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I feel he led me on and then rejected my offer for sex!

Q.   I (27F) have been having a crush on a colleague at work (46M). We hang out together and have lunch/dinner together. Since he is moving out of state, I wanted to confess my feelings for him before he left, and I knew it would not lead to a serious ...

A.   11 July 2019: He only owed you sex if you paid in advance and in that case he could refund your money... (read in full...)

How do I get my bf to try anal with me?

Q.   Straight to the point, how do I get my bf to try anal with me? I’ve brought it up a couple of times and I’ve done it before with other bf’s but my bf now is the most respectful guy that even when we have sex he asks if he can do certain things which ...

A.   11 July 2019: My opinion is that you should ask him DURING sex, right before he's about to put it in. Tell him where you want him to put it. If he can resist that I don't know what to tell you!... (read in full...)

A troubling situation is arising my dad is becoming a creep

Q.   Firstly,my dad has never abused or molested me growing up and he was actually very protective of me and my sister. Now even as an adult my father will do anything for me and he has expressed that I'm his favorite child. I never felt weird around my ...

A.   29 May 2019: I don't want this to come off as defending your dad, but I think he may not realize how upsetting his behavior is to you. Make it very clear. Don't allow any chance of a misunderstanding. It'll be an awkward conversation, but it's better than bei... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is very casual about his daughters' privacy and I find it very very odd

Q.   Ive been seeing a guy who's super awesome. We're both single parents of two girls each. They stay the night frequently. My girls are 9 and 13, his are 9 and 11. Despite having lived in an all girl house for the last 5 years or so, my daughters and ...

A.   19 May 2019: I see my daughters (9 and 11) naked on occasion and neither I nor they feel it's a big deal. To be honest I think by making it a big deal people are being kind of weird. I have absolutely no sexual attraction/desire for my daughters in any way, and ... (read in full...)

How could I allow this guy to use me for sex?! I feel awful and I've lost all trust in men!

Q.   I’ve recently came out of a long term relationship so I’m very new to dating.when I went out with friends I met a great guy, we chatted a lot and there was an instant spark between us, we exchanged numbers, we spoke a lot over the phone for about a ...

A.   23 April 2019: Talk is cheap; if you don't just want a one night stand, don't give them a one night stand. He can say whatever he wants but if this is the kind of thing you want to avoid, then you'll need to make them prove themselves to you. This doesn't take one ... (read in full...)

I'm very attracted to a man who has kids and is separated. I'm torn about whether to move forward with him

Q.   Hi all - any advice or thoughts on the following would be much appreciated as I'm at a total loss, something very uncommon for me. A series of events happened in my life that caused me to relocate to a brand new city without knowing anyone. ...

A.   24 March 2019: What you really need to do is find out if he's still living with her. If seperated means "we live together but don't get along", that is just cheating. But if he lives in his own place it's not uncommon for people to remain married for years af... (read in full...)

Do couples that have been together a long time have deeper love?

Q.   Hey all Might seem a silly question but i wondered if a couple are together a long time does it mean their love is going to be deeper than a couple who have say been together a couple of years as opposed to ten years?...

A.   3 March 2019: Either that or they can't stand each other.... (read in full...)

I feel broken. Why couldn't my girlfriend have been there for me when I needed someone to listen.

Q.   I dont even know what to do anymore or how to feel. I feel so alone. I have many people around me, my parents, my gf, my best friend, my close friends, my colleagues. But no one actually knows the reality. I lost my new job I got due to not b...

A.   3 March 2019: Getting fired is like being broken up with. It hurts your self esteem. The best you can do is try to learn from it, and also remember that there are sometimes just compatibility issues. You may do well at a similar job somewhere else. Some employers ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend buys another woman a puppy

Q.   My boyfriend of five years ordered an unborn pedigree puppy for a female friend. She walks his dog when he is at work. During the time he sought out, and checked out breeders, I told him that I found this to be a highly inappropriate gift. During ...

A.   25 December 2018: You have the right to end your relationship for whatever reason you want. Was it a good call? Hard to say. If he had no romantic feelings for her whatsoever and there appears to be a somewhat equal exchange of goods then maybe you were the stub... (read in full...)

My friend has been asking why she can't get a partner. Should I tell her what I think?

Q.   Hello Aunts and Uncles! My friend recently started asking me seriously (up until now it was purely rhetorical) why she can't find a partner. Should I tell her what I think? It's just an opinion, I'm not a shrink. I'm afraid that she migh...

A.   22 December 2018: The first answer by female anonymous is a great one. And as someone else said, your input will probably not help. But maybe if you tell her what female anonymous said it will be less your opinion and more "science". Maybe with some luck a light bu... (read in full...)

Why do I attract abusive men? My current bf said that I deserve disrespect because I'm not glamorous!

Q.   My boyfriend said I don't deserve to be talked at with respect because I'm not glam. Why do I attract abusive men both my last two boyfriend's have been that way. Verbally and physically....

A.   6 November 2018: I'd guess that you are probably attracted to the type of guy that turns out to be abusive. There's a chance that something about you attracts them too, but the odds seem better the other way. Ideally you could learn what it is and start rejecting ... (read in full...)

I saw a strange number on my husband's phone, called it and a woman answered. Should I confront him about it?

Q.   Hi, I'm needing help on what to do next in my situation . OK, so I checked his phone. But I had to. He's been acting strange lately. I saw a phone number that called him this morning. And the call lasted 23 minutes so he had a conversation...

A.   2 November 2018: You should be able to look up his call history on your cell phone company's website... If you see that number multiple times you know that he's lying, end of story. I woulda try that before calling the number and introducing yourself. If it's the... (read in full...)

Men never notice me, it makes me feel bad.

Q.   I am 23 and I never get hit on, catcalled, approached, or asked out. I've never even had a boyfriend before. My friends seem to get hit on and catcalled and it starts making me feel like I am unattractive. I never thought I was ugly but not getting ...

A.   26 October 2018: Don't judge your looks by the attention you receive... Multiple times I've seen two women together, one gets ignored and the other hit on a few times (at bars or clubs). The ones that get hot on are generally not more attractive, sometime... (read in full...)

Does him not being able to stay hard with me prove he isn’t attracted to me physically?

Q.   I just started seeing this new guy and everything is great. We are able to talk and laugh with each other and just have a good time. He calls me beautiful and sexy and says he likes the way I look. But last night we just tried to have sex for the ...

A.   21 September 2018: It could have been plenty of other reasons, but not being attracted to you is almost certainly not one of them. It was probably more embarrassing for him.... (read in full...)

I am paying my girlfriend's rent but we are not on good terms. What should I do?

Q.   Found girlfriends journal. Made the mistake of reading some of it. She has been in contact with her ex in prison. Sentenced 25 to life. Wants to visit him as soon as she can. Hasn't seen him in like 2 yrs. I have been supporting her almost 100% for ...

A.   7 September 2018: Move on and save some money. Don't let her try to talk you out of it, she will likely be manipulative considering she needs your money. Talking care of someone like her is not your job anymore, she's an adult.... (read in full...)

Is she worth pursuing?

Q.   I'm in a really low place right now. I've been dating a girl for the past 4 months ( I'm 30 she's 26) and during the past month she's grown incredibly distant. She only texts me when I text her now, sometimes it takes her days to reply, she never ...

A.   7 September 2018: I don't see a point in persuing her further since this is how it makes you feel to pursue her. Talking doesn't seem to help. It's either not the right time or she's not the right person, but you're obviously barking up the wrong tree. Her words may ... (read in full...)

My husband cheated while we were separated

Q.   Hi, I have been married for 14 years now and have a 11 year old son. I walked out of his home 7 years back when I couldnt get along with his parents and he wasnt ready to live separately with ME. He would come and see me and my son on weekends. But ...

A.   4 September 2018: Who cares about your ridiculous marriage... Let your child see his dad for God's sake! I've never heard such a poor excuse to withhold visitation (he's "confused")!!! It sounds like you're using your son to manipulate your husband. It needs to... (read in full...)

How could my girlfriend move on from a 4 year relationship so quickly and already be with another man?

Q.   Two Weeks ago, my relationship of 4 years ended with my girlfriend. i have been devastated, things have not been good for a while, but i was willing to do whatever it took as i never saw myself being with anyone else. we have not been intimate in ...

A.   1 July 2018: She began moving on awhile ago. That's not to say she has been cheating, although it's likely she has, but mentally she has been checking out of the relationship for awhile now. And that being said, she hasn't moved on yet, that's part of the r... (read in full...)

I planned a trip with friends and now they are going on a day I can't go

Q.   I planned a trip to a theme park and invited a couple of friends. I was excited about this. Then one if those friend's invited another couple of friends. One of those friends can't go on the day I am going, so they are now going on another day that ...

A.   29 June 2018: Unless I missed it, you didn't ask a question, so I'm not sure how to answer. That being said what they did is inconsiderate but it's also their right as free human beings. Maybe you should find new friends.... (read in full...)

Is a B-cup too small?

Q.   Is B-cup too small? Everyone in my family has A-cup boobs, but I am a B-cup. I am not growing anymore, and all my friends and family make fun of me and call me flat. It hurts me a lot. So, on legitimate average? When is a boob size too small, or too ...

A.   22 June 2018: From numerous conversations with other guys I have determined that, for the most part, guys like boobs of all shapes and sizes. Some have a stronger preference for something in particular similar to how done women prefer thin/muscular/short/tall ... (read in full...)

Should I just resign myself to the fact that my looks are going bye bye?

Q.   This isn't a relationship question, but it's been weighing heavily on my mind and heart lately. I know that I'm setting myself up to be judged because I'll be perceived as "vain," or "shallow," but I have a huge dilemma because this is causing my ...

A.   10 June 2018: Lose weight and get in shape. It will do wonders for your self esteem and the amount of attention you receive. Don't go spending a fortune on creams and surgery, one doesn't work, the other makes you look like you've had surgery.... (read in full...)

Should I lie and say the baby is his?

Q.   Ive made a mess but now ive got to grow up and sort it out. Me and my 'ex'boyfriend had a break , we didnt say what each other can or cant do and if we were going to get back together. I had a feeling he was seeing someone else but just left him to ...

A.   28 May 2018: Is it wrong? Do you honestly need someone else to tell you it is very wrong to lie to someone, including your child, about paternity? Don't be selfish; things happen, that's true, but you now have to deal with those things.... (read in full...)

Our teenager's actions are causing problems in our marriage

Q.   I guess what we are experiencing with our 15 year old son is not much different than what every parent of teenagers has been since eternity, but it is still stomping us, and leaving utterly frustrated. Our son has stopped being interested in ...

A.   5 May 2018: I would limit the time you allow him to be online, playing games, and watching TV, until he puts more effort into school. Don't keep doing things that don't work and hurt your relationship with him.... (read in full...)

Am I on my way to being hurt?

Q.   I just turned 40 and I’m divorced. I met a man one day outside and thought him and his friends were trying to rob me (lol) Im a professional, educated woman and I have two sons 20 and 17 one in college and the other on his way in the fall. ...

A.   2 May 2018: First of all, don't listen to code warrior, apparently he's an idiot... There's absolutely no evidence that this guy is a con man, it's laughable that he presents it as fact. Anyways, what's the problem? People from different backgrounds get toge... (read in full...)

Is my time to get pregnat running out?

Q.   Can I have children later on in life? Hello aunts I am turning 32 this year and I have no boyfriend and no prospects. I believe I would like to have children but I always fear time is running out. Honestly I HAVE tried everything in the dating ...

A.   28 April 2018: Where I'm from 32 is not considered old for having kids. I see women in their 40s have kids regularly. The truth is that it's harder on your body and the likelihood of complications does go up, so maybe you should see a doctor about preparing your ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend can't stay hard!

Q.   My boyfriend can't stay hard. The first time me and my boyfriend got intimate physically he avoided intercourse and satisfied me in other ways. However, after multiply attempts to have intercourse he eventually told me that he has a problem doing it...

A.   18 April 2018: Tell him start lifting weights, it helps, along with eating healthy.... (read in full...)

Have I hit my dirty 30's?

Q.   I have recently turned 35, and am wondering, if I have hit my dirty 30s late? I've been horny everyday since I turned 35. ...

A.   31 March 2018: Looks like it. So start enjoying yourself.... (read in full...)

How can I build the sexual tension I need without being labelled a tease?

Q.   I’m currently dating but I’m having a problem with the sexual side of things. Basically, it takes me quite a bit of time to feel ready to have sex with someone. I’m talking about a good few dates to give the sexual tension time to build up and for...

A.   25 March 2018: I think you just don't go home with him or bring him home until you're ready for sex. Kiss a little bit here and there, be flirtatious, and like someone else said, there's nothing wrong about being upfront about wanting to get to know each other a ... (read in full...)

Aren't children supposed to stay near to their family so they can comfort them? Not move far away?

Q.   Ever since I can remember, my daughter, 30, has complained bitterly about the state we raised her in: North Carolina. When the kids were young, we moved our family from North Carolina from Florida for a better life in North Carolina, but she's so ...

A.   25 March 2018: You're complaining about your daughter being selfish, and in the process you're being selfish. Let your daughter do what she needs to do in order to be happy. ... (read in full...)

I think he’s using my pregnancy as an excuse to avoid sex! I feel unwanted and unloved!

Q.   Right now im 3 months pregnant for the first time and it supposed to be a very joyful moment in my life but i feel so lonely and unloved. My husband is happy and excited knowing im pregnant but since then we never had sex. He will reject sex and ...

A.   17 March 2018: Don't take it personal apparently it's pretty common for men to be turned off by sex with a pregnant woman.... (read in full...)

I’m losing hope for finding my match!

Q.   It's been almost about 10 months since my ex and I broke up. It was the most crushing, devastating breakup I'd ever had. I thought we were in love and meant to be. Since then, I've dated around. My past few attempts have all ended badly. Since our...

A.   10 March 2018: 10 months is nothing... The reason nothing is working is because you're trying to much, too fast.... (read in full...)

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Is this old saying true?

Q.   Is it true what they say, that once a cheater, always a cheater? I mean if a wife forgave his husband for having cheated on her for a year and a half, are there chances that after 2 years he will cheat again? What are your thoughts or experiences on ...

A.   10 March 2018: You need to figure out why he cheated. If it was because something was missing in your relationship, than simply and apology and forgiveness won't fix it. Are you paying enough attention to each other's needs? Is here sexually satisfied? ... (read in full...)

He loves me but wants space? What does it mean?

Q.   I have been dating a man I met 6 months ago. His wife cheated on him and now lives with a new partner but they had only just stopped sharing the marital home just before we met. He treated me like gold, told me I was the woman of his dreams and t...

A.   11 February 2018: Whatever his reasons are, don't take it personally. Either he has his own issues that have absolutely nothing to do with you (realized he doesn't want a relationship after all, his wife is trying to talk to him again, etc) or possibly he thinks the ... (read in full...)

I thought he loved me but he cheated and she's pregnant!

Q.   Hello this may be a lil not lengthy but I need advice. I was in a long distance relationship with someone I met on a job two years ago, we met when I moved to Virginia for a short period of time but because we were both in a relationship at the time ...

A.   8 February 2018: Don't overthink it, he's an asshole, and the two of you are not meant to be. Trying to wonder what happened or where things went wrong is as useful as arguing with a crazy person. It's also better to find out now than after you get married. Good ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wants a break, what chance is there for us?

Q.   So my girlfriend said she needs space to work out what she wants. Now I know that this isn’t a good thing but is it necessarily a bad thing? Obviously I have agreed to give her space for one week. Two points though do I text her at all to make sure ...

A.   8 February 2018: I've been in your shoes before, and I've seen other people in your shoes before. It's not necessarily a guarantee that your relationship is over but it's likely that it is and this is the easiest way for her to do it If you don't accept it grace... (read in full...)

I don't accept his reasons for not wanting to date me.

Q.   Hi I've been having problems with a guy and I want any advice to understand the way he is acting. I met him online many months ago maybe 5 months ago. It was a dating app so obviously that is the reason people are on there. However he will no...

A.   7 February 2018: I'm sure the other answers already let you have it, but OH MY GOD! He'd be crazy to date you. You have to chill out! Forget about him, next time don't lie, don't make up stories, don't "test" the guy, don't beg, don't manipulate, etc. Instead... (read in full...)

Is "we need to chat" the same as "we need to talk"?

Q.   If someone says ‘we need to chat’ is that different than ‘we need to talk’ or do you think it’s the same thing? ...

A.   6 February 2018: It doesn't really matter unless you plan on avoiding the "chat"for the rest of your life. You might as well find out yourself.... (read in full...)

I have first date jitters, due to my acne! I

Q.   I'm in my mid/late 20s and met a woman off a dating website who seems incredible (she's in her late 20s/early 30s) - we started chatting briefly using the site and found we had a lot in common. We then exchanged numbers and started chatting ...

A.   6 February 2018: All you can do is go and if it's not meant to be it not meant to be. There's a hundred reasons she might like it dislike you, acne is just one. By the way, you may want to look into a ketogenic diet "keto"for treating acne. Apparently it works fo... (read in full...)

I’m confused about my reaction! Am I gay or bi?

Q.   Hey I’m really confused. I regularly go to my local spa. I enjoyed relaxing and speaking to women there. However the other day a guy was next to me in the jacuzzi, and under the bubbles I felt his hand. He was similar age to me around 25-26. I ...

A.   6 February 2018: You are what you are... Almost nobody is 100% straight or gay. Maybe you can explore to find it what you like, but labels don't do you any good.... (read in full...)

How do I manage to become friends with possibly sleazy but otherwise awesome guy?

Q.   So, for more than one year I have this little crush for a guy, he is a good person, I see that he helps people when he can, he is really interesting and I find him very sexy too (but I can totally contain myself) - one thing of this guy, that I felt ...

A.   6 February 2018: Just all him to do something with you. Keep it friendly the whole time and avoid putting yourself in a situation where you may be tempted or he may get the wrong idea. Invite another friend, if possible.. When the "event"is over just call it a nig... (read in full...)

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