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Hi people I'm Roadman Digital aka Tsunami Sound,

A man of many places and faces..

I'll always tell you the simple way no hype no drama..

Some won't agree but I'll only talk about what I know, from what I've

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My wife of 34 years has left me...

Q.   Yesterday we should have celebrated 34 years of marriage. Unfortunately last Friday 9th, my wife told me that she was unhappy and simply left! It was a very cold conversation, no discussion, no big row, so she'd obviously been thinking about it for ...

A.   21 January 2009: but hey what would you really know about how to deal with the emotions of a break up if this is the 1st 1 you've had in 34 years...Let me tell you something all the words and actions under the sun can't bring a woman back to you if she don't want to ... (read in full...)

My wife of 34 years has left me...

Q.   Yesterday we should have celebrated 34 years of marriage. Unfortunately last Friday 9th, my wife told me that she was unhappy and simply left! It was a very cold conversation, no discussion, no big row, so she'd obviously been thinking about it for ...

A.   21 January 2009: Well I'm sure you'll be pissed of when you find out shes got a new play mate...can't see her hanging her boxing gloves just yet..When a woman wants space tents to mean she don't want to be around you and is no longer happy with your company.... ... (read in full...)

My wife of 34 years has left me...

Q.   Yesterday we should have celebrated 34 years of marriage. Unfortunately last Friday 9th, my wife told me that she was unhappy and simply left! It was a very cold conversation, no discussion, no big row, so she'd obviously been thinking about it for ...

A.   21 January 2009: Well may be your not going to walk away from a 34 year marriage but your woman just did... If you want to sit on your own and cry about it,then do so,but me I'm not going to stop living life for no woman. If you rolled through like me pal your... (read in full...)

Married with kids and in love with an old lost love

Q.   I have been with my husband for 12 years and married 6, We have two kids together a son 16 months and a daughter 4. Recently I have found a lost love online that I have been searching for since before I was married. I love my husband but feel I am ...

A.   19 January 2009: Well ok, you need to start talking to the people that matter,which is those in this story,and let everyone know how your feeling,if your not happy with the man your living with then he needs to know you wish to leave,as for the other guy you love ... (read in full...)

I'm sick of being in tears over this guy

Q.   Hello!! Simply put I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and a half. He has 2 kids from his first marriage and another kid from a 9 year relationship. The issue I am having is with the boundaries he keeps with his ex-with with his ...

A.   18 January 2009: Just take the man as he is,a man with kids and past family never going to move on so easy from his children and there mother,there always be a specail bond there in some shape or form unless he a total cold heart which he sounds he not..Just roll ... (read in full...)

Married with kids and in love with an old lost love

Q.   I have been with my husband for 12 years and married 6, We have two kids together a son 16 months and a daughter 4. Recently I have found a lost love online that I have been searching for since before I was married. I love my husband but feel I am ...

A.   18 January 2009: There 3 ways you can find happiness in this story,,1. is to leave with your kids and go and set up life with the man you love.(Which might not work out in the long run) 2. Spend time between the men if they like it or not or 3. Lose the lost lo... (read in full...)

Married with kids and in love with an old lost love

Q.   I have been with my husband for 12 years and married 6, We have two kids together a son 16 months and a daughter 4. Recently I have found a lost love online that I have been searching for since before I was married. I love my husband but feel I am ...

A.   18 January 2009: There 3 ways you can find happiness in this story... 1. Is to leave with your kids and go and set up life with the man you love. 2. Spend time between the men or 3. Lose the lost love you found again and just get on with your family life.... (read in full...)

My wife of 34 years has left me...

Q.   Yesterday we should have celebrated 34 years of marriage. Unfortunately last Friday 9th, my wife told me that she was unhappy and simply left! It was a very cold conversation, no discussion, no big row, so she'd obviously been thinking about it for ...

A.   18 January 2009: When a woman wants to go best to just let them go... It's always going to be a kick in the teeth when this happens but you just got to ride those feelings... It's just in your head and life is still going on around you... Good time for you to ... (read in full...)

Do most men wake up "ready to go"?

Q.   Whenever I spend the night at my boyfriends house, we end up having sex that night and as soon as he wakes up he wants to do it again because he says he's already hard. Do a lot of men do this too or is he just using this as an excuse to have sex?...

A.   16 January 2009: Well i know I'm rock soild 1st thing in the 1st thing in morning in need of some action to start the day,My wifey always gets woken up about 5am for a morning work out :-) great way to start the day I say!... (read in full...)

Why does my husband spend so much money on the family? We can't afford it!

Q.   My husband spends too much money on his kids and grandkids. How can I get him to stop? Our finances (along with most everyone else's) have took a severe hit this year. We cannot afford it! I've tried to explain this to him and at the time of our ...

A.   14 January 2009: Well just show him what you've put here.... You can't do better than that!... (read in full...)

Her bad moods are bringing me down!

Q.   I've been dating my fiance for over a year. We're engaged to be married in 5 months. I love her so much and she's warm and afffectionate 95% of the time. The problems is that when she gets stressed for frustrated, she snaps at me and gets bitchy ...

A.   14 January 2009: another tip is just agree to everything..,just think at the end of the day you have to live and pay those bills so nothing whats ever said is going to matter to what has to happen each day... If she starts snapng just reply i hear you honey an... (read in full...)

Her bad moods are bringing me down!

Q.   I've been dating my fiance for over a year. We're engaged to be married in 5 months. I love her so much and she's warm and afffectionate 95% of the time. The problems is that when she gets stressed for frustrated, she snaps at me and gets bitchy ...

A.   14 January 2009: Well before I can even think to judge the matter,what in fact is she snapping at you about??? Rather than shout back,listen to what ever her problem in fact is.. She must have some point to what is her problem,she can't be in fact jus... (read in full...)

My wife of 7 years says she isn't in love with me

Q.   I have been married for 7yrs and been together for 11yrs i love my wife to bits but she has recently told me she is no longer in love with me and she doesn't want to be in the relationship any more we have 2 kids aged 3 and 6 i want her and love her ...

A.   13 January 2009: Well for a start listen to what she has said... Start showing some feelings and passion towards the woman, and start talking to her,and open your ears and listen to what she saying.. You might have to start doing some over time and planning so... (read in full...)

Should I pay off the $1500 she is after?

Q.   About a month ago my long term partner of two years told me she "loved me but was not in love with me" and called the whole thing off. This was the day after thanksgiving where we had been planning next years christmas trip and also firming up ...

A.   10 January 2009: If shes bailed out then you don't have to pay her anything, only pay if it makes you feel better and you love her and want to help..... (read in full...)

Should I break up with her or should I forgive her again?

Q.   hallo, I'm kind of confused. I have a gal for four years now and it seems each year, she has an affair and call me lucky but I always find out about it. well, now it's a couple of weeks into the year and I happen to have the password to her email ...

A.   9 January 2009: Also remember safe sex and safety belts..:-) Its not about catching anythiing,send her for some test b4 you go back to bed with her....I would... (read in full...)

My wife wants a sex change

Q.   Yesterday my wife told me she wants a sex change. I was completely shocked by the revelation. I asked her to repeat what she had just said, and she said that she'd suppressed it ever since she was a girl. She said she'd known she wanted to be a b...

A.   9 January 2009: If was me I'd have to take my children one side and be a man a rasie them if the family can't cope with the change. If she feels she needs to make the change then no one can stop how shes feeling or what she wishies to do,simple thing is if your ... (read in full...)

Should I break up with her or should I forgive her again?

Q.   hallo, I'm kind of confused. I have a gal for four years now and it seems each year, she has an affair and call me lucky but I always find out about it. well, now it's a couple of weeks into the year and I happen to have the password to her email ...

A.   9 January 2009: If you love her,then continue and get on with her bad habits...If she keeps coming back to you everytime then clearly you have something more than the other guys.. I've had woman like this who find it hard to keep there legs shut,its not nic... (read in full...)

Do long distance relationships work?

Q.   hi im a 14 year old boy right now me and this girl like each other but i live in new york and she lives in maine, we only knew each other online and i met her 2 weeks ago. she just broke up with her boyfriend and i really want her to be my ...

A.   8 January 2009: Well not at your age..bit hard to keep up the travel,but you can always remain in touch and when you grow a bt older hook up..... (read in full...)

My g/f isn't over her ex

Q.   I am confused help with girlfriend? So basically my girlfriend has told me, im almost perfect and its weird almost unreal that i have came into her life so shortly after her ex,she says she likes me alot, and she doesnt want this to be a rebound,...

A.   6 January 2009: Just give her time...her feelings will sort them self out..... (read in full...)

How do I rid myself of feelings for him and move on?

Q.   uhm. im jus soo confused about what to do. soo on a cool summer night. i met this guy. me 2 of his friends and 2 of my friends were chillin one nite and we wound up having sex. i am down south in school but i visit where he lives about 4 mnths out ...

A.   6 January 2009: Those feelings take time to go,there link to memory..You'll start to over come them you as build new bonds to new people,and old love is replaced by new.. Its not an over night process thats for sure.... (read in full...)

Broke up, wants my things back, afraid of him getting abusive

Q.   So after a 5 year relationship, Ive decided to call it quits with my B/f. I'm really confused and feeling very nervous. After a horrible NYE party by now x-bf became very verbally and borderline phy. abusive. He doesent remember a thing and what ...

A.   5 January 2009: Go with the police is good advice..... (read in full...)

I'm pregnant after a one-night stand and I don't know what to do!

Q.   i am 29 and just found out i am pegnant after having a one night stand with a guy. We used protection but the condom broke. I dont know how to tell him or what to say as he wont take my calls. I already have a child aged 9 that i have raised on my ...

A.   5 January 2009: Have the baby...after a few years you did you'll be glad you did trust me and the child you have will welcome the brother or sister to be..It was ment to be.... (read in full...)

Why does he mention about his exes? Could I just be his rebound girl?

Q.   So, I met this guy online and we live in different states, we've been talking on the phone for about 6 months and he says he really likes me, and I really like him too, sometimes we get into arguments about little stuff, then usually i would just ...

A.   5 January 2009: Theres a good chance he's not 100% over them and there still in his mind for good or bad reasons.. Being able to talk to someone about it helps to over come it,when you love someone it don't die over night,even more so if there pain...So get use ... (read in full...)

I cheated, wife found out and now wants to call everything off

Q.   I have been married eleven years and have cheated on my wife 6 months ago and she found out. She has been depressed since the birth of my son (9 years ago) and for the last three years basically stop having sex with me and telling me she hated me. ...

A.   5 January 2009: Just find a new woman who you can get along with... Women are complex humans and tend to want things all there own way,well its 2009 so out with the old and in with the new,if its not working out and talk is not getting through then take action... (read in full...)

I'm scared I'll do something stupid like make a pass at him!

Q.   Hello I am a married woman, I have a wonderful husband who loves me to bits. Unfortunately he has a low sexual libido ( he is 47) and the spark seems to have gone from our relationship. I have tried numerous ways to arouse his interest but very...

A.   5 January 2009: Your going to have to seek friendship with someone who will give it to you..If you love the man then hook up some no strings fun,if it tears you both apart then so be it,but your not going to have it all your own way something will have to give..... (read in full...)

Everything is great in our marriage, except the sex! What do I do?

Q.   I have been married to my husband for 4 years now. I am 23 and he is 40. I am very happy in every aspect of my marriage except for sex. It was great until our 2nd wedding anniversary when he was diagnosed with M.E. (chronic fatigue syndrome). ...

A.   5 January 2009: If your man not performing then the simple thing to do is get with one who is.. If he loves you then he'll have to understand what he can't give to you someone else may have to.. Hook up a no strings F**K buddy... Its that simple & tel... (read in full...)

What do I do... my husband has left

Q.   My husband of 21 years has left me after telling me he has feelings for this woman. He says he can't come home for the damage he has done to me and our 3 teenager children. He does show remorse, he feels bad for the way things have turned out, we ...

A.   4 January 2009: Even think about get yourself a hot young 30 year old yourself who will get an ego boost of an older woman like yourself... Don't let the old man walk with your happiness,I know the feeling to well and I soon had to snap out of it..with 2009 in... (read in full...)

I'm in love with 2 boys, I can't choose and it's driving me crazy!

Q.   I'm in love with two boys. And they're best mates too. I can't choose. It's driving me crazy, and I don't know how to behave to them. I can't be flirty with both. I can't say no to both. I have to choose one of them, and that's time now! Pleas...

A.   4 January 2009: Ask them if they will both make love to you together at the same time, because it's been your long desire to do so and have the 2 of them F**K your brains out buck wild... If 1 says he game and the other says no.. then you've got your man, if the... (read in full...)

What do I do... my husband has left

Q.   My husband of 21 years has left me after telling me he has feelings for this woman. He says he can't come home for the damage he has done to me and our 3 teenager children. He does show remorse, he feels bad for the way things have turned out, we ...

A.   4 January 2009: I'm with britt429 on this one... It's make over time... and let loose.... (read in full...)

What do I do... my husband has left

Q.   My husband of 21 years has left me after telling me he has feelings for this woman. He says he can't come home for the damage he has done to me and our 3 teenager children. He does show remorse, he feels bad for the way things have turned out, we ...

A.   4 January 2009: Be glad that it happen not sad its over, in times like these you hit the high street buy yourself some hot fasions, get the latest hair cut and get that make up on,and plan to do all the things you wish to do.. meet new people have a flirt and have ... (read in full...)

What do I do... my husband has left

Q.   My husband of 21 years has left me after telling me he has feelings for this woman. He says he can't come home for the damage he has done to me and our 3 teenager children. He does show remorse, he feels bad for the way things have turned out, we ...

A.   4 January 2009: Let him get on with it, the hurt will die off sooner or later, start hooking up your friends and hitting the clubs, plan a holiday and seek a new lover yourself...... (read in full...)

Is 33 years plus old over the hill???

Q.   Is 33 years plus old over the hill truthfully Because I feel its is... your youth is gone......

A.   4 January 2009: Roll with a much younger womamn can help bring you back..it worked wonders for me if you can keep up with them...... (read in full...)

Is 33 years plus old over the hill???

Q.   Is 33 years plus old over the hill truthfully Because I feel its is... your youth is gone......

A.   4 January 2009: It may have gone in the body but it don't have to in the the mind.. When you hit your 30's money becomes more of an issue to live on...When your young you don't worry to much about cash and just have fun as your folk tent to be paying 4 your liv... (read in full...)

His penis keeps slipping out... how can we improve on this?

Q.   I have wrote this anonymous but I was wondering if anyone had any ideas what I could do. I have slept with 2 people in my life and the first person I have only slept with a few times and that was who I lost my virginity to but my boyfriend now, I ...

A.   4 January 2009: Slow down the motion..take it easy and judge the distance.... (read in full...)

Do all men feel it's okay to cheat if they don't get caught?

Q.   Do all men feel it's ok to cheat if they knew they wouldn't get caught? And is it true that men are not naturally monogamous? Do every one of them really feel trapped by women who want a monogamous relationship?...

A.   4 January 2009: Well honey pie I don't know about once a cheat always a cheat,I've hurt some beautiful women feelings due to playing away games for a number of reasons,I can't say it made me feel good at all.. I found when I've hurt a woman its hurt me 10 times... (read in full...)

I'm 14 and really want a baby, I'm just nervous about the pregnancy part.

Q.   Hey, im 14 and my boyfriend is 15. We both are really ready for a baby and actually have been wanting one ever since summer of 2008. I know for fact i am ready for the taking care part of it, but not so sure about the pregnancy part. I love kids and ...

A.   4 January 2009: Give it a few more years,complete your studies at school 1st then think about it..... (read in full...)

Do men like virgins?

Q.   Do men like virgins?...

A.   4 January 2009: I personally like a car with a few miles on the clock..Its said an engine runs better once run in.... (read in full...)

My husband is taking "waste not want not" too far

Q.   I've been married for 5 years now, and our marriage has been great, we've got two lovely children. My husband was brought up to have a work ethic and "waste not want not" which he's taught our children. However, he's started taking the "waste n...

A.   4 January 2009: 1st you can bin the food once it off,and tell him you won't stand for this none what so ever if it continues you'll be forced to leave with the kids.... (read in full...)

Can't get over her, its been over a year!

Q.   I really don’t know what to do… …….. i fell in love with this person …she never returned her feelings… i haven’t seen her in a 1 year and 7 months and i just heard she just got married to someone else…..it hurts.. everything she does...

A.   4 January 2009: You'll get over it one day.... Can take a long while to let go of someone you love, sometimes you never get over it, but later the feelings will die down and drift to the back of your mind. Finding someone else to adore also helps.... (read in full...)

Do males enjoy giving oral, or do they just do it to keep us happy?

Q.   Do males enjoy giving oral, or do they just do it to keep us happy?...

A.   4 January 2009: I'd say 90% of men who go down LOVE it! ^_^... (read in full...)

Her bad moods are bringing me down!

Q.   I've been dating my fiance for over a year. We're engaged to be married in 5 months. I love her so much and she's warm and afffectionate 95% of the time. The problems is that when she gets stressed for frustrated, she snaps at me and gets bitchy ...

A.   4 January 2009: Learn to enjoy the 5% of the woman you don't like.. You fight fire with water..So if she snaps then laugh and smile.. Then make love to her.... (read in full...)

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