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He insists he has changed, can it be true? Or is this all a front to win me back?

Q.   I recently posted a question a few weeks ago about my situtation of after a long break apart, my ex boyfriend is claiming and insisting he is a changed man. We have met up occasionally as "dates" which often led to dicussing our relationship and set ...

A.   16 November 2018: Probably not, its very difficult to make changes to yourself in a short period of time, it can take months, or years of conscious effort and often also requires the input of sessions with a counsellor or therapist. The fact he is lashing out is a... (read in full...)

He insists he has changed, can it be true? Or is this all a front to win me back?

Q.   I recently posted a question a few weeks ago about my situtation of after a long break apart, my ex boyfriend is claiming and insisting he is a changed man. We have met up occasionally as "dates" which often led to dicussing our relationship and set ...

A.   16 November 2018: Probably not, its very difficult to make changes to yourself in a short period of time, it can take months, or years of conscious effort and often also requires the input of sessions with a counsellor or therapist. The fact he is lashing out is a... (read in full...)

I’m pregnant and confused and worried about what I should have happen next!

Q.   Just wanted to ask others opinions on this subject. Basically i have quite a bit of bad look with relationships, i have my own house and and have been living on my own now with just my dog and rabbit which is how i like it for 3 years now. I did ...

A.   12 November 2018: No! Don't be pressured into anything. It is not necessary for the baby's well being for him to live in the same house, if it was he would still be living in the same house as his other two children. If you prefer to take this slow then he has t... (read in full...)

I like a guy but another girl might steal him.

Q.   I like this uy named Jonah but im not sure how to go about it because we only talk in school and this one girl Aliyah may steal him but I feel like me and him have a connection...

A.   11 November 2018: Being a teenager is tough, at times it’s as if every day has traps and detours designed to throw you off track and upset the equilibrium. Toss guys and dating and maybe a love triangle into the mix and it gets even more complicated. The first th... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is perfect, but I want an open relationship.

Q.   Hi people. I met my current girlfriend a little over two years ago and I was not the social type back then. I never really went out a lot and hanging out with friends was pretty much 'indoor'. After I met her I became very outgoing. We went t...

A.   11 November 2018: Your girlfriend and what you have now can't be too perfect if you are willing to toss it aside for some random sex. Are you asking for advice on how to convince your girlfriend to agree to something that very few women in this world would agree to... (read in full...)

She seems open but what if she is telling me lies?

Q.   Been single now for about 5 months after a long term relationship, and met someone a few weeks ago that i hit it off with, it happend very randomly and out of the blue. being careful, or at least trying to be ive had my guard up. but it feels right ...

A.   10 November 2018: It might have been a family member or friend visiting, her neighbour might have parked there because no space in his driveway, her ex might have come over to pick up the last of his CDs …. There is really no way to solve this, if you confront... (read in full...)

Sometimes I feel lost about who I am.

Q.   Hi All, Might sound like a silly issue raised, but I have a problem trying to have self belief sometimes. I feel I have come from a relatively tough background (in comparison to most people around me) divorced immature parents, a mother with a pe...

A.   10 November 2018: You would be surprised how many famous people feel as you do, it's known as "Imposter Syndrome." Google it. I also feel that some counselling might be beneficial, just to deal with the detritus of your upbringing, and it might help shine a ... (read in full...)

Is what this 15 year old girl wears okay around a father who drinks?

Q.   Is it ok for a 15 year old girl to walk around the house in her bra around her father...and he drinks heavy so his judgement could be possible inpaired .what should I do? how should I handle this while staying with them....?...

A.   8 November 2018: And to follow up, if you believe this is a man who will not be able to control his judgement around his own daughter when he has been drinking heavily why would you even want to be involved with a man like that.... (read in full...)

My ex girlfriend wants to be reimbursed for gifts she gave me.

Q.   I have recently broke up with my girlfriend after nine months together, a couple of weeks before we separated she bought me a present but now we're not together she's asking me to give her back the money she spent on that present, I don't think ...

A.   8 November 2018: If you accepted the gift knowing a breakup was on the cards she may feel you accepted it under false pretences. Legally you don't have to return it, or pay for it but for a clean break and to sort the issue out give her the money. ... (read in full...)

Is what this 15 year old girl wears okay around a father who drinks?

Q.   Is it ok for a 15 year old girl to walk around the house in her bra around her father...and he drinks heavy so his judgement could be possible inpaired .what should I do? how should I handle this while staying with them....?...

A.   8 November 2018: With respect. Your assumption men who drink cant be trusted to not sexually abuse their daughters is way off limits. If a man is inclined to have inappropriate thoughts or to have sex with hi teenage daughter he will do it if she is wearing a bra ... (read in full...)

Why do I attract abusive men? My current bf said that I deserve disrespect because I'm not glamorous!

Q.   My boyfriend said I don't deserve to be talked at with respect because I'm not glam. Why do I attract abusive men both my last two boyfriend's have been that way. Verbally and physically....

A.   6 November 2018: When a boyfriend says that sort of thing you pick up your handbag and walk …. don't bother saying goodbye or being polite because you are not going to get it. So regardless his opinion show yourself some respect and remove yourself from there. J... (read in full...)

We have fun and the sex is amazing but then why doesn't he fall for me?

Q.   Hey all. I feel like a spoilt brat here, like Verruca Salt when she can't get what she wants. I've completely fallen for a co worker. He works in another office and lives 80 miles away. He lives alone (divorced with a son) as I live with parents ...

A.   6 November 2018: Why would he bother offering anything …. he has all best bits of a relationship, amazing sex, fun, outings, being delivered to his door each weekend without having to actually put in any work. He has no reason to change the status quo, and I su... (read in full...)

She said no. Should I keep trying?

Q.   So, I've liked somebody for a long time (2-3 years) and recently, a couple of weeks ago I decided to tell them how I felt. I've been friends with her since we first met and everybody I know was certain she was into me as well. Unfortunately I was ...

A.   28 October 2018: She said no. You need to respect that. You persisting will only make her believe that you are creepy and disrespectful. She isn't interested so leave her alone.... (read in full...)

How can I make her my girlfriend?

Q.   There is this girl I work with and I really, really like her. Her and I both started working together at the same time and she has been in 2 relationships that hadn't ended well. She knows I like her and care a lot about her, but she keeps saying ...

A.   28 October 2018: She said she doesn't feel the same. Why can't you accept that? Have you not been keeping up with current events, women are not accepting bad behaviour from men any more. It doesn't matter if you want a relationship, she doesn't. If you persist in ... (read in full...)

Lover wants to stay with his children for now

Q.   My lover cannot live with me just yet because he still wants to live with his children who are 21 and 19.....He said they still need him .... He doesn’t love his wife... they share no interests as a couple, just stayed married for their kids sake... ...

A.   28 October 2018: You are wasting your time. They will leave home but there will be little hiccups in their lives he will need to be there for, and then will come the engagements weddings grandchildren first birthdays first Easters first Christmases fi... (read in full...)

We met online I'm 18 he's 34. Is it wrong that I want to be with him?

Q.   I just want opinions. I have known a man for over 3 months now. We met online, we Skype regularly, he's amazing. We talk everyday. He lives 2 hours away from me.The only thing is he is 34 and I am 18. I want to be with him so bad. Is this wro...

A.   27 October 2018: I just have alarm bells ringing all over each time I read this, and so many questions …. have you met in person, who does he live with, is he employed, has he met your parents and your friends, does he work, what sort of work, what do you know ... (read in full...)

I can't give either of them up but I know I need to in the long term.

Q.   I'm in a relationship with a great man. We have our ups and downs as do any couple but he is undoubtably who I want to be with and we are on the whole very happy. However. I have been having a fling/relationship - call or what you will, with someo...

A.   27 October 2018: I hope you feel marginally better now that you have got that off your chest ….. because that's all you were doing really, you didn't ask a question, you already know the score, no matter what happens your current partner has been cheated on, and the ... (read in full...)

He didn't disclose his real age. Am I overreacting?

Q.   I met a guy several months ago, when we were taking an evening class together. I was too shy to talk to anyone for a while, but then one day he and I found we took the same route home after class. We got talking. I mentioned I'd just had my 25th ...

A.   22 October 2018: A five year gap isn't all that huge, so stop beating yourself up for having sex with an older guy …. forgive yourself. His lying though, that's a whole different kettle of fish … you don't mention it but, unless he was born somewhere other th... (read in full...)

When discussing sexual history, do handjobs count as sex?

Q.   When discussing sexual history should people you didn't have sex with but gave handjobs to count? I know to count oral and vaginal ( I never had anal.) but do handjobs you've given typically go into that count?...

A.   21 October 2018: If there is going to be a wonderful prize won for most sexual contacts then yes, handjobs could be included although really the criteria should be determined and agreed on by the contestants prior to the count beginning. If there is no prize ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is thinking about working with a woman I don't like! What should I do?

Q.   I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I'm at the end of my rope. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years and I love him with all my heart but I have always struggled with trust issues due to my boyfriend's career. He works at a gym a...

A.   15 October 2018: ITS HIS JOB. Do you really believe he should quit or do something he doesn't want to do because he works with a woman you "don't like much". You don't even say what this woman did to earn your "dislike" I think you are overreacting, and that you... (read in full...)

How do we announce his cancer diagnosis?

Q.   My younger brother is 33 years old and moved back in with his parents. Only a few people know that it is because he waa diagnose with brain cancer and he moved back in with our parents to make it easier f or us (family and friends) to help him. ...

A.   14 October 2018: He doesn't need to make a big announcement, if he is on facebook he could send a group private message to all or just some on his contact list. A lot of it would depend on his character and lifestyle, an extrovert might invite all their friends ... (read in full...)

Are my expectations too high for my long distance boyfriend?

Q.   Our LDR has been rocky the past few months. He's neglecting abd taking for granted our relationship. Today is my birthday. I spent the entire morning in Urgent Care because I had extremely bad stomach and back pains in the middle of the night, a...

A.   11 October 2018: to continue from my answer below, list everything good about the relationship and everything not so good and then decide if you will continue or break up and find somebody in the flesh and closer to home.... (read in full...)

Are my expectations too high for my long distance boyfriend?

Q.   Our LDR has been rocky the past few months. He's neglecting abd taking for granted our relationship. Today is my birthday. I spent the entire morning in Urgent Care because I had extremely bad stomach and back pains in the middle of the night, a...

A.   11 October 2018: I feel it might be a good time for you to seriously consider if this relationship is working. Sometimes we need to see things in black and white so I'm suggesting a sheet of paper with two columns, at the top of one write "FOR" and label the othe... (read in full...)

My wife's adult children are bums whose lifestyles I pay for.

Q.   Hi all, I have a problem. First off, I've been married for over 21 years. We largely get along -- mostly because I don't complain about much. During that time, I have raised my wife's 2 children from her previous marriage. They are cur...

A.   5 October 2018: Split your bank accounts with only you having access to your wages etc.Sit down with your wife, go through the household budget and split most of them 50/50. Tell her if she wants to support her adult children that's up to her, but you are not ... (read in full...)

Best friend forgot my birthday

Q.   My best friend from college has been there for me through thick and thin. We’ve been friends for 9 years now. This week she forgot my birthday. She didn’t say anything, send a card or even apologize. I don’t think she has any idea. Last month...

A.   9 September 2018: I'm still embarrassed and mortified about a phone call I got from my second son, some years ago ….. he asked if I had forgotten anything and I said nooooo …. I'm sure I remembered to pay the car registration. So he asked if there was anything else ... (read in full...)

I'm interested in a girl who has a boyfriend. Do I drop a hint that I'm single?

Q.   I split up with my long term partner because I wasn't sure how I felt and it didn't feel right anymore. I'm in no rush to get into a relationship again but there is a girl who I have an interest in. I think there is a connection between us as I'...

A.   26 August 2018: Move forward towards ………… what? She might be staring to try and work out why you keep looking at her …. and you "casually" dropping you new status as single and available into the conversation might be just the confirmation she needs that you are ... (read in full...)

What should I do about this married, flirting floozy?

Q.   I have a friend and shes always says she love me. Shes married to She once said I love you more then you know what is she trying to say to me. She flurts with me to. I dont know what to do....

A.   19 August 2018: Your question doesn't mention if you are wanting to stop her doing this or if you want to know what she means by saying these things or if you don't know how to take her up on her offer, if that's what it is. I think you should have a chat wit... (read in full...)

What does he want? Is there something here or just a sexual relationship?

Q.   Going back about 4-5 months ago, I met a guy one night out at a bar. We are 5 years age difference, I'm 22 and he's 27. We immediately slept together that night. We kind of clicked quite well and he got my number, stayed in contact with me and we ...

A.   15 July 2018: Sure, I think he likes you, he likes to have sex and to hangout with you, but in my opinion if he was wanting more he would have shown it, either through word or deed, by now. I don't think the different backgrounds are impacting on this at all, ... (read in full...)

Shall I stop being a gentlemen and be a man?

Q.   Just wondering what you guys would think what’s on this girls mind. She is married with 2 kids. She is few years older than me, we work together. She is quiet person, well respected and often hates guys advancing. For example a friend of mine will ...

A.   15 July 2018: Not quite sure what you mean by "be a man" … are you going to grab her by the pussy as Trump put it so eloquently or give her a bit of rough and a jolly good rogering behind the photocopier? I don't really feel that I can give any sort of decent a... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is going away on vacation for two weeks!

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 8 months and we have an amazing relationship. In a few weeks he’s going away with his family to his family’s house in Europe for 2 weeks. I know this sounds pathetic, but I’m genuinely upset that he’s ...

A.   11 July 2018: You need to put this in perspective …. two weeks is but a blink of an eye, in the days of sailing ships it would take six weeks from US to Europe and then, if he were lucky enough to catch the mail immediately, another six weeks for a letter to get ... (read in full...)

What would you do in my situation? Travel first or settle down now, travel in retirement?

Q.   I have been in a relationship with a man for a year. I'm pretty happy with this guy. We've had ups and downs, but overall things are good between us. We love each other. We have a holiday booked together and are planning to move in together. Howeve...

A.   10 July 2018: I am only now starting to travel, my knees hurt and my bladder isn't as reliable as it once was …. I also have a bit of a problem with my heart which cant pump enough oxygen into the blood stream when I walk uphill for more than a couple of hundred ... (read in full...)

What do I do when I'm not ready for this to be over and fear that's what will happen if I told him I read that?

Q.   Even my boyfriend and I got together, he told me "You can read my diaries, but do not tell me about it." When I asked about it he said it's because he wants to be understood, but he doesn't want anyone to read his deepest thoughts. So, after his ex ...

A.   29 June 2018: How many people, if given permission to read somebody else's thoughts and feelings, would not take the opportunity? It is very odd that he has given you permission to read his diaries but not permission to discuss what you read with him. This ... (read in full...)

Am I mean to delete all our photos from his phone?

Q.   I plan to break up with my boyfriend but I don't want to let him know until I delete all our photos together from his phone. Am I mean to delete all our photos from his phone? I never wanted to take pictures with him in the first place because I ...

A.   26 June 2018: If photos are on HIS phone they are his, to keep, delete or print off and throw darts at if he wishes. if you are going to break up with him then do it! There is no need for spiteful, nasty, mean, immature behaviour such as you plan.... (read in full...)

How do I make my girlfriend feel special and loved?

Q.   Hi guys, Thanks in advance for taking the time to read my post. Basically, my GF of almost one year has told me that she feels more like my best friend than girlfriend. I really need help in fixing things as I care about her a great deal and ...

A.   25 June 2018: Google The Five Languages of Love, maybe you and your girlfriend speak different languages, there is a fun quiz that you could each do that will enlighten the other as to where they are coming from. ... (read in full...)

Anything that bothers me he says its a cultural thing.

Q.   Hello I'm married and my husband has all his exes on social media and still speaks to them. I have told him I feel its inappropriate to talk to your exes when their part of his past. He is also addicted to his cell phone. He has many Male fr...

A.   24 June 2018: What are you getting out of this marriage, it certainly doesn't sound like you get respect or that your opinions and concerns are listened to. You cant change him, but you can change the way you are, you need to decide if your current life is ... (read in full...)

I stole from my brother, how do I repair our relationship?

Q.   My youger brother, Justin, is 23 months youger than me. I am 35 years old and he is 33 years old. He have always been a good person (doing charity work, volunteering his time to different charities, est.). When I was in my late teens and early ...

A.   24 June 2018: Stealing is bad, stealing from family is a double whammy because our family members should be able to trust us with anything. But I assume you know that already. You say your parents have tried to get you to work it out …. that's all well and... (read in full...)

How do I ask for a sex toy?

Q.   I want a sex toy because, I'm a 17 year old girl now. I know after I ask I'm going to say, think of it this way, I'm still a virgin. Most people my age aren't anymore. But the problem is, I have to ask my dad. Not a mom. How do I do this? I'm ...

A.   24 June 2018: Owning sex toys is an adult pastime, adults purchase their own sex toys. Asking your father to buy you a sex toy is just yech and ewww. If you want a sex toy get a job and buy your own.... (read in full...)

I hate my boyfriend’s best friend and don’t want him at my wedding!

Q.   I got engaged to my boyfriend and we are currently planning the wedding, making guest lists etc. My partner wishes to invite his best friend to the wedding. The thing is i can’t stand being in the same room as my fiancées best friend as he severely ...

A.   20 June 2018: You need to tell your boyfriend that every time you see his friend the memories of him bullying you all through high school come flooding back, and those are not the memories you want when you are standing in front of the altar getting married. ... (read in full...)

How can I stop obsessing over a taken man?

Q.   Has anyone dealt with obsessive love and limerence? I have an issue with being obsessed with my crushes and making up scenarios and fairy tale endings in my head to the point where all I think about is the object of my obsession . To be frank I am ...

A.   19 June 2018: He's taken? Who took him? … Ohh, you mean a man who CHOSE to marry a woman other than yourself? If you just change the language you use, substitute married for taken, your mind might register the fact he is not an object that somebody else ma... (read in full...)

Should I bother with this communal garden? I think I’ve attracted a bully!

Q.   I live in a block of eight flats. It's a period (Victorian) building, converted into separate dwellings. Surrounding this (kind of in a circle) are five houses. In the middle, is a communal garden. The two flats on the ground floor all have th...

A.   11 June 2018: In your head you can tell her to "go suck aiggs" a quote from a cowboy yarn I read years ago, I find it suits all sorts of situations. But, you have every right to use, and work in, the garden, you don't need that woman's consent or approval... (read in full...)

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