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I’m a first time dater and find myself stressing about the romantic/ affectionate part of it!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 22 May 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Does anyone have tips for letting yourself be more romantic/affectionate with someone when it's totally outside of your comfort zone? Been seeing someone for a couple weeks now (first time ever dating) and can tell he wants more from me physical...

A.   22 May 2018: As the saying goes, every man marches to the beat of his own drum. There is no right or wrong speed or timetable for getting intimate with people, especially when it is your first time and it is all new territory and, understandably, terrifying. ... (read in full...)

I don't want to lead her on, but I don't want to flat out reject her as I don't want to hurt her that way either

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 22 May 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Dear all I need some advice. I met a girl online several months ago, as a language exchange. That was all I was looking for and her too i believe. We get along great and have learned a lot together. Our personalities are very similar, lots of ...

A.   22 May 2018: My thoughts? If you carry on being so scared and cautious, you are going to miss out on a lot in your life. It already sounds like you have missed out on stuff because you have been so cautious. Nobody goes through life without getting hurt by ... (read in full...)

I’m a first time dater and find myself stressing about the romantic/ affectionate part of it!

Answered by femmenoir + on 22 May 2018.

femmenoir agony auntQ.   Does anyone have tips for letting yourself be more romantic/affectionate with someone when it's totally outside of your comfort zone? Been seeing someone for a couple weeks now (first time ever dating) and can tell he wants more from me physical...

A.   22 May 2018: By the way, i should also mention, as you've only known this person for a few weeks, you definitely shouldn't rush into intimacy. You don't know him well enough, nor can you even trust him fully, to be too close to him. Please remember, most y... (read in full...)

I’m a first time dater and find myself stressing about the romantic/ affectionate part of it!

Answered by femmenoir + on 22 May 2018.

femmenoir agony auntQ.   Does anyone have tips for letting yourself be more romantic/affectionate with someone when it's totally outside of your comfort zone? Been seeing someone for a couple weeks now (first time ever dating) and can tell he wants more from me physical...

A.   22 May 2018: There may be various reasons, but i was thinking, perhaps you're afraid of moving too fast, especially if you're thinking way ahead and thinking that when you are ready to allow this person to enter your personal space, he may try to take things ... (read in full...)

How can I adapt better to what my career will be? How can I make this better for myself?

Answered by anonymous on 22 May 2018.

Q.   Not a relationship question more of a general life question and how to cope with the working routine. I’m 29 years old, graduated college with a BS in the Health Sciences and have been working in my field for about 8 months now. I love my job and ...

A.   22 May 2018: OP, I dont think you work 7 days a week do you? So what you need is to find a hobby. Life is not only about go to work, eat, sleep..You must find something to do besides work. Something completely different that makes you happy, I am talking about ... (read in full...)

I’m a first time dater and find myself stressing about the romantic/ affectionate part of it!

Answered by anonymous on 22 May 2018.

Q.   Does anyone have tips for letting yourself be more romantic/affectionate with someone when it's totally outside of your comfort zone? Been seeing someone for a couple weeks now (first time ever dating) and can tell he wants more from me physical...

A.   22 May 2018: Being vulnerable is terrifying because you're opening yourself to possibilities that include being hurt and having your heart broken. This is scary for many people, even if it appears people do it all the time with no qualms...this is not really so. ... (read in full...)

I’m a first time dater and find myself stressing about the romantic/ affectionate part of it!

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 May 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Does anyone have tips for letting yourself be more romantic/affectionate with someone when it's totally outside of your comfort zone? Been seeing someone for a couple weeks now (first time ever dating) and can tell he wants more from me physical...

A.   22 May 2018: Tell him that you are NOT comfortable YET with closer physical intimacy, that taking things slow is what YOU would prefer. GET to know this person WELL - GET comfortable in YOUR time. If he CAN NOT wait for you to become comfortable then... (read in full...)

My youngest children have fallen out with my oldest child!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 May 2018.

Q.   I have 3 children who are now young adults and 2 of them have fallen out with their eldest sibling. I have tried for almost a year now to get them to talk and they’re all willing to talk to each other as long as the other party says sorry first. ...

A.   22 May 2018: If you set an example; your kids will follow. They copy what they see, and they don't listen when they see hypocrisy. They were aware of how you and your brother dealt with disagreement; and now your past has been passed-down to your children. Along ... (read in full...)

Recently there is a lack of trust from both sides!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 May 2018.

Q.   I'm in a relationship and have been with the boy for 6 months. We had a very good start to our relationship other than a few anger issues he had where he would get too angry too easily. Beside this it was pretty much perfect. Recently he found out ...

A.   22 May 2018: Post script: I want to add something. If you're seeing someone; you can't be too chummy with to many other guys at the same time. Especially after telling the guy how many boys you've slept with. If you're not a virgin, that's all he needs to... (read in full...)

Recently there is a lack of trust from both sides!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 May 2018.

Q.   I'm in a relationship and have been with the boy for 6 months. We had a very good start to our relationship other than a few anger issues he had where he would get too angry too easily. Beside this it was pretty much perfect. Recently he found out ...

A.   22 May 2018: Sorry, there is no perfection in being with a person who has anger-issues. In-fact, that is one of the biggest signs of failure! You are staying in the relationship; because you care for him, but you're not using your common-sense. He doesn't ... (read in full...)

How do I support my husband in his business stress?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 May 2018.

Q.   Hi all Im wondering how i can support my husband in his stress. He runs two businesses that could be successful but due to outside factors, things arent going well. He literally cannot catch a break. He most recently said: "if i have to deal wit...

A.   22 May 2018: You would get better advice if you elaborated on what those "outside factors" are that are causing the trouble. You improve the quality of your advice when you don't hold-back details that give some backstory to the problem. He may need to sit-d... (read in full...)

Our sex life is non existent

Answered by janniepeg + on 22 May 2018.

janniepeg agony auntQ.   Me and my gf sex life is non existent. Sometimes I look forward to it and it can be over so soon. No foreplay happens, she doesn’t let me go anywhere near her for foreplay. She used to be really wild, and now it’s gone to nothing. I’m still up for ...

A.   22 May 2018: There are people who do foreplay for 20 minutes and by the time they have sex, it only lasts for 3 minutes because of all the build up. There are people who don't need foreplay at all and would just go through marathon action for hours. There are ... (read in full...)

Recently there is a lack of trust from both sides!

Answered by janniepeg + on 22 May 2018.

janniepeg agony auntQ.   I'm in a relationship and have been with the boy for 6 months. We had a very good start to our relationship other than a few anger issues he had where he would get too angry too easily. Beside this it was pretty much perfect. Recently he found out ...

A.   22 May 2018: You didn't do anything wrong. He has insecurity and anger issues. Your relationship was never solid yet he wanted to act like he can control who you talk to and tries to make you feel bad about your past. Did you mean he told you he loved you very ... (read in full...)

My youngest children have fallen out with my oldest child!

Answered by aunt honesty + on 21 May 2018.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I have 3 children who are now young adults and 2 of them have fallen out with their eldest sibling. I have tried for almost a year now to get them to talk and they’re all willing to talk to each other as long as the other party says sorry first. ...

A.   21 May 2018: I think you should call them all to meet at your home and sit them down. Explain to them how it has made you feel loosing your brother and how short life is. Then leave it up to them as they are all adults as you said. You can then leave them to ... (read in full...)

My youngest children have fallen out with my oldest child!

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 May 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I have 3 children who are now young adults and 2 of them have fallen out with their eldest sibling. I have tried for almost a year now to get them to talk and they’re all willing to talk to each other as long as the other party says sorry first. ...

A.   21 May 2018: Unfortunately, you can not put a "let's-all-get-along-shirt" on your kids and hey presto!, they will be talking to each other again. What you CAN do, is WRITE them each a letter where you express the loss you still feel to this day by NOT having y... (read in full...)

How can I adapt better to what my career will be? How can I make this better for myself?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 21 May 2018.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Not a relationship question more of a general life question and how to cope with the working routine. I’m 29 years old, graduated college with a BS in the Health Sciences and have been working in my field for about 8 months now. I love my job and ...

A.   21 May 2018: We all need money to pay the bills, but I am interested to know do you work 7 days a week? How many hours do you work weekly? You should work to live, not live to work. You need to enjoy your life as well. Surely with only eating one meal a day you ... (read in full...)

How do I support my husband in his business stress?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 May 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi all Im wondering how i can support my husband in his stress. He runs two businesses that could be successful but due to outside factors, things arent going well. He literally cannot catch a break. He most recently said: "if i have to deal wit...

A.   21 May 2018: I think you should ask HIM. And I think you two should talk about how he talks to you, that needs to stop. I get that being stressed sucks and can make people on edge but there is no good excuse to lash out at you.... (read in full...)

How can I adapt better to what my career will be? How can I make this better for myself?

Answered by Code Warrior + on 21 May 2018.

Code Warrior agony auntQ.   Not a relationship question more of a general life question and how to cope with the working routine. I’m 29 years old, graduated college with a BS in the Health Sciences and have been working in my field for about 8 months now. I love my job and ...

A.   21 May 2018: I'm fond of saying that the grass is brown everywhere, you have to make it green where you're at. That starts at home. First, you need to make a point of getting enough sleep each night. Sleep is more important than anything else. The next most ... (read in full...)

Why does it seem like my boyfriend is stringing along his ex ?

Answered by Devencianna + on 21 May 2018.

Devencianna agony auntQ.   My boyfriend is 31 his ex is 21 and I’m 23 , my current boyfriend of two months left a girl he was dating in February to be with me. He told me he complained to her about standing up to her family and she never did it and how her family didn’t even ...

A.   21 May 2018: Well after reading the replies i feel i had to.. i don’t want to be used to make someone else jealous ... (read in full...)

Why am I having dreams about his ex?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 21 May 2018.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I had a dream of a bull chasing me to the edge of a river and when it was about to hit me I close my eyes and on opening I am at my boyfriends house and her ex is seated on the chair. So I ignore and go straight to the bedroom to drop my bag then I ...

A.   21 May 2018: Its great to hear that you trust him but do you feel insecure about yourself? Dreams can happen for no reason at all or it could be that you have some confidence issues with yourself or you are unhappy about something. Either way don't over analyse ... (read in full...)

Should I ask for the money again or just let it go and block her?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 May 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi everyone. I know this lady for few years and I can’t call her my friend but we hangout for a coffee sometimes. I find her cheap, not that she is not spending but just her attitude towards money. 2 months ago she was asking to attend an event ...

A.   21 May 2018: Yikes, she sounds like a right cow! Glad you got your money back! ... (read in full...)

I don’t feel a spark with her but I still had sex with her!

Answered by aunt honesty + on 21 May 2018.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Me and this girl broke up a while ago, after about a month she came over to play some video games and chat. It was getting real late and she was getting tired so I offered her to stay the night. During that we began cuddling and making out and it ...

A.   21 May 2018: You really need to tell her clearly that you are not interested in her sexually or romantically. She needs to know where she stands because it sounds like she has feelings for you and well if she keeps trying she is going to keep getting hurt. It is ... (read in full...)

How can I adapt better to what my career will be? How can I make this better for myself?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 May 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Not a relationship question more of a general life question and how to cope with the working routine. I’m 29 years old, graduated college with a BS in the Health Sciences and have been working in my field for about 8 months now. I love my job and ...

A.   21 May 2018: Welcome to adult life :) What can you do? You can look in to additional schooling to add onto your degree - maybe you want to specialize? or have a broader VARIETY of job offers. A friend of mine is a phlebotomist. She prick people with need... (read in full...)

Does anyone have any tips on mental health?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 21 May 2018.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hello aunts I realize this is not a relationship question but I have been diagnosed with ocd/ rumination (excessive) to the point where I get horrible tension headaches and panick. I am a prisoner of my mind and I go and recheck things and ...

A.   21 May 2018: I agree with honeypie, you really should look in to CBT. There are sure to be plenty of therapists that specialize in this area and will help you learn to control your OCD. It won't be easy but it will be better than feeling like you are drugged up ... (read in full...)

Why does it seem like my boyfriend is stringing along his ex ?

Answered by N91 + on 21 May 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   My boyfriend is 31 his ex is 21 and I’m 23 , my current boyfriend of two months left a girl he was dating in February to be with me. He told me he complained to her about standing up to her family and she never did it and how her family didn’t even ...

A.   21 May 2018: You don’t trust him for a start or else you wouldn’t be going through his phone. This relationship was clearly not meant to be.... (read in full...)

If I’ve fallen for him and my parents don’t approve of me being with someone, what do I do?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 21 May 2018.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I met my friend when we were both just 10 years old. We kept in contact for years but were never close.. we just always make sure to wish each other on birthdays and chat to catch up and see how we’re both doing. But just last year in September, we ...

A.   21 May 2018: Your parents need to let go off the apron strings a little. You need to remember that you are an adult now and you are fit to make your own decisions and you should also let your parents know that in a kind way as well. It can be difficult for ... (read in full...)

I've only had sex once, have a long distance g/f I'll never meet and I want experience

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 May 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I am 27. I have never had a phyiscal girlfriend. I had sex once at 24. I have no friends to speak of. All I have is a long distance "girlfriend" i met a few years ago. She lives in another country, and that along with money means that we will nev...

A.   21 May 2018: A lot of "online LDR" are just pretend or fantasy relationships because they are not realistic, there IS no future there. It's nice to have a "GF/BF" someone to talk to get/give affection to, attention too and share thing with. BUT if there are no ... (read in full...)

I've only had sex once, have a long distance g/f I'll never meet and I want experience

Answered by Code Warrior + on 21 May 2018.

Code Warrior agony auntQ.   I am 27. I have never had a phyiscal girlfriend. I had sex once at 24. I have no friends to speak of. All I have is a long distance "girlfriend" i met a few years ago. She lives in another country, and that along with money means that we will nev...

A.   21 May 2018: Well, I'd like to skip right to the part where I get a winning lottery ticket, have championship level body build, and a horny gorgeous wife with a perfect body who only has eyes for me. Women aren't going to show up at your door and throw th... (read in full...)

Am I playing myself for a fool with this older guy?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 21 May 2018.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   My boyfriend is 8 years older than me. I met him in early February while he was non exclusively dating a 21 year old .I met him in a little store near my house and one thing Led to another and now we are a couple. When i first initially met him he ...

A.   21 May 2018: Because he is acting like a child who cannot get what he wants. Because she respects her parents wishes he is spitting his dummy. If he wanted to be with you then he would not be talking to her all the time and writing to her saying he misses her. ... (read in full...)

After I told him I’d give him space if he needed it, I haven’t heard from him! What next?

Answered by malvern + on 21 May 2018.

malvern agony auntQ.   Hi, I’m in a LDR online. We do know each other in person but a few months ago reconnected. Things have been going well but recently he has been going through much stress with his business and children. Things (for him) seem to be getting worse ...

A.   21 May 2018: What you should do is to stop wasting your time. If you have never met this man you can't possibly know whether he's telling you the truth about anything he ever says. I've been through all this myself online. If you haven't met them after two or ... (read in full...)

I've only had sex once, have a long distance g/f I'll never meet and I want experience

Answered by malvern + on 21 May 2018.

malvern agony auntQ.   I am 27. I have never had a phyiscal girlfriend. I had sex once at 24. I have no friends to speak of. All I have is a long distance "girlfriend" i met a few years ago. She lives in another country, and that along with money means that we will nev...

A.   21 May 2018: You need to join some sort of club / organisation where you will meet people of your own age. Don't pin all your hopes on a girl who's far away. If you are not the sporty type are you perhaps musical and can join some sort of orchestra or similar? ... (read in full...)

I've only had sex once, have a long distance g/f I'll never meet and I want experience

Answered by anonymous on 21 May 2018.

Q.   I am 27. I have never had a phyiscal girlfriend. I had sex once at 24. I have no friends to speak of. All I have is a long distance "girlfriend" i met a few years ago. She lives in another country, and that along with money means that we will nev...

A.   21 May 2018: I do have genuine feelings for her, but they are currently muddled with the fear of being alone and the realization that I am treading water and basically living in a fantasy that can never be. As for meeting people, I don't have the drive... I j... (read in full...)

Why does it seem like my boyfriend is stringing along his ex ?

Answered by Devencianna + on 21 May 2018.

Devencianna agony auntQ.   My boyfriend is 31 his ex is 21 and I’m 23 , my current boyfriend of two months left a girl he was dating in February to be with me. He told me he complained to her about standing up to her family and she never did it and how her family didn’t even ...

A.   21 May 2018: I stated i went through his phone .. i know i was wrong... (read in full...)

Should I keep in touch and message him from time to time? Or leave it to him? And how long are we on hold for?

Answered by ALM12 + on 21 May 2018.

ALM12 agony auntQ.   i met someone in february at a friends party and we hit it off immediately, only he suffers from mental health issues because of a past abusive relationship anyway recently my mum had a go at him through Facebook for going to see his friend instead ...

A.   21 May 2018: Yes I agree with femmenoir. Let him take care of him self first. From personal experience dealing with a guy with mental health issues is no joke. Especially when he’s in the process of getting better. ... (read in full...)

In a long term relationship but now some things are bothering me!

Answered by femmenoir + on 21 May 2018.

femmenoir agony auntQ.   Hi. I am in a long term relationship (over 4 years) now. I do love my boyfriend very much, however recently a few 'issues' which ordinarily I would just ignore have started eating away at me. The first, I have found myself looking at other guys more ...

A.   21 May 2018: Have a think about the pros vs cons of what you have together and see what weighs in more. Never take risks or chances with others, UNLESS, you can truly see that you've no real future together. Your wandering eye, well it sounds as though... (read in full...)

Why does my married boyfriend love me one day and hate me the next?

Answered by femmenoir + on 21 May 2018.

femmenoir agony auntQ.   Hi. I have been in a "relationship" with a married man for approximately 5 years. Before I begin, I am asking not to be judged. I truly and honestly go through enough pain because of the situation I put myself in. And I know what everyone here will ...

A.   21 May 2018: May i also add, As you've placed yourself "out there" via this site, you have placed yourself in a position, to receive "constructive criticism". ... (read in full...)

Please help to explain to my sister that I am not a monster for looking at porn!

Answered by anonymous on 21 May 2018.

Q.   I need the help of the people of DearCupid here. I have been trying to explain to my sister that all guys look at porn one way or another but she wouldn't listen and thinks I am a monster for looking at images of naked women. I have been a role ...

A.   21 May 2018: I am the OP. I think some people are getting confused again. I am not trying to convince my sister that porn is okay to look at. I am actually trying to convince her that most guys look at porn. I am trying to convince her talk I am not that terr... (read in full...)

Why does my married boyfriend love me one day and hate me the next?

Answered by femmenoir + on 21 May 2018.

femmenoir agony auntQ.   Hi. I have been in a "relationship" with a married man for approximately 5 years. Before I begin, I am asking not to be judged. I truly and honestly go through enough pain because of the situation I put myself in. And I know what everyone here will ...

A.   21 May 2018: You don't want to be judged nor criticised, HOWEVER, i am hear to let you know, that regardless of what you say, you WILL be judged and criticised to some extent. Why? Because this entire situation exists, not because of this scumbag, sleazeb... (read in full...)

He's addicted to sex sites and internet dating. I want my old man back!

Answered by CMoon + on 21 May 2018.

Q.   My live in man of 20 yes he is addictied to internet dating and sex sites.his treatment of me in last couple months he says not doing anything but he is I am a worthless I have tried everything just to get him to come bed with me he say ok then ...

A.   21 May 2018: If you haven't confronted him, do so. If he is unwilling to acknowledge his issues, leave him. Leaving him may actually prompt him to realise that he has a serious problem. If you leave and if he says that he is willing to change,the ball is... (read in full...)

Does he have a disorder or is he just a liar?

Answered by femmenoir + on 21 May 2018.

femmenoir agony auntQ.   Hello i have a question, i have been dating this guy for 3 months but am confused about his character.The first time met him, he told he was born Jan 30th, the next time i asked he said 20th feb 1979 i asked to see his Id it was 1th Jan 1978. Last ...

A.   21 May 2018: This guy is a compulsive liar and yes, he does know exactly what he's doing, even though he may not realise the severity of his actions. It doesn't sound as though he respects himself enough to tell the truth, so how can he remotely respect ... (read in full...)

Why does my husband look up his ex after we argue?

Answered by anonymous on 21 May 2018.

Q.   Anytime I have a really big argument with my husband, the next day or day after I check his internet history. I did this once years ago as I felt paranoid after the fight. I really really hate arguing, it freaks me out. So the first time I did it, I ...

A.   21 May 2018: Hi WiseOwl. OP here. I feel like i should reply in that he has never contacted his ex or any other woman behind my back after we fight. I merely meant that he looks her up on social media - looks at whatever photos she has public (they are no longer ... (read in full...)

Our sex life is non existent

Answered by femmenoir + on 21 May 2018.

femmenoir agony auntQ.   Me and my gf sex life is non existent. Sometimes I look forward to it and it can be over so soon. No foreplay happens, she doesn’t let me go anywhere near her for foreplay. She used to be really wild, and now it’s gone to nothing. I’m still up for ...

A.   21 May 2018: Oh and do not play the "blame game". Speak on behalf of "both" of you and be "inclusive" regarding your concerns, rather than being "exclusive" and trying to make your gf feel bad or guilty. Remember, she may not be doing anything with "i... (read in full...)

Our sex life is non existent

Answered by femmenoir + on 21 May 2018.

femmenoir agony auntQ.   Me and my gf sex life is non existent. Sometimes I look forward to it and it can be over so soon. No foreplay happens, she doesn’t let me go anywhere near her for foreplay. She used to be really wild, and now it’s gone to nothing. I’m still up for ...

A.   21 May 2018: You mention you're 29 & your gf is 24. Your age bracket noted is between "30 to 35". You need to TALK to your gf about this issue and how you feel about it. When you sit down together and discuss your concerns, then i am almost certain, your gf... (read in full...)

Our sex life is non existent

Answered by jls022 + on 21 May 2018.

Q.   Me and my gf sex life is non existent. Sometimes I look forward to it and it can be over so soon. No foreplay happens, she doesn’t let me go anywhere near her for foreplay. She used to be really wild, and now it’s gone to nothing. I’m still up for ...

A.   21 May 2018: ‘If she is rushing into the inter course it must be because it feels good whatever you are doing’ I’m not trying to be mean but I actually think the opposite might be true here. If she’s rushing to intercourse yet has no real interest in the sex,... (read in full...)

He's addicted to sex sites and internet dating. I want my old man back!

Answered by femmenoir + on 21 May 2018.

femmenoir agony auntQ.   My live in man of 20 yes he is addictied to internet dating and sex sites.his treatment of me in last couple months he says not doing anything but he is I am a worthless I have tried everything just to get him to come bed with me he say ok then ...

A.   21 May 2018: This doesn't sound good at all. Your man is "addicted" to online dating and online porn unfortunately. Addictions can be very hard to overcome, but they can be overcome, if the person with the addiction, really wants to put effort into tryi... (read in full...)

He's addicted to sex sites and internet dating. I want my old man back!

Answered by N91 + on 21 May 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   My live in man of 20 yes he is addictied to internet dating and sex sites.his treatment of me in last couple months he says not doing anything but he is I am a worthless I have tried everything just to get him to come bed with me he say ok then ...

A.   21 May 2018: Why would you waste your time trying to win back a disrespectful asshole? He lives in your house and takes the piss out of you daily. Get rid.... (read in full...)

Why does it seem like my boyfriend is stringing along his ex ?

Answered by elmo2051 + on 21 May 2018.

Q.   My boyfriend is 31 his ex is 21 and I’m 23 , my current boyfriend of two months left a girl he was dating in February to be with me. He told me he complained to her about standing up to her family and she never did it and how her family didn’t even ...

A.   21 May 2018: How do you know so much about his private text messages to her?... (read in full...)

Should I ask for the money again or just let it go and block her?

Answered by anonymous on 21 May 2018.

Q.   Hi everyone. I know this lady for few years and I can’t call her my friend but we hangout for a coffee sometimes. I find her cheap, not that she is not spending but just her attitude towards money. 2 months ago she was asking to attend an event ...

A.   21 May 2018: Should I let it go and block her or ask her again? I dont understand this question. Block her as soon you get your money back!... (read in full...)

Do you think it's wise trying again with his family and friends against us?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 21 May 2018.

Q.   Me and my ex boyfriend amicably agreed to break up around a year ago and let fate decide where we'd end up. I was travelling, he was studying and it just wasn't our time. Even though we decided this together, he became more hurt about our breakup as ...

A.   21 May 2018: In reading your post it comes across too much like you feel sorry for him. I know you felt something for him before; but the post seems so centered on his feelings about you, yet not so much about how his feelings are reciprocated. Like you're o... (read in full...)

I'm pregnant and my husband is talking to a woman. Its making me sick

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 21 May 2018.

Q.   I just found out my husband chat with his friend. He said he is a changes man now, not going to dark places anymore since he get to know a woman in the past. She adviced and changed him. I know he isnt talking about me. We have been dating for ...

A.   21 May 2018: You need someone who has a little time to sit and chat with you during the day, to keep you calm. You have to see your doctor about the ulcers and anxieties you experience. You are pregnant; so being hormonal, you will be very emotional. That's ... (read in full...)

do I look gay, or is it just a good way to attract attention from women?

Answered by Aunty Susie + on 21 May 2018.

Aunty Susie agony auntQ.   25 year old self professed hipster here. Not really a macho alpha dude but I do work out. I am still on the slim side though. I am definitely not gay. I was in a relationship with a girl for 3 years during college but have been single for 2 years. ...

A.   21 May 2018: That is a shame - her loss. Just think of it as an exercise; a practice run asking a girl out. Each time from now on will only get easier. ... (read in full...)

Do men who don't watch porn exist or should I give up and stay single?...

Answered by pennycharger + on 20 May 2018.

Q.   when I commit to a special man I hope to be his only and for him to get his sexual arousal from my body alone...is this too much to ask.....I cant imagine ever needing to look at another mans body for arousal once commited....and I cant imagine ever ...

A.   20 May 2018: I hope they do exist because I just wasted 7 years putting my man first begging for sex he claimed pain issues but to make a long story short it ruined our buiseness our closeness and I never unstoid why because I gave full trust now I am left alone ... (read in full...)

Please help to explain to my sister that I am not a monster for looking at porn!

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2018.

Q.   I need the help of the people of DearCupid here. I have been trying to explain to my sister that all guys look at porn one way or another but she wouldn't listen and thinks I am a monster for looking at images of naked women. I have been a role ...

A.   20 May 2018: I'm a woman, I'm not 15 , and I actually agree with your sister that porn is wrong . Do I think people who watch it are monsters ? No However at 15 people sometimes express their views with such words . Do I think porn is damaging and that the maj... (read in full...)

I've only had sex once, have a long distance g/f I'll never meet and I want experience

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2018.

Q.   I am 27. I have never had a phyiscal girlfriend. I had sex once at 24. I have no friends to speak of. All I have is a long distance "girlfriend" i met a few years ago. She lives in another country, and that along with money means that we will nev...

A.   20 May 2018: Sounds like you are just using your gf as a prop and a backup so you won't be lonely . You didn't really mention any genuine feelings for her or saying much positive about her and saying you didn't want to loose her seemed more about your own fear ... (read in full...)

Anxiety and fear when alone

Answered by mystiquek + on 20 May 2018.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   Hi there. I am going to be staying alone because my fiance is going away for work for 3 nights. I have anxiety and fear being sick (it is something i have had my whole life). This fear is intensified when i am alone. It is probably worse because I ...

A.   20 May 2018: My husband is from Japan and twice a year he flies back home to see his family and friends. I do not usually accompany him because I don't like to fly and the 13 hour flight is more than I can handle, so I encourage him to go alone and enjoy ... (read in full...)

I've only had sex once, have a long distance g/f I'll never meet and I want experience

Answered by Code Warrior + on 20 May 2018.

Code Warrior agony auntQ.   I am 27. I have never had a phyiscal girlfriend. I had sex once at 24. I have no friends to speak of. All I have is a long distance "girlfriend" i met a few years ago. She lives in another country, and that along with money means that we will nev...

A.   20 May 2018: You need confidence. If you click on my username it will take you to my column and there you will find an article I wrote about confidence. Read it. Maybe it will give you some ideas. At some point though, you're going to have to be willing ... (read in full...)

Do I mean anything to him? Why is he with me if he doesn't see a future with us?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 20 May 2018.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Some background: I (27 years old) have been seeing this man (33 years old) for four months now. We get along incredibly well and always have fun together. It is very comfortable when we are around each other and we naturally give off an impressi...

A.   20 May 2018: Your life. YOUR future. That's what's more important than ANY new relationship. If he isn't onboard right now, you do NOT risk your career on him MAYBE changing his mind.... (read in full...)

Please help to explain to my sister that I am not a monster for looking at porn!

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2018.

Q.   I need the help of the people of DearCupid here. I have been trying to explain to my sister that all guys look at porn one way or another but she wouldn't listen and thinks I am a monster for looking at images of naked women. I have been a role ...

A.   20 May 2018: I'm also from the same country as you and the topic of "porn" is a huge taboo I would say. My advice considering that we're from the same country and possibly have similar this "Asian" upbringing and I'm actually quite westernised at the same tim... (read in full...)

Should I ask for the money again or just let it go and block her?

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2018.

Q.   Hi everyone. I know this lady for few years and I can’t call her my friend but we hangout for a coffee sometimes. I find her cheap, not that she is not spending but just her attitude towards money. 2 months ago she was asking to attend an event ...

A.   20 May 2018: It is great you got your money back, now learn your lesson and don't lend out to people you know full well are bad characters, i would be very careful no matter who the person is. She is a piece of work but unfortunately people like her seem to do ... (read in full...)

If I’ve fallen for him and my parents don’t approve of me being with someone, what do I do?

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2018.

Q.   I met my friend when we were both just 10 years old. We kept in contact for years but were never close.. we just always make sure to wish each other on birthdays and chat to catch up and see how we’re both doing. But just last year in September, we ...

A.   20 May 2018: Posted this. He's not a bad boy. He's actually a really sweet boy who is very studious and mature. He's a has a straight As student. We're both in uni right now but different schools but in the same state. So he can easily come and visit as he ... (read in full...)

He's addicted to sex sites and internet dating. I want my old man back!

Answered by Code Warrior + on 20 May 2018.

Code Warrior agony auntQ.   My live in man of 20 yes he is addictied to internet dating and sex sites.his treatment of me in last couple months he says not doing anything but he is I am a worthless I have tried everything just to get him to come bed with me he say ok then ...

A.   20 May 2018: Clearly you believe that he's either cheating on you, or getting ready to cheat on you and it's making you feel worthless. I feel sad for you. You clearly still love him and you want to give him affection and get affection from him. My question... (read in full...)

Anxiety and fear when alone

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 20 May 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Hi there. I am going to be staying alone because my fiance is going away for work for 3 nights. I have anxiety and fear being sick (it is something i have had my whole life). This fear is intensified when i am alone. It is probably worse because I ...

A.   20 May 2018: Is there anyone who could come and stay with you for the 3 days? Perhaps a family member, or a friend? Will you be able to skype or phone your fiance during the 3 days? If he is working during the day, then perhaps in the evening? Do you ... (read in full...)

Why does my married boyfriend love me one day and hate me the next?

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2018.

Q.   Hi. I have been in a "relationship" with a married man for approximately 5 years. Before I begin, I am asking not to be judged. I truly and honestly go through enough pain because of the situation I put myself in. And I know what everyone here will ...

A.   20 May 2018: He is torn between you and his wife. He likes his life as it is but he doesn't want to lose you either. It isn't easy to find a mistress these days, especially one who will stay with him. And I doubt he'd ever be able to replace YOU. As the previous ... (read in full...)

Our sex life is non existent

Answered by Garbo + on 20 May 2018.

Garbo agony auntQ.   Me and my gf sex life is non existent. Sometimes I look forward to it and it can be over so soon. No foreplay happens, she doesn’t let me go anywhere near her for foreplay. She used to be really wild, and now it’s gone to nothing. I’m still up for ...

A.   20 May 2018: If she is rushing into the inter course it must be because it feels good whatever you are doing. If it feels good for her, then there is no way you are inadequate. What you are complaining about is her input into foreplay, which is what you want out ... (read in full...)

Why does my husband look up his ex after we argue?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 20 May 2018.

Q.   Anytime I have a really big argument with my husband, the next day or day after I check his internet history. I did this once years ago as I felt paranoid after the fight. I really really hate arguing, it freaks me out. So the first time I did it, I ...

A.   20 May 2018: Post script: You weren't just venting. There's a big problem in your marriage; and all that stuff about stress is rationalizing. If your second post explains it all, why did you come here? Sorry, but you two need some serious marriage-cou... (read in full...)

Our sex life is non existent

Answered by Honeypie + on 20 May 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Me and my gf sex life is non existent. Sometimes I look forward to it and it can be over so soon. No foreplay happens, she doesn’t let me go anywhere near her for foreplay. She used to be really wild, and now it’s gone to nothing. I’m still up for ...

A.   20 May 2018: I think you should TALK to her about it. IF you can date and have sex... you can TALK about it. Sure it might be you, it might be her, it might be a LOT of things and you won't know for SURE until you talk about. And don't take - "no, everythi... (read in full...)

Why does my husband look up his ex after we argue?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 20 May 2018.

Q.   Anytime I have a really big argument with my husband, the next day or day after I check his internet history. I did this once years ago as I felt paranoid after the fight. I really really hate arguing, it freaks me out. So the first time I did it, I ...

A.   20 May 2018: First off, he knows you snoop! It's called PAYBACK!!! If you're aware of it, that's the game you two play. He's a nasty vindictive guy who sets his wife up to see him canoodling with another woman. Daring you to confront him, or expose the fact... (read in full...)

If I’ve fallen for him and my parents don’t approve of me being with someone, what do I do?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 20 May 2018.

Q.   I met my friend when we were both just 10 years old. We kept in contact for years but were never close.. we just always make sure to wish each other on birthdays and chat to catch up and see how we’re both doing. But just last year in September, we ...

A.   20 May 2018: How do you know your parents will not approve of him? Is he a troubled-teen? Did he drop-out of high school or college? Does he have a bad-boy reputation? Are your grades failing in school? It doesn't make sense they would have a problem with... (read in full...)

He's addicted to sex sites and internet dating. I want my old man back!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 20 May 2018.

Q.   My live in man of 20 yes he is addictied to internet dating and sex sites.his treatment of me in last couple months he says not doing anything but he is I am a worthless I have tried everything just to get him to come bed with me he say ok then ...

A.   20 May 2018: Get a new man. He's long over the relationship; so it's time to move on. You're not getting the old one back. Your 20-year warranty has run-out. Time to kick him to the curb!... (read in full...)

Anxiety and fear when alone

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 20 May 2018.

Q.   Hi there. I am going to be staying alone because my fiance is going away for work for 3 nights. I have anxiety and fear being sick (it is something i have had my whole life). This fear is intensified when i am alone. It is probably worse because I ...

A.   20 May 2018: Get yourself a loyal pet to keep you company. Separation-anxiety when you're totally isolated from everyone can happen to anyone; you don't really have to have anxiety-issues to feel alone and scared. You should also see your therapist more o... (read in full...)

I don’t feel a spark with her but I still had sex with her!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 20 May 2018.

Q.   Me and this girl broke up a while ago, after about a month she came over to play some video games and chat. It was getting real late and she was getting tired so I offered her to stay the night. During that we began cuddling and making out and it ...

A.   20 May 2018: She's looking for more than a friend. You only clarified you did in fact take advantage of her in full-knowledge of that. Young ladies who are romantically-attracted to you don't want to be your friend. You are only stringing her along with you... (read in full...)

Please help to explain to my sister that I am not a monster for looking at porn!

Answered by Code Warrior + on 20 May 2018.

Code Warrior agony auntQ.   I need the help of the people of DearCupid here. I have been trying to explain to my sister that all guys look at porn one way or another but she wouldn't listen and thinks I am a monster for looking at images of naked women. I have been a role ...

A.   20 May 2018: OP, I can't speak for the others, but I'm not confused. You made it clear in your original post that you were looking at "artistic nudes" as you call them. As I stated in my post, the porn wasn't really the issue that I was responding to, in m... (read in full...)

Please help to explain to my sister that I am not a monster for looking at porn!

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2018.

Q.   I need the help of the people of DearCupid here. I have been trying to explain to my sister that all guys look at porn one way or another but she wouldn't listen and thinks I am a monster for looking at images of naked women. I have been a role ...

A.   20 May 2018: I used to watch porn imagining that it was my imaginary man in my mind. What a fool I was! A man that uses woman and sticks his dick in everything is not a good fantasy for me and if it isn't a good thing for me, then it isn't a good thing for ... (read in full...)

Please help to explain to my sister that I am not a monster for looking at porn!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 20 May 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I need the help of the people of DearCupid here. I have been trying to explain to my sister that all guys look at porn one way or another but she wouldn't listen and thinks I am a monster for looking at images of naked women. I have been a role ...

A.   20 May 2018: She is a 15 year old girl who has had a sheltered upbringing. She is far too young to get her head around porn and its implications. I fail to understand why you had to "defend" yourself by bringing up porn (when you were only looking at "fine ar... (read in full...)

I don’t want to cut off this friend, but his behavior feels selfish and manipulative? Or is it me who is being childish and needy?

Answered by N91 + on 20 May 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   I have a friend who I used to consider a best friend. He isa very charming person but also totally hypocritical and self interested, at other times eh can be selfless. We used to spend a lot of time together. Recently, with no notice to me his ...

A.   20 May 2018: I’m not seeing what you like about him from this post. He sounds like a user or that he’s trying to boost his ego by making it look like he has lots of friends and people there that will drop everything to suit him. There’s a guy i know that we ... (read in full...)

I don’t feel a spark with her but I still had sex with her!

Answered by N91 + on 20 May 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   Me and this girl broke up a while ago, after about a month she came over to play some video games and chat. It was getting real late and she was getting tired so I offered her to stay the night. During that we began cuddling and making out and it ...

A.   20 May 2018: Simple. Stop having sex with her. It’s not fair to play with someone’s emotions especially when you KNOW they like you. It’s easy to make them do what you want when they have feelings for you. It will happen to you one day though, you will get... (read in full...)

Please help to explain to my sister that I am not a monster for looking at porn!

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2018.

Q.   I need the help of the people of DearCupid here. I have been trying to explain to my sister that all guys look at porn one way or another but she wouldn't listen and thinks I am a monster for looking at images of naked women. I have been a role ...

A.   20 May 2018: I am the person who posted the question. Thanks for all the responses. But I think everyone is confused and think that I look at actual porn. I mean graphic videos where people have sexual intercourse. Actually I don't watch those type of porn. I ... (read in full...)

I have a huge crush on the perfect girl but we're both in relationships. Should I still get her number in case we break up with our partners in the future?

Answered by Dionee' + on 20 May 2018.

Dionee' agony auntQ.   Im in a class with a girl, who when I first saw her thought she was pretty but didnt think much of it. As Ive got to know her a little better over the semester and she is so smart! Probably the most intelligent in the class. She honestly seems so ...

A.   20 May 2018: Honestly, you've fallen for a girl that you think is perfect (and you're right, everyone has something that is undesirable) and you think that it's okay to grab this girls number in case things don't work out with your current partner... good god... ... (read in full...)

I don't think this party girl is girlfriend material. Should I break up?

Answered by Dionee' + on 20 May 2018.

Dionee' agony auntQ.   I'm 32 years old my girlfriend is22. We're dating for four months and I still have doubts about her if she is gf material to me. Bottom line is she's a party girl, to me a girl who likes to party and drink and have sex with a lot of dudes is not ...

A.   20 May 2018: You seem very immature for your age and I'll tell you why: In a world where women have fought for equal rights to live as men have been since the beginning of time, you CANNOT have a misogynist and sexist point of view. In today's world it's poss... (read in full...)

Why do guys I meet (and like) only like to flirt and never do anything?

Answered by Dionee' + on 20 May 2018.

Dionee' agony auntQ.   Why do guys I meet (and like) only like to flirt and never do anything? I have an unusual job, we do fieldwork and one expedition can last for several months, so we get to know each other well and spend time together. They are all very open...

A.   20 May 2018: I'm against co-workers dating. It's just a recipe for disaster. I agree that you need to try dating guys outside of work based on your own personal standards and if you don't have the time then perhaps now isn't the right time to be dating b... (read in full...)

He broke up with my but regrets it 1.5 years later. I still love him, but what is the right thing to do?

Answered by Dionee' + on 20 May 2018.

Dionee' agony auntQ.   My ex and I are high school sweethearts and each other’s first love. We had been together for a decade and the last 4 years were long distance. I thought he was the guy I was going to marry and spend the rest of my life with;unfortunately he ...

A.   20 May 2018: It's sad that he is pursuing you while you're in a relationship where you feel loved and appreciated. I feel that it's within your best interest to steer clear. In fact, I wonder why you're still in contact with him, actually. I always tell peo... (read in full...)

I don’t feel a spark with her but I still had sex with her!

Answered by hourglass776 + on 20 May 2018.

Q.   Me and this girl broke up a while ago, after about a month she came over to play some video games and chat. It was getting real late and she was getting tired so I offered her to stay the night. During that we began cuddling and making out and it ...

A.   20 May 2018: I wanted to thank everyone for responding to this question. I feel like I should have given more clarification to the situation. Currently, we both want to keep in contact with each other. I want to at least talk to her more because i dont have many ... (read in full...)

Please help to explain to my sister that I am not a monster for looking at porn!

Answered by Dionee' + on 20 May 2018.

Dionee' agony auntQ.   I need the help of the people of DearCupid here. I have been trying to explain to my sister that all guys look at porn one way or another but she wouldn't listen and thinks I am a monster for looking at images of naked women. I have been a role ...

A.   20 May 2018: Porn is a very controversial topic of discussion and you will get varying replies here so just understand that. Firstly, it was a huge mistake for you to leave your laptop open so carelessly around your little sister because it seems as though s... (read in full...)

Does he have a disorder or is he just a liar?

Answered by Dionee' + on 20 May 2018.

Dionee' agony auntQ.   Hello i have a question, i have been dating this guy for 3 months but am confused about his character.The first time met him, he told he was born Jan 30th, the next time i asked he said 20th feb 1979 i asked to see his Id it was 1th Jan 1978. Last ...

A.   20 May 2018: This guy definitely sounds like he has issues, and either way; he isn't for you to fix. My advice is that you do a Matrix move and dodge this bullet because this looks like a situation that you should not get yourself into. Honestly.... (read in full...)

I don’t feel a spark with her but I still had sex with her!

Answered by Dionee' + on 20 May 2018.

Dionee' agony auntQ.   Me and this girl broke up a while ago, after about a month she came over to play some video games and chat. It was getting real late and she was getting tired so I offered her to stay the night. During that we began cuddling and making out and it ...

A.   20 May 2018: Firstly, you should not have slept with her knowing how she felt because this only makes things harder for her. It's normal to feel that someone is what you want (on paper) but not what you need (no spark). Personally I've been through that and... (read in full...)

Do I mean anything to him? Why is he with me if he doesn't see a future with us?

Answered by schmidch + on 20 May 2018.

Q.   Some background: I (27 years old) have been seeing this man (33 years old) for four months now. We get along incredibly well and always have fun together. It is very comfortable when we are around each other and we naturally give off an impressi...

A.   20 May 2018: So here's my update on this situation... yes, it's been still going on... We have gotten really close the last couple months and we have become an important part of each others' lives in the sense that we talk about each others' issues and spend... (read in full...)

Should I ask for the money again or just let it go and block her?

Answered by anonymous on 19 May 2018.

Q.   Hi everyone. I know this lady for few years and I can’t call her my friend but we hangout for a coffee sometimes. I find her cheap, not that she is not spending but just her attitude towards money. 2 months ago she was asking to attend an event ...

A.   19 May 2018: OP- update! Thanks everyone, I got my money plus the fees in cash. She is in the process of suing her neighbor over something stupid. I said “ you didn’t get injured why you are suing the neighbor?”. She laughed and said “ if I can get some money ... (read in full...)

I know I should divorce him but I have no energy to do it!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 19 May 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Hi, i feel very extremely frustrated with my marriage at the moment. We had 30 years together, many of them filled with tragic events and heartbreaking moments. I did have many years of counselling and friends help. But less and less understati...

A.   19 May 2018: In my experience, such as it is, the fear and dread of doing something is often far worse than the actual event or deed. Once you get the ball rolling and start to sort things out, it is not quite the burden you expected. I would recommen... (read in full...)

I don’t want to cut off this friend, but his behavior feels selfish and manipulative? Or is it me who is being childish and needy?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 19 May 2018.

Q.   I have a friend who I used to consider a best friend. He isa very charming person but also totally hypocritical and self interested, at other times eh can be selfless. We used to spend a lot of time together. Recently, with no notice to me his ...

A.   19 May 2018: I can relate to your friendship-situation; because being a gay-man myself, I have observed the same unique behavior among "friendly-acquaintances." Some behavior is unique, or stereotypical, in the gay community. You have to consider gay-cult... (read in full...)

Does he have a disorder or is he just a liar?

Answered by Garbo + on 19 May 2018.

Garbo agony auntQ.   Hello i have a question, i have been dating this guy for 3 months but am confused about his character.The first time met him, he told he was born Jan 30th, the next time i asked he said 20th feb 1979 i asked to see his Id it was 1th Jan 1978. Last ...

A.   19 May 2018: He could be both — compulsive and habitual liar. Compulsives lie out of anxiety that the true answer would somehow screw up the situation for someone involved it it, and that could turn into habitual because it relieves his anxiety. Lies are hard to ... (read in full...)

Please help to explain to my sister that I am not a monster for looking at porn!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 19 May 2018.

Q.   I need the help of the people of DearCupid here. I have been trying to explain to my sister that all guys look at porn one way or another but she wouldn't listen and thinks I am a monster for looking at images of naked women. I have been a role ...

A.   19 May 2018: [EDIT]: "If porn was in any stretch of the imagination good; it wouldn't be X-rated, so controversial, and for adults only." "You have no right to tell her she has to accept guys who watch porn; as if she has no choice." Post script: ... (read in full...)

Please help to explain to my sister that I am not a monster for looking at porn!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 19 May 2018.

Q.   I need the help of the people of DearCupid here. I have been trying to explain to my sister that all guys look at porn one way or another but she wouldn't listen and thinks I am a monster for looking at images of naked women. I have been a role ...

A.   19 May 2018: She's only 15, and porn is too much for her understanding; and more than she is able to digest, if she is totally unfamiliar with the sex-industry. She is too young to participate in such a debate. Well, is porn good or bad? To say neither ... (read in full...)

I'm chinese and my bf is indian, parents would disown me if I married him. What should I do?

Answered by RuniPersevera + on 19 May 2018.

Q.   I am Chinese and I've been dating my secret indian bf of nearly 2 years . I told my parents about two years ago (I'm 21 now) that I was in love with him and my dad threatened to disown me. So I said I would think about and deal with it myself and ...

A.   19 May 2018: I have the same situation. Actually, we dated a month and he dumped me because of the fact that his friends and family all disapproved of me because of my race. But unlike your situation, he is not my first love. My boyfriend and I are both stubborn ... (read in full...)

Does he love me? Or not? Is he worth the wait or is he spouting empty words? Must I risk it all and take a chance with him? Help!

Answered by anonymous on 19 May 2018.

Q.   I am hoping to get perspective on an issue more to reflect on it and process it before deciding what to do. This is the situation: My first love and i were together for a year and a half before a very silly solit. He thought he wasn't ready as ...

A.   19 May 2018: Thank you @janniepeg for your response! He did quit a bad habit a few weeks after he started talking with me and that too without me even asking. He has been changing his lifestyle and has started to focus on being positive and healthy after ... (read in full...)

He broke up with my but regrets it 1.5 years later. I still love him, but what is the right thing to do?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 19 May 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   My ex and I are high school sweethearts and each other’s first love. We had been together for a decade and the last 4 years were long distance. I thought he was the guy I was going to marry and spend the rest of my life with;unfortunately he ...

A.   19 May 2018: Your ex's happiness is not YOUR problem. It is his CHOICE whether he moves on or lingers in the past. You are in a good healthy relationship now with someone who treats you as you deserve. Do you think you deserve to be messed about and cheated ... (read in full...)

Does he love me? Or not? Is he worth the wait or is he spouting empty words? Must I risk it all and take a chance with him? Help!

Answered by anonymous on 19 May 2018.

Q.   I am hoping to get perspective on an issue more to reflect on it and process it before deciding what to do. This is the situation: My first love and i were together for a year and a half before a very silly solit. He thought he wasn't ready as ...

A.   19 May 2018: Thank you @WiseOwlE for that blunt but brutally honest response. Just to clarify - the ex is actually in a very stable job, has a home and is financially secure now. He was planning what he must do in the event if he moves to be with me. He has ... (read in full...)

I don’t want to cut off this friend, but his behavior feels selfish and manipulative? Or is it me who is being childish and needy?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 19 May 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I have a friend who I used to consider a best friend. He isa very charming person but also totally hypocritical and self interested, at other times eh can be selfless. We used to spend a lot of time together. Recently, with no notice to me his ...

A.   19 May 2018: There is something I completely fail to understand here. You KNOW what this friend has become. You KNOW he is selfish and a user and only makes time for your friendship when it is convenient for him. Yet you still hang in there, hoping he will ... (read in full...)

My husband found some screenshots from my sim game!

Answered by Billy Bathgate + on 19 May 2018.

Q.   My husband is jealous of a dating Sim (similar to otome) visual novel romance game. Recently he came across some pictures I'd saved of one of the sex scenes between the sprites (it's all dialogue) to show to my friend. He got mad that 1) I had ...

A.   19 May 2018: It’s normal and healthy and it’s damaging your marriage. Decide what is more important to you, your online sex life or your real married life then jettison the one you can’t live without. My guess is your husband will be out.... (read in full...)

Does he have a disorder or is he just a liar?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 19 May 2018.

Q.   Hello i have a question, i have been dating this guy for 3 months but am confused about his character.The first time met him, he told he was born Jan 30th, the next time i asked he said 20th feb 1979 i asked to see his Id it was 1th Jan 1978. Last ...

A.   19 May 2018: Your description depicts a pathological liar. It's not memory-loss, it's a compulsion to state falsehoods. The compulsion to lie unnecessarily IS a mental-disorder!... (read in full...)

I don’t feel a spark with her but I still had sex with her!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 19 May 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Me and this girl broke up a while ago, after about a month she came over to play some video games and chat. It was getting real late and she was getting tired so I offered her to stay the night. During that we began cuddling and making out and it ...

A.   19 May 2018: You are at an age where a "spark" is still very important. If you don't feel that with this girl, do the decent thing and stop having sex with her. Women tend to be unable to separate feelings from sex as easily as men tend to do. Move on. Find... (read in full...)

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