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My LDR boyfriend wants to try to have a baby but we would still be long distance after the baby was born.

Q.   hi guys and girls, i need some advice, i cant wrap my head around a situation what could happen. Me and my long distance relationship have been talking about the future, ( before I go into too much detail, we have been together over a year and a ha...

A.   19 May 2017: If you feel this is your last chance at having a child (ticking clock) and if you are fully prepared to be a single mother, and if you have done your sums and believe you can support a child then go for it. ... (read in full...)

So hard to control my feelings

Q.   I've been in a problematic "relationship" with a married acquaintance from my work for the past few months. We aren't full-time co-workers but we work together alone enough when he's around. I'm 23 and he's around 39-40ish. I had developed a bit ...

A.   17 May 2017: This pig of a man has four little babies relying on him ... what are his intentions, besides a quick session of sex with a young female, towards you. I understand about attractions, and he certainly isn't doing anything to put a stop to it is he... (read in full...)

Help me with this family situation, my father thinks I'm avoiding an event!

Q.   I have a difficult situation with my over 65 yr old parents Need advice please My parents live in another state that is a 1hour plane flight away I visit once a year and they come to my state, once a year to visit and and we talk on phone sometim...

A.   17 May 2017: An Aunt of mine insisted nobody but her immediate family be told she was terminal until AFTER her 75th birthday .... she wanted to see everybody happy and smiling when they gathered to celebrate. She died a few weeks later. Are you 100% sure you... (read in full...)

Help me with this family situation, my father thinks I'm avoiding an event!

Q.   I have a difficult situation with my over 65 yr old parents Need advice please My parents live in another state that is a 1hour plane flight away I visit once a year and they come to my state, once a year to visit and and we talk on phone sometim...

A.   17 May 2017: Cant? Or wont? Are you casual, and don't have any holidays you could take? Would it be possible to change your regular annual trip to happen in July rather than when you normally would? Your mother is getting old, she may feel (or even know) h... (read in full...)

Why is my partner continuing to flirt on line with other women? What should I do?

Q.   My partner and I met on a date site we both came off. Then he went back on so I had my broadband to block all sites. He now has a game on his phone where he can talk dirty to others. Why is he doing this? He never talks dirty to me ...

A.   9 May 2017: You cancelling your broadband didn't stop the behaviour you didn't like. Does the fact he was using your broadband mean he lives with you?? He is doing it because he can and because he doesn't have any respect for you. If he lives with you t... (read in full...)

Cheating in a LDR. What advice can you give to me re my Gf who I think may be cheating?

Q.   This is my long distance relationship. We are dating 6 months. I met my girlfriend through my cousin. In our relationship, she is always showing to me that she is nice girl, and a faithful wife in future. She treat me very nice. About my girlf...

A.   9 May 2017: This woman is not going to admit she was cheating. There is no benefit to her for doing that. You already know that this girl has sex very easily with men, you already suspect her reason for being your girlfriend is to get into the US, and you ... (read in full...)

My friends have started to act childish. How can I sort this out?

Q.   Unfortunately this sounds like children. I have a few friends ive never been interested in having lots of friends . Due to work and family commitments we dont get to see each other much nor message much. Two friends ive not spoken to in 2 month...

A.   9 May 2017: You have learnt something very valuable here, you know your ex best friend is not a person to be trusted. You also know the girl who was a bully is now a woman who is a bully. Personally I can't see why you would want to keep these people in ... (read in full...)

Pipeline wives: how do you do it?

Q.   my husband has presented the idea of him going to work on the pipeline on and off for the past two years or so now. i feel bad because every time he brings it up, i turn into a bitch (i'm woman enough to admit that) and nag until he drops it. i know ...

A.   7 May 2017: If you have no children or other ties then why not apply for a job as well. There are sure to be positions on site available to suit you, administration or maintenance, cleaning or even working in the mess. (I am basing my suggestions on the ... (read in full...)

What do I tell my child if he wants to know about his father's side of the family? My ex has another son, do I tell my child about him?

Q.   !6 years ago i was in a relationship and had a baby , the ex decided he didnt want us both so 'disappeared' moved away and denied it was his child. He was 8 years older than me i was 23 so not like we were young and didnt know about things. I neve...

A.   5 May 2017: When your child asks the questions give him age appropriate truthful answers.... (read in full...)

My husband is almost forcing me to have sex with my lesbian neighbor

Q.   Hi, my husband has recently come home after a month away and suddenly started wanting me to have sex with my lesbian next door neighbour, he doesn't want to watch or be involved at all. We have known she has a crush on me for a long time and given ...

A.   5 May 2017: Give your husband a choice, back off or move out. It seems odd that he is wanting you to have sex elsewhere after being away for a month. I would be asking him if he did anything while he was away which is now influencing his behaviour. Did he h... (read in full...)

Need some advice on a love-triangle situation, please?

Q.   Hello everyone, I would like some insight on a particular scenario involving two women, one of which is my current girlfriend and the other a friend and also pseudo-romantic interest. Let me explain the backstory. I met two different...

A.   4 May 2017: If you like C more than you like J, then you gently and respectfully break it off with J. It will be better for J to be hurt now rather than a few more months down the track. There is also the fact it is unfair for you to still be dating J while ... (read in full...)

What do you do when your bridal party and family cannot get along while making plans for your wedding shower and bachelorette party?

Q.   What do you do when your bridal party and family cannot get along while making plans for your wedding shower and bachelorette party? I have a Pinterest board setup and shared it with my bridal party and they are having opposing views on what they ...

A.   2 May 2017: You might be asking people to outlay a lot of money .... I've noticed it is getting expensive to accept a wedding invitation, and family members are in no position to refuse. Then there's your shower (another gift to be purchased) and the ... (read in full...)

Is it too late to change careers?

Q.   Not sure if this is the usual question on here but I would love advice. I work in finance, managing retirement funds. I have been in the industry for over 10 years and have been good at it. Lately I have felt incapable of making decisions follow...

A.   28 April 2017: Talk to your wife and get her onboard. I would also consider talking to your GP for a referral for a few counselling sessions, it seems you are taking the few bad decisions made difficult to reconcile with ... its possible you might feel better ... (read in full...)

My partner versus my children. Am I over-reacting about it all ?

Q.   I've had a big argument with my partner and I'm wondering if I'm in the wrong about it all. I have two children from a previous relationship who are 13 and 11 and I think they are well behaved. They do extremely well in school, at parents evening ...

A.   26 April 2017: Your partner is a prat! I am assuming you live in the same house, whose it is? The fact he compares your parenting skills unfavourably to their step mother's even though he has never seen her interacting with your children says heaps. He is a... (read in full...)

Where do I stand in this relationship? What can I say to him to get the answers I need? 2

Q.   So I've been talking/meeting this guy since last May, which is nearly a year ! He says he doesn't want to rush into a relationship because his last girlfriend cheated on him. And he tells me to be patient for a relationship because he will have to...

A.   26 April 2017: There is nothing you can say that will get your boyfriend caring more about you and being interested in your and what is happening in your life .... he simply doesn't appear to be there for you. From the outside looking in it appears he is just ... (read in full...)

Should I be unfriendly and block my ex on facebook?

Q.   Am no longer in a relationship but remain on FB as friends. The man private messages me with casual conversation frequently but doesn't openly address my posts/pictures. He recently asked me if he should accept a friend request from a superior at ...

A.   22 April 2017: If you believe he is using facebook to taunt you and also feel slighted by him, then yes, unfriend and block him as well. You are under no obligation to remain friends on facebook, just like he is under no obligation to like your pictures. ... (read in full...)

Why 25 later after an affair with my wife does this ex friend want to get together?

Q.   My wife had a intense two year long affair with a single friend of ours back 25 years ago...we had tried a threesome with him,after a nite of drinking, and I found out rather quickly that I wasnt into it, but as it worked out my wife and this other ...

A.   22 April 2017: It doesn't really matter what his reasons are ... what matters is how you feel about it. Would YOU be happy for the friendship to be rekindled? Would having him back in your lives add anything positive? Personally I wouldn't be able to get past... (read in full...)

My husband pays far too much attention to his brother's chesty girlfriend

Q.   My husbands younger brother has this girlfriend she's quite pretty and has a large chest and everyone loves her and all the rest of it bla bla bla. My husband openly stares at her in front of everybody it's like he doesn't even try to hide it even ...

A.   19 April 2017: It doesn't sound like they are having an affair but it does sound like your husband doesn't have a problem disrespecting you. Comparing you unfavourably to another woman is hurtful, I don't care how many times he says it was just a joke, he is ig... (read in full...)

When I try to talk to my girlfriend about her flaws it always turns into an argument

Q.   Okay so i have a girlfriend and i love her to bits but sometimes she can doing very annoying things, but whenever i bring them up she acts like its a massive problem and it always turns into an argument....

A.   19 April 2017: We ALL do things that annoy other people to varying degrees ... so really we need a little bit more information about the sorts of things you find annoying. Me, I would find it very difficult to stay in a relationship with somebody who picked t... (read in full...)

I had to cancel my wedding because of my boyfriend's attitude, I'm still trying to make it work but he has nothing to offer to the relationship and wants me to justify why I want to get married!

Q.   I've been in a relationship with my partner for six, almost seven years. We got together in our early 30's and are now in our late 30's. I've always been very vocal about what I want from our relationship - a long term commitment with marriage an...

A.   18 April 2017: You have tried long and hard enough. He isn't going to change. You don't trust him. You live in separate rooms. He refuses to get help for his medical issues. What's there to stay for? You need to decide if you are content to live like thi... (read in full...)

Is it worth breaking up over this situation?

Q.   Alright so this is kind of a confusing situation for me and I'm really in need of opinions/advice. I've been with my fiance for a little over 3 years. A couple months ago, I found out that he was talking to another woman basically the same way...

A.   17 April 2017: Oh, excuse me, did you not notice your fiancé is a liar, a scammer, thief and a cheat? How come the fact he is lying to another woman to scam (steal) money from her slipped your notice, or are you okay with that? How would he think you would ... (read in full...)

I have my ex husband's last name. My current boyfriend wants me to change back to my maiden name. Should I?

Q.   My boyfriend does not like that I have kept the surname of my ex husband. It is just easier as my child's last name would be the same as mine. My boyfriend said it does not matter if my child's last name is different from his mother. I ...

A.   15 April 2017: Its YOUR name, a name you are comfortable with and that you share with your child ... unless your boyfriend can give a valid, well thought out reason for you to CONSIDER his request just tell him no. ... (read in full...)

Am I selfish and bad to be feeling so disappointed that he reneged on his original decision to aim to propose to me soon?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have talked about getting married for a while, and a few months back he told me when he'd hope to propose. I was getting very excited. That time-frame hasn't happened yet, however now he is saying he simply cannot afford the ring...

A.   14 April 2017: Would you be happy with a piece of sting tied in a knot around your finger as a symbol of his promise or a much less expensive ring ... you sound as if you would. Him telling you he intended proposing was a promise of sorts, and he has broken i... (read in full...)

I still think of my ex all the time. Does that suggest that I should break up with the new lady, who I am currently dating?

Q.   Am seeing some one new, for the last couple months, so my question is, what does it mean when I say, ''I wish my ex would of treated me this good''. Does it mean I should break up with the new one? I still think of my ex all the time, over a year ...

A.   5 April 2017: By holding tight onto memories of your ex, who did not treat you well, you are unable to open your arms wide to accept all the good things this new relationship could bring. You need to decide if you are going to continue holding tight to the past... (read in full...)

Mr E makes me feel like a woman. Yet my unsatisfactory boyfriend does make time for me. Which one will be the best choice?

Q.   Hello aunts, I am in a bit of a mix here and I know I have complicated everything so much and would appreciate your candid advice. The issue is between my ex boyfriend who I refuse to let go and who loves me, refuses to let me go and an old acqu...

A.   3 April 2017: There is a third choice, chose neither and spend some time contemplating what you want from life ... set some life goals that don't rely on any body else, determine if you want to travel or get your own home, if you need to study more or take a ... (read in full...)

I don't want to work in the office anymore. But should I tell the agency and end up jobless? what should I do?

Q.   Recently I've been feeling down, upset and fed up with my life. I have many things going on and I just can't see life getting better at the moment. I sometimes think that it would be much easier and better being with my mum, since she passed a...

A.   3 April 2017: First up I am sorry to hear about your Mum, its never easy to lose a parent but for it to happen to you at such a young age would be difficult to bear. While I would never advocate somebody stay in a job where they are unhappy, as you seem to ... (read in full...)

Why are those women items still laying around, is he lying?

Q.   Hi, So The times that I have gone to my boyfriends apartment, I have seen around 3 or 4 woman stuff laying around, on the bathroom, I saw a black eyeliner, closed kotex pads, thrown in a corner of the bathroom, there was also like two shopping bags ...

A.   2 April 2017: They broke up 2013 its now 2017 and he hasn't cleaned up once for at least three years. Ewww! Is it safe to assume he is better at personal hygiene than he is at keeping his home clean? I'd be mentioning the women's items and asking him if th... (read in full...)

I want to release my creativity but fear keeps taking over. What can I do?

Q.   I want to release my creativity by doing things and possibly making a youtube channel. But every time I attempt any type of art, I overthink it, make it more than what it seems. I let my fears take over and weigh me down. Singing makes me hap...

A.   2 April 2017: Join an amateur theatre club, start off small and go from there, or see if there are any singing groups that meet to sing for fun (not a serious choir) and join. Find a night school or similar and do some short courses or weekend workshops in all ... (read in full...)

My partners family are ruining our relationship and I don't know what to do!

Q.   Hi, just looking for some advice please My partners family are ruining our relationship and I don't know what to do. Background info- we've been together 2 years, live together (against their wishes). I'm 25 and he's 26. I have never given ...

A.   31 March 2017: Where does he see your relationship in say 12 months, 2 years, 5 years .... does he believe the relationship he has with you is permanent or simply a gap filler? What if you fell pregnant tomorrow? What then, what of the child and the fact his... (read in full...)

He wants us to get married but to keep it secret!

Q.   Ok here is my story. My boyfriend of 7 months is asking me to marry him secretly in summer and not telling anyone because he wants to give his 14 years old child enough time to feel more comfortable. we want to buy a house as I don't want to move ...

A.   30 March 2017: Secret marriage? Are you sure he isn't still married somewhere else? It all seems a bit dodgy to me. Also you say HE is pushing for a big wedding and honeymoon, HE is wanting a wedding in the fall, however you also say he wants to marry in the s... (read in full...)

I want more sex but he would rather masturbate to porn with young girls with boobs!

Q.   We have lived together 2.5 years. I'm 44 with 2 grown up kids living at home, he is 40. He works 10.5 hour days with an extra hour on top for travelling and claims to be too tired for sex. We will usually have sex once a week, sometimes twice a week ...

A.   27 March 2017: You have told him you don't like porn in the relationship and he agreed to stop but it has happened at least 5 times since then ..... So, what are YOU going to do now, he doesn't have enough sex with you and he uses porn which you have asked hi... (read in full...)

I am confused! Why didn't my professor call when I left her my number?

Q.   I'm in 4th year of Psychology school, and I am 23 years old. There's this older professor (a woman, in fact). She was married a few times (five, to be exact, all to men), there are rumors that she hooks up with students (not sure which sex), and ...

A.   27 March 2017: She is your professor, and you are her student, it really is none of your business what goes on inside her head, it is also none of your business if she has been married five times nor if those marriages were to men or women. Stop with the goss... (read in full...)

Going silent on me after I asked him how he felt about me by telling me he would talk to me when he is ready.

Q.   Hi. I don't know what to make of my bf's behavior. I asked him a week and a half ago ago who he felt about me, because we are in a long distance relationship and do not get to see one another very often. I don't know how he feels about me, th...

A.   26 March 2017: What a horrible, manipulative controlling person he sounds. You are correct when you say you can't accept his behaviour as healthy! I doubt very much he has broken up with you but more wishes to punish you for bringing up subjects he doesn't ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend didn't contact me and I'm angry

Q.   My bf was at a lunch at a client today and then they went to a hotel bar with the guys for drinks. He hardly contacted me during the lunch nor told me they were going to a bar afterwards. I had to contact him and ask him what he was up to because he ...

A.   25 March 2017: If your boyfriend's income, whether he owns a business or is an employee or contractor, depends on him taking clients to lunch, or to a bar, then he is effectively working and private phone calls could, in the vast majority of cases, be deemed ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend didn't contact me and I'm angry

Q.   My bf was at a lunch at a client today and then they went to a hotel bar with the guys for drinks. He hardly contacted me during the lunch nor told me they were going to a bar afterwards. I had to contact him and ask him what he was up to because he ...

A.   25 March 2017: If your boyfriend's income, whether he owns a business or is an employee or contractor, depends on him taking clients to lunch, or to a bar, then he is effectively working and private phone calls could, in the vast majority of cases, be deemed ... (read in full...)

Do you think I have the right be upset since technically he is still married?

Q.   I moved to a new town and got a job as a server at a local restaurant. One of my co workers is very cute and a lot of the girls like him. They are always going out as groups and hanging out with each other outside of work. We became really ...

A.   24 March 2017: This post seems to have degenerated .... I've looked through the responses by the original poster ... where does she say she is a single mother with only a brother for family This is not a forum for slanging matches. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend does not like my ex husband doing my laundry!

Q.   My boyfriend does not like my ex husband doing my laundry. He called my ex a saint for doing it and said he must care about me to do it still. Like there is an emotional connection and he feels I should finish with the relationship entirely. But the ...

A.   23 March 2017: Uh oh! You share a child with your ex, the child, as well as yourself, will generate laundry. Your option is to use a laundromat, which costs, or ex husband will do laundry for you at no cost which effectively gives you more cash in hand to ... (read in full...)

Married five months and husband wants me to have an abortion.

Q.   I've recently got married to my husband. We are very happy, and I have never felt more secure in all my life. We agreed to wait a few years before having children, and to focus on renovating our house which we brought before Christmas. We'll on ...

A.   23 March 2017: Your feelings of being let down are completely understandable. If you husband, bless his cotton socks, hadn't 100% wanted a baby yet he should have either tied a knot in it or practiced abstinence. Tell him to take his childish tantrum home to ... (read in full...)

Whose last name do I give to my baby?

Q.   My mom thinks I should give the baby the fathers last name but I don't think I should because I'm not married to him and he isn't in the picture. Won't that be an issue at school for my son and wherever I take him, if we have different last nam...

A.   22 March 2017: You are the child's parent, it appears you will be responsible for making the major decisions and also the day to day care of this child. Give him your name ....his absent father's name is not one to be proud of. Good luck and best wishes t... (read in full...)

What are the chances of success and happiness for women STARTING new relationships after the age of 50?

Q.   I've read horrible statistic that the odds of a woman marrying after 50 are something less than winning the lottery . What the hell ? Is this true . Are we really that unattractive and unwanted? What are women's experiences with STARTING new...

A.   22 March 2017: My father in law, a widower, was in his late 50s, married a lady in her 50s, and they had a happy marriage for 30 years ... HOWEVER personal observations do suggest women in their 50s are less likely to become involved in loving relation... (read in full...)

Do you think I have the right be upset since technically he is still married?

Q.   I moved to a new town and got a job as a server at a local restaurant. One of my co workers is very cute and a lot of the girls like him. They are always going out as groups and hanging out with each other outside of work. We became really ...

A.   21 March 2017: Separated from his wife for a month and already getting close and smooching up with the new girl. I think that is a very good indication of what he thinks of marriage. Yes, you have the right to be upset and I think you should let him know how... (read in full...)

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