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When I help people I don’t give them advice. I give suggestion and instruction and commands and back that up with psychological reasoning. Advice is something we ask for but choose to ignore and do our own way.
Our brain works exactly like a computer. We create our own event and experiences by our predominant thoughts and beliefs. Which me can metaphorically call software and hardware. Just like a computer we can change, rewrite and delete behaviours, beliefs and thoughts to form a new reality that is gives us the outcomes we desire in life.
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28 May 2008: Truth is that its just not a natural phenomena for two humans to have what we call a relationship. So that means its down to management and people skills. Most people don’t possess these skills. They let their emotions drive their decisions a...
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Is it because of excessively watching porn videos that I have difficulty in maintaining an erection?
Q. who thinks that the porn industry wrecks men's sex lives? who thinks porn and to much sexual images causes damage in erections? the reason im asking this question is because for many years i used to masterbate to porn ( 11 years to be exact) b...
A. 21 June 2008: Our bodies are constructed perfectly to be able to do what is nessesary in life. an erection is controlled by the olfactory in the brain. an emotion creats a chemical which causes you to feel aroused called dopamine , seratonin and endopinephrine. ... (read in full...)
How do I break up with a suicidal girl?
Q. How do i break up with a girl i've been dating for 10 months when she has a past history of being suicidal and says she couldn't live without me. also she lost her virginity to me to make things that much harder. no matter what i want to stay ...
A. 3 June 2008: You seem very stuck there lol. No matter what you do or say she will do what she feels. and you can never predict a suicidal girls feelings. in her head she has an idea of what she would do if she lost you. she hasnt got many ideas depending on how ... (read in full...)
I am always initiating contact, but I want to persue this relationship to a higher level. how do I do this?
Q. Hi. I have a good guy friend whom I know for almost 7 years. We lost contact in between, as he was studying overseas. in the past 2 years, we got back in touch. We have a good time meeting each time he returns from overseas. I feel that we ha...
A. 1 June 2008: You have very good foundations to proceed to the next level. when you express to your friend that your feelings are stronger then you will both magically veer off into something on a higher level. so all you really want to say is that your feelings ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that this will ruin our friendship!!
Q. theres this boy. and he is totally amazing. hes deffinitley my bestest guy friend. i can talk to him about anything and everything and i love it. i love him sooo much and he loves me to. we both know how we feel abouht eachother but im afraid that ...
A. 1 June 2008: You have 2 main choices. You can either be mrs nice and let it happen for thier happyness and just deal with the sufering.
or
Get in there and tell him that you dont want him doing going out with your friend.... then he will say why. and you... (read in full...)
I'm going out of my mind. Why is he so afraid?
Q. I'm going out of my mind!!! He wants me, he soesn't want me, he wants me, then he doesn't...Why is he so SCARED!!! First he was afraid of getting close to me because of some screwed up relationships in the past, then he took a chance. Then he ...
A. 1 June 2008: Do something mindblowing. Symbolize to him that your here to say. plan something special that proves what you would say. for example buy something that has something connecting you like a pendant necklace with your photos for example. then have the ... (read in full...)
Do dreams mean anything?
Q. I know there are people out there who spend their whole lies to analyze dreams and do it for a living, but i wanna know from your own experiences, do dreams (in regards to relationships) mean anything... I'm asking cause just last night i had a dr...
A. 1 June 2008: When your dreaming your subconcious is very active. your subconcious hold every single memory of every single object, word, person, thing that has come into your zone of eye sight. every smell that you have experienced. every emotion and feeling ... (read in full...)
I feel really shy to ask him or even give hints that I'm in love with him!
Q. i have been in love with my step cousin for ages now but i dont know how he feels about me. i feel really shy to ask him or even give hints. everytime i see, which isnt really often i love him even more. what can i do so i dont make myself look ...
A. 1 June 2008: awwwwwwwww how cute. Next time you see him. just act normal as you usualy do. and when you go, give him a sweet kiss on the cheek and turn around and go. he will follow that up by text or msn later and there you go... you broken the ice!!!!... (read in full...)
I just cant get hold of him I just keep crying waiting to hear from him!
Q. Hey guys im in need of some help!! friday nite after not hearing anything from my boyfriend i decided to text him and we got into a bit of an arguement! i havent spoken to him since then he said his battery is dead and his phone is off!!! ...
A. 1 June 2008: I think you deserved some reasurance. at the moment he might be enjoying the fact your in suspense. Within the next week it could be make or break! lets be sensible here. he hasnt disapeered forever!! he is still obtainable it just depends how far ... (read in full...)
I just cant get hold of him I just keep crying waiting to hear from him!
Q. Hey guys im in need of some help!! friday nite after not hearing anything from my boyfriend i decided to text him and we got into a bit of an arguement! i havent spoken to him since then he said his battery is dead and his phone is off!!! ...
A. 1 June 2008: I think you deserved some reasurance. at the moment he might be enjoying the fact your in suspense. Within the next week it could be make or break! lets be sensible here. he hasnt disapeered forever!! he is still obtainable it just depends how far ... (read in full...)
Unrequited Love with an American Girl!
Q. Hi. I'm a 15 year old male from England. My Best Friend has a wide family. His Dad left for an American Girl and they ran away together to America to live happily ever after. Well, he has a Sister (she's not even his Sister, they just treat...
A. 1 June 2008: Ok thats still fine but how can you measure friendship??????? you cant really find a way. if you do find a way you will just be justifying that you are friends.
friendship is a word. you cant see friendship its not something that exists.
howe... (read in full...)
Unrequited Love with an American Girl!
Q. Hi. I'm a 15 year old male from England. My Best Friend has a wide family. His Dad left for an American Girl and they ran away together to America to live happily ever after. Well, he has a Sister (she's not even his Sister, they just treat...
A. 1 June 2008: You have these thoughts in your head about what you want but you keep teeling yourself they will never happen. You may think there is only one reality and that is this earth but you will be wrong. everyones brain is a version of thier own reality. ... (read in full...)
Is there prejudice against bisexuals?
Q. If it is okay to be bisexual then why do bisexual people have to hide it? Why do our parents scream at us about it?...
A. 1 June 2008: There is prejudice against. Inbreds, black people, asians, americans, british, gays, lesbians, bisexuals, prearranged marrige, people with piercings, goths, disabled people, cheaters, sex before marrige, criminals.
there is a lot of prejudic... (read in full...)
How can I get over feeling so lovesick?
Q. I'm having a crush with this girl for over 3 years now, but 4 months ago I learned she moved on by dating another guy for 5 months already. So I tried to forget about her, but everything I did at this point kept reminding me of her. I can hardly ...
A. 1 June 2008: Yes. go and find someone who knows hypnotism. when your in trance your love sick can just be erased instantly or maybe a few sessions. but if not then you should just ride it out!... (read in full...)
Will guys see me as a slut now?
Q. I was wondering if i was a slut. Its been on my mind for a while now. I am 15 and I am not in a relationship but lost my virginity recently. He wasn't my bf, but i really like him and don't regret it. Well anyway I did most things with him (bj, ...
A. 30 May 2008: some will some wont. the one that will you dont want anyway, the ones that do are probably maturer people. girls will think your a slut when there jealous of the fact that your maturing faster than them. please just go out there and do what the hell ... (read in full...)
Is it illegal for a 15 year old to go out with a 30 year old?
Q. i just wanted some advice really im 15 and going out with a 30year old is it illegal?? ...
A. 30 May 2008: Dont worry about laws and governments. the 30 year old should know better but it might not be so taboo in your country. if it feels right then go with it!... (read in full...)
What makes a guy try to pressure a girl into sex and think it's fine to not respect her boundaries??
Q. What makes a guy try to pressure a girl into sex? What makes a guy not listen to a girl when she says 'no'? What makes him think its ok to not respect her boundaires? And what makes a guy so controlling? I know those are all general questions, but ...
A. 30 May 2008: With any other animal men are geneticly programmed to have sex with as many girls as possible. its been the instinct for millions of years now. since the past few hundred to a thousand years we have introduced marrige and the moral that you must ... (read in full...)
We are going to soon discuss our differences face to face, how can I tell him I am ready for more in spite of my young age?
Q. my bf and i have hit a really rough patch he is talkin about breakin up as i think the age diff between us is gettin to him (am 16 and he is turnin 22) i really dont want it to be the end but he keeps talkin about how he doesnt want to rush things ...
A. 30 May 2008: Remember it could be a smokescreen. it could be the nice excuse that only you should hear to let you down gently. or it could be a cry out for you to realise your too clingy and back off a bit and give some space. or it could be the truth. you need ... (read in full...)
Can a boy really change for a girl? Stop smoking, drinking, doing drugs etc?
Q. Can a boy really change for a girl? not look wise, but habbit wise, such as stop smoking, drinking and doing drugs and start trying to get a good education? i met a boy who i have known for 3 weeks, we are both 15 and he has told me he loves me a...
A. 30 May 2008: He is going to have sex with you and use you. FACT. your going to get treated like shit and your going to be let down by him. i say this because i can make assumptions on people based on what things the say and do, because im a psycologist and i ... (read in full...)
We are expecting our first child but she did not want to stay together for the sake of the baby as she no longer loves me, I cannot imagine being intimate with another woman...
Q. I split with my girlfriend 2 months ago, we are expecting our first child, she did not want to stay together for the sake of the baby as she no loger loves me. I feel very lonley very isolated, every night i dream of my ex and i wake up upset beca...
A. 30 May 2008: I actually feel the same pain when i read that. I think everyone will tell you to sit and talk to someone about it and hopefully somebody might reassure you and make you feel better but what i can suggest is this.... im assuming that there still is ... (read in full...)
Why does he act like that? I need advice.
Q. Ok.. So I've known my "bf" for a long time. We used to date about 2 years ago, stopped talking. And now we started dating again. We have been dating for about 2 months now. He is nice and everything. But he has a problem. He doesn't call me much...
A. 29 May 2008: The thing about relationships is that you always have an expectation of what the other person should act like. if they dont then you get paranoid. this will eventualy be the death of your relationship. stop worrying. when your together make it fun ... (read in full...)
Is this a good sign, or is he having doubts?
Q. I met a new guy about a month ago, and we just hooked up for the first time last weekend. Ever since then he has talked to me everyday by phone, and a few times a week we'll hang out. Just the other day in front of his friends, he wasn't afraid to ...
A. 29 May 2008: ok please promise me you will completly eradicate all hopes of a relationship with this guy because you have known him a month now and yes at some point soon a relationship will still come of it but you still need good foundations to build upon. ... (read in full...)
Is she rejecting me? She said our friendship was more valuable than a relationship!
Q. My dreams are finally coming true, I finally got the girl I like to talk to me! We are so close, to each other, but she said this "Our friendship is more valuable then a relationship, I like u but id rather be ur friend" is she rejecting me? What ...
A. 29 May 2008: Hi. this could all date back to when you first met her and the first impressions you subliminaly gave off. yes you get talking and you get led on to believe your liked and then get shot down at the end because you slipped into the very annoying ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep going for the wrong kind of guys?
Q. Why do i keep going for the wrong kind of guys? I know I am young, but this trend is starting to worry me. The first serious relationship, he turned out to be violent and broke my nose and slashed my arm with a knife. The second serious relations...
A. 29 May 2008: Now this is a very very very big subject and im not going to sit here and tell you to wait for some guy to magically appear and pass that off as advice. So here is some instruction to build your own relationships that last. Alot of girls search for ... (read in full...)
I need last minute confidence on giving him my lap dance!
Q. Hey guys help needed! I need last minute confidence on giving my lap dance. i'm planning on giving him one tomorrow night! i just know i'll feel silly, as though i'm acting sexy but he's just thinking i'm totally not sexy, or just over-doi...
A. 28 May 2008: I am the perfect person for this! Now a lap dance is all about showing him what you would be doing if you both had no cloths on. and when u dirty dance in a club you do similar. You have been blessed with a vagina, nice legs, nice bottom and breast ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling bad about the huge fight with my best friend. What should I say?
Q. Okay, so me and my best friend got into a huge fight last friday. She was making me look like an idiot in school to make herself look better around this guy that were both talk to. I got mad and told her sister who had picked up the phone that I d...
A. 28 May 2008: Well a lot of people are going to tell you that you should just sit down sort it out like adults but what are u going to say that’s going to illustrate the way she has made you feel. You have just been made to look like a fool and now your in the ... (read in full...)
Why do we have to reach the 'break up' part for them to realize their true feelings? And is this just me or does this happen to other people?
Q. I have had this situation happen with me with most of my serious ex-girlfriends.... One of us will break up with the other, but we will still remain in contact for the one of the usual reasons (still like/love one another, aren't finding anyone else ...
A. 28 May 2008: Looking back and analysing your past relationships involves you to take the birds eye perspective. Then you realise that “you don’t know what you have got until its gone” Truth is that its just not a natural phenomena for two humans to have w... (read in full...)
Should I ask my (female) ex back out?
Q. Hi. I'm 15, and finally accepted I was gay about 18 months ago after a lot of soul-searching. Last July I fell for one of my mates, and managed to get up the confidence to ask her out. She saif she felt the same way, and we sort of persued a secret ...
A. 28 May 2008: Don’t think about protecting friendships. Friendships is an adjective that describes the relationships status. If she splits up with her boyfriend then you want to be there to listen to her if she is upset. Support her as a friend and pick up any ... (read in full...)
First time oral tips needed!
Q. it's my first time giving oral how do i make it good for my boyfriend without making it obvious that it's my first time...any tips thanks xx...
A. 28 May 2008: You could make believe that u are the queen of blowjobs. if ya think about it. when a man is having intercourse with u the penis is being pleasured there by just going up and down slowly and quickly and round and hard and soft u get the picture. we ... (read in full...)
Is there hope for a future relationship with her, even though we're not in contact now?
Q. hi i was wondering wot anyone makes of this. i was sort of seeing a girl for the last month and for some reason i totally fell for her straight away. its so weird because im really picky and i told myself id never let myself get in2 someone ...
A. 28 May 2008: yeah there is. u have to play it tho. u need to sort ure feeling for her out first. cut of all communication slowly. adjust what u write to her. u now know that she has gon back to her ex and there is nothin u can do apart from speak to her every ... (read in full...)
I want to end my friendship with my unreliable selfish mate.
Q. hi everyone, ive got problems with my best mate. ive made my mind up im finally finishing our friendship. ive put up with her for years and now realising the same as with loser guys dont change neither do mates! i dont need/want to have her in my ...
A. 28 May 2008: i dont think she deserves the courtesy for u to even tell her u dont want her friendship. to be quite honest ud jus be giving her a taste of her own medicine by ignoring her back. and if u ignore her and she doesnt email u then job done. if she ... (read in full...)
I'm getting bored with my girlfriend...
Q. My name is Anthony, and I've been dating my girlfriend for nearly two years. Without getting too graphic, certain area's of her body have changed since I took her virginity and we started having sex casually. I don't find her as attractive anymore ...
A. 28 May 2008: i cant work out weather u want to make ureself attracted to her again and find a way around it or u want to end it and find sum1 new. those are ure two choices. my advice to you wud be to explore those options. what will option 1 bring u. what will ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to put the past behind me and I'm scared that if I do I'll be back to square one. I need help but don't know where to turn!
Q. I'm avoiding relationships and I admit I need help. (Well at least I said it). I'm 30 now and really want to be in a loving relationship, marriage, kids the works but I feel I'm past the point of no return. I can't bring myself to go through mo...
A. 28 May 2008: very good positive reply from emilyanswers. everything u have sed there is right. what id like to add is that as im reading what u write about ure past boyfriends. u are very aware or what ure feeling and how ure past is makin u behave but u just ... (read in full...)
How can I find out if my bf is meeting girls on the internet?
Q. i have been told my boyfriend is meeting girls off the internet. how do i find out if this is true?...
A. 28 May 2008: u feel upset that a guy u once thought so much about is finding intrest in other girls. and i understand u want to know if u are bieng mugged off coz im sure u dont want to be wasting ure time with a guy who doesnt realise that u can actualy be sum1 ... (read in full...)
She won't talk about sex and I'm extremely unhappy and thinking about ending the relationship.
Q. Okay so I'm almost 18 and my girlfriend is 15 we have about a 2 year 9 month age difference and we have been going out for about 10 month now. Now on to the question I feel that I'm a very sexual person and I know she's a little younger then me and ...
A. 28 May 2008: ok. uve got the advantage of knowing her thoughts. she has told u that she thinks u just want sex. u now know that this is what is stoppin her. coz it is. that the underline belief about it. now u cud leave her but she is an amazing person and if u ... (read in full...)
Guys, have you broken up with a girl, then want to get back together? Girls, am I delusional or should I find someone who is ready for commitment?
Q. Posted this earlier but no replies...really hope to get some advice here! My ex-bf and I had been together for almost a year. I want commitment, he doesn't want commitment....thus we did the classic girl nags at guy for commitment/guy i...
A. 28 May 2008: u shud realy jus move on to sum1 else but lets try and do everything we can to win this guy back. pscologicaly, what ure aiming for is for him to feel positivly about you. what u should try is friends with benifits. only meet up for sex for a while. ... (read in full...)
What should I do to keep my relationship fresh and get his attention more?
Q. I have been a relationship for 6 months: 2 months of staying close and 3 months being far away. We have a long distance relationship because I have to work in another country for 6 months. I have 3 more months to work and then I'll be back. Norm...
A. 28 May 2008: now when i give advice i normaly concentrate on pscological reasoning but with this it jus is so aparent that sex and arousal and that type of feeling is completly neglected. alot of people are going to answer this question by sayin u have to "talk ... (read in full...)
I want him back but there's religion, third party and character differences.. help!
Q. My BF and I for 2 years always fight for petty reasons. We belong to different religions. We have huge character differences. His parents have long wanted him to severe ties with me but he risked it all for me and still pursued the relationship. We ...
A. 28 May 2008: i understand ure problem and it is very difficult to answer but if we stick to what is simple we can find a way of justifying what is write for u to do. no u obviously have 2 choices. u can convert to his religeon and he will take u back. im sure he ... (read in full...)
When people have sex is it more intercourse or oral?
Q. when people have sex do they usually practice more intercourse or oral?...
A. 28 May 2008: the goal is realy to make the female have the most pleasure. or u may jus want a shag. in that case just intercourse but if u care about the girl u might want to use more oral. there and hundred of ways u can stimulate the vagina. now there are 4 ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to stop anxiety and stress?
Q. whats best way to stop anixety and stress?...
A. 28 May 2008: hi. anxiety and stress are emotions caused by understanding beliefs and worries and thoughts. what wud be of help to u is to think carefuly about what it is that is making u stressed and anxious. maybe debt, love, work, family anything. one u have ... (read in full...)
My orgasms aren't really that great...
Q. Okay I'm having quite a big problem here. My orgasms aren't really that great, nd ive tried experimenting but it seems like they're just over so quick! its like, 5/6 seconds of a nice feeling, but then i dont even feel satisfied. Everyone else ...
A. 28 May 2008: yes u could wait until u can get real orgasms. science has proved many different ages where u experienced climaxed orgasm but which ones are true. but the average is late twenties. ure a teenager now and ure sex shud be very satisfying coz ure young ... (read in full...)
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