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hey my name is laura, im 22. i guess i've been through a good bit on the relationship front, and unfortunately, i've seen the nastiest side of men. i think im pretty good at this and i've always been told i give good advice. i have had friends who have dealt with depression, eating disorders, rape etc., so i have lived it and know how to help ppl. i also have a bit of experience on sites like this! so if you want advice - or just wanna talk (no judgement!) - just email me, ill be happy to do watever i can to help!!! cheers, laura xxx

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How did you know your significant other was THE one?

Q.   Hi, I'm wondering if anyone would like to share their story of when they found the person they wanted to spend the rest of their life with? How did you know? (whether you are still with that person or not it doesn't matter) I was talking t...

A.   20 February 2009: i was 18 when i met my boyfriend, im now 23 and still with him. so he's the "one"!! 18 is not too young to know, you cant help your age when you meet the person you know you're going to be with, whether its 18 or 38 - it doesnt change. i knew tha... (read in full...)

My g/f thinks it's weird when I cop a feel of her breasts a little, do other girls think the same?

Q.   quick queston for all the girls out there: my gf thinks its weird that ill always want to randomly cop a feel on her breasts here and there. say for example we're laying down watching t.v and i notice shes not wearing a bra under her shirt, ill put ...

A.   20 February 2009: my boyfriend would tape his hands to my breasts if he could!! personally i love it, it makes me happy to know that he finds me that sexy!! how long have you guys been going out? if you've only been together a short while, than lay off a bit, she ... (read in full...)

How old were you when you first French-kissed?

Q.   Ummm. I've never pulled ( kissed with tounges ) a guy, I'm 13... How old were YOU when you first did that... Am I too young? ...

A.   20 February 2009: 11. it was awful, wet, neither of us had any idea what we were doing and it was stupid. french kissing is over rated. wait til you find the guy you love and you share those long, lingering kisses that aren't all tongue. then you'll be glad you never ... (read in full...)

I'm 14 and pregnant, help!

Q.   I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...

A.   20 February 2009: first of all you don't have to have the baby - you can get an abortion up to 3 months in - in fact a friend of mine was told she HAD to wait 3 months before she got the abortion. however - i think you should tell your mum either way. if you keep the ... (read in full...)

Questions about breasts

Q.   Hey. I got a couple of question about thing i like to talk about the least. Breasts. ok; 1. Do sore breasts ALWAYS indicate that you're about to get your period, or can they be sore from something else? 2. Do they get filled up with someth...

A.   20 February 2009: it is normal at your age to get sore breasts - it can be connected to hormones, or just growing pains. i used to and still suffer from pain sometimes but dont worry. its normal! your breast dont fill up before or during your period - however,... (read in full...)

He came in me during anal sex, can it do harm?

Q.   Hi. My boyfriend and I regularly practice anal sex. Recently, he came inside me during anal. I don't know why I'm worried but it can't do any harm, can it?...

A.   20 February 2009: well my first bit of advice would be use a condom when your having anal sex - as you can imagine its not very hygenic to not use one - esp for him. i cant imagine that there is much harm in him coming inside you there, apart from the risks of ... (read in full...)

I need advice, my BF just confessed that he is female!

Q.   I'm 16 and i've fallen for what i was made to believe a 17 year old boy, recently, a month into our relationship he has confessed he is a 15 year old female but mentally has always been male, he looks male, acts male and sounds male yet has female ...

A.   5 February 2009: first of all you need to ask yourself if your prepared to be in a trangendered relationship and if you can handle the stress that he is going to be under while make the changes. he is very lucky to have someone like you who cares so strongly... (read in full...)

I'm pregnant... what happens if I have sex right now?

Q.   Hi, i am 16 and well....prenant. I am a couple monthes in. I havent been to a doctor so i ahvent been able to ask but... Well, okay so the first time i lost my virginity was when i actually got pregnant. ironic, right? anyway, me and my boyfriend ...

A.   5 February 2009: hi sweetie - first of all you really should start going to the doc regularly to keep tabs on you and your baby. esp if your a few months in. with regards to the sex, you guys are fine!! there is no danger to the baby or you so dont worry, but like... (read in full...)

I think I might be sick next time..

Q.   My boyfriend has a smelly cock and he keeps wanting me to go down on him, what do I do? I keep wretching - think i may be sick the next time- help!...

A.   5 February 2009: dont go down there!! if it smells weird and unusual then you should be honest with him and tell him to go to the doctor. he'll appreciate you telling him the truth - better late then never! it shouldnt smell very bad down there so it sounds like ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend turns off the radio in the car while I'm driving!

Q.   Hi it's a petty relationship question, but I just want to know if I'm off base here. Scenario: I'm driving in my car with my boyfriend(he is the passenger) and I happen to be listening to my favorite radio station. All of a sudden he leans over a...

A.   5 February 2009: its your car. its your radio. your rules. however - no need to get livid about it!! yes its defo annoying and he shouldn't have done it but does he drive too? if so then force of habit, even if he doesnt, force of habit. if he does it again though ... (read in full...)

Sex games?

Q.   First I'm gay and I don't want any annoying advice on it, I get enough of it already. I'm meeting and going camping with him soon and he wants to play some sex games and I want to look like I know what I'm doing (even though I don't 0_0) any advice ...

A.   29 January 2009: hey - first of all love the spiffy opener!!! second of all, you need to be comfortable with whatever your doing or you wont enjoy yourself!! let him know that you dont have to most experience in this area and to lead you through - he'll prob... (read in full...)

Are condoms safe?

Q.   If you can't use the pill is condoms very safe?? What are their success rate?...

A.   29 January 2009: hey - do you mind me asking why you cant use the pill? yes condoms are very safe and protect against std's but you do have to be responsible when using them and be gentle with them as they can rip easily. if you cant use the pill have you considered ... (read in full...)

Just been dumped - how can I get him back?

Q.   My boyfriend just dumped me about an hour ago. Wed been together nearly a month, he told me he loved me, got me to meet his mum, and his friends. We were fine 4 days ago, weve never argued, ever. Were both 17. He sent me this message: ok, this ...

A.   21 November 2008: ok well you have only been going out with the guy a month! no offence but that relationship sprinted ahead of wat it should be. to be honest i wouldnt be surprised if that is wat scred him off - the 'love you's' the meeting the parents etc etc. if i ... (read in full...)

Where can I meet a potential date? I dislike clubbing, and joining a club is not a good idea as all my interests are mainly "girly".

Q.   I need some ideas of where I could meet some guys and hopefully one turn into a bf. Im not into the whole clubbing scene, and besides most people who do that typicall only want one night stands. So that is out of the question. My work is mainly a...

A.   17 September 2008: its really not. i think that you may have had an experience that has lead you to believe this. clubbing is a great way to meet ppl and have fun. despite wat you may think. it is nowhere near trying to find a needle in a haystack - i have met alot of ... (read in full...)

I am the other girl and I want him to get caught cheating because I hate his girlfriend! How do I get caught on purpose?

Q.   I am the other girl. Slowly i'm realizing that he's a complete jerk and this all might not be worth it. I do enjoy being the other girl because I hate his girlfriend. How can i GET caught on purpose?? I want her to know, I want him to get caught. I ...

A.   12 September 2008: what a horrible thing to plan? just cos you dont like his gf doesnt mean she can feel pain and get hurt like everyone else. do you not realise that wat you want to do is really going to break her heart? you say he's a jerk - wat does that make you? ... (read in full...)

Where can I meet a potential date? I dislike clubbing, and joining a club is not a good idea as all my interests are mainly "girly".

Q.   I need some ideas of where I could meet some guys and hopefully one turn into a bf. Im not into the whole clubbing scene, and besides most people who do that typicall only want one night stands. So that is out of the question. My work is mainly a...

A.   12 September 2008: i take a little bit of offence to your generalization of ppl who are into the "clubbing scene" - going out, enjoying music and dancing and meeting new ppl does not mean that you only want to jump into bed with a stranger for one night of wild sex. i ... (read in full...)

Obama for president?

Q.   Wow this is so intense! I origanly come from America but live in Canada! But I cant belive it there could be the first black president! I dont have a problem with couler and have been doing about slavery in history and I think we've came so far! I ...

A.   20 August 2008: im intruiged to know why Obama becoming president would make oldersister move to canada? the issue being?... (read in full...)

I want to be a companion for lonely women. Any advice on finding clients?

Q.   I'm 19 and I want to become a companion for lonely women. I've heard that older women want more than sex (they want someone to have fun with, talk to). Well I'm good at that and I'm reasonably attractive too. Money is not an issue...if women pay me ...

A.   20 August 2008: are you serious? your only 19 is your love life so bad that you need women to pay you for your toy boy services?? companies like this will only look for older "gentlemen" who are mature and experienced - not babies who may not be able to hand... (read in full...)

What should you do if you love your uncle?

Q.   what should you do if you love your uncle? if you know its true love and you alredy tried to back away but you just cant because you know its true love but forbidden what are the consequenses for this act? and can you like be together? a...

A.   20 August 2008: well you must know that it is wrong to be in love with a relative - and in alot of states it is illegal! does your uncle know about your feelings? has he reciprocated them? you need to back off and try and meet guys your age who ARE NOT related to ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend hit me, but now threatens to kill himself if I leave him. Help!

Q.   My bf and I get on good normally bt when we argue.. WE ARGUE.. we shout scream evrything but today he punched me.. I was in complete hysterics and tried to leave but he locked me in and I eventually managed to leave when his mate came in. He phoned ...

A.   18 August 2008: you need to leave now hun. he hit you once he will hit you again and you staying with him is only making it ok for him to hit women. him saying that he will kill himself maybe blackmail or it may be genuine. either way you shouldnt stay with him. he ... (read in full...)

Stuck between a career or my lover: Do I give him up or go to school?

Q.   Alrightyz, even if you don't answer, thank you for reading. But i am hoplessly tore between the most horrible decision ever. Ever since i was a little girl i've planned to move to california right after high school to get my degree in aquatic ...

A.   18 August 2008: how old are you? from wat age you put up i can only guess you are no more than 15 - which is ridiculously young to have your life planned out for you..including career and the man you want to be with. you have only been seeing this guy for about a ... (read in full...)

Should he wear a condom during fellatio or a hand job?

Q.   My boyfriend wants me to give him a blow job or a hand job and I was just wondering should he wear a condom and what happens when he cums, do I stop and let him take over, I am a little unsure as I have never done his before. Thank you....

A.   16 August 2008: with a hand job there is no need for a condom - condoms are for protection and there is no risk of pregnancy from giving a hand job. as for giving a blow job - it is kind of up to you, i know alot of girls who use flavoured condoms when giving head. ... (read in full...)

Will he be put off by my telling him I am a virgin?

Q.   I am seeing this guy, he is my first proper boyfriend and we have decided to have sex, should I tell him I am a virgin, or do you think this might put him off. He has had a lot of experience and I am scared incase he will be able to tell because I ...

A.   16 August 2008: if i were you i would tell him. that way there wont be so much pressure on you and he will be understanding. if he is a decent guy then he will respect you being a virgin and make your first time that much more special. ... (read in full...)

What do women find attractive in a man???

Q.   What do women find atractive in a man? I want your opinion, thanks to those of you who answer, its well appreciated....

A.   16 August 2008: well i know it sounds cliche but i love a guy who can make me laugh and who is fun to be around!! im just attracted to guys that are confident, fun, friendly and not arrogant. its not all about looks, the hottest guy with an awful personality woul... (read in full...)

My husband isn't fulfilling me sexually and now I want a woman!

Q.   How do I tell my husband that he's not fulling my sexual desire and I want to be with a woman. I think a woman will be more dominate than my husband. Can anyone help me?...

A.   14 August 2008: just because he is not fulfilling you sexually doesnt mean you should try being with someone else just yet! have you tried talking to him about this and trying new things in the bedroom? if you havent said anything then how do you expect him to get ... (read in full...)

I have a loving husband, recently I met a guy on the internet who I connect with, he has cheated on his wife before, I have never cheated on my husband, should I have some fun and cheat?

Q.   I'm recently married to a loving husband. We've been dating for 5 years before we got married. I met this guy who's also married on the internet and there's a definite attraction between the two of us. He has cheated on his wife a couple of times ...

A.   11 August 2008: are you serious?? why would you want to hurt your husband like that? do you not enjoy his company anymore? i think you need to ask yourself wat you're not getting from your marriage that is making you look elsewhere for another lover. and no you ... (read in full...)

How can I get my wife to use this sex toy with me?

Q.   How do I ask my wife to use a strap-on dildo on me? I brought one for her and she didn't get it and I was afraid to tell he I wanted her to use it on me. PLease help....

A.   10 August 2008: if my boyfriend bought a strap on dildo and asked me to "use" it on him, i would be deeply offended and confused. im not accusing you of anything here but the first thing that would come to mind is are you gay? that is wat i would think if i was in ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my stepmother. What do I do?

Q.   hi i am 19 and have been having a hidden relationship with my 38 year old step mom for almost 2 years. Sometime last year it turned sexual. Now she is divorced from my dad (since last week)and is waiting to move to an apartment with me (1 month). ...

A.   10 August 2008: im glad to see that you are definitely NOT rushing into this and you are being very mature and sensible about wat may or may not happen. as long as you know the consequences it may have, and are happy about your decision then go for it. like all ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my stepmother. What do I do?

Q.   hi i am 19 and have been having a hidden relationship with my 38 year old step mom for almost 2 years. Sometime last year it turned sexual. Now she is divorced from my dad (since last week)and is waiting to move to an apartment with me (1 month). ...

A.   9 August 2008: well you have to be prepared for the fact that your dad is going to be very hurt and angry. wat you did is very unfair to him and he is going to be deeply embarrassed and hurt. did she divorce him because of you? this is the thought that is going to ... (read in full...)

I've really screwed this up - please help, I want to fix this.

Q.   i have done something really bad and am regretting it deeply. my cousin wanted to create a fake profile on facebook so she could see what the profile of a guy she liked. but so it wouldnt seem too fake - we made 4 profile - she made 2 i made 2....

A.   9 August 2008: im a little confused - the guy that you did all this to is liked by your cousin and you?? you are in the 22-25 age gap so im assuming thats your age. this was a very childish and immature thing to do for someone you age in the first place. you must... (read in full...)

Sex seems to be causing trouble since our pregnancy scare....

Q.   Me and my boyfriend, have sex quite alot, and its great! we had this one experiance that we thought i wos pregenent. it wos quite a scare and i cried to him, and he did the same back, not becos of the situation buh becos it scared us. he said he ...

A.   8 August 2008: i think its ridiculous that a girl of your age is having sex and has had a pregnancy scare. you are both still children yourselves! but obviously nothing i can say is going to stop you. however i would advise you both to do as the other poster has ... (read in full...)

I feel like letting my girlfriend get dressed up and tease a few guys at a club. Will this hurt or help our relationship?

Q.   Hey, first post here so i apoligise if im doing something wrong.. I have been with my girlfriend for 6 months and she is a good looking girl, who could probably get lots of attention off other guys our sex life has dropped a little, and I want...

A.   7 August 2008: are you serious? you want to let your girlfriend go and give other guys the impression that she wants to get with them? very strange..... i suggest you spice things up by getting more adventurous in the bedroom, different positions, toys etc. play ... (read in full...)

I never fall in love. Am I OK?

Q.   i am 19 years old.i never had a gf and fall in love.all my bf's have gf and ask me why don't you, am i ok? thank you for your time....

A.   7 August 2008: of course you are ok!!! there is no dead line or age to fall in love. alot of ppl fall in love at your age, alot fall in love at older ages. some dont fall in love until they are in their 40's!! you will find someone that you will fall in love with ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend says she can't tell when she has an orgasm

Q.   my girlfriend told me she can't tell when she cums. i know for a fact that some girls do know when they cum. is something wrong with her? and is it normal?...

A.   7 August 2008: if she had orgasmed she would definitely know. so she hasn't. nothing to freak out about now, its alot more difficult for women to orgasm. alot of women never orgasm through intercourse alone. clitoral stimulation is usually the easiest way. so take ... (read in full...)

What is an orgasm?

Q.   Hi, well my question is a bit stupid but its something I really wander about. What is an orgasm? When me and my bf are making out and doing stuff he says "Oh I'll try and make you orgasm" But the thing is I dont actually know what it is! Do you...

A.   7 August 2008: Hi sweetie well the dictionary definition of an orgasm goes as follows: a climax of sexual excitement, characterized by feelings of pleasure centered in the genitals and (in men) experienced as an accompaniment to ejaculation. Both men and wome... (read in full...)

Is sex between siblings incest?

Q.   Hi, I am a student of human psychology. I have a question. Is sex between siblings incest? I mean I have read it somewhere that it happens more often than we think. Has anybody had sex with their own brother or sister?...

A.   6 August 2008: who knows wat initiates it? some ppl know it is wrong and of course dont act on it. some ppl dont have that distinction of right or wrong in this case and do. to be honest i dont know wat brings it on. ... (read in full...)

Does anyone know any home remedies to pass an alcohol test?

Q.   help, my dad has been having court because of a big misunderstanding, a neighber called the cops on him because they heard my parents arguing and when the cops arrived they saw my mom crying and my dad was drunk so now they wanna take my dad away ...

A.   6 August 2008: it sounds very strange that they will put a restraining order against him without your mother asking for it. ive never heard of that being done before. as far as i know, if he didnt hurt your mum, and she explains that everything is fine, they cant ... (read in full...)

Do people still get emails from 'Adult Friend Finder' if the account is not in use?

Q.   ive recently found out my b/f has an adult friend finder account. he says it is not in use. naturally i am very hurt about this. i am just wondering does that site still send emails to people even if the account is not activated??? or do they keep...

A.   6 August 2008: kind of depends. im sure that with some of them, once they have your email they keep you posted. but im not sure. he may have deleted the account but he may also need to unsubscribe from the emails. ... (read in full...)

I know it's wrong, but I'm sleeping with both my boyfriend and his older brother!

Q.   right, im really just lookin for abit of advice, i already know what im doing is very very wrong and i do feel guilty about it.. im a 16 year old girl living in a small village in the uk, i went to an all girls school and as i live in a small plac...

A.   6 August 2008: oh my god. you cant stop yourself? honey you have got to. just stop now. i think that you have ruined your chances with either of them. if you make the choice to stay with your boyf, there will always be the fear that his bro will get pissed and say ... (read in full...)

Do you think we can last forever? We are too young to get together but he's an awesome guy!

Q.   I'm going into Middle school. I have this awesome guy friend. He is no pervert, no idiot, he is sweet, kind, and a lot of fun. He is in all of my classes, and lunch breaks. So we made a schedual... We get to hang out for at least 30 minutes each day ...

A.   5 August 2008: why are you too young to get together? im assuming you are at least 16, which to me, is not too young to start seeing someone you like. as for whether or not it can last forever? you honestly think that anyone here is going to be able to ... (read in full...)

Is sex between siblings incest?

Q.   Hi, I am a student of human psychology. I have a question. Is sex between siblings incest? I mean I have read it somewhere that it happens more often than we think. Has anybody had sex with their own brother or sister?...

A.   5 August 2008: yes it is incest. and yeah it happens alot. a good scroll through the archives of this site will show you that alot more ppl than we would think feel sexual attraction or have had sex with a sibling. i suppose there is a fine line that gets crossed ... (read in full...)

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