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I’m pregnant and confused and worried about what I should have happen next!

Answered by Aunty BimBim + on 12 November 2018.

Aunty BimBim agony auntQ.   Just wanted to ask others opinions on this subject. Basically i have quite a bit of bad look with relationships, i have my own house and and have been living on my own now with just my dog and rabbit which is how i like it for 3 years now. I did ...

A.   12 November 2018: No! Don't be pressured into anything. It is not necessary for the baby's well being for him to live in the same house, if it was he would still be living in the same house as his other two children. If you prefer to take this slow then he has t... (read in full...)

How to get him to see the urgency for a house and a family?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 12 November 2018.

Q.   I have been with my husdand for just over 6 years and we are newly wed only married for 5 months. I find I am increasingly getting down and upset as we have been living in a caravan for 5 years together on his parents farm and we now have a good ...

A.   12 November 2018: Then he's in the middle, but you have to keep nudging him. He'll just have to grow-up and get-over that thing about neighbors. Mom and dad don't compete with your wife. He's a man now. With a new wife, a new home, and a family; he won't have a... (read in full...)

A month in, I hate my new career!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 12 November 2018.

Q.   Dear cupid, Not really a relationship question, more a career related. Hi I’m nearly 30 years old and have been working self employed/contracting to employers in the construction field since I finished school. I have always liked my job but it’...

A.   12 November 2018: Yes, Baby-girl, you push and push and push! Establishing a business is a huge challenge undertaking; and a test of your resolve. You don't hit the ground running, my dear! You crawl, learn to take baby-steps, walk...and then take-off running!... (read in full...)

He wants to be friends only!

Answered by anonymous on 12 November 2018.

Q.   I have been seeing a guy on and off for around 10 months, we’ve never gotten past the casual first stage due to him not being ready and so there have been gaps where we haven’t seen each other and dated other people, however always seem to come ...

A.   12 November 2018: This sounds just like a situation my friend has been in. He keeps going back to you because the dates or dating he has been doing amounts to nothing, in that it doesn't progress and so he goes back to you and vice versa I am guessing. It isn't go... (read in full...)

How to get him to see the urgency for a house and a family?

Answered by jackie69 + on 12 November 2018.

jackie69 agony auntQ.   I have been with my husdand for just over 6 years and we are newly wed only married for 5 months. I find I am increasingly getting down and upset as we have been living in a caravan for 5 years together on his parents farm and we now have a good ...

A.   12 November 2018: I have found out that his parents have been influencing and saying ' he doesn't want to leave or move far' - yes he does we need to! Haha. Also he is concerned that if we buy a house in a street he won't like it after not really having neig... (read in full...)

How to get him to see the urgency for a house and a family?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 12 November 2018.

Q.   I have been with my husdand for just over 6 years and we are newly wed only married for 5 months. I find I am increasingly getting down and upset as we have been living in a caravan for 5 years together on his parents farm and we now have a good ...

A.   12 November 2018: I had to smile, reading the part where you describe you're "getting on a bit!" At the ripe-old age of 32! Perhaps the egg-timer is ticking! I think hubby is afraid to leave the farm. People who grow-up in country-surroundings either never want to ... (read in full...)

Worst mistake of my life!! Don’t know what to do

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 12 November 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I’m in the worst situation I could ever be in in my life I’ve made the biggest mistake ever and now I don’t know what to do I am suffering badly! I am 14 weeks pregnant but ended up cheating the night before I found out I was pregnant I know how bad ...

A.   12 November 2018: It is YOUR choice in the end whether you tell your boyfriend or not. Despite what some people have commented, I am not suggesting and have never suggested you "sweep this under the carpet". I just feel no good can come of telling your boyfriend what ... (read in full...)

How to get him to see the urgency for a house and a family?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 12 November 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I have been with my husdand for just over 6 years and we are newly wed only married for 5 months. I find I am increasingly getting down and upset as we have been living in a caravan for 5 years together on his parents farm and we now have a good ...

A.   12 November 2018: Is it that your husband has just got into a rut of living in the caravan, or does he have genuine concerns about buying a house? Perhaps he is worried about the mortgage, or about moving away from his parents? Or perhaps he is worried about starting ... (read in full...)

He wants to be friends only!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 12 November 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I have been seeing a guy on and off for around 10 months, we’ve never gotten past the casual first stage due to him not being ready and so there have been gaps where we haven’t seen each other and dated other people, however always seem to come ...

A.   12 November 2018: Stay "friends" if you want to keep repeating what you have been doing for the past 10 months, because that is what will happen. If you two haven't managed to make a decent go of things in 10 months, it's time to stop tying up each other's ... (read in full...)

I don’t know if I should date my coworker!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 12 November 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   UI think I know the answer to this, but I’m looking for someone to confirm that I’m doing the right thing. I’ve been in my current job for a year, and have sat right next to a man who is around my age. He’s not my normal type physically, but ...

A.   12 November 2018: I too think this is not the best idea. You desire to talk through your concerns is possibly a good way of explaining why you are reluctant to date him. I would also soften the blow by saying that, if one or both of you ever changes employer... (read in full...)

He wants to be friends only!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 12 November 2018.

Q.   I have been seeing a guy on and off for around 10 months, we’ve never gotten past the casual first stage due to him not being ready and so there have been gaps where we haven’t seen each other and dated other people, however always seem to come ...

A.   12 November 2018: If there is sex in the picture, that might explain it all. Sometimes people want to keep certain benefits and/or options available; and they use friendship as a disguise in order to exploit the ambivalent-connection that remains. You're both a ... (read in full...)

The girls I want to date end up dating other guys!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 12 November 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Hi everyone! This isn't such a serious situation, just looking for some advice and guidance. I met a girl a few weeks ago, we exchanged numbers and she went back to her city 2 hours away. We chatted every day, she flirted a lot and we had a g...

A.   12 November 2018: Perhaps she got bored of just chatting? If you had such a good connection, why did you not ask her out? Why did you not suggest meeting up half way between where you both live? If this girl is looking for someone to date, she could have come to ... (read in full...)

She seems open but what if she is telling me lies?

Answered by CherryR07 + on 12 November 2018.

Q.   Been single now for about 5 months after a long term relationship, and met someone a few weeks ago that i hit it off with, it happend very randomly and out of the blue. being careful, or at least trying to be ive had my guard up. but it feels right ...

A.   12 November 2018: You're jumping to conclusions way too fast. Just because there is a truck, doesn't mean she's seeing someone. As HoneyPie suggested, it could be a family member, or maybe just someone parking in her driveway. Also, you don't know for sure whether ... (read in full...)

The girls I want to date end up dating other guys!

Answered by CherryR07 + on 12 November 2018.

Q.   Hi everyone! This isn't such a serious situation, just looking for some advice and guidance. I met a girl a few weeks ago, we exchanged numbers and she went back to her city 2 hours away. We chatted every day, she flirted a lot and we had a g...

A.   12 November 2018: If you ask her why, you may come across as being needy and desperate. Next time you like a girl, and you think things are going well, ask them on a date. Perhaps she thought the 2 hour distance was too long for her? Perhaps she was just being ... (read in full...)

I don’t know if I should date my coworker!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 12 November 2018.

Q.   UI think I know the answer to this, but I’m looking for someone to confirm that I’m doing the right thing. I’ve been in my current job for a year, and have sat right next to a man who is around my age. He’s not my normal type physically, but ...

A.   12 November 2018: I must also agree with the decision to take a pass on dating a co-worker. Considering all the worse case scenarios, and the fact he sits next to you everyday. We're talking about your livelihood, where you earn your income, and have establis... (read in full...)

How to get him to see the urgency for a house and a family?

Answered by CherryR07 + on 12 November 2018.

Q.   I have been with my husdand for just over 6 years and we are newly wed only married for 5 months. I find I am increasingly getting down and upset as we have been living in a caravan for 5 years together on his parents farm and we now have a good ...

A.   12 November 2018: 32 is still quite young. Maybe focus on one thing at a time? Next time he makes an excuse, ask him what type of house he'd prefer. But try not to rush things yet. You may have been together for 6 years, but marriage is different. Maybe, if you had ... (read in full...)

The girls I want to date end up dating other guys!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 12 November 2018.

Q.   Hi everyone! This isn't such a serious situation, just looking for some advice and guidance. I met a girl a few weeks ago, we exchanged numbers and she went back to her city 2 hours away. We chatted every day, she flirted a lot and we had a g...

A.   12 November 2018: You've only known this lady for two weeks. You had a great conversation; but that leaves her no obligation to quickly reply to your every contact-attempt. She's not your girlfriend; and no type of relationship has been established. You had a fe... (read in full...)

Are LDR's real relationships, even if you haven't met them yet?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 12 November 2018.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Hello, I am currently in a long distance relationship with a man. He is from the US, and is 21 years old, and I am from the UK, and am 18 years old. We met online, and have been together for a couple of months now. We are still going strong...

A.   12 November 2018: As someone who has been in a serious LDR, you have to be able to visit for a couple of weeks every few months (or similar) or you’re not really in each other’s lives enough to form a proper connection and know that it’s worth the risk of one of you ... (read in full...)

Worst mistake of my life!! Don’t know what to do

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 12 November 2018.

Q.   I’m in the worst situation I could ever be in in my life I’ve made the biggest mistake ever and now I don’t know what to do I am suffering badly! I am 14 weeks pregnant but ended up cheating the night before I found out I was pregnant I know how bad ...

A.   12 November 2018: You weight the pros and cons in situations where you're not sure of the impact something will have; or what kind of a rippling-effect it would send through your life. In an ideal world, you can confess everything to another human being. This is ... (read in full...)

Worst mistake of my life!! Don’t know what to do

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 12 November 2018.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   I’m in the worst situation I could ever be in in my life I’ve made the biggest mistake ever and now I don’t know what to do I am suffering badly! I am 14 weeks pregnant but ended up cheating the night before I found out I was pregnant I know how bad ...

A.   12 November 2018: You know telling him is the only right thing to do now. It’s too late to take it back, so you need to give him the choice to stay or leave. Please don’t wait because it’ll leave you less likely to tell him and it’s not right to hide your cheating ... (read in full...)

Are LDR's real relationships, even if you haven't met them yet?

Answered by malvern + on 12 November 2018.

malvern agony auntQ.   Hello, I am currently in a long distance relationship with a man. He is from the US, and is 21 years old, and I am from the UK, and am 18 years old. We met online, and have been together for a couple of months now. We are still going strong...

A.   12 November 2018: This is not a real relationship. You need to meet because that is the only way you will really be able to tell how you both feel.... (read in full...)

Worst mistake of my life!! Don’t know what to do

Answered by N91 + on 12 November 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   I’m in the worst situation I could ever be in in my life I’ve made the biggest mistake ever and now I don’t know what to do I am suffering badly! I am 14 weeks pregnant but ended up cheating the night before I found out I was pregnant I know how bad ...

A.   12 November 2018: I’ve seen it a few times on this site now people being advised to sweep cheating under the carpet and I find it astounding. You are being eaten up by guilt now before the baby is born, will it go after the birth? When you get married? Absolutely ... (read in full...)

He wants to be friends only!

Answered by N91 + on 12 November 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   I have been seeing a guy on and off for around 10 months, we’ve never gotten past the casual first stage due to him not being ready and so there have been gaps where we haven’t seen each other and dated other people, however always seem to come ...

A.   12 November 2018: Why are you wasting your time on someone who can’t make his mind up? What are you getting out of this? How can you not be ready to date someone after ten months? What you’re doing is pointless. Block him and move on. ... (read in full...)

Are LDR's real relationships, even if you haven't met them yet?

Answered by N91 + on 12 November 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   Hello, I am currently in a long distance relationship with a man. He is from the US, and is 21 years old, and I am from the UK, and am 18 years old. We met online, and have been together for a couple of months now. We are still going strong...

A.   12 November 2018: Not really. It’s easy to speak online to someone, you can give off whatever persona you like, until you’ve met someone in person and spent time getting to know them physically then you have no idea what they’re about. Keep working at the p... (read in full...)

The girls I want to date end up dating other guys!

Answered by N91 + on 12 November 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   Hi everyone! This isn't such a serious situation, just looking for some advice and guidance. I met a girl a few weeks ago, we exchanged numbers and she went back to her city 2 hours away. We chatted every day, she flirted a lot and we had a g...

A.   12 November 2018: It happens, we can’t be a good match for everyone we meet. She wasn’t feeling it so phased out contact. Definitely DO NOT message her asking why. That will come off as creepy, just accept she wasn’t interested and move past it. I’d say if yo... (read in full...)

Are LDR's real relationships, even if you haven't met them yet?

Answered by anonymous on 12 November 2018.

Q.   Hello, I am currently in a long distance relationship with a man. He is from the US, and is 21 years old, and I am from the UK, and am 18 years old. We met online, and have been together for a couple of months now. We are still going strong...

A.   12 November 2018: Oh, and I forgot to add, I fully understand that he may be only showing me the side he wants me to see, but I'm not sure. I mean since we're on call all day every day, I'm always listening when his sister picks on him about his 'hairy chest', or how ... (read in full...)

Are LDR's real relationships, even if you haven't met them yet?

Answered by anonymous on 12 November 2018.

Q.   Hello, I am currently in a long distance relationship with a man. He is from the US, and is 21 years old, and I am from the UK, and am 18 years old. We met online, and have been together for a couple of months now. We are still going strong...

A.   12 November 2018: Thank you both so much, Honeypie and Mystiquek. I'm trying not to leave it too long! Trying to get a job. A friend of mine has also offered for me to go with her to the US in February, as she herself is with someone from there. And yeah, the point ... (read in full...)

Are LDR's real relationships, even if you haven't met them yet?

Answered by mystiquek + on 12 November 2018.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   Hello, I am currently in a long distance relationship with a man. He is from the US, and is 21 years old, and I am from the UK, and am 18 years old. We met online, and have been together for a couple of months now. We are still going strong...

A.   12 November 2018: They are real to a point. LDR can start out so easily and effortlessly and the next thing you know it you are hooked. What you have to remember is that you are seeing what the other person WANTS and ALLOWS you to see. Your imagination can fill in ... (read in full...)

He wants to be friends only!

Answered by Honeypie + on 12 November 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I have been seeing a guy on and off for around 10 months, we’ve never gotten past the casual first stage due to him not being ready and so there have been gaps where we haven’t seen each other and dated other people, however always seem to come ...

A.   12 November 2018: You two are wasting each other's time. Quite frankly. He shouldn't have dated you in the first place if he wasn't READY to date and YOU should have dropped him as soon as he uttered the "I'm not ready to date" IF you were looking for a BF. J... (read in full...)

I don’t know if I should date my coworker!

Answered by mystiquek + on 12 November 2018.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   UI think I know the answer to this, but I’m looking for someone to confirm that I’m doing the right thing. I’ve been in my current job for a year, and have sat right next to a man who is around my age. He’s not my normal type physically, but ...

A.   12 November 2018: Your instincts are correct. Its never a good idea to date a co-worker because other people will find out and gossip and worse than that if things go wrong you are stuck working with that person and it can get really awkward. I know people still go ... (read in full...)

Are LDR's real relationships, even if you haven't met them yet?

Answered by Honeypie + on 12 November 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hello, I am currently in a long distance relationship with a man. He is from the US, and is 21 years old, and I am from the UK, and am 18 years old. We met online, and have been together for a couple of months now. We are still going strong...

A.   12 November 2018: Yes and no. If you go back in time, this has happened before all the modern day tech. Where people were set up by family and corresponded until they met. So LDR's are not really anything new. Is it a "real" relationship? Define real? I do th... (read in full...)

The girls I want to date end up dating other guys!

Answered by Honeypie + on 12 November 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi everyone! This isn't such a serious situation, just looking for some advice and guidance. I met a girl a few weeks ago, we exchanged numbers and she went back to her city 2 hours away. We chatted every day, she flirted a lot and we had a g...

A.   12 November 2018: While I get that she could just have TOLD you that she met someone else, she really doesn't OWE you an explanation for talking to you, then not talking so much to you. Someone living two hours away that you BRIEFLY met and then chatted with mig... (read in full...)

Worst mistake of my life!! Don’t know what to do

Answered by anonymous on 12 November 2018.

Q.   I’m in the worst situation I could ever be in in my life I’ve made the biggest mistake ever and now I don’t know what to do I am suffering badly! I am 14 weeks pregnant but ended up cheating the night before I found out I was pregnant I know how bad ...

A.   12 November 2018: I feel absolutely awful everyday and don’t think I can rest until I tell him, I feel trapped everything has changed in my life so quickly and I don’t know how to deal with it. People are noticing at work that I’m not quite myself. The thing is I ... (read in full...)

I like a guy but another girl might steal him.

Answered by Honeypie + on 12 November 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I like this uy named Jonah but im not sure how to go about it because we only talk in school and this one girl Aliyah may steal him but I feel like me and him have a connection...

A.   12 November 2018: You can't STEAL another person. THAT is not how things work! If she "gets" him before you do, it's because SHE made a move or HE liked HER better.... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is perfect, but I want an open relationship.

Answered by Honeypie + on 12 November 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi people. I met my current girlfriend a little over two years ago and I was not the social type back then. I never really went out a lot and hanging out with friends was pretty much 'indoor'. After I met her I became very outgoing. We went t...

A.   12 November 2018: You aren't missing a DAMNED thing. Having sex with more people doesn't make your life better. All it does is pollute what you have, raises the chance of STD's and break your GF's heart all over again. If you want an open relationship HOW... (read in full...)

I'm not in lov with him but scared of his reaction if I tell him.

Answered by Honeypie + on 12 November 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   How do you break up with someone your not in love with without hurting them?I think my new boyfriend is obsessed with me and something just doesn't feel right. About a year ago I had a hurtful breakup with my ex boyfriend of 3 years who I deep...

A.   12 November 2018: The sooner you end it the better. Tell him that you have realized he is far more invested than you are and that you don't want to waste his time, you just don't see this going to continue as a long term relationship. That maybe you jumped into a r... (read in full...)

Should I be strong and not burden people with my problems?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 12 November 2018.

Q.   I'm really upset but wondering if I have every right to be or if my boyfriend was spot on and I need to get a grip. I have two children with my ex, we were together 8 years but then he cheated with his now wife. They got married within months of...

A.   12 November 2018: If you grow a spine, grow one for your kids! You don't have to take crap from anybody; but your kids don't have to be in the middle of it either!... (read in full...)

Should I be strong and not burden people with my problems?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 12 November 2018.

Q.   I'm really upset but wondering if I have every right to be or if my boyfriend was spot on and I need to get a grip. I have two children with my ex, we were together 8 years but then he cheated with his now wife. They got married within months of...

A.   12 November 2018: They have big fights in-front of your kids! Name-calling is no big-deal! He's playing mind-games with the children. Now that should be your biggest concern. Here's what you need to do. You can't control two full-grown adults. You can control ... (read in full...)

I'm not in lov with him but scared of his reaction if I tell him.

Answered by mystiquek + on 12 November 2018.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   How do you break up with someone your not in love with without hurting them?I think my new boyfriend is obsessed with me and something just doesn't feel right. About a year ago I had a hurtful breakup with my ex boyfriend of 3 years who I deep...

A.   12 November 2018: OP, the smartest thing that you can do is to get out of this relationship ASAP. You don't love him and you are afraid of him? You have said that you know this is a red flag. Yes it is! He also is trying to get you to quit your job so he can take ... (read in full...)

My head is everywhere and I can't make a decision.

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 12 November 2018.

Q.   I’ve been with my boyfriend for 16 months and he left to go Australia in Feb this year, I knew from the start that that was his plans and I was fine with it and both decided to keep things the same way knowing with it being a long distance ...

A.   12 November 2018: [EDIT]: Typo corrections: "I mean, think about it!" Post script: You may not like Australia. You'd have to find a decent job; and foreigners get picked last when competing for decent employment. Lest you choose to settle for a variety o... (read in full...)

My head is everywhere and I can't make a decision.

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 11 November 2018.

Q.   I’ve been with my boyfriend for 16 months and he left to go Australia in Feb this year, I knew from the start that that was his plans and I was fine with it and both decided to keep things the same way knowing with it being a long distance ...

A.   11 November 2018: Here's my take. If he wanted you there bad enough; your plane ticket and moving-expenses would partially be his financial-responsibility. He'd make-up for whatever money-shortages you couldn't manage to fill. Yes, you knew from the start his plan... (read in full...)

Worst mistake of my life!! Don’t know what to do

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 11 November 2018.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   I’m in the worst situation I could ever be in in my life I’ve made the biggest mistake ever and now I don’t know what to do I am suffering badly! I am 14 weeks pregnant but ended up cheating the night before I found out I was pregnant I know how bad ...

A.   11 November 2018: Couples' counselling and own up. "What he doesn't know won't hurt him" is selfish because everyone should know if the person they love has cheated. I'm sorry, but he deserves to know and decide for himself whether he wants to be with you or not. ... (read in full...)

I've got a crush on the check out chck!

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 11 November 2018.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Over the last couple of months i have been getting very friendly with a girl who works on the checkout at my local supermarket. We chat a lot and share lots of eye contact, and when i am walking away with my trolley after paying i look back and she ...

A.   11 November 2018: We've seen this situation before, so I'm wondering if it was from you. Important: How old are you? How old do you think she is? (If she doesn't look like she's around your age or older, don't try anything; it'll come across as creepy.) Av... (read in full...)

I've got a crush on the check out chck!

Answered by anonymous on 11 November 2018.

Q.   Over the last couple of months i have been getting very friendly with a girl who works on the checkout at my local supermarket. We chat a lot and share lots of eye contact, and when i am walking away with my trolley after paying i look back and she ...

A.   11 November 2018: Agree with previous posts - write your number on a piece of paper with a line saying something like - if you fancy getting a coffee sometime call me on xxxx One of my friends used to work in a shop and was asked out by a customer that way and they... (read in full...)

I've got a crush on the check out chck!

Answered by anonymous on 11 November 2018.

Q.   Over the last couple of months i have been getting very friendly with a girl who works on the checkout at my local supermarket. We chat a lot and share lots of eye contact, and when i am walking away with my trolley after paying i look back and she ...

A.   11 November 2018: Be a little scheming here, next time you go shopping wait till there is nobody in the queue then approach her. Ask her If you can invite her for a coffee when she finishes work. Try to keep calm and nice. I am sure she will not turn you down. Good ... (read in full...)

I can't believe he couldnt see how I felt.

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 11 November 2018.

Q.   I love a guy who is a good friend of mine and he doesnt know that I love him. At present we are not at all in talking terms. Let me explain how all this happened. 6-7 months back it came to my realization that I love him because I sensed jealousy...

A.   11 November 2018: P.S. If you manage to get him to admit he has romantic-feelings for you; then you're all set. I just don't see it; if you've both been dancing around each other all this time. It's silly! Two grown-ups acting like grade-school children with lit... (read in full...)

I can't believe he couldnt see how I felt.

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 11 November 2018.

Q.   I love a guy who is a good friend of mine and he doesnt know that I love him. At present we are not at all in talking terms. Let me explain how all this happened. 6-7 months back it came to my realization that I love him because I sensed jealousy...

A.   11 November 2018: Reading your post, it would seem that you have a problem with becoming attached; before you know (or despite) what the guy feels for you. You don't have the patience to wait and see. You want love so badly! Outside attempts with men have failed; so ... (read in full...)

I like a guy but another girl might steal him.

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 11 November 2018.

Q.   I like this uy named Jonah but im not sure how to go about it because we only talk in school and this one girl Aliyah may steal him but I feel like me and him have a connection...

A.   11 November 2018: What's Jonah waiting for if he likes you, instead of Aliyah? You said you and he have a connection; and you believe he likes you. If you want to know how much, you have to ask him before Aliyah comes charging in! Be friendly, but don't do any... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is perfect, but I want an open relationship.

Answered by janniepeg + on 11 November 2018.

janniepeg agony auntQ.   Hi people. I met my current girlfriend a little over two years ago and I was not the social type back then. I never really went out a lot and hanging out with friends was pretty much 'indoor'. After I met her I became very outgoing. We went t...

A.   11 November 2018: I think it's the fact that she had played the field and you haven't, so you want to make it even. This should be the fact that she is not perfect for you. She is also not perfect, because you probably wanted a girl with no history, but since you ... (read in full...)

Should I be strong and not burden people with my problems?

Answered by anonymous on 11 November 2018.

Q.   I'm really upset but wondering if I have every right to be or if my boyfriend was spot on and I need to get a grip. I have two children with my ex, we were together 8 years but then he cheated with his now wife. They got married within months of...

A.   11 November 2018: I don't think I made this very clear. The reason she sent me that horrible text was because I went mental and stopped them going up there because of the way she behaves. The person I text wasn't my ex it was my current boyfriend. Who doesn't ... (read in full...)

Should I be strong and not burden people with my problems?

Answered by anonymous on 11 November 2018.

Q.   I'm really upset but wondering if I have every right to be or if my boyfriend was spot on and I need to get a grip. I have two children with my ex, we were together 8 years but then he cheated with his now wife. They got married within months of...

A.   11 November 2018: Wow I think you need to get a lawyer because the physical and verbal behaviour has crossed a line to abuse. 1) his ex-wife sounds unsafe punching holes in the wall, and frankly, I would not want my young daughters anywhere near a woman who thro... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is perfect, but I want an open relationship.

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 11 November 2018.

Q.   Hi people. I met my current girlfriend a little over two years ago and I was not the social type back then. I never really went out a lot and hanging out with friends was pretty much 'indoor'. After I met her I became very outgoing. We went t...

A.   11 November 2018: She's the perfect girlfriend with the wrong boyfriend. I'm going to keep this short. You don't get a long thoughtful response, you already got seven good ones. Idiots and fools are never thankful for what they have; until they lose it. Sex is ... (read in full...)

I'm not in lov with him but scared of his reaction if I tell him.

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 11 November 2018.

Q.   How do you break up with someone your not in love with without hurting them?I think my new boyfriend is obsessed with me and something just doesn't feel right. About a year ago I had a hurtful breakup with my ex boyfriend of 3 years who I deep...

A.   11 November 2018: It seems this guy may have been a rebound-romance following your previous breakup. That's why you should never seek comfort for post-breakup emotions by dating. Your current situation is exactly what could happen. The rebound-guy becomes attached; ... (read in full...)

I'm not in lov with him but scared of his reaction if I tell him.

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 11 November 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   How do you break up with someone your not in love with without hurting them?I think my new boyfriend is obsessed with me and something just doesn't feel right. About a year ago I had a hurtful breakup with my ex boyfriend of 3 years who I deep...

A.   11 November 2018: You can't force yourself to love him if you simply can't. To be honest, the temper and controlling tendencies should be sufficient to make anyone question the viability of the relationship. You are right to want to get out. You know you NEED to get ... (read in full...)

I'm not in lov with him but scared of his reaction if I tell him.

Answered by anonymous on 11 November 2018.

Q.   How do you break up with someone your not in love with without hurting them?I think my new boyfriend is obsessed with me and something just doesn't feel right. About a year ago I had a hurtful breakup with my ex boyfriend of 3 years who I deep...

A.   11 November 2018: Don't screw up your life, date, but wait....for the right person. YOu'll both know it shortly after you meet each other. 2 weeks after I met my love, who was with a girl I dated only a few times, we just knew we had to get married, soon as possb... (read in full...)

Worst mistake of my life!! Don’t know what to do

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 11 November 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I’m in the worst situation I could ever be in in my life I’ve made the biggest mistake ever and now I don’t know what to do I am suffering badly! I am 14 weeks pregnant but ended up cheating the night before I found out I was pregnant I know how bad ...

A.   11 November 2018: First of all, acknowledge and accept NOBODY is perfect. We all make mistakes from time to time. You made a BIG mistake but that does not make you evil or cheap or disgusting. It makes you human and fallible. Stop being so hard on yourself. You have ... (read in full...)

Worst mistake of my life!! Don’t know what to do

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 11 November 2018.

Q.   I’m in the worst situation I could ever be in in my life I’ve made the biggest mistake ever and now I don’t know what to do I am suffering badly! I am 14 weeks pregnant but ended up cheating the night before I found out I was pregnant I know how bad ...

A.   11 November 2018: [EDIT]: Typo corrections: "It's your boyfriend's child." "Your relationship was strained, you're in counseling, but if you need to relieve yourself by confession; maybe you can set-up a private-session with a counselor." "Sadly, ... (read in full...)

Worst mistake of my life!! Don’t know what to do

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 11 November 2018.

Q.   I’m in the worst situation I could ever be in in my life I’ve made the biggest mistake ever and now I don’t know what to do I am suffering badly! I am 14 weeks pregnant but ended up cheating the night before I found out I was pregnant I know how bad ...

A.   11 November 2018: This one slip, a one-time mistake. It was carelessness, and you set yourself up by chatting with an outsider; while you were working your way through personal-issues. That contact with the so-called friend lead to bad-judgement and vulnerability. ... (read in full...)

I've got a crush on the check out chck!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 11 November 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Over the last couple of months i have been getting very friendly with a girl who works on the checkout at my local supermarket. We chat a lot and share lots of eye contact, and when i am walking away with my trolley after paying i look back and she ...

A.   11 November 2018: Pass her your phone number on a piece of paper and say something like "If you ever fancy a chat, give me a call" and leave it at that. When/if she phones you, you can take it from there. Good luck. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend celebrates Christmas with his ex and family and I am not even invited

Answered by CherryR07 + on 11 November 2018.

Q.   Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. He is early 50 and I’m 30. He has 2 kids that are early twenties. They live and study abroad and from time to time are back in town. The problem is that he celebrated Christmas at ...

A.   11 November 2018: I agree with WiseOwlE, HoneyPie and Mystiquek. He clearly isn't prioritizing you at a time where he should. I understand, that he has kids, but they're adults. You should all spend that time together. He shouldn't be treating you like a dirty ... (read in full...)

I've got a crush on the check out chck!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 11 November 2018.

Q.   Over the last couple of months i have been getting very friendly with a girl who works on the checkout at my local supermarket. We chat a lot and share lots of eye contact, and when i am walking away with my trolley after paying i look back and she ...

A.   11 November 2018: Write your name and number on a piece of paper. Next time you're inline, quickly hand it to her. Apologize if it's too forward; but you'd like to take her out for coffee, if she isn't seeing anyone. Don't hold-up the check-line! Speak softly and be ... (read in full...)

Worst mistake of my life!! Don’t know what to do

Answered by CherryR07 + on 11 November 2018.

Q.   I’m in the worst situation I could ever be in in my life I’ve made the biggest mistake ever and now I don’t know what to do I am suffering badly! I am 14 weeks pregnant but ended up cheating the night before I found out I was pregnant I know how bad ...

A.   11 November 2018: At the end of the day, cheating is cheating. Lying and covering ij up is going to make things worse. You are going to have to face the consequences. The only thing you can do is to explain and to show your boyfriend that it was truly a mistake.... (read in full...)

Worst mistake of my life!! Don’t know what to do

Answered by anonymous on 11 November 2018.

Q.   I’m in the worst situation I could ever be in in my life I’ve made the biggest mistake ever and now I don’t know what to do I am suffering badly! I am 14 weeks pregnant but ended up cheating the night before I found out I was pregnant I know how bad ...

A.   11 November 2018: Go back to your midwife and get your dates checked. From the sounds you could have been preganat when you had sex with this other guy . They can determine your gestation by the length of the baby femur. I'm medical . And though my circumstances ... (read in full...)

I've got a crush on the check out chck!

Answered by CherryR07 + on 11 November 2018.

Q.   Over the last couple of months i have been getting very friendly with a girl who works on the checkout at my local supermarket. We chat a lot and share lots of eye contact, and when i am walking away with my trolley after paying i look back and she ...

A.   11 November 2018: You could always write your name and number on a piece of paper and write something like, 'call me?', and give it to her. If she calls you, then ask her if she's interested in going out for a drink or something. ... (read in full...)

Should I be strong and not burden people with my problems?

Answered by CherryR07 + on 11 November 2018.

Q.   I'm really upset but wondering if I have every right to be or if my boyfriend was spot on and I need to get a grip. I have two children with my ex, we were together 8 years but then he cheated with his now wife. They got married within months of...

A.   11 November 2018: First of all, definitely get legal support for your kids. They are young children who should not have to be going through what this new woman is putting them through. It's dangerous for them. Secondly, just block that woman, you don't have to have ... (read in full...)

I can't believe he couldnt see how I felt.

Answered by CherryR07 + on 11 November 2018.

Q.   I love a guy who is a good friend of mine and he doesnt know that I love him. At present we are not at all in talking terms. Let me explain how all this happened. 6-7 months back it came to my realization that I love him because I sensed jealousy...

A.   11 November 2018: You need to tell him how you feel. You're both adults, not children. Wasting time, thinking 'what if' is not going to get you anywhere. It's going to make things worse. ... (read in full...)

I cheated, fell pregnant, boyfriend left, I believe its his baby.

Answered by CherryR07 + on 11 November 2018.

Q.   I cheated on my boyfriend and I found out I was pregnant in a month time. When I told my boyfriend about it he told me to give birth but after he will have a DNA test. I had to tell him the truth that I cheated on him.he then said he is not ...

A.   11 November 2018: Have the DNA test. Thinking the baby is his, doesn't definitely mean it is his. Do the DNA test to double check, then inform the father. If he doesn't take responsibility, then get some legal arrangements put into place. It's his child too, whether ... (read in full...)

I like a guy but another girl might steal him.

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 11 November 2018.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   I like this uy named Jonah but im not sure how to go about it because we only talk in school and this one girl Aliyah may steal him but I feel like me and him have a connection...

A.   11 November 2018: At your age, you should only go out in groups, so invite him and some friends out to the movies or for a meal. As for “stealing” - he’s not yours, so he can’t be stolen. It all feels very stressful and emotional, at your age, but “stealin... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is perfect, but I want an open relationship.

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 11 November 2018.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Hi people. I met my current girlfriend a little over two years ago and I was not the social type back then. I never really went out a lot and hanging out with friends was pretty much 'indoor'. After I met her I became very outgoing. We went t...

A.   11 November 2018: Yeah, break up. Meaningless sex won’t fill your “missing out”, but you’re convinced it will, so let her go. She doesn’t WANT an open relationship, so it will only hurt her, even if she “agrees”. Breaking up is the only fair thing to do. You’re b... (read in full...)

I don't want to hurt his feelings but I don't see this being a long term forever thing

Answered by CherryR07 + on 11 November 2018.

Q.   I've been seeing a guy since August we both got out of relationships shortly before so we just decided to have fun with it. we've known each other since March and got on well as friends but as both of us were in relationships we never displayed any ...

A.   11 November 2018: You should tell him now, because if you leave it too long, it'll cause more damage. I was with a guy, who decided he wasn't ready for a relationship and so ended it with me, and it did hurt at the time, I realise now that I'm so glad he told me ... (read in full...)

I'm 20 yet my parents don't want me to date.

Answered by CherryR07 + on 11 November 2018.

Q.   Hi everyone, this might get quite lengthy as there are back stories to the issues. Bear with me! First of all, I’m 20 years old in my 2nd year of university and I come from a Chinese family. And yes, the typical stereotypes of asian households...

A.   11 November 2018: You'll have to ignore those facial expressions and do what's right for you. You've already come so far, don't throw it away and give up now! As I've said, they'll have to accept it eventually... (read in full...)

My head is everywhere and I can't make a decision.

Answered by CherryR07 + on 11 November 2018.

Q.   I’ve been with my boyfriend for 16 months and he left to go Australia in Feb this year, I knew from the start that that was his plans and I was fine with it and both decided to keep things the same way knowing with it being a long distance ...

A.   11 November 2018: Both you and him are thinking about what he wants, but what about what YOU want? There are two of you in this relationship, and so you need to work around that. Evidently, both of you want different things, so you have two options: both of you find ... (read in full...)

I like a guy but another girl might steal him.

Answered by CherryR07 + on 11 November 2018.

Q.   I like this uy named Jonah but im not sure how to go about it because we only talk in school and this one girl Aliyah may steal him but I feel like me and him have a connection...

A.   11 November 2018: At the end of the day, if it's meant to be, it'll be. You can't force anything, and neither can she. If he likes YOU, then it'll happen. One thing though, don't try to change yourself for a guy.... (read in full...)

Should I be strong and not burden people with my problems?

Answered by N91 + on 11 November 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   I'm really upset but wondering if I have every right to be or if my boyfriend was spot on and I need to get a grip. I have two children with my ex, we were together 8 years but then he cheated with his now wife. They got married within months of...

A.   11 November 2018: Sounds like your ex has 3 children to deal with. I really wouldn’t want my children anywhere near a violent woman like that. I hope she’s bought them a new laptop also? Criminal damage in front of children, she sounds classy. As previously... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is perfect, but I want an open relationship.

Answered by N91 + on 11 November 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   Hi people. I met my current girlfriend a little over two years ago and I was not the social type back then. I never really went out a lot and hanging out with friends was pretty much 'indoor'. After I met her I became very outgoing. We went t...

A.   11 November 2018: She isn’t ‘the one’, if she was you wouldn’t have the urge to go out fucking other people. Please enlighten us how going around having meaningless sex will fill this ‘emptiness’. I’ve been there, done that. Slept with enough girls and then never ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is perfect, but I want an open relationship.

Answered by anonymous on 11 November 2018.

Q.   Hi people. I met my current girlfriend a little over two years ago and I was not the social type back then. I never really went out a lot and hanging out with friends was pretty much 'indoor'. After I met her I became very outgoing. We went t...

A.   11 November 2018: You've made the mistake many men make at your age. Your really not ready for a realationship.Your not ready to commit to her so let her go. I think she's so perfect your scared of what else might be out there. But once your done sleeping with ... (read in full...)

Should I be strong and not burden people with my problems?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 11 November 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I'm really upset but wondering if I have every right to be or if my boyfriend was spot on and I need to get a grip. I have two children with my ex, we were together 8 years but then he cheated with his now wife. They got married within months of...

A.   11 November 2018: I have one question: how do your poor daughters cope with all this drama? If their father's new wife is so volatile that she punches holes in doors (she sounds like the worst sort of thug), they must be very scared when her temper goes. While... (read in full...)

My head is everywhere and I can't make a decision.

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 11 November 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I’ve been with my boyfriend for 16 months and he left to go Australia in Feb this year, I knew from the start that that was his plans and I was fine with it and both decided to keep things the same way knowing with it being a long distance ...

A.   11 November 2018: I think you need to take a leaf out of your boyfriend's book, decide what YOU want from life and start doing it, regardless of what others want. You may feel like he led you on with the promises of meeting up in Thailand and coming home together... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is perfect, but I want an open relationship.

Answered by anonymous on 11 November 2018.

Q.   Hi people. I met my current girlfriend a little over two years ago and I was not the social type back then. I never really went out a lot and hanging out with friends was pretty much 'indoor'. After I met her I became very outgoing. We went t...

A.   11 November 2018: Yeah, you sound like a typical selfish guy who wants the best of both worlds for himself and can't really think about anyone, ultimately, except himself. You are not even treating your girlfriend as a person, just like a trophy that convince... (read in full...)

I can't believe he couldnt see how I felt.

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 11 November 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I love a guy who is a good friend of mine and he doesnt know that I love him. At present we are not at all in talking terms. Let me explain how all this happened. 6-7 months back it came to my realization that I love him because I sensed jealousy...

A.   11 November 2018: I had to check your age after reading your post. You are in your 20s, not a child. Stop playing childish games. This guy is not a mind reader. It is not his job to ask you countless questions to get to the bottom of your strange behaviour. You h... (read in full...)

I like a guy but another girl might steal him.

Answered by Aunty BimBim + on 11 November 2018.

Aunty BimBim agony auntQ.   I like this uy named Jonah but im not sure how to go about it because we only talk in school and this one girl Aliyah may steal him but I feel like me and him have a connection...

A.   11 November 2018: Being a teenager is tough, at times it’s as if every day has traps and detours designed to throw you off track and upset the equilibrium. Toss guys and dating and maybe a love triangle into the mix and it gets even more complicated. The first th... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't want children, my mother is heartbroken.

Answered by anonymous on 11 November 2018.

Q.   I met my boyfriend 1 year ago. He is 40 and I am 30. He told me about 3 months into the relationship that he does not want to have any children. I am confused because I am not sure if I want to have any. I know that my current circumstances will not ...

A.   11 November 2018: My daughter is 30, with a long term partner (six years) of the same age. They are aware they are entering into the decade when most people have children, but neither of them know if they want them or not, or exactly when. They do know, however, that ... (read in full...)

I like a guy but another girl might steal him.

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 11 November 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I like this uy named Jonah but im not sure how to go about it because we only talk in school and this one girl Aliyah may steal him but I feel like me and him have a connection...

A.   11 November 2018: Steal him? Is she going to tie him up and drag him away against his will? You are a maximum of 15 years old (probably younger, judging by your post). I dread to think what you mean by "go about it". I do hope you are not thinking you have to offer... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is perfect, but I want an open relationship.

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 11 November 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Hi people. I met my current girlfriend a little over two years ago and I was not the social type back then. I never really went out a lot and hanging out with friends was pretty much 'indoor'. After I met her I became very outgoing. We went t...

A.   11 November 2018: Why can't you go out and have "fun" WITH your girlfriend? She sounds to be an outgoing type. Explain to her that you feel like you have "missed out" (trust me, you really haven't!). You cannot have it all in this situation - freedom to have "fu... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is perfect, but I want an open relationship.

Answered by mystiquek + on 11 November 2018.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   Hi people. I met my current girlfriend a little over two years ago and I was not the social type back then. I never really went out a lot and hanging out with friends was pretty much 'indoor'. After I met her I became very outgoing. We went t...

A.   11 November 2018: I agree with Auntybimbam..if your girlfriend is so perfect then you wouldn't want an open relationship. Just remember that works 2 ways..open for you, open for her. She can see and have sex with anyone she wants to. Sew your wild oats but just ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is perfect, but I want an open relationship.

Answered by Aunty BimBim + on 11 November 2018.

Aunty BimBim agony auntQ.   Hi people. I met my current girlfriend a little over two years ago and I was not the social type back then. I never really went out a lot and hanging out with friends was pretty much 'indoor'. After I met her I became very outgoing. We went t...

A.   11 November 2018: Your girlfriend and what you have now can't be too perfect if you are willing to toss it aside for some random sex. Are you asking for advice on how to convince your girlfriend to agree to something that very few women in this world would agree to... (read in full...)

Should I apologize before the concert or just leave it alone?

Answered by Honeypie + on 11 November 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   When we were dating, I had given my ex a Louis Vuitton necklace. After we broke up, I knew he would just throw it away, so I asked for it back and he said he would mail it. A week later, it hadn’t come in the mail, so I texted him and asked if he ...

A.   11 November 2018: I agree you need to LEAVE him alone! If he wants to TOSS a gift you gave him out... then that is NONE of your business. WHAT so ever! You GAVE it to him, it's HIS now. So if he doesn't return it (and I doubt he would) then SUCK it up, Buttercup... (read in full...)

I'm 20 yet my parents don't want me to date.

Answered by anonymous on 11 November 2018.

Q.   Hi everyone, this might get quite lengthy as there are back stories to the issues. Bear with me! First of all, I’m 20 years old in my 2nd year of university and I come from a Chinese family. And yes, the typical stereotypes of asian households...

A.   11 November 2018: Posted this... Firstly, I’m not from China.. im from Malaysia, so generally, the mainland China practices don’t really apply here. Kinda feel like my parents is just of their own kind. Secondly, is there a way to get past how they’re always s... (read in full...)

Should I be strong and not burden people with my problems?

Answered by anonymous on 11 November 2018.

Q.   I'm really upset but wondering if I have every right to be or if my boyfriend was spot on and I need to get a grip. I have two children with my ex, we were together 8 years but then he cheated with his now wife. They got married within months of...

A.   11 November 2018: I disagree I don't think your overarching the answer is no . I would start keeping a track of these texts picture them and keep a diary on the incidents and your daughters feelings. I would also state to your ex that is she cannot control her ... (read in full...)

She seems open but what if she is telling me lies?

Answered by Honeypie + on 11 November 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Been single now for about 5 months after a long term relationship, and met someone a few weeks ago that i hit it off with, it happend very randomly and out of the blue. being careful, or at least trying to be ive had my guard up. but it feels right ...

A.   11 November 2018: I wouldn't bring up the parked truck, you have no idea what that is about. Could be a neighbor had friends over and asked to use her driveway or she had some family stop by to check on her since she was ill. So for now... forget about the truck. ... (read in full...)

I can't believe he couldnt see how I felt.

Answered by janniepeg + on 11 November 2018.

janniepeg agony auntQ.   I love a guy who is a good friend of mine and he doesnt know that I love him. At present we are not at all in talking terms. Let me explain how all this happened. 6-7 months back it came to my realization that I love him because I sensed jealousy...

A.   11 November 2018: He has got to be dumb to not know. He thrives on unspoken feelings and your friendship only survives because of the uncertainty and the fantasy playing in his mind. That he is the hero and women secretly want him. I don't believe male female ... (read in full...)

I had sex with my best friend now I want to be his girlfriend!

Answered by N91 + on 11 November 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   So I have been best friends with an American man for about 12.5 years now, we met online and started as penpals , we have emailed nearly every day for 12 years and always ring each other and there for each other if we were going through a tough ...

A.   11 November 2018: What other way could there be than just saying it to him? You don’t want to play games? Well that’s exactly what you are doing. He told you how he felt then you lied to his face. Why would you tell him you only see him as a friend if you don’t? ... (read in full...)

Should I be strong and not burden people with my problems?

Answered by Honeypie + on 11 November 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I'm really upset but wondering if I have every right to be or if my boyfriend was spot on and I need to get a grip. I have two children with my ex, we were together 8 years but then he cheated with his now wife. They got married within months of...

A.   11 November 2018: Well, I think you should grow a spine too and simply block her. You don't HAVE to take abuse over text from her. "running" to your ex hoping he will do what? reprimand her? spank her? Tell her to not use bad words to you? You see what I'm getting ... (read in full...)

Should I be strong and not burden people with my problems?

Answered by janniepeg + on 11 November 2018.

janniepeg agony auntQ.   I'm really upset but wondering if I have every right to be or if my boyfriend was spot on and I need to get a grip. I have two children with my ex, we were together 8 years but then he cheated with his now wife. They got married within months of...

A.   11 November 2018: You are not burdening people by saying you are upset. In fact your ex and his wife are setting a bad example for your daughter, and giving her a bad environment to grow up in. I think all the argument started because his wife senses that he still ... (read in full...)

My head is everywhere and I can't make a decision.

Answered by Honeypie + on 11 November 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I’ve been with my boyfriend for 16 months and he left to go Australia in Feb this year, I knew from the start that that was his plans and I was fine with it and both decided to keep things the same way knowing with it being a long distance ...

A.   11 November 2018: OP, honey... You two have spend HALF your relationship in a LDR, while you "think" you can plan for all kind of things, you can't plan for change. He "promised" he would move back to the UK, to you after a year, but that was BEFORE he got to... (read in full...)

My boyfriend spends all day on a dating app.

Answered by N91 + on 11 November 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   I don't know what to do as my b I yfriend is on a dating app day and night there's no photo of him and details just it shows his location home and work. I don't know what to do I just don't get if he's looking for me on there OE someone else. I see ...

A.   11 November 2018: Why would you want to fix things with someone who’s trying to find your replacement? What planet are you living on? HE doesn’t trust you?? How certain are you that these profiles are his without a picture? If you know it’s him yet you’re sticking... (read in full...)

My boyfriend spends all day on a dating app.

Answered by anonymous on 10 November 2018.

Q.   I don't know what to do as my b I yfriend is on a dating app day and night there's no photo of him and details just it shows his location home and work. I don't know what to do I just don't get if he's looking for me on there OE someone else. I see ...

A.   10 November 2018: I love my boyfriend so much but it seems he doesn't trust me at all and checks up on me and now I don't trust him seeing him on websites. This is a never ending circle problem that never goes away I really want to fix things but I don't know how... (read in full...)

I had sex with my best friend now I want to be his girlfriend!

Answered by CherryR07 + on 10 November 2018.

Q.   So I have been best friends with an American man for about 12.5 years now, we met online and started as penpals , we have emailed nearly every day for 12 years and always ring each other and there for each other if we were going through a tough ...

A.   10 November 2018: The best way to tell him, is just by sitting down, and telling him the truth. Obviously, he loves you a lot, the fact that he's not giving up on you, and is on the first flight to you just shows that. He is head over heels for you. Explain to him, ... (read in full...)

I'm 20 yet my parents don't want me to date.

Answered by CherryR07 + on 10 November 2018.

Q.   Hi everyone, this might get quite lengthy as there are back stories to the issues. Bear with me! First of all, I’m 20 years old in my 2nd year of university and I come from a Chinese family. And yes, the typical stereotypes of asian households...

A.   10 November 2018: I agree with WiseOwlE, in that your parents aren't changing their beliefs, so why should you? I come from an Asian family too, although I live in the UK, but it's honestly so hard, especially because we're girls, and obviously, in the asian culture, ... (read in full...)

Why do I attract abusive men? My current bf said that I deserve disrespect because I'm not glamorous!

Answered by anonymous on 10 November 2018.

Q.   My boyfriend said I don't deserve to be talked at with respect because I'm not glam. Why do I attract abusive men both my last two boyfriend's have been that way. Verbally and physically....

A.   10 November 2018: The thing is I don't feel I have low self esteem and I'm a pretty woman in great shape and can get lots of offers from men. Just seems that they're abusive. I did have an abusive upbringing and I'm starting to believe it's that somehow... (read in full...)

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