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He loves me but wants space? What does it mean?

Q.   I have been dating a man I met 6 months ago. His wife cheated on him and now lives with a new partner but they had only just stopped sharing the marital home just before we met. He treated me like gold, told me I was the woman of his dreams and t...

A.   11 February 2018: Whatever his reasons are, don't take it personally. Either he has his own issues that have absolutely nothing to do with you (realized he doesn't want a relationship after all, his wife is trying to talk to him again, etc) or possibly he thinks the ... (read in full...)

I thought he loved me but he cheated and she's pregnant!

Q.   Hello this may be a lil not lengthy but I need advice. I was in a long distance relationship with someone I met on a job two years ago, we met when I moved to Virginia for a short period of time but because we were both in a relationship at the time ...

A.   8 February 2018: Don't overthink it, he's an asshole, and the two of you are not meant to be. Trying to wonder what happened or where things went wrong is as useful as arguing with a crazy person. It's also better to find out now than after you get married. Good ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wants a break, what chance is there for us?

Q.   So my girlfriend said she needs space to work out what she wants. Now I know that this isn’t a good thing but is it necessarily a bad thing? Obviously I have agreed to give her space for one week. Two points though do I text her at all to make sure ...

A.   8 February 2018: I've been in your shoes before, and I've seen other people in your shoes before. It's not necessarily a guarantee that your relationship is over but it's likely that it is and this is the easiest way for her to do it If you don't accept it grace... (read in full...)

I don't accept his reasons for not wanting to date me.

Q.   Hi I've been having problems with a guy and I want any advice to understand the way he is acting. I met him online many months ago maybe 5 months ago. It was a dating app so obviously that is the reason people are on there. However he will no...

A.   7 February 2018: I'm sure the other answers already let you have it, but OH MY GOD! He'd be crazy to date you. You have to chill out! Forget about him, next time don't lie, don't make up stories, don't "test" the guy, don't beg, don't manipulate, etc. Instead... (read in full...)

Is "we need to chat" the same as "we need to talk"?

Q.   If someone says ‘we need to chat’ is that different than ‘we need to talk’ or do you think it’s the same thing? ...

A.   6 February 2018: It doesn't really matter unless you plan on avoiding the "chat"for the rest of your life. You might as well find out yourself.... (read in full...)

I have first date jitters, due to my acne! I

Q.   I'm in my mid/late 20s and met a woman off a dating website who seems incredible (she's in her late 20s/early 30s) - we started chatting briefly using the site and found we had a lot in common. We then exchanged numbers and started chatting ...

A.   6 February 2018: All you can do is go and if it's not meant to be it not meant to be. There's a hundred reasons she might like it dislike you, acne is just one. By the way, you may want to look into a ketogenic diet "keto"for treating acne. Apparently it works fo... (read in full...)

I’m confused about my reaction! Am I gay or bi?

Q.   Hey I’m really confused. I regularly go to my local spa. I enjoyed relaxing and speaking to women there. However the other day a guy was next to me in the jacuzzi, and under the bubbles I felt his hand. He was similar age to me around 25-26. I ...

A.   6 February 2018: You are what you are... Almost nobody is 100% straight or gay. Maybe you can explore to find it what you like, but labels don't do you any good.... (read in full...)

How do I manage to become friends with possibly sleazy but otherwise awesome guy?

Q.   So, for more than one year I have this little crush for a guy, he is a good person, I see that he helps people when he can, he is really interesting and I find him very sexy too (but I can totally contain myself) - one thing of this guy, that I felt ...

A.   6 February 2018: Just all him to do something with you. Keep it friendly the whole time and avoid putting yourself in a situation where you may be tempted or he may get the wrong idea. Invite another friend, if possible.. When the "event"is over just call it a nig... (read in full...)

I don't want to give my friend false hope

Q.   Dear all I just need some advice. A good friend of mine told me she had feelings for me last November. I didn't have those feelings so rejected her and she was upset. It was tough for some weeks but eventually she stopped being upset and we seeme...

A.   1 February 2018: I wouldn't block her necessarily, but be clear with her that "no means no"and if she can't handle that you're gone.... (read in full...)

A girl I chatted with online started telling me all of her fetishes. Should I meet her?

Q.   Ok so a few hours ago I started talking to a girl on tinder. Within minutes she started talking in quite sexually explicit terms, mainly centred around her foot fetish. I admit I was intrigued and played along. The conversation moved onto whatsapp, ...

A.   31 January 2018: I'd the stuff she's taking about just isn't for your then tell her you're not interested and move on. I don't think she's going to try to get revenge since you don't have any relationship with her whatsoever. She's just looking for someone ... (read in full...)

My family wants me to forgive our dying father for the abuse but I can't!

Q.   Am I a demon for not caring that my dad is dying from cancer and i want nothin to do with it or him or those who care about it. I've posted about my dad with other accounts which I have deactivated. So I would just give a summary of what he did. ...

A.   31 January 2018: If you've reached the point where you don't care, then you don't care. It's not your job to care about someone who didn't properly care for you. If your family can't understand or doesn't she that's fine, don't cut them off, just tell them you... (read in full...)

Married and seriously falling for my doctor

Q.   I am head over heels for my surgeon. I have been seeing him for about 4-5 months and my feelings keep getting stronger. There was only one time when I thought he might be interested. He told me I had a nice smile and put his hand on my thigh. Since ...

A.   23 January 2018: Thinking you're falling in love with doctors, teachers, etc is so common it's not even unusual. Do you really think it's a good idea to risk your marriage because if a common psychological occurrence? If so, either get a divorce or tell ... (read in full...)

Why did he block me? Was it because I didn’t have sex with him?

Q.   Hey guys.. I randomly met this guy last week and as soon as I saw him, I liked him. He seemed shy and I could tell he was into me but I knew he wouldn't ask me out, so I did. He took my number and he asked me to dinner on Saturday. Well he knew how ...

A.   20 January 2018: Honestly, some of the comments from women about what men think are a little off. Not entirely, but they're generalizations that don't apply to most guys. My opinion is that most guys will try to have sex with you sooner than later. In itself t... (read in full...)

Why did he block me? Was it because I didn’t have sex with him?

Q.   Hey guys.. I randomly met this guy last week and as soon as I saw him, I liked him. He seemed shy and I could tell he was into me but I knew he wouldn't ask me out, so I did. He took my number and he asked me to dinner on Saturday. Well he knew how ...

A.   18 January 2018: He sounds like he's kind of weird. You're trying to figure out what you did and ignoring everything he did wrong.... (read in full...)

I don't feel confident to talk dirty

Q.   How can I feel confident talking sexy with my ldr . He like porn that features lots of mistresses and assertive women and I just dont feel I have the confidence to pull that off. When he asks me to talk sexy I just freeze and can't help feeling very ...

A.   17 January 2018: Instead of trying to think of what to say and feeling odd, assume the role, and put yourself in the shoes of the person you're trying to emulate. For instance if someone asked you to pretend to be a mechanic, instead of stressing out because ... (read in full...)

Is my diet likely to work?

Q.   Hey there folks. I am an unfit teen who is grossly over weight. I have heard about the apple a day thing. Does that work? I do excise Monday-Friday for about 40 mins. My mother has bad very bad eating habits, which I have grown up with and she'll ...

A.   16 January 2018: You should look into the keto diet, or any diet that eliminates processed carbs. If you can eliminate processed carbs your body will convert to using fat for energy instead of carbs. I know a guy who lost more than 100 lbs in a year by doing that ... (read in full...)

Should I confront my soon to be ex husband about his girlfriend from another country?

Q.   Been married 18 years and my husband asked for a divorce 9 months ago. We are both still living in the marital home awaiting property settlement in a few weeks time. The situation is very stressful and toxic for me. We both have lawyers ...

A.   11 January 2018: I, like everyone else, don't see the point.... (read in full...)

Am I right to feel offended by my boss's improper comment?

Q.   Hi.I teach at a higher education institution, where I had an incident with my boss today. While I was having coffee with four colleagues, he told us to not use electric heaters because the central heating system - which has never really worked – was ...

A.   11 January 2018: I just think it's really cool that you had the courage to say something to him. I wish more people felt comfortable saying how they feel. If you became offended by what he said, and he became offended by what you said, it sounds like you both are... (read in full...)

I feel embarrassed and stupid about the party!

Q.   My boyfriend invited me to his friends party. I don’t know too many of his friends but he really wanted me to go so I went. We got to the party and he sat across the table from me and talked to his friends and took shots with his friends while I sat ...

A.   7 January 2018: It sounds to me like he could have put a little more effort into making you comfortable, but you could have done the same. It's amazing what you can achieve if you put your phone down and start talking to people. By the way, your question "is it o... (read in full...)

Can I really believe her?

Q.   I was looking through my GF text messages one night because I felt something was different lately with her. So I found a text from a guy that she worked with. The text started out as I hear you are leaving the company for a new job and continued ...

A.   5 January 2018: I don't think the texts prove she was cheating but they were definitely inappropriate. Texts like that are always the first step towards cheating. If I was you I'd insist that she tells you the truth, and use your best judgement as to whether ... (read in full...)

Should I ask my co-worker out? Or is she a gold digger?

Q.   Hello, The thing is I'm getting mixed signals from a female coworker. She said once that she doesn't like quiet guys (like me), or fat guys (also like me), but recently she seems much more eager to talk to me about random stuff (but she does spe...

A.   3 January 2018: She probably likes you as a person, and is attracted to your money. The fact that she doesn't like overweight quiet guys means you should probably just keep it friendly unless you feel comfortable with the informal prostitution that is a sugar da... (read in full...)

The ex is bad mouthing me to another man. Why would he do this?

Q.   Around five months ago for God knows why the guy I was currently going out with ended the relationship with me saying it was too much and the break up was not mutual. I still have him on social media and he has supposedly assumed I've moved on with ...

A.   3 January 2018: Just because you don't want to be with someone anymore doesn't mean you like the idea of seeing them with someone else. Or, he actually does believe you did something wrong... You could always confront him about it. ... (read in full...)

I'm attracted to his personality and not so much to his looks. Can a relationship work like this?

Q.   Hi Everyone! Can a relationship work on personality attraction alone l? I’ve met the most amazing guy I’ve quite possibly ever encountered before. We met in the gym where he works, I did NOT find him atttactive at all when I first met him. The...

A.   1 January 2018: Long term happiness is far more dependant on personality than it is looks. Odds are too, that if he treats you well he'd treat any kids you might have well too. The more you care about him the more attractive he'll become.... (read in full...)

Is it selfish to break up with him over this?

Q.   A couple of months ago my boyfriend and I had an argument, I was trying my best to start sex with him, I don't know if he was maybe tired but he got annoyed and said it's a turn off putting sex on a plate. So I decided to stop trying, I though...

A.   30 December 2017: "him not wanting to have sex with me isn't right." I'm sorry but if you were a man and said that you'd have some upset people replying to you. Everyone has the right to say no to sex. It's a good way to ruin a relationship, but they still have the... (read in full...)

We're both 26, been together 3 years and done nothing sexually beyond kissing! It's just driving me up the wall!

Q.   Have been dating for over 3 years, we clicked in more than one way and we're fond of each other. We're both 26 and haven't had sex yet (both virgins) . It's likely she hasn't ever had an orgasm or done much "exploration" on her own either. I have ...

A.   27 December 2017: You never said if she's waiting for marriage or not. If she's waiting for marriage maybe consider whether or not you'd actually marry her. If so, why not take a step in that direction? If it's simply here being afraid then I'd suggest telling ... (read in full...)

Girlfriend getting friendly with my colleague. Should I worry?

Q.   My girlfriend recently became friends with one of my work colleagues on Facebook. On Christmas morning, whilst I was still asleep, my girlfriend sent my colleague a message saying Merry Christmas along with a selfie of herself fully made up. She's ...

A.   27 December 2017: Cheating usually starts innocently enough. Sending a selfie is kind of a bad omen.... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend too sexually demanding?

Q.   I’ve been with my boyfriend around half a year. He has really bad anger issues which he has been trying to control but he still has his outbursts. One of the things that triggers these outbursts is when I don’t give him head when he wants it. ...

A.   17 December 2017: Your boyfriend is an asshole and you deserve better... I'm not sure if I missed the word in your question but I don't remember you saying that this is abuse. It clearly is. Let me say that if one of my daughters was grown up and told me thei... (read in full...)

Should I own up to my size?

Q.   I only have 4 inches erect and I met this girl about month ago. She is very beautiful and has great personality. We have gotten more physical in the relationship but due to nervousness I invent excuse to leave before she sees me naked or before sex ...

A.   17 December 2017: The truth is that for some women that might be too small. For some women 7 inches is too small, too. But there are a hundred reasons why a new relationship might not work out. Maybe she realizes you're too sarcastic. Maybe your leisure activiti... (read in full...)

Our intimacy is gone and I don't know what to think or say?!?

Q.   Don’t know what to think or say!! I haven been married for 15 years to a wonderful lady. Like every marriage we have encountered ups and downs. For about a year our intimacy is gone. She gets off work at 5:30pm arrives home at 8:30pm. She is a...

A.   16 December 2017: Hmmmm, sounds pretty damn suspicious to me... I don't know how best to proceed but she may be cheating and you need to get better evidence (cell phone records?). Ask her to account for her time and see if she looks like she's lying. My expe... (read in full...)

My wife wants an open relationship, I don't

Q.   My wife insists on a open relationship for her but not for me. I am very resentful about this but she says its this or nothing. I love her but I am going nuts....

A.   16 December 2017: Basically, like all marriages after awhile, she's bored. She probably does love you, she just wants some excitement in her life. She wants to keep you around to provide stability, and add other people for entertainment. Unfortunately you have to ... (read in full...)

My friend is behaving differently since we had sex

Q.   So I'm 25 best friend is 29. So I have been really good friends with an American man for about 12 years now, we met online and were penpals , we have emailed nearly every day for 12 years and always ring each other and there for each other if we ...

A.   10 December 2017: Do what your heart tells you, I doubt you're reading him wrong. If you've been great friends for so long it could be the beginning of a good relationship. If not, you'll find a way to maintain your friendship.... (read in full...)

Should I treat this like I just got out of a BPD relationship or am I going about evaluating this situation wrong?

Q.   I am in high school right now and my first girlfriend recently broke up with me. We dated for about a month and a half and the way she broke up with me was not what anybody does to anybody else. I'm trying to understand and make sense of why this ...

A.   24 November 2017: When people are suffering from mental health disorder it can be nearly impossible to make sense of some of their actions. Don't take it personally. And trust me, you're better off!... (read in full...)

How do I tell potential dates that I do not engage in sex outside marriage vows?

Q.   Hi I am going to start online dating . I don’t want to have sex before marriage . I am not virgin I was married before. Mostly folks respect your decision ( not sex before marriage) if you are virgin . If you are not virgin they don’t respect ...

A.   15 November 2017: Honestly, is say it in your profile. I know that for myself and many other people that's a deal breaker, so going on a few dates and potentially liking someone only to find that out would be both disappointing and a waste of time. Be straight... (read in full...)

Advice on paying for sex?

Q.   Little background: I am a geeky, fat male virgin who's never been on a date or ever kissed a girl. I don't ask girls out anymore because they always say no. I don't have much of an option in experiencing intimacy so I thought about paying for sex or ...

A.   2 November 2017: I don't necessarily think you'd regret it, the are tons of people that do it and don't. But personally, I'd go to another country where it's either legal or decriminalized. What you really should do is start working out five days a week, and... (read in full...)

Still not comfortable with my sexuality

Q.   Hey all! Forgive me from the beginning if I am over graphical! I've known, and accepted that I am attractive to my own gender in a sexual way for years now. I identify as bisexual, but in private. Anyway I really come with 2 separate questions. I...

A.   29 October 2017: Sexuality is not nearly as black and white as most people think. What you like is what you like, and ultimately you should find a way to accept it and incorporate it into your life. You may want to look for a romantic relationship with a woman, b... (read in full...)

We are falling out of love and I don't know what to do

Q.   After being attached to his phone the TV and napping all day I asked my husband if he would spend some time with me. He suggested we have friends over I replied I would rather spend the night with just you since we haven't had a night alone in a ...

A.   29 October 2017: I was going to suggest something similar to honey pie. Go out and have fun. Enjoy your life, don't make him responsible for your enjoyment. If he asks what's going on tell him the truth. Maybe he'll get a clue. ... (read in full...)

Is masturbation gay?

Q.   If you are not thinking of anything and just masturbating for pleasure is this homosexual?...

A.   18 October 2017: A simple Google search could have answered this. Homosexual: a person who is sexually attracted to people of their own sex. If, when you masturbate you're thinking about other guys then, yes, it's gay.... (read in full...)

This woman is getting close on the train!

Q.   I catch the busy train to work in Tokyo everyday and there is this cute younger lady who gets on along the way. I am usually standing near the door anyway but somehow she seems to find her way in front of me so we are hugged and crushed together. We ...

A.   18 October 2017: Sounds like she's groping you. ... (read in full...)

What should I do about feeling inadequate?

Q.   First off, this is quite the premature question, but tonight, its all I can think about. A year ago, I had to escape a mentally, physically, sexually, and verbally abusive relationship. It was difficult to say the least. A few months after we ...

A.   18 October 2017: Women and men are very different. So while you are looking at yourself from a woman's perspective (and probably one with low self esteem stemming from your bad relationship) and concluding that you're not good enough, he's looking at you from a ... (read in full...)

I feel like I was second servings!

Q.   Okay i really dont know what to do in this situation. So my freind is friends with this guy and they are just friends nothing more. So one day he spent the night at our apartment and I ended up having sex with him. I felt weird about sleeping with ...

A.   10 October 2017: I think that if I was you I'd be hurt and upset as well. I don't understand why most of these answers are harsh, either. Considering she's your roommate all you can do is talk with her about it and try to come to a place where you feel a little b... (read in full...)

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