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I'm hesitant about calling her. Is it good idea to call her when she is with her bf?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 23 March 2017.

Q.   Helo my beloved dearcupid aunts and uncles, i am a guy and i have a female friend. When she come back from vacation, she came with her bf and they are staying together for some days. I didn't call her since she is with her bf together because...

A.   23 March 2017: Let her spend time with her boyfriend. Why hasn't she introduced the two of you? If she doesn't want him to know about you; then she's being a player, and taking advantage of your affection for her. Is your relationship with her purely platonic... (read in full...)

Am I a sex addict? 101

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 23 March 2017.

Q.   I just turned 31. I think about sex atleast every 30 minutes. I mentally undress every woman i See or imagine them having sex although im actually not interested in women sexually. My partner count is about 73 men and 2 women. To me a man has to ...

A.   23 March 2017: It wouldn't hurt to seek therapy and get a professional opinion. The anger issue and preoccupation with sex may be related.... (read in full...)

Is it really worth it to file for child support? I got pregnant 3 months into dating him, then he disappeared

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 23 March 2017.

Q.   The baby's father isn't in the picture. I have tried to reach out to him during this pregnancy, but nothing. I kind of am considering to file for child support, since I'm living with my mom and don't make as much at the moment. The only thi...

A.   23 March 2017: As a single-mother you always think in the best interest of the child. Your connection with the father was brief; but the child is your life-long joy and responsibility. An irresponsible and unconcerned sperm-donor should never be let off the ... (read in full...)

Am I a sex addict? 101

Answered by janniepeg + on 22 March 2017.

janniepeg agony auntQ.   I just turned 31. I think about sex atleast every 30 minutes. I mentally undress every woman i See or imagine them having sex although im actually not interested in women sexually. My partner count is about 73 men and 2 women. To me a man has to ...

A.   22 March 2017: It won't be a problem if you simply be a free spirit, meet a lot of people and enjoy what they have to offer. But you don't seem happy because there's guilt and you refer yourself as damaged goods. That's not a healthy attitude to have. Although ... (read in full...)

Do you think I have the right be upset since technically he is still married?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 March 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I moved to a new town and got a job as a server at a local restaurant. One of my co workers is very cute and a lot of the girls like him. They are always going out as groups and hanging out with each other outside of work. We became really ...

A.   22 March 2017: So start with no drinking alcohol around him IF you feel the alcohol lowers your "defenses" and maybe cut down on the going to party with this group. You might also find NOT going out a lot with these people will save you money :) Does he NEED you... (read in full...)

How can I cool this without offending him? I'm feel anxious!

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 March 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I am 70 and have been a widow for 8 years, a married man has been very kind, but recently bought me a rose plant, took me to lunch, and a couple of other visits. He is ok as a friend, the places we have visited are not of interest to his wife, but ...

A.   22 March 2017: Not wanting to talk someone isn't being mean OP :) And he IS a grown man, he can handle it. Neither is saying No, thanks to gifts or someone wanting to pay for you. IT IS OK to say, it's kind of you to want to pay, but I can take care of myself. ... (read in full...)

Is he just being a generous best friend, who loves my company? Or is he in love with me?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 22 March 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Good morning Aunties, I have a mighty problem I need help with. I am a bisexual man, 33 years of age. I am attracted to this 19 year old guy. He says he doesn't love me as a lover but as a friend. He says he is Christian and that his parent woul...

A.   22 March 2017: How are you getting on now?... (read in full...)

Were they trying to get my attention by revving their car?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 22 March 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   The other day I was in a world of my own stop outside of a shop and a guy I know and his mate were parked nearby me. I knew they would be near by as the guy I know normally says hi etc. This time I didn't see them coming even though I was facing ...

A.   22 March 2017: Totally agree, for your age it would seem a very immature thing to do, someone who is young yes it is something they would do to get attention.... (read in full...)

What should I do about my mom being controlling and restrictive?(I'm 19, won't be 20 till september)

Answered by aunt honesty + on 22 March 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Okay, I have a feeling this is going to be long but I'll just try to explain everything as best I can.Starting from a young age, I'd say about as young as nine, I sometimes felt as though I was a burden to my mom based on the way she'd get mad and ...

A.   22 March 2017: Anonymous 123 got it spot on, I couldn't have said it any better myself. Stop thinking about how hard your life is and try and picture how hard it is for her when her only daughter wants to leave her alone homeless. I understand why things make you ... (read in full...)

I don't appreciate so much mystery,I feel he is hiding things and something fishy is going on,what is your honest advice?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 22 March 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Ok, so I happen to be in a relationship for almost 2 years, with my bf who is in his mid to late thirtys, and honestly I have come to the conclusion that he is somehow mysterious, I mean I get that he is discrete, but it just comes off as mysteriou...

A.   22 March 2017: I don't see the big deal about social media. I don't see the big deal about no photos. But I do find it strange that your own friends don't know he is your boyfriend. Why not tell them? Why not introduce them?... (read in full...)

How do I get her to want sex more?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 22 March 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I am in a relationship with a sag woman, I'm a virgo. We have been together for 7 months and about 2 months ago we had sex for the first time. We both seemed to enjoy it and I was able to make her orgasm ( better then last lovers according to her) ...

A.   22 March 2017: I think you need communication more so than actually trying to seduce her. A relationship should not be that difficult. You need to speak to her about the intimacy. ... (read in full...)

Was he right to say I need "more education?"

Answered by aunt honesty + on 22 March 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hi.. I've been with my bf for about 7 months. He has a degree in classics, privately educated, where as I have A levels and I quit a dead end job because of depression and couldn't handle it. I still am intelligent and we have deep conversatio...

A.   22 March 2017: As you have said yourself you will make your own choices about your own education. I do get why his comments upset you, I do also think he had a case of foot in mouth. He probably didn't mean for it to come out the way he did. If everything else in ... (read in full...)

Spectre of my wife's past has come back to haunt us

Answered by aunt honesty + on 22 March 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   2-3 weeks before I met my wife she did a professional porn video in which she says she was actually coming from another man's house where she had had sex with him. Along with that she revealed other things that she never told me and that she has ...

A.   22 March 2017: I can get why you feel the way that you do. I think it would benefit you both to speak to a therapist before you are deported. I honestly don't think you should leave before getting an appointment and talking it through because these feelings will ... (read in full...)

Family conditioning has defined sex as inappropriate and dangerous. How can I stop feeling afraid pf physical sex?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 22 March 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Ever since I was young, sex was explained to me as something that was inappropriate, dangerous, and could generally be used against me. Both of my parents were always adamant that men couldn't be trusted, and that I needed to be cautious and awar...

A.   22 March 2017: Your parents went overboard, but all teens should be encouraged to avoid sex until they're adults. Sadly, many rush it anyway and end up in trouble mentally and/or physically. Please seek therapy. You need to work through your issues before h... (read in full...)

Is it really worth it to file for child support? I got pregnant 3 months into dating him, then he disappeared

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 22 March 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   The baby's father isn't in the picture. I have tried to reach out to him during this pregnancy, but nothing. I kind of am considering to file for child support, since I'm living with my mom and don't make as much at the moment. The only thi...

A.   22 March 2017: What if *he* doesn't want a stranger being around his son? As you are as much of a stranger to him as he is to you. It's too late to worry about him being a negative influence. You need to be mature about this - even considering not getting ... (read in full...)

Am I a sex addict? 101

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 22 March 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   I just turned 31. I think about sex atleast every 30 minutes. I mentally undress every woman i See or imagine them having sex although im actually not interested in women sexually. My partner count is about 73 men and 2 women. To me a man has to ...

A.   22 March 2017: You need therapy. You don't have to go without sex if you don't want to, as long as you're safe about it and keep yourself under control. Please seek professionally therapy - there's no way we can know if you have an addiction or not, but a bad te... (read in full...)

What are the chances of success and happiness for women STARTING new relationships after the age of 50?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   I've read horrible statistic that the odds of a woman marrying after 50 are something less than winning the lottery . What the hell ? Is this true . Are we really that unattractive and unwanted? What are women's experiences with STARTING new...

A.   22 March 2017: Sure, there is always hope. Why don't you try looking at a man 15 years older than you? You will still be a young chick to him! And there are some older men who preserve well and have plenty of intelligence and life experience to share.... (read in full...)

What are the chances of success and happiness for women STARTING new relationships after the age of 50?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   I've read horrible statistic that the odds of a woman marrying after 50 are something less than winning the lottery . What the hell ? Is this true . Are we really that unattractive and unwanted? What are women's experiences with STARTING new...

A.   22 March 2017: After my father died my mother, at age 64, married a man aged 65 two years later. They remained happily married until he died. ... (read in full...)

How can I cool this without offending him? I'm feel anxious!

Answered by Missis C + on 22 March 2017.

Q.   I am 70 and have been a widow for 8 years, a married man has been very kind, but recently bought me a rose plant, took me to lunch, and a couple of other visits. He is ok as a friend, the places we have visited are not of interest to his wife, but ...

A.   22 March 2017: Oh Honeypie, this is part of the problem. We both belong to the same group, and I organise the trips. He has been very kind in suggesting places, and taking me out to have a look at them. It has been very helpful, but one day we were out and he ... (read in full...)

Why can't she see he is not a good person? Do I just leave her to get on with things? Since she is not listening

Answered by aunt honesty + on 22 March 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hello. My good close friend who is 27 has had a rough few years. Her Mother passed away, the Father of her 2 kids left her (he still regularly sees the children) She has begun having a relationship (now 10 months and I have met him once) with someo...

A.   22 March 2017: You know what their really is not much you can do in this situation. It may baffle you but she is capable off making her own decisions and my guess is she wants to be with him so let her. If she is not being a great friend to you then break contact ... (read in full...)

Is being too fast rude?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   Would you consider it rude if a guy gets off within two minutes if it's the first couple of times you've done anything together? I started dating a guy a couple months ago and we started taking out to the next level recently. So far we've done it ...

A.   22 March 2017: I laughed to myself when i saw Honeypies use of caps when she stated some guys have GREAT stamina....sounds like plenty of actual past experience!! Anyway...I agree with the other answers..clingy implies insecurity...being a quick draw mcgraw..... (read in full...)

I feel so confused, wanting my stepfather to be happy, and not lonely. But is also reminds that my mother died. How can I adjust to this change?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 22 March 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hi everyone, my mum passed away almost 3 years go. She was taken from us very very quickly with cancer. We had under 12 hours notice that she had terminal cancer before she died. It has been a very hard few years since, dealing with the grief o...

A.   22 March 2017: Off course this is going to be difficult. You do learn to adjust to life without a loved one and then something else happens and you realize all over again that the world is changing without them. It is very bittersweet for you as you are still ... (read in full...)

What are the chances of success and happiness for women STARTING new relationships after the age of 50?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   I've read horrible statistic that the odds of a woman marrying after 50 are something less than winning the lottery . What the hell ? Is this true . Are we really that unattractive and unwanted? What are women's experiences with STARTING new...

A.   22 March 2017: The chances are much slimmer than they were when you were in your 20s or 30s, but the chances are there. It happened to me, so it is just as likely to happen to you. When I was 47 my husband ran off with a woman half my age. I was then on my... (read in full...)

Am I justified to break up with him?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   I'm going through a mixed phase right now with my bf. Recently, I've been reflecting on our relationship for the past 5 years, and I'm wondering whether I should just move on because I just don't feel happy anymore. We have been dating for 5 yea...

A.   22 March 2017: *THIS IS THE OP HERE!* I'm not belittling the illness in any way whatsoever. In fact I've experienced depression myself over the past couple of years (due to my dad being ill and three deaths within the family), so I completely understand how seri... (read in full...)

Is this normal? I have never been so happy about ending a relationship.

Answered by aunt honesty + on 22 March 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hello. I have a very short question for those who have enough knowledge about star signs(if you don't you may google info). Short story: I am a capricorn female (21) my boyfriend (now ex) is a Pisces (23). Our relationship was full of drama bu...

A.   22 March 2017: You are happy because he was not giving you what you needed from a relationship. You both grew apart, it happens.... (read in full...)

What do we have together? I feel like I'm a side chick, the one who makes him happy, whenever he wants

Answered by aunt honesty + on 22 March 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I have been seeing this guy for maybe three weeks or so and he use to frequently text me a lot throughout the day, even during his work hours! He added me on facebook, snapchat and got my number and we use to talk on there a lot. He used to wis...

A.   22 March 2017: If you are feeling like this already after three weeks then yes I think you should end things. The distance is not going to work for you both if you are far apart and it is clear he cannot give you what you need via phone calls and messages so I ... (read in full...)

The guy is turning into an alcoholic. Should I keep it to myself that I'm pregnant, and raise the baby without him?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 22 March 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I don't know what I want to do at this point. I think I may be pregnant with the guy I'm currently seeing. I feel like he's going on a downward spiral at the moment. He had a weekend out with the boys and he got really drunk and now he is gettin...

A.   22 March 2017: If his drinking is concerning you then leave him. But you do need to tell him if you are pregnant, as that would be cruel not hide a child from him, it would also not be fair to a child. I think you may be over reacting, you are not even sure if y... (read in full...)

What are the chances of success and happiness for women STARTING new relationships after the age of 50?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   I've read horrible statistic that the odds of a woman marrying after 50 are something less than winning the lottery . What the hell ? Is this true . Are we really that unattractive and unwanted? What are women's experiences with STARTING new...

A.   22 March 2017: I agree with Honeypie you should not have marriage on your mind as soon as you start dating a person. Instead have a relationship take its course. In fact that applies at any age when you think about it.... (read in full...)

I'm hesitant about calling her. Is it good idea to call her when she is with her bf?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   Helo my beloved dearcupid aunts and uncles, i am a guy and i have a female friend. When she come back from vacation, she came with her bf and they are staying together for some days. I didn't call her since she is with her bf together because...

A.   22 March 2017: Are you the MISTER-ess? Listen, she has a boyfriend. Move on already. What a tangled web you are allowing yourself to get caught up in. There are plenty of women in the world to date. She is not one of them. She is just playing you.... (read in full...)

Whose last name do I give to my baby?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   My mom thinks I should give the baby the fathers last name but I don't think I should because I'm not married to him and he isn't in the picture. Won't that be an issue at school for my son and wherever I take him, if we have different last nam...

A.   22 March 2017: You could hyphenate the child's last name. Then he could have both mom & dad's names that way. I see a lot of people who are doing that now. Also, you probably won't run into problems just because your last name is different than your child's.... (read in full...)

How Do I Move On From This Affair?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   Hey Aunts and Uncle's.. I recently got myself into something stupid. I know many of you will judge me for what I have done and say I'm a bad person. But I have a good heart and really need some advice. A year ago, I started working at my ca...

A.   22 March 2017: Exactly!! I'm going to go to the gym whenever I want.. And we're practically neighbors, so I cant avoid going places, or passing his house on my way to work. It is what it is.. I'm just not going to do anything like that again. And to the anon... (read in full...)

What are the chances of success and happiness for women STARTING new relationships after the age of 50?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 March 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I've read horrible statistic that the odds of a woman marrying after 50 are something less than winning the lottery . What the hell ? Is this true . Are we really that unattractive and unwanted? What are women's experiences with STARTING new...

A.   22 March 2017: I'm with Auntie BimBim! It can happen. You can't rely on statistics to build your life. Life and LOVE are more than mere numbers. See what's out there, enjoy life, see places, meet new people. To be married is not a be all or end all, at an... (read in full...)

Do you think I have the right be upset since technically he is still married?

Answered by Newgirlintown + on 22 March 2017.

Q.   I moved to a new town and got a job as a server at a local restaurant. One of my co workers is very cute and a lot of the girls like him. They are always going out as groups and hanging out with each other outside of work. We became really ...

A.   22 March 2017: No I don't want to be that girl. When we went out I tried advoiding him at first but once we started drinking I let that guard down and totally fell for his lines. I texted him this morning and told him that last night was a mistake and Within ... (read in full...)

How can I cool this without offending him? I'm feel anxious!

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 March 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I am 70 and have been a widow for 8 years, a married man has been very kind, but recently bought me a rose plant, took me to lunch, and a couple of other visits. He is ok as a friend, the places we have visited are not of interest to his wife, but ...

A.   22 March 2017: OP, have you thought of looking into a local group? One that little trips with people who enjoys art like you? It doesn't HAVE to be a senior group but you might find some kindred spirits you DO want to go sketching with, who makes YOU feel ... (read in full...)

Do you think I have the right be upset since technically he is still married?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 March 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I moved to a new town and got a job as a server at a local restaurant. One of my co workers is very cute and a lot of the girls like him. They are always going out as groups and hanging out with each other outside of work. We became really ...

A.   22 March 2017: I had a coworker like that (though he was single) Totally charming, yummy, smart and honestly a bit manipulative. I was single at the time but didn't want to date a coworker and especially one like him (a bit of a player with a string of VERY short ... (read in full...)

Family conditioning has defined sex as inappropriate and dangerous. How can I stop feeling afraid pf physical sex?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 March 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Ever since I was young, sex was explained to me as something that was inappropriate, dangerous, and could generally be used against me. Both of my parents were always adamant that men couldn't be trusted, and that I needed to be cautious and awar...

A.   22 March 2017: 1. We are all conditioned by our family, society, faith etc. Some to more of an extreme than others. I truly understand why your mom and dad have made sex scary for you. I'm not saying what they did is RIGHT, but I understand it, they had both seen ... (read in full...)

Why does inexperience turn women off more than the other way around?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   Why does inexperience turn women off more than the other way around? Why is it that if a guy never had a girlfriend before, he is a turn off to the majority of girls that have had their fair share of boyfriends or just been in a relationship before, ...

A.   22 March 2017: Do you want the rationalized excuses people give for this, or the real underlying reasons? Women are the gatekeepers of sex at least in civilized places. They have the luxury (and necessity) of being choosy because every pregnancy is so taxin... (read in full...)

What are the chances of success and happiness for women STARTING new relationships after the age of 50?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   I've read horrible statistic that the odds of a woman marrying after 50 are something less than winning the lottery . What the hell ? Is this true . Are we really that unattractive and unwanted? What are women's experiences with STARTING new...

A.   22 March 2017: The odds of getting married and the odds of getting into a healthy long-term relationship are two different things. Marriage has become a bad deal for modern men. When we look at things logically the idea fails. We get the same relationship + w... (read in full...)

Do you think I have the right be upset since technically he is still married?

Answered by Newgirlintown + on 22 March 2017.

Q.   I moved to a new town and got a job as a server at a local restaurant. One of my co workers is very cute and a lot of the girls like him. They are always going out as groups and hanging out with each other outside of work. We became really ...

A.   22 March 2017: My biggest problem is I can easily say no to him on a text or on the phone but as spins as I'm alone in a room all my common sense leaves. Last night we all went out after work and he is a smooth talker, now I feel horrible again ... (read in full...)

I'm hesitant about calling her. Is it good idea to call her when she is with her bf?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 March 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Helo my beloved dearcupid aunts and uncles, i am a guy and i have a female friend. When she come back from vacation, she came with her bf and they are staying together for some days. I didn't call her since she is with her bf together because...

A.   22 March 2017: I think you are being a good friend and respectful of her relationship and I agree that if she is supposedly spending time with her BF, HE should be the focus. I agree with anon, sounds like she wants to make her BF jealous or keep him on his toes... (read in full...)

Should I wait another year until I am more sure of my feelings for him before I buy him an airline ticket to allow him to visit me?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 March 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   This issue is a bit tricky and I need an external view I met a guy online 6 months ago , he lives in Argentina, he is 5 years younger than me, I live in Europe, we talk constantly every day including video calls , although the time is differen...

A.   22 March 2017: I think you should consider the future. You have talked for 6 months. He can't afford to fly over and see you, not even to pay for HALF the ticket, so really WHAT would happen if you met and REALLY liked each other? It's not like he can "just" ... (read in full...)

Is it really worth it to file for child support? I got pregnant 3 months into dating him, then he disappeared

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 March 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   The baby's father isn't in the picture. I have tried to reach out to him during this pregnancy, but nothing. I kind of am considering to file for child support, since I'm living with my mom and don't make as much at the moment. The only thi...

A.   22 March 2017: I think it is "worth" it. Kids don't come cheap. And IF you, later on, will need public assistance like housing, welfare, medical - they will insist you file for child support. I know this from my niece. She doesn't get beans worth from the baby... (read in full...)

Whose last name do I give to my baby?

Answered by Aunty BimBim + on 22 March 2017.

Aunty BimBim agony auntQ.   My mom thinks I should give the baby the fathers last name but I don't think I should because I'm not married to him and he isn't in the picture. Won't that be an issue at school for my son and wherever I take him, if we have different last nam...

A.   22 March 2017: You are the child's parent, it appears you will be responsible for making the major decisions and also the day to day care of this child. Give him your name ....his absent father's name is not one to be proud of. Good luck and best wishes t... (read in full...)

What are the chances of success and happiness for women STARTING new relationships after the age of 50?

Answered by Aunty BimBim + on 22 March 2017.

Aunty BimBim agony auntQ.   I've read horrible statistic that the odds of a woman marrying after 50 are something less than winning the lottery . What the hell ? Is this true . Are we really that unattractive and unwanted? What are women's experiences with STARTING new...

A.   22 March 2017: My father in law, a widower, was in his late 50s, married a lady in her 50s, and they had a happy marriage for 30 years ... HOWEVER personal observations do suggest women in their 50s are less likely to become involved in loving relation... (read in full...)

Should I wait another year until I am more sure of my feelings for him before I buy him an airline ticket to allow him to visit me?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   This issue is a bit tricky and I need an external view I met a guy online 6 months ago , he lives in Argentina, he is 5 years younger than me, I live in Europe, we talk constantly every day including video calls , although the time is differen...

A.   22 March 2017: Never enter into such a one sided relationship where you are expected to supply all the funds. He may not have a lot of funds, but neither do you, if the cost is one you feel so hesitant about. Stop seeking an unattainable LD relationship and get ... (read in full...)

I'm hesitant about calling her. Is it good idea to call her when she is with her bf?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   Helo my beloved dearcupid aunts and uncles, i am a guy and i have a female friend. When she come back from vacation, she came with her bf and they are staying together for some days. I didn't call her since she is with her bf together because...

A.   22 March 2017: I think she is most unreasonable to be angry with you. If she cared about her boyfriend she would not want to impose this tension on her relationship. Of course her boyfriend is going to ask, "what does he mean to her" Is she just trying to make... (read in full...)

Is it really worth it to file for child support? I got pregnant 3 months into dating him, then he disappeared

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   The baby's father isn't in the picture. I have tried to reach out to him during this pregnancy, but nothing. I kind of am considering to file for child support, since I'm living with my mom and don't make as much at the moment. The only thi...

A.   22 March 2017: He may insist on a DNA test. But yes you should file. Babies cost money. Getting child care cost money. Going to school costs even more. And your child will one day ask questions about who is their Daddy. He may or may not want to meet his child but ... (read in full...)

Bad sign or just a poor planner?

Answered by Aunty BimBim + on 22 March 2017.

Aunty BimBim agony auntQ.   After a week of talking, I finally met the guy for date. He was late to the 1st date, which is ok once in awhile. We spent about 6 hours together and we were planning to spend today together. There was never a time set up. There is an event I've ...

A.   22 March 2017: Give him the benefit of the doubt this time, but if he flakes out again with little or no notice I'd not waste any more of my time or energy and dip your toe back into the big dating pool.... (read in full...)

I just don't want sex. What can I do about it?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 March 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi Please help me. I have been with my partner for eight years. But over the last few years and particularly this year I have lost all interest in sex. I do have a hormone disorder and suffer frequent cystitis so I know that this probably contrib...

A.   22 March 2017: Have you had a medical check up lately? Maybe start there. Are you on birth control? Hormones? If you are, you might want to talk to your doctor about trying a different brand. And I have to ask, how ha the sex life with your partner been? U... (read in full...)

Am I a repressed sex addict?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 22 March 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Dear cupid, I am 30 year old woman and I have bein single for most of my life, happily single I should say. I had my first kiss at 15, lost my virginity at 18. These were two kinda isolated events more like a box to tick, virginity gone what's n...

A.   22 March 2017: It's clear you don't like one night stands, so I don't think you should keep doing them. It's very unlikely you're a sex addict because you don't seem to crave it like one would. Go dating, if that's what you want to focus on. Perhaps therapy ... (read in full...)

Whose last name do I give to my baby?

Answered by Dodds + on 22 March 2017.

Dodds agony auntQ.   My mom thinks I should give the baby the fathers last name but I don't think I should because I'm not married to him and he isn't in the picture. Won't that be an issue at school for my son and wherever I take him, if we have different last nam...

A.   22 March 2017: If the child's dad isn't in the picture then he doesn't deserve the honor of having his last name given to the child. Give the baby your last name! ... (read in full...)

How can I cool this without offending him? I'm feel anxious!

Answered by Missis C + on 22 March 2017.

Q.   I am 70 and have been a widow for 8 years, a married man has been very kind, but recently bought me a rose plant, took me to lunch, and a couple of other visits. He is ok as a friend, the places we have visited are not of interest to his wife, but ...

A.   22 March 2017: Thank you so much Honeypie and Youcannotbeserious. You are both 5 stars, I take your advice and must stiffen my resolve, and not get myself sucked into a situation that I don't want. I have this feeling of danger for a reason, it is there to ... (read in full...)

Personal cleanliness? There has got to be a nice way to approach this! What would you do??

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   I started seeing this guy about two months ago. We pretty much only hang out about two three nights a week when he'll come stay the night or weekend. We've known each other for a while now, we've taken our kids on play dates before etc. He's a...

A.   22 March 2017: You shouldn't worry yourself about him wanting to try and have a second chance. This is your life and you are in control. The guy is 34 years old, he isn't going to suddenly change now, and even if he did how long would it last before he's back to ... (read in full...)

Whose last name do I give to my baby?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 22 March 2017.

Q.   My mom thinks I should give the baby the fathers last name but I don't think I should because I'm not married to him and he isn't in the picture. Won't that be an issue at school for my son and wherever I take him, if we have different last nam...

A.   22 March 2017: You should give the child your last-name. If the father wasn't present at the hospital at the time of birth, you can't add his name to the child's birth-certificate in his absence. So it makes little difference whose surname you give him at this ... (read in full...)

How can I cool this without offending him? I'm feel anxious!

Answered by Missis C + on 22 March 2017.

Q.   I am 70 and have been a widow for 8 years, a married man has been very kind, but recently bought me a rose plant, took me to lunch, and a couple of other visits. He is ok as a friend, the places we have visited are not of interest to his wife, but ...

A.   22 March 2017: He and I are artists, his wife is not an artist, I am certain that she wouldn't like to go out sketching or looking at exhibitions. My late husband would have been very bored going out sketching with me, I might have been able to drag him to an ex... (read in full...)

Whose last name do I give to my baby?

Answered by lovelygirl03 + on 22 March 2017.

Q.   My mom thinks I should give the baby the fathers last name but I don't think I should because I'm not married to him and he isn't in the picture. Won't that be an issue at school for my son and wherever I take him, if we have different last nam...

A.   22 March 2017: I feel regardless if the man is in the picture he's still your sons dad and you made him together. My boyfriends daughter has two men's last name and she will one day discover why she has two men's last name because her mom is a fucking moron. But ... (read in full...)

Do you think I have the right be upset since technically he is still married?

Answered by YouWish + on 22 March 2017.

YouWish agony auntQ.   I moved to a new town and got a job as a server at a local restaurant. One of my co workers is very cute and a lot of the girls like him. They are always going out as groups and hanging out with each other outside of work. We became really ...

A.   22 March 2017: Ahh, you're young. This is a lesson then. I'm sorry you had to learn it the hard way that many married men are straight up dogs even with their own co-workers. You'd think they'd know not to S*** where they eat, but some men are just jerks that ... (read in full...)

Whose last name do I give to my baby?

Answered by YouWish + on 22 March 2017.

YouWish agony auntQ.   My mom thinks I should give the baby the fathers last name but I don't think I should because I'm not married to him and he isn't in the picture. Won't that be an issue at school for my son and wherever I take him, if we have different last nam...

A.   22 March 2017: If the father is not in the picture, your son's name should be yours, not his. That's what I believe anyways. I understand your mom's line of thinking, but two things are driving that, both being antiquated lineage record-keeping related.... (read in full...)

How can I cool this without offending him? I'm feel anxious!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 22 March 2017.

Q.   I am 70 and have been a widow for 8 years, a married man has been very kind, but recently bought me a rose plant, took me to lunch, and a couple of other visits. He is ok as a friend, the places we have visited are not of interest to his wife, but ...

A.   22 March 2017:  I'm not sure why you feel you owe him anything, just because he took you out to lunch or bought you a rose bush. It sounds like the sort of thing friends would do for each other. Although you say nothing untoward has happened, you obviously fe... (read in full...)

Whose last name do I give to my baby?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 22 March 2017.

Q.   My mom thinks I should give the baby the fathers last name but I don't think I should because I'm not married to him and he isn't in the picture. Won't that be an issue at school for my son and wherever I take him, if we have different last nam...

A.   22 March 2017: A friend of mine had 4 children by 3 different men. Luckily she gave all of them her own surname, until she got married to the father of the last 2 children. The last two, because they were still very young, had their surnames changed to that of ... (read in full...)

Whose last name do I give to my baby?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   My mom thinks I should give the baby the fathers last name but I don't think I should because I'm not married to him and he isn't in the picture. Won't that be an issue at school for my son and wherever I take him, if we have different last nam...

A.   22 March 2017: I know a few people who have given their baby the fathers last name and then the fathers have left and not been in the child's life and it's a massive regret to the mother. If he's not in your life at all then give him your name as it will be you ... (read in full...)

I'm not a virgin. How do I hide this from my husband on my wedding night?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   how can i hide from my husband on first night that i m not a virgin...

A.   22 March 2017: Not every woman bleeds her first time. I think any kind of operation here is too extreme. Just go slowly, act a little nervous (or maybe you won't have to act, maybe you will actually be nervous, which would be normal) and act like it hurts a little ... (read in full...)

Bad sign or just a poor planner?

Answered by TrueLoveWaits2016 + on 22 March 2017.

Q.   After a week of talking, I finally met the guy for date. He was late to the 1st date, which is ok once in awhile. We spent about 6 hours together and we were planning to spend today together. There was never a time set up. There is an event I've ...

A.   22 March 2017: So far, outside of the cancelled date, he has been really good w/calling/messaging and paying attention to me. I really just want to have fun, but after experiencing so much disappointment, I can't help but overanalyze, something I know will ... (read in full...)

Should I report my friend's family situation to the police?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   Hello, My best friend has some family problems. She is 16 and she has a 11 year old brother. She lives with her mum,dad,and brother in the same city as I do. Her father is not a nice person at all. He is not working, so her mum has to work all day ...

A.   22 March 2017: It depends. If you can give an anonymous note to the police, do it. Here's the thing. I did something like this to my best friend when he wanted to commit suicide. He hated me for years -- but he's alive right now. Getting the police involv... (read in full...)

My husband is perfect in every way yet my imperfect ex haunts me and my heart belongs to him

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   I'm 30 years old, I've spent more than half of my life crazy insanely in love with this person, we had a great love story but equally great drama, what broke us was a very strong storm, both of us are changed forever and deeply wounded that to end ...

A.   22 March 2017: I also suggest you get counseling. It sounds like you have real issues with being vulnerable with your relationship. Has your husband never asked you about your past relationships? How does he not know? Or have you just lied and not told him? Eit... (read in full...)

Bad sign or just a poor planner?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   After a week of talking, I finally met the guy for date. He was late to the 1st date, which is ok once in awhile. We spent about 6 hours together and we were planning to spend today together. There was never a time set up. There is an event I've ...

A.   22 March 2017: How late was he to the first date? And did he message you and give you advance notice? If he was more than 15 min late and did not message you in advance, I would ditch him. Totally not worth your time, unless you enjoy waiting. I have a ver... (read in full...)

Whose last name do I give to my baby?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   My mom thinks I should give the baby the fathers last name but I don't think I should because I'm not married to him and he isn't in the picture. Won't that be an issue at school for my son and wherever I take him, if we have different last nam...

A.   22 March 2017: give it your last name! maybe your mom is traditional, as the child traditionally takes the dad's last name but to me, that's silly. I'm in academia and women to marry don't change their last names, and their kids sometimes take mom's last name. I ... (read in full...)

Whose last name do I give to my baby?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   My mom thinks I should give the baby the fathers last name but I don't think I should because I'm not married to him and he isn't in the picture. Won't that be an issue at school for my son and wherever I take him, if we have different last nam...

A.   22 March 2017: "Won't that be an issue at school for my son and wherever I take him, if we have different last names." What would be a much bigger issue is your kid wondering why he has the last name of a complete stranger he never met instead of yours. Your a... (read in full...)

Am I a repressed sex addict?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 March 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Dear cupid, I am 30 year old woman and I have bein single for most of my life, happily single I should say. I had my first kiss at 15, lost my virginity at 18. These were two kinda isolated events more like a box to tick, virginity gone what's n...

A.   22 March 2017: We can't diagnose you, OP My guess is that, NO you are not a sex addict (repressed or otherwise), but I think you have issues with bonding and commitment issues. That is why you can have ONS but nothing more. Maybe you should consider talking... (read in full...)

Bad sign or just a poor planner?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 March 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   After a week of talking, I finally met the guy for date. He was late to the 1st date, which is ok once in awhile. We spent about 6 hours together and we were planning to spend today together. There was never a time set up. There is an event I've ...

A.   22 March 2017: He might have come down with something, I'd give him ONE chance. If he flakes again last minute I'd give him the boot. You have only known him a week, I say slow down. Don't try and CRAM a whole courtship into a week or three. If I were you I'd ... (read in full...)

Whose last name do I give to my baby?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 March 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   My mom thinks I should give the baby the fathers last name but I don't think I should because I'm not married to him and he isn't in the picture. Won't that be an issue at school for my son and wherever I take him, if we have different last nam...

A.   22 March 2017: If the dad is not in the picture give him yours. You CAN if you want to hyphen it with the father's last name, but I don't see why you should. His father's name will be on the birth certificate I presume? That should be enough. What if you m... (read in full...)

Whose last name do I give to my baby?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 22 March 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   My mom thinks I should give the baby the fathers last name but I don't think I should because I'm not married to him and he isn't in the picture. Won't that be an issue at school for my son and wherever I take him, if we have different last nam...

A.   22 March 2017: Personally, I think he deserves no name connection if he isn't going to step up as the father. When you say he isn't in the picture, why is that? Does he know? Has he refused to step up? If he doesn't know, you should tell him (unless he's abu... (read in full...)

His ex is stunning and a lovely girl and I feel that I just don't measure up

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   Hi everyone and thanks for taking the time to read my question. Ok so iv been with my boyfriend for a year now,he's the most caring and kindest man iv ever met and he is so good to me. I have no problem -however I find myself constantly comparing ...

A.   22 March 2017: You are not his ex. She is not you. She is his ex for a reason. He is with YOU now. He chose YOU. She is in his past. If I were you, I would let this go. And think happy thoughts. And enjoy your relationship. The thoughts in our own h... (read in full...)

How do I initiate my next FWB encounter with this guy?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   Had a one night stand with an acquaintance a few weeks ago and the sex was great! We tried going on a date after but it didn't work out, so we decided on a more of a friends with benefits situation (more my decision than his) and slept together ...

A.   22 March 2017: I agree with Honeypie. He has disappeared for 2 weeks! It tells me he just had a one night stand with you. He is not interested in a relationship or having any more sex with you. He got what he wanted. And moved on. If he wanted more s... (read in full...)

Why does inexperience turn women off more than the other way around?

Answered by anonymous on 22 March 2017.

Q.   Why does inexperience turn women off more than the other way around? Why is it that if a guy never had a girlfriend before, he is a turn off to the majority of girls that have had their fair share of boyfriends or just been in a relationship before, ...

A.   22 March 2017: I like a guy who takes charge and is confident and uninhibited. Yes, he needs to have experience. But at the same time, I am not looking for a man who has slept around. I did not have any sexual experience when I first met my current partner ... (read in full...)

Was this man in my walking group interested?

Answered by Honeypie + on 22 March 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Last year I joined a walking group online. I noticed a guy had viewed my profile a few times at the time but we had never met. 8 months went by and I finally made an appearance and met the group in person. The guy who had viewed my profile was ...

A.   22 March 2017: I would say yes, he is at the very least curious about you. On the other hand, he might LOOK up ALL the women in the group and go down the list to see who might fancy him back. Impossible to tell. I find it odd that you call him outgoing, yet he d... (read in full...)

Personal cleanliness? There has got to be a nice way to approach this! What would you do??

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 March 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I started seeing this guy about two months ago. We pretty much only hang out about two three nights a week when he'll come stay the night or weekend. We've known each other for a while now, we've taken our kids on play dates before etc. He's a...

A.   21 March 2017: I'd tell him that you have thought it over and come to the conclusion that you don't feel the two of you are a good match long term and that you don't want to string him along. I think that is a "good enough" reason to want to end it after ON... (read in full...)

How can I cool this without offending him? I'm feel anxious!

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 March 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I am 70 and have been a widow for 8 years, a married man has been very kind, but recently bought me a rose plant, took me to lunch, and a couple of other visits. He is ok as a friend, the places we have visited are not of interest to his wife, but ...

A.   21 March 2017: How can you cool it and not offend? First off, you have a RIGHT to say no or no, thanks when offered something. Especially if it makes you feel indebted. Second of all, SUGGEST that his wife comes along next time he suggests anything or sugg... (read in full...)

Is being too fast rude?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 March 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Would you consider it rude if a guy gets off within two minutes if it's the first couple of times you've done anything together? I started dating a guy a couple months ago and we started taking out to the next level recently. So far we've done it ...

A.   21 March 2017: I agree with Andie too. Some guys have GREAT stamina, some don't. Some have it some of the time and other times they are a 2-minute man. I don't think the amount of TIME he lasts equals to how much he likes the girl, I think the AMOUNT of EF... (read in full...)

Why does inexperience turn women off more than the other way around?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 March 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Why does inexperience turn women off more than the other way around? Why is it that if a guy never had a girlfriend before, he is a turn off to the majority of girls that have had their fair share of boyfriends or just been in a relationship before, ...

A.   21 March 2017: How many women have actually told you this? Because to me, it makes no sense. Maybe SOME women prefer a guy who has had a lot of experience but I don't think it's the majority. Now I don't know how many WOMEN you actually know because it sound... (read in full...)

Why does inexperience turn women off more than the other way around?

Answered by anonymous on 21 March 2017.

Q.   Why does inexperience turn women off more than the other way around? Why is it that if a guy never had a girlfriend before, he is a turn off to the majority of girls that have had their fair share of boyfriends or just been in a relationship before, ...

A.   21 March 2017: Well personally I have found a few guys who where inexperienced who had a real resentment of women because of that fact, they had a sort of chip on there shoulder and blamed me cause other women had rejected them. ... (read in full...)

Is being too fast rude?

Answered by Fatherly Advice + on 21 March 2017.

Fatherly Advice agony auntQ.   Would you consider it rude if a guy gets off within two minutes if it's the first couple of times you've done anything together? I started dating a guy a couple months ago and we started taking out to the next level recently. So far we've done it ...

A.   21 March 2017: Good Reply Andie! Being considerate is the important thing. There are some possible reasons for a quick finish. Perhaps he is just very turned on by you. Perhaps he has trained himself to be quick through excessive masturbation. Or Maybe it h... (read in full...)

Why does inexperience turn women off more than the other way around?

Answered by Fatherly Advice + on 21 March 2017.

Fatherly Advice agony auntQ.   Why does inexperience turn women off more than the other way around? Why is it that if a guy never had a girlfriend before, he is a turn off to the majority of girls that have had their fair share of boyfriends or just been in a relationship before, ...

A.   21 March 2017: You may have your cause and effect reversed. Women, in general, have an emotional need for security. A history is some proof that you do know how to keep a relationship going. Many women like to think that they won, and were a better pick than... (read in full...)

Do you think I have the right be upset since technically he is still married?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 March 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I moved to a new town and got a job as a server at a local restaurant. One of my co workers is very cute and a lot of the girls like him. They are always going out as groups and hanging out with each other outside of work. We became really ...

A.   21 March 2017: No need to quit your job, just LEARN from the experience. I know people "hook up" at work and I have seen first hand how much drama THAT can create (especially when it doesn't work out) which is why I advocate a no dating/hooking up with coworker ... (read in full...)

Why does inexperience turn women off more than the other way around?

Answered by anonymous on 21 March 2017.

Q.   Why does inexperience turn women off more than the other way around? Why is it that if a guy never had a girlfriend before, he is a turn off to the majority of girls that have had their fair share of boyfriends or just been in a relationship before, ...

A.   21 March 2017: Because most women are more confident in that department than men. Women don't get intimidated by experience and are generally not into the whole "virgins are best". Most women don't like blank slates to hide their faults, experience brings ... (read in full...)

Is being too fast rude?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 21 March 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Would you consider it rude if a guy gets off within two minutes if it's the first couple of times you've done anything together? I started dating a guy a couple months ago and we started taking out to the next level recently. So far we've done it ...

A.   21 March 2017: Um.... I think it's irrational to expect someone to "last longer" - the body does what it does when it does it. As long as they still pay attention to the other person's pleasure, even when they're finished. I wouldn't be impressed by lasting ... (read in full...)

Why does inexperience turn women off more than the other way around?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 21 March 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Why does inexperience turn women off more than the other way around? Why is it that if a guy never had a girlfriend before, he is a turn off to the majority of girls that have had their fair share of boyfriends or just been in a relationship before, ...

A.   21 March 2017: It varies with each person. I'd want someone who didn't have many relationships and had the same values as me, when it comes to intimacy. However, some want very experienced sexual partners. Most don't actively *want* someone who's been around a ... (read in full...)

I am considering contacting my train wreck of a dad!

Answered by cloran14 + on 21 March 2017.

Q.   Hi everyone, thoughts, insights and advice please! I'm swiftly approaching a landmark birthday, the sort where you might stop and consider your life to that point. Well, I've been doing that and am considering making contact with my father. I'...

A.   21 March 2017: Yes definitely get in touch with him alcoholic people have bad health and don't last long you will regret if you don't ... (read in full...)

Should I report my friend's family situation to the police?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 21 March 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Hello, My best friend has some family problems. She is 16 and she has a 11 year old brother. She lives with her mum,dad,and brother in the same city as I do. Her father is not a nice person at all. He is not working, so her mum has to work all day ...

A.   21 March 2017: It's too much. It's not your place and could do more harm than good. The only time this is a good idea is if you see signs of physical abuse or neglect. As they still have their mum, they are not being neglected. As there is no abuse, just crappy ... (read in full...)

Why does inexperience turn women off more than the other way around?

Answered by anonymous on 21 March 2017.

Q.   Why does inexperience turn women off more than the other way around? Why is it that if a guy never had a girlfriend before, he is a turn off to the majority of girls that have had their fair share of boyfriends or just been in a relationship before, ...

A.   21 March 2017: I dunno why that ever became a stigma. I prefer a guy with just a tiny bit of experience I guess, but not loaded with it. I always assumed it were the other way around since guys fantasize about women who agree to everything like they do in porn..... (read in full...)

Personal cleanliness? There has got to be a nice way to approach this! What would you do??

Answered by anonymous on 21 March 2017.

Q.   I started seeing this guy about two months ago. We pretty much only hang out about two three nights a week when he'll come stay the night or weekend. We've known each other for a while now, we've taken our kids on play dates before etc. He's a...

A.   21 March 2017: I'm OP. No, I haven't because he lives with a family member. I have my own place so I just pick him up and bring him here. Because he don't live on his own is another reason I don't understand his lack of clothing. I'm ready to end it as my mind ... (read in full...)

Personal cleanliness? There has got to be a nice way to approach this! What would you do??

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 March 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I started seeing this guy about two months ago. We pretty much only hang out about two three nights a week when he'll come stay the night or weekend. We've known each other for a while now, we've taken our kids on play dates before etc. He's a...

A.   21 March 2017: I actually forgot to ask OP, have you been to his place? Is it nasty too? My guess is yes, which is another layer of being unhygienic. I can't imagine living with a person who is a total slob, with their home AND person. I can't even imagine ... (read in full...)

My husband is perfect in every way yet my imperfect ex haunts me and my heart belongs to him

Answered by anonymous on 21 March 2017.

Q.   I'm 30 years old, I've spent more than half of my life crazy insanely in love with this person, we had a great love story but equally great drama, what broke us was a very strong storm, both of us are changed forever and deeply wounded that to end ...

A.   21 March 2017: I am just attempting to make sense of your post. If you are thirty, and your now married with children for at least four years, and you had an affair spanning 15 years with this other man, who is older than you, the only conclusion is that you were ... (read in full...)

Do you think I have the right be upset since technically he is still married?

Answered by Newgirlintown + on 21 March 2017.

Q.   I moved to a new town and got a job as a server at a local restaurant. One of my co workers is very cute and a lot of the girls like him. They are always going out as groups and hanging out with each other outside of work. We became really ...

A.   21 March 2017: I haven't really said anything to him. The day I found out he was married I lost my shit at him. I don't need or want to be known as the new girl that is messing with a married guy. So I told him what I thought. Last night when he came by I didn't ... (read in full...)

How do I initiate my next FWB encounter with this guy?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 March 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Had a one night stand with an acquaintance a few weeks ago and the sex was great! We tried going on a date after but it didn't work out, so we decided on a more of a friends with benefits situation (more my decision than his) and slept together ...

A.   21 March 2017: Are you really SURE he wants something casual? I think if he was "after" just casual sex he might have "hit you up" for another roll in the hay. You could try and invite him over, but one thing you have to remember is CONSENT - he may not reall... (read in full...)

My husband is perfect in every way yet my imperfect ex haunts me and my heart belongs to him

Answered by Denizen + on 21 March 2017.

Denizen agony auntQ.   I'm 30 years old, I've spent more than half of my life crazy insanely in love with this person, we had a great love story but equally great drama, what broke us was a very strong storm, both of us are changed forever and deeply wounded that to end ...

A.   21 March 2017: Yes it is terrible to have that sort of ache inside you. However from the outside I can say you are romanticising your old love. It wasn't that good. And if it were, would it be like that again? Romantic love doesn't last. The sexus is replaced with... (read in full...)

Do you think I have the right be upset since technically he is still married?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 March 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I moved to a new town and got a job as a server at a local restaurant. One of my co workers is very cute and a lot of the girls like him. They are always going out as groups and hanging out with each other outside of work. We became really ...

A.   21 March 2017: Have you told him that you aren't interested anymore? If so, I'd do that. I'd lay down very firm boundaries here and stick to them. And then I would just be civil/polite at work but not engage in any flirting or banter with him. As for him AS... (read in full...)

My friend doesn't know if he likes her or not or if she has a chance with him

Answered by anonymous on 21 March 2017.

Q.   Just wanted to say thank you for taking your time to read this first. This has nothing to do with me, my friend is having problems reading this guy she likes and I thought asking here would help as I understand a lot of people here give out go...

A.   21 March 2017: OP here.Thank you for your responses, unfortunately though my friend still believes that she has a chance because he hasn't stated how he feels even though I made it perfectly clear what "I'm not looking for a relationship" means and she's going to ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend says he doesn't care about things!

Answered by anonymous on 21 March 2017.

Q.   My boyfriend lives with me and I mean, we've had our arguments, but I find that he pays no attention to me. He goes to work, the gym, then he comes home and plays video games until we go to bed and pays more attention to the dog even. I've asked him ...

A.   21 March 2017: He is suffering from something hard, give him some time and he will get over it.... (read in full...)

Does he like me or just want sex?

Answered by anonymous on 21 March 2017.

Q.   Just when I'd totally shut my self off from dating then the world gave me this guy. I have known him since 2012 but I always ignored him and blocked his calls. Recently I haven't been going out much and he suddenly contacted me. I decided to hang ...

A.   21 March 2017: The guy sounds a bit pushy but to be honest you sound kind of cold and disconnected. It would probably help us answer us if you gave us more history. Are you a virgin? Have you had any LTRs? "I am in a state where I need help" really struck me... (read in full...)

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