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| | hlskitten's profile:Currently a single, 36 yr old mum of 2. Work from home. Recently out of a year long relationship with a pathalogical liar ha! I have very good instincts (so my mother says!) Im just not very good at trusting them (as my mother says!) hehe
Split from the childrens dad 6 years ago. Big age gap, grew apart but on very good terms with him, he has them every fortnight & is happy with a new partner.
I enjoy being single but have a lot of empathy for people in troubled relationships & hate to think anyone is suffering. Thats the Capricorn in me!
I have also been in some bizarre situations & had things happen you only tend to see in the soap operas! people used to say my life was better than Eastenders haha
Its the kids holidays & i work from home so have a bit more time to spend on here.
Oh & not to forget i did start a Diploma course in counselling a couple of years back, but child care commitments put a stop to it, for the time being anyway. That will be picked up again in due course.
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His ex-wife is now expecting his child-should I be happy for him?
Q. Hi, I am dating my boyfriend for about 6 months now. We are so much in love with each other... it was love at first sight and we both feel we are right together. He was married (divorced in the meantime) and already has a 2yo boy. His ex-wife got...
A. 13 May 2008: Tricky one :o(
I know what you mean about the feeling guilty bit. And wondering if he would be there if you weren't on the scene. But you really do need to remember that they were over before you came along, and if he tells you that, then trust him.... (read in full...)
What does love mean to you?
Q. This has more than likely been asked many times before but I don't feel like going through thousands of questions. Anyway I wanted to know what each of you thought love means to you....
A. 11 May 2008: Love is sharing. Not even thinking about it, just sharing everything. Soul mates. Someone that you click with on lots of levels. Share the the same morals. A person that 'wants' the same things in life that you do. If you put it like that. You could ... (read in full...)
I honestly never touched a woman's body while I was away working, and my g/f doesn't believe me.
Q. I've been dating this girl for 3 months, then on the 4th month we decided to live together. On the 5th month i went to Hawaii to work for 4 months (with continous communications, sending gifts and stuff to her). 2 weeks before i finished my 4 ...
A. 10 May 2008: Hi
Sounds like this girl was ready for the full commitment before you were and you met some girls while you were away. Which is cool! But it doesnt sound like you're quite ready to offer her what she is looking for now. It happens. Let her find mr r... (read in full...)
Is it possible I could be pregnant even though I've had my periods?
Q. I've had my periods over the past few months although they've been a bit irregular, however recently i'm not sure if i may be pregnant as it feels as though i am, and i'm sure i can feel it move. Could i be pregnant although i've had my peri...
A. 10 May 2008: Its possible to be pregnant and still have your periods. Only way to be sure is to do a pregnancy test.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
When will I know she's ready to have sex?
Q. Hi everyone. I've been dating this girl for nearly a year, we get along very well, finish each other's sentences and all that, lovey-dovey kind of couple.I swore I would not be like that in another relationship, but.. here we are, lol. Anyway here's ...
A. 10 May 2008: thats lovely to hear.so refreshing carry on like you are sex isnt that important.get wed and see wot happens.or you could have a normal life choice is yours... (read in full...)
My lecturer's been with his wife for 15 yrs, I really like him, so I'm planning to act!
Q. The lecturer I fancy knows my name and i think he likes me. He's married but he's been with her for over 15 years (even though hes only 35, i'm 20) and has indicated to me he's a bit bored. He's so clever and interesting and i'm dying to spend time...
A. 9 May 2008: :o?... (read in full...)
He's gone back home, I really don't know what to do, all I do is cry.
Q. My boyfriend of two years went to work yesterday, he didn't come back home. So like you would, I called and texted him alot, as I was starting to panic. I then got a text from his mum saying he had gone home, his mum lives two hours away and he'd...
A. 9 May 2008: He's a mummies boy. He missed his mum, thats why she said he has done it before.
Time to move on and meet a grown man.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
My 'perfect' man with a girlfriend....Is he giving me signs?
Q. Hello newbie here!! I have been single for over a year now and recently been email/facebook flirting with a guy who is quite local to me. He instigated it by emailing me first off (approx 1 month ago). I originally know him from university altho...
A. 9 May 2008: Boy oh boy, this guy must think all his xmases came at once! Bored in his humdrum relationship and along comes someone thats flattered by his attention regardless of the fact he has a girlfriend. Cant get much better than that can it! Er yes it can, ... (read in full...)
My lecturer's been with his wife for 15 yrs, I really like him, so I'm planning to act!
Q. The lecturer I fancy knows my name and i think he likes me. He's married but he's been with her for over 15 years (even though hes only 35, i'm 20) and has indicated to me he's a bit bored. He's so clever and interesting and i'm dying to spend time...
A. 9 May 2008: Hi
Hey act if you want to be a savior for a sad bored 35 yr old and a confidence boost to him! I mean, afterall, its not like he's brainy enough to cotton on that a 20 yr old isn't a better bet stability wise than his reliable partner of 15 yrs.... (read in full...)
I think he does love me but he's never got time for me. Please help.
Q. We're working abroad and we are both married, he has a girlfriend but i couldn't help falling in love with him, he said he love me too. I really love him so much (well i'm just a human). My problem is i feel bored with our relationship because we d...
A. 9 May 2008: Hi
What a shame. You have latched onto someone that is looking for thrills in his spare time to brighten up his dull marriage.
He is rare in the fact he's not after sex, but he dupes in the way of offering words. It gains him attention. A confiden... (read in full...)
Could the patches of skin discoloration be linked to the pill?
Q. Hi, Around the same time I started taking the pill (Cilest) in December, I've also had small patches of discoloured skin, it isn't bad or anything, but i can't seem to find anywhere that suggests that the two are linked? Does anyone know if they...
A. 9 May 2008: Usually its sun damage. You're a tad young for that though. So it could possibly be to do with the pill. Ask your doc is the best port of call.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
We keep breaking up, but I really want him back
Q. I felt in love with this guy since the first day I met him, and then we had a relationship, for more than a year, the problem now is we always break up and make up, because we do really love each other. He dumped me but I know that he still lo...
A. 9 May 2008: Hi
You are constantly looking for reassurance from him, thats whats happening here. You want him to chase you. Not unusual so dont beat yourself up about it! But if you do it for too long, the guy will get fed up and quit for good. And that will... (read in full...)
Why don't I have an orgasm when I have sex with my partner?
Q. hi, i just want to ask why i did'nt feel orgasm every time i had sex with my partner? my partner is good in sex i know it. he always ask me if im finished i said not yet,if i feel that he can no longer to wait for my orgasm, im just pretending and ...
A. 9 May 2008: Hi
Stop pretending and start realising that most women (70%) dont orgasm through penetrative sex alone!
You are kidding yourself and your partner.
Its a shame a lot of guys rate their sexual 'prowess' on intercourse alone. Whatever happened to ... (read in full...)
Split up after I joined a dating site, but I want him back
Q. How do I get over my ex? We went out for five years and I would have given the world for him. Things have been a bit rocky for a while now and we had a blazing row about 8 weeks ago. basically he hadn't spent any time with me for weeks as we dont ...
A. 7 May 2008: Hi
He's not giving you what you want. The joining a dating site was a cry for attention! Not unusual. It wasn't right, but neither is him putting his mates before you and your son. You come as a package and he doesn't sound like he is capeable of s... (read in full...)
My childhood friend slept with my BF a year ago; she keeps telling me she wants to be friends again, do I forgive her?
Q. My best friend since childhood slept with my boyfriend. It has been a year since I have talked to her and I dumped the guy. She keeps calling me telling me she wants to be friends agian. Should I forgive her? I'm afriad she may try and do the same ...
A. 7 May 2008: Hi
I'm assuming she is in her 30's? And it only happened a year ago? In which case i wouldn't bother if it was me.
If this had happened yonks ago, she may well have changed as she grew up, but in the last year?
I couldn't forgive that sort of betr... (read in full...)
Why do so many teenage girls have a thing for their male teachers?
Q. Why do so many teenage girls on this site have a thing for their male teachers? There are so many posts from teenage girls who say they are in love with their male teachers. Some of these teachers are 20 or more years older than these girls, so it ...
A. 3 May 2008: Just a guess but, its similar to female patients being 'in love' with their doctor. Its an authoritive figure in their life that makes them feel safe.
99% of the time its not recipricated (sp)
Usually the teachers/doctors are happily married ... (read in full...)
How can I get out of this secret affair without hurting people? I
Q. Hi, I already posted this question once and only got two responses-please help!!!! I have a partner of two years and we recently split (about six months ago) for a short period of time. During this time, I was really low on confidence and s...
A. 30 April 2008: Hi
You need to grow a back bone and tell the new guy you are giving it another go with your ex. Its quite simple really. Otherwise you are gonna fall flat on your face and end up with none of them.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
Pregnant with twins and just found out husband is cheating on me, I really need some help please!
Q. Hi im 7 months pregnant with identical twins and have a 2 year old boy aswell i have just found out tht my husbund is cheating on me. And as been doing so for around 9 months. Im heart broken and i cant look at him or touch him he makes me feel sick ...
A. 30 April 2008: Hi
Jeez what a mess. And what a nightmare for you. She is being totally out of order contacting you. It sounds like she is hoping the more trouble she stirs up, the more chance she has of him going to her because you will reject him. Nasty piec... (read in full...)
My ex broke up with me when I revealed my secret, I'm not handling it very well, help!
Q. i dont want to stop loving my ex. we broke up a month ago i really believed we were perfect together, best friends but i kept a secret from him for a year. last year his friend tried it on with me but i said no. i knew this would hurt my bf so i ...
A. 30 April 2008: Hi
In his eyes you did lots wrong, and it had nothing to do with his mate trying it on with you. It was deception. It doesn't matter what something is about, its the keeping it from someone thats wrong. Ive been on the receiving end of some... (read in full...)
Why do people think first night sex is cheap and the girl lacks self respect?
Q. Ok guys why do ppl think it is cheap and the girl lacks self respect if they have sex on the first night? I mean after going out on a date and lots of talking? What is the difference between waiting for the second date as some ppl think it is more ...
A. 29 April 2008: As long as they are 2 consenting adults, i wouldn't say its cheap. Each to their own. I think people need to be aware that if they have only just met someone and dont wait a while to get to know what the person is looking for, if its going to go the ... (read in full...)
We argue, break up, get back together, argue, break up, get back together, argue...you get the idea. What should I do?
Q. ive been dating this guy on and off for six months, we've had our fair share of arguments and we always end it, and i always try to move on but a few days later he texts me saying sorry and i always give him another chance. This has happened a lot, ...
A. 29 April 2008: So you know HE wont do it again? He cant be arguing with himself? It takes 2. But i know how you feel. Its damn frustrating when you love someone but you cant stop clashing! If i was you 2 i would go for some counselling and try to sort out why you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says I should be able to come just from intercourse, is he right?
Q. Im a little confused about some stuff.. I lost it to my boyfriend who i really love about two months ago.. and from those times... when we've had sex.. he cums but i havent had an orgasm yet.. im nto surprised since this is my first time...
A. 29 April 2008: No he's not right. Only 30% of women will orgasm through intercourse alone.
70% need clitoral stimulation.
If a lot of women have done, thats he's been with before, the chances are, they have faked it. Which a higher percentage of women do than act... (read in full...)
Why does he say he likes me but hes got a girl friend and still meeting up with me without her knowing?
Q. theres this lad that i went out with in october for about a month he finished with me and it took me 5 months to get over him when i finally did it was with another lad and then they both had a fight because the lad it took me ages to get over said ...
A. 29 April 2008: I wouldn't go for any of them, and start afresh with someone else.
The guy is seeing you and a girlfriend at the same time because he likes having his cake and eating it, and also knows you are with someone so why should he end it with her when you ... (read in full...)
Difference between a fuck buddy and a friend with benefits and what do you think of the whole thing?
Q. My friends and I were talking and she said she had "a friend with benefits". I said "So you have a fuck buddy?" And she said, they were different things? Cant someone explain the difference to me between a fuck buddy and a friend with benefits ...
A. 29 April 2008: Personally i think a fcuk buddy is someone you use for sex, thats it. No friendship as such.
friend with benefits is someone you hang out with AND have sex with too, but no emotional entanglement.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
I don't want my boyfriend sexually, but I love him. Help!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about three years and our sex life has drastically changed in the last few months. We used to make love at least twice a week and now we haven't for about two months. I have to confess this is mainly m...
A. 29 April 2008: I actually know where you're coming from when you say you feel cuddles are just because they want to move on to sex. I have had feelings similar in the past, where i felt thats what one of my uses were.
Maybe you feel a bit like a piece of meat... (read in full...)
I was his mistress and now we are together. Why am I still competing with the wife?
Q. i am a 21 yr old who is dating a 33 yr old man. He left his wife for me and i believe he loves me very much as do i him. He has 3 kids who absolutely dispise me as well as alot of financial stuff from his past with his wife.I know his wife is still ...
A. 29 April 2008: Because, even though he made me feel like the most special pebble on the beach at the time, i knew deep down his morals didn't match up to mine, and i couldn't get my head round how he could lie to her the way he was.
I just wouldn't of trusted him ... (read in full...)
I don't want my boyfriend sexually, but I love him. Help!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about three years and our sex life has drastically changed in the last few months. We used to make love at least twice a week and now we haven't for about two months. I have to confess this is mainly m...
A. 28 April 2008: Hi
It doesn't sound like there is a whole lot of chemistry going on here. Was there chemistry when you first dated him?
Could be hormone problems, meds, many reasons why its disappeaered?
c xxxx... (read in full...)
SITE VIDEO: April 2008 video from Andrew
Q. Been a while since we had a video update. Anyone interested in being able to post their replies to the site as YouTube videos??...
A. 25 April 2008: The last web cam i owned was about 5 yrs ago, and was pants! lol
C xxxx... (read in full...)
I'm in love and I'm letting him play me! How do I get over him in style?
Q. im 17 and in love. I am letting him play me, with 3 other girls because when we are on our own i feel like im his only one. I put to the back of my mind that he is also seeing 3 other girls! I want to get over him but can't bare my life without ...
A. 24 April 2008: Hi N
Awful isn't it when the time togtehr is so good you forget the pain in the but things that knot your stomach when they're not with you.
Not too sure what you can do aprt from getting out there and meeting other people.
Making yourself les... (read in full...)
How does a doctor check a female to see if she has an STD?
Q. How do doctors check females for an std? Does it hurt? I'm not going for a check-up or anything, I don't need to, but I'm just curious. I've heard they insert a tube up a guy's urethra (spelling?) and that doesn't sound too pleasant! So what about a ...
A. 24 April 2008: Hi
Its much better for a girl! Just a swab test. Similar to having a smear.
Doesn't hurt.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
A girl keeps messaging my husband - should I be suspicious?
Q. Dear Cupids, my hubby was on facebook when a chat popped up from 1 of his friends saying 'can u chat?'. He quickly got rid of the message and acted like he didnt care. A few mins later his messenger rang as it was this girl again but he just ...
A. 24 April 2008: Hi
Should you be suspicious? Yes, and no. Could be a stranger? Im not totally clued up on how facebook works even though i'm on it, albeit rarely!
But it could just be someone he chats to ocasionally, but didnt want to at the time.
If it concerns ... (read in full...)
How can a guy express his appreciation for a girl in a way she will enjoy?
Q. A question for the girls, mainly. What can a guy do or say to a girl to let her know he thinks she's special, he's attracted to her and she makes him feel wonderful in a way she will appreciate and that will make her feel as happy and wanted as ...
A. 24 April 2008: Hi
Thats really nice! Very unusual to hear of a guy that actually thinks about that because i still reakon relationships could last a lot longer in this world if guys and girls made their partner feel 'special'
Well, in my opinion, and i do have ... (read in full...)
My problem is our exclusive sex life became unexistant since engaging in the "swinger" activities!
Q. hi i have been seeing my bf since last november stated fantastic he was all over me .then after 1 month nothing he never hardly touches me .we now go swinging and he does everything with the other women ,i have asked why not me but he wont ...
A. 24 April 2008: Hi
Just one of the risks when you involve a third party or more in your sex life. Hard to know whats going on with him, because i couldn't share a guy myself, but sounds like he wants the stability of a relationship, but wants sex with other peop... (read in full...)
I met this man who has a live in girlfriend. I really like him, but should I run?
Q. ok ppl here it goes, im getting divorced, i met a man, i really like him, he lives with a girl, not married no kids for 5 years says he is unhappy, i have not had sex with him. He wants to be with me and says it will take a while to leave her that ...
A. 24 April 2008: Hi
Great he wants to do things right. Thats good isn't it? But that also means he doesn't want to get into anything with you until he has split from her and sorted things out, right? Otherwise he doesn't actually want to do things right does he. ... (read in full...)
We got married young thus I don't feel ready for the baby's arrival, I want her to agree with me on the abortion!
Q. My wife lost are baby a year ago and is now 2 months pregnant with another child im worried about her. She is not letting me touch her and is in bed all the time she is letting it take over her life. I want to hold her i knwo she is scared i just...
A. 24 April 2008: Hi
I was going to answer, then saw what eyeswideopen had put, and thats basically what i was about to say, so no point in you reading it twice!
Good luck.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
I was his mistress and now we are together. Why am I still competing with the wife?
Q. i am a 21 yr old who is dating a 33 yr old man. He left his wife for me and i believe he loves me very much as do i him. He has 3 kids who absolutely dispise me as well as alot of financial stuff from his past with his wife.I know his wife is still ...
A. 24 April 2008: He doesn't know you know he still talks to her? I wont scroll up again, its too long, but didn't you say he had children? Of course he's still talking to her? Or does he not have anything to do with the children? What does that tell you, if thats ... (read in full...)
We have a lot in common and he's never ONCE treated me badly, unlike my ex'es. Why don't I love him?
Q. I have this AMAZING friend. He has truly proved himself to me that he is amazing. I mean most guys wouldn't bother being 'friends' with me if they knew they had no chance with me, but this guy, he doesn't care, he just likes me for me and really ...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi
Maybe you have just known him as a friend for too long, and it wont ever be anything more for you. If he has been holding a torch all this time, then yes i'm sure he's a nice guy, but he has had alterior motives, it hasn't strictly been abou... (read in full...)
I was his mistress and now we are together. Why am I still competing with the wife?
Q. i am a 21 yr old who is dating a 33 yr old man. He left his wife for me and i believe he loves me very much as do i him. He has 3 kids who absolutely dispise me as well as alot of financial stuff from his past with his wife.I know his wife is still ...
A. 23 April 2008: He left her in the first place because he thinks the grass is greener. Maybe was a tad bored. And a whole lot flattered! Hes over 10 yrs older than you, of course he would be. If he is still having sex with her, which you said you suspect he is? ... (read in full...)
I was his mistress and now we are together. Why am I still competing with the wife?
Q. i am a 21 yr old who is dating a 33 yr old man. He left his wife for me and i believe he loves me very much as do i him. He has 3 kids who absolutely dispise me as well as alot of financial stuff from his past with his wife.I know his wife is still ...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi
He has children with his ex, she is older and more mature than you, men are notoroius for creature comforts and comfort zones of what they are used to. They aren't done and dusted. He is flattered you want him, but his mid life crisis will pass... (read in full...)
I have the implant, recently I've been feeling sick and get a face rash...any ideas?
Q. I have the implant in my arm it is due to come out in june since last week my stomach has been feeling very sensitive and this week i have been being sick but more feeling sick and not actually being sick. When i am sick red rash comes out all over ...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi
No idea, i had the implant for about 10 months and had it taken out for other reasons in the end, i didn't get those symptoms.
Best to go to the docs and ask if its possible the Implanon is causing it.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
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