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How can I help my grandad fulfill his dreams when my family is standing in the way?

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

Q. My grandad is 86. He has prostate cancer, dementia, severe arthritis, can barely walk or sit up on his own and has been in and out of hospital recently for traces of pneumonia in his lungs which are now (fingers crossed) gone. I would like to cr...

A. 20 May 2013: I am employed - it's just not paid. I'm getting another voluntary job that CAN lead to a paid job because THEY train you. I'm not coming up with excuses not to improve my future - it doesn't have to evolve around furthering education. I'm not meant ... (read in full...)

have people broken mirrors and actually had bad luck after?

Answered by Sageoldguy1465 + on 20 May 2013.

Q. you might think i'm stupid for even asking this question. But this morning I dropped my mirror and a chunk of the corner cracked and came off. I am quite superstitious, so I was wondering if it is true that if you break a mirror it's bad luck? ...

A. 20 May 2013: Here's what Stevie Wonder had to say about this matter: "...Thirteen month old baby, Broke the looking glass, Seven years of bad luck, the good things in your past...." Couldn't be any clearer than that! Good luck... ... (read in full...)

Keep getting text messages from a very weird guy. Advice?

Answered by CindyCares + on 20 May 2013.

Q. I was at a party a couple of weeks ago and bumped into one of my old friends whom I hadn't seen for a while. We used to get on really well and she introduced me to some of the people she'd come with, including this guy. I said hi to him and everyone ...

A. 20 May 2013: OP, I lived many years in your country and I don't think it's a culture clash. Americans too can be very forward, insistent and unable to take a hint. Men of all cultures don't do too well with hints, or choose not to. The guy was tryng his luck... (read in full...)

have people broken mirrors and actually had bad luck after?

Answered by Cerberus + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: Worst luck I've had breaking one is the hassle of cleaning it up and having to buy another. Your dad is right OP, if you go looking for trouble you'll find it. If you start believing bad stuff will happen then you'll find a way of making those thin... (read in full...)

B/f ended things rudely denied dating a co-worker and now they're hugging and kissing at work!

Answered by Sageoldguy1465 + on 20 May 2013.

Q. I am so hurt by my ex and I really just want to vent... we dated for about 6 months and it starts off great... we met at work, went out on dates that he paid for, we spent alot of time outside of work, and generally enjoyed our time together...I ...

A. 20 May 2013: You are well rid of this guy. Now... get on with your life and don't let ANY aspect of what went on between the two of you take up even a MOMENT of your time..... Good luck....... (read in full...)

I broke up with him because of this girl and now I feel like she's replaced me. I'm really hurt

Answered by Sageoldguy1465 + on 20 May 2013.

Q. Hi guys. I broke up with my boyfriend of two years because he was basically cheating on me. He didn't sleep with her or physically cheat on me, but I found out that him and her were flirting a lot and always up talking all night and exchanging ...

A. 20 May 2013: Best advice I can offer is for you to separate yourself from that sophomoric situation that you've described.... and let out a "Whew" .... and be glad that they are in your past..... Good luck with your, much better, future....... (read in full...)

How do I send her a text message to let her know I'm interested without sounding like a stalker?

Answered by CMMP + on 20 May 2013.

Q. I got to know this girl at the end of the semester really well. She is my ideal girl. We spent a night together studying until 5 in the morning and we talked about how we can be OCD about certain things and talked about our family and personal ...

A. 20 May 2013: Step one: stop being a wimp. If she likes you, you'd have to be a wierdo to sound like a stalker. Step two: stop being a wimp. Pick up the phone like a grown man and call her. It may not be your guys' style until now, but it's the right think to... (read in full...)

My boyfriend of 1 year has never said I love you and never talks about the future. Should I be concerned?

Answered by CMMP + on 20 May 2013.

Q. My boyfriend and I have been together a year. He's a very caring person, always there for me and if I ask, will go out of his way to help me out. We keep in contact the whole day by texting or calling each other. He normally initiates sending a good ...

A. 20 May 2013: Listen, if you want to be concerned that he hasn't said "I love you" after 3 dates, that's your right. However, if you're trying to get to know his motives a little better so that you can make an educated decision, then here goes: There are some... (read in full...)

Should I move on / how can I do it when I'm so emotionally attached?

Answered by CindyCares + on 20 May 2013.

Q. Long story short, I had a relationship with a guy for few months and things we're going great (I felt like it was a mutual feeling and he did express he had feelings for me and he always said how everything felt "too good to be true" cos we got ...

A. 20 May 2013: Well, if your therapist said " light contact is OK " then your choice logically should be just that- after all, what's even the point of paying for counseling if you are not going to follow the counsel you are given ? Said that, I disagree with... (read in full...)

Is it right for an ex to buy you jewelry?

Answered by So_Very_Confused + on 20 May 2013.

Q. Back once again about the obsessive ex. He texted me and said he has to see me tomorrow night (mothers day) because its important but says he won't be up until 9 at night my son is in bed by then. So I asked him why and he said he had to drop ...

A. 20 May 2013: yes you can get supervised visitation and child support. contact an attorney in your area for further advice.... (read in full...)

When to reveal a disability during online dating?

Answered by So_Very_Confused + on 20 May 2013.

Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...

A. 20 May 2013: I'm so sorry OP but it sounds like she HOPED she would be able to find someone to distract her from her divorce and now she realizes it's not fair to you. I would not get my hopes up with her any more.... (read in full...)

When to reveal a disability during online dating?

Answered by Tisha-1 + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: Sad as it may be, it's probably best to assume that nothing is going to come of continuing to make contact with this woman. Best wishes!... (read in full...)

I broke up with him because of this girl and now I feel like she's replaced me. I'm really hurt

Answered by janniepeg + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: You made the right choice breaking up with him. What happened is that he enjoyed cheap thrills to boost his ego. He cared about getting this need met more than your own feelings. He does not care about the other woman also, as long as she makes him ... (read in full...)

Keep getting text messages from a very weird guy. Advice?

Answered by Cerberus + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: What are you on about? that's perfectly normal where you're from too when a girl is so wishy washy and flaky and gives you her number when she's not interested. He's pursuing you OP and you're leading him on by not telling him to do one. yeah,... (read in full...)

I broke up with him because of this girl and now I feel like she's replaced me. I'm really hurt

Answered by Got Issues + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: The fact that he continues to have her in his life tells me that you did the right thing. He knew he risked losing you, and even when you walked out, he didn't try to change his behaviour. Normally a guy shouldn't have to choose between a female ... (read in full...)

I was hurt by what he said but he acted fine afterwards. Is he just taking me for a ride?

Answered by janniepeg + on 20 May 2013.

Q. So I'm with this man 6 months now and we are spending all the time we have 2gether,its not a lot of time but when we are 2gether we are so happy. This man thinks the world of me,he thinks I'm the most gorgeous woman alive and feels lucky to be with ...

A. 20 May 2013: He didn't understand why you were hurt but he did try his best to check on you. You can try talking to him. It doesn't have to be a long drawn out conversation about who said what. You could just say that something triggered unease in you, and you ... (read in full...)

When to reveal a disability during online dating?

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: It's quite hard for me to walk away! She told me also that she is going through a messy divorce and that she 'can't do this anymore'... (read in full...)

Should I move on / how can I do it when I'm so emotionally attached?

Answered by janniepeg + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: If you are a minority in the world, then I would advice you to not put high hopes in relationships. Your life is boring and you feel you need to depend on a guy to make you feel alive. How about pour your creative energies into helping people, or to ... (read in full...)

have people broken mirrors and actually had bad luck after?

Answered by person12345 + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: The worst luck I've had after breaking a mirror was stepping on a piece of it.... (read in full...)

I'd like to wait until Father's Day to tell my husband I'm pregnant

Answered by Cerberus + on 20 May 2013.

Q. Hi! I just found out, Im two and a half weeks pregnant via blood test, so its very early on. ( I was getting a blood test anyway and had missed my period so I asked if my doctor could order a blood preg test also) Anyways its very early on and I ...

A. 20 May 2013: Well he's your husband, you know whether the cute gesture or being told immediately is more important to him. If this is your final child then making a card with the news on it and putting that into a gift box would probably be awesome. ... (read in full...)

Is it right for an ex to buy you jewelry?

Answered by connorsmommyy + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: Well new update. We asked him to return the earrings he refused so my step mom suggested I return them and put the money in an account for my son since he refuses to give me anything for him. The other day he texted me and said he was at peace about ... (read in full...)

Should I participate in hanky panky with a colleague while out of town?

Answered by person12345 + on 20 May 2013.

Q. Just feeling a bit naughty I suppose. Soon I will be going out of town to San Diego for a 4 day class and conference. My husband has declined to join me so I am thinking of sharing a hotel room and bed with a very nice attractive young gentleman in ...

A. 20 May 2013: "Statistically almost 80% of men cheat at some point and 60% of women during their married life." Not sure where you are getting those statistics because no reputable research has numbers even close to that. The last numbers I saw were around 3... (read in full...)

Sex with him is too long and too rough! How do I make him understand?

Answered by Cerberus + on 20 May 2013.

Q. I just met someone , and we started having sex very fast. He is much younger and very good looking, and I know that it won't last long. It's funny how invites me to lunches and drinks, I didn't even expect this. I thought it would be somethi...

A. 20 May 2013: Oh and if the reason you won't talk to him is because you're afraid of hurting his feelings then that's what you get for dating little boys, and yes even guys your age can be "little boys". Don't waste your time on ones who can't take you telling ... (read in full...)

Do you think Steve and I will ever have a normal relationship?

Answered by CindyCares + on 20 May 2013.

Q. Hi aunts and uncles. I've been with Steve over 1 year. I'd consider myself a fairly attractive and confident 26 year old, he's 31. We've had an extremely tough year so please bear with the long background info. I used to work with Steve then...

A. 20 May 2013: No. You say he went " off " but, well, if he had two other gfs 8 months into your one year relationship , then he was not much " on " even before, was he ? Then, you cheated too, and this makes you " even " , so to speak. In theory , as you have... (read in full...)

Sex with him is too long and too rough! How do I make him understand?

Answered by Cerberus + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: OP first off if your dates involve alcohol then that's probably why he can't cum and probably why he's so rough, that and the fact he's young and inexperienced. OP you need to just talk to him, teach him and stop being a pushover about this and I ho... (read in full...)

Would you date someone with so many tattoos? Or would you fear it would ruin your reputation?

Answered by Cerberus + on 20 May 2013.

Q. Today while on lunch break a friend said to me, very openly and out loud, "did you see all the tattoos on that guy's face? He must have been to prison!" I quietly nodded then thought of something... I was very attracted to another friend who had m...

A. 20 May 2013: I've dated women with tattoos I think they're sexy to a degree. Facial tattoos are a no-no for me. I'm not into women who are hardcore body modders. Stretched ears and lots of facial piercings etc. I respect their individuality and think it's coo... (read in full...)

Do you think Steve and I will ever have a normal relationship?

Answered by janniepeg + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: Don't confuse wanting a normal relationship as loving Steve. He is definitely not on the same timeline as you. From what you described there is nothing lovable about steve. He'd had already had his family and is certainly in no rush to have another ... (read in full...)

Sex with him is too long and too rough! How do I make him understand?

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: What can a poor guy like me say other than I am extremely jelous of your bf who seems to have everything a guy can desire,a large penis, lasting power, the stamina to go on for hours and obviously a very desirable girlfriend!!! But seriously, I can ... (read in full...)

How can I help my grandad fulfill his dreams when my family is standing in the way?

Answered by CindyCares + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: Ah priorities... OP, have you thought that maybe it is precisely your choice of priorities , which in your own eyes makes you trustworthy, dependable and reliable adviser , makes you the just opposite of that in the eyes of your parents and/or ... (read in full...)

Would you date someone with so many tattoos? Or would you fear it would ruin your reputation?

Answered by janniepeg + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: This means I am judgmental then but at least I know to keep my mouth shut. I won't look for one with tatoos but if I became friends with one and he showed me good qualities then I wouldn't care less what other people think. My first impression is ... (read in full...)

Sex with him is too long and too rough! How do I make him understand?

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: You say you still want to keep having sex with him but honestly, why?? It doesn't sound enjoyable at all, in fact it sounds pretty damn bad. I understand that it may be fun and exciting to have a younger attractive man lusting after you but the ... (read in full...)

I haven't heard from him for a long time, and miss him a lot!

Answered by janniepeg + on 20 May 2013.

Q. Thanks for help first. I knew a man three years ago from a party. Since I was married at the time, we never talked and saw each other again. I am separated now. Since I was lonely, I went to sing and met the same man again. I told him I wo...

A. 20 May 2013: Respect does not mean not touching you. Men who casual sex can also be well mannered and compassionate. He doesn't have to be a jerk to want just one thing. A man can look up to you at the same time not wanting a committment due to time restraints ... (read in full...)

Do you think Steve and I will ever have a normal relationship?

Answered by iAmHereToHelpYou + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: Honestly, when you say " I've been with Steve over 1 year" then say "We've had an extremely tough year" it screams that you should have left a long time ago. If the first year can be described as "extremely tough", it's not a good relationship.... (read in full...)

How do you deal with the issue of bad breath tactfully, yet firmly enough that the behaviour changes without resentment or hurt feelings?

Answered by iAmHereToHelpYou + on 20 May 2013.

Q. My new boyfriend (3 months) has horrific breath sometimes. I tried subtle, then obvious hints like putting a toothbrush on his overnight bag. I finally said that didnt cut it, brush your teeth man! Then I turned it into a game about brushed te...

A. 20 May 2013: Don't have sex with a guy in 3 months unless you're willing to be having sex with a stranger - which he pretty much is and means he won't listen to you, even when you use sex as a reward. He needs to do this HIMSELF, not because a new girlfrie... (read in full...)

Mother in law blamed me for her son's change of behavior.

Answered by Sageoldguy1465 + on 20 May 2013.

Q. My husband is a grown man he's 33years old 4 years older than me He was 30 when he join the Army and I was pregnant with our twins while he was gone. He's always a Momma's boy for the last 6 years we dated ( joint bank account with mom) his whole ...

A. 20 May 2013: I have a cardinal's nest right outside my window... I can see it, now.... A while back, Mr and Mrs Cardinal started sitting on the nest constantly... and, after a few weeks, there were little cardinals in the nest with their little beaks peeking ... (read in full...)

Hidden past, hypocrisy and lies. Problem is I'm deeply in love with her and I don't know what to do anymore

Answered by DCUser + on 20 May 2013.

Q. I was in a miserable 15 year LTR for the sake of a child. I have been faithful my whole life however, until a certain girl arrived. I fell deeply in love with her, explained it to my LTR and left. My new girl left her boyfriend and we became ...

A. 20 May 2013: Thanks, Yos.... (read in full...)

Should I participate in hanky panky with a colleague while out of town?

Answered by SensitiveBloke + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: You're old enough to know better! Maybe you need more excitement at home? If this is the issue, address it with your husband. Having an affair will cause you no end of problems.... (read in full...)

Do you think Steve and I will ever have a normal relationship?

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: A man have to respect you first before he let you in his life and the fact you slept with another man changed his view on you completely. I don't see this relationship going anywhere.... (read in full...)

I really love him but feel like running away. I can't cope with the fact that he had a daughter from a one night stand

Answered by iAmHereToHelpYou + on 20 May 2013.

Q. My boyfriend and I have been together since June 2012. He had a one night stand with a friend before we ever got together. Turns out she got pregnant. When she found out he he had denied being the father because she had slept with other guys too. ...

A. 20 May 2013: Loving just him won't be enough. You either would welcome and love the daughter or wouldn't. Some people are not cut out to act like a step-parent and that's fine, but dragging it out wont help anyone involved. The choice is yours but you need to ... (read in full...)

Can ex's be friends without issues? My boyfriend still talks online to his ex every day!

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

Q. Hello Aunts. My question is based on my own relationship history and my boyfriend's. Whenever I have broken up with someone, I haven't been able to stay friends with my ex's, for whatever reason. I have had 3 serious relationships including my ...

A. 20 May 2013: Shes an "EX" for a reason. First of all when I date someone there is NO such thing is BFF with your EX that's just ke Hell Nooo. I set my standards high and I love myself too much to allow any of my boyfriends to treat me like that...if he refuse to ... (read in full...)

Should I participate in hanky panky with a colleague while out of town?

Answered by iAmHereToHelpYou + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: Gotta love the dismissive "thank you for your responses" because nothing we say would change a stubborn and selfish mind if that is the mindset the OP chooses to have.... (read in full...)

Would you date someone with so many tattoos? Or would you fear it would ruin your reputation?

Answered by iAmHereToHelpYou + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: I don't mind tattoos but I think it can look heavily done (on women and men) with a lot of meaningless/pointless (even to the person) tattoos, and I wouldn't find that attractive, but I wouldn't judge it either. Tattoos on the face do tend to ... (read in full...)

How can I help my grandad fulfill his dreams when my family is standing in the way?

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: I AM dealing with my future in the best way I can and that is NOT a course right now - but caring for my grandad is NOT interfering with it. I HAVE been helpin in the way everyone else has asked/told me too, but they always shit down every si... (read in full...)

Sex with him is too long and too rough! How do I make him understand?

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: Honestly? If you're only with him for the sex, and the sex is not good for you, I don't know what you're doing with this guy. Were I in your shoes, at this point I would probably stop seeing him and look for someone with whom I was more compatib... (read in full...)

Should I participate in hanky panky with a colleague while out of town?

Answered by Got Issues + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: To quote one of my favourite lines from one of my favourite TV shows: I don't think 'no' is a strong enough word. Don't ask us, we don't know you or your husband or the ins and outs of your relationship. Ask your husband instead if he thinks y... (read in full...)

Should I participate in hanky panky with a colleague while out of town?

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: Statistically almost 80% of men cheat at some point and 60% of women during their married life. Some people say it, some never say it to anyone else, but that the fact. I travel 30% of the time, and sometimes it happen. Most of the time it doe... (read in full...)

So girls, would you rather have a chat and a long cuddle etc from a guy you are attracted to, or better that he not approach you at all, if he can't give you more time?

Answered by CindyCares + on 20 May 2013.

Q. Question for girls, I have quite long periods when I don't have time to date girls, due to time restraints of work and being on call there. My job requires me at times to be in the busy nightlife area. I often get signals from girls trying to get me ...

A. 20 May 2013: OP, no offence but your question sounded a little bit bizarre to me. It's like you are surprised that some girls ( MOST girls, I'd say ) could very possibly be cheesed off. Why are you surprised ? Communication is based on codes, social codes that... (read in full...)

Should I participate in hanky panky with a colleague while out of town?

Answered by Debbie12 + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: Thank you for all responses:)... (read in full...)

My girlfriend chose me over him, but now she's depressed

Answered by k_c100 + on 20 May 2013.

Q. we have been going through a rocky patch for the last 3 weeks. my girlfriend called me friday night and appolagised for breaking up with me,she said that she had kissed another guy she had feelings for she said that she was sorry and had to tell me ...

A. 20 May 2013: This is going to sound weird but you are being too 'nice' to her and its not helping, its actually making things worse. Rolling over and accepting that she cheated on you and that everything is 'ok' is making you seem weak and less of a man to her. ... (read in full...)

Why is this woman being so childish?

Answered by CindyCares + on 20 May 2013.

Q. Ok, so me and this girl used to fool around. It was a lot of fun and she's great in bed but we never dated properly. We didn't really get to know each other well enough for a relationship plus i'd just broken up with someone else. Well, eventually i ...

A. 20 May 2013: People are not obliged to stay friends with their ex FWB ( or with anybody , as for that ). They can choose to do so if they wish, if they don't their wish needs to be respected by anybody who's got an ounce of class, common sense and ... (read in full...)

Should I confront my ex-bestfriend who is now sleeping with my soon to be ex-husband?

Answered by largentsgirl89 + on 20 May 2013.

Q. My best friend and my husband are now lovers. She left her husband, he left me. She has two kids and we have one. She and he have discussed kicking me out of our family home and them moving in. I suspected something was going on for so long...

A. 20 May 2013: I am so sorry to hear what a complete ankle she is and what a complete asshole he is. Hell yes I would confront her. What the hell? Hiding it from your children? Like the kids won't eventually find out, if they don't already know. Don't let them... (read in full...)

Would you date someone with so many tattoos? Or would you fear it would ruin your reputation?

Answered by Got Issues + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: I'm not a massive fan of tattoos, mainly because I got some done before the age of 20 and ended up regretting them, and am still paying lots of money for laser tattoo removal, but that's my story. I still find them quite fascinating, especially the ... (read in full...)

I'd like to wait until Father's Day to tell my husband I'm pregnant

Answered by largentsgirl89 + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: Wow. Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!! Children are such a blessing. Depending on the relationship you have with him you could wait. If you tell each other everything and he would be upset you didn't tell him, tell him, if not then heck ya, father's... (read in full...)

My boyfriend maintains a friendship with a woman who has a crush on him

Answered by largentsgirl89 + on 20 May 2013.

Q. There is this girl my boyfriend has been talking to online. I found out she has a huge crush on him and has been trying to hook up with him for weeks now. What's worse is that I found out she sent him a naked picture. I'm upset because even tho...

A. 20 May 2013: He should stop all contact with her knowing that it makes you uncomfortable. If you have an established relationship with this guy, then he is cheating on you. Would he be okay with you getting sent pictures of naked guys? Make him pick, you or h... (read in full...)

My co-worker cannot take a hint!

Answered by largentsgirl89 + on 20 May 2013.

Q. One of my co workers gave me a ride home one time. On our way there, my neighbor called me and said they were having a party in our building and to come join them. So I asked my co worker if he wanted to join the party and he said yes. I was just ...

A. 20 May 2013: He misinterpreted all of your "signals' and he is a creep. I would tell him straight out that he made you uncomfortable, he basically molested you while you were sleeping and you don't want any contact with him further. At work, dependin... (read in full...)

I can't have an orgasm during normal sex

Answered by largentsgirl89 + on 20 May 2013.

Q. Ok so this is an explicit topic but I need advice on something, that's obviously why I am here. I am worried that I am loosing my sexual stamina. I am a 21 year old female and I have never had an orgasm by a mans penis. the only way I can orgasm is ...

A. 20 May 2013: Have you had your clit stimulated during sex while you are having normal intercourse? I am a squirter, but I didn't know that until my bf I have now, that i've been with for four years, and I slept together the first time. It gives me way more int... (read in full...)

Should I participate in hanky panky with a colleague while out of town?

Answered by largentsgirl89 + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: I personally haven't ever done this nor would I ever. My sister however has and she is currently in the middle of a very nasty divorce. So, I would consider if you are ready to handle the repercussions if your husband were to find out about yo... (read in full...)

Do you think Steve and I will ever have a normal relationship?

Answered by Got Issues + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: You are basically two people who should not be together. There is waaay too much drama going on. You are 26 and 31, not 15 years old. The fact that nobody knows you says it all. He is either cheating on you or keeping his options open in case he ... (read in full...)

Why is this woman being so childish?

Answered by shrodingerscat + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: Ignoring you IS her answer, because men like you find ANY attention is encouragement, even negative attention. ... (read in full...)

Would you date someone with so many tattoos? Or would you fear it would ruin your reputation?

Answered by largentsgirl89 + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: "Must have been to prison?" Really? My boyfriend has two sleeves. Meaning both of his arms are completely covered by tattoos and he is the sweetest man I have ever been with. Great with kids and loves animals and he treats me better than anyone I... (read in full...)

Do you think Steve and I will ever have a normal relationship?

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: i would just leave it now. he has probably gone of sex as you cheated and its put him of. but all your other problems as well. time for a fresh start alone i would say.... (read in full...)

Do you think Steve and I will ever have a normal relationship?

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: This relationship was doomed from the off. The thing is did you assume you were in a relationship and he saw it as just dating? If you are just dting then never ever start sleeping together. Dating means that you wont be the only woman on the go. ... (read in full...)

I'm feeling paranoid about his roving eye!

Answered by HappyPlace + on 20 May 2013.

Q. I have just met a divorced guy with a teenage son. He seems lovely and genuine. We have been going out a lot these past few months and I can't help but notice how visual he is towards attractive women. I asked him if he knew the prety barmaid last ...

A. 20 May 2013: Psychology Today article reckons men who do this are borderline sociopaths. If you've asked him to stop and he continues, then he has a contempt for you which is worse than the ogling. Hope the following article helps from psychology today:- ... (read in full...)

I feel trapped in our relationship and his porn addiction is just breaking my heart!

Answered by HappyPlace + on 20 May 2013.

Q. I would really love some advice from men and women. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years. He is my 1st true relationship I'm 27 an he is 26. We got together when we were 18. I told him from the beginning that i was not okay with porn. He always ...

A. 20 May 2013: "using porn for masturbation is completely normal" . Well, that is your opinion but not mine. Masturbation is normal, watching porn IS NOT! And no, you don't need to go check whether you have "underlying issues". Not at all. If you don't want ... (read in full...)

How do other women handle the situation when their guy will not stop ogling other women?

Answered by HappyPlace + on 20 May 2013.

Q. Posting a question about ogling here. I had this ogling issue and my now ex would tell me it was nothing, that my expectations were "too high", that I would never meet a man who didn't ogle and that I "shouldn't expect him to walk around with his...

A. 20 May 2013: I know this is an old post but I've just found some brilliant advice on "Psychology Today". According to them, ogling is NOT acceptable for the following reasons, and dare I say it, there is a suggestion that a man who ogles has sociopathic ... (read in full...)

Girlfriend keeps breaking up and then saying she regrets it. What am I supposed to do?

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

Q. i'm having a bit of a hard time lately. i've been with my girlfriend about a year now and sometimes our ups and downs really effect me. since this is anonymous, i don't feel too bad disclosing this information, seeing as how it's very pertinent. ...

A. 20 May 2013: Run, run and run away from her. She shouldnt even be dating anyone at the moment until she has worked through her problems in therapy. If you dont leave now it will end up scarring you and might resonate on all your future relationships. You cant... (read in full...)

Do you think Steve and I will ever have a normal relationship?

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: Honey, the writing is definitely on the wall. Tikebto cut your losses and leave this man. He had not 1 but 2 full blown affairs whilst supposedly dating you. Because of his antics you are now unemployed. He does not want to share his life w... (read in full...)

Guys 20 and up--what's your take on this guys action and what should I do next?

Answered by bee_autiful + on 20 May 2013.

Q. So we are both in our mid-20s and studying the same course at university. We're not friends, but we're friendly- have done a few group assignments together and sometimes talk to each other before class. I honestly have no idea how he feels about me- ...

A. 20 May 2013: Thanks for the advice so far... I don't know how to bring up the drink without seeming desperate and, all the while, still keeping it casual in case he isn't interested in me... Also I need a way to do it so I won't chicken out... How should I... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has been acting strangely since he discovered I deleted his ex-girlfriend's number from his phone

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

Q. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship now because he is from the UK and I am from North America and I have to finish university until December, then we can be together. We have been dating for about a year and a half now and have...

A. 20 May 2013: I can tell you from experience that someone went into my address book and ripped out my ex-boyfriend's number and I was angry, not because I was still in-love with him, but because of the times that I had shared with him that were good fond memories ... (read in full...)

How can I help my grandad fulfill his dreams when my family is standing in the way?

Answered by maisy1 + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: OP and Anon, i think you have both misunderstood what some of us are saying about elder people being out of touch... One of the biggest problems facing the developed world is an ever increasing population, and the fact that more and more people ... (read in full...)

How can I help my grandad fulfill his dreams when my family is standing in the way?

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: "I do wonder where some of the logic behind comments about cluelessness and age-experience come from when there's not actually as much difference as some comments portray....if it's possible for a 13 year old to be smarter than a 30 year old, why is ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has been acting strangely since he discovered I deleted his ex-girlfriend's number from his phone

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: Thanks for your insights. I know it was a terrible thing to do. The fact that I'm even posting on this site is a bad sign! But you know I think posting has helped me. One by more of an understanding of my insecurities and also of the fact that I ... (read in full...)

Should I confront my ex-bestfriend who is now sleeping with my soon to be ex-husband?

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: I'm so sorry, what a terrible friend and husband :( Don't let them kick you out of your home! Get a lawyer and file for divorce. Tell all your friends that she is a cheater and how deceptive she and your husband have been. Good luck.... (read in full...)

How can I help my grandad fulfill his dreams when my family is standing in the way?

Answered by CindyCares + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: OP, this debate is very wide , and touches many points on which it would be interesting to confront opinions, but atm I'd try to keep it simple, minimalist in fact. What I was tryng to convey also in my previous post , and probably failed to, ... (read in full...)

I can't have an orgasm during normal sex

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: I have not orgasmed with intercourse, this is very common. try masturbating and a vibrator instead, your vagina should not be stretched so much. I don't really like intercourse at all, prefer oral.... (read in full...)

My co-worker cannot take a hint!

Answered by TrancedRhythmEar + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: This guy has no game. Im laughing at him. Idiot. You are right. If I were you Id be direct to him outside of work about how offended you are. Be direct with them n stop with these hints cos men like him wont pick up on them and also he is ... (read in full...)

Would you date someone with so many tattoos? Or would you fear it would ruin your reputation?

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: No, I wouldn't date someone with a huge amount of tattoos. I don't really care for permanent tattoos and there are many health issues that have come up with them. I have no tattoos and would never get a permanent one, I don't like the idea of a ... (read in full...)

Would you date someone with so many tattoos? Or would you fear it would ruin your reputation?

Answered by llifton + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: I love tattoos and have many myself. None on my face, however. But I find others with tattoos to be extremely attractive. I also try not to make judgement calls on other people's lives. and therefore I also wouldn't worry about what useless opinions ... (read in full...)

How do you deal with the issue of bad breath tactfully, yet firmly enough that the behaviour changes without resentment or hurt feelings?

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: I would try talking to him again in a more gentle way and send him a link for thera breath/dr. katz. Some people have bad chronic bad breath, and this will not be helped no matter how much you brush/floss etc. You have to change your ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's lack of ambition is taking a toll on me

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

Q. My boyfriend says he's lost his lust for life. And I can see a serious lack of motivation and drive but because Ive only been in the picture for two years I dont know for sure if this is a recent thing or if he has always been this way. He is a ...

A. 20 May 2013: by the sounds of it he has depression, he needs medication to help him see that things are not so bad. You care and that is lovely but his so called 'friends' appear to have written him off as unreliable and lazy so he isn't getting a chance. Ther... (read in full...)

Why is this woman being so childish?

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: This is the OP. I don't think i'm a user. Yes, i didn't tell her i didn't want a relationship until after we slept together but she still carried on our casual thing until i got back with my ex so that's her problem. Why not just tell me she doesn't ... (read in full...)

How do you deal with the issue of bad breath tactfully, yet firmly enough that the behaviour changes without resentment or hurt feelings?

Answered by Intrigued3000 + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: The only time I dated a guy with bad breath, I only kissed him once, pulled away because I nearly puked, never kissed him again. When I realized the bad breath persisted during our second date, I decided not to see him again. Occassional bad ... (read in full...)

I love my boyfriend but I am so bored, what can I do to spice up my relationship?

Answered by lily13524 + on 20 May 2013.

Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 18 months and i know that's not exactly 10 years but i feel really bored. We barely go out because neither of us have that much money, our intimate time is dull and he gets all the pleasure (not selfishly, just to the ...

A. 20 May 2013: Well you do not really need to have lots of money to spice up your relationship.You can simply buy some candles and have a romantic dinner right at home with food you prepared or you two can go to a near by park and have a romantic picnic.For the ... (read in full...)

Would you date someone with so many tattoos? Or would you fear it would ruin your reputation?

Answered by shrodingerscat + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: My husband's arms are covered in tattoos. I could care less what it might do to my reputation, because it's none of anyone's business what my husband does to his own skin. If they want to judge ME for what HE does to his own body, they're the ... (read in full...)

I can't have an orgasm during normal sex

Answered by shrodingerscat + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: I'm sorry but I completely disagree with Person12345. Squirting isn't "just a party trick" and some women find that female ejaculation means better, stronger orgasms. Some women find that the only good orgasms they have are when they squirt. That ... (read in full...)

Would you date someone with so many tattoos? Or would you fear it would ruin your reputation?

Answered by Intrigued3000 + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: I work in the corporate world and I know many colleagues who have tattoos under their suits. Hell even I have a couple. I'm attracted to men with tattoos, and I would feel proud to be seen with someone who in my eyes represents rebellio... (read in full...)

Would you date someone with so many tattoos? Or would you fear it would ruin your reputation?

Answered by R1 + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: I don't think it would affect anyone's reputation. But as someone who doesn't have any tatoos I doubt I would have that much in common with anyone who was heavily tattooed!... (read in full...)

He keeps promising to marry me but seven years later...nothing

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

Q. Hi all. I've dated my boyfriend for 7 years an we've even bought a house together cause we were both tired of him renting small places. My problem is he forever promises to marry me an when the time comes he become agressive. On the past 4 months I...

A. 20 May 2013: You are wasting your youth on him. I dated my boyfriend when ai was 22 he was 25 for 6 years and we live together he always talk about marring me after 2 years and when the time comes he gets aggravated and angry when I mentioned it. I straigh... (read in full...)

I'd like to wait until Father's Day to tell my husband I'm pregnant

Answered by daletom + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: It really depends on the nature of your marriage relationship. In the great majority of cases I don't think waiting that length of time is wrong in any sense, and playing up the Fathers' Day connection even has a touch of romance. If the nature of ... (read in full...)

It was supposed to be just the two of us, and now its me, him and her!

Answered by christina provence + on 20 May 2013.

Q. Okay... So I just found out this guy I like likes me back, so I invited him to come hang around with me at the weekend but my friend tagged along too. They recently exchanged numbers and have started telling each other secrets and my friend even ...

A. 20 May 2013: Ive been in your same situation before and i was the one who got hurt heres what i would do sit down and talk to your guy f friend tell him about yals feelings and if there is a relationship in the future for yall and if so talk to your friend about ... (read in full...)

Should I participate in hanky panky with a colleague while out of town?

Answered by shrodingerscat + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: Ask your husband first. Come back and let us know how well THAT goes down. We'll wait.... (read in full...)

Is it a harmless foot fetish?

Answered by shrodingerscat + on 20 May 2013.

Q. Ok so the guy I'm dating now is the Absolute most affectionate man I've ever been with the sex is good and very Passionate and I love him to peices but there is just one thing he loves FEET he Literately loves to put my feet in his mouth all the ...

A. 20 May 2013: Foot fetishes are generally harmless, however, you need to set boundaries if the behavior makes you uncomfortable sometimes. Make sure that you have him ask before he does it, so that you can judge whether or not you're okay with it. I can imagine ... (read in full...)

I think I wasted my teenage years

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

Q. Hey guys. I'm wondering if anyone here can relate and give me some advice. I'm 19 years old and I feel like I've sort of wasted my teenage years and that I didn't really live the life of a normal teenager. I've never had a boyfriend, never really ...

A. 20 May 2013: I've been there... at 19 I too was shy and overweight with no friends, never having dated anyone. I promise, life gets better once you've been out of high school for a few years. Girls, at least the ones worth having as friends in your adult li... (read in full...)

Why is this woman being so childish?

Answered by shrodingerscat + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: So let me get this straight. You pursued your pseudo-relationship with this girl knowing that you were not interesting in anything further than sex. You got back together with your ex and withheld that knowledge from her so that you could contin... (read in full...)

I love my boyfriend but I am so bored, what can I do to spice up my relationship?

Answered by MikeEa1 + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: it sounds like you might have really wanted him because he was just out of reach and now you have him and he's not looking anywhere else its too easy. a lot of women want what they can't have. maybe you should suggest he has an affair.... (read in full...)

He keeps promising to marry me but seven years later...nothing

Answered by Caring Aunty A + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: After 7 years he acts more like a single man! He has been clever to lead you along hoping for marriage and now trapping you into buying a house together… My suggestion would be to decide whether you want to hurt now or much later as this is only ... (read in full...)

My husband is very controlling and dismissive

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

Q. Hello, I was was wondering if I could get some help here. My husband is very controlling. He refuses to listen to any ideas I have, and plans our weeks the ways he wants them. He will not see movies I want to see, or go to any social events I ...

A. 20 May 2013: You can divorce him. That's the only realistic solution, if it's happiness you are seeking. Otherwise, suck it up. ~TKSAR~... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has a one way ticket and is trying to sell all his stuff!

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2013.

Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 5 years and have for the last 6 months or so been having some issues, out of frustrationa and feeling hurt from all his bullying antics i told him i wanted him leave. We spoke about it again after and i topd ...

A. 20 May 2013: Thank you for your advice. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants to call me a different name during sex!

Answered by danisevil + on 20 May 2013.

Q. Ok so now my Long term boyfriend has asked if he could call me by another girls name during sex. Im very uncomfrotable and seriously am thinking of breaking us up. Is this normal??? And then when I told him no he went soft during sex. Lost his hard ...

A. 20 May 2013: Oh my ok. the name was christy.. I did try to breakup with him But he won't leave....he did say role play But that dont make sense to me cause role play to me would not be a real name. But something like a bad nurse a bad teacher.. u know i dont und... (read in full...)

Why is this woman being so childish?

Answered by Caring Aunty A + on 20 May 2013.

A. 20 May 2013: Why is this woman being so childish? I guess she could ask; why is he contacting me when he’s getting married? CAA ... (read in full...)

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