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I tend to say exactly what I think without taking into consideration how it's going to sound to another person. Especially when it's something I feel strongly about, I can go off on quite the tangent!

I should apologize from now if I ever come off as cruel, irritable or downright evil. It's not my intention, just sometimes, there are questions people should already know the answer to.

Most of my advice comes from observing the people in my life and using the advice I gave them to help other people - sadly enough, people rarely listen to me in real life...Even when I'm usually right.

I love talking to people and I love helping them with their problems. So you will see me around!

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My friend had sex with my crush! How should I react now?

Q.   You seriously won't believe this : In the past few weeks i was getting quite close to this guy, lets call him "Bob". I say quite close because the 'closest' we ever got was a kiss -but for me that is really intimate, because i'm a little bit gawk...

A.   29 August 2008: Ditch both Mary and Bob. Mary isn't a good friend because she slept with your crush (even though, she's so hot, apparently, she could have any other guy) and Bob is just a jerk for kissing you and then having sex with your friend. Your best bet... (read in full...)

Is my sex drive normal?

Q.   This isn't exactly a problem, I just wanna know if it's normal or not. Right, I'm 15, almost 16 and I've been having sex for about a year. I was reading some of the questions on this website about how people are loosing their sex drive and ...

A.   29 August 2008: At your age, your hormones are RAGING and all over the place. Some may not be interested in sex (I still thought boys were jerks), while others, like yourself, have a high sex drive. It's perfectly normal, don't worry :)... (read in full...)

Did I hurt his feelings, by telling him, that we both need to wait before having sex?

Q.   Ok so I've been with my boyfriend for over a month now and we are very close. We can talk about anything without awkwardness or embarrassment. Just a few days ago however, we were at his house and his family was out. So we were kissing and getting ...

A.   5 August 2008: You are the smartest girl in all the UK, I hope you know that. YES you were right in telling him that you wanted to wait until you were both 16, that's the best thing you could ever tell him! If you think you've hurt his feelings, your b... (read in full...)

I'm 13 years old, going to have sex for the first time. What position is best?

Q.   I am 13 and me and My And My Boyfriend have been together for nearly 3 months now and i no he wants too have sex and so do i but i am a virgin so he will be my first. i am really scared.! What position is best for the first time? Everyone says ...

A.   5 August 2008: He's 17?! This boy is a pedophile, he'll be put on a list of Sex Offenders if he sleeps with you, because you are a MINOR. And you are NOT frigid for not sleeping with him, you're smart! Don't be a stupid little girl, having sex with him doe... (read in full...)

I'm 13 years old, going to have sex for the first time. What position is best?

Q.   I am 13 and me and My And My Boyfriend have been together for nearly 3 months now and i no he wants too have sex and so do i but i am a virgin so he will be my first. i am really scared.! What position is best for the first time? Everyone says ...

A.   5 August 2008: Well, I can't tell you anything more then everyone else has already said, but seriously sweetie? Don't do it. Do you know what they call girls at your age for having sex? Sluts. Whores. Dumb Kids. I'm only a couple years older then you and... (read in full...)

I'm 13 and might be in love with my father's best friend... or is it just admiration?

Q.   I love a man that is 14 years older then me. I think about him all the time but I don't know if he loves me. He always talks to me and makes me feel that he loves me but sometimes I wonder. But there is one other slight problem he is my father's ...

A.   25 July 2008: It's just a crush. At your age, your hormones are all over the place and there's nothing wrong with having a little thing for an older man. We all get them. As long as you don't act on how you feel, by say, trying to seduce him (Big NO NO!) the... (read in full...)

Are there any doctors out there?

Q.   hey i know this isn't a usual question but if there are any doctors out there i could use some help??? thanks in advance (:...

A.   24 July 2008: Um, I'm not a doctor, but to help you out, I'd have to know what the question is to know how to reply.... (read in full...)

We used protection, but now my period is late - could I be pregnant?

Q.   hi cupids, im abit scared as my periods have gone all weird :-S i lost my virginity to my boyfriend of 11 months who i love dearly on the 13th june, yeah friday the 13th! and it was an amazin experience, he made it so special and i will never ever...

A.   24 July 2008: If you're stressed, it will make your periods come later. Plus, your menstrual cycle does not become regular until after the first couple years, believe it or not. But RELAX, it's very unlikely that you're pregnant since you and your boyfrien... (read in full...)

Can you have an STD if you're a virgin?

Q.   Is it possible to have an STD when you're a virgin? Beside crabs and scabies and such. Just curious......

A.   24 July 2008: STD = Sexually Transmitted Disease. Meaning, you have to have some form of sex for you to contract one. Even coming in close contact with people who have an STD could pass it on to you - for example, if you kiss someone who has herpes, you may ... (read in full...)

Will I grow any more? Can I do anything about it?

Q.   I'm 17 is it too late to grow? I'm 5.9 and really wanna be a bit taller I've started the gym and go every week atleast. DO you think i will get any taller? My dads about 6.2 and my mum is about 5.1 ish :S Is there anything i can do b...

A.   24 July 2008: Some people keep growing up until they're 21, so yes, you may get a bit taller - but why would you want to? You're above average and you would certainly tower over me! Ask your Dad when he stopped growing to get an idea if you're going to get a... (read in full...)

I'm receiving silent phone calls. How do I find out who is calling?

Q.   this isn't really dating or anything. but today I've received 7 blocked calls of silence on my cell phone. I can hear someone and they never say anything. is there anyway I can call this person back? or find out the source or anything?...

A.   23 July 2008: This has happened to me before, do you know anyone who would pull pranks like this? You haven't put your phone number online at any time have you? Next time they call, pick up the phone and ask who is it. If you get no answer, tell them you're... (read in full...)

Hmm... How do you play hard-to-get?

Q.   Basically, I've been with this guy for about 4 months now.. He hasn't been with me that much recently. I have a hunch that he thinks I'm clingy.. I want to know how to stop him from thinking that. If you guys think I should play hard to get.. Can ...

A.   23 July 2008: Err, sorry to tell you hun. But he already HAS you. You've been together for 4 months now, you can't pay hard to get anymore. It's more like, 'I don't need to be with you all the time, so I'm not going to answer your phone calls, I'm going ou... (read in full...)

I'm worried about getting cervical cancer by having sex.

Q.   I am afraid of having sex again because of thinking about cerival cancer what can i do? ...

A.   22 July 2008: Don't have sex. Especially at your age, you are way too young to be thinking about it. No one knows what exactly causes cervical cancer but you do have a higher risk if you've had multiple sexual partners, started having sexual relations... (read in full...)

Can I win back my boyfriend after he cheated and get things back the way they used to be?

Q.   So..hello. Recently, My boyfriend and I have been going out for 1 year and about 6 months and before that on and off for about 6 months..we've been though alot for that amount of time. Cheating on his part. and I lost my virginity to him. But now,...

A.   22 July 2008: Wait just a damn minute, I KNOW this boy did not tell YOU, the girl who loves him and gave him her virginity that SHE has to earn his love and trust back? Are you effing kidding me, that should be HIM, he CHEATED ON YOU! Not the other way around! ... (read in full...)

Can you masturbate if your hymen hasn't been broken

Q.   can you masturbate if your hymen hasnt been broken...

A.   22 July 2008: By the way, some girls don't have a hymen. It could have broken from doing any physical activity, such as gymnastics, horseback riding, dancing, etc... Or you just never had one.... (read in full...)

Can you masturbate if your hymen hasn't been broken

Q.   can you masturbate if your hymen hasnt been broken...

A.   22 July 2008: Yeah you can, as long as you're not inserting anything into your vagina and breaking your hymen. You don't need to anyway, to feel pleasure while masturbating there are other areas outside the vagina. (Ex. the clitoris, which is pretty much the ... (read in full...)

My roomate has a girlfriend but he wants sex with me. Is he just using me?

Q.   My friend and I have slept together a few times. I talk to this boy everyday. We get along great, trust each other and have not once argued. We tell each other stuff we would not tell anyone else. He just recently started seeing this gir...

A.   22 July 2008: Yes, he is just using you and I'm asking you, not to fall for any line he may throw with you. Unless he plans on breaking up with his girlfriend for you, this man has no intention of benefiting anyone but himself. Why have one girl when he can... (read in full...)

My boyfriend won't have sex with me!

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 6 months and we do have a happy relationship, but my boyfriend still won't have sex with me! I have tried to be alluring and sexy for him but he just never seems interested in me. I'm still a virgin and i feel ...

A.   22 July 2008: Well first of all, you're WAY too young to be having sex in the first place, in the UK, the age of consent is 16. So maybe your boyfriend doesn't feel like having underaged sex and then getting in trouble for it. Second of all, sex is NOT every... (read in full...)

Anal sex hurts me too much but I want to make him happy. Why doesn't it hurt other girls as much?

Q.   me and my boyfriend have been together for about 2 years now. we have done pretty much everything in bed. except anal, he has asked to before, and says he wants to try it, so we tried. and i find it hurts way to bad.we have tried on more than one ...

A.   22 July 2008: Honey, if it hurts you, then don't bother to keep trying it. Neither of you are enjoying it and I'm sure your boyfriend isn't getting his kicks out of hurting you. If you tell him, you don't want to keep trying, he should be understanding that you... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't eat and I'm worried.

Q.   Hey guys. im a bit worried about my boyfriends eating habbits. He doesnt eat. Well not that im aware of. He had some toast in the morning. He may have a mcdonalds in the afternoon and nothing for dinner. Hes very skinny. Im used to having 3 good ...

A.   21 July 2008: I think you should be worried. It sounds to me like your boyfriend is having some financial problems and he can't afford to nourish himself properly. He probably didn't appreciate you, your mom and flat mate shopping for him because it makes hi... (read in full...)

A big thank you, to all the aunts and uncles, for your great work, helping people.

Q.   Not a question! Just a THANK YOU! Wish you could be here! Hey all you dear "Uncles" and "Aunts"; I am very busy preparing for lots of friends and family for Dinner tomorrow night; yeah, like it or not old age creeping closer (LO...

A.   21 July 2008: Smiles, have a VERY VERY happy Birthday! You are a beautiful person inside and out, and I hope that you will have an amazing day surrounded by all those who love you! XOXO scrazy... (read in full...)

I wanted him to like me and did all this sexual stuff and now I regret it.

Q.   well I have this friend and I reallllllly liked him and he was 'talking' to me but he was also talking to like 2 other girls which made me upset and jealous. that's why the next time I saw him I gave him head and made out with him felt him up he ...

A.   21 July 2008: Well sadly, you learned your lesson the hard way and hopefully, in the future, next time you like a guy, you'll know that sex is NOT the way to get him to like you back. He used you and then tossed you away when he was done, which I'm sure hur... (read in full...)

I want to have sex, my boyfriend only wants, to have blow jobs, how do I tell him, that I want more sex?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating for about two months now and a couple of weeks ago we had sex for the first time. It was my first time ever but not his. But now it seems like all he wants to do is get blowjobs! how do i tell him without being ...

A.   21 July 2008: Unfortunately honey, boys are not mind readers. You need to use your words and tell him what you want. It's unfair that he is the only one getting pleasure while you are left out in the cold, you even gave him your virginity! You're just g... (read in full...)

I am attracted to my sister and want to have a sexual relationship, how do I seduce my sister?

Q.   Me and my sister are really close and only a year apart. but i am atracted to her more than most girls. does anyone have any idea as to how i can seduce my sister to have a sexual relationship?...

A.   21 July 2008: Three words: Seek Professional Help. Now here's some more words: LEAVE YOUR SISTER ALONE. Why don't you go out there and find a girl your own age - preferably one who is not related to you in any way? Seriously, I can tell you from now, that n... (read in full...)

I'm not sure I want to meet my online date, as he is not my type and comes accross as really obsessive - so should I?

Q.   Hi, i really need some advice. There's this guy i've been talkin to on msn who lives local. Apparently he really likes me, and i think i like him too but he comes across as really obsessive... he often rings me, emails me etc. And it does become r...

A.   21 July 2008: When in doubt, don't do it. Your gut is telling you that you're not sure if this guy is the right one for you and with his obsessive personality? It sounds like it would be best if you asked him to leave you alone for a bit. If he doesn't give you... (read in full...)

I'm 15 and he's 20, is it ok for us to be together or should I wait?

Q.   Okay. So here's the deal. I met this guy.. lets call him Justin (not real name).. on Friday... well no I've been talking to him for SO much longer... I've been talking to him since i was 13 and he was 18 but now I'm 15 and he's 20. I actually...

A.   21 July 2008: I think you should wait until you're older. Technically, there's nothing wrong with you two having a relationship right now, required there's NO sex involved, but I'm pretty sure even if you remained a virgin until you were legal, people still won't ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants to finger me, but I'm uncomfortable with my body.

Q.   well I've been dating this guy and we've been talking about the sexual things we wanna do, avoiding the actual sex. he wants to finger me but I'm overweight and uncomfortable with my body. and my guy is "normal," like skinny and attrac...

A.   21 July 2008: Sweetie, your boyfriend thinks you look fine the way you are. Trust me, he wouldn't be dating you if he wasn't attracted to you. This is his way of wanting to get closer to you. However, if you're uncomfortable with the idea, it may be best if ... (read in full...)

Should I meet this girl for sex? She thinks I'm 16 but I'm not!

Q.   ok im 14 and im dating or was dating a 16 yr old girl. we been talking over the internet. when we finally meet i took her to the movies. i like her she like me. we start kissing. it was dark because we where in a theater. she took of her bra and i ...

A.   21 July 2008: First of all, lying about your age? Not cool, not mature and definitely not a smart idea. She is going to find out eventually if you continue to talk and in the long run, it's going to do more damage. So you may as well tell her now before things ... (read in full...)

Should I go out with him alone or with a group of friends?

Q.   Hiya, Theres this guy who i really like and he likes me... We talk for 3 hours every night on the phone and we work at the same place so i see him there a lot... He wants us to get together and i really want to but do you think we should meet up ...

A.   20 July 2008: It depends on how comfortable you are alone with him. If you feel that you would be more comfortable with some friends around, (plus your friends would be able to meet him and see what they think of him!) then make a group date. But going out... (read in full...)

I think I want to move on, but he keeps kissing me! Should I just carry on with this weird relationship?

Q.   Hi everyone! Well I have a pretty straight forward question so I hope you can all help me. Basically I went out with the most amazing boy for a whole year and for someone my age that is practically forever!!!! Any ways and since we have been broke...

A.   20 July 2008: Well, since he has a girlfriend now...HE IS A CHEATER. Come on hun, don't put yourself through being the Other Girl, this guy is playing you for an idiot and I realize that you care for him very much, but you need to distance yourself from him... (read in full...)

I really miss seeing my brother. Is it normal to want to see him more than once a month?

Q.   Hi all and thank for reading this. I'm 31 and I've always lived with my twin brother, first to save money, then just because we were both single and we've always been best friends. Then 6 months ago he moved in with his fiancee and her kids. I...

A.   20 July 2008: There is nothing wrong with missing your brother! "Normal" has nothing to do with siblings and their relationships with each other, it's understandable that you've lived with each other for so longer, you're a little attached to him. In his ... (read in full...)

Is not bleeding after your first time normal?

Q.   hi i am worried, if you do not bleed after having sex for the first time normal? so many of my friends said that after their first time they bled.. but i didnt and i havent used tampons either.. is this normal? ...

A.   20 July 2008: Yeah, it's perfectly normal for no bleeding to occur - bleeding after sex usually means that you were too tight (which happens because you're nervous and not relaxed) and not wet enough. So there's nothing to worry about, you're fine! :)... (read in full...)

I'm trying to conceive. Could I be pregnant now?

Q.   Me and my partner have been trying to concieve for the past two months, as i hardly see him, its hard to concieve on that exact day. Last month, we were unlucky as i had my period 3-6th July. Ihave 27 day cycles. i used this website to determin...

A.   20 July 2008: Look, I'm sorry to have judged you by your age but so what if you're turning 18? I still think you need a bit of reality check, because I've heard this story before. My mother got pregnant at 18. And yeah, she wanted kids, that was a big drea... (read in full...)

Do guys REALLY want skinny girls?

Q.   ok heres my question do guys really want really skinny gf's???? i know its talked about all the time but nobody ever asks real everyday men! i'm 14/16 is that too big? is that normal? what do you guys think of women and their bodies...

A.   20 July 2008: You're not too big, I have friends who are around the same size as you and they are curvy and absolutely gorgeous. All guys are different, you can't generalize that they all want skinny girls. Some like bigger girls, some like short ones, tall one... (read in full...)

I think I want to move on, but he keeps kissing me! Should I just carry on with this weird relationship?

Q.   Hi everyone! Well I have a pretty straight forward question so I hope you can all help me. Basically I went out with the most amazing boy for a whole year and for someone my age that is practically forever!!!! Any ways and since we have been broke...

A.   20 July 2008: You have two options: Either cut the ties of this weird relationship or tell him how you feel. There's nothing wrong with being friends, but the fact that you're trying to move on and he keeps pulling you back with kisses and -false-d... (read in full...)

I'm trying to conceive. Could I be pregnant now?

Q.   Me and my partner have been trying to concieve for the past two months, as i hardly see him, its hard to concieve on that exact day. Last month, we were unlucky as i had my period 3-6th July. Ihave 27 day cycles. i used this website to determin...

A.   20 July 2008: You're my age - why are you trying to get pregnant on purpose?! I seriously hope that your age is not stated correctly? You have 40 more years of having children (give or take when you reach menopause), why do you need to start now? You're ... (read in full...)

Is it me?

Q.   help! i keep all my feelings inside like this week my brother lets call him 'a' had an asthma attack..so my parents attention is put on him. then people who are supposed to be my best friends let call them b and c put stuff in my drink which makes ...

A.   20 July 2008: No, nothing is wrong with you, it's those people you call friends! I'm sorry sweetie, but they are no friends of yours if they purposely make you so sick that you must go to the hospital and texting you threatening messages. That's called... (read in full...)

I get criticism for dating a white guy! Will marriage be an issue?

Q.   I am an african american female. i am currently dating a white guy who i really seem to like but i get a lot of criticism from friends and family, not really bad things just teasing. His family all love me and they are the coolest people. He makes ...

A.   20 July 2008: Anonymous poster, just where the hell are you going with that? Last time I checked, no one is like that on this site. It's certainly not "reverse" discrimination, just because it's black people not accepting a white man, because guess what? ... (read in full...)

I get criticism for dating a white guy! Will marriage be an issue?

Q.   I am an african american female. i am currently dating a white guy who i really seem to like but i get a lot of criticism from friends and family, not really bad things just teasing. His family all love me and they are the coolest people. He makes ...

A.   20 July 2008: Um, of course it's fine! Race has nothing to do with how you two feel about each other and if you want to get married, then you go ahead and get married. Tell your family that you don't appreciate their criticism if it bothers you that much; I... (read in full...)

Caught my son masturbating, should I buy him some condoms, sextoys and an informative book?

Q.   just rececetly i caught my 13 year old son masturbating naked on top of his bed i saw his penis and pubes, this hasnt effected our relationship but i was wondering if i should buy him some condoms and other stuff like a masturbation and sex book or ...

A.   20 July 2008: Oh yeah, condoms and sex toys will definitely hope! While you're at it, you should get him a subscription to Penthouse or Playboy - He will LOVE you for that one! Dear God, what a joke...... (read in full...)

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