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Why does she want a black dildo

Answered by kenny + on 18 March 2024.

kenny agony auntQ.   Hi, my gf 27, me 34. recently mentioned she wants a dildo. So I said I will look for her. When we were looking she pointed she wanted a black one. We are white. So it made me think is she into black men? She doesn’t watch porn but I don’t know if ...

A.   18 March 2024: I think maybe you are reading to much into this, its just a colour. I agree with the other aunts, you need to ask her. ... (read in full...)

Why does she want a black dildo

Answered by mystiquek + on 18 March 2024.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   Hi, my gf 27, me 34. recently mentioned she wants a dildo. So I said I will look for her. When we were looking she pointed she wanted a black one. We are white. So it made me think is she into black men? She doesn’t watch porn but I don’t know if ...

A.   18 March 2024: The only person that can answer this is her. Why don't you ask her? ... (read in full...)

I am sick of my partner trying to hit on women 1/2 his age

Answered by Beets + on 17 March 2024.

Beets agony auntQ.   My partner is 50 soon and he keeps talking to young women half his age in public when he's with me. He keeps helping young women in the supermarket for instance the other day a young woman dropped a can of coca cola in the supermarket on the floor ...

A.   17 March 2024: I have learned through the years, that I cannot control another person. I cannot make anyone be what I need. They are who they are. If who they are makes me uncomfortable, sad, angry, or jealous, it's probably time for me to leave. You cannot ... (read in full...)

Should I stay or should I go? Help!

Answered by anonymous on 17 March 2024.

Q.   Please can I get some career advice - I’m so torn….. I’ve been working for this company in customer services for almost 18 years. I’ve always felt a bit over looked and never really given much opportunity to progress - unfortunately it...

A.   17 March 2024: Take the job. It is better. End of story. Why is it better? Because they have given you a super salary, senior position and perks and that's your starting point! Your soon to be former company, I hope, never valued you. They would have been hap... (read in full...)

How do I get him to stop?

Answered by Honeypie + on 17 March 2024.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I work at my church as a secretary but now I'm afraid this stranger is going to send a link to my sex blog to my employers and potentially ruin me. I have never looked at or worked on my blogs outside my home. I have a regular one where I blog about ...

A.   17 March 2024: Do you know who he could be? If so BLOCK him from your blog.? Set up some security on the blog? (if possible) If you get outed, you get outed, you CHOSE to put a sex blog out there, it's unreasonable to expect no one will find it. YOU are resp... (read in full...)

They hate the fact we are doing so well!

Answered by Honeypie + on 17 March 2024.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   After a rocky few years with my health issues and some financial issues things have started to turn around for me and my husband for the better however it seems that some so called friends and even some family aren’t really happy for us and ...

A.   17 March 2024: Are these "people" someone you care about? Do you care about their opinions? If not, ignore it. If you do care about them, ASK them straight up, why do you say that to me, after knowing how hard the last few years has been for us? Can you not ... (read in full...)

Why does she want a black dildo

Answered by Honeypie + on 17 March 2024.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi, my gf 27, me 34. recently mentioned she wants a dildo. So I said I will look for her. When we were looking she pointed she wanted a black one. We are white. So it made me think is she into black men? She doesn’t watch porn but I don’t know if ...

A.   17 March 2024: The only one who knows the answer to this question is HER. So, ask her?... (read in full...)

Why does she want a black dildo

Answered by Honeypie + on 17 March 2024.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi, my gf 27, me 34. recently mentioned she wants a dildo. So I said I will look for her. When we were looking she pointed she wanted a black one. We are white. So it made me think is she into black men? She doesn’t watch porn but I don’t know if ...

A.   17 March 2024: test ... (read in full...)

I am sick of my partner trying to hit on women 1/2 his age

Answered by anonymous on 17 March 2024.

Q.   My partner is 50 soon and he keeps talking to young women half his age in public when he's with me. He keeps helping young women in the supermarket for instance the other day a young woman dropped a can of coca cola in the supermarket on the floor ...

A.   17 March 2024: Your feelings are justified. He's acting like a jerk. He's acting like some (many?) men would if they weren't afraid of the consequences. It's sad that he ignores you. Honestly, the women he "helps" most of the time do not want that help coming f... (read in full...)

Should I stay or should I go? Help!

Answered by anonymous on 17 March 2024.

Q.   Please can I get some career advice - I’m so torn….. I’ve been working for this company in customer services for almost 18 years. I’ve always felt a bit over looked and never really given much opportunity to progress - unfortunately it...

A.   17 March 2024: It baffles me how people negotiate extra pay. I have been top performer but always shown the door if I asked for more. I have taken pay cuts each job I move onto. My female colleagues on the other hand got promoted when I know they are not doing the ... (read in full...)

They hate the fact we are doing so well!

Answered by anonymous on 17 March 2024.

Q.   After a rocky few years with my health issues and some financial issues things have started to turn around for me and my husband for the better however it seems that some so called friends and even some family aren’t really happy for us and ...

A.   17 March 2024: Get rid of the people, friends AND family, who are putting you down. I'm 47 years old and have only fairly recently (compared to the decades of suffering) started getting rid of people who were using me and my husband and not wishing us well. ... (read in full...)

Should I stay or should I go? Help!

Answered by kenny + on 17 March 2024.

kenny agony auntQ.   Please can I get some career advice - I’m so torn….. I’ve been working for this company in customer services for almost 18 years. I’ve always felt a bit over looked and never really given much opportunity to progress - unfortunately it...

A.   17 March 2024: I think as you have applied for this new job you should now stick to your guns and take this new exciting opportunity. Why did your current employer offer you this while you were still working there?. The fact that they are now offering you this... (read in full...)

Should I stay or should I go? Help!

Answered by anonymous on 17 March 2024.

Q.   Please can I get some career advice - I’m so torn….. I’ve been working for this company in customer services for almost 18 years. I’ve always felt a bit over looked and never really given much opportunity to progress - unfortunately it...

A.   17 March 2024: I agree with what's already been written by the respondents. The company you currently work for, like so many companies, seems more than willing to extract as much out of staff as possible and short-changing you as a result. If they were offeri... (read in full...)

How do I get him to stop?

Answered by anonymous on 17 March 2024.

Q.   I work at my church as a secretary but now I'm afraid this stranger is going to send a link to my sex blog to my employers and potentially ruin me. I have never looked at or worked on my blogs outside my home. I have a regular one where I blog about ...

A.   17 March 2024: You have a LEGAL issue. Hopefully, you have records of everything he's sent you to prove you're being harassed and threatened. Did you tell him no or stop? Have you blocked him? Go to the POLICE, not the internet. You'll probably have to settle ... (read in full...)

Why does she want a black dildo

Answered by anonymous on 17 March 2024.

Q.   Hi, my gf 27, me 34. recently mentioned she wants a dildo. So I said I will look for her. When we were looking she pointed she wanted a black one. We are white. So it made me think is she into black men? She doesn’t watch porn but I don’t know if ...

A.   17 March 2024: I'd be more worried about the size than the color. Would you question a green or blue one? Please, it's for maturation and fantasy, calm down. ... (read in full...)

Would it be acceptable for my cousin to walk me down the aisle at my wedding?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 16 March 2024.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   When I was 19 years old, I had a one night stand with a friend and ended up pregnant. My parents, who always been judgemental and verbally abusive kicked me out when they found out. My cousin, Justin, who is a year older than me, was always close...

A.   16 March 2024: I'm sorry your parents were not there for you when you needed them most. Some people are just sh!t parents. Sounds like Justin stepped up when you needed help and, in my view, sounds like the most appropriate person to give you away. He sounds v... (read in full...)

Should I stay or should I go? Help!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 16 March 2024.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Please can I get some career advice - I’m so torn….. I’ve been working for this company in customer services for almost 18 years. I’ve always felt a bit over looked and never really given much opportunity to progress - unfortunately it...

A.   16 March 2024: I have always maintained that, if I am worth a certain amount of money, then that is what you should be paying me. Don't suddenly decide to pay it me when I look to leave. Six months down the line, the new job won't be so new any longer and, hop... (read in full...)

Should I stay or should I go? Help!

Answered by Honeypie + on 16 March 2024.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Please can I get some career advice - I’m so torn….. I’ve been working for this company in customer services for almost 18 years. I’ve always felt a bit over looked and never really given much opportunity to progress - unfortunately it...

A.   16 March 2024: The fact that your current job didn't want to PAY you more until you handed in your notice should tell you how LITTLE they actually valued you. They KNEW they had a good employee in you but they CHOSE not to pay you more, they CHOSE to USE you ... (read in full...)

Would it be acceptable for my cousin to walk me down the aisle at my wedding?

Answered by mystiquek + on 15 March 2024.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   When I was 19 years old, I had a one night stand with a friend and ended up pregnant. My parents, who always been judgemental and verbally abusive kicked me out when they found out. My cousin, Justin, who is a year older than me, was always close...

A.   15 March 2024: Its your wedding and your day. Do what makes YOU happy....I'm sure your cousin would be touched. Its a very sweet gesture and it shows how much he means to you. As long as your hubby is cool with it, I would ask your cousin. Congratulations! I hope ... (read in full...)

Friend temporarily staying with me is costing me money and she isn't considerate

Answered by anonymous on 15 March 2024.

Q.   My friend is living with me temporarily until her apartment is ready. She went through a break up last year so had to sell her house and needed somewhere to stay until her new living place is ready. She’s been with me 2 weeks and it will pos...

A.   15 March 2024: It's only for two or three more weeks. If you want to continue with her friendship after she moves out, then stop asking her to turn things off etc., she obviously doesn't listen to you. When you see the lights or television on, turn them off. When ... (read in full...)

Would it be acceptable for my cousin to walk me down the aisle at my wedding?

Answered by Honeypie + on 15 March 2024.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   When I was 19 years old, I had a one night stand with a friend and ended up pregnant. My parents, who always been judgemental and verbally abusive kicked me out when they found out. My cousin, Justin, who is a year older than me, was always close...

A.   15 March 2024: Sure, why not? If your hubby is OK with that, then why not? It's your and your husband's wedding! Do what you want!... (read in full...)

How do I get him to stop?

Answered by anonymous on 15 March 2024.

Q.   I work at my church as a secretary but now I'm afraid this stranger is going to send a link to my sex blog to my employers and potentially ruin me. I have never looked at or worked on my blogs outside my home. I have a regular one where I blog about ...

A.   15 March 2024: You don't. You accept the consequences of your actions and stop trying to live a double life. You may not have been posing naked and selling porn but you're still a sex worker. Bad move church secretary. ... (read in full...)

Would it be acceptable for my cousin to walk me down the aisle at my wedding?

Answered by anonymous on 15 March 2024.

Q.   When I was 19 years old, I had a one night stand with a friend and ended up pregnant. My parents, who always been judgemental and verbally abusive kicked me out when they found out. My cousin, Justin, who is a year older than me, was always close...

A.   15 March 2024: Absolutely! Sounds like your cousin was the only one there for you in a difficult stage of your life. If he is the person you feel closest too then he should walk you down the aisle. When my friend got married her boss walked her down the aisle. ... (read in full...)

Is he normal following girls 1/2 his age on social media?

Answered by anonymous on 14 March 2024.

Q.   My boyfriend who is 42 years old has an Instagram account where he added over 100 girls half his age, shaking their boobs and butts. So last month, my BF decided to create an Instagram account because he wanted to follow some singers and foodies....

A.   14 March 2024: Okay I'm going to say no it's not acceptable if it makes you feel uncomfortable. I was in a relationship with a man for four years who looked at women Infront of me, I told him it was disrespectful, he stopped but then as you have describe... (read in full...)

I cannot tell when men are interested

Answered by anonymous on 14 March 2024.

Q.   I've never had a bf and I am bad at reading signs of interest from a guy (yes, I know I am almost 30 and still boyfriendless). A guy and I were in a conversation, and because I liked him, I started laughing randomly mid-conversation. There was ...

A.   14 March 2024: Sounds to me like there was a mutual attraction as laughing together is a bit flirty sometimes. Could be he's a bit shy and didn't quite know what to do. There's all sorts on the Internet about signs a guy is interested, although every guy is d... (read in full...)

Crazy man I've never met will not leave me alone

Answered by anonymous on 14 March 2024.

Q.   I matched with a guy online. We have FaceTimed one and agreed to meet on date however before the date I changed my mind as he was very pushy and whilst at work he sent me repeated messages despite knowing I was at work asking why I was ignoring him, ...

A.   14 March 2024: I would class this as stalking and contact the cyber police as he is harassing you. I'm sorry you're going through all this and hope that in future you won't give out much information about yourself so soon. Also, could you find other ways ... (read in full...)

I feel used and unappreciated by my friend

Answered by anonymous on 14 March 2024.

Q.   This is a follow up to my post on the 3rd March about my friend staying with me but not contributing to household costs….. My friend was told that her new living space would now not be ready for a further 3 weeks so I told her that I really di...

A.   14 March 2024: Could you just tell her you feel unappreciated after helping her out financially and sharing your home with her? Sometimes people don't realise and if she's stressed out maybe she didn't think to thank you.... (read in full...)

Is he normal following girls 1/2 his age on social media?

Answered by anonymous on 14 March 2024.

Q.   My boyfriend who is 42 years old has an Instagram account where he added over 100 girls half his age, shaking their boobs and butts. So last month, my BF decided to create an Instagram account because he wanted to follow some singers and foodies....

A.   14 March 2024: Whether it's normal or not, the bottom line is whether or not you can accept that your boyfriend is looking at all these young women and has lied to you about it. Maybe you could explore together why he needs to do this and how it makes you feel... (read in full...)

A friend told me that my husband is having an affair

Answered by anonymous on 14 March 2024.

Q.   I’ve been told that my husband of 25 years is having an affair with a woman we know. The person who told me has said they’ve been seen together in places they shouldn’t be and that it’s been going on a long time. There is no proof and he’s never ...

A.   14 March 2024: I agree with the first two posters. Do your trust your husband or not? Why aren't you going out with your husband and this women for a coffee? Two women I know, so called "friends" (one of them for over 20 years!) tried to get my husband's at... (read in full...)

Is he normal following girls 1/2 his age on social media?

Answered by anonymous on 14 March 2024.

Q.   My boyfriend who is 42 years old has an Instagram account where he added over 100 girls half his age, shaking their boobs and butts. So last month, my BF decided to create an Instagram account because he wanted to follow some singers and foodies....

A.   14 March 2024: No it's not normal to me that is horrible and cruel of a partner to do such a thing. And the man who wrote it's how men are is totally wrong. To say all men can look at women half they're age as they're the best looking is horrendous so shall we say ... (read in full...)

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