So in love, must we part?
Q. I love my guy very much. He loves me very much. After three years he is not even ready to live with me and I am ready to get married. Today I am crying at my house and he is crying at his. because how can two people break up who are so right for...
A. 19 October 2009: What explanation does he give you? Surely he's not still "waiting for the right one" at his age?...Seems puzzling to me if he loves you the way you say he does, I don't know why he's holding back. There must be more. You should ask him to explain ... (read in full...)
Started as a purely sexual relationship. Now she has feelings and I want to bail!
Q. I'm in a sexual relationship with a woman that had stated from the beginning that all that she was looking for was for fulfilment. OK, with me. What man will turn a foxy woman down? Not many!! Anyway we have been having our weekend get together-s at ...
A. 19 October 2009: You should ask yourself if you would miss her once you've pulled the plug? Not miss the sex, but the woman in general. Because if so, then maybe you should re-think your angle. Is your only reason because you live so far apart? Why don't you tell ... (read in full...)
I'm not that girly, but I want to become more girly.
Q. i'm 16 and in my second year of high school. ok so i'm not that girly, but i want to become more girly. i always wear a black shirt and blue skinny jeans. my shoes are black converse and i wear lots of black eyeliner and my hair is covering one of ...
A. 19 October 2009: Go to a hairstylist and have her change your hairstyle. If you look through some of the books there, you'll find a nice hairstyle that looks flattering on you, maybe lighten your hair, or add highlights to look less "goth" and more girlie. Then buy ... (read in full...)
Tips on stressed out girlfriend?
Q. So question- When my girlfriend is stressed out, she usually gets pretty cranky. It's really difficult to talk to her, and the usual consolation to typical complaints (I've been working forever, or I'm gonna fail these tests) don't work. Not ...
A. 19 October 2009: The next time she comes home and she seems stressed out (you know what the signs probably are) just say, "I'm gonna give you some space without me bugging you, if you want to talk I'll be in the living room (or other room) otherwise I'm going to let ... (read in full...)
Will I grow out of being jealous?
Q. well.. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly two years now.. We're both seventeen. I love him very much and I can't imagin life without him. I get on on with him better than anyone else.. Everythings perfect except one thing! In recent months I ...
A. 18 October 2009: If he's lied to you, especially where other girls are concerned then subconsciously you are wondering what else is he lying about? You are jealous because you feel he is hiding things from you, things that could involve other girls and this ... (read in full...)
Why would he say something and take it back?
Q. Hi, i really need someone to help me with this as i'm not sure what to think. ok, here goes! I recently become friends with my ex, he was having trouble with the relatonship he was in, i listened to his problems and helped him through it. I kn...
A. 18 October 2009: Not only should you forget about it, you should also forget about him. He is with someone else and if your relationship was that long ago the two of you should've stopped communication a l-o-n-g time ago so you could both focus on your present lives ... (read in full...)
Does he mean he still loves me or was the comment past tense?
Q. My husband and I are separated and we were having an indepth e-mail conversation, so I asked Do you Love me? He replied: I always did... even though I had a terrible way of showing it. Does that mean past tense - he doesn't love me now. ...
A. 18 October 2009: Just ask him only this time pick up the phone or go see him in person. It's much better to discuss things like this face to face. So much is lost in an e-mail message, you can't hear the tone of his voice, or see his eyes light up, you can't read ... (read in full...)
Do lack of actions show lack of care?
Q. I have a question, if someone that claims he loves you but then never calls, writes, or does anything to initiate contact, do you back off???? Very confused and told that it is your not believing in the love or trusting that is the fault. But ...
A. 18 October 2009: He either has great difficulty with intimacy (and communication is part of an intimate relationship) or he is simply juggling more than one woman and trying to keep you at a distance while he entertains the other one. You cannot build a good, solid ... (read in full...)
Is my jealousy pushing him away?
Q. Dear cupid: I went on my first date with my boyfriend three months ago. During the four first weeks we had great time while getting to know each other. I was always happy and smiling and he told me that he will always like me as long as I remain...
A. 18 October 2009: I think he set you up for this failure. That's like asking someone what their worst fear is, and when they tell you they are afraid of the dark, you turn off all the lights and then become furious because they are scared. This is what he has done ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't he have let go of his ex the day he said "I do"?
Q. I have been married for almost 1 year, actually it will be 1 year on the 31st. We have a 15 month old daughter and have been together for a bit more than two years. Two days ago I woke up and realized by husband wasn’t in bed. He had gotten up early ...
A. 18 October 2009: There is an old saying that women marry their Dads and men marry their Mom's. Aside from the creepy factor that statement conjures up, we do tend to lean toward the familiar and men, especially those who are close to their Mothers may ... (read in full...)
Tips on stressed out girlfriend?
Q. So question- When my girlfriend is stressed out, she usually gets pretty cranky. It's really difficult to talk to her, and the usual consolation to typical complaints (I've been working forever, or I'm gonna fail these tests) don't work. Not ...
A. 16 October 2009: Give her some space when she's acting stressed out. Tell herthat you're there when/if she wants to talk, and then remove yourself for awhile. Let her work through her problems on her own; she might want to work out to burn off her stress, or she ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't he have let go of his ex the day he said "I do"?
Q. I have been married for almost 1 year, actually it will be 1 year on the 31st. We have a 15 month old daughter and have been together for a bit more than two years. Two days ago I woke up and realized by husband wasn’t in bed. He had gotten up early ...
A. 16 October 2009: When I read your post it wasn't clear how the two of you met, and how you came to be a couple. One thing comes to mind -- were you the rebound girl in his life, that ended up getting pregnant, so he married you because he thought it was the right ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating or did I over-react? Opinions please...
Q. I am pregnant - about 14 wks. Last night the father of the baby who I dumped 5 hrs prior - just after work, for not taking care of romance and for ringing me less and never having any time for me anymore. I felt he could have been using me so I ...
A. 16 October 2009: Yes I think he was seeing her romantically (or sexually at least) and he got caught. He had no explanation to give you because what would be the point? He was busted. She hung up on you because she was pissed about hearing that he had been ... (read in full...)
How do you know when someone is for you?
Q. Hello guys, I have kind of a gerenal question. How do you know when someone is right for you/ the right love? I know you have to work for love but how hard. Are you suppose to work really hard or is that just a hint it's not the right love...
A. 16 October 2009: You know it's right when you enjoy each other's company, when you have enough in common to share your interests with each other, but enough differences to each be an individual (not a clone of one another); you know how to fight to resolve issues, ... (read in full...)
I want to sleep with my middle school principal!
Q. Okay here's the deal... I turned 18 three months ago, but I am a senior in high school still. My middle school principal and I got to talking again and we have feelings for each other. My question is.. would we be able to sleep together even t...
A. 16 October 2009: OMG, I see disaster in your future.... (read in full...)
Why should I save my virginity when other people don't?
Q. Why should I save my virginity when others people don't ? and why would I wait for the right girls in case the right girl could be a loose one as well. I can't see any points of waiting for me. even my ex-girlfriend when she was with me she siad she...
A. 16 October 2009: I don't necessarily think you have to save it for "the right one" but do wait until you are in love with someone so the experience of your first time will at least feel special. Even if the relationship doesn't last (and it probably won't) it will ... (read in full...)
A check into his emails brings up many inappropriate texts between him and his ex!
Q. What to do? Last night in a fit of temper following an argument with my boyf, i decided to go through his SMS inbox behind his back. at the time i justified it to myself by telling myself it was ok because he had done this to me in the past, and...
A. 26 September 2009: You could think of a clever way to bring it up out of the blue..."Do you ever hear from X anymore?"...If he says "yes" then listen to his answer. If he volunteers the info about their messages, it will give you the opptunity to tell him that you ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about the text messages she's getting from this guy?
Q. Should I be concerned with flirtatious text messages that my wife gets from an old co-worker? My wife gets flirtatious text messages from someone she used to work with. This person left the company she is with about 12 months ago and they were fr...
A. 26 September 2009: Your wife is having an emotional affair with this guy, and even if she didn't sleep with him, she is entertaining sexual content with another man and that is something that violates trust and fidelity in a marraige. I would question what is the ... (read in full...)
Should I leave the relationship or stay unhappy?
Q. I am forty years old and have been in a relationship with my partner for five years. We have a three year old daughter together. For the last two years we have only had sex twice, and now our daughter remains sleeping in our bed, while I choose to ...
A. 23 September 2009: Find a good counselor and talk to her. Discuss how you feel about your relationship and think about ways of improving the situation. Once you've exhausted all other possibilities, you will feel better about moving on without him. You may also ... (read in full...)
Will a puppy heal my loneliness?
Q. Hey.. umm I have a question. Im 18 years old, i just started college and im about to go away to school next semester. i met this boy in school, and we got together. i fell in love with him and as my first love, i lost my virginity to him. when i was ...
A. 23 September 2009: Well a puppy is no substitute for a baby, but in your case I think it is just what you need. Puppies can give you an outlet; a place to turn your love and affection to that is not as demanding as having a baby. The responsibility will help you ... (read in full...)
Am I just over sexed or is sex just over rated?
Q. im 21, multiracial, mostly black female and my fiance is 31yrs white male we been together going on 3 and a half years and im frusrated because i just want him to have sex with me am i just a hornball because im young or is he just not into my sex i...
A. 23 September 2009: He soundslike a wonderful man! Maybe he just has a low sex drive. Men do start to slow down in their 30's. Is it possible he is on any kind of medication (like high blood pressure pills) which can affect his sex drive...? Perhaps he was raised to ... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable in asking him to stop this behavior?
Q. I have an issue with my boyfriend who gives a light kiss on the lips of a married woman every time he passes her. He said it was just a game that they played before he started dating me. This has been over a year and he continues to do this. I ...
A. 20 September 2009: If it bothers you, he should stop. End of sentence. Anything beyond that is disrespectful. ... (read in full...)
I need help to gain confidence in my small breasts
Q. Ok, this is kind of a stupid question. First of all, I don't live in America nor do I live in Europe. In the country I live in, men are obsessed with big breasts. They are just ideal - real or fake, they're just considered better than small ones. ...
A. 20 September 2009: Well don't be so sure you're past your growth spurt. When I was 19, my boobs were 34B. Which was pretty small to me. But in my later 20's I gained a little weight and they blossomed out to 34C, then 36C. Boobs are nothing more than extra fat in ... (read in full...)
Am I blowing this out of proportion? I really want to get a divorce because I feel like this is going to be a never ending pattern
Q. OK well i have been married for two years in october and total time together will be 3yrs. My husband is a solider and we got married before he went to iraq. After seven month when he got a 2 week break everything was fine and loving but he used my ...
A. 20 September 2009: He's cheating on you. Clearly he should not be married right now. He still has too many wild oats to sow, as the saying goes. File for divorce and move on.... (read in full...)
My wife's new work 'friends' are making inappropriate suggestions
Q. My wife and I don't have a problem with us, but we're not sure how to handle her new friends. My wife and I got married very young, 1 year after high school. She stayed home and we have 3 kids, now she started going to work to help pay for our...
A. 3 September 2009: Maybe they are just jealous that she met a great guy and did all the right things, in the right order and they can't resist the urge to mess with her head. As long as your wife isn't easily influenced by other people she should be able to keep ... (read in full...)
Do men over 40 still get hard ons?
Q. I want to know if man over 40 will still have hard on. My husband lost it, and went limp. What is going on?It is hard to know, how common is that,when it happens to you.. You can't see others bedroom life. He also don't care about sex, and he used ...
A. 3 September 2009: Yes men over 40, 50, 60 and beyond can still get erections. But there are a few underlying health problems that can cause this problem to become an issue early in life. High blood pressure, diabetes, depression, certain medicines and alcohol. He ... (read in full...)
Wasting my time and he isn't that interested?
Q. I have been dating a great man for a for a few months now and just recently, a friend of mine mentioned that he was back on the dating website we meet on and he is active. My friend had signed up when I told her how wonderful it was meeting him, she ...
A. 3 September 2009: He is planning his time very carefully if you ask me, keeping you on the shelf until he's ready for girl number one, that allows him to juggle girls two and three without getting too close to any of them. You will have to have a frank discussion ... (read in full...)
We had an affair, he's divorcing his wife but what will others think of us?
Q. In Jan 2009 I moved across Canada to do my student teaching practicum in a small town. for the most part most of the other tacherswere really nice to me and I made alot of great friends. With in a few months of teaaching I started having an affiar ...
A. 3 September 2009: Unless this small town has alot of "open minded" people you are in for the ride of your life. I think your b/f is so in love with you he is blinded by the reality of what you're in for. You could say to hell with what everyone thinks, but is he ... (read in full...)
Crush on friend how do I act?
Q. Here's the story. I'm going into grade 12 and have a crush on one of my friends from camp who is going into second year at university. I worked up the courage to let her know that I liked her, even though I knew that she didn't like me. Although...
A. 22 August 2009: I think you should sort of forget about her. It's not cool for a college gal to date a kid from highschool. It's only cool to date younger men when you're 30. Otherwise it just looks pathetic. Maybe in a few years, she'll be more interested in ... (read in full...)
I can't get erect when I'm with my girlfriend
Q. Okay, I've been with this girl for about 4 months and we just recently got to the sex stage. The problem is, I am erect or can get an erection up until we get naked, then it just goes away. I can get erections around her and when I'm alone, it's ...
A. 22 August 2009: I think you're letting your nerves get the best of you! You say you're not self conscious about your body, but guys frequently DO put pressure on themselves about their performance and subconsciously worry that their penis won't be large enough, or ... (read in full...)
Playing games? Or likes me?
Q. I kissed this guy a year and a half ago but the following night he said that he was drunk that night. I met him a few times since but nothing ever happened and we just talked. I bumped into him in a bar last weekend and he apologised for what ...
A. 22 August 2009: He said he was going away for a month. So don't expect much until he returns, and then you may attempt to book a lunch date, or a date for drinks and see how things go. If he makes excuses or acts distant, I wouldn't contact him after that. He's ... (read in full...)
My feelings about group sex have changed - where do I go from here?
Q. My husband has been aking for us to have sex with another couple for years now. Before we were married I have had 2 foursomes (2 guys/another girl) and they were ok, but the first one ended my previous relationship. I have also had a threesome with ...
A. 22 August 2009: Your husband is basically asking for permission to cheat on you with another woman, and calling it "okay" because you'll be there. Trust me, you will regret this with every ounce of your fiber. So the choice is yours. Leave him with your dignity ... (read in full...)
Damage through prostate massage?
Q. Earlier this week, I gave myself a prostate massage. Since then, I have struggled to get an erection or even become aroused. Is it possible that I have somehow damaged myself? I've never felt like this before. My Penis feels sort of... not "numb"...
A. 18 August 2009: It's funny, you didn't mention anything about your current ? I hope your doctor also checked you for high blood pressure because that can indeed cause the type of problems you are experiencing with your penis and worrying makes it worse(because it ... (read in full...)
How do I obtain an explanation from him about his feelings related to our relationship?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months recently told me he did not think our relationship was working out. This is very confusing to me because last week, he said we could not break up because we're both in this for something serious (marriage) and we both have ...
A. 18 August 2009: It seems like he really rushed into the break up rather suddenly. He may be impulsive like that. Men who are kind of emotional (yes they do exist) tend to react rather extreme in certain situations. I'm also tempted to say, you should throw him a ... (read in full...)
Will they grow? Do I have time?
Q. Hi, I’m 17 years of age, going into my senior year of high school. All the girls around me have big breast and I’m a simple 34A... will they still grow? Do I have time? I’m not too confident with my small boobs. Honest opinion and informat...
A. 17 August 2009: Yes there is a good chance they still have some growing to do. The best indicator is to look at the size of your mother's breasts. Some of our breast size is genetic. When I was your age, my boobs were the exact same size. Then at 19 years of age, ... (read in full...)
Would a court take my baby and give it to that monster?
Q. I just found out I was pregnant two weeks ago and I'm only in my seventh week. A week before I found out I was pregnant I broke up with my boyfriend who I had been on and off with for 4 years. Ironically, I was finally through with him for good ...
A. 17 August 2009: The American court system typically rules in favor of the mother unless there is gross negligence or abuse. In your case, I think it's safe to say there's no way your b/f can have your baby taken away from you, but I would be more concerned that he ... (read in full...)
My husband stopped having sexual desire!
Q. I really need some good advice here. I'm having lots of trouble finding it out why my husband stopped having sexual desire. He went to the doctor and they said he is healthy, so it's must be some psychological stuff. Now ,we also went to sex ther...
A. 17 August 2009: I'm assuming he's not on blood pressure medications, so does he still find you attractive?....Maybe you just need to change things up a bit. Do you ever give him a blow job?...Sometimes if you start out like that, he will be able to maintain an ... (read in full...)
What makes a woman want to do that for her man?
Q. This has happened to me on more than one occasion, the chick I could be with, goes down on me, and I'm thinking(assuming really) that she knows what she's doing. It starts off nice, it feels good, I get into it, annnnnd. TEETH. SCRATCH. SCRAP. CHEW ...
A. 17 August 2009: It's all about the tongue and the lips. Your girlfriend should think of licking an ice cream cone. Using her tongue, swirl it around the head and up and down the shaft, then slide it gently into her mouth as far as she can handle without gagging ... (read in full...)
Can I make myself tighter
Q. I feel like my vagina is looser than most womens even though I do kegel exercises everyday and exercise plenty. How can I tell if I am loose? I think I am because I can not feel when my boyfriend cums inside of my vagina, but I can feel him cum ...
A. 17 August 2009: Unless you've given birth by vaginal means, I suspect you are plenty tight. The problem may be the size of your b/f's penis (it may be kind of small?)....another thing that may be causing you to feel this way is too much wetness. If you get super ... (read in full...)
Any experience with the effectiveness of prayer?
Q. I wonder if someone would share some of their experience with me, the effectiveness of praying... I'm not a religious man, yet, but I really would like to see, what God would tell me if I would ask him. Some people has beautiful stories, how pra...
A. 17 August 2009: Those who earnestly seek Him will find him. It may not be bells and whistles, the sky will not part, and there will not be a loud voice that booms from heaven, but you will have an unmistakeable peace in your heart. The confusing thing about asking ... (read in full...)
How do I obtain an explanation from him about his feelings related to our relationship?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months recently told me he did not think our relationship was working out. This is very confusing to me because last week, he said we could not break up because we're both in this for something serious (marriage) and we both have ...
A. 17 August 2009: Number one, was either of you drunk at the time you had this minor argument?....Because if so, then he probably acted out of the influence and later felt like an ass (hence the reason he hasn't rushed right over to claim his stuff)....Number two, ... (read in full...)
Damage through prostate massage?
Q. Earlier this week, I gave myself a prostate massage. Since then, I have struggled to get an erection or even become aroused. Is it possible that I have somehow damaged myself? I've never felt like this before. My Penis feels sort of... not "numb"...
A. 16 August 2009: Well I'll be honest, I don't exactly know what the hell a prostate massage really is - was this something you did with your hands, or with some kind of vibrator? - If it was the latter, I know the stiumlation of a vibrator can leave things ... (read in full...)
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