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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Does a bruise on my boyfriend's stomach mean he is cheating?
Q. My boyfriend came home with a noticeable bruise to the right of his belly button last night and this concerns me. We have had rough sex many times but not recently. I asked him where he got it and he said he has no idea and just noticed it himself ...
A. 31 December 2016: What does he do for a living? What does he do for exercise? How old is he? Is it possible he has an underlying health condition? When was the last time he saw his doctor?
Why would a mysterious bruise elicit suspicion and not sympathy from you?
Ha... (read in full...)
I have a serious health issue and cannot have penetrative sex. Will I ever be able to have a normal relationship?
Q. Guys, would you date a 29-year old woman who is unable to have penetrative sex and unable to bear children? I'm wondering because you guessed it: that person is me. I have a really bad case of vaginismus (had it all my life for as far as I can tel...
A. 28 December 2016: Have you considered looking for a match with a man who for whatever reason cannot have an erection? I expect there are any number of great guys who would be happy that they would not be expected to perform intercourse.... (read in full...)
I'm in a FWB. Does his actions seem like he may like me more than sex?
Q. This is a question about FWB (friends with benefits) or a FB (f**k buddy) situation. There is a man that I have this type of relationship with. He confuses me because he is very affectionate with me around his friends, invites me to gatherings at ...
A. 22 December 2016: He kisses you in public gatherings so that other men know you are "his" so they don't approach you. It's his way of keeping you off the sexual menu of his acquaintances. It also keeps you in the mood and sweet on him. It takes no energy or effort to ... (read in full...)
I need help to find an outfit for my date!
Q. Help! I have a date on Saturday and I have no idea what to wear. He's taking me to a Christmas concert at a church, it's our second date. And I am totally at a loss. The concert has some really good artists performing, known nation wide. And...
A. 16 December 2016: I like it! Good choice. ... (read in full...)
I need help to find an outfit for my date!
Q. Help! I have a date on Saturday and I have no idea what to wear. He's taking me to a Christmas concert at a church, it's our second date. And I am totally at a loss. The concert has some really good artists performing, known nation wide. And...
A. 15 December 2016: I'm sure it'll be a great outfit! I like the idea of the dress and boots. It's all about accessories now. Have fun and let us know how it went!... (read in full...)
I need help to find an outfit for my date!
Q. Help! I have a date on Saturday and I have no idea what to wear. He's taking me to a Christmas concert at a church, it's our second date. And I am totally at a loss. The concert has some really good artists performing, known nation wide. And...
A. 15 December 2016: What is the outfit in your closet that makes you feel amazing? Wear that one! If it's too dressy wear a denim jacket over it. If it's too casual wear a fun funky necklace.... (read in full...)
Dogs versus the Christmas with family? I'm so angry right now, what do I do? I'm 32.
Q. I'm so annoyed right now. I've invited my parents to my house for Christmas but they've declined because I won't allow them to bring their dogs. They have 3 huge dogs and I don't want them in my house. I cannot believe they would rather sit alon...
A. 12 December 2016: I think that it is very odd they can’t manage to find a way to leave their dogs for 2 hours on Christmas. I would also be upset and unhappy; I would grouse and moan about it for a day or two to my spouse, and then, I would let it go.
They are the ... (read in full...)
Was 'going to the dentist' just a cover story? Was he ever 'seeing the dentist' ? Does the evidence suggest my husband is cheating?
Q. Here is an interesting question and it involves speculation and coming up with possible explanations. I am hoping to see how people think and what conclusions they can draw from this situation. It is something different from the usual. Might be ...
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Was 'going to the dentist' just a cover story? Was he ever 'seeing the dentist' ? Does the evidence suggest my husband is cheating?
Q. Here is an interesting question and it involves speculation and coming up with possible explanations. I am hoping to see how people think and what conclusions they can draw from this situation. It is something different from the usual. Might be ...
A. 8 December 2016: Hi OP, if you have been married to this man for 15 years, what else has happened that has caused you to hire a PI (incompetent PI for certain!)?
I recommend you read through this post http... (read in full...)
Was 'going to the dentist' just a cover story? Was he ever 'seeing the dentist' ? Does the evidence suggest my husband is cheating?
Q. Here is an interesting question and it involves speculation and coming up with possible explanations. I am hoping to see how people think and what conclusions they can draw from this situation. It is something different from the usual. Might be ...
A. 7 December 2016: If the PI is this incompetent to not observe who drove the car away, then he's probably tipped the husband already. What fun for the husband, to get his dental work done per schedule then vanish, leaving the PI with egg on his face and a lame ... (read in full...)
Suspicious my boyfriend might be talking to other women
Q. I live with my boyfriend. I noticed his battery lost 10 % battery power overnight. Is this possible when you do not use the phone? I ask because it has happened twice this week. He said it just fell off the charger. It has never happened before....
A. 5 December 2016: Yes, there are many apps that can drain a battery. That exchange you report sounds more like a text message conversation, not a face to face real life in person. Did you spend the night apart?
You are the one who seems angry. Checking his batt... (read in full...)
Shouldn't he ask I be included?
Q. My boyfriend and I live together. He has been invited to a wedding of a friend that I don't know. He has not been given a plus one but still wants to go. I feel that as we are a proper couple an invite should have been extended to me. If it is a ...
A. 2 December 2016: This sounds like showdown big decision post. As in, the entire future of your relationship rests on this one fulcrum point: either he gets you that invite to the wedding or he must divest himself of any contact with this friend--who has not been ... (read in full...)
How do I convince my girlfriend to indulge my ballbusting fetish?
Q. I've been dating a girl, that I love, for about six months. I also love ballbusting, and the problem is that she doesn't want to do it anymore. If you don't know what it is, just Google it. One session usually lasts about 30-60 minutes, dependi...
A. 27 November 2016: If she's tried it and finds it distasteful then there's not much you can do to change her mind.
Flip it this way: how could she change your mind to not have this fetish?
You probably need to search for a woman who is into BDSM, which is the aren... (read in full...)
Should I keep talking online to "her" if I have doubts about "her" ?
Q. I made friends chatting with a 'woman' online. Due to a bug, her e-mail address was revealed to me. (She doesn't know this.) The email address is a male's name. I'm just curious-- what do you think the chances are that this is a woman sharing an ...
A. 23 November 2016: Are you just chatting as friends or is there something else developing?
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She broke her virginity with my brother and friend
Q. Well this happened Saturday during her 18th Birthday celebration, after I left for the night. anyways she had a threesome with one of my best friends and my younger brother and lost her virginity as well. (they did it about four times that night), ...
A. 23 November 2016: Just to add to the chorus of those asking, why are you still with her?
Additionally, you need to distance yourself from your friend and your brother. They knew she was your girlfriend and proceeded anyway.
Find people with similar values to hang ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my uncaring in-laws over the holidays?
Q. Just to spare you the medical details: A few weeks ago, out of nowhere my elderly mom had to be hospitalized for a medical emergency. After 5 days she was released to a nursing home, but on Hospice. She Can no longer walk nor hold a conversation, ...
A. 23 November 2016: When my father was put in hospice care, the team aiding him had referrals to support groups. You need help if you are trying to minimize your perceived burden on others.
If this is your mother's last Thanksgiving then you are under no obli... (read in full...)
Why does my g/f want to go to planned parenthood to get checked out if she's a virgin?
Q. My girlfriend and me are both 15. She said she got her girl thing at 12 but she wants to go to planned parenthood to get looked at. Even her East Orthodox mama said no since she's a virgin and doesn't have to. I'm Pentecostal and I agree with her ...
A. 22 November 2016: As a 16-17 year old female yourself, you should consider starting routine gynecologist visits as well. You're a virgin as well and could use some personal safe sax counseling, discussion of the HPV vaccine, and basically a wellness check.... (read in full...)
How to avoid being tempted?
Q. Hello, Here is an interesting one for you. I am married (with kids). My wife is very beautiful (former Miss), we have great sex - I can get it on demand, whatever I want, I think I love her, surely I wouldn't want to hurt her. Yet, I can't sto...
A. 14 November 2016: "What is wrong with me?!? I need to find a way to stop being tempted or I'll go crazy. Any advice?”
vs.
“Being cerebral doesn’t mean that you don’t get tempted - in my case it means that I'm trying to analyze it logically, find the cause and a so... (read in full...)
Why won't my friend give me a chance?
Q. Hi I am a 52 year old man who has been in love with a female friend for 20 yrs I have helped her through many rough times. she does know how I feel but says she doesn't know why she won't give me a chance I know I would make her and her Childrens ...
A. 14 November 2016: I’d advise you to cut off contact with her. If she’s been relying on you financially and emotionally for 20 years then she’s a master emotional manipulator, a user or a hopeless individual who will never learn from her mistakes.
If you’ve been givi... (read in full...)
Does he have too much baggage?
Q. I'm dating a guy that is a 100% gentleman, is God-fearing, has a great job, is goal-driven and has committed to being celibate with me..But, he is divorced (for 5 years now), and has two children (10 years old and 7 years old). He's 33, so I can ...
A. 14 November 2016: Well, you asked a lot of questions and had some answers. I’d say it could work, depending on your compatibility. The resume you presented seems fine so what is your hesitation?... (read in full...)
Our fights have become over the top!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. We have had our ups and downs. On occasion, I have had to walk away and take a "break," because the arguments become so personal and heated and so incredibly loud, and I cannot stand the insults any ...
A. 14 November 2016: “He says since he doesn’t hit me, I have no reason to be scared and I am being dramatic and deceitful.” Bullshit.
That’s a bullshit argument and he’s a bullshit boyfriend and you are being bullshitted.
In other words, in polite English, you are ... (read in full...)
Would it be rude to not get back to a co-worker? She wants to sell me insurance!
Q. 2 weeks ago,one of my co-workers that I’m cool with ,approched me and asked when I’m free.I said I was not sure and ask why she was asking.She proceeded to tell me that she needs help with something she is starting but she doesn’t want to discuss ...
A. 14 November 2016: I agree with Honeypie.
I would set up a couple of pre-timed “emergency” texts that arrive during your scheduled time with her.
You can ignore them if all is well but if it’s a sales pitch just say, “sorry, I need to respond to these texts. Email me... (read in full...)
I don’t to give my girlfriend visible hickies or love bites!
Q. Adults only please; this questions is not suitable for young readers. My gf has grown to love rough sex that leaves marks. I oblige but I draw the line at anything visible - often neck hickies or love bits. I don't want others to either see her a...
A. 14 November 2016: You don’t have to participate in sexual acts that make you uncomfortable or expose you to the risk of being accused of being an abusive partner.
When I had eyelid surgery on one eye (due to a large lump that interfered with my vision), I had an ENOR... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend a massive jerk who doesn’t care?
Q. My boyfriend doesn't seem to care about me or get upset when genuinely bad things happen to me. I've had a massive argument with him today and I'm wondering if it's because he's a total jerk or do most people get this way when they can't handle a ...
A. 14 November 2016: I think rather than accusing your boyfriend of being a massive jerk or not caring, that you should reframe your question to this:
“Where do I go to get help for still being triggered by certain events, for having panic attacks, and for not havi... (read in full...)
I fear I'll regret breaking up with him
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend of 2 years but I'm worried I'll regret it. I love him a lot and I don't even know if this is the right choice or not. He's nice sometimes and used to make me happy all of the time for the first year, but now ...
A. 14 November 2016: He’s threatening you with CUTTING HIMSELF? That’s emotional blackmail. Tell his parents immediately. Tell a teacher. Tell the principal. Tell the school counselor. Tell an adult TODAY.
You are in an unhealthy relationship and need to get help IMME... (read in full...)
What does it mean if your bf stays up all night trying to convince you he isn't cheating?
Q. What does it mean when your boyfriend stays up with you all night after you accuse him of cheating on you, trying to convince you he ISN'T? Does it mean he really isn't cheating? Or does it mean he is doing his best to throw you off track because ...
A. 13 November 2016: So an reading article on the internet and his busy schedule and a new hire made you suspicious of your boyfriend?
There are so many articles out there, about so many things, why did this one start this mistrust?
Fascinating that reading a random... (read in full...)
What does it mean if your bf stays up all night trying to convince you he isn't cheating?
Q. What does it mean when your boyfriend stays up with you all night after you accuse him of cheating on you, trying to convince you he ISN'T? Does it mean he really isn't cheating? Or does it mean he is doing his best to throw you off track because ...
A. 13 November 2016: This question really shows that you have no trust whatsoever in your boyfriend. No one here will be able to tell you which camp your boyfriend would fall into: the caring innocent one or the conniving cheater one.
You don't trust your boyf... (read in full...)
How can I stop beating myself up for making same mistake twice?
Q. I recently was dating an awesome person and long story short, I wrecked my chances with them and turned them off completely. It's unfixable, trust me. If this mistake was something I had never learned about before, I'd just say "I just didn't know...
A. 9 November 2016: Of course someone has been on your situation. There are billions of people on the planet who can mess up their relationships in all sorts of ways.
If you are experiencing obsessive thinking about this then you should look into getting help for that... (read in full...)
Does my girlfriend take any responsibility in our relationship?
Q. Hey dearcupid readers, Just wanted some thoughts on this. I'm a guy and I've been with my girlfriend for almost three years; we are still at university but living together off campus. I love her dearly but recently something that has been going o...
A. 9 November 2016: So why did you, a modern type of guy, choose her, a not-modern type of girl?... (read in full...)
How can I tell my wife that her sister has started to appear in my fantasies?
Q. My wife and I are generally very open with eachother about our fantasies. They usually just come out during intimacy. Lately, however, I've been having a fantasy that I want to be a bit more subtle when I tell her about it. My new fantasies have ...
A. 8 November 2016: There is absolutely no best way to tell someone you're having sexual fantasies about her sister. Once that information is out there, it's out there.
Just like there's no best way to tell a man you think he has a small penis.
Iis part of your fan... (read in full...)
I cheated, ended things but not sure what to do now
Q. Im married, with two kids. I did the dumbest thing in my life. I cheated on my wife after 7 years together. I was stupid, feel like scum and have this knot in my stomach that will not go away. To make things worse, I started with a condom and som...
A. 25 October 2016: I know siblings who found out 50 years after Dad's "indiscretion" that they had a half-sister. Dad was dead, and it has been a very upsetting time for his children . I guess Dad was basically an awful person.
If you're not an awful person, I'd sugg... (read in full...)
Why would my ex want sex with me when he loves his girlfriend?
Q. why would my ex bf want to have sex with me so bad when he loves his girlfriend so much? me and him stay in the same hood, he is always with her but he will text me and tell me he misses sex with me and our relationship was not serious as I thought ...
A. 20 October 2016: “Dude, I’m taking screenshots of our conversations, WITH YOUR NUMBER VISIBLE, and if you send me another text about missing sex with me, I will forward them to your girlfriend.”
Why are you still talking to this guy anyway? Block him, delete him,... (read in full...)
These are the facts. Is it the end?
Q. HELP! My decision to end a relationship depends largely on your advice. What would you do if you found out your boyfriend went to a medical appointment in the city and then visited a hotel before going home? And he did not tell you he was a...
A. 20 October 2016: The relationship is dead. No trust. It's over.
You've been advised many times to end the relationship. You've also been advised to get some counseling.
Do both those things and you'll be closer to the peace you are so frantically and mistaken... (read in full...)
My girlfriend says she's bored of sex and I'm fantasizing about other women. We're doomed, right?
Q. Mf gf said she is bored of sex yet I am the only one trying to be kinky or sexy in bed. It's doing my head in. Maybe I should be honest with her and tell her Ive been fantasizing about other women because you arent doing anything anymore. I have ...
A. 19 October 2016: Find out if she's having orgasms. I'm not joking. She may not be and has been lying to you to protect your feelings.
If she's bored and you've been trying kinky sexy things I'm pretty sure you two are not connecting in the way you think you are ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's unreasonable for a husband to request that his wife not kiss mutual male friends hello and goodbye on the lips?
Q. Do you think it's unreasonable for a husband to request that his wife not kiss mutual male friends hello and goodbye on the lips? We only have one male friend who does this. He does it to other wives as well. He had been a mutual friend for 10 ye...
A. 18 October 2016: OP, I have to ask is this the only problem in your marriage? That your wife accepts the social kisses of a man you've been friends with for 10 years?
Does she spend a lot of time alone with him? Do you see this man every day, every week, every mont... (read in full...)
Did my letter to him mean I've lost him for good?
Q. This guy I been talk to for years I broke of with him he never would ask me out it's been over 3yrs and never ask me he always come up with excuse not go out with me I see him about veryday when he goes by me and I he see me stand their when h...
A. 18 October 2016: He never asked you out. After years of "talking."
I don't think sending him the letter was a mistake. I think you were being brave and trying to get an answer.
Sadly, the answer is that he doesn't like you the way you like him.
If you don't ... (read in full...)
Why should we wait when we want to married now?
Q. I met my girlfriend when we were both in grade 3. We have been. Friends every since and started dating when we were 16. I recently proposed to her and she said yes but we have gotten many mixed responses from family and friends. I did ask her ...
A. 12 October 2016: Are you 18 or 21?... (read in full...)
Should her locked phone be a deal breaker?
Q. Ok I've been with my woman now for a good bit over 2 years. Nov. 5th, at 9:20, will make 3 year's for us. We've put each other through a lot but the situations she's put me in are far worst than the things I did. We're moving past that. I mean I ...
A. 12 October 2016: I think it would depend on the situations she's put you in, what you've put each other through and more background in order for us to answer the question. ... (read in full...)
How do I raise this issue with my husband? So that my husband will raise the issue with the girl's mother?
Q. Hi, id just like some advice regarding children as no matter what choice i make i fear im going to upset someone. my husband and i have a son. My husband also still sees his step daughter from his relationship before me. He sees her two Saturday...
A. 6 October 2016: It would help the aunts to know the children's ages.
In the meantime I'd keep it super simple. "Your Daddy is such a good Daddy! He loves you and also Jacob!"
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is in debt due to paying some of her adult son's expenses. Should I help her financially? She hasn't asked me to
Q. My gf works in a low paid job.I also work, and earn more than her, but not a fortune.Which is why I pay for all our holidays, going out to restaurants, and most of her new clothes (which she spends quite a lot on). On the other side, I live in her ...
A. 3 October 2016: The good news is that she owns her own home: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-should-we-divide-up-living-costs-in.html It’s rather surprising that you haven’t worked this out after this many years. In another post you report you have been tog... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is in debt due to paying some of her adult son's expenses. Should I help her financially? She hasn't asked me to
Q. My gf works in a low paid job.I also work, and earn more than her, but not a fortune.Which is why I pay for all our holidays, going out to restaurants, and most of her new clothes (which she spends quite a lot on). On the other side, I live in her ...
A. 3 October 2016: One thing to add, how much extra are you paying for the insurance on an empty property? In personal experience, it wasn’t possible for us to afford to leave a vacant property because the insurance company wouldn’t insure it.
Unless you are misr... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is in debt due to paying some of her adult son's expenses. Should I help her financially? She hasn't asked me to
Q. My gf works in a low paid job.I also work, and earn more than her, but not a fortune.Which is why I pay for all our holidays, going out to restaurants, and most of her new clothes (which she spends quite a lot on). On the other side, I live in her ...
A. 3 October 2016: Hi there! You wrote about this girlfriend two years ago, I think: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/who-do-i-leave-my-money-to.html In that post, you were wondering how much money to leave to your girlfriend and if you could cut off your bone-idle ... (read in full...)
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