I'm afraid I'm driving my guy to lie to me!
Q. I'm afraid that I'm driving my guy to lie to me. I know I freak out about a lot of things, but we are considering having children soon and I want to instill good values in them. My opinion is that we should completely cut out the bad things until ...
A. 20 July 2010: You've reached an impasse. He's lying because he's exhausted his options when you guys talked about it and he's no longer at the negotiation table. You're very focus on this particular issue of your kids but it's unlikely that this is an isola... (read in full...)
I find this strange but also erotic what should I do?
Q. my sister moved back to my house, not working just lazing around the house. she loves watching porno, we don't have any kids, but sometimes i come home from work early and she is masterbating. I find this strange but also erotic. what should I ...
A. 19 July 2010: Don't talk to her about it. Announce your presence loudly when you get home. Just say "Hey X, I'm home" and nothing more.
If she doesn't stop:
Don't talk to her about it. Announce your presence loudly when you get home. Just say "Hey X, I'm ... (read in full...)
Should I try and win my ex back or see where it goes with the new guy?
Q. So....last month I came home from work to a "Dear John" letter from my boyfriend of 5 years. He said he has some mental issues he has to work out and doesn't want to hurt me any more. At first he was really mean and spiteful, sending me nasty ...
A. 4 May 2010: Old guy wants you back. If you go back you'll spend your time helping him with his issues. You were his boyfriend not a volunteer counselor and should expect some mutual support and strength from him for your life. Relationship has gone one-sided ... (read in full...)
She told me she needs at least 6"
Q. Huge problem. I have small penis 4in when fully react. I had two previous girlfriends tell mr when can't feel anything it's too small. I know the foreplay part but doesn't work. Now I been with a sweet girl for 6 months she say im her everything. ...
A. 1 May 2010: In my opinion, you should stay away from a pump!! That's changing who you are. It's unnecessary and nothing destroys self-esteem more than going down that path. She doesn't need 6", she needs satisfaction. She doesn't need 6" she just needs ... (read in full...)
She told me she needs at least 6"
Q. Huge problem. I have small penis 4in when fully react. I had two previous girlfriends tell mr when can't feel anything it's too small. I know the foreplay part but doesn't work. Now I been with a sweet girl for 6 months she say im her everything. ...
A. 27 April 2010: Well when it comes to intercourse, you can get her on her back with her knees together against her abdomen. Entering from this position will make you feel bigger. Other positions will make you feel smaller. When it comes to foreplay (and I ... (read in full...)
He doesn't think condoms are safe enough and I dislike pills. Should I go on the pill?
Q. Me and my boyfriend want to have sex but I am not on the pill and I don't want to, I have regular periods and they a very light, I have no problems with mood swings etc. very lukcy, I think and I don't want to go on the pill because this could ...
A. 23 March 2010: Am I the only one who read the question differently? The boyfriend has absolutely no problem wearing a condom. He certainly wants to and will wear a condom. He just doesn't think they're safe enough and he's right. Condoms are 98% effective an... (read in full...)
I am scared of potential legal action against me!
Q. i am with this girl for 2 years and we are very close but i dont love her and are just friends... i want to tell u that the kissing was a mutual decision and i just let her touch on the surface of my pants on my private part.. i am 22 and the girl ...
A. 25 October 2009: I'm sorry to hear this is stressing you out. In Canada:
The age of consent to sexual activities is 16.
The age of consent is 18 years where the sexual activity involves exploitative activity, such as prostitution, pornography or where there i... (read in full...)
Was the waitress hitting on me?
Q. I was at a waterfront restaurant with my friend and our waitress gave us food and all and there was another hot girl painting kids faces for some reason idk and the waitress asked while looking at me if we would like to get our faces painted I said ...
A. 27 August 2009: Sorry buddy. She's wasn't coming on to you at all.
Here's the milestone psych study on this topic:
Crusco, A. H., & Wetzel, C. G. (1984). The Midas touch: The effects of interpersonal touch on restaurant tipping. Personality and Social Psych... (read in full...)
I'd rather not go if he's flying first class and I have to fly economy
Q. i have a partner of 2yrs,i love him very much.he goes overseas twice a year for business,and hes asked me to go with him on his next trip.hes always flying first class.and hes collecting all points that he gets from fying 1st class to get me a ...
A. 10 May 2009: ...and if economy is absolutely packed, he could swap his first class seat with the person next to you in economy. Who would refuse that? He would still get the double points because the first class ticket is in his name but you two could sit ... (read in full...)
I'd rather not go if he's flying first class and I have to fly economy
Q. i have a partner of 2yrs,i love him very much.he goes overseas twice a year for business,and hes asked me to go with him on his next trip.hes always flying first class.and hes collecting all points that he gets from fying 1st class to get me a ...
A. 10 May 2009: Very interesting question! It looked simple at first but then I thought about it some more and it's a pretty interesting question. I would have to say that it depends on (a) the length on the flight and (b) the length of the holiday. If i... (read in full...)
I need to find an excuse to go up and talk to her... any ideas?
Q. Hi There's a girl I really fancy who goes to the same gym as I do and I have no idea how I can make contact with her. I see her there every friday and she seems really nice. I liked her from the first moment I saw her(over a year ago now)and ...
A. 8 May 2009: No, you shouldn't forget about it. No, you don't have to wait for her to make herself available. No, you don't care if she has a boyfriend yet. Just go use the treadmill alongside her. Ask her if she's training for any marathons this summer. ... (read in full...)
How do you tell someone you love them when they don't love you?
Q. How do you tell someone you love them when you know they don't love you back but the feeling has been killing you because you have to keep it inside?...
A. 8 May 2009: You don't. You keep it inside.
Don't fool yourself. It's killing you, not because you want to give your love to her, but because you crave her love in return. If you think - rather you know - the other person doesn't love you back, you don't te... (read in full...)
Unrequited love, please help me to fall out of love with him!
Q. It's the age old problem... I am deeply and irrevocably in love with a guy who doesn't love me back and I swear its killing me. I was really wondering how I can fall out of love with him, I guess he's like a drug to me so i think i should probably ...
A. 8 May 2009: He's not worth your time. He's not. I don't care if you tell me A, B or C and I don't care if he's X, Y or Z. He's not worth your time. You live once. This is your time. It will never come again and you have your love, joy and happiness to... (read in full...)
So what's the big deal about viginity?
Q. Okay so this really isn't a question. Truth is I don't see why people make such a big deal about sex and virginity. I don't find it such a big deal losing it. I mean I'm 16 I'm still a virgin and I believe that you know you should wait until you ...
A. 7 May 2009: You're right.
You really don't have to care about kissing someone you have a huge crush on for the very first time and feeling their lips against yours. It doesn't have to be as important as everyone makes it out to be.
Finding out s... (read in full...)
So what's the big deal about viginity?
Q. Okay so this really isn't a question. Truth is I don't see why people make such a big deal about sex and virginity. I don't find it such a big deal losing it. I mean I'm 16 I'm still a virgin and I believe that you know you should wait until you ...
A. 7 May 2009: You're right.
You really don't have to care about kissing someone you have a huge crush on for the very first time and feeling their lips against yours. It doesn't have to be as important as everyone makes it out to be.
Finding out s... (read in full...)
Will he make an effort to see me again?
Q. Me and this guy were texting back and forth all week last week. On Friday he asked me if I wanted to hang out sometime and on Saturday I told him that that would be okay. He asked me what I was doing today (Sunday), and I told him that I was working ...
A. 4 May 2009: To him, it really doesn't look like you're interested.
He made an effort and has surely made others in the past week. He asked you on Friday and the next day you replied that it would be "ok". Then on Sunday you told him you were busy.
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What do YOU guys do???
Q. Exams are coming up soon and i study at uni from mornin til late night. currently i dont have a girlfriend and i see quite a few really nice girls in the library. i get nervous jus to go up to talk to a girl. once when i was walkin up a flig...
A. 4 May 2009: Sounds like a few girls have caught your eye. It's normal to get nervous when you're interested in someone. Comfort comes with time. It's sounds like your interesting in starting conversations with girls. The more you talk to girls, the more ... (read in full...)
Do condoms come in different sizes?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months now and we decided that we were ready for sex. My boyfriend went to put on the condomn but it wouldnt fit... Do condomn's come in different sizes? If so where can we find them?...
A. 4 May 2009: Condoms are sold in different sizes. Ignore the description on the front. Read the back of the box instead. Condom sizes, like shoes sizes, differ between countries and brands.
A Manix “Natural” is 53 mm. A Manix “King Size” is 54 mm. Durex “... (read in full...)
Take your shoes off! Thanks!
Q. Call me PETTY, but i am a woman of PRINCIPLE. I recently put a sign on my front door saying, take your shoes off, thanks!! I was getting so angry with everyone bringing mud and grass in to the house and getting it all over my laminate floors ...
A. 2 May 2009: Congratulations on becoming an expecting mother! I'm sorry to hear that this is stressing you out. You're going to give yourself a nervous breakdown. I really disagree with all the iron fist/strong arm approaches that have been expressed so far. ... (read in full...)
Should I give her the note?
Q. Hi, and thanks for help in advance. Forgive me if this sounds way too cliche. Well, there's a girl I started to like Saturday. At first I thought it was one of those things where it passes in a day. But, when I woke up Sunday morning, she was...
A. 2 May 2009: Thanks for writing back.
It sounds like you're interested in this girl and want to make an effort to see where things go. Crushes are a lot of fun. Life is good. You're lucky that someone has peaked your interest and stolen your attentio... (read in full...)
Should I give her the note?
Q. Hi, and thanks for help in advance. Forgive me if this sounds way too cliche. Well, there's a girl I started to like Saturday. At first I thought it was one of those things where it passes in a day. But, when I woke up Sunday morning, she was...
A. 2 May 2009: Before you giver her the note...
Consider talking to her. That is after all what you're planning on doing when you invited her to meet you at the locker, right? It's ok to feel nervous when you like someone. Crushes have a way of turning ... (read in full...)
I have reached the age of legal consent and wanted to have sex with my long term girlfriend but I couldn't get it up.
Q. I turned 16 ten days ago, and that means I'm legal in my country (UK). I thought that when I was 16 I would not have a problem with having sex, as I did not have to worry about the law etc, but my girlfriend of 8 months and I tried having sex ...
A. 2 May 2009: I’m sorry to hear you had a disappointing night. I imagine that you must be very frustrated. While I understand that you’re embarrassed, I think you’re being too hard on yourself. It happens to all guys and it’s very, very normal. A girl ... (read in full...)
She's gonna think I'm hitting her up only for sex
Q. Im a student at university and everyday i study in the library because of exams. and theres this girl who i think is really nice that i see there and i would like to get to know her. but recently a group of ppl in the library put on a porn video and ...
A. 1 May 2009: So the reason why you think she's gonna think you're hitting her up only for sex is because of the group that blasted a porno in the library and by mere association with them, you must fall in the category of horny sex-driven guys in her mind, ... (read in full...)
He wants anal without a condom
Q. Me and my boyfriend have recently had anal sex for the first time(with condom). It was great, i felt no pain at all and he enjoyed it alot. We are gonna do it again this weekend, but he wants to do it without a condom and i dont want to. What can i ...
A. 1 May 2009: How about eating some very spicy Mexican food? I'd suspect that that would be a pretty effective deterrent but then again I don't understand why he'd want to stick his penis up your bum (and without a condom???) so perhaps this won't trouble ... (read in full...)
Being in love versus having a crush!
Q. Can I have someone tell me the difference between being in love and having a crush?...
A. 11 April 2009: When you have a crush, everything is wonderful whenever you're with them. When you're in love, everything is miserable whenever you're not with them. You were looking for something a bit more concrete, I suppose? Something more than "Oh... y... (read in full...)
Do men really know when they're are about to ejaculate?
Q. do men really know when thier sperm comes out while having sex. even with/withot a condom?...
A. 9 April 2009: Yes, absolutely, it's called an orgasm and it's hard for the brain to ignore it when it happens. Regardless of whether they're wearing a condom or not, men know when it's about to happen but they should always, always wear a condom. "Pulling out" ... (read in full...)
What if I get horny in the school shower amongst other boys? Will it ruin my reputation?
Q. okay next year ill be entering the world of high, wich is pretty scary, especially because im going to try out for the footballl team...and if your in gym or an athletic team it's required to take a shower..ad the thing is i get horny when i ...
A. 8 April 2009: I hear you man. There's absolutely no need to worry. You'll be surprised what a cold shower will do to a man. You have absolutely no need to worry. Once that freezing cold water hits your shoulder blades, not even thoughts of the hottest babe... (read in full...)
Can dating get us into trouble since we're minors?
Q. my b/f, 18, and me, 15 r going out in secret, and when were talking to a teacher, while i said things that made it obvious that im in his life alot, like a g/f, so the teacher asked if him if we were going out, and he said to ask me, and by then ...
A. 18 January 2009: I'm sorry to hear that you're in this thorny situation. Why can't things be simple, right?
Believe it or not, society has decided that you're in a vulnerable position and the law wants to protect you. If you two have sex, he will go to court un... (read in full...)
Has anyone else noticed an change in eye colour when horny?
Q. This is a bit of weird question, but my boyfriend's eyes turn from a light blue to a deep green when he's horny. It's a real turn on but just wondering whether anyone else has experienced this? :) He's not realised this change until I pointed it out ...
A. 14 January 2009: Cool question! Do you really want to know? Why ruin the magic? This is certainly the first science question I've answered on here. Only keep reading if you're really curious...
Here's a picture of the same set of blue eyes under two differen... (read in full...)
SuperMarket Fling gone Wrong!
Q. Last April I met this guy at my local Supermarket. We hit it of pretty good, went out on dates etc.. Then a couple months later we had sex. It was'nt that great. He spoke a good game but did'nt live up to it. I was fine with the whole thing be...
A. 13 January 2009: I'm sorry but this is going to hurt...and I'm probably going to get a lot of bad ratings for this brutally honest answer.
His behaviour isn't odd at all, it's perfectly understandable. He played you, twice. If he wanted anything more than you... (read in full...)
Does anyone know how a spouse's debt collection, affects the other person financially?
Q. Does anyone know about how debt in collections will affect a marriage? My fiancee and I plan on getting married in about two years. But one thing I am concerned about is he owes a few thousand to collections. He has made a plan to pay it off over ...
A. 3 January 2009: NONE OF THE FOLLOWING SHOULD BE CONSTRUED AS LEGAL ADVICE. IF YOU ARE CONCERNED ABOUT HOW MARRIAGE WILL AFFECT YOUR FINANCIAL SITUATION, YOU SHOULD CONSULT A FAMILY LAWYER.
Congratulations on your engagement!
The laws governing marita... (read in full...)
I'd like my dad to meet my boyfriend
Q. Hey. Ok I might as well tell you a little bit about myself and my situation first. Well, I'm 13 years old first of all however i'll be turning 14 in march of 2009. I don't need you to tell me i'm to young to know what love is. Because thats ...
A. 30 December 2008: Congratulations! You must be so excited!
I'm happy to hear that you're with someone that you really like. This must be quite the emotional roller coaster for you; it certainly can be. Introducing boyfriends and girlfriends to your family c... (read in full...)
Should I keep giving her a ride to college?
Q. how are you guy's? me and my ex broke up 3 months ago. she has a bf now. once she asked me " should i break up with him " but im not sure..i think she is happy with him now I never called her in that while .. wanted her to miss me I ...
A. 18 December 2008: No, this is bad news.
You guys broke up and it's over it's in your past. You will never go back to how it was before. Yea, it was good but now it's gone. You should limit your contact with her. You definitely shouldn't be driving her to colle... (read in full...)
Why do people moan during sex?
Q. Hi...just a question about sex. Do people involuntary moan during sex? Is the thought of being turned on so much that it's completely impossible to resist doing so? And when do people usually moan during it?...
A. 9 December 2008: Whoa! Looks like I provoked quite a reaction! haha
He asked a serious question. I thought I'd give him a serious answer. I'm sorry if I offended anyone. You can vote to remove my opinion if you really find it obnoxious and offensiv... (read in full...)
Why do people moan during sex?
Q. Hi...just a question about sex. Do people involuntary moan during sex? Is the thought of being turned on so much that it's completely impossible to resist doing so? And when do people usually moan during it?...
A. 8 December 2008: Hello!
As for the first question:
People moan because they are enjoying themselves. Not everyone moans; some are very quiet lovers.
First, when you moan you exhale briskly or slowly and this relaxes your muscles and accentuates the plea... (read in full...)
Is there a way I can tell I am pregnant...this soon after having sex?
Q. I recently had a one night stand with a very very good friend of mine and well we kind of had a problem with the condom. I went to the doctors and took a morning after pill but there is still a niggling feeling in the back of my head... what if?...
A. 27 November 2008: I'm sorry to hear that this is stressing you so. Talk to your doctor/nurse about it. You can get a walk-in appointment. Go to another area of town if you're shy. Just talk to a health care professional. He or she will be able to tell you abo... (read in full...)
I really need some advice on making good friends.
Q. Hiya everyone, I really need some advice on making good friends. I can set up conversations pretty easily but then the night or event ends, nothing happens and I'm back to wishing I had even one person apart from my mum every now and then. I know ...
A. 27 November 2008: This is actually very simple. I don't like recommending books but I will in this case because it's the most effective answer. It really, really is this simple:
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.
It been around and ... (read in full...)
He says sex hurts him! Is this normal?
Q. my bf is 22 he was still a virgin we've only done it twice but he says it hurts him alot is it normal? ...
A. 20 October 2008: Hi,
I’m sorry to hear that his first two experiences weren’t enjoyable. There are many reasons why sex may be painful.
First, if he is not circumcised, the foreskin of the penis will be attached to the head of his penis. Each penetration will... (read in full...)
Why would there be a condom wrapper under his bed? We haven't used them in months!
Q. Okay I am seeing a guy, for quite a while now, almost half a year... he doesn't want a relationship, I'm having trouble coping. Either way my question is I found a condom wrapper under his bed, with HIS boxers. We don't use condoms, and I have been ...
A. 17 October 2008: Thank you for the update; it is much appreciated! I thought I would add that my gf (19 years old) and I recently broke up. We had often talked about our different expectations and ultimately I could not give her what she needed; she was not the ... (read in full...)
Why would there be a condom wrapper under his bed? We haven't used them in months!
Q. Okay I am seeing a guy, for quite a while now, almost half a year... he doesn't want a relationship, I'm having trouble coping. Either way my question is I found a condom wrapper under his bed, with HIS boxers. We don't use condoms, and I have been ...
A. 17 October 2008: Guys point of view:
Some guys whack off in condoms. Seems like a uselessly expensive habit to me but it is common. It's weird that he didn't mention that. Maybe he's not comfortable sharing that. If you guys have never talked about masturba... (read in full...)
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