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Why did she keep that key ring for so long?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 October 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I have a friend who flirts with me all the time.We used to have a great friendship until one day I heard her saying I'm annoyed.We had an argument and have each other cold shoulders.However,recently I wrote a letter to her saying that I really don't ...

A.   21 October 2017: I agree with Denizen, She didn't WANT to give you the keyring because she didn't really want to deal with you. Not because she has a crush on you. She felt OBLIGATED to give you the keyring. Honestly? You are wasting your time trying to be "fr... (read in full...)

Most of the things he does really gets on my nerves!

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 October 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I have been going out with a guy for almost a year now, when we first started going out I thought he was really sweet and I really liked him, we see each other every week but now it's been nearly a year I feel like things have changed, he still ...

A.   21 October 2017: I agree, the expiration date of your relationship has shown up. You two are still young and maturing but at different paces. You are outgrowing him. You can love someone and NOT be with them because they are NOT (or no longer) a good m... (read in full...)

Most of the things he does really gets on my nerves!

Answered by Ciar + on 21 October 2017.

Ciar agony auntQ.   I have been going out with a guy for almost a year now, when we first started going out I thought he was really sweet and I really liked him, we see each other every week but now it's been nearly a year I feel like things have changed, he still ...

A.   21 October 2017: Break up with him. You've outgrown the relationship. You're not married to him, and you don't have children with him. You're only dating and that's the whole point of dating. To see if you're compatible before you make any big commitme... (read in full...)

Does my FWB have feelings for me?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 October 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I've been friends with benefits with a guy for over 3 years. We hook up nearly every week. I telephoned him today to speak to him, he was busy building a draw and I didn't realise I was on loud speaker, during the call we were talking and he was ...

A.   21 October 2017: 3 days of FWB? Sorry, OP he is not going to change his mind and all of a sudden want a relationship with you. He has shown that over 3 years. What exactly did you think would change? And WHY waste more of your time on a guy who really... don't gi... (read in full...)

The guy I'm seeing is always getting mad at me?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 21 October 2017.

Q.   The guy I'm seeing is always getting mad at me? We have an odd relationship, we say we love each other all the time. He says he's not ready to date (we've been in a like-dating stage for 3 years). I have fallen in love with him. But I feel like I'm ...

A.   21 October 2017: I meant to say: "My saddest guess is that you don't; or they might be more protective of you!" ... (read in full...)

The guy I'm seeing is always getting mad at me?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 21 October 2017.

Q.   The guy I'm seeing is always getting mad at me? We have an odd relationship, we say we love each other all the time. He says he's not ready to date (we've been in a like-dating stage for 3 years). I have fallen in love with him. But I feel like I'm ...

A.   21 October 2017: Please get yourself out of this situation! It is unhealthy for you in so many ways; and on so many different levels. You are very young, and if you aren't being counseled or receiving therapy after sexual-assault; you may be getting yourself into an ... (read in full...)

Can you clarify his behavior?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 21 October 2017.

Q.   I recently started seeing a new physician. I don't know his relationship status but I know that he doesn't wear a wedding ring. He asks me personal questions like if I am dating anybody, how my sex life is, and what I like to do on my days off. He ...

A.   21 October 2017: He is being inappropriate. It's unprofessional for him to ask questions unrelated to your health. His unethical behavior reflects on his character, both as a doctor and as a man. That is, if you're not the one looking to date a doctor! He is s... (read in full...)

Most of the things he does really gets on my nerves!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 21 October 2017.

Q.   I have been going out with a guy for almost a year now, when we first started going out I thought he was really sweet and I really liked him, we see each other every week but now it's been nearly a year I feel like things have changed, he still ...

A.   21 October 2017: When you aren't in-love with the guy you call your boyfriend, you must breakup with him. Let him find someone else, that he doesn't irritate. He's too immature for you. Some people only hold-on to their boyfriends or girlfriends; because they're ... (read in full...)

Anyone moved around places to find they end up back to where they started? l

Answered by Denizen + on 21 October 2017.

Denizen agony auntQ.   Anyone moved around places to find they end up back to where they started? lived in a house for 3 years then moved into a flat in the beginning of this year for 1 month. it was large enough and seemed fine at the time but looking back it was not ...

A.   21 October 2017: There is a wonderful piece in Marlowe's Dr Faustus, in which Mephistopheles, the devil, first appears to him. Faustus asks him if he be a devil then how comes he out of hell? Mephistopheles replies, "Why this is hell Faustus, nor am I out of it". I... (read in full...)

Why did she keep that key ring for so long?

Answered by Denizen + on 21 October 2017.

Denizen agony auntQ.   I have a friend who flirts with me all the time.We used to have a great friendship until one day I heard her saying I'm annoyed.We had an argument and have each other cold shoulders.However,recently I wrote a letter to her saying that I really don't ...

A.   21 October 2017: I don't think this person has any strong feelings for you from what you said. Quite the opposite if I am honest. If you have feelings for someone you make an effort. This has not been the case, has it?... (read in full...)

My boyfriend revealed a secret and my question is how do I deal with what he told me?

Answered by CindyCares + on 21 October 2017.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   My new boyfriend of almost 5 month has been suffering from ptsd i knew this when we first got together , he decided to be open tonight and told me a shocking secret he had kept from me , he admitted he sometimes smokes weed to help him relax and ...

A.   21 October 2017:  Curious how the people who suggests you to relax your stance on drugs seems to forget that cannabis is a class B illegal drug in Uk, and its commerce / trafficking is punished with up to 14 years in jail, while even simple possession can land... (read in full...)

Does my FWB have feelings for me?

Answered by CindyCares + on 21 October 2017.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   I've been friends with benefits with a guy for over 3 years. We hook up nearly every week. I telephoned him today to speak to him, he was busy building a draw and I didn't realise I was on loud speaker, during the call we were talking and he was ...

A.   21 October 2017:  No, Op, it won't work out " one day ". I am not saying that it is absolutely , 100% impossible to be " upgraded " from bootycall/FWB to regular hf or wife. It just happens , percentually, very very seldom, and, most of all, 3 years is quite a ... (read in full...)

Most of the things he does really gets on my nerves!

Answered by CindyCares + on 21 October 2017.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   I have been going out with a guy for almost a year now, when we first started going out I thought he was really sweet and I really liked him, we see each other every week but now it's been nearly a year I feel like things have changed, he still ...

A.   21 October 2017:  But you have been giving him a chance, for a whole year. You have been dating since almost one year... and it's almost one year that you feel things have changed and you aren't as happy with him as at the very beginning. That means, I guess, that... (read in full...)

My boyfriend revealed a secret and my question is how do I deal with what he told me?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 October 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   My new boyfriend of almost 5 month has been suffering from ptsd i knew this when we first got together , he decided to be open tonight and told me a shocking secret he had kept from me , he admitted he sometimes smokes weed to help him relax and ...

A.   21 October 2017: OP, I see nothing wrong in your stance on drugs. If drugs (and weed is included in this according to the laws of the land) is something you want nothing to do with then I suggest HE might not BE someone for you. I absolutely GET that pot/wee... (read in full...)

He is not being supportive and I am literally broken because of what is happening!

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 October 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 6 months and a few days ago I found out I was pregnant. We both currently live 100 miles apart and only get to see each other once a week. We decided an abortion was the best option for us as it wou...

A.   21 October 2017: I'm sorry you are going through this. It seems like he sees this as YOUR problem, not his. I don't think he understands that THIS will affect you emotionally and physically. For him, it either hasn't sunk IN what's going on or ... he doesn't ... (read in full...)

Can you clarify his behavior?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 October 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I recently started seeing a new physician. I don't know his relationship status but I know that he doesn't wear a wedding ring. He asks me personal questions like if I am dating anybody, how my sex life is, and what I like to do on my days off. He ...

A.   21 October 2017: Let me clarify? HE is acting inappropriately for a personal physician. If you see him at a clinic or his own practice you are there as his patient, not entertainment or a dating pool. Unless he is asking about your sex life in regards to S... (read in full...)

A year after my break up I still haven't been on a date and no one has shown any real interest in me!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 21 October 2017.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I'm 22 and the only relationship I have ever been In lasted 3 years before he came out gay. It was a very complicated break up with a lot of mixed feelings and we would still spend time together and end up sleeping together for around a year ...

A.   21 October 2017: You should free yourself of your ex and put some distance between you so that you can put a real end to your relationship. You have never really split up. Your heart is still with him. Nobody wants to play second fiddle to someone's ex. Tell ... (read in full...)

He is not being supportive and I am literally broken because of what is happening!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 21 October 2017.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Hi, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 6 months and a few days ago I found out I was pregnant. We both currently live 100 miles apart and only get to see each other once a week. We decided an abortion was the best option for us as it wou...

A.   21 October 2017: I assume he is of a similar age to you? He is dreadfully selfish and immature and self-centred. He was spelled out to you where you stand. Please BELIEVE him. Do you have anyone else who can go to the appointments with you? A close friend p... (read in full...)

The guy I'm seeing is always getting mad at me?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 21 October 2017.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   The guy I'm seeing is always getting mad at me? We have an odd relationship, we say we love each other all the time. He says he's not ready to date (we've been in a like-dating stage for 3 years). I have fallen in love with him. But I feel like I'm ...

A.   21 October 2017: Firstly, THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT. Secondly, THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT. And lastly, THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT. The only thing you have done wrong is to allow this guy to treat you like a doormat, a plan B. He is using you while offering you ver... (read in full...)

Can you clarify his behavior?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 21 October 2017.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I recently started seeing a new physician. I don't know his relationship status but I know that he doesn't wear a wedding ring. He asks me personal questions like if I am dating anybody, how my sex life is, and what I like to do on my days off. He ...

A.   21 October 2017: I am not sure I would be comfortable with this sort of questioning, unless it was directly related to a problem I was seeing him about. Unless, of course, you are actually HOPING this will turn into more?... (read in full...)

Most of the things he does really gets on my nerves!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 21 October 2017.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I have been going out with a guy for almost a year now, when we first started going out I thought he was really sweet and I really liked him, we see each other every week but now it's been nearly a year I feel like things have changed, he still ...

A.   21 October 2017: You are young. At your age it is unusual for a relationship to last. A year is quite a long time for one at this stage of your life when you are still finding out what you want in a partner. Your relationship sounds like it has run its course. ... (read in full...)

Family squabble upsetting my new relationship

Answered by femmenoir + on 21 October 2017.

femmenoir agony auntQ.   My boy friend and I r relatively a new couple. He lives with his twin brother and a friend. I was staying in their place for the first time and just to clarify. Before that night me and his brother were getting along real well that I would call him ...

A.   21 October 2017: I agree with all previous responses. You should definitely keep away, until your bf gives you the full green light to step back into their place. You always take the higher ground and show these guys that you are not ill mannered, you're... (read in full...)

This woman is getting close on the train!

Answered by femmenoir + on 21 October 2017.

femmenoir agony auntQ.   I catch the busy train to work in Tokyo everyday and there is this cute younger lady who gets on along the way. I am usually standing near the door anyway but somehow she seems to find her way in front of me so we are hugged and crushed together. We ...

A.   21 October 2017: I don't even know if i trust all you say, because from my perspective, as a woman, this all sounds very weird and bizarre. You mentioned that she's a cute and younger lady, so it appears that you've taken notice of her physical appearance and had ... (read in full...)

Does my FWB have feelings for me?

Answered by anonymous on 21 October 2017.

Q.   I've been friends with benefits with a guy for over 3 years. We hook up nearly every week. I telephoned him today to speak to him, he was busy building a draw and I didn't realise I was on loud speaker, during the call we were talking and he was ...

A.   21 October 2017: Yes I want it to be more with this guy, I've been on dates but in the back of my mind I compare the dates to him which I know I shouldn't but I do. I want him to want more, I put up with it thinking one day it will work out.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and I argued again, this time over laundry

Answered by femmenoir + on 21 October 2017.

femmenoir agony auntQ.   I suppose this might be my fault but my boyfriend and I haven't spoken in the last 24 hours because of...laundry. Enter scene: I'm a 25 year old working two jobs currently (soon to quit one to go back to school). He is a 29 year old working on h...

A.   21 October 2017: You don't need to resort to the thought of breaking up because honestly, everybody and i mean everybody, has their issues within their respective relationships, no matter how close they are. It's a very normal part of any relationship and if you c... (read in full...)

Is masturbation gay?

Answered by femmenoir + on 21 October 2017.

femmenoir agony auntQ.   If you are not thinking of anything and just masturbating for pleasure is this homosexual?...

A.   21 October 2017: No, masturbation is definitely not gay and in fact, it's very normal. Both men and women do it and for many, it can be a great release. Many people who are single or aren't having sex too often with their partner may resort to masturbating, if... (read in full...)

Given his past, do you think that this man would be a good parent to my daughter?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 21 October 2017.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I recently left an abusive marriage, and have been seeing a man from work for almost a year. He moved in with my kids and I over the summer. He has always been very sweet and caring to all of us, but the relationship isn't perfect, though I love ...

A.   21 October 2017: Difficult one. So many factors involved. Firstly, few relationships are "perfect". Most people come with some sort of a past, especially with the passing of time. Many people choose to sow their "wild oats" in their youth and, once they reach ma... (read in full...)

Given his past, do you think that this man would be a good parent to my daughter?

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 October 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I recently left an abusive marriage, and have been seeing a man from work for almost a year. He moved in with my kids and I over the summer. He has always been very sweet and caring to all of us, but the relationship isn't perfect, though I love ...

A.   21 October 2017: I don't think anyone who has an attitude towards women of his past really distinguishes between them all, as in, he calls the exes and past partners *insert derogatory name* but you are DIFFERENT. You are still a woman like the rest. Now he might ... (read in full...)

Given his past, do you think that this man would be a good parent to my daughter?

Answered by femmenoir + on 21 October 2017.

femmenoir agony auntQ.   I recently left an abusive marriage, and have been seeing a man from work for almost a year. He moved in with my kids and I over the summer. He has always been very sweet and caring to all of us, but the relationship isn't perfect, though I love ...

A.   21 October 2017: You already see the signs, yet it appears that you'd like somebody else to tell you that this type of relationship is ok. You know within your own heart that this is not ok. It appears that your self esteem is very low and that you are not a ve... (read in full...)

Does my FWB have feelings for me?

Answered by femmenoir + on 21 October 2017.

femmenoir agony auntQ.   I've been friends with benefits with a guy for over 3 years. We hook up nearly every week. I telephoned him today to speak to him, he was busy building a draw and I didn't realise I was on loud speaker, during the call we were talking and he was ...

A.   21 October 2017: It's very simple. If you actually like this guy more than as just a casual fling, why don't you approach him directly and ask him? If you're happy and don't want anything more than what you guys currently have, you can still ask him directly... (read in full...)

Given his past, do you think that this man would be a good parent to my daughter?

Answered by anonymous on 21 October 2017.

Q.   I recently left an abusive marriage, and have been seeing a man from work for almost a year. He moved in with my kids and I over the summer. He has always been very sweet and caring to all of us, but the relationship isn't perfect, though I love ...

A.   21 October 2017: Have a chat to him tell him how you feel and that if he ever treats you or your child with disrespect that you will finish it... you say he is nice to you so enjoy ... but maybe moving in was to fast going as you clearly don't know him well .... (read in full...)

Does my FWB have feelings for me?

Answered by anonymous on 21 October 2017.

Q.   I've been friends with benefits with a guy for over 3 years. We hook up nearly every week. I telephoned him today to speak to him, he was busy building a draw and I didn't realise I was on loud speaker, during the call we were talking and he was ...

A.   21 October 2017: Never mind what he said .. you have wasted 3 yrs on this guy .. do you go on other dates?? With other men?? Don't you want more for yourself? ?..do you want more with this guy ? Is that why you put up with being fwb for so long ?? Do you want him to ... (read in full...)

Haunted by the past and now I'm expecting

Answered by Honeypie + on 21 October 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hey, my name is Nancy, I'm 22 years old. I don’t know how to make this story short, but here we go Man, I've been feeling really depressed since early this year, my mental stability was ruined the day I accidentally found my husband's sex tape wit...

A.   21 October 2017: First off, I am presuming this sex-tape is from BEFORE you two dated, so it should BE left in the past. Second of all, I would be FAR more concerned that he FILMED this girl without her consent, not whether he liked her more or whatever... (read in full...)

Why am I hopelessly infatuated with this man?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 21 October 2017.

Q.   Hi, I was just wondering if someone could give me advice I'm with my husband for 16 years married 6 and have two wonderful children we had out up's and down's over the years I've been in and out of counselling due to child abuse and suffer with ...

A.   21 October 2017: I think your husband will remedy the situation by divorcing you. You need to get counseling for your drinking-problem; and get your act together. You said you have kids, who have to be in their early teens or younger. You're making a fool of ... (read in full...)

I don’t know if I should stop talking to him or give it a chance?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 21 October 2017.

Q.   I have been texting this guy for 2 months everyday and sometimes we talk on the phone. We live in two different states I keep telling him I want to move to a different state and he wants me to move to his state because he says "I'll already know one ...

A.   21 October 2017: If he's seeing other people, why aren't you? You're just chatting and texting; you're not in an official relationship. He said if you moved there, you could go on dates. He didn't say you'd be in a relationship. You seem rather naive for someone ... (read in full...)

I don’t know if I should stop talking to him or give it a chance?

Answered by PJ Roy + on 21 October 2017.

Q.   I have been texting this guy for 2 months everyday and sometimes we talk on the phone. We live in two different states I keep telling him I want to move to a different state and he wants me to move to his state because he says "I'll already know one ...

A.   21 October 2017: "I have been texting this guy for 2 months everyday" It's Selena Gomez and Charlie Puth who sing: "I overdosed Should have known your love was a game Now I can't get you out of my brain Oh.. it's such a shame... That we don't talk any... (read in full...)

She takes more than she gives and I know part of the problem is her low self-esteem!

Answered by PJ Roy + on 21 October 2017.

Q.   Hi, when I told my girlfriend that I love her she replied, for the first time, that she does as well, although she doesn't know if it's really love. She justified this with saying that she discussed the matter with her mom and when her mother asked ...

A.   21 October 2017: I'm with Honeypie on this one. 200%. Going by what transpires through your post, it sounds to me like you're a placeholder boyfriend for her. She's letting you think she's got low self-esteem but has plans for doing better than 'you' when the time... (read in full...)

Feeling the pain but finding it hard to let go

Answered by PJ Roy + on 20 October 2017.

Q.   Hi, I went through an extremely bad breakup lately and it has left me reeling worse than any other breakup and has shaken my confidence, as well as my desire to date. But the worst is that I still contain feelings for the girl even though she did ...

A.   20 October 2017: You are not alone. You are not the only one. Hang in there man. Make of what I will tell you next what you will, but for the past fifteen years, not a minute has gone by when I have not missed my 'the one that got away' too. You know that s... (read in full...)

Being used by my boyfriend and I don't know how to get rid of him

Answered by aunt honesty + on 20 October 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I will try to make it short as possible, I am 35 years old gay and I dated a guy few months ago, specifically in May and I really liked him, everything was great , although he is way younger than me 24 years old, but I felt that he loves me, he ...

A.   20 October 2017: Yeah he is using you, he doesn't love you, he loves the lifestyle that you give to him. Ask him to leave. Then contact your bank and credit card companies and change all your bank details and codes as he has access to it. Get rid off him, he is a ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend revealed a secret and my question is how do I deal with what he told me?

Answered by anonymous on 20 October 2017.

Q.   My new boyfriend of almost 5 month has been suffering from ptsd i knew this when we first got together , he decided to be open tonight and told me a shocking secret he had kept from me , he admitted he sometimes smokes weed to help him relax and ...

A.   20 October 2017: I am the op , i am not being totally strict with him . i have children from a previous relationship and i have read up on some things , in the uk drugs are illegal . if the doctor prescribed it to him then that would be totally different but as far ... (read in full...)

Family squabble upsetting my new relationship

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 20 October 2017.

Q.   My boy friend and I r relatively a new couple. He lives with his twin brother and a friend. I was staying in their place for the first time and just to clarify. Before that night me and his brother were getting along real well that I would call him ...

A.   20 October 2017: I don't think your boyfriend prepared his roommates for overnight company, and an extended-stay. I don't think there were any house-rules established between them; they just fly by the seat of their pants, and haggle it out when somebody screws-u... (read in full...)

Haunted by the past and now I'm expecting

Answered by aunt honesty + on 20 October 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hey, my name is Nancy, I'm 22 years old. I don’t know how to make this story short, but here we go Man, I've been feeling really depressed since early this year, my mental stability was ruined the day I accidentally found my husband's sex tape wit...

A.   20 October 2017: OP have you actually asked your husband any off these questions instead off asking a bunch off strangers? Everyone has a past and it was an invasion of privacy in to his the moment you watched that video. I assume he was single at the time so it ... (read in full...)

I don’t know if I should stop talking to him or give it a chance?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 20 October 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I have been texting this guy for 2 months everyday and sometimes we talk on the phone. We live in two different states I keep telling him I want to move to a different state and he wants me to move to his state because he says "I'll already know one ...

A.   20 October 2017: You are still very young, how are you going to support yourself if you move to another state? Also why do you want to move to another state? Is there any reason to go to that state only he lives there? You sound like you are still very young and ... (read in full...)

Was I out of line and is my boyfriend right in not trusting me?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 20 October 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 years now. A few months ago I met a guy at work who I messaged after I left the job. He was quite flirty with me in this conversation but I didn't think it meant anything. About a month later he messaged...

A.   20 October 2017: If this was an old male friend who wanted to catch up with you over a drink I would say your boyfriend was completely out off order and he should not stand in your way off having friends, male or female. But this guy is not your friend, he is a old ... (read in full...)

How do I lay my cards on the table? He wants to go into the Navy but I think he's missing a good thing in us!

Answered by aunt honesty + on 20 October 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hi. I'm sorry for the long email - but I feel like I need to get loads of details into this to give afull picture. Here's my story: I'm a 25-year-old woman who struggles to meet guys that I'm attracted to and have a really great connection with....

A.   20 October 2017: I am sorry OP but if he wanted to be with you he would be. He is not scared off commitment, if he was he never would have been in a relationship for years. He simply does not see you as a long term partner. I am sorry but if he did, he would fight ... (read in full...)

She takes more than she gives and I know part of the problem is her low self-esteem!

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 20 October 2017.

Q.   Hi, when I told my girlfriend that I love her she replied, for the first time, that she does as well, although she doesn't know if it's really love. She justified this with saying that she discussed the matter with her mom and when her mother asked ...

A.   20 October 2017: There are a lot of people out there with abandonment attachment disorders. They never feel sure of their relationships, or how their partners really feel about them. If they've suffered a series of losses, breakups, childhood divorces; and/or ... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to be turned on by a thong?

Answered by anonymous on 20 October 2017.

Q.   I'm a 26 year old male and I have a question regarding a fetish that I have had since I was probably like 11 years old. Basically my fetish revolves around women's thong panties specifically. When I was just entering puberty I found thongs to be...

A.   20 October 2017: This is the OP again. I've managed it on my own for my entire life using online pictures , buying my own panties , etc. I saw a therapist already and they don't know why people are triggered by things and not bodies. It's like asking why peop... (read in full...)

Was I out of line and is my boyfriend right in not trusting me?

Answered by Ciar + on 20 October 2017.

Ciar agony auntQ.   I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 years now. A few months ago I met a guy at work who I messaged after I left the job. He was quite flirty with me in this conversation but I didn't think it meant anything. About a month later he messaged...

A.   20 October 2017: OP, it's not simply a matter of being able to trust that you won't hop into bed with some guy behind his back. And this is not about his ego. It's that he cannot rely on you to exercise maturity and sound judgment, to establish and maintain... (read in full...)

My boyfriend revealed a secret and my question is how do I deal with what he told me?

Answered by anonymous on 20 October 2017.

Q.   My new boyfriend of almost 5 month has been suffering from ptsd i knew this when we first got together , he decided to be open tonight and told me a shocking secret he had kept from me , he admitted he sometimes smokes weed to help him relax and ...

A.   20 October 2017: I would think twice about having a child with this man if his use of weed could lead to birth defects. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend revealed a secret and my question is how do I deal with what he told me?

Answered by Allumeuse + on 20 October 2017.

Q.   My new boyfriend of almost 5 month has been suffering from ptsd i knew this when we first got together , he decided to be open tonight and told me a shocking secret he had kept from me , he admitted he sometimes smokes weed to help him relax and ...

A.   20 October 2017: As secrets go it's pretty low on my list of priorities. I realise that until relatively recently Marijuana has been a taboo, but in reality it's a far far less dangerous way to self medicate than the more socially acceptable drugs such as alcohol or ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend revealed a secret and my question is how do I deal with what he told me?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 20 October 2017.

Q.   My new boyfriend of almost 5 month has been suffering from ptsd i knew this when we first got together , he decided to be open tonight and told me a shocking secret he had kept from me , he admitted he sometimes smokes weed to help him relax and ...

A.   20 October 2017: First, educate yourself on what PTSD is. Your lack of compassion and self-righteousness comes from the lack of knowledge and misunderstanding. It's good that you're rigid on your stance about drugs. However; there is also such thing as medicall... (read in full...)

My boyfriend revealed a secret and my question is how do I deal with what he told me?

Answered by Honeypie + on 20 October 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   My new boyfriend of almost 5 month has been suffering from ptsd i knew this when we first got together , he decided to be open tonight and told me a shocking secret he had kept from me , he admitted he sometimes smokes weed to help him relax and ...

A.   20 October 2017: To add a little food for thought, here is an article about weed and PTSD. http://bigthink.com/christina-brown-fisher/medical-marijuana-supporters-advocate-for-better-access-to-treat-ptsd-in-veterans While I myself is not a fan of weed/pot and ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend revealed a secret and my question is how do I deal with what he told me?

Answered by Denizen + on 20 October 2017.

Denizen agony auntQ.   My new boyfriend of almost 5 month has been suffering from ptsd i knew this when we first got together , he decided to be open tonight and told me a shocking secret he had kept from me , he admitted he sometimes smokes weed to help him relax and ...

A.   20 October 2017: I wonder where you have been since the 60s. Sorry you aren't old enough to have passed through those years. I think your boyfriend is finding a way to cope with the ordeal he has been through. He probably is suffering because he did his duty for the ... (read in full...)

Why am I hopelessly infatuated with this man?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 20 October 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hi, I was just wondering if someone could give me advice I'm with my husband for 16 years married 6 and have two wonderful children we had out up's and down's over the years I've been in and out of counselling due to child abuse and suffer with ...

A.   20 October 2017: You have two options as I can see. One: End things with your husband, then go and see how it works out with this guy. Worst case scenario the grass is not greener, you both don't work out and you are left single co-parenting two children from a b... (read in full...)

What should I do about feeling inadequate?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 20 October 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   First off, this is quite the premature question, but tonight, its all I can think about. A year ago, I had to escape a mentally, physically, sexually, and verbally abusive relationship. It was difficult to say the least. A few months after we ...

A.   20 October 2017: Yeah I do feel that therapy would do you good, because you are right no matter how much he likes you, you will wear him down if you keep needing to be reassured. So yes get in touch with a therapist to allow them to help you deal with your past and ... (read in full...)

Do mixed signals just mean he's not interested?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 20 October 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   There's a guy in my graduate program who is very handsome. I knew him previously from a class during undergrad as well. He is also a gentleman and very kind to everyone he comes by. He's naturally friendly, social, and sweet. He says and does things ...

A.   20 October 2017: It does sound like he likes you as a person it is still to soon to know if it is romantically or not, you reminding him off his mother is a big thing in this as this could be why he is drawn to you, take things slow and see where it goes. Try ... (read in full...)

She takes more than she gives and I know part of the problem is her low self-esteem!

Answered by N91 + on 20 October 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   Hi, when I told my girlfriend that I love her she replied, for the first time, that she does as well, although she doesn't know if it's really love. She justified this with saying that she discussed the matter with her mom and when her mother asked ...

A.   20 October 2017: I agree with honeypie's point of your gf repeatedly bringing up that she doesn't deserve to date you. Okay, so ask her why she is? If she's not going to get therapy then you're going to have to deal with this for the duration of your relation... (read in full...)

She takes more than she gives and I know part of the problem is her low self-esteem!

Answered by Honeypie + on 20 October 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi, when I told my girlfriend that I love her she replied, for the first time, that she does as well, although she doesn't know if it's really love. She justified this with saying that she discussed the matter with her mom and when her mother asked ...

A.   20 October 2017: Honestly? It sounds a little to me like she is using her low self-esteem and insecurities to manipulate you. I know that sounds a little harsh but from reading your post that is what pops out of the page for me. She wants you to not question... (read in full...)

She takes more than she gives and I know part of the problem is her low self-esteem!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 20 October 2017.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Hi, when I told my girlfriend that I love her she replied, for the first time, that she does as well, although she doesn't know if it's really love. She justified this with saying that she discussed the matter with her mom and when her mother asked ...

A.   20 October 2017: I would suggest going for quality time together, rather than the quantity you are missing out on at the moment. Plan special things to do when your girlfriend has time to spend with you, then tell her how much you enjoyed whatever it was you did and ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend revealed a secret and my question is how do I deal with what he told me?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 20 October 2017.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   My new boyfriend of almost 5 month has been suffering from ptsd i knew this when we first got together , he decided to be open tonight and told me a shocking secret he had kept from me , he admitted he sometimes smokes weed to help him relax and ...

A.   20 October 2017: I totally understand your stand against drugs but you may want to do a bit of your own research into the benefits of cannabis before judging your boyfriend. He is not asking YOU to use it but he finds it beneficial for HIM. After decades of denial, ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend revealed a secret and my question is how do I deal with what he told me?

Answered by Honeypie + on 20 October 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   My new boyfriend of almost 5 month has been suffering from ptsd i knew this when we first got together , he decided to be open tonight and told me a shocking secret he had kept from me , he admitted he sometimes smokes weed to help him relax and ...

A.   20 October 2017: For people with war-time PTSD to look to drink or drugs is not uncommon. Many feel it's an easier way to numb how they feel, it's self-medication rather than having to deal with doctors and therapists - AND... the stigma of having mental issues. I ... (read in full...)

Haunted by the past and now I'm expecting

Answered by anonymous on 20 October 2017.

Q.   Hey, my name is Nancy, I'm 22 years old. I don’t know how to make this story short, but here we go Man, I've been feeling really depressed since early this year, my mental stability was ruined the day I accidentally found my husband's sex tape wit...

A.   20 October 2017: I am the person who posted this. To WiseOwlE and anonymous, thank you for your advice. As you can see I really needed it and your words are in my mind to help me move on . WiseOwlE, I do come from a dysfunctional family where I have no support ... (read in full...)

Haunted by the past and now I'm expecting

Answered by anonymous on 20 October 2017.

Q.   Hey, my name is Nancy, I'm 22 years old. I don’t know how to make this story short, but here we go Man, I've been feeling really depressed since early this year, my mental stability was ruined the day I accidentally found my husband's sex tape wit...

A.   20 October 2017: Sex happens. Videoed sex doesnt just happen. It was planned. Thats why your man was acting manly for the camera and announcing that she'd just cum and so on. It was a one man show. And maybe she was in agreement too and putting her best moves a... (read in full...)

This woman is getting close on the train!

Answered by CindyCares + on 20 October 2017.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   I catch the busy train to work in Tokyo everyday and there is this cute younger lady who gets on along the way. I am usually standing near the door anyway but somehow she seems to find her way in front of me so we are hugged and crushed together. We ...

A.   20 October 2017:  I think you are reading too much into this. If you are really squeezed so tight against each other, the young lady could simply be moving her hands or legs in the attempt to get some elbow room , and make herself more comfortable. Also, since yo... (read in full...)

Was I out of line and is my boyfriend right in not trusting me?

Answered by CindyCares + on 20 October 2017.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 years now. A few months ago I met a guy at work who I messaged after I left the job. He was quite flirty with me in this conversation but I didn't think it meant anything. About a month later he messaged...

A.   20 October 2017:  You were out of line and I suspect you know it. Of course nobody can stop you from seeing your friends, but this guy was not a friend. He was not somebody who shares your ardent passion for, say, antiques and could not wait to show you his late ... (read in full...)

I don’t know if I should stop talking to him or give it a chance?

Answered by CindyCares + on 20 October 2017.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   I have been texting this guy for 2 months everyday and sometimes we talk on the phone. We live in two different states I keep telling him I want to move to a different state and he wants me to move to his state because he says "I'll already know one ...

A.   20 October 2017:  You should stop.It's a waste of time. You should not take everything so literally. When a perfect stranger on line tells you " You should move to my state " it is on par with " we should have lunch together one of these days ... "; it's ... (read in full...)

I don’t know if I should stop talking to him or give it a chance?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 20 October 2017.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I have been texting this guy for 2 months everyday and sometimes we talk on the phone. We live in two different states I keep telling him I want to move to a different state and he wants me to move to his state because he says "I'll already know one ...

A.   20 October 2017: Well, I certainly don't think you should be basing any life-changing decisions on him! Sweetheart, you haven't even MET him. You could hate spending time with him. Even if you get on, there is no guarantee the relationship will last. If you real... (read in full...)

Other people have forgiven him, so why cant our children?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 19 October 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   One year ago my husband of 23 years was arrested, he had been looking at underage pornography. 45 counts of category a amongst other. Myself and our family were totally shocked as he had always been a very good person who helped all the family and ...

A.   19 October 2017: *what he's done IS heinous.... (read in full...)

My husband's coworker made some very odd comments and I'm wondering if there is something going on!

Answered by Billy Bathgate + on 19 October 2017.

Q.   Recently on a ride home my husbands coworker needed a ride home. While we were driving his coworker begin to flirt with my husband, He repeatedly said how much he liked my husband, saying my husband was one of a kind. How he had never met anyone ...

A.   19 October 2017: You asked your husband about it and he became angry and defensive. That more than anything should tell you that this is more than joking around. It's time to have a serious heart to heart with hubby if he won't talk to you honestly you may have... (read in full...)

Was I out of line and is my boyfriend right in not trusting me?

Answered by Billy Bathgate + on 19 October 2017.

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 years now. A few months ago I met a guy at work who I messaged after I left the job. He was quite flirty with me in this conversation but I didn't think it meant anything. About a month later he messaged...

A.   19 October 2017: You have the right to have any friends you want. But the guy didn't ask you out because he wants to be friends. And you know that. From your actions and your boyfriend's reaction I have the feeling this relationship may have run it's course. I... (read in full...)

I don’t know if I should stop talking to him or give it a chance?

Answered by anonymous on 19 October 2017.

Q.   I have been texting this guy for 2 months everyday and sometimes we talk on the phone. We live in two different states I keep telling him I want to move to a different state and he wants me to move to his state because he says "I'll already know one ...

A.   19 October 2017: I'd say, you should ignore him because he clearly isn't serious about you. Don't waste your time on people like him girl. He clearly only wants to take it seriously when your with him otherwise he wouldn't be going out on dates with other girls. It ... (read in full...)

This woman is getting close on the train!

Answered by aunt honesty + on 19 October 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I catch the busy train to work in Tokyo everyday and there is this cute younger lady who gets on along the way. I am usually standing near the door anyway but somehow she seems to find her way in front of me so we are hugged and crushed together. We ...

A.   19 October 2017: I am not sure why or how she manages to keep finding space to stand in front off you, it must take a lot off pushing and shoving to get her to do that. However it shouldn't matter, you are not single anyway so it doesn't matter why she does what she ... (read in full...)

Why would my guy friend joke about marrying me? Does it mean anything?

Answered by aunt honesty + on 19 October 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   This isn't the first time this guy has joked about us and marriage, but this just happened recently. I was over a friend's house, it was 4 of us. 2 guys and 2 girls (myself included). I said to Guy A: Heyy you need to find me a Caribbean husban...

A.   19 October 2017: It sounds like flirty banter to me if I am being honest. Has he ever showed any other signs off liking you? Also do you actually like him? If you do then you should try and flirt more or ask him out some time on a date and see how it goes. ... (read in full...)

Is masturbation gay?

Answered by chigirl + on 19 October 2017.

chigirl agony auntQ.   If you are not thinking of anything and just masturbating for pleasure is this homosexual?...

A.   19 October 2017: No.... (read in full...)

I think he likes another girl but I don't know how to broach the topic

Answered by aunt honesty + on 19 October 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months but it's not exactly official, his family don't know and only a couple of our close friends know, it's like a need to know basis. Recently he went on holiday back to his home town with a mutu...

A.   19 October 2017: You need to talk to him. From what you have wrote it sounds like he is using you. If he cared about you he would not hide you away he would want to show you off to the world. The way he is behaving with the other girl is hurtful and disrespectful to ... (read in full...)

My ex hasn't told me his wife is filing for divorce

Answered by aunt honesty + on 19 October 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I've been seeing ex for some time. Yes, I know it's wrong it's a long story. anyway, his now wife is filing for divorce but he hasn't told me. heard from mutual friend. why would he not mention this?...

A.   19 October 2017: It could be possible that he has a few mistresses and he is keeping his options open. Or it could mean he just sees you as a fling and doesn't want you getting your hopes up. Either way if you end up in a relationship with him I really don't know ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend used to be a nerd but now acts like a 'Gangsta'

Answered by aunt honesty + on 19 October 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   He's a middle class white boy whose parents pay for everything including his Mini but he keeps acting like he wants to be the "gangster hood" stereotype and idk it really annoys me for some reason. My parents are also middle class but I was raised ...

A.   19 October 2017: This is who he is, so really it is up to you if you want a boyfriend like him or not. Personally I could not date a guy like this, he would just not be my type at all, if this is who he wants to be then that is who he will be, it is your choice if ... (read in full...)

Do mixed signals just mean he's not interested?

Answered by anonymous on 19 October 2017.

Q.   There's a guy in my graduate program who is very handsome. I knew him previously from a class during undergrad as well. He is also a gentleman and very kind to everyone he comes by. He's naturally friendly, social, and sweet. He says and does things ...

A.   19 October 2017: Thank you everybody for your answers! I guess you are right in saying thay I should just let things unfold and that only time can tell. I will not let myself get too excited too soon! :)... (read in full...)

Haunted by the past and now I'm expecting

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 19 October 2017.

Q.   Hey, my name is Nancy, I'm 22 years old. I don’t know how to make this story short, but here we go Man, I've been feeling really depressed since early this year, my mental stability was ruined the day I accidentally found my husband's sex tape wit...

A.   19 October 2017: I see that you're in your early 20's. That's pretty young to already be married with a child, and another on the way. I take that it was a whirlwind romance; and you just jumped at the opportunity to get married before having any real experien... (read in full...)

Being used by my boyfriend and I don't know how to get rid of him

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 19 October 2017.

Q.   I will try to make it short as possible, I am 35 years old gay and I dated a guy few months ago, specifically in May and I really liked him, everything was great , although he is way younger than me 24 years old, but I felt that he loves me, he ...

A.   19 October 2017: I also recommend that you now seek online identity-protection. He has had access to your personal-information; and may open new credit accounts in your name!... (read in full...)

I don’t know if I should stop talking to him or give it a chance?

Answered by Honeypie + on 19 October 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I have been texting this guy for 2 months everyday and sometimes we talk on the phone. We live in two different states I keep telling him I want to move to a different state and he wants me to move to his state because he says "I'll already know one ...

A.   19 October 2017: I think you should stop talking to him. Honey, he is DATING someone else. While I'm SURE he would LOVE it if you lived closer so he could date you too, I think if a guy is talking to several women he isn't SERIOUS about ANY of them. It does... (read in full...)

Being used by my boyfriend and I don't know how to get rid of him

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 19 October 2017.

Q.   I will try to make it short as possible, I am 35 years old gay and I dated a guy few months ago, specifically in May and I really liked him, everything was great , although he is way younger than me 24 years old, but I felt that he loves me, he ...

A.   19 October 2017: This doesn't require one of my long responses. Kick his mooching/gold-digging ass to the curb! He has gone as far as stealing; and that means he could do much worse. Stop thinking with your penis. You're hesitant because you are consider... (read in full...)

Family squabble upsetting my new relationship

Answered by Honeypie + on 19 October 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   My boy friend and I r relatively a new couple. He lives with his twin brother and a friend. I was staying in their place for the first time and just to clarify. Before that night me and his brother were getting along real well that I would call him ...

A.   19 October 2017: Don't spend the night there until all is sorted out. TELL your BF that. As for the brother wanting you to clean the kitchen because you stayed 3 night... um, why the kitchen? Because you are a female? Or because it was dirty and SOMEONE should c... (read in full...)

Being used by my boyfriend and I don't know how to get rid of him

Answered by Honeypie + on 19 October 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I will try to make it short as possible, I am 35 years old gay and I dated a guy few months ago, specifically in May and I really liked him, everything was great , although he is way younger than me 24 years old, but I felt that he loves me, he ...

A.   19 October 2017: Yes, KICK him out. Why didn't it work before? Because HE didn't WANT to leave? If so (check the LAWS for evicting a room-mate in your country) and follow them. If there are no set laws for this - if he isn't on the LEASE etc. CHANGE the locks wh... (read in full...)

Is this a ploy to make me jealous?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 19 October 2017.

Q.   This guy and I decided to be friend with benefits before uni' but when we got to uni, it was quite different. The guy is in his late 20s and we go to each other's place to sleep over but we simply end up cuddling and kissing. We got into an argu...

A.   19 October 2017: Not necessarily. You're not his girlfriend, and he was at a club. Is he supposed to sit quietly as you have your fun? Could it be he liked the song and just felt like dancing? You're FWB's, and jealousy isn't in the contract. If you did fe... (read in full...)

Do mixed signals just mean he's not interested?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 19 October 2017.

Q.   There's a guy in my graduate program who is very handsome. I knew him previously from a class during undergrad as well. He is also a gentleman and very kind to everyone he comes by. He's naturally friendly, social, and sweet. He says and does things ...

A.   19 October 2017: I guess you'll find out if he likes you. How much can only be determined over time, if it has only been a month. I caution you about falling too hard for someone you haven't really known that long. A guy can be a nice guy and like you without ... (read in full...)

Is this a ploy to make me jealous?

Answered by N91 + on 19 October 2017.

N91 agony auntQ.   This guy and I decided to be friend with benefits before uni' but when we got to uni, it was quite different. The guy is in his late 20s and we go to each other's place to sleep over but we simply end up cuddling and kissing. We got into an argu...

A.   19 October 2017: Way more drama than necessary. FWB is supposed to be no feelings involved, this has gone past that or else he wouldn't of reacted in such a manner. If he wants to try it with this new girl, let him. FWB very, very rarely work the way they... (read in full...)

Being used by my boyfriend and I don't know how to get rid of him

Answered by anonymous on 19 October 2017.

Q.   I will try to make it short as possible, I am 35 years old gay and I dated a guy few months ago, specifically in May and I really liked him, everything was great , although he is way younger than me 24 years old, but I felt that he loves me, he ...

A.   19 October 2017: I am the one who asked the question Just aside note, Today I found out that he added my credit card to his Ubber account and he uses Ubber 2-3 times a day ...some of the trips are long distant, and I am so tired from walking as I want to save a l... (read in full...)

My guy friend denies being in a relationship and lied about becoming a father

Answered by aunt honesty + on 19 October 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   Hi everyone, so this situation is going to sound kind of crazy. There's this guy who I've been friends with for about 2 years. At this point, we spend a lot of time together, keep in contact on a daily basis, and share a lot of personal information ...

A.   19 October 2017: No you don't need to confront him, he doesn't need to tell you if he has a girlfriend or a baby on the way. However him lying about it does show he has a hiding agenda with you. It seems he doesn't want to tell you for a reason, and the only reason ... (read in full...)

He's getting back together with his ex but doesn't want to lose my friendship

Answered by aunt honesty + on 19 October 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I met a guy on-line. We dated for about 3 months and became intimate. He recently announced that he has been talking to his ex girlfriend and they have decided to try it again but he does not want to lose my friendship. He wants to meet with me....

A.   19 October 2017: I also remember your last post, why did you not update that one instead off asking in a different way? Nobody is going to stop you meeting him, it is clear you are going to even though everyone will say its a bad idea. Stop blaming his girlfriend, ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and I argued again, this time over laundry

Answered by aunt honesty + on 19 October 2017.

aunt honesty agony auntQ.   I suppose this might be my fault but my boyfriend and I haven't spoken in the last 24 hours because of...laundry. Enter scene: I'm a 25 year old working two jobs currently (soon to quit one to go back to school). He is a 29 year old working on h...

A.   19 October 2017: He may not understand you, but do you understand him? I doubt this is about laundry and more about both off you feeling fed up. You both need to sit down and talk. If chores around the house cause arguments then maybe you could both do up a rota... (read in full...)

Was I out of line and is my boyfriend right in not trusting me?

Answered by VitaminZ + on 19 October 2017.

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 years now. A few months ago I met a guy at work who I messaged after I left the job. He was quite flirty with me in this conversation but I didn't think it meant anything. About a month later he messaged...

A.   19 October 2017: The guy wanted to sleep with you and you agreed to meet him for a drink. You were out of line. ... (read in full...)

Is this a ploy to make me jealous?

Answered by Honeypie + on 19 October 2017.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   This guy and I decided to be friend with benefits before uni' but when we got to uni, it was quite different. The guy is in his late 20s and we go to each other's place to sleep over but we simply end up cuddling and kissing. We got into an argu...

A.   19 October 2017: I think he is trying to have the upper hand. He wants to be the one in "charge" of whatever is going on. Wish him and the new girl well and CUT the contact. You had a fuck-buddy at best (even with the cuddling that is really ALL he saw you as).... (read in full...)

Is this a ploy to make me jealous?

Answered by Denizen + on 19 October 2017.

Denizen agony auntQ.   This guy and I decided to be friend with benefits before uni' but when we got to uni, it was quite different. The guy is in his late 20s and we go to each other's place to sleep over but we simply end up cuddling and kissing. We got into an argu...

A.   19 October 2017: Sweetheart you decided to try FWB. Doesn't that include no exclusivity? In my opinion you would be better off moving out and concentrating on your studies. If you happen to fall in love on the way then great but take it one ball at a time. Your ... (read in full...)

Being used by my boyfriend and I don't know how to get rid of him

Answered by Denizen + on 19 October 2017.

Denizen agony auntQ.   I will try to make it short as possible, I am 35 years old gay and I dated a guy few months ago, specifically in May and I really liked him, everything was great , although he is way younger than me 24 years old, but I felt that he loves me, he ...

A.   19 October 2017: I wonder if you feel you have any blame in this? You - you have let it all happen. The money, the treats, the trips, the credit card? And then by a stroke of extraordinary stupidity you rent a lovely flat and allow him to come and free-load 24/7. O... (read in full...)

How do I lay my cards on the table? He wants to go into the Navy but I think he's missing a good thing in us!

Answered by Anonymous 123 + on 19 October 2017.

Anonymous 123 agony auntQ.   Hi. I'm sorry for the long email - but I feel like I need to get loads of details into this to give afull picture. Here's my story: I'm a 25-year-old woman who struggles to meet guys that I'm attracted to and have a really great connection with....

A.   19 October 2017: I'm going to try and answer this as best as possible without being harsh. OP he couldn't be more clear but he doesn't want you in his life but you are not ready to leave him and in the process coming across as a really desperate and clingy. ... (read in full...)

How do I lay my cards on the table? He wants to go into the Navy but I think he's missing a good thing in us!

Answered by anonymous on 19 October 2017.

Q.   Hi. I'm sorry for the long email - but I feel like I need to get loads of details into this to give afull picture. Here's my story: I'm a 25-year-old woman who struggles to meet guys that I'm attracted to and have a really great connection with....

A.   19 October 2017: I agree with the other posters, you can make all the excuses in the world for him as to why he's not wanting this or that but at the end of the day if he wants you then he will come to you but the more you push it he will run! Let him contact you ... (read in full...)

Was I out of line and is my boyfriend right in not trusting me?

Answered by Been there Now over it + on 19 October 2017.

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 years now. A few months ago I met a guy at work who I messaged after I left the job. He was quite flirty with me in this conversation but I didn't think it meant anything. About a month later he messaged...

A.   19 October 2017: You won't be able to regain his trust. This will be on him...it'll take either high-level stupidity or a case of total amnesia. You agreed to go out for a drink with a guy who'd been flirty with you but he knew you had a boyfriend, so you "tho... (read in full...)

My husband's coworker made some very odd comments and I'm wondering if there is something going on!

Answered by femmenoir + on 19 October 2017.

femmenoir agony auntQ.   Recently on a ride home my husbands coworker needed a ride home. While we were driving his coworker begin to flirt with my husband, He repeatedly said how much he liked my husband, saying my husband was one of a kind. How he had never met anyone ...

A.   19 October 2017: This is definitely not funny. I am surprised by your husband getting angry and saying that he has no problem with the entire situation. The fact that this co-worker can act so tacky and seemingly sleazy in your presence is very disrespectful an... (read in full...)

Other people have forgiven him, so why cant our children?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 19 October 2017.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   One year ago my husband of 23 years was arrested, he had been looking at underage pornography. 45 counts of category a amongst other. Myself and our family were totally shocked as he had always been a very good person who helped all the family and ...

A.   19 October 2017: OP, do you understand why nearly all of us believe that total forgiveness isn't appropriate here? As it wasn't one time or a mistake; it was dozens of images/videos of Class A child abuse and more of other classed crimes. We understand that ... (read in full...)

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