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Should I confront him or break it off?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 19 August 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I have been seeing him for just over two months. We have a great connection, the sex is amazing and we can talk for hours. We are comfortable around each other. It’s really great most of the time. I noticed when I started seeing him that he had ...

A.   19 August 2019: What stands out for me is that you can't seem to do anything face to face. You have fights via TEXT. You want to break up with him via EMAIL. Very strange. I would suggest, if he is not interested in you to ask about anything, and doesn't ... (read in full...)

There's an age difference between us but I would like to get to know this person better. Should I try?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 19 August 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   There is someone who I would like to spend time with and ask if they would be up for meeting me to get to know me .this may seem really easy for some people but for me it isn't . up to now its the first time ive really ever wanted to see if I could ...

A.   19 August 2019: Suspect you are the same person who posted THIS: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/id-like-to-talk-to-this-older-man.html In which case, perhaps re-read the answers you got last time? Or did nobody give you the answer you wanted? In which... (read in full...)

I'd like to talk to this older man but I'm unsure of how to go about it

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 19 August 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   There is someone I went to speak to, but I'm no sure what to say and whether he find the fact I want to talk to him strange as there is as 17 year ago different, he's older, I always wouldn't know how to phrase my message to him so that he doesn't ...

A.   19 August 2019: Is this the same question? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/id-like-to-talk-to-this-older-man.html ... (read in full...)

Should I confront him or break it off?

Answered by Anonymous 123 + on 19 August 2019.

Anonymous 123 agony auntQ.   I have been seeing him for just over two months. We have a great connection, the sex is amazing and we can talk for hours. We are comfortable around each other. It’s really great most of the time. I noticed when I started seeing him that he had ...

A.   19 August 2019: When I started reading your post I was thinking this must be one real catch of a guy- a young hot 30 something globetrotter go-getter with glamorous ex girlfriends. And then came the real details. Lives with his mother, broke, middle aged, balding ... (read in full...)

Is mutual masturbation with random online women cheating on my wife of 10 years?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 19 August 2019.

Q.   I've been married for 10 years. I love my wife dearly and our sex life is still very much alive and well. The problem is I used to go into chat rooms before I met her. It involved video exchanges with random women. I used to pay for it but once that ...

A.   19 August 2019: Anything you do of a sexual-nature that doesn't include your wife is cheating. You are engaging in an act, including other women; for the purpose of sexual-gratification, culminating in an orgasm. Your wife is not involved, and you're lusting after ... (read in full...)

Do I leave a 10 year relationship? Or settle for her?

Answered by Honeypie + on 19 August 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hello all. This post is as much venting as asking for others input. The sad truth is that I have nobody to talk to. So sorry if it is long. The big life question I have is: break up with my girlfriend, or settle for her. It is more than just...

A.   19 August 2019: If I were you I'd start saving up to leave her. I think it would be a mistakes to stay. You might need therapy, but in your case you are a "hostage" with nowhere to go and place to call home. You NEED to accept that YOU deserve better than thi... (read in full...)

Is mutual masturbation with random online women cheating on my wife of 10 years?

Answered by Honeypie + on 19 August 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I've been married for 10 years. I love my wife dearly and our sex life is still very much alive and well. The problem is I used to go into chat rooms before I met her. It involved video exchanges with random women. I used to pay for it but once that ...

A.   19 August 2019: I'm with Youcannotbeserious If you think it would be OK for your wife to do the SAME thing, then maybe it's not cheating per se, but the fact that you HIDE it from her means you know it's NOT OK. It's bad excuse that you "know" your wife too we... (read in full...)

Do I leave a 10 year relationship? Or settle for her?

Answered by janniepeg + on 19 August 2019.

janniepeg agony auntQ.   Hello all. This post is as much venting as asking for others input. The sad truth is that I have nobody to talk to. So sorry if it is long. The big life question I have is: break up with my girlfriend, or settle for her. It is more than just...

A.   19 August 2019: Now delete this before she sees it.... (read in full...)

Do I leave a 10 year relationship? Or settle for her?

Answered by janniepeg + on 19 August 2019.

janniepeg agony auntQ.   Hello all. This post is as much venting as asking for others input. The sad truth is that I have nobody to talk to. So sorry if it is long. The big life question I have is: break up with my girlfriend, or settle for her. It is more than just...

A.   19 August 2019: Starting installing secret cams around the house and document any abuse or threat. If you don't have friends, cams would be the only witness.... (read in full...)

Do I leave a 10 year relationship? Or settle for her?

Answered by janniepeg + on 19 August 2019.

janniepeg agony auntQ.   Hello all. This post is as much venting as asking for others input. The sad truth is that I have nobody to talk to. So sorry if it is long. The big life question I have is: break up with my girlfriend, or settle for her. It is more than just...

A.   19 August 2019: You have put up with her for 10 years and you are in denial of how bad things really are. If finding a girlfriend without anger issues is hard, then just stay single. You are not too far from having no intimacy anyway. When do you get citizenship? I ... (read in full...)

Should I confront him or break it off?

Answered by Honeypie + on 19 August 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I have been seeing him for just over two months. We have a great connection, the sex is amazing and we can talk for hours. We are comfortable around each other. It’s really great most of the time. I noticed when I started seeing him that he had ...

A.   19 August 2019: Why is it ANY of your business what he posted on his social media BEFORE he even met you? Most people do not SCRUB their social media when meeting someone new. The EX is part of his life. One that he is hopefully done with. YOU stalking his ex's... (read in full...)

Should I confront him or break it off?

Answered by janniepeg + on 19 August 2019.

janniepeg agony auntQ.   I have been seeing him for just over two months. We have a great connection, the sex is amazing and we can talk for hours. We are comfortable around each other. It’s really great most of the time. I noticed when I started seeing him that he had ...

A.   19 August 2019: From what you wrote it is enough to conclude that he is not a good match for you. No need to dig into details about his ex. You know your worth and should not feel less about how he deals with other women. His social media life is a façade to hide ... (read in full...)

How would you handle losing friends?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 19 August 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   When you lose friends or realise life long friends are stepping away. What would you do? When people suggest to work on myself, I find it depressing because I always look after myself and have gotten what I want so when I lose friends the suggestion ...

A.   19 August 2019: I would recommend you google "Friend for a reason, friend for a season, friend for life" and read it carefully. It sums up quite well why people come into our lives but don't stay for ever. You are still very young. You will meet a lot more peo... (read in full...)

There's less passion with this relationship and I am wondering what that means

Answered by janniepeg + on 19 August 2019.

janniepeg agony auntQ.   I'm seeing a girl now for the last few months on/off. We met on a dating app and went out a handful of times before I got injured and wasn't able to drive for about 2-3 months. We kept in contact and now things are getting more serious now that I ...

A.   19 August 2019: Conservative people look for stability and someone you can spend a life with. Others want passion and without it, they would rather be free and not caged in a relationship. It depends on what you want. Being secure and safe does not have to be ... (read in full...)

Does my partner have the right to know about the details of my therapy sessions?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 19 August 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Hi. I won't bore you with too many details. Just want to know if you think it is appropriate for your spouse/partner to ask you about the details of your therapy sessions? I was diagnosed with anxiety and PTSD. I have begun counselling rece...

A.   19 August 2019: He can ask what he likes but it is your choice now much or how little you choose to tell him. In fairness, he does have a vested interest in your treatment if your issues are affecting your relationship. However, this does not give him any "rig... (read in full...)

Is mutual masturbation with random online women cheating on my wife of 10 years?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 19 August 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I've been married for 10 years. I love my wife dearly and our sex life is still very much alive and well. The problem is I used to go into chat rooms before I met her. It involved video exchanges with random women. I used to pay for it but once that ...

A.   19 August 2019: How would you feel if it was your wife doing exactly the same thing with random men? Would you think it was ok or would you feel she was cheating? There's your answer. Use your imagination. Google for inspiration if you need to. I am sure yo... (read in full...)

Wife is angry that I hugged a co-worker

Answered by CindyCares + on 19 August 2019.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   My wife is angry I hugged a female former co-worker/friend that I have known for 10 years. When we seen this old co worker I have not seen her in 2 years and she is over 20 years older than me. She has met my kids. When my mother passed she sent ...

A.   19 August 2019:  So : you had already told her that you dislike when she removes her wedding ring to show she is upset- but oops she did it again. Even knowing how this makes you feel. And you know already that your wife dislikes when you hug other females and... (read in full...)

Given our connections am I naive to believe that this couldn't blow up in my face?

Answered by N91 + on 19 August 2019.

N91 agony auntQ.   So I'm at a loss as to if I'm making the right judgement. To be very brief, I'm currently hooking up with a friend of mine I've known for almost 20 years. I crushed on him hard as a preteen and we got close to hooking up years ago but when sober he ...

A.   19 August 2019: Are YOU hoping for more? If yes then I’d say you’re being naive definitely. He’s been with multiple friends of yours and one very recently that he shut down immediately when she mentioned she wanted more so as honey pie said why would you be any ... (read in full...)

Wife is angry that I hugged a co-worker

Answered by Anonymous 123 + on 19 August 2019.

Anonymous 123 agony auntQ.   My wife is angry I hugged a female former co-worker/friend that I have known for 10 years. When we seen this old co worker I have not seen her in 2 years and she is over 20 years older than me. She has met my kids. When my mother passed she sent ...

A.   19 August 2019: The first obvious thought that comes to mind is that your wife is insecure, petty and jealous. She's using the ultimate threat of removing her wedding ring which means she's trying to manipulate you. Then again when you look closely and think, i... (read in full...)

I know he wasn't the man for me but it's so hard to move on

Answered by Anonymous 123 + on 19 August 2019.

Anonymous 123 agony auntQ.   I married the man of my dreams this past November. In May, I learned that he's been having an affair since February, barely three months into our marriage. I moved out and we filed for a non-contested divorce. Now I'm finally free of him and decided ...

A.   19 August 2019: OP as far as I know, someone doesn't just cheat out the blue. It cannot be that everything was absolutely hunky dory for 5 years and then one day he got up, went out, met someone and decided to sleep with her. It must have been going on for long... (read in full...)

I know he wasn't the man for me but it's so hard to move on

Answered by Anonymous 123 + on 19 August 2019.

Anonymous 123 agony auntQ.   I married the man of my dreams this past November. In May, I learned that he's been having an affair since February, barely three months into our marriage. I moved out and we filed for a non-contested divorce. Now I'm finally free of him and decided ...

A.   19 August 2019: OP as far as I know, someone doesn't just cheat out the blue. It cannot be that everything was absolutely hunky dory for 5 years and then one day he got up, went out, met someone and decided to sleep with her. It must have been going on for long... (read in full...)

Will he come back to me again after taking space?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 19 August 2019.

Q.   I met a wonderful guy a few months ago and we hit it off immediately. He told me that I was everything he ever wanted in a relationship and I felt the same. He has a young son (3) with his ex girlfriend and I was introduced to him a couple weeks ago ...

A.   19 August 2019: Typo correction: "I know what I'm talking about!" P.S. "Am I just wasting my time here or will he come back to me again?" Oh, he'll come back alright! You're easy prey. He can conveniently bounce back and forth between you and hi... (read in full...)

Will he come back to me again after taking space?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 19 August 2019.

Q.   I met a wonderful guy a few months ago and we hit it off immediately. He told me that I was everything he ever wanted in a relationship and I felt the same. He has a young son (3) with his ex girlfriend and I was introduced to him a couple weeks ago ...

A.   19 August 2019: It's my opinion that he's keeping you around for backup-sex. He's trying to appease his ex; while also keeping you on the side-lines. Girlfriend, it seems you are the victim of a "serial-dumper." He's probably in an on-again/off-aga... (read in full...)

I really like this girl but I don't know where to go from here

Answered by Cjekim + on 19 August 2019.

Q.   I dont know what to do here! please help, sorry ahead of time this is kind of long. I work at a book store that this girl is a customer of. ( we have a strict rule about not asking out customers, reasonable rule, i have no arguments about ...

A.   19 August 2019: just one last update, I don't make it a habit to meet girls through my job. I work 40 + hours a week and freelance art when not doing that. The bar/club scene never worked for me and I've been trying (paid subsctiption on and off) for 8 years. ... (read in full...)

I think my parents are treating me unfairly for shoplifting

Answered by KeW + on 19 August 2019.

KeW agony auntQ.   do you think I desrve to be punished this severely for shoplifting ? 3 days ago I got caught shoplifting,as the shopkeeper knows my mum he called her instead of the police he told her he expected me to be punished, my mum promished the shopkeeper I ...

A.   19 August 2019: Hello Kelly. I understand that you are bored this summer, like last summer, but this is wasting nice people’s time. We all volunteer for this and aren’t for entertainment. If you genuinely have shoplifted, do your time and don’t do it agai... (read in full...)

My husband is extremely insecure and wants to change

Answered by anonymous on 18 August 2019.

Q.   My husband is extremely insecure. The weird thing is, I've always admired him for his confidence, humor, and many other wonderful traits. He was very direct in asking me out and always made me feel important. We've been together for three years ...

A.   18 August 2019: I really feel bad for you OP! I went thru this stuff with my former fiance. His confidence just seemed to disolve. He confessed to me and sobbed about my male friends, my male coworkers, my cousins who were men, and my nephews. He would ask me to ... (read in full...)

I know he wasn't the man for me but it's so hard to move on

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 18 August 2019.

Q.   I married the man of my dreams this past November. In May, I learned that he's been having an affair since February, barely three months into our marriage. I moved out and we filed for a non-contested divorce. Now I'm finally free of him and decided ...

A.   18 August 2019: It takes time for the subconscious-mind to catch-up with the reality of your circumstances. We build our hopes and dreams on everything going well; so we invest our trust in the people we love. Expect to be conflicted for awhile. It's difficult to ... (read in full...)

Am I right to feel this way that my son's friend's mother didn't acknowledge me?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 18 August 2019.

Q.   Hello People!!! Okay so my 6 year old son plays Pee wee football. Their is a friendly competition between him and his teammate A as I will call him. Basically A’s mom and my husband have communicated hear and their about the boys and how they can ...

A.   18 August 2019: Mom's usually introduce themselves to the mothers of the kids their kids hangout with. Maybe she's feeling you had the chance and never took that step. You have seen her before. You experienced a case of bad-manners on the part of both your hus... (read in full...)

Wife is angry that I hugged a co-worker

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 18 August 2019.

Q.   My wife is angry I hugged a female former co-worker/friend that I have known for 10 years. When we seen this old co worker I have not seen her in 2 years and she is over 20 years older than me. She has met my kids. When my mother passed she sent ...

A.   18 August 2019: Your wife is insecure and has territorial-issues. She is probably of the belief that men cannot have platonic non-sexual connections with women. In addition to that, she is rude and lacks class and dignity. Blatantly showing jealousy, and being rude ... (read in full...)

Wife is angry that I hugged a co-worker

Answered by anonymous on 18 August 2019.

Q.   My wife is angry I hugged a female former co-worker/friend that I have known for 10 years. When we seen this old co worker I have not seen her in 2 years and she is over 20 years older than me. She has met my kids. When my mother passed she sent ...

A.   18 August 2019: Stupid...I feel bad and have all weekend because I didn't hug a female coworker goodbye last week. Ill probably never see her again. Its ok and in fact its good to hug and let people know that you care about them.... (read in full...)

Wife is angry that I hugged a co-worker

Answered by SadMan76 + on 18 August 2019.

Q.   My wife is angry I hugged a female former co-worker/friend that I have known for 10 years. When we seen this old co worker I have not seen her in 2 years and she is over 20 years older than me. She has met my kids. When my mother passed she sent ...

A.   18 August 2019: This strikes close to home for me. My gf has done almost the same thing, a few times for similar reasons. In our case there is no ring, so she has dumped me, just to have me beg to take her back. It is a technique of showing dominance, and to h... (read in full...)

Feel like I'm wasting my life but my reasons for wanting to leave seem petty

Answered by mystiquek + on 18 August 2019.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   I have being in my current relationship for the past 8 years and at the moment I am questioning whether it is what I want for the long-term. I feel that after 8 years together, we should be living together or at least have a clear plan for the fut...

A.   18 August 2019: OP, you aren't being petty at all. 8 years is a very long time to go with no commitment. I don't know too many people that would be happy with a relationship as you have stated yours is. She doesn't want to commit and that's about all there is to ... (read in full...)

Wife is angry that I hugged a co-worker

Answered by mystiquek + on 18 August 2019.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   My wife is angry I hugged a female former co-worker/friend that I have known for 10 years. When we seen this old co worker I have not seen her in 2 years and she is over 20 years older than me. She has met my kids. When my mother passed she sent ...

A.   18 August 2019: Wow...your wife has some issues. I agree that there are probably more things going on then you realize and she's really unhappy about something. She's acting childish, manipulative, jealous and she's trying to be controlling. She sounds very ... (read in full...)

I think my parents are treating me unfairly for shoplifting

Answered by Honeypie + on 18 August 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   do you think I desrve to be punished this severely for shoplifting ? 3 days ago I got caught shoplifting,as the shopkeeper knows my mum he called her instead of the police he told her he expected me to be punished, my mum promished the shopkeeper I ...

A.   18 August 2019: Just block the posts? Obviously not written my a 23 year old in need of advice... Mods?... (read in full...)

Given our connections am I naive to believe that this couldn't blow up in my face?

Answered by Honeypie + on 18 August 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   So I'm at a loss as to if I'm making the right judgement. To be very brief, I'm currently hooking up with a friend of mine I've known for almost 20 years. I crushed on him hard as a preteen and we got close to hooking up years ago but when sober he ...

A.   18 August 2019: Take it for what it is. A bit of fun. He has ALREADY shown you (with other women he was involved with) that he ISN'T looking for anything serious and that eventually he WILL move on from you too. If you can ACCEPT that and NOT get "too involve... (read in full...)

Feel like I'm wasting my life but my reasons for wanting to leave seem petty

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 18 August 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I have being in my current relationship for the past 8 years and at the moment I am questioning whether it is what I want for the long-term. I feel that after 8 years together, we should be living together or at least have a clear plan for the fut...

A.   18 August 2019: Eight years without any commitment on her part and you are still hanging on? For what? You can hang on another EIGHTY years and nothing will change. Do you not think you deserve better? Cut contact and walk away. Get over your loss then look for... (read in full...)

I think my parents are treating me unfairly for shoplifting

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 18 August 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   do you think I desrve to be punished this severely for shoplifting ? 3 days ago I got caught shoplifting,as the shopkeeper knows my mum he called her instead of the police he told her he expected me to be punished, my mum promished the shopkeeper I ...

A.   18 August 2019: I think you should find yourself something better to do than sending in the same silly posts. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/are-my-parents-right-to-punish-me-with.html Nobody is amused and nobody believes you. You are just being tiresome. ... (read in full...)

Feel like I'm wasting my life but my reasons for wanting to leave seem petty

Answered by Honeypie + on 18 August 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I have being in my current relationship for the past 8 years and at the moment I am questioning whether it is what I want for the long-term. I feel that after 8 years together, we should be living together or at least have a clear plan for the fut...

A.   18 August 2019: Can you clap loudly with one hand? Can you have a relationship where only ONE of the people in it are committed? She has had 8 years with you to decide to 1. tell her family 2. to decide IF you are the one she wants to be with - while it might... (read in full...)

Wife is angry that I hugged a co-worker

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 18 August 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   My wife is angry I hugged a female former co-worker/friend that I have known for 10 years. When we seen this old co worker I have not seen her in 2 years and she is over 20 years older than me. She has met my kids. When my mother passed she sent ...

A.   18 August 2019: Sweetheart, this is a classic case of not being able to control what others say or do but of being able to control how YOU react to it. She's taken her wedding ring off. Big deal. She's done it because she knows it upsets you. Stop showing ... (read in full...)

Wife is angry that I hugged a co-worker

Answered by Honeypie + on 18 August 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   My wife is angry I hugged a female former co-worker/friend that I have known for 10 years. When we seen this old co worker I have not seen her in 2 years and she is over 20 years older than me. She has met my kids. When my mother passed she sent ...

A.   18 August 2019: Only your wife can explain why she acted this immature and rude in a public setting. There are other things going on that she is unhappy about and YOU need to have a talk about this IN private with her. I can tell you this, if my husband acted... (read in full...)

Do most men see short women as less attractive than tall women .

Answered by CMMP + on 18 August 2019.

Q.   Do most men see short women as less attractive than tall women . I often see descriptions of ‘hot ‘ or attractive women include the word tall and cute or sweet women as shorter . Obviously individuals have individual preferences but in GENERAL is ...

A.   18 August 2019: Height for a woman is definitely not as important as you might think, unless you're significantly below or above average. Even then, for every guy that thinks you're too short or too tall, there's another that is fine with it. I can't tell you... (read in full...)

Feel like I'm wasting my life but my reasons for wanting to leave seem petty

Answered by anonymous on 18 August 2019.

Q.   I have being in my current relationship for the past 8 years and at the moment I am questioning whether it is what I want for the long-term. I feel that after 8 years together, we should be living together or at least have a clear plan for the fut...

A.   18 August 2019: There's nothing petty about it - what you are essentially acting out is the mistress in the relationship. You are in no better position than that of one - your OH is taking you for granted ...I will re-phrase, she is point blank taking you for a ... (read in full...)

Feel like I'm wasting my life but my reasons for wanting to leave seem petty

Answered by anonymous on 18 August 2019.

Q.   I have being in my current relationship for the past 8 years and at the moment I am questioning whether it is what I want for the long-term. I feel that after 8 years together, we should be living together or at least have a clear plan for the fut...

A.   18 August 2019: So in eight years she hasn't: Committed to you in the slightest. Acknowledged your relationship to her friends and family. Made any attempt to move forward in the relationship or suggested that it might happen. And now she says for he... (read in full...)

Am I right to feel this way that my son's friend's mother didn't acknowledge me?

Answered by chigirl + on 18 August 2019.

chigirl agony auntQ.   Hello People!!! Okay so my 6 year old son plays Pee wee football. Their is a friendly competition between him and his teammate A as I will call him. Basically A’s mom and my husband have communicated hear and their about the boys and how they can ...

A.   18 August 2019: Im with Cindycares on this one. Your husband was supposed to introduce you. And when he did not, it was just as rude of you to not introduce yourself as it was of her. But I still think this matters little. I often forget the formal introductions ... (read in full...)

Do most men see short women as less attractive than tall women .

Answered by anonymous on 18 August 2019.

Q.   Do most men see short women as less attractive than tall women . I often see descriptions of ‘hot ‘ or attractive women include the word tall and cute or sweet women as shorter . Obviously individuals have individual preferences but in GENERAL is ...

A.   18 August 2019: No in fact I prefer short women.... (read in full...)

Is what is happening to me financial abuse?

Answered by Ciar + on 18 August 2019.

Ciar agony auntQ.   Would you call this financial abuse? I go to work and support my husband who has little respect for me anyway. He also pressures me to sometimes support his parents as he so desperately wants to please them, even though they are just using him and ...

A.   18 August 2019: Continue with the divorce proceedings, but keep quiet about it. Don't give him or any of that bunch a chance to sabotage you. Change important passwords & security questions, secure your finances and anything else of value. Consult an attorney... (read in full...)

How to approach her obsession with her looks

Answered by anonymous on 17 August 2019.

Q.   Wife bought waist trainer corset. When I first saw it on her, she looked super sexy; tiny waist with huge boobs (DD; what a dream. I made the mistake of telling her how hot she was and as a result, she started wearing it all the time. Over time, she ...

A.   17 August 2019: I'm going to veer away from the general consensus here. I think feeling sexy is good. A boost in self esteem is also good. But she's objectifying herself. She's married! Surely she can find other ways to feel good about herself? Life isn't all abou... (read in full...)

I think my parents are treating me unfairly for shoplifting

Answered by koolkelly1234 + on 17 August 2019.

Q.   do you think I desrve to be punished this severely for shoplifting ? 3 days ago I got caught shoplifting,as the shopkeeper knows my mum he called her instead of the police he told her he expected me to be punished, my mum promished the shopkeeper I ...

A.   17 August 2019: i have spent all of today Saturday LOCKED UP in my bedroom, it has been VERY VERY boring and miserable, today has been warm and sunny and I have been shut away in my room while my friends are out having fun, I have completed two 4 page punishment ... (read in full...)

Am I right to feel this way that my son's friend's mother didn't acknowledge me?

Answered by mystiquek + on 17 August 2019.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   Hello People!!! Okay so my 6 year old son plays Pee wee football. Their is a friendly competition between him and his teammate A as I will call him. Basically A’s mom and my husband have communicated hear and their about the boys and how they can ...

A.   17 August 2019: I am a very petite woman but darling I am NEVER ignored. I have no problem letting my presence be known. What was wrong with walking up, sticking your hand out and saying "Hi I am (so and so's mom/wife)??? Just because someone shows poor ... (read in full...)

Am I right to feel this way that my son's friend's mother didn't acknowledge me?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 17 August 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Hello People!!! Okay so my 6 year old son plays Pee wee football. Their is a friendly competition between him and his teammate A as I will call him. Basically A’s mom and my husband have communicated hear and their about the boys and how they can ...

A.   17 August 2019: So it was ok for YOU not to introduce yourself to HER but you feel upset in some way because SHE didn't acknowledge YOU? You are an adult with children. You need to start acting accordingly. Are you perhaps a little insecure about the relation... (read in full...)

I left, he wants me back. What should I do?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 17 August 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Hi Friends, I have two kids almost 3 and almost 2. I was engaged with their father for almost 3years.He was very sweet when we first met but after my first pregnancy he started changing more argument about financial.He was upset with one night I...

A.   17 August 2019: Shaking my head in disbelief. Are you serious? Or is this, perhaps, another troll, bored and killing time by posting spoof questions for people to answer? As I have no proof to the contrary, I will take it on face value and respond assuming it is ... (read in full...)

I left, he wants me back. What should I do?

Answered by Honeypie + on 17 August 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi Friends, I have two kids almost 3 and almost 2. I was engaged with their father for almost 3years.He was very sweet when we first met but after my first pregnancy he started changing more argument about financial.He was upset with one night I...

A.   17 August 2019: Just because you have kids WITH him doesn't mean you have to stay with him or get back together. YOU know he isn't good for you OR for the kids. If he doesn't STOP coming by consider getting a Order of protection for you OWN safety.... (read in full...)

Am I right to feel this way that my son's friend's mother didn't acknowledge me?

Answered by CindyCares + on 17 August 2019.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   Hello People!!! Okay so my 6 year old son plays Pee wee football. Their is a friendly competition between him and his teammate A as I will call him. Basically A’s mom and my husband have communicated hear and their about the boys and how they can ...

A.   17 August 2019:  Well, if we want to get formal it was your husband who was supposed to introduce you to this woman, - but anyway, yeah , let it go. Why always think the worst ; as if she wanted specifically to disrespect you or make you feel bad. What reason ... (read in full...)

Am I right to feel this way that my son's friend's mother didn't acknowledge me?

Answered by Honeypie + on 17 August 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hello People!!! Okay so my 6 year old son plays Pee wee football. Their is a friendly competition between him and his teammate A as I will call him. Basically A’s mom and my husband have communicated hear and their about the boys and how they can ...

A.   17 August 2019: Why didn't YOU introduce YOURSELF? You are all miffed that she didn't make the first move, but you could have JUST as easily done so. While her social skill are lacking here, yours aren't much better. ... (read in full...)

I know he wasn't the man for me but it's so hard to move on

Answered by Honeypie + on 17 August 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I married the man of my dreams this past November. In May, I learned that he's been having an affair since February, barely three months into our marriage. I moved out and we filed for a non-contested divorce. Now I'm finally free of him and decided ...

A.   17 August 2019: How do you move forward? BY knowing YOU did the right thing in getting a divorce. YOU seem to have taken him cheating on you as to be YOUR fault. IT'S not. Who knows he may even have cheated more than once in those 5 years, NOT that it really m... (read in full...)

I really like this girl but I don't know where to go from here

Answered by Honeypie + on 17 August 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I dont know what to do here! please help, sorry ahead of time this is kind of long. I work at a book store that this girl is a customer of. ( we have a strict rule about not asking out customers, reasonable rule, i have no arguments about ...

A.   17 August 2019: It isn't YOU she is rejecting, OP When someone is fresh out of a relationship, going on dates or hanging out with a guy you know is CLEARLY interested is rarely smart. There are other ways to meet girls than through your job :) ... (read in full...)

Am I right to feel this way that my son's friend's mother didn't acknowledge me?

Answered by Billy Bathgate + on 17 August 2019.

Q.   Hello People!!! Okay so my 6 year old son plays Pee wee football. Their is a friendly competition between him and his teammate A as I will call him. Basically A’s mom and my husband have communicated hear and their about the boys and how they can ...

A.   17 August 2019: Your husband and this woman know each other, it was their responsibility to introduce their spouses. She didn’t speak to you and your husband had to introduce himself to her SO, clearly her manners are lacking. But your hubby failed to introduce ... (read in full...)

Am I overreacting about his unwillingness to go on vacation with me?

Answered by Billy Bathgate + on 17 August 2019.

Q.   Dear Cupid I have been married for a year and I know my husband 3 years before marriage. We lived together for a year before tying the knot My husband do not want to go for vacation with me, every time this ends up in fight or argument. He...

A.   17 August 2019: How does he make you go with him? If you don’t want to go with him don’t. If he doesn’t want to go on vacation with you find a friend or relative who likes to travel and go with her. ... (read in full...)

How to approach her obsession with her looks

Answered by Billy Bathgate + on 17 August 2019.

Q.   Wife bought waist trainer corset. When I first saw it on her, she looked super sexy; tiny waist with huge boobs (DD; what a dream. I made the mistake of telling her how hot she was and as a result, she started wearing it all the time. Over time, she ...

A.   17 August 2019: Enjoy it and do not let your jealousy or insecurity get the better of you!... (read in full...)

I'm jealous of my girlfriend's room mate. Overthinking or should I be worried?

Answered by Billy Bathgate + on 17 August 2019.

Q.   Hi DearCupid, Me and my girlfriend have been together for just over a year now, we're both a little damaged from our last relationships but we make sure to talk to each other if we're ever feeling insecure/upset etc. Usually I'd just talk to her...

A.   17 August 2019: Use the time she is spending with her roommate to cultivate other friendships. If you know what I mean. But seriously it sounds like you think she is your girlfriend and she thinks you are the guy she is occasionally dating. As far as her turning ... (read in full...)

Do most men see short women as less attractive than tall women .

Answered by Billy Bathgate + on 17 August 2019.

Q.   Do most men see short women as less attractive than tall women . I often see descriptions of ‘hot ‘ or attractive women include the word tall and cute or sweet women as shorter . Obviously individuals have individual preferences but in GENERAL is ...

A.   17 August 2019: All men are different; some like tall women others like short women and some like both. For me the important thing is that the woman be confident and well groomed. ... (read in full...)

I know he wasn't the man for me but it's so hard to move on

Answered by Billy Bathgate + on 17 August 2019.

Q.   I married the man of my dreams this past November. In May, I learned that he's been having an affair since February, barely three months into our marriage. I moved out and we filed for a non-contested divorce. Now I'm finally free of him and decided ...

A.   17 August 2019: First Stop comparing yourself to other people and their marriages. You don’t know what is going on behind closed doors. Second you are going through the grieving process. And everyone grieves in their own way in their own time. If you don’t thin... (read in full...)

I think my parents are treating me unfairly for shoplifting

Answered by CindyCares + on 17 August 2019.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   do you think I desrve to be punished this severely for shoplifting ? 3 days ago I got caught shoplifting,as the shopkeeper knows my mum he called her instead of the police he told her he expected me to be punished, my mum promished the shopkeeper I ...

A.   17 August 2019:  I had just the same feeling as YCBS , but I was too lazy to do the search, lol. Nothing like a little masochistic fantasy about chastisement to spice up a boring summer, right ? ...And let's hope that at least you ARE a young teenager. Because ... (read in full...)

Will he come back to me again after taking space?

Answered by CindyCares + on 17 August 2019.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   I met a wonderful guy a few months ago and we hit it off immediately. He told me that I was everything he ever wanted in a relationship and I felt the same. He has a young son (3) with his ex girlfriend and I was introduced to him a couple weeks ago ...

A.   17 August 2019:  Will he come back to you ?... I had to dust off my crystal ball for this , and it said : oh yes. He will. Many times, if you let him. But that's not good news, you know ? Not at all. He will come back, but not to stay and not to commit. Look, you ... (read in full...)

Do most men see short women as less attractive than tall women .

Answered by CindyCares + on 17 August 2019.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   Do most men see short women as less attractive than tall women . I often see descriptions of ‘hot ‘ or attractive women include the word tall and cute or sweet women as shorter . Obviously individuals have individual preferences but in GENERAL is ...

A.   17 August 2019:  No they don't. I am 5'3 (… if I stand very straight :) and my height was never a problem in attracting men. Of course I don't mean that all the men I ever met were always instanctly attracted to me, just that for those who were not attracted to ... (read in full...)

I left, he wants me back. What should I do?

Answered by CindyCares + on 17 August 2019.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   Hi Friends, I have two kids almost 3 and almost 2. I was engaged with their father for almost 3years.He was very sweet when we first met but after my first pregnancy he started changing more argument about financial.He was upset with one night I...

A.   17 August 2019:  That's another post that elicits , as a first reaction, a big WTF. What do you do ? Look, whatever you do, it's very clear what you should not do and what you should not allow. You should not go back to him, and you should not allow him around you ... (read in full...)

For 6 years I treated him as my son now I find out he's not. How do I move on?

Answered by Fatherly Advice + on 17 August 2019.

Fatherly Advice agony auntQ.   I am a man married to a woman who loves me unconditionally. I have put my wife through a terrible heartache when I cheated on her twice with my ex. My wife was devastated, heartbroken and depressed and wanted to end our marriage, but she decided to ...

A.   17 August 2019: Oh I don't think Anon is wrong. I don't think it will work out the way anon wants, but I do understand the ideal. A note about fairness. In fairness my inheritance from my parents could be twice what it is if they hadn't adopted 4 teenagers afte... (read in full...)

Do most men see short women as less attractive than tall women .

Answered by mystiquek + on 17 August 2019.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   Do most men see short women as less attractive than tall women . I often see descriptions of ‘hot ‘ or attractive women include the word tall and cute or sweet women as shorter . Obviously individuals have individual preferences but in GENERAL is ...

A.   17 August 2019: I'm only 5 feet tall. I've never had any trouble with finding men but I'd give almost ANYTHING to be tall and leggy. It depends on the man I think. Some men like petite women, some like tall women. Most men just like women..period. Unless a woman is ... (read in full...)

I left, he wants me back. What should I do?

Answered by Aunty BimBim + on 17 August 2019.

Aunty BimBim agony auntQ.   Hi Friends, I have two kids almost 3 and almost 2. I was engaged with their father for almost 3years.He was very sweet when we first met but after my first pregnancy he started changing more argument about financial.He was upset with one night I...

A.   17 August 2019: No. You have told him you don't want to be with him. You have good reason to not be with him, physical abuse is never okay. If you take him back and he hits you … and he will hit you, make no mistake about that …. you will be teaching your kids ... (read in full...)

Do most men see short women as less attractive than tall women .

Answered by N91 + on 17 August 2019.

N91 agony auntQ.   Do most men see short women as less attractive than tall women . I often see descriptions of ‘hot ‘ or attractive women include the word tall and cute or sweet women as shorter . Obviously individuals have individual preferences but in GENERAL is ...

A.   17 August 2019: Nope. Men rarely want a partner that’s taller than them. Different people have different preferences but as a generalisation I’d say men want a partner that is shorter than them. ... (read in full...)

Will he come back to me again after taking space?

Answered by no nonsense Aidan + on 17 August 2019.

Q.   I met a wonderful guy a few months ago and we hit it off immediately. He told me that I was everything he ever wanted in a relationship and I felt the same. He has a young son (3) with his ex girlfriend and I was introduced to him a couple weeks ago ...

A.   17 August 2019: I have to say that I agree fully with Youcannotbeserious’s belief that he will keep coming back and dropping you over and over. I also agree with the other responses that it was way too soon to have introduced you to his son. This guy has got a lo... (read in full...)

I think my parents are treating me unfairly for shoplifting

Answered by no nonsense Aidan + on 17 August 2019.

Q.   do you think I desrve to be punished this severely for shoplifting ? 3 days ago I got caught shoplifting,as the shopkeeper knows my mum he called her instead of the police he told her he expected me to be punished, my mum promished the shopkeeper I ...

A.   17 August 2019: You’re supposed to feel miserable. That’s why it’s a punishment. It’s also supposed to give you time to reflect on your actions. Shoplifting is not a victimless crime. When you steal, you are not just stealing an item you want. You are stealing... (read in full...)

I really like this girl but I don't know where to go from here

Answered by Cjekim + on 17 August 2019.

Q.   I dont know what to do here! please help, sorry ahead of time this is kind of long. I work at a book store that this girl is a customer of. ( we have a strict rule about not asking out customers, reasonable rule, i have no arguments about ...

A.   17 August 2019: Thanks for all your great advice guys! She did text me back, I asked her if she would like to hang out some time. Since we both have very heptic scedules. I texted her I was free later in the week and never heard back from her for a couple days, I ... (read in full...)

I think my parents are treating me unfairly for shoplifting

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 17 August 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   do you think I desrve to be punished this severely for shoplifting ? 3 days ago I got caught shoplifting,as the shopkeeper knows my mum he called her instead of the police he told her he expected me to be punished, my mum promished the shopkeeper I ...

A.   17 August 2019: I had a feeling I had read your post before so did a quick search and guess what? Virtually identical post LAST summer holidays. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/are-my-parents-right-to-punish-me-with.html If you are bored during your holi... (read in full...)

How to approach her obsession with her looks

Answered by chigirl + on 17 August 2019.

chigirl agony auntQ.   Wife bought waist trainer corset. When I first saw it on her, she looked super sexy; tiny waist with huge boobs (DD; what a dream. I made the mistake of telling her how hot she was and as a result, she started wearing it all the time. Over time, she ...

A.   17 August 2019: It is never a mistake to make your wife feel sexy. Let her enjoy it. I dont see why you feel this is a problem. She found something that makes her feel good, apparently. Maybe you didnt show her enough attention before, and that is why she continues ... (read in full...)

Do most men see short women as less attractive than tall women .

Answered by chigirl + on 17 August 2019.

chigirl agony auntQ.   Do most men see short women as less attractive than tall women . I often see descriptions of ‘hot ‘ or attractive women include the word tall and cute or sweet women as shorter . Obviously individuals have individual preferences but in GENERAL is ...

A.   17 August 2019: No. Men like women who are shorter than them. Tiny women make them feel big and strong. Im a tall woman, above the national average. My height has never been a reason for men to find me attractive, quite the opposite. Im too tall for most, except ... (read in full...)

My husband has completely changed after marriage and I feel exploited

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 17 August 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Hello and thanks! Me and my husband have been together almost 3 years. Before our marriage he was mind, sweet, loving. He seemed to be the most charming man I've ever met. He would look after me if I was sick, once I passed out from heat exhaus...

A.   17 August 2019: Your husband hit gold when he hit on you, didn't he? What a lucky man. I don't blame him for doing what he is doing because YOU are enabling him. You already KNOW what the answer is. Why do you keep asking the same question (slightly differen... (read in full...)

We've broken up but he talks as though we're still together

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 17 August 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Hi I’ve recently broken up with my partner due to a few reasons we split up nearly 2 weeks ago but he is acting as though we are still together he won’t talk to me about any problems we have this is one of the reasons I ended it but now he’s talking ...

A.   17 August 2019: You didn't think to mention in your first post that you were still living with the "ex"? Did you not think that was relevant? Or do you enjoy playing people? If your "ex" is not listening to your requests to leave, then you need to step up the e... (read in full...)

Will he come back to me again after taking space?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 17 August 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I met a wonderful guy a few months ago and we hit it off immediately. He told me that I was everything he ever wanted in a relationship and I felt the same. He has a young son (3) with his ex girlfriend and I was introduced to him a couple weeks ago ...

A.   17 August 2019: I suspect he probably WILL come back to you - time and time again, after dropping you time and time again. If he is not sure it is YOU he wants, then you need to move on. You know you deserve someone who IS sure. He may be fabulous in all other ways ... (read in full...)

I think my parents are treating me unfairly for shoplifting

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 17 August 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   do you think I desrve to be punished this severely for shoplifting ? 3 days ago I got caught shoplifting,as the shopkeeper knows my mum he called her instead of the police he told her he expected me to be punished, my mum promished the shopkeeper I ...

A.   17 August 2019: What fantastic parents you have. If only more parents loved their children enough to take this "tough love" approach, we would not be seeing reports of feral youths running wild and terrorizing communities. Every respect to your parents. As fo... (read in full...)

I think my parents are treating me unfairly for shoplifting

Answered by Ivyblue + on 17 August 2019.

Ivyblue agony auntQ.   do you think I desrve to be punished this severely for shoplifting ? 3 days ago I got caught shoplifting,as the shopkeeper knows my mum he called her instead of the police he told her he expected me to be punished, my mum promished the shopkeeper I ...

A.   17 August 2019:  I really enjoyed reading this post. Are you kidding? Nobody likes a thief. Consider yourself extremely lucky. If you hate it so much perhaps its time you thought about just what its like in juvenile detention- FOR REAL- ya know the place where not ... (read in full...)

I think my parents are treating me unfairly for shoplifting

Answered by Ivyblue + on 17 August 2019.

Ivyblue agony auntQ.   do you think I desrve to be punished this severely for shoplifting ? 3 days ago I got caught shoplifting,as the shopkeeper knows my mum he called her instead of the police he told her he expected me to be punished, my mum promished the shopkeeper I ...

A.   17 August 2019:  I really enjoyed reading this post. Are you kidding? Nobody likes a thief. Consider yourself extremely lucky. If you hate it so much perhaps its time you thought about just what its like in juvenile detention- FOR REAL- ya know the place where not ... (read in full...)

Will he come back to me again after taking space?

Answered by Ivyblue + on 17 August 2019.

Ivyblue agony auntQ.   I met a wonderful guy a few months ago and we hit it off immediately. He told me that I was everything he ever wanted in a relationship and I felt the same. He has a young son (3) with his ex girlfriend and I was introduced to him a couple weeks ago ...

A.   17 August 2019: This guy has been really unfair to you and his son for that matter. Introducing you to each other so early on in the piece is really irresponsible as a parent especially when his head is all over the place. From what you post you sound very much ... (read in full...)

My husband is extremely insecure and wants to change

Answered by anonymous on 17 August 2019.

Q.   My husband is extremely insecure. The weird thing is, I've always admired him for his confidence, humor, and many other wonderful traits. He was very direct in asking me out and always made me feel important. We've been together for three years ...

A.   17 August 2019: Well the fact that his acting confident had attracked you, also works conversely. His lack of actual confidence had him believing that you had detected his lack! So he confessed his weakness, so he could appeal to your compassion. You do feel ... (read in full...)

I think my parents are treating me unfairly for shoplifting

Answered by Honeypie + on 17 August 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   do you think I desrve to be punished this severely for shoplifting ? 3 days ago I got caught shoplifting,as the shopkeeper knows my mum he called her instead of the police he told her he expected me to be punished, my mum promished the shopkeeper I ...

A.   17 August 2019: Well, the answer is easy. Don't do CRIME if you can't do the time. Yes, I think it's MORE than fair punishment. I mean since when is stealing OK? And how stupid are you to STEAL from someone who is a family friend and expect to get away with it... (read in full...)

Will he come back to me again after taking space?

Answered by Honeypie + on 17 August 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I met a wonderful guy a few months ago and we hit it off immediately. He told me that I was everything he ever wanted in a relationship and I felt the same. He has a young son (3) with his ex girlfriend and I was introduced to him a couple weeks ago ...

A.   17 August 2019: He is wasting your time. Someone who will DROP you at the tip of a hat for an EX he didn't get along with (regardless of the "for the kid" excuse) will drop you AS SOON AS he sees someone "better". You don't DATE someone to get "space from them... (read in full...)

Do most men see short women as less attractive than tall women .

Answered by Honeypie + on 17 August 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Do most men see short women as less attractive than tall women . I often see descriptions of ‘hot ‘ or attractive women include the word tall and cute or sweet women as shorter . Obviously individuals have individual preferences but in GENERAL is ...

A.   17 August 2019: Nope, I don't agree. I think shorter women actually have the upper hand there. MOST men would NOT date a woman taller than themselves UNLESS she is "model hot", and really, those are not a dine a dozen. While MODELS generally ARE on the tall ... (read in full...)

Is what is happening to me financial abuse?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 16 August 2019.

Q.   Would you call this financial abuse? I go to work and support my husband who has little respect for me anyway. He also pressures me to sometimes support his parents as he so desperately wants to please them, even though they are just using him and ...

A.   16 August 2019: It continues only as long as you allow it to. When you've had enough; you'll put an end to it, once and for-all! I guess you just haven't reached that point just yet. If you're married to a no-good lazy male; he is not a husband, he's a dependen... (read in full...)

My husband has completely changed after marriage and I feel exploited

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 16 August 2019.

Q.   Hello and thanks! Me and my husband have been together almost 3 years. Before our marriage he was mind, sweet, loving. He seemed to be the most charming man I've ever met. He would look after me if I was sick, once I passed out from heat exhaus...

A.   16 August 2019: Much like the others I am picking-up the possibility you were duped into marriage. I think some details weren't included about how you met and where he's from; so as not to get a chorus of "ah-ha!" He sweet-talked you, he was lovey-dovey, and he ... (read in full...)

For 6 years I treated him as my son now I find out he's not. How do I move on?

Answered by Honeypie + on 16 August 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I am a man married to a woman who loves me unconditionally. I have put my wife through a terrible heartache when I cheated on her twice with my ex. My wife was devastated, heartbroken and depressed and wanted to end our marriage, but she decided to ...

A.   16 August 2019: I'd say ANON has a different point of view and that IS the whole point of SC. Different points of view to help the various OP's figure out what path there are to choose from. And in a sense, I TOTALLY understand what ANON is suggesting. As OP is... (read in full...)

My husband has completely changed after marriage and I feel exploited

Answered by mystiquek + on 16 August 2019.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   Hello and thanks! Me and my husband have been together almost 3 years. Before our marriage he was mind, sweet, loving. He seemed to be the most charming man I've ever met. He would look after me if I was sick, once I passed out from heat exhaus...

A.   16 August 2019: Honestly OP you sound like one of the women on the reality show 90 day fiance. The guy lives overseas, manages to reel the woman in and all he wants is a green card but because he sweet talk the woman she thinks he means it when he says he loves ... (read in full...)

My husband has completely changed after marriage and I feel exploited

Answered by Honeypie + on 16 August 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hello and thanks! Me and my husband have been together almost 3 years. Before our marriage he was mind, sweet, loving. He seemed to be the most charming man I've ever met. He would look after me if I was sick, once I passed out from heat exhaus...

A.   16 August 2019: Bait and switch, is what they call it. He played a "character" or had on a pleasant facade while you were dating and ONCE you said I do, he decided to JUST be himself. He thought you would STAY with him, because marriage MATTERS to you. He isn'... (read in full...)

For 6 years I treated him as my son now I find out he's not. How do I move on?

Answered by Fatherly Advice + on 16 August 2019.

Fatherly Advice agony auntQ.   I am a man married to a woman who loves me unconditionally. I have put my wife through a terrible heartache when I cheated on her twice with my ex. My wife was devastated, heartbroken and depressed and wanted to end our marriage, but she decided to ...

A.   16 August 2019: Anon, We are not here to answer your objections. And we have already answered your objections. It could be very interesting to untangle the kinks in your thinking. Shall we do it in your own thread? FA... (read in full...)

My husband has completely changed after marriage and I feel exploited

Answered by SadMan76 + on 16 August 2019.

Q.   Hello and thanks! Me and my husband have been together almost 3 years. Before our marriage he was mind, sweet, loving. He seemed to be the most charming man I've ever met. He would look after me if I was sick, once I passed out from heat exhaus...

A.   16 August 2019: My fear is that you have discovered the real him. People can wear a mask for a few years. Was he pushing for the marriage?... (read in full...)

My husband has completely changed after marriage and I feel exploited

Answered by anonymous on 16 August 2019.

Q.   Hello and thanks! Me and my husband have been together almost 3 years. Before our marriage he was mind, sweet, loving. He seemed to be the most charming man I've ever met. He would look after me if I was sick, once I passed out from heat exhaus...

A.   16 August 2019: As I read this, I thought 'how many times are you going to re-phrase this question before you pull yourself together and throw the mooch out on his rear?'. You have your answer OP but sadly I fear it will be a long time before you turf him out.... (read in full...)

My husband has completely changed after marriage and I feel exploited

Answered by CindyCares + on 16 August 2019.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   Hello and thanks! Me and my husband have been together almost 3 years. Before our marriage he was mind, sweet, loving. He seemed to be the most charming man I've ever met. He would look after me if I was sick, once I passed out from heat exhaus...

A.   16 August 2019:  Well, OP, the advice is always the same you already got from many of us Aunts and Uncles- because aldo the situation is alweays the same , has not changed and it's not going to change. The advice is : disentangle yourself. Get a divorce, get rid ... (read in full...)

How to approach her obsession with her looks

Answered by anonymous on 16 August 2019.

Q.   Wife bought waist trainer corset. When I first saw it on her, she looked super sexy; tiny waist with huge boobs (DD; what a dream. I made the mistake of telling her how hot she was and as a result, she started wearing it all the time. Over time, she ...

A.   16 August 2019: I do not think that is obsessive for your lady to want to look trimmer and be noticed by men and women who she encounters! Also OP, if smiles, looks from men, and compliments happen to boost your wifes self confidence and tends to get her all horned ... (read in full...)

For 6 years I treated him as my son now I find out he's not. How do I move on?

Answered by anonymous on 16 August 2019.

Q.   I am a man married to a woman who loves me unconditionally. I have put my wife through a terrible heartache when I cheated on her twice with my ex. My wife was devastated, heartbroken and depressed and wanted to end our marriage, but she decided to ...

A.   16 August 2019: "I mean reality is, if I do decide to stay in his life, I may have to keep in contact with this woman." "If I stay in his life I am afraid his mother would still try to stir up drama in my marriage." EXACTLY!! These are things I have alread... (read in full...)

Why does my stepfather treat me better than my own mother?

Answered by anonymous on 16 August 2019.

Q.   I don't know my biological dad and I have never been really close to my mother, she doesn't seem to care about me a lot. She does the basic parental obligations - feeding me, etc.- but she doesn't care much what's going on in my life and how I feel. ...

A.   16 August 2019: Sometimes even Mom's have mental health issues like depression and Asperger's or even Narcissistic tendencies etc so answers are not always so cut and dry. You are very lucky to have a great step father who is also a friend to you, maybe you coul... (read in full...)

We've broken up but he talks as though we're still together

Answered by YouWish + on 15 August 2019.

YouWish agony auntQ.   Hi I’ve recently broken up with my partner due to a few reasons we split up nearly 2 weeks ago but he is acting as though we are still together he won’t talk to me about any problems we have this is one of the reasons I ended it but now he’s talking ...

A.   15 August 2019: Before I answer your question, I have one for you that I hope you come back and follow up on. I'm going to answer this as I currently see it, but I have a sneaking feeling that I may be close to the mark here: My question to YOU is: Would yo... (read in full...)

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