it up to her to eat whatever she wants. Her self-image and weight is HER responsibility. This is also one of those no win situations. You are F'd if you do and F... (read in full...)

I wear conceal to hide spots. What if I guy wants to see my face without the makeup?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 23 March 2019.

Q.   Hi, I've been thinking lately, I got some pimples and redness on my face and to make my self cofidence rise again, I cover them with concealer, and if I have a boyfriend in the future and if he wants to see me with no make up, what should I do??? ...

A.   23 March 2019: Guys don't mind if you wear a little make-up. Even if you go without it sometimes, you really don't have to worry; because they will likely have pimples too, if in your age-group. Don't start stressing and worrying too much about being judged a... (read in full...)

She seemed interested but now has changed! Should I tell her how I feel about her?

Answered by Honeypie + on 23 March 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi I'm just looking for some advice on a situation. Basically I really like a girl and have done so for a long time, but I never really felt I had a chance with her so didn't try. Recently, for some reason, she became a lot more intereste...

A.   23 March 2019: there you go then! I hope you two have an enjoyable day !... (read in full...)

I've ended and affair, but I'm having trouble moving on

Answered by anonymous on 23 March 2019.

Q.   Hi, I am a married female 32 years of age, and recently ended a four month affair with a married man,2 kids, same age as myself. He worked in the same building, and after many months of serious eye contact, approched me and we started off just...

A.   23 March 2019: They never forget their lover. It’s possible to love someone and know that the situation is not right. Personally, I believe that someone can love more than one person at a time. It’s possible to find your true soulmate even though you love your ... (read in full...)

How do I get the feelings I had for my dead ex into my new relationship?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 23 March 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I'm in distress thinking about an ex who passed away many years ago I'm in a relationship at the moment I do love him but it feels in a different way to cut a long story short although they wernt always happy between my ex and me I see are memories ...

A.   23 March 2019: Given your age, you must have been quite young when you and your ex were together. I am guessing teens or early 20s? Perhaps he was even your first (serious) boyfriend? Your feelings at that time will have been very naive and "juvenile" compared... (read in full...)

How do I ‘combat’ a control-freak husband?

Answered by chigirl + on 23 March 2019.

chigirl agony auntQ.   My husband is a wonderful man but he is a control freak sometimes. When he is, it's harmless, but super annoying. FYI we don't have kids. For example: He's the chef in the family. He's very particular and likes following recipes. He'll go out to ...

A.   23 March 2019: My advice: buy noice cancelling headphones and ignore him. Once he learns you will not fred his irrational ideas, he will quit. But you have to be consistent. Also, you have to accept that he will never stop completely. You might calm it down in ... (read in full...)

I wear conceal to hide spots. What if I guy wants to see my face without the makeup?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 23 March 2019.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Hi, I've been thinking lately, I got some pimples and redness on my face and to make my self cofidence rise again, I cover them with concealer, and if I have a boyfriend in the future and if he wants to see me with no make up, what should I do??? ...

A.   23 March 2019: When there’s a guy you like who genuinely likes you, he will not care that you have spots :) We all get them sometimes, especially as teenagers - you may find that a boy you really like and he’s got spots, maybe on his back/chest instead of face or ... (read in full...)

A complicated LD relationship just got more complicated. What should I do?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 23 March 2019.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Hi , if you are in my shoe what will u do? This is my situation, .. This guy i met online and we been talking for long hours everyday.. Discussing about us and our future. Especially we are also discussing about our 1st meeting in indonesia then we ...

A.   23 March 2019: OP, I sympathise with you. You have fallen into the trap of an LDR where it’s not real. Some LDRs are real, but this one isn’t: - you haven’t met yet or met fairly regularly - I love you is too soon (if you haven’t met in person yet) - it’s too ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to be a bit incompatible in your sex life?

Answered by Pepi let pew + on 23 March 2019.

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and when we first got together, we had quite a lot of sex. Before him, I hadn't really found anyone that I "clicked" with so kind of went without. When we were first dating, we did it a LOT. Like, 2 times a ...

A.   23 March 2019: My relationship just ended after 9 years. A big part of our relationship issues was sex. Or lack off it. I have a high sex drive and my partner at the time had an average sex drive. The sex we did have was amazing partly because we loved each other ... (read in full...)

How do I get the feelings I had for my dead ex into my new relationship?

Answered by Aunty Susie + on 23 March 2019.

Aunty Susie agony auntQ.   I'm in distress thinking about an ex who passed away many years ago I'm in a relationship at the moment I do love him but it feels in a different way to cut a long story short although they wernt always happy between my ex and me I see are memories ...

A.   23 March 2019: You need to stop comparing this relationship with the other. It will never be the same. You are not the same person. Stop thinking of the past and live in the moment. You wouldn't want to be compared to a previous partner, so respect your current ... (read in full...)

I like him far more than I want to

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 23 March 2019.

Q.   Hi I am need of some guidance at the minute and hope you can help! I first met Tim when I was at school, we were close friends and always shared a fondness of each other until teenage years when we lost touch. 12 years ago we became in contac...

A.   23 March 2019: [EDIT]: Typo or grammatical correction: "Their behavior just might change as well."... (read in full...)

I like him far more than I want to

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 23 March 2019.

Q.   Hi I am need of some guidance at the minute and hope you can help! I first met Tim when I was at school, we were close friends and always shared a fondness of each other until teenage years when we lost touch. 12 years ago we became in contac...

A.   23 March 2019: As an adult you have the benefit of experience and maturity; which gives you an added sense of responsibility, and an even more developed sense of judgement. Lean on the side of common-sense. The heart can be foolish and reckless. It has been my ... (read in full...)

How do I ‘combat’ a control-freak husband?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2019.

Q.   My husband is a wonderful man but he is a control freak sometimes. When he is, it's harmless, but super annoying. FYI we don't have kids. For example: He's the chef in the family. He's very particular and likes following recipes. He'll go out to ...

A.   22 March 2019: Thank you everyone for your responses. It's super helpful to hear from those who have had similar experiences and to hear the other side as well. :) I only brought two pieces of dumplings out, I thought we'd finish them or they'd get thrown away.... (read in full...)

How do I ‘combat’ a control-freak husband?

Answered by Fatherly Advice + on 22 March 2019.

Fatherly Advice agony auntQ.   My husband is a wonderful man but he is a control freak sometimes. When he is, it's harmless, but super annoying. FYI we don't have kids. For example: He's the chef in the family. He's very particular and likes following recipes. He'll go out to ...

A.   22 March 2019: If you feel the need to "combat" your spouse, then breaking up before children is a great idea. ... (read in full...)

She thinks there was a hidden message about being fat in my fruit and yoghurt comment

Answered by Fatherly Advice + on 22 March 2019.

Fatherly Advice agony auntQ.   So I have been with this woman for 18 months. Our relationship has been perfect so far, no arguements, always get on. Today she had an arguement with a friend and was not very happy after. She sent me a message saying she was going for a walk and ...

A.   22 March 2019: Eating to feel better is exactly why I will live 20 years less than I could have. I'm not sure where the inalienable right to self medicate with sweets came from. If OP's girl feels as bad about yogurt as the women responding here, then her ... (read in full...)

How do I make real friends?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2019.

Q.   I’m struggling to get through life without always being hurt or angry. I have no real friends that care. I have friends that use me when I have money and when they have money, they invite others and meet in secret to teach me a lesson. I recentl...

A.   22 March 2019: I am so sorry that you are feeling so let down. You are not worthless, useless, inadequate, or anything of the sort. You deserve to be happy and healthy and treated respectfully just like everyone else. First, I think you should see a doctor a... (read in full...)

How do I make real friends?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 March 2019.

Q.   I’m struggling to get through life without always being hurt or angry. I have no real friends that care. I have friends that use me when I have money and when they have money, they invite others and meet in secret to teach me a lesson. I recentl...

A.   22 March 2019: God bless you, sweetheart! It may be of no solace or comfort to you; but people are people, and this is what you will deal with all through life. You can't become embittered or cynical for people being their worst sometimes. Human-nature is part ... (read in full...)

I like him far more than I want to

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 22 March 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Hi I am need of some guidance at the minute and hope you can help! I first met Tim when I was at school, we were close friends and always shared a fondness of each other until teenage years when we lost touch. 12 years ago we became in contac...

A.   22 March 2019: Your gut instinct is telling you that you are playing with fire. You need to listen. You have been very sensible up to now and protected yourself from being his rebound. Much as you may like him, the timing is not right and you know it. Ther... (read in full...)

How do I ‘combat’ a control-freak husband?

Answered by CindyCares + on 22 March 2019.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   My husband is a wonderful man but he is a control freak sometimes. When he is, it's harmless, but super annoying. FYI we don't have kids. For example: He's the chef in the family. He's very particular and likes following recipes. He'll go out to ...

A.   22 March 2019: Living with someone ( from your mom to a college roommate to your beloved spouse etc. ) is never devoid of ( hopefully minor ) annoyances, and it is an exercise in patience and mutual tolerance. For both. I'll play the devil's advocate and I'll... (read in full...)

How do I get the feelings I had for my dead ex into my new relationship?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 March 2019.

Q.   I'm in distress thinking about an ex who passed away many years ago I'm in a relationship at the moment I do love him but it feels in a different way to cut a long story short although they wernt always happy between my ex and me I see are memories ...

A.   22 March 2019: It's a process, and you have to separate your individual relationships; don't compare them. You have to remember that when we make romantic-connections with new people; the relationship isn't just about you or me. The other people coming into our ... (read in full...)

How do I ‘combat’ a control-freak husband?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 March 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   My husband is a wonderful man but he is a control freak sometimes. When he is, it's harmless, but super annoying. FYI we don't have kids. For example: He's the chef in the family. He's very particular and likes following recipes. He'll go out to ...

A.   22 March 2019: My husband was VERY similar (except for the cooking, he never did much of that, still don't). He liked to tell me how to do things, like cleaning and I would hand him, the broom, vacuum, duster, whatever and just walk away. Leaving him to finis... (read in full...)

She seemed interested but now has changed! Should I tell her how I feel about her?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2019.

Q.   Hi I'm just looking for some advice on a situation. Basically I really like a girl and have done so for a long time, but I never really felt I had a chance with her so didn't try. Recently, for some reason, she became a lot more intereste...

A.   22 March 2019: Original poster here. So i asked her and it turns out she does like me. We have a date tomorrow night :) Thanks for your answers.... (read in full...)

She seemed interested but now has changed! Should I tell her how I feel about her?

Answered by CindyCares + on 22 March 2019.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   Hi I'm just looking for some advice on a situation. Basically I really like a girl and have done so for a long time, but I never really felt I had a chance with her so didn't try. Recently, for some reason, she became a lot more intereste...

A.   22 March 2019:  What I think you should do , is understanding that , pardon my French, you need either to p..s or to get off the pot. I.e. : either 1 ) you stop clinging to wishful thinking and accept that , for whatever reason of hers , she is simply not... (read in full...)

How do I get the feelings I had for my dead ex into my new relationship?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 22 March 2019.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   I'm in distress thinking about an ex who passed away many years ago I'm in a relationship at the moment I do love him but it feels in a different way to cut a long story short although they wernt always happy between my ex and me I see are memories ...

A.   22 March 2019: No relationships are the same. I’m sorry for your loss, but new relationships won’t compare. No new relationship compares to a long, mostly happy one because it’s still new. Every new relationship is a new “flower”, so don’t compare it to other ... (read in full...)

She seemed interested but now has changed! Should I tell her how I feel about her?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 March 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi I'm just looking for some advice on a situation. Basically I really like a girl and have done so for a long time, but I never really felt I had a chance with her so didn't try. Recently, for some reason, she became a lot more intereste...

A.   22 March 2019: You know, YOU asked her out on a date - so she KNOWS you like her and wanted to spend time one-on-one. SHE KNOWS. Asking her friends is pointless. NEVER involve someone's friends in a "romantic set-up or questions. Because 1. they might have a d... (read in full...)

How do I ‘combat’ a control-freak husband?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 22 March 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   My husband is a wonderful man but he is a control freak sometimes. When he is, it's harmless, but super annoying. FYI we don't have kids. For example: He's the chef in the family. He's very particular and likes following recipes. He'll go out to ...

A.   22 March 2019: I think calling your husband a "control freak" over minor "annoying" little quirks he has is a bit harsh. Trust me, a real control freak is SERIOUS. Your husband's behaviour, on the other hand, is "annoying" (your word). The best bit is that he ... (read in full...)

Wife hides her family and past from me

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2019.

Q.   I recently found out that my wife’s sister has past. I am upset because I never even knew she had a sister. My wife hides her family and her past from me. Worse she asked me not to come to the funeral and wants to go alone. We have been married for ...

A.   22 March 2019: Grab a bottle of wine two glasses and a candle and sit her down and talk to her.If you cannot even do that your marriage is doomed.... (read in full...)

Why is my partner's brother so negative about us all the time?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2019.

Q.   Hi there , so my fella and I are moving in together After 6 months of dating we both have a child each and all get on fantastic .. the issue is his brother is always negative about things .. our cars are rubbish ( his car is older than ours ) o...

A.   22 March 2019: I have a different take on this.I think his brother may be medically depressed.He also may be afraid of losing his brother to you. But...You need to slow way down in your relationship.You should not even talk about blending families for at least 2 ... (read in full...)

A complicated LD relationship just got more complicated. What should I do?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2019.

Q.   Hi , if you are in my shoe what will u do? This is my situation, .. This guy i met online and we been talking for long hours everyday.. Discussing about us and our future. Especially we are also discussing about our 1st meeting in indonesia then we ...

A.   22 March 2019: You are being catfished big time.That means he is setting you up to con you and you are falling for it.Soon he will ask you for money to get a lawyer to get custody of his kids....who more than not are not even real.The internet does not mean a ... (read in full...)

I wear conceal to hide spots. What if I guy wants to see my face without the makeup?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2019.

Q.   Hi, I've been thinking lately, I got some pimples and redness on my face and to make my self cofidence rise again, I cover them with concealer, and if I have a boyfriend in the future and if he wants to see me with no make up, what should I do??? ...

A.   22 March 2019: One word my love, ProActiv. It worked wonders for my teenage daughter and her spots / acne. I even use it to even out my skin tone. Speak to your parents about purchasing it for you as it's alittle expensive. But, they do offer a treatmen... (read in full...)

Why do we hold onto people that are not good for us?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2019.

Q.   Why do we hold on to those who we know are no good for us? My boyfriend of 10 and a half months broke up with me 3 days ago. He was my first ever relationship and I was so happy. I thought I was in love to be honest, because I wanted to be wit...

A.   22 March 2019: You said that he's unhappy and yes he is. I had the same thing happen to me. Someone I really liked was going to move in with me, then he treated me like dirt (screwed a prostitute and said that she was me = madness?!) and then said he hated me ... (read in full...)

Why do we hold onto people that are not good for us?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 March 2019.

Q.   Why do we hold on to those who we know are no good for us? My boyfriend of 10 and a half months broke up with me 3 days ago. He was my first ever relationship and I was so happy. I thought I was in love to be honest, because I wanted to be wit...

A.   22 March 2019: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/when-will-i-finally-get-over-the-breakup.html http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-give-up-someone-i-know.html I came to DC when I was dumped and felt as if my pain was going to linger for a long time.... (read in full...)

Is it normal to feel unsettled in a long-term relationship?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 March 2019.

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years. We moved in together after 6 months of being together and we're generally quite happy (we've "broken up" twice but each time lasted for about an hour each!) Anyway, I feel like recently my life is becoming...

A.   22 March 2019: To make better sense of how your relationship is structured; I hope you will answer a few questions. I have a lot of trepidation and concern about young women relocating and being transplanted to a new country, or into a new culture; and being ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to be a bit incompatible in your sex life?

Answered by mystiquek + on 21 March 2019.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and when we first got together, we had quite a lot of sex. Before him, I hadn't really found anyone that I "clicked" with so kind of went without. When we were first dating, we did it a LOT. Like, 2 times a ...

A.   21 March 2019: I think its pretty common that most couples are not equally matched in their desires for sex. The happy partnerships are the ones where they reach some sort of compromise where both people are relatively happy. Lets face it..you give a little..you ... (read in full...)

She thinks there was a hidden message about being fat in my fruit and yoghurt comment

Answered by anonymous on 21 March 2019.

Q.   So I have been with this woman for 18 months. Our relationship has been perfect so far, no arguements, always get on. Today she had an arguement with a friend and was not very happy after. She sent me a message saying she was going for a walk and ...

A.   21 March 2019: Honestly your role when she says "i'm thinking about getting ice cream" should be "yeah, that's a great idea!". Not sure WHY FRUIT AND YOGURT came into your mind as a fun snack?!?! It definitely comes off as a dig that she needs to eat healthier. I ... (read in full...)

I wear conceal to hide spots. What if I guy wants to see my face without the makeup?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 March 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi, I've been thinking lately, I got some pimples and redness on my face and to make my self cofidence rise again, I cover them with concealer, and if I have a boyfriend in the future and if he wants to see me with no make up, what should I do??? ...

A.   21 March 2019: Most girls these days knows MORE about make up than I ever did. My 16 year old daughter can spin circles around me with all the various, concealer, sculpt, contour... YOU name it! she knows 10 times more than I do. So I don't think your "future"... (read in full...)

A complicated LD relationship just got more complicated. What should I do?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 March 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi , if you are in my shoe what will u do? This is my situation, .. This guy i met online and we been talking for long hours everyday.. Discussing about us and our future. Especially we are also discussing about our 1st meeting in indonesia then we ...

A.   21 March 2019: This isn't YOUR issue here, OP It's his. His ex-gf, his kids, HIS job to find a solution. Something like a daycare, Au pair, nanny or whatnot. IT IS NOT your job to become his build in GF/nanny. While the plans and fantasies you two shared w... (read in full...)

I wear conceal to hide spots. What if I guy wants to see my face without the makeup?

Answered by anonymous on 21 March 2019.

Q.   Hi, I've been thinking lately, I got some pimples and redness on my face and to make my self cofidence rise again, I cover them with concealer, and if I have a boyfriend in the future and if he wants to see me with no make up, what should I do??? ...

A.   21 March 2019: Hi there, Do not worry. You're at an age where spots and pimples are common, but this will pass. I too used to wear make up all the time to cover up my uneven skin tone, but as I got older (I'm now 23), I started to wear less and now I wear no ... (read in full...)

My best friend separated from her partner and is now turning to anyone for comfort

Answered by anonymous on 21 March 2019.

Q.   hey so two of friend's just separated, one's my best friend (they grew apart). i have tried to be the best possible friend through this and have been happy for this to consume my life basically! always been checking in, trying to plan fun things ...

A.   21 March 2019: thank you guys i really appreciate your responses & they will go some way to getting things in my head straightened out. I have stepped back as of last weekend but it is just playing on my mind whether I will look like i don't care when things are ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to be a bit incompatible in your sex life?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 March 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and when we first got together, we had quite a lot of sex. Before him, I hadn't really found anyone that I "clicked" with so kind of went without. When we were first dating, we did it a LOT. Like, 2 times a ...

A.   21 March 2019: I don't think it's all about not being compatible... I think it's about boundaries and NOT respecting them. If you have told him, NO I DO NOT want to do anal he NEEDS to respect that and STOP frigging asking for it! If you don't ENJOY givi... (read in full...)

Is it normal to feel unsettled in a long-term relationship?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 March 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years. We moved in together after 6 months of being together and we're generally quite happy (we've "broken up" twice but each time lasted for about an hour each!) Anyway, I feel like recently my life is becoming...

A.   21 March 2019: Why do you feel unsettled? I think because you are still finding out WHO you are and WHAT you want to do with your life. You say you two have PLANNED to move to his country and have kids. It's a nice fantasy. But if we look at the REALITY here... (read in full...)

A complicated LD relationship just got more complicated. What should I do?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 21 March 2019.

Q.   Hi , if you are in my shoe what will u do? This is my situation, .. This guy i met online and we been talking for long hours everyday.. Discussing about us and our future. Especially we are also discussing about our 1st meeting in indonesia then we ...

A.   21 March 2019: If you have never met this guy and it is long-distance; you can't afford to have any complications. You can't be all that into him either; if you really haven't had the chance to meet and be with each other. This guy has baby-mama drama, he lives... (read in full...)

My best friend separated from her partner and is now turning to anyone for comfort

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 March 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   hey so two of friend's just separated, one's my best friend (they grew apart). i have tried to be the best possible friend through this and have been happy for this to consume my life basically! always been checking in, trying to plan fun things ...

A.   21 March 2019: Honestly? I'd step back from this whole mess. IF she ASKS you for advice, BE honest other then that? IT'S her life to mess up and you are NOT responsible for sorting out her drama, problems and issues FOR her. It's OK to just LISTEN. To NOT judg... (read in full...)

My husband never wants to take time off!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 21 March 2019.

Q.   I always seem to be the one to ask my husband when he is taking time off work. he is a sales man so out 4 days a week up and down the motorways. he never complains that he ever needs to take time off or says he is fed up so needs to have a break so ...

A.   21 March 2019: He's approaching retirement-age on a salesman's job. I must assume he's paid on commission. He has quotas to meet, and being a senior-employee; probably has a lot of younger competition on the job. Not only is he caught in a rut; but I think he... (read in full...)

Why do we hold onto people that are not good for us?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 March 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Why do we hold on to those who we know are no good for us? My boyfriend of 10 and a half months broke up with me 3 days ago. He was my first ever relationship and I was so happy. I thought I was in love to be honest, because I wanted to be wit...

A.   21 March 2019: Why can't you let him go? Because you saw something there that YOU wanted while ignoring some of the "red flags". Basically you felt the PROs outweighed the CONs. My advice would be to CUT all contact, BLOCK and DELETE him so YOU don't feel t... (read in full...)

My best friend separated from her partner and is now turning to anyone for comfort

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 21 March 2019.

Q.   hey so two of friend's just separated, one's my best friend (they grew apart). i have tried to be the best possible friend through this and have been happy for this to consume my life basically! always been checking in, trying to plan fun things ...

A.   21 March 2019: If your friend is rebounding with hookups on Tinder and turning to men for comfort; all you can really do is try to remind her that she's stricken with grief, and overcome with her anger. That's dangerous and self-destructive. Don't expect her to ... (read in full...)

I like him far more than I want to

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 March 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi I am need of some guidance at the minute and hope you can help! I first met Tim when I was at school, we were close friends and always shared a fondness of each other until teenage years when we lost touch. 12 years ago we became in contac...

A.   21 March 2019: I would tell him you two need to cool it until the divorce is final. That way HE gets time to decide IF he really wants a divorce and move on from his marriage and wife or not and YOU don't get caught in the middle.... (read in full...)

Why is my partner's brother so negative about us all the time?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 March 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi there , so my fella and I are moving in together After 6 months of dating we both have a child each and all get on fantastic .. the issue is his brother is always negative about things .. our cars are rubbish ( his car is older than ours ) o...

A.   21 March 2019: Oops hit Enter before I was done.. So part two: YOU can not change or control the brother. Or what he says, feels, thinks, or do. NEITHER can your BF. But you CAN decide if you want to LISTEN to the crap or not. IS any of the negativit... (read in full...)

Why is my partner's brother so negative about us all the time?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 March 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi there , so my fella and I are moving in together After 6 months of dating we both have a child each and all get on fantastic .. the issue is his brother is always negative about things .. our cars are rubbish ( his car is older than ours ) o...

A.   21 March 2019: Some people are negative about EVERYONE else life because they are THEMSELVES unhappy and dissatisfied. It is EASIER to take apart your relationship rather than look at his own life and DO something about the things he is unhappy about. One thi... (read in full...)

Is the grief causing him to treat me badly?

Answered by anonymous on 21 March 2019.

Q.   Hello. Firstly just for some context I was in a on and off relationship for 10 years with the sweetest best friend of a boyfriend who was my high school sweetheart but his lack of ambition and lazy attitude I couldn't take anymore. We are ...

A.   21 March 2019: I lost my father last September. And I have not been the same since. And never will be. He has lost both parents. It's easy for a few strangers on an advice forum to judge this man and his pain. But it's not fair. And it isn't right. He is suffering ... (read in full...)

Why is my partner's brother so negative about us all the time?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 21 March 2019.

Q.   Hi there , so my fella and I are moving in together After 6 months of dating we both have a child each and all get on fantastic .. the issue is his brother is always negative about things .. our cars are rubbish ( his car is older than ours ) o...

A.   21 March 2019: Sibling-rivalry and jealousy. There might be some resentment carried-over from childhood, that he never outgrew. Most of the comments come from a darkness in his soul; and you really have to ignore them. You can't control what people say. You... (read in full...)

Why is my partner's brother so negative about us all the time?

Answered by anonymous on 21 March 2019.

Q.   Hi there , so my fella and I are moving in together After 6 months of dating we both have a child each and all get on fantastic .. the issue is his brother is always negative about things .. our cars are rubbish ( his car is older than ours ) o...

A.   21 March 2019: After 6 months you have deicded to become a blended family? That may not be the rigth thing to do at the moment. You can't know someone in 6 months especially when you have a kid. Anyways, apart from that. I think the brother is negative because ... (read in full...)

Why did he unmatch me after hooking up?

Answered by chigirl + on 21 March 2019.

chigirl agony auntQ.   I hooked up with this guy from Tinder the other night but we didn't have sex because I was on my period. That didn't seem to bother him but I was uncomfortable with it and gave him oral instead. I told him next time we will go all the way and he ...

A.   21 March 2019: Not all people are that mature and comfortable with their own sexuality. My guess is he was embarrassed because youve seen him naked and now he doesnt know how to act or what to do. So he freaks out and runs and hides. Never mind him. He wasnt ... (read in full...)

His priorities don't make sense

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 20 March 2019.

Q.   DEAR cupid, my boyfriend I and have been together for a year and 1/2. We have been living together for a year. We have been experiencing issues and decided to end our realationship to work on ourselves and our relationship. This is where it gets ...

A.   20 March 2019: Here's another male's point of view. He's really getting used to the separation and his freedom. No more fights and no more drama! He didn't want to initiate the breakup, but now he has taken the advantage. He has the room to wiggle-out of the ... (read in full...)

Why did he unmatch me after hooking up?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 20 March 2019.

Q.   I hooked up with this guy from Tinder the other night but we didn't have sex because I was on my period. That didn't seem to bother him but I was uncomfortable with it and gave him oral instead. I told him next time we will go all the way and he ...

A.   20 March 2019: You might not be clingy, but you're naive if you don't understand the rules of the game when it comes to hookups on Tinder. He has a multitude of options, and a variety of choices among females. He got what he wanted from you; but he wasn't looking ... (read in full...)

Wife hides her family and past from me

Answered by ClairM + on 20 March 2019.

Q.   I recently found out that my wife’s sister has past. I am upset because I never even knew she had a sister. My wife hides her family and her past from me. Worse she asked me not to come to the funeral and wants to go alone. We have been married for ...

A.   20 March 2019: She clearly has her reasons for not talking about her family and disclosing she had a sister. We can all speculate why, it could be they kept your wife at arms length by choice or she kept them at arms length. I can understand why you are upset an... (read in full...)

Is the grief causing him to treat me badly?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 20 March 2019.

Q.   Hello. Firstly just for some context I was in a on and off relationship for 10 years with the sweetest best friend of a boyfriend who was my high school sweetheart but his lack of ambition and lazy attitude I couldn't take anymore. We are ...

A.   20 March 2019: It may be old-fashioned; but don't have a baby for a man who doesn't want to marry you first. Too many kids, especially boys; have to grow-up with dad's who decide they just want to move-on. They become remote-parents or absent-fathers. Showing-up ... (read in full...)

Why did he unmatch me after hooking up?

Answered by ClairM + on 20 March 2019.

Q.   I hooked up with this guy from Tinder the other night but we didn't have sex because I was on my period. That didn't seem to bother him but I was uncomfortable with it and gave him oral instead. I told him next time we will go all the way and he ...

A.   20 March 2019: Agreeing to have sex straight away and being 'picky' is a tad contradictory. But regardless,for him it was purely a sexual thing between four walls and he didn't want that spilling into his everyday life. We can second guess why he feels that way ... (read in full...)

Is the grief causing him to treat me badly?

Answered by anonymous on 20 March 2019.

Q.   Hello. Firstly just for some context I was in a on and off relationship for 10 years with the sweetest best friend of a boyfriend who was my high school sweetheart but his lack of ambition and lazy attitude I couldn't take anymore. We are ...

A.   20 March 2019: I forgot to say that another classic abusive tactic is for the man to be very keen on settling down and getting their partners pregnant as quickly as possible. Why? Because it makes you completely reliant on them and that's how they like it. Usually ... (read in full...)

Is the grief causing him to treat me badly?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 20 March 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Hello. Firstly just for some context I was in a on and off relationship for 10 years with the sweetest best friend of a boyfriend who was my high school sweetheart but his lack of ambition and lazy attitude I couldn't take anymore. We are ...

A.   20 March 2019: Well, the grief and pain from his accident won't have helped his moods, but compare how he has been acting with how your ex would have acted under the same circumstances. Would your ex have been mean to you because he was stressed/in pain/grieving? ... (read in full...)

Is the grief causing him to treat me badly?

Answered by anonymous on 20 March 2019.

Q.   Hello. Firstly just for some context I was in a on and off relationship for 10 years with the sweetest best friend of a boyfriend who was my high school sweetheart but his lack of ambition and lazy attitude I couldn't take anymore. We are ...

A.   20 March 2019: No it is most definitely NOT the grief. He is ABUSIVE. Seriously. He is already working his way through all the abusive tactics there are. He wants you and he doesn't want you to leave him. And the way that abusive partners go about achievin... (read in full...)

My daughter's boyfriend has turned her against her family!

Answered by anonymous on 20 March 2019.

Q.   For the past nearly 2 years our family has been doing battle with a highly-intelligent, scheming and sneaky cock roach named Adam. My daughter met him 7 years ago, and they had only dated 2 months when we began to see a huge change in her. They ...

A.   20 March 2019: Dear Grieving Mother. I am in your place. My beautiful, hardworking, well-educated, 27-year old daughter is now under the power and control of a 45-year old, unemployed, married addict with a criminal history of violence against women. He pursued ... (read in full...)

She thinks there was a hidden message about being fat in my fruit and yoghurt comment

Answered by Fatherly Advice + on 20 March 2019.

Fatherly Advice agony auntQ.   So I have been with this woman for 18 months. Our relationship has been perfect so far, no arguements, always get on. Today she had an arguement with a friend and was not very happy after. She sent me a message saying she was going for a walk and ...

A.   20 March 2019: And this is how your own insecurities can wreck your relationships. I've been thinking about this a lot lately. An insecure person tends to self sabotage relationships. If a person is self conscious about their appearance they tend to look for ... (read in full...)

I’m in an exclusive long distance relationship, despite my desire for it to be open, and I started cheating. What do I do?

Answered by anonymous on 20 March 2019.

Q.   I’m a freshman In college and am doing long distance with a boy I started dating about a year ago (during my senior year of high school). I truly believe that I’m in love with him, as I dated a boy before him and learned the difference between ...

A.   20 March 2019: To Cindy Cares. Anonymous male here. I understand what you are saying, but the OP and he bf did agree to and open relationship. Then they watered that down to a not on the hunt for it, but if it happens then OK. OPs bf then wanted a closed ... (read in full...)

Is the grief causing him to treat me badly?

Answered by Honeypie + on 20 March 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hello. Firstly just for some context I was in a on and off relationship for 10 years with the sweetest best friend of a boyfriend who was my high school sweetheart but his lack of ambition and lazy attitude I couldn't take anymore. We are ...

A.   20 March 2019: He treats you badly, because YOU allow it. It's that simple. You have made excuses for him (to yourself mostly) when he has been a total dick-wad to you. Oh, it must be grief or stress... But in reality, he is a DICK to you because THAT is who h... (read in full...)

His priorities don't make sense

Answered by Honeypie + on 20 March 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   DEAR cupid, my boyfriend I and have been together for a year and 1/2. We have been living together for a year. We have been experiencing issues and decided to end our realationship to work on ourselves and our relationship. This is where it gets ...

A.   20 March 2019: I'm with Cindy, why on EARTH buy a house with a guy you aren't married to? OR even DATING seriously? I'm surprised that a couple of people in their 30's are this unrealistic about life. WHY on EARTH would you buy a house with this man, if he ... (read in full...)

Why did he unmatch me after hooking up?

Answered by Honeypie + on 20 March 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I hooked up with this guy from Tinder the other night but we didn't have sex because I was on my period. That didn't seem to bother him but I was uncomfortable with it and gave him oral instead. I told him next time we will go all the way and he ...

A.   20 March 2019: You write:" I am not the clingy type and he knows that. " How? Because you TOLD him? If he is just some random guy of Tindr you hooked up with once, then he DEFINITELY doesn't know that you aren't clingy or stalking him. My guess is he is a... (read in full...)

She thinks there was a hidden message about being fat in my fruit and yoghurt comment

Answered by CindyCares + on 20 March 2019.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   So I have been with this woman for 18 months. Our relationship has been perfect so far, no arguements, always get on. Today she had an arguement with a friend and was not very happy after. She sent me a message saying she was going for a walk and ...

A.   20 March 2019: At first I just wanted to answer : don't worry, she was moody and cranky after the argument with her friend, so she took your comment the wrong way ; don't harp on it and she'll soon forget about it. But , at a second look, your post is more curi... (read in full...)

Is this trainer being friendly or flirting?

Answered by CindyCares + on 20 March 2019.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   I hired a female personal trainer to help me achieve my weight loss goals, and she is co-workers with another personal trainer who is male. I see him around often and a couple of times he has said hi to me, and when he was getting his client on the ...

A.   20 March 2019:  Probably yes. As you say, he is friendly, easy-going and nice to everybody. You haven't caught him with his hands on anyone but you yet, but this does not means that it never happens. You spend much less time than he does at the gym, plus you ... (read in full...)

Why did he unmatch me after hooking up?

Answered by mystiquek + on 20 March 2019.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   I hooked up with this guy from Tinder the other night but we didn't have sex because I was on my period. That didn't seem to bother him but I was uncomfortable with it and gave him oral instead. I told him next time we will go all the way and he ...

A.   20 March 2019: It sounds like he got what he wanted and now that he did he no longer wishes to be around you. Its not very nice but some people really operate that way. I'm afraid this is one you need to write off and move on.... (read in full...)

I’m in an exclusive long distance relationship, despite my desire for it to be open, and I started cheating. What do I do?

Answered by CindyCares + on 20 March 2019.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   I’m a freshman In college and am doing long distance with a boy I started dating about a year ago (during my senior year of high school). I truly believe that I’m in love with him, as I dated a boy before him and learned the difference between ...

A.   20 March 2019:  Anon male, the OP gets no slack because her case is very dufferent from yours. Apples and iranges. You and your GF agreed on having an open relationship and allowing each other to have sex with other people. ( Personally, I have my doubts that... (read in full...)

His priorities don't make sense

Answered by CindyCares + on 20 March 2019.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   DEAR cupid, my boyfriend I and have been together for a year and 1/2. We have been living together for a year. We have been experiencing issues and decided to end our realationship to work on ourselves and our relationship. This is where it gets ...

A.   20 March 2019: Well, of course you are deviating from the plan ! The plan was meant for a couple, now there's no couple anymore , so the plan must necessarily change. Why would you want to save and help him to buy a house, when you could use the same money to ... (read in full...)

I want my married lover's wife to know I am having his child

Answered by CindyCares + on 20 March 2019.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   I have been dating this married man a little over 2years now. I was with him for 5 months before he married his wife(chose another woman over me whiles I was with him). At the time of his marriage I was two months pregnant for him which I made him ...

A.   20 March 2019:  I am not sure but I think the OP means the doctor said they can remove her uterus AFTER she has given birth , precisely because if she does not have an uterus she can't get pregnant. In other words, she wants to become a mother first, and then get ... (read in full...)

His priorities don't make sense

Answered by N91 + on 20 March 2019.

N91 agony auntQ.   DEAR cupid, my boyfriend I and have been together for a year and 1/2. We have been living together for a year. We have been experiencing issues and decided to end our realationship to work on ourselves and our relationship. This is where it gets ...

A.   20 March 2019: I’m with you. Who on earth would want to save for a house with someone they’re not in a relationship with? That makes no sense whatsoever. The very fact that you’ve broken up shows you’re not a good match! Forget the house plan, move on a find t... (read in full...)

Why did he unmatch me after hooking up?

Answered by CindyCares + on 20 March 2019.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   I hooked up with this guy from Tinder the other night but we didn't have sex because I was on my period. That didn't seem to bother him but I was uncomfortable with it and gave him oral instead. I told him next time we will go all the way and he ...

A.   20 March 2019:  OP, I don't want to sound bitchy but I'd the say that the most plausible reason is that, while you were very attracted to this guy in particular , he did not feel the same, he was not very attracted to you in particular. He likes you somewhat, but ... (read in full...)

Is the grief causing him to treat me badly?

Answered by CindyCares + on 20 March 2019.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   Hello. Firstly just for some context I was in a on and off relationship for 10 years with the sweetest best friend of a boyfriend who was my high school sweetheart but his lack of ambition and lazy attitude I couldn't take anymore. We are ...

A.   20 March 2019:  No, it's not the grief talking. He's just a nasty piece of work. You say it yourself, he was always moody and controlling and self centered even before losing his father, and in between the negative episodes in his life- he just gets WORSE then ... (read in full...)

She thinks there was a hidden message about being fat in my fruit and yoghurt comment

Answered by anonymous on 20 March 2019.

Q.   So I have been with this woman for 18 months. Our relationship has been perfect so far, no arguements, always get on. Today she had an arguement with a friend and was not very happy after. She sent me a message saying she was going for a walk and ...

A.   20 March 2019: Never tell a woman to eat fruit & yogurt instead of candy or ice cream, of course she’ll take it the wrong way! You are sounding like you are almost ordering her around or being controlling, or monitering her food, or saying “you’ll get fat” eati... (read in full...)

Why did he unmatch me after hooking up?

Answered by anonymous on 20 March 2019.

Q.   I hooked up with this guy from Tinder the other night but we didn't have sex because I was on my period. That didn't seem to bother him but I was uncomfortable with it and gave him oral instead. I told him next time we will go all the way and he ...

A.   20 March 2019: This is why I would never use dating apps or sites. People are generally just looking for one thing and when they get it they're gone. He was happy to receive oral sex, he didn't have to do anything for you or make any kind of effort. Now he'll ... (read in full...)

Is the grief causing him to treat me badly?

Answered by anonymous on 20 March 2019.

Q.   Hello. Firstly just for some context I was in a on and off relationship for 10 years with the sweetest best friend of a boyfriend who was my high school sweetheart but his lack of ambition and lazy attitude I couldn't take anymore. We are ...

A.   20 March 2019: Anyone can be lovely when times are good, but when things get tough is when you see someone's true character. It seems this guy doesn't measure up. He's only nice when he gets what he wants or when things are going his way. You aren't on his team, ... (read in full...)

She thinks there was a hidden message about being fat in my fruit and yoghurt comment

Answered by ClairM + on 20 March 2019.

Q.   So I have been with this woman for 18 months. Our relationship has been perfect so far, no arguements, always get on. Today she had an arguement with a friend and was not very happy after. She sent me a message saying she was going for a walk and ...

A.   20 March 2019: Some things that are said can be like a red rag to a bull, it sounds like she is self conscious about her weight. Or it's simply the argument with her friend put her on edge and she took what you said out of context and either way if you really ... (read in full...)

His priorities don't make sense

Answered by anonymous on 20 March 2019.

Q.   DEAR cupid, my boyfriend I and have been together for a year and 1/2. We have been living together for a year. We have been experiencing issues and decided to end our realationship to work on ourselves and our relationship. This is where it gets ...

A.   20 March 2019: The plan is the plan! Even if it sucks. If the plan was to save for a home together then yeah it sucks. If the plan is to gently and smoothly break up with you, with the possibility getting back together whilst simultaneously saving for a future h... (read in full...)

She thinks there was a hidden message about being fat in my fruit and yoghurt comment

Answered by anonymous on 20 March 2019.

Q.   So I have been with this woman for 18 months. Our relationship has been perfect so far, no arguements, always get on. Today she had an arguement with a friend and was not very happy after. She sent me a message saying she was going for a walk and ...

A.   20 March 2019: Nothing. This is in her head. Her mood has led her to frame everything negatively. Does she do this alot? If it's a pattern, as yourself if you want to spend your life smoothing over arguments she has concocted from nowhere. ... (read in full...)

Why did he unmatch me after hooking up?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 20 March 2019.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   I hooked up with this guy from Tinder the other night but we didn't have sex because I was on my period. That didn't seem to bother him but I was uncomfortable with it and gave him oral instead. I told him next time we will go all the way and he ...

A.   20 March 2019: You’re clingy just by not letting this go. You hooked up once. That’s just how it works when you hook up. If you weren’t clingy (for a hook up scenario), you wouldn’t care.... (read in full...)

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