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Invitation is too close for comfort

Answered by RubyBirtle + on 25 June 2017.

Q.   Hi! A guy I have a crush on has extended a general invitation to hang out sometime. He doesn't know I like him and our relationship right now is just friends. However, he has a girlfriend. Just to clarify I am not allowing my personal feelings for ...

A.   25 June 2017: Best thing to do would be to invite his girlfriend along too - that would really be the way to honour the relationship. If she can't come.. Do not be alone with him. Invite some other mutual friends along for company. Failing that - go somewh... (read in full...)

I feel inferior to my girlfriend's wealthy family

Answered by anonymous on 25 June 2017.

Q.   Hello DearCupid Aunts, I am a 25[M] in a relationship with an amazing 23[F]. I am working as a Teaching Assistant and pursing my Master's Degree and hopefully, I will finish in a year or so. She is a last year engineering student. The relationship...

A.   25 June 2017: @Denizen If things were other way around, there was going to be no problems. You are right. It is a gender things since men are responsible for the finances and I will not be able to make her live the same way she used to live, not because ... (read in full...)

Co-worker complains about boyfriend. Do I have a chance?

Answered by Dragonslayer + on 25 June 2017.

Q.   I like my co-worker but she is involved with another co-worker and has a child. We have been spending a lot of time together at work and outside of work, but she complains about her bf a lot. I constantly tell her to stay with him and try to make...

A.   25 June 2017: I would any relationship that does come out as result is doomed to fail, I know that. Plus, i had no ulterior motive. I was just being her friend because besides her bf she doesn't have anyone. She isnt lose with her family and friends and I know ... (read in full...)

Too long without the right man. Help!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 25 June 2017.

Q.   It's going to be 5 years soon that I am single. Sure, I've met people and "dated" (very very briefly) a few guys but haven't been able to find a guy to actually have a decent relationship with in all this time. I enjoyed being single (primarily for ...

A.   25 June 2017: Well, as the saying goes, you sometimes have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. Never give up. You never know who is round the corner. I am assuming you have told your friends you are looking to meet a nice man? Do they not know... (read in full...)

Am I foolish to forgive my girlfriend for cheating?

Answered by CMMP + on 25 June 2017.

Q.   In January I found out that I'd been offered a promotion at work. A fantastic opportunity to change my life, but it involved 6 months living abroad. My girlfriend of 4 years didn't want me to go initially, but after talking things through she agreed ...

A.   25 June 2017: While there's always a possibility this is the one and only time it'll happen, if you think about her reasoning it's pretty easy to guess that this is something you might have happen again. I know it's hard, but you candy dump her now or wait unt... (read in full...)

Am I foolish to forgive my girlfriend for cheating?

Answered by anonymous on 25 June 2017.

Q.   In January I found out that I'd been offered a promotion at work. A fantastic opportunity to change my life, but it involved 6 months living abroad. My girlfriend of 4 years didn't want me to go initially, but after talking things through she agreed ...

A.   25 June 2017: Break up with her because you want to..not because we tell you to! You have free will and can make your decisions accordingly. It is important to be able to make your own decisions when it comes to matters of the heart! Ask yourself "How do I fe... (read in full...)

Am I foolish to forgive my girlfriend for cheating?

Answered by Garbo + on 25 June 2017.

Garbo agony auntQ.   In January I found out that I'd been offered a promotion at work. A fantastic opportunity to change my life, but it involved 6 months living abroad. My girlfriend of 4 years didn't want me to go initially, but after talking things through she agreed ...

A.   25 June 2017: Her excuse for having sex behind your back is not lame but outright repugnant. Imagine your life with her so whenever she has sex with someone you are to be blamed. This is not a question of you being stupid but a question why are you even ... (read in full...)

Am I foolish to forgive my girlfriend for cheating?

Answered by anonymous on 25 June 2017.

Q.   In January I found out that I'd been offered a promotion at work. A fantastic opportunity to change my life, but it involved 6 months living abroad. My girlfriend of 4 years didn't want me to go initially, but after talking things through she agreed ...

A.   25 June 2017: Its totally up to you if you want to forgive and forget! The advantages are that you would be back to having sex with her and also you wouldnt have to worry about best friend breaking up with his wife as a result of a third wheel! It is in direc... (read in full...)

Is my pedicure cause for concern?

Answered by anonymous on 25 June 2017.

Q.   I am not sure if I should be offended or not? But I AM!! I just got a pedicure and I love it. I like the colour. It is bright and summery. My boyfriend did not share my enthusiasm. He said pedicures with any colour draw attention to feet, and he ...

A.   25 June 2017: It's the OP. Oh yes, Female Anon! Bits of him are ugly! His FEET is one of them!!!!... (read in full...)

My boyfriend says he's depressed and needs space

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 25 June 2017.

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 plus months and everything was so wonderful and amazing but recently, he told me he wasnt happy/depressed because he has family issuses going on at home and I wasnt allowed to see him because of my mom. O...

A.   25 June 2017: We need to find happiness from within ourselves. He cannot expect YOU to make him happy if he is unhappy/depressed. You have a caring nature so you are trying to make him feel better but this is dragging you down. Give him the space he needs. ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend doesn't seem that interested in sex

Answered by Phil052 + on 25 June 2017.

Phil052 agony auntQ.   I have had a GF for almost 3yrs, she is 34 and I'm 50 but the sex has almost complete stopped. If I pursue it she will participate and I make sure she is always taken care of first and normally 2X. And although this is not a proff, she sounds like ...

A.   25 June 2017: With regard to your third question, I'm a male of similar age to you and have found over the past two years that I quite often don't reach orgasm through sex. It feels great but I don't always get there. If that happens and I'm exhausted, we stop, I ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't appreciate all that I do for him

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 25 June 2017.

Q.   I'm wondering if I can get any help and advice. My boyfriend and I, have been together since January. We met on tinder and have been a strong unit since. He had a good-ish paying job, a nice car, a very sweet and cheeky nature, and is just plain ha...

A.   25 June 2017: Sweetheart, you sound like an intelligent young lady. Your post is very articulate, well thought out and well written. Why do you think you don't deserve better than this user? Are you still hoping he is going to change back into the person you ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wants to wait but I'm frustrated

Answered by cupid_dan + on 25 June 2017.

Q.   My girlfriend doesn't want to have sex until she is married. She is a virgin. I am frustrated telling her how important sex is in relationship and how deeply emotionally we can be connected. She even used to give her ex bf liberty to have sex with...

A.   25 June 2017: Thxs for your opinion. I respect it. Yeah I think I gotta respect her belief. I love her very much I just can't leave her just because I can't have sex. Is there another thing I can ask with her, or try something intimate, without actually asking f... (read in full...)

My boyfriend says he's depressed and needs space

Answered by Denizen + on 25 June 2017.

Denizen agony auntQ.   Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 plus months and everything was so wonderful and amazing but recently, he told me he wasnt happy/depressed because he has family issuses going on at home and I wasnt allowed to see him because of my mom. O...

A.   25 June 2017: You can't help him. Walk away. He needs to sort himself out. At the moment you are just another ball he is trying to juggle. Don't waste your energy trying to fix him You can't. Sorry. You sound like a caring person whose heart is in the right ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend says I'm harder on him than on anyone else

Answered by Denizen + on 25 June 2017.

Denizen agony auntQ.   So my boyfriend complained and said that I'm harder on him than I am with others or our friends. I don't deny that, but I feel because he's my boyfriend and I have higher expectations of him, that that's okay. Am I wrong? He says its unfair. Case...

A.   25 June 2017: You are comparing apples to oranges. The way your boyfriend feels you are treating him sounds, from a distance, as if you are a nag. Your friend on the other hand can take or leave your opinions of her - as you can of her. There is an old chestnut... (read in full...)

I feel inferior to my girlfriend's wealthy family

Answered by Denizen + on 25 June 2017.

Denizen agony auntQ.   Hello DearCupid Aunts, I am a 25[M] in a relationship with an amazing 23[F]. I am working as a Teaching Assistant and pursing my Master's Degree and hopefully, I will finish in a year or so. She is a last year engineering student. The relationship...

A.   25 June 2017: Money shouldn't come in the way of love. Ask yourself if things were the other way around would you still love her? Or is it the gender thing that is creeping in here? Is it because she is, and will be, financially independent of you? Look if you ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't appreciate all that I do for him

Answered by MissKin + on 25 June 2017.

MissKin agony auntQ.   I'm wondering if I can get any help and advice. My boyfriend and I, have been together since January. We met on tinder and have been a strong unit since. He had a good-ish paying job, a nice car, a very sweet and cheeky nature, and is just plain ha...

A.   25 June 2017: You are still recovering from your sexual assault. You are suffering from a lot of mental health illnesses. You are also learning to live with the ones that will continue to be ongoing. You are living in supported accommodation on income support. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't appreciate all that I do for him

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 25 June 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   I'm wondering if I can get any help and advice. My boyfriend and I, have been together since January. We met on tinder and have been a strong unit since. He had a good-ish paying job, a nice car, a very sweet and cheeky nature, and is just plain ha...

A.   25 June 2017: What you need to do is stop letting him stay. He needs to find his own accommodation, if he struggles with homelessness or can't live with family. Do not lose your accommodation for a guy you've only known 6 months. He can't support you because ... (read in full...)

Is my pedicure cause for concern?

Answered by anonymous on 25 June 2017.

Q.   I am not sure if I should be offended or not? But I AM!! I just got a pedicure and I love it. I like the colour. It is bright and summery. My boyfriend did not share my enthusiasm. He said pedicures with any colour draw attention to feet, and he ...

A.   25 June 2017: Look nice for him !!! Do it for yourself no one else ... I am sure there are bits of him that are ugly ....... (read in full...)

Should I make the first move second time around?

Answered by anonymous on 25 June 2017.

Q.   Hey everyone. I joined a dating site back in Jan. and had just got chatting with a nice guy but he did inform me he was leaving the site because he was going to see how it would go with someone. I’m still on the site and recently he's come back on. ...

A.   25 June 2017: Just MSG him once ...ask him how he is ... (read in full...)

I want to be strong for him at this time of terrible grief, but how?

Answered by anonymous on 25 June 2017.

Q.   My boyfriends brother died suddenly last week and it has hit the whole family hard. I am trying so hard to be strong for my boyfriend but every time I'm on my own I beak down in tears myself because I feel so sorry for him. He hasn't spoke much ...

A.   25 June 2017: For goodness sake please please cry with him ....he will wonder why you won't cry .... crying is not weak it shows true emotions. ..cuddle and cry together talk about the brother laugh and cry and give tight hugs please ..... (read in full...)

I found out the man I'm dating is married

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 25 June 2017.

Q.   Am dating married man but on the first he didn't tell that is married,I found it by mi self.I feel like leave him but he is caring man every woman need,He says that he loves even he took me to his home but wife unknowing that am co,What can I do?...

A.   25 June 2017: You can put yourself in his wife's shoes and imagine how you would feel if your husband brought home a woman who is having an affair with but who he passed off as . . . what? What DID he pass you off as? A friend? A colleague? Imagine how she ... (read in full...)

Why would a man decide, at the last moment, to not use a condom in this way?

Answered by anonymous on 25 June 2017.

Q.   my partner and i was about to have sex and he went to get a condom. When he got it he was playing with the packaging for a few seconds and put the condom to the side. why? After having sex he started to play with that condom again before putti...

A.   25 June 2017: He was probably thinking about using it but didn't really want to. I often think I should be using one with my girlfriend and know I should, but end up pulling out instead. ... (read in full...)

Are we playing the "he loves me..he loves me not" game?

Answered by Honeypie + on 25 June 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I had been dating a guy for a year and everything was going fine. And suddenly he stopped receiving my calls or replying to my texts. After continuously texting he replied and said he didnt want to hurt me but he needed space and time.The next day ...

A.   25 June 2017: Oh so now that it's vacation time he REALLY can't be bothered with you... Sorry, OP I'd block this one and move on.... (read in full...)

I found out the man I'm dating is married

Answered by Honeypie + on 25 June 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Am dating married man but on the first he didn't tell that is married,I found it by mi self.I feel like leave him but he is caring man every woman need,He says that he loves even he took me to his home but wife unknowing that am co,What can I do?...

A.   25 June 2017: You can end it? The longer you continue to see him the more you will feel for him and the more it will hurt when HE dumps you (and he will when the wife finds out). He is cheating ON you and his wife - that isn't exactly a good man's actions - ... (read in full...)

Am I foolish to forgive my girlfriend for cheating?

Answered by Billy Bathgate + on 25 June 2017.

Q.   In January I found out that I'd been offered a promotion at work. A fantastic opportunity to change my life, but it involved 6 months living abroad. My girlfriend of 4 years didn't want me to go initially, but after talking things through she agreed ...

A.   25 June 2017: Yes you are being stupid if you forgive her. Think about this; there are about 3.5 billion men on this planet she could have slept with any one of them. She chose the man you thought was your best friend. Why? Because she was lonely. What kind of ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend doesn't seem that interested in sex

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 25 June 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   I have had a GF for almost 3yrs, she is 34 and I'm 50 but the sex has almost complete stopped. If I pursue it she will participate and I make sure she is always taken care of first and normally 2X. And although this is not a proff, she sounds like ...

A.   25 June 2017: In term she of your body, you need to speak to a doctor and see what they suggest. As for your girlfriend, there are a few possible reasons: - stress - health issue - naturally low libido - losing interest in the relationship -... (read in full...)

My girlfriend doesn't seem that interested in sex

Answered by anonymous on 24 June 2017.

Q.   I have had a GF for almost 3yrs, she is 34 and I'm 50 but the sex has almost complete stopped. If I pursue it she will participate and I make sure she is always taken care of first and normally 2X. And although this is not a proff, she sounds like ...

A.   24 June 2017: So just to clarify , you are concerned that she doesn't always orgssm from intercourse which is EXTREMELY commen for women yet you also don't orgssm around 30 percent of the time ? You feel insecure that she doesn't orgasm all the time , yet she is ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wants to wait but I'm frustrated

Answered by chigirl + on 24 June 2017.

chigirl agony auntQ.   My girlfriend doesn't want to have sex until she is married. She is a virgin. I am frustrated telling her how important sex is in relationship and how deeply emotionally we can be connected. She even used to give her ex bf liberty to have sex with...

A.   24 June 2017: Marry her. Problem solved.... (read in full...)

Why is he becoming distant?

Answered by Intrigued3000 + on 24 June 2017.

Intrigued3000 agony auntQ.   Why would a man pull away just because the relationship can't go anywhere? Why can't he just live in the moment? I'm asking because if a man really likes a woman, how is it so easy for him to pull away? It seems backwards. If I really like someone, ...

A.   24 June 2017: When a man loves a woman or is committed to a woman he won't find excuses to not be in a relationship with her. From the little that you wrote I think he does not see you as a long term partner. He probably has a list in his head of what he is lo... (read in full...)

Why is he becoming distant?

Answered by Honeypie + on 24 June 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Why would a man pull away just because the relationship can't go anywhere? Why can't he just live in the moment? I'm asking because if a man really likes a woman, how is it so easy for him to pull away? It seems backwards. If I really like someone, ...

A.   24 June 2017: Maybe he doesn't like you AS much as you think he does or he SAID he does? Or maybe he likes you MORE and doesn't want to take it further and get hurt when it ends. Not every man is up for a casual fling. As for HIS specific reason? We can ... (read in full...)

He said he needs his space

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 24 June 2017.

Q.   I have been in a relationship with a guy for 14 months. We study in the same college and things were great. We loved each other. We used to spend a lot of time together and we were very happy. However as the college closed for the summer vacation, ...

A.   24 June 2017: It sounds like, in his own clumsy inept way, he is trying to say that you are too dependent on him and too clingy. I would assume you are no longer in a relationship. I suspect he may have found someone else who is of interest to him and is just ... (read in full...)

Am I foolish to forgive my girlfriend for cheating?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 24 June 2017.

Q.   In January I found out that I'd been offered a promotion at work. A fantastic opportunity to change my life, but it involved 6 months living abroad. My girlfriend of 4 years didn't want me to go initially, but after talking things through she agreed ...

A.   24 June 2017: If she does not accept that she was wrong to cheat (loneliness is NOT an excuse - she could have gone out with friends or taken up a new hobby or made more of an effort to contact you), then yes, you are on a hiding to nothing by taking her back. If ... (read in full...)

Am I masturbating properly?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 24 June 2017.

Q.   I'm 23 years old. I have plenty of confidence and feel sexy too. I have absolutely no clue if I'm touching myself properly because you can't touch my clitoris. Why does it hurt to touch my clit? Even when my ex boyfriend licked my clit it still hu...

A.   24 June 2017: Yes, I have this advice for you: enjoy what works FOR YOU. Do not compare yourself to other women, especially ones you see "enjoying sex" in porn films. It is not real. It is staged to titivate. Sadly a lot of men think the sort of sex you see in ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wants to wait but I'm frustrated

Answered by anonymous on 24 June 2017.

Q.   My girlfriend doesn't want to have sex until she is married. She is a virgin. I am frustrated telling her how important sex is in relationship and how deeply emotionally we can be connected. She even used to give her ex bf liberty to have sex with...

A.   24 June 2017: It really isn't your responsibility to convince your friend when it's the right time for her to have sex. You have your reasons for your choices and she has hers. She is just as entitled to stand by her decisions as you do. She is less likely to end ... (read in full...)

I'm dating a nice lady but all I can think about is my ex who ghosted me

Answered by anonymous on 24 June 2017.

Q.   I am seeing someone new who treats me wonderful, the way I've always wanted to be treated, but all I think about is my ex, who I treated great, she ghost me, what I think about is why couldn't my ex treated me this way, it could of been so ...

A.   24 June 2017: Youve fixated on your ex for some romantic reason and painted her as more wonderful than she really is! No-one on this earth could live up to this idealised version of her. Now you have someone who is trully capable of keeping you happy but you ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wants to wait but I'm frustrated

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 24 June 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   My girlfriend doesn't want to have sex until she is married. She is a virgin. I am frustrated telling her how important sex is in relationship and how deeply emotionally we can be connected. She even used to give her ex bf liberty to have sex with...

A.   24 June 2017: Stop pressuring her. Find a girlfriend who wants sex before marriage; she doesn't and you need to leave her alone.... (read in full...)

His history has me worried

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 24 June 2017.

Q.   If you hear a guy beat up his ex' and you're kind of seeing him what would you do? I talked to him about it of course, yet it keeps bothering me... At first, though he admited it and said he took two years alone to fix himself i was okay. Yet i ke...

A.   24 June 2017: I am a great believer in humans having gut instincts for a good reason. If your gut instinct tells you this situation is potentially dangerous then, for crying out loud, LISTEN! Abusers have a great way of turning the blame onto the victim, saying ... (read in full...)

Should I make the first move second time around?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 24 June 2017.

Q.   Hey everyone. I joined a dating site back in Jan. and had just got chatting with a nice guy but he did inform me he was leaving the site because he was going to see how it would go with someone. I’m still on the site and recently he's come back on. ...

A.   24 June 2017: Life's too short to look back one day with regret. You will never know if you don't ask. In your shoes I would just message him saying "Heh, did it not work out then?" and see what he comes back with. He might just be polite and not take things ... (read in full...)

Why is he still looking for me? He's married now.

Answered by anonymous on 24 June 2017.

Q.   9 years ago (15-16yrs old)I dated a guy in H.S. But we only dated for about a month before he broke up with me over the phone. In that month we were together we had sex and seems like all the guys were talking about it..Well next school year he ...

A.   24 June 2017:  Not many single girls are attracted to married men so he must be counting his blessings for having you. Alas you dont seem to be immune to the charms of this guy although you know he is abusing you. Sorry to say this he has never loved you this guy ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wants to wait but I'm frustrated

Answered by olderthandirt + on 24 June 2017.

olderthandirt agony auntQ.   My girlfriend doesn't want to have sex until she is married. She is a virgin. I am frustrated telling her how important sex is in relationship and how deeply emotionally we can be connected. She even used to give her ex bf liberty to have sex with...

A.   24 June 2017: You should relax. She has a gift for you and should be able to give it to you whenever she is ready.... (read in full...)

Why is he still looking for me? He's married now.

Answered by Honeypie + on 24 June 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   9 years ago (15-16yrs old)I dated a guy in H.S. But we only dated for about a month before he broke up with me over the phone. In that month we were together we had sex and seems like all the guys were talking about it..Well next school year he ...

A.   24 June 2017: Just block/delete the stupid ex-bf and live your life. The ex is not looking to reconnect, he is looking to USE you and be an ass to his wife AND you. You have already shown him that you are easy to convince to doing sexual favors for him THAT is ... (read in full...)

His history has me worried

Answered by Honeypie + on 24 June 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   If you hear a guy beat up his ex' and you're kind of seeing him what would you do? I talked to him about it of course, yet it keeps bothering me... At first, though he admited it and said he took two years alone to fix himself i was okay. Yet i ke...

A.   24 June 2017: I think you should end it. WHY? Because you are walking on eggshells with him. You are constantly "looking" for signs that he might be an abusive fellow. Which means you can't relax around him or drop that guard you have up. That ISN'T healthy for ... (read in full...)

I want to be strong for him at this time of terrible grief, but how?

Answered by no nonsense Aidan + on 24 June 2017.

Q.   My boyfriends brother died suddenly last week and it has hit the whole family hard. I am trying so hard to be strong for my boyfriend but every time I'm on my own I beak down in tears myself because I feel so sorry for him. He hasn't spoke much ...

A.   24 June 2017: Don’t feel bad about crying. You love this man and he’s hurting, and you’re hurting too. Sudden loss is a terrible thing. If he can’t talk at the moment, don’t push him. There are much more subtle ways you can show him strength: entertain the kids... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wants to wait but I'm frustrated

Answered by no nonsense Aidan + on 24 June 2017.

Q.   My girlfriend doesn't want to have sex until she is married. She is a virgin. I am frustrated telling her how important sex is in relationship and how deeply emotionally we can be connected. She even used to give her ex bf liberty to have sex with...

A.   24 June 2017: If this is something she feels strongly about and isn’t prepared to change her mind, you can’t really resolve it. Either you accept her choice or you don’t. If you don’t, you’re not compatible. It’s unfortunate but this is pretty black and white I’m ... (read in full...)

Co-worker complains about boyfriend. Do I have a chance?

Answered by Honeypie + on 24 June 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I like my co-worker but she is involved with another co-worker and has a child. We have been spending a lot of time together at work and outside of work, but she complains about her bf a lot. I constantly tell her to stay with him and try to make...

A.   24 June 2017: I have met someone that lit up my life but he was single so things proceeded. Right now HER life (as far as her relationship with her BF) is not going so well so it's NOT hard for her to USE you (since you are volunteering) to make herself ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wants to wait but I'm frustrated

Answered by YouWish + on 24 June 2017.

YouWish agony auntQ.   My girlfriend doesn't want to have sex until she is married. She is a virgin. I am frustrated telling her how important sex is in relationship and how deeply emotionally we can be connected. She even used to give her ex bf liberty to have sex with...

A.   24 June 2017: I married someone who waited to be married. That's your "resolution". If someone has made the choice to wait until they married, then that is something you must respect. If that sexual value is incompatible with your values, then she's not for ... (read in full...)

Co-worker complains about boyfriend. Do I have a chance?

Answered by Dragonslayer + on 24 June 2017.

Q.   I like my co-worker but she is involved with another co-worker and has a child. We have been spending a lot of time together at work and outside of work, but she complains about her bf a lot. I constantly tell her to stay with him and try to make...

A.   24 June 2017: Congrats honeypie you we're right SUPER FUCKING FRIENDZONE......no Women wants a nice guy. I fucking quit!... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wants to wait but I'm frustrated

Answered by followtheblackrabbit + on 24 June 2017.

followtheblackrabbit agony auntQ.   My girlfriend doesn't want to have sex until she is married. She is a virgin. I am frustrated telling her how important sex is in relationship and how deeply emotionally we can be connected. She even used to give her ex bf liberty to have sex with...

A.   24 June 2017: Marry her or leave her. Sex may be important in a relationship but it's more important that two people accept each other's boundaries and respect them. If you can't do that, let her find someone who will and you can date someone who shares your ... (read in full...)

Should I make the first move second time around?

Answered by NORA B + on 24 June 2017.

Q.   Hey everyone. I joined a dating site back in Jan. and had just got chatting with a nice guy but he did inform me he was leaving the site because he was going to see how it would go with someone. I’m still on the site and recently he's come back on. ...

A.   24 June 2017: First of all while on site talking to you ,he left the site,telling you he was going to work it out with someone.Now he is back on site....and viewed your profile,but did not mail you.I would not consider it a good idea to mail him first...because ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wants to wait but I'm frustrated

Answered by anonymous on 24 June 2017.

Q.   My girlfriend doesn't want to have sex until she is married. She is a virgin. I am frustrated telling her how important sex is in relationship and how deeply emotionally we can be connected. She even used to give her ex bf liberty to have sex with...

A.   24 June 2017: Move on. You're essentially trying to guilt her into sex.... (read in full...)

Why is he becoming distant?

Answered by jrage22 + on 24 June 2017.

Q.   Why would a man pull away just because the relationship can't go anywhere? Why can't he just live in the moment? I'm asking because if a man really likes a woman, how is it so easy for him to pull away? It seems backwards. If I really like someone, ...

A.   24 June 2017: no, he is not with anyone else. I'm not looking for advice, i just ant to understand how its easy for a man to pull away from a woman he really likes because of the fact that it wont go anywhere. since it cant go anywhere, why not just enjoy it for ... (read in full...)

His history has me worried

Answered by anonymous on 24 June 2017.

Q.   If you hear a guy beat up his ex' and you're kind of seeing him what would you do? I talked to him about it of course, yet it keeps bothering me... At first, though he admited it and said he took two years alone to fix himself i was okay. Yet i ke...

A.   24 June 2017: hi there The other day I met a guy who (with some coercions from me because he was mock hitting me and lying alot) told me about his violent past. This was not disclosed to me at the beginning = (basxxxx). I could not live with myself if I stayed w... (read in full...)

What goes through a man's head when he sees his wife having sex with another man?

Answered by Denizen + on 24 June 2017.

Denizen agony auntQ.   To make it short my husband and I are into guys joining us for sex . But husband has always joined for sex until recently when at a party when a black guy paid attention to me more than normal. So at husbands request I invited him home for a ...

A.   24 June 2017: So OP, to return to my original answer, 'Why don't you ask him'?... (read in full...)

I think my wife cheated on me

Answered by anonymous on 24 June 2017.

Q.   Hi people, I have been married for over 3 years now and I believe my wife cheated on me. I am usually an entrepreneur, I make enough in the first quarter to be able to pay for the rest of the year. I suddenly wanted a more abundant life so...

A.   24 June 2017: I am thinking you are the type of person that over thinks things.Let me educate you.Frist off the vagina is a muscle.She will not get lose from the doctor visit or a larger penis.The way you talk I think the snap chat thing is all in your ... (read in full...)

I want to be strong for him at this time of terrible grief, but how?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 24 June 2017.

Q.   My boyfriends brother died suddenly last week and it has hit the whole family hard. I am trying so hard to be strong for my boyfriend but every time I'm on my own I beak down in tears myself because I feel so sorry for him. He hasn't spoke much ...

A.   24 June 2017: I had a conversation with a colleague yesterday. She and her partner had a child a while back who was born with severe problems and subsequently died soon after his first birthday. They split up after a while but are now getting back together. One ... (read in full...)

Why is he still looking for me? He's married now.

Answered by CindyCares + on 24 June 2017.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   9 years ago (15-16yrs old)I dated a guy in H.S. But we only dated for about a month before he broke up with me over the phone. In that month we were together we had sex and seems like all the guys were talking about it..Well next school year he ...

A.   24 June 2017:  Now, you block him, do not respond to any attempts to contact if he tries again, ignore him, and move on with your life , as it is about time. What else ? What else would you want to do ? You know he is using you for sex !, and also with... (read in full...)

How do I make the break for good?

Answered by judgedick + on 24 June 2017.

Q.   I just read this article about having to let go of a true soulmate; that certain brands of soulmates come in fast, passionately - like a tornado only to be the impetus behind the ultimate crash and burn. So you love someone who also loves you b...

A.   24 June 2017: I don't believe in sole-mates. This is a romantic idea to make people that are in love think there is no-one else in the world that can make us happy, when we can be happy with many different people and most often see and fall in love over and over ... (read in full...)

I want to be strong for him at this time of terrible grief, but how?

Answered by chigirl + on 24 June 2017.

chigirl agony auntQ.   My boyfriends brother died suddenly last week and it has hit the whole family hard. I am trying so hard to be strong for my boyfriend but every time I'm on my own I beak down in tears myself because I feel so sorry for him. He hasn't spoke much ...

A.   24 June 2017: You are allowed to cry. Being there for someone and being strong does not mean that you can't cry or be sad yourself. It just means that if they want a hug, you are there. If they want to talk, you are there. If they don't want it, and they pull ... (read in full...)

The man I'm dating lied he said he was 30, he's almost 44

Answered by anonymous on 24 June 2017.

Q.   Aunts and uncles! Please help.. So I've been seeing a guy for 5 months, I'm 25 and he's 30.. Things are a bit rocky here and there, but today iced the cake. I seen a comment on Facebook and decided to Snoop... I see him address his 38 year old brot...

A.   24 June 2017: My neighbour thought I was 28... and I got asked for ID in a pub the other day.. I am 48..... there are people who look much younger than their age and had I said to my neighbour actually I am 30 he would have believed me. Good genes in my family ... (read in full...)

Why is he still looking for me? He's married now.

Answered by judgedick + on 24 June 2017.

Q.   9 years ago (15-16yrs old)I dated a guy in H.S. But we only dated for about a month before he broke up with me over the phone. In that month we were together we had sex and seems like all the guys were talking about it..Well next school year he ...

A.   24 June 2017: The most important part is at the end. You know he is using you. He wants to keep his wife and get a bit on the side, and he will break you up with every guy you ever get with to keep his little bit of extra, because that is all you are to him, a ... (read in full...)

Is getting back with him a vain hope?

Answered by N91 + on 24 June 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   Hi everyone, I have a question regarding an ex that I am still in love with. We broke up in March. He said he "wasn't in the right mindset to have a girlfriend, I have to sort some stuff out" and "this doesn't mean we can't get back together." ...

A.   24 June 2017: If he wanted to be with you he would be. Stop wasting your time, he's not letting you forget about him and is testing the waters to see if you're still an option for him. He knows he has you wrapped around his finger and it strokes his ego.... (read in full...)

What goes through a man's head when he sees his wife having sex with another man?

Answered by Fem51 + on 24 June 2017.

Fem51 agony auntQ.   To make it short my husband and I are into guys joining us for sex . But husband has always joined for sex until recently when at a party when a black guy paid attention to me more than normal. So at husbands request I invited him home for a ...

A.   24 June 2017: 1st I love my man we are swimming in love for each other and be honest I enjoy other men as much as I enjoy him with other women ... (read in full...)

Is my pedicure cause for concern?

Answered by anonymous on 24 June 2017.

Q.   I am not sure if I should be offended or not? But I AM!! I just got a pedicure and I love it. I like the colour. It is bright and summery. My boyfriend did not share my enthusiasm. He said pedicures with any colour draw attention to feet, and he ...

A.   24 June 2017: I wonder if painting something on your boyfriend's attitude would make him seem or look nicer. I doubt it. Period!... (read in full...)

Have I put him off by staring?

Answered by anonymous on 24 June 2017.

Q.   There's this guy I had a feeling liked me or was attracted to me at least, I catch him looking and staring at me loads, always made an effort to speak to me in a group, got nervous sometimes and was always offering to help me or give me rides ho...

A.   24 June 2017: Staring at someone is creepy. My parents always used to say "it's rude to stare". You gave him a taste of his own medicine and he couldn't stare at you anymore. This has happened alot to me before and it is creepy and when I've stared back they get ... (read in full...)

I need help being more choosy

Answered by anonymous on 24 June 2017.

Q.   How can I start believing that I deserve a good man? This fear of not finding one has paralyzed me (through therapy) I got to the problem that I'm so scared to be alone- so much I've landed in the arms of men that are - well not very classy. It's ...

A.   24 June 2017: Be happy. Good men are very hard to find these days (and trust me sister, I should know)! Good women are not hard to find, you sound like one of them. So... Be Happy x... (read in full...)

I can't have sex too often because its so painful but my partner feels unattractive because of this

Answered by anonymous on 24 June 2017.

Q.   I am 28 and have been with my partner for nearly nine years now. I get cystitis almost every time we have sex. I have had extensive tests to find out why without conclusion. It has been happening for six years. We have also tried everything to ...

A.   24 June 2017: I don't think wiseowl was trying to suggest that the OP was unattracted to her partner. Rather, I think what he was attempting to suggest is this - You have sex with someone several times, and it continues to have a negative physical Impact.... (read in full...)

I think my wife cheated on me

Answered by anonymous on 24 June 2017.

Q.   Hi people, I have been married for over 3 years now and I believe my wife cheated on me. I am usually an entrepreneur, I make enough in the first quarter to be able to pay for the rest of the year. I suddenly wanted a more abundant life so...

A.   24 June 2017: My heart breaks for you. The pain you are about to experience cannot be expressed in mere language. I faced this. You can come out the other end, alive, intact, and whole. However, not if you continue to question and delude yourself. Your wife has ... (read in full...)

I have huge mental blocks regarding finding a partner but I really want one

Answered by anonymous on 24 June 2017.

Q.   Hello all, I turned 18 last year and I'm still a virgin. I crave to be with someone, preferably another girl. I'm just scared. I've tried posting ads and online "dating" sites but I never go through with anything. My main issues are 1. I'd get cau...

A.   24 June 2017: I would suggest that you try to meet someone who you would actually want to get to know. It found it difficult when I realised I wanted to be with another woman as I had no gaydar! I went online and started messaging a few people and just got to ... (read in full...)

How do I make the break for good?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 24 June 2017.

Q.   I just read this article about having to let go of a true soulmate; that certain brands of soulmates come in fast, passionately - like a tornado only to be the impetus behind the ultimate crash and burn. So you love someone who also loves you b...

A.   24 June 2017: Are you sure he is your "soul mate"? If he was that TRULY, you could not bear to be away from him. You MAY have a strong connection, and you may always remember him as a special person in your life but, if you can't stay with him for long without ... (read in full...)

Are we playing the "he loves me..he loves me not" game?

Answered by anonymous on 24 June 2017.

Q.   I had been dating a guy for a year and everything was going fine. And suddenly he stopped receiving my calls or replying to my texts. After continuously texting he replied and said he didnt want to hurt me but he needed space and time.The next day ...

A.   24 June 2017: We study in the same college so we see each other everyday. However the college is closed for Summer vacation so I haven't seen him for a month.... (read in full...)

Are we playing the "he loves me..he loves me not" game?

Answered by anonymous on 24 June 2017.

Q.   I had been dating a guy for a year and everything was going fine. And suddenly he stopped receiving my calls or replying to my texts. After continuously texting he replied and said he didnt want to hurt me but he needed space and time.The next day ...

A.   24 June 2017: We are actually studying in the same college so we see each other everyday. However there's vacation going on right now so I haven't seen him for a month.... (read in full...)

Why is he becoming distant?

Answered by anonymous on 24 June 2017.

Q.   Why would a man pull away just because the relationship can't go anywhere? Why can't he just live in the moment? I'm asking because if a man really likes a woman, how is it so easy for him to pull away? It seems backwards. If I really like someone, ...

A.   24 June 2017: You can't force him to want what you want. If someone gives reasons they do don't want to be with you; that should be enough. Over-reasoning and pleading a care for himself is unnecessary. Just let him go, if that's what he wants.... (read in full...)

How can I get hime to be more romantic?

Answered by jls022 + on 24 June 2017.

Q.   I'm dating a guy for almost a year and he isn't the romantic type. He's said he's not a mushy type about 6 months in so I pulled back a lot and decided to move on. After two weeks apart he texted me and called wanted to try again. Still the same no ...

A.   24 June 2017: I always find questions like this interesting. I'm generalising here, but they most commonly come from women and often the poster is told to get over it/accept that her partner isn't romantic and it's not fair to ask him to change. Yet when we get ... (read in full...)

Are we playing the "he loves me..he loves me not" game?

Answered by Honeypie + on 23 June 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I had been dating a guy for a year and everything was going fine. And suddenly he stopped receiving my calls or replying to my texts. After continuously texting he replied and said he didnt want to hurt me but he needed space and time.The next day ...

A.   23 June 2017: My guess? He is interested in someone else and while (maybe low key) pursuing HER you are kept on the backburner. JUST in case, the other girl doesn't work out. He isn't HAPPY with you as his partner. If he was he wouldn't be needing all thes... (read in full...)

My man has lost his libido

Answered by olderthandirt + on 23 June 2017.

olderthandirt agony auntQ.   Dear Cupid, I have been together with my partner for 6 years now. The problem is my man has gone off sex and I don’t know what to do about it. I have talked this through with him and he just says that it’s not important and he doesn’t feel like...

A.   23 June 2017: Yes mken can lose their sex drives but it usually follows a problem with the prostate gland being in a bad way , For example; If a guy has undergone radiation for prostate cancer or has prostate cancer he may lose desire. Also a low level of ... (read in full...)

Is my pedicure cause for concern?

Answered by olderthandirt + on 23 June 2017.

olderthandirt agony auntQ.   I am not sure if I should be offended or not? But I AM!! I just got a pedicure and I love it. I like the colour. It is bright and summery. My boyfriend did not share my enthusiasm. He said pedicures with any colour draw attention to feet, and he ...

A.   23 June 2017: I'll tell you what's ugly--- The lack of a pedicure draws more attention than well groomed feet. I'm a guy and the ugliest thing is a woman's feet that have been neglected. we don't look a women's feet to see dirty nails all curled and discolored. ... (read in full...)

Co-worker complains about boyfriend. Do I have a chance?

Answered by Dragonslayer + on 23 June 2017.

Q.   I like my co-worker but she is involved with another co-worker and has a child. We have been spending a lot of time together at work and outside of work, but she complains about her bf a lot. I constantly tell her to stay with him and try to make...

A.   23 June 2017: 1. I don't want a gf, I been single for over a year and a half bitches aren't hard to get. Finding a women that understands you as whole and not just parts of you is hard to find. It's not about lust or drama, it's about someone who has the ... (read in full...)

I can't have sex too often because its so painful but my partner feels unattractive because of this

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 June 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I am 28 and have been with my partner for nearly nine years now. I get cystitis almost every time we have sex. I have had extensive tests to find out why without conclusion. It has been happening for six years. We have also tried everything to ...

A.   23 June 2017: I understand how painful cystitis is, I suffer to from it. Wise owl I am sorry but I have to disagree with you this time, you are way off here. Cystitis can be common if you are prone to it. The only thing I can recommend is to make sure you are ... (read in full...)

Why is he becoming distant?

Answered by anonymous on 23 June 2017.

Q.   Why would a man pull away just because the relationship can't go anywhere? Why can't he just live in the moment? I'm asking because if a man really likes a woman, how is it so easy for him to pull away? It seems backwards. If I really like someone, ...

A.   23 June 2017: There is nothing wrong with living in the moment as you say. It is just a matter of finding the right guy who wants to live in the moment with you. There are plenty of them around. This guy, however, is not one of them. ... (read in full...)

Why did he give up his trip with the boys?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 June 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   My boyfriend turned down a golf trip with the guys next weekend. It's out of town and they go every year. He said it's because he knows I worry and he doesn't want to upset me. In the past I have given him grief. Many of the guys go to strip club...

A.   23 June 2017: He cancelled his trip because you always give him grief, he probably forgot you where at a wedding, but let me guess you think he is up to no good at home while you are off at the wedding? Honestly you sound like you do not trust this man. Why be ... (read in full...)

I think my wife cheated on me

Answered by anonymous on 23 June 2017.

Q.   Hi people, I have been married for over 3 years now and I believe my wife cheated on me. I am usually an entrepreneur, I make enough in the first quarter to be able to pay for the rest of the year. I suddenly wanted a more abundant life so...

A.   23 June 2017: I didn't mean to come off as bragging but I'm just giving you some back story. I'm an entrepreneur, with the job I have me and my wife are together most of the time. The objections portion is what friends that are women usually ask me when I as... (read in full...)

I have huge mental blocks regarding finding a partner but I really want one

Answered by Honeypie + on 23 June 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hello all, I turned 18 last year and I'm still a virgin. I crave to be with someone, preferably another girl. I'm just scared. I've tried posting ads and online "dating" sites but I never go through with anything. My main issues are 1. I'd get cau...

A.   23 June 2017: So, I have to ask... WHY would your parents "end" you if you started dating? Do you have a social life at all? Do you work or go to school? Do you participate and meet other people that way? Why is online dating your first option when you ... (read in full...)

Why is he becoming distant?

Answered by Honeypie + on 23 June 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Why would a man pull away just because the relationship can't go anywhere? Why can't he just live in the moment? I'm asking because if a man really likes a woman, how is it so easy for him to pull away? It seems backwards. If I really like someone, ...

A.   23 June 2017: If nothing can/will come of it then WHY waste the time? Most people who ARE looking for a partner are hoping to find a LONG TERM one. Not just a fling or "fun". And those who ARE just looking for a fling or fun wouldn't back away. Let me ... (read in full...)

Co-worker complains about boyfriend. Do I have a chance?

Answered by Honeypie + on 23 June 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I like my co-worker but she is involved with another co-worker and has a child. We have been spending a lot of time together at work and outside of work, but she complains about her bf a lot. I constantly tell her to stay with him and try to make...

A.   23 June 2017: My guess is she is using you to make herself feel good. Think about it. If the BF was so horrible don't you think she would dump his sorry bum? Would you want someone YOU are dating to flirt with other guys behind your back? Does that seem lik... (read in full...)

Is my pedicure cause for concern?

Answered by Honeypie + on 23 June 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I am not sure if I should be offended or not? But I AM!! I just got a pedicure and I love it. I like the colour. It is bright and summery. My boyfriend did not share my enthusiasm. He said pedicures with any colour draw attention to feet, and he ...

A.   23 June 2017: First of all, ENJOY how the pedicure made you feel (not his comments). I think he is one of those people who claim they always speak the truth but he does so without consideration for anyone else. While I DO think speaking the truth is good, a ... (read in full...)

Have I put him off by staring?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 23 June 2017.

Q.   There's this guy I had a feeling liked me or was attracted to me at least, I catch him looking and staring at me loads, always made an effort to speak to me in a group, got nervous sometimes and was always offering to help me or give me rides ho...

A.   23 June 2017: Perhaps he is hoping you will come inside, away from the crowd, and talk to him? Why don't you go in after him next time and just ask casually "Are you ok?" Perhaps he suffers from hay fever and finds being indoors easier? You will never know if you ... (read in full...)

Is my pedicure cause for concern?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 23 June 2017.

Q.   I am not sure if I should be offended or not? But I AM!! I just got a pedicure and I love it. I like the colour. It is bright and summery. My boyfriend did not share my enthusiasm. He said pedicures with any colour draw attention to feet, and he ...

A.   23 June 2017: Like your boyfriend, I too think feet are ugly - especially my own. I keep them covered up as much as possible and can't stand anyone touching them. I won't touch other people's feet and don't like looking at them - especially if someone has long or ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants me to buy a cheap car instead of one I can actually afford

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 June 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   So I'm in a conundrum. My bf and I have been dating on/off for 5 years. We were friends for years first before dating. Currently, we disagree on a car, to understand the struggle, a lil history is needed. In the very beginning of our relationship...

A.   23 June 2017: This is your decision at the end off the day. I get that he can have an opinion, but you have helped him with his car, and if you can afford it you buy what you want. It sounds like his nose is put out off joint because you are able to afford it and ... (read in full...)

Is my pedicure cause for concern?

Answered by mystiquek + on 23 June 2017.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   I am not sure if I should be offended or not? But I AM!! I just got a pedicure and I love it. I like the colour. It is bright and summery. My boyfriend did not share my enthusiasm. He said pedicures with any colour draw attention to feet, and he ...

A.   23 June 2017: If all feet are ugly then why do many men have foot fetishes?? Your boyfriend may not like feet, but plenty of other men do and they would actually swoon if you had a pedicure and had your toenails painted! Its all about what a person likes or ... (read in full...)

How do I put him at ease?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 June 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Myself and a guy I work with have been dancing around each other for a while now, we've been out a couple of times and he's kissed me with a bit of Dutch courage on board! Thing is he's really shy and un-confident and he fully admits to that whe...

A.   23 June 2017: Stop dancing around him, tell him how you feel and take the lead. If that is your natural role and he is shy then it will work out, if it doesn't and you scare him then you are not what he is looking for. Never be afraid to be yourself. Take the ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend dumped me because she thinks I watch porn

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 June 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Long story short my girlfriend of almost 3 years broke up with me cause she thinks I'm lying to her about not watching porn. It's rediculous if you saw how beautiful she was you'd understand. We've been exploring our sexuality together and I went o...

A.   23 June 2017: If she has ended things over this one thing then it sounds like she simply does not want to be with you. If your word was not enough then she does not trust you. What are you able to do? Do you want to be with someone who does not trust you, or who ... (read in full...)

Is my ex meant to be back in my life?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 June 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   How do you know if someone is being brought back into your life for a reason? My ex and I broke up almost 2 years ago and we had stopped talking for 4 months after we broke up, then out of the blue one day he texted me. And we've been talking eve...

A.   23 June 2017: He is wanting to keep you on the side, hoping maybe one day if his MARRIAGE fails he has someone else to come crawling back to. Please have more respect for yourself and stop talking to him. You know YOU are causing problems in his relationship yet ... (read in full...)

I'm tempted to punish him by cheating on him

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 June 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hey all!! I'm in need of some good solid advice and know this website would be my best bet for non sugar coated advice. I know I'm not the only person going thru this type of stuff, so please help me thru it. I've been dating the same guy for...

A.   23 June 2017: You think the best idea is to cheat on him just once? Honestly? Wow I have never heard such silliness. Cheating on him is not going to make you feel better, it is not going to make things better at all, it WILL make things worse. Honestly you say ... (read in full...)

Is it normal for husbands and boyfriend to follow lingerie models on social media?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 June 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Is it normal for guys to follow all these girls on instagram and like their half naked pictures on instagram every time they post them? I'm a grown woman and single but I can tell u when I'm in a relationship I don't have eyes for other men and in ...

A.   23 June 2017: Everyone's definition off 'normal' is different, and everyone looks for different things in relationships. Personally my partner does not do these kind off things. Am not sure how I would feel if he did. It really depends on the relationship and the ... (read in full...)

What could be going on with my new coworker-friend?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 June 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   There is a new coworker at my job that came to work for a few months. He seems fun. He acts gay, but seems bi. Nit sure how to put it. I am a girl. We kind of been getting along well from the moment we met. Talk and joke a lot at work. But I have ...

A.   23 June 2017: I agree with the other aunts, also if he has to be someone who he is not when he is talking to you, then that is never a good sign.... (read in full...)

Girl friends 'very low sex drive' and says she never feels horny

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 June 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   My girlfriend and I have been dating for 1 and a half years now give or take and we had allot of sex in the beginning now in te last 6 months it has slowly been declining it's down to about once or twice a month now. I know she is not cheating on me ...

A.   23 June 2017: Okay in short this relationship doesn't seem to be working. Passion and sex in a relationship is important. Do you both still have romance? Do you have date nights? You need to look at it from all angles, do you treat her well? Surprise her? Romance ... (read in full...)

What goes through a man's head when he sees his wife having sex with another man?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 June 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   To make it short my husband and I are into guys joining us for sex . But husband has always joined for sex until recently when at a party when a black guy paid attention to me more than normal. So at husbands request I invited him home for a ...

A.   23 June 2017: My partner would never want to see me having sex with another man, in his opinion I am his partner and not to be shared, so am afraid I cannot help you on this one, for me personally I would never get over seeing my partner with another woman. I ... (read in full...)

Married to an abusive man, 5 kids and I think I'm falling in love with another man

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 June 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Ok so I'm married going on 4 years this month. We've been together for 5+ years. I was abused in a previous marriage emotionally and now am putting up with physical and emotional abuse from my current husband... he's a disabled vet and things ...

A.   23 June 2017: Abuse is not okay, cheating is not okay. If you think your marriage cannot be worked on then you end things, get a divorce and concentrate on making sure you and your children are safe. I would suggest staying single for a while until you and your ... (read in full...)

I broke things off with him because he isn't at the same place I am. I'm so heartbroken!

Answered by aunt honesty + on 23 June 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I started dating a guy about eight/nine months ago after meeting online. The first date was fine but I wasn't particularly smitten - he asked if we could go on a second date. I was hesitant at first - I wasn't really looking to get into anything ...

A.   23 June 2017: As much as you are not allowing yourself to accept it is over, the moment you do then you can begin the healing process. It is still early days so you need to give yourself time. Off course it is going to be hard, with panic attacks added in to the ... (read in full...)

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