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8 June 2008: I once told my fience that most people would rather be in a bad relationship then be alone, she thought i was crazy. i said this because a good friend of mine is in a relationship where he is not apprieciated and gets talked down to alot. my fience ...
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Should I just try and forget these feelings I am having??
Q. I am 24 yrs old and married since 5 yrs quite young and 10yrs with my hubby ,i dont have any kids. We were in love since i was at school ,our married life is very nice its just hubby works a lot so do i and we don't have enought time together but ...
A. 5 July 2008: these feelings your haveing will only hurt your relationship so it would be best to avoid them. whens the last time you and your husband went on a date? i believe that its very important to have a date night at least every 2 weeks. me and my fience ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Over 600,000 visitors last month!
Q. Just a quickie We broke the 600,000 unique users/month (i.e. people!) last month. According to google analytics we had 638,310 visitors from June 1st to June 30th. Doesn't seem that long ago we passed the half a million mark. Thanks to all t...
A. 5 July 2008: wow thats awsome. im so proud to have been a part of this. i know this site has helped me and allowed me to help others, thats what makes it so great.... (read in full...)
Please love me
Q. I once told my fience that most people would rather be in a bad relationship then be alone, she thought i was crazy. i said this because a good friend of mine is in a relationship where he is not apprieciated and gets talked down to alot. my fience ...
A. 5 July 2008: thank you to everyone, im glade you all liked it. its never easy to watch our freinds get hurt but it can be even harder to tell them that there in a hurtful relationship.... (read in full...)
I have NO facial hair! Is that a turn off to the girls??
Q. Ok, I'm 16 years old, and basically my problem is that I currently have no facial hair!... I know i was a little behind my mates when it came to pubity, but now I'm pretty much the same as them; I have a reasonable amount of pubic hair,...
A. 28 June 2008: i wish i didnt have facial hair, my job requires me to shave and my girl says that the hairs poke her when i kiss her so she dousnt like it. i guess it depends on the girl but what i know for sure is i havent found a girl yet who thinks my hairy ... (read in full...)
I've started feeling really paranoid about him checking out 'XXX' sites
Q. I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 19 and i just needed some advice. Is it ok if he browses for girls to check out on sites such as myspace? And he also goes on a site where people put up sexy videos and pics. I have a feeling he gets off to them. I dont...
A. 24 June 2008: i dont think thers anything wrong with him looking up porn but if he is going on myspace and specificaly looking for hot girls then that is a problem because he actually has the ability to talk to these girls. with porn he has no way of talking to ... (read in full...)
I feel like there are three people in the relationship and it's making me insecure!
Q. Dear Cupid I have been dating the most amazing guy for 6 months. He is wonderful kind, and we are madly in love. However during my previous relasionships ex boyfriends were unfaithful to me on more than one occation. I've come to terms with the p...
A. 24 June 2008: i think you just need to relaxe. if he wanted to be with her then he would be with her but hes not, hes with you. there is often a big differance between frinds and girlfriends, now by this i dont mean to say that men arnt friends with there ... (read in full...)
My love forever...
Q. Well people. Here's my story. I'm 16 years old and I met my love nearly a year ago. Even though we've been together only 2 months. I met him at my schools "75th" annual pageant. I saw him hanging out with a crowd of guys and I couldn't help but ...
A. 24 June 2008: youv got my attention. how does the rest of the story go?... (read in full...)
Know who it is you think you love!
Q. About a year ago, when I was 14, a girl found out that I liked her. This goes back to almost four years ago; when I first met her, thoughts went buzzing to my brain: "she's beautiful... she's smart... she's cute... she's funny... she likes to ...
A. 24 June 2008: i know how you feel. i hate poeple that cant keep there mouths shut, or people who turn emotions into a joke. it was a good artical.... (read in full...)
Why wouldn't he come back to get his things?
Q. he went to his exwife of 2 yrs when i kicked him out we were fighting and i told him to go, he was living with me, the next day i was not angry anymore and sorry, i called him he cried and said he wanted to come back that night but then his cell ...
A. 19 June 2008: i would say he hasnt come back for his stuff because he doesnt want to see you, which is either because A)hes afraid that you will ask him to come back B)hes just really mad at you C)he still loves you so its hard for him to see you.... (read in full...)
How can I make her realise that her behaviour is unacceptable? Your views on this would be appreciated!
Q. I was out with my girlfriend the other night having a nice meal and getting on when she began to talk about her ex and how his birthday is the same month as mine it isn't!and called her on it as know the exact date of hers and she gets the month ...
A. 19 June 2008: ok well what i think you need to do is call her and tell her your haveing a problem with the relationship and you want to talk to her about it, then talk to her in person and tell her how you feel, but do it without getting mad or insulting her. if ... (read in full...)
Move in or not?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to move in with him at the end of the summer.. I really want too but I know my family would absolutely hate the idea and would disown me if I did. I truely do love him and would do anything for him, and I know he feels the same ...
A. 19 June 2008: right, i completly agre with eyes. i do feel like we dont have enough of the story to judge correctly though. exactly how old are you? and how old is your parents? do you have a job? does he?... (read in full...)
When you have sex do you have to shave your pubic hairs or not?? Answers wanted ASAP!!
Q. um....i really dnt know how to saii this but...when havin sex, must you shave the area by your vagina or is this a major turnoff, or do guys like it when you have shaved there??? ...
A. 19 June 2008: well it all depends on your partners preferances, some like it one way and some like it the other, so just go with whatever you like, or ask him. but if you are between 10-12 like it says then you really shouldnt be thinking about sex, your way to ... (read in full...)
After my husband cheated I don't believe men are nice... can I really trust someone?
Q. Since my husband cheated me, I am unable to trust any other men. I see all men in the same eye.Everyone is same. They all are shits! But I want to live a happy life. How can I see others in a different way? Or are there anyone who is good? Can I get ...
A. 19 June 2008: i hate that. one big jerk ruins every other guys chances with a girl. it happens way too often. i dont blame you for your trust issues but you need to know not all men are pigs, some of us have morals and we stand by them. but sadly, there are less ... (read in full...)
Is this a good sign or is it even a sign?
Q. its been a little over a month since my g/f broke up with me. at first i admit that i did the worst thing that many guys do; i continued to call and text her throughout the day to try and get her back. the first week she would always ans. my calls r ...
A. 19 June 2008: well its hard to say, but to be on the safe side you should call her every other day, or sometimes more often if you have something important or interesting to talk about.... (read in full...)
Help, I don't know what to do with my crush and my boyfriend...
Q. k, well, i hav this boyfrend rite?and im onlii 12 but were pretty serious as ive already met his mom and dad and sister but the thing is, wayyyyy b4 that, i had this crush on a boy thats still in my class but i never thought he liked me, so anywayz, ...
A. 19 June 2008: well, im sure you already relize that you cant break up with you boyfriend and emediatly start dateing your crush, that would ruin everything, but if you want to be with your crush then you can break up with your boyfriend and wait a few mounths ... (read in full...)
Porn Wars II-May The Foreskin Be With You
Q. Debates surrounding porn often generate more heat than light and any areas of genuine concern can get blurred when people let their emotions cloud their reason. Porn has always been with us under various guises ever since the cavemen ogled drawings ...
A. 18 June 2008: i know im a bit late since the last post was may 29th but i just want to say a couple of things on the issue. well first i agree with pretty much everything said here. i do believe that sex is seeping into the media too much, you shouldnt have to ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but he isn't in love with me any more. Should I keep trying?
Q. Ive been with my partner for 5years. The last 6months ive had depression and i didnt no, but in that time i said nasty stuff to him that i didnt mean. Last weekend we broke up over the phone as we live with his parents in their garage and it was ...
A. 18 June 2008: he loves you but hes hurt, so you have to try your best to mend those wounds. whens the last time you two went on a date? a night out every couple of weeks is good for the relationship. and if your madly in love with him then make sure you show him ... (read in full...)
Long-distance confusion... I feel like I'm settling for being second-best, should I walk away?
Q. I met this woman almost a year ago thru work. We live in diff countries. She came to visit here in the US and stayed for a week. Amazing sex, conversation, etc, we got along fantastic. She came to visit for 2 more weeks and another amazing visit. ...
A. 18 June 2008: if you can shorten the distance then everything can work out. it seem like she likes you more then her boyfriend so if you were there then it would only make sence for her to choose you. so if you have a way of shortening the distance then it can ... (read in full...)
Is anyone else like this or am I obsessive?
Q. is anyone else like this or am I obsessive?? My boyfriend of nearly a year sometimes does a 2-10 shift - getting home about 9.45. I find that I have to have him come to bed with me at the same time (i.e. 11pm) otherwise I can't sleep anyway. I ...
A. 18 June 2008: what is your problem exactly? is it the fact that he looks up porn? i think you need to just calm down and get some sleep. it sounds to me like your your own worst enemy, like is everything usally good until your alone and have time to think, and ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering why she calls and tells me all these things because I still care about her a lot ?
Q. ok i dated this girl for over 2 years and i can't seen to get over her.okay this is how it started we first started dating and she asked to to come her friends b-day party with her so i agreed and went but it was the biggest mistake i ever made ...
A. 18 June 2008: well the reason she tells you these things could be any one of these reasons. 1. she sees you as a friend and just wants you to know whats going on in her life. 2. she wants to make you jealouse. 3. shes trying to convince herself that she doesnt ... (read in full...)
Help! We're across the country from him, we're friends, but I want to tell him might mess that up!
Q. Ok, So of course.. there is this guy i like.. we dated on and off for about a year... (mostly on if your wondering). and we broke up like five months ago.. i was dating another guy and he was dating another girl. well me and him remained friends and ...
A. 18 June 2008: if he is already in a relationship then there is no point in telling him. you know you dont want to ruin his relationship or your friendship just because you want to be with him, so try and let it go. if somewhere down the line you both end up ... (read in full...)
Is this normal playing for a straight girl and her gay friend? I'm annoyed!
Q. My gf was a dancer in college. They toured a lot so partied in hotel rooms quite a bit. She has never elaborated on those parties one time in our five years. A few times she has mentioned how close she got with them and how the gay guys loved to ...
A. 18 June 2008: i can understand why your annoyed. the big problem is that if you tell her your annoyed she will just say well hes gay so theres nothing going on. your in a tough spot and believe i got annoyed too when my gay friend was "playing" with my girlfriend ... (read in full...)
Our friends are getting us together, I think we're both a little interested in each other, but I'm not sure how to show her. Help?
Q. im 19 just graduated high school. this girl is 16 and in high school. shes heard about me in high school and my friends are hooking us up to hangout.. think shes a lil intrested as i am.. but im not sure how to show her.. i just got out of a long r...
A. 18 June 2008: well after you hang out with her one time ask if shed like to go out to dinner, a movie, or something sometime. you can work from there.... (read in full...)
Is there anything wrong with this guy? Help!
Q. hello I am kind of confuse with this guy i am dating, he does everything to please me, we have never fight, we have develop feelings for eachother, he is always trying to see how am I feeling ( because I have a little bit of bad health), he even...
A. 18 June 2008: well i think hes starting to fall in love with you but he wants to be cautiose because hes afraid of getting hurt. it sounds like someones broke his heart befor and he doesnt want that to happen again so dont let things like that freak you out. just ... (read in full...)
I've dug a hole for myself, what do I do now?
Q. So I started dating this girl in December and over the course of a couple months I have led her to believe that I spent some time after high school travelling because I was extremely insecure about entering University as late as i did...I was ...
A. 18 June 2008: if you feel bad about it and you want this relationship to work then you need to tell her, because if you dont and one day she finds out you lied and never told her then she will never be able to fully trust you. all secrets come out in the end so ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to focus on ME and my lips not just my boobs?
Q. hey guys, I have a boy problem. There is this guy that I have liked for almost 5 years on and off and we have a lot of history. He was my first kiss. He and I have been there for each other growing up as our parents got divorced and we ...
A. 18 June 2008: well i think that the first thing you should do is get a relationship started, if he doesnt want to be in a relationship with you then he deffinatly doesnt deserve to touch your boobs. but if your going to ask him out, then do make sure you do it on ... (read in full...)
Risks that come with often masturbating?
Q. hello i have heard that when you masturbate a lot and you do it more than once a day your penis could bleed and hurt when you urinate. Is this true? And is there anything close to that which could happen?...
A. 15 June 2008: well you wont piss blood from masturbating but if you do it often and are kinda rough on "yourself" then it is possible to tear the skin a little bit which will make hard to masterbate for a couple of days until it heals up, unless of course your ... (read in full...)
I feel ready to get married but she doesn't... any advice?
Q. ok well im not sure why im writeing this because i dont really think anyone can help, mabey im just looking for someone to talk to me about it. i asked my girlfriend to marry me back in december and she said yes so now were engaged. well you see the ...
A. 15 June 2008: (talking calmly and pleasently)well rhythmandblues2 i did state that i think her fears make sence, i dont blame her for feeling the way she feels and she dousnt blame me for feeling the way i feel. my fience would agree with you more, while i would ... (read in full...)
My best friend just moved and I miss her... will I get over it soon?
Q. well i have a freind who is like my best freind in the whole world but something bad just happend my freind moved away going to a new school. she is gone now :( and i will probably never meet her again all i ahve to member her is the yearbook i h...
A. 14 June 2008: it will be a long time befor you stop missing her, even years down the road you will see something that reminds you of her and you will miss her. i know it sucks but you cant really help how you feel. with time it will get easier and eventually it ... (read in full...)
Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
Q. Just a little light comic relief, some entertainment if you like - sort of based on some of the problems here on Dear Cupid. Feel free to lighten your load : ) I'll start by submitting 8 things that I think guys would 'LOVE' to hear from their ...
A. 14 June 2008: oh geeez, i just read all of that. do you have any idea how long that took. especially considering i had to take bathroom breaks so i didnt wet myself. thats some good stuff.... well not all of it but most of it. well actually it was all of it but ... (read in full...)
What can I do to know if my boyfriend really wants to be with me?
Q. Hello, I want my boyfriend to pay attention to me, but i don't want him to just because i pretty much force him to. To help him see if he really wants to be with me or not, what can i do to take some of the attention i shower on him away?...
A. 14 June 2008: dose he tell you he loves you without you saying it first, because if he dose this is a good sign. or are you two not to that stage yet? listen most people dont stay with someone that there not happy with unless they have kids or are afriad of being ... (read in full...)
I will be staying a week with my boyfriend and want to make love for the first time!
Q. On the 20th I'm due to go down south to see my boyfriend for the week. His parents will be away for the week too. So we'll be home alone. Now my dad thinks that we'll be doing something and keeps asking if he should get me some protection, just...
A. 14 June 2008: well since your going over to his house i would hope that he has made some planes to make it romantic. if you dont think he has anything planned you still have time to make a suggestion to him befor you go there. now i wish you two the best but ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will not talk about our relationship!
Q. Why do guys have a hard time expressing themselves? Every time I would ask my bf where this relationship is going or what he thinks of it, he says, "it is what it is". What does that mean? He shows a lot of affection towards me and treats me very ...
A. 14 June 2008: well men have a hard time expressing themselves because of how life treats us. we have to be macho, which means were not supposed to have emotion. all our lives we are taught this. as children we cry and our dad tells us "stop crying, men dont cry". ... (read in full...)
I think we could work but he doesn't agree! What should I do?
Q. Here goes... I love to give advice I'm really good at it but only with other peoples problems! ... My problem - I started meeting a guy about 4 months ago and we started seing each other but argued so called it a day but then started seeing e...
A. 14 June 2008: why dose he have to ask you? i think you should tell him how you feel and then ask him out, and tell him you wont take no for an answer. ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to focus on ME and my lips not just my boobs?
Q. hey guys, I have a boy problem. There is this guy that I have liked for almost 5 years on and off and we have a lot of history. He was my first kiss. He and I have been there for each other growing up as our parents got divorced and we ...
A. 14 June 2008: so dose that mean you two arnt going out yet... if thats true then you should find out if he wants to go out, also if thats true he shouldnt be trying to grabe your boobs yet. i dint fondle my girlfriends boobs until we were going out for like 6 ... (read in full...)
Why is he acting this way?
Q. Last weekend I was with my friend. He is male we have been friends for a year now. We went in a relationship then he went back to his ex then broke up with her and we waited for 2 months then got together again and have spent time together, but ...
A. 14 June 2008: tell him your haveing a hard time with this relationship, and you dont feel wanted so your leaveing unless he can give you a reason to stay. based on what he has to say, you can judge for yourself whether or not you should continue in this ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 years old and I'm still single!
Q. Hi, I've been single my whole life and I what out. My friends and family say that I'm beautiful and that guys are just nervous. If thats the cause then why do guys go out with girls that are prettier than me? ...
A. 14 June 2008: DocDell not all guys are dogs.
now on to the question, i understand how you feel. when no one asks you out and see other people in relationships it makes you feel unwanted and lonely. many of us just want to feel loved or at least wanted. and when... (read in full...)
Do you think concealing private porn viewing is enough to shows that he is just secretive and dishonest in general?
Q. I have been w/my bf for over 4 yrs. While I was away someone threatened to tell me about this cybersex thing he had w/ a girl when he was only 16 and we had just started dating. He freaked out and told me the whole thing which, even though it was ...
A. 14 June 2008: well first of all porn is mainly used when people have sexual urges but there bf/gf is not around. which means if you gave your man a few pictures of yourself naked, then theres a good chance that he would get rid of his porn. now secoundly some ... (read in full...)
What Does taking things Slow really mean???
Q. my bf and I were broke up for almost a month now, but we have been hanging out the past few days, and chatting..We were together for 3.5 years, and broke up because of communication basically. Anyway we had a lot of fights, and we both know we need ...
A. 14 June 2008: he dousnt want to rush things out of fear that the 2 of you will end up exactly where you left off. thats what takeing it slow means. lets say you quickly put together a doll house, well because you didnt take you time and check for mistakes that ... (read in full...)
Am I just being pathetic to be jealous when he says 'we' in referance to his ex?
Q. Is it wrong to feel annoyed if your boyfriend of 10 months (serious relationship, living together) says things like "us" and "we" regarding his ex wife. Let me explain. He left his ex-wife over 11 years ago. They have a boy aged 12. He needs a l...
A. 13 June 2008: he only says we and us because hes talking to you about her. i mean you cant expect him to say "me and my ex" ever time. it is a "we" and an "us" because it is "there" son. i think you might just feel better if you had a child with him, but im not ... (read in full...)
Please love me
Q. I once told my fience that most people would rather be in a bad relationship then be alone, she thought i was crazy. i said this because a good friend of mine is in a relationship where he is not apprieciated and gets talked down to alot. my fience ...
A. 10 June 2008: i was hopeing more people were going to comment on my article befor i said my thanks, but your the only one to comment so far and its been a couple of days. so thank you for reading it LJ001. im glade to see that someone liked it.... (read in full...)
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