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Does him not being able to stay hard with me prove he isn’t attracted to me physically?

Answered by MissKin + on 22 September 2018.

MissKin agony auntQ.   I just started seeing this new guy and everything is great. We are able to talk and laugh with each other and just have a good time. He calls me beautiful and sexy and says he likes the way I look. But last night we just tried to have sex for the ...

A.   22 September 2018: I find his reaction to not being able to 'perform' interesting. Maybe you haven't gone into detail but I feel like his seemingly relaxed reaction means he knows this is a problem and/or wasn't surprised by his inability to remain erect. I agre... (read in full...)

I’ve been bullied by my brother-in-law for 17 years! What is the best revenge?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 September 2018.

Q.   I have a brother in law and for 17 years he has disliked me from the very moment he laid eyes on me. I am a very likeable and confident, and id like to say hot girl lol i am hilarious and fun love to tell stories and make people laugh i dont have ...

A.   22 September 2018: Nothing you can do can change a narcissist. You can only outwit them. They are a legend in their own minds, a vision to behold, and consider themselves god's gift to the world. A good strategy might be to let him make his nasty comments and give... (read in full...)

I’ve been bullied by my brother-in-law for 17 years! What is the best revenge?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 September 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I have a brother in law and for 17 years he has disliked me from the very moment he laid eyes on me. I am a very likeable and confident, and id like to say hot girl lol i am hilarious and fun love to tell stories and make people laugh i dont have ...

A.   22 September 2018: So this guy is used to pushing people around and not giving a crap about them, even his own siblings... What a total dinkus! I'd stop trying to be nice and just ignore him. If you don't HAVE to be around him, don't. And when you do, focus on... (read in full...)

Confused and not sure if I'm in love anymore!

Answered by janniepeg + on 22 September 2018.

janniepeg agony auntQ.   Hey fellow cupids. I'm a little bit confused and have been for some time. I'm in a long term relationship and care for my partner, probably even love (sorry I'm not an emotional guy so it's hard to understand my feelings sometimes). For the last t...

A.   22 September 2018: I would be very scared if I have a long term boyfriend and he cares for me and probably loves me. I mean, have you said "I love you" to her and meant it? You may have started young and didn't know what sexual attraction feels like. You only know ... (read in full...)

Should I give up on a shy guy? Is he just not that into me?

Answered by Blod + on 22 September 2018.

Blod agony auntQ.   I've been friends/acquaintances with a guy for 6 months now. I don't know him all that well but when we talk we would really get on and have a lot in common. He wow make excuses to come chat to me all the time. He's 10 years older than me an...

A.   22 September 2018: Maybe you've made it too obvious that you like him. Shy people can be frightened off when they discover someone fancies them, even if it's a person they like. (And I agree that he fancies you.) It's probably scarier for him if you're very attractive ... (read in full...)

I’ve been bullied by my brother-in-law for 17 years! What is the best revenge?

Answered by anonymous on 22 September 2018.

Q.   I have a brother in law and for 17 years he has disliked me from the very moment he laid eyes on me. I am a very likeable and confident, and id like to say hot girl lol i am hilarious and fun love to tell stories and make people laugh i dont have ...

A.   22 September 2018: It is not clear from your post if you are living with your parents or not but I would say either way avoid him and tell your sister you will not be around when he is around. Just ignore him and as honeypie says stand up to him and give him s*** ... (read in full...)

I’ve been bullied by my brother-in-law for 17 years! What is the best revenge?

Answered by anonymous on 22 September 2018.

Q.   I have a brother in law and for 17 years he has disliked me from the very moment he laid eyes on me. I am a very likeable and confident, and id like to say hot girl lol i am hilarious and fun love to tell stories and make people laugh i dont have ...

A.   22 September 2018: The only auntie in this group that is close to understanding this truthfully is honeypie and wiseowl, so thanks for your comments. The reason why it bothers me is because my mum and dad are both a bit afriad of him, he is a very strong character and ... (read in full...)

I'm jealous but am I too cruel or too possessive?

Answered by anonymous on 22 September 2018.

Q.   Hey guys :) It's been awhile since I posted here. I'm here to share about my jealousy when someone flirts with my lesbian partner :) Damn! She's a perfect butch. I love her with all my heart. I treat her like she's the only person in the whole wide ...

A.   22 September 2018: I guess I'm being too harsh ehh. Looks like I owe someone an apology. Hate to do this but I need to set aside my pride. Thank you for your words guys. I really appreciate it :) At least now, I see sense. And next time, I'll try my best to keep my ... (read in full...)

I'm feeling insecure about sex and my body and don't believe what my boyfriend tells me

Answered by anonymous on 22 September 2018.

Q.   Hi all, I was talking to my boyfriend last night and I confided that sometimes I feel self conscious that my vagina is big. He said that it wasn't but then went onto saying how every vagina is different and it makes for a different sexual...

A.   22 September 2018: Thank you for your advice it's appreciated and thanks to everyone else for there's.... (read in full...)

Confused and not sure if I'm in love anymore!

Answered by anonymous on 22 September 2018.

Q.   Hey fellow cupids. I'm a little bit confused and have been for some time. I'm in a long term relationship and care for my partner, probably even love (sorry I'm not an emotional guy so it's hard to understand my feelings sometimes). For the last t...

A.   22 September 2018: Thanks for the advice. WiseOwlE - Yes this is everything I've considered. I still don't know, hence why I'm confused. HoneyPie - Yes we have been trying to do more activities lately. I'm hoping this gets us out of this slump if that is the p... (read in full...)

I’ve been bullied by my brother-in-law for 17 years! What is the best revenge?

Answered by Ivyblue + on 22 September 2018.

Ivyblue agony auntQ.   I have a brother in law and for 17 years he has disliked me from the very moment he laid eyes on me. I am a very likeable and confident, and id like to say hot girl lol i am hilarious and fun love to tell stories and make people laugh i dont have ...

A.   22 September 2018: Personally I wouldn't be seeking any sort of revenge tactics because it says more about you than anything else. No satisfaction in people thinking your a vengeful bitch. I would confront him again but not with the goal of seeking some sort of ... (read in full...)

I'm shy and need help in talking to customers

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 22 September 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I start a new temporary job in a month , im working in the restaurant hoping for some retail experience too and I'm just wanting some advice on how to talk to the customers as im a shy person , like how to get better at knowing what to talk to about ...

A.   22 September 2018: When I eat out in a restaurant, I look for a waiter/waitress who is polite and who makes me feel welcome. Greet customers with a smile. Perhaps tell them your name and say something like, "Hi. My name's xx. I will be your waitress tonight.... (read in full...)

Iv recently found out my wife has had sex with women

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 22 September 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Hi, found this site accidentally while googling my issue. Ive been with someone 28 years and married 25 years, been together since late teens, thought everything was ok but now I know isnt. Iv recently found out my wife has had sex on more that a ...

A.   22 September 2018: Whether she is having sex with men, women, or one man or one woman, it is still cheating. Her marriage vows included the promise "forsaking all others". Have you grown apart due to your health issues? Is she seeking intimacy as much as sex? Do ... (read in full...)

Do I just forget about it since my partner hasn’t technically said anything wrong to her?

Answered by anonymous on 22 September 2018.

Q.   I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or not (as I do tend to) but my partner has a work and personal phone. The other month I had to use his work phone to get a contact and I came across messages over a few days to his female colleague. It was general ...

A.   22 September 2018: What she did was COMPLETELY inappropriate, and you were absolutely in your rights as his partner to message her calling her on her despicable behaviour. I do not think it is EVER appropriate to be calling an attached man "babe" even jokingly. ... (read in full...)

Good date but no sparks. Should I ask for a second?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 22 September 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Hi all, I went on a first date with a girl last night. We met on a dating website. I am unsure what to do next. She was a nice girl and I think the date went well. It was comfortable and conversation flowed. She said at the end that it felt lik...

A.   22 September 2018: Given your unsuccessful approach to relationships in the past (jumping into relationships which have obviously not worked out), perhaps it is time to take a more "measured" approach and get to know someone well as a person before deciding if there ... (read in full...)

Does him not being able to stay hard with me prove he isn’t attracted to me physically?

Answered by anonymous on 22 September 2018.

Q.   I just started seeing this new guy and everything is great. We are able to talk and laugh with each other and just have a good time. He calls me beautiful and sexy and says he likes the way I look. But last night we just tried to have sex for the ...

A.   22 September 2018: There are many possibilities. The most probable is that he has some level of E.D. worsened by nerves. Another possibility is that he is not really attracted to women, but hasn't figured that out that. There, I said it. He may be in denial over his ... (read in full...)

Her husband abruptly didn’t want to move! Any advice on how I can advise her?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 22 September 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   A good friend of mine is very upset. She had accepted a promotion with her company to move to Florida. Her husband is a pilot for a major airline and also made arrangements to relocate to Florida. So my friend went through the process to buy a house ...

A.   22 September 2018: Just noticed you are male so have to add that males typically (although not always) feel they have to "fix" problems, whereas females often just need someone to listen and acknowledge their feelings and frustrations. A word of caution: don't ge... (read in full...)

Her husband abruptly didn’t want to move! Any advice on how I can advise her?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 22 September 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   A good friend of mine is very upset. She had accepted a promotion with her company to move to Florida. Her husband is a pilot for a major airline and also made arrangements to relocate to Florida. So my friend went through the process to buy a house ...

A.   22 September 2018: Don't make the mistake of thinking you need to give advice to be supportive. As you (and we) don't know WHY her husband changed his mind, none of us are in a position to give any advice. You are already being supportive. Let her talk. Agree th... (read in full...)

Why is this married female coworker playing games?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 22 September 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Why would married female coworker who is friendly with everyone shower me with gifts just told me she cheated on her husband before out the blue seeks me out all day but today she invites me to smoke and then ignores me and wouldn't even sit next to ...

A.   22 September 2018: Can't disagree with any of the advice given already. She is pulling your strings to make you dance to her tune - which you are obediently doing. Perhaps you should ask her husband how you should handle her and whether accepting gifts ... (read in full...)

I’ve been bullied by my brother-in-law for 17 years! What is the best revenge?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 22 September 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I have a brother in law and for 17 years he has disliked me from the very moment he laid eyes on me. I am a very likeable and confident, and id like to say hot girl lol i am hilarious and fun love to tell stories and make people laugh i dont have ...

A.   22 September 2018: When I read this: "I am a very likeable and confident, and id like to say hot girl lol i am hilarious and fun love to tell stories and make people laugh i dont have any enemies", my first thought was that you come across as someone who thinks t... (read in full...)

Iv recently found out my wife has had sex with women

Answered by anonymous on 22 September 2018.

Q.   Hi, found this site accidentally while googling my issue. Ive been with someone 28 years and married 25 years, been together since late teens, thought everything was ok but now I know isnt. Iv recently found out my wife has had sex on more that a ...

A.   22 September 2018: Run- don’t walk- away. She’s cheated on you AND used an escort? To me this sounds like a sex addict. I feel like at least a normal cheater would go after someone they had some kind of connection with- instead of paying a stranger to sleep with them! ... (read in full...)

Should I give up on a shy guy? Is he just not that into me?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 September 2018.

Q.   I've been friends/acquaintances with a guy for 6 months now. I don't know him all that well but when we talk we would really get on and have a lot in common. He wow make excuses to come chat to me all the time. He's 10 years older than me an...

A.   22 September 2018: He has explained to you he's not very good with women. He's single and in his 30's. There's a couple of clues! You don't explain how you met. Who doesn't like to chat with a pretty lady? The attention certainly boosts the ego! He's not shy,... (read in full...)

Confused and not sure if I'm in love anymore!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 September 2018.

Q.   Hey fellow cupids. I'm a little bit confused and have been for some time. I'm in a long term relationship and care for my partner, probably even love (sorry I'm not an emotional guy so it's hard to understand my feelings sometimes). For the last t...

A.   22 September 2018: [EDIT] Correction: "If you're not sure what you feel; then explain what your long-term relationship with this woman is based upon?" Post script: The tone of my post is not meant to admonish you. It is intended to provoke thought and ... (read in full...)

Confused and not sure if I'm in love anymore!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 September 2018.

Q.   Hey fellow cupids. I'm a little bit confused and have been for some time. I'm in a long term relationship and care for my partner, probably even love (sorry I'm not an emotional guy so it's hard to understand my feelings sometimes). For the last t...

A.   22 September 2018: From what you say, it would seem your relationship has run its course; and now you want to see other women. You're not that emotional? Then what kind of feelings or emotions is the other woman able to bring out of you that your girlfriend can't? I... (read in full...)

I’ve been bullied by my brother-in-law for 17 years! What is the best revenge?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 September 2018.

Q.   I have a brother in law and for 17 years he has disliked me from the very moment he laid eyes on me. I am a very likeable and confident, and id like to say hot girl lol i am hilarious and fun love to tell stories and make people laugh i dont have ...

A.   22 September 2018: Ask for your sister's permission for your nieces to have a sleepover at your place. If you have one. If you live with your parents; it's a two-for-one deal. Have them over for a sleepover; and there is no way your BIL can say no. You can pick them ... (read in full...)

Iv recently found out my wife has had sex with women

Answered by Billy Bathgate + on 22 September 2018.

Q.   Hi, found this site accidentally while googling my issue. Ive been with someone 28 years and married 25 years, been together since late teens, thought everything was ok but now I know isnt. Iv recently found out my wife has had sex on more that a ...

A.   22 September 2018: If it was me the marriage would be over but it seems you want the marriage to continue. So you’ll have to learn to forgive and forget what happened in the past and turn a blind eye to her future infidelity. ... (read in full...)

Her husband abruptly didn’t want to move! Any advice on how I can advise her?

Answered by Billy Bathgate + on 22 September 2018.

Q.   A good friend of mine is very upset. She had accepted a promotion with her company to move to Florida. Her husband is a pilot for a major airline and also made arrangements to relocate to Florida. So my friend went through the process to buy a house ...

A.   22 September 2018: Yes stay out of it. This is between her and her husband.... (read in full...)

Should I give up on a shy guy? Is he just not that into me?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 September 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I've been friends/acquaintances with a guy for 6 months now. I don't know him all that well but when we talk we would really get on and have a lot in common. He wow make excuses to come chat to me all the time. He's 10 years older than me an...

A.   22 September 2018: Try and dial it back. He might NOT be used to a pretty girl like you paying him this much attention and actually LIKING him. So I'd back off a little. Have you ever been around horses? If not, let me put this simply. If a horse seems nervous... (read in full...)

Confused and not sure if I'm in love anymore!

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 September 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hey fellow cupids. I'm a little bit confused and have been for some time. I'm in a long term relationship and care for my partner, probably even love (sorry I'm not an emotional guy so it's hard to understand my feelings sometimes). For the last t...

A.   22 September 2018: Are you having a crush because you feel you aren't happy with who you are with? While I DO think it can happen to people who are content in their lives and with their partner to develop a crush, the thing is... YOU have to decide to either A... (read in full...)

Does him not being able to stay hard with me prove he isn’t attracted to me physically?

Answered by anonymous on 22 September 2018.

Q.   I just started seeing this new guy and everything is great. We are able to talk and laugh with each other and just have a good time. He calls me beautiful and sexy and says he likes the way I look. But last night we just tried to have sex for the ...

A.   22 September 2018: Porn ! How much does he use ?... (read in full...)

I’ve been bullied by my brother-in-law for 17 years! What is the best revenge?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 September 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I have a brother in law and for 17 years he has disliked me from the very moment he laid eyes on me. I am a very likeable and confident, and id like to say hot girl lol i am hilarious and fun love to tell stories and make people laugh i dont have ...

A.   22 September 2018: So, unless you put in the wrong age group he's hated you since birth? Regardless. I'd tell your sister AND your parents that you are going to take a break from being around him as you feel he is toxic. If that means you see your sister and ... (read in full...)

Confused and not sure if I'm in love anymore!

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 22 September 2018.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Hey fellow cupids. I'm a little bit confused and have been for some time. I'm in a long term relationship and care for my partner, probably even love (sorry I'm not an emotional guy so it's hard to understand my feelings sometimes). For the last t...

A.   22 September 2018: Ignore the crush. It's irrelevant. We all get crushes and it's common when you've been in a long term relationship. That said, you need to be on the same page. If you're not on a similar intellectual level, life will be boring. Same goes for othe... (read in full...)

I'm jealous but am I too cruel or too possessive?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 22 September 2018.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Hey guys :) It's been awhile since I posted here. I'm here to share about my jealousy when someone flirts with my lesbian partner :) Damn! She's a perfect butch. I love her with all my heart. I treat her like she's the only person in the whole wide ...

A.   22 September 2018: Too possessive. Too controlling. Too insecure. Possibly illegal. Too aggressive. Jeez, OP. You should have grown out of handling things childishly. Young teens handle jealousy badly, but you're an adult now, so you need to allow your girlfrie... (read in full...)

I'm feeling insecure about sex and my body and don't believe what my boyfriend tells me

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 22 September 2018.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Hi all, I was talking to my boyfriend last night and I confided that sometimes I feel self conscious that my vagina is big. He said that it wasn't but then went onto saying how every vagina is different and it makes for a different sexual...

A.   22 September 2018: "mine had all the things he liked" should be all the reassurance you need. Look online at "vagina galleries" where people have shared photos of the variety of vaginas because they also felt insecure. "I came to the conclusion it must be becau... (read in full...)

Iv recently found out my wife has had sex with women

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 22 September 2018.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Hi, found this site accidentally while googling my issue. Ive been with someone 28 years and married 25 years, been together since late teens, thought everything was ok but now I know isnt. Iv recently found out my wife has had sex on more that a ...

A.   22 September 2018: She's bisexual or a lesbian. That doesn't excuse her cheating, which she's done repeatedly. It doesn't matter whether she cheated with men or women. What can you do sexually with a partner? How often can you do it without forcing yourself? This i... (read in full...)

Why is this married female coworker playing games?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 22 September 2018.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Why would married female coworker who is friendly with everyone shower me with gifts just told me she cheated on her husband before out the blue seeks me out all day but today she invites me to smoke and then ignores me and wouldn't even sit next to ...

A.   22 September 2018: Seriously? Dude, of course she's playing games. She's married and a cheater. She wants the ego boost, but could easily get you in trouble with your boss. Stay away from her. No more attention. Never be alone with her or text/call her. Avoid he... (read in full...)

Good date but no sparks. Should I ask for a second?

Answered by anonymous on 22 September 2018.

Q.   Hi all, I went on a first date with a girl last night. We met on a dating website. I am unsure what to do next. She was a nice girl and I think the date went well. It was comfortable and conversation flowed. She said at the end that it felt lik...

A.   22 September 2018: i think there are some very judgemental aunties on here things aren't always so cut and dry. Take her out one more time and you will know after this time if theres any sparks or not. If no sparks then say goodbye nicely but u never know u might ... (read in full...)

Her husband abruptly didn’t want to move! Any advice on how I can advise her?

Answered by anonymous on 22 September 2018.

Q.   A good friend of mine is very upset. She had accepted a promotion with her company to move to Florida. Her husband is a pilot for a major airline and also made arrangements to relocate to Florida. So my friend went through the process to buy a house ...

A.   22 September 2018: Thanks guys, trust me, I dont want to get in the middle of other people’s battles, I have enough problems as it is. But friendship is about support for each other. I think the whole reason she told me this is because she’s upset. The guy knew what ... (read in full...)

Why is this married female coworker playing games?

Answered by N91 + on 21 September 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   Why would married female coworker who is friendly with everyone shower me with gifts just told me she cheated on her husband before out the blue seeks me out all day but today she invites me to smoke and then ignores me and wouldn't even sit next to ...

A.   21 September 2018: Why are you even asking? She’s married - that means she is OFF LIMITS. If she wants to cheat, let her do it with someone else, don’t be an idiot. You’re at work to do a job that you are paid for. It’s not a dating pool. Quit the high school ... (read in full...)

Her husband abruptly didn’t want to move! Any advice on how I can advise her?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 September 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   A good friend of mine is very upset. She had accepted a promotion with her company to move to Florida. Her husband is a pilot for a major airline and also made arrangements to relocate to Florida. So my friend went through the process to buy a house ...

A.   21 September 2018: I agree with WiseOwlE This is a marital "dispute" and between THEM to sort out. There can be things she omitted or glossed over to make her side sound more like she is the "victim" and her husband the bad guy. And the subject... IT IS som... (read in full...)

Good date but no sparks. Should I ask for a second?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 21 September 2018.

Q.   Hi all, I went on a first date with a girl last night. We met on a dating website. I am unsure what to do next. She was a nice girl and I think the date went well. It was comfortable and conversation flowed. She said at the end that it felt lik...

A.   21 September 2018: [EDIT] Corrections: "If she does get upset; then she's quite desperate. You both have to be on the same page. One meeting isn't enough to hang too much feeling onto. You're just too iffy about it to waste any more of her time."... (read in full...)

Good date but no sparks. Should I ask for a second?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 21 September 2018.

Q.   Hi all, I went on a first date with a girl last night. We met on a dating website. I am unsure what to do next. She was a nice girl and I think the date went well. It was comfortable and conversation flowed. She said at the end that it felt lik...

A.   21 September 2018: If you have to mull over things so much, maybe you just didn't hit it off. You shouldn't feel guilty if the date just didn't spark the chemistry you were looking for. She's a mature and reasonable adult. If so many questions arise in your min... (read in full...)

Her husband abruptly didn’t want to move! Any advice on how I can advise her?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 21 September 2018.

Q.   A good friend of mine is very upset. She had accepted a promotion with her company to move to Florida. Her husband is a pilot for a major airline and also made arrangements to relocate to Florida. So my friend went through the process to buy a house ...

A.   21 September 2018: [EDIT] "As many OP's come here with a one-sided story."... (read in full...)

Her husband abruptly didn’t want to move! Any advice on how I can advise her?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 21 September 2018.

Q.   A good friend of mine is very upset. She had accepted a promotion with her company to move to Florida. Her husband is a pilot for a major airline and also made arrangements to relocate to Florida. So my friend went through the process to buy a house ...

A.   21 September 2018: I think you should stay neutral and let them work it out. You don't want to be pulled into marital-disagreements. It makes you a better friend to be supportive, but to respect their privacy. What can you do about it anyway? It's her marriage! This ... (read in full...)

Why is this married female coworker playing games?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 September 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Why would married female coworker who is friendly with everyone shower me with gifts just told me she cheated on her husband before out the blue seeks me out all day but today she invites me to smoke and then ignores me and wouldn't even sit next to ...

A.   21 September 2018: Honestly? Stay the Hay-Hay away from her. Be polite, professional but unless you are working together on something... AVOID her like the plague. Do not accept gifts (I would politely return them if I were you, if possible). She was pursuing... (read in full...)

Why is this married female coworker playing games?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 21 September 2018.

Q.   Why would married female coworker who is friendly with everyone shower me with gifts just told me she cheated on her husband before out the blue seeks me out all day but today she invites me to smoke and then ignores me and wouldn't even sit next to ...

A.   21 September 2018: Sounds like a setup for a sexual-harassment suit. You're being lured into a mess and you better watch your back! Graciously decline the gifts and keep your distance. Remain courteous and professional. Think smart! She's married, why are you payi... (read in full...)

She owes me money but is adamant she transferred the money!

Answered by anonymous on 21 September 2018.

Q.   Hello This is not so much a dating question or anything, but I have used this website before for advice and found it helpful. A girl I have been on and off chatting to asked me if she could borrow £1000 to repair her damaged car. I agreed...

A.   21 September 2018: I'm sorry that this happened to you, you sound like a decent guy. I would try to get her to admit that you had an agreement (even if this was a verbal agreement, if she can agree to this over messenger that she was meant to pay you back) that might ... (read in full...)

Does him not being able to stay hard with me prove he isn’t attracted to me physically?

Answered by anonymous on 21 September 2018.

Q.   I just started seeing this new guy and everything is great. We are able to talk and laugh with each other and just have a good time. He calls me beautiful and sexy and says he likes the way I look. But last night we just tried to have sex for the ...

A.   21 September 2018: He sounds like a nice guy, and from the sounds of it he is definitely attracted to you! I highly doubt he would make such an effort if he wasn't into you. I think more likely, he was a little nervous or might have erectile dysfunction.. this can ... (read in full...)

Iv recently found out my wife has had sex with women

Answered by anonymous on 21 September 2018.

Q.   Hi, found this site accidentally while googling my issue. Ive been with someone 28 years and married 25 years, been together since late teens, thought everything was ok but now I know isnt. Iv recently found out my wife has had sex on more that a ...

A.   21 September 2018: Not everyone will agree with me on this, but you've been together a long time and realistically cheating is very common. I'm not saying it's ok, but it does happen, and some marriages do survive it. Does she love you? I think she needs to make a ... (read in full...)

Good date but no sparks. Should I ask for a second?

Answered by anonymous on 21 September 2018.

Q.   Hi all, I went on a first date with a girl last night. We met on a dating website. I am unsure what to do next. She was a nice girl and I think the date went well. It was comfortable and conversation flowed. She said at the end that it felt lik...

A.   21 September 2018: When I dated long ago .. I went with the view that it was just friends and getting to know the other person. So why not do the same .. sometimes as with me .. love comes later without being forced .and good communication is a good start if you just ... (read in full...)

I need to talk about what I am feeling but cant burden my family or people at work

Answered by anonymous on 21 September 2018.

Q.   Hi, I have a dilemma and I’m starting to feel desperate I’m afraid this may be very long winded :/ but if I don’t tell someone out there how I’m feeling I will implode. First of all I should say that I have been suffering from ptsd for the last yea...

A.   21 September 2018: Please give Samaritans a call (or email, etc, if you prefer). They're none judgemental but good listeners, I think it may help to have someone just listen to you. You're not being selfish at all, you are important and how you feel is importan... (read in full...)

Does him not being able to stay hard with me prove he isn’t attracted to me physically?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 September 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I just started seeing this new guy and everything is great. We are able to talk and laugh with each other and just have a good time. He calls me beautiful and sexy and says he likes the way I look. But last night we just tried to have sex for the ...

A.   21 September 2018: I agree. If he wasn't into you he would make such and effort to spend time with you. I'd hold of on the sex for a while longer. It might be that he is too nervous. ... (read in full...)

I'm jealous but am I too cruel or too possessive?

Answered by CindyCares + on 21 September 2018.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   Hey guys :) It's been awhile since I posted here. I'm here to share about my jealousy when someone flirts with my lesbian partner :) Damn! She's a perfect butch. I love her with all my heart. I treat her like she's the only person in the whole wide ...

A.   21 September 2018:  You threatened a girl of what ?, of bodily harm ? Then it's not only too possessive,- it's foolish and a crime, you can go to jail for stuff like that. Your GF is an adult, if she does not want people to flirt with her or hit on her SHE can ... (read in full...)

I'm jealous but am I too cruel or too possessive?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 September 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hey guys :) It's been awhile since I posted here. I'm here to share about my jealousy when someone flirts with my lesbian partner :) Damn! She's a perfect butch. I love her with all my heart. I treat her like she's the only person in the whole wide ...

A.   21 September 2018: Have you considered that threatening someone for flirting with your GF can come off as insecure and controlling? Not as possessive? And can't your GF tell off girls who gets a little to "chummy" with her? Overall? It seems immature.... (read in full...)

I'm shy and need help in talking to customers

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 September 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I start a new temporary job in a month , im working in the restaurant hoping for some retail experience too and I'm just wanting some advice on how to talk to the customers as im a shy person , like how to get better at knowing what to talk to about ...

A.   21 September 2018: If a costumer asks a question and you are unsure of the "right" answer DO NOT be afraid to say, I'm not sure let me ask :) then go ASK someone who WILL know and go back and let the costumer know. Not hard to do. NO ONE starts off knowing everything, ... (read in full...)

Good date but no sparks. Should I ask for a second?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 September 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi all, I went on a first date with a girl last night. We met on a dating website. I am unsure what to do next. She was a nice girl and I think the date went well. It was comfortable and conversation flowed. She said at the end that it felt lik...

A.   21 September 2018: I agree with Cindy, If you wanted a second date, you would have asked her already. IF you can find ONE women you "sort of" click with... you can find another. That is what dating is for, fine-tuning your search for a mate/partner. ... (read in full...)

Iv recently found out my wife has had sex with women

Answered by anonymous on 21 September 2018.

Q.   Hi, found this site accidentally while googling my issue. Ive been with someone 28 years and married 25 years, been together since late teens, thought everything was ok but now I know isnt. Iv recently found out my wife has had sex on more that a ...

A.   21 September 2018: She's cheating on you. She wants to have her cake and eat it. She needs to stop or she needs to let you go. ... (read in full...)

I'm feeling insecure about sex and my body and don't believe what my boyfriend tells me

Answered by YouWish + on 21 September 2018.

YouWish agony auntQ.   Hi all, I was talking to my boyfriend last night and I confided that sometimes I feel self conscious that my vagina is big. He said that it wasn't but then went onto saying how every vagina is different and it makes for a different sexual...

A.   21 September 2018: You should believe him. He's more candid with you than many guys are on subjects that can be really delicate. He is also nearly as insecure as YOU are when it comes to sex. His "noise" level is because he's afraid he'll sound like an idiot du... (read in full...)

Does him not being able to stay hard with me prove he isn’t attracted to me physically?

Answered by CMMP + on 21 September 2018.

Q.   I just started seeing this new guy and everything is great. We are able to talk and laugh with each other and just have a good time. He calls me beautiful and sexy and says he likes the way I look. But last night we just tried to have sex for the ...

A.   21 September 2018: It could have been plenty of other reasons, but not being attracted to you is almost certainly not one of them. It was probably more embarrassing for him.... (read in full...)

Good date but no sparks. Should I ask for a second?

Answered by CindyCares + on 21 September 2018.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   Hi all, I went on a first date with a girl last night. We met on a dating website. I am unsure what to do next. She was a nice girl and I think the date went well. It was comfortable and conversation flowed. She said at the end that it felt lik...

A.   21 September 2018: If you don't know whether you want a second date or not- then you don't really want a second date. If you really had a wish for a second date, right now you would be already planning this second date and asking the girl out , rather than aski... (read in full...)

Good date but no sparks. Should I ask for a second?

Answered by Blod + on 21 September 2018.

Blod agony auntQ.   Hi all, I went on a first date with a girl last night. We met on a dating website. I am unsure what to do next. She was a nice girl and I think the date went well. It was comfortable and conversation flowed. She said at the end that it felt lik...

A.   21 September 2018: I think a second date would make sense. You've only met her once. I imagine a second date would clarify how you feel about her. It's not wasting time. It's just working out if this girl is worth pursuing. If you're used to sparks on a first date... (read in full...)

Does him not being able to stay hard with me prove he isn’t attracted to me physically?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 21 September 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I just started seeing this new guy and everything is great. We are able to talk and laugh with each other and just have a good time. He calls me beautiful and sexy and says he likes the way I look. But last night we just tried to have sex for the ...

A.   21 September 2018: I very much doubt that lack of physical attraction is the cause of his issue. As he is capable of having erections, it is far more likely to be nerves at being with someone new that are causing the problem. If you like this guy (and I assum... (read in full...)

Follow up to an earlier question about some decisions I have to make

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 September 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   This is technically a build on my initial concerns that I raised a question about in January. I am fortunate and pleased to say that an excellent career opportunity presented itself, moving back in to my desired career field and I have regained a ...

A.   21 September 2018: Nothing to be embarrassed about. You see problems and you want to fix them but you hold off because you don't want to hurt your partner. I get it. But it also equate to you shooting yourself in the foot to try and not hurt her. And you DO hurt her... (read in full...)

Does him not being able to stay hard with me prove he isn’t attracted to me physically?

Answered by N91 + on 21 September 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   I just started seeing this new guy and everything is great. We are able to talk and laugh with each other and just have a good time. He calls me beautiful and sexy and says he likes the way I look. But last night we just tried to have sex for the ...

A.   21 September 2018: If he didn’t find you attractive I don’t think he would be entertaining you. He could suffer from erectile dysfunction. It’s very possible for younger people to have it also. He could of been nervous to be with a new partner, stressed with Wor... (read in full...)

Iv recently found out my wife has had sex with women

Answered by N91 + on 21 September 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   Hi, found this site accidentally while googling my issue. Ive been with someone 28 years and married 25 years, been together since late teens, thought everything was ok but now I know isnt. Iv recently found out my wife has had sex on more that a ...

A.   21 September 2018: I don’t think it matters whether the person was Male or female. The fact here is that she’s cheated on you on multiple occasions. She’s disrespected you and your marriage in the biggest way possible. How did you find out? What was her side of ... (read in full...)

Good date but no sparks. Should I ask for a second?

Answered by N91 + on 21 September 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   Hi all, I went on a first date with a girl last night. We met on a dating website. I am unsure what to do next. She was a nice girl and I think the date went well. It was comfortable and conversation flowed. She said at the end that it felt lik...

A.   21 September 2018: If you didn’t feel anything major then it’s not a great sign. I think the fact that you’re having to ask for advice is whether to go on a second date says it all. You wouldn’t be able to wait to ask her on a second date if this situation had pote... (read in full...)

Iv recently found out my wife has had sex with women

Answered by anonymous on 21 September 2018.

Q.   Hi, found this site accidentally while googling my issue. Ive been with someone 28 years and married 25 years, been together since late teens, thought everything was ok but now I know isnt. Iv recently found out my wife has had sex on more that a ...

A.   21 September 2018: Sorry but I think your wife is in denial on who she is, she is a lesbian so surely she is living a lie in being married to you? If you was having sex with different men would that be acceptable in the confines of a marriage? It's your call on ... (read in full...)

Good date but no sparks. Should I ask for a second?

Answered by anonymous on 21 September 2018.

Q.   Hi all, I went on a first date with a girl last night. We met on a dating website. I am unsure what to do next. She was a nice girl and I think the date went well. It was comfortable and conversation flowed. She said at the end that it felt lik...

A.   21 September 2018: Go on the second date, you're unsure still so what have you got to lose? I don't personally think sparks have to fly the minute you meet someone, that is lust, if it ends up where all it feels is friendship she is old enough to work it out and ... (read in full...)

How do I get the spark back it feels like we have grown apart

Answered by N91 + on 21 September 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   I've been with my partner for 4 years nearly and I loved him dearly. he's a good man I get on well with all his friends and family but we went through a difficult stage for a few months recently we were arguing and it just seemed like he disagreed ...

A.   21 September 2018: How are you expecting to get the spark back with your BF if you’re speaking to another guy? There’s no sense here whatsoever. Of course the new guy is going to be on the charm offensive, he’s going to be the nicest guy you’ve ever met! He’s try... (read in full...)

Will he come back to his senses .... and me?

Answered by N91 + on 21 September 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   Hi So my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. Last year he lost his job and things were not great the fact that he never used to save or invested.I was there for him and supported him in any way I could.Last week he called Me asking h...

A.   21 September 2018: Why would you want him back? You gave him some constructive criticism, he insulted you then bolted. You should never have to cry over someone to take you back, he’s not worth the tears. Good riddance, you can do better. ... (read in full...)

I need to talk about what I am feeling but cant burden my family or people at work

Answered by N91 + on 21 September 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   Hi, I have a dilemma and I’m starting to feel desperate I’m afraid this may be very long winded :/ but if I don’t tell someone out there how I’m feeling I will implode. First of all I should say that I have been suffering from ptsd for the last yea...

A.   21 September 2018: You do have time. You absolutely 100% have time. This isn’t a little issue here, you are having suicidal thoughts. Do you honestly think your family wouldn’t listen to you? If you told them the extent that you’re feeling I’m sure they would do... (read in full...)

Will he come back to his senses .... and me?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 21 September 2018.

Q.   Hi So my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. Last year he lost his job and things were not great the fact that he never used to save or invested.I was there for him and supported him in any way I could.Last week he called Me asking h...

A.   21 September 2018: Losing your job can make you grief-stricken, irrational, broke, and insecure. I'll grant you that! Especially if you feel your job is who you are. If you're full of pride, and have an inflated-ego. If you flaunted all you have, and suddenly... (read in full...)

How do I stop self sabotaging.my relationships?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 21 September 2018.

Q.   Every time I get in a relationship I seem to always panic that I am annoying them or I over think things to must making up problems that aren't there making the situation 10x worse than what it is already. What can I do to try and stop this from ...

A.   21 September 2018: You have to believe you deserve it. Have some faith that it's real; and try to summon-up a little trust for the guy you're with. You worry about a tragic-ending! It keeps you fretting and nervous! Wondering when it will hit you! You have to trust... (read in full...)

How do I get the spark back it feels like we have grown apart

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 21 September 2018.

Q.   I've been with my partner for 4 years nearly and I loved him dearly. he's a good man I get on well with all his friends and family but we went through a difficult stage for a few months recently we were arguing and it just seemed like he disagreed ...

A.   21 September 2018: So you're out interviewing for your boyfriend's replacement? This male-friend comes along at such an advantageous time during your rocky-relationship with your man. You just so happen to be having a slew of arguments and disagreements with you... (read in full...)

His feelings for me changed so quickly!

Answered by Maysaxx + on 21 September 2018.

Q.   Can someone's feeling for you change in two months? My ex and I broke up in September 2015. We didn't speak for 4 months then out of the blue one day he texted me. We started talking, and hanging out as just friends. We talked about stuff like...

A.   21 September 2018: Lol thst sounds like someone i married and you know what if ut wass him then dont listen to it alll lies... (read in full...)

I don't know what to say. I just feel lost and alone.

Answered by Maysaxx + on 21 September 2018.

Q.   My relationship is ending. I feel like I'm losing my best friend, my person. I know I should "man up" but the grief is overwhelming right now. A 7+ year relationship is ending and I don't see any way that I can ever move on. The woman I fell...

A.   21 September 2018: How did it get this bad ask yourself ... (read in full...)

Will he come back to his senses .... and me?

Answered by Maysaxx + on 21 September 2018.

Q.   Hi So my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. Last year he lost his job and things were not great the fact that he never used to save or invested.I was there for him and supported him in any way I could.Last week he called Me asking h...

A.   21 September 2018: To be homest with you what your saying he needs that time to get back on his feet your relationship would work ten times better with him knowing he sont have to feel down about it all and know he can look after you and be a man and do It... (read in full...)

My wife wants to use a sperm donor to ensure that our third child isn't autistic but I’m not sure how I feel about this.

Answered by Billy Bathgate + on 20 September 2018.

Q.   My wife (34f) and I (36m) have been married for just over six years and in many ways have an ideal marriage and are very much still in love. Despite two kids, we still have sex 2 - 3 times per week. We still find time for getaways nearby beaches, ...

A.   20 September 2018: Your wife is essentially telling you that your children aren’t good enough for her? Man that has got to sting. I don’t know how anyone could be that cruel and selfish. If you are not both on board with this crazy idea you should not go thru with... (read in full...)

I need to talk about what I am feeling but cant burden my family or people at work

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 20 September 2018.

Q.   Hi, I have a dilemma and I’m starting to feel desperate I’m afraid this may be very long winded :/ but if I don’t tell someone out there how I’m feeling I will implode. First of all I should say that I have been suffering from ptsd for the last yea...

A.   20 September 2018: First-off, you are not whining. You are asking for help. You're going through a rough-patch; and this is a place for people to vent their problems and heartache. We provide advice, comfort, and we support you. I might scold you with a little ... (read in full...)

I lost my job living at home and really struggling

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 20 September 2018.

Q.   Hey guys, I really don’t know what to do here. I’m 28, have been in successful career, slowly building up money for house, still living with parents. Recently I lost my job and it has been a month since I have worked. I am living with parents ...

A.   20 September 2018: You lost a job, and you will find another. This is part of the cycle of life. This is how destiny begins. You are young, and you have to face these challenges and mishaps; because they build strength and character. The only reason why everythi... (read in full...)

I need to talk about what I am feeling but cant burden my family or people at work

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 20 September 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Hi, I have a dilemma and I’m starting to feel desperate I’m afraid this may be very long winded :/ but if I don’t tell someone out there how I’m feeling I will implode. First of all I should say that I have been suffering from ptsd for the last yea...

A.   20 September 2018: If we want to do something, we will find the time. If we don't, then we will find numerous excuses. You NEED to see a professional about your feelings before they get out of hand. You NEED to tell someone you have thoughts about ending things b... (read in full...)

I lost my job living at home and really struggling

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 20 September 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Hey guys, I really don’t know what to do here. I’m 28, have been in successful career, slowly building up money for house, still living with parents. Recently I lost my job and it has been a month since I have worked. I am living with parents ...

A.   20 September 2018: Losing your job can knock the stuffing out of the strongest of people, so don't be too hard on yourself for struggling to cope. Remember, this too will pass. Like Honeypie, I too would strongly recommend either temping or, if that is not possible... (read in full...)

Follow up to an earlier question about some decisions I have to make

Answered by Nonglish + on 20 September 2018.

Q.   This is technically a build on my initial concerns that I raised a question about in January. I am fortunate and pleased to say that an excellent career opportunity presented itself, moving back in to my desired career field and I have regained a ...

A.   20 September 2018: Thank you I do agree with you. Im embarassed that it is a mess. Im also quite surprised at my lack of courage in how to approach the conversation. One way or another I will, i want to figure out how, before it unravels at the wrong time, but trying ... (read in full...)

She owes me money but is adamant she transferred the money!

Answered by Honeypie + on 20 September 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hello This is not so much a dating question or anything, but I have used this website before for advice and found it helpful. A girl I have been on and off chatting to asked me if she could borrow £1000 to repair her damaged car. I agreed...

A.   20 September 2018: I'm not a lawyer/barrister and not familiar with English laws so I can't say. Which is why I suggest you contact Citizen's Advice. My guess is you also have a "paper-trail" of her ASKING to borrow the 1,000? Or was that over the phone? ... (read in full...)

How do I get the spark back it feels like we have grown apart

Answered by Honeypie + on 20 September 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I've been with my partner for 4 years nearly and I loved him dearly. he's a good man I get on well with all his friends and family but we went through a difficult stage for a few months recently we were arguing and it just seemed like he disagreed ...

A.   20 September 2018: Yep, drop the male friend. He isn't helping your situation and he has his OWN ulterior motives. So IF you want to stay with your BF and give it a go, you NEED to block and cut off the male friend completely. You can't do both. And it's not fair on ... (read in full...)

I lost my job living at home and really struggling

Answered by Honeypie + on 20 September 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hey guys, I really don’t know what to do here. I’m 28, have been in successful career, slowly building up money for house, still living with parents. Recently I lost my job and it has been a month since I have worked. I am living with parents ...

A.   20 September 2018: Just keep writing those applications, call and do follow up on the ones you already sent you. If you have not done so yet, consider looking for jobs in the same city as your GF lives in? It might make it easier to spend more time together ONCE you... (read in full...)

How do I get the spark back it feels like we have grown apart

Answered by janniepeg + on 20 September 2018.

janniepeg agony auntQ.   I've been with my partner for 4 years nearly and I loved him dearly. he's a good man I get on well with all his friends and family but we went through a difficult stage for a few months recently we were arguing and it just seemed like he disagreed ...

A.   20 September 2018: If you want to get that spark back, you have to stop seeing that male friend and focus on your boyfriend. It takes time to rebuild the connection. You feel like your relationship is dying, indeed a part of it has to die. The part of it that causes ... (read in full...)

Will he come back to his senses .... and me?

Answered by Honeypie + on 20 September 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi So my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. Last year he lost his job and things were not great the fact that he never used to save or invested.I was there for him and supported him in any way I could.Last week he called Me asking h...

A.   20 September 2018: When money is more important that having a relationship, it shows 2 things: 1, he doesn't care for you to the extend you care for him. 2, he can't handle criticism. 3, his loss. You were there when he was unemployed sticking it out with ... (read in full...)

How do I stop self sabotaging.my relationships?

Answered by anonymous on 20 September 2018.

Q.   Every time I get in a relationship I seem to always panic that I am annoying them or I over think things to must making up problems that aren't there making the situation 10x worse than what it is already. What can I do to try and stop this from ...

A.   20 September 2018: It's not an uncommon problem to have - I even experience it sometimes. That said, you're right that it's something you need to learn to curb. The way I cope is to leave gaps between texts and to let them initiate roughly the same amount as I do. ... (read in full...)

Will he come back to his senses .... and me?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 20 September 2018.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Hi So my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. Last year he lost his job and things were not great the fact that he never used to save or invested.I was there for him and supported him in any way I could.Last week he called Me asking h...

A.   20 September 2018: Focusing on building your life and financial stability is a good reason to postpone being in a relationship. That said, his decision came more from his ego than that valid reason. I know it hurts, but he's really not right for you. You honestly... (read in full...)

I'm happy with the way things are, but she is talking marriage and babies

Answered by Honeypie + on 20 September 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I have been dating a girl for 7 months now, due to my working hours and her studying at college, we only see each other 2-3 times a week. I am happy with the relationship the way it is because I like my space and time to myself, however she is ...

A.   20 September 2018: Yep, end it and let her go. You two are NOT on the same page or in the same book. Nothing wrong with discovering that you are not as compatible as you had hoped.... (read in full...)

Is he fobbing me off, I thought we had a good thing going.

Answered by Honeypie + on 20 September 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I started seeing a guy a month ago. He’s 12 months separated from his wife with two young children. Our relationship seemed really promising but then he went a bit cold. He says his ex wife is being really challenging. She calls him up out of the ...

A.   20 September 2018: I agree with YouWish And Cindy. a. the guy IS still married. And WILL still be married until the divorce is final. b. the wife is STILL calling the shots over his life - BECAUSE they have kids together! You have ONLY been seeing him for a mo... (read in full...)

How do I stop self sabotaging.my relationships?

Answered by Honeypie + on 20 September 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Every time I get in a relationship I seem to always panic that I am annoying them or I over think things to must making up problems that aren't there making the situation 10x worse than what it is already. What can I do to try and stop this from ...

A.   20 September 2018: Sounds like you might not be ready for a relationship. Why not work on simple friendships. Wait with the romance until you feel you have more control over your actions. ... (read in full...)

Is he fobbing me off, I thought we had a good thing going.

Answered by YouWish + on 20 September 2018.

YouWish agony auntQ.   I started seeing a guy a month ago. He’s 12 months separated from his wife with two young children. Our relationship seemed really promising but then he went a bit cold. He says his ex wife is being really challenging. She calls him up out of the ...

A.   20 September 2018: Not to put it delicately, but you picked the wrong guy. HE IS STILL MARRIED! His baggage is overwhelming, and being separated still means that he is married. Being separated is a state in the marriage designed to work things out while giving s... (read in full...)

My wife wants to use a sperm donor to ensure that our third child isn't autistic but I’m not sure how I feel about this.

Answered by YouWish + on 20 September 2018.

YouWish agony auntQ.   My wife (34f) and I (36m) have been married for just over six years and in many ways have an ideal marriage and are very much still in love. Despite two kids, we still have sex 2 - 3 times per week. We still find time for getaways nearby beaches, ...

A.   20 September 2018: I agree with the others. There is something I'd like to bring up that your wife may not have thought about: I see your age on here as 36-40 years old. Is your wife in the same age range?? If she is, then even with a sperm donor, she stands t... (read in full...)

How do I stop self sabotaging.my relationships?

Answered by janniepeg + on 20 September 2018.

janniepeg agony auntQ.   Every time I get in a relationship I seem to always panic that I am annoying them or I over think things to must making up problems that aren't there making the situation 10x worse than what it is already. What can I do to try and stop this from ...

A.   20 September 2018: Naturally, men and women are wired to be attracted to each other. They would be busy making each other happy that they don't have time to worry about things. If you find a guy that's easily annoyed then he's the problem not you. You have to find out ... (read in full...)

Will he come back to his senses .... and me?

Answered by janniepeg + on 20 September 2018.

janniepeg agony auntQ.   Hi So my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. Last year he lost his job and things were not great the fact that he never used to save or invested.I was there for him and supported him in any way I could.Last week he called Me asking h...

A.   20 September 2018: Guys like these are not worth your time. He cares more about his ego than his relationship. Even if he got a new job he would want a new girlfriend because he couldn't stand any girl to see him at his weak point. He was so set on giving up that he ... (read in full...)

Move on or try to resolve between us?

Answered by anonymous on 20 September 2018.

Q.   Hey everyone, I've posted a while back about how to move on from my ex etc but wanting a bit advice on an update really. Long story short, me and my partner split up about 4/5 months ago now. We lived together for the majority of our relationship...

A.   20 September 2018: I am so sorry that you have gone through this! When you consider that you thought, as a child, that your parents alcoholism was your responsibility you can see that you started life as a disadvantaged child. Had you held those beliefs any long... (read in full...)

My wife wants to use a sperm donor to ensure that our third child isn't autistic but I’m not sure how I feel about this.

Answered by CindyCares + on 20 September 2018.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   My wife (34f) and I (36m) have been married for just over six years and in many ways have an ideal marriage and are very much still in love. Despite two kids, we still have sex 2 - 3 times per week. We still find time for getaways nearby beaches, ...

A.   20 September 2018:  I think it's bad idea for all the reason mentioned by the other posters, plus : if you use a sperm bank, how would it work in practice ? how would you you make sure that the donor does not carry autistic genes ? In USA sperm donors are test... (read in full...)

Is he fobbing me off, I thought we had a good thing going.

Answered by CindyCares + on 20 September 2018.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   I started seeing a guy a month ago. He’s 12 months separated from his wife with two young children. Our relationship seemed really promising but then he went a bit cold. He says his ex wife is being really challenging. She calls him up out of the ...

A.   20 September 2018:  If you are going to be treated poorly, that will be with your approval and consent, because he told you loud and clear how it's gonna be : he is not in position to date . He won't give you what you 'd want from him. Maybe he is not lying per se ;... (read in full...)

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