I'm torn between two guys and I don't know who to choose!
Q. I have been with a male that we will call ram for just about a year now. We fight we argue and practically tear eachothers heads off. There has been cheating from both sides in the relationship. All of my friends wonder why I am soo crazzy about him ...
A. 30 August 2008: Being treated like a queen is overrated, and I smell boredom in your future very soon. Go with the guy who turns you on, even if you fight like cats and dogs. I'd be willing to bet that passion translates nicely in the bedroom. One thing I know, ... (read in full...)
Should I stop masturbating?
Q. Masterbation is the best, but my girlfriend told me to stop because she said that it is like killing millions of babies, and one that could have had a chance to live, should I stop, or should I keep masterbating. she said she would dump me if I ...
A. 30 August 2008: Oh for Christ's sake, stop telling her that you're masterbating. Some things are just private. She doesn't need to know about your personal shit. Besides, everyone does it. And it has nothing to do with killing babies. Good grief. She just ... (read in full...)
What kind of conversations are most likely to attract a woman?
Q. Hi. There is this babe where I work who is really hot (or perhaps she just cycled into work that particular day!). She works off the next corridor. I've seen certain guys hanging around her alot. She laughs at their jokes and seems to like them. I ...
A. 30 August 2008: Make her laugh. She'll never forget you. And be comfortable in your own skin. Once a woman doesn't feel like you're trying too hard, you'll wow her. Good luck.... (read in full...)
If she had wanted to hit me with the bottle, she would have... right?
Q. was at the pub meeting my friends n i bumped into this boy who is gorgeous..we hugged said hello..he introduced me to his friend etc..anyway bit of history..he is kinda mates with my ex..he stares at me and litrally turnt his head as far as it would ...
A. 30 August 2008: Well let me put it to you this way......If YOU were with him, totally diggin his company, smoozing on his kisses, loving him completely, would you want some other girl moving in on your vibe? I think not. He's a two-timer and trust me, if you do ... (read in full...)
He just proposed to me except I don't know what to do?
Q. I have a boyfriend and we've been datieing for such a long time. Sense the 7th grade...... and we graduate this year. We both plan on going to college. And he just proposed to me. That changed everything. I havent said yes or no, but im just not ...
A. 30 August 2008: Well you know what they say. When you don't know what to do, don't do anything. You're young, you should date a few more men before you settle down. Sounds like this is the only guy you've ever been with and it would be a mistake to settle down ... (read in full...)
I'm depressed! Does he have a penchant for older women?
Q. I get very depressed sometimes and alot of the time I have no idea how to express what I'm feeling to my partner for fear of feeling insecure. I have a very loving relationship but at times we fight - and when we do it's absolutely awful. His last ...
A. 30 August 2008: It's the carefree no-strings relationship that draw men like flies. Try to keep a level head and don't get wrapped up in depression (or coke) because it clouds your vision. Stay sharp. He is with you. Yes, she probably still has a lure on him, ... (read in full...)
My fiance was telling his ex how much he missed her just 2/3 weeks before we met. I can't shake the feeling he would go back to her.
Q. I was going through my fiance's profile on another site, and saw that about 2 or 3 weeks before my fiance and i met, he was telling his ex how much he loved and missed her. And days before we started dating (after we had already told eachother that ...
A. 26 August 2008: Stand your ground. You should never share your man with an ex. And he needs to let go of this woman otherwise, he'll never have a future with you or anyone else for that matter. He needs to chose. Don't compromise. Best of luck.... (read in full...)
She lost her sex drive completely and doesn't know why...
Q. My sweetheart and I are very much in love. In our eyes we are like no other couple, we have something very special that no one else has, not even in the movies. We've known each other for years, and our chemistry is absolutely perfect. Yesterday ...
A. 8 July 2008: Her hormones may be doing weird things, couple that with the stress of school, work, money, parents, and a boyfriend and it may be zapping her sex drive. But more than likely she has probably just met someone else and doesn't know how to end your ... (read in full...)
My wife had an abortion before we met, now I don't want her.
Q. How to address this situation. I have been married for 23 years and very happily. We have 2 boys and they are now adults. I received an email from a site that revealed someone looking of my wife of 23 years. It turns out that the person is an ex ...
A. 8 July 2008: You are acting like a silly little boy over this issue. Your wife made a choice that goes against your moral grain, but it was done a long time ago and you need to let it go. It's not worth killing your wonderful marriage over. Grow up. It was ... (read in full...)
Juat found out my new boyfriend is an escort... how do I cope?
Q. ok i have falling 4 my best friend i have known him 6years and we have been though so much and was the only 1 that understoad when my dad died. and now we r getting together. well we were he has told me that he sometimes takes women out and gets ...
A. 8 July 2008: You really have to ask yourself if you're also "okay" with him having sex with them for money because I suspect that might be included in the price. If the price is right. If it were me, I'd wish him well and find someone else in a different line ... (read in full...)
How do you get rid of the memories?
Q. Hi, I would just like to ask if anyone knows how to forget about someone, and get rid of memories of someone they onced cared about? About a year and a half ago I very nearly got with the most fantastic girl i ever met - asked her out and she...
A. 8 July 2008: The best way to replace an old memory, is with a new one. Not of that person, but of someone new. But I think the bigger concern here is that you only had one date with this woman, and still you cannot get over her. That is unusual. You may be ... (read in full...)
My fiance was telling his ex how much he missed her just 2/3 weeks before we met. I can't shake the feeling he would go back to her.
Q. I was going through my fiance's profile on another site, and saw that about 2 or 3 weeks before my fiance and i met, he was telling his ex how much he loved and missed her. And days before we started dating (after we had already told eachother that ...
A. 8 July 2008: Yes he probably would go back to her if she wanted him but apparently she does not. If you give it time, he will love you more and then you will feel better about your relationship. Alot of guys hang on to their ex'es until they find love somewhere ... (read in full...)
She gets text messages from an ex. I'm not comfortable wiht it. Should I feel this way?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years now. The whole time, she would get these random text messages from an unsaved phone number. It turns out it is a person (an X for lack of a better term) she had a fling with (before me), and found ...
A. 8 July 2008: Her explanation is total bulls**t. She's keeping him on a string in case she wants a fling. In case she needs an ego boost. In case things don't work out between the two of you. In case she gets cold feet about the wedding and wants one more ... (read in full...)
Why is he picking fights and not spending time with me?!
Q. Hi I have been with my boyfriend for 11 months now...at about 6 months into our relationship he told me that he wanted to get married anf spend the rest of his life with me...he had never had a serious relationship before this so i was sc...
A. 8 July 2008: He's probably having second thoughts and he's hoping if he's mean enough to you, you'll be the one to pull the plug on your wedding plans. Then he won't have to be the bad guy. Only, he still is because he's acting like an ass to the woman he ... (read in full...)
Is the third time a charm or should I just let it go?
Q. I've been with this woman for approximately sixteen months and have, despite the bumps in the road,asked for her hand twice..The last being just this past holiday. We have lived together for all most ten of those months. I know that there is two ...
A. 8 July 2008: I wouldn't ask her again until you know and understand why she's telling you No. Because there's a difference between "No" and "Not yet"....Once you figure this out, you'll know what to do.... (read in full...)
I would like some rational opinions on our 16yr age gap?
Q. I am a 27 year-old female. I just started dating a man who is 43. A little more background about the relationship: He has never been married, and has no children. He has a master's degree, good income, and people always think he is in his earl...
A. 8 July 2008: What are you asking for? Permission to love a man who's older than you? Who cares? If you both love each other, and treat each other with respect, the age thing really doesn't matter. If you both want this relationship go for it. Don't get hung ... (read in full...)
She's totally different....
Q. Dear...well anyone or everyone, I am writing with a problem. I have been seeing my girlfriend for 2 year and we have been deeply in love since we first met. When were flatmate due to uni and it all kicked off from there. I left uni after 6 mont...
A. 8 July 2008: What is she trying to prove? I thought only guys did this? And usually when they do it, they are trying to act like they are still independent and tough. When you're not with her friends, you need to have a frank discussion with her about her ... (read in full...)
Is my loud, drama king boyfriend taking me for granted?
Q. Hi I have been in a relationship for nearly 3 years now and its been very much on - off. When I fist met my boyf, I was going through a hard time at my flat with my room mate, so his family said I could move in with them for 3 months only. ...
A. 8 July 2008: Stop answering your door. This guy needs therapy and he will continue to keep you confused and hanging in limbo for him. He probably needs to seek counseling and possibly be on medication for bi-polar disorder. You need to start seeing other ... (read in full...)
My morals don't want to deal with my girlfriend wanting to cheat. Plus...she denies it!
Q. I recently caught my girlfriend sending a text message to a guy asking him to have sex with her... Upon me catching her (like 30 seconds after sending the text) she completely appoligized for being stupid and didn't know what she was thinking (she ...
A. 8 July 2008: You're girlfriend is immature and I suspect she has some wild oats to sow before she's ready to settle down with one guy. This is common with girls in this age bracket. I suspect you'd be better off to just break it off now and move on but I know ... (read in full...)
I'm really self conscious about my black facial hair, what can I do about it?
Q. I'm 15 and I have quite abit of facial hair, and it is pretty obvious from up close because my hair is black, I jus recently got a boyfriend and I never get close enough incase he sees it, I'm really self-conscious about this, what can i do?...
A. 8 July 2008: There are also two products available here, and probably available where you live too: Nair and Neet. Both are creams that "melt" or dissolve the hair. They're stinky but cheap just be sure you don't leave them on your face too long because they ... (read in full...)
How do I find the motivation to get excited about life again?
Q. I have had this problem for over a year now. I seemed to have lost motivation to do a lot of things. How do I get excited about life again? I will start an exercise program and stop after a week. I bought some supplies to start up a hobby I use...
A. 16 May 2008: Has anything in your life changed recently? Have your kids left home, have you gotten divorced, separated, experienced the death of a loved one? If none of those things apply, it could be hormonal. You do sound mildly depressed, but since you find ... (read in full...)
Can an affair make your marriage stronger?
Q. I often read amongst the answers that an affair can make a marriage stronger. Is this true or just the hurt parties way of saving face. i.e its been so painful i must make out its been worth it. Question can an affair strengthen your marriage?...
A. 19 March 2008: No I don't think it usually makes a marriage but once in awhile someone will stray, and suddenly have an epiphany at the thought of losing their spouse, so they break it off before their partner ever figures it out. Afterwards, if the offending ... (read in full...)
I found something on his computer to another girl! I am really hurting...
Q. i really dont know what to do....me n my bf of nearly a year have split up because i found something on his computer that he had said to another girl but i have betrayed his stuff as it was the 3rd time i went through his private things after him ...
A. 19 March 2008: First of all, you know in your heart you will never trust him again don't promise anyone that you don't do it again because he's already proven that he is dishonest and will do things with other girls behind your back. You know you'll always wonder ... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend wants me to go naked in front of my webcam..I feel awkward and like I'm doing something wrong!
Q. I am from a conservative family. yet i have opened up to my bf and have had sex with him many times. it is a long distance relationship. now i got a webcam and he wants me to go naked in front of it. although i trust him i feel awkward and i told ...
A. 19 March 2008: Well it could be kinda fun....and it would better than him looking at some other girls' naked body (porn) but my advise is -- don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with. So instead of totally nude, go slow. Try to take small steps and as ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but the only thing we do together is go to the movies with his friends...Any advice?
Q. me and my bf have been dating for 6 months and 8 days. i really do love he says he loves me too but im not sure if he really does because he always says he wants to hang out with me but then he always blows me off to go do something else. then he ...
A. 19 March 2008: He sounds a little immature. Maybe you're his first girlfriend and he hasn't figured out what to do with you yet. Why not take the lead and suggest a few outings together in between the times he asks you out. You could go see a play, or go ... (read in full...)
I've left 10 texts to my boyfriend with no response, does he still care?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been dating for two months. now, we are on spring break and he hasn't text me back. i have left at least ten plus messages. do you think that hes doesn't care about me anymore or that our relationship is over? ...
A. 19 March 2008: Texts can get lost in cyber-cell phone air space. Why not pick up the phone and try calling him. Leave one message and if he doesn't call you back. Wait until he gets home and find out what's up. His cell phone service may not work in the area ... (read in full...)
I can't bear to think of him looking at porn when I am a willing bed partner, it makes me feel so angry and rejected and worthless any ideas what to do?
Q. Hi I can relate to everything some of you say I met my partner 8 years ago at first although not frequent, sex was really good then four years ago he announced that he no longer wanted sex with me or any other woman I was a bit shocked but took ...
A. 19 March 2008: I suggest couples counseling, which I doubt he'll be receptive to. But if he agrees, it might help him open up about his addiction and why he is no longer attracted to you. He is staying in your relationship because of the comfort of having ... (read in full...)
She has lost confidence in our relationship, is numb and wants to split "for now".
Q. My g/f of 18 months now says she has lost confidence in or relationship and says she is numb and doesn't know what she wants and feels. We have gone through a bad patch arguing. We are mid 30's I backed off a bit and didn't hassle for a mon...
A. 19 March 2008: I must assume something bad happened between you guys. Did you fool around with someone else? That is something that would make a woman feel like backing off "for now" or possibly forever. It sounds like she's considering this. Give her time to ... (read in full...)
She hasn't called me back... am I being over analytical here???
Q. This may get a little long-winded, so bear with me... I tend to frequent a bar in my area that features rather attractive waitresses. This was my bar of choice in college and as I'm still in the area after I've graduated, I've continued to vis...
A. 10 March 2008: Waitresses like this get paid to be flirty. That's how they make their tips and you'd be amazed by how much money they pocket after an night of flirting and acting enthuzed by every guy that's drooling over them. If she was interested in you, she ... (read in full...)
What the hell did he want me for????
Q. I have posted a few times about my relationship. But now the end has come. He broke up with me a month ago stating that he loved me so much and that he didn't see himself with anyone else but that he was stupid and didn't know responsiblity and ...
A. 10 March 2008: What an idiot. You're better off without him. Who knows what he wanted. Probably just sex, but he obviously can get that anywhere, anytime, with anyone. He's scum.... (read in full...)
Does anyone else agree with me talking about another man's wife's boobs should be off limits?
Q. I'm 25 and just started seeing a new guy. He is 30 and all of his friends are married. We went to a social gathering at a married friend's house. They were nice people and had great kids. I thought it was going great until the wife of the host ...
A. 10 March 2008: Yes it was inappropriate and disrespectful. Have you brought it to his attention? If so, did he at least apologize? Some men are just rough around the edges especially when there's an exposed breast in the room. After this, I would just pay ... (read in full...)
Can the love be brought back? For my part the emotional connection is weakened...
Q. This question may end up a little long winded, and I apologize up front for this: but I am desperate! I have been with the same man for a little over 10 years, have been married to him for almost 5 of them. Somewhere along the road over the la...
A. 10 March 2008: The marital boat takes two people to row. Your husband isn't rowing if he is refusing to change the behavior that is causing you pain, and he isn't rowing if he's not willing to get counseling to help the both of you grow together, not apart. ... (read in full...)
My GF has rare qualities, biblical I would say. But is this worth a lifetime of sexual frustration?
Q. Hello, My gf and I have been together for more than 8 yrs. There have been ups and downs but never any really really serious arguments. As a person, she is far far better than me. Patient, kind, loving, forgiving, quiet, loyal - she is very much...
A. 10 March 2008: She may be a rare gem full of grace, glory and a great cook but I believe she is all wrong for you and sealing this relationship with a marital vow when you have already begun to recognize the areas where you are unsatisfied is a sure way to end up ... (read in full...)
My GF has rare qualities, biblical I would say. But is this worth a lifetime of sexual frustration?
Q. Hello, My gf and I have been together for more than 8 yrs. There have been ups and downs but never any really really serious arguments. As a person, she is far far better than me. Patient, kind, loving, forgiving, quiet, loyal - she is very much...
A. 10 March 2008: She may be a rare gem full of grace, glory and a great cook but I believe she is all wrong for you and sealing this relationship with a marital vow when you have already begun to recognize the areas where you are unsatisfied is a sure way to end up ... (read in full...)
I'm interested to know if girls or guys in relationships keep partners as back-up plans.
Q. Hi all, I'm interested to know if girls or guys in relationships keep partners as back-up plans? Say, they have been with someone for a while, then cool off, but keep this partner in the background just in case something else doesn't work out...
A. 10 March 2008: Of course people do this, consciously or subconsciously. When I started seeing my b/f 3 years ago, he was still a little too friendly with an ex from 6 or 7 years ago. They kept in touch via e-mails and occasionally on the phone (even though she ... (read in full...)
He's only friends with her but she frightens me...
Q. My boyfriend has a close friend that is a girl he was best friends with in high school. They got back in touch about 2 years ago. It was a problem in the beginning because he was lying to me about spending time with her. He lied because he thought I ...
A. 10 March 2008: I wonder how your boyfriend would feel if you had an especially close, "love you" kind of male "friend" like that?....Might be worth putting it to the test. Then you'll have some leverage when he becomes uncomfortable with your friendship and he'll ... (read in full...)
I broke up with him because his ex still calls him and he won't tell her not to, saying he has a "weak heart"!
Q. I dated my boyfriend for a year. I find out one night by checking his voice mail and found his ex girlfriend left him friendly messages. I ask him if his ex has ever contacted him or ever met her, he denied it, getting mad at me for accusing him. ...
A. 10 March 2008: Yes I think you did the right thing. He has a "weak heart" for her because his heart still wants her. This is why he can never say "no" to her when she calls. Plus he lied about it, which means even if you take him back, you'll never be able to ... (read in full...)
Loving the one you can never have...
Q. I have a problem. I am in a relationship with someone, but am not happy. I haven't been for a while, and I think that the 'emotional distance' is just too far gone to salvage at this point. I am planning on leaving as soon as possible. Here is w...
A. 10 March 2008: Well whatever you do -- do NOT leave your current relationship expecting to be with the guy at work. He's already with someone else and while he may be supportive of you being happy, that doesn't mean he'll be part of your happiness. So take a ... (read in full...)
Trouble getting "hard". Is this common?
Q. I had trouble getting hard with my girlfriend totally out of the blue whilst we were fooling around. This has never happened before should I be worried?...
A. 10 March 2008: Nah, don't stress out about it because the more you obsess, the worst it gets. Just relax and think sexy thoughts. It'll happen okay.... (read in full...)
Why is he keeping me a secret?
Q. Been dating this guy for a while. He's not willing to introduce me to any of his friends or family. He's been divorced for the last 4 years or so and still talks a lot about his ex and what has happened and still doing things for her. The sex is g...
A. 10 March 2008: No I do not agree with Laura1318. I think it's very odd that your boyfriend is planning to give a gift to his ex after she gives birth to some other guy's child. That is just weird in my opinion. I think once they got divorced, the gift-giving ... (read in full...)
Why is he keeping me a secret?
Q. Been dating this guy for a while. He's not willing to introduce me to any of his friends or family. He's been divorced for the last 4 years or so and still talks a lot about his ex and what has happened and still doing things for her. The sex is g...
A. 27 February 2008: Are you absolutely sure he's actually divorced?...... (read in full...)
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