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He went to a strip club, I went to see male dancers and an "eye for an eye" isn't feeling good right now

Answered by N91 + on 28 April 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   I feel like the back story is needed (see below). But, my question is how do I let go of the fact my boyfriend went to a strip club TWO nights in a row while on business? I eneded up going to a male strip club for a girls night recently, now I'm ...

A.   28 April 2017: You're not 12 years old so stop acting like it. If you really can't get over it, break up with him. You know he doesn't regret it so you're not going to make him feel bad about it, but by then going and rubbing his face in it sounds a little c... (read in full...)

Boyfriend promised to pay for salon visit after being told the price then backed out but is willing to spend $$ on his niece??

Answered by Anonymous 123 + on 28 April 2017.

Anonymous 123 agony auntQ.   Last week, I told my boyfriend I'm going to get my hair colored for the first time. I showed him photos to get his opinion. After I settled on a style, he said he wanted to treat me to get my hair done. I told him he didn't have to do that and it ...

A.   28 April 2017: I totally agree with the lady who said that she would find it unsettling too but she doesn't really know why. My thoughts exactly! This isn't about the money, it isn't about competing with the child or being jealous of her, it's not even like you... (read in full...)

How would men feel if they joked about something sexual and their partner said yes?

Answered by N91 + on 28 April 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   Before I start, let me just say, I am not a woman of the world. I didn't lose my virginity until my wedding night, aged 24. Me and my husband have been married 12 years now and are still very much in love. The problem is our sex life. It is very ...

A.   28 April 2017: He will think 'Great, my wife is very adventurous in bed. My gosh hasn't this sex improved'. You said it yourself it is 'Standard'. But the thing is, YOU are holding it back by the sound of things. I really don't think your husband would complain... (read in full...)

How would men feel if they joked about something sexual and their partner said yes?

Answered by N91 + on 28 April 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   Before I start, let me just say, I am not a woman of the world. I didn't lose my virginity until my wedding night, aged 24. Me and my husband have been married 12 years now and are still very much in love. The problem is our sex life. It is very ...

A.   28 April 2017: He will think 'Great, my wife is very adventurous in bed. My gosh hasn't this sex improved'. You said it yourself it is 'Standard'. But the thing is, YOU are holding it back by the sound of things. I really don't think your husband would complain... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has a fetish for my work clothes, is that weird?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 28 April 2017.

Q.   My boyfriend has a fetish for my work clothes, is that weird? I work in an office and wear skirts and blouses on a daily basis. When I first started dating him he said he loved what I was wearing but recently it seems to have got even more intens...

A.   28 April 2017: As long as this does not become something he absolutely needs every time in order to enjoy sex with you, then I really wouldn't worry. Satin, silk and leather are very common materials for men to get aroused by. (Not sure about the leather, but the ... (read in full...)

My husband wants to move to another country. I don't

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 28 April 2017.

Q.   My husband wants to move overseas to expand his business. He already has a team abroad but wants to be there in person. Long story short it makes sense for the business I, however, want to stay here. I'm not fond of the country he wants to move to...

A.   28 April 2017: Any choice you make can always be reversed at a later date. Just because you go to live somewhere, does not necessarily mean you have to stay for the rest of your life. Can you show willing and go in the first instance, on the proviso that you... (read in full...)

The fiance, the step daughter, the baby mama and possible cheating!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 28 April 2017.

Q.   Hello, I have been engaged for over 2 years to the man of my dreams. However,we dont get along all the time. He has a daughter and I have a son. Now, his babymother is in the picture and my son father is not. But he gets his daughter every w...

A.   28 April 2017: The man of your dreams? Really? How? I notice you don't mention anything GOOD about him in your post so I do wonder what you get out of this relationship. In your shoes I would certainly not be comfortable with his ex asking him to father another ... (read in full...)

He went to a strip club, I went to see male dancers and an "eye for an eye" isn't feeling good right now

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 28 April 2017.

Q.   I feel like the back story is needed (see below). But, my question is how do I let go of the fact my boyfriend went to a strip club TWO nights in a row while on business? I eneded up going to a male strip club for a girls night recently, now I'm ...

A.   28 April 2017: Either you trust your boyfriend, or you don't. You need to decide. If you trust him, STOP CHECKING ON HIM! That is out of order and will never end well. If you DON'T trust him, your relationship lacks any foundations, so wish him well and let... (read in full...)

Am I cheating on my boyfriend? ? Hope not.

Answered by YouWish + on 28 April 2017.

YouWish agony auntQ.   Am I cheating on my boyfriend!! I downloaded tinder to relook at my old profile which he knew about and I used it for a couple of days and got chatting to one Man for a while. Little thing or anything but i dont any feeling toward him ! But ...

A.   28 April 2017: Well, the question is - if this were your boyfriend chatting up another girl on Tinder behind your back, would you accept his justification of a "rough patch", or would you feel like he was being disloyal to you and to your relationship?? Becau... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has a fetish for my work clothes, is that weird?

Answered by YouWish + on 28 April 2017.

YouWish agony auntQ.   My boyfriend has a fetish for my work clothes, is that weird? I work in an office and wear skirts and blouses on a daily basis. When I first started dating him he said he loved what I was wearing but recently it seems to have got even more intens...

A.   28 April 2017: This one's classified as an okay, and healthy fetish! I was with a guy who had a serious foot fetish, and I remember once that I was going to replace a pair of tennis shoes. Since he was giving me a foot massage, I just mentioned that mine were ... (read in full...)

I want to help my boyfriend but I know I'll leave him eventually because my relationship is dead but I'm terribly attracted to his brother

Answered by Honeypie + on 28 April 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hello there, So I have been in a relationship for 9 years. We started out as friends with benefits and then when I got into trouble financially I moved in with him. He's nice and we get along...we would be great friends. I have occasionally tri...

A.   28 April 2017: You can do it OP It won't be easy, but you CAN do it. And you NEED to do it. Not just for you, but for your BF as well. Work on one thing at a time - if it takes a few months for you exit strategy to work, so be it. I'd probably start b... (read in full...)

He went to a strip club, I went to see male dancers and an "eye for an eye" isn't feeling good right now

Answered by fishdish + on 28 April 2017.

fishdish agony auntQ.   I feel like the back story is needed (see below). But, my question is how do I let go of the fact my boyfriend went to a strip club TWO nights in a row while on business? I eneded up going to a male strip club for a girls night recently, now I'm ...

A.   28 April 2017: So let me make sure I'm tracking-you are holding a grudge from something that happened 8 MONTHS ago, and acting on it and trying to rub it in his face? You have insecurity and trust issues. If you want to BUILD a relationship you don't approach ... (read in full...)

Is it too late to change careers?

Answered by Aunty BimBim + on 28 April 2017.

Aunty BimBim agony auntQ.   Not sure if this is the usual question on here but I would love advice. I work in finance, managing retirement funds. I have been in the industry for over 10 years and have been good at it. Lately I have felt incapable of making decisions follow...

A.   28 April 2017: Talk to your wife and get her onboard. I would also consider talking to your GP for a referral for a few counselling sessions, it seems you are taking the few bad decisions made difficult to reconcile with ... its possible you might feel better ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has a fetish for my work clothes, is that weird?

Answered by Honeypie + on 28 April 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   My boyfriend has a fetish for my work clothes, is that weird? I work in an office and wear skirts and blouses on a daily basis. When I first started dating him he said he loved what I was wearing but recently it seems to have got even more intens...

A.   28 April 2017: I don't think it's a bad thing at all. I'd be more worried if he wanted you to dress up in little girl's school uniforms, if you get my drift... I'd suggest he takes you SHOPPING for an outfit HE would like to see you in at home. However, IF y... (read in full...)

How would men feel if they joked about something sexual and their partner said yes?

Answered by Honeypie + on 28 April 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Before I start, let me just say, I am not a woman of the world. I didn't lose my virginity until my wedding night, aged 24. Me and my husband have been married 12 years now and are still very much in love. The problem is our sex life. It is very ...

A.   28 April 2017: I think this is actually a common problem for people who have had fewer partners (in your case, only one). You grow in so many ways WITH your partner but you also have some growth on your own, you have curiosity and fantasies that are YOURS. You a... (read in full...)

My husband wants to move to another country. I don't

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 28 April 2017.

Q.   My husband wants to move overseas to expand his business. He already has a team abroad but wants to be there in person. Long story short it makes sense for the business I, however, want to stay here. I'm not fond of the country he wants to move to...

A.   28 April 2017: Compromise. Maintain a home in the States, and live abroad six months out of a year. Come home and live in the States maybe seasonally; and take turns traveling back and forth between homes for the sake of the business. If he's not giving you a ch... (read in full...)

The fiance, the step daughter, the baby mama and possible cheating!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 28 April 2017.

Q.   Hello, I have been engaged for over 2 years to the man of my dreams. However,we dont get along all the time. He has a daughter and I have a son. Now, his babymother is in the picture and my son father is not. But he gets his daughter every w...

A.   28 April 2017: If your families don't blend and you're suspicious of his fidelity; why would you marry him? You base decisions on facts and research. You don't get along with his ex, you don't like his daughter, and you think his penis smelled like a condom. ... (read in full...)

He went to a strip club, I went to see male dancers and an "eye for an eye" isn't feeling good right now

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 28 April 2017.

Q.   I feel like the back story is needed (see below). But, my question is how do I let go of the fact my boyfriend went to a strip club TWO nights in a row while on business? I eneded up going to a male strip club for a girls night recently, now I'm ...

A.   28 April 2017: Tit for tat is a very childish way to handle what is supposed to be an adult relationship. If you're beginning a relationship fighting from the starting-gate; it's best you let it go. You're a bit hotheaded and he's too busy trying to show h... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is promised in an arranged marriage.

Answered by aunt honesty + on 27 April 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hey guys, I desperately need some help. There is an issue in my relationship with my girlfriend. My Gf is 2 years elder than me and damn we love each other a lot. We intend to get married, but due to her family pressure (as we belong from an I...

A.   27 April 2017: The choice here is hers not yours. She really needs to either choose a life with you or else respect her family wishes and marry a guy she doesn't want to. Yes she should have been honest with you and her family, but I do understand why she was ... (read in full...)

Married with kids and a husband I don't love.

Answered by aunt honesty + on 27 April 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I'm married with 2 kids, there isn't any real issues with my marriage nor my husband. For some time now I have felt like I don't love my husband anymore, it been over a year now, I don't enjoy his company, he doesn't interest me and I really str...

A.   27 April 2017: You don't have a mess of life. You need to get out off that frame of thinking. Surely you can see life could be so much worse. Off course you do need to talk to your husband about how you feel, and no their won't be no going back but at least you ... (read in full...)

I want to help my boyfriend but I know I'll leave him eventually because my relationship is dead but I'm terribly attracted to his brother

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   Hello there, So I have been in a relationship for 9 years. We started out as friends with benefits and then when I got into trouble financially I moved in with him. He's nice and we get along...we would be great friends. I have occasionally tri...

A.   27 April 2017: Thanks to all to replied. I know I should stay away from the brother....he's just there and I'm so lonely. But it would hurt my bf bad and he just doesn't deserve that awfulness. And just because he thinks I'll cheat its no excuse. Thank you for ... (read in full...)

Is it too late to change careers?

Answered by like I see it + on 27 April 2017.

like I see it agony auntQ.   Not sure if this is the usual question on here but I would love advice. I work in finance, managing retirement funds. I have been in the industry for over 10 years and have been good at it. Lately I have felt incapable of making decisions follow...

A.   27 April 2017: It's never too late. What you are thinking of may be a big change for you and your family, but it is totally achievable. You can ease the transition by making sure you have saved some money to send yourself back to school (if you will need to ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is promised in an arranged marriage.

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   Hey guys, I desperately need some help. There is an issue in my relationship with my girlfriend. My Gf is 2 years elder than me and damn we love each other a lot. We intend to get married, but due to her family pressure (as we belong from an I...

A.   27 April 2017: I feel if you really love someone, you do anything to be with that person. I'm not from your culture but being a parent I know I would never want my daughter to give herself to a man she didn't love. This hasn't been fair to you or to this man... (read in full...)

Is it too late to change careers?

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   Not sure if this is the usual question on here but I would love advice. I work in finance, managing retirement funds. I have been in the industry for over 10 years and have been good at it. Lately I have felt incapable of making decisions follow...

A.   27 April 2017: No, it is not too late to change careers. You are in the field of finance. You know how money works, compound interest, budgeting, etc. You are in a better position for this change than most. If you want to have a new career, start now and plan... (read in full...)

Boyfriend promised to pay for salon visit after being told the price then backed out but is willing to spend $$ on his niece??

Answered by chigirl + on 27 April 2017.

chigirl agony auntQ.   Last week, I told my boyfriend I'm going to get my hair colored for the first time. I showed him photos to get his opinion. After I settled on a style, he said he wanted to treat me to get my hair done. I told him he didn't have to do that and it ...

A.   27 April 2017: I don't think you're wrong to feel hurt by this. Sure, a gift to a kid is different, but you're not saying he should take the money for the gift and use it on you! That's not what bothers you, so don't feel petty. What bothers you is that is clearly ... (read in full...)

Our relationdhip is boring and I am just noticing what a scruff he is!

Answered by aunt honesty + on 27 April 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hiya everyone me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years we have a 1 yr old son together but lately my feelings have completed changed for him I notice all his bad habits and have now realised how boring the relationship is we never go out ...

A.   27 April 2017: We all get fed up from time to time in a relationship. It sounds like after three years you have both got in to a rut. When their is a little one involved as well things can seem a lot worse. It probably seems boring because you are at home with ... (read in full...)

Is he cheating on me if he's flirting in public with other girls? Should I kiss him for the first time at the party?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 27 April 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   hey guys i need some help. I am dating this boy that i have strong feelings for. But recently I see him flirting with some other girls like playing around, like poking their stomach,laughing,and talking a lot to each other in front of me knowing w...

A.   27 April 2017: Yeah he likes you but he also likes other girls. He is trying to get you to kiss him but you are saying no, he doesn't respect that. Because if he did he would be okay with waiting until you are ready but instead he is flirting with other girls to ... (read in full...)

Time to break up? Has the love faded? We talk less now and have less sex now.

Answered by aunt honesty + on 27 April 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Don't know if I should break up with my gf of 8 months. As the relationships progressed we've moved apart, we speak less, have sex a lot less, and don't get on aswell. The thing is, I know this is expected to some degree as a relationship goes on. ...

A.   27 April 2017: Staying with her because she is a good girlfriend is not enough. If you where happy and content you would not have the need to explore other women. So do what you need to do and end things. Be single and see what girls have to offer. Sow your wild ... (read in full...)

On a break from boyfriend and have a job offer in another town

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 27 April 2017.

Q.   My Bf and I are on a sort of break right now. We are still with each other but spending time with our own families to reassess what we both want. There is a job offer for Me far away from home but I won't be happy there (I will like the job just not ...

A.   27 April 2017: Make a grown-up decision. Apparently you need money and your independence. Nobody really takes a break from a relationship; it's just delaying a breakup. Being careful not to call it a breakup to make sure nobody runs to find rebound-sex while yo... (read in full...)

Is it normal for men to have sex when women are having their periods?

Answered by YouWish + on 27 April 2017.

YouWish agony auntQ.   I'm meeting up with my bf next month who stays in another city. The problem is that the date when I will be going, I might be on my periods. I've told him that already to which he has said that he's fine with it. What can this possibly mean? Is he ...

A.   27 April 2017: It's extremely common! My husband has zero problem with it, though I prefer not to! However, I don't know if anyone else agrees with me or not, but orgasm during menstruation feels different than otherwise. It's actually therapeutic for me in ... (read in full...)

Is it too late to change careers?

Answered by YouWish + on 27 April 2017.

YouWish agony auntQ.   Not sure if this is the usual question on here but I would love advice. I work in finance, managing retirement funds. I have been in the industry for over 10 years and have been good at it. Lately I have felt incapable of making decisions follow...

A.   27 April 2017: A friend of mine made the decision back when she was 53 years old that she would change her bookkeeping career. She went back to law school, got her degree, passed the bar, and is now very happy doing contract law. She asked me the same question ... (read in full...)

Why do many men prefer a tight vagina? Or do they? 2

Answered by aunt honesty + on 27 April 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Why do many men find a tight vagina so appealing? I was a late bloomer and lost my virginity to my current husband when I was in my 40's. I was married previously to a man who suffered erectile difficulties and was never able to have intercourse...

A.   27 April 2017: What a horrid judgmental husband you have. Not all women loose their tightness after childbirth or indeed with age. Your husband needs a lesson in how to treat and respect women. ... (read in full...)

He's still receiving messages from women on a dating site he joined earlier. How can I raise the subject with him?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 27 April 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I met my man through a dating site and all is fabulous 13 weeks on. He says I'm the one for him, and I love him dearly. Since we mutually agreed, that we are 'in a relationship' we both decided to cancel our match accounts. Mine is gone complete...

A.   27 April 2017: It is okay for him not to be sure you are the one, I mean after all this is still a new relationship. However it is not okay for him to be chatting to other girls and lying about it. You need to talk to him and tell him what you say. Explain to him ... (read in full...)

Did I do something so offensive that my b/f needs to rethink our relationship?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 27 April 2017.

Q.   Soooooo my bf and I have been together for a few years now. We have a mutual friend who we've been cool with for a decade. This friend chills with us every other day. My bf feels like our friend doesn't respect him and has attempted to talk with him ...

A.   27 April 2017: There is an unspoken guy-code. Maybe your friend crossed the line by asking you out. Just maybe he hangs around too much? He cleverly devises a plan; requesting a ride to the bar for something he forgot. Just so happens your boyfriend isn't av... (read in full...)

Is it normal for men to have sex when women are having their periods?

Answered by chigirl + on 27 April 2017.

chigirl agony auntQ.   I'm meeting up with my bf next month who stays in another city. The problem is that the date when I will be going, I might be on my periods. I've told him that already to which he has said that he's fine with it. What can this possibly mean? Is he ...

A.   27 April 2017: It's normal for men to not care of you are on your period. It feels just as good to them anyways, so they don't mind. Only immature men are scared of it. It's not twisted sex, it's a normal body function and normal men accept this. ... (read in full...)

He's still receiving messages from women on a dating site he joined earlier. How can I raise the subject with him?

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   I met my man through a dating site and all is fabulous 13 weeks on. He says I'm the one for him, and I love him dearly. Since we mutually agreed, that we are 'in a relationship' we both decided to cancel our match accounts. Mine is gone complete...

A.   27 April 2017: I think you should let him know what you saw and give him the benefit of the doubt at first. Try to ask him about it in a way that is not accusatory, and see what he says. ex question: "I saw that your Match profile is still active and that you ... (read in full...)

Is it too late to change careers?

Answered by chigirl + on 27 April 2017.

chigirl agony auntQ.   Not sure if this is the usual question on here but I would love advice. I work in finance, managing retirement funds. I have been in the industry for over 10 years and have been good at it. Lately I have felt incapable of making decisions follow...

A.   27 April 2017: It's not too late to change careers. Talk about this with your wife. How old are the children, and what are childcare options where you live? She can go to work. I think in this day and age, having a stay at home wife is a waste of resources and a ... (read in full...)

I don't have alot of experience with dating but not sure if what is going on in our relationship is normal

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 27 April 2017.

Q.   I've met this girl and we've been seeing each other for a little over a month. Both of us have never been in a relationship before so it's all new to each other. Whenever I'm around her I feel as if everything is so easy, talking and life in gene...

A.   27 April 2017: If she's a virgin, I don't think she's going to put as much pressure on you as you may be placing on yourself. it's when you start overthinking that you will become self-conscious and awkward. Don't worry about texting, and you will not always h... (read in full...)

Did I do something so offensive that my b/f needs to rethink our relationship?

Answered by Anonymous 123 + on 27 April 2017.

Anonymous 123 agony auntQ.   Soooooo my bf and I have been together for a few years now. We have a mutual friend who we've been cool with for a decade. This friend chills with us every other day. My bf feels like our friend doesn't respect him and has attempted to talk with him ...

A.   27 April 2017: Your boyfriend is clearly not ok with the friendship with the other guy. How has the relationship with him sustained for so long? And how and why does he hang out with you guys ever other day? Who's friend was he to begin with... Yours or his? ... (read in full...)

Is it normal for men to have sex when women are having their periods?

Answered by Anonymous 123 + on 27 April 2017.

Anonymous 123 agony auntQ.   I'm meeting up with my bf next month who stays in another city. The problem is that the date when I will be going, I might be on my periods. I've told him that already to which he has said that he's fine with it. What can this possibly mean? Is he ...

A.   27 April 2017: He's just desperate to be with you, periods or no periods! It doesn't matter to some men... It's not about being kinky or gross, it just doesn't matter to them. If you are comfortable with it then go ahead. If not, then you can always say no a... (read in full...)

He's still receiving messages from women on a dating site he joined earlier. How can I raise the subject with him?

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   I met my man through a dating site and all is fabulous 13 weeks on. He says I'm the one for him, and I love him dearly. Since we mutually agreed, that we are 'in a relationship' we both decided to cancel our match accounts. Mine is gone complete...

A.   27 April 2017: OP, I just sent you the previous response but I have something to added. If I were you, I would just END it. On the strength of his two key actions. #1. He is STILL ACTIVE on a dating site when he told you he wasn't. #2. AND he is... (read in full...)

He's still receiving messages from women on a dating site he joined earlier. How can I raise the subject with him?

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   I met my man through a dating site and all is fabulous 13 weeks on. He says I'm the one for him, and I love him dearly. Since we mutually agreed, that we are 'in a relationship' we both decided to cancel our match accounts. Mine is gone complete...

A.   27 April 2017: Oh sweetheart, men will say ANYTHING to get the goods. You are old enough to know this and old enough to know better! You are just choosing to think with your vagina instead of your head. You like the sex, love it, and the guy is good at i... (read in full...)

Is it normal for men to have sex when women are having their periods?

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   I'm meeting up with my bf next month who stays in another city. The problem is that the date when I will be going, I might be on my periods. I've told him that already to which he has said that he's fine with it. What can this possibly mean? Is he ...

A.   27 April 2017: I've often had sex with my boyfriends when having a period. Never thought twice about it. If you both want it and are both fine with it, what's the problem? ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend promised to pay for salon visit after being told the price then backed out but is willing to spend $$ on his niece??

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   Last week, I told my boyfriend I'm going to get my hair colored for the first time. I showed him photos to get his opinion. After I settled on a style, he said he wanted to treat me to get my hair done. I told him he didn't have to do that and it ...

A.   27 April 2017: You were all ready to pay for your appointment yourself and you don't really care about how much he's spending on his niece, so this question is really about the fact that he offered something, offered it and then changed his mind when he found out ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend lost her virginity to another guy while we were on a break!

Answered by Viv's_Shady + on 27 April 2017.

Viv's_Shady agony auntQ.   Hi everyone, Well me and my girlfriend were both virgins, well I still am and we have been going out for 4 years. We were waiting for a right time for us to be together before we actually do this and we both agreed. We both love each other so mu...

A.   27 April 2017: Woow man, I really comprehend you, actually right now I'm in a very similar situation with my girlfriend, we dated for some time (by this time she was still virgin) and things were going good but then she kind of got bored and told me that we should ... (read in full...)

Is it normal for men to have sex when women are having their periods?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 27 April 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   I'm meeting up with my bf next month who stays in another city. The problem is that the date when I will be going, I might be on my periods. I've told him that already to which he has said that he's fine with it. What can this possibly mean? Is he ...

A.   27 April 2017: Some do, some don't. Unless he's excited about it, I wouldn't say it's a preference of his. Personally, I'd feel gross if I was intimate with a guy while I was on my period, but some don't care. If you don't want to, don't. If you do, you can ... (read in full...)

Is it too late to change careers?

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   Not sure if this is the usual question on here but I would love advice. I work in finance, managing retirement funds. I have been in the industry for over 10 years and have been good at it. Lately I have felt incapable of making decisions follow...

A.   27 April 2017: If you haven't already, talk to your wife. Explain you are unhappy. She knows you and your situation better than we can. She may be happy to go back to work and make up any shortfall in income. If this is a temporary rough patch then I would just ... (read in full...)

I am at the end of desperation with my relationship problem.

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 27 April 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   I am a married man and I got involved with this super nice girl at work. I love her slightly more than my wife but I can't leave my marriage because of my children. I wanted to leave my wife until my children confronted me and I had no choice. When ...

A.   27 April 2017: Stop acting like you're the victim. YOU CAUSED THIS! Of course your wife went crazy and your kids confronted you. I'm pretty sure you can get a divorce even if she won't sign it. She is not your "girlfriend" because you are married! You hav... (read in full...)

Is it normal for men to have sex when women are having their periods?

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   I'm meeting up with my bf next month who stays in another city. The problem is that the date when I will be going, I might be on my periods. I've told him that already to which he has said that he's fine with it. What can this possibly mean? Is he ...

A.   27 April 2017: I am horniest on my period and have NO problem with period sex. In fact, I LOVE IT. Thankfully my boyfriend does too! If you are in the mood, just go for it. It is a little messier but who cares? You don't really notice when you are in t... (read in full...)

Is it normal for men to have sex when women are having their periods?

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   I'm meeting up with my bf next month who stays in another city. The problem is that the date when I will be going, I might be on my periods. I've told him that already to which he has said that he's fine with it. What can this possibly mean? Is he ...

A.   27 April 2017: He's said he's fine with it ...well you can't help being on your period! ! Would you of preferred him to say he doesn't want to see you cause your on your period ??? Maybe he ment he doesn't care that your on your period and he still wants to see ... (read in full...)

Are the things we find attractive different for men and women?

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   I can appreciate attractive people but find that in order to get aroused by a man or turned on , I need to know him and feel an attraction . A man simply looking physically attractive is not enough to turn me on. Therefore pictures of random naked ...

A.   27 April 2017: Of course women's sex drives can be as potent as a man's but not with someone we're not attracted to! Whether in your opinion or anyone's opinion, that person is in fact, attractive! We wouldn't have sex with a stranger on a desert island if ther... (read in full...)

Where do I stand in this relationship? What can I say to him to get the answers I need? 2

Answered by aunt honesty + on 27 April 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   So I've been talking/meeting this guy since last May, which is nearly a year ! He says he doesn't want to rush into a relationship because his last girlfriend cheated on him. And he tells me to be patient for a relationship because he will have to...

A.   27 April 2017: Sweetie he already knows he shouldn't treat you like this. The truth is he likes the attention you give him but he does not see you as a girlfriend. Just because he has told you he loves you doesn't mean that it is true. Words don't mean anything, ... (read in full...)

Is it too late to change careers?

Answered by JJ173 + on 27 April 2017.

Q.   Not sure if this is the usual question on here but I would love advice. I work in finance, managing retirement funds. I have been in the industry for over 10 years and have been good at it. Lately I have felt incapable of making decisions follow...

A.   27 April 2017: Regret will eat you up if youre unhappy. Research heavily and then research some before you make that jump.... (read in full...)

My wife's co-worker gifted her diamond jewellery. Would "just friends" do this?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 27 April 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   My wife recently received a "HW" diamond ankle bracelet and matching toe rings (2) from a fellow worker who she swears is just a good friend. They go out of town on business trips two or three times a month staying for at lest 2 nights each ...

A.   27 April 2017: If it works for you both then great, but come in if it was purely sexual then why on earth would he be buying her diamonds? The short answer is he wouldn't. Am sorry but their is more between them than she is telling you, she has lied so far so who ... (read in full...)

I don't have alot of experience with dating but not sure if what is going on in our relationship is normal

Answered by femmefemale + on 27 April 2017.

Q.   I've met this girl and we've been seeing each other for a little over a month. Both of us have never been in a relationship before so it's all new to each other. Whenever I'm around her I feel as if everything is so easy, talking and life in gene...

A.   27 April 2017: How sweet. Give it some time. The way things are going are perfectly fine. Sex with a new partner can take some time to get used to and to find our rhythm as partners. In terms of not thinking about her as much days after seeing her, that's n... (read in full...)

Did I do something so offensive that my b/f needs to rethink our relationship?

Answered by Fatherly Advice + on 27 April 2017.

Fatherly Advice agony auntQ.   Soooooo my bf and I have been together for a few years now. We have a mutual friend who we've been cool with for a decade. This friend chills with us every other day. My bf feels like our friend doesn't respect him and has attempted to talk with him ...

A.   27 April 2017: You don't agree on boundaries. You violated his reasonable boundary, by going on a date with someone else. Alcohol has well known effects of lowering inhibition. It doesn't matter what we out in the internet think, Your boyfriend thinks you have... (read in full...)

He watches porn of girls that are the age of our daughters! I can't help but be turned off!

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   Have been getting serious with a man for some time now and he Is talking about future things . I recently was at his house and his computer is full of porn . I knew he watched porn but all the women were around 20 at oldest 25 . It honestly made me ...

A.   27 April 2017: Male anon responding to OP here: On behalf of all men in the UK (and other countries) that have never and will never cheat on their partner, I think you should finish the relationship. You clearly do not trust him and clearly want to control ... (read in full...)

Is it normal for men to have sex when women are having their periods?

Answered by Fatherly Advice + on 27 April 2017.

Fatherly Advice agony auntQ.   I'm meeting up with my bf next month who stays in another city. The problem is that the date when I will be going, I might be on my periods. I've told him that already to which he has said that he's fine with it. What can this possibly mean? Is he ...

A.   27 April 2017: well there is that normal word again. What may be normal here may not be normal there, and what may be normal for one person may be out of bounds for another. But, to answer your question in a most helpful, way, it certainly is possible, and it i... (read in full...)

Why do many men prefer a tight vagina? Or do they? 2

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   Why do many men find a tight vagina so appealing? I was a late bloomer and lost my virginity to my current husband when I was in my 40's. I was married previously to a man who suffered erectile difficulties and was never able to have intercourse...

A.   27 April 2017: chaps- OP has said nothing about children....... (read in full...)

Is it normal for men to have sex when women are having their periods?

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   I'm meeting up with my bf next month who stays in another city. The problem is that the date when I will be going, I might be on my periods. I've told him that already to which he has said that he's fine with it. What can this possibly mean? Is he ...

A.   27 April 2017: There's nothing abnormal about havng sex while the girl is on her period. Some men are abothered by it, some aren't. Don't overthink it, he just wants to have sex with you and you being on your period doesn't put him off!!... (read in full...)

We used to text a lot up until yesterday. Should I be worried?

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   I've been dating a girl for about a month or so no. We really get on and when we are together time flys, we text quite a lot too.. More or less every morning she sends a good morning message, if she falls asleep before receiving my good night t...

A.   27 April 2017: as someone who worked more hours than I care to remember . I am now a charge nurse ( equal to a matron ) I work in mental health where you work more 18hrs at times. I also did a cocsa degree course on days off and night school paid by NHS for ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend promised to pay for salon visit after being told the price then backed out but is willing to spend $$ on his niece??

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 27 April 2017.

Q.   Last week, I told my boyfriend I'm going to get my hair colored for the first time. I showed him photos to get his opinion. After I settled on a style, he said he wanted to treat me to get my hair done. I told him he didn't have to do that and it ...

A.   27 April 2017: Uhm...why are you jealous of a three year-old child? You shouldn't have even brought the matter of his niece into this situation. He has every right to resend the offer if he felt it cost too much; if he was also planning to by the toy set f... (read in full...)

Boyfriend promised to pay for salon visit after being told the price then backed out but is willing to spend $$ on his niece??

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   Last week, I told my boyfriend I'm going to get my hair colored for the first time. I showed him photos to get his opinion. After I settled on a style, he said he wanted to treat me to get my hair done. I told him he didn't have to do that and it ...

A.   27 April 2017: The question here could he have afforded to pay the $200? As a guy if in such situation I would have coughed up the $200 if I could afford it, as promise is a promise, but next time I would have been more careful with my promises.... (read in full...)

We used to text a lot up until yesterday. Should I be worried?

Answered by jls022 + on 27 April 2017.

Q.   I've been dating a girl for about a month or so no. We really get on and when we are together time flys, we text quite a lot too.. More or less every morning she sends a good morning message, if she falls asleep before receiving my good night t...

A.   27 April 2017: As someone who is currently working 40 hours a week and studying for a masters, I know all about being busy so I feel I'm more than qualified to answer this question. While I'm usually very good at replying to people, recently there have been a f... (read in full...)

I am at the end of desperation with my relationship problem.

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 27 April 2017.

Q.   I am a married man and I got involved with this super nice girl at work. I love her slightly more than my wife but I can't leave my marriage because of my children. I wanted to leave my wife until my children confronted me and I had no choice. When ...

A.   27 April 2017: You are quite a selfish man. You go on and on about this love for another man's wife, in spite of the agony your cheating has caused your own family. It's like you're making a mockery of all the aunts and uncles by going on and on with your story. ... (read in full...)

Is it too late to change careers?

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   Not sure if this is the usual question on here but I would love advice. I work in finance, managing retirement funds. I have been in the industry for over 10 years and have been good at it. Lately I have felt incapable of making decisions follow...

A.   27 April 2017: Keep in mind that there is the risk of making mistakes in every job. As the saying goes you don't learn if you don't make mistakes. By profession I am an engineer and by God the mistakes there are costly and difficult to correct.and I assure you I ... (read in full...)

Why do many men prefer a tight vagina? Or do they? 2

Answered by olderthandirt + on 27 April 2017.

olderthandirt agony auntQ.   Why do many men find a tight vagina so appealing? I was a late bloomer and lost my virginity to my current husband when I was in my 40's. I was married previously to a man who suffered erectile difficulties and was never able to have intercourse...

A.   27 April 2017: Tight vaginas are not necessarily better or worse just different. my wife is so tight as to make penetration painful and nearly impossible not a good thing at all.I'd prefer a snug fit but not a prolapse situation.... (read in full...)

Is it normal for men to have sex when women are having their periods?

Answered by olderthandirt + on 27 April 2017.

olderthandirt agony auntQ.   I'm meeting up with my bf next month who stays in another city. The problem is that the date when I will be going, I might be on my periods. I've told him that already to which he has said that he's fine with it. What can this possibly mean? Is he ...

A.   27 April 2017: Not "normal" But acceptable.... (read in full...)

Is it normal for men to have sex when women are having their periods?

Answered by CMMP + on 27 April 2017.

Q.   I'm meeting up with my bf next month who stays in another city. The problem is that the date when I will be going, I might be on my periods. I've told him that already to which he has said that he's fine with it. What can this possibly mean? Is he ...

A.   27 April 2017: He's just horny, don't over think it. I doubt it's his preference.... (read in full...)

Are the things we find attractive different for men and women?

Answered by Denizen + on 27 April 2017.

Denizen agony auntQ.   I can appreciate attractive people but find that in order to get aroused by a man or turned on , I need to know him and feel an attraction . A man simply looking physically attractive is not enough to turn me on. Therefore pictures of random naked ...

A.   27 April 2017: To be honest, Female Anon I find the insinuation that all men are testosterone-driven, sex-crazed animals who can't wait to hump the nearest female a tiresome generalisation. It is a point of view that needs to be challenged at every oppo... (read in full...)

He's still receiving messages from women on a dating site he joined earlier. How can I raise the subject with him?

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   I met my man through a dating site and all is fabulous 13 weeks on. He says I'm the one for him, and I love him dearly. Since we mutually agreed, that we are 'in a relationship' we both decided to cancel our match accounts. Mine is gone complete...

A.   27 April 2017: Thanks for your replies, hmmm yes, I hear what you are saying, it is suspicious, and yes, I'm naive, it's too early to know someone enough to love them after just 13 weeks. However, it was he who first declared his 'love' to me, telling me, I am the ... (read in full...)

Why do many men prefer a tight vagina? Or do they? 2

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   Why do many men find a tight vagina so appealing? I was a late bloomer and lost my virginity to my current husband when I was in my 40's. I was married previously to a man who suffered erectile difficulties and was never able to have intercourse...

A.   27 April 2017: The male anon below seems to know a lot about female vaginas after childbirth . Makes me wonder exactly how many he has actually had . Neither my exes nor my wife's lost tightness after childbirth. That's what the vagina is designed for.... (read in full...)

Boyfriend promised to pay for salon visit after being told the price then backed out but is willing to spend $$ on his niece??

Answered by Honeypie + on 27 April 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Last week, I told my boyfriend I'm going to get my hair colored for the first time. I showed him photos to get his opinion. After I settled on a style, he said he wanted to treat me to get my hair done. I told him he didn't have to do that and it ...

A.   27 April 2017: I wouldn't compare either. Him buying a present for his niece is a whole other matter. So don't USE that as an "argument" because it makes YOU look petty and entitled. Imagine if he did that to a little kid?! Do I think you have the right t... (read in full...)

I don't have alot of experience with dating but not sure if what is going on in our relationship is normal

Answered by Phil052 + on 27 April 2017.

Phil052 agony auntQ.   I've met this girl and we've been seeing each other for a little over a month. Both of us have never been in a relationship before so it's all new to each other. Whenever I'm around her I feel as if everything is so easy, talking and life in gene...

A.   27 April 2017: I think you just need to give it time. It was her first time ever and your first time together so it would be unlikely to be an earth shattering moment. You need more time to get to know each other, both as people and sexually. Relax and enjoy the ... (read in full...)

Is it too late to change careers?

Answered by Phil052 + on 27 April 2017.

Phil052 agony auntQ.   Not sure if this is the usual question on here but I would love advice. I work in finance, managing retirement funds. I have been in the industry for over 10 years and have been good at it. Lately I have felt incapable of making decisions follow...

A.   27 April 2017: My advice is don't change careers just to get away from a tricky patch you have been through. Only change career if there is something else you really want to do.... (read in full...)

Am I cheating on my boyfriend? ? Hope not.

Answered by chigirl + on 27 April 2017.

chigirl agony auntQ.   Am I cheating on my boyfriend!! I downloaded tinder to relook at my old profile which he knew about and I used it for a couple of days and got chatting to one Man for a while. Little thing or anything but i dont any feeling toward him ! But ...

A.   27 April 2017: You've not cheated, but you have entered the gray area and you yourself don't approve of this behavior. So you should stop. Decide if you want to be with your boyfriend or not, before you start to seek affection and attention elsewhere. ... (read in full...)

My wife's co-worker gifted her diamond jewellery. Would "just friends" do this?

Answered by chigirl + on 27 April 2017.

chigirl agony auntQ.   My wife recently received a "HW" diamond ankle bracelet and matching toe rings (2) from a fellow worker who she swears is just a good friend. They go out of town on business trips two or three times a month staying for at lest 2 nights each ...

A.   27 April 2017: You know what OP? I think if it works for you, and you and your wife are both happy with this arrangement, and you both want to stay married, then this might be just what your marriage needs. I mean if sex is the only problem here, you don't want it ... (read in full...)

I just want to get over my ex and completely move on!

Answered by Dane-Marie + on 27 April 2017.

Dane-Marie agony auntQ.   I went out with a guy about 12- 13 years ago when I was still in my teens - he was around 3 years older than me at the time. He was the first person that I had ever really fell for, and I would consider him my first love. I sometimes regret a few ...

A.   27 April 2017: You really need to let go off this man.He is not worth your time and energy.Think about what he's done.He broke up with you,he then led you on by still sending saucy messages to you and kissing you.But if he truly loved you he would have made it ... (read in full...)

He watches porn of girls that are the age of our daughters! I can't help but be turned off!

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   Have been getting serious with a man for some time now and he Is talking about future things . I recently was at his house and his computer is full of porn . I knew he watched porn but all the women were around 20 at oldest 25 . It honestly made me ...

A.   27 April 2017:  That is almost like saying every man would cheat on their wife if they knew they would not get caught. That's a pretty sexist attitude. ... (read in full...)

Why do many men prefer a tight vagina? Or do they? 2

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   Why do many men find a tight vagina so appealing? I was a late bloomer and lost my virginity to my current husband when I was in my 40's. I was married previously to a man who suffered erectile difficulties and was never able to have intercourse...

A.   27 April 2017:  A vagina loses the tightness after child birth. There seem to be vagina connoisseurs out there who do give attention to such details but I think most men are grateful to women who let them have access to theirs let alone question its tightness.... (read in full...)

On a break from boyfriend and have a job offer in another town

Answered by YouWish + on 27 April 2017.

YouWish agony auntQ.   My Bf and I are on a sort of break right now. We are still with each other but spending time with our own families to reassess what we both want. There is a job offer for Me far away from home but I won't be happy there (I will like the job just not ...

A.   27 April 2017: Dear Stability Nerd, ;) (Couldn't resist!) You *do* realize that this is a no brainer, right? The universe is trying to hit you over the head, telling you that it's time to make a life change. Nothing new will happen unless you take t... (read in full...)

I am at the end of desperation with my relationship problem.

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   I am a married man and I got involved with this super nice girl at work. I love her slightly more than my wife but I can't leave my marriage because of my children. I wanted to leave my wife until my children confronted me and I had no choice. When ...

A.   27 April 2017: I am only staying in this marriage because my children came up to me and asked me what was happening and why was I doing all these to their mother! I had no choice but to appease her so that she will not keep on quarrelling, fighting and shouting at ... (read in full...)

My partner versus my children. Am I over-reacting about it all ?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 27 April 2017.

Q.   I've had a big argument with my partner and I'm wondering if I'm in the wrong about it all. I have two children from a previous relationship who are 13 and 11 and I think they are well behaved. They do extremely well in school, at parents evening ...

A.   27 April 2017: You call him a partner. Is he a live-in boyfriend or fiance? You don't want to let him see your confrontational/bitchy side; because you want him to think you're a better woman than any of his exes. So you avoid confronting or challenging him. You... (read in full...)

My wife's co-worker gifted her diamond jewellery. Would "just friends" do this?

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   My wife recently received a "HW" diamond ankle bracelet and matching toe rings (2) from a fellow worker who she swears is just a good friend. They go out of town on business trips two or three times a month staying for at lest 2 nights each ...

A.   27 April 2017: WOW, OP! I am not sure how you do it but if my husband was eating out another woman's pussy, the marriage would be OVER. There would be no salvaging it. Did I say OVER? As in FINISHED? OVER. DONE WITH. Forever. Amen. Hats off t... (read in full...)

My partner versus my children. Am I over-reacting about it all ?

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   I've had a big argument with my partner and I'm wondering if I'm in the wrong about it all. I have two children from a previous relationship who are 13 and 11 and I think they are well behaved. They do extremely well in school, at parents evening ...

A.   27 April 2017: You are not overreacting, he is. It sounds like you have two well adjusted girls, don't let him change that. If he has a problem with your parent skills he should talk to you in private, and never compare you to someone else. Your top prior... (read in full...)

On a break from boyfriend and have a job offer in another town

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   My Bf and I are on a sort of break right now. We are still with each other but spending time with our own families to reassess what we both want. There is a job offer for Me far away from home but I won't be happy there (I will like the job just not ...

A.   27 April 2017: Perhaps its time to redefine yourself rather than going in circles! However the offer of a job with money coming in must be very tempting. When you say its cushy I am assuming that you find it easy to do! In that case it may be time to be earnin... (read in full...)

How do I deal with my rude and bossy co-workers? 2

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   I am in a sticky situation. I've been at my job for a little over 6 months. I think I'm rather a good workers and me and the managers hit it off well. The problem I'm having is with some of my co workers. I know it sounds juvenile but there ar...

A.   27 April 2017: Sometimes there is no magic formula! If you are surrounded by jealous work colleagues and your life is miserable as a result you can start looking for another job with a better working environment! You need to be respected at work and jealousy... (read in full...)

How can I stop being intimidating and build lasting relationships?

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2017.

Q.   I have always had difficulties with relationship with men and I genuinely want some advice and help. It would really mean a lot! I have grown up to be a perfectionist since I was young. Mastering four languages, national level in art, three instr...

A.   27 April 2017: Quite possibly you are so busy striving that you have forgotton to have empathy with people. Forget it! You are no prodigy! You are just a girl who works exceptionally hard and have managed to achieve a lot! If you could try talking to other... (read in full...)

Married with kids and a husband I don't love.

Answered by anonymous on 26 April 2017.

Q.   I'm married with 2 kids, there isn't any real issues with my marriage nor my husband. For some time now I have felt like I don't love my husband anymore, it been over a year now, I don't enjoy his company, he doesn't interest me and I really str...

A.   26 April 2017: I think you are stuck in half wayu land and as you are only half way through your therapy its not surprising! If you took away your guilt about making bad decisions and your mental paralysis about future ones you would realise that you are left in a... (read in full...)

Am I expecting too much from a relationship?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 26 April 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I have been happily dating a divorced man with two children of ten and 12 for a year. Mine has grown up. We get on well and the six elements I look for ie trust, loyalty, good job, own home, sense of humour and intellect are all there. We all get on ...

A.   26 April 2017: If you need to question it then their must be something wrong in the relationship. Personally it would drive me crazy if my partner didn't talk to me about personal issues. He needs to open up more to you. As for the intimacy, well it is true that... (read in full...)

He doesn't want to be more than FWB do I tell him how I feel?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 26 April 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hi I've been friends with a guy for 3years the friendship turned to friends with benefits in January he stopped talking to me and now has got back in contact with me he said he stopped talking to me as he had soem family issues which he explained. ...

A.   26 April 2017: Be honest with him and tell him why you cannot be friends with benefits any more. Be clear to him that you have feelings and you don't want to get hurt then cut contact with him. He may have been a friend but he started ignoring you which was a ... (read in full...)

How can I find out if my neighbor likes me?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 26 April 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hi, I live in a mid terrace block of 3. To one side I have my sibling and to the other I have a really nice guy. I moved in here near the end of last year and I must admit it was a shock. Not because I have a place of my own, but because it's nex...

A.   26 April 2017: When he has the children invite them all over for dinner. That way you will get a chance to get to know him even better. Don't run before you can walk. Just take your time and get to know him before building up your hopes. Good luck. ... (read in full...)

Is my girlfriend being a hypocrite?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 26 April 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Is my girlfriend being a hypocrite? So, my girlfriend works as a cam girl on a website. I was aware of her occupation before we started dating. Since she was on that site, I thought there'd be no problem if I register as a member of that site too...

A.   26 April 2017: This is totally unfair? What are you a child? Honestly it sounds like you are spitting out your dummy and taking a tantrum. She does this as a living. You knew that but you still decided to be with her. That does not mean you get a free pass to view ... (read in full...)

Should my girlfriend be posting photos of the guy she was seeing when we were broken up?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 26 April 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hi, Recently broke up with my girlfriend and in our break we both were sexually active. The girl I slept with is around at all but the guy is as he's her friend. We got back together recently and she still posts photos of her with him and usually ...

A.   26 April 2017: The real issue here is you both felt the need to get with someone else on a break. Real relationships don't just have breaks, they work together to make it work. Honestly it sounds like this girl doesn't care about your feelings. Because if she was ... (read in full...)

Despite my scepticism, will I ever, in the future, be likely to have a close connection and a loving mutually satisfying relationship with a man?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 26 April 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Info- 23/F/from the UK Ok so I'm gonna try and be as basic as I can with my question, so you don't have to read pages of rubbish lol I'm basically extremely skeptical that I'll EVER meet anybody in the future who I'll feel a close connection...

A.   26 April 2017: You need to get over the mistakes you made in the past. We all make mistakes, but you now need to realize that he is never going to come back to you. Stop living with the idea that he was the only man for you. Start accepting that it is over now and ... (read in full...)

Should I ask my husband about his scratch? Could he be cheating?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 26 April 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Could a small scratch on your husband's ear - behind the ear lobe - mean he cheated? I just noticed it today. He was not clean shaven. He had stubble on his cheeks. So it could not be a razor cut. Should I confront him or leave it be?...

A.   26 April 2017: OP tell us the real issue here, share with us why you don't trust your husband and maybe we can help.... (read in full...)

The boyfriend, the receipt and not sure of the meaning behind leaving it out

Answered by aunt honesty + on 26 April 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   We went out with my boyfriend and my parents for lunch. My parents are visiting from another country. They have met 3 times.. At lunch I asked the waitress for the check, my father wanted to pay. My boyfriend quickly left and I saw he is paying the ...

A.   26 April 2017: Wow I really cannot believe him leaving the receipt in a cup holder has you wondering is he cheap. There must be more to this than you are saying, either that or you are completely over reacting. It was a nice thing to do, he did it discretely and ... (read in full...)

He watches porn of girls that are the age of our daughters! I can't help but be turned off!

Answered by anonymous on 26 April 2017.

Q.   Have been getting serious with a man for some time now and he Is talking about future things . I recently was at his house and his computer is full of porn . I knew he watched porn but all the women were around 20 at oldest 25 . It honestly made me ...

A.   26 April 2017: Male anon , as I pointed out , he's not going to be able to get a women twenty years younger with a porn star body unless hell Freezes over . I believe one thousand percent that EVERY man Who watches those women would have sex with them over the... (read in full...)

How do I deal with my rude and bossy co-workers? 2

Answered by CoreMessage + on 26 April 2017.

CoreMessage agony auntQ.   I am in a sticky situation. I've been at my job for a little over 6 months. I think I'm rather a good workers and me and the managers hit it off well. The problem I'm having is with some of my co workers. I know it sounds juvenile but there ar...

A.   26 April 2017: Just continue ignoring them and don't let it get to you. They're being childish and they're not worth your time. But, if you want, anytime they ask you to do something and they do so bossily, pretend you haven't heard. If they cant use manners,... (read in full...)

Are the things we find attractive different for men and women?

Answered by anonymous on 26 April 2017.

Q.   I can appreciate attractive people but find that in order to get aroused by a man or turned on , I need to know him and feel an attraction . A man simply looking physically attractive is not enough to turn me on. Therefore pictures of random naked ...

A.   26 April 2017: Hi Drnozen this is not the anon female you refer to but I read your reposted with interest . Are you referring to the few days a month some women menstruate ? I think that poster was saying that men's hormones influence 365 days a year ( I could be ... (read in full...)

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