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23 July 2009: One of our agony aunts is going to have a baby soon, so I thought it might be nice to send her our best wishes and our tips, the practices on parenting that we have learned from our experiences! I'll start the ball rolling - - If you don't want a...
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Why is my ex-girlfriend blocking me on msn and Facebook?
Q. i need to know why my ex is not talking to me for some reason. because last month we had an argument but then i aplogised and she forgave me and said she would give me one more chance. once we had our argument she deleted me from msn but didnt block ...
A. 17 November 2009: 5 times? FIVE times? Seriously? Are you rereading your own letter? Do you get that you are crowding the girl and that you are ACTUALLY broken up?
Stalking her isn't going to improve her opinion of you. Seriously. You need to chill out and ... (read in full...)
Why did he ask me to go to the gym with him? Does he think I'm fat???
Q. This question may sound a bit silly but i just want to know what my boyfriend meant by this. We were talking one night and he said hes going to start going to the gym and he asked "maybe you can come to keep me company" I felt a bit offended...
A. 17 November 2009: The healthiest way to maintain your weight is exercise.
One reason is that a healthy EXERCISED body has more muscle than fat, and the more muscle you HAVE and USE, the higher the rate of your metabolism will be. Weight gain is simply our inpu... (read in full...)
We couldn't have "proper" sex!
Q. Me and my boyfriend really love each other.. we have done oral sex.. but when we wanted to pass have intercourse it didn't go well because his penis didn't go inside my vagina! i mean only a bit and that was very painful.. though my hymen is ...
A. 15 November 2009: This is a pretty common.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vaginismus
You need the help of a doctor. He will most likely prescribe muscle relaxants. ... (read in full...)
Is it weird to make a silicone doll of my girlfriend?
Q. Hi Agony Aunts! I have an interesting question that I want to ask. Well I love my girlfriend so much that I would want to do something grand. I am planning on making a life-size doll version of my girlfriend in silicone like the ones I have seen ...
A. 14 November 2009: Like the Rubberrazti?... (read in full...)
Is it weird to make a silicone doll of my girlfriend?
Q. Hi Agony Aunts! I have an interesting question that I want to ask. Well I love my girlfriend so much that I would want to do something grand. I am planning on making a life-size doll version of my girlfriend in silicone like the ones I have seen ...
A. 14 November 2009: I second that thought that Tish had. I wouldn't ask a partner to agree to any proclivity before I had actually sprung it on her...... (read in full...)
Is it weird to make a silicone doll of my girlfriend?
Q. Hi Agony Aunts! I have an interesting question that I want to ask. Well I love my girlfriend so much that I would want to do something grand. I am planning on making a life-size doll version of my girlfriend in silicone like the ones I have seen ...
A. 14 November 2009: Hahahaha q, you are too much!!!... (read in full...)
B/f doesn't trust me and thinks I will cheat on him
Q. please help i'm 16 and have been going with my boyfriend for 1year and 9months, but when i'd only been with him for a month i left him for my ex. i really regret this and would never be unfaithful to him, however, my boyfriend has trouble beleieving ...
A. 14 November 2009: This a control issue.
He wants to know if he says "JUMP" if you will reply "How High, Darling?".
I would respond to his next request by telling him to do something that is physically not possible.... (read in full...)
Is it weird to make a silicone doll of my girlfriend?
Q. Hi Agony Aunts! I have an interesting question that I want to ask. Well I love my girlfriend so much that I would want to do something grand. I am planning on making a life-size doll version of my girlfriend in silicone like the ones I have seen ...
A. 14 November 2009: Sounds kind of hotly weird, and yet somehow, flattering!
I'd have to say, in this situation, this could really backfire on you, even if you have the purest of intentions.
I would have to take a pass if I were you - I wouldn't guarantee any posi... (read in full...)
Are these reacurring sex dreams a sign that I am a pervert?
Q. I have been having reacurring sex dreams of me and my 15 yr old niece. When they happen i wake up in a cold sweat. Once i even ejactulated while i was dreaming. I would never do anything with my niece and now if i see her or talk to her i feel ...
A. 14 November 2009: Find a competent therapist.... (read in full...)
Fear of money, yet I work in retail!
Q. I work in retail and have never worked at a register. I am supposed to be trained for the register soon I have a real problem with handling money I always have. I really want to over come this problem. What should I do? I dont have a problem ...
A. 13 November 2009: I would consult a good therapist who specializes in phobias. He/she may help you make some headway into your fears. Good Luck!... (read in full...)
Why is he afraid of telling the world I'm his lover?
Q. Not sure how to put it but I'm going through a hard time. I go around telling the world how much I love him, how much he means to me and what not. Yet when it comes to announcing to the world that he is mine and I am his, or the fact that we are...
A. 9 November 2009: It's not a little problem, because you wrote in about it.
It is obvious that it is a problem to YOU, but it REALLY isn't to him.
People can only treat you the way that you LET them. You have have set up his reactions by showing him your exp... (read in full...)
Why is he afraid of telling the world I'm his lover?
Q. Not sure how to put it but I'm going through a hard time. I go around telling the world how much I love him, how much he means to me and what not. Yet when it comes to announcing to the world that he is mine and I am his, or the fact that we are...
A. 8 November 2009: If a guy wants to have a committed relationship, they generally say it out loud. It sounds like your guy isn't as much in love as you are and is keeping his options open. [sorry]
In general, couples do say that they are 'boyfriend and girl... (read in full...)
How do I nicely tell my friend that she is annoying me?
Q. I've got this one friend. We are in the same class. By each passing day she is annoying me more and more. Her boyfriend is in England right now and she is starting to go out with my boyfriend, they are friends and I'm ok with that but now she is all ...
A. 8 November 2009: Tell your BF that he is not to go out alone with her again, because she was bragging about it to you and it hurt your feelings. Tell him that you consider this as disloyal AND if he lets this happen again when he knows that she is making a play for ... (read in full...)
I am tired of this woman texting my husband with her problems!
Q. my husband continues to be friends with a woman that i don't approve of. i told him several times that she wants more than that,but he says i'm just jealous. everytime she has drama in her life she text him at least 15 to 20 times and believe me is ...
A. 4 November 2009: The whole "I have a problem" thing is a to appeal to your guys's protective, manly side.
Is is a ploy.
A ruse.
It is the classic other woman's way of getting into your guy's emotional psyche.
You seriously need to lower the boom.
This woma... (read in full...)
Is Polycystic Ovarian Synrome hereditary?
Q. my sister has just found out that she has Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome and she is trying for a baby. The doctor said it may be harder for her to conceive because of this. Does anyone know if it is hereditary?? Its just that a few years ago when i was ...
A. 3 November 2009: Which means you also have a 50% chance of not getting it as well! Ask your doctor about the possibility of getting screening, even if you aren't planning on having kids soon, especially if you are losing sleep over this. At least, if you do find ... (read in full...)
He's gay, but I really really like him.
Q. I am falling in love with my relationships councilor and don't know how to stop feeling like this. I ended my marriage 1 yr ago cause my husband was having sex with men.We were married for 18 years so I am not some ditzy young thing with a silly ...
A. 1 November 2009: Falling for your therapist while you are in therapy is called transference. You feel that his understanding you, his 'getting' all you problems is an ["unconscious redirection of feelings for one person to another. One definition of transference is ... (read in full...)
I'm having a hard time because of the long distance, how can I get him to be more expressive with me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been with each other for sometime.We are now in a long distance relationship because of employment. We still manage to see each other 3 weekends a month. We still get along great and have great sex when together. We are both ...
A. 22 October 2009: When a guy who "used to be a player" does finally call someone their girlfriend and responds to every e-mail that you send by saying "well, you should move out here if you are lonely" - then I think that you HAVE a commitment from a guy who ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know why I'm still huring?
Q. ok so i had my appendix out a month ago...the surgeon says my inside will be healed... on the removal of my appendix they said it was abnormal but on further test it showed to be normal i am still in severe pain anyone have any ideas as to what it ...
A. 20 October 2009: A.S.A.P.
As soon as possible.... (read in full...)
Does anyone know why I'm still huring?
Q. ok so i had my appendix out a month ago...the surgeon says my inside will be healed... on the removal of my appendix they said it was abnormal but on further test it showed to be normal i am still in severe pain anyone have any ideas as to what it ...
A. 20 October 2009: A doctor's diagnosis is like a triangle. Like the one that they teach in science class about fire. In order to produce fire, you need three things - heat, oxygen and fuel. A doctor needs three things - his skills, a physical exam, and what you ... (read in full...)
Can my abusive ex be any different second time around?
Q. My abusive ex bf wants me back. But I dont understand why. The reason he dumped me in the first place was because I wouldn't let him control and abuse me, I would stand up for myself. So why would he want me back if I stood up for myself? Does h...
A. 20 October 2009: He lost control over you so he wants that back. Does that make sense?
Check out this checklist and see if anything ELSE rings a bell...
http://www.familyshelterservice.org/assess.html... (read in full...)
Can my abusive ex be any different second time around?
Q. My abusive ex bf wants me back. But I dont understand why. The reason he dumped me in the first place was because I wouldn't let him control and abuse me, I would stand up for myself. So why would he want me back if I stood up for myself? Does h...
A. 19 October 2009: I think he just wants "Round Two". You already know what to expect from him, and with all the men there are in the world, why put yourself back in such a precarious position? This reminds me of the old saying, "Fool me once, shame on you, Fool me ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy or is he tripping?
Q. I just need opinions as to whether or not im crazy or is this dood trippin? lol Met up w/ this guy as a movie buddy.Wednesday: met at a bar to see if we meshed.He said he'd stay a bit but stayed all night and txted me after to say he had a goo...
A. 18 October 2009: I think it wasn't hanging out, it WAS dating to him, and he told you that it wasn't working for him. In other words - he never saw you as a friend, he thought he was interested, now he's not, and he doesn't want to hang out. Most guys don't hang ... (read in full...)
I'm having doubts about living with my boyfriend...
Q. hi im kinda a bit confused with this the thing is im not sure if i really want to live with my bf permantly i stayed at his for bout 8 weeks he lives about 5 hours away b4 coming bk home to my parents it was gd and all but now im back home i keep ...
A. 18 October 2009: Once you are living together, and you are supporting yourselves, and you have sex, why would he ever ask you to marry him - should you want to make it legal? There have been so many women who have written in to DC asking why they are still waiting ... (read in full...)
Why did the drunken 'you're hot' texts stop now that we're dating?
Q. This is probaly gonna sound stupid but... back before summer, this guy liked me, and whenever he went on a night out I would recieve drunk texts and phone calls. They basically said 'Your hot.' or 'I want you.' Ya know usual guy stuff. Now we have ...
A. 17 October 2009: Hell, ring him and tell him HE'S hot. Guys love it!!! Turn the tables on him and you'll blow his socks off!!!... (read in full...)
Is it possible for Mr./Mrs. Right to not be into you?
Q. Quick question. Do you think that the person who you love and who doesn't love you back is simply not right for you? Or is it possible to know Mr. or Mrs. Right, the only issue is that he or she is just not that into you? Thanks....
A. 15 October 2009: The right person is one who loves you back, of course. Devotion has to be mutual, and love and relationships just don't work if the other person isn't into you too. There isn't just one person who is "Mr. or Mrs. Right", it's a matter of fit. ... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to change his thought that I'm controlling him?
Q. I found out from a friend my boyfriend created a facebook today. I dislike social networkings like that because myspace caused so many problems between us before. I stopped going on it but I let him continue to go on it. One day, during summer, we ...
A. 15 October 2009: "We had trust issues" is a blanket statement that explains nothing.
"He looks and I get jealous" is what this sounds like.
You need to find a trustworthy guy, one that doesn't look! All the Aunts seem to be saying the same thing and are in a... (read in full...)
How do I tell my family I wan't to be a woman?
Q. Hey, im an 18year old male, and i want to turn into a woman, im just scared of what my family will say and will they disown me thats what im scared about, im always wearing ladies clothes like thongs and bras when family are out, but when they are ...
A. 15 October 2009: Well, you are old enough to move out. That would be your first step in becoming who you wish to be. Becoming independent and emancipated and standing on your own two feet is always a good way to prove to your parents that you can make your own ... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to change his thought that I'm controlling him?
Q. I found out from a friend my boyfriend created a facebook today. I dislike social networkings like that because myspace caused so many problems between us before. I stopped going on it but I let him continue to go on it. One day, during summer, we ...
A. 15 October 2009: Please don't tell me to tell my BF to keep his fb page, just figure out how I can whitewash my controlling behavior? Um, Lie?
It's pretty obvious from what you have written that you have been jealous about something that you saw on his wall, and ... (read in full...)
18 months later and b/f still doesn't have a job..time to leave?
Q. Please can you advise me although I think I may know the answer already.... I have been with my current boyfriend for 18 months after being friends for about 4 years. Previously I had always gone for 'bad' boys and was in a relationship where th...
A. 12 October 2009: You are far too young to become a mother, and that is what he has turned you into.
You need to move on. You aren't married, so that's probably a good thing, even if you both pitched in and moved in together. You actually didn't take vows with... (read in full...)
His ex still wants him back after 2 years
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and 3 months now and we've been friends for six years. He was with his ex-girlfriend for two years, lets call her Erin they had a very intense relationship which ended 8 months before we got ...
A. 9 October 2009: Do you two live together?
If you do, then you have a problem, because you will need to move out to prove your point. If you don't then all you have to do is break up with him.
People can only treat you how you let them. No married person w... (read in full...)
I can't get over his dirty magazine habits!
Q. Hi All, i cant believe im am writing and asking for advice, ive always been the one giving out advice and never needed any before. I am one of these that tackle any problems i have had in my life and then just get on with it. But im at a loose en...
A. 8 October 2009: I totally agree with Q, who is always brilliant. I think that I just dented the drywall. Ouch.... (read in full...)
I can't get over his dirty magazine habits!
Q. Hi All, i cant believe im am writing and asking for advice, ive always been the one giving out advice and never needed any before. I am one of these that tackle any problems i have had in my life and then just get on with it. But im at a loose en...
A. 6 October 2009: 'I love him so much, he is my soulmate.'
Then stop expecting him to not be a Man. Guys look. It's in their nature. If it weren't then there would be no need for porn. The number one use of the internet IS PORN. Who is looking at it? Wome... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do with this fine, Mexican boy!!
Q. im still trying to get a boyfriend without being so desperate. im mean ive been asked out a few times, but not by the right guys. Here's a follow up. Ok, last year ive been looking up ways to suduce, flirt, all kinds of stuff with this one boy. It...
A. 5 October 2009: Excuse me, but where the heck did that tag line come from? Erm?... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't want to be touched anymore!
Q. Hello everyone. My wife don't like to be touched anymore and she don't really care about sex anymore. What am I to do? My wife claims that she is so busy but she just go to school. I mean this situation causes many agruments and makes me wonder ...
A. 5 October 2009: When 'she goes out with her friends', do you mean her other 'mommy' friends - and is she also 'out' with them and their children?
'Cause that's not down time, that's her new job, and believe me, that's work! If that's the case, hanging with a bu... (read in full...)
Is it considered rude if you don't swallow?
Q. I just recentley started having sex with my boyfriend (we've only been together 2 weeks) so, i know people say swallowing is a way of showing them you love them. but like i just .. can't.. it makes me gag, so like, at a guys point of view, what ...
A. 5 October 2009: "It usually takes me about two week to decide on a new pair of shoes, and they only go on my feet."
Blame it on the movie - "Clueless".
Which started with famous line...
"As IF!!!"....... (read in full...)
Suggestions on a hateful daughter?
Q. I have a daughter age 36, she is has become so hateful, mean and arrogant and eccentric I don't even know who she is anymore. Over the past 10 yrs she has taken Zoloft and I truly believe it is changing her personality. She explodes in anger for ...
A. 5 October 2009: Obviously your family problems go farther than your daughters bouts with Zoloft and her outbursts. This is what family counseling is for, to reach a resolution between parties and find the reasons why they are there. It isn't always easy, and you ... (read in full...)
I am starting to feel more possessive after our 'fooling around' sessions!
Q. I'm 28 suffering from bouts of depression. Started talking to a friend over a phone who, I don't even like that much but, suddenly we started flirting. I went over to his place and we fooled a bit. No intercourse just oral sex. He does'nt love me ...
A. 5 October 2009: Women get emotionally involved after having sex. Oral sex is sex. Therefore, you are feeling that you are getting closer to him, Only because you have had some relations, knowing full well what an insensitive jerk he is and has always been.
Y... (read in full...)
Is it more common for a guy to text a girl he likes, before bed, or after school?
Q. I go to an all-girl school, and the only way to go to homecoming is to be asked by a boy at the all-guy's school right next door. My friends set me up with one of their guy friends that I'd never met so that we could all go as a group. He was ...
A. 2 October 2009: It's kind of a compliment to be the last person that he wants to talk to at night.
I would only be worried if he was calling late at night purposefully. As long as he doesn't ask you to send pictures or say things of a sexual nature which woul... (read in full...)
Is this an orgasm?
Q. Hello everyone :) i have a rather odd question to ask. But here it goes. When im mastutbating and it feels rly good and all the sudden like my muscles dont there clench and unclench a couple times. Is that an orgasm. And is it normal for my mu...
A. 2 October 2009: Yes and yes.... (read in full...)
How do I tell this guy that I love him?
Q. Dear agony aunts, I have been crushing on this guy for about a year now, and I believe it may even be love at, well, second sight. We're really good friends now and he seems to be flirting with me a lot. I don't want to sound like another obsessed ...
A. 2 October 2009: Don't drop the "L" bomb. It's something that you can't take back, once it's out there - and you don't want it hanging out there if he isn't ready to say it back yet!
Talk about how you feel instead. It's okay to say 'I think that you are sooo... (read in full...)
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