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I don't want to marry a man that doesn't understand when he is being hurtful

Answered by followtheblackrabbit + on 23 August 2017.

followtheblackrabbit agony auntQ.   My relationship is a jumbled mess, and I don't know if I should stand by any longer or make a break for it. We both treated each other badly for a long time, but to be fair, neither of us had standards back when this all started. 10 years ago, ...

A.   23 August 2017: I would like to bring two things to your attention: "He threatens me with sexual acts I don't like" and "He doesn't understand when he's being hurtful." Honey, these are signs of abuse bordering on sexual assault if these sex acts are forced on you ... (read in full...)

Am I being unreasonable in supporting my husband financially?

Answered by celtic_tiger + on 23 August 2017.

celtic_tiger agony auntQ.   Am I being unreasonable in that my husband is from a different country and I help him out financially. I plan to go back to his country shortly teaching English and we are due to meet in Turkey beforehand to have a holiday. He wants us to be i...

A.   23 August 2017: Wow, there are a lot of red flags waving here. I agree totally with Denizen, take away the fact he is your husband, would you tolerate this attitude and behaviour from anyone else? Just out of interest, how and where did you meet this man? W... (read in full...)

Am I being unreasonable in supporting my husband financially?

Answered by Aunty BimBim + on 23 August 2017.

Aunty BimBim agony auntQ.   Am I being unreasonable in that my husband is from a different country and I help him out financially. I plan to go back to his country shortly teaching English and we are due to meet in Turkey beforehand to have a holiday. He wants us to be i...

A.   23 August 2017: So let me get this straight ... you work hard to support this free loader, making sure he has new clothes for his holiday and can look pretty for his family ... and when you raise the idea that maybe it would be more prudent financially to change ... (read in full...)

Am I being unreasonable in supporting my husband financially?

Answered by Denizen + on 23 August 2017.

Denizen agony auntQ.   Am I being unreasonable in that my husband is from a different country and I help him out financially. I plan to go back to his country shortly teaching English and we are due to meet in Turkey beforehand to have a holiday. He wants us to be i...

A.   23 August 2017: I do think he is acting like petulant child threatening to destroy his passport if he can't get his way. Perhaps you should think twice about going back to his country. Things may be very different for you there and you may not enjoy the rights and ... (read in full...)

Am I being unreasonable in supporting my husband financially?

Answered by 87hunter + on 23 August 2017.

Q.   Am I being unreasonable in that my husband is from a different country and I help him out financially. I plan to go back to his country shortly teaching English and we are due to meet in Turkey beforehand to have a holiday. He wants us to be i...

A.   23 August 2017: Salaam, Personally I think he is being unreasonable. I work as a Financial Adviser and often see people who waste what they have worked hard for on unreasonable family requests. What is the reason the two of you are living in separate l... (read in full...)

He's nice but I'm not sure if I'm being hurtful or I should scram

Answered by N91 + on 23 August 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   Need help deciding to stay or go... Ive been dating a very sweet man for the last four months. We met at a job so I've known him since Feb. and I admired his hard working attitude. He is not good with money tho (at least as far as I am concerned) ...

A.   23 August 2017: I agree with chi girl. I'd say you're being smart and thinking with your head here over your heart. Who knows what financial difficulties you could run into down the line if things got more serious? I'd saying you're putting your own interes... (read in full...)

Why won't he Marry me?

Answered by CindyCares + on 23 August 2017.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   Hi, I have been with my partner 6 years next month. I never wanted to get married, was never something that was important to me. Until I was in love. We have been together 6 years and have agreed to start trying for a baby next year after my friends ...

A.   23 August 2017:  I think that CMMP is right; if your bf is around your age ir just slightly older , most probabaly he will feel that he is too Young to get married, and that marriafe is one of those nice but farawat things that grown up people do , but " one day". ... (read in full...)

Why won't he Marry me?

Answered by Billy Bathgate + on 23 August 2017.

Q.   Hi, I have been with my partner 6 years next month. I never wanted to get married, was never something that was important to me. Until I was in love. We have been together 6 years and have agreed to start trying for a baby next year after my friends ...

A.   23 August 2017: He won't marry you because he doesn't want to be married and face it he doesn't have to. You live together in a coupled relationship, you're about to get pregnant by him there. Is no reason for him to marry you. He knows you want to be married but ... (read in full...)

Why won't he Marry me?

Answered by Billy Bathgate + on 23 August 2017.

Q.   Hi, I have been with my partner 6 years next month. I never wanted to get married, was never something that was important to me. Until I was in love. We have been together 6 years and have agreed to start trying for a baby next year after my friends ...

A.   23 August 2017: He won't marry you because he doesn't want to be married and face it he doesn't have to. You live together in a coupled relationship, you're about to get pregnant by him there. Is no reason for him to marry you. He knows you want to be married but ... (read in full...)

He's nice but I'm not sure if I'm being hurtful or I should scram

Answered by chigirl + on 23 August 2017.

chigirl agony auntQ.   Need help deciding to stay or go... Ive been dating a very sweet man for the last four months. We met at a job so I've known him since Feb. and I admired his hard working attitude. He is not good with money tho (at least as far as I am concerned) ...

A.   23 August 2017: I'm going to sound very harsh, but Im with you in the way you think. I don't think you're awful, I think you are being honest about the facts and honest with yourself, and I think broken homes and divorces could be avoided if everyone thought like ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is asking for more than I can afford.

Answered by CindyCares + on 23 August 2017.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   Dear Aunts, I have been visiting my boyfriend for a week now so today im leaving ive decided to take him out for lunch. He just told me that it would be better if i buy him grocery. Im a student I don't have that kind of money. All i wanted was to ...

A.   23 August 2017:  I think we need a bit of context here. Like, where all this is going on, and how much food does he want you to buy him . Enough for a couple of meals ? for a week ? For a month ?! You see, I am a little perplexed because, at least in the coun... (read in full...)

A co-worker made an unkind remark that really hurt me. How do I cope?

Answered by CindyCares + on 23 August 2017.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   I'm feeling very hurt today. At my previous job (as well as life in general) you could say that I'M not the most organized person (not filthy, but more of an issue of putting things back where they belong, avoiding clutter and procrastination,etc. ...

A.   23 August 2017:  Much would depend from the context. If this person said it with a smile or a wink or anything suggesting that he/ she was laughing WITH you, not at you - loosen up. Banter and jokes and a bit of ribbing are rather common in workplaces, in fact... (read in full...)

Why won't he Marry me?

Answered by N91 + on 23 August 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   Hi, I have been with my partner 6 years next month. I never wanted to get married, was never something that was important to me. Until I was in love. We have been together 6 years and have agreed to start trying for a baby next year after my friends ...

A.   23 August 2017: If YOU want to get married then you need to find out where he's up to. This sounds like a deal breaker for you so no shutting down on his side, he needs to give you an answer so you can decide where your future goes whether it's with him or someone ... (read in full...)

Is it too much to ask to want a virgin partner?

Answered by anonymous on 23 August 2017.

Q.   I am 25 and a virgin guy. Is it too much to ask for a virgin partner? I mean i have no disrespect for those who aint and i believe that every person has a choice. PLEASE HELP! ...

A.   23 August 2017: Dear WiseOwlE just would like to point out that probably 99 percent of the girls in Asia and north Africa,especially in the Muslim societies do succeed in saving their virginity till marriage. Yes perhaps very few have non penetrative sex, but by ... (read in full...)

Why won't he Marry me?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 23 August 2017.

Q.   Hi, I have been with my partner 6 years next month. I never wanted to get married, was never something that was important to me. Until I was in love. We have been together 6 years and have agreed to start trying for a baby next year after my friends ...

A.   23 August 2017: There is nothing wrong with telling him what YOU would like, i.e. a wedding before a baby. Next time you discuss trying for a baby, say "Heh, here's the thing. I've been giving this some thought and I would like for us to be married before we try ... (read in full...)

He spent 5 years in prison for crippling a child in a drunken car accident

Answered by anonymous on 23 August 2017.

Q.   Would you date someone with a criminal record ? I met this guy at a party of a mutual friend. We spent the whole night talking and exchanged numbers. After spending hours a day texting / talking we went on an amazing first date. At the end of ...

A.   23 August 2017: I would only date him if he is actively working a 12 step program or going to therapy. ... (read in full...)

Why won't he Marry me?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 23 August 2017.

Q.   Hi, I have been with my partner 6 years next month. I never wanted to get married, was never something that was important to me. Until I was in love. We have been together 6 years and have agreed to start trying for a baby next year after my friends ...

A.   23 August 2017: No wedding, no babies!!! Why are you starting a family with a father who can just opt-out of his family without any legal-recourse??? Just out of nowhere, decide he's going to pull-up roots; and go find another woman. Stick to your guns, girlfrie... (read in full...)

Why won't he Marry me?

Answered by CMMP + on 23 August 2017.

Q.   Hi, I have been with my partner 6 years next month. I never wanted to get married, was never something that was important to me. Until I was in love. We have been together 6 years and have agreed to start trying for a baby next year after my friends ...

A.   23 August 2017: If you're 22-25 and he's your age, he probably feels like he's too young. I wouldn't have got married at that age. In fact, when I was asked, I said "not anytime soon." He should be willing to talk about it though. It's possible he avoids it if yo... (read in full...)

A co-worker made an unkind remark that really hurt me. How do I cope?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 23 August 2017.

Q.   I'm feeling very hurt today. At my previous job (as well as life in general) you could say that I'M not the most organized person (not filthy, but more of an issue of putting things back where they belong, avoiding clutter and procrastination,etc. ...

A.   23 August 2017: I manage and supervise a large staff; and I'm going to answer your question from the employer's point of view. Your co-worker was very much out of line. I will assume she was not assigned as your supervisor; so her opinion has no bearing on your ... (read in full...)

A co-worker made an unkind remark that really hurt me. How do I cope?

Answered by Aunty BimBim + on 23 August 2017.

Aunty BimBim agony auntQ.   I'm feeling very hurt today. At my previous job (as well as life in general) you could say that I'M not the most organized person (not filthy, but more of an issue of putting things back where they belong, avoiding clutter and procrastination,etc. ...

A.   23 August 2017: We all work differently, as long as you are meeting your deadlines and completing work set for you just ignore him .... also ensure if your employers have a clean desk policy (everything cleared off at the end of the day) that you take time to ... (read in full...)

A co-worker made an unkind remark that really hurt me. How do I cope?

Answered by YouWish + on 23 August 2017.

YouWish agony auntQ.   I'm feeling very hurt today. At my previous job (as well as life in general) you could say that I'M not the most organized person (not filthy, but more of an issue of putting things back where they belong, avoiding clutter and procrastination,etc. ...

A.   23 August 2017: Heh, I would have just smiled at the co-worker and say "Switch to decaf already!" and then go about my day. People are going to say unkind things to you. Life is not fair, and some people are just douchebags. But *YOU* give permission for thos... (read in full...)

I don't think I can give my girlfriend the best sex

Answered by Honeypie + on 23 August 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   So my girlfriend are I started dating two months ago but before that we were pretty close friends. We told eachother a decent amount about our sex lives. Now that we are together I feel like I won't be able to give her everything she wants. I want ...

A.   23 August 2017: If there is something you don't WANT to do (ass eating doesn't sound very... enticing, to be frank) then DON'T feel pressured to do it. IT should be OK in a relationship to say no to things. Find other things you LIKE to do, that she enjoys a... (read in full...)

Letting things go and agreeing to disagree

Answered by Honeypie + on 23 August 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   How do you agree to disagree with your partner. We had a conversation the other day and he said something which he is down right refusing to admit to. I know he said it as it was the last thing he said. I know its not the end of the world but i have ...

A.   23 August 2017: How do you do it? Well, I think it comes down to "how important" this issue is for YOU (or him). It is WORTH having a "fight over. Basically, a "pick your battles". My husband and I talk politics, religion, ANYTHING and often don't agree. He ... (read in full...)

Why won't he Marry me?

Answered by Honeypie + on 23 August 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi, I have been with my partner 6 years next month. I never wanted to get married, was never something that was important to me. Until I was in love. We have been together 6 years and have agreed to start trying for a baby next year after my friends ...

A.   23 August 2017: Don't try for a baby till this is settled. Either he WANTS to marry you and start a family or he doesn't. Don't do things half-arsed! So no baby without a wedding. HAVE that conversation. ... (read in full...)

A co-worker made an unkind remark that really hurt me. How do I cope?

Answered by Honeypie + on 23 August 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I'm feeling very hurt today. At my previous job (as well as life in general) you could say that I'M not the most organized person (not filthy, but more of an issue of putting things back where they belong, avoiding clutter and procrastination,etc. ...

A.   23 August 2017: You are who you are. Here is the thing, WHO cares what he thinks? As long as you are focussed and "organized enough" to do your job his "evaluation" is irrelevant. One thing though, OP... He hit the nail on the head - is that why you feel ups... (read in full...)

Why won't he Marry me?

Answered by Riot2017 + on 23 August 2017.

Q.   Hi, I have been with my partner 6 years next month. I never wanted to get married, was never something that was important to me. Until I was in love. We have been together 6 years and have agreed to start trying for a baby next year after my friends ...

A.   23 August 2017: Is your BF still a student? Does he still depends on his parents? Does he has a (good) job? If he is still a student, depends on his parents, or doesn't haves a job, then that may be stopping him from marrying you, IMHO. I have been with my GF, a... (read in full...)

Why won't he Marry me?

Answered by anonymous on 23 August 2017.

Q.   Hi, I have been with my partner 6 years next month. I never wanted to get married, was never something that was important to me. Until I was in love. We have been together 6 years and have agreed to start trying for a baby next year after my friends ...

A.   23 August 2017: Tell him you want to get married before you have a child and tell him you're ready to set a date now. His attitude is he's satisfied with the way things are at the moment, and well, you know, someday maybe. If you want that baby to carry hi... (read in full...)

A co-worker made an unkind remark that really hurt me. How do I cope?

Answered by Riot2017 + on 23 August 2017.

Q.   I'm feeling very hurt today. At my previous job (as well as life in general) you could say that I'M not the most organized person (not filthy, but more of an issue of putting things back where they belong, avoiding clutter and procrastination,etc. ...

A.   23 August 2017: Hello, I'm shamelessly disorganized, but you know what? I don't care what other think. I work in the IT industry, and my disorganization is only a symptom of my extreme creativity when it comes to code. It has been lately discovered that disorga... (read in full...)

My close friend is dating my boss, who is cheating on her!

Answered by YouWish + on 22 August 2017.

YouWish agony auntQ.   I've got a very complicated situation that I'm not sure what to do about. One of my close friends is dating my boss. She used to be pretty unstable before they got together three years ago but recently she's been really happy. I've found out that...

A.   22 August 2017: With this one, seeing that it's your livelihood, your career, and your permanent record on the line, you BACK AWAY and stay the hell out of it! You see nothing. You hear nothing. You know nothing. How would you explain seeing things not mean... (read in full...)

How can I fix this? I'm in a rocky LDR and I am catfishing another woman!

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 August 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi Aunts and Uncles. I'll try and keep this short. I'm a 30 year old female in a longterm and longdistance same sex relationship. Since we moved apart about 8 months ago, things have become boring. When wectalk it's generally quite negative a...

A.   22 August 2017: Wish the woman you have been catfishing a good life, and LEAVE her alone. It's not like you can't "help" yourself. As for your LDR, if it's not working for you and there are no plans to live together in the same geographical area anytime soo... (read in full...)

How can I fix this? I'm in a rocky LDR and I am catfishing another woman!

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 22 August 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Hi Aunts and Uncles. I'll try and keep this short. I'm a 30 year old female in a longterm and longdistance same sex relationship. Since we moved apart about 8 months ago, things have become boring. When wectalk it's generally quite negative a...

A.   22 August 2017: Distance is very difficult, so it's not surprising that it's not working. However, staying will only prolong it. You probably need to break up. As for catfishing someone else, you need to grow up. It's not okay to play with people's feelings... (read in full...)

Is it common for a man to steal and wear his partner's panties?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 22 August 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Ok I was with my long distance lover three Months ago.He told Me over the phone that he stole a pair of my Panties ...did I realize they were missing? No... he said When He put them On he got hard... said he liked that the Panties were ...

A.   22 August 2017: Not common, but not totally rare either. That said, him taking them without permission is not a good sign. It doesn't indicate anything about sexual orientation.... (read in full...)

Is it too much to ask to want a virgin partner?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 22 August 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   I am 25 and a virgin guy. Is it too much to ask for a virgin partner? I mean i have no disrespect for those who aint and i believe that every person has a choice. PLEASE HELP! ...

A.   22 August 2017: To be fair, even having sex for the first time after marriage won't let you know if they were a virgin or not; there's no way to tell. Certain signs may make prior penetrative sex unlikely, but there's no way to know for sure, so you'll just have to ... (read in full...)

I feel directionless, as if my life is the same thing, over and over.

Answered by anonymous on 22 August 2017.

Q.   This is sort of relationship question. Relationship with oneself. I feel stupid for feeling so low and for needing advice on how to find happiness after 40. I just never thought I'd feel this bad. Age and looks were never the problem for me. I...

A.   22 August 2017: Why not save up for a year then pack in your job and go travelling for a few months? Or get a pet? Or join some new clubs? Or take up volunteering? It sounds like you need to give yourself a project or a goal that you can work towards. 40 isn't old. ... (read in full...)

Is it common for a man to steal and wear his partner's panties?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 August 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Ok I was with my long distance lover three Months ago.He told Me over the phone that he stole a pair of my Panties ...did I realize they were missing? No... he said When He put them On he got hard... said he liked that the Panties were ...

A.   22 August 2017: I don't think it's common as most men don't fit their partner's panties. There are many men who enjoy women's underwear. To wear them or sniff or insert "whatever they like to do to these poor panties" - not sure why. It's underwear. I liked... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is asking for more than I can afford.

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 22 August 2017.

Q.   Dear Aunts, I have been visiting my boyfriend for a week now so today im leaving ive decided to take him out for lunch. He just told me that it would be better if i buy him grocery. Im a student I don't have that kind of money. All i wanted was to ...

A.   22 August 2017: Did he actually say he expected you to buy him LOTS of groceries? I would have taken his comment to mean that he would rather you spent the money you were going to spend on one meal for the two of you on groceries which, for the same money, would ... (read in full...)

I feel directionless, as if my life is the same thing, over and over.

Answered by PJ Roy + on 22 August 2017.

Q.   This is sort of relationship question. Relationship with oneself. I feel stupid for feeling so low and for needing advice on how to find happiness after 40. I just never thought I'd feel this bad. Age and looks were never the problem for me. I...

A.   22 August 2017: I could say that I feel this way too about my own life: it did not turn out the way that I had thought. That being intelligent and bright and brilliant, it couldn't turn out otherwise than that I'd have a great career that would build itself by just ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is asking for more than I can afford.

Answered by Riot2017 + on 22 August 2017.

Q.   Dear Aunts, I have been visiting my boyfriend for a week now so today im leaving ive decided to take him out for lunch. He just told me that it would be better if i buy him grocery. Im a student I don't have that kind of money. All i wanted was to ...

A.   22 August 2017: JUST SAY NO. Your invitation was for a small lunch, not for groceries. Learn to set healthy limits. Tell him: Well, my invitation was for just eating at X place for Y food. My offer is not for groceries or anything else. You have a limite... (read in full...)

I feel directionless, as if my life is the same thing, over and over.

Answered by Riot2017 + on 22 August 2017.

Q.   This is sort of relationship question. Relationship with oneself. I feel stupid for feeling so low and for needing advice on how to find happiness after 40. I just never thought I'd feel this bad. Age and looks were never the problem for me. I...

A.   22 August 2017: Hello OP, I'm 32, and I have not hit the mid life crisis yet, but I think I can give you my advice and insights. You say that in your family you die young. What if your doctor told you out of the blue you had only one year to live? Would yo... (read in full...)

I like her a lot, she's gone cold, what can I do that wont mess it up?

Answered by PJ Roy + on 22 August 2017.

Q.   Met this awesome girl online, we hit it off immediately, we had a ton in common, both artists, both geeks, and into the same games. I asked her out and we had a great time at an arcade. we did a ton of art collabs together, played games together and ...

A.   22 August 2017: You might as well tell yourself this: The ease with which she told you that she had had a 'booty call' indicates that where you are thinking that you were living something totally special with her, she's done all that and probably more with, sa... (read in full...)

How can I fix this? I'm in a rocky LDR and I am catfishing another woman!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 August 2017.

Q.   Hi Aunts and Uncles. I'll try and keep this short. I'm a 30 year old female in a longterm and longdistance same sex relationship. Since we moved apart about 8 months ago, things have become boring. When wectalk it's generally quite negative a...

A.   22 August 2017: I meant to say: "Breakup, take a break for about a year; and then pursue a serious and committed-relationship. Doing it too soon will have the same outcome. You will end up cheating."... (read in full...)

How can I fix this? I'm in a rocky LDR and I am catfishing another woman!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 August 2017.

Q.   Hi Aunts and Uncles. I'll try and keep this short. I'm a 30 year old female in a longterm and longdistance same sex relationship. Since we moved apart about 8 months ago, things have become boring. When wectalk it's generally quite negative a...

A.   22 August 2017: Breakup, take a break for about a year; and then pursue a serious and committed-relationships. Doing it to soon will have the same outcome. You will end up cheating. You're not a bad person. You took on a type of relationship that you aren't b... (read in full...)

Should I be concerned about my erratic behavior?

Answered by Riot2017 + on 22 August 2017.

Q.   Should I be concerned about my erratic behavior? A little brief background I am 32 and most of my life I have battled just depression and going to these deep waves of misery. I must admit through therapy and for the first time trying to LISTEN I am ...

A.   22 August 2017: Your "friend" it's bad company, and you should stay away from her. If you have a weak personality, you will eventually start making the things that she does. It's like hanging out with criminals; you will eventually be involved in somethin... (read in full...)

How do stop my self from being so nervous before a date.

Answered by Riot2017 + on 22 August 2017.

Q.   How do stop my self from being so nervous before a date. Iv recently started seeing some one new and the first time we meet I'll admit I was pretty drunk. He has looked me up and we are goin on a date. I feel lik the first time I brought him home I ...

A.   22 August 2017: Please don't get drunk to find confidence. If you need relaxation, try natural remedies, like Valerian root or St. John's Wort . ... (read in full...)

Is it common for a man to steal and wear his partner's panties?

Answered by Riot2017 + on 22 August 2017.

Q.   Ok I was with my long distance lover three Months ago.He told Me over the phone that he stole a pair of my Panties ...did I realize they were missing? No... he said When He put them On he got hard... said he liked that the Panties were ...

A.   22 August 2017: I can't talk for your partner regarding the gay issues, but when you are in a LDR relationship like me, some times the only thing you have from your partner is her panties, which really turn me on. I think the panties thing is normal since many m... (read in full...)

Is it common for a man to steal and wear his partner's panties?

Answered by anonymous on 22 August 2017.

Q.   Ok I was with my long distance lover three Months ago.He told Me over the phone that he stole a pair of my Panties ...did I realize they were missing? No... he said When He put them On he got hard... said he liked that the Panties were ...

A.   22 August 2017: It doesn't means he gay but I wouldn't know whether or not it's common. I was seeing someone for awhile who liked to buy me sexy lingerie. He once made a comment, while stroking my nyloned thigh, that it felt so nice he'd like to try a pair on ... (read in full...)

Is it too much to ask to want a virgin partner?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 August 2017.

Q.   I am 25 and a virgin guy. Is it too much to ask for a virgin partner? I mean i have no disrespect for those who aint and i believe that every person has a choice. PLEASE HELP! ...

A.   22 August 2017: I've a question for you. If you don't have sex, how do you approach a woman to determine whether she's a virgin? To some women that is an offensive question; and she could falsely claim that she is. You won't know unless you have sex with her. You ... (read in full...)

My close friend is dating my boss, who is cheating on her!

Answered by Code Warrior + on 22 August 2017.

Code Warrior agony auntQ.   I've got a very complicated situation that I'm not sure what to do about. One of my close friends is dating my boss. She used to be pretty unstable before they got together three years ago but recently she's been really happy. I've found out that...

A.   22 August 2017: Depending on the size of your company, the best approach would be to get the woman he's targeting to file a sexual harassment complaint with the HR department against your boss. That might cool his jets a bit. If your company doesn't have an HR ... (read in full...)

I like her a lot, she's gone cold, what can I do that wont mess it up?

Answered by N91 + on 22 August 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   Met this awesome girl online, we hit it off immediately, we had a ton in common, both artists, both geeks, and into the same games. I asked her out and we had a great time at an arcade. we did a ton of art collabs together, played games together and ...

A.   22 August 2017: There is nothing you can do man. Take the hint, she's not interested. Stop wondering what you did wrong because you will be beating yourself up forever. Things just weren't meant to be, let it go and move on.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is asking for more than I can afford.

Answered by Allumeuse + on 22 August 2017.

Q.   Dear Aunts, I have been visiting my boyfriend for a week now so today im leaving ive decided to take him out for lunch. He just told me that it would be better if i buy him grocery. Im a student I don't have that kind of money. All i wanted was to ...

A.   22 August 2017: He might just be a bit thoughtless about your difference in means. Explain that you can't afford to buy all the groceries but perhaps spend what you were able to afford on lunch on some supplies. Then again he might be experiencing the harsh reality ... (read in full...)

How can I fix this? I'm in a rocky LDR and I am catfishing another woman!

Answered by Allumeuse + on 22 August 2017.

Q.   Hi Aunts and Uncles. I'll try and keep this short. I'm a 30 year old female in a longterm and longdistance same sex relationship. Since we moved apart about 8 months ago, things have become boring. When wectalk it's generally quite negative a...

A.   22 August 2017: All this is because of the breakdown in meaningful communication between you and your partner. You are becoming emotionally detached from each other. When will you be together again? If you value your relationship you need to take steps to make this ... (read in full...)

Didnt cheat but feel guilty ?

Answered by anonymous on 22 August 2017.

Q.   Me and my gf have dated for about a year and a half. A few months ago. I've never flirted or talked to or tried to cheat on her (never even thought about it. Me and her were going through an extremely rough patch, constantly arguing, and bei...

A.   22 August 2017: Although it would hurt me if you were my BF and went to an ex girlfriend for advice, comfort or solace, it would hurt me even more AND end our relationship if you actually cheated on me with her. I mean, full on sex. I must admit that what you... (read in full...)

Is it common for a man to steal and wear his partner's panties?

Answered by CindyCares + on 22 August 2017.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   Ok I was with my long distance lover three Months ago.He told Me over the phone that he stole a pair of my Panties ...did I realize they were missing? No... he said When He put them On he got hard... said he liked that the Panties were ...

A.   22 August 2017:  No, common is not common, -in the sense that it does not happen that often, it is not very usual. Then again, neither it is a big deal, as fetishes go it's pretty tame- there are much weirder ones around. If this is brand of kinky, it sounds ... (read in full...)

I like her a lot, she's gone cold, what can I do that wont mess it up?

Answered by anonymous on 22 August 2017.

Q.   Met this awesome girl online, we hit it off immediately, we had a ton in common, both artists, both geeks, and into the same games. I asked her out and we had a great time at an arcade. we did a ton of art collabs together, played games together and ...

A.   22 August 2017: I'm afraid I agree that she doesn't sound that into you as anything more than a friend. Sorry! I also have something else to ask you - you said you made out then she gave you a hj before eventually giving up. How exactly did that go? Did you do ... (read in full...)

I've been snooping and finding messages my boyfriend has sent to people on Craigslist

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 August 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi everyone My boyfriend and I have been living together for 2 years dating for 3. This summer we moved to a new town for his work. He really hated the job but had to do it to move up. One week, our sex life was amazing, he was tired but came h...

A.   22 August 2017: Accept this: HE isn't going to stop. He will get better at hiding it. If he is not going to be working when you move, what DO you think he will do with his time? It's not like making the "presumption" that he will continue (even if he prom... (read in full...)

I'm ready to leave, but how do I take my dignity with me?

Answered by CindyCares + on 22 August 2017.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   Ive been seeing a 34 year old guy for two full months now. He treats me well, takes me out to nice places well until i saw him texting other girls on social me. I caught him once flirting with girls the one time we went shopping together. I told him ...

A.   22 August 2017:  I don't see what dignity has got to do with your predicament. He is a flirt- you want somebody serious, committed and only focused on you. You told him to stop- he did not stop. You used to like him, but now you secretly hate him. Why c... (read in full...)

I feel directionless, as if my life is the same thing, over and over.

Answered by NORA B + on 22 August 2017.

Q.   This is sort of relationship question. Relationship with oneself. I feel stupid for feeling so low and for needing advice on how to find happiness after 40. I just never thought I'd feel this bad. Age and looks were never the problem for me. I...

A.   22 August 2017: I read your very interesting mail,and i know where you are coming from re your many self questions and i am also smiling..Because in writing this mail..it can be for you the first step to a understanding of the new you...Man a being in search of ... (read in full...)

I like her a lot, she's gone cold, what can I do that wont mess it up?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 August 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Met this awesome girl online, we hit it off immediately, we had a ton in common, both artists, both geeks, and into the same games. I asked her out and we had a great time at an arcade. we did a ton of art collabs together, played games together and ...

A.   22 August 2017: I think she has decided that you two are not as great of a match in person as she had first thought. THAT is what dating is about. Is she also "seeing" other people? The booty call thing? If she is, maybe she is more into casual NSA sex t... (read in full...)

I'm ready to leave, but how do I take my dignity with me?

Answered by NORA B + on 22 August 2017.

Q.   Ive been seeing a 34 year old guy for two full months now. He treats me well, takes me out to nice places well until i saw him texting other girls on social me. I caught him once flirting with girls the one time we went shopping together. I told him ...

A.   22 August 2017: It seems for your mail this guy is not ready to settle down and be happy with one girl...or maybe this is just the type he is.Either way it is not good for you.Words used in your mail like...hate..flirting..leave.....these words speak as you feel.By ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is asking for more than I can afford.

Answered by NORA B + on 22 August 2017.

Q.   Dear Aunts, I have been visiting my boyfriend for a week now so today im leaving ive decided to take him out for lunch. He just told me that it would be better if i buy him grocery. Im a student I don't have that kind of money. All i wanted was to ...

A.   22 August 2017: As a thank you to your boyfriend ..the lunch you offered for cooking for you when you were visiting him...was very kind on your part....no more is needed.His request for groceries ...was OUTRAGEES ON HIS PART.Just say sorry..no can do as i am ... (read in full...)

Is it too much to ask to want a virgin partner?

Answered by chigirl + on 22 August 2017.

chigirl agony auntQ.   I am 25 and a virgin guy. Is it too much to ask for a virgin partner? I mean i have no disrespect for those who aint and i believe that every person has a choice. PLEASE HELP! ...

A.   22 August 2017: It's fine to ask for this. You yourself are the one who decides what is right for you, and what isn't. When something doesn't feel right, for whatever reasons, do not do it. It needs to be right for you, not for everyone else. ... (read in full...)

I'm ready to leave, but how do I take my dignity with me?

Answered by Allumeuse + on 22 August 2017.

Q.   Ive been seeing a 34 year old guy for two full months now. He treats me well, takes me out to nice places well until i saw him texting other girls on social me. I caught him once flirting with girls the one time we went shopping together. I told him ...

A.   22 August 2017: I think you keep your dignity by leaving. It doesn't matter how. If you're looking for a pithy remark to depart with I'm sure the guys below can help you out. This man boy is making himself look foolish all on his own though ... (read in full...)

Is it common for a man to steal and wear his partner's panties?

Answered by anonymous on 22 August 2017.

Q.   Ok I was with my long distance lover three Months ago.He told Me over the phone that he stole a pair of my Panties ...did I realize they were missing? No... he said When He put them On he got hard... said he liked that the Panties were ...

A.   22 August 2017: Yes it is very common like keeping a lovers picture or shirt but much more intimate and a turn on when you are thinking of them. It only becomes depraved when someone steals other peoples knickers and bras from the clothlines.... (read in full...)

I like her a lot, she's gone cold, what can I do that wont mess it up?

Answered by Allumeuse + on 22 August 2017.

Q.   Met this awesome girl online, we hit it off immediately, we had a ton in common, both artists, both geeks, and into the same games. I asked her out and we had a great time at an arcade. we did a ton of art collabs together, played games together and ...

A.   22 August 2017: Sorry buddy she just isn't that into you. You need to take the hint. People who like each other move heaven and earth to see each other and that isn't the case. You didn't do anything wrong but something hasn't clicked. She thinks you're nice enough ... (read in full...)

Should I be concerned about my erratic behavior?

Answered by N91 + on 22 August 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   Should I be concerned about my erratic behavior? A little brief background I am 32 and most of my life I have battled just depression and going to these deep waves of misery. I must admit through therapy and for the first time trying to LISTEN I am ...

A.   22 August 2017: Why would you be friends with someone you can't trust? That in itself sounds stupid. I think you're wasting your time and money if you're receiving therapy and ignoring the advice. Listen to what they are telling you and then you can work out of y... (read in full...)

I can't get over my ex of 4 years ago. I treated her badly and have regrets

Answered by N91 + on 22 August 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   Hi 4 years ago I was with a woman I fell completely in love with I admit now I didn't treat her how I should of done I called her a couple of nasty names and generally treated her like rubbish now every morning I wake up with her on my mind I see ...

A.   22 August 2017: Learn not to be a dick with people and this won't happen. She's found someone who treats her with respect and genuinely loves her. Leave her alone and learn from it.... (read in full...)

I can't get over my ex of 4 years ago. I treated her badly and have regrets

Answered by YouWish + on 22 August 2017.

YouWish agony auntQ.   Hi 4 years ago I was with a woman I fell completely in love with I admit now I didn't treat her how I should of done I called her a couple of nasty names and generally treated her like rubbish now every morning I wake up with her on my mind I see ...

A.   22 August 2017: That's for damn sure, Honeypie!... (read in full...)

Didnt cheat but feel guilty ?

Answered by YouWish + on 22 August 2017.

YouWish agony auntQ.   Me and my gf have dated for about a year and a half. A few months ago. I've never flirted or talked to or tried to cheat on her (never even thought about it. Me and her were going through an extremely rough patch, constantly arguing, and bei...

A.   22 August 2017: Actually, you did the right thing in the end. All of us in relationships or even marriage has that one moment of temptation, followed by guilt and a fear that we've just exposed a weakness in ourselves. Those who don't care will be led by that ... (read in full...)

Should I be concerned about my erratic behavior?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 August 2017.

Q.   Should I be concerned about my erratic behavior? A little brief background I am 32 and most of my life I have battled just depression and going to these deep waves of misery. I must admit through therapy and for the first time trying to LISTEN I am ...

A.   22 August 2017: Why are you paying and going to a therapist, if you don't listen to the doctor's advice? Yes, everything your therapist said is correct. There is no way we can confirm if you have a weak personality; but if the therapist has assessed that thr... (read in full...)

Should I be concerned about my erratic behavior?

Answered by Aunty BimBim + on 22 August 2017.

Aunty BimBim agony auntQ.   Should I be concerned about my erratic behavior? A little brief background I am 32 and most of my life I have battled just depression and going to these deep waves of misery. I must admit through therapy and for the first time trying to LISTEN I am ...

A.   22 August 2017: First let me say I am not a qualified professional. The very fact you are having therapy suggests you want to change the way things are, or at least, understand them. We attract what we give out, by associating with somebody who is "bad news... (read in full...)

Didnt cheat but feel guilty ?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 August 2017.

Q.   Me and my gf have dated for about a year and a half. A few months ago. I've never flirted or talked to or tried to cheat on her (never even thought about it. Me and her were going through an extremely rough patch, constantly arguing, and bei...

A.   22 August 2017: Talking to someone is no reason to feel guilty; unless you felt lust deep down in your heart at the time. Did you bad-mouth your girlfriend in that conversation? Thoughts occur spontaneously; and they flash across the mind, before can push ... (read in full...)

Didnt cheat but feel guilty ?

Answered by anonymous on 22 August 2017.

Q.   Me and my gf have dated for about a year and a half. A few months ago. I've never flirted or talked to or tried to cheat on her (never even thought about it. Me and her were going through an extremely rough patch, constantly arguing, and bei...

A.   22 August 2017: You did nothing wrong. Your girlfriend's lucky to have a boyfriend who is honorable enough to not think of cheating even when going through a rough patch in the relationship. You wanted a female perspective and you turned to her for advice. ... (read in full...)

Is it common for a man to steal and wear his partner's panties?

Answered by Myau + on 22 August 2017.

Myau agony auntQ.   Ok I was with my long distance lover three Months ago.He told Me over the phone that he stole a pair of my Panties ...did I realize they were missing? No... he said When He put them On he got hard... said he liked that the Panties were ...

A.   22 August 2017: Is it common? ..............No. Oddly I did end up with my first 2 gfs panties.... They left them over I assure you. But if you like him, then tell him he owes you a pair back. have fun. ... (read in full...)

How do stop my self from being so nervous before a date.

Answered by Myau + on 22 August 2017.

Myau agony auntQ.   How do stop my self from being so nervous before a date. Iv recently started seeing some one new and the first time we meet I'll admit I was pretty drunk. He has looked me up and we are goin on a date. I feel lik the first time I brought him home I ...

A.   22 August 2017: Did you ever see "Theres something about Mary"? There's a scene where a guy advises Ben Stiller's character to masturbate before the date so he wont be nervous. ....Its worth a try. Other than that. Set a time you have to be back so the d... (read in full...)

If my husband loves me like he says he does then why can't I shake the feelings that he's been unfaithful?

Answered by anonymous on 22 August 2017.

Q.   Hi everybody, I have never done this before so here goes.. I have been married to my husband for 12 years. We have been together for 15 years. I ma 38 and he is 53. I love him so much and there's nothing I wouldn't do for him. I'm in scho...

A.   22 August 2017: I think you know why you can't shake the feeling he's been unfaithful -- because you know he has been. To add insult to injury he thinks you're stupid enough to believe he "found" those condoms or he "thought he got rid of them". You're attending ... (read in full...)

Should I be concerned about my erratic behavior?

Answered by Myau + on 22 August 2017.

Myau agony auntQ.   Should I be concerned about my erratic behavior? A little brief background I am 32 and most of my life I have battled just depression and going to these deep waves of misery. I must admit through therapy and for the first time trying to LISTEN I am ...

A.   22 August 2017: As long as you keep your friendship casual. ie just hang out. Then your fine. You know who you are and what you want. I think you need different therapist. One who is positive and will help you move forward with your life and deal with your i... (read in full...)

Didnt cheat but feel guilty ?

Answered by Myau + on 22 August 2017.

Myau agony auntQ.   Me and my gf have dated for about a year and a half. A few months ago. I've never flirted or talked to or tried to cheat on her (never even thought about it. Me and her were going through an extremely rough patch, constantly arguing, and bei...

A.   22 August 2017: Short answer: No you shouldn't feel guilty. Why are you over thinking this? You are allowed to talk to people and ask advice.... (read in full...)

Why do I like them some days, then the next day I don't!?

Answered by anonymous on 22 August 2017.

Q.   Why do I keep thinking about this guy all the time? I never used to be able to think of him as more than a friend until recently, what's going on? Also what confuses me is I know I like him, but then some days I wont like him as much as I did be...

A.   22 August 2017: You might have NPD. They are prone to changing their mind from day to day like tat. One day the person seems to be their soulmate, the next day they want nothing to do with them. Not sure if your situation is that extreme but I actually came ... (read in full...)

Didnt cheat but feel guilty ?

Answered by Anonymous 123 + on 22 August 2017.

Anonymous 123 agony auntQ.   Me and my gf have dated for about a year and a half. A few months ago. I've never flirted or talked to or tried to cheat on her (never even thought about it. Me and her were going through an extremely rough patch, constantly arguing, and bei...

A.   22 August 2017: You shouldn't feel guilty because you did absolutely nothing wrong. You just asked her for advice and yes maybe you shouldn't have but that's it. Maybe you just wanted to confirm your suspicions about her that she DID in fact want something more? ... (read in full...)

Is it too much to ask to want a virgin partner?

Answered by anonymous on 22 August 2017.

Q.   I am 25 and a virgin guy. Is it too much to ask for a virgin partner? I mean i have no disrespect for those who aint and i believe that every person has a choice. PLEASE HELP! ...

A.   22 August 2017: Very thankful to all the people who answered my question. Sadly i know i may miss great people but i am ready to do that part of sacrifice. I have been born and bought up in such an environment where sex before marriage is prohibited. I never had ... (read in full...)

She's boring and bland and I need to cut her loose but how do I let her down without hurting her feelings?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 August 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hello everyone, I've recently been speaking to a girl that I got speaking to through social media. I just randomly messaged her one day and things took off and we've now been speaking for roughly two months. We went on a date after about 10 d...

A.   22 August 2017: There is no such thing as dumping someone without hurt feelings. Fact of life. I agree that next time, maybe.... take the time to get to know the girl (IN PERSON - not over text or Facebook or whatever app) before sleeping with her and getting ... (read in full...)

Family problems blighting my future with him

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 August 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Me and my fiancé have been together for over 2 years now. During his past relationship with his ex' this women had already had a child by someone else. This child was very little when they started dating. During the time they were together he got ...

A.   22 August 2017: In short? You are petty. ALL kids need as many GOOD loving people in their lives as they can have. Whether they are "genetically" related or not. This ex-GF's FIRST child is your Fiance's child's HALF sibling thus ... FAMILY! Let me te... (read in full...)

Suggestions please on how to help his aim

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 August 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I got a question and it's not drama and I think it needs to be answered guys my husband iS a hunting man so I ask guys how can you hit a deer at 300yards and miss toilet seat at 3 feet...

A.   22 August 2017: I agree with FA and Riot, Is this something new? The older we get the less "power" is in the stream and then the "aim" as well. Could be the prostate isn't doing so great. Maybe he needs to have a checkup? And secondly, I'd make him clean t... (read in full...)

He says the sex is better with me but he still keeps his girlfriend. Do I wait around or end things?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 August 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Back in January I met this guy on Tinder. We started off talking every single day just clicking really well and having great conversations. After we met one or two times we had a conversation and he said that he wasn't looking for a relationship and ...

A.   22 August 2017: Are you really that deluded or naive, OP? You think he tells his GF that she isn't as good as other women he has been with? You don't HAVE a golden snatch. Sorry. It's nothing special. If it was oh so freaking over 9000 best EVER sex he migh... (read in full...)

My very best friend is cheating on her partner! Do I tell him?

Answered by Caring Aunty A + on 22 August 2017.

Caring Aunty A agony auntQ.   Please help. She is my very bestfriend for 17 Years. WE See really good with each other. I care for her. I know her very much and everything what she do is open to me. Thats how she trust me. My Problem is, i visited Her 2 months ago. Thats ...

A.   22 August 2017: I wager from a man’s perspective, prior to him getting married, he would want to know of this cheating and at the same time not wishing to know it were true. IF you intend on exposing her and you have 100+% PROOF of her cheating nowadays... (read in full...)

I can't get over my ex of 4 years ago. I treated her badly and have regrets

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 August 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi 4 years ago I was with a woman I fell completely in love with I admit now I didn't treat her how I should of done I called her a couple of nasty names and generally treated her like rubbish now every morning I wake up with her on my mind I see ...

A.   21 August 2017: I agree with YouWish. This isn't about HER at all. This is about you. EVERY time you see her, YOU are reminded that you were a dick to someone who didn't deserve it and now? You don't deserve someone like her. Leave her be. Learn from the ... (read in full...)

I can't get over my ex of 4 years ago. I treated her badly and have regrets

Answered by anonymous on 21 August 2017.

Q.   Hi 4 years ago I was with a woman I fell completely in love with I admit now I didn't treat her how I should of done I called her a couple of nasty names and generally treated her like rubbish now every morning I wake up with her on my mind I see ...

A.   21 August 2017: Just keep your thoughts and regrets to yourself. It's a great step that you recognized that you had treated her badly. Some people wouldn't own up to their bad behavior. Make sure that you never repeat your mistake. And make no mistake you ... (read in full...)

Dealing with my son's father?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 August 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   My son's father never wanted to know anything about his son when I tried to reach out to him when our son was born. Now at 2 months he finally responded to my texts and his mom actually was the one to speak to me. She has been kind this whole time ...

A.   21 August 2017: Honestly OP? I think you are being unrealistic about this guy. He "ran" when you found out you were pregnant so why do you think he would all of a sudden GROW UP and be a responsible adult now that YOU gave birth to (his) child? I say, Contac... (read in full...)

My ex wants to chat again. Is he just trying to keep all of his options open?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 August 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I was seeing this guy three years ago and the relationship was very rocky. Eventually we split, he met someone else but we stayed in contact. We spoke last month and admitted there was still something between us. He says his relationship is ending ...

A.   21 August 2017: His relationship is ending... So now he is hedging his bets so when it's over, there is someone "new" waiting in the wing for him. My guess? He doesn't like being single. You have been willing to TALK to him even if it was NOT a great relation... (read in full...)

My ex wants to chat again. Is he just trying to keep all of his options open?

Answered by NORA B + on 21 August 2017.

Q.   I was seeing this guy three years ago and the relationship was very rocky. Eventually we split, he met someone else but we stayed in contact. We spoke last month and admitted there was still something between us. He says his relationship is ending ...

A.   21 August 2017: This guy does not know if he is coming or going and seems to suit himself no matter who will be hurt.If he had real feelings for you he would not have gone into another relationship...which is not working out.He has the cheek to ask you to wait ... (read in full...)

Family problems blighting my future with him

Answered by Riot2017 + on 21 August 2017.

Q.   Me and my fiancé have been together for over 2 years now. During his past relationship with his ex' this women had already had a child by someone else. This child was very little when they started dating. During the time they were together he got ...

A.   21 August 2017: "It truly bothers me, but I want to know am I just being petty or would this bother you too if your fiance's mother was doing this ?" I don't think you are understanding how things work on this. Your mother-in-law doesn't just want to hang out ... (read in full...)

Suggestions please on how to help his aim

Answered by Riot2017 + on 21 August 2017.

Q.   I got a question and it's not drama and I think it needs to be answered guys my husband iS a hunting man so I ask guys how can you hit a deer at 300yards and miss toilet seat at 3 feet...

A.   21 August 2017: Simple. The dear is a prize , and he wants to get it at all cost. On the other hand, the toilet is not a prize, it's just a road black obstructing him from his prize. The only way for him to learn to aim to the toilet is if you make him clea... (read in full...)

He says the sex is better with me but he still keeps his girlfriend. Do I wait around or end things?

Answered by Riot2017 + on 21 August 2017.

Q.   Back in January I met this guy on Tinder. We started off talking every single day just clicking really well and having great conversations. After we met one or two times we had a conversation and he said that he wasn't looking for a relationship and ...

A.   21 August 2017: -Do you think there is a possiblity that a spark could arise in their relationship or does it seem as though it's doomed I think this seems doomed for you. You fell in love with this guy, and this guy does not loves you back. He is using you fo... (read in full...)

I've been snooping and finding messages my boyfriend has sent to people on Craigslist

Answered by Riot2017 + on 21 August 2017.

Q.   Hi everyone My boyfriend and I have been living together for 2 years dating for 3. This summer we moved to a new town for his work. He really hated the job but had to do it to move up. One week, our sex life was amazing, he was tired but came h...

A.   21 August 2017: BIG RED FLAGS HERE. You should move on, before it's too late. He may not be straight. If you don't have a problem with he masturbating or even dating trans persons on your back while you work, stay on the relationship. But it all seems like he ... (read in full...)

I can't get over my ex of 4 years ago. I treated her badly and have regrets

Answered by anonymous on 21 August 2017.

Q.   Hi 4 years ago I was with a woman I fell completely in love with I admit now I didn't treat her how I should of done I called her a couple of nasty names and generally treated her like rubbish now every morning I wake up with her on my mind I see ...

A.   21 August 2017: I wonder when you realised you loved her, was it when you realised she had moved on. I believe that the longing you have is not genuinely for her it's because you've lost control of her and know that you can't have her. You would be wiser to spend ... (read in full...)

She didn't like my solo comment to a girl online and now she won't speak to me

Answered by Riot2017 + on 21 August 2017.

Q.   Been seeing this girl a month , I like her she is the good girl sweet type.. It took her forever to have sex with me.. she hasent had sex in 4 years had an abusive ex .. long story short I was on Facebook chatting up another girl I wasn't hiding it ...

A.   21 August 2017: Dude, Any normal woman will hate seeing you just "chat" with many woman. You are giving her the wrong message that you are looking for something more elsewhere. When you are in a serious committed relationship, that chatting is always seen as a bad... (read in full...)

My very best friend is cheating on her partner! Do I tell him?

Answered by Riot2017 + on 21 August 2017.

Q.   Please help. She is my very bestfriend for 17 Years. WE See really good with each other. I care for her. I know her very much and everything what she do is open to me. Thats how she trust me. My Problem is, i visited Her 2 months ago. Thats ...

A.   21 August 2017: NO. Let them find out with time. You don't need to be part of that problem.... (read in full...)

Is it too much to ask to want a virgin partner?

Answered by YouWish + on 21 August 2017.

YouWish agony auntQ.   I am 25 and a virgin guy. Is it too much to ask for a virgin partner? I mean i have no disrespect for those who aint and i believe that every person has a choice. PLEASE HELP! ...

A.   21 August 2017: You, I respect. I usually get irritated when some people come on here, having about 20 women under their belt, and then demanding to be with a virgin. But you put your money where your mouth is, so that's understandable that you want someone with ... (read in full...)

I've been snooping and finding messages my boyfriend has sent to people on Craigslist

Answered by N91 + on 21 August 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   Hi everyone My boyfriend and I have been living together for 2 years dating for 3. This summer we moved to a new town for his work. He really hated the job but had to do it to move up. One week, our sex life was amazing, he was tired but came h...

A.   21 August 2017: Okay so you don't trust him. Are you expecting things to get better? Because they won't. You've caught him flirting with multiple women and you're letting it slide so why should he stop? If he was serious about this relationship he ... (read in full...)

She didn't like my solo comment to a girl online and now she won't speak to me

Answered by YouWish + on 21 August 2017.

YouWish agony auntQ.   Been seeing this girl a month , I like her she is the good girl sweet type.. It took her forever to have sex with me.. she hasent had sex in 4 years had an abusive ex .. long story short I was on Facebook chatting up another girl I wasn't hiding it ...

A.   21 August 2017: You sound like a 12-year old! And I apologize to all of the 12-year olds out there! First of all, "it took forever" to have sex with her? You were with her for a MONTH, genius! That tells me everything I needed to know about you. Second ... (read in full...)

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