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A dear cupid STD riddle, can someone solve it?
Q. This is a dearcupid riddle... Who's done it??? Girl A is long distance girlfriend of Man B, but Man B also has an affair with girl C. Man B has unprotected sexual relationships with Girl A and also with Girl C. Recently Man B has had sex...
A. 19 April 2008: my thoughts are this: someone in this triangle is lying about something. that's all there is to it.
Also, maybe A, B and C should all be using protection regardless of whom they end up having sex with. It would prevent this and other issue's from... (read in full...)
Can I trust her, even though she still see's her ex?
Q. My post is pretty long, but its a collection of things... If anyone would read through it and possibly give me some advice here... It would be great. I feel like I am falling apart, I cant eat, sleep, or think strait... I need some answers.. So, I se...
A. 18 April 2008: I don't think there is anything wrong with you or that you are doing anything wrong in the relationship. It sounds to me like you are doing everything you can to not only have a loving relationship and fill her wants and needs, but to give her ... (read in full...)
I'm 25, so why am I still single?
Q. Why am I still single? I'm a 25 year-old intelligent woman with a college education and a good job. I would say I'm above average in appearance, though slightly overweight, but I have lost weight recently and I'm getting many positive comments about ...
A. 13 April 2008: Honey, I'm 28 and still single with no children. Everything comes in time, and at the RIGHT time. Just enjoy life!
Before you know it you'll be a grandmother and miss these days right here that you have now.
The more you look for it, the more... (read in full...)
My ex has been telling people we had sex, which is not true. How to react to the rumours?
Q. my ex boyfriend has been telling people we had sex. its not true. what should i do? [Moderator's note. Respondents may treat your situation as common defamation until you can provide us with complementary details. Feel free to write en détail plea...
A. 9 April 2008: well, you can tell them your side of it. Or you can tell someone you know will get back to him with a rumor that will hurt his pride just as much as he's trying to hurt yours(such as "he's a horrible kisser, I would NEVER have sex with him" or ... (read in full...)
If you overstraighten your hair does it eventually lose its natural waviness? Assuring its healthiness throughout the process?
Q. Hey I've just got a simple hair question.I like my hair straight but I don't want to lose the natural waviness it has. So my question is, if you overstraigten it (or over the years as you keep straigtening it) does it lose its natural waviness? And ...
A. 9 April 2008: The only things that will change your hair are chemicals(dyes, perms, chemical straightening, etc) These are not permanant. However, over time, your hair can change in texture and color. Obviously some people go gray, others experience a change ... (read in full...)
Can HPV really be purged from the body? What are the chances that I'll contract it from my girlfriend?
Q. My girlfriend recently confessed that she was diagnosed with HPV about a year ago, but her doctor said that it was no longer in her system and that she was fine now. She's also just got the new HPV vaccination. Can HPV really be purged from the ...
A. 9 April 2008: If you are concerned about this issue I would research HPV on the internet, preferably someplace like WebMD.com HPV is a virus with over 120 different strains, about 12 or so of those strains they have found can be a cause of cervical cancer i... (read in full...)
I'm being blackmailed by the boys I had sex with...
Q. hi my names nikki and i have a problem with some boys in my school. i'm well known for being a slut at my school which im not proud of but i had sex two weeks ago with three boys from my school and another girl. i was told at the start of the week ...
A. 7 April 2008: IF you were recorded, and IF they do have a tape, and you were not aware of it until after the fact, you have the RIGHT to contact the authorities. If all parties do not agree to the release of a personal and private thing such as a pornographic ... (read in full...)
I need advice about skin care and how to remove blackheads.
Q. OK, i recently bought this new Benefit foundation, and its brilliant, but after several hours i just look shiny and awful - i really need to feel that i look good because of this guy i like and he's got great skin, so i always feel kind of ...
A. 7 April 2008: You can try Biore Pore Cleansing Strips for the blackheads, or a blackhead cleaning scrub like one from Clean N' Clear. Also, if you have oilier/shinier skin you will probably need a powder makeup to top off the foundation, or you will need to find ... (read in full...)
Caught between two cultures - other than break up with my intolerant BF, is there anything I can do?
Q. Hi, I'm not quite sure what to do. My boyfriend (for want of a better word at this point) constantly bashes Muslims to the point where it's ridiculous. He justifies his hatred by saying that all monotheism is "bull" because he chooses to follo...
A. 7 April 2008: In every religion on earth there are those that will give the church/mosque/etc a bad name. In the Islamic world it is the Jihadist terrorists, in Catholocism the sexually perverted preists, and so on and so forth. In the Pagan world there are those ... (read in full...)
Any tips on getting rid of unwanted hairs?
Q. This is kind of embarrassing, but, does anyone have any advice about what to do about small dark hairs at the corners of your mouth. As a female, it's not very attractive. I used to never have any, but now I do. Is electrolosis a good idea, or som...
A. 7 April 2008: Firstly, most men probably won't notice. If it bothers YOU, then go ahead and take care of them. Electrolosis can be expensive, it is however a permanant way to remove them and keep them from coming back. I have always either plucked(with twe... (read in full...)
Am I being 'over-jealous'?
Q. I think I am being very jealous. My boyfriend does sides jobs every now and then. This time it is at a store two women own. I only know what he tells me. And he told me they were ordering lunch today and he ordered something as well and th...
A. 7 April 2008: Personally I feel that in this situation he is being honest and forthcoming with you, so there really shouldn't be a problem. jealousy can be a nasty thing and can lead to alot of problems in relationships. Since your guy is being honest with you, ... (read in full...)
I have known him since high school...11 yrs now, should I tell him how I really feel or lose him to another??
Q. I need help... My best friend is a guy I have known since high school...11 years. We do everything together. I go to his family functions and he goes to mine. Years ago he told me that he never wanted to ruin our one of a kind friendship by trying ...
A. 7 April 2008: It sounds like this guy has everything he needs! A best friend, someone who will allow him to be lovey dovey and drunk, who will let him kiss on her while he is drunk, then play the fool and let him be a free man otherwise.
If it's killing ... (read in full...)
Is it unrealistic to even consider that we may/could make our marriage work NOW??
Q. I married in April of last year for the second time. My first marriage occurred when i was very young, wayyyy too young. It lasted less than a year and i view it as a mistake made due to my age and immaturity. This time, however, i really felt like...
A. 7 April 2008: This is tough. It sounds like your husband was starting to show some very disturbing behaviors, however if you really want to try and make it work, and in your heart you believe that it can, I would say make sure that he gets counciling before you ... (read in full...)
Why do men manipulate you into thinking that YOU are wrong - when they are the cheats?
Q. A few days ago, I decided to contact 'the other woman' to find out what type of relationship there was between her and my boyfriend. I suspected that my s/o was having a relationship outside of ours, and after finding evidence of cheating ...
A. 7 April 2008: I think this is a two way problem. I think that (some)men do this because they see that they can, because there are women who allow them to manipulate and work us over.
It takes alot to realize and learn that you are in control of yourself... (read in full...)
I really don't know if I lost my virginity or not, please advise me.
Q. I was hooking up with this guy a while back. We had agreed not to have sex because I'm still a virgin and want to stay that way, and he's never been with a virgin and doesn't want to be. He was rubbing his penis along the inside of my labia and he ...
A. 7 April 2008: The hymen can be broken by a the insertion of a super absorbancy tampon, serverly rigerious sports sometimes, as well as masturbation can sometimes deteriorate the hymen.
A virgin is someone who has not had sexual intercourse, meaning the full... (read in full...)
Does this guy want to be more than just friends?
Q. Last Saturday we hung out for like 7 1/2 hours (watched movies, ate pizza, talked, etc), last night for 6 hours (watched a movie, talked, did stuff on the Internet). Then the day before yesterday when I said something to him and really overreacted ...
A. 7 April 2008: Maybe he's not sure about how he feels quite yet and he's a bit insecure. I say, if you enjoy the time you guys have spent together, go ahead and keep talking and spending time together. If it's going to happen it will, and it will happen naturally! ... (read in full...)
I'm terrified of going back into something with a guy who just doesn't love me enough.
Q. How often does a guy call if he's really interested in getting back together? My ex told me he wants to try again - that he thinks he's matured and things could be different. I told him I needed to take things slow and have some time to think about ...
A. 6 April 2008: I don't believe there is any set rule about this.
When it comes to love and in your situation I would say whatever feels right. If you think he is calling and keeping in touch with you to your satisfaction then that's fantastic. If not, maybe you ... (read in full...)
How long after sex do I wait to take a pregnancy test?
Q. hi i was wondering how long should i wait after having sex 2 take a pregnancy test for it to work properly? i mean...im afraid i might be pregnant but i dont know if i take a pregnancy test now if its gonna work..i haven't got my period yet, gett...
A. 6 April 2008: If you are generally regular with your cycle and having your period and you do not get your period, then it would be fine to take a test. If you absolutely cannot wait that one week, there are tests out there that you can take up to five days before ... (read in full...)
I've had a wierd experience after sex on the pill....is this common?
Q. I have A rather funny question.. since I've started the pill when me and my boyfriend have finished having sex, come just comes out of me but I think its his because the pill stops sperm getting past a mucus ( so I believe) and it didnt happen when ...
A. 6 April 2008: When using condoms the ejaculation from the male is contained and held within the condom, much easier to clean up, also preventing any(in 99% of cases and hopefully) from being left behind in the vagina.
When on the birth control pill, pregnanc... (read in full...)
Is it normal for female parts to swell when aroused?
Q. whenever i hve sex or when my boyfriend stimulates me, the lips of my vagina an clitorus kind of...swell Up soo to speak.. like really big tho is this normal or is there something wtong with me?...
A. 6 April 2008: When aroused, blood fills the genitals, male AND female. It is not abnormal.
Everyone's bodies are different, and while some other females may not experience quite as much swelling as you, it is not unheard of for it to be very noticabl... (read in full...)
How can I make her love me?
Q. how to make someone love you who does not have the same feelings with you. who tell you that she care a lot a lot as a friend but does not have other feelings. she also knows how much i love her....
A. 2 April 2008: you cannot MAKE someone love you. It's not a forced emotion. unfortunately we really can't help who we end up falling in love with, that's why its' called 'falling' in love. it's not purposefull, we don't 'make' it happen. It just does.
F... (read in full...)
I feel for her in a different way than others and just can't get her out of my head...
Q. I have a problem for which I really can't come up with a solution. Although I have a rather good dating life in general, there is a girl who I can't get off my mind. I had gone out with this girl during an experimental phase in my life (which I got ...
A. 1 April 2008: Ask her to for some time to talk, face to face. if you can't get it out, then write it down, edit it, do whatever you need to come up with the letter that expresses exactly what you feel and think and have her read it with you there.
Let her know... (read in full...)
He made me "do it" and I wasn't ready...
Q. dear cupids. I've got a real problem! I'm in a bad situation but I feel like I've caused it myself :S I have been *seeing* this guy, (a friend of my brother) who is aged 18, for 9 months, I am 15, 16 in May, and he is my *first love*, he's ...
A. 1 April 2008: I hate to tell you this, but this guy has disrespected you in every way! It makes me very angry for you at him. He as good as raped you. and in the boys toilet none the less?! What about this is okay to anyone decent?
Just because he didn't h... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants sex but I'm only 12!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for three months but his sister says he says he wants sex. The problem is i'm only 12! I just turned 12 this month and he's turning 13 in April we love each other so much that i don't know what to do, so i ...
A. 1 April 2008: Please please please listen to everything i have to say.
You are 12 years old.
if you can answer yes to all of the following questions, then it is fully your own decision, but know that your being on here questioning it is you giving yours... (read in full...)
My wife wants to close a 27 yr old wound she rec'd from her ex-husband!!
Q. My wife of 10 years has informed me that four days ago she made contact with her first husband. They were married for 12 days when they went to sleep in the same bed as his best friend. Sometime during the night she woke up and thought she was kiss...
A. 1 April 2008: I am sorry to report that often times when a woman wants to 'revisit' a past love to 'finalize' things and move on...it may mean she has questions as to if there is still any possability they could reconcile.
Not always, but often.
My best a... (read in full...)
Can get her out of my head! I can't get myself out of my own head!!!
Q. I live in the same apartment complex as a woman I work with. I have known her for a few months, and at first had no attraction to her. She had a boyfriend so it was not a problem. As the weeks progressed we became more flirtatious with...
A. 31 March 2008: First, stop sleeping with the girl you are sleeping with. Especially if she has no idea that it is simply a 'no strings attatched' situation for you. Secondly, realize that when a woman 'hooks up' with a guy that she has no intention of dev... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has male friends, I suggested I get a female friend, now she doesn't trust me...
Q. My girlfriend has a number of male friends i have no problem with this as i trust her. I've suggested i get a female friend and she says no way. Now i feel she doesn't trust me. Advice please?...
A. 21 March 2008: It sounds like you might be trying to even the score a bit...if not, maybe you need to talk to her and find out why she said no way. Does she have a jealous streak? Is she insecure? What's the problem? Are you friends with the guys she is friends ... (read in full...)
What can I do to move on???
Q. My fiancee of 3 years broke up with me last october, and i cant get him off my mind. He broke up with me for someone else and is still with her. I know i should move on, but i cant!! Basically i suppose i am saying that i am still in love with ...
A. 21 March 2008: Best answer, take the time you need for yourself. I know it's hard, i've been there myself. It's different for everyone honestly, however I found that immersing myself in my friends and family helped alot. Also what kind of things did you do before ... (read in full...)
I began to date this great guy, but he recently lost someone, what should I do?
Q. Very recently began dating/seeing this guy I met through a friend. He's fantastic, however I need help keeping my mind off of him and not contacting him and giving him some space right now. He very recently lost someone very close to him and is ...
A. 21 March 2008: I'm pretty sure the only thing going on is that he's depressed about his family member dying. I haven't seen him since before the funeral, he's kinda been holing himself up at home and not wanting to go anywhere, see anyone or do anything. I guess ... (read in full...)
I had an abortion. How do I bring up the subject in conversation?
Q. Hi, I'm 24 years old. At the age of 16 I had a teenage pregnancy which I decided to abort. It all went a bit complicated and they couldn't abort and I was asked back over the next few days but I miscarried as a result of the first botched ab...
A. 16 January 2008: when you are comfortable with the right person you'll be able to talk about it with them. It's still hard to broach the subject, but If you're in your twenties maybe a girlfriend has gone through something similar. it doesn't hurt to ask. or ask if ... (read in full...)
How do I avoid the dramatics?
Q. The last time I fell for a "friend" it was a fabulous relationship, but the ending was horrid and even though we both would have liked to have stayed friends in the long term it just couldn't work. Now It's the same thing all over again-different ...
A. 16 January 2008: tomorrow night he is coming over for dinner and we are going to have "the talk" i'm a bit nervous, however it needs to be done and some things said and I know he's more chicken than I am so this is it. thanks!
wish me luck!... (read in full...)
The old school relationship advice books from middle age havet helped me at all, and now I really like this guy and don't want to mess it up so need some fresh, good advice on how to best proceed with him!
Q. Over the past few months of getting over my ex, I've dated a bit and took a few outside old school tips in dealing with those people I dated and it didn't go well at all. Mainly the advice/tips were to not be calling immediately and wait "3 days" or ...
A. 25 December 2007: His response is basically that things aren't that weird he had fun and that's about it. I like that he's casual about everything but not so casual...if that makes sense. I also am thrilled he's not making like most guys I date and making promises he ... (read in full...)
I fantasise about men but the thought of doing it for real it repulses me...am I gay??
Q. I fantasise about being with men all the time, more than women. I also fantasise about being a woman satisfying men but when it comes to doing it for real the thought repulses me. Is this normal, am i gay?...
A. 8 December 2007: Fantasies are called that for a reason. Because they are not taking place in reality. Most people have fantasies that they never act on, or even wish to happen. It's perfectly normal. Also I would like to say that it has been scientifically studied ... (read in full...)
I can''t be around him because he doesn't respect me....should I just ignore him or tell him??
Q. Last night I talked to my ex that I was in the process of reuniting with and dating again and I had said that I looked at his myspace and was pretty offended that he had all these pretty new girls as his top friends when I knew he barely knew ...
A. 4 December 2007: This sounds all too familiar. If I were you, I would wait for him to call you and when he does lay it out for him. Tell him flat out that you are not interested in getting back together, not interested in being his friend and that you cannot see him ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to trust him again because I don't want to get hurt again...
Q. I met up with my ex last night (we broke up 2 months ago). He said he still loved me and missed me and couldn't get over me and we ended up making out. He said we should try dating again. I agreed to it last night, but then freaked out this morning ...
A. 4 December 2007: Good for you!!! Listening to your gut instinct is the best possible course of action you can ever take when it comes to these things! ... (read in full...)
I feel so cheap and easy. What should I do?
Q. ive liked one of the guys from my part time job for a couple of months now and hes known about it for a bit and has been really flirty with me (im 20, hes 21). like whenever we go out and end up watching films round someones house, he always cuddles ...
A. 4 December 2007: If you are going to text him because that's the only way to reach him I would casually ask him if the cats got his tongue...lol Honestly though I doubt that texting is the best course of action, if you must though, then go for it. If asking him that ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to trust him again because I don't want to get hurt again...
Q. I met up with my ex last night (we broke up 2 months ago). He said he still loved me and missed me and couldn't get over me and we ended up making out. He said we should try dating again. I agreed to it last night, but then freaked out this morning ...
A. 4 December 2007: First, take a deep breath and try to calm down a bit. It seems like you're really worked up about this and I hope that you can breathe and think rationally.
Second you need to ask yourself a few questions, all of which it sounds like you already ... (read in full...)
Can a guy tell when a girl orgasms?
Q. My question is quite simple really: can a guy tell when a girl orgasms? Clearly male ejeculation makes it obvious but I was wondering about when females cum? Please reply x...
A. 3 December 2007: Seeing that every person is different, some women are easier to detect than others when they have had an orgasm. Some guys are unable to tell, others can. It all depends on the guy, the gal and the circumstances. Generally if invovled in intercourse ... (read in full...)
I feel so cheap and easy. What should I do?
Q. ive liked one of the guys from my part time job for a couple of months now and hes known about it for a bit and has been really flirty with me (im 20, hes 21). like whenever we go out and end up watching films round someones house, he always cuddles ...
A. 3 December 2007: Firstly, I would suggest that you slow down your drinking, and not drown your sorrows that way. It seems that you are more susceptible to fooling around with someone when you've been drinking(not surprising it's pretty much common across the board, ... (read in full...)
Any ideas for a pair of tattoos?
Q. hey guys, my boyfriend of many years and i are planning on getting wrist tattoos composed of two words, as in he gets one part i get the other (ie. true and love) and yes we are 100% sure of this, but need some suggestions or some ideas for a ...
A. 3 December 2007: That's something highly personal and while it's fun to get idea's from other people, it should be something that is more meaningful to both of you than just a simple suggested phrase. Sit down with each other and brainstorm about something that is a ... (read in full...)
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