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Just found out that my LDR is happily married. Do I confront confron

Answered by CindyCares + on 24 January 2017.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months.. We are in a LDR, but he's very caring, sweet and romantic...keeps in touch. But one thing that continually bothers me is that he never calls me at night! Two days back, I was viewing his profile on s...

A.   24 January 2017:  I would not bother confront him. He does not deserve anything from you, not even yout anger. You cakk him disgustung, treat him like something disgusting . When you step on , pardon me, a dog shit, do you get mad at the shit , do you yell at ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend prefers to be with my brother and housemate than with me.

Answered by N91 + on 24 January 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   My boyfriend will spend more time with my Brother and Housemate then he does with me. My brother and housemate has been committing on my body appearance lately and my boyfriend doesn't say anything. I use to be extremely under weight but i'm now ...

A.   24 January 2017: You're clearly not happy and he isn't willing to talk about the situation so what other options do you have?... (read in full...)

Are my friends wrong? Is this a sugar daddy relationship? Or do I tell him how I really feel?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 24 January 2017.

Q.   I moved to a different province for school. I ended up meeting an older guy , he's 41. We decided to not focus on labels and to just have fun , we both agreed that because of our age difference changes are our relationship wouldn't probably last ...

A.   24 January 2017: I want to add that you are very young, and will be impressed and overwhelmed by the attention and gifts. Please don't allow greed to make you attached to what he offers you; rather than actually reciprocating his feelings. Don't be fake and lead him ... (read in full...)

Are my friends wrong? Is this a sugar daddy relationship? Or do I tell him how I really feel?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 24 January 2017.

Q.   I moved to a different province for school. I ended up meeting an older guy , he's 41. We decided to not focus on labels and to just have fun , we both agreed that because of our age difference changes are our relationship wouldn't probably last ...

A.   24 January 2017: If your feelings match his, I see no problem. If you find yourself getting spoiled, ask him to slow-down on the gifts and incentives; and just focus on ways to show you his actual feelings. You can spend a lot of cash on a prostitute or a ... (read in full...)

Just found out that my LDR is happily married. Do I confront confron

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 24 January 2017.

Q.   I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months.. We are in a LDR, but he's very caring, sweet and romantic...keeps in touch. But one thing that continually bothers me is that he never calls me at night! Two days back, I was viewing his profile on s...

A.   24 January 2017: Just block him and forget about it. It was only six-months, and you never met the man. If you got seriously attached, you really had very little to go on to do so. LDR's where you've never met in-person are not the same as relationships formed i... (read in full...)

Just found out that my LDR is happily married. Do I confront confron

Answered by Anonymous 123 + on 24 January 2017.

Anonymous 123 agony auntQ.   I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months.. We are in a LDR, but he's very caring, sweet and romantic...keeps in touch. But one thing that continually bothers me is that he never calls me at night! Two days back, I was viewing his profile on s...

A.   24 January 2017: Yep. Tell his wife. Have all the proof ready and don't let him have the slightest inkling that you know. When you feel you're prepared, tell his wife and block the ass out of your life completely. Remember, you're not the first person this has... (read in full...)

She has helped me a lot through some difficult times. Would it be acceptable to send her flowers as a thank you?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 24 January 2017.

Q.   I have a female friend who I have known since I was 4, she is the same age as me and although we lost contact for a number of years. We are back in contact. Whenever I had problems she always knew what to say and since being back in touch she has...

A.   24 January 2017: Valentines Day is a romantic Holiday. If you have no romantic-intention, send the flowers as soon as possible. I want to be honest with you. I think this is another subtle suggestion that you have secret attraction for the lady; and I really d... (read in full...)

Is it degrading to let a guy ejaculate on you?

Answered by fishdish + on 24 January 2017.

fishdish agony auntQ.   When I was 15, my mother sat me down and had "the talk". She is very open and liberal, so we ended up talking about everything from sex and birth control to relationships and life in general. One of the things she was adamant about was that por...

A.   24 January 2017: Don't have a problem with a sex act just because another person has a problem with a sex act. I dunno I wouldn't let anyone spit in my face, I don't know why I'd let them spit in my face with their dicks..? I can see it as an insulting sex act. I ... (read in full...)

She has helped me a lot through some difficult times. Would it be acceptable to send her flowers as a thank you?

Answered by Aunty BimBim + on 24 January 2017.

Aunty BimBim agony auntQ.   I have a female friend who I have known since I was 4, she is the same age as me and although we lost contact for a number of years. We are back in contact. Whenever I had problems she always knew what to say and since being back in touch she has...

A.   24 January 2017: What are you wanting here? If you want to say "thankyou" then send the flowers now .... If you want to say "I am romantically interested in your" then send flowers on Valentines Day, however, please be aware that if she is NOT romatica... (read in full...)

Are my friends wrong? Is this a sugar daddy relationship? Or do I tell him how I really feel?

Answered by anonymous on 24 January 2017.

Q.   I moved to a different province for school. I ended up meeting an older guy , he's 41. We decided to not focus on labels and to just have fun , we both agreed that because of our age difference changes are our relationship wouldn't probably last ...

A.   24 January 2017: You never really explain how you yourself feel....you say he's sweet, funny, etc. But do you think you live him? You are very young to have an age difference that big.maybe if you were even a few years older, that same difference would be fine, but ... (read in full...)

How can an older woman feel sexy when their partner obesesses over girls 20 years younger?

Answered by anonymous on 24 January 2017.

Q.   How does an older woman ever feel good enough or sexy enough especially when her partner is obsessed with watching women twenty years younger than her. I know the usual answer is to ' realise he is with you and if he wanted that he would have that ' ...

A.   24 January 2017: Sorry I hadn't realised I neglected to add , yes he is my husband . I often refer to him as my partner or husband interchangably as that is a common term here and yes he ogles women as well. He has done this all out marriage but over the years I ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend prefers to be with my brother and housemate than with me.

Answered by anonymous on 24 January 2017.

Q.   My boyfriend will spend more time with my Brother and Housemate then he does with me. My brother and housemate has been committing on my body appearance lately and my boyfriend doesn't say anything. I use to be extremely under weight but i'm now ...

A.   24 January 2017: Today he picked up my house mate and they we bowling and out to eat, 3 hours later they come back and my Boyfriend just gave me a side hug and left.. didn't say "hey/Hi" to me and didn't say "bye" back to me ... (read in full...)

My husband left me and I think he's now coming over to talk divorce. I don't think I can handle it

Answered by anonymous on 24 January 2017.

Q.   Okay, So a few days ago my husband left and told me he wasn't coming home again via text. I tried so hard to give him space. I did send a few texts back to him and I never got a response. - Which is fair. The reason why he left is because i had ma...

A.   24 January 2017: I want to second what female anon wrote; I was so proud of you to hear that you're angry! -You should be! I think it means you've turned a corner and that you're starting to recognise him for the abusive and controlling man that he is. So thank go... (read in full...)

Should I stop holding back? I'm scared to get hurt

Answered by anonymous on 24 January 2017.

Q.   Hey all Till now, I've had very hurtful experiences with the guys I've been involved with/liked. I always feel like I've been abandoned or left to myself. And that the other person doesn't feel any remorse in doing so. I know I'm probably wrong ...

A.   24 January 2017: He sounds as if he's a player, which means he will be skilled at behaving as if he's in love with you, treating you well etc etc and then when you start to like him and want HIM more, he will have you where he wants you. I could be wrong, but when... (read in full...)

Just found out that my LDR is happily married. Do I confront confron

Answered by anonymous on 24 January 2017.

Q.   I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months.. We are in a LDR, but he's very caring, sweet and romantic...keeps in touch. But one thing that continually bothers me is that he never calls me at night! Two days back, I was viewing his profile on s...

A.   24 January 2017: I would confront him - probably call him a two timing pig and other assorted names and then instantly block ALL modes of contact so he can never respond. :) He was a jerk and you're lucky to have found out relatively early on.... (read in full...)

Is it degrading to let a guy ejaculate on you?

Answered by anonymous on 24 January 2017.

Q.   When I was 15, my mother sat me down and had "the talk". She is very open and liberal, so we ended up talking about everything from sex and birth control to relationships and life in general. One of the things she was adamant about was that por...

A.   24 January 2017: I'm a guy and speaking for myself, I like cumming on a girl's face because I feel lust (just on the lower half otherwise her face looks gooey and messy!). Therefore when I do it, I don't mean it to be degrading at all. It is the complete opposite in ... (read in full...)

We need couples counselling but all his nit-picking is wearing me down. How should I handle this?

Answered by chigirl + on 24 January 2017.

chigirl agony auntQ.   I live with my (16 years older) boyfriend. We've been together for a few years, but we're not married yet and I'm pretty sure I know why we haven't taken that step yet. He has openly stated that he's concerned about my absent-mindedness and ...

A.   24 January 2017: Let me tell you a secret. He does not love you. He is in love with your potential, but not you. That is why he nitpicks. He is unhappy in the relationship, but stays because you are good enough, for now at least. Not good enough to marry and have ... (read in full...)

My wife left me for her ex, who found her on Facebook and now wants to come back. Should I give her a second chance ?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 January 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   My wife was contacted by an ex on Facebook who first said he only wanted to be friends, then indicated he wanted more. She showed me his messages and told me they dated in high school and college and she broke up with him twice. The first time...

A.   23 January 2017: No I don't think you should. If she loved you she would not have just moved out and in to another man's bed. What is stopping her doing it again? Honestly she just wants you back now because he has left her and she is alone. Please do not take her ... (read in full...)

How can I get him back? Or has the damage been done?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 January 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   My boyfriend broke up with me tonight and its my fault. I don't know how to fix this situation . I was with my boyfriend when 2 male friends who have a crush on me wrote me on Facebook. Ive known them since before my current relationship...

A.   23 January 2017: A lot off people who have extreme trust issues in a long term relationship is generally the one who is cheating. So it is possible that you have dodged a bullet. Yes the replies should have probably been worded different and I would understand why ... (read in full...)

Hello everybody, I need some advise ....

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 January 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hello everyone I need some Advice. I'm gay and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and we love each other sooo much! The only problem is the sex. At the beginning of our relationship my boyfriend was a virgin and I was his first....

A.   23 January 2017: Honestly you stop touching him and see what he says. He is being lazy because he is getting away with it. Am sorry but if he loved you he would satisfy you. If you are satisfying him then it is clear that he still has his sex drive. If he is not ... (read in full...)

Am I a coward with a cold heart, for the way I choose to end relationships? How should I do it?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 January 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   i,am a 50 year old female, been in a relationship for five months,he is really nice, romantic, but he isn't my type. I like big bald football type of guys, he is the cowboys type, good looking, he does all the things a woman wants in a man,so h...

A.   23 January 2017: Easier for you? Look at the damage your ex done to you now you want to do that to other men? Honestly sit him down and tell him it is not working. Please don't treat people like this, it is so hateful. ... (read in full...)

My ldr partner wants to do fun time while apart but I feel extremely unconfident doing so since he watches so much porn

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 January 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   My partner is overseas and wants me to video chat him and call him for fun time . The problem is that that he watches loads of porn and I can't help but feel self conscious that I could never be as sexy or anywhere near as good at exciting him as ...

A.   23 January 2017: If he makes you feel insecure and losing your confidence then why be with him? Do you meet up much? It is very hard having a relationship with someone over seas, are you both planning on moving to a location together?... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and his ex are now talking every day and I am not comfortable with it

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 January 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hi there. Well something is bothering me and I don't know if it's ok for me to be upset or not. About a week ago, my boyfriends ex girlfriends grandmother died. Her and him haven't really spoken for the last year or so. But she called him to let him ...

A.   23 January 2017: Honestly this doesn't look like it is going to end well. If he knows that this is upsetting you then that should be enough for him to cut contact. But it seems like he is not willing to do that. I think the death off her grandmother brought back old ... (read in full...)

I really want things to work with this man but am unsure how to do so

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 January 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hi all, I'm looking for some advice... I've been in a relationship for 3 months. When we first started dating I told him some things about my past I shouldn't have. It didn't seem to bother him then but it's a huge deal now. On top of that I have 2 ...

A.   23 January 2017: He sounds like he is insecure. Maybe you need to just reassure him that your ex is an ex for a reason. Pay him some more compliments ect. You also need to know that he may be saying these things to distance himself from you as he may feel it is not ... (read in full...)

Christmas gift gone wrong

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 January 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   For Christmas this year, my BF got me a weekend at a winery with tour, tasting, and live music. We were so excited to get away for the weekend. I was almost in tears over such a thoughtful gift. It was our first Christmas together and the 1st ...

A.   23 January 2017: He is mourning and he is also unemployed so I think wanting him to make it up to you is incredibly selfish off you. Yes you are disappointed but his grandfather has just died. So be there for him. Also maybe you could book a weekend away for both ... (read in full...)

Is it degrading to let a guy ejaculate on you?

Answered by Fatherly Advice + on 23 January 2017.

Fatherly Advice agony auntQ.   When I was 15, my mother sat me down and had "the talk". She is very open and liberal, so we ended up talking about everything from sex and birth control to relationships and life in general. One of the things she was adamant about was that por...

A.   23 January 2017: That is a very well written question and it seems you have thought this out very well. An act is degrading or not, not based on what exactly is done but by the emotions surrounding it. If he does it to "mark his territory" that's a bit risky, ... (read in full...)

She has helped me a lot through some difficult times. Would it be acceptable to send her flowers as a thank you?

Answered by Fatherly Advice + on 23 January 2017.

Fatherly Advice agony auntQ.   I have a female friend who I have known since I was 4, she is the same age as me and although we lost contact for a number of years. We are back in contact. Whenever I had problems she always knew what to say and since being back in touch she has...

A.   23 January 2017: Sending flowers on Valentines day says, "I'm romantically interested in you." That is how she will see in no matter your intention. If you want to say "thank you for being a great friend, and being there for me. Send a thank you card and get ... (read in full...)

Is it degrading to let a guy ejaculate on you?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 23 January 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   When I was 15, my mother sat me down and had "the talk". She is very open and liberal, so we ended up talking about everything from sex and birth control to relationships and life in general. One of the things she was adamant about was that por...

A.   23 January 2017: Porn tends to be degrading, yes. Ejaculating on someone's face can be degrading, but if you're okay with it, then that's fine and it's not degrading for you (at least not at the moment). It may or may not change - either is okay. With that sai... (read in full...)

Just found out that my LDR is happily married. Do I confront confron

Answered by anonymous on 23 January 2017.

Q.   I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months.. We are in a LDR, but he's very caring, sweet and romantic...keeps in touch. But one thing that continually bothers me is that he never calls me at night! Two days back, I was viewing his profile on s...

A.   23 January 2017: I agree with the others. Oh, except for one thing. TELL HIS WIFE. And then BLOCK HIM and remove him from your life. HAPPILY MARRIED? MY ASS!!!... (read in full...)

Are my friends wrong? Is this a sugar daddy relationship? Or do I tell him how I really feel?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 23 January 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   I moved to a different province for school. I ended up meeting an older guy , he's 41. We decided to not focus on labels and to just have fun , we both agreed that because of our age difference changes are our relationship wouldn't probably last ...

A.   23 January 2017: To a degree, age doesn't matter - but this is a time when it does, as he's buying your affections (whether intentional or not) and he shouldn't see someone your age as dateable. It does seem like a sugar daddy situation, even if it's not delibera... (read in full...)

Are my friends wrong? Is this a sugar daddy relationship? Or do I tell him how I really feel?

Answered by AskCatherine + on 23 January 2017.

Q.   I moved to a different province for school. I ended up meeting an older guy , he's 41. We decided to not focus on labels and to just have fun , we both agreed that because of our age difference changes are our relationship wouldn't probably last ...

A.   23 January 2017: When reading your question, the only advice which i can think of. Is, do what makes you happy, think about how you feel. Your friend may just be looking out for you, so dont take it too badly, but why dont you focus on your own well being for now ... (read in full...)

She has helped me a lot through some difficult times. Would it be acceptable to send her flowers as a thank you?

Answered by AskCatherine + on 23 January 2017.

Q.   I have a female friend who I have known since I was 4, she is the same age as me and although we lost contact for a number of years. We are back in contact. Whenever I had problems she always knew what to say and since being back in touch she has...

A.   23 January 2017: I hope everything is getting a little bit better for you and im glad she has been there for you through the hard times. The flowers though, what message are you trying to give? Are you just offering a thank you? Or are you trying to show you may ... (read in full...)

My son punched a guest, when guest videoed him and girlfriend having sex.

Answered by chigirl + on 23 January 2017.

chigirl agony auntQ.   My son is 19 he has been dating his girlfriend since he was 16 and she was 15. We have a pretty open relationship with them. Over the weekend they went out to a party with their friends and at our house my husband and I threw a surprise party for ...

A.   23 January 2017: Be proud of your son for giving those old perverts what they deserve. And dont invite those people over again who enjoy filming young people having sex. Its not legal to spy and video people like that, and it could very easily have been put online ... (read in full...)

Is it degrading to let a guy ejaculate on you?

Answered by Honeypie + on 23 January 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   When I was 15, my mother sat me down and had "the talk". She is very open and liberal, so we ended up talking about everything from sex and birth control to relationships and life in general. One of the things she was adamant about was that por...

A.   23 January 2017: If YOU enjoy it, it's NOT degrading. If you don't, you tell him no. ... (read in full...)

Is it degrading to let a guy ejaculate on you?

Answered by chigirl + on 23 January 2017.

chigirl agony auntQ.   When I was 15, my mother sat me down and had "the talk". She is very open and liberal, so we ended up talking about everything from sex and birth control to relationships and life in general. One of the things she was adamant about was that por...

A.   23 January 2017: You are normal. Its not degrading. Just because your mother might feel a certain way, doesnt mean you need to. If you feel its al right and you enjoy it, then that is fine. What goes on in the bedroom is between you and him, not you and your mother.... (read in full...)

Just found out that my LDR is happily married. Do I confront confron

Answered by Honeypie + on 23 January 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months.. We are in a LDR, but he's very caring, sweet and romantic...keeps in touch. But one thing that continually bothers me is that he never calls me at night! Two days back, I was viewing his profile on s...

A.   23 January 2017: I would NOT give him the satisfaction of knowing how much he has hurt you. I would BLOCK him, Remove him from ALL social media, and block/delete his phone number. If he finds a way to contact you, THEN I'd tell him that he is a disgusting cheating... (read in full...)

She has helped me a lot through some difficult times. Would it be acceptable to send her flowers as a thank you?

Answered by RubyBirtle + on 23 January 2017.

Q.   I have a female friend who I have known since I was 4, she is the same age as me and although we lost contact for a number of years. We are back in contact. Whenever I had problems she always knew what to say and since being back in touch she has...

A.   23 January 2017: I totally agree with HoneyPie - decide whether this is a romantic gesture or a genuine thank-you before you send anything. The two don't really combine well.... (read in full...)

How can an older woman feel sexy when their partner obesesses over girls 20 years younger?

Answered by anonymous on 23 January 2017.

Q.   How does an older woman ever feel good enough or sexy enough especially when her partner is obsessed with watching women twenty years younger than her. I know the usual answer is to ' realise he is with you and if he wanted that he would have that ' ...

A.   23 January 2017: Thanks everyone , amazing advice here . Yes I have spoken to him and he says stop being silly and he loves me . Tells me all men look at those babes and I'm being ridiculous . A special thanks to female anon who , you gave me so much pers... (read in full...)

She has helped me a lot through some difficult times. Would it be acceptable to send her flowers as a thank you?

Answered by Honeypie + on 23 January 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I have a female friend who I have known since I was 4, she is the same age as me and although we lost contact for a number of years. We are back in contact. Whenever I had problems she always knew what to say and since being back in touch she has...

A.   23 January 2017: Either you want to send flowers as a Thank You or.... as a romantic gesture for Valentine's Day. So decide which it is and go for it. But don't "combine" the two things. Saying thank you with flowers is NOT necessarily a romantic gesture, and send... (read in full...)

Is it degrading to let a guy ejaculate on you?

Answered by RubyBirtle + on 23 January 2017.

Q.   When I was 15, my mother sat me down and had "the talk". She is very open and liberal, so we ended up talking about everything from sex and birth control to relationships and life in general. One of the things she was adamant about was that por...

A.   23 January 2017: If you like it and you don't feel degraded by it, I can't see that it's a problem either. What two consenting adults enjoy together behind closed doors is their own business. ... (read in full...)

Is it degrading to let a guy ejaculate on you?

Answered by anonymous on 23 January 2017.

Q.   When I was 15, my mother sat me down and had "the talk". She is very open and liberal, so we ended up talking about everything from sex and birth control to relationships and life in general. One of the things she was adamant about was that por...

A.   23 January 2017: If your ok with it then it's fine , as long as you're not being forced then it's up to you ... (read in full...)

Is it degrading to let a guy ejaculate on you?

Answered by N91 + on 23 January 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   When I was 15, my mother sat me down and had "the talk". She is very open and liberal, so we ended up talking about everything from sex and birth control to relationships and life in general. One of the things she was adamant about was that por...

A.   23 January 2017: it's how YOU feel about it, not how anybody else tells you to feel about it. If you like it, then what's the problem?... (read in full...)

When should I tell this guy about my health problems?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 23 January 2017.

Q.   I've got a couple of health conditions that impact day to day life, one with my breathing and one to do nerve damage causing a lot of pain. I've started seeing a new guy and don't know when I should bring these things up in conversation, like should ...

A.   23 January 2017: If your medical issues require an epipen, you are diabetic on insulin, or asthmatic; or any medical disorder that requires an immediate injection or dosage of medication; he should be told as soon as possible. In the event of a sudden attack or ... (read in full...)

My son punched a guest, when guest videoed him and girlfriend having sex.

Answered by anonymous on 23 January 2017.

Q.   My son is 19 he has been dating his girlfriend since he was 16 and she was 15. We have a pretty open relationship with them. Over the weekend they went out to a party with their friends and at our house my husband and I threw a surprise party for ...

A.   23 January 2017: @olderthandirt, how is a young man protecting his girlfriends image a feeling of entitlement ? If anything this young man knows to stand up for a women , her privacy and her name! This young man knows you don't video tape a private moment between ... (read in full...)

Is it degrading to let a guy ejaculate on you?

Answered by singinbluebird + on 23 January 2017.

singinbluebird agony auntQ.   When I was 15, my mother sat me down and had "the talk". She is very open and liberal, so we ended up talking about everything from sex and birth control to relationships and life in general. One of the things she was adamant about was that por...

A.   23 January 2017: Its really not that complicated. You like what you like, so who cares what other people think? Your mom prob feels differently but shes not you. Just keep your sex life to you and your lover and youre fine. What happens in the bedroom stays in the ... (read in full...)

Just found out that my LDR is happily married. Do I confront confron

Answered by N91 + on 23 January 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months.. We are in a LDR, but he's very caring, sweet and romantic...keeps in touch. But one thing that continually bothers me is that he never calls me at night! Two days back, I was viewing his profile on s...

A.   23 January 2017: Block him and move on with your life. I wouldn't even waste my time speaking to him about it, who knows how many other girls he could have in this same situation and even if you confront him he's still married, he's not going to leave his wife for... (read in full...)

She has helped me a lot through some difficult times. Would it be acceptable to send her flowers as a thank you?

Answered by singinbluebird + on 23 January 2017.

singinbluebird agony auntQ.   I have a female friend who I have known since I was 4, she is the same age as me and although we lost contact for a number of years. We are back in contact. Whenever I had problems she always knew what to say and since being back in touch she has...

A.   23 January 2017: It sounds like youre interested in her. Just ask her out! Sending flowers is already very romantic and she will assume you like her already. So instead of being so subtle, just ask her out. Her response will let you know how she feels for you. If ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend prefers to be with my brother and housemate than with me.

Answered by N91 + on 23 January 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   My boyfriend will spend more time with my Brother and Housemate then he does with me. My brother and housemate has been committing on my body appearance lately and my boyfriend doesn't say anything. I use to be extremely under weight but i'm now ...

A.   23 January 2017: I agree with the others. I think it may be time to give him his marching orders.... (read in full...)

I met a nice man but don't connect or feel physically attracted. Do I end things or settle?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 January 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hello need your help. I am a 53 year old single mother. I have been single for 17 years and started dating 7 years ago. Was busy going to school, taking care of ailing parents and raising my kids. Have had two serious 6 month relationships and one 3 ...

A.   23 January 2017: No never just settle, it is not fair to either off you. If you are already struggling to find things to talk about then its not a good sign. I would just be honest with him.... (read in full...)

My friend won't say if he is gay or bi should I ask if I can give him a bj?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 January 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I've never done it before but I would like to have sex with this guy I know, I think he is bi,but I can't be sure, I stop by his house every one in a while,I never known him to be with a woman since we have been friends five or six years,he spends a ...

A.   23 January 2017: Honestly? It sounds like an awful idea. Are you prepared to lose the friendship?... (read in full...)

Am I too selfish to love anyone? Where or how do I begin to determine what needs to be fixed within me?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 January 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I'm in a place now where my mentality is adversely affecting my ability to attract a mate. I'll start off by saying as of now, I see women as sex itself. For the most part, I don't care about their dreams, goals, past, family, etc. When I'm aroun...

A.   23 January 2017: Have you ever thought about going to counselling? You are very hard on yourself as you are still very young, but I would suggest trying to give up the porn for a start it is not helping you. ... (read in full...)

I'm terrified of getting my blood work done and it's crippling me emotionally. I can't function anymore!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 23 January 2017.

Q.   I really need help. I don't know how I am ever going to do this? I do blood work every year as part of an annual physical. It has been awhile since I've done it. I have been putting it off since last August because I am deathly afraid there is ...

A.   23 January 2017: As a former medical healthcare professional, I can tell you that your anxiety about blood-work and the outcome of test results is pretty common. We all, including the people running your tests, have a fear of anything being found; or positive test ... (read in full...)

I'm terrified of getting my blood work done and it's crippling me emotionally. I can't function anymore!

Answered by Honeypie + on 23 January 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I really need help. I don't know how I am ever going to do this? I do blood work every year as part of an annual physical. It has been awhile since I've done it. I have been putting it off since last August because I am deathly afraid there is ...

A.   23 January 2017: I agree with Tisha, Get some therapy on top of doing the annual visit. I'm due for a mammogram, pelvic exam, and swabs, flu and pneumonia shots, blood tests etc. - tomorrow and I have a HUGE fear of not only germs but doctor's offices and wait... (read in full...)

My son punched a guest, when guest videoed him and girlfriend having sex.

Answered by olderthandirt + on 23 January 2017.

olderthandirt agony auntQ.   My son is 19 he has been dating his girlfriend since he was 16 and she was 15. We have a pretty open relationship with them. Over the weekend they went out to a party with their friends and at our house my husband and I threw a surprise party for ...

A.   23 January 2017: The youth of this generation has a feeling of entitlement and they truly do not understand the need to respect anyone else... (read in full...)

My boyfriend prefers to be with my brother and housemate than with me.

Answered by BrownWolf + on 23 January 2017.

BrownWolf agony auntQ.   My boyfriend will spend more time with my Brother and Housemate then he does with me. My brother and housemate has been committing on my body appearance lately and my boyfriend doesn't say anything. I use to be extremely under weight but i'm now ...

A.   23 January 2017:  What's the problem?? He has just told you what he wants in his life right now...guy friends, not a girlfriend. You want a boyfriend...he is not sitting around with your brothers. He is out there waiting for you to come find him. The longer ... (read in full...)

How can an older woman feel sexy when their partner obesesses over girls 20 years younger?

Answered by BrownWolf + on 23 January 2017.

BrownWolf agony auntQ.   How does an older woman ever feel good enough or sexy enough especially when her partner is obsessed with watching women twenty years younger than her. I know the usual answer is to ' realise he is with you and if he wanted that he would have that ' ...

A.   23 January 2017:  Let me explain your two biggest mistakes that I see... First.. "How does an older woman ever feel good enough or sexy enough" If your partner does make you feel good enough...Why oh why, are you still with him?? Second... "when... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's parents are strict and I'm not sure what to do anymore

Answered by BrownWolf + on 23 January 2017.

BrownWolf agony auntQ.   Hi everyone, I'm kind of new to this so I apologize if this is a bit unorganized. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half and besides the ups and downs we are very much in love with each other and even plan to have a f...

A.   23 January 2017:  My son is 21, daughter is 20...And no way in hell are either one of them spending the night with their boyfriend or girlfriend, unless they are married. I am not being strict...I am be a responsible parent. I have not explanation for the pare... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's parents are strict and I'm not sure what to do anymore

Answered by celtic_tiger + on 23 January 2017.

celtic_tiger agony auntQ.   Hi everyone, I'm kind of new to this so I apologize if this is a bit unorganized. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half and besides the ups and downs we are very much in love with each other and even plan to have a f...

A.   23 January 2017: This is about his culture and religion, not about strict parenting. As the others have said, it all stems from their traditional ideas, which are VERY VERY different to western ideals. The majority (not all) of muslim or arab immigrants do not w... (read in full...)

How can an older woman feel sexy when their partner obesesses over girls 20 years younger?

Answered by anonymous on 23 January 2017.

Q.   How does an older woman ever feel good enough or sexy enough especially when her partner is obsessed with watching women twenty years younger than her. I know the usual answer is to ' realise he is with you and if he wanted that he would have that ' ...

A.   23 January 2017: Hun it does not sound silly. It sucks, it really does. This is the sad sad reality that most women will have to face is that their man is attracted to something they don't have, be that physical features, haircolor, thinness, and yes, youth. Thing ... (read in full...)

I'm terrified of getting my blood work done and it's crippling me emotionally. I can't function anymore!

Answered by N91 + on 23 January 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   I really need help. I don't know how I am ever going to do this? I do blood work every year as part of an annual physical. It has been awhile since I've done it. I have been putting it off since last August because I am deathly afraid there is ...

A.   23 January 2017: So instead of getting checked as soon as possible you're putting it off and just hoping there's not a problem there? Say there is a problem and you're putting it off repeatedly, you're wasting valuable time that you could be getting treated.... (read in full...)

I'm terrified of getting my blood work done and it's crippling me emotionally. I can't function anymore!

Answered by BrownWolf + on 23 January 2017.

BrownWolf agony auntQ.   I really need help. I don't know how I am ever going to do this? I do blood work every year as part of an annual physical. It has been awhile since I've done it. I have been putting it off since last August because I am deathly afraid there is ...

A.   23 January 2017:  Question...isn't getting the test done, and have a good result gives you a peace of mind?? Even if they found something, and it can be treated...also a peace of mind. Your fear should be based on waiting so long, that something does develop, and... (read in full...)

How can an older woman feel sexy when their partner obesesses over girls 20 years younger?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 23 January 2017.

Q.   How does an older woman ever feel good enough or sexy enough especially when her partner is obsessed with watching women twenty years younger than her. I know the usual answer is to ' realise he is with you and if he wanted that he would have that ' ...

A.   23 January 2017: This question comes up countless times; and there is no real response to it. Men are visual-creatures, and part of sexual-attraction and arousal comes from what we see. It was passed down from primitive man to be attracted to the young attractive ... (read in full...)

I'm terrified of getting my blood work done and it's crippling me emotionally. I can't function anymore!

Answered by Tisha-1 + on 23 January 2017.

Tisha-1 agony auntQ.   I really need help. I don't know how I am ever going to do this? I do blood work every year as part of an annual physical. It has been awhile since I've done it. I have been putting it off since last August because I am deathly afraid there is ...

A.   23 January 2017: Yes! A medical health professional with an emphasis on mental health should be consulted as soon as possible! You've used words that indicate you need really qualified help. You've reached out to a forum of amateur agony aunts -- now make the next... (read in full...)

When should I tell this guy about my health problems?

Answered by N91 + on 23 January 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   I've got a couple of health conditions that impact day to day life, one with my breathing and one to do nerve damage causing a lot of pain. I've started seeing a new guy and don't know when I should bring these things up in conversation, like should ...

A.   23 January 2017: It's nothing to be embarrassed about but I think if you feel like you have to tell him it would be a good idea to mention it sooner rather than later. That way if for whatever reason he doesn't want to continue seeing you because of it you've n... (read in full...)

When should I tell this guy about my health problems?

Answered by N91 + on 23 January 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   I've got a couple of health conditions that impact day to day life, one with my breathing and one to do nerve damage causing a lot of pain. I've started seeing a new guy and don't know when I should bring these things up in conversation, like should ...

A.   23 January 2017: It's nothing to be embarrassed about but I think if you feel like you have to tell him it would be a good idea to mention it sooner rather than later. That way if for whatever reason he doesn't want to continue seeing you because of it you've n... (read in full...)

How can an older woman feel sexy when their partner obesesses over girls 20 years younger?

Answered by olderthandirt + on 23 January 2017.

olderthandirt agony auntQ.   How does an older woman ever feel good enough or sexy enough especially when her partner is obsessed with watching women twenty years younger than her. I know the usual answer is to ' realise he is with you and if he wanted that he would have that ' ...

A.   23 January 2017: AS an older man I can tell you straight up that younger women and bigger breasts(both) are HIGLY overrated! The gal I married still has the best in bed moves and body. I think are just wired to think younger is better(because of the whole ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's parents are strict and I'm not sure what to do anymore

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 23 January 2017.

Q.   Hi everyone, I'm kind of new to this so I apologize if this is a bit unorganized. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half and besides the ups and downs we are very much in love with each other and even plan to have a f...

A.   23 January 2017: I have Middle-eastern friends who are also Muslim, and I have a Persian brother-in-law. I had to ask a lot of questions. Americans do tend to disrespect other cultures; because they are different. I've learned much about their traditio... (read in full...)

I like this guy I'm dating, but the sex is nice but not amazing. How do I discuss this with him?

Answered by singinbluebird + on 23 January 2017.

singinbluebird agony auntQ.   I have just started dating a truly lovely guy, he is adorable and I really enjoy spending time with him. The problem is, things aren't totally electric in the bedroom. I'm quite a sexual person and chemistry and sexual connection is really important ...

A.   23 January 2017: If you enjoy him out of the bedroom too, he is worth giving a few second chances. Sometimes men are clueless in bed, so speak up and def flirt and tell him how you like things. If he is going soft, maybe he is a bit nervous. Just continue to let him ... (read in full...)

Everything was great .... except the sex!

Answered by olderthandirt + on 23 January 2017.

olderthandirt agony auntQ.   Hi. I am seeing someone and we get on so well. Everything is great. But we had sex for the first time and he treated me like a one night stand. He was just concerned about having an orgasm. He has never been in a relationship before. I know the ...

A.   23 January 2017: Assuming he is very inexperienced with sex...he probably hasn't yet learned that pleasing your partner fist is the ultimate sex. He will eventually learn to "hold back" and delay his own orgasm until you've experienced yours or try to "time it" ... (read in full...)

How can an older woman feel sexy when their partner obesesses over girls 20 years younger?

Answered by Honeypie + on 23 January 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   How does an older woman ever feel good enough or sexy enough especially when her partner is obsessed with watching women twenty years younger than her. I know the usual answer is to ' realise he is with you and if he wanted that he would have that ' ...

A.   23 January 2017: I am also curious WHEN this "obsession" with younger women happens. And sorry, OP I don't agree that " I have to realize he is with you and if he wanted that he would have that". NO ONE would want to be with a man who makes them feel LESS t... (read in full...)

My boyfriend prefers to be with my brother and housemate than with me.

Answered by eyeswideopen + on 23 January 2017.

eyeswideopen agony auntQ.   My boyfriend will spend more time with my Brother and Housemate then he does with me. My brother and housemate has been committing on my body appearance lately and my boyfriend doesn't say anything. I use to be extremely under weight but i'm now ...

A.   23 January 2017: Maybe it is time to trade up Honey. Holed up in a room is no life especially at your age. You should be out meeting people and making memories. If you aren't having fun and enjoying life then it's time to change.... (read in full...)

How can an older woman feel sexy when their partner obesesses over girls 20 years younger?

Answered by eyeswideopen + on 23 January 2017.

eyeswideopen agony auntQ.   How does an older woman ever feel good enough or sexy enough especially when her partner is obsessed with watching women twenty years younger than her. I know the usual answer is to ' realise he is with you and if he wanted that he would have that ' ...

A.   23 January 2017:  Does he look at porn or is he an ogler when you two are out and about or is it both?... (read in full...)

How can an older woman feel sexy when their partner obesesses over girls 20 years younger?

Answered by singinbluebird + on 23 January 2017.

singinbluebird agony auntQ.   How does an older woman ever feel good enough or sexy enough especially when her partner is obsessed with watching women twenty years younger than her. I know the usual answer is to ' realise he is with you and if he wanted that he would have that ' ...

A.   23 January 2017: He's an absolute sleazebag. Many older men are married to women around the same age and they are extremely happy and still VERY attracted to these women. You can see it in the way they look at her, open door for her, or treat her. So your partner is ... (read in full...)

My son punched a guest, when guest videoed him and girlfriend having sex.

Answered by JustAMom + on 23 January 2017.

Q.   My son is 19 he has been dating his girlfriend since he was 16 and she was 15. We have a pretty open relationship with them. Over the weekend they went out to a party with their friends and at our house my husband and I threw a surprise party for ...

A.   23 January 2017: I talked with my husband , my sons and his girl friend and they don't want to go any further with this. They are happy the videos were deleted and I honestly don't think or friend meant anything by it. My son and this friend have a great ... (read in full...)

My son punched a guest, when guest videoed him and girlfriend having sex.

Answered by Ciar + on 23 January 2017.

Ciar agony auntQ.   My son is 19 he has been dating his girlfriend since he was 16 and she was 15. We have a pretty open relationship with them. Over the weekend they went out to a party with their friends and at our house my husband and I threw a surprise party for ...

A.   23 January 2017: Not that you appear to need it, but I'm going to add my opinion that your son was absolutely in the right here. What's more, I would cut these men and the spineless women who support them out of my life. They clearly can't be trusted so they wou... (read in full...)

Hello everybody, I need some advise ....

Answered by anonymous on 23 January 2017.

Q.   Hello everyone I need some Advice. I'm gay and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and we love each other sooo much! The only problem is the sex. At the beginning of our relationship my boyfriend was a virgin and I was his first....

A.   23 January 2017: Sorry you are going through this. You sound like a good guy. Your boyfriend is being totally selfish and unfeeling towards you. To be honest, he isn't really a true boyfriend. Yes, he needs to reciprocate. And yes, as a partner, it is his job... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's parents are strict and I'm not sure what to do anymore

Answered by Xearo + on 23 January 2017.

Q.   Hi everyone, I'm kind of new to this so I apologize if this is a bit unorganized. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half and besides the ups and downs we are very much in love with each other and even plan to have a f...

A.   23 January 2017: This is indeed a cultural thing as the other Aunts have mentioned. I will add based on what you wrote, your boyfriend will not go against his parents, else it would have happened already. If you chose to be in this relationship then this is how i... (read in full...)

I love my partner but we've been having sexual issues and I'm starting to develop feelings for a colleague

Answered by anonymous on 23 January 2017.

Q.   Hi all, I am having a bit of a problem at the moment. I have been with my partner for just over 5 years and we have been extremely happy. We are best friends and have been since the start. Very recently I have started developing feelings for ...

A.   23 January 2017: You are looking for an escape from your current partner and current problems with somebody new. It is easy to get caught up in the fantasy and run with it when you are experiencing problems. We live in a world where everything is disposable. Can be ... (read in full...)

How can an older woman feel sexy when their partner obesesses over girls 20 years younger?

Answered by anonymous on 23 January 2017.

Q.   How does an older woman ever feel good enough or sexy enough especially when her partner is obsessed with watching women twenty years younger than her. I know the usual answer is to ' realise he is with you and if he wanted that he would have that ' ...

A.   23 January 2017: Awww, I am sorry you feel so bad. That is not a good spot to be in. And I think that many women can relate to you. There are some women who are young who feel ugly or awkward. There are some women who are drop dead beautiful who feel they are unat... (read in full...)

How can an older woman feel sexy when their partner obesesses over girls 20 years younger?

Answered by mystiquek + on 23 January 2017.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   How does an older woman ever feel good enough or sexy enough especially when her partner is obsessed with watching women twenty years younger than her. I know the usual answer is to ' realise he is with you and if he wanted that he would have that ' ...

A.   23 January 2017: A partner/mate is a person that should make you happy, make you feel good about yourself and be someone that you can trust and share good times and bad times together. If this man isn't making you happy, then why stay with him? Life is too short. We ... (read in full...)

I really want things to work with this man but am unsure how to do so

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 23 January 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Hi all, I'm looking for some advice... I've been in a relationship for 3 months. When we first started dating I told him some things about my past I shouldn't have. It didn't seem to bother him then but it's a huge deal now. On top of that I have 2 ...

A.   23 January 2017: That's his toxic masculinity view that he needs to get over - being a good provider isn't about being rich and you should be able to provide for yourself, especially as you've only been together for three months. I think the two of you are rush... (read in full...)

My boyfriend prefers to be with my brother and housemate than with me.

Answered by anonymous on 23 January 2017.

Q.   My boyfriend will spend more time with my Brother and Housemate then he does with me. My brother and housemate has been committing on my body appearance lately and my boyfriend doesn't say anything. I use to be extremely under weight but i'm now ...

A.   23 January 2017: Iv tried talking to him about it and he didn't say anything, Now when he comes over for a quick stop by he just hang out with my brother and housemate, he doesn't talk of check up on my anymore.... (read in full...)

I feel inadequate!

Answered by marianox + on 23 January 2017.

Q.   Here I am..again. Now trying to stop loving my wife. During the last 6 months 3 of her former FWB have written e-mails to her remembering their pleasure moments...I found out reading those e-mails (not spying , given we both have open access t...

A.   23 January 2017: Thanks for your opinions. Her ex lovers continue trying to contact her because she was just a FEB...that's mean...a easy slutty for them. I know, women think differently but that's truth. I don't know how to feel myself comfortable with the idea... (read in full...)

My boyfriend prefers to be with my brother and housemate than with me.

Answered by N91 + on 23 January 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   My boyfriend will spend more time with my Brother and Housemate then he does with me. My brother and housemate has been committing on my body appearance lately and my boyfriend doesn't say anything. I use to be extremely under weight but i'm now ...

A.   23 January 2017: Have you raised the issue with him? If you don't tell him you're not happy then how is he going to know?... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's parents are strict and I'm not sure what to do anymore

Answered by anonymous on 23 January 2017.

Q.   Hi everyone, I'm kind of new to this so I apologize if this is a bit unorganized. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half and besides the ups and downs we are very much in love with each other and even plan to have a f...

A.   23 January 2017: Honeypie and anone 123 have explained the culture perfectly.sex before marriage is absolutely forbidden and the female is expected to maintain her virginity till she is wed,traditionally most marriages are arranged by the family and the bride is ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's parents are strict and I'm not sure what to do anymore

Answered by CindyCares + on 23 January 2017.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   Hi everyone, I'm kind of new to this so I apologize if this is a bit unorganized. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half and besides the ups and downs we are very much in love with each other and even plan to have a f...

A.   23 January 2017:  Honeypie just stole my line :) If your bf is of Arab descent, then most probably his family is Muslim and he is Muslim too. It sounds likr you are not too familiar with his culture and religion , otherwise you would not be so puzzled.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's parents are strict and I'm not sure what to do anymore

Answered by JustAMom + on 23 January 2017.

Q.   Hi everyone, I'm kind of new to this so I apologize if this is a bit unorganized. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half and besides the ups and downs we are very much in love with each other and even plan to have a f...

A.   23 January 2017: No to families parent alike. Unfortunately with his culture dating and sex before marriage is a major no no, which his parents can force in their home. Outside of their home they can't force you to stay away BUT I think their son wants to obey their ... (read in full...)

Is he not telling the truth in an effort to not hurt me? I'd rather he tell me the truth.

Answered by anonymous on 23 January 2017.

Q.   In 2013 my partner and me split up, he met someone else become engaged and ended up having a little girl with his new gf, which is completely understandable. I only found out due to my friend seeing them both out and about, with her other chil...

A.   23 January 2017: Either he is lying or your friend was mistaken. My friends and family have children whom I've been with while with my wife, a friend from the past could easily assume one of the kids was ours!... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's parents are strict and I'm not sure what to do anymore

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 23 January 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Hi everyone, I'm kind of new to this so I apologize if this is a bit unorganized. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half and besides the ups and downs we are very much in love with each other and even plan to have a f...

A.   23 January 2017: I disagree with N91 as it's a cultural thing, not just being strict. They can't stop you, but this is their lifestyle and if you disrespect it by going against those rules, it will stick for the rest of your relationship, even if you eventually get ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's parents are strict and I'm not sure what to do anymore

Answered by anonymous on 23 January 2017.

Q.   Hi everyone, I'm kind of new to this so I apologize if this is a bit unorganized. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half and besides the ups and downs we are very much in love with each other and even plan to have a f...

A.   23 January 2017: If you're finding it tough to cope right now, I'd imagine that it'd be much harder once you two actually get married. I'm all for intercultural relationships but both parties have to be open to the other - and this includes families. Maybe you ought ... (read in full...)

How can an older woman feel sexy when their partner obesesses over girls 20 years younger?

Answered by anonymous on 23 January 2017.

Q.   How does an older woman ever feel good enough or sexy enough especially when her partner is obsessed with watching women twenty years younger than her. I know the usual answer is to ' realise he is with you and if he wanted that he would have that ' ...

A.   23 January 2017: How long have you been with him? Have you spoken to him about your concerns? What has he done to allay your fears? If his actions don't match his words then there's no need for you to dump your self esteem any lower. ... (read in full...)

We need couples counselling but all his nit-picking is wearing me down. How should I handle this?

Answered by Honeypie + on 23 January 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I live with my (16 years older) boyfriend. We've been together for a few years, but we're not married yet and I'm pretty sure I know why we haven't taken that step yet. He has openly stated that he's concerned about my absent-mindedness and ...

A.   23 January 2017: I agree with WiseOlwE You the are NOT a great match. And I don't think counseling will change anything. I think IF you two get married? He will be even more "nagging" than he is now. Sorry. He can't "train" you and you can't "train... (read in full...)

This bothers me a lot. What can I do? Married nearly 15 years and now my wife is no longer interested in Bjs.

Answered by anonymous on 23 January 2017.

Q.   Been married for nearly 15 years. My wife has basically decided that she will no longer perform oral sex on me. It's not like I was getting once a week, in fact once every two years is more like the current rate. When we first married, it was some...

A.   23 January 2017: OP here Thanks for the responses and advice. Those of you that say I should get over it, I would love to- but it's not that simple. As a 'modern' man, and very shy, I grew up believing that sex between a married couple in a long term relationshi... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's parents are strict and I'm not sure what to do anymore

Answered by Anonymous 123 + on 23 January 2017.

Anonymous 123 agony auntQ.   Hi everyone, I'm kind of new to this so I apologize if this is a bit unorganized. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half and besides the ups and downs we are very much in love with each other and even plan to have a f...

A.   23 January 2017: Your boyfriend's family is a certain way and they've made themselves clear. It's unacceptable in their culture for unmarried people to be quite as close as you two are or to go on holidays together. You have two choices. You can either point-bl... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's parents are strict and I'm not sure what to do anymore

Answered by Honeypie + on 23 January 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi everyone, I'm kind of new to this so I apologize if this is a bit unorganized. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half and besides the ups and downs we are very much in love with each other and even plan to have a f...

A.   23 January 2017: Well, if he is a Muslim, he can't really have a GF before marriage. It's VERY much their culture and religion. (though not all of them follow THOSE rules). IF he is a "good" son, he will listen to his parents (another rule). That fact tha... (read in full...)

My wife left me for her ex, who found her on Facebook and now wants to come back. Should I give her a second chance ?

Answered by anonymous on 23 January 2017.

Q.   My wife was contacted by an ex on Facebook who first said he only wanted to be friends, then indicated he wanted more. She showed me his messages and told me they dated in high school and college and she broke up with him twice. The first time...

A.   23 January 2017: NO - why would you give somebody like that another chance - she is just playing a game of pong but with boyfriends/husbands give it time... (read in full...)

Everything was great .... except the sex!

Answered by Phil052 + on 23 January 2017.

Phil052 agony auntQ.   Hi. I am seeing someone and we get on so well. Everything is great. But we had sex for the first time and he treated me like a one night stand. He was just concerned about having an orgasm. He has never been in a relationship before. I know the ...

A.   23 January 2017: I think you need to give it time. It was your first time having sex, and his first time ever! It was never going to be a great experience. The next time you have sex you should make sure it is a time and a place where you can take things nice and ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's parents are strict and I'm not sure what to do anymore

Answered by N91 + on 23 January 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   Hi everyone, I'm kind of new to this so I apologize if this is a bit unorganized. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half and besides the ups and downs we are very much in love with each other and even plan to have a f...

A.   23 January 2017: My bad, I read 'an only child' as 'only a child too'.... (read in full...)

I like this guy I'm dating, but the sex is nice but not amazing. How do I discuss this with him?

Answered by N91 + on 23 January 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   I have just started dating a truly lovely guy, he is adorable and I really enjoy spending time with him. The problem is, things aren't totally electric in the bedroom. I'm quite a sexual person and chemistry and sexual connection is really important ...

A.   23 January 2017: Talk to him. Unless you tell him it's not up to scratch he thinks everything is fine.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's parents are strict and I'm not sure what to do anymore

Answered by N91 + on 23 January 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   Hi everyone, I'm kind of new to this so I apologize if this is a bit unorganized. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half and besides the ups and downs we are very much in love with each other and even plan to have a f...

A.   23 January 2017: Your bf isn't a child, neither are you. You're both adults and can do whatever you please. His parents can't stop him from doing anything. What are they going to do? Lock him in his room so he can't leave the house? If you guys want to go on ho... (read in full...)

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