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Date expressed a racial preference and it doesn't sit welll

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I've been dating this guy for the last few weeks. He fawns over me, is the harmless geeky sort, does everything for me like buy me flowers and get me coffee and text me constantly. He hit on me first and I was surprised he was so enthusiastic. I'm ...

A.   26 February 2017: I would feel the same as you would in the same situation. I am of mixed-heritage and have features from both sides. It has been my experience that people embarrass me by trying to guess my ethnicity; and have used the term "exotic"; which can feel ... (read in full...)

He's been flirting with me, but after seeing him out with another woman I'm not sure how he really feels!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   Hi Aunts and Uncles I met a guy nearly two years ago. Did not like him to begin. Then started to get to know him and he started flirting he gave me his number. Cutting a long story short, we have been talking for many weeks and my feelings h...

A.   26 February 2017: You first have to discipline yourself not to let your feelings get ahead of yourself; or make assumptions without certainty that your romantic-interest is on the same page. Talking is what you do with a friend, dating is what you do with a guy who ... (read in full...)

Can anything be saved in my marriage. If so, how?

Answered by Honeypie + on 26 February 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I need help.. my wife of 33 years has slept in separate room for 5 years.. she works but dosent contribute to mortgage, and all her income goes into her own bank. Mine goes into joint account, and she buys things out of this account. We have no ...

A.   26 February 2017: I don't think she is really ever gotten over your cheating. However, she should NOT have agreed to reconciliation if she was going to hold it over your head for the rest of your days. Are you really happy in this marriage? Doesn't sound like you... (read in full...)

Date expressed a racial preference and it doesn't sit welll

Answered by Honeypie + on 26 February 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I've been dating this guy for the last few weeks. He fawns over me, is the harmless geeky sort, does everything for me like buy me flowers and get me coffee and text me constantly. He hit on me first and I was surprised he was so enthusiastic. I'm ...

A.   26 February 2017: I would really feel like a piece of meat with this guy. I understand that WE all have preferences when it comes to attraction. But saying that ONLY south Asian are his preference makes me think definitely fetish. Because let's face it, you can find ... (read in full...)

New man doesn't want me to go to fetish party

Answered by Honeypie + on 26 February 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I arranged to go to kinky, fetish-scene party while single but now have new boyfriend who doesn't want me to go. Am I being unreasonable still wanting to go, even though he doesn't like it, and is not into that. He thinks I will be looking for ...

A.   26 February 2017: I think you have picked a BF who isn't a good match for you, at least not sexually. He is NOT into fetish, so I can understand why he doesn't think you should go. This is not like a hobby, like collecting stamps, going to watch polo or hike for... (read in full...)

He's not telling me the truth. Do I bail before it's too late?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for some time now and we just stopped using condoms a month ago(we got tested first), a day ago I was at his place cleaning up and I found 2 condoms in his jeans,now I'm wondering who else he's sleeping with. I ...

A.   26 February 2017: Restart using contraception immediately until you sort things out. Lying about his age could have started as he was afraid you would not date him if you knew his real age. Once he had lied about it, it would have been very difficult to tell you... (read in full...)

Can anything be saved in my marriage. If so, how?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I need help.. my wife of 33 years has slept in separate room for 5 years.. she works but dosent contribute to mortgage, and all her income goes into her own bank. Mine goes into joint account, and she buys things out of this account. We have no ...

A.   26 February 2017: Your wife was obviously very hurt by your affair and is still angry about it, hence the physical withdrawal. Men and women differ greatly in how they see sex: men need sex to feel loved, while women need to feel loved to want sex. Your lack of sex ... (read in full...)

I wondered if he could be flirting because his comment seemed out of place.

Answered by anonymous on 26 February 2017.

Q.   Hello everyone, a business meeting was scheduled with the owner of a company through common friends. So here i was walking into the conference room where he was waiting for me and introducing himself. he was very proper, professional and pleasant ...

A.   26 February 2017: Dear male reader, thank you for your right advice and objective view on the subject. Ur absolutely right, only time will tell. It might be an innocent remark with innocent intentions. Thank you very much for the right reply :) ... (read in full...)

New man doesn't want me to go to fetish party

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I arranged to go to kinky, fetish-scene party while single but now have new boyfriend who doesn't want me to go. Am I being unreasonable still wanting to go, even though he doesn't like it, and is not into that. He thinks I will be looking for ...

A.   26 February 2017: And will you? Be looking for someone who shares the same fantasy? How important is your fantasy/fetish? Is it something you absolutely have to have/do to have a satisfying sex life? If so and your boyfriend is not into the same thing, then you... (read in full...)

Teen daughter does not believe me. In your opinion did I do something wrong?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 26 February 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   I'm a single mother of two children. A girl who is 15 and a son who is 11 years old. We had a good life. We would take vacations and go back to our home country to visit every year. They both attend private Christian schools. Five years ago I di...

A.   26 February 2017: Your children will need to be exposed to safe sex education when they're 13+ because the more clueless they are, the more likely you are to find yourself being a young grandmother. It's your job as their parent to teach them responsible things, even ... (read in full...)

I've had bad luck with women in the past, and now I'm wondering if this new girl is testing me or just playing games

Answered by anonymous on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I would like some advice on what to do with a female I'm currently talking to. Ive had no luck in the past when it comes to relationships and have always ended up getting hurt, no fault of my own. I'm not a bad looking guy and can get dates, I deci...

A.   26 February 2017: shes into me one minute the next she isnt and doesnt text me for at least two or three days, and its always me that does the contacting, shes just playing games as women do, she knows I like her but I dont know.... (read in full...)

Is it over the top to want my first date ever to be nice and memorable?

Answered by anonymous on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I've never actually been on a date before despite being my early 20s. I'm OK looking and friendly so I've been asked out, I just haven't wanted to as I am a busy girl. Anyway, I've joined an online dating site for fun and got a fair few offers ...

A.   26 February 2017: Sorry, but first dates are not normally magical, special and earthmoving! They are often nerve wrecking, full of embarassment and awkward- just like first time sex!! But that's part of the whole package of dating. You'll date guys that you never w... (read in full...)

Is it up to me to make the first move in this situation? Because I think he thinks, in error, that I'm exclusively gay.

Answered by anonymous on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I sit next to a guy in one of my classes, and I've realised recently that I'm really into him. I work with him on a production and I think it's been coming on for a while, but best of all I get the impression he's into me too. I just have sever...

A.   26 February 2017: If it's your last year at the same college, and you're moving away from each other, then I reckon that's more of a reason to go for it! Think about it- if it all goes wrong and the friendship is affected, you're parting ways anyway. If you s... (read in full...)

I care my girl is letting herself go. How can I help?

Answered by like I see it + on 26 February 2017.

like I see it agony auntQ.   Me and my gf been together 4 years. Over the years she has let herself go. I have been encouraging her to keep in shape for over a year. She has been lazy and eats junk all the time. I like to see her happy so if she likes eating, i don't say much. ...

A.   26 February 2017: I'm not sure how tall your GF is, but after reading size conversions (I'm only familiar with US sizing) it doesn't sound like she's on the verge of obesity unless she's very short in stature. I'm 5'8" with a 29 1/2" waist and so I'd also be about a ... (read in full...)

I wondered if he could be flirting because his comment seemed out of place.

Answered by anonymous on 26 February 2017.

Q.   Hello everyone, a business meeting was scheduled with the owner of a company through common friends. So here i was walking into the conference room where he was waiting for me and introducing himself. he was very proper, professional and pleasant ...

A.   26 February 2017: Sometimes I find this website hilariously bad, because of some of the 'agony aunts and uncles' who reply. It's often the same ones that stir things up! I think most of us reading your story would think that you had some level of interest in him.... (read in full...)

Should I ? I'm tempted to contact the other people involved and ask them

Answered by anonymous on 26 February 2017.

Q.   Looking for some advice here.. About a year ago, I found out that my fiancée and two of her (our?) friends had been exchanging intimate photos - and had even been together a couple of times. I confronted her, she broke down, told me that the o...

A.   26 February 2017: I feel for you my friend, you are not in a good place right now. It's a good move to not contact the others, as you have said. It won't solve anything and could even give you more doubts and insecurities. Especially considering the fact that th... (read in full...)

I care my girl is letting herself go. How can I help?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 26 February 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Me and my gf been together 4 years. Over the years she has let herself go. I have been encouraging her to keep in shape for over a year. She has been lazy and eats junk all the time. I like to see her happy so if she likes eating, i don't say much. ...

A.   26 February 2017: It's possible it's not just laziness and eating junk - it could be symptoms of something else. For example, your perceived laziness and junk food could be a sign of depression. When complaining, reassurance is needed. Perhaps you're not going to... (read in full...)

Dental hygene is holding me back

Answered by RubyBirtle + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   Due to childhood problems, I have a major phobia of the dentist... and therefore never been... also due to those reason as problems, my dental hygiene is horrible :( I know it is! I am on track to sort them out. The problem is; I put off ev...

A.   26 February 2017: Obviously, I can't see the state of your teeth and gums myself but rest assured that most problems of this sort (chin hairs, zits, cold sores, stained teeth, etc) are often much more noticeable by the owner of the problem than to everybody else. ... (read in full...)

I care my girl is letting herself go. How can I help?

Answered by RubyBirtle + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   Me and my gf been together 4 years. Over the years she has let herself go. I have been encouraging her to keep in shape for over a year. She has been lazy and eats junk all the time. I like to see her happy so if she likes eating, i don't say much. ...

A.   26 February 2017: When she complains about her weight what is your standard response? What some men don't get is that when their partners complain about something they are not always looking for solutions so responses such as suggesting diet and exercise are not ... (read in full...)

I feel I’m losing my “big brother" and it’s painful! What should I do?

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   Hey guys, Rach here. I'm a 19-year-old girl and this question is about my big brother-type person. We're really not siblings, just friends, but I consider him my big brother. I'll make this as brief as possible (tho tbh the story is pretty long) -- ...

A.   26 February 2017: Have you actually read what you've written? Try it! In fact, read it out loud and pretend someone is saying that to you. What is all this siblinghood s**t? Maybe there are past personal traumas that you have experienced, and if so, I am truly so... (read in full...)

Why am I jealous of this one girl who now means nothing to him?

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   So basically I have been with my BF 10 months today and things have been beyond perfect, few fights, no girl issues just pure love as we live about 2 hours away from Eachother (depending on traffic) he comes To see me every week and stays ove...

A.   26 February 2017: If you truly love him, you have to trust him, or I guarantee you will lose him. There is only so many times you will say to a partner, 'there's nothing going on!' before you can't take it anymore. Just keep reminding yourself that jealousy is ugly... (read in full...)

Chaotic childhood. Do I leave it ? do I dig further to find out more about my mother?

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   My upbringing was somewhat chaotic. my father 19 when he had me and my mother a drug addict. Me and my twin sister were removed from her care at 1 years old and spent sometime in a foster home until a relative fostered us. we were given a little ...

A.   26 February 2017: Only you can make this deciscion. But if you find out all the facts, you have to be prepared for 2 things: 1: Once you know, you cannot un-know! Answers usually lead to more questions. Is that a rabbit-hole you want to go down? 2: If you find out... (read in full...)

I care my girl is letting herself go. How can I help?

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   Me and my gf been together 4 years. Over the years she has let herself go. I have been encouraging her to keep in shape for over a year. She has been lazy and eats junk all the time. I like to see her happy so if she likes eating, i don't say much. ...

A.   26 February 2017: Excercise is important, but MORE important is what you put in! Do you cook healthy meals? It's really hard, but once you start eating smaller portions, and carbs, it does get easier to have them for a treat. I appreciate you are not in a position... (read in full...)

I don't understand the attitude of my hook-up

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   My hook up and I kept trying to make plans to, well you know, hook up, but he kept cancelling on me because something came up that he had to take care of. Anyway he apologized for being confusing lately (which idk what that really meant) but I...

A.   26 February 2017: WOW! That's really classy! You are f**king a guy, and then asking the internet about his feelings!!!! Hook-ups are Hookups because it's just about sex. So you are getting exactly what it says on the tin. If he talked to you in a horrid way, you shou... (read in full...)

Teen daughter does not believe me. In your opinion did I do something wrong?

Answered by anonymous on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I'm a single mother of two children. A girl who is 15 and a son who is 11 years old. We had a good life. We would take vacations and go back to our home country to visit every year. They both attend private Christian schools. Five years ago I di...

A.   26 February 2017: Oh my.....My. Children are not exposed to worldly things like dating or sex.....Get your head out of the sand mom. Your kids are exposed to more than you think. Education is the key to safety. With STD out there that can actually kill you why ... (read in full...)

Should I pay attention to his behavioral patterns

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   When I was in undergrad 7 years ago I was partnered with one of my classmates (Tom) to do a class project. at the time I was in an unhealthy relationship and every time I went tto class I got attention from Tom. Both me and tom were attracted to ...

A.   26 February 2017: The answer to this is clear: proportionally, how much do you like this guy vs how much are you prepared to get your heart broken! You are a grown woman! You haven't evn been on a date with this guy! You haven't even had sex with him! He might b... (read in full...)

I'm worried that my bf will randomly break up with me. How can face my insecurity and fear of this happening to me?

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I have a sort of silly worry to ask advice about. One of my good friends recently got broken up with. She met her BF in July and everything seemed to be going pretty well for them. I didn't think he was super considerate of her and she went out...

A.   26 February 2017: Relationships work, or they fail! Nothing lasts forever. All you can do is your best. If he breaks up with you, so be it. But nothing is less attractive than being desperate, oe terrified they will leave you! It's a delicate balance of needi... (read in full...)

I feel betrayed and violated that he's been snooping on me on my phone! There's no reason for him to do this!

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I'm so angry as I write this post and a little confused. I was talking to my boyfriend of 9 years the other day and he asked me about something that happened to one of my friends that I could of swore I never told him, I brushed it off thinking...

A.   26 February 2017: You are not overreacting at all!!!! No one has the right to go through anyones phone! When you are in a long-term relationship, there comes a point where you do know each others passwords and PINs, because that trust is there. To violate that tru... (read in full...)

I'm not sure if she's into me romantically, or just friendly. How do I behave when we meet? What things do I mention? Don't want to scare her away.

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I'm a freshman in college. I enrolled into an English class last minute, I was assigned an older professor, mid thirties. I get to the class and it's a young woman about 24 years old, the professor. I was supposed have dropped out. The minute I saw...

A.   26 February 2017: She might not be YOUR professor, but she is still a professor at your college, correct? The only way this goes is badly. You know whatever we all say won't make a blind bit of difference. You are actually asking advice on how to hit on your pro... (read in full...)

I do not enjoy being 30 pounds overweight. How do I come to terms with the fact that the medication I must take is also making it much harder to lose weight?

Answered by Garbo + on 26 February 2017.

Garbo agony auntQ.   A combination of menopause and necessary medication is making it extremely hard for me to lose weight . The medication is actually what caused the weight gain and through working with my dr I did try alternatives but nothing else seemed to work for...

A.   26 February 2017: I would not accept the fact that 30 pounds overweight is a permanent condition. You are of age that hormonal imbalances in both men and women occur. I would go get all of them looked at, not just the amount of say estrogen you have but also what is ... (read in full...)

I've had bad luck with women in the past, and now I'm wondering if this new girl is testing me or just playing games

Answered by RubyBirtle + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I would like some advice on what to do with a female I'm currently talking to. Ive had no luck in the past when it comes to relationships and have always ended up getting hurt, no fault of my own. I'm not a bad looking guy and can get dates, I deci...

A.   26 February 2017: I think we're missing some key pieces of information here... What is she actually doing or saying that makes you feel that she's "playing games". Sometimes it's all a matter of interpretation and if you "confront" her and accuse her of ga... (read in full...)

I don't want to hurt my girlfriend but after 3 years I am not sure that I want to be with her

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   How can i break up with my girlfriend? Im not sure if i even want to. We have been together for three years. We have been having problems recently. She told me she was not sure where we were going, that we were stuck in the same old patterns doing ...

A.   26 February 2017: DO NOT BOOK A HOLIDAY TO CUBA. This is classic, 'I need space' (Because I want to see who else I can get) (oh, it didn't work out, but I can just go back to where I was because I hedged my bets) 'You're the one I really want, lets go on holiday!' ... (read in full...)

I do not enjoy being 30 pounds overweight. How do I come to terms with the fact that the medication I must take is also making it much harder to lose weight?

Answered by YouWish + on 26 February 2017.

YouWish agony auntQ.   A combination of menopause and necessary medication is making it extremely hard for me to lose weight . The medication is actually what caused the weight gain and through working with my dr I did try alternatives but nothing else seemed to work for...

A.   26 February 2017: Speaking as someone who also takes medication that can have that side effect, I can tell you that spending time with a dietitian is *the* saving grace, and has kept me in shape when other people have gained easily 100+ pounds in the same boat I am. ... (read in full...)

Why do I allow him to treat me like trash, throw me out and then let him back into my life?

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   Hi, I would appreciate some outside perspective on the situation I'm currently dealing with. I started dating someone last year that I had known for about 10 years though granted we were mostly only acquaintances during that time with limited int...

A.   26 February 2017: Just keep reminding yourself that once you cut him loose, he will find some other fool to be the new you. Have you ever heard the expression 'It's better to have loved and lost, than live with a psychopath all your life!' This applies to you, if ... (read in full...)

Should I end this relationship or work with it? He's become my best friend, but the excitement and passion have faded

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now but i am 18 and just starting to feel like i want to have other boyfriends and get to know other guys. I do really love my boyfriend but hes kind of more my bestfriend now. I defintely dont have ...

A.   26 February 2017: I know you love him and don't want to hurt him, but it's over! Unfortunately, that's just the way it goes. Maybe, eventually you'l be friends, probably you won't. You cannot string it out and let him come on holiday with your family! Sun and alco... (read in full...)

How does one overcome loneliness? I feel like I have no one to talk to nor anyone I can confide in

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   feel like I'm alone !! I feel like I have no one to talk to or confide in!! family members aren't an option I don't want to tell them what's really on my mind. my boyfriend well he is not to interested and even then some of my feelings aren't ...

A.   26 February 2017: I am a female with predominantly male colleagues and friends. I find that when you truly need to talk, they will listen, but you have to make it extremely clear that you need this from them! You don't actually say, specifically, what you need to ... (read in full...)

How can I stop comparing myself to everyone else? How can I become Assertive and less insecure?

Answered by anonymous on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I'm single woman in my early thirties that on the outside most people would say (kind-generous -attractive- nice). My problem is - I'm very insecure ( I worked and work so much on outer appearance ) that I lack self confidence. I can't say no (...

A.   26 February 2017: Comparing yourself to others is a toxic form of thinking. We all do comparisons here and there but it's the intention behind it that makes the difference of it being healthy vs unhealthy. If your comparing is driven by ego as opposed to benefit. ... (read in full...)

How do I stop falling in love with my best friend?

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I'm in love with my best friend at college. He's not your average stud bit of a stoner, very clever and it nerdy but probably THE funniest guy I have ever met, I could be having a really shit time and I'd talk to him for like 2 minutes and he puts a ...

A.   26 February 2017: Firstly, casual one night stands are one thing, but do not try for them!ESpecially as a means to get over someone else, you only end up feeling more s**t! Try and imagine what it looks like from the outside. There is nothing less attractive to a guy... (read in full...)

Should I move on? She had a crush on this guy previously. They've had recent conversations with each other

Answered by anonymous on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I recently found out that my wife is having inappropriate conversations with someone who she had a crush on several years ago. I know for a fact that she asked this person a hypothetical question saying "Let me ask you something, what if I say he...

A.   26 February 2017: I wanted to add that, had she been innocent, she would not have shifted the blame on you. Albeit she may have got frustrated, agitated and angry, she'd have opened up her social media accounts to prove her innocence. Her manipulation and blame game ... (read in full...)

Is it over the top to want my first date ever to be nice and memorable?

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I've never actually been on a date before despite being my early 20s. I'm OK looking and friendly so I've been asked out, I just haven't wanted to as I am a busy girl. Anyway, I've joined an online dating site for fun and got a fair few offers ...

A.   26 February 2017: Try not looking at meeting someone for the first time as your first date! You are just meeting them! If it goes well discuss what you might like to do on your first date, while you're having coffee! I STRESS if it goes WELL! Don't come on too ... (read in full...)

How can I stop comparing myself to everyone else? How can I become Assertive and less insecure?

Answered by Xearo + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I'm single woman in my early thirties that on the outside most people would say (kind-generous -attractive- nice). My problem is - I'm very insecure ( I worked and work so much on outer appearance ) that I lack self confidence. I can't say no (...

A.   26 February 2017: I think with therapy you have to keep trying and also trying to find the right therapist. It is a complex issue, and perhaps not easily resolved. A part of moving forward in life is just accepting that doing "new" and "better" will always s... (read in full...)

I do not enjoy being 30 pounds overweight. How do I come to terms with the fact that the medication I must take is also making it much harder to lose weight?

Answered by anonymous on 26 February 2017.

Q.   A combination of menopause and necessary medication is making it extremely hard for me to lose weight . The medication is actually what caused the weight gain and through working with my dr I did try alternatives but nothing else seemed to work for...

A.   26 February 2017: I have been overweight since puberty due to hormone issues and polycystic ovary syndrome (and obviously some unhealthy eating decisions) but this condition and the birth control I take to try to help control it makes it really hard to lose weight. ... (read in full...)

I hope I'm wrong but wonder based on these signs if should I just move on?

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I normally have a really good intuition about relationships and men, but oftentimes ignore it in hopes that I am wrong. I'm sort of hoping that I'm wrong this time around, but I digress. I met with this guy about a month ago. He is older than me...

A.   26 February 2017: You are saying the things we've all said a millon times when we really like someone but they are not reciprocating. Stop doing this to yourself! There is a man who wants to treat you like a queen, and make you feel like the most beautiful woman on e... (read in full...)

He's been flirting with me, but after seeing him out with another woman I'm not sure how he really feels!

Answered by CindyCares + on 26 February 2017.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   Hi Aunts and Uncles I met a guy nearly two years ago. Did not like him to begin. Then started to get to know him and he started flirting he gave me his number. Cutting a long story short, we have been talking for many weeks and my feelings h...

A.   26 February 2017:  I don't see much room for confusion here. Particularly if " I have been told to lay off him " means that you have been told this by the guy in person !, I think the message is crystal-clear : he does not wish to be in closer relationships with ... (read in full...)

I do not enjoy being 30 pounds overweight. How do I come to terms with the fact that the medication I must take is also making it much harder to lose weight?

Answered by Madhura + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   A combination of menopause and necessary medication is making it extremely hard for me to lose weight . The medication is actually what caused the weight gain and through working with my dr I did try alternatives but nothing else seemed to work for...

A.   26 February 2017: Dear Friend Point number one, you should consult doctor to reduce weight. Visit diatician. She can guide you better. Keep your exercise and walking on to remain fit. 2nd point, outer beauty is never everlasting. The beauty of your own self should b... (read in full...)

How can this be resolved? I want a Baby. He couldn't think of anything worse.

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   My husband told me the other day he never wants to have children. I’m devastated. Don’t get me wrong I love him completely and can appreciate that it’s just how he feels but I feel angry and bitter and am having serious thoughts about leaving him if ...

A.   26 February 2017: I agree with other reply that says, basically, HOW COULD YOU MARRY A MAN WITHOUT KNOWING THIS!!!! I would ask him to impregnate you, and say that you just want a baby and you don't want anything else from him. You'd be surpised how many men chan... (read in full...)

I can't get in contact with my love who has moved on to another country. How can I deal with his absence?

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   This boy that I have fallen in love with has moved to Spain and I have no way of getting in touch with him. Although he is back in summer but that's 5 months away. I'm worried he might find another girl whilst he's there and everyday I worry an...

A.   26 February 2017: He may not have found another girl, but,trustme, he's trying his best! I'm sorry but he really doesn't care about you in the slightest. He has gone on his jolies, and yes he may try and pick you back up when he comes home. My advice is, don't wa... (read in full...)

If he wants to remain friends, I'm going to need a sincere apology!

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I recently broke it off with a guy I was dating because he wasn't ready for commitment. It hurt a lot but I'm mostly over it now. There was a deep connection and we could potentially be really good friends if the bad feelings can be resolved....

A.   26 February 2017: 'He is allowing his past heartbreaks to control him'!!!!!!!!! I have never heard such a pile of s**t in all my life. You want to help him heal? He tried to have you and your mate, just seeing who would reply. That's called hedging your bets! Y... (read in full...)

She's still sharing a bed with her partner of 6 years! What do I do?

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   Hi I'm seeing a girl and have been for over 6 months but she's still living with her partner of 6 years ... I did know her before and was common knoledge they were not close ... she promised me she would leave once she got the finance to move out ...

A.   26 February 2017: Love is one thing, but you are being taken for a ride! She is a piss-taker and you behaving like a fool! Get a grip! Imagine you had just read what you have posted! I can't believe I even replied! SERIOUSLY!!!!!!... (read in full...)

Would I be betraying my Mom's memory if I get close to Dad's new girlfriend?

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   Hello, My name is Bree. 2 years ago my mother died and it has been sad and rough for my Dad and I. When my mom died it really broke my Dad's heart, he loved her so much and misses her, and I miss her too. But last month my Dad told me he met another ...

A.   26 February 2017: I think It was very smart your dad's girlfriend to give you some time to think about it. I can tell you, if you weren't getting on in the first place, she probably would have waited a while before suggesting a girl's day. You Know in your heart that... (read in full...)

Should I move on? She had a crush on this guy previously. They've had recent conversations with each other

Answered by anonymous on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I recently found out that my wife is having inappropriate conversations with someone who she had a crush on several years ago. I know for a fact that she asked this person a hypothetical question saying "Let me ask you something, what if I say he...

A.   26 February 2017: Hi OP She's clearly manipulating the situation, making you look like the bad guy. Why does she have to put up an act saying, "You should have told me if you don't want me talking to them". Why do you have to tell her? Are you that dominating? Can ... (read in full...)

I feel he guilt trips me into staying with him.

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   My partner needs help with his anger and possessive behaviour , how do I help him .. I know I can't help him he needs a professional but what do I do in this process !? It's sounds horrible because im finding it hard to believe he will change and ...

A.   26 February 2017: Maybe he will change, but not anytime soon, and not with you. LEAVE. This is a losing battle. It will only get worse, not better. RUN!... (read in full...)

My best friend hates my boyfriend, I don't want to break up with him for her.

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I have a boyfriend that I love very much, however my best friend hates him and she thinks he's taking me away from her. However I hang round with my best friend a lot more than I do with my boyfriend and she gets very jealous when I'm with him . She ...

A.   26 February 2017: Your friend misses you. If she is your best friend, and she really doesn't like your boyfriend, is it just because she misses you, or she's lonely, or jealous? If you explain to your friend how much this is troubling you, and she still won't get ... (read in full...)

I like him but worry about his motives.

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   Hi so there's this guy that I've had feelings for for a while. I'm 99% sure he at least likes me a little but for some reason I still have some doubt in my mind, which might just be because I'm not use to guys genuinely wanting to get to know etc. ...

A.   26 February 2017: You're 99% sure he likes you a little?!!!!!! If he really honestly likes you, when or if you have sex won't even be an issue. I was lucky enough that my first was also my first love and we were together for a year before we had sex. I totally ... (read in full...)

I've had bad luck with women in the past, and now I'm wondering if this new girl is testing me or just playing games

Answered by rasblak + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I would like some advice on what to do with a female I'm currently talking to. Ive had no luck in the past when it comes to relationships and have always ended up getting hurt, no fault of my own. I'm not a bad looking guy and can get dates, I deci...

A.   26 February 2017: I don't get it... It's barely a week you've been speaking to that person. My impression is that you are taking things too seriously. She's, at this point, just pixels on your screen, or electromagnetic waves reaching your phone, and so are you ... (read in full...)

I've had bad luck with women in the past, and now I'm wondering if this new girl is testing me or just playing games

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I would like some advice on what to do with a female I'm currently talking to. Ive had no luck in the past when it comes to relationships and have always ended up getting hurt, no fault of my own. I'm not a bad looking guy and can get dates, I deci...

A.   26 February 2017: You only contacted this girl last week, haven't met her yet and she is already messing you about? Seriously? If this REALLY is the case, then drop her and move onto someone else before you invest any more emotional energy in her. I would be inter... (read in full...)

How do I tell someone that their romantic feelings toward me are not mutual?

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I'm not into relationships at all, just casual stuff mainly. However, a guy I've recently been seeing thinks he's fallen in love with me and wants to be in a relationship. The issue is I can't bring myself to tell him that's not what I want. I'm ...

A.   26 February 2017: Have an honest converstion with him. See if you are on the same page. If he wants more and you don't just tell him; but probably stop and fling you are having with him, that's just messing with his head. Imagine how you would feel if you saw him ... (read in full...)

He's been flirting with me, but after seeing him out with another woman I'm not sure how he really feels!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   Hi Aunts and Uncles I met a guy nearly two years ago. Did not like him to begin. Then started to get to know him and he started flirting he gave me his number. Cutting a long story short, we have been talking for many weeks and my feelings h...

A.   26 February 2017: You do understand that flirting does not always mean someone is "into" you, don't you? Sometimes it is just done as a bit of fun banter. (I work with a guy who is HALF my age. We are just totally not attracted to each other in any way, shape or ... (read in full...)

I'm losing the love I used to have for my boyfriend. How do I let go?

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for two years now, known him for four. Over the past month or so I've felt my feelings towards him just fade. When he text me I feel myself drain, when he holds me I feel a little uncomfortable, just little things l...

A.   26 February 2017: You have to end the relationship. Unfortunately, there is no good way. It will hurt. People will cry. The only way is face to face, be honest, but kind, and do it the sooner the better. We all get our hearts broken. We heal and we move on. It's a ... (read in full...)

How can I stop comparing myself to everyone else? How can I become Assertive and less insecure?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I'm single woman in my early thirties that on the outside most people would say (kind-generous -attractive- nice). My problem is - I'm very insecure ( I worked and work so much on outer appearance ) that I lack self confidence. I can't say no (...

A.   26 February 2017: I really don't think the answer is to get more "aggressive". That is not a good trait in anyone. I think you perhaps need to become more assertive, more confident and to value who you are more. Just being a "yes" person is not good for your soul ... (read in full...)

I've had bad luck with women in the past, and now I'm wondering if this new girl is testing me or just playing games

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I would like some advice on what to do with a female I'm currently talking to. Ive had no luck in the past when it comes to relationships and have always ended up getting hurt, no fault of my own. I'm not a bad looking guy and can get dates, I deci...

A.   26 February 2017: Are you saying some girl is playing games with you on a dating site before you've even met her? She is bad news ... (read in full...)

He's been flirting with me, but after seeing him out with another woman I'm not sure how he really feels!

Answered by Campari Milano + on 26 February 2017.

Q.   Hi Aunts and Uncles I met a guy nearly two years ago. Did not like him to begin. Then started to get to know him and he started flirting he gave me his number. Cutting a long story short, we have been talking for many weeks and my feelings h...

A.   26 February 2017: I totally agree with everyone telling you to let this one go! It's never a great idea to get involved with a work colleague, but an ambivalent one is even worse! If you have these feelings for him, he knows. He doesn't feel the same. Don't be the ... (read in full...)

He's a handsome foreigner, twice-divorced, aged 60. But all is not well in the relationship. Is it time to break up with him?

Answered by anonymous on 26 February 2017.

Q.   Hello, I´m a single working mother of two. One is 13yo and the second 5yo. Six months ago I met a handsome foreigner twice-divorced aged 60. After 2 months, he came to live with us. He´s the first man to ever enter my household because I´ve alw...

A.   26 February 2017: He is twice divorced. He is old. He is egotistical and selfish. He is mean to your kids. He is using you for ego gratification. He is not there for you in all the ways that count. Hmmmm. I would say it is an easy decision to make. This g... (read in full...)

I'm losing the love I used to have for my boyfriend. How do I let go?

Answered by Joe Roma + on 26 February 2017.

Joe Roma agony auntQ.   I have been with my boyfriend for two years now, known him for four. Over the past month or so I've felt my feelings towards him just fade. When he text me I feel myself drain, when he holds me I feel a little uncomfortable, just little things l...

A.   26 February 2017: The kind of love we first have is a mix of chemicals in our brains that let us ignore our partner's faults. We get a rush from thinking about them and being with them. That lasts for about 2-3 years and then we are not seeing our partner through the ... (read in full...)

I've had bad luck with women in the past, and now I'm wondering if this new girl is testing me or just playing games

Answered by White_Dove + on 26 February 2017.

White_Dove agony auntQ.   I would like some advice on what to do with a female I'm currently talking to. Ive had no luck in the past when it comes to relationships and have always ended up getting hurt, no fault of my own. I'm not a bad looking guy and can get dates, I deci...

A.   26 February 2017: When you say playing games what do you mean for example? ... (read in full...)

He's been flirting with me, but after seeing him out with another woman I'm not sure how he really feels!

Answered by White_Dove + on 26 February 2017.

White_Dove agony auntQ.   Hi Aunts and Uncles I met a guy nearly two years ago. Did not like him to begin. Then started to get to know him and he started flirting he gave me his number. Cutting a long story short, we have been talking for many weeks and my feelings h...

A.   26 February 2017: Hi there, i can only offer what i think i would do and that is if you like him go for it lifes too short for standing there waiting to see what if? If your getting emotional now its best to know now whether he feels same for you otherwise you might ... (read in full...)

Should I move on? She had a crush on this guy previously. They've had recent conversations with each other

Answered by anonymous on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I recently found out that my wife is having inappropriate conversations with someone who she had a crush on several years ago. I know for a fact that she asked this person a hypothetical question saying "Let me ask you something, what if I say he...

A.   26 February 2017: @Anonymous OP here. I did have a talk with her, just yesterday. I didn't tell her that I knew exact conversations but I told her that someone told me that she had said inappropriate things to the two men I had written about, in my first post.... (read in full...)

He's been flirting with me, but after seeing him out with another woman I'm not sure how he really feels!

Answered by Honeypie + on 26 February 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi Aunts and Uncles I met a guy nearly two years ago. Did not like him to begin. Then started to get to know him and he started flirting he gave me his number. Cutting a long story short, we have been talking for many weeks and my feelings h...

A.   26 February 2017: He was unsettled that you had feelings for him? and told you to back off or tone it down? BY him? If so, quit while you are ahead. STOP the flirting and regard him as ANY other co-worker. If he was REALLY interested IN you (in a romantic way) ... (read in full...)

He's a handsome foreigner, twice-divorced, aged 60. But all is not well in the relationship. Is it time to break up with him?

Answered by mystiquek + on 26 February 2017.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   Hello, I´m a single working mother of two. One is 13yo and the second 5yo. Six months ago I met a handsome foreigner twice-divorced aged 60. After 2 months, he came to live with us. He´s the first man to ever enter my household because I´ve alw...

A.   26 February 2017: I agree with Celtic Tiger. Its very troubling that after only 2 months you moved basically a total stranger into your home and your children's lives. A man old enough to be your father and their grandfather. You don't know someone after dating 2 ... (read in full...)

Teen daughter does not believe me. In your opinion did I do something wrong?

Answered by anonymous on 26 February 2017.

Q.   I'm a single mother of two children. A girl who is 15 and a son who is 11 years old. We had a good life. We would take vacations and go back to our home country to visit every year. They both attend private Christian schools. Five years ago I di...

A.   26 February 2017: I'm the OP here... The reason why although it is financially difficult for me, I still insist on putting my children in this Christian School is because I also graduated from this school. My children are not exposed to dating or sex or any 'worldly... (read in full...)

He's a handsome foreigner, twice-divorced, aged 60. But all is not well in the relationship. Is it time to break up with him?

Answered by celtic_tiger + on 26 February 2017.

celtic_tiger agony auntQ.   Hello, I´m a single working mother of two. One is 13yo and the second 5yo. Six months ago I met a handsome foreigner twice-divorced aged 60. After 2 months, he came to live with us. He´s the first man to ever enter my household because I´ve alw...

A.   26 February 2017: The worrying thing here is that you moved a complete stranger into your home having only been in a relationship for two months - 8 weeks - 60 days. Personally that shows very little concern for the wellbeing of your children, or how your relation... (read in full...)

He's a handsome foreigner, twice-divorced, aged 60. But all is not well in the relationship. Is it time to break up with him?

Answered by Honeypie + on 25 February 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hello, I´m a single working mother of two. One is 13yo and the second 5yo. Six months ago I met a handsome foreigner twice-divorced aged 60. After 2 months, he came to live with us. He´s the first man to ever enter my household because I´ve alw...

A.   25 February 2017: I think, you AND ESPECIALLY, your kids will be better off without this guy. If course his kids are PERFECT! he isn't the one raising them! Their mother is! And HE doesn't spend time with them 24/7 so what he CHOOSES to see and remember of his kids... (read in full...)

He's a handsome foreigner, twice-divorced, aged 60. But all is not well in the relationship. Is it time to break up with him?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 25 February 2017.

Q.   Hello, I´m a single working mother of two. One is 13yo and the second 5yo. Six months ago I met a handsome foreigner twice-divorced aged 60. After 2 months, he came to live with us. He´s the first man to ever enter my household because I´ve alw...

A.   25 February 2017: I'm sorry but this man calls your CHILDREN psychopaths and you still allow him to stay in your house. You are their MOTHER for crying out loud. Your priority should be to protect them. How do you think they feel that you allow this man to say these ... (read in full...)

I'm losing the love I used to have for my boyfriend. How do I let go?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 25 February 2017.

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for two years now, known him for four. Over the past month or so I've felt my feelings towards him just fade. When he text me I feel myself drain, when he holds me I feel a little uncomfortable, just little things l...

A.   25 February 2017: You are very young. At your age relationships tend not to last long because you change so much as you mature. I suspect this is what has happened to you. It's very sad but, if you stay with your boyfriend out of pity, you will end up hating h... (read in full...)

I'm losing the love I used to have for my boyfriend. How do I let go?

Answered by Honeypie + on 25 February 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I have been with my boyfriend for two years now, known him for four. Over the past month or so I've felt my feelings towards him just fade. When he text me I feel myself drain, when he holds me I feel a little uncomfortable, just little things l...

A.   25 February 2017: Be honest with yourself and HIM and let him go. Even if he cries or doesn't WANT to lose you, it's better, in the long run, to end it for BOTH your sakes. And then TAKE a good few months being single. Don't promise "friendship" with him - just CUT... (read in full...)

I don't want to hurt my girlfriend but after 3 years I am not sure that I want to be with her

Answered by VitaminZ + on 25 February 2017.

Q.   How can i break up with my girlfriend? Im not sure if i even want to. We have been together for three years. We have been having problems recently. She told me she was not sure where we were going, that we were stuck in the same old patterns doing ...

A.   25 February 2017: I think the others have said it well. Cut her loose. ... (read in full...)

Should I ? I'm tempted to contact the other people involved and ask them

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 25 February 2017.

Q.   Looking for some advice here.. About a year ago, I found out that my fiancée and two of her (our?) friends had been exchanging intimate photos - and had even been together a couple of times. I confronted her, she broke down, told me that the o...

A.   25 February 2017: Gosh, you add that she did the physical stuff after you were together in subtext? That should have been included in your original post! You indicated it this way, and to quote: "I confronted her, she broke down, told me that the only physica... (read in full...)

Teen daughter does not believe me. In your opinion did I do something wrong?

Answered by mystiquek + on 25 February 2017.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   I'm a single mother of two children. A girl who is 15 and a son who is 11 years old. We had a good life. We would take vacations and go back to our home country to visit every year. They both attend private Christian schools. Five years ago I di...

A.   25 February 2017: You didn't do anything wrong. Teenagers are hard to raise and especially teen age daughters can be a real nightmare. My daughter was 13 going on 30 thought she knew everything and I was a constant source of embarrassment to her. Her friends liked me ... (read in full...)

Should I ? I'm tempted to contact the other people involved and ask them

Answered by Honeypie + on 25 February 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Looking for some advice here.. About a year ago, I found out that my fiancée and two of her (our?) friends had been exchanging intimate photos - and had even been together a couple of times. I confronted her, she broke down, told me that the o...

A.   25 February 2017: If it continued to happen AFTER you two got together WHY are you still with her? I mean, it's sort of obvious that you don't condone or would cheat yourself, so WHY stay with her when you found out? I think one of the reasons this is hurting ... (read in full...)

How do I tell someone that their romantic feelings toward me are not mutual?

Answered by Pollomaria + on 25 February 2017.

Q.   I'm not into relationships at all, just casual stuff mainly. However, a guy I've recently been seeing thinks he's fallen in love with me and wants to be in a relationship. The issue is I can't bring myself to tell him that's not what I want. I'm ...

A.   25 February 2017: Hello, been there, done that. First, If you think you dont have feelings towards your friend, tell him and end it. It will hurt him now but will thank you later. If you are asking this, I think you care about him and take his feelings into con... (read in full...)

Teen daughter does not believe me. In your opinion did I do something wrong?

Answered by anonymous on 25 February 2017.

Q.   I'm a single mother of two children. A girl who is 15 and a son who is 11 years old. We had a good life. We would take vacations and go back to our home country to visit every year. They both attend private Christian schools. Five years ago I di...

A.   25 February 2017: Is your ex-husband paying child support? If no, then as a mother it is your responsibility to obtain a court order of support. He is legally and morally obligated to provide financial support to the fullest extent of his ability to pay. ... (read in full...)

How do I tell someone that their romantic feelings toward me are not mutual?

Answered by anonymous on 25 February 2017.

Q.   I'm not into relationships at all, just casual stuff mainly. However, a guy I've recently been seeing thinks he's fallen in love with me and wants to be in a relationship. The issue is I can't bring myself to tell him that's not what I want. I'm ...

A.   25 February 2017: ok, it's been fun,you just want to use him till somebody new comes around then you going to break his heart,an it won't hurt you one bit,but please don't ghost him he doesn't deserve that,he probably been thinking you feel the same cause he is ... (read in full...)

Sucking on breasts. Is that so enjoyable that it can be described as an act of love and deeply satisfying when between two adults in a relationship?

Answered by anonymous on 25 February 2017.

Q.   Dear Cupids Having experienced the wonder of a female friend breastfeeding her child a question arose. When a woman breastfeeds her child, it's a highly beneficial situation for both of them. Not only in nourishing, but also for bonding, cl...

A.   25 February 2017: It is amazing, just not for long periods of a time all at once. So do it as much as you want but not too hard. ... (read in full...)

How do I tell someone that their romantic feelings toward me are not mutual?

Answered by celtic_tiger + on 25 February 2017.

celtic_tiger agony auntQ.   I'm not into relationships at all, just casual stuff mainly. However, a guy I've recently been seeing thinks he's fallen in love with me and wants to be in a relationship. The issue is I can't bring myself to tell him that's not what I want. I'm ...

A.   25 February 2017: This is the problem with casual relationships. At some point one or other develops deeper feelings. This is a risk when entering a casual fling. We hear so many stories on DC about hearts being broken because a "casual" fling has develope... (read in full...)

Teen daughter does not believe me. In your opinion did I do something wrong?

Answered by anonymous on 25 February 2017.

Q.   I'm a single mother of two children. A girl who is 15 and a son who is 11 years old. We had a good life. We would take vacations and go back to our home country to visit every year. They both attend private Christian schools. Five years ago I di...

A.   25 February 2017: You did everything right mom.She is 15.This is normal for a 15 year old.They do grow out of this. Gosh when my daughter was 15 we had a hell of a time.She is now 26 and we are super close. One thing to do though is educate her about safe sex and... (read in full...)

Should I ? I'm tempted to contact the other people involved and ask them

Answered by Peregrine_UK + on 25 February 2017.

Q.   Looking for some advice here.. About a year ago, I found out that my fiancée and two of her (our?) friends had been exchanging intimate photos - and had even been together a couple of times. I confronted her, she broke down, told me that the o...

A.   25 February 2017: Anonymous, your advice is harsh but fair. And I know deep down that she'll cheat again. She's so riddled with "issues" (including Impulse Control Disorder) that she won't be able to help herself. It's very sad. ... (read in full...)

We are not meeting so often and he is blaming his work!

Answered by lovethouartcomplex + on 25 February 2017.

Q.   Hi, Aunts! I've been seeing a guy for 2 months now. We used to talk throughout the day and text and meet often, but of late he initiates contact less. It's very frustrating when "Work has been very hectic" is the reply I receive as an explanatio...

A.   25 February 2017: Thank you for all your insights. You are right, if he liked me he would have proved it by his actions. Anyway, I am going to discard him from my life before he does so. ... (read in full...)

Teen daughter does not believe me. In your opinion did I do something wrong?

Answered by anonymous on 25 February 2017.

Q.   I'm a single mother of two children. A girl who is 15 and a son who is 11 years old. We had a good life. We would take vacations and go back to our home country to visit every year. They both attend private Christian schools. Five years ago I di...

A.   25 February 2017: It might be best to clear this whole thing up. Who is this administrator and what right has she over how you spend your hard earned cash? It might be a good idea to complain immediately to the head about someone casting a dubious eye over your cla... (read in full...)

Teen daughter does not believe me. In your opinion did I do something wrong?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 25 February 2017.

Q.   I'm a single mother of two children. A girl who is 15 and a son who is 11 years old. We had a good life. We would take vacations and go back to our home country to visit every year. They both attend private Christian schools. Five years ago I di...

A.   25 February 2017: The hardest job in the world: being a mother. HUGS. Personally I don't think you did anything wrong, but your daughter is a teenager and will be finding holes in everything you do. She is probably (understandably) upset about her change of life ... (read in full...)

Teen daughter does not believe me. In your opinion did I do something wrong?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 25 February 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   I'm a single mother of two children. A girl who is 15 and a son who is 11 years old. We had a good life. We would take vacations and go back to our home country to visit every year. They both attend private Christian schools. Five years ago I di...

A.   25 February 2017: You didn't do anything wrong, but it may go against their rules. Quite honestly, if you have children who want to learn, you don't need them at a private school, just at a good public school. Also, off-topic (but important), what will a Christia... (read in full...)

Should I move on? She had a crush on this guy previously. They've had recent conversations with each other

Answered by Peregrine_UK + on 25 February 2017.

Q.   I recently found out that my wife is having inappropriate conversations with someone who she had a crush on several years ago. I know for a fact that she asked this person a hypothetical question saying "Let me ask you something, what if I say he...

A.   25 February 2017: OP, your wife sounds like my fiancée. My advice to you is similar to the other replies here: trust your gut. If you know/feel deep down that she's not 100% committed... you know what to do. Good luck, either way. ... (read in full...)

Do I ask her out online or in person? She is shy.

Answered by rasblak + on 25 February 2017.

Q.   I don't know if I should ask her out in person or online? We talk often, and get along well. In fact I often see her staring, and all of the signs that tell me she likes me are clear now. She's shy, and probably won't ask me out herself, so I thin...

A.   25 February 2017: To keep this simple, in order of preference: i) in person ii) on the phone iii) online A relevant question you might want to consider when asking her out: What are you asking her out for? *Whom* should you make it about when you go out? ... (read in full...)

Teen daughter does not believe me. In your opinion did I do something wrong?

Answered by anonymous on 25 February 2017.

Q.   I'm a single mother of two children. A girl who is 15 and a son who is 11 years old. We had a good life. We would take vacations and go back to our home country to visit every year. They both attend private Christian schools. Five years ago I di...

A.   25 February 2017: You did nothing wrong and you are doing your best, a great job at that raising your kids as a single mother. When i was your daughters age although I loved my parents I was easily embarrassed by them. Sometimes for no reason, its just a phase kids ... (read in full...)

Should I message her on facebook, or should I just leave it?

Answered by rasblak + on 25 February 2017.

Q.   I went out on monday night for a student night and I met this really nice girl where we danced. I bought her a drink. She had a friend who was dancing with my friend but he left somewhere and I ended up going to see one of my other friends, but I sa...

A.   25 February 2017: Nothing to lose, go ahead and do it. It can only be a learning experience. Things to consider: i) For all the talk of 'men can just have fun and leave it at that; women have emotions bla bla bla...' , many women can very well see last night was... (read in full...)

Do I ask her out online or in person? She is shy.

Answered by CindyCares + on 25 February 2017.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   I don't know if I should ask her out in person or online? We talk often, and get along well. In fact I often see her staring, and all of the signs that tell me she likes me are clear now. She's shy, and probably won't ask me out herself, so I thin...

A.   25 February 2017:  In person. Absolutely.... (read in full...)

Is this recently widowed woman demonstrating a desire for a closer physical relationship with me, or is she grieving?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 25 February 2017.

Q.   Hello A woman i know, when we meet, we hug and kiss each other on the cheek. Not long ago her husband died. The last we met we hugged and she placed my head on her breastl Does she want a closer relationship with me? As in sexual? Or is it so...

A.   25 February 2017: Tread very carefully here so that you don't overstep the mark. This lady is recently widowed. She is grieving. She may be looking for any comfort she can get at the moment and, as someone who she has had contact with in the past, she probably... (read in full...)

How do I tell someone that their romantic feelings toward me are not mutual?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 25 February 2017.

Q.   I'm not into relationships at all, just casual stuff mainly. However, a guy I've recently been seeing thinks he's fallen in love with me and wants to be in a relationship. The issue is I can't bring myself to tell him that's not what I want. I'm ...

A.   25 February 2017: Oh dear. Always tricky, especially when you move in the same group of friends. Don't feel pressured into doing anything you don't want to do. If you get into a proper relationship with him because you bow to peer pressure, it will only make thi... (read in full...)

Do I ask her out online or in person? She is shy.

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 25 February 2017.

Q.   I don't know if I should ask her out in person or online? We talk often, and get along well. In fact I often see her staring, and all of the signs that tell me she likes me are clear now. She's shy, and probably won't ask me out herself, so I thin...

A.   25 February 2017: If you fear you will not make the right impression online I would ask her in person. Make it very light and casual so as not to spook her. Just something like, "Heh, fancy a coffee sometime?" or have a chat about a film you want to see. If she ... (read in full...)

I saw a condom in his wallet and now it's gone!

Answered by anonymous on 25 February 2017.

Q.   I am in a very deep pain. And I have no where to go and ask. Please help. I am married for 15 years. I have three kids. I saw a condom in my husband wallet when he went on a trip to New York with his friends. How i found out was Taking out money fo...

A.   25 February 2017: hmmm...why would he be "making a mess" during a massage? What kind of mess do you think he is talking about? What the hell other kind of mess could you cover with a condom hahaha oh dear. ... (read in full...)

Is this recently widowed woman demonstrating a desire for a closer physical relationship with me, or is she grieving?

Answered by anonymous on 25 February 2017.

Q.   Hello A woman i know, when we meet, we hug and kiss each other on the cheek. Not long ago her husband died. The last we met we hugged and she placed my head on her breastl Does she want a closer relationship with me? As in sexual? Or is it so...

A.   25 February 2017: Could be either! You could wait and see how it develops, letting her take the lead, or you could just ask her. Or thirdly, you could take the high road and give her much more time to recover from her husband's death and wait until she is emotiona... (read in full...)

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