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If they arent legally his, should they be his heirs?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for about 10 years, living together for 7, with no plans for marriage. That part is fine with me actually. I have 2 sons who are currently 15 and 18, so BF has pretty much raised them and is their Father figure. ...

A.   23 May 2015: To Clarify: I do work. I work full time, and pay most of the household bills on my own. However, since he lives there, he pays for some of the bills as well and if he left, or died, I would be in a real pickle trying to pick up the slack as I am ... (read in full...)

If they arent legally his, should they be his heirs?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for about 10 years, living together for 7, with no plans for marriage. That part is fine with me actually. I have 2 sons who are currently 15 and 18, so BF has pretty much raised them and is their Father figure. ...

A.   23 May 2015: To Clarify: I do work. I work full time, and pay most of the household bills on my own. However, since he lives there, he pays for some of the bills as well and if he left, or died, I would be in a real pickle trying to pick up the slack as I am ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend expects me to have sex with him he's 14 I'm 15!

Q.   Im 15 years old,and im having problems with my boyfriend last night he asked me what my bases are and i told him and now he wants to have sex with me! he is a year younger than me too! I love him and i dont want to break up with him cause that will ...

A.   29 September 2010: That's easy. You just tell him that you care about him, but you are not ready for sex. If he actually cares about you in return that will be just fine with him. Chances are this is exactly what will happen. Just because he asked for sex does not ... (read in full...)

Does he really mean what he says or do you think he's maybe just mad/upset?

Q.   I was dating this guy for 1,5 years. I'm foreign and graduating, therefore don't have permission to stay in the US. He asked me to marry him a couple of times but didnt really do anything about it. So there is one month left and I asked him if he ...

A.   26 November 2009: Yes, it is a little bit wierd coming so out of the blue. But I think it is just that he has fond memories of you and still cares. Not cares as in wants you back, but cares as in you were an important person in his life and you did not break up ... (read in full...)

Am I too old to express an interest in her sexually?

Q.   I just want to get some peoples thoughts on this one. At what "age" does it become "unacceptable" for a man (Aged 46) to have lewd thoughts about a young woman (i.e 18). Thanks ...

A.   11 July 2009: You are never too old to have lewd thoughts. Just dont act on them! Cause, yeah, you are too old for her.... (read in full...)

Why are the majority of men bad in bed?

Q.   If all men supposedly view porn (which seems to be the consensus on this site) and it is supposed to give you hints and tips to spice up your sex life (isn't this what all guys say), then why is it the majority of men are crap in bed. This was a ...

A.   16 June 2009: First off, porn is very unrealistic about what is good and what is fun and how much people enjoy differant things. These are paid actors pretending to like stuff even if they hate it or are bored silly. Second off, men watch porn to 1.get turn... (read in full...)

Stay with the guy who lied to me or marry a person of my parent's choice?

Q.   Hi..! I am in relationship with this guy since 5 months i.e. from Dec end. We got to know each other through phone and usually communicated through phone and after talking thrice or some more times he proposed me. At that time I hadn't seen him...

A.   29 May 2009: Run, run as fast as you can. Dump this guy! He is not good! He is a lier and a cheater and he will only hurt you and destroy you! I am sorry to be so blunt, but I dont have time to write a nice long message explaining it all to you properly. ... (read in full...)

I would like to know about women's periods

Q.   Hi dear girls... My question is only for girls pls... don't mind boys.. Yaar because I am come from that society where it is not possible for me to ask this directly to someone. I want to know about periods. How it happends and in what age...

A.   29 May 2009: Twelve is the average age to begin getting your period, but it can happen any time between the ages of 10 and 16 and still be normal. A woman gets her period once a month and it generally lasts for 3-7 days depending on the person. An average cycle ... (read in full...)

I regret sleeping with him now and feel so stupid for doing so!

Q.   Hello. I am extremly worried. I done something that I feel completely silly about. I feel like such a silly little girl. Any feedback and comments would be very much appreicated. I have known this guy for a while and deicded to meet up with him...

A.   28 May 2009: No, you are not pregnant. Pregnancy does not cause itching. You are probably itchy either because you shaved or because you have a yeast infection. You should probably get checked out to see or get some meds from the drug store at least. In the ... (read in full...)

Dating a guy but thinking of a girl!

Q.   Hi. I'm a bit confused at the moment.I'm a girl Ive been dating this guy for over 2 years now. We have never had sex, since I'm not quite ready yet. I really love him. But lately I've been having sexual thoughts about a girl. I cant get her out of ...

A.   28 May 2009: It could mean you are bisexual, but more likely it is just fantasy and curiousity. Dont worry about it too much!... (read in full...)

Help with snogging and relationships...

Q.   14 nearly 15 and i remain loveless, iv been in one relationship and all we got to was just kissing on the lips no snogging ect no ones really wants me andi dont know why i spose im not bad looking im not fat im fairly thin and athletic tall i dont ...

A.   28 May 2009: Armywife hit it right on the head. Dont worry too much about it now, you are very young, and these things will come in time. Dont try to rush growing up so much! Getting down and depressed about it all will only make you unattrive to a guy. So keep ... (read in full...)

He's 16 and I'm 13, we have never met...

Q.   Here's the thing, I was dating this guy, who is 3 years older than me via the internet and we had arranged to meet and that, it just never happened. Is this too dangerous for me to be doing? I really like him, and he says he loves me, like properly ...

A.   28 May 2009: Yes, this is very dangerous and very stupid. He cannot properly 'love' you as the two of you have never even met!!! Love is something that take a long time of shared experiences and actual time spent together. What you have is the fantasy of love, ... (read in full...)

My husband finds the idea of retirement dull but I would like to spend more time with him

Q.   I am 51 and my husband is 54, and he told me that his firm said to him that his retirement is set to come in six weeks time. He told me that they didn't really want to do it, and when he asked why they wanted him to retire, they said it was nothing ...

A.   22 May 2009: Um, yeah, here in the US, telling someone you are fired (cause lets face it, telling someone you will "retire" at age 54 and against your will is being fired) simply because they want to get some younger people in the office is called age ... (read in full...)

Is it possible to have a LDR with someone you've just met?

Q.   About a month ago, I met this guy and after chatting non stop for days on end, he asked me out on a date. We went out on a couple more as well. I think it went really well, and he seemed/seems to like me,as he said he thinks im absolutely gorgeous ...

A.   8 May 2009: Yes, you could try a LDR. And I am very heartened by they realistic view you have of it. Many people make the huge mistake of thinking an LDR is equal to a 'real' relationship. Talking on the phone and email and seeing each other once in a blue moon ... (read in full...)

My wife was doing things sexually with some other guy that she wouldnt even do with me!

Q.   So my wife and I have been married for only about a year and six months. And just this last summer we had split up over a fight. The break up lasted about three months. And I'm having a hard time getting over what we discussed when we got back ...

A.   8 May 2009: Barring the fact that it was innappropriate for her to jumping in the sack with ANYONE, I agree with Anonymous.... (read in full...)

He keeps asking me if I'm a virgin!

Q.   I went out on one date with this guy, and then the next day we were talking through text messages and he asked me if I was a virgin or not. I told him I didnt feel comfortable answering that at this stage yet and he said thats ok I dont have to ...

A.   8 May 2009: No, it is not normal and even if it were an acceptable question, once you have made it clear that you are unconfortable discussing it he should have dropped the issue. While I agree with the other Aunts here that he is hoping you will say you are a ... (read in full...)

What is wrong with this woman? I think she has a personality disorder!

Q.   I just received this email from my gf. We just recently got back together after a week apart. We were texting back and forth on Saturday and she ended up calling at 4am after knocking on my apartment door at 3am. Sunday and Monday night she made ...

A.   8 May 2009: Your gut reaction is correct. Do not respond to this email as that will only fan the flames. Ignore it and any future attempts at contact. Just move on with your life and let this one go.... (read in full...)

Is three years long enough to have been together before getting engaged?

Q.   I'm so excited. My byfriend has gotten me an engagement ring. ^_^ We still won't be getting married for a few years- we'll be saving money and such for a house, car, etc, etc... we've been together for three years, and our love is stronger than...

A.   29 April 2009: Three years is more than adequate time. It is your young ages, not your time together that concerns me. You are very young and may find yourselves changing quite a bit in the next few years. You may find that in 3 years time you are completely ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to bleed the second time too?

Q.   Ok so I already had sex for the first time and it hurt so bad lol...but why did the second time hurt and I bled a little my second time too.. is this normal??...

A.   29 April 2009: For me, the first several times that I had sex were rather painful, almost like the first time. Each time got less and less painful until I was finally stretched out enough to not have pain at all. Dont worry about it, but if it persists more than 4 ... (read in full...)

Tips about having sex on top

Q.   Just need a few tips about having sex on top!! Im 22 and have been with my boyfriend for 2years but everytime I build up the courage to go "on top" i freak out!! Dont have alot of confidence and basically dont really know what to do, am worried ...

A.   29 April 2009: I used to think that when I was on top that meant I should move up and down on him so that he would go in and out, like him being on top but in reverse. Then I discovered something so much better! I sit almost straight up with my hands on his chest ... (read in full...)

Is this how it is at the nude beach???

Q.   Hi i'm just your average guy and i am lucky enough to have an awesomely hot girlfriend. She is 23, a bit younger than me and we have been together for 18 months. Just recently we decided to go to the nude beach together. It was really beautiful and ...

A.   24 April 2009: I have been to several nude beaches and also nudist resorts and clubs and I have to concur with satindesire, touching is discouraged. Because we are nude and therefore more vulnerable touching is a big no-no. In fact, at one local resort a person ... (read in full...)

Has she bought him the car to try to keep him?

Q.   My ex boyfriend's new girlfriend has just bought him a new car, a 57 reg and he knew nothing about it, thing is they have been together for 2 months,and now I feel I wasn't good enough for him because I could neve afford anything like this, I did ...

A.   18 April 2009: I am horrified at the innappropriateness of such a lavish gift! The pathetic, grasping, neediness of presenting such an expensive gift, especially so early in the relationship. And also the greed and avarice of someone who would accept such a gift. ... (read in full...)

Baby Mama is causing serious strain on us financially

Q.   My husband had an affair, and as a result now has a nine month old son from it. We are still together. We have been giving her money ($200/month)from the start (not the full amount that the court will make us pay but what we can afford for now.) ...

A.   17 April 2009: Giving a 9 month old swimming lessons is quite controversial and really unneccesary. The red cross refuses to give lessons to anyone under the age of 3. Yes, your husband should be contributing to diapers and a baby gate to keep the child safe. Bu... (read in full...)

What do we say when the bill arrives???

Q.   Hello all! I have a dilemma that I need help with. I am godmother to both of my friend's children and whilst she is a lovely, geunine person, her partner is the biggest waste of space ever... He has always taken advantage of me money wise by giving ...

A.   9 April 2009: So? How did it go? What happened?... (read in full...)

Does he still love his ex?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating for four years. I love him very much, and I can tell that he loves me. Unfortunately I think he is still in love with his ex. During our first 2 years she was never mentioned, although i knew he had dated he...

A.   9 April 2009: He may very well love you, I am not going to say he doesnt. But, yes, I do think he is pining over his lost love and may be with you only because she doesnt want him. My opinion may be quite colored on this though, because I went through something ... (read in full...)

No gift on my 40th birthday.....do I get him a birthday present?

Q.   Hi, I’d appreciate a few views on this. Ive been with my boyfriend a year and a half. We broke up for two weeks around valentines and my 40th birthday and I cant help feeling miffed that he didn’t get me anything for my birthday. He did send flowers ...

A.   9 April 2009: The two of you were actually broken up at the time of your birthday, correct? So for him to have gotten you an expensive present would have been innapropriate~ at that time. The fact that he got you flowers and took you out, even though you were ... (read in full...)

Being too harsh on my ex girlfriend?

Q.   I dumped my GF last year and we were on and off since then. I told her i would consider getting back with her if she lost weight she is a size 14-16 but good looking i must say, I prefer size 12. I just dumped her again recently and she's angry...

A.   9 April 2009: While most of the people on here have focused on your idiotic, shallow criticism for her dress size I noticed something else in your post. You said that the reason you dont want to be with her now is that the relationship has been more on her terms ... (read in full...)

I sent a fake picture to my boyfriend and now he has cancelled his flights to come and see me!

Q.   my boy friend has cancelled his flight today!!! simply because i told him that the picture i sent to him was not of me but belong to someone else,since he wants to meet in person by the weekend, and i have to tell him the truth. he was upset with...

A.   9 April 2009: He is not interested in seeing your real picture because it is not a matter of whether he will find you attractive or not, it is a matter of him not being able to trust you and that the person he cared about does not exist. If you sent a fake ... (read in full...)

Chances of her being pregnant?

Q.   My fiance and I had sex last night, we normally pull out but she was on top and we couldn't coordinate fast enough when I came so the first couple shots ended up getting inside her. It wasn't much and she went to the bathroom and washed out. Could ...

A.   9 April 2009: We count fertility by the day we START our period, not end it. So, if she ended on the 4th, I am presuming she started on the 30th or April 1st. That would mean that yesterday when you had sex she was on day 8 or 9 of her cycle. If she is on a 28 ... (read in full...)

How do I know when it is the right time to introduce my new man to my children?

Q.   I am divorced and have been seeing a guy for over 6 months (known him almost a yr). I am so in love with him and feel like I finally found the guy that was meant for me. I have 2 children, aged 4 and 2 1/2, and although he has met them, time with ...

A.   9 April 2009: There may never be a time when you can introduce the subject to your ex and not get 'harrassed' by him about it. But this is not about him, it is about you and your new relationship. He lost all say in how you run your life, especially you love ... (read in full...)

I want to marry two women and they both know about it, is there any way this can be legal?

Q.   If I marry two women and they both know and they approve of it is it legal if they both agree? And if not, is there a way that if they both sign legal documents through the courts through the laws can they both marry me then?...

A.   9 April 2009: This is called polyamory and is a lot more common than people would think. No, there is no way that I know of to make this legal. Even in Utah where the mormons regularly practice polygamy it isnt actually legal. The man marries his first wife and ... (read in full...)

He got hard talking to me via webcam....does this mean he still likes me?

Q.   hi so there is this guy he used to fancy me a while ago and i him but then he went away for a few months and we never spoke as it would cost far too much to text and ring anyways he came back but he had changed towards me he then said he didn't like ...

A.   9 April 2009: I have to agree with Cerebus here. It doesnt mean anything. Yes, indeed, guys do get 'hard over nothing', gettting a hard on has nothing whatsoever to do with emotional attatchment or with wanting a relationship, especially at this age.... (read in full...)

What do we say when the bill arrives???

Q.   Hello all! I have a dilemma that I need help with. I am godmother to both of my friend's children and whilst she is a lovely, geunine person, her partner is the biggest waste of space ever... He has always taken advantage of me money wise by giving ...

A.   30 March 2009: You either indicate to the waitress when you are placing your orders, "separate checks please" or when the bill arrives you look at it and say, "hmmmm. Looks like you guys owe $28 for your meals and we owe $32 for ours." It is pretty easy and you ... (read in full...)

Questions I need answered before I try anal sex!

Q.   Hiya, me and my partner are going to be having anal sex for the first time and I'd like to know if this is true - If you have anal sex regulary, every couple of months, does the women's hips and bum get bigger? Also when I'm 60 I won't be able ...

A.   25 March 2009: No, it wont make your butt bigger, but it could make your sphincter looser. Anal sex is awful, painful, degrading and disgusting. The anus is a one way street. Anal sex can cause all sorts of health problems. Why would you want to do this when ... (read in full...)

She is unsatisfied in sex with her husband

Q.   how do I know a woman i am looking for sexual relationship is also interested because she is unsatisfied in sex with her husband...

A.   25 March 2009: You dont know and even if she is interested and/or unsatisfied that does not justify you doing anything with her. Stay away. She is married and off limits.... (read in full...)

15 years later he appears... what does this mean?

Q.   Has anyone ever called out an individuals name (that you've never had a crush on) while having sex, and then 15 years later end up hooking up with that person? This is really driving me crazy... now I've known this particular person most of m...

A.   25 March 2009: The two things are totally unrelated. I dont think that the fact that you called out his name means you were somehow fated to be with him or any other silly connection you are trying to make. It is great that you two have now gotten together and I ... (read in full...)

Does Enzite REALLY work?

Q.   Is there any way to make your penis larger. I hear about things like enzite and all these others that make it bigger but do they really work? Do you have to keep taking them to keep it big, does it just make your erection big, or does it make your ...

A.   23 March 2009: enzyte is fake. It does not work. In fact, if I remember correctly they were sued for false and misleading advertizing. There is no pill you can take that will give you a bigger penis. There are no excercises that you can do to enlarge your penis. ... (read in full...)

He was keeping me a secret and I was the "one on the side"!

Q.   Earlier today i found out my boyfriend has been seeing someone else. He kept me a secret from eveyone important in his life and he didn't with this other girl. so i guess i was the 'one on the side'. Which really hurts. I called him up to t...

A.   21 March 2009: I am so sorry for you and I commend you for doing the right thing and dumping this loser. Please dont blame yourself for being the other woman when you didnt even know it. He is the lying, deceitful jackass and you are lucky you found out and got ... (read in full...)

Should I wait till the 6 weeks is up or take it that I am not pregnant?

Q.   Heya. I was just wondering, I have had my last period about 4 1/2 weeks ago which normally I don't have a period for like 6 Weeks. But recently I have been very tired, aching and some white quite thick sticky discharge. I have been told these are ...

A.   21 March 2009: Generally speaking you ovulate about 2 weeks before your period. So if you are on a normal cycle of 42 days, (rather than the more traditional 28 day cycle), that means that you ovulate and can become pregnant on or about day 28 until approxamately ... (read in full...)

What's my pregnancy risk from "dry sex"?

Q.   Hi... I'm with the most amazing person- we have been together for over 2 years now,but we have never had sex (I want to be a virgin until my marriage). However what we do is usually called 'dry sex' - we touch each other and let our 'bits' touch...

A.   21 March 2009: I am glad to hear you have already listened to the other aunts advice and calmed down. I will just add one more aunt saying to you that your risk of pregnancy is slim to none. Unless he ejaculated directly on your vaginal opening the chances are ... (read in full...)

Does he really mean what he says or do you think he's maybe just mad/upset?

Q.   I was dating this guy for 1,5 years. I'm foreign and graduating, therefore don't have permission to stay in the US. He asked me to marry him a couple of times but didnt really do anything about it. So there is one month left and I asked him if he ...

A.   25 November 2008: Thanks for the update. I hope you move on now yourself and good luck when you move back to your own country.... (read in full...)

Does he really mean what he says or do you think he's maybe just mad/upset?

Q.   I was dating this guy for 1,5 years. I'm foreign and graduating, therefore don't have permission to stay in the US. He asked me to marry him a couple of times but didnt really do anything about it. So there is one month left and I asked him if he ...

A.   20 November 2008: It is a little hard to gauge the answer here. It does seem to be conflicting information. I can understand why you are confused! But I will say this and you can determine if it seems pertinant. He may have been asking you to marry him, but not doing ... (read in full...)

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