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| | softballplaya's profile:my name is Kalynn, Im here to help people on their relationship problems mainly but ill help with anything. Im 14, yes I am young but NOT young minded. I hate when people degrade my advice just because I tell it like it is. Get over it! I know what I'm talking about. I probably went through more than most adults, so dont say I dont know what I'm talking about because you would be suprised. I dont really put alot about myself out there, but what I do try to do is inform people so they dont make the same mistakes I made. Well thats basically the run-down of myself=] |
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In love with my ex, who left me for another, what do I do now as we're both single but not close friends as before?
Q. I've been best friends with a lad in my class since we were 3. last year, e became so much closer. He help me dump my boyfriend and a week later. asked me out. We were really close. We wet for walks along the beach evry weekend and we used to go to ...
A. 21 July 2008: Hey girl
I know exactly what your going through, it happened to me too. It hurts, especially if you had a good friendship before. Everything right now is at an awkward stage because you still have feelings and hes moving on. You feel stuck in the ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to talk about or how to make good conversation. Any suggestions?
Q. hey everyone Okay so I really like this guy and he goes to a different school. I added him on myspace and he accepted so I messaged him and he gave me his number. Eventhough its just the beginning its going really good. He dosent know me personal...
A. 18 July 2008: thanks so much everyone. you all helped me out alot (spirit_of_iona lol I'm not going to bring cupid.org up in a convo with him cuz I dont want to come off as obsessed lmao but your answer made me laugh) great advice everyone!
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What is he trying to accomplish by doing all this?
Q. Hey everyone. Im so lost right now. i have nowhere else to turn to! Here is the story; recently I broke up with my ex because he got distant and I juss didnt trust him anymore. I found comments from other girls calling him babe n stuff on his ...
A. 12 July 2008: idk how he got them thats the wierd part. im not his gf anymore cuz i ended it cuz he turned shady n stuff. got distant. I had one friend out of the 3 text him and that could be the only number he got. They didnt say anything to him so idk why he ... (read in full...)
I'm very crushed and even though I ended it with him because he hurt me, I still have major feelings for him! What is the best way to get over him?
Q. hey everyone. Recently I got back with my ex and it was a huge mistake cuz he only end up hurting me again. You see, he changes girls like he does underwear and at the time I didnt realize this until he told other girls that we never dated. Everyone ...
A. 11 July 2008: new update! hes called all my best friends restricted and was saying really wierd stuff to them on their voicemail. once again im the only one who didnt get anything said to them. he called but didn leave a message. My friend sent me the message on ... (read in full...)
I'm very crushed and even though I ended it with him because he hurt me, I still have major feelings for him! What is the best way to get over him?
Q. hey everyone. Recently I got back with my ex and it was a huge mistake cuz he only end up hurting me again. You see, he changes girls like he does underwear and at the time I didnt realize this until he told other girls that we never dated. Everyone ...
A. 11 July 2008: thank you everyone you advice really has helped... (read in full...)
My Tampon Went Missing After Sex
Q. the other night i got blinding drunk and had sex with my new man, forgetting that I had a tampon in. Ok, I didnt "forget" but i was extremely drunk and just sort of didnt think about it. The next day I tried to get it out myself and was shocked to ...
A. 8 July 2008: Well if your bf finds it in his room I'm sure he wont be "happy" but there isnt anything he can do. Its natural and we all get them so he has to accept an accident happened. I would go to a doctors and see if they can check you out and make sure its ... (read in full...)
I Feel My Teacher Betrayed My by Discussing My health
Q. i know this will sound sad but here it is.. 9 months ago i had depression which caused me to de-friend myself and exclued my self from life i guess you could say. school becames hard as i entered a key year and it all got on top of me and i stat...
A. 8 July 2008: hey girl=]
well for starters don't let this all bother you. I know this is alot easier said than done but you have to try. If you act like a recluse and keep away from people and show what your going through then they will talk even more, so stay... (read in full...)
I want to lose my virginity but don't know where...
Q. I have found someone that i really like and want to lose my virginity to, but i dont where i should lose my virginty. I love the idea of doing it in a bed and then falling asleep and waking up together but im only 13 and live my parents and 2 ...
A. 7 July 2008: I would consider the consequences before you take the action of having sex. If you cant support a baby then you should wait until you can, or atleast the age of consent of your country which judging by other posts is 16. You only have 3 years to go, ... (read in full...)
Can you have a relationship with someone from your past?
Q. Can you have a future relationship with someone you dated in the past? Did not part on bad terms. They say it's just bad timing....
A. 5 July 2008: hey there!
you can most definately have a relationship from your past. Most of the time it usually is just bad timing. I think once you find yourself there with them again then anything is possible. I broke up with my ex like 6 months ago and now ... (read in full...)
I saw my 44 yearold mother having sex - surely she is too old?
Q. I am 24. My mom is 44 she had a divorce after long married life of 28years.She was shattered and had lived a lonely life all alone for a year in her small parental town. When I got setelled with good job in a bigger town she came to live with me in ...
A. 5 July 2008: 44 isn't old at all. Im sure it was hard seeing your mum having sex but lets face it, we all do it. She was probably embarassed that you caught her. Dont make her feel bad for her actions=/ Juss be happy that your mum is not depressed anymore. Like ... (read in full...)
I can't cope with this relationship but I love him. What do I do?
Q. I'm in desperate need of help here everyone. I think my bf gives me anxiety problems. I know this sounds very crazy but its the only solution I could come up with. You see, we have been dating off and on since august. At one time we reached a point ...
A. 5 July 2008: excuse you...what do you mean "I hope he knows what he is doing?"... (read in full...)
I want astrology advice.
Q. I'm a Sagittarian girl, dating an Aquarian boy. I am a huge believer of astrology, Anyone out there wanna tell me what Aquarian men are like? And whether this is a good match or not? I would really appreciate your answers if you also believe in a...
A. 5 July 2008: An Aquarian man doesn't want to reveal his true feelings, in spite of his favorite pastime of penetrating the feelings of others. His own reactions and motives are complex, and he intends to keep them that way for the pure pleasure of fooling you. ... (read in full...)
This girl likes me because I'm an A-hole!
Q. I'm getting with this girl who's great,but she told me she likes "assholes".. I used to be one and I didn't even realize that girls like me because of it. I somehow became a nice guy.. an now I realize she likes me when I'm an asshole or tough - ...
A. 4 July 2008: Hmmm this is quite a puzzling situation
Well most girls that you would ask their type would most often say the "bad boy" I think thats what she is trying to get at. I dont think she likes you to be an asshole to her, but stick up for her, fight for ... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of a boy without making him feel bad?
Q. there's this guy that really likes me but i don't like him. He always write me messages and asks me do i think he's unattractive but i said no because i didn't want to make him feel bad. He is really starting to get annoying because now it's the ...
A. 2 July 2008: Hey girl
This is exactly what Im dealing with, and it sucks
My adice would be to let this boy that there is no chance (however do it kindly) This way he will be out of your hair and he can stop trying to get something because its a waste of his a... (read in full...)
My ex, his new interest and his friend are making my life horribly hard. How can I cope?
Q. Hello everyone. Heres my situation and im going to keep it very very short and to the point...my ex, his new interest and his friend have been giving me a really hard time for the past few months and I need some help to cope with it all. Ok so m...
A. 1 July 2008: hey girl.
wow thats alot to have on your mind, I totally understand you. Your asking how to cope right? well when I went through a much much similar thing I talked to my friends alot more, went and did stuff for myself, enjoyed life without bein... (read in full...)
135 pounds - and I want to lose about 20 pounds. Help me!
Q. okay its summer and i really want to loose like 20 pounds or more by the time school starts im 135 right now and i look like a beast!!! all my friends are so skinny but i cant keep away from food! its my enemy... i have a tred mill thats the only ...
A. 1 July 2008: 135 is not heavy!
its probably muscle..do you play sports?
well if your heart is set on losing weight, might I suggest crunches, inner thigh spreads, leg lifts, and running. I strugled with weight at one point too. I lost about 40lbs from doing th... (read in full...)
Should I go for the one I think I love, or the one who's in a gang?
Q. I really like this guy, we've been best friends for a while now. We had an amazing time the other night. We stayed up all night talking, kissing, cuddling. I was the happiest I have been in a long time. Though, we are not dating, I think I may be ...
A. 1 July 2008: hey girl!=]
This certainly is a sticky situation..
I had an expirence similar to this, only with a drug dealer. I found myself choosing between 2 guys I was uncertain about..do I choose the smart cute guy my age or the cute 16yr old druggie ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my vile friend? She's getting mean!
Q. hello ! i have a freind and shes my best freind and she has started to be mean to me for no apparent reason. she comments on things i say even if they dont involve her she constantly has a little go at me for no reason.today a girl who i am not fon...
A. 30 June 2008: Hey hun=]
Well my advice would be to confront her and ask her why shes suddenly changing ya know. If she continues to be mean then clearly she isnt worth having as a friend. You dont need someone like that in your life anyways, surround your... (read in full...)
I'm finding it hard to look past the sex in a relationship!
Q. I havent been able to love a woman in the past without sexual gratification i only love women foe sex. but now am a christian and find it hard to go into a relationship because of my past sexual escapades i have had as much as 30 sex paartners in ...
A. 30 June 2008: hey there
Are you saying that you feel bad going into a relationship because of your previous ways?? Well You have to look at it like your turning a new leaf. The person you were is now left in the past and your ready to make a commitment. Ever... (read in full...)
Met an amazing guy in a foreign country, now I'm depressed that I can't see him again until February. Please advise.
Q. ok guys i need help - although i dunno if there is a solution! ok, i was with my boyf for 3 yrs and we broke up - on friendly terms. just before we ended, i was in brazil and met this amazing guy. we were with eachother for only 3 days but swapped ...
A. 30 June 2008: Hey girl
It will be okay, just stay positive. Right now thats all ya can do. If you cant go to Brazil then ask him to come in! Long distance relationships are quite hard but they work out if you have the time and patience. I know its hard beca... (read in full...)
I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him, but my dad doesn't approve.
Q. im 15 years old and i have a b/f that is 23 years old. i love him with all my heart. we've only been dating for 4 months and already i love him and wanna spend the rest of my life with him, but my dad dont approve. a lot of people think its weird bu...
A. 30 June 2008: Hey girl
In my opinion I would listen to your dad. I learner that your parents just want whats best, you may not be able to see that but its true. Everytime I went against my parents judgement I always shortly found myself wishing I had list... (read in full...)
Can something that just sort of happens be so wrong?
Q. I have been talking to a married guy for months on the internet, it was always general chit chat nothing flirty or sexy until Friday. I don't know how it happened but we got chatting and then flirting and then pictures were swapped, sexy pictures. ...
A. 30 June 2008: Well its kind of wrong because someone else will get hurt (his wife) if she finds out. By no means am I discriminating or judging you. I would stop personally because he is too old and could possibly go to jail because your under 18. Thats how it is ... (read in full...)
Please help a guy in love and in need.
Q. Hey everyone...help a guy in love and in need. I've been seeing this girl a good few months now, and tonight we argued a lot...I got/get very angry about her past (she used to be a drug addict), I feel like i'll always come second to the need she ...
A. 30 June 2008: Tell her that you know you messed up and talk it out. Tell her you were angry about her past and since you couldnt change it you said some things that you didnt need to. Be honest with her and let her know how much you care. Its times like these ... (read in full...)
Can players ever be trusted?
Q. Can someone out there please tell me - what is a "Player"? I hear of this reference alot and just wondering what are the character traits of a player, how does he relate to women. What does he REALLY think of women? Can players ever be trusted?...
A. 28 June 2008: hey girl!
I saw this question and I was lookin for the same answer. The term "player" is exactly what it sounds like. A person who uses girls to advance to the next one and so on. Dating is like a game to them. Its all about advancing to the next... (read in full...)
I'm actually having trouble making conversation with anyone as of late. Please help.
Q. I'm interested in this guy who I kind of knew when I was in high school. We didn't go to the same school, but I knew him and his family from church. He's been out of state for a while and just got back for the summer. I'm finding it difficult to m...
A. 25 June 2008: okay. I see the problem right off the bat.
your putting too much thought into it and thats the problem. A conversation flows easy if your not trying too hard, think about something you both like and play it from there. Dont be afraid to soci... (read in full...)
Still in love with him, how do I get him to let me be his friend?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me after dating for a year. We had arguements like up couples do. It's been four months since the break-up. I was devastated because I didn't know the real reason why we broke up. I asked him on several occassions to talk ...
A. 17 June 2008: hun, I know exactly what your going through. My ex and I split up and he now wants nothing to do with me. Guys are just like this for some reason. Maybe it makes the situation more awkward knowing that you two are still in contact but nothing is ... (read in full...)
Should I email him and try to arrange a meeting?
Q. The thing is my friend who i was really close to left last summer and i miss him loads. He moved near london and i live near scotland so i don't think i will ever see him again :( I'm 16 by the way. I saw him at christmas and i was so shocked ...
A. 13 June 2008: in my personal opinion i think you should email him and see if you can meet somehow. Its hard to let go of a great friend, so dont. I think meeting up and seeing him is a good idea because that way you dont drift apart and this shows that your a ... (read in full...)
I'm a gentle person and people sometimes treat me as a pushover. What can I do about this?
Q. This is not really a relationship question but it is something that I have been thinking about. The word people often use to describe me is sweet. I do not think I am too sweet however as I will sure take a stand on things if push comes to shove. T...
A. 13 June 2008: well i think you should think about the consequences before you open up, it will help alot because to be honest im like this too and i wonder if im getting used sometimes because of my caring nature. Unfortunately we were born good lol. If they want ... (read in full...)
Do I take him back or keep my guard up?
Q. I need help! my ex bf and I havent talked for 7 months and hes now contacting me again. He claims he changed and stuff. He was really bad and idk what to or believe anymore. He said he grew up and changed....my parents hate him for the way he previ...
A. 3 June 2008: he was into drugs but said he stopped. I know im stupid for believing in him, please dont lecture me. Its just he seems to be putting up alot of effort and stuff. He seems like he cares. He admitted that everything that he did was wrong and said he ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend told me to "grow a pair fo balls". She is leaps ahead of me.
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 7 years and lived with her for 6 of those years. I suffer from depression and am known to cut off from the world and lately she has been getting on with her university and making friends and I have just been a bit ...
A. 23 May 2008: I truly feel for you and your story made me so upset.
You seem like a very sensitive kind of guy which there is nothing wrong with that at all. Your gf should accept you for who you are and should be very happy to have you. Confidence is hard to o... (read in full...)
I'm upset all the time. Is there any reason for it?
Q. Hi, ive been seeing my boyfriend for nearly 3 years, at the beginning we had a few problems but the last two years has been the best ever. the problem is, im not happy and i dont know why. My BF spoils me rotten and makes me laugh soo much and i ...
A. 23 May 2008: heyy i know what your saying and its totally normal. Everyone has their up and downs. Think about something thats not going too hot with you right now and work on making it positive. Your life sounds pretty good to me so there is no need to be unhap... (read in full...)
What's the big deal with a guy being younger than a girl?
Q. yeah so I'm 15 and I like my friends who's 16. I asked her out and she likes me but she thinks its wierd being with a younger guy. Most girls think this but I don't get it. I know I don't act like I'm a yr younger or she woulnt stand me. All it is ...
A. 23 May 2008: unfortunately we live in a day and age where in relationships the guy should be older and mature & stuff (its very unrealistic) but people see a proper relationship must be like this. Your right age is just a number and people can be months days or ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's female friend walked around in a towel in front of him and thinks I over-reacted, what do you think?
Q. While visiting one of my boyfriend’s long time female friends, she decided to take a shower and began walking around in nothing but a towel. At the time, I did not say anything to her but I was very upset and later spoke to him and banned him from...
A. 21 May 2008: well its a yes and no situation
I think you thought rationally by asking to be present at any of their get togethers, you have to take in consideration that she is his long time friend and he prolly sees it as over reacting because he knows that... (read in full...)
Why can't I make friends?
Q. I've never had much luck when it comes to keeping friends, and i kow it's all my own doing. But if i knew exactly what i was doing wrong, i would change, but i don't. Even though i have quite alott of mates, nobody seems to get close or want to...
A. 20 May 2008: school is very rough, trust me im going through the same things hun. Keeping friends seems to be a constant battle because when you finally the trust of one your losing the trust of another..=(. One sure fire way to keep friends is to not be ... (read in full...)
The girl I've fallen for has lots of male friends.
Q. This girl who ive been seeing who ive really fallen for likes to have lots of close male friends. Why does this make me so uncomfortable? Is there anything i can do to make it better?...
A. 19 May 2008: alright, well i can answer this because me & my ex had this problem too. Dont control her. major rule here..she will prolly be upset if you tell her whom she can and cannot talk to. Your uncomfortable because unless these guys are gay then in your ... (read in full...)
I thought he really liked me, but then he told me it was just a fling for him. I'm so hurt right now and don't know what to think or do?
Q. Hoping someone can help. I am so hurt right now. My ex left town three years ago and moved back to his hometown. He was with someone and they split about six months ago. He called me in February and I stopped in and visited with him in March.We have ...
A. 19 May 2008: Alright hun, I know how you feel.
Especailly when you put everything into a relationship and find out that to them it was meaningless. It hurts alot. But what you need to do is hold your head high and walk away. You said it yourself that he alwa... (read in full...)
I can't get my ex out of my head. Does he still have feelings for me?
Q. This time last year i was with this guy. I was with him 7 months n then we broke up. I took it pretty hard but eventually managed to get back to my normal self. However the past month or so i keep thinking about him, at night i cant sleep. I get ...
A. 19 May 2008: okay well my advice for this is to call him
if he wont meet then talk to him on the phone
if this loser wants to date a 14 year old when hes 18 then thats really messed up on his part. girl dont let this loser get to you, move on and find someone ... (read in full...)
Can you explain sex?
Q. I am wondering besides humping what is sex? I am only 11 years old so, do not make your answers that detailed or gross. Thanks if you answer nicely....
A. 18 May 2008: well, for starters your 11 years old.
Why are you so concerned with the explanation of sex?
this is a question you should prolly ask your mother or your guardian. If your that interested in what exactly sex is then look it up....... (read in full...)
I can't get my ex out of my head. Does he still have feelings for me?
Q. This time last year i was with this guy. I was with him 7 months n then we broke up. I took it pretty hard but eventually managed to get back to my normal self. However the past month or so i keep thinking about him, at night i cant sleep. I get ...
A. 18 May 2008: ask him if you can meet somewhere and juss lay the cards on the table.
tell him it would be better for the both of you, tell him its important and its something you need to do for closure. He will more than likely respond by agreeing, Find a plac... (read in full...)
What do you think the stuff he is doing means?
Q. okay well im having a problem here. my ex seems to show some signs that he likes me, but he has another gf. Idk if he does so im asking this, he gets really red around me and I catch him looking at me and he kept all his myspace comments from me ...
A. 17 May 2008: did i mention that he treats his new gf nothing like how he treated me...idk if that helped any but its some more information i guess... (read in full...)
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