New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login238753 questions, 1053983 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap

Newest answers

These are the newest answers to questions on Dear Cupid. You can also now browse the questions by those which have the most active discussions surrounding them recently.

My sister is toxic and bitter, and she hates me, what do I do about her?

Answered by Denizen + on 18 December 2017.

Denizen agony auntQ.   Dear aunts, I have a sister who I love only for the fact that she is my blood, but everything else about her I just can't stand because we have a toxic relationship ever since I was a kid she always told me that I'm ugly, that I'm dumb, that i am ...

A.   18 December 2017: Just leave her out of the equation. She is jealous of you and until she feels good about herself it will never change. Some siblings never get on. It's a fact of life. You two aren't unusual. Just accept that you are going to live separate live... (read in full...)

Do I tell my girlfriend about an unwanted kiss?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 18 December 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hi I am a male aged 25 , I have been with my gf for almost 2 years , I am studying abroad so we are in a LDR for like a year , yesterday I went out and I was with my friend there and he talked to a girl and I was his wingman and started talking with ...

A.   18 December 2017: Honestly it is up to you what you tell her and what you don't but personally I would have to tell my husband, I would feel it eating me up inside if I didn't. ... (read in full...)

This is the second abusive relationship I've been in. Am I picking the wrong type of men?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 18 December 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Last night my boyfriend punched me in the mouth. I've left him. He asked me not to leave. But I said I have to be alone right now. It came about after an argument over a male friend of mine. My boyfriend said that my face lit up when my friend a...

A.   18 December 2017: Why do you need to meet up with him to tell him it is over, I mean you already done that so just send him a message tell him you are scared off him now, the damage is done and you don't want anything more to do with him. Then block him from being ... (read in full...)

On and off relationship with FWB has me confused

Answered by aunt honesty + on 18 December 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   So I been seeing this guy off and on since 2011, we hooked up, gone out slept over each other houses and all. We got into a huge fight stopped talking and recently start talking again. But this time he's more distant when I text him so doesn't reply ...

A.   18 December 2017: You should block his number and end the friendship. He is not a true friend he is only using you for sex. If he was a friend it would matter to him how you feel. I am not sure if you are actually in your thirties because it sounds like a question ... (read in full...)

First time sex was this normal?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 18 December 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I had sex for the first time and I noticed it wasn't that comfortable. As it was my first, I assumed it was just a matter of getting used to it. However at one point, it really hurt and was uncomfortable around my bum which I wasn't sure about. L...

A.   18 December 2017: Yes it does hurt. As it is your first time and even for the next while your partner needs to be gentle with you and make sure he uses plenty of lubrication and goes gentle. It does get better.... (read in full...)

Just lost a parent and he’s gone away. Should I break up with him for this?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 18 December 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hi All, Just looking for some advice at what is already a confusing and low time. I’ve just lost a very close family member, a parent and I feel like my partner hasn’t been as supportive as he could. I’m not taking it well at all. We were very clo...

A.   18 December 2017: I am sorry for your loss, if he cannot put you first and treat you right then it is his loss and you deserve better than that. ... (read in full...)

What are the odds of this girl getting pregnant?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 18 December 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hello. I went out on a date with a young 26 year old lady that I met online, and things went pretty well. Anyways afterwards she invited me to her room and well we started making out and one thing lead to another and we ended up undressing and ...

A.   18 December 2017: It is clear this woman wants a baby when she is acting like she is, she has no interest in you or getting to know you. My guess would be that she tries to hook up with as many guys as possible from the internet so she can try and get pregnant. I ... (read in full...)

How can I slow a guy down when he's getting physical too soon?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 18 December 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   There's this guy I went on a date with. On the first date, he kissed me, and I wasn't expecting him to use tongue, but he did. I usually don't kiss guys on the first date, but I kind of wanted to kiss him. Later on in the date, he managed to ge...

A.   18 December 2017: It is clear all this guy wants from you is sex. If he wanted to be respectful he would never have behaved like this on a first day. I am struggling to see why you would want to see him again unless it is something casual you are looking for. ... (read in full...)

Troubled relationship don't know how to deal with my mother in law

Answered by aunt honesty + on 18 December 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Can someone help me to identify what personality trait my mother in law has? She is not a very motherly figure. She has 2 daughter and 1 son who is my husband. She look up on the first daughter as she has luxury lifestyle,but behind that she ...

A.   18 December 2017: You have asked this question so many times now but you have just worded it differently each time. If she is so bad then why live under her roof and eat her food and accept her meals? Go and find a place where you can look after yourself and then ... (read in full...)

I want to help my niece but I'm not sure how to do so

Answered by aunt honesty + on 18 December 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   So, I have a niece that just turned 18 and I just turned 25, my sister had her early and our parents had me when they were a little older. So, my niece has always been very shy and quite. But she started to break out of her shell when she was in ...

A.   18 December 2017: To begin with your sisters boyfriend do you know what he was in prison for? Was it violence robbery any idea? It is strange to me that he would stay nights and then leave when your sister wasn't even there. What makes you think that he done ... (read in full...)

How do I form platonic friendships with women?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 18 December 2017.

Q.   A little background it turns out im emotionally numb/unavailable to people. i have a difficult time making meaningful connections with them even if i want to. tv makes emotional unavailability seem like a big joke for men. its been like this for me ...

A.   18 December 2017: I meant to say: " I mean they're so comfortable they bare their souls, and even undress in-front of us!" "We also exercise the same control with our straight-male friends." Pardon my editing after the fact!... (read in full...)

How do I form platonic friendships with women?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 18 December 2017.

Q.   A little background it turns out im emotionally numb/unavailable to people. i have a difficult time making meaningful connections with them even if i want to. tv makes emotional unavailability seem like a big joke for men. its been like this for me ...

A.   18 December 2017: Dating leads to intimacy. The purpose of dating is being in search of someone that you want to be more than friends with. What you're asking doesn't make any sense. If you don't want a physical-relationship with someone; you simply establis... (read in full...)

What would you think if your doctor said you look good?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 18 December 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   My male doctor surprised me the other day when I went in for an office visit. After discussing my medical problem he asked if I cut my hair and said I looked good.My hair hasn't changed the last few months plus I have been seeing him every 1-2 weeks ...

A.   18 December 2017: Have you wrote about this doctor before making comments to you making you freeze? If not then I will give you the same advice as I did to the last poster. It sounds like he is being professional and friendly and using small talk. Complimenting your ... (read in full...)

She's left me twice does she deserve my respect? Or do I just be her friend like nothing ever happened?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 18 December 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hello ladies, got a question for you, I was seeing this woman, she left me for another guy, OK, five years later we started to see each other again, she did it again, with a friend in a band, now he dumped her and she is trying to talk to me, am I ...

A.   18 December 2017: You are right she doesn't deserve any respect from you therefore you should stand your ground and not let anyone treat you the way that she has done. It is hard enough to forgive someone for cheating once, but twice just goes to far. She will never ... (read in full...)

I still don't know if he's prepared to be in the sort of relationship I want to be in.

Answered by aunt honesty + on 18 December 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   My boyfriend of 2 years have spent the last 4/5 months very much on off. We initially broke up 4 months ago because we started back at uni and he was spending none of his time with me, with all his free time dedicated to going out with his friends, ...

A.   18 December 2017: Honestly it sounds from your post that this relationship has run its course. He sounds like he is very confused and doesn't know what he wants at the moment. Off course that is not fair on you. Generally when a relationship is on and off like this ... (read in full...)

I feel lost in life, how do I find my path and carry on with my life?

Answered by anonymous on 18 December 2017.

Q.   Please note I'm not feeling suicidal and have no plans to go down that route, I am simply feeling lost and confused. Ever since my first and only girlfriend broke up with me not 11 months ago I've been effectively listing through life without a p...

A.   18 December 2017: You will never forget her no matter how cruel she had been to you, but you will get over her and start living a normal life as time passes. Time is a great healler of emotional wounds. In the mean time try to fill your spare times with useful things ... (read in full...)

Triangle friendship double cross!

Answered by aunt honesty + on 18 December 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Ive been friends with my friend (Samantha) for 5 years and its really had its ups and downs throughout the years but things started to get worse, the competitiveness, the jealousy etc. We love each other very much but there is a lot negativity and ...

A.   18 December 2017: No I disagree with you not all women bitch and gossip behind their friends back!! I know for sure that I don't and if I had anything to say to them then I would say it to there face. So if you are the sort off person that back stabs there friends ... (read in full...)

Would a guy settle for one woman if he can't have another?

Answered by N91 + on 18 December 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   A guy complained that girl A does not like him. Girl A treats him indifferently. At the same time the guy was, and has becoming closer to girl B; who has always been in love with him. This guy and girl B having a relationship now. It seems like the...

A.   18 December 2017: Yes of course people settle for others in life. Lots of reasons: Lack of ambition, fear of loneliness, comfortability to name a few. The real question is why are you asking this question? Why would you be bothered if it had nothing to do wi... (read in full...)

How do I form platonic friendships with women?

Answered by anonymous on 18 December 2017.

Q.   A little background it turns out im emotionally numb/unavailable to people. i have a difficult time making meaningful connections with them even if i want to. tv makes emotional unavailability seem like a big joke for men. its been like this for me ...

A.   18 December 2017: The question is sorta misleading. i want to date women but not have sex with them. so i want to move past platonic just not get physical.... (read in full...)

Two questions about my breasts

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 18 December 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   First Question: my boyfriend keeps asking me to show him my chest and am afraid. when i date him i always wear light clothes and no bra. when hugging him i stick soo close to him hoping that he will feel my brests and strip the clothes for hims...

A.   18 December 2017: How long have you been with him? Have you had sex? If you don't want to have sex yet, then I wouldn't advise taking your clothes off, as that will probably lead to sex. If you're afraid to do it yourself, don't do it; it's your brain telling ... (read in full...)

Should I go and see my ex and offer my condolences because his father died?

Answered by anonymous on 18 December 2017.

Q.   I received a text message from my ex boyfriend this morning saying that his dad passed away last Thursday. I hadn't heard from him for two months before that and haven't seen him for three months. We broke up ten months ago . Strangely enough, I ...

A.   18 December 2017: It's strange really because I had thought of going to see him soon anyway before I heard from him. I had been wondering how he was and thought about him as it's almost Christmas. I feel like I still have feelings for him, but I'm not sure if we ... (read in full...)

Would a guy settle for one woman if he can't have another?

Answered by Ciar + on 18 December 2017.

Ciar agony auntQ.   A guy complained that girl A does not like him. Girl A treats him indifferently. At the same time the guy was, and has becoming closer to girl B; who has always been in love with him. This guy and girl B having a relationship now. It seems like the...

A.   18 December 2017: Yeah, I got a bit of a surprise myself when I saw the age. Though I think it's Woman B and the idiot guy who need to grow up. That's the problem with these convoluted guy/girl A/B scenarios. Why can't folks just say 'Me, he, her'? Anyhoo, I'm assu... (read in full...)

My father and I have different views on life and it's holding me back from being myself

Answered by Ciar + on 18 December 2017.

Ciar agony auntQ.   I live with my mom and dad while working and going to school part time to finish my degree. My mom and I have always been close but my dad and I not so much. I was always his little 'princess' growing up and loved to go camping/fishing ...

A.   18 December 2017: Being an adult does not mean you're old enough to do whatever you want. It means that you are now of an age that you can and should be supporting yourself entirely. If you're still living in your parents' house and going to school then you're d... (read in full...)

I'm a virgin but want to know how long I'll last when I have sex

Answered by Honeypie + on 18 December 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Greetings. I'm a virgin and and am thinking of me being able to last very long. Is it possible to know how long I can do it without doing sex as yet? As masturbation is not the same as cohabitation. Thanks a lot. May we all be guided in both l...

A.   18 December 2017: What Ciar said, There is no way of knowing how long you will last. What is always a good thing for a first time (and consequent times) it to ensure that your partner is pleasured THOUGHROUGHLY before you "get" yours. If you focus on them FIRST it... (read in full...)

Would a guy settle for one woman if he can't have another?

Answered by Honeypie + on 18 December 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   A guy complained that girl A does not like him. Girl A treats him indifferently. At the same time the guy was, and has becoming closer to girl B; who has always been in love with him. This guy and girl B having a relationship now. It seems like the...

A.   18 December 2017: Woman (not girl) A needs to grow the F up - she is still mentally in Highschool and it's sad. I think she is enjoying that the moron of a man is using HER as ammo and fodder to torment Woman B. Woman B needs her head examined as she is chasing ... (read in full...)

Should I go and see my ex and offer my condolences because his father died?

Answered by Ciar + on 18 December 2017.

Ciar agony auntQ.   I received a text message from my ex boyfriend this morning saying that his dad passed away last Thursday. I hadn't heard from him for two months before that and haven't seen him for three months. We broke up ten months ago . Strangely enough, I ...

A.   18 December 2017: I think, as has been suggested, that an email or a condolence card is sufficient. I wouldn't volunteer to go and see him or plan any 'random/accidental' encounters. He may still harbour feelings for you, but it's just as likely that you were in ... (read in full...)

I'm a virgin but want to know how long I'll last when I have sex

Answered by Ciar + on 18 December 2017.

Ciar agony auntQ.   Greetings. I'm a virgin and and am thinking of me being able to last very long. Is it possible to know how long I can do it without doing sex as yet? As masturbation is not the same as cohabitation. Thanks a lot. May we all be guided in both l...

A.   18 December 2017: Even if you'd had sex a thousand times we still would not be able to predict how long you'd last in the future. This is determined by a number of factors, which can change over the course of ones life, such as how nervous/excited or tired you are... (read in full...)

Should I go and see my ex and offer my condolences because his father died?

Answered by N91 + on 18 December 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   I received a text message from my ex boyfriend this morning saying that his dad passed away last Thursday. I hadn't heard from him for two months before that and haven't seen him for three months. We broke up ten months ago . Strangely enough, I ...

A.   18 December 2017: Well that depends. Do you want to see him? Are you hoping to achieve something from seeing him? Are old feelings going to be brought up? It is actually going to be a good idea? Honestly, you're broken up. He wants someone to lean on through ... (read in full...)

Signs he is a compulsive liar? what the heck is that attitude after breakup?

Answered by anonymous on 18 December 2017.

Q.   Hey everyone, So I broke up with my bf about 1 month and a half ago. I am 22, he is 25. We had been together for 1 year and a half. We met as international students (in Australia, I was exchange student and he was studying engineering ther...

A.   18 December 2017: Hi, I'm the girl of the question, thanks to all the answers I had, When I said I thought he was a compulsive liar, it's because he also lied at his workplace, like several times (my colleague told me once our boss had thought about firing him... (read in full...)

My father and I have different views on life and it's holding me back from being myself

Answered by Allumeuse + on 18 December 2017.

Q.   I live with my mom and dad while working and going to school part time to finish my degree. My mom and I have always been close but my dad and I not so much. I was always his little 'princess' growing up and loved to go camping/fishing ...

A.   18 December 2017: You are an adult in your eyes,in the eyes of the law too, but if you are still living with your parents they will still view you as their child. It is infantilising to living with your parents as they can always and legitimately say 'our house,our ... (read in full...)

Signs he is a compulsive liar? what the heck is that attitude after breakup?

Answered by CindyCares + on 18 December 2017.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   Hey everyone, So I broke up with my bf about 1 month and a half ago. I am 22, he is 25. We had been together for 1 year and a half. We met as international students (in Australia, I was exchange student and he was studying engineering ther...

A.   18 December 2017:  He just needed to shake you off himself real bad and real soon, by all means necessary. He is from Pakistanm right ? Well, in Pakistan still nowadays close to 90% of marriages are combined by the parents. It does not mean that they are forc... (read in full...)

Could it be my social anxiety or am I right to feel left out?

Answered by CindyCares + on 18 December 2017.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   Hey guys I need your help with something. About a month ago I went out with my boyfriend and a few of his friends, two of them being a girl and her boyfriend. My boyfriend still has a big friend group from when he was at school (girls and guys)...

A.   18 December 2017:  It could be your sense of entitlement speaking, which makes you feel left out. Look, maybe it's not fair but life it's not fair, so if YOU have social anxiety, ultimately that's YOUR problem to deal with, why do you expect or demand that a dozen ... (read in full...)

Signs he is a compulsive liar? what the heck is that attitude after breakup?

Answered by anonymous on 18 December 2017.

Q.   Hey everyone, So I broke up with my bf about 1 month and a half ago. I am 22, he is 25. We had been together for 1 year and a half. We met as international students (in Australia, I was exchange student and he was studying engineering ther...

A.   18 December 2017: You were a convenient person for 1.5 years, that's all. He had all plans of dumping you when he moved but couldn't get you to go away. I understand how you were duped bc it did last so long and you want answers so you can save face. He's not letting ... (read in full...)

My ex is living with his partner but confessing to love me. Is he playing games?

Answered by Honeypie + on 18 December 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I split with my partner two years ago. He gets in contact every few months to say he misses me etc. Not long after we split (he ended the relationship) he met someone else. He’s confessed it was a rebound. Last month he told me that I’m the only ...

A.   18 December 2017: Oh, OP He DEFINITELY is playing you. He has settled into a routine with this newer woman (rebound or not is irrelevant) and he is a bit bored. So by contacting you and laying it on THICK, he is hoping you might drop your knickers o occasion... (read in full...)

I feel lost in life, how do I find my path and carry on with my life?

Answered by CindyCares + on 18 December 2017.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   Please note I'm not feeling suicidal and have no plans to go down that route, I am simply feeling lost and confused. Ever since my first and only girlfriend broke up with me not 11 months ago I've been effectively listing through life without a p...

A.   18 December 2017:  By being realistic and not re- reading the past through rose - tinted glasses ? This prize of a girlfriend, this queen among women, put you through hell for 6 long months by dating other guys and bringing one back to the home she shared with... (read in full...)

Three men and I can't date them all. Who would you pick?

Answered by N91 + on 18 December 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   I appreciate your help in advance. I don’t know what to do with these three men in my life. I’m 40 years old divorced with one child. My ex husband who is trying to take me back and hasn’t moved on 3 years after our divorce. I know the first guy who ...

A.   18 December 2017: You have your concerns about all of them which to me says none are suitable. Unless any of them are jumping out at you and you think they can add something to your quality of life then I'd keep looking. From your description it sounds like non... (read in full...)

My ex is living with his partner but confessing to love me. Is he playing games?

Answered by N91 + on 18 December 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   I split with my partner two years ago. He gets in contact every few months to say he misses me etc. Not long after we split (he ended the relationship) he met someone else. He’s confessed it was a rebound. Last month he told me that I’m the only ...

A.   18 December 2017: Of course he is messing you around. Very sleazy behaviour, if he had anything about him he would of ended his relationship and be living without his current partner before announcing his love for you. My guess? He's going to try to get you t... (read in full...)

Could it be my social anxiety or am I right to feel left out?

Answered by Allumeuse + on 18 December 2017.

Q.   Hey guys I need your help with something. About a month ago I went out with my boyfriend and a few of his friends, two of them being a girl and her boyfriend. My boyfriend still has a big friend group from when he was at school (girls and guys)...

A.   18 December 2017: You are asking alot of people you don't know that well to make alot of changes to their plans to accommodate your social anxiety. I think what you are trying to break into is an established group of friends who are already comfortable with each ... (read in full...)

Signs he is a compulsive liar? what the heck is that attitude after breakup?

Answered by N91 + on 18 December 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   Hey everyone, So I broke up with my bf about 1 month and a half ago. I am 22, he is 25. We had been together for 1 year and a half. We met as international students (in Australia, I was exchange student and he was studying engineering ther...

A.   18 December 2017: The thing here is he sounds like a compulsive liar, the fact that he broke up with you imo is a good thing. If he lies about his father dying and not bat an eyelid what other smaller things could he lie about? Stop trying to work out why he broke... (read in full...)

Signs he is a compulsive liar? what the heck is that attitude after breakup?

Answered by anonymous on 18 December 2017.

Q.   Hey everyone, So I broke up with my bf about 1 month and a half ago. I am 22, he is 25. We had been together for 1 year and a half. We met as international students (in Australia, I was exchange student and he was studying engineering ther...

A.   18 December 2017: It was the cultural difference that won. You were two foreign students in a foreign country probably feeling lonely so you fell together and he must have liked you or he wouldn't have stayed with you that long but eventually he realised that he can ... (read in full...)

My ex is living with his partner but confessing to love me. Is he playing games?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 18 December 2017.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I split with my partner two years ago. He gets in contact every few months to say he misses me etc. Not long after we split (he ended the relationship) he met someone else. He’s confessed it was a rebound. Last month he told me that I’m the only ...

A.   18 December 2017: Basically his new relationship has come to the end of its honeymoon stage and settled down into normal mundane everyday life. It is no longer exciting enough to keep his full attention, just as his relationship with you wasn't a couple of years ago. ... (read in full...)

Signs he is a compulsive liar? what the heck is that attitude after breakup?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 18 December 2017.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Hey everyone, So I broke up with my bf about 1 month and a half ago. I am 22, he is 25. We had been together for 1 year and a half. We met as international students (in Australia, I was exchange student and he was studying engineering ther...

A.   18 December 2017: Sometimes we have to settle for NOT understanding a situation and accept that there is no acceptable explanation. After all the crazy lies, surely you must realize you are much better off without him? Stop trying to contact him. There is NO emerg... (read in full...)

Three men and I can't date them all. Who would you pick?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 18 December 2017.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I appreciate your help in advance. I don’t know what to do with these three men in my life. I’m 40 years old divorced with one child. My ex husband who is trying to take me back and hasn’t moved on 3 years after our divorce. I know the first guy who ...

A.   18 December 2017: Well, first of all you have to decide whether there is any future with your ex husband. If not, you need to make that very clear to him so he is not holding out hope and "muddying the waters". Secondly, why do you not go out on a couple of dates... (read in full...)

Should I own up to my size?

Answered by anonymous on 18 December 2017.

Q.   I only have 4 inches erect and I met this girl about month ago. She is very beautiful and has great personality. We have gotten more physical in the relationship but due to nervousness I invent excuse to leave before she sees me naked or before sex ...

A.   18 December 2017: Hi there, I think you are in danger of giving her the wrong impression if you basically make an excuse to leave whenever things get hot and heavy. She may start to think that you don't like her or don't like the way she kisses. I would probably... (read in full...)

Why do people question that we are just friends?

Answered by Honeypie + on 18 December 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I have a male friend who is one of my closest friends and we’ve known each other about a year and a half. Earlier this year I met his girlfriend and we too have since become friends. I socialise with them as a couple and individually. There’s n...

A.   18 December 2017: Yes, men and women can be friends. And some men and women CAN'T. I would ask the NEXT person who asks, why on Earth they think that you are/were a couple. See what they say. Personally though, if the GF is OK with the friendship, who care... (read in full...)

Signs he is a compulsive liar? what the heck is that attitude after breakup?

Answered by Honeypie + on 18 December 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hey everyone, So I broke up with my bf about 1 month and a half ago. I am 22, he is 25. We had been together for 1 year and a half. We met as international students (in Australia, I was exchange student and he was studying engineering ther...

A.   18 December 2017: My thoughts? YOU dodged a crazy bullet!! Be GLAD you found out about all these badly woven web of lies now instead of later. Someone who can't JUST break up with you - without having to "kill off" his dad and make his step-mom/mom sick - is a sic... (read in full...)

This is the second abusive relationship I've been in. Am I picking the wrong type of men?

Answered by Honeypie + on 18 December 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Last night my boyfriend punched me in the mouth. I've left him. He asked me not to leave. But I said I have to be alone right now. It came about after an argument over a male friend of mine. My boyfriend said that my face lit up when my friend a...

A.   18 December 2017: While I don't think he would hit you, I would NOT see him at either of your homes for this conversation. Do you really think you HAVE to meet up to break up? I get that it's a respectful way to end a relationship (to break up in person) but I do... (read in full...)

Three men and I can't date them all. Who would you pick?

Answered by anonymous on 18 December 2017.

Q.   I appreciate your help in advance. I don’t know what to do with these three men in my life. I’m 40 years old divorced with one child. My ex husband who is trying to take me back and hasn’t moved on 3 years after our divorce. I know the first guy who ...

A.   18 December 2017: I would only say that there is nothing wrong with seeing multiple guys at the same time. If you were to go out with all of them, it might only take a few weeks for you to make up your mind. If you were sleeping with them though, I think that's a... (read in full...)

Signs he is a compulsive liar? what the heck is that attitude after breakup?

Answered by anonymous on 18 December 2017.

Q.   Hey everyone, So I broke up with my bf about 1 month and a half ago. I am 22, he is 25. We had been together for 1 year and a half. We met as international students (in Australia, I was exchange student and he was studying engineering ther...

A.   18 December 2017: Forget him. It's done and over. He's given you his answers and blocked you on all social media. This guy is not worthy of another thought from you. Consider yourself lucky to have found out what a jerk he is before things went too far. ... (read in full...)

Does he want me?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 18 December 2017.

Q.   Hi I am 29 yr old female in a relationship with a guy who is actually my junior and is 3 years younger than me. (Well he told me about his age once we get into relationship) I told him then to stop as I was always having this issue of age but he s...

A.   18 December 2017: It doesn't seem you really have that healthy of a relationship to start with. These are the circumstances under-which the durability/stability of our relationships are tested. Together, we must go through challenges and overcome obstacle... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend too sexually demanding?

Answered by anonymous on 18 December 2017.

Q.   I’ve been with my boyfriend around half a year. He has really bad anger issues which he has been trying to control but he still has his outbursts. One of the things that triggers these outbursts is when I don’t give him head when he wants it. ...

A.   18 December 2017: Leave. His. Ass. You should not be in a relationship with a man who thinks he can win you over by getting all worked up and angry. Honey, if you ask me, that’s bullshit and disgusting. Don’t let him treat you that way. You deserve so much better and ... (read in full...)

Three men and I can't date them all. Who would you pick?

Answered by anonymous on 18 December 2017.

Q.   I appreciate your help in advance. I don’t know what to do with these three men in my life. I’m 40 years old divorced with one child. My ex husband who is trying to take me back and hasn’t moved on 3 years after our divorce. I know the first guy who ...

A.   18 December 2017: I wouldn't date any of them, because I don't think you genuinely care for any of them. I know you crave stability, but happy relationships do not come from checklists and requirements. They occur naturally, without force. Nothing about what you... (read in full...)

This is the second abusive relationship I've been in. Am I picking the wrong type of men?

Answered by BettyBoup + on 18 December 2017.

BettyBoup agony auntQ.   Last night my boyfriend punched me in the mouth. I've left him. He asked me not to leave. But I said I have to be alone right now. It came about after an argument over a male friend of mine. My boyfriend said that my face lit up when my friend a...

A.   18 December 2017: Thank you Honeypie. You have helped so much. I have no one else to talk to about this as everyone in my life knows him... I did meet up with him today, briefly. I wanted to see what he would say and how it would feel to see him. It was not good... (read in full...)

Our intimacy is gone and I don't know what to think or say?!?

Answered by anonymous on 18 December 2017.

Q.   Don’t know what to think or say!! I haven been married for 15 years to a wonderful lady. Like every marriage we have encountered ups and downs. For about a year our intimacy is gone. She gets off work at 5:30pm arrives home at 8:30pm. She is a...

A.   18 December 2017: Have you tried bringing the intimacy back in other ways? Taking her out to dinner, going on a romantic getaway, surprising her with a clean house or a gift. I don't want to jump to conclusions about her fidelity, but I think the communication in... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend too sexually demanding?

Answered by N91 + on 17 December 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   I’ve been with my boyfriend around half a year. He has really bad anger issues which he has been trying to control but he still has his outbursts. One of the things that triggers these outbursts is when I don’t give him head when he wants it. ...

A.   17 December 2017: Get out whilst you still can. Write the money off, you're not getting that back, but definitely leave this guy before he seriously hurts you. I don't see what you could possibly like about him to be quite honest. If he had a bad upbringing t... (read in full...)

My wife wants an open relationship, I don't

Answered by anonymous on 17 December 2017.

Q.   My wife insists on a open relationship for her but not for me. I am very resentful about this but she says its this or nothing. I love her but I am going nuts....

A.   17 December 2017: I wrote an answer earlier about how you have a legitimate right to feel the way you do. But then you defensively wrote back that wouldn’t provide any additional information. That defensiveness does make me think that she may have a legit reason to ... (read in full...)

My wife wants an open relationship, I don't

Answered by Ciar + on 17 December 2017.

Ciar agony auntQ.   My wife insists on a open relationship for her but not for me. I am very resentful about this but she says its this or nothing. I love her but I am going nuts....

A.   17 December 2017: I'm pretty sure you've posted about this before. ... (read in full...)

Our intimacy is gone and I don't know what to think or say?!?

Answered by Billy Bathgate + on 17 December 2017.

Q.   Don’t know what to think or say!! I haven been married for 15 years to a wonderful lady. Like every marriage we have encountered ups and downs. For about a year our intimacy is gone. She gets off work at 5:30pm arrives home at 8:30pm. She is a...

A.   17 December 2017: Oh come on dude. It is over she has found someone else. Divorce her and move on.... (read in full...)

Her kids and mine are cousins, is it okay to date?

Answered by Billy Bathgate + on 17 December 2017.

Q.   So I have started to date or have been with and seen, my ex wife’s brothers ex wife I have a son with my ex and she has two kids with her ex who is my ex wife’s brother. Our kids are cousins but we both want no more kids. We both feel this could be ...

A.   17 December 2017: You are related to this woman by nothing. Of course it is okay to see her. She technically may have been an in law but I’m not sure about that and she certainly is not an in law now. You two should enjoy yourself’s ... (read in full...)

Should I own up to my size?

Answered by chigirl + on 17 December 2017.

chigirl agony auntQ.   I only have 4 inches erect and I met this girl about month ago. She is very beautiful and has great personality. We have gotten more physical in the relationship but due to nervousness I invent excuse to leave before she sees me naked or before sex ...

A.   17 December 2017: I would prefer a guy to let things go by the flow and enjoy himself. Girls dont need or want a large penis. We want a great kisser and someone who is passionate in bed. Someone who enjoys making us feel good. That's what makes someone a great lover. ... (read in full...)

Should I own up to my size?

Answered by chigirl + on 17 December 2017.

chigirl agony auntQ.   I only have 4 inches erect and I met this girl about month ago. She is very beautiful and has great personality. We have gotten more physical in the relationship but due to nervousness I invent excuse to leave before she sees me naked or before sex ...

A.   17 December 2017: I would prefer a guy to let things go by the flow and enjoy himself. Girls dont need or want a large penis. We want a great kisser and someone who is passionate in bed. Someone who enjoys making us feel... (read in full...)

Our intimacy is gone and I don't know what to think or say?!?

Answered by anonymous on 17 December 2017.

Q.   Don’t know what to think or say!! I haven been married for 15 years to a wonderful lady. Like every marriage we have encountered ups and downs. For about a year our intimacy is gone. She gets off work at 5:30pm arrives home at 8:30pm. She is a...

A.   17 December 2017: Erm, my office party doesn’t allow spouses/partners so that really means nothing! There are 200 people in my department alone so we’re lucky if we can find somewhere big enough for the staff never mind partners too. Besides, it’s heavily subsidised ... (read in full...)

My wife wants an open relationship, I don't

Answered by anonymous on 17 December 2017.

Q.   My wife insists on a open relationship for her but not for me. I am very resentful about this but she says its this or nothing. I love her but I am going nuts....

A.   17 December 2017: Did you cheat on her by chance ? If you did then I can totally understand why she is asking for this . In fact it sounds like perhaps this may be what happened and you are leaving these facts out ? CN you give us some background as to why she feel... (read in full...)

Should I own up to my size?

Answered by anonymous on 17 December 2017.

Q.   I only have 4 inches erect and I met this girl about month ago. She is very beautiful and has great personality. We have gotten more physical in the relationship but due to nervousness I invent excuse to leave before she sees me naked or before sex ...

A.   17 December 2017: I think you should spend more time with her build more into the relationship .. I myself find being emotional connected so much heightens the sensual sexual part . That she may not care what size you are. . ... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend too sexually demanding?

Answered by Allumeuse + on 17 December 2017.

Q.   I’ve been with my boyfriend around half a year. He has really bad anger issues which he has been trying to control but he still has his outbursts. One of the things that triggers these outbursts is when I don’t give him head when he wants it. ...

A.   17 December 2017: I think you have to forget about the money. It's better to have a clean break from this man than be endlessly tied to him trying and likely failing to retrieve this cash. Think as it as a sunk cost and count it as worth a thousand bucks to be free ... (read in full...)

Should I own up to my size?

Answered by anonymous on 17 December 2017.

Q.   I only have 4 inches erect and I met this girl about month ago. She is very beautiful and has great personality. We have gotten more physical in the relationship but due to nervousness I invent excuse to leave before she sees me naked or before sex ...

A.   17 December 2017: No don't tell her because that will be very immature thing if you do. Let her decide for her self. If she finds you too small for her liking she will disappear from your life and you will not see her again. The good news is that Women are also ... (read in full...)

Should I own up to my size?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 17 December 2017.

Q.   I only have 4 inches erect and I met this girl about month ago. She is very beautiful and has great personality. We have gotten more physical in the relationship but due to nervousness I invent excuse to leave before she sees me naked or before sex ...

A.   17 December 2017: Everyone has something they feel insecure about. Your manhood is not measured by the length of your penis. The way you determine that a person really cares for you; is when you lovingly give yourself just as nature made you, and they love you all ... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend too sexually demanding?

Answered by CMMP + on 17 December 2017.

Q.   I’ve been with my boyfriend around half a year. He has really bad anger issues which he has been trying to control but he still has his outbursts. One of the things that triggers these outbursts is when I don’t give him head when he wants it. ...

A.   17 December 2017: Your boyfriend is an asshole and you deserve better... I'm not sure if I missed the word in your question but I don't remember you saying that this is abuse. It clearly is. Let me say that if one of my daughters was grown up and told me thei... (read in full...)

Should I own up to my size?

Answered by CMMP + on 17 December 2017.

Q.   I only have 4 inches erect and I met this girl about month ago. She is very beautiful and has great personality. We have gotten more physical in the relationship but due to nervousness I invent excuse to leave before she sees me naked or before sex ...

A.   17 December 2017: The truth is that for some women that might be too small. For some women 7 inches is too small, too. But there are a hundred reasons why a new relationship might not work out. Maybe she realizes you're too sarcastic. Maybe your leisure activiti... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend too sexually demanding?

Answered by CindyCares + on 17 December 2017.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   I’ve been with my boyfriend around half a year. He has really bad anger issues which he has been trying to control but he still has his outbursts. One of the things that triggers these outbursts is when I don’t give him head when he wants it. ...

A.   17 December 2017:  Whaat ? over one grand ?--- Look.You got screwed over. Big time. You don't need to beat yourself up and to get upset about your " stupidity " , because all of us make mistakes, particularly when we are young and not too experienced : BUT, you... (read in full...)

Should I own up to my size?

Answered by jls022 + on 17 December 2017.

Q.   I only have 4 inches erect and I met this girl about month ago. She is very beautiful and has great personality. We have gotten more physical in the relationship but due to nervousness I invent excuse to leave before she sees me naked or before sex ...

A.   17 December 2017: It makes me really sad that you feel you need to make any sort of apology or announcement about your own body OP. Why on earth would she feel deceived? You are who you are and anyone worth having in your life should accept you as such. I know you... (read in full...)

Does he want me?

Answered by NORA B + on 17 December 2017.

Q.   Hi I am 29 yr old female in a relationship with a guy who is actually my junior and is 3 years younger than me. (Well he told me about his age once we get into relationship) I told him then to stop as I was always having this issue of age but he s...

A.   17 December 2017:  Love is difficult at the best of times,and there has to be give and take on both sides.However this relationship seems to have started on rocky ground and a lot of problems to deal with.The death of his mum would be a major sad issue in his life ... (read in full...)

This is the second abusive relationship I've been in. Am I picking the wrong type of men?

Answered by Honeypie + on 17 December 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Last night my boyfriend punched me in the mouth. I've left him. He asked me not to leave. But I said I have to be alone right now. It came about after an argument over a male friend of mine. My boyfriend said that my face lit up when my friend a...

A.   17 December 2017: I can understand why you feel the way you do. Getting back "just" for Christmas is not really realistic. If it's over LET it be over. I think getting back together will only emphasize that what he did was a "mistake" and it leaves open the door... (read in full...)

Should I own up to my size?

Answered by NORA B + on 17 December 2017.

Q.   I only have 4 inches erect and I met this girl about month ago. She is very beautiful and has great personality. We have gotten more physical in the relationship but due to nervousness I invent excuse to leave before she sees me naked or before sex ...

A.   17 December 2017: A loving relationship is what is important here,the sharing and understanding of each other.Making love is not measured my the size of a man penis.As your only in the relationship a month,give it a little more time to develope and use your gut ... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend too sexually demanding?

Answered by anonymous on 17 December 2017.

Q.   I’ve been with my boyfriend around half a year. He has really bad anger issues which he has been trying to control but he still has his outbursts. One of the things that triggers these outbursts is when I don’t give him head when he wants it. ...

A.   17 December 2017: This man is highly abusive and I suggest you leave asap before it gets much worse. I speak from experience.... (read in full...)

Do I need to step out of my bubble with this outgoing guy?

Answered by anonymous on 17 December 2017.

Q.   Hello Aunts and Uncles I'm not in any precarious situation but just looking for some advice on things in my relationship i've just not encountered before. About two years ago I left a long term relationship, it was wholly amicable and ende...

A.   17 December 2017: If a man gave me a gift and all he was worried about was whether I had posted about it on social media would make me think that he wasn't trying to make me happy but wanting to make himself look good. But then I am not in favour of telling ever... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend too sexually demanding?

Answered by anonymous on 17 December 2017.

Q.   I’ve been with my boyfriend around half a year. He has really bad anger issues which he has been trying to control but he still has his outbursts. One of the things that triggers these outbursts is when I don’t give him head when he wants it. ...

A.   17 December 2017: Forgot to mention that he owes me a lot of money, I’ve been naive and since the beginning of us being together I’ve let him use my card and lend money off of me. He would ask me to transfer him money and I would just because I guess I can’t say no ... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend too sexually demanding?

Answered by anonymous on 17 December 2017.

Q.   I’ve been with my boyfriend around half a year. He has really bad anger issues which he has been trying to control but he still has his outbursts. One of the things that triggers these outbursts is when I don’t give him head when he wants it. ...

A.   17 December 2017: Please Google "power and control wheel". You'll come up with a wheel picture that has spokes on it giving examples of different types of abuse. See that he hits many categories. Then, tell him its over and give him a number to a suicide hotline so ... (read in full...)

Is this my motherhood talking or would I have changed my mind as I grew older anyway?

Answered by anonymous on 17 December 2017.

Q.   I have a daughter who will soon become a teenager. (they grow up sooo fast!). My sister commented that we'll soon have some dating-drama in the house. Which made me think of my teenage and young adult years. What would I do as a mother if my dau...

A.   17 December 2017: When I was twenty I had a five year relationship with a separated man who was eighteen years older than me. My mother and father never said a word to me, but they were always there. There was no need for them to worry as it turned out as I was the ... (read in full...)

My wife wants an open relationship, I don't

Answered by NORA B + on 17 December 2017.

Q.   My wife insists on a open relationship for her but not for me. I am very resentful about this but she says its this or nothing. I love her but I am going nuts....

A.   17 December 2017: She may love you ...but she is not in-love with you.The relationship is over.Do not waste time on a person who Only loves herself.Move on..Move out,she is not worth another thought.Give yourself Time and Space to heal and start afresh.After all ... (read in full...)

Do I need to step out of my bubble with this outgoing guy?

Answered by Anonymous 123 + on 17 December 2017.

Anonymous 123 agony auntQ.   Hello Aunts and Uncles I'm not in any precarious situation but just looking for some advice on things in my relationship i've just not encountered before. About two years ago I left a long term relationship, it was wholly amicable and ende...

A.   17 December 2017: Your say you were used to minimal affection... Are you sure you're not doing the same with the new guy in the sense that you're withholding affection from him? Why don't you respond to his gifts positively? Why do you have a delayed response? Would ... (read in full...)

I love him and want to be his but I don't want to get hurt

Answered by no nonsense Aidan + on 17 December 2017.

Q.   So I started dating this guy I never though I’d be with and fell in love with him and he fell in love with me. We had the best relationship. Well he joined the military a year after dating and I decided I was going to support him, that my love for ...

A.   17 December 2017: When he comes, I think you need to make sure that the talk happens and isn’t put off. In the end, if you would prefer to wait for him than not be with him, that is your position. His might be that he’s not prepared to ask that of you, and that he ... (read in full...)

Her kids and mine are cousins, is it okay to date?

Answered by no nonsense Aidan + on 17 December 2017.

Q.   So I have started to date or have been with and seen, my ex wife’s brothers ex wife I have a son with my ex and she has two kids with her ex who is my ex wife’s brother. Our kids are cousins but we both want no more kids. We both feel this could be ...

A.   17 December 2017: Is this okay? Of course, both of you are free agents and there was only a marital connection between you in the first place. Keep in mind that the kids are cousins so make sure you both keep in mind that whatever happens with the both of you, it ... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend too sexually demanding?

Answered by Allumeuse + on 17 December 2017.

Q.   I’ve been with my boyfriend around half a year. He has really bad anger issues which he has been trying to control but he still has his outbursts. One of the things that triggers these outbursts is when I don’t give him head when he wants it. ...

A.   17 December 2017: You are doing what he asks out of fear. This is abuse. Leave him as soon as you can. This man is not a good partner he is a grown up baby who has a tantrum, kicks screams and lashes out when he doesn't get what he wants. As You cannot be Serious ... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend too sexually demanding?

Answered by no nonsense Aidan + on 17 December 2017.

Q.   I’ve been with my boyfriend around half a year. He has really bad anger issues which he has been trying to control but he still has his outbursts. One of the things that triggers these outbursts is when I don’t give him head when he wants it. ...

A.   17 December 2017: Don’t say anything to him, just get yourself out of this relationship urgently! First, you are performing sex acts on him against your wishes for fear of the consequences if you don’t. What kind of person would value your opinion and feelings so ... (read in full...)

This is the second abusive relationship I've been in. Am I picking the wrong type of men?

Answered by BettyBoup + on 17 December 2017.

BettyBoup agony auntQ.   Last night my boyfriend punched me in the mouth. I've left him. He asked me not to leave. But I said I have to be alone right now. It came about after an argument over a male friend of mine. My boyfriend said that my face lit up when my friend a...

A.   17 December 2017: I have heard of a mean drunk, and that does describe him. He has made jokes at my expense, spoken to me in mean ways, not let me go to sleep because he wanted to argue, and has tried to throw me out in the middle of the night, whilst drunk. He has ... (read in full...)

Her kids and mine are cousins, is it okay to date?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 17 December 2017.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   So I have started to date or have been with and seen, my ex wife’s brothers ex wife I have a son with my ex and she has two kids with her ex who is my ex wife’s brother. Our kids are cousins but we both want no more kids. We both feel this could be ...

A.   17 December 2017: There is no blood connection between you and your ex wife's brother's ex wife (unless she is a member of YOUR family) so there is absolutely no reason why you should not date. One of our circle of friends is currently in the exact same position... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend too sexually demanding?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 17 December 2017.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I’ve been with my boyfriend around half a year. He has really bad anger issues which he has been trying to control but he still has his outbursts. One of the things that triggers these outbursts is when I don’t give him head when he wants it. ...

A.   17 December 2017: I deserve better. I deserve better. I deserve better. Sweetheart, you need to KEEP TELLING YOURSELF THAT and ACT on it. You are already in an abusive relationship. Trust me when I tell you things will only escalate. You've only been ... (read in full...)

My female friend said she had an "inappropriate" dream about me. What could it be?

Answered by Rhodendron + on 17 December 2017.

Q.   A friend of the opposite gender brought something up. We were talking about dreams, all sorts of dreams, and then she said 'I had a dream about you recently'. I asked what the dream was about and then after a long pause she responded with 'it's ...

A.   17 December 2017: I think the fact that she made it SO OBVIOUS that it was sexual, but then acted shy (could be real shyness or playing coy) means that she definitely wants you to know that she is into you. If you basically tell someone you had an inapprop... (read in full...)

My negative body image is ruining my life in every way

Answered by anonymous on 17 December 2017.

Q.   Dear cupid, without going into too much detail, I used to be overweight through out all my teen years, and after a major depression for a period of over 3 years, I was obese at 340 pounds. Over the past 2 years I got weight loss surgery and have...

A.   17 December 2017: When you are done losing the weight you can get effective surgery to remove the excess skin, and I would certainly do so. With that being said, most people don't have a perfect body- they have lose or saggy bits, or are too thin in parts where th... (read in full...)

My wife wants an open relationship, I don't

Answered by anonymous on 17 December 2017.

Q.   My wife insists on a open relationship for her but not for me. I am very resentful about this but she says its this or nothing. I love her but I am going nuts....

A.   17 December 2017: I find this really disrespectful to be forcing this on you and acting like it isn't cheating when it is cheating (esp if the other person isn't okay with it). I agree with the posters who say tell her "then I'm choosing the 'or nothing' if you can't ... (read in full...)

Our intimacy is gone and I don't know what to think or say?!?

Answered by anonymous on 17 December 2017.

Q.   Don’t know what to think or say!! I haven been married for 15 years to a wonderful lady. Like every marriage we have encountered ups and downs. For about a year our intimacy is gone. She gets off work at 5:30pm arrives home at 8:30pm. She is a...

A.   17 December 2017: Maybe it is the long travel to and fro work that is making her irritated and tired. Have you thought of moving to somewhere nearer to her work? ... (read in full...)

Our intimacy is gone and I don't know what to think or say?!?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 17 December 2017.

Q.   Don’t know what to think or say!! I haven been married for 15 years to a wonderful lady. Like every marriage we have encountered ups and downs. For about a year our intimacy is gone. She gets off work at 5:30pm arrives home at 8:30pm. She is a...

A.   17 December 2017: Sir, I think you're wife may be having an affair. Work Christmas parties do not exclude spouses. That would create a lot of tension at home! Otherwise; it would be held during regular work hours. Suggest to her that's what you suspect and see how ... (read in full...)

Do I need to step out of my bubble with this outgoing guy?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 17 December 2017.

Q.   Hello Aunts and Uncles I'm not in any precarious situation but just looking for some advice on things in my relationship i've just not encountered before. About two years ago I left a long term relationship, it was wholly amicable and ende...

A.   17 December 2017: A delayed-response to a gift sends the message you're ungrateful and unimpressed. Nobody says you have to come-off phony and exaggerated. It's strange to read that, coming from someone who claims their ex wasn't warm enough. It's common nowadays... (read in full...)

Is there a chance my crush likes me back?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 17 December 2017.

Q.   There is a guy nice guy at my church and I liked him the monent I saw him but he had a girlfriend and I back off which was a year ago and forgot about him. Me and him are in the same weekly church group but never really talked much Recently I had...

A.   17 December 2017: I meant to say: "If he's interested, he might beat you to the draw." ... (read in full...)

Is there a chance my crush likes me back?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 17 December 2017.

Q.   There is a guy nice guy at my church and I liked him the monent I saw him but he had a girlfriend and I back off which was a year ago and forgot about him. Me and him are in the same weekly church group but never really talked much Recently I had...

A.   17 December 2017: The guy is a nice church-going fellow. He seems quite pious to always appear at service like clockwork. I do want to address the issues about touching legs. That doesn't mean anything. If you're close on a pew it happens. My guess is his mind is ... (read in full...)

My wife wants an open relationship, I don't

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 17 December 2017.

Q.   My wife insists on a open relationship for her but not for me. I am very resentful about this but she says its this or nothing. I love her but I am going nuts....

A.   17 December 2017: Okay, what did you do? You owe us a backstory, and don't leave out any mitigating facts that would make a wife come out of the blue; and decide she wants an open-marriage. My friend, that doesn't just happen. This sounds tit-for-tat or a woman sc... (read in full...)

My wife wants an open relationship, I don't

Answered by TylerSage + on 17 December 2017.

TylerSage agony auntQ.   My wife insists on a open relationship for her but not for me. I am very resentful about this but she says its this or nothing. I love her but I am going nuts....

A.   17 December 2017: So let me get this straight... Your wife...insists on an open relationship for her....but not for you...and demands you give it to her? Your wife sounds like a very selfish person. It seems she is after something you can't provide. The first s... (read in full...)

Our intimacy is gone and I don't know what to think or say?!?

Answered by Allumeuse + on 17 December 2017.

Q.   Don’t know what to think or say!! I haven been married for 15 years to a wonderful lady. Like every marriage we have encountered ups and downs. For about a year our intimacy is gone. She gets off work at 5:30pm arrives home at 8:30pm. She is a...

A.   17 December 2017: I think you need to sit your wife down and ask her how you need to reconnect. I don't think there is cheating but there is something missing. Good luck... (read in full...)

Is there a chance my crush likes me back?

Answered by CassieMosswing + on 17 December 2017.

CassieMosswing agony auntQ.   There is a guy nice guy at my church and I liked him the monent I saw him but he had a girlfriend and I back off which was a year ago and forgot about him. Me and him are in the same weekly church group but never really talked much Recently I had...

A.   17 December 2017: You should speak to him but don't do all the running all the time and if he's like abominable or..fickle then it was worth a shot. You needed to know if he would like you or not. Good luck. ... (read in full...)

Recent answerers

Denizen agony auntaunt honesty agony aunt
N91 agony auntAndie's Thoughts agony aunt
Ciar agony auntHoneypie agony aunt

Browse

Recent questions
Recent answers
Unanswered questions
Most discussed
Most viewed

Age differences (5669)
Big Questions (33585)
Breaking up (28607)
Cheating (21191)
Crushes (5363)
Dating (82947)
Faded love (7259)
Family (20787)
Flirting (377)
Forbidden love (4446)
Friends (34263)
Friends with Benefits (1068)
Gay relationships (5970)
Health (17583)
Long distance (8259)
Love stories (2308)
Marriage problems (15056)
Online dating (5133)
Pornography (2946)
Pregnancy (8054)
Sex (39697)
Site News (162)
Social Media (249)
Teenage (41711)
The ex-factor (21900)
Three is a crowd (12427)
Troubled relationships (66831)
Trust issues (26302)
Virginity (4541)

Our other life advice sites

Parenting advice
Career advice
Financial advice

Stats

238753 questions asked.

235855 answered (99%)

4.41 answers per question

1053983 answers in total.

(see more stats)

Privacy Policy

Syndicate

You can read this relationship blog in your RSS reader using our XML feed. Learn more...

RSS feedXML feed

Subscribe with Bloglines

Most active agony aunts
(past three months)

= Top Rated by readers!

Our favourite relationship and dating links:

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft

0.015625!