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A guy I was seeing went quiet on me, he says he is following legal advise.

Q.   Im just wondering what are peoples thoughts. I was seeing a guy who went quiet on me we had been seeing each other for 6 month. i heard from him a handful of times in 2 month and didnt get to see him . I didnt sit about waiting for him i got on with ...

A.   19 April 2018: Sounds weird, the only way I can see people being requested to stay off social media is if they are using it for illegal purposes, such as harassing or stalking others. For some reason your letter reminds me of a guy who used to go around claiming... (read in full...)

I have an ex that wont let go.

Q.   Me and my ex girlfriend split up 4, maybe even closer to 5 years ago. In the end, she got quite nasty and I ended up blocking her on Facebook. Fast forward a few years and I get a message request from a previously deactivated account of hers,...

A.   19 April 2018: Next time she pops up on social media immediately block HER. This means she wont be able to contact you via that profile again. If you have a spare few hours you could also actively do a search across facebook for her, using a combination of names ... (read in full...)

I'm back with my ex but sometimes he is not enthusiastic!

Q.   My ex and I were together for 2.5 years. I ended the relationship about a year ago due to his immature habits (gambling and binge drinking on weekends). After the break up we tried working on things but ultimately not enough time had passed and ...

A.   18 April 2018: Sounds as if he is not as committed to the reconciliation as you are ... It might be time for THE TALK. Ask him for his long term plans and where he sees you within those plans, and if you ARE front and centre get a time line. Its possible ... (read in full...)

Should I be thankful for the little I've got?

Q.   Yes, mod, I’m 17. The only person I can talk to about my depression and anxiety is my boyfriend but I’m stuck in a polygamous relationship with him and his girlfriend. However, I love him and I’m getting tired of sharing him. I just want his body ...

A.   18 April 2018: It sound's like this polygamous relationship makes you way more miserable than it makes you happy. Your first sentence reveals a lot more about this relationship than you might think ... you say you are stuck with him and his girlfriend ... not ... (read in full...)

How do I handle my girlfriends past?

Q.   I would like to start out by saying that I consider myself very open minded. I am divorced from a 6 year marriage and am on good terms with. I have even made good friends with my ex-wife’s boyfriend and we hang out occasionally. My current ...

A.   17 April 2018: Its quite important to know why her 15 year relationship ended, did he cheat, did he ignore her while he did his own thing, had he had other sex partners besides your current girlfriend or was she, like he was for her, their only previous sexual ... (read in full...)

A question about my graduation

Q.   Hello everyone. I'm graduating from college next month and students have the possibility to choose the teacher who will give them their dimploma during the ceremony. There's a teacher I totally admire: she's a brilliant teacher, she is close but ...

A.   17 April 2018: It doesn't really matter what you think she thinks of you, what matters is that you admire her as a teacher and have learnt a lot due to her professionalism. Ask her, and if you have to nominate why, just tell her the above. Congratulatio... (read in full...)

Why is she so attention seeking??

Q.   Yesterday a 44 yr old female work colleague with 5 kids had her wisdom teeth out,she posted a post surgery selfie of her swollen face on our works fbook page, Is this pure attention seeking? She’s a quiet and good worker, invisible.. like...

A.   17 April 2018: I don't see your colleague's actions as attention seeking, and certainly NOT narcissistic or needy, she's simply different to you, and I think you are just a bit jealous of the fact she has a husband and five kids to support her, and she also has ... (read in full...)

He compliments others and insults me.

Q.   My partner of many years verbally attacked me for the things I do to 'beautify' myself such as have hair nails and skin appointments etc done . I have never had cosmetic surgery and am not going to. He says I'm insecure and he wants someone who is ...

A.   16 April 2018: Maybe a few counselling sessions are in order before you make your final decision, there must have been a spark of something there for you to agree to marry him. If he refuses, or if, after a few sessions, he doesn't seem to be able to "get it"... (read in full...)

My girlfriend left, I want to fix it but she is ignoring me.

Q.   My girlfriend of 12 years has just left me. For the last 4 years we've lived together in our own place after a spell living with her family, we moved in shortly after my father passed away. I really struggled to deal with my father's passing...

A.   16 April 2018: It sounds as if you have been mistreating your girlfriend for at least three years .... three years of sustained abuse cannot be wiped with the application of a few (insincere) apologies. I agree with the previous answerer, you don't sound as if ... (read in full...)

I am in the wrong for talking to my married coworker as a friend?

Q.   I am in the wrong for talking to my married coworker as a friend? Hello aunts I want to preference that I would never commit adultery - simply I don’t want the karma and believe in it . Long story short the colleague that hired me is 44 I’m 32 ...

A.   16 April 2018: On the surface it seems your colleague is acting in the capacity of a mentor at work ... what has happened to make you question this now? Did he make unwanted sexual overtures or did his jokes get more serious and "unfunny? Has somebody else qu... (read in full...)

Should I sue my ex?

Q.   I broke up with my boyfriend 2 weeks ago, It was not a nice relationship at all . We have been together for 2 years, he cheated on me twice, he stole money from me, he used my bank card several times without telling me, and the list goes on and on, ...

A.   16 April 2018: I agree with Honeypie, seek legal advice, some lawyers will work without cash up front. There must also be business advisory bodies in your country, contact them and ask what they can do to help. Good luck. ... (read in full...)

I’m tempted to ask her out but fear embarrassing her!

Q.   There is a girl at my work that I have liked for years, but I never had the courage to talk to her until recently, after she asked a colleague who I was and was I single. We get on quite well but there is a little bit of shy / awkwardness when we ...

A.   15 April 2018: You are a grown up, in your 30s, why in heaven's name did you need to involve a third party here, like a bloody school kid, to ask for her number on your behalf?? Who cares what your mutual friend thinks about her sex life or previous relation... (read in full...)

What does this married man mean when he says he finds me physically attractive?

Q.   I've met this guy at work. He is married. We have a lot of things in common.He is a very private man. He doesn't talk much to anybody until I started working there. He said he likes me and enjoy being his friend. He is always careful about what he ...

A.   14 April 2018: The man wants to have sex with you, he is not interested in an emotional connection, this is why he said he found you "physically attractive" .... if he was interested in more he would have used different words. This man should be avoided for a nu... (read in full...)

Am I being unrealistic wanting 2 breaks when our twins are 3 and 4?minths?

Q.   So my boyfriend and I are expecting our twins to be born over the summer. We're both excited and getting everything ready for their arrival. These are our first kids so it'll be a new experience for us both, mainly me because my boyfriend has ...

A.   13 April 2018: Why cant he take a day's leave and mind HIS children on those two occasions, I am assuming you are going to be primary carer every hour every day right up to that 3 month point.... (read in full...)

My ex has said he would never marry me, but I want him back!

Q.   Does my ex still have feelings for me or not?. I dated him for a year and a half from 2015 until 2017. Then I left him for another man that we both know, who I was in a relationship with for nearly a year ( he broke up with me three months ago). My ...

A.   8 April 2018: To be honest if I had been dumped for somebody else and then the dumper came back and expected some sort of long term commitment like marriage, I wouldn't be interested either. His friend is either oblivious to how your ex feels or stirring... (read in full...)

I would tell her I love her but don't want to risk our friendship.

Q.   Hello readers, I am ashamed and embarrassed to admit that I am in love with a married woman. I am a 33 year old man, I am mostly sensible and don't want things I can't have. I live with my girlfriend of 10 years. She's everything I shoul...

A.   8 April 2018: This woman is playing you like a fiddle and in the meantime, your girlfriend of 10 years, you know, the one you LIVE with while you are mooning over somebody else' wife doesn't even rate a mention? Do the woman a favour and tell her how you real... (read in full...)

I'm obsessed with a local female celebrity and I'm so embarassed at myself!

Q.   I’m obsessed with a local celebrity (not hugely known, only kind of in the theater world), and Ibwant to be her friend,friend only as im female, and she’s marrie. how can I get over this? It’s so stupid!? I’m so embarassed. I’m a grown...

A.   7 April 2018: I see by your flag that you are in Australia, which means you CAN access some therapy at no cost, a minimum six and up to ten sessions. Make an appointment with your GP and request he set up a mental health care plan. If he feels you require ... (read in full...)

I've found the love of my life in a chatroom in Poland and I'm planning to move there to be with her

Q.   Last time I post on here, I had visited an escort. I had visit an escort only once and never again. I decided to get back into dating, but I had no success. One day I joined a chatroom and I happen to meet a Polish woman who lives in Poland over a ...

A.   3 April 2018: Have you done your homework? If you move to Poland are you required to have a certain amount of assetts, are there stringent visa requirements, Will you purchase an open return ticket in case you want to leave sooner or delay your departure. Have... (read in full...)

What do you do when a relationship has become boring?

Q.   Hi what do you do when a relationship has become boring I’ve been with my fiancé for 4 years we never do anything together in that time we’ve been out for 6 meals and that’s it he never wants to do anything he gets stoned every day all day he was a ...

A.   1 April 2018: Your relationship sounds like a dreadful life sentence ... based on current life expectancy rates for the UK that's another 50 years just like the previous four! While he might be engaged TO you, he isn't engaged WITH you, which gives you time to ... (read in full...)

Why won’t he respond to me and give me back my things?

Q.   I have been involved with a guy from work for over a year now he was originally an affair from which I left a violent relationship. Things were going well although there has been a lot if issues a long the way financial and emotiobal more m...

A.   31 March 2018: Not only did you cheat but you cheated with a man who was violent towards you ... a double whammy in many ways! Saying you know you made a mistake doesn't really cut it, I would suggest you knew you were making a mistake when the ex contacte... (read in full...)

Am I wrong to not be friends with my ex because he’s re-established contact with the woman he was hitting on behind my back?

Q.   My ex and I broke up about two months ago because he's moving away. Now, in the beginning of us dating and getting to know each other we had an issue with him talking to and hitting on this one girl behind my back. I ended it with him when I found ...

A.   27 March 2018: You are under no obligation to be friends with anybody, particularly with an ex. To be honest I dont understand why so many people, after a break up, try so hard to keep the ex in their lives, especially when there iz no need to, kids for example. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants me to take a lie detector test because his brother says him and I had sex

Q.   I have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months now whom I love dearly. I’m 28 and he’s a year older. We live together. So my boyfriend wants me to take a lie detector test because his pathological liar of a younger brother said that we slept togethe...

A.   26 March 2018: 1. get your ducks in a row, make sure your assets and finances are protected. 2. Line up somewhere new to live. 3. Take his lie detector test. 4. Shove the results up his left nostril and then say bye bye.... (read in full...)

My FWB wants a break and I don't know why.

Q.   Hi, my friends with benefits recently told me he needs a break. Apparently he's mad at me because I called when his soon to be wife showed up at his house to discuss the divorce. I did't know she was there. We talk every day. We lived together...

A.   23 March 2018: An ex contacted you 3 1/2 years ago and he is about to be divorced. Was he having a FWB relationship with you while he was married? From what you have written he is a cheater who got found out, maybe he didn't like you phoning when his... (read in full...)

She wants me to prove to her that I want this relationship and help her not feel so alone!

Q.   Been in a relationship for 8 years have a 10 year old step son who's dad was never really in the picture and we have a 3 year old boy together. When my youngest was born 3 years ago that's when everything changed. She said that I started to not care ...

A.   23 March 2018: Ask her to be specific about what she wants, tell her you want to be the best partner you cab be but that you don't know how, she needs to tell you and/or teach you. If the problems seem to be insurmountable or if your partner struggles to commu... (read in full...)

Why did my crush’s step-brother do that?

Q.   I was in a social setting with my crush, best-friend and her brother. My crushes' step brother approached him and whispered "your girlfriend is here" My crush laughed and pushed him away telling him to "shut up". Unfortunately I did not see it due ...

A.   23 March 2018: I don’t know why your crush’s step brother did that ... sounds like an in~family joke to me but could also mean that somebody you crush is keen on ist arrived.... (read in full...)

I resent his laziness! What do I do?

Q.   Hey everyone I have been with my partner now for 4 years everything was fine up until we moved in together I have now came to realise how lazy my boyfriend is I mean he doesn’t do anything he doesn’t work he sits around the house all day on his ...

A.   19 March 2018: You either kick him out or leave. He isn't adding anything positive to your life, he, and you, are setting a bad example for your child to follow, how many more reasons do you need?... (read in full...)

I feel its time to let go but my heart will be broken

Q.   Hi I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. The first year was amazing . We got along really well. Both of us have children .My children are a lot younger than his. My youngest is four. My boyfriends kids are having a hard time with me ...

A.   19 March 2018: Thanks for the update .... oh boy, he really does like to have things his own way doesn't he? That thing with only one of your children at a time when his 17 year old is attending, ahhh nahh! That's weird. Then he complains about being slot... (read in full...)

I feel its time to let go but my heart will be broken

Q.   Hi I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. The first year was amazing . We got along really well. Both of us have children .My children are a lot younger than his. My youngest is four. My boyfriends kids are having a hard time with me ...

A.   18 March 2018: With all your commitments it is understandable your boyfriend feels like he is in a time slot, especially if you don't make time where it is just the two of you with no kids. HOWEVER .... if both of you are planning on this being a long term rel... (read in full...)

I've borrowed money to celebrate but am not excited about it.

Q.   About to celebrate our 5year together but why do I feel like I’m not celebrating anything. We don’t live together as she still works in the same part time job she did when I got with her so we have not progressed. I lost my job 3 months ago, and I ...

A.   18 March 2018: You are (currently) unemployed and your girlfriend works part time .... what sort of expectations does she have for a five year anniversary? How come you are the one who has to come up with the cash? What is she contributing to the celebrations? ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is on the dole and his mother wants money

Q.   hi my boyfriend of 2 years moved in with me.he is on the dole.he gives me 30 pounds a week to help with bills and food.i work min wage so I pay for all the bills really.if we go out I pay.i never expect my boyfriend to pay because he only has ...

A.   15 March 2018: Regardless if your boyfriend's mother wants new carpet or not he should be contributing enough to your household expenses to cover his living expenses. A minimum wage is not enough to cover the costs for two people. Sit down and do your sums, he... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is on the dole and his mother wants money

Q.   hi my boyfriend of 2 years moved in with me.he is on the dole.he gives me 30 pounds a week to help with bills and food.i work min wage so I pay for all the bills really.if we go out I pay.i never expect my boyfriend to pay because he only has ...

A.   15 March 2018: Regardless if your boyfriend's mother wants new carpet or not he should be contributing enough to your household expenses to cover his living expenses. A minimum wage is not enough to cover the costs for two people. Sit down and do your sums, he... (read in full...)

Money mean son is refusing to bring his family to a family vacation.

Q.   My youngest son has a good job with the US Postal Service. He has a wife and a daughter. His wife is a nurse. The problem is he is really tight with his money. I think he goes overboard with being tight with his money. He has always been tigh...

A.   13 March 2018: Tell your son that you and your husband are not getting any younger and this might be the last chance for you all to be together .... and that you would like this to happen before you and/or his father feel the effects of aging and have health ... (read in full...)

I always recognise my boyfriend's birthdays but he never recognises mine.

Q.   Hello, I'm currently in a one year long distance relationship. Though I saw him a month ago for two weeks. I bought him gifts and paid for most of our lunches or dinners together. He didn't get me a gift or paid for lunch or dinner. I know I ...

A.   13 March 2018: Stop spending all your money on an ungrateful brat! Who needs two birthday cakes home delivered? Why are you paying for meals and gifts, what does he do for you besides make empty promises about bunches of flowers that he cant even follow t... (read in full...)

Things are not working out now that his daughter is in the picture and I'm just not sure what to do

Q.   I separated from my husband over 5 years ago. Since then, Ive been raising my three kids alone. They're great kids, sweet, respectful, considerate, they have a great relationship with each other. We've had ups and downs, and we've survived and ...

A.   13 March 2018: This is a tough one, your children are your priority and his daughter is his. Does he recognise his behaviour has changed since she started living with him? Does he acknowledge you and him are not able to relate to each other when she is pulling ... (read in full...)

Is this girl too good to be true?

Q.   I’d like some advice on what to do. I’m on faceparty which is a social media thing. where you make friends, have dates and maybe have a relationship with someone special. messaged a female who caught my eye on there, things were going great until ...

A.   13 March 2018: If somebody has blocked you it is a clear indication they don't want to be contacted by you. The best thing to do is to move on from both profiles and find somebody else to communicate with. ... (read in full...)

I'm feeling used and manipulated!

Q.   I want to ask how important is the to share social media with your bf or current partner? I ask this because my bf doesn't share social media with me (he blocked me from fbk etc) Before I didnt see this as an issue.. But now it really bothers me ...

A.   13 March 2018: Listen to your gut feelings, they are telling you that you are being used and manipulated. If you are always there for him, doing what you can to make his life better but feel that you are not getting the same care and attention back then you prob... (read in full...)

I made a joke. I'm now wondering about my boyfriend's response.

Q.   I told my boyfriend to look for a girl to marry as a joke and he told me he would after tomorrow, since tomorrow is his birthday. He said he prefers a blonde chick, and i am a brunette. I feel upset that he said that. Would anyone else be?...

A.   13 March 2018: You made a joke, he made a joke back. He said he would do as you suggested, in your joke, after his birthday. This means even though he was making a joke response to YOUR joke he was still telling you he wanted to spend his birthday with you... (read in full...)

My boyfriend didn't think I could do a hard major in college and now I've lost confidence

Q.   Hello everyone, My boyfriend and I have been kind of rocky since the start of this year. I am currently a computer science student and he has already graduated with his masters and is currently working in the field. I am currently a receptio...

A.   13 March 2018: Uh oh. Another question that gets me riled. Tell your boyfriend's mother to get out of the 1950s! Tell her that if and when you decide to have children her son is going to reduce his hours to part time to take 50% care of his children (and the... (read in full...)

I pushed him away, do I still have a chance?

Q.   I met a really great guy in January but pushed him away with my insecurities. We live 2 hours apart but he always called/texted/facetimed me first. Two weeks into us getting to know each other I saw that some girl commented on a Facebook picture. He ...

A.   11 March 2018: If he has any brains he will still be running, putting as much distance between you and him as possible. From the tone of your question you don't even seem to realise the enormity of your actions .... instead trying to white wash them with an ... (read in full...)

Why do I feel so rotten when he hurt me so much?

Q.   I made a huge mistake, I've been in a relationship for many years, I have been hurt very badly. Yet I continued to go back time and time again. Long story short he is in a bad place and I tried to be nice and it back fired, now all the I'm sorry's ...

A.   11 March 2018: You are going through the grieving process. You will be grieving the lost relationship and your lost hopes and dreams, the might have beens instead of the horrid what were's. Take a little while to feel sad, you were in the relationship for many... (read in full...)

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