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Our sex life used to be magical until his porn use!

Answered by anonymous on 19 July 2018.

Q.   Im 43 and my self confidence and 20 yr relationship is suffering more and more with progressive viewing of porn by my partner. We’ve always enjoyed watching it together every once in awhile and I’m willing to spice up our sex life within reason. But ...

A.   19 July 2018: Although some people may tell you that porn is totally ok and you are the one with the problem I agree totally with you here and understand entirely where your coming from as I'm in a Similar position. To me the majority of pirn is extremely ... (read in full...)

Help me deal with my provoking ex!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 19 July 2018.

Q.   My ex broke up with me a few months ago and we were together for almost 3 years, but since she broke up with me she has been trying to make me jealous or intentionally hurt and/or provoke me. I dont know what to do, I know she is into me but she ...

A.   19 July 2018: You takeaway the power someone has over you by learning how to ignore them and shut them out. If you're following her on social media; you're probably keeping track of every move she makes. By doing that, you give her the opportunity to show-off... (read in full...)

I met him 2 weeks ago and am wondering is this a friendship or a rebound?

Answered by Honeypie + on 18 July 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I am 25 and have been single for a year now. Two weeks ago, I met a guy at a party who works with a friend of mine. We hit it off and talked nonstop. Later that week we ended up going to another group event together and staying after everyone ...

A.   18 July 2018: I think if I were you, I'd go VERY slow here. He might actually have "left" (at least mentally) his relationship a lot longer ago than 2 months but stayed with her because he felt sorry for her, just like he feels sorry for her now. If she ... (read in full...)

Help me deal with my provoking ex!

Answered by Honeypie + on 18 July 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   My ex broke up with me a few months ago and we were together for almost 3 years, but since she broke up with me she has been trying to make me jealous or intentionally hurt and/or provoke me. I dont know what to do, I know she is into me but she ...

A.   18 July 2018: Block & delete her on everything. If you share a social circle of friends avoid the group events SHE partakes in for a while and stick to some hang out with a single or two friends. If your friends want to talk to you about or gossip - tell th... (read in full...)

Why did my married ex boyfriend snap just like that? I desperately want him back in my life!

Answered by Lada + on 18 July 2018.

Q.   I met a guy at work 9 years ago. We flirted and had fun but he was married. We worked together and once we kissed in his office and ended up having sex. I have never done anything like this before. I was madly in love with him from this first kiss. ...

A.   18 July 2018: Thank again to WiseOwl, you got me thinking. You do have a point, there was an incredible physical attraction but I also felt very, very emotionally attached to him. He was the first person I have shared so many of my thought with, we used to talk ... (read in full...)

Why did my married ex boyfriend snap just like that? I desperately want him back in my life!

Answered by Lada + on 18 July 2018.

Q.   I met a guy at work 9 years ago. We flirted and had fun but he was married. We worked together and once we kissed in his office and ended up having sex. I have never done anything like this before. I was madly in love with him from this first kiss. ...

A.   18 July 2018: I'd like to thank you all for taking your time and giving me so many thoughtful advises. Especially WiseOwle - you probably have a point. I have been disappointed, lonely and a bit bored when I met K. But it was not all about sex. We used to write ... (read in full...)

I don't see this relationship lasting. How should I tell my boyfriend that I'm extremely annoyed with him?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 18 July 2018.

Q.   How should I tell my bf that I was upset? I have been seeing my bf for 6 mths, I didn’t not want to seem like I’m nit picking or anything but a few things are bothering me. He rarely iniates intimacy. His excuse is he’s shy. Surly not after 6 m...

A.   18 July 2018: His son invited you to his birthday party; why didn't you mention that to your boyfriend? It might not have occurred to him that you'd care to go to a teenager's birthday party; but he didn't realize his son extended the invitation himself. The f... (read in full...)

Why did my married ex boyfriend snap just like that? I desperately want him back in my life!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 18 July 2018.

Q.   I met a guy at work 9 years ago. We flirted and had fun but he was married. We worked together and once we kissed in his office and ended up having sex. I have never done anything like this before. I was madly in love with him from this first kiss. ...

A.   18 July 2018: All I get out of this romance novel is sexual-addiction. There is nothing but sexual-communication. Everything ends with sex. Sex is the subject, and sex is the predicate. He cheated on his wife and family. Why? For sex. Every encounter between ... (read in full...)

Why did my married ex boyfriend snap just like that? I desperately want him back in my life!

Answered by anonymous on 18 July 2018.

Q.   I met a guy at work 9 years ago. We flirted and had fun but he was married. We worked together and once we kissed in his office and ended up having sex. I have never done anything like this before. I was madly in love with him from this first kiss. ...

A.   18 July 2018: Poster I find your response very bizarre if I am honest. You proclaim to love this man and have indeed held a torch for years but your response to us is that he has mental health issues?? I have to wonder have you not looked at your own actions... (read in full...)

I'm sitting here alone and pregnant, can I get any advice?

Answered by Honeypie + on 18 July 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I dated this guy for almost six months during the time I got pregnant.Issues between me and his mom became apparent when she and her daughter begin writting shady comments on my fb page I finally confront both of them and his mom end up call me a ...

A.   18 July 2018: OP, I just want to point out when you go to the Child Support Agency (to file for child support when the baby is born) THEY will contact him, HE will be the one PAYING for the DNA test. He is the one who wants the test done. (though I DO think in... (read in full...)

Shall I stop being a gentlemen and be a man?

Answered by 02DuszJ + on 18 July 2018.

02DuszJ agony auntQ.   Just wondering what you guys would think what’s on this girls mind. She is married with 2 kids. She is few years older than me, we work together. She is quiet person, well respected and often hates guys advancing. For example a friend of mine will ...

A.   18 July 2018: Sorry for your break up but it's no excuse to wreck the lives of others.. how would her kids, husband be affected if you started an affair?? Doesn't matter what basis you're attracted to each other on. There's however many billions of people out ... (read in full...)

I don’t know how to move on! Advice?

Answered by Anonymous 123 + on 18 July 2018.

Anonymous 123 agony auntQ.   I still love him and can’t move on.? We broke up after almost 2 years because I tolerated his abusive behaviour, emotionally and verbally. I broke up because I couldn’t take the nasty words and he said he wished I died. A week later he texts me...

A.   18 July 2018: Sweetheart you may have just had the luckiest escape of your life. There is nothing and I mean nothing worse than being with someone who abuses you. Abusers make you feel small, worthless, useless, unloved, unlovable and then you start questioning ... (read in full...)

Why did my married ex boyfriend snap just like that? I desperately want him back in my life!

Answered by anonymous on 18 July 2018.

Q.   I met a guy at work 9 years ago. We flirted and had fun but he was married. We worked together and once we kissed in his office and ended up having sex. I have never done anything like this before. I was madly in love with him from this first kiss. ...

A.   18 July 2018: You have wasted nearly ten years on this man, you want what you can't have. You honestly think he is some catch and more to the point do you really think he has real deep feelings for you? If he did he would be with you there is just no valid reason ... (read in full...)

I'm sitting here alone and pregnant, can I get any advice?

Answered by Bazil + on 18 July 2018.

Q.   I dated this guy for almost six months during the time I got pregnant.Issues between me and his mom became apparent when she and her daughter begin writting shady comments on my fb page I finally confront both of them and his mom end up call me a ...

A.   18 July 2018: Oh honey be grateful he is now someone else problem to deal with. The writing is on the wall as to what type of future you would have had to endure from both him and his nut job family. You may not yet be able to see the forrest through the trees ... (read in full...)

My in-laws are very interfering!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 18 July 2018.

Q.   Hello, I’m looking for some advice me and my husband have 3 children 8, 6 and 7 months and his parents and grandparents are very interfering, we live 5 mins away from them both, they constantly come around unannounced, which is frustrating as we ...

A.   18 July 2018: You're not being harsh, you're being a mother. You're an adult, and entitled to deciding who sees your children and when. Your problem is a husband who prefers to stay in the neutral-zone; while you do all the bickering and fighting. If he truly... (read in full...)

I don’t know how to move on! Advice?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 18 July 2018.

Q.   I still love him and can’t move on.? We broke up after almost 2 years because I tolerated his abusive behaviour, emotionally and verbally. I broke up because I couldn’t take the nasty words and he said he wished I died. A week later he texts me...

A.   18 July 2018: The heart does really weird things when you love the wrong people. It makes you only want to see the best in, and about them. It makes you forgive or overlook their cruelty and abuse. When you get the courage and strength to finally let them go; the ... (read in full...)

In a financial crisis, who do you give your last dollar to?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 18 July 2018.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   At the age of 16 years old I knew I never wanted a man with a child. When I met my husband, he had no children which was a plus. Of course we started off as friends but before we actually got into a serious relationship, he slept with one of his ...

A.   18 July 2018: I do agree with you that he handled the situation really bad. As husband and wife yes use should sit down and discuss finances. I do understand that it is your family as one and that he is earning the most at the moment as you are out if work and ... (read in full...)

I'm sitting here alone and pregnant, can I get any advice?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 18 July 2018.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   I dated this guy for almost six months during the time I got pregnant.Issues between me and his mom became apparent when she and her daughter begin writting shady comments on my fb page I finally confront both of them and his mom end up call me a ...

A.   18 July 2018: OP, please bear with this; it's important.... GROW UP. Being four months pregnant doesn't mean you shouldn't work. You should absolutely work. Get a job immediately and work until you are close to giving birth, unless a doctor says sooner. Mos... (read in full...)

Everyone tells us moving in together after 2 months of dating is too soon!

Answered by anonymous on 18 July 2018.

Q.   What's the consensus for knowing when you're ready to move in with someone? My boyfriend and I have only been dating for a little over 2 months, but we see each other every day (we work at the same company), spend hours/weekends at a time togeth...

A.   18 July 2018: Please read this post: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-sitting-here-alone-and-pregnant-can-i.html Whilst there are some differences, this shows why two months is nowhere near enough to make any kind of commitment, including moving in together... (read in full...)

I don’t know how to move on! Advice?

Answered by Honeypie + on 18 July 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I still love him and can’t move on.? We broke up after almost 2 years because I tolerated his abusive behaviour, emotionally and verbally. I broke up because I couldn’t take the nasty words and he said he wished I died. A week later he texts me...

A.   18 July 2018: First thing you need to do is define what was good about this guy. Then the bad things. Now we all have good points and bad, but... ABUSIVE? NAME-CALLING? WISHING YOU DEAD? Not acceptable. I bet YOU wouldn't do THAT to someone else. I bet your bro... (read in full...)

I'm sitting here alone and pregnant, can I get any advice?

Answered by mystiquek + on 18 July 2018.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   I dated this guy for almost six months during the time I got pregnant.Issues between me and his mom became apparent when she and her daughter begin writting shady comments on my fb page I finally confront both of them and his mom end up call me a ...

A.   18 July 2018: It sounds like the two of you didn't know each other very well, you got pregnant very early in the relationship it added stress, and he is a grown man who acts like a child and lets his mother and sister tell him what to do, and he's lazy. Focus... (read in full...)

How do I close out this sad chapter in my life and start anew?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 17 July 2018.

Q.   Hi all I am from conservative indian family. I am 24 and financially independent. I met my ex 6 years back on school. We fell in love . The relationship was intense and serious. All my school and college friends knew we were together. His pa...

A.   17 July 2018: In response to your first question; it's better to be open and candid about things that can happen to just about anybody. Hiding things to keep-up or preserve a perfect-image becomes living a lie. Questions arise out of nosiness and curiosity; but ... (read in full...)

Why did my married ex boyfriend snap just like that? I desperately want him back in my life!

Answered by N91 + on 17 July 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   I met a guy at work 9 years ago. We flirted and had fun but he was married. We worked together and once we kissed in his office and ended up having sex. I have never done anything like this before. I was madly in love with him from this first kiss. ...

A.   17 July 2018: You need to get a grip. The guy is a lowlife cheat. You are WASTING YOUR LIFE pining over someone who doesn’t give a fuck about you. You are someone to get into bed. Who cares if he’s sensitive when he’s with you? It’s not hard to act that way... (read in full...)

I don’t know how to move on! Advice?

Answered by N91 + on 17 July 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   I still love him and can’t move on.? We broke up after almost 2 years because I tolerated his abusive behaviour, emotionally and verbally. I broke up because I couldn’t take the nasty words and he said he wished I died. A week later he texts me...

A.   17 July 2018: What do you love? Give us a few things you love about him. His insults? Wishes of death upon you? He sounds like a real catch. Do you think this is all you deserve? Really? Do you think this is what love is? That you abuse your partner until th... (read in full...)

My in-laws are very interfering!

Answered by Honeypie + on 17 July 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hello, I’m looking for some advice me and my husband have 3 children 8, 6 and 7 months and his parents and grandparents are very interfering, we live 5 mins away from them both, they constantly come around unannounced, which is frustrating as we ...

A.   17 July 2018: I think (if I were you) I'd find a good compromise. I would find a day a week they can have the wee one and a day they have the other two. Now sometimes this might not work due to hospital visits but that all comes down to you. If you "conce... (read in full...)

Why did my married ex boyfriend snap just like that? I desperately want him back in my life!

Answered by Trinibabygirl88 + on 17 July 2018.

Q.   I met a guy at work 9 years ago. We flirted and had fun but he was married. We worked together and once we kissed in his office and ended up having sex. I have never done anything like this before. I was madly in love with him from this first kiss. ...

A.   17 July 2018: "I would accept anything, even being his mistress again as I think he has a girlfriend." Nope! Please know your worth. Some women believe in the institution of marriage whilst other don't and just prefer a companion. You are 44 years old. I know ... (read in full...)

I'm sitting here alone and pregnant, can I get any advice?

Answered by Trinibabygirl88 + on 17 July 2018.

Q.   I dated this guy for almost six months during the time I got pregnant.Issues between me and his mom became apparent when she and her daughter begin writting shady comments on my fb page I finally confront both of them and his mom end up call me a ...

A.   17 July 2018: "Now I am sitting here alone and pregnant and is wondering what went wrong." I am sorry to hear about the position that you are in. It is really hard to be pregnant and do not have the emotional and mental support that you need. I do hope you have ... (read in full...)

I don’t know how to move on! Advice?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 17 July 2018.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I still love him and can’t move on.? We broke up after almost 2 years because I tolerated his abusive behaviour, emotionally and verbally. I broke up because I couldn’t take the nasty words and he said he wished I died. A week later he texts me...

A.   17 July 2018: It is hard when you are still in love with someone, we tend to remember the good times when we miss someone and the bad times go to the back off our mind! You tolerated this man being abusive and that is not okay. The longer someone is abusive the ... (read in full...)

I'm sitting here alone and pregnant, can I get any advice?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 17 July 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I dated this guy for almost six months during the time I got pregnant.Issues between me and his mom became apparent when she and her daughter begin writting shady comments on my fb page I finally confront both of them and his mom end up call me a ...

A.   17 July 2018: Do you seriously not understand what went wrong? You were in a relationship with this guy for a matter of weeks before getting pregnant. You already knew he was not good long-term partner material as he cannot hold down a job for any length o... (read in full...)

I'm sitting here alone and pregnant, can I get any advice?

Answered by Honeypie + on 17 July 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I dated this guy for almost six months during the time I got pregnant.Issues between me and his mom became apparent when she and her daughter begin writting shady comments on my fb page I finally confront both of them and his mom end up call me a ...

A.   17 July 2018: Honestly, with THIS amount of drama wouldn't it be BETTER for you and the baby to NOT be around him and his family? Cut him off. Get a job (and yes, even if you are 4 months pregnant you can still work, you are pregnant not paralyzed). Look in... (read in full...)

Why did my married ex boyfriend snap just like that? I desperately want him back in my life!

Answered by aunt honesty + on 17 July 2018.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I met a guy at work 9 years ago. We flirted and had fun but he was married. We worked together and once we kissed in his office and ended up having sex. I have never done anything like this before. I was madly in love with him from this first kiss. ...

A.   17 July 2018: It is clear that your love for him is one sided. If he loved you he would have showed it all those years ago, but when it came down to it he ended things. The buzz was probably over for him. It is clear he never saw you as relationship material, you ... (read in full...)

I'm sitting here alone and pregnant, can I get any advice?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 17 July 2018.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I dated this guy for almost six months during the time I got pregnant.Issues between me and his mom became apparent when she and her daughter begin writting shady comments on my fb page I finally confront both of them and his mom end up call me a ...

A.   17 July 2018: What went wrong is you both barely know each other! You dated for six months and you are four months pregnant, that is not enough time to get to know each other and figure out if use have a connection or not. The way his mother spoke to you is ... (read in full...)

How do I close out this sad chapter in my life and start anew?

Answered by Honeypie + on 17 July 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi all I am from conservative indian family. I am 24 and financially independent. I met my ex 6 years back on school. We fell in love . The relationship was intense and serious. All my school and college friends knew we were together. His pa...

A.   17 July 2018: First off... I'm sorry it didn't work out. It happens. 1) you can move out of the country but really you will only be running from your problems, emotional baggage goes where YOU go. But if you go for your masters out of the country it will giv... (read in full...)

I don't see this relationship lasting. How should I tell my boyfriend that I'm extremely annoyed with him?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 17 July 2018.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   How should I tell my bf that I was upset? I have been seeing my bf for 6 mths, I didn’t not want to seem like I’m nit picking or anything but a few things are bothering me. He rarely iniates intimacy. His excuse is he’s shy. Surly not after 6 m...

A.   17 July 2018: Personally if I was in your situation I would be annoyed and hurt as well. Although I would do things differently to you. If his son invited you then you should have said to your boyfriend that he invited you and that you would like to come along. ... (read in full...)

Why did my married ex boyfriend snap just like that? I desperately want him back in my life!

Answered by Lada + on 17 July 2018.

Q.   I met a guy at work 9 years ago. We flirted and had fun but he was married. We worked together and once we kissed in his office and ended up having sex. I have never done anything like this before. I was madly in love with him from this first kiss. ...

A.   17 July 2018: Thank you for taking your time and answering me. However, the guy did get divorced. And he came back to my flat 10 days after the break up and looked a complete mess, he must have been sorry. So I suppose it is not that simple. He did spent much ... (read in full...)

Why did my married ex boyfriend snap just like that? I desperately want him back in my life!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 17 July 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I met a guy at work 9 years ago. We flirted and had fun but he was married. We worked together and once we kissed in his office and ended up having sex. I have never done anything like this before. I was madly in love with him from this first kiss. ...

A.   17 July 2018: It's sad that someone who is as intelligent as you obviously are has such low self esteem that she thinks she is worth nothing better than to be a man's "bit on the side". You may have an intellectual connection, even a spiritual one, but he is not ... (read in full...)

My in-laws are very interfering!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 17 July 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Hello, I’m looking for some advice me and my husband have 3 children 8, 6 and 7 months and his parents and grandparents are very interfering, we live 5 mins away from them both, they constantly come around unannounced, which is frustrating as we ...

A.   17 July 2018: You can't stop them behaving as they see fit. Your strength lies in how you react to it. Ignore the undesirable behaviour but reward desirable behaviour by being friendly. Walk away from behaviour which irritates you if you need to; they will soo... (read in full...)

I don’t know how to move on! Advice?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 17 July 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I still love him and can’t move on.? We broke up after almost 2 years because I tolerated his abusive behaviour, emotionally and verbally. I broke up because I couldn’t take the nasty words and he said he wished I died. A week later he texts me...

A.   17 July 2018: I suspect it is still early days for you. You need to give yourself time to move on. When you feel the urge to contact him, remind yourself how he made you FEEL when he was abusive. We forget what people said or did, but we never forget how they... (read in full...)

Shall I stop being a gentlemen and be a man?

Answered by anonymous on 17 July 2018.

Q.   Just wondering what you guys would think what’s on this girls mind. She is married with 2 kids. She is few years older than me, we work together. She is quiet person, well respected and often hates guys advancing. For example a friend of mine will ...

A.   17 July 2018: No I am the happiest person when people tell me their news. I don’t suffer from jealousy, I am very lucky. When I was in school I was told I was useless at everything, you get used to your friends getting better grades, which in return means better ... (read in full...)

Why did my married ex boyfriend snap just like that? I desperately want him back in my life!

Answered by DancerGirl1984 + on 17 July 2018.

Q.   I met a guy at work 9 years ago. We flirted and had fun but he was married. We worked together and once we kissed in his office and ended up having sex. I have never done anything like this before. I was madly in love with him from this first kiss. ...

A.   17 July 2018: A woman of your age should no better. His way of ending the affiar 7 years ago by saying it was because you did something then doesn't tell you what that thing was, was a game. You did nothing and he used it as a cruel way to end the affair. This ... (read in full...)

Should I say I was annoyed about the way he set up meeting his children?

Answered by anonymous on 17 July 2018.

Q.   Should i tell him I felt annoyed? My boyfriend of 5 mths recently invited me over to meet his children of 21 and 16. They were having a takeaway night so thought it would casual. We arranged a time and I went over. I knocked the door but got...

A.   17 July 2018: I regret not saying anything to him about this. I sort of just let it go even though it had bothered me. There has been no other meet ups since this one. He had a bbq at the weekend and didn’t invite me. I wouldn’t of gone even if he had. I’ll just ... (read in full...)

I don't see this relationship lasting. How should I tell my boyfriend that I'm extremely annoyed with him?

Answered by Honeypie + on 17 July 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   How should I tell my bf that I was upset? I have been seeing my bf for 6 mths, I didn’t not want to seem like I’m nit picking or anything but a few things are bothering me. He rarely iniates intimacy. His excuse is he’s shy. Surly not after 6 m...

A.   17 July 2018: You ask if you are "right" to be annoyed. It isn't about right or wrong here. OBVIOUSLY you are annoyed with a bunch of little things. BUT you try and use passive-aggressiveness instead of sitting him down and talk about EACH issue as they pop up. ... (read in full...)

What would you do in my situation? Travel first or settle down now, travel in retirement?

Answered by N91 + on 17 July 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   I have been in a relationship with a man for a year. I'm pretty happy with this guy. We've had ups and downs, but overall things are good between us. We love each other. We have a holiday booked together and are planning to move in together. Howeve...

A.   17 July 2018: Unfortunately I’d say the relationship will be close to its end. You want completely different things in life it seems. You will regret not travelling and very likely grow to resent your BF if you don’t take the experience in the hopes of continui... (read in full...)

What would you do in my situation? Travel first or settle down now, travel in retirement?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 17 July 2018.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   I have been in a relationship with a man for a year. I'm pretty happy with this guy. We've had ups and downs, but overall things are good between us. We love each other. We have a holiday booked together and are planning to move in together. Howeve...

A.   17 July 2018: "I would save up faster if I went on less holidays. But I don't see moving abroad for work as a holiday. It is a career move." That's true.... then you said this: " I want to get in shape before I go and I have 3 trips away booked" So, he's right... (read in full...)

I decided that I wouldn’t text him again but he keeps checking out my social media posts! Any advice?

Answered by N91 + on 17 July 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   It's like a one sided love at 1st sight, but idk , am into someone , am obsessed with him as hell .. we were chatting for more than a year then we met , well he kissed me it was soft coz I didn't want to especially that was our 1st meeting then we ...

A.   17 July 2018: What is there to be confused about? He’s looking for an easy fuck, there’s no hidden agenda here. Block him, job done.... (read in full...)

Everyone tells us moving in together after 2 months of dating is too soon!

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 17 July 2018.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   What's the consensus for knowing when you're ready to move in with someone? My boyfriend and I have only been dating for a little over 2 months, but we see each other every day (we work at the same company), spend hours/weekends at a time togeth...

A.   17 July 2018: Just to add: "we both want to move out of our parents' houses and be on our own and it just makes sense to do it together" is a bad reason to do it. It actually makes no sense to do it together, when you've only been together for 2 months. Also,... (read in full...)

Everyone tells us moving in together after 2 months of dating is too soon!

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 17 July 2018.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   What's the consensus for knowing when you're ready to move in with someone? My boyfriend and I have only been dating for a little over 2 months, but we see each other every day (we work at the same company), spend hours/weekends at a time togeth...

A.   17 July 2018: It takes much longer than two measly months to know if you're right for each other. Why move in with someone when there's so much uncertainty, unless you're too infatuated to see the reality of it? Why rush into it? Staying over for a week is to... (read in full...)

This confusing guy is sending mixed signals!

Answered by anonymous on 17 July 2018.

Q.   So I met this guy off a gay dating app. We had tremendously good sex. As he left my house he told me he "really wanted" to see me again. He lives in a different city and for a hook up from an app, it was brave of him to say that. I asked him when he ...

A.   17 July 2018: I beg to differ, if it's just sex then people will do it until the cows come home. I hooked up with men when I was younger and they never just did it the once!! Not that I'm bragging just my experience. Maybe he was coy and didn't want to say beca... (read in full...)

My address and personal info is listed online. What should I do? Does it matter?

Answered by elmo2051 + on 17 July 2018.

Q.   How do I remove online information about myself? I admit that I'm quite the curious person, and have searched many acquaintances by their name and city. All that have come up are social networking websites and old blogs which are harmless. I was ...

A.   17 July 2018: i have the same problem..BUT HOW DOES ONE FIX THIS PROBLEM???... (read in full...)

I overheard my wife saying that her ex was the best sex she'd ever had and now my ego is shattered!

Answered by wiseoldman + on 17 July 2018.

Q.   So my ego has been devastated and I really don’t know how to handle this. Turns out I’m not the best sex my wife has ever had. Any advice is appreciated. About a week ago my wife had one of her friends at our house for some drinks. After ha...

A.   17 July 2018: In the 80s I had a wild affair with one of the girls sharing the apartment. We were both mid-twentysomethings; she was very presentable in the extreme, I was still built like a boy, though an adult and 'enthusiastically formed' in a way her ... (read in full...)

My best friend is dating my younger sister!

Answered by N91 + on 17 July 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   my best freind has started going out with my little sister (20) and im realy jelouse about it. some back story, me and my best freind we'll call him Tim, we're both 27 and have been mates for about 26 years. anyway about six months back my l...

A.   17 July 2018: Why would you tell him? That would be incredibly selfish. YOU gave your sister the green light, you can’t then decide to sabotage her relationship because you don’t like it. You have been friends with Tim for 26 years. Don’t you think that if ... (read in full...)

My best friend is dating my younger sister!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 17 July 2018.

Q.   my best freind has started going out with my little sister (20) and im realy jelouse about it. some back story, me and my best freind we'll call him Tim, we're both 27 and have been mates for about 26 years. anyway about six months back my l...

A.   17 July 2018: Post script: Correction! We were friends for 11 years, not 14! I was still with my now-deceased domestic-partner back that far!... (read in full...)

My best friend is dating my younger sister!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 17 July 2018.

Q.   my best freind has started going out with my little sister (20) and im realy jelouse about it. some back story, me and my best freind we'll call him Tim, we're both 27 and have been mates for about 26 years. anyway about six months back my l...

A.   17 July 2018: To Tim you're like a sister. You've known him since you were both only toddlers! He grew-up as a friend, almost a brother; and apparently he has never developed romantic-attraction to you. Look how long it took before you made this ... (read in full...)

In a financial crisis, who do you give your last dollar to?

Answered by Trinibabygirl88 + on 17 July 2018.

Q.   At the age of 16 years old I knew I never wanted a man with a child. When I met my husband, he had no children which was a plus. Of course we started off as friends but before we actually got into a serious relationship, he slept with one of his ...

A.   17 July 2018: "I even told him about the store yet he was angry, but I did give him back his money and he just left it and went to work." People have a different way of interpreting things...some people may just read what they see without putting much thought ... (read in full...)

Her depression is getting in the way of our love!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 17 July 2018.

Q.   I've been with my girlfriend for 9 years, and we are both in love with each others. We shared alot of great times together and i can't imagine my life without her. I was her first boyfriend, and she never dated anyone because she doesn't trust men, ...

A.   17 July 2018: You're not going to like my advice. It's relatively deep, and maybe not what you want to hear. I think nine years is a very long time; and your relationship outlasted a lot of marriages these days. Judging from your post, one can assume that her... (read in full...)

How do I move on and am I to blame?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 17 July 2018.

Q.   I'm just in despair right now. I absolutely love this site and it's helped me in times of need for so long now, so here goes. I've recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. We lived together for two years in his family house (his famil...

A.   17 July 2018: The thing about trying to maintain a healthy-relationship, while dealing with insecurities you've borne since childhood. Is that your insecurities and baggage becomes the focus of your relationship, rather than love and devotion. You said you... (read in full...)

Everyone tells us moving in together after 2 months of dating is too soon!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 16 July 2018.

Q.   What's the consensus for knowing when you're ready to move in with someone? My boyfriend and I have only been dating for a little over 2 months, but we see each other every day (we work at the same company), spend hours/weekends at a time togeth...

A.   16 July 2018: What does it matter what other people think; if you're more than likely going to do it anyway? My word of wisdom is that it is too soon. You need to be more emotionally-established as a couple. You need to go over a few bumps and endure a few snag... (read in full...)

Her depression is getting in the way of our love!

Answered by Honeypie + on 16 July 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I've been with my girlfriend for 9 years, and we are both in love with each others. We shared alot of great times together and i can't imagine my life without her. I was her first boyfriend, and she never dated anyone because she doesn't trust men, ...

A.   16 July 2018: I think you should tell her she NEEDS to seek help. 9 years together is a long time and I would presume it also means you two know each other well and care for each other. But... I think she is stagnating in her own misery. Medication is... (read in full...)

Everyone tells us moving in together after 2 months of dating is too soon!

Answered by TylerSage + on 16 July 2018.

TylerSage agony auntQ.   What's the consensus for knowing when you're ready to move in with someone? My boyfriend and I have only been dating for a little over 2 months, but we see each other every day (we work at the same company), spend hours/weekends at a time togeth...

A.   16 July 2018: Your letter sounds like you're trying your absolute best to convince us as well as yourself that this is a good idea. I'm sensing a degree of uncertainty from the energy in your words. If you're so certain within yourself why even bother coming to ... (read in full...)

This confusing guy is sending mixed signals!

Answered by N91 + on 16 July 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   So I met this guy off a gay dating app. We had tremendously good sex. As he left my house he told me he "really wanted" to see me again. He lives in a different city and for a hook up from an app, it was brave of him to say that. I asked him when he ...

A.   16 July 2018: It’s clear as day really. If he was interested he would make it known. Who takes 3 weeks to reply to someone that they’re romantically interested in? Think about it.... (read in full...)

What does he want? Is there something here or just a sexual relationship?

Answered by N91 + on 16 July 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   Going back about 4-5 months ago, I met a guy one night out at a bar. We are 5 years age difference, I'm 22 and he's 27. We immediately slept together that night. We kind of clicked quite well and he got my number, stayed in contact with me and we ...

A.   16 July 2018: Why would you not ask him? We couldn’t possibly answer the question. You hooked up on the first night you met, I wouldn’t get my hopes up. For a lot of guys that’s a sign of someone who would do that with a lot of people. I will say that if he wa... (read in full...)

I feel stuck because of his lodger! What do I do?

Answered by N91 + on 16 July 2018.

N91 agony auntQ.   My boyfriend and I in early 60s, have been together 5 years, but nothing is moving on because he has a female lodger in her 40s been there 25 years! Pays little rent, no household bills and keeps dogs. She wont move out, we gave her 6 months notice, ...

A.   16 July 2018: I have to agree that the OP is just discounting most things that are being said. There’s 2 options here it’s really simple, you put up with the situation or you leave the guy. He will NOT change what’s going on. You’ve let it happen for 5 years so... (read in full...)

How do I move on and am I to blame?

Answered by gigi33 + on 16 July 2018.

Q.   I'm just in despair right now. I absolutely love this site and it's helped me in times of need for so long now, so here goes. I've recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. We lived together for two years in his family house (his famil...

A.   16 July 2018: Hi everyone, This is exactly why I love this site. Thankyou so much for your advice on this. You're all right, I need to focus on myself and moving on! Part of me still feels like I had a lucky escape, the other just misses the lovely man I... (read in full...)

Everyone tells us moving in together after 2 months of dating is too soon!

Answered by Honeypie + on 16 July 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   What's the consensus for knowing when you're ready to move in with someone? My boyfriend and I have only been dating for a little over 2 months, but we see each other every day (we work at the same company), spend hours/weekends at a time togeth...

A.   16 July 2018: It might work for you two, it might not. However WHERE is the fire? 2 months is really nothing. You don't know him all that well and he doesn't know you. Even if you have already spend a lot of time together, you are BOTH on your best behavi... (read in full...)

How do I move on and am I to blame?

Answered by BettyBoup + on 16 July 2018.

BettyBoup agony auntQ.   I'm just in despair right now. I absolutely love this site and it's helped me in times of need for so long now, so here goes. I've recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. We lived together for two years in his family house (his famil...

A.   16 July 2018: He told you to F off in anger. He was angry that you reclaimed you power and refused to go running back to him when he wanted you to. He expects his girlfriend to come home when he wants to cook his tea. He'd conditioned you to do that. So when you ... (read in full...)

Everyone tells us moving in together after 2 months of dating is too soon!

Answered by BettyBoup + on 16 July 2018.

BettyBoup agony auntQ.   What's the consensus for knowing when you're ready to move in with someone? My boyfriend and I have only been dating for a little over 2 months, but we see each other every day (we work at the same company), spend hours/weekends at a time togeth...

A.   16 July 2018: I think that if you both agree that you want to, and it'd be a good financial decision as you'll save money renting together, go for it. Definitely find a place that will let you move out at a month's notice, so if it does go pear shaped, you won't ... (read in full...)

What would you do in my situation? Travel first or settle down now, travel in retirement?

Answered by anonymous on 16 July 2018.

Q.   I have been in a relationship with a man for a year. I'm pretty happy with this guy. We've had ups and downs, but overall things are good between us. We love each other. We have a holiday booked together and are planning to move in together. Howeve...

A.   16 July 2018: HI everyone. I just wanted to say a really big thank you for all of your kind answers. I was overwhelmed by the advice you have given me. Thank you. Ok, so, I want to say that I do have a really good relationship with my boyfriend. We have only bee... (read in full...)

I feel stuck because of his lodger! What do I do?

Answered by anonymous on 16 July 2018.

Q.   My boyfriend and I in early 60s, have been together 5 years, but nothing is moving on because he has a female lodger in her 40s been there 25 years! Pays little rent, no household bills and keeps dogs. She wont move out, we gave her 6 months notice, ...

A.   16 July 2018: Sorry OP, but it honestly feels like you don't want to take any action with this out of fear of losing what you do have with this man. We could go all around the houses trying to figure out what may or may not be 'wrong' with the dog lady and why... (read in full...)

How do I move on and am I to blame?

Answered by anonymous on 16 July 2018.

Q.   I'm just in despair right now. I absolutely love this site and it's helped me in times of need for so long now, so here goes. I've recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. We lived together for two years in his family house (his famil...

A.   16 July 2018: Its so sad when it all blows up in your face. Basically he pressed the detonator to destroy your relationship when you didnt come back from your hen night so he assumed you were with another guy shagging because in his mind he considered you u... (read in full...)

How do I move on and am I to blame?

Answered by Bazil + on 16 July 2018.

Q.   I'm just in despair right now. I absolutely love this site and it's helped me in times of need for so long now, so here goes. I've recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. We lived together for two years in his family house (his famil...

A.   16 July 2018: People react in ways that leave us in disbelief. In his case from frustration and hurt no doubt. Being told to fuck off is cruel but I suspect a knee jerk reaction. You may not ever get the closure you are seeking from him but you can express ... (read in full...)

Everyone tells us moving in together after 2 months of dating is too soon!

Answered by anonymous on 16 July 2018.

Q.   What's the consensus for knowing when you're ready to move in with someone? My boyfriend and I have only been dating for a little over 2 months, but we see each other every day (we work at the same company), spend hours/weekends at a time togeth...

A.   16 July 2018: Op here. The work thing isn't really an issue because we work in different departments at opposite ends of the building. We only see each other every day because we meet up for lunch and breaks. If we broke up we really wouldn't see much of each ... (read in full...)

Everyone tells us moving in together after 2 months of dating is too soon!

Answered by Bazil + on 16 July 2018.

Q.   What's the consensus for knowing when you're ready to move in with someone? My boyfriend and I have only been dating for a little over 2 months, but we see each other every day (we work at the same company), spend hours/weekends at a time togeth...

A.   16 July 2018: If it feels right for the both of YOU, not everyone else, then why not? I think the same way for when I hear people say its too soon after breaking up with someone to find someone else. Again why not when you know the score and happy to proceed on ... (read in full...)

Everyone tells us moving in together after 2 months of dating is too soon!

Answered by Anonymous 123 + on 16 July 2018.

Anonymous 123 agony auntQ.   What's the consensus for knowing when you're ready to move in with someone? My boyfriend and I have only been dating for a little over 2 months, but we see each other every day (we work at the same company), spend hours/weekends at a time togeth...

A.   16 July 2018: The only thing that 'bothers' me just a little is that you are co-workers. More than the two months thing. You see each other every single day. I know you're not even remotely thinking of it not working out but God forbid something goes wrong and ... (read in full...)

Everyone tells us moving in together after 2 months of dating is too soon!

Answered by anonymous on 16 July 2018.

Q.   What's the consensus for knowing when you're ready to move in with someone? My boyfriend and I have only been dating for a little over 2 months, but we see each other every day (we work at the same company), spend hours/weekends at a time togeth...

A.   16 July 2018: I moved into my boyfriends after about 2-3 months. I was there all the time anyway and It just felt right! We have been together 10 months now and everything is going great for us :) id rather know early if we couldnt stand living together rather ... (read in full...)

How do I move on and am I to blame?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 16 July 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I'm just in despair right now. I absolutely love this site and it's helped me in times of need for so long now, so here goes. I've recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. We lived together for two years in his family house (his famil...

A.   16 July 2018: While most people say you don't really know someone until you live with them, MY theory (based on my own relationships and observations of relationships of family members and friends) is that you don't really know someone until you SPLIT UP with ... (read in full...)

In a financial crisis, who do you give your last dollar to?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 16 July 2018.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   At the age of 16 years old I knew I never wanted a man with a child. When I met my husband, he had no children which was a plus. Of course we started off as friends but before we actually got into a serious relationship, he slept with one of his ...

A.   16 July 2018: I obviously hit a nerve with you and that was never my intention. I am in no way an arrogant person and if that is what you got from my answer then so be it. If you are going to write to a forum you are going to get a lot off different points of ... (read in full...)

Everyone tells us moving in together after 2 months of dating is too soon!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 16 July 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   What's the consensus for knowing when you're ready to move in with someone? My boyfriend and I have only been dating for a little over 2 months, but we see each other every day (we work at the same company), spend hours/weekends at a time togeth...

A.   16 July 2018: If only more people put as much thought into moving in together! You may only have been together a couple of months, but you seem to have already discussed subjects some couples don't touch on till much later in relationships. You both sound li... (read in full...)

I overheard my wife saying that her ex was the best sex she'd ever had and now my ego is shattered!

Answered by aunt honesty + on 16 July 2018.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   So my ego has been devastated and I really don’t know how to handle this. Turns out I’m not the best sex my wife has ever had. Any advice is appreciated. About a week ago my wife had one of her friends at our house for some drinks. After ha...

A.   16 July 2018: Anonymous reader not only does your comment seem low, it is also bullying and offensive! It also sounds like you are being spiteful and jealous against this woman! Looks are only skin deep and fade, but your comments are ugly which says a lot about ... (read in full...)

Everyone tells us moving in together after 2 months of dating is too soon!

Answered by aunt honesty + on 16 July 2018.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   What's the consensus for knowing when you're ready to move in with someone? My boyfriend and I have only been dating for a little over 2 months, but we see each other every day (we work at the same company), spend hours/weekends at a time togeth...

A.   16 July 2018: I might be biased but no I don't think it is a terrible idea. Look worst case scenario is it doesn't work out and you both move home again. Just because you are moving in together doesn't mean its a life time commitment. I wouldn't recommend buying ... (read in full...)

How do I move on and am I to blame?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 16 July 2018.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I'm just in despair right now. I absolutely love this site and it's helped me in times of need for so long now, so here goes. I've recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. We lived together for two years in his family house (his famil...

A.   16 July 2018: Off course you need support it is difficult coming out of a long term relationship. You are mending a broken heart while adjusting to a new life. It is okay to be sad, but at some point you need to accept it is over and delete him from your life. No ... (read in full...)

Her depression is getting in the way of our love!

Answered by aunt honesty + on 16 July 2018.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I've been with my girlfriend for 9 years, and we are both in love with each others. We shared alot of great times together and i can't imagine my life without her. I was her first boyfriend, and she never dated anyone because she doesn't trust men, ...

A.   16 July 2018: Her mental illness is not your problem no, but you do love her and therefore I wouldn't throw away a relationship because of it. It is tough having a mental illness, and however hard it is on you, you can bet it is much worse for her. Nine years is ... (read in full...)

I decided that I wouldn’t text him again but he keeps checking out my social media posts! Any advice?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 16 July 2018.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   It's like a one sided love at 1st sight, but idk , am into someone , am obsessed with him as hell .. we were chatting for more than a year then we met , well he kissed me it was soft coz I didn't want to especially that was our 1st meeting then we ...

A.   16 July 2018: OP he wants a girl to have sex with and you want a relationship. There is nothing to be confused about here, don't mistake his looks for romance they are more than likely looks to try and get you to have sex with him. Him looking at your stories and ... (read in full...)

My best friend is dating my younger sister!

Answered by aunt honesty + on 16 July 2018.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   my best freind has started going out with my little sister (20) and im realy jelouse about it. some back story, me and my best freind we'll call him Tim, we're both 27 and have been mates for about 26 years. anyway about six months back my l...

A.   16 July 2018: I am assuming that if you have knowing him all your life then your sister has knowing him as well. Your sister done the mature thing talking to you about it and you gave her your blessing so I think now you need to put your own feelings to one side. ... (read in full...)

What does he want? Is there something here or just a sexual relationship?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 16 July 2018.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Going back about 4-5 months ago, I met a guy one night out at a bar. We are 5 years age difference, I'm 22 and he's 27. We immediately slept together that night. We kind of clicked quite well and he got my number, stayed in contact with me and we ...

A.   16 July 2018: Things haven't really progressed in the five or six months that you have been seeing each other so that is a big red flag to begin with. I think if he was interested in a relationship it would have came up by now. The only way you are going to know ... (read in full...)

Shall I stop being a gentlemen and be a man?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 16 July 2018.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Just wondering what you guys would think what’s on this girls mind. She is married with 2 kids. She is few years older than me, we work together. She is quiet person, well respected and often hates guys advancing. For example a friend of mine will ...

A.   16 July 2018: You need to take time to get over your ex. It is all still fresh and yes you are hurting, but honestly OP do you think breaking up a marriage will help? Be the reason that two parents split up and there are two children left in the middle? There is ... (read in full...)

My best friend is dating my younger sister!

Answered by Honeypie + on 16 July 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   my best freind has started going out with my little sister (20) and im realy jelouse about it. some back story, me and my best freind we'll call him Tim, we're both 27 and have been mates for about 26 years. anyway about six months back my l...

A.   16 July 2018: OP, I know this is not what you want to hear but Tim doesn't feel romantic about you. He has known you long enough that IF HE DID he would have acted on it. YOU are a FRIEND with a capital F. No more, no less. He DOES however feel romanticall... (read in full...)

How do I move on and am I to blame?

Answered by Honeypie + on 16 July 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I'm just in despair right now. I absolutely love this site and it's helped me in times of need for so long now, so here goes. I've recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. We lived together for two years in his family house (his famil...

A.   16 July 2018: I'm sorry it didn't work out for you two. But it happens. I think you BOTH ignored "each other issues" in the beginning and thought you either would get used to them or it would change over time. But most of all, I think your (now) ex is just... (read in full...)

After years of neglect, my teeth need dental care! Is this how I go about it?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 16 July 2018.

Q.   Hi guys... I think this is more for support as well as advice. I've been on before about this topic but a new angle this time. So I've now got a boyfriend and one major issue I had was I hate my teeth. It's because of years of neglect ...

A.   16 July 2018: Your fears are understood; because dental tools and sounds actually get to most people. Your fears are relatable; but unnecessary. Technology and numbing-gels make dental-care virtually-painless and noninvasive. I've seen the absolute worse as... (read in full...)

This confusing guy is sending mixed signals!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 15 July 2018.

Q.   So I met this guy off a gay dating app. We had tremendously good sex. As he left my house he told me he "really wanted" to see me again. He lives in a different city and for a hook up from an app, it was brave of him to say that. I asked him when he ...

A.   15 July 2018: No one likes to be judged in a bad-light. He's not a bad guy. I never said he was. Everyone has redeeming qualities; but they aren't always applicable in every situation. You may have a loyal-nature, and many good attributes. They may be offered to ... (read in full...)

This confusing guy is sending mixed signals!

Answered by Honeypie + on 15 July 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   So I met this guy off a gay dating app. We had tremendously good sex. As he left my house he told me he "really wanted" to see me again. He lives in a different city and for a hook up from an app, it was brave of him to say that. I asked him when he ...

A.   15 July 2018: Also... OP, if you guy didn't use condom - go get a STD panel. Not because you two are gay but because he seems to be having a lot of partners. And there is a rise in STD's in the UK. Don't be a statistic. Meeting up before a hook up... well... (read in full...)

What does he want? Is there something here or just a sexual relationship?

Answered by Honeypie + on 15 July 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Going back about 4-5 months ago, I met a guy one night out at a bar. We are 5 years age difference, I'm 22 and he's 27. We immediately slept together that night. We kind of clicked quite well and he got my number, stayed in contact with me and we ...

A.   15 July 2018: Why not ask him? If you would LIKE more, tell him. Then he can either AGREE and you two move forward or... he can reject the idea and you can stop wasting your time, energy and emotions on a guy who doesn't WANT to date you. As for how much... (read in full...)

Average amount of sex partners in a lifetime.

Answered by anonymous on 15 July 2018.

Q.   I was wondering whether anybody knew the average amount sexual partners men and women have in their lifetimes. Im 17 years old and only have had One, I know this is quite normal and am relatively happy about it. I suppose im asking, what can i ...

A.   15 July 2018: 22 YO. Had 3 girls, were first for all of them. One 2.5 years relationship, other just a few nights. The recent lasted 3 years, and she left me 2 months before. Sooo best sex is absolutely with the one you love. Sharing is not caring ;)... (read in full...)

Why does he walk ahead of me as if I don't exist?

Answered by anonymous on 15 July 2018.

Q.   Hi - wonder if anyone can help with this one! My husband who is nearly 40 (married for 10 years) often (not always but more often than not) walks ahead of me. It doesn't matter if we are simply going from the car to the supermarket, walking along ...

A.   15 July 2018: I googled this question because my boyfriend of 2 years consistently walks ahead of me all the time, everywhere, and it makes me feel like a piece of sh*t. My bf is similar to your husband in that he is often uptight and OCD about the way things are ... (read in full...)

What does he want? Is there something here or just a sexual relationship?

Answered by anonymous on 15 July 2018.

Q.   Going back about 4-5 months ago, I met a guy one night out at a bar. We are 5 years age difference, I'm 22 and he's 27. We immediately slept together that night. We kind of clicked quite well and he got my number, stayed in contact with me and we ...

A.   15 July 2018: You're obviously questioning what's going on so he might be too. You definitely should ask him what he feels, because everyone's different. It's good that you have a good time together and your personalities are similar so I hope this works out for ... (read in full...)

Shall I stop being a gentlemen and be a man?

Answered by Honeypie + on 15 July 2018.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Just wondering what you guys would think what’s on this girls mind. She is married with 2 kids. She is few years older than me, we work together. She is quiet person, well respected and often hates guys advancing. For example a friend of mine will ...

A.   15 July 2018: Baby steps, OP You just broke up after being with someone for 6 years. Of course that hurts and makes you feel numb. Whether your ex was "right" on being worried about the finances doesn't matter right now. What matter is that you get back on ... (read in full...)

Why doesn’t he answer his phone when he’s with me?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 15 July 2018.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I have been dating a guy for 5 wks we have had a great 5 wks (I know it's only 5 wks) but one thing that bugs me is when we are together he won't answer his phone if a message comes through and often put it on silent. . Why is this ?? He says he ...

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Why doesn’t he answer his phone when he’s with me?

Answered by anonymous on 15 July 2018.

Q.   I have been dating a guy for 5 wks we have had a great 5 wks (I know it's only 5 wks) but one thing that bugs me is when we are together he won't answer his phone if a message comes through and often put it on silent. . Why is this ?? He says he ...

A.   15 July 2018: Its called respect sweetie. I dont pick my phone up when im on a date. Put your worries to the side an be happy ... (read in full...)

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Answered by anonymous on 15 July 2018.

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