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Why is it so hard to let go of a person who's not treating you right?
Q. im stuck in one of the worst situations ever. i think im in love with this man who doesnt care at all about me. all he wants is sex and because i care about him, i neva minded. but now im so hurt, to a point where i cant do anything but cry. i want ...
A. 21 November 2009: There's nothing wrong with being alone.
Being single doesn't mean you are undesirable.
This is a time to refect and get to know yourself
again. Learn from your last relationship so you
don't repeat the same mistake.
It is hard at the beginnin... (read in full...)
Are my parents doing the right thing?
Q. Hello. My mum and dad are currently breaking up, although I have the feeling that they shouldn't be. Basically, my dad gave up smoking a year and a half back, but his job has gotten really stressfull. My mum had this happen two times before and...
A. 26 October 2009: Divorce is a painful and tough thing.
but it looks like your parents have gotten to the point where they do not respect or love each other.
Your mom cheated and your dad probably holds a lot of resentment.
Communication is broken.
Sometimes par... (read in full...)
Let's Talk About The Problem With Nice Guys!
Q. "I was so nice to her but now she's going out with someone else!" "Women don't really want nice guys, they want assholes." "He never even noticed all the wonderful things I did for him!" If you've ever said any of these things, you might be a ...
A. 22 October 2009: I was a nice girl. I didn't see my wrong way until my husband left me. It was the most painful experience of my life but then I learned so much from it.
I had no boundries and was a doormat.
After 2 years of being completely alone, I learn to... (read in full...)
He is deeply spiritual and senses spirits around him. Should I stay away?
Q. Hello Advice please asap Ive met a great guy online and plan to meet me him on Sunday. He is deeply deeply spiritual, says he feels things, knows things, senses spirits and that he feels them around him all the the time.... His mother was...
A. 22 October 2009: I have a friend who is an exact description like you describe. Some people are more in touch to a different vibration and can sense/ talk to spirit.
I do believe there are some people with this gift. However,
what I don't believe is what Older Si... (read in full...)
Why is it so hard to let go of a person who's not treating you right?
Q. im stuck in one of the worst situations ever. i think im in love with this man who doesnt care at all about me. all he wants is sex and because i care about him, i neva minded. but now im so hurt, to a point where i cant do anything but cry. i want ...
A. 20 October 2009: i agree with Caring Guy cause I've been there and done that.
I put up with so much crap from my ex, and only when I got out did I realize my self esteem was down in the gutter.
Love yourself enough to know that you deserve so much better. ... (read in full...)
Is this how "Grown Up" relationships work?
Q. Hi :) i'm Trixie and im 16 (17 in a few days!!) Basically I have started this "relationship" with a really great guy who is 20. The thing is we have been acting like boyfriend and girlfriend for about... 5 weeks now, although were not going out. No...
A. 20 October 2009: he definitely has one thing on his mind, and it's not to get you to be his girlfriend.
I'm pretty sure he's thinking up ways to get you in his bed, and fantisizing having sex with you.
In America it is illegal to for a 20year old to have sex with... (read in full...)
How do I convince my friend that he shouldnt take this girl back as she is holding him back from finding the girl he deserves!
Q. Well, i have a friend who met this girl about a year ago. When he met her she had a boyfriend but he was only trying to be her friend at first but then he started liking her. They ended up getting really close and the girl started liking him as ...
A. 20 October 2009: love is blind and your BF loves this girl. He doesn't want to let her go because he cares deeply for this girl.
From outside looking in, it's obvious that this girl is using him as a safety net. She doesn't want to be alone and knows that your BF w... (read in full...)
10 Things that Women should never allow any Man to talk her into...
Q. Men can be pretty persuasive. They've been known to talk women into almost every poor situation imaginable under the disguise of love. If I've said it once, I've said it a thousand times that when a man starts a sentence with "If you love me", what ...
A. 18 October 2009: thank you for this great article. You are absolutely 100% correct. As a single women, sometimes I am hesitant to carry a condom on me at all times, thinking the men might think i'm slutty or whatever, but now, I will always have it with me. My ... (read in full...)
How do I get this happily married man to notice me?
Q. i like this guy,but he is married and happy.i see him once every fortnight at work.what shoul i do for he notice me,please?...
A. 18 October 2009: I question why you are interested in a married man.
why you want attention from him. Is it the challenge?
So what happens if you get him... will you dump him because the fun is over?
What about his Wife?
I don't know what is going on in your... (read in full...)
Do lack of actions show lack of care?
Q. I have a question, if someone that claims he loves you but then never calls, writes, or does anything to initiate contact, do you back off???? Very confused and told that it is your not believing in the love or trusting that is the fault. But ...
A. 18 October 2009: Forget what he says. Look at his action. If he is not calling you and showing interest, most likely he "just not into you".
You need to move on. He is dangling a carrot in front of you, so don't chase it.
Men who care and love you will jump hoo... (read in full...)
I don't want to be in this relationship any longer, what should I do?
Q. What should i do? I have been in a relationship for 3 years and out of the 3 most of it has been arguments over me cheating. I have not cheated and stayed true through out the relationship, now its to the point where i dont wanna be in this anymore. ...
A. 18 October 2009: You are your own person, and if this person is not a right fit for you, then you have to do what's best and that is to end it. Break ups are hard, but the pain of prolonging a doomed relationship is even worse.
Just calmly sit her down and say I do... (read in full...)
I just can't be with him anymore. How can I get him out of my head?
Q. I need to move on and I know that. The man I was seeing (fallen in love with) was separated and going through a divorce. He asked me out and I accepted and we had the most fantastic 5 months together. His ex started threatening to move away with ...
A. 6 October 2009: You are doing the right thing by walking away. You have to protect yourself and your heart. He is not in the right state of mind to give you what you need.
Of course you will miss him, but in time you will forget and move on. Keep yourself busy... (read in full...)
Have you cheated or been cheated on?
Q. I am just curious how frequently people cheat or get cheated on? By partners, fiances, spouses? And if you have cheated, why did you do it? Is cheating unavoidable in long term relationships? Do all partners get bored at some point?...
A. 14 July 2009: To clear things up. I am not with the married man anymore.
i felt guilty being the other woman, but it does come down to your own moral values. What do you believe in.
I think most people are hurt because the trust and honestly is broken..... (read in full...)
Have you cheated or been cheated on?
Q. I am just curious how frequently people cheat or get cheated on? By partners, fiances, spouses? And if you have cheated, why did you do it? Is cheating unavoidable in long term relationships? Do all partners get bored at some point?...
A. 14 July 2009: to be honest. I was in a 13 year relationship and never cheated. Now i'm single and with a man who is cheating on his wife. I've come to the conclusion that monogamy is not natural feeling for people. It's like eating the a hamburger every single ... (read in full...)
Have you cheated or been cheated on?
Q. I am just curious how frequently people cheat or get cheated on? By partners, fiances, spouses? And if you have cheated, why did you do it? Is cheating unavoidable in long term relationships? Do all partners get bored at some point?...
A. 14 July 2009: to be honest. I was in a 13 year relationship and never cheated. Now i'm single and with a man who is cheating on his wife. I've come to the conclusion that monogamy is not natural feeling for people. It's like eating the a hamburger every single ... (read in full...)
Indecent proposal--should I continue the affair?
Q. Ok, here I go. A bit long, but I want you to get the whole picture. I am a successful business woman married to a wonderful man and have 3 beautiful boys. If you "knew" me you could never tell I have a deep dark secret. I have had an affair wi...
A. 18 June 2009: What it comes down to is you secretly thrive
on all this drama. You created it because without
it, your life would be boring.
you are crazy about Abe because he is a huge
Challenge to you. You are bored with your
husband and need ... (read in full...)
Is there a good reason why I should have to wear makeup to please him?
Q. Maybe this is a stupid question, I don't know. My boyfriend is 28 and I am 21; we have been dating about 8 months. Lately he and I have been having problems in our relationship, mainly communications but some other things also. A couple days ago we ...
A. 23 May 2009: I disagree with some of the comments here.
You should only put make up on to make YOU
feel good. Do it for you and not for him.
If he doesn't like how you are now.. Then screw him.
Tell him, sorry this is me and if you don't like it, take a ... (read in full...)
Dating a guy who shares a room with his so called female "best friend"
Q. hi! i have been dating mi guy for two months now and the problm is he is staying with a girl in the same room, and when i ask him he says the girl is her best friend and there is nothing that will separate the two of them,its eitheir he introduces ...
A. 23 May 2009: It is up to you depending how you feel.
If you love him and trust him give him the benefit of the doubt. However if you feel they are more and uncomfortable with the situation
end it. Trust what your instinct is telling you.
... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend is abusive, so why do I keep staying with him??
Q. I have felt for a long time in my relationship that my boyfriend is on the abusive side. He's never hit me but he shout's at me and makes me feel really bad sometimes (this happens if he is worrying about something or feels bad about something he's ...
A. 13 May 2009: I've been in the same shoes you've been in
and I stayed 13years. After 2 child , he says
he left me. Not before he killed my confidence
& self esteem. Don't think u are being selfish,
you're not!! Love yourself enough to leave before
He does... (read in full...)
I'm not sure how long I can continue being punished by him!
Q. I need some advice please. My bf wanted to know everything from my past, every last detail of who I was with, what I did with them, when, where etc etc. When he asked who I had slept with I lied. Reduced the number mainly as I was ashamed and regr...
A. 11 May 2009: He is manipulating you and the situation
And now he holds all power and control
Over you. He thinks he has you now and you
Are not going anywhere. ESP with his baby..
He's trapped you to where exactly where he
Wants you. I hate to tell you .... (read in full...)
Are we really meant to be? Why do we keep coming back to each other?
Q. I will try to make this brief but there's a lot of history ..I have an ex boyfriend who I started dating about 10 years ago the first year or two were rocky...then had some really good times for about four years. The happiest times of my life where ...
A. 11 May 2009: As hard as it may be. I think you need to learn
To let go. You are only coming to him
After the fact things didn't work out with other
People. I hard to tell you but you are being selfish
And manipulative. Don't take if wrong.. Now you ... (read in full...)
Should I try now, later, or never to get back togeather with my ex?
Q. My boyfriend of three months and I just broke up two weeks ago. For both of us it was our first real serious relationship. We pretty much broke up because I was upset by the fact that although his residents hall was a 3-5min walk away i only real...
A. 5 May 2009: Move on! He wants to date new girls and see
What's out there. You should do the same.
He doesn't love you so don't chase him. ... (read in full...)
He has mental issues and I want to dump him! Should I be scared?
Q. My boyfriend has mental issues and the more we stay together the more controlling he is becoming towards me. When we started dating, he was so much fun and exciting and did everything possible (in a good way) to make me fall for him. As we got to ...
A. 5 May 2009: Do you live in Pa?? Sounds like my ex!! All kidding
Aside.. Just end it nicely. If he goes postal
Then get a restraining order!
Turn to close friends who can help you.
Or call women's shelter who can support
You if he gets abusive. Do not... (read in full...)
I know it was to break up with him but I feel so sad
Q. Hi, my name is Reyna, i need you to help me. Today I ended things with a guy who obviously didn't care about me. We dated for 4 years and i truly can't remember the last time i felt like i was worth something. I want to give you some quick inside i...
A. 4 May 2009: I am in the same shoes you are in. I feel your
Pain. It gets so hard some days . You just
Have to keep telling yourself that he was no good
For you and he doesn't love you. most of all
he Doesnt DESERVE YOU!! You are better than him!!
Be s... (read in full...)
I know it was to break up with him but I feel so sad
Q. Hi, my name is Reyna, i need you to help me. Today I ended things with a guy who obviously didn't care about me. We dated for 4 years and i truly can't remember the last time i felt like i was worth something. I want to give you some quick inside i...
A. 4 May 2009: I am in the same shoes you are in. I feel your
Pain. It gets so hard some days . You just
Have to keep telling yourself that he was no good
For you and he doesn't love you. most of all
he Doesnt DESERVE YOU!! You are better than him!!
Be s... (read in full...)
Was I being disloyal to my boyfriend
Q. My bf and I were invited over to his brother's house for a bbq. His bro likes my potato salad so much, he asked me to make a lot of it so he could have some leftovers. Ok, no problem, I did. When we were over there, towards the end of the ...
A. 4 May 2009: Your Bf. Has issues with his brother.
Maybe cause their parent favored one
Over the other. Whatever the case .. This wasn't
Over potato salad and a game of Taboo.
It was who was the better man.. With the better
Girlfriend.. Ect. These two boys ... (read in full...)
Do I truly miss him and only wish that I had him to lean on?
Q. June of 2008 I married what I thought was the man for me. We have been together for 4 years before getting married. He came into the relationship with no children. About a year later come to find out he has 4 boys. The youngest being 8. At first I ...
A. 4 May 2009: You are missing him because you are feeling
Down and lonely. U miss how it used to be.
But think back to all the drama and the lies
And deception. Can you handle that again if
You reconcile? Don't look back and go back
In time. Look for... (read in full...)
Should I hang on in there and see what happens in his relationship or cut contact? I like him.
Q. Help, I think I have entered the friends zone!!! I had a one night stand a few months ago with a guy I knew vaguely from a long time ago. He lives about 200 miles away and was visiting his parents in my home town. Since our night together we have...
A. 4 May 2009: I say cut contact. Realistically it'll never work
Because of the distance and also because
You had a one night stand with him.
Also you shared stories of other guys to
Him so he already has judged you based
On these stories. If u want t... (read in full...)
Should I hang on in there and see what happens in his relationship or cut contact? I like him.
Q. Help, I think I have entered the friends zone!!! I had a one night stand a few months ago with a guy I knew vaguely from a long time ago. He lives about 200 miles away and was visiting his parents in my home town. Since our night together we have...
A. 4 May 2009: I say cut contact. Realistically it'll never work
Because of the distance and also because
You had a one night stand with him.
Also you shared stories of other guys to
Him so he already has judged you based
On these stories. If u want t... (read in full...)
I don't think I can get much lower
Q. I'm at the lowest I have ever been in my life, and wonder if anyone has ever been here..or can offer advice? I'm in my mid 40's thought my life was all planned out with my soul mate..we'd been together for going on 10 years. He broke up saying he ...
A. 3 May 2009: trust me you are not alone!! my life is in the shits too,
and everyday i wake up telling myself today will be a better day. The only thing that gets me through is knowing that God has a plan for me and whatever paying i'm going through, there is a... (read in full...)
Why does he always come back if he doesn't really want me?
Q. Hi, me and my ex had a good strong relationship. We had so many good times and we went thru a lot together. Wen our son was born it was the happiest time of our lives. Things were so going so well. After our son was born things changed. My partner ...
A. 3 May 2009: Its obvious that you still love him and that is why you take him back everytime he comes running back.
you are always hoping and wanting for it to be how it use to be when you guys first met.
You need to let that dream go. It's over, he basicall... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever been in a relationship with a male narcissist?
Q. Has anyone ever been in a relationship with a male narcissist? If so, could you share any experiences? Behavior examples? Thanks!...
A. 3 May 2009: I agree with SDesire. true narcissist have
Issues and the will never change. It's not
About looking at themselves in the mirror
All the time., it goes deeper than that.
... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever been in a relationship with a male narcissist?
Q. Has anyone ever been in a relationship with a male narcissist? If so, could you share any experiences? Behavior examples? Thanks!...
A. 1 May 2009: Yes!! All they do is talk about themselves
And they never see reality for what it is.
They manipulate and change situations
Around to make them look like the good guy .
They can make your life hell if you let them.Best
thing to do is ru... (read in full...)
I am getting fed up with this game playing!
Q. I'm confused, seriously: I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and it hasn't been perfect, but I am at a loss with what is going on now. We talk to eachother everyday, text, msn ect and now it is going on 4 days and nothing. Lately he's ...
A. 24 April 2009: Look.. This is an advice site and you can
Take it or leave it. If u don't like what I wrote
Ignore it ..why are you being defensive
At what I wrote?I did in no way judge you at all..
I wrote purely based on the information
That YOU!!! Provi... (read in full...)
I am getting fed up with this game playing!
Q. I'm confused, seriously: I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and it hasn't been perfect, but I am at a loss with what is going on now. We talk to eachother everyday, text, msn ect and now it is going on 4 days and nothing. Lately he's ...
A. 18 April 2009: You need to give him his space. Don't focus on him anymore.
He is slowly distancing himself from you because he wants to
Break up with you and preparing himself mentally.
You have 2 choice. Break up with him first before he dumps you.
This ... (read in full...)
Does he just wants to fool around or is he actually interested in me?
Q. Hi, I just need some explanations. I have met my friend's brother a couple of months ago at her house and that night, we kind fooled around and got very intimate but we didn't have sex. After that night, we have seen each other a few more times w...
A. 14 April 2009: guys sense that and it's a turn off. They like to pursue
...so act cool and enjoy his company without
Any thought to the outcome. ... (read in full...)
Does he just wants to fool around or is he actually interested in me?
Q. Hi, I just need some explanations. I have met my friend's brother a couple of months ago at her house and that night, we kind fooled around and got very intimate but we didn't have sex. After that night, we have seen each other a few more times w...
A. 14 April 2009: He's fooling around. He probably thinks your
Cool and attracted to you. But guys this age just
Want to have fun. If he liked you u would know..
Your phone would be ringing! Don't think too
Much into it. ... (read in full...)
I know that I need to leave my wife...but does she really love me?
Q. I am in the most difficult situation that I have ever been. I am 34 years old, married and have an 8 month old baby girl. About 2 years ago I hired a woman to work for me who was 6 years younger than I was. After about 3 months I knew that I was ...
A. 11 April 2009: I feel sorry for your wife. Blinded by what kind of husband she married.
I don't want to bash you, but I think about how she was oblivious to your betrayal. How many times did you call her and tell her you would be "working late", while you
stay ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my married teacher and now I want him to be with me!
Q. okay i posted a question quite a while back saying i tried to kiss my teacher but he rejected me. However last night i was at a nightclub with my friends and because hes only like 26 himself he was there and we started talking and he was saying how ...
A. 8 April 2009: okay you need to wake up and smell the coffee.
You are in LALA land if you think he is going to leave his family for you.
Not that you aren't beautiful i'm sure, but you are after an unavailable man. You know that he is married, and he is your tea... (read in full...)
No wonder guys are "coming out of the closet"!
Q. Dated this girl. We're both adults. I asked her out a couple of time and she always asked to see me again the next day for a movie or whatever so things were great. She says she digs me so much and I dig her. She kisses me. She says she's not ...
A. 8 April 2009: look. I just dated a man that did the same thing.
I am still recovering from all the bullshit and lies that came from his mouth. Its not just women.
Men do the same thing. It's all about the individual person. I miss my guy so much, but refuse t... (read in full...)
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