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Should I let her go unless she takes the initiative?

Answered by mystiquek + on 23 January 2019.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   I have been in a relationship for many years. We do not live together because we both agreed we would wait until each of our children are grown before we combine our households. There have been "ups and downs" over the years, but never anything ...

A.   23 January 2019: You have been great advice. I would just like to add this. IF your lady friend is around the same age as you, then she is also in my age range and could very well be going through menopause. Let me tell you first hand that her emotions could very ... (read in full...)

He deleted his dating profile. Did he meet someone else?

Answered by anonymous on 23 January 2019.

Q.   Ive been on 4 dates with a guy I met since Oct. I blew him off a few times because I was worried having sex too soon would ruin things but i do really like him. I was tired of all my past relationship mistakes by sleeping too soon and never getting ...

A.   23 January 2019: I'd be well aware of the possibility this man is already married. Just a hunch. I would let it go. I think you'd look indecisive contacting him again and you'd be giving him too much power. ... (read in full...)

I need my boyfriend to want me!

Answered by anonymous on 23 January 2019.

Q.   i recently met this guy and i feel good about things. He is well hot and seems v nice. The trouble is he is a bit backwards at coming forward. My last B/f was like a mad stud in and out the bedroomanad we would just do stuff were and when ever. Th...

A.   23 January 2019: It’s new, don’t compare him to your ex. Give it a few months. If you mention what you like (TACTFULLY!) then and he isn’t interested, then break it off. Some people just don’t rush things. I don’t want to be intimate with guys I barely know and may ... (read in full...)

Should I be over his cheating?

Answered by anonymous on 23 January 2019.

Q.   I’ve been with my guy for over 6 yrs now. We got into a discussion yesterday about his twin boys momma. Saying you know we will have to be around her more. And I said “as long as nothing else happens again” due to him going behind my back a couple ...

A.   23 January 2019: You shouldn't be questioning in your head whether you were right or wrong to make that innocent remark. You sound as if you are very accomadating and self effacing. This is your life and this guy is a bit of a loveable rogue in your opinion. H... (read in full...)

I'm separated and my friend of years is making subtle moves on me. What do I do?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 23 January 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   im falling out of love with my husband do to his emotional and verbal abuse.Been married for 15 years but together for 25 there is no intimacy for the last year or so.Occassional hug here or there .However he is great with our daughter relationship ...

A.   23 January 2019: Sweetheart, after so many years, your husband knows all too well what buttons to press to make you feel like shit, and that is exactly what he is doing. My response to such an idiotic comment would have been something along the lines of "Well, that ... (read in full...)

I need my boyfriend to want me!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 23 January 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   i recently met this guy and i feel good about things. He is well hot and seems v nice. The trouble is he is a bit backwards at coming forward. My last B/f was like a mad stud in and out the bedroomanad we would just do stuff were and when ever. Th...

A.   23 January 2019: Blimey girl, give the poor guy a chance! You have only recently met. The relationship is new. You suspect he may be a virgin. What is more important to you: this relationship or an immediate rampant sex life? If the latter, then let this poor guy go ... (read in full...)

Should I let her go unless she takes the initiative?

Answered by anonymous on 23 January 2019.

Q.   I have been in a relationship for many years. We do not live together because we both agreed we would wait until each of our children are grown before we combine our households. There have been "ups and downs" over the years, but never anything ...

A.   23 January 2019: Both Honeypie and YCBS have made excellent posts, but I should add, threatening the relationship over small arguments is a form of coercive abuse. Think about that too. Best of luck. ... (read in full...)

Do I have to tell him to delete my number from his little black book?

Answered by anonymous on 23 January 2019.

Q.   Hi , I met a guy online just one time . He didn’t mention to meet me again but some times he text me . I am not native English speaker. A guy always texted me out of the blue. I think he wanted to contacted me as backup plan. Whenever I...

A.   23 January 2019: Wanting to be harsh with him and contacting him actually shows you DO care. When he gets your text he’ll know you are bothered by him and he’ll know he got to you. If you really don’t care, just mentally remove him from your life and move on.... (read in full...)

He deleted his dating profile. Did he meet someone else?

Answered by anonymous on 23 January 2019.

Q.   Ive been on 4 dates with a guy I met since Oct. I blew him off a few times because I was worried having sex too soon would ruin things but i do really like him. I was tired of all my past relationship mistakes by sleeping too soon and never getting ...

A.   23 January 2019: Instead of blowing the guy off (which sends the message that you aren't interested!) why don't you just tell him the truth: that this early in your relationship you aren't comfortable having dates at his apartment. He probably got sick of being bl... (read in full...)

Why is he so reluctant to move in together?

Answered by Ciar + on 23 January 2019.

Ciar agony auntQ.   My boyfriend of 18 months is reluctant to move in together. We have discussed it and he has said that he wants to, in the next year. But when I try to talk about it he gets grumpy and seems uninterested and irritated. For example, I had to go home ...

A.   23 January 2019: I agree with the others and I would take it a step further and suggest you spend less time in his home. If he wanted a roommate, he'd have one. If he wanted you to move in, he'd have invited you to by now. He lives alone because he likes his own ... (read in full...)

How do I overcome my fear of commitment?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 23 January 2019.

Q.   I have been dating my bf for 6 years. He sleeps over at my apartment every night and has a bunch of stuff here, but we live apart. He has been trying to get me to move in for at least three years now, but it is a mental block for me. Almost everyone ...

A.   23 January 2019: Stay vigil about getting screwed-over; but dial it back a few notches. You're supposed to be mindful of people who are opportunists or players; but you don't carry-on a relationship for three years always "on high alert." How insulting it is to that... (read in full...)

Do I have to tell him to delete my number from his little black book?

Answered by Ciar + on 23 January 2019.

Ciar agony auntQ.   Hi , I met a guy online just one time . He didn’t mention to meet me again but some times he text me . I am not native English speaker. A guy always texted me out of the blue. I think he wanted to contacted me as backup plan. Whenever I...

A.   23 January 2019: Any kind of response, even a rejection, is still paying attention to him. Ghost him. Block and delete him. The fact that you didn't consider him worthy of an answer will say more than some desperate sounding message. ... (read in full...)

Should I let her go unless she takes the initiative?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 23 January 2019.

Q.   I have been in a relationship for many years. We do not live together because we both agreed we would wait until each of our children are grown before we combine our households. There have been "ups and downs" over the years, but never anything ...

A.   23 January 2019: If I may add something. Be careful about "taking breaks," when you have disagreements. That's basically disconnecting the relationship as a means to psychologically-blackmail her into submission. It is playing on her emotions to make her feel you ... (read in full...)

I want to move forward without anger or any pent up emotions!

Answered by anonymous on 23 January 2019.

Q.   I feel so angry, hurt and frustrated! When communicating with my mom recently and telling her that I feel hurt by life events, I asked her for some feedback on where I could be going wrong in certain life areas. She helped me reflect on feeli...

A.   23 January 2019: A few things. First, I think that perhaps your precarious mental health or touchy ego is making you take your mom's statement WAY too seriously. It sounds to me like she was simply trying to sympathize with you having social difficulties, an... (read in full...)

Should I let her go unless she takes the initiative?

Answered by ClairM + on 22 January 2019.

Q.   I have been in a relationship for many years. We do not live together because we both agreed we would wait until each of our children are grown before we combine our households. There have been "ups and downs" over the years, but never anything ...

A.   22 January 2019: It is a cat and mouse game and your girlfriend calls the shots. After she shuts down and tells you when you fuss around her that she doesn't want to be with you, does she actually say after that she doesn't mean what she says or do you just make up ... (read in full...)

I need my boyfriend to want me!

Answered by anonymous on 22 January 2019.

Q.   i recently met this guy and i feel good about things. He is well hot and seems v nice. The trouble is he is a bit backwards at coming forward. My last B/f was like a mad stud in and out the bedroomanad we would just do stuff were and when ever. Th...

A.   22 January 2019: In the age of "#metoo" there are going to be more and more men afraid of seeming to be sexually aggressive. In that vein, maybe you should just bring it up while you're having a conversation, maybe over dinner or something and just casually mention ... (read in full...)

I need my boyfriend to want me!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 January 2019.

Q.   i recently met this guy and i feel good about things. He is well hot and seems v nice. The trouble is he is a bit backwards at coming forward. My last B/f was like a mad stud in and out the bedroomanad we would just do stuff were and when ever. Th...

A.   22 January 2019: Do you like your new guy, or looking for a clone of your ex? He may like sex, but he's getting to know you. He wants you to like him, not just see him as a hottie to scratch your itch! Sex, sex, sex...is that all you're about? Me me me, I want, I ... (read in full...)

Should I let her go unless she takes the initiative?

Answered by anonymous on 22 January 2019.

Q.   I have been in a relationship for many years. We do not live together because we both agreed we would wait until each of our children are grown before we combine our households. There have been "ups and downs" over the years, but never anything ...

A.   22 January 2019: Thank you to ALL of you. Based on my viewpoint from being in the relationship, I think WiseOwlE hit the nail on the head. The thing is, I don't think she's just a selfish person who intentionally manipulates me, I think this is all on a ... (read in full...)

Should I let her go unless she takes the initiative?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 January 2019.

Q.   I have been in a relationship for many years. We do not live together because we both agreed we would wait until each of our children are grown before we combine our households. There have been "ups and downs" over the years, but never anything ...

A.   22 January 2019: Somebody tell me where people get this notion that life is supposed to be fun and happy all the time? Adult-life is serious. It requires using good judgement, making sensible decisions, contributing something useful to our community, working,... (read in full...)

Should I let her go unless she takes the initiative?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 22 January 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I have been in a relationship for many years. We do not live together because we both agreed we would wait until each of our children are grown before we combine our households. There have been "ups and downs" over the years, but never anything ...

A.   22 January 2019: If you keep chasing, she will keep running. In your shoes I would stop chasing and see what happens. If she doesn't make any effort to sort things, then her heart truly isn't in this relationship. Are you strong enough to back off and wait so you ... (read in full...)

Do I have to tell him to delete my number from his little black book?

Answered by anonymous on 22 January 2019.

Q.   Hi , I met a guy online just one time . He didn’t mention to meet me again but some times he text me . I am not native English speaker. A guy always texted me out of the blue. I think he wanted to contacted me as backup plan. Whenever I...

A.   22 January 2019: Op here I don’t care either ( if he care or not) but I want to be little harsh with him . ... (read in full...)

Should I let her go unless she takes the initiative?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 January 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I have been in a relationship for many years. We do not live together because we both agreed we would wait until each of our children are grown before we combine our households. There have been "ups and downs" over the years, but never anything ...

A.   22 January 2019:  You are familiar with the saying: “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.” THAT is your relationship. It keep going bust, she wants to end it and you "fix" it temporarily unt... (read in full...)

I need my boyfriend to want me!

Answered by janniepeg + on 22 January 2019.

janniepeg agony auntQ.   i recently met this guy and i feel good about things. He is well hot and seems v nice. The trouble is he is a bit backwards at coming forward. My last B/f was like a mad stud in and out the bedroomanad we would just do stuff were and when ever. Th...

A.   22 January 2019: With each relationship you have to hit reset and refresh your mindset. If you tell him about your ex and your expectations, that's going to give him pressure and push him away. It will be a catch up game for him and he would never live up to the ... (read in full...)

Should I let her go unless she takes the initiative?

Answered by janniepeg + on 22 January 2019.

janniepeg agony auntQ.   I have been in a relationship for many years. We do not live together because we both agreed we would wait until each of our children are grown before we combine our households. There have been "ups and downs" over the years, but never anything ...

A.   22 January 2019: She may be starting premenopause and her emotions are all over the place. You have to reassure yourself she is not feeling comfortable with her life now, and this is not about you. When you sense an argument coming, ask her first, why is she angry, ... (read in full...)

He deleted his dating profile. Did he meet someone else?

Answered by Code Warrior + on 22 January 2019.

Code Warrior agony auntQ.   Ive been on 4 dates with a guy I met since Oct. I blew him off a few times because I was worried having sex too soon would ruin things but i do really like him. I was tired of all my past relationship mistakes by sleeping too soon and never getting ...

A.   22 January 2019: Yeah, he's older, been married, has experience, and isn't interested in playing games. Like Honeypie said, it's one thing to want to take things slow, it's another to blow people off and play games. If he was here posting about a woman who behaved ... (read in full...)

When one friend seems distant, what should the other friend do?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 January 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Is it better to wait or break friendship? Two people who were close now are drifting apart. One is ignoring the other and the other is waiting. One tried talking to see if there are any issues but the other didnt gave clear answer. Other just said ...

A.   22 January 2019: Make other friends, leave this one be. HER idea of friendship and YOUR idea of friendship doesn't seem to match up. She is trying (in a rather rude way) to set boundaries with you (boundaries in friendships are fine) but you seem oblivious t... (read in full...)

I’m sad and lonely and find myself masturbating too much. Any advice?

Answered by ClairM + on 22 January 2019.

Q.   ive just turned 30 and I've been sad and alone recently. Every time i asked a girl out either: they're gay, not dating "right now", or see me better as a friend. recently things in my life haven't been going well. personal failures and lif...

A.   22 January 2019: My boyfriend lost his job and didn't get one for 18 months, he told me he masturbated every day and a couple of times a day because it was like a comfort thing and he was on his own at the time. I don't personally think 2 times a day is excessive ... (read in full...)

How do I overcome my fear of commitment?

Answered by Anonymous 123 + on 22 January 2019.

Anonymous 123 agony auntQ.   I have been dating my bf for 6 years. He sleeps over at my apartment every night and has a bunch of stuff here, but we live apart. He has been trying to get me to move in for at least three years now, but it is a mental block for me. Almost everyone ...

A.   22 January 2019: Has he ever given you any reasons to be suspicious of him or to doubt his intentions in any way? If not then you must realise that your paranoia will eventually drive your boyfriend away. There are no guarantees in life OP. No one can assure you of ... (read in full...)

Why is he so reluctant to move in together?

Answered by mystiquek + on 22 January 2019.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   My boyfriend of 18 months is reluctant to move in together. We have discussed it and he has said that he wants to, in the next year. But when I try to talk about it he gets grumpy and seems uninterested and irritated. For example, I had to go home ...

A.   22 January 2019: He isn't ready and he doesn't want to talk about it but apparently you are making little remarks and "hints" and I'm guessing he feels pressured. Men usually say exactly what they mean and don't beat around the bush like we ladies sometimes assuming ... (read in full...)

Do I have to tell him to delete my number from his little black book?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 January 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi , I met a guy online just one time . He didn’t mention to meet me again but some times he text me . I am not native English speaker. A guy always texted me out of the blue. I think he wanted to contacted me as backup plan. Whenever I...

A.   22 January 2019: I don't think he will care... Honestly, someone who can ignore you for ages and then presume you want to talk to him out of the blue.. doesn't seem like a person who really cares.. does it?... (read in full...)

Why is he so reluctant to move in together?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 January 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   My boyfriend of 18 months is reluctant to move in together. We have discussed it and he has said that he wants to, in the next year. But when I try to talk about it he gets grumpy and seems uninterested and irritated. For example, I had to go home ...

A.   22 January 2019: Because he doesn't want to LIVE together yet. He has told you that. And you KEEP hinting at it. It gets old. It might feel like nagging. Like, you think the more you drop hints and mention it, the sooner it will happen. And I would ALSO sugge... (read in full...)

He deleted his dating profile. Did he meet someone else?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 January 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Ive been on 4 dates with a guy I met since Oct. I blew him off a few times because I was worried having sex too soon would ruin things but i do really like him. I was tired of all my past relationship mistakes by sleeping too soon and never getting ...

A.   22 January 2019: I think you should move on, you have messed this fella around enough. IF you are not ready to date, then DO NOT go on dates with men from a DATING site. HE can not read your mind, he has no idea that you really liked him, or wanted to get to... (read in full...)

How do I overcome my fear of commitment?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 January 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I have been dating my bf for 6 years. He sleeps over at my apartment every night and has a bunch of stuff here, but we live apart. He has been trying to get me to move in for at least three years now, but it is a mental block for me. Almost everyone ...

A.   22 January 2019: You won't GUARANTEE that he will not screw you over by NOT living with him either. Life doesn't come with a warranty or guarantees. Neither does relationships. Who knows YOUR relationship might be one of the FEW in your family that survives th... (read in full...)

When one friend seems distant, what should the other friend do?

Answered by anonymous on 22 January 2019.

Q.   Is it better to wait or break friendship? Two people who were close now are drifting apart. One is ignoring the other and the other is waiting. One tried talking to see if there are any issues but the other didnt gave clear answer. Other just said ...

A.   22 January 2019: OP, you were right to ask. You should. How can they tell you never assume and then not even give you a clear, definite answer? I think your friend is being passive aggressive and not very nice. They aren't offering you the dignity and respect of ... (read in full...)

I’m not sure how to interpret ‘hey chick’ in his text!

Answered by YouWish + on 22 January 2019.

YouWish agony auntQ.   If a male acquitance or a friend sent you a text starting 'hey chick' and you had not one like that before from them, is it something as a female you would find endearing, condescending or the sender being flirty with her. Had one recently and ...

A.   22 January 2019: Oh! And PS..I would probably respond "Umm, I have a name!"... (read in full...)

I’m not sure how to interpret ‘hey chick’ in his text!

Answered by YouWish + on 22 January 2019.

YouWish agony auntQ.   If a male acquitance or a friend sent you a text starting 'hey chick' and you had not one like that before from them, is it something as a female you would find endearing, condescending or the sender being flirty with her. Had one recently and ...

A.   22 January 2019: What is the context? What was the text about?? "Hey Chick", and then what did he say?? What has he said before? Has he been flirty with you in the past? Does he get flirty with a lot of people? Is he outgoing or gregarious? All of those ... (read in full...)

I’m not sure how to interpret ‘hey chick’ in his text!

Answered by N91 + on 22 January 2019.

N91 agony auntQ.   If a male acquitance or a friend sent you a text starting 'hey chick' and you had not one like that before from them, is it something as a female you would find endearing, condescending or the sender being flirty with her. Had one recently and ...

A.   22 January 2019: I don’t think it’s any of the things you listed, it’s a greeting, nothing more. The same as: ‘Hey mate/pal’ ‘Hey love/darling’ Wouldn’t read anything into it ... (read in full...)

I’m sad and lonely and find myself masturbating too much. Any advice?

Answered by chigirl + on 22 January 2019.

chigirl agony auntQ.   ive just turned 30 and I've been sad and alone recently. Every time i asked a girl out either: they're gay, not dating "right now", or see me better as a friend. recently things in my life haven't been going well. personal failures and lif...

A.   22 January 2019: Do you want to stop masturbating? Easy, you just stop. Do you want to stop being horny all the time? Don't think you can. Apparently, this is what your body just wants right now. Good news though! If you're depressed, the sex drive is usually the ... (read in full...)

I’m sad and lonely and find myself masturbating too much. Any advice?

Answered by mystiquek + on 22 January 2019.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   ive just turned 30 and I've been sad and alone recently. Every time i asked a girl out either: they're gay, not dating "right now", or see me better as a friend. recently things in my life haven't been going well. personal failures and lif...

A.   22 January 2019: We all have down times and periods where we feel low. It happens to all of us. You need to do something with your extra time and energy. Why not take up a new hobby? Volunteer somewhere where you can get out and meet with others that have similar ... (read in full...)

I’m sad and lonely and find myself masturbating too much. Any advice?

Answered by anonymous on 22 January 2019.

Q.   ive just turned 30 and I've been sad and alone recently. Every time i asked a girl out either: they're gay, not dating "right now", or see me better as a friend. recently things in my life haven't been going well. personal failures and lif...

A.   22 January 2019: Your body is telling you that you are in good shape but your mind is denying it. You are close to your prime. Nature will presumably send you an appropriate mate so you don't have to hunt so much. Stay cool and be certain that you will soon me... (read in full...)

I’m sad and lonely and find myself masturbating too much. Any advice?

Answered by ju5tS0m3Guy + on 22 January 2019.

Q.   ive just turned 30 and I've been sad and alone recently. Every time i asked a girl out either: they're gay, not dating "right now", or see me better as a friend. recently things in my life haven't been going well. personal failures and lif...

A.   22 January 2019: I feel for you. Loneliness is hard to overcome. I think the biggest issue here is your self confidence is fading. You need to build yourself back up. People are attracted to confidence. Think about what is preventing you from feeling confiden... (read in full...)

He just revealed his new relationship! How do I get over feeling that I am not enough?

Answered by chigirl + on 22 January 2019.

chigirl agony auntQ.   I met someone about a year ago, it’s been mainly casual and on and off due to different things, (his and my insecurities, me seeing someone in the time we weren’t in touch) anyway we got back in touch and it was going so well, I even for the first ...

A.   22 January 2019: Its not about being enough, or perfect, or amazing. Its about compatability. Not everyone is a good match with everyone else. You and him were not a good match, that is all.... (read in full...)

I’m not sure how to interpret ‘hey chick’ in his text!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 22 January 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   If a male acquitance or a friend sent you a text starting 'hey chick' and you had not one like that before from them, is it something as a female you would find endearing, condescending or the sender being flirty with her. Had one recently and ...

A.   22 January 2019: I think this sort of thing is very subjective. As with anything said/written, it often depends greatly on who sends it and who receives it. Personally (and I am older than you) I would see it as a cute compliment, nothing more. He's probably... (read in full...)

Do I have to tell him to delete my number from his little black book?

Answered by anonymous on 22 January 2019.

Q.   Hi , I met a guy online just one time . He didn’t mention to meet me again but some times he text me . I am not native English speaker. A guy always texted me out of the blue. I think he wanted to contacted me as backup plan. Whenever I...

A.   22 January 2019: Thanks for your reply. I just want to little harsh with him but I want to use right words. I want to realize him that I am aware that he is using me as backup plan. ... (read in full...)

I'm separated and my friend of years is making subtle moves on me. What do I do?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 January 2019.

Q.   im falling out of love with my husband do to his emotional and verbal abuse.Been married for 15 years but together for 25 there is no intimacy for the last year or so.Occassional hug here or there .However he is great with our daughter relationship ...

A.   22 January 2019: Angry things will be said. He is also taking cheap-shots; because you're finally standing-up for yourself. He will hit below the belt with the intent to throw you off-balance. People rarely say nice things to each other before and during a divorc... (read in full...)

Should I be over his cheating?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 22 January 2019.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   I’ve been with my guy for over 6 yrs now. We got into a discussion yesterday about his twin boys momma. Saying you know we will have to be around her more. And I said “as long as nothing else happens again” due to him going behind my back a couple ...

A.   22 January 2019: Get over it or don’t. If you don’t, which I totally understand and agree with, you need to leave him. You accepted that he cheated on you MULTIPLE times. It’s not surprising you’re not over it, but you can’t hold it over him and stay together. ... (read in full...)

When one friend seems distant, what should the other friend do?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 January 2019.

Q.   Is it better to wait or break friendship? Two people who were close now are drifting apart. One is ignoring the other and the other is waiting. One tried talking to see if there are any issues but the other didnt gave clear answer. Other just said ...

A.   22 January 2019: It means you may need to back-off a little and not smother a friend. There is a fine-line between close and being dependent. You may be a little clingy or needy; or the friend may be trying to make time for other friends. As should you! No on... (read in full...)

I’m sad and lonely and find myself masturbating too much. Any advice?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 22 January 2019.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   ive just turned 30 and I've been sad and alone recently. Every time i asked a girl out either: they're gay, not dating "right now", or see me better as a friend. recently things in my life haven't been going well. personal failures and lif...

A.   22 January 2019: Nothing is wrong with you; you’re just in a low mood and stuck in a rut. Work on those two things and you’ll get your mojo back, having more success in life and dating - though you’ll need to make sure you’re approaching women who are interested in ... (read in full...)

I’m not sure how to interpret ‘hey chick’ in his text!

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 22 January 2019.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   If a male acquitance or a friend sent you a text starting 'hey chick' and you had not one like that before from them, is it something as a female you would find endearing, condescending or the sender being flirty with her. Had one recently and ...

A.   22 January 2019: I don’t think it was flirty, just neutral. To be honest, very few women like to be called “chick”, especially past 25. If you’re reading into it, though, it seems you may be curious about more from him?... (read in full...)

I’m not sure how to interpret ‘hey chick’ in his text!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 January 2019.

Q.   If a male acquitance or a friend sent you a text starting 'hey chick' and you had not one like that before from them, is it something as a female you would find endearing, condescending or the sender being flirty with her. Had one recently and ...

A.   22 January 2019: It's all of the above, and being a little "cheeky!" It depends on the context whether it was meant in a negative-sense. If you were having a little bit of a tiff, it was sarcasm. If you were being flirty, he was sort of calling you a "young g... (read in full...)

He just revealed his new relationship! How do I get over feeling that I am not enough?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 January 2019.

Q.   I met someone about a year ago, it’s been mainly casual and on and off due to different things, (his and my insecurities, me seeing someone in the time we weren’t in touch) anyway we got back in touch and it was going so well, I even for the first ...

A.   22 January 2019: Let's just say 80% of your devastation is a bruised-ego, and the other 20% are truly hurt feelings. You didn't appreciate what you had when you had it; then you tried recycling it. You called him out on the booty calls; but that was hypocrit... (read in full...)

Is trust possible? How do I overcome these relationship obstacles?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 January 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I have come here in the past because of my relationship which I have gotten great great advice - I realize that I have been in neglectful - narcissistic relationship which stem from my parents - both are emotionally unavailable and to be honest I ...

A.   22 January 2019: You are not your mom or your dad, YOU are not bound to repeat what they did, so you need to let THEIR baggage go. Take responsibility for YOUR life, you actions, YOUR words and deeds. Accept that your parents were dysfunctional bu... (read in full...)

I’m not sure how to interpret ‘hey chick’ in his text!

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 January 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   If a male acquitance or a friend sent you a text starting 'hey chick' and you had not one like that before from them, is it something as a female you would find endearing, condescending or the sender being flirty with her. Had one recently and ...

A.   22 January 2019: Hey chick? It's like "you there"! I'd answer it with, yo dude! Or what's up bro?! See how he likes those terms. I don't think I would read too much into it, however, I certainly wouldn't think he was flirting or being endearing. But I d... (read in full...)

He just revealed his new relationship! How do I get over feeling that I am not enough?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 January 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I met someone about a year ago, it’s been mainly casual and on and off due to different things, (his and my insecurities, me seeing someone in the time we weren’t in touch) anyway we got back in touch and it was going so well, I even for the first ...

A.   22 January 2019: How do you move forward? By not repeating the same mistake again. When a woman AGREES to something "casual" a LOT of men tend to "classify her as a casual partner only. NOT someone to commit to, take home to the family, invest in (emotionally ... (read in full...)

I'm separated and my friend of years is making subtle moves on me. What do I do?

Answered by anonymous on 22 January 2019.

Q.   im falling out of love with my husband do to his emotional and verbal abuse.Been married for 15 years but together for 25 there is no intimacy for the last year or so.Occassional hug here or there .However he is great with our daughter relationship ...

A.   22 January 2019: Thank you to everyone whom replied.I really appreciate the feedback.Your comments Help me tremendously.Im going to update all of you on what has happend.Im looking into counseling for myself.Trying to get my hubby to move after him telling me ... (read in full...)

Do I have to tell him to delete my number from his little black book?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 January 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi , I met a guy online just one time . He didn’t mention to meet me again but some times he text me . I am not native English speaker. A guy always texted me out of the blue. I think he wanted to contacted me as backup plan. Whenever I...

A.   21 January 2019: No, you block his number or get a new number. If you block his number and he STILL contacts you, then sure tell him to never call you again. However, that doesn't mean he WON'T ever call you again. Which is why it's easier if you either BLOCK... (read in full...)

I want to move forward without anger or any pent up emotions!

Answered by anonymous on 21 January 2019.

Q.   I feel so angry, hurt and frustrated! When communicating with my mom recently and telling her that I feel hurt by life events, I asked her for some feedback on where I could be going wrong in certain life areas. She helped me reflect on feeli...

A.   21 January 2019: Hi Yes, it's a tough one and I feel for you. Rest assured there are many of us out here with similar frustrations. Negative and negative feelings just don't work well together, your mum obviously thinks with low self esteem so is unable to g... (read in full...)

How do I get in touch with him?

Answered by Purple love two + on 21 January 2019.

Purple love two agony auntQ.   Hello everyone reading; On Wensday (02/01), I had to get my hair braided at my hair dressers house. While I was there, the was his gentleman who came to the living room (Where my hair was being braided). He stood next to me trying to take someth...

A.   21 January 2019: Thank you all for your answers. And am going to go with staying away from him and letting things work out. If we are meant to be we will. ??... (read in full...)

Should a man break up with a woman over not getting enough sex?

Answered by anonymous on 21 January 2019.

Q.   Been in a relationship for two years, am 63, she is 58, I work one job she has one full time job an a part time job. I pretty much live with her, own my own house to.what's up is maybe sex once every two months, she always got an excuse.she just ...

A.   21 January 2019: You need to cuddle and do romantic things for her.Be really clean shower and brush your teeth and put on some good smelling after shave but please do not gob it on.Bring her flowers.Tell her you love her.Do your share and maybe even more of the ... (read in full...)

I lied to my boyfriend about the time frame last time I had sex before him. He STILL doesn't know the actual truth. What should I do?

Answered by ClairM + on 21 January 2019.

Q.   Hey all! I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 months now. We are both 26 years old and in very transitional phases of our lives. We also recently (within the last year) ended long term (3-6year) relationships. Both relationships we...

A.   21 January 2019: I am guilty of this, asking my partner about his past and he was honest, guess what his honesty has done us no favours. Unlike him i have not divulged my past like he has and i guess his personality is different to mine so he can accept it happened ... (read in full...)

Should a man break up with a woman over not getting enough sex?

Answered by ClairM + on 21 January 2019.

Q.   Been in a relationship for two years, am 63, she is 58, I work one job she has one full time job an a part time job. I pretty much live with her, own my own house to.what's up is maybe sex once every two months, she always got an excuse.she just ...

A.   21 January 2019: It sounds like she is working a lot of hours, runs a house and is an older lady, she must be tired and lacking energy. If you actually love her then you both need to sit down and talk about things, maybe since you have so much energy you could ... (read in full...)

Is he completely dense? Should we just give up trying to tell him he’s making the biggest mistake of his life?

Answered by N91 + on 21 January 2019.

N91 agony auntQ.   Hi guys so firstly this us a follow on from a post at Christmas- thank you all for your excellent advice The situation was a mutual good friend had got himself involved with a girl we all knew was bad news- disrespected him, took money and gene...

A.   21 January 2019: The more you tell him how wrong he is the more he will insist he isn’t. Let the man make his mistake, he needs to realise on his own. You’ve tried to warn him and he hasn’t listeners so what else can you do? Leave the guy to it. ... (read in full...)

Should I be over his cheating?

Answered by N91 + on 21 January 2019.

N91 agony auntQ.   I’ve been with my guy for over 6 yrs now. We got into a discussion yesterday about his twin boys momma. Saying you know we will have to be around her more. And I said “as long as nothing else happens again” due to him going behind my back a couple ...

A.   21 January 2019: I agree with Honeypie. You CHOSE to stay with him. That means you have accepted his cheating and decided to put it behind you to stay together. Therefore you can’t decide to keep bringing it up. If you don’t like it you should of broke up 5 years ... (read in full...)

I’m going to see my ex, is this a good idea?

Answered by N91 + on 21 January 2019.

N91 agony auntQ.   My ex and I broke up a year ago due to him moving, and me being in uni still for the next year. Fast forward a year later, and we reconnected and are still in love with each other. I got a great job here in my city after I graduate in a few months ...

A.   21 January 2019: Nope, bad idea written all over it. You broke up because you were apart, you are STILL apart. You are both satisfied where you currently live, neither want to move, how has the distance aspect been solved? Complete waste of time. ... (read in full...)

Why do people at work bully other people?

Answered by anonymous on 21 January 2019.

Q.   Why do people at work bully other people? I have a close relation with someone at work. I am at a managerial position and she is at Junior level. This girl is good at her job but still her manager has an issue with my friendship with her. She ...

A.   21 January 2019: To other aunts, I think the OP is using words that we commonly and loosely use in India. Bullying and taunting are words that can be used just like that sometimes to show your displeasure. The OP is very displeased and is most likely using... (read in full...)

I’m going to see my ex, is this a good idea?

Answered by Anonymous 123 + on 21 January 2019.

Anonymous 123 agony auntQ.   My ex and I broke up a year ago due to him moving, and me being in uni still for the next year. Fast forward a year later, and we reconnected and are still in love with each other. I got a great job here in my city after I graduate in a few months ...

A.   21 January 2019: He's your ex for a reason and in the past for a reason. Let him just be there. You're meeting him, you'll end up having sex, you'll reminisce, the weekend will fly by, you'll come back to your life, feel like shit for stirring old memories... (read in full...)

Why do people at work bully other people?

Answered by anonymous on 21 January 2019.

Q.   Why do people at work bully other people? I have a close relation with someone at work. I am at a managerial position and she is at Junior level. This girl is good at her job but still her manager has an issue with my friendship with her. She ...

A.   21 January 2019:  hi, I'm Indian and have a few years' work exp. I do think her boss is being unreasonable. She's not exactly 'bullying'. I believe this manager is trying to establish her position and power on the junior. Sometimes managers feel it is part of thei... (read in full...)

Is he completely dense? Should we just give up trying to tell him he’s making the biggest mistake of his life?

Answered by Anonymous 123 + on 21 January 2019.

Anonymous 123 agony auntQ.   Hi guys so firstly this us a follow on from a post at Christmas- thank you all for your excellent advice The situation was a mutual good friend had got himself involved with a girl we all knew was bad news- disrespected him, took money and gene...

A.   21 January 2019: But here's the thing OP. You think you're not interfering but your friend thinks otherwise. He's not dense, he's not stupid, he's just a fool in love. He things the girl can do no wrong and she's probably programmed him to think that you guys are ... (read in full...)

Is he completely dense? Should we just give up trying to tell him he’s making the biggest mistake of his life?

Answered by Code Warrior + on 21 January 2019.

Code Warrior agony auntQ.   Hi guys so firstly this us a follow on from a post at Christmas- thank you all for your excellent advice The situation was a mutual good friend had got himself involved with a girl we all knew was bad news- disrespected him, took money and gene...

A.   21 January 2019: "Is he completely dense or ?" Since you've already reasoned with him, he's either dense or willfully ignorant. "Is it hopeless and we should all give up?" I'm sure the more you try to convince him, the more he will resist you. He has to l... (read in full...)

Is he completely dense? Should we just give up trying to tell him he’s making the biggest mistake of his life?

Answered by mystiquek + on 21 January 2019.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   Hi guys so firstly this us a follow on from a post at Christmas- thank you all for your excellent advice The situation was a mutual good friend had got himself involved with a girl we all knew was bad news- disrespected him, took money and gene...

A.   21 January 2019: Love is a very powerful drug it can make sane people do the craziest things. As they say "love is blind". He doesn't see or hear what you and his friends do and the harder you try to convince him he's doing the wrong thing, the more he will go ... (read in full...)

Ended relationship, but already having doubts

Answered by anonymous on 21 January 2019.

Q.   Last week I ended my relationship with my girlfriend of 6 years. I hadn’t felt the same about her for some time, and for the last few months didn’t try to conceal the fact. I felt that I was clinging more to the situation we found ourselves in rat...

A.   21 January 2019: You have been honest in saying you didn't have the feelings for her anymore so what is the point if you have felt that way for a long time? You have had two long term relationships, you must have been fairly young with the first one so the chanc... (read in full...)

Is he completely dense? Should we just give up trying to tell him he’s making the biggest mistake of his life?

Answered by CindyCares + on 21 January 2019.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   Hi guys so firstly this us a follow on from a post at Christmas- thank you all for your excellent advice The situation was a mutual good friend had got himself involved with a girl we all knew was bad news- disrespected him, took money and gene...

A.   21 January 2019:  Exactly, alas what can you do ? You have told him already that you feel his is a bad idea and he chose to disregard your advice. As , tbh, he has any right to do, since he is a grown up man, does not depend from any of you financially, and he know... (read in full...)

Should I be over his cheating?

Answered by Fatherly Advice + on 21 January 2019.

Fatherly Advice agony auntQ.   I’ve been with my guy for over 6 yrs now. We got into a discussion yesterday about his twin boys momma. Saying you know we will have to be around her more. And I said “as long as nothing else happens again” due to him going behind my back a couple ...

A.   21 January 2019: Hey Crazy, Let me reassure you that your feelings are quite normal. 5 years is a very short time to recover from the emotional wound of cheating, or as he so crudely puts it "get over it". What he is trying to do is to rugsweep this so he does... (read in full...)

Is he completely dense? Should we just give up trying to tell him he’s making the biggest mistake of his life?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 January 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi guys so firstly this us a follow on from a post at Christmas- thank you all for your excellent advice The situation was a mutual good friend had got himself involved with a girl we all knew was bad news- disrespected him, took money and gene...

A.   21 January 2019: Yep, he is totally going to do this. It's his life and his BIG mistake to make. As to where he CHOOSES to get married, that is on him and his future wife, not his friends or their wallets. If you can't afford it or don't support his choi... (read in full...)

Should I be over his cheating?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 January 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I’ve been with my guy for over 6 yrs now. We got into a discussion yesterday about his twin boys momma. Saying you know we will have to be around her more. And I said “as long as nothing else happens again” due to him going behind my back a couple ...

A.   21 January 2019: Since you have CHOSEN to stay with him AFTER you found out that he cheated on you a COUPLE of times, you need to FORGIVE it and LET it go. You can't drag it out as ammo when it suits YOU. Otherwise you shouldn't have stayed. You made the CHOICE t... (read in full...)

I’m going to see my ex, is this a good idea?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 January 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   My ex and I broke up a year ago due to him moving, and me being in uni still for the next year. Fast forward a year later, and we reconnected and are still in love with each other. I got a great job here in my city after I graduate in a few months ...

A.   21 January 2019: I think it really won't work out. And here is why. You ended it the FIRST time, due to distance issues. and nothing has changed. You will STILL be living with that distance. He is HAPPY with where he lives and YOU have good career opportun... (read in full...)

Should a man break up with a woman over not getting enough sex?

Answered by Fatherly Advice + on 21 January 2019.

Fatherly Advice agony auntQ.   Been in a relationship for two years, am 63, she is 58, I work one job she has one full time job an a part time job. I pretty much live with her, own my own house to.what's up is maybe sex once every two months, she always got an excuse.she just ...

A.   21 January 2019: I'm going to be blunt and weather the scorn of the women here. There are 2 reasons a woman lives in a sexless relationship (less than 10 x per year) 1) She doesn't like having sex. 2) She doesn't like having sex with you. There is nothing you ... (read in full...)

Should a man break up with a woman over not getting enough sex?

Answered by anonymous on 21 January 2019.

Q.   Been in a relationship for two years, am 63, she is 58, I work one job she has one full time job an a part time job. I pretty much live with her, own my own house to.what's up is maybe sex once every two months, she always got an excuse.she just ...

A.   21 January 2019: I have a female friend who isn’t into sex with her make partner because... he’s so awful at it that it’s a chore for her. She tries to tell him gently to spare his feelings by explaining more of what she wants: cuddling, gentleness, feeling loved. ... (read in full...)

I lied to my boyfriend about the time frame last time I had sex before him. He STILL doesn't know the actual truth. What should I do?

Answered by anonymous on 21 January 2019.

Q.   Hey all! I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 months now. We are both 26 years old and in very transitional phases of our lives. We also recently (within the last year) ended long term (3-6year) relationships. Both relationships we...

A.   21 January 2019: It amazes me that so many people feel the need to share their prior sexual history to a current boyfriend. It is no ones business. If he asked you this question, you had no obligation to answer. This shows an insecurity on his part for asking ... (read in full...)

Should a man break up with a woman over not getting enough sex?

Answered by anonymous on 21 January 2019.

Q.   Been in a relationship for two years, am 63, she is 58, I work one job she has one full time job an a part time job. I pretty much live with her, own my own house to.what's up is maybe sex once every two months, she always got an excuse.she just ...

A.   21 January 2019: What an immature comment regarding oral sex and food. I have a question for you. What effort do you put in to give her what she wants? Cuddling I may add is her way of telling you that she wants to get close to you. You can add alittle light to... (read in full...)

Should a man break up with a woman over not getting enough sex?

Answered by anonymous on 21 January 2019.

Q.   Been in a relationship for two years, am 63, she is 58, I work one job she has one full time job an a part time job. I pretty much live with her, own my own house to.what's up is maybe sex once every two months, she always got an excuse.she just ...

A.   21 January 2019: Putting pressure on someone to give you more sex can be a big turn off for them. In my experience women respond much better to genuine affection. Put some honest effort into making her happy and making her feel good and loved. If she wants to ... (read in full...)

I lied to my boyfriend about the time frame last time I had sex before him. He STILL doesn't know the actual truth. What should I do?

Answered by N91 + on 21 January 2019.

N91 agony auntQ.   Hey all! I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 months now. We are both 26 years old and in very transitional phases of our lives. We also recently (within the last year) ended long term (3-6year) relationships. Both relationships we...

A.   21 January 2019: Yeah, a good suggestion would be to NEVER discuss this kind of thing. Who the hell wants to know when their partner last fucked someone before them? What a stupid topic for discussion. The amount of times I’ve seen questions like this and just have ... (read in full...)

Ended relationship, but already having doubts

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 21 January 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Last week I ended my relationship with my girlfriend of 6 years. I hadn’t felt the same about her for some time, and for the last few months didn’t try to conceal the fact. I felt that I was clinging more to the situation we found ourselves in rat...

A.   21 January 2019: You are in your late 30s, possibly 40. You cannot blame your parents for what happens in your life forever. Get a grip and start taking responsibility for yourself. We are all different and we are not our parents. It takes two to make a relation... (read in full...)

Should a man break up with a woman over not getting enough sex?

Answered by YouWish + on 21 January 2019.

YouWish agony auntQ.   Been in a relationship for two years, am 63, she is 58, I work one job she has one full time job an a part time job. I pretty much live with her, own my own house to.what's up is maybe sex once every two months, she always got an excuse.she just ...

A.   21 January 2019: I'm sorry, but I've never heard of a guy making the distinction that since a woman can swallow food "a lot fuller", that she should take an entire penis and not just the tip of it. You *do* realize you really REALLY don't want to make that kin... (read in full...)

Should a man break up with a woman over not getting enough sex?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 21 January 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Been in a relationship for two years, am 63, she is 58, I work one job she has one full time job an a part time job. I pretty much live with her, own my own house to.what's up is maybe sex once every two months, she always got an excuse.she just ...

A.   21 January 2019: So, when she wants to cuddle, do YOU accommodate HER happily, or do you sigh and do it with bad grace, or maybe even not at all? Or make snide comments? Her reluctance to have sex with you could be down to many reasons. She could just be exhauste... (read in full...)

Should a man break up with a woman over not getting enough sex?

Answered by anonymous on 21 January 2019.

Q.   Been in a relationship for two years, am 63, she is 58, I work one job she has one full time job an a part time job. I pretty much live with her, own my own house to.what's up is maybe sex once every two months, she always got an excuse.she just ...

A.   21 January 2019: Well from what you say you expect oral sex and quite frankly no woman is obligated to give you that or to enjoy it . If she does she does if she doesn’t she doesn’t . Women are more than f... toys and what sexual acts they will or won’t perform on ... (read in full...)

Should a man break up with a woman over not getting enough sex?

Answered by Code Warrior + on 21 January 2019.

Code Warrior agony auntQ.   Been in a relationship for two years, am 63, she is 58, I work one job she has one full time job an a part time job. I pretty much live with her, own my own house to.what's up is maybe sex once every two months, she always got an excuse.she just ...

A.   21 January 2019: You can break up for whatever reason you like. If the relationship isn't working for you then end it. Your reason for breaking up doesn't have to be logical and doesn't require anyone's approval. It doesn't even have to be a good idea. Howev... (read in full...)

I lied to my boyfriend about the time frame last time I had sex before him. He STILL doesn't know the actual truth. What should I do?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 January 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hey all! I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 months now. We are both 26 years old and in very transitional phases of our lives. We also recently (within the last year) ended long term (3-6year) relationships. Both relationships we...

A.   21 January 2019: Amen to YouWish's advice.. SHUT THE HELL up about previous sex-partners and sexual escapades!~ It is BEFORE his time and none of his fucking business. All you do is make him doubt you and feel insecure. If you don't want to date a guy then ... (read in full...)

Should a man break up with a woman over not getting enough sex?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 January 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Been in a relationship for two years, am 63, she is 58, I work one job she has one full time job an a part time job. I pretty much live with her, own my own house to.what's up is maybe sex once every two months, she always got an excuse.she just ...

A.   21 January 2019: Yes, break up and let her go. You want sex, she doesn't. Sounds like she either isn't FULFILLED sexually, bored with sex or JUST doesn't have much of a libido. After working a full time and a part-time job... maybe she is just exhauste... (read in full...)

Ended relationship, but already having doubts

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 21 January 2019.

Q.   Last week I ended my relationship with my girlfriend of 6 years. I hadn’t felt the same about her for some time, and for the last few months didn’t try to conceal the fact. I felt that I was clinging more to the situation we found ourselves in rat...

A.   21 January 2019: Don't do this to that woman. Here you are pushing 40; and you haven't committed to her. Six years, and you broke-up for what seems to be boredom. Don't blame your parents. You have your own life, your own experiences, and make your own decision... (read in full...)

Should a man break up with a woman over not getting enough sex?

Answered by singinbluebird + on 21 January 2019.

singinbluebird agony auntQ.   Been in a relationship for two years, am 63, she is 58, I work one job she has one full time job an a part time job. I pretty much live with her, own my own house to.what's up is maybe sex once every two months, she always got an excuse.she just ...

A.   21 January 2019: Sex is extremely important and it differentiates friendship from a romantic relationship. My advice is bring it up that you're needs are not being met. If she loves you she will try to meet them ( As you should try meet her needs for cuddling, ... (read in full...)

Ended relationship, but already having doubts

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 January 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Last week I ended my relationship with my girlfriend of 6 years. I hadn’t felt the same about her for some time, and for the last few months didn’t try to conceal the fact. I felt that I was clinging more to the situation we found ourselves in rat...

A.   21 January 2019: OP, How come after 6 years of dating you two weren't "further along"? Weren't living together? Talking marriage? SHARING your lives? I guess you CAN say that your upbringing has some effect on you, but you are NOT your father, nor living their li... (read in full...)

I lied to my boyfriend about the time frame last time I had sex before him. He STILL doesn't know the actual truth. What should I do?

Answered by YouWish + on 21 January 2019.

YouWish agony auntQ.   Hey all! I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 months now. We are both 26 years old and in very transitional phases of our lives. We also recently (within the last year) ended long term (3-6year) relationships. Both relationships we...

A.   21 January 2019: Yeah. I have a suggestion. How about "Shut the hell up about previous relationships and sexual history?" It has nothing to do with him, and he deals with retroactive jealousy anyways. Stop bringing past sexual activity or past men into this pre... (read in full...)

Ended relationship, but already having doubts

Answered by janniepeg + on 21 January 2019.

janniepeg agony auntQ.   Last week I ended my relationship with my girlfriend of 6 years. I hadn’t felt the same about her for some time, and for the last few months didn’t try to conceal the fact. I felt that I was clinging more to the situation we found ourselves in rat...

A.   21 January 2019: You have to decide if you are depressed because you are single, or because you are in a bad relationship. I believe you get in relationships because you think you need the female energy to balance yourself and to feel good. If you can harness that ... (read in full...)

Should I ask my married lover for baby?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 21 January 2019.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   So I have been seeing a man who lives with his common law wife and thier 2 kids.When we met he told me that he was in process of leaving her but now almost 2 years later he still lives at home and he won t see me outside his work hours. Anyways, ...

A.   21 January 2019: GROW UP! Your child would be better off conceived through a reputable sperm donor agency than an affair! Stop being selfish. Good mothers aren't selfish, so fix yourself before trying to get pregnant. - Dump the guy permanently - Work on impro... (read in full...)

Should I ask my married lover for baby?

Answered by Honeypie + on 20 January 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   So I have been seeing a man who lives with his common law wife and thier 2 kids.When we met he told me that he was in process of leaving her but now almost 2 years later he still lives at home and he won t see me outside his work hours. Anyways, ...

A.   20 January 2019: How would YOU feel if you husband was not only cheating on you, but being sexually irresponsible and possibly FATHERING kids with other women? Just for one minute, STOP being so selfish, and PUT yourself in HER shoes. That wouldn't bother ... (read in full...)

My husband of 12 years is so secretive and refuses to talk to me just gives me the silent treatment

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 20 January 2019.

Q.   I am in my late 50's and have been married for second time for 12 years. I have grown up children from my first marriage. My husband is 60 and from the beginning he has been so secretive. He never shows any interest in my life and health and never ...

A.   20 January 2019: Corrected typos: "He seems like one of those online-trolls who found himself a naive and lonely woman." "Doing everything he can to wear her down into a crushed unhealthy shell of a woman." "You might also get all his debt to be shifted o... (read in full...)

My husband of 12 years is so secretive and refuses to talk to me just gives me the silent treatment

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 20 January 2019.

Q.   I am in my late 50's and have been married for second time for 12 years. I have grown up children from my first marriage. My husband is 60 and from the beginning he has been so secretive. He never shows any interest in my life and health and never ...

A.   20 January 2019: "My husband is 60 and from the beginning he has been so secretive." I'm going to build my advice on this comment. I think the others have more than adequately covered just about everything else. Hire a lawyer and provide information on a... (read in full...)

My partner is unhappy with his job and I don't know how to help him

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 20 January 2019.

Q.   My partner has been feeling unhappy with his position at work. He feels it is beneath his skill set. He’s been looking for something different but hasn’t found anything in town that turns his crank yet. His boss can see he works hard and will ...

A.   20 January 2019: There is no way to make anyone feel happy all the time. Humankind is not meant to be happy all the time. I'm not sure where that notion was born, or why people insist on perpetuating it; but it's impossible, and unachievable. Let empathy and symp... (read in full...)

Should I ask my married lover for baby?

Answered by anonymous on 20 January 2019.

Q.   So I have been seeing a man who lives with his common law wife and thier 2 kids.When we met he told me that he was in process of leaving her but now almost 2 years later he still lives at home and he won t see me outside his work hours. Anyways, ...

A.   20 January 2019: I'm already 34 so chances of finding a single men who WANTS the same thing as me before my fertility declined are slim.If he refuses then I'm planning to go the sperm donor route.Whats the difference? I would be a single mom regardless.At this point ... (read in full...)

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