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My boyfriend stares at and approaches other women, it makes me uncomfortable.

Answered by Honeypie + on 20 May 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   my boyfriend keeps looking at other women when we are out and ive seen him literally turn his neck to side and stare for ages at other women also he goes up to women on theyre own and chats to them about anything usually starting with theyre dog to ...

A.   20 May 2019: This is who he is. He doesn't even want to admit it, so the likelihood of him being more aware of HOW his behavior makes you feel is closer to zero. One thing you CAN try is when ever you are together and he does the "break neck" thing out ... (read in full...)

Why would my partner text to his ex "there is nothing here" regarding our relationship

Answered by Honeypie + on 20 May 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi, me and my partner have been together 10 years his previous partner he was with for 15 years. I was looking at his messages and found a message where he stated to her that there is nothing here for him and I have questioned him on this but so far ...

A.   20 May 2019: I have to agree with Youcannotbeserious Either this is true and you have been ignoring the fact that the relationship IS dead in the water or he is hoping to get some "sympathy" from his ex. Be that in words or deeds. Either way, you need to... (read in full...)

I broke it off ... so how come he hasn't unfriended me on facebook?

Answered by Aunty BimBim + on 20 May 2019.

Aunty BimBim agony auntQ.   Hi, i need some advise. I broke up with my LDR bf of 3 months ,this weekend sent him message on facebook that i want to break up with him and he just said he respect ny decision. But he never unfriend or even blocked me on facebook. Why you think ...

A.   20 May 2019: We cant read his mind about why he hasn't unfriended you or blocked you on facebook. You broke it off and he said okay. Surely that's better than breaking it off and then have the guy say rotten things to you or about you, or threaten you in s... (read in full...)

One date later, should I pursue this girl?

Answered by Aunty BimBim + on 20 May 2019.

Aunty BimBim agony auntQ.   I have been internet dating for a little while now and have had 4 dates. The last was a woman from Canada who is visiting over here for a month. She contacted me and explained she was travelling but we chatted a little online and we went for a dr...

A.   20 May 2019: If she wanted to pursue a potential relationship she would have indicated this in some way, either by word or by returning to say goodbye. My gut instinct is that the date went so well because on her part there was no pressure to "perform... (read in full...)

We're both unhappy in our marriages and have a long history. Should we have sex?

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2019.

Q.   When I was a teenager While visiting family i met a boy, through high school we crushed back and forth on each other secretly and living in different ends of the country made it impossible for anything to happen. As young adults be told me he liked ...

A.   20 May 2019: He's like the perfect storm. Put a hop back in your step, go for it. Have a "same time next year" thing. By the way, my wife and I both had affairs with nice people who came into our lives. Life's too short to obey religious BS. ... (read in full...)

How do I deal with an old, terminally ill dog who's pooping all around the house?

Answered by anonymous on 20 May 2019.

Q.   Sorry if this is not the typical question for this site but I need advice. I have an 11 year old dog. I have had him since 8 weeks old. Recently he's been falling over a lot on walks and not picking his feet up properly so his nails would bleed. ...

A.   20 May 2019: Sorry you have an old age dog, and all that extra taking care of involves. You list a lot of logical reasons why it could be best to take him to the vet (only you know what is right for you both ) and what you feel you can't cope with. There... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is very casual about his daughters' privacy and I find it very very odd

Answered by Ciar + on 19 May 2019.

Ciar agony auntQ.   Ive been seeing a guy who's super awesome. We're both single parents of two girls each. They stay the night frequently. My girls are 9 and 13, his are 9 and 11. Despite having lived in an all girl house for the last 5 years or so, my daughters and ...

A.   19 May 2019: Your boyfriend's involvement in bathing his daughter and checking on them while they're using the washroom is weird. I'd be hard pressed to find any culture in which men practiced this with their daughters. In societies all over the world througho... (read in full...)

I feel so alone and I'm so scared of being abandoned.

Answered by Honeypie + on 19 May 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I'm wanting some advice about a few issues right now and a bit of perhaps on guidance on what to do next or how to make the next decision on the next chapter. I'm currently in a small city in the UK and I've been struggling with mental health is...

A.   19 May 2019: Maybe what you REALLY need to do is face your fear and not leave up to your BF to determine your future. Especially if he is a little or lot unsure of the two of you. So my advice would be: LOOK for another job - preferably somewhere, where... (read in full...)

My partner avoids me, but says there is nothing wrong.

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 19 May 2019.

Q.   Hi people I really need some advice I’ve been with my partner for 6 years we have a 4 year old daughter I have a son from a previous relationship we’ve been having problems this last year I caught him watching porn which normally would not of ...

A.   19 May 2019: Masturbation with porn may be a chosen alternative to sex; if he heavily indulges in it. It becomes habit, and the human-mind tends to like variety, thrills, and surprise. When things become routine, boring, or predictable; sometimes the mind ... (read in full...)

Why would my partner text to his ex "there is nothing here" regarding our relationship

Answered by anonymous on 19 May 2019.

Q.   Hi, me and my partner have been together 10 years his previous partner he was with for 15 years. I was looking at his messages and found a message where he stated to her that there is nothing here for him and I have questioned him on this but so far ...

A.   19 May 2019: Well.... men will usually state that their relationship is dead in the water when they're looking to cheat and tell the prospective 'mistress' that the relationship he is in isn't working for whatever reason, so she thinks that there is a chance he ... (read in full...)

I feel so alone and I'm so scared of being abandoned.

Answered by anonymous on 19 May 2019.

Q.   I'm wanting some advice about a few issues right now and a bit of perhaps on guidance on what to do next or how to make the next decision on the next chapter. I'm currently in a small city in the UK and I've been struggling with mental health is...

A.   19 May 2019: OP, see a therapist before making any decisions. You definitely shouldn’t move in with a new boyfriend, but moving abroad with nothing takes an extremely mentally stable person. You’d also need to do massive amounts of research and it usually takes ... (read in full...)

We're both unhappy in our marriages and have a long history. Should we have sex?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 19 May 2019.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   When I was a teenager While visiting family i met a boy, through high school we crushed back and forth on each other secretly and living in different ends of the country made it impossible for anything to happen. As young adults be told me he liked ...

A.   19 May 2019: Then stop doing everything for your husband and do stuff for yourself - EXCEPT flirting and cheating. Jokingly talking about sex doesn’t cancel out your “Am I making a mistake by joining him for the night ?” Yes, yes you would be making a mistake.... (read in full...)

Do we change our views in regards to relationships as we get older?

Answered by Honeypie + on 19 May 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Silly question maybe but in terms of how you are as a person do we change all that much from the ages of twenty to forty when it comes to how we view relationships? My partner says he didn't know what love was, had nothing to compare it to, looks ...

A.   19 May 2019: He got burned the first time, of course he is more careful before jumping in. However, he is also judging "all" women by ONE woman's actions which isn't fair. His job is to look out for himself, first, then family, friends, partner etc. Though ... (read in full...)

We're both unhappy in our marriages and have a long history. Should we have sex?

Answered by CindyCares + on 19 May 2019.

CindyCares agony auntQ.   When I was a teenager While visiting family i met a boy, through high school we crushed back and forth on each other secretly and living in different ends of the country made it impossible for anything to happen. As young adults be told me he liked ...

A.   19 May 2019:  If it is a joke, it is a very inapptopriate one , particularly for two people who already have a spouse at home, nonetheless are flirting all the time, are in fact basically carrying on an emotional affair where both disclosed to the other of ... (read in full...)

My partner avoids me, but says there is nothing wrong.

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 19 May 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Hi people I really need some advice I’ve been with my partner for 6 years we have a 4 year old daughter I have a son from a previous relationship we’ve been having problems this last year I caught him watching porn which normally would not of ...

A.   19 May 2019: Next time he says "everything's good" you need to say "well, it isn't good for ME". You are being very passive about all this. You ASK him to come back to bed. You ASK him if anything is bothering him. Is it because you are worried about losing h... (read in full...)

My partner avoids me, but says there is nothing wrong.

Answered by Honeypie + on 19 May 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Hi people I really need some advice I’ve been with my partner for 6 years we have a 4 year old daughter I have a son from a previous relationship we’ve been having problems this last year I caught him watching porn which normally would not of ...

A.   19 May 2019: Have you told him straight out that you FEEL like there is no relationship, no intimacy and really NO point in being together when all he does is avoid you? You have to look at what you have with him and decide am I fulfilled here? Is he a... (read in full...)

Should I respond to and forgive a homophobic friend?

Answered by Pepi let pew + on 19 May 2019.

Pepi let pew agony auntQ.   Time ago I had a friend. We knew each other for a long time, almost 10 years. All this time I was in the closet but then I met this guy and everything got serious between us and that was when I decided I wanted to finally come out. My friend was ...

A.   19 May 2019: If i was you. I could easily forgive him. Even the spit in the face is no big deal. The fact that he regrets his actions is enough for me. People make mistakes.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is very casual about his daughters' privacy and I find it very very odd

Answered by anonymous on 19 May 2019.

Q.   Ive been seeing a guy who's super awesome. We're both single parents of two girls each. They stay the night frequently. My girls are 9 and 13, his are 9 and 11. Despite having lived in an all girl house for the last 5 years or so, my daughters and ...

A.   19 May 2019: I'm the op. We talked further after he told his daughter to start using wet wipes because she had odor down there. I asked how he knew that and he said from their dirty underwear. His daughter called him a creepy dad after he said that and i ... (read in full...)

We're both unhappy in our marriages and have a long history. Should we have sex?

Answered by anonymous on 19 May 2019.

Q.   When I was a teenager While visiting family i met a boy, through high school we crushed back and forth on each other secretly and living in different ends of the country made it impossible for anything to happen. As young adults be told me he liked ...

A.   19 May 2019: You're really trying to make this all sound like a joke so if you guys "accidentally" end up having sex, you can say you never meant it to happen. But you clearly want it to. Everyone is shaming you for this and I just want to say: it's natural ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend just stood and watched while I was struggling rather than help me. Was this mean? Selfish?

Answered by Pepi let pew + on 19 May 2019.

Pepi let pew agony auntQ.   I went shopping with my boyfriend and I was struggling to carry the bags so one of the bags fell on the floor and I was struggling to pick it up meanwhile my boyfriend just stood there and watched me struggle. I said thanks for helping me and he ...

A.   19 May 2019: If he cant help you pick up some groceries that you have dropped. What happens when you have a flat tyre late at night. Or you need to be taken to hospital..? Is he going to be there for you..? Or is he going to make a scene..?... (read in full...)

Just found out he cheated the entire relationship. Should I give him chance?

Answered by Pepi let pew + on 19 May 2019.

Pepi let pew agony auntQ.   I have been dating my current boyfriend for 3 years now. Our families have meshed and we've gone on many trips together, have gone through many experiences and have even told each other I love you half a year into our relationship. He lives on...

A.   19 May 2019: Sorry honey. Get out you deserve better. If you forgive him and get married your allways going to be insecure. He will be late home from work and you will thinking hes sleeping with someone. If there is no remorse or offer to try to make you feel ... (read in full...)

We're both unhappy in our marriages and have a long history. Should we have sex?

Answered by confusedWife2 + on 19 May 2019.

Q.   When I was a teenager While visiting family i met a boy, through high school we crushed back and forth on each other secretly and living in different ends of the country made it impossible for anything to happen. As young adults be told me he liked ...

A.   19 May 2019: Yes it could happen but I said it was joked about not agreed upon and planned out in detail what would happen. Do I think the possibility is there yes but not a guarantee ... (read in full...)

We're both unhappy in our marriages and have a long history. Should we have sex?

Answered by Pepi let pew + on 19 May 2019.

Pepi let pew agony auntQ.   When I was a teenager While visiting family i met a boy, through high school we crushed back and forth on each other secretly and living in different ends of the country made it impossible for anything to happen. As young adults be told me he liked ...

A.   19 May 2019: Here is an idea.. You could cancel the meet up and concentrate on working on your marriage. Saying your not 100 percent happy in your marriage is no excuse to start developing an emotional relationship that could lead on to a sexual relationship. ... (read in full...)

We're both unhappy in our marriages and have a long history. Should we have sex?

Answered by anonymous on 19 May 2019.

Q.   When I was a teenager While visiting family i met a boy, through high school we crushed back and forth on each other secretly and living in different ends of the country made it impossible for anything to happen. As young adults be told me he liked ...

A.   19 May 2019: You are over stepping the BOUNDARIES OP and you KNOW it and that's WHY you're so defensive in your follow up! Suggesting and joking about sex with another (married!!) man is no laughing matter! It's still cheating! Stop contact with this PIG before ... (read in full...)

We're both unhappy in our marriages and have a long history. Should we have sex?

Answered by N91 + on 19 May 2019.

N91 agony auntQ.   When I was a teenager While visiting family i met a boy, through high school we crushed back and forth on each other secretly and living in different ends of the country made it impossible for anything to happen. As young adults be told me he liked ...

A.   19 May 2019: You asked if meeting this man would be a mistake. You weren’t joking, you were here asking if people would find it socially acceptable. You know it isn’t or else you wouldn’t be hoping for someone to validate your query.... (read in full...)

We're both unhappy in our marriages and have a long history. Should we have sex?

Answered by Code Warrior + on 19 May 2019.

Code Warrior agony auntQ.   When I was a teenager While visiting family i met a boy, through high school we crushed back and forth on each other secretly and living in different ends of the country made it impossible for anything to happen. As young adults be told me he liked ...

A.   19 May 2019: Ah yes, you were just joking about the sex. Yeah, right. Why then, are you even asking if meeting him is a mistake? How could it be a mistake to meet an old flame for an innocent night of fun? Could it be that you think that the "joke" will turn ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend goes out drinking every weekend and our relationship is devoid of intimacy, emotional and physical contact

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 19 May 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I am feeling sad because my boyfriend has just gone out to the pub and told me he isn't getting drunk, but he will be getting drunk tomorrow night. We've been together for 2 years. I am sad because this is becoming a pattern. He gets to the weekend ...

A.   19 May 2019: Sweetheart, what are you actually getting out of this relationship? You say it makes you feed sad, tired and rejected (all your words). You don't say one GOOD or POSITIVE thing about it. Reading between the lines, you are simply a housekee... (read in full...)

We're both unhappy in our marriages and have a long history. Should we have sex?

Answered by confusedWife2 + on 19 May 2019.

Q.   When I was a teenager While visiting family i met a boy, through high school we crushed back and forth on each other secretly and living in different ends of the country made it impossible for anything to happen. As young adults be told me he liked ...

A.   19 May 2019: I’m the furthest thing from a narcissistic person that you will ever met, every single thing I have done since meeting my husband has been for him and our marriage. I put my career on hold because he wanted my to be a stay at home mom, every ... (read in full...)

Why are men so cruel? Is that the way of the world?

Answered by Bella75 + on 19 May 2019.

Q.   I’ve asked for help in the past and am very grateful. Which is why i’m Asking again. As I need to process something clearly. I am 44 years old. Divorced twice ( arranged marriage in Asia and an alcoholic husband in the UK). I have worked all ...

A.   19 May 2019: Thank you Honeypie. Your answer was what I needed to hear. And I am interviewing for a new job and it’s my focus but I want to let this man go and not be around . Thank you. For your advice. Am stronger now and will cut my losses faster. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is very casual about his daughters' privacy and I find it very very odd

Answered by CMMP + on 19 May 2019.

Q.   Ive been seeing a guy who's super awesome. We're both single parents of two girls each. They stay the night frequently. My girls are 9 and 13, his are 9 and 11. Despite having lived in an all girl house for the last 5 years or so, my daughters and ...

A.   19 May 2019: I see my daughters (9 and 11) naked on occasion and neither I nor they feel it's a big deal. To be honest I think by making it a big deal people are being kind of weird. I have absolutely no sexual attraction/desire for my daughters in any way, and ... (read in full...)

I'm completely infatuated with a married man who's my boyfriend's friend!

Answered by anonymous on 19 May 2019.

Q.   I just need someone to tell me that I’m crazy and maybe give me some advice on how to move on. I feel like I’m a high school girl! I’m 21 and I’m completely infatuated with a 40 year old married man who also happens to be very close with my ...

A.   19 May 2019: You're young. You're not serious about your bf. Or settling down. You're bored. You need the fantasy of this man to feel something you no longer feel. The married man is not special. He's unattainable and a fantasy. That's why he is so appealing. ... (read in full...)

We're both unhappy in our marriages and have a long history. Should we have sex?

Answered by anonymous on 19 May 2019.

Q.   When I was a teenager While visiting family i met a boy, through high school we crushed back and forth on each other secretly and living in different ends of the country made it impossible for anything to happen. As young adults be told me he liked ...

A.   19 May 2019: I'm a mistress. If you go through with this, you're going to regret it. It seems like he's the answer to all your problems and you are his. But he's really the devil in disguise. Pouncing on your vulnerability to feed off you like a vampire til he ... (read in full...)

We're both unhappy in our marriages and have a long history. Should we have sex?

Answered by Code Warrior + on 19 May 2019.

Code Warrior agony auntQ.   When I was a teenager While visiting family i met a boy, through high school we crushed back and forth on each other secretly and living in different ends of the country made it impossible for anything to happen. As young adults be told me he liked ...

A.   19 May 2019: Oh look another person who thinks that a planned out deliberate act of betrayal is the same thing as making a "mistake". No, it's not a mistake, it's an act of evil by a pair of narcissistic, selfish, and untrustworthy people who want to equate ... (read in full...)

Passing ships in the night but I can't get him out of my head

Answered by Honeypie + on 19 May 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Help. I don't think I'm gonna hear from this guy again. I really fell for this lad on my adult training course. He's a bit younger than myself, but we sat together and flirted a lot and even caught each other staring at each other from time to time, ...

A.   19 May 2019: You didn't have feelings for each other, you were ATTRACTED to each other. BIG difference. You don't know the guy. You know that there was chemistry going on but other then that? You don't know. He might HAVE a GF/partner and therefore CHOSE to... (read in full...)

Why are men so cruel? Is that the way of the world?

Answered by Honeypie + on 19 May 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I’ve asked for help in the past and am very grateful. Which is why i’m Asking again. As I need to process something clearly. I am 44 years old. Divorced twice ( arranged marriage in Asia and an alcoholic husband in the UK). I have worked all ...

A.   19 May 2019: OP don't make the mistake of LETTING others direct your path in life. If you don't feel this "thing" is going in the direction YOU want and that he has YOU on standby, then WISH him well and BLOCK all contact. YOU DON'T have to still talk to him a... (read in full...)

How can I stay grounded, protect myself and keep even firmer boundaries with an absolutely ghastly ex?

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 19 May 2019.

Q.   Today I realized that I am experiencing Crazy-Making with my ex, whom I split up with over 9 years ago. There has been a repeated pattern of him provoking arguments and there is no room for effective communication to take place; he chooses to ta...

A.   19 May 2019: Seek legal-advice about your child-custody and visitation. He's using your child-connection as a means to harass and abuse you. I think you may need to adjust his visitation schedule; because even if you used a go-between as a buffer, he's going to ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend goes out drinking every weekend and our relationship is devoid of intimacy, emotional and physical contact

Answered by anonymous on 19 May 2019.

Q.   I am feeling sad because my boyfriend has just gone out to the pub and told me he isn't getting drunk, but he will be getting drunk tomorrow night. We've been together for 2 years. I am sad because this is becoming a pattern. He gets to the weekend ...

A.   19 May 2019: It sounds like you should break up. People typically don't change, if you don't like how it is now you'll be even more miserable years from now. Tell him you feel feel like you guys are to different because he likes to go out to much and should see ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is very casual about his daughters' privacy and I find it very very odd

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 19 May 2019.

Q.   Ive been seeing a guy who's super awesome. We're both single parents of two girls each. They stay the night frequently. My girls are 9 and 13, his are 9 and 11. Despite having lived in an all girl house for the last 5 years or so, my daughters and ...

A.   19 May 2019: It's inappropriate and he knows it. If he doesn't, as a mother and a female you should say so. They're too old for him go into the bathroom, or be around them when they're changing. Say something, or your girls may be exposed to the same inapprop... (read in full...)

Why can’t he say that promise when I’m having an anxiety attack?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 19 May 2019.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   My boyfriend and I have been together for over 6 years. We we've been together since school. We live each other very much but last year my anxiety got worse which nearly resulted in us breaking up. When this happened I went through a period of ...

A.   19 May 2019: I have extremely bad anxiety too, but you are asking your boyfriend to lie. Calming you down shouldn't cost him his own conscience. You WILL cause exactly what you fear if you pressure him into pandering to you when you have a panic attack. OP, y... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is very casual about his daughters' privacy and I find it very very odd

Answered by anonymous on 18 May 2019.

Q.   Ive been seeing a guy who's super awesome. We're both single parents of two girls each. They stay the night frequently. My girls are 9 and 13, his are 9 and 11. Despite having lived in an all girl house for the last 5 years or so, my daughters and ...

A.   18 May 2019: Sounds definitely like a cultural thing in combination with some (many, actually) dads being total suckers for their daughters. Those dads think their daughters are innocent little babies forever. They can't think of their daughters being grown up ... (read in full...)

How can I stay grounded, protect myself and keep even firmer boundaries with an absolutely ghastly ex?

Answered by Billy Bathgate + on 18 May 2019.

Q.   Today I realized that I am experiencing Crazy-Making with my ex, whom I split up with over 9 years ago. There has been a repeated pattern of him provoking arguments and there is no room for effective communication to take place; he chooses to ta...

A.   18 May 2019: Any time you’re talking to him and he crosses the line tell him it’s none of his business. You mentioned the gym so if he ask how much time are you spending at the gym tell him it is none of his business. When he starts with that crap about how much ... (read in full...)

Why are men so cruel? Is that the way of the world?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 18 May 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   I’ve asked for help in the past and am very grateful. Which is why i’m Asking again. As I need to process something clearly. I am 44 years old. Divorced twice ( arranged marriage in Asia and an alcoholic husband in the UK). I have worked all ...

A.   18 May 2019: It's all very well deciding you will only date men who have no children but you also need to discover, quite early in the relationship, whether they have no children out of CHOICE, and NEVER want any, or whether they are still HOPING to have some. ... (read in full...)

He hurt me on purpose... but I still can't get over him. Help!

Answered by anonymous on 18 May 2019.

Q.   I used to go out with this guy just over a year ago for 2 weeks, but I broke up with him because there were no feelings from my side. I didn't want to lead him on to like me even more and then get him hurt even more in the future so I left without ...

A.   18 May 2019: I have the same problem. I was ignored as a child and also in my marriage, and then he died. I feel it is just another way of ignoring me. I am so angry. What can I do?... (read in full...)

How can I stay grounded, protect myself and keep even firmer boundaries with an absolutely ghastly ex?

Answered by anonymous on 18 May 2019.

Q.   Today I realized that I am experiencing Crazy-Making with my ex, whom I split up with over 9 years ago. There has been a repeated pattern of him provoking arguments and there is no room for effective communication to take place; he chooses to ta...

A.   18 May 2019: Knowing that he is abusive might help you. What he does and how he behaves is how abusive people behave. Exaggeration, twisting the facts, creating arguments out of nowhere, diverting the conversation to their own ends and manipulation and cont... (read in full...)

How do I get stronger? Ex cheated on me I ended things

Answered by Honeypie + on 18 May 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   So I found out my ex cheated on me this Monday. We had a lot of problems throughout our relationship, so many that I lose count. We had an argument last Thursday he was bottling up a lot inside it turned out he didn’t like I was friends with my ex, ...

A.   18 May 2019: Just start by letting him go and cutting ALL contact with him. There is nothing here to fix with him. He is putting ALL the blame on you, even though he know his own behavior is questionable if not downright super inappropriate for someone in a... (read in full...)

Why would my partner text to his ex "there is nothing here" regarding our relationship

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 18 May 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Hi, me and my partner have been together 10 years his previous partner he was with for 15 years. I was looking at his messages and found a message where he stated to her that there is nothing here for him and I have questioned him on this but so far ...

A.   18 May 2019: I have a few questions of my own. What were you doing checking his phone messages? What is your relationship like? Have you got into a rut? I can't think of any reason why someone would say something like that about their relationship... (read in full...)

Passing ships in the night but I can't get him out of my head

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 18 May 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Help. I don't think I'm gonna hear from this guy again. I really fell for this lad on my adult training course. He's a bit younger than myself, but we sat together and flirted a lot and even caught each other staring at each other from time to time, ...

A.   18 May 2019: Sweetheart, there is no such thing as "didn't get time to exchange details or arrange to see each other again". If there had really been something there (apart from a bit of flirting to help pass the time), one or both of you would have made a point ... (read in full...)

We're both unhappy in our marriages and have a long history. Should we have sex?

Answered by confusedWife2 + on 18 May 2019.

Q.   When I was a teenager While visiting family i met a boy, through high school we crushed back and forth on each other secretly and living in different ends of the country made it impossible for anything to happen. As young adults be told me he liked ...

A.   18 May 2019: I’m not saying we will have sex, yes we have joked about it but that’s it’s. as for an emotional affair, yes I feel comfortable talking to him and sometimes the conversations might get a little flirty but we have not done anything physical. I’m n... (read in full...)

How do I get stronger? Ex cheated on me I ended things

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 18 May 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   So I found out my ex cheated on me this Monday. We had a lot of problems throughout our relationship, so many that I lose count. We had an argument last Thursday he was bottling up a lot inside it turned out he didn’t like I was friends with my ex, ...

A.   18 May 2019: I doubt hanging onto him as a friend and acting as his mentor is going to help YOU. You already understand what went on and that it was down to HIM, not you; why do you need to hang around and help him work it out? Why do you see him as your ... (read in full...)

Passing ships in the night but I can't get him out of my head

Answered by anonymous on 18 May 2019.

Q.   Help. I don't think I'm gonna hear from this guy again. I really fell for this lad on my adult training course. He's a bit younger than myself, but we sat together and flirted a lot and even caught each other staring at each other from time to time, ...

A.   18 May 2019: Ask yourself what you want out of this--be honest. Was it a physical connection or more? Now ask yourself what he would want out of this-would it be the same as you? If its yes, find him on FB, ask your connections about him. Then you have to solve ... (read in full...)

My best friend says he's in love with me after his break up but I don't feel the same way

Answered by Honeypie + on 18 May 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   My best friend has recently been dumped by his girlfriend of three years, this is the first time he’s been single his entire since he was 16 and was naturally cut up about it. However after about a week he’s told me that he doesn’t care any more ...

A.   18 May 2019: I do think you are right that these are rebound feelings and wanting to not be alone. I would simply BE honest with him that YOU don't feel the same way and if that means giving him space then do so. Even if it's NOT "rebound feelings" I STIL... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is very casual about his daughters' privacy and I find it very very odd

Answered by chigirl + on 18 May 2019.

chigirl agony auntQ.   Ive been seeing a guy who's super awesome. We're both single parents of two girls each. They stay the night frequently. My girls are 9 and 13, his are 9 and 11. Despite having lived in an all girl house for the last 5 years or so, my daughters and ...

A.   18 May 2019: If you ask about cultural differences, please inform us what cultures you are both from. Otherwise I can not comment on that. As for «formale soaps», there is no such thing. What body parts smell funny? Maybe he means their armpits and they ... (read in full...)

We're both unhappy in our marriages and have a long history. Should we have sex?

Answered by Honeypie + on 18 May 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   When I was a teenager While visiting family i met a boy, through high school we crushed back and forth on each other secretly and living in different ends of the country made it impossible for anything to happen. As young adults be told me he liked ...

A.   18 May 2019: This will fix nothing. It will make your marriage even rockier. No one is EVER 100% happy in their marriage ALL the time. That is unrealistic. If you don't see a way for you and your husband to FIX what isn't working, then maybe you ... (read in full...)

We're both unhappy in our marriages and have a long history. Should we have sex?

Answered by N91 + on 18 May 2019.

N91 agony auntQ.   When I was a teenager While visiting family i met a boy, through high school we crushed back and forth on each other secretly and living in different ends of the country made it impossible for anything to happen. As young adults be told me he liked ...

A.   18 May 2019: Of course you are, how could you possibly think you’re not? You’re discussing breaking your marriage vows. Cheating on the father of your children, you do understand what you’re suggesting? On what lanes would this be okay? Were you expectin... (read in full...)

Why are men so cruel? Is that the way of the world?

Answered by anonymous on 18 May 2019.

Q.   I’ve asked for help in the past and am very grateful. Which is why i’m Asking again. As I need to process something clearly. I am 44 years old. Divorced twice ( arranged marriage in Asia and an alcoholic husband in the UK). I have worked all ...

A.   18 May 2019: Men tend to be very selfish probably because their time to have children is less limited than women’s and they can be I mean even men who have no intention or desire to have children can be seen using the excuse of women being of childbearing age ... (read in full...)

My best friend says he's in love with me after his break up but I don't feel the same way

Answered by anonymous on 18 May 2019.

Q.   My best friend has recently been dumped by his girlfriend of three years, this is the first time he’s been single his entire since he was 16 and was naturally cut up about it. However after about a week he’s told me that he doesn’t care any more ...

A.   18 May 2019: This friendship can only be repaired if he takes you at your word and never mentions it again. He can't be jealous of your boyfriends or keep dropping feelings bombs on you. If he can't not do these things then the friendship is over. Sad but ... (read in full...)

We're both unhappy in our marriages and have a long history. Should we have sex?

Answered by Anonymous 123 + on 18 May 2019.

Anonymous 123 agony auntQ.   When I was a teenager While visiting family i met a boy, through high school we crushed back and forth on each other secretly and living in different ends of the country made it impossible for anything to happen. As young adults be told me he liked ...

A.   18 May 2019: Do you realise that you would be cheating on your children as well and not just on your husband? How do you think you're going to face everyone after you come back home from your love-making session? Are you going to casually serve breakfast to them ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is very casual about his daughters' privacy and I find it very very odd

Answered by anonymous on 18 May 2019.

Q.   Ive been seeing a guy who's super awesome. We're both single parents of two girls each. They stay the night frequently. My girls are 9 and 13, his are 9 and 11. Despite having lived in an all girl house for the last 5 years or so, my daughters and ...

A.   18 May 2019: Normally children are supposed to be tought to use the toilets by themselves by the time they attend school or even kindergarten, however I think that the father perhaps was forced to attend to their pathing and toilet needs because probably the ... (read in full...)

My husband looks at young women in porn and tells me I should just be happy he's still having sex with me despite my shortcomings

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 18 May 2019.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   My husband looks at porn of women around 18- 20 . I’m entering menopause and feeling extremely depressed about my changes to my body such as less elasticity and lubrication wrinkles etc . I’m fit and healthy but nothing makes me as young as the ...

A.   18 May 2019: Anon Female: - Porn is cheating for some people and not for others, you just need to be with someone who feels the same way. - Not everybody masturbates. - Going on a MILF app is still cheating, whether you hook up with anyone or not and c... (read in full...)

We're both unhappy in our marriages and have a long history. Should we have sex?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 18 May 2019.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   When I was a teenager While visiting family i met a boy, through high school we crushed back and forth on each other secretly and living in different ends of the country made it impossible for anything to happen. As young adults be told me he liked ...

A.   18 May 2019: OP, yo're already cheating. You're emotionally cheating. Stop it. Cheating DESTROYS people - it destroys CHILDREN. It's never okay to cheat and it will BREAK your family. If you're unhappy in your marriage, get couples' counselling and/or leave. D... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is very casual about his daughters' privacy and I find it very very odd

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 18 May 2019.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   Ive been seeing a guy who's super awesome. We're both single parents of two girls each. They stay the night frequently. My girls are 9 and 13, his are 9 and 11. Despite having lived in an all girl house for the last 5 years or so, my daughters and ...

A.   18 May 2019: He should not be washing or dressing them, full stop. I don't know of a culture where spending time around your naked daughter after 6 or 7 years old is normal. By that age, if you're worried about them, you stand outside a closed door, not in there ... (read in full...)

Do we change our views in regards to relationships as we get older?

Answered by anonymous on 18 May 2019.

Q.   Silly question maybe but in terms of how you are as a person do we change all that much from the ages of twenty to forty when it comes to how we view relationships? My partner says he didn't know what love was, had nothing to compare it to, looks ...

A.   18 May 2019: She was his first girlfriend and he had no experience with females at all. By all accounts from other sources she treated him like dirt and cheated on him but he stayed with her for a few years. No I trust him now but I guess I just find it hard ... (read in full...)

We're both unhappy in our marriages and have a long history. Should we have sex?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 18 May 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   When I was a teenager While visiting family i met a boy, through high school we crushed back and forth on each other secretly and living in different ends of the country made it impossible for anything to happen. As young adults be told me he liked ...

A.   18 May 2019: How about you ask your husband and kids that question, while he asks his wife and kids? Cheating is NEVER the answer. Either work on your marriages or end them. I bet you were both far less unhappy in your marriages before you reconnected and star... (read in full...)

How can I stay grounded, protect myself and keep even firmer boundaries with an absolutely ghastly ex?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 18 May 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Today I realized that I am experiencing Crazy-Making with my ex, whom I split up with over 9 years ago. There has been a repeated pattern of him provoking arguments and there is no room for effective communication to take place; he chooses to ta...

A.   18 May 2019: You have already worked out you should tell him NOTHING about your personal life. Make sure you keep it that way. If he asks about anything, you are allowed to ignore the question or change the subject back to your daughter. If he keeps coming u... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is very casual about his daughters' privacy and I find it very very odd

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 18 May 2019.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   Ive been seeing a guy who's super awesome. We're both single parents of two girls each. They stay the night frequently. My girls are 9 and 13, his are 9 and 11. Despite having lived in an all girl house for the last 5 years or so, my daughters and ...

A.   18 May 2019: It's pointless asking others for their experiences as everyone's childhood is different. For instance, my brother and I were raised almost solely by my mum for the first few years as dad used to work long hours and we only saw him at week-ends or ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is very casual about his daughters' privacy and I find it very very odd

Answered by Anonymous 123 + on 18 May 2019.

Anonymous 123 agony auntQ.   Ive been seeing a guy who's super awesome. We're both single parents of two girls each. They stay the night frequently. My girls are 9 and 13, his are 9 and 11. Despite having lived in an all girl house for the last 5 years or so, my daughters and ...

A.   18 May 2019: When I first read the question, my instant thought was it's certainly not normal and it if you ask me, it's downright creepy and strange. There are some things that are just understood and that needn't be spelt out and this issue of privacy of one ... (read in full...)

How can I stay grounded, protect myself and keep even firmer boundaries with an absolutely ghastly ex?

Answered by Honeypie + on 18 May 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Today I realized that I am experiencing Crazy-Making with my ex, whom I split up with over 9 years ago. There has been a repeated pattern of him provoking arguments and there is no room for effective communication to take place; he chooses to ta...

A.   18 May 2019: Just keep being firm. He wants to DEBATE what you do in YOUR life, tell him. NONE of your business and REFUSE to engage in any debate or argument. If it's over the phone tell him, this is not a subject for debate, you got to go and hang up. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is very casual about his daughters' privacy and I find it very very odd

Answered by Honeypie + on 18 May 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Ive been seeing a guy who's super awesome. We're both single parents of two girls each. They stay the night frequently. My girls are 9 and 13, his are 9 and 11. Despite having lived in an all girl house for the last 5 years or so, my daughters and ...

A.   18 May 2019: Nope, nope and nope. The girls are ALL old enough to bathe themselves and dress themselves and honestly.. if they don't know how to WIPE their bums by now... I just don't know. I don't think my dad really helped me change clothes ever. As... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is very casual about his daughters' privacy and I find it very very odd

Answered by anonymous on 18 May 2019.

Q.   Ive been seeing a guy who's super awesome. We're both single parents of two girls each. They stay the night frequently. My girls are 9 and 13, his are 9 and 11. Despite having lived in an all girl house for the last 5 years or so, my daughters and ...

A.   18 May 2019: First, Is their mother involved in theirs lives? Second, are they from a different cultural background? Answer yourself the questions before judge him.... (read in full...)

My husband looks at young women in porn and tells me I should just be happy he's still having sex with me despite my shortcomings

Answered by anonymous on 18 May 2019.

Q.   My husband looks at porn of women around 18- 20 . I’m entering menopause and feeling extremely depressed about my changes to my body such as less elasticity and lubrication wrinkles etc . I’m fit and healthy but nothing makes me as young as the ...

A.   18 May 2019: It is such a double standard! What about you being able to find a young stud who is very happy and enthusiastic to please you in bed? Think you can't? Think again because oh yes, you CAN! There are a lot of HOT, tight bodied young men out there who ... (read in full...)

My husband looks at young women in porn and tells me I should just be happy he's still having sex with me despite my shortcomings

Answered by anonymous on 18 May 2019.

Q.   My husband looks at porn of women around 18- 20 . I’m entering menopause and feeling extremely depressed about my changes to my body such as less elasticity and lubrication wrinkles etc . I’m fit and healthy but nothing makes me as young as the ...

A.   18 May 2019: Watching porn is NOT cheating. The porn part isn’t what’s bothering me. Every man/woman masturbates and it’s totally normal to watch porn while doing so. I think what you watch in your private time, should remain just that; private. What both... (read in full...)

My husband looks at young women in porn and tells me I should just be happy he's still having sex with me despite my shortcomings

Answered by WiseOwlE + on 18 May 2019.

Q.   My husband looks at porn of women around 18- 20 . I’m entering menopause and feeling extremely depressed about my changes to my body such as less elasticity and lubrication wrinkles etc . I’m fit and healthy but nothing makes me as young as the ...

A.   18 May 2019: Don't get me started about married-men who watch porn. In my opinion it's still cheating. You're diverting your sexual-energies and lusts away from your spouse. It's an insult to your marriage, and porn makes a bad impact on women. It's like telling ... (read in full...)

My married lover ended things but is jealous of me dating!

Answered by anonymous on 18 May 2019.

Q.   I had an affair for 18 months with a married man who has two small kids. Last month he ended it telling me that the lying to everyone was making him stressed. We both work together and he wanted to stay friends. I am the 3rd person (i know of) he ...

A.   18 May 2019: Oh my why is no one pointing out that this married guy is a Narcissist. I really hope you're still not with him. Do yourself a favor and this will be the biggest and most loving thing to do - educate yourself about Narcissism ok Please. Listen on ... (read in full...)

Is it ok to have sex with my aunt who's now divorced from my uncle?

Answered by anonymous on 17 May 2019.

Q.   My non-biological aunt and I are considering a sexual relationship. She divorced my uncle about 8 months ago and got completely cut off from my family until I messaged her. We have gone on a few "dates" and been sexual but only with our hands (i.e. ...

A.   17 May 2019: Sorry, OP, but not only do I think it's in poor taste but it's also desperate. On both your parts. How old is this ex aunt? It's obvious she's messed up after the divorce and is looking for a distraction. You, on the other hand, should be the one to ... (read in full...)

I'm afraid I will be alone, I've screwed up my life and personality and don't know what to do

Answered by jojo1980 + on 17 May 2019.

jojo1980 agony auntQ.   I've lived a life of a quiet, lonely loner. It was an act of convincing myself I was better off alone and could not feel lonely. Eventually, any semblance of loneliness I had was simply masked by complacency. This turned me into believing that I...

A.   17 May 2019: I have lived almost all of life alone. I don't like socializing To much because it seems like I'm on a different mind set then most people. Because I have spent so much time alone I got to know my self very well. Now unlike allot of people to ... (read in full...)

Do we change our views in regards to relationships as we get older?

Answered by Fatherly Advice + on 17 May 2019.

Fatherly Advice agony auntQ.   Silly question maybe but in terms of how you are as a person do we change all that much from the ages of twenty to forty when it comes to how we view relationships? My partner says he didn't know what love was, had nothing to compare it to, looks ...

A.   17 May 2019: without retracting any of my previous comment . . . When I was 20 - 30 I only thought I knew What love was. Now that I've passed 50, I wonder if I will ever know again. Life's like that.... (read in full...)

My husband looks at young women in porn and tells me I should just be happy he's still having sex with me despite my shortcomings

Answered by Honeypie + on 17 May 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   My husband looks at porn of women around 18- 20 . I’m entering menopause and feeling extremely depressed about my changes to my body such as less elasticity and lubrication wrinkles etc . I’m fit and healthy but nothing makes me as young as the ...

A.   17 May 2019: Is HE as fit as he was when you first started dating? As firm and handsome? I bet not. Not that it matters much, this has more to do with ATTITUDE and respect. I guess he thinks he is hilarious. That he is saying it as a joke, but the thing... (read in full...)

I don't want my ex to go back with his former ex!

Answered by anonymous on 17 May 2019.

Q.   My ex and I split up 3 months ago. We have 2 children together that he still sees regular;y. I didnt want to split and I still love him but we argued too much and our relationship became so toxic it had to end. But now his ex-fiance, who h...

A.   17 May 2019: I feel for you I really do, no matter the bad times he is the father of your children and it is very early days with the split. I have been where you are in that I knew the father of my child was going to move on and there was nothing I could ... (read in full...)

My husband looks at young women in porn and tells me I should just be happy he's still having sex with me despite my shortcomings

Answered by lastexit + on 17 May 2019.

Q.   My husband looks at porn of women around 18- 20 . I’m entering menopause and feeling extremely depressed about my changes to my body such as less elasticity and lubrication wrinkles etc . I’m fit and healthy but nothing makes me as young as the ...

A.   17 May 2019: Kick his ass to the curb. What right does he have to tell you that? If you think he would choose a twenty year old over an attractive woman who loves him let him try. Believe me, you'll be able to get laid faster than he will with his crappy ... (read in full...)

I'm completely infatuated with a married man who's my boyfriend's friend!

Answered by Honeypie + on 17 May 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   I just need someone to tell me that I’m crazy and maybe give me some advice on how to move on. I feel like I’m a high school girl! I’m 21 and I’m completely infatuated with a 40 year old married man who also happens to be very close with my ...

A.   17 May 2019: I think if this has gone on for 3 years it's about time you get a grip. When you start fantasizing/daydreaming you NIP that in the bud and "change the subject" and you KEEP doing that EVERY TIME he crops into your head. It needs to stop. ... (read in full...)

My husband looks at young women in porn and tells me I should just be happy he's still having sex with me despite my shortcomings

Answered by anonymous on 17 May 2019.

Q.   My husband looks at porn of women around 18- 20 . I’m entering menopause and feeling extremely depressed about my changes to my body such as less elasticity and lubrication wrinkles etc . I’m fit and healthy but nothing makes me as young as the ...

A.   17 May 2019: He's crazy. My 65 year old wife is a much better sex partner than when she was 19, our first time. She's pretty fit but 30 pounds heaver than then, but I love that. It's all in the best places. My only affair was with your husband's clone wife, and ... (read in full...)

My husband looks at young women in porn and tells me I should just be happy he's still having sex with me despite my shortcomings

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 17 May 2019.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   My husband looks at porn of women around 18- 20 . I’m entering menopause and feeling extremely depressed about my changes to my body such as less elasticity and lubrication wrinkles etc . I’m fit and healthy but nothing makes me as young as the ...

A.   17 May 2019: "he invalidates my feelings and says all men prefer a hot young body and I should be happy he has sex with me" would push me out the door. It's rude, insensitive and not the kind of man you want in your life. I have to say that "I can't imagine ... (read in full...)

I don't want my ex to go back with his former ex!

Answered by ConfusedCarrie84 + on 17 May 2019.

Q.   My ex and I split up 3 months ago. We have 2 children together that he still sees regular;y. I didnt want to split and I still love him but we argued too much and our relationship became so toxic it had to end. But now his ex-fiance, who h...

A.   17 May 2019: Pull yourself together woman. You've got kids to think of here. Drinking yourself to oblivion over something that may or may not happy is crazy. Think about it. If it wasn't her, you'd feel the same with him getting with someone else. You ... (read in full...)

What would you do with a partner like mine?

Answered by ConfusedCarrie84 + on 17 May 2019.

Q.   Hi I’ve been with my partner now for 5 years and I honestly don’t know how I have put up with it for so long he puts everyone before me if someone rings him to do summat such as painting or anything like that he’s there I ask him he does it months ...

A.   17 May 2019: You are right. He is takign the piss out of you and you are allowing him to. Kick his deadbeat ass to the curb. He sounds as if he is using you in all honesty. For a roof over his head and a warm body to lay next to. You deserve better. Wish ... (read in full...)

Do we change our views in regards to relationships as we get older?

Answered by ConfusedCarrie84 + on 17 May 2019.

Q.   Silly question maybe but in terms of how you are as a person do we change all that much from the ages of twenty to forty when it comes to how we view relationships? My partner says he didn't know what love was, had nothing to compare it to, looks ...

A.   17 May 2019: I believe we learn from each relationship and go forward knowing more what works for us. I believe I get wiser with each relationship in all honesty. As we get older we tolerate less than what we did in our twenties. We gain different standard... (read in full...)

Is it ok to have sex with my aunt who's now divorced from my uncle?

Answered by ConfusedCarrie84 + on 17 May 2019.

Q.   My non-biological aunt and I are considering a sexual relationship. She divorced my uncle about 8 months ago and got completely cut off from my family until I messaged her. We have gone on a few "dates" and been sexual but only with our hands (i.e. ...

A.   17 May 2019: My head screams NO NO NO NO NO. What are you thinking? This will not end well, trust me. She may not be married to your uncle anymore but that doesn't mean they will accept her into the family because she is now having sex with her nephew (By ... (read in full...)

My husband looks at young women in porn and tells me I should just be happy he's still having sex with me despite my shortcomings

Answered by ConfusedCarrie84 + on 17 May 2019.

Q.   My husband looks at porn of women around 18- 20 . I’m entering menopause and feeling extremely depressed about my changes to my body such as less elasticity and lubrication wrinkles etc . I’m fit and healthy but nothing makes me as young as the ...

A.   17 May 2019: How charming of him. That is such a hurtful and nasty thing to say. Does he think he is this gorgeous man who every woman wants to sleep with and you should feel lucky it's you? Honey, you need to live your life for you and build up your ... (read in full...)

Is it ok to have sex with my aunt who's now divorced from my uncle?

Answered by Honeypie + on 17 May 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   My non-biological aunt and I are considering a sexual relationship. She divorced my uncle about 8 months ago and got completely cut off from my family until I messaged her. We have gone on a few "dates" and been sexual but only with our hands (i.e. ...

A.   17 May 2019: I'm with Code Warrior, What good id going to come of this? It's not like your family is going to welcome her with open arms because you are now "dating" her. "This is a monumentally stupid idea." AMEN to that. You do know that HALF the world... (read in full...)

My husband looks at young women in porn and tells me I should just be happy he's still having sex with me despite my shortcomings

Answered by anonymous on 17 May 2019.

Q.   My husband looks at porn of women around 18- 20 . I’m entering menopause and feeling extremely depressed about my changes to my body such as less elasticity and lubrication wrinkles etc . I’m fit and healthy but nothing makes me as young as the ...

A.   17 May 2019: OP, please pardon my French, but your husband is a total ASSHOLE!!! That remark is a two way street. He is damn fortunate that you are still giving him sex, at all! I am a man, but if I was a woman, and he talked to me like that, he would get NO ... (read in full...)

Do we change our views in regards to relationships as we get older?

Answered by Honeypie + on 17 May 2019.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   Silly question maybe but in terms of how you are as a person do we change all that much from the ages of twenty to forty when it comes to how we view relationships? My partner says he didn't know what love was, had nothing to compare it to, looks ...

A.   17 May 2019: My oldest brother in law married a young woman after having dated for 3 months because he has knocked her up. It's what was expected, in a way. I don't think there was a lot of love going on there AT ALL. She was an addict and he spend the firs... (read in full...)

Is it ok to have sex with my aunt who's now divorced from my uncle?

Answered by anonymous on 17 May 2019.

Q.   My non-biological aunt and I are considering a sexual relationship. She divorced my uncle about 8 months ago and got completely cut off from my family until I messaged her. We have gone on a few "dates" and been sexual but only with our hands (i.e. ...

A.   17 May 2019: You guys are old enough to know what you are doing. As long as you don't go telling it to everybody in the family and be discreet as f.buddies I don't see any harm coming to anyone. Just don't call her your aunt. Call her your uncle's ex.... (read in full...)

My husband looks at young women in porn and tells me I should just be happy he's still having sex with me despite my shortcomings

Answered by anonymous on 17 May 2019.

Q.   My husband looks at porn of women around 18- 20 . I’m entering menopause and feeling extremely depressed about my changes to my body such as less elasticity and lubrication wrinkles etc . I’m fit and healthy but nothing makes me as young as the ...

A.   17 May 2019: I can't imagine the sex you do have being all that good when you're perpetually insecure and feeling unwanted by him. And wondering which one of those young chicks are on his mind and in his fantasies when he's doing it with you. You will grow tired ... (read in full...)

Is it ok to have sex with my aunt who's now divorced from my uncle?

Answered by Billy Bathgate + on 17 May 2019.

Q.   My non-biological aunt and I are considering a sexual relationship. She divorced my uncle about 8 months ago and got completely cut off from my family until I messaged her. We have gone on a few "dates" and been sexual but only with our hands (i.e. ...

A.   17 May 2019: This is going to make things terribly complicated come the next family gathering but you’re both adults and there is nothing legally wrong with what you’re doing. Just keep in mind that your uncle and other members of your family probably won’t ta... (read in full...)

My husband looks at young women in porn and tells me I should just be happy he's still having sex with me despite my shortcomings

Answered by anonymous on 17 May 2019.

Q.   My husband looks at porn of women around 18- 20 . I’m entering menopause and feeling extremely depressed about my changes to my body such as less elasticity and lubrication wrinkles etc . I’m fit and healthy but nothing makes me as young as the ...

A.   17 May 2019: That is very unkind things to say to a wife even if he is watching porn he shouldn't be saying those things to you. My advice is learn to be independent of him. Take good care of your looks. Being in your forties isn't old at all. Loose weight if ... (read in full...)

My husband looks at young women in porn and tells me I should just be happy he's still having sex with me despite my shortcomings

Answered by Pepi let pew + on 17 May 2019.

Pepi let pew agony auntQ.   My husband looks at porn of women around 18- 20 . I’m entering menopause and feeling extremely depressed about my changes to my body such as less elasticity and lubrication wrinkles etc . I’m fit and healthy but nothing makes me as young as the ...

A.   17 May 2019: Thats not fair. And to be honest your husband is being a dumb ass. We all age stretch marks,saggy boobs, going bald loseing teeth. I dont have a problem with the porn and i dont think he would cheat on you. Its all just a fantasy. But saying you ... (read in full...)

Do we change our views in regards to relationships as we get older?

Answered by Pepi let pew + on 17 May 2019.

Pepi let pew agony auntQ.   Silly question maybe but in terms of how you are as a person do we change all that much from the ages of twenty to forty when it comes to how we view relationships? My partner says he didn't know what love was, had nothing to compare it to, looks ...

A.   17 May 2019: Im near 50.. And i can say we change alot. Im nothing like i was 10 years ago when it comes to relationships. Infact im ashamed of who i was. And of what i didnt understand. I cheated and i lied and i hurt people. I learnt through counseling that ... (read in full...)

My husband looks at young women in porn and tells me I should just be happy he's still having sex with me despite my shortcomings

Answered by mystiquek + on 17 May 2019.

mystiquek agony auntQ.   My husband looks at porn of women around 18- 20 . I’m entering menopause and feeling extremely depressed about my changes to my body such as less elasticity and lubrication wrinkles etc . I’m fit and healthy but nothing makes me as young as the ...

A.   17 May 2019: Sorry but I'd be out the door. Your husband is rude and insensitive. Who should have to put up with that? I doubt if the ladies would be knocking down his door if he were free. I realize if you start throwing snide remarks back at him it might start ... (read in full...)

Is it ok to have sex with my aunt who's now divorced from my uncle?

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 17 May 2019.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   My non-biological aunt and I are considering a sexual relationship. She divorced my uncle about 8 months ago and got completely cut off from my family until I messaged her. We have gone on a few "dates" and been sexual but only with our hands (i.e. ...

A.   17 May 2019: Don't be an idiot, OP. This is a stupid idea and she's just reeling from the divorce, wanting to get revenge. What better revenge than sleeping with her nephew? You'll probably do it anyway, if this isn't some fantasy you've cooked up, but y... (read in full...)

Do we change our views in regards to relationships as we get older?

Answered by anonymous on 17 May 2019.

Q.   Silly question maybe but in terms of how you are as a person do we change all that much from the ages of twenty to forty when it comes to how we view relationships? My partner says he didn't know what love was, had nothing to compare it to, looks ...

A.   17 May 2019: I guess I'm a bit disbelieving that you would marry someone at any age unless it was for love. I know he has no feelings for her now and he is adamant he looks back and knows it wasn't love and he was a different person back then... (read in full...)

I'm completely infatuated with a married man who's my boyfriend's friend!

Answered by Andie's Thoughts + on 17 May 2019.

Andie's Thoughts agony auntQ.   I just need someone to tell me that I’m crazy and maybe give me some advice on how to move on. I feel like I’m a high school girl! I’m 21 and I’m completely infatuated with a 40 year old married man who also happens to be very close with my ...

A.   17 May 2019: Older? Forbidden? Perfect for an unrealistic fantasy life. It's common to have a crush on someone you don't know inside out. You're not crazy, but you will need to keep reminding yourself that you're both unavailable and your fantasy life with him ... (read in full...)

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