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... Send kittykhaos a private message | | | kittykhaos's profile:Hay, I live in the north of England but i have lived all over the country. In my 24 years i have had some pretty strange and wonderful experiences. I have been in a long term relationship, ive been in a violent relationship, ive fallen for my best friend, ive been cheated on and ive been the other woman lol so i have picked up some useful tips on the way but other things still baffle me to this day.I am a musician my life revolves around it and so do my love interests usually lol
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Should I cut my family out of my life for the man I love?
Q. Dear cupid, I have been having a terrible time with my family and friends harrasing me about the man I have been dating for the last year. He is kind, respectful, and treats me better than any man I have ever been with and I am hoping we could ge...
A. 25 August 2009: I think this story is so sad and far to common. I am from the north of england a poor and inherently racist part of the country. My brother is so racist it hurts my feelings and he once said to me that "if you dated a "nigger"(i hate that term) then ... (read in full...)
She's slept with 5 guys in 1 1/2 years, should I be with her?
Q. Okay so like a year ago i got really close to this girl, we made out alot and for a moment things almost went all the way. i recently started speaking to her again and i still feels this sexual attraction we had back then, im not sure if she does...
A. 24 August 2009: Fair enough it came across as if you were telling him not to invest emotionally and I was pointing out that because she has slept with that many people it didn't mean she was incapable of pursuing a emotional relationship. poster if you like this ... (read in full...)
One on one dinner with a friend of the opposite sex - yay or nay?
Q. I'm in a great relationship where there is a lot of trust between my partner and I. I have many male friends that I hang out with or communicate with on a regular basis and he has female friends too. This is of course fine. But the other night, a...
A. 23 August 2009: Well she asked you and in front of people too and all though it made it hard for you to say no it also made it impossible for them to be discreet this is a GOOD thing. I shouldn't worry too much i have often had dinner with my ex we are good friends ... (read in full...)
Am I losing out on who might be the only one for me or will I meet someone like her?
Q. Hi, im having quite a bit of love life trouble. 4 months ago i split up with my girlfriend (who we'll call EMMA) of 2 and a half years. she was my first love and we loved each other very much. the main trouble in the relationship was that she has a ...
A. 23 August 2009: I know you have some issues with there being a child in the middle of your relationship but i have to agree with Sphronas. I had that one in a million a man who was my best friend and i would do anything to be by his side day and night. its been 5 ... (read in full...)
She's slept with 5 guys in 1 1/2 years, should I be with her?
Q. Okay so like a year ago i got really close to this girl, we made out alot and for a moment things almost went all the way. i recently started speaking to her again and i still feels this sexual attraction we had back then, im not sure if she does...
A. 23 August 2009: I know some people will judge me for the answer i am about to give but, I was in a violent relationship and i didn't sleep with my ex 10 months prior to the relationship ending (i also didn't cheat on him). After the end of the relationship i knew i ... (read in full...)
Her ex is like a Calvin Klein model - how can I stop feeling like I can't compete?
Q. Hi there, i've had something on my mind for a few weeks and its eating at me so i thought i'd post on here and get the general consensus... I have recently got a new girlfriend, and it turns out that her most recent ex partner was into bodybuil...
A. 23 August 2009: Its really not about looks in a stereo typical sense my long term ex b/f is so much better looking than my last x but i was in love with the last guy because of his personality and i was attracted to him for completely different reasons. Men like ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex but don't want to get pregnant
Q. well im in love with my boyfriend verry much and he lives in texas he is comming down to see me next summer and we planed on making love but im afraid i have done it b4 but now i can get pregnant and i realy want to with him but i dont know what to ...
A. 23 August 2009: There are many forms of contraceptive, condoms are probably the most all round as they protect you from sti's as well as unwanted babies:P but there is also the pill. You may need to try a few before you find the right one for you. There is also a ... (read in full...)
Side effects of the morning after pill?
Q. I've just taken the morning after pill prescribed by my doctor, but didn't think to ask what exactly is going to happen to by body, and I can't find it any where on the internet. I was just wondering if any one else who has taken it can tell me, ...
A. 23 August 2009: The side effects are on the packet or they should be. I took one years ago suffered with a massive headache and nausea was moody for a couple of days felt a it dizzy and spaced out but it didn't affect my period at all. Usually you take the morning ... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my drinking husband because of our daughter?
Q. I am a 49 year old female with a 14 year old daughter. I have been married 15 years and for the entire time I have known this man he has drank; but it seems every year his drinking is getting worse. Even though I am married, I feel like a single ...
A. 23 August 2009: You should leave, your daughter is now 14 and before she was 9 so now she is old enough to understand whats going on. She probably is aware of her fathers drinking and she is also probably aware of how unhappy you are. You can't force yourself to ... (read in full...)
My girldfriend wasn't upfront with me about her past. How do I get over it?
Q. how do i get over the fact that my girlfriend kissed another guy and he felt all over her before we started dating and she told me way after we've been dating for 4 to 5 months? i checked and didnt find the question at all please post thanks....
A. 23 August 2009: This was an honest relationship my closest friend of 7 years and all though he was not my first i was his. I love him and as far as i was aware he loved me. I was honest and i did wait ( 2 years in fact) but sometimes life throws you something you ... (read in full...)
We're apparently good friends, so is there a reason why we hardly talk to each other?
Q. I'm confused...erm if you read this your a saint! And if u even attempt to try and think about it and reply to me....well your officially the best! You see, I'm very confused about one of my friends...he's male, we went to college together but we ...
A. 22 August 2009: Have you ever thought he may be into you ? I had this with my best friend we had ok communication all though he is quite shy but we were inseparable through college 2 years later out of the blue amidst some weirdness he told me he was in love with ... (read in full...)
My girldfriend wasn't upfront with me about her past. How do I get over it?
Q. how do i get over the fact that my girlfriend kissed another guy and he felt all over her before we started dating and she told me way after we've been dating for 4 to 5 months? i checked and didnt find the question at all please post thanks....
A. 22 August 2009: I agree that life is not about how many people you can kiss/have sex with but sometimes you can't always have what you want. I love a man very much but he ended our relationship and so now I will one day endeavour to find love but that fact that I ... (read in full...)
I'm having some very serious sleep deprivation issues and could use some advice!
Q. i have delayed sleep syndrome it is hereditary in my family and means that my natural bio clock is from 4 am to 12am, even as a kid i couldn't sleep before this time. i've managed with this at uni and things. but i havent been able to properly...
A. 22 August 2009: Omg i have never met another person who has this i have the same thing with the burglary and the scary dreams and the slightest noise wakes me up. I have been this way since i was 10 years old . Thank you for posting this i had no idea it was a real ... (read in full...)
Is this the way things go or am I to flirtatious?
Q. do many people (particuarly women) do this, and i am only hyper aware of it because i'm living in myself? i can't help but flirt and do whatever it is that is attractive, toward the men that are around me. the more i like them (just as people...not ...
A. 22 August 2009: I understand this very well, i flirt horrendously with men and women even though i am straight. I like you am very attracted to good personalities this is not uncommon and if your single not a problem. If your not in love with anyone its hard to ... (read in full...)
If I'm so "hot", why don't I have many boyfriends, or even offers!!
Q. Hey lads, new question. Iam a bit confused at the mo. I am 17 right. I have only had two boyfriends, they lasted a good while, 7 months and 1 year! I always thought I wasnt really pretty, but recently, talking to my sister, she has said that ...
A. 22 August 2009: your probably very pretty and they shyness makes you seem less approachable.
My best friend is like this he is 6"6 and the most beautiful man on the planet but girls never talk to him because he is shy and they think he is rude. ( good for me lol)... (read in full...)
How much money should I give my friend as a wedding gift?
Q. I was wondering how much money to give to a friend/colleague for her wedding. I have known her for nearly 2 years and have been invited to her wedding for the whole day. She struggles with money and said she prefers cash to vouchers which i...
A. 21 August 2009: This is tough because i can see it must be hard not to be cheep but not to be insulting either. Think about what you may have got her as a wedding gift and maybe give her that amount of money or ask her friends you must no someone else who is going ... (read in full...)
She's having a baby with a man who looks almost identical to her brother - Is this weird?
Q. My boyfriend's sister is pregnant at 17, and it's with one of his friends - drunken one night stand with a consequence. The thing I am finding weird is that the father of the baby is almsot identical to my boyfriend - her brother! Even his family...
A. 20 August 2009: no i find it quite odd. I once went out with a boy whose sister was same height same weight and had the same style of dress as me we liked the same music and had a very similar personality. All thought facially i didn't look like his sister we were ... (read in full...)
Everytime I have sex it hurts and I get a brown discharge, what is this?
Q. ok so me and my boyfriend has been together for quite a while now and we have started having sex quite regular but the problem is everytime we have sex i am left in quite abit off pain and a browny discharge happens :S.. the very first time we...
A. 20 August 2009: Your welcome chick just please make sure you get yourself checked out just in case ok? take care x... (read in full...)
My girldfriend wasn't upfront with me about her past. How do I get over it?
Q. how do i get over the fact that my girlfriend kissed another guy and he felt all over her before we started dating and she told me way after we've been dating for 4 to 5 months? i checked and didnt find the question at all please post thanks....
A. 20 August 2009: I replied to this the first time you posted it.
So what if your g/f has a past most people do and some don't like to talk about it and some don't share that information with there partners because they feel they don't want to know. Does she dese... (read in full...)
Everytime I have sex it hurts and I get a brown discharge, what is this?
Q. ok so me and my boyfriend has been together for quite a while now and we have started having sex quite regular but the problem is everytime we have sex i am left in quite abit off pain and a browny discharge happens :S.. the very first time we...
A. 20 August 2009: Actually rhythemandblues 2 she is not underage she is from the uk and sex is legal at 16 so calm down before you bust your head.I agree a doctor is probably the best person to ask but maybe she didn't realise this wasn't a common problem how about ... (read in full...)
How do you feel about lending your partner money? My guy asked for £1,000 and I said no!
Q. My boyfriend of eight months has asked me to lend him £1000. He says he needs it to pay his landlord. He's generally an honest person but this came out of the blue and its a lot of money. I'd be happy to lend smaller amounts, but I'm currently ...
A. 19 August 2009: Don't do it i have a shot credit rating ccj's out my ears and creditors at my door every day because i lent my b/f money. Over the course of our 4 and 1/2 year relationship he bled me dry and now im left with the conciquences while has a clean ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to tell someone you love them through Telepathy?
Q. Can you let someone know you love them by Telepathy?If two people love each other but dont know about each others feelings can you send these feelings through some form of telepathy? I have experienced it with someone and I don't really know how...
A. 19 August 2009: I know what you feel. Me and my best friend have this and even though stuff is really messed up with him and were not really speaking i know there is something wrong. When we were fine he used to message me when i had just messaged him to the point ... (read in full...)
I'm bothered by what she did with another guy before we were together
Q. how can i get over the fact that my girlfriend kissed another guy and let him touch her all over before we started dating ....
A. 19 August 2009: You weren't together so it doesn't matter surly? Ive slept with people so does that mean i can't find love because another man has touched me? Im perplexed as to why this is an issue.... (read in full...)
Why am I so lonely? What's wrong with me?
Q. I've been feeling lonely for a while. I feel like nobody gets me, I don't know if it's a phase that every teenager goes through but why do I feel this way? My life has been on hold, well, the same, forever. It seems everybody is getting on with ...
A. 19 August 2009: I am in a similar situation to you. Im 24 and because of a string of different things i have had to put my life my education and such on hold. The best thing i ever did was move away from my home town and get some perspective on my life. Due to ... (read in full...)
How do you know if a man has had sex already?
Q. how do you know if a man had sex already? would it take time for them to ejaculate? and if they havent had sex in a while would they ejaculate quicker?...
A. 19 August 2009: The last boy i slept with was a virgin and i know this because we have been friends since he was 14 he was amazing in bed the best lover i ever had the fortune of having. He was slightly nervous but other than that he handled the situation with ... (read in full...)
How many women are insecure about their vaginas?
Q. How many women are insecure about their vaginas? AND Is it normal to have large labia? Will men care?...
A. 19 August 2009: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-fix-my-overgrown-labia.html
I spent ages talking to this girl who had the same worries
its PERFECTLY normal and men DON'T CARE!! lol bless ya x
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Are looks really that important?
Q. To sum the whole problem up, everyone thinks and says my boyfriend is ugly. We're in a long distance relationship, therefore most of my friends haven't even seen him closely, but when they see his pics they all start screaming at me about how ugly ...
A. 19 August 2009: If you really care about him it doesn't matter how other people think. People used to tell me that the love of my life wasn't hot enough for me or that he was too trendy (I'm kind of alternative). Or they would make fun because he was quiet or ... (read in full...)
Feeling guilty about dating the ex of an acquaintance. Am I doing anything wrong??
Q. Hi. I've recently become involved with a guy who has broken up with his gf of 2.5 years, I really like him and he seems really into me but there is a slight problem. His ex-gf is an acquaintance of mine, not a friend but a good friend of a friend o...
A. 19 August 2009: I don't see a problem with this but yet again I dated and slept with my ex's best friend. I think it depends on how and why they broke up. If you had stolen him away (not that you really can) then there may have been something wrong but at the end ... (read in full...)
Debate over if this is a good idea, or if I'm missing out
Q. ok, im totally in love with my boyfriend. the thing is, im torn between wanting to spend the res tof my life with him and thinking im too young to be serious with someone. we got together when i was 16 and hes the only guy ive ever slept with. ...
A. 19 August 2009: Strike a balance as ginsingmeow said. My sister has been with her b/f nearly 7 years he was her first they live together but they lead very separate lives "em" is out going and drinks and likes to socialise but "lee" is quiet and introverted and ... (read in full...)
We had a terrible break up, but I'm still attracted to him.
Q. i talk to my ex boyfriend, and i do admit that there is a side in him that i really do appreciate- he has some great insight, humor, and talent...and there are no boundaries between us when we talk. however, sometimes i feel like i'm misleading ...
A. 19 August 2009: I can see how you would feel that way Also you would be shocked at the amount of time it can take for someone to change. My ex is a schitzophrenic who took an overdose when i left him. He used to beet me up and cheat but 3 or 4 months after out ... (read in full...)
If he's lying about little things, is he capable of more?
Q. I found out my husband lied to me about a few things. They were things he didn't really need to lie about, like talking to his ex and going on pornsites. If the conversation with her was innocent, I don't see why he should hide it, and it really ...
A. 19 August 2009: It depends on the "little things" my sisters b/f lies about the amount stuff costs (he's into computers and tech) he will tell her something cost £100 but it actually cost £150 but mostly because he doesn't want her to worry about money. That is a ... (read in full...)
Did you ever tell your bestfriend you were in love with him/her, and what reaction did you get?
Q. hi this is a question going out to the guys out there (and girls) Was just wondering what sort of reaction you got after you told your g/f or freind that u were "in love" with them, (not just love them) im in love with this girl that i have ...
A. 18 August 2009: Oh please read my questions lol... (read in full...)
What is it about commitment that scares me, and how can I get past it?
Q. Right then, I have a major problem (well, it's major in my eyes...) Anyway, I'm seventeen and I have MAJOR commitment problems! A load of people find this surprising since I'm a girl, but I just hate being tied down! I've had four boyfriends since...
A. 17 August 2009: Aww babe your 17! When you find the right guy you will want to stay with them and its not about being tied down you can be with someone you love and still have freedom. Its all about striking a balance. But PLEASE don't worry about it you are so ... (read in full...)
What do you do when you're doubting a relationship?
Q. Okay, my current relationship was supposed to end about a year ago. My boyfriend was a complete jerk but I forced myself to stay with him because my confidence was crap. But right now, I'm just not feeling it as much anymore. He possesses more love ...
A. 17 August 2009: Leave NOW Please!! It is unfair to yourself and to your b/f. Don't stay out of routine because what will happen is you will move in together and he will have a tighter grip and maybe you will end up married with a few kids you don't want and a ... (read in full...)
Deep French kissing and dry humping: did he get satisfied?
Q. Dear Aunts What do you think the norm is to this question? I belive I have the answer but would like you input. 24 year old guy deep french kissing and dry humping (with clothes on) for a couple hours. do you think he got satisfied? thank...
A. 17 August 2009: No lol poor boy probably went home and satisfied himself lol (sorry if that sounds harsh) but you probably got him all worked up.... (read in full...)
He spat on my vagina to lubricate it! Now I don't want him to touch me!
Q. While making love, my vagina was a bit dry so my partner spat into my vagina to lubricate it. i feel so degraded by this i cannot bear him to touch me since. Am i over reacting?...
A. 16 August 2009: to Emilysanswers i think you need to calm down
if you had read my response i said all though it is common in porn it is not something i would be comfortable with. It is an over reaction because it is a small miss understanding if no one tells you ... (read in full...)
He spat on my vagina to lubricate it! Now I don't want him to touch me!
Q. While making love, my vagina was a bit dry so my partner spat into my vagina to lubricate it. i feel so degraded by this i cannot bear him to touch me since. Am i over reacting?...
A. 16 August 2009: Its a pretty common thing to do and if your b/f is into porn he has probably seen 100's of people do this. I personally would find it a bit uncomfortable maybe but i would make that clear. But i think your over reacting, tell your partner you found ... (read in full...)
My ex wants to be next in my life
Q. Here's the deal, several years ago I was heartbroken by an ex that tore out my heart and threw it in the trash:(, so sad I know, but moving on I've moved on since then, I mean my God that was high school lol. But I think about her here and there ...
A. 16 August 2009: People grow up and maybe if she was your first love and you think about her and she thinks about you theres something there. Take her our for a few drinks maybe some food and see if she has grown up and if there is any attachment there. Your not ... (read in full...)
Found out boyfriend was cheating and now all I want to do is drink
Q. I hate my life. I have never felt so low, I found out my bf of 3 years has been cheating on me for a year and I feel so foolish! It was also with a girl i knew they are not together now but I feel so lonely. I find it hard to trust men after my dad. ...
A. 15 August 2009: Aww babe you really need to try and spend time with your mum i think it would be good for you. You need to go and see a doctor get signed of work for a few weeks. You shouldn't be on your own if you feel this way otherwise it will become a cycle . ... (read in full...)
Please help walk me through my next steps!
Q. Hi, ive just turned 18 and im in abit of a difficult situation. Im not the most confident guy in the world, i suppose when it comes to my friends though im pretty confident and just generally friendly. Thing theres 4 of us who are the best of ...
A. 14 August 2009: Aww love i feel your pain. Just ask her if she would like to be with you be as relaxed as you can about it. If she says no don't push the issue any further.. I am in love with my best friend and i feared telling him would ruin our friendship only to ... (read in full...)
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