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Cosmo says sex should last 45 minutes. What do you do all that time?
Q. Hi I have a question about sex. Basically, I just read in cosmopolitan that 34% of a poll of men thought the best length of time to spend having sex was 45 minutes. As a virgin, I was just wondering how you have sex for a length of tim eth...
A. 5 September 2008: No that would include foreplay too. God if a man banged away for that length of time you would be seriously sore! The actual act probably lasts 10-15 mins on average x ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my husband to masturbate all the time?
Q. Ok all here goes. My husband masterbates alot. I do not know what anyone would consider excessive. But it is alot. I have asked him why he does it so much and he looks me straight in the face and says he doesn't know why. It isn't for the orgasm ...
A. 5 September 2008: My husband masterbates in the shower all the time. It doesnt bother me as I masterbate too when he is at work and we still have sex 3-5 times a week as well. If it is not having an impact on your sex life then dont worry about it, it is a normal ... (read in full...)
I'm disabled and can't date. Is it wrong to pay for sex?
Q. Im disabled for 3 years now, is it wrong to pay for sex ive never had to resort to this but now because of my disability i cant get out to meet women so i feel that is the only answer...
A. 5 September 2008: Well you could try internet dating or try looking harder. Strangely enough this conversation came up earlier with me and my husband as he was talking about a job he is doing for a guy who relies on a wheelchair when I realised it was a guy I used ... (read in full...)
Can you help me figure out my conception date?
Q. If my last period was on November 20-29th(not sure the exact day) and i gave birth on August 19th to twin girls both weighing 6pds, could i have conceived on December 15th? I know i need to get a DNA test between 2 men. I was with one guy for the ...
A. 5 September 2008: Twins usually come early so you cant really use their birth as a guid. It sounds more likely to me you conceived by the earlier guy as women tend to ovulate around day 14 of their cycle counting day one as the first day of your period. And the ... (read in full...)
I'm 42 and I may be pregnant and don't want to be! What are my options?
Q. I'm 42 and think I may be pregnant. Don't want to be! I already have 2 older kids and this was just a slip up. Apparently the chances of fertility decreasing over 40 didn't apply to me. I want to get the abortion pill but it costs over $400 and a ...
A. 4 September 2008: Before I comment please note I am not anti-abortion or being judgmental just trying to be objective.
You were not solely responsible it took two to make this baby. Carefully weigh up your options, could you forgive yourself easily if you had a te... (read in full...)
Does she have a personality disorder?
Q. i'm confused about a personality issue. A couple I know is getting divorced. He pretty much can convince her of anything. He told her not to get a lawyer, not to tell her friend and family until after the agreement was made and signed and she does ...
A. 4 September 2008: i wouldnt call it a personality disorder more of a personality trait, i.e. submissive, introverted etc. She obviously is used to him running her life and he may have even been physically or mentally abusive towards her, certainly controlling at the ... (read in full...)
How do I make him give me the commitment I'm looking for?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now. In the time that I have known him he has lived with his dad and he is far too old to be doing that. I lived with him there for a while and have my own place now, but how do I convince him he needs to ...
A. 4 September 2008: Then maybe hes not the right guy for you. Why do you want him to move out of his dad's already, you are fairly young I assume he is around the same age?? Its normal for girls to want to leave as soon as they can but boys actually tend to stick ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I'm a sex addict because I want him to go down on me?!
Q. hi there i have a peculiar problem..my boyfriend doesnt want to go down on me..he makes me do it to him... he says hes never done it to another girl..though hes had sex a lot...i cant understand..he thinks im a sex addict..theres nothing wrong wi...
A. 4 September 2008: Stop going down on him, tell him its a 2 way thing and if he is not even prepared to try it then you aint gonna do it either!! You need to talk to him about this too and find out what he is scared of x... (read in full...)
Question about my height?
Q. Hi i have just turned 15 years old and my peers tower over me at average of 5'9, i am 5'5 and am around girl height at my school. My question is will i still grow to at least 5'9 (My dads height). Thanks...
A. 4 September 2008: You will probably still grow, its hard to know what height you will get to but boys tend to keep growing until around 20 and girls usually stop at 18. I keep wondering the same about my son who is 14 and 5ft 5. His dad is 6ft 1 but Im only 5ft 3 ... (read in full...)
Will he change as he gets older and seek a younger chic?
Q. Hi guys I am a lady of 35 and dating a 23 yr old MAN. my friends have a serious problem with this and keep on telling me that he is just going on a ride with me. What they do not know is the fact that I am HAPPY. I was married to a 37 year old ma...
A. 4 September 2008: Maybe your friends are a little jealous that you are not stuck in a rut but are enjoying a new life with a younger man. I personally think each relationship is individual, I know of a bloke who married his mother's best friend when he was 23 and ... (read in full...)
I need help coming up with some romantic ideas!
Q. Hi, I was just wondering if any one knew or could think of any romantic ideas for me and my partner. My partner has been away for two weeks and would like to do something romantic on his return. Thanking you in advance x...
A. 4 September 2008: Leave a trail of flower petals around the house and leave little love notes where he can find them. Start off with nice things about how much you love him, missed him etc, photos and 'remember this moment' notes, lead him to the bedroom with the ... (read in full...)
This stunning girl I met at a club is only 17! Is this okay?
Q. I met a girl in a club few weeks ago and we hit it off really well im 25 and was surprised when this stunner started talking to me. We had a lot in common and she told me she was 19 and at uni! We exchanged numbers and then since then we ha...
A. 4 September 2008: Even though most girls mature before boys, 17 is still quite young. My daughter is 17 next year and I cant imagine what a 25 year old would have in common with her, apart from the obvious. You may find that you have different interests, that your ... (read in full...)
Should I be angry or have mercy? My dad cheated on my mom.
Q. hey i dont know whats right anymore! ok so my father cheated on my mom... and then he is still living in our home but he is being insulted by my other relatives and others are saying he is a shame to our family...a part of me feels sorry for him i ...
A. 4 September 2008: Its very hard to know why he did this and sometimes there are reasons for this to happen that you may be to young for your parents to discuss with you. At the end of the day he is still your dad and still loves you. If he is living at home and is ... (read in full...)
Beard or Sheared?
Q. I am trying to get close to girl at the moment and am hoping to make a move over the few times we go out but i am wondering if i should shave. I have about 10 days worth of growth and like to keep it that way because i think i look far too young ...
A. 4 September 2008: My husband no longer shaves but keeps a bit of stubble that he trims regularly. I find it very sexy but all girls are different. If this is how she is used to you looking leave it for now x... (read in full...)
How can I avoid them without being offensive?
Q. Hi, My friend has 2 annoying children and a partner who is always out what he can get (freeloader). They always insist on meeting up or coming over to my house which i dread as the children always have tantrums and misbehave. Even when i go over t...
A. 4 September 2008: Why not arrange to have lunch once or twice a month with just your friend either on a weekday when the kids are at school, in your lunch break if you can, or on a saturday. She might appreciate the break from the children. As a compromise you ... (read in full...)
Dating both of us in parallel? Why would someone do somthing like this?
Q. I have been seeing someone for about 4 months and recently found out that he has been double dating - seeing me part of the week and the other lady the other part. He has shared the same restaurants, jokes, smooth talking lines and everything. He ...
A. 4 September 2008: Because he can. He got away with it for awhile and will probably do this again and again. Let her have him you are well rid x ... (read in full...)
Do you think my friend and I should confront him about him going red etc.?
Q. I'm 14 and i really like this guy who is 15 and is in the year above at school. I've known him since we were in primary school. I've liked him for a few years now and i think i love him. ( Do not say that because im 14 i can't be in love) Last S...
A. 4 September 2008: Dont embarrass the poor guy! Try talking to him and letting him know you are interested too. Smile sweetly at him and be nice, if he thinks you are out to humiliate him he will run a mile x... (read in full...)
How can I show him I want to move up into our relationship without freaking him out?
Q. I have a good male friend - I would say our relationship is somewhere between friends and lovers. We only see each other occasionally, although I see him as part of my work at least once a week. Last year he needed me more because he was coming out ...
A. 4 September 2008: I dont mean thats all we did by the way, it wasnt lunch one day and sex the next, it took months, honest!... (read in full...)
How can I show him I want to move up into our relationship without freaking him out?
Q. I have a good male friend - I would say our relationship is somewhere between friends and lovers. We only see each other occasionally, although I see him as part of my work at least once a week. Last year he needed me more because he was coming out ...
A. 4 September 2008: Just take it slowly. Once you have had dinner, suggest your next meeting, let it build up into a relationship. Thats what normally happens when you are older. Its only the teenagers that say 'Will you go out with me'!!! My husband and I never ... (read in full...)
Do guys care how a vagina looks like?
Q. okay so ive just been watchin this documentry called the perfect vagina and baslicly its a woman makin a documenntry goin round and explorin vaginas lol, shes been askin men if the way a vagina looks puts them off sex and the amount that have said ...
A. 4 September 2008: Most guys wouldnt tell a cosmetically enhanced one from a normal one. They dont peer at it with a microscope and are more interested in getting inside it than looking at it!! Ok im gonna share here and Im sober!!! I have one 'lip' much larger than ... (read in full...)
He has been so distant after I told him I loved him!
Q. I met a guy online. We started as good friends. Then progressed to more than that. He's a very dedicated father so time was an issue but I was ok with that. We texted and talked online alot. In the past 5 months the relationship has gotten m...
A. 4 September 2008: Have you actually met or has it just been an online relationship?? x... (read in full...)
Desperate for parenting advice when should one mom tell the other mom her dauighter is sleeping around
Q. my daughters best friend is 15 and she recently lost her virginity. after missing her period, my daughter asked me to buy a pregnacie test so I did. Well thank god she wasnt pregnant!! I did not tell her mom I gave her the mom lecture about what I ...
A. 4 September 2008: The best solution here is maybe to try and get the girl to confide in her mum herself. She needs to inform her mum she is sleeping with boys and needs to get on the pill and get in a ready supply of condoms to prevent std's. Its no good expecting ... (read in full...)
Please help me choose my wedding dress!
Q. I've posted problems here before and tonight I'm going to keep it lighthearted and happy! I'm having a real hard time picking out a wedding dress. Me and my fiance havent set a date yet but me being typical female means i'm already looking ...
A. 4 September 2008: I like the idea of the first corset in red and black with the last skirt, the petticoat but I also think the purple outfit is stunning and very sexy. Also the last one that superrrshawna suggested is a good mix of what you want and a more ... (read in full...)
We are a happy couple but his adult daughter are trying to break us apart!
Q. Help! My bf and I are both divorced with grown children and I have one (14) at home. He lives in another town and we have made our 3 hour distance relationship work fine for 9 months. The trouble is that his adult daughters are jealous of me and are ...
A. 4 September 2008: Well you could cut and run and decide that the daughters are not worth all this hassle, but then they have won.
I have had the opposite side of this where my ex husband has chosen his girlfriend over his own children. She has manipulated him and ... (read in full...)
After his brother died, his parents have been extra protective of him and it's affecting our relationship!
Q. Hi everyone I have a gorgeous boyfriend of 7 months. We are both 19 and for the past 6 months i have been spending most nights living with him and his parents. We came to realise we both needed some nights apart to catch up with friends, do our ...
A. 4 September 2008: You are not being unreasonable but you can probably understand what his parents are going through. They are now scared to lose their only remaining son and want to keep him with them and safe at all times. However they do need to realise that they ... (read in full...)
What is the age when guys start making sperm?
Q. at what age does the sperm generally come out ...
A. 4 September 2008: When you hit puberty. This usually starts just before 12, and takes 3 or 4 years to complete x... (read in full...)
I feel that if he gets a new phone he's going to hide things from me!
Q. For some reason I have some weird insecurities. Me and my boyfriend have lived together for the past 8 months and I love it we do almost everything together - because we enjoy all the same things and we have alot of fun doing all those things. ...
A. 4 September 2008: So you are never ever ever apart from each other?? What about work or college or uni??? x... (read in full...)
I feel that if he gets a new phone he's going to hide things from me!
Q. For some reason I have some weird insecurities. Me and my boyfriend have lived together for the past 8 months and I love it we do almost everything together - because we enjoy all the same things and we have alot of fun doing all those things. ...
A. 3 September 2008: Its ok sharing a phone but not very practical when you cant be together 24/7!! Of course he needs his own phone. Apart from needing to be in contact with work or family and friends there may be times when he wants it to ring you and if your ... (read in full...)
Should I buy some flowers or something for when I meet up with her?
Q. Hello, Following on from the question about the piece of music I wrote for the girl I'm meeting Freshers' week and have flirted a bit with (should have mentioned it was an instrumental). We actually have agreed to meet before then. Next week someti...
A. 3 September 2008: Looks and weight arent everything and this girl already likes your personality so wont automatically judge you by looks as she feels that connection to start with. The music is enough for now, forget the flowers. Be a gentleman and above all avoid ... (read in full...)
When a guy's dad says, "has gone soft on her," what does that mean and why would he say that?
Q. hmmm ok when someone says like for example a lads dad says "hes gone soft on her" to his son or something what does it actually mean and what would make him say this? just curious...
A. 3 September 2008: It usually means he likes the girl x... (read in full...)
I want to be able to feel that passion again since my miscarriage. It seems like I'm the one who's making all the first moves.
Q. I am a happily married women who went through a miscarriage a few months ago. My body has taken a while to get back on track but I'm finally there. Ever since the miscarriage my husband has been worried about causing 'problems' for me if we have...
A. 3 September 2008: Firstly Im sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Your husband's feeling could still be to do with this, he probably has trapped feelings that have not been dealt with properly. I think sometimes people dont realise that the man has lost a baby too ... (read in full...)
When did you first have a boyfriend/girlfriend - that actually lasted a few months?
Q. Poll: When was the first time you had a relationship, and what age did you have your first kiss? I'm not talking about a peck on the cheek or peck on the lips type of kiss, I mean a toungue kiss? And when did you first have a boyfrien...
A. 3 September 2008: First kiss 14, first 'steady boyfriend' nearly 15 - lasted 6 months I think. Then I met my first husband at nearly 16 years old and that lasted 17 years.
Dont worry, dont rush it, it will happen!! xx... (read in full...)
I met a man my age at the restaurant, we then talked by phone every night for almost a week, is it possible to feel something so special so soon? What do you recommend?
Q. I recently went to restaurant for breakfast, and I met a man my age. He came to sit by me, and we talked about our jobs. He gave me his phone number,and paid for my breakfast which I did not know he did. I called him back that evening to thank ...
A. 3 September 2008: I met my husband one night and he took my phone number. He called me the next day to take me for lunch and i just KNEW something special was happening. He worked away at that time and I went on holiday so it was a few weeks before we met again and ... (read in full...)
How could she be so careless with birth control?
Q. Hi, im 25 and my girlfirend 23. i am a college student with one more year to go. I've been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years now. I took her virginity and we never use condoms. at first we used pull-out method, but after a few pregnancy scares, ...
A. 3 September 2008: Its normal to forget i used to do it all the time. Use a condom as well so theres no chance of pregnancy x... (read in full...)
Why did he last so long during sex?
Q. my friend have a guy friend that have sexual inner course with for a long time (8 hours) and she is tired of him but scare to let him no. She don't no what to do. She think that he have a problem about how long he last. she ask him is he taking any ...
A. 3 September 2008: Some guys enjoy going for this long, they dont realise that for most women its sore, painful and actually quite boring!!! I was with a guy who practised tantric sex where he could stop himself from coming. Yeah it was great to start with and I had ... (read in full...)
Can your vagina be depressed?
Q. help! can your vagina bee depressed? im disabled and have been on anti-depressants for 7 years as a pain killer and to help with the situation of becoming disabled, i came off of my anti -depressants 8 months ago and ever since sex has been painful ...
A. 3 September 2008: http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/articles/article.aspx?articleId=386
sorry this one is better!... (read in full...)
Can your vagina be depressed?
Q. help! can your vagina bee depressed? im disabled and have been on anti-depressants for 7 years as a pain killer and to help with the situation of becoming disabled, i came off of my anti -depressants 8 months ago and ever since sex has been painful ...
A. 3 September 2008: http://psychcentral.com/disorders/sx97.htm
Try this link above for vaginismus x... (read in full...)
How can I get my 20 month old son to nap during the day?
Q. Hello i wonder if anyne can give me some advice. Our son is 20 months old and up until about a week ago he had a nap from 11:00 in the morning until 12:00, was then up for the rest of the day until 6:30 when he would go to bed and wakes up at about ...
A. 3 September 2008: He's just outgrown it and no longer needs his afternoon nap. I found that if I took my son out in the morning to an activity he would sleep on the way home and I could lift him out and lay him on the sofa for a while and get some jobs done. After ... (read in full...)
Why do relationships rarely stem from casual sex? How do I stop this behavior?
Q. So I am having trouble with refraining myself from engaging in casual sex. I always feel very crappy the next day and tell myself that it is mentally unhealthy. I want to stop but it is easier said than done. For some reason when considering it I ...
A. 3 September 2008: The type of men you are meeting are most likely out looking for casual sex, why would they want a relationship when they can get sex with lots of different girls? They are not looking for love just a quick fix. You on the other hand are probably ... (read in full...)
Am I depressed or do I just need to raise my self esteem?
Q. So I am willing to admit that I have low self-esteem and am very self-conscious. At times I can be depressed because of this but I don't feel it is that serious that I would need to seek medical help. I grew up watching my mother take 10-12 pills ...
A. 3 September 2008: If you drink to make yourself feel better you will only feel worse, alcohol is a depressant. People wont like you more because you are drunk quite the opposite. As for casual sex, how do you feel the next day? Used?? Dirty? Even more depressed? ... (read in full...)
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