How should I approach sharing my wife?
Q. Hi, I want to hear from guys who have shared there wifes with a friend,stranger,etc. How did you approach it. How did it feel watching her when he started making love to her etc. My wife and I want to try something new . We sat in conversation one...
A. 9 November 2009: I am always skeptical about this subject. SatinDesire raises some very good points about how strong your marriage needs to be. I would simply say that if you had a PERFECT marriage, you wouldn't want to share your wife with another man, and she ... (read in full...)
Why, if she cares for me, does she insist on me earning as much as I can and accept the benefits that it brings, and yet despise me for it?
Q. I work so hard at my job because we need the money. My gf wants us to buy a larger place with some land and outbuildings etc so I feel I have to work as hard as I can. On the other side my gf will not get a paid job. She says that she already...
A. 5 November 2009: When I read through this post, and then at the responses, I almost found it laughable, if it wasn't so sad.
I will accept that you love this woman, and I will also accept that you want to remain with her.
But I cannot accept that she has such hug... (read in full...)
Can you suggest me tips on how to raise my chances with her?
Q. I passed by our company during my vacation leave when I met this beautiful, smart, and interesting lady in our office (so far she is the most beautiful woman in our office). I successfully established communication with her through chat and text ...
A. 29 October 2009: I get the impression that this woman has completely blown you away.
The trouble is that in this day and age, you have to be a little careful. You don't want to look like a stalker, or a pest, or a plain fool.
You work with this woman, so take pre... (read in full...)
Is it true that men like women with a few more curves?
Q. My b/f and I have both gained about 25 pounds since becoming involved with each other 4 years ago. (What can I say, we both love to cook, eat and drink). But I've decided enough is enough and started watching my calories and making time to work out ...
A. 29 October 2009: Firstly, the answer to your question is a yes, with conditions.
Men like curvy bodies like a Beyonce, J-Lo, or Shakira. Those girls are not fat at all, just really curvy. They have hourglass type figures. Men want curvy figures, but don't want to s... (read in full...)
Help with my boyfriend that's addicted to porn, but still has sex with me. I feel like I'm his sloppy seconds.
Q. My boyfriend masturbates to porn everyday. He still has sex with me, but it makes me feel horrible about myself because I am a very attractive woman that is in my early 40's. I look very good for my age. Men tell me all the time that any guy ...
A. 22 October 2009: This is a really tricky subject, as men and women seem to approach porn from different angles. Most of the answers tend to come from men, who consider that watching and masturbating to porn is a harmless and everyday ocuurence that has absolute... (read in full...)
Will he forgive me for cheating?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for several years. We live together, and have for the past 3 years. After years of being together, I cheated on him. I am not going to make any excuses. I know what I did was wrong. I knew it when I did it. ...
A. 9 October 2009: The answer lies with you. What would you like to happen? Do you want forgiveness? How would you regard him, if, knowing that you blatantly cheated, he forgave you? I think that deep down, you already know that your relationship is finished. Only you... (read in full...)
I can't get over his dirty magazine habits!
Q. Hi All, i cant believe im am writing and asking for advice, ive always been the one giving out advice and never needed any before. I am one of these that tackle any problems i have had in my life and then just get on with it. But im at a loose en...
A. 6 October 2009: I am not here to take sides, or say you are right, or your boyfriend is wrong or anything along those lines. I am merely thinking that you must be hugely upset to write such a huge piece.
I imagine that you are feeling almost betrayed. After all ... (read in full...)
Why does she refuse anal sex with me, her husband? She did this with her ex...
Q. my wife and I have always had a very honest relationship, but one night I asked to have anal sex. She denied me access so I asked why. We have attempted it once before, however I stopped because she really wasn't enjoying it. Her reply was very ...
A. 1 October 2009: Ok, re-read your own question, and the answer might slap you in the face.
'we tried it once before, however I stopped because she really wasn't enjoying it'.
That's quite a big clue. She didn't enjoy it.
So, grow up and stop thinking abo... (read in full...)
He says he's bored with me and that I'm unattractive. Should I still try?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little more than two years now and we have been living together close to two years. Just a couple of weeks ago he had been coming home late at night around 4 in the moring every night. He says he is with ...
A. 18 September 2009: You can keep trying if you want to, but I don't believe there is much that you can do to change his feelings. The problem is his, and not yours. He seems a little immature, and unsure of commitment. When a man tells his girlfriend that he is 'bore... (read in full...)
He's completely betrayed me! I've got the papers for a divorce but am I going too far?
Q. I recently found out that my husband of 6 years, was talking to another woman, as far as I know talking and texting, but I also found out that he sent a few pics and videos to her as well, pics and vids of myself that I made for him and him only... ...
A. 11 September 2009: Oh my goodness. Are you going too far? No way, you aren't going far enough! Firstly, pictures and videos which are private for you and him exist, and therefore there is always going to be a small risk that they can end up being seen by anyone. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has decided to get face surgery without discussion, she's considering a breakup incase it goes wrong? What to do?
Q. My girl friend of a few months has decided to go for a face surgery without discussing the consequences with me. She has even gone to an extent where she would like to let go of this relationship fearing that I would not lover her anymore if the ...
A. 11 September 2009: Although I do not agree with any type of cosmetic surgery, I think you need to sympathise with your girlfriend a little.
Her mind is at a stage where facial surgery is all consuming, and vital. It is so important that she has set money aside and ... (read in full...)
How should I deal with my situation?
Q. Please, no judgment. All I want is a sympathetic advice. I met this man 3 years ago, and it was a love from first glance. Our situation is:he is single, divorced 12 years ago, never got remarried, i am married my wholle life to a wonderfull man, we h...
A. 9 September 2009: Jane12, how can you ask for sympathetic advice? You are cheating on your husband! Do you want people here to feel sorry for you, because you can't let go of your lover? I have read your post several times over. You are clearly feeling very confused... (read in full...)
I'm so guilty that I cheated on my husband. Should I tell him?
Q. A few days ago, I slept with a male friend while my husband was out of town visiting relatives. It only happened, once, i swear, and I did not intend for it to happen. I didn't set out looking to cheat, it's something that just happened. We'd had a ...
A. 8 September 2009: I am not a huge subscriber to marriage itself, as I have seen too many of my male friends' lives wrecked in messy divorces, but I firmly believe that if two people really love each other and do get married, cheating will never occur. Sex is a funny ... (read in full...)
Opinions needed! Why has he not text me back???
Q. Why has he not text back? I slept with a guy 6 days ago after the 3rd date. We only want a casual thing but i want to know if it is going to happen again. The thing is i asked him afterwards if i would see him again, he said yes but didnt kno...
A. 6 September 2009: I would ask you to go over your own question, and carefully read what you told everyone here. If you pay attention to the responses that your friend gave when he actually bothered to repond, it will tell you everything. He has certain expectations ... (read in full...)
Opinions needed! Why has he not text me back???
Q. Why has he not text back? I slept with a guy 6 days ago after the 3rd date. We only want a casual thing but i want to know if it is going to happen again. The thing is i asked him afterwards if i would see him again, he said yes but didnt kno...
A. 3 September 2009: Well I think he will probably want to meet you soon, like he said. If this relationship is going to be casual, then don't try to plan meetings or expect him to respond in exactly three days. Let it happen at it's own pace.
If you are looking for ... (read in full...)
I don't like it shaved!
Q. I am what I think is a straight male. I however, cannot get aroused over a shaved pussy. There is nothing more repulsive than to see a five oclock shadow, stubble or worse, pimples! Now that ALL women shave and as I believe, we as a society are ...
A. 30 August 2009: People like what they like, there is no real right or wrong about personal tastes. As an older man, I have no particular preference. I have been told that many women shave, while many others trim, and the rest stay natural. A preference to one or a... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to stop sweating so much?
Q. Okay - I enjoy sport and I play alot of it. Unfortuantely I also tend to sweat quite a bit so I end up with some pretty unattractive sweat marks and this is a little embarrassing! Would this be a real turn off to guys? Or if they are the sporting...
A. 24 August 2009: I am wondering about this question. Do you mean that you sweat a lot whilst playing sport, or at other times? Some of the top female athletes in sport sweat a huge amount while they are playing or competing. Female tennis players, hockey players, ... (read in full...)
How will a younger man react to seeing an older woman naked?
Q. I have been seeing a younger man and we are considering getting intimate. He wants to. How will I know that he as a younger man will enjoy seeing me as an older woman naked? Ladies, do you have any experience with this? Any ideas for finding out if ...
A. 24 August 2009: Way way way back when I was 19 and working in the City, I was seeing a 47 year old woman who owned a recruitment business. The reason that we got together was because we could laugh and converse for hours on end, and just enjoyed each other's ... (read in full...)
Women aged 20-29 - please answer this!
Q. I've been seeing my gf for about 4 mos (I'm 39- shes 25) I know big gap. Anyway, about a month in -- we had "the talk" ---and I found out about her not so innocent past. It made me sick to find out she had slept with 15 other guys before me. ...
A. 23 August 2009: I can't believe this. You are stressing over what your girlfriend did BEFORE you even knew her. And more to the point, she is about 15 years younger than you are. Her sex life began in a completely different era to yours.
She is under no obli... (read in full...)
I'm scared that when we meet he'll be put off by my weight... what do you think?
Q. I became friends with someone online last year. The first 5 months, there was nothing at all overtly romantic or even flirty in our email communications. We just got along with each other very well. He surprised me by asking me out two months a...
A. 20 August 2009: I think that you are a little scared about what his reaction might be when he sees the real you, but I also think you are just plain scared about the whole thing. And yes, you should be.
I have never been a fan of these internet meeting ideas, simp... (read in full...)
Am I wrong in thinking that hetrosexual couples are unable to maintain a sense of equality?
Q. am i too logical? i love hetero sex, but i don't see the purpose in getting in a serious long term relationship with a MAN if there's no true plans on having children. men and women are not totally emotionally compatible...women and women get along ...
A. 19 August 2009: I cannot be 100 per cent certain, but I assume that in this world there are heterosexual couples who do maintain a complete sense of equality in their relationships. There are also the couples that you seem to be describing, the ones where a man is ... (read in full...)
I've lost 5 stone but my vagina still seems fat!
Q. hi i think ive got a problem with my vagina the thing is it sticks out!! the mound of it really sticks out. i dont no if it is because i was really overweight ive lost 5 stone but that part of me still seems fat. no joking when i lie down flat my ...
A. 18 August 2009: Well then your boyfriend is a very lucky man!
Women who have a pronounced or very prominent mound seem to be very sexy and erotic people ..... I tend to look for this in women.
I have dated many types of female, many different races and ages, an... (read in full...)
Am I out of order for not wanting him to be around these strippers all the time?
Q. So, My boyfriend owns a strip club. It may sound sleazy but he actually took it over after his brother that owned it died and it does make a lot of money so I would not want to ask him not to give that up. and I actually met him working as a ...
A. 18 August 2009: While I can sympathise with how you feel about him 'hanging around' with the girls all the time, you have to be realistic, and mentally strong. You were once a stripper yourself, and you met him as such. Before you knew him, he surrounded himself ... (read in full...)
If you had a hot partner, would you still look at porn?
Q. I would really like to know from guys... If your girlfriend/partner/wife is like really hot,(And i mean not only you think so, but other guys as well!) do you still need to look at porn? Or is she enough?...
A. 18 August 2009: The reasons that men look at porn are many and varied, hence there are many and various different types of porn that attract men.
Very often, a man in a sexual relationship has a certain 'favourite' sexual act, or position, something that is abso... (read in full...)
Is not being sexually compatible enough reason to end a marriage?
Q. I have been married for 3 years. When my husband and I first got together we had a great sexual relationship. and even more so because we both lost our virginity to one another. it is special and he pleased me and I like to think I did the same. ...
A. 15 August 2009: I personally do not believe that there is such a thing as 'sexual compatability'. People like to have these labels for everything, so that feelings and situations can become easily referenced and categorised. You and your husband had great sex befo... (read in full...)
Past is the past right? I'm concerned by the number of her sexual partners!
Q. Hi Ive been seeing a new partner for a few months now.. i did the old fashioned courting, but eventually the moment came to have sex. The night was fab..no problems there, but while lying there chatting.. the topic of how many partners we ha...
A. 14 August 2009: I think everyone has values about sex and life, so a persons opinion on a number of sexual partners is determined by those values.
My current partner of 17 years had many men prior to me, but although I was not too bothered about the number, I was ... (read in full...)
Can't get over what happened at my BFS 21st
Q. I've been in a healthy relationship for four years. The person I am with is the one that I'm meant to be with. So his 21rst birthday just recently passed. First; I was not invited to come, his brother was adamant that it was a guys night out o...
A. 13 August 2009: I appreciate that you feel hurt and betrayed by what happened. If that's how you feel, then that's how you feel.
Everyone has values and boundaries, and I guess that going out with a man who has been whipped and beaten by a stripper is pushing hard... (read in full...)
Is open marriage a solution for bad sex?
Q. I have a problem. I am split in two. I have been married for the last almost 5 years, and I love and adore my husband. He is a very loving, kind and caring person. The only problem is, the sex is pretty boring. It is not just his fault, obviously, ...
A. 13 August 2009: No matter how you try to mask your question, what you are doing is asking for acceptance and understanding of why you want to cheat in your marriage. You won't get too much sympathy from the people here, I know that you want to have your emotio... (read in full...)
I can't imagine a life without oral ...
Q. i'm having a big problem with my fiance... he loves getting orals, even insists on it... but won't give me any. the main problem is that fondling and all the rest, including penetration give me orgasm, but not really powerful. my ex always gave me ...
A. 12 August 2009: There was a similar question recently by a man who wanted to cheat on his wife to get oral sex. The aunts and uncles slaughtered this man for being 'disrespectful', 'immature', a 'control freak', etc etc. I was one of them. I firmly believe t... (read in full...)
His foreskin broke during sex
Q. hi, when i was having sex with my ex boyfriend, i was on top and then i broke his for-skin.. im really embarrassed, is this my fault and should i be embarrassed? ...
A. 12 August 2009: There is no need to be embarrassed at all. Why would you be? For damaging your boyfriends penis?
This has no reflection on you in any way. It doesn't somehow make you bad, or bad at sex, and I doubt he will go around bragging about it.
This ... (read in full...)
I've been cheating on my wife because she won't blow me.
Q. Hi. my problem is i love blow jobs so so much but my wife doesn't like to give them (she says it hurts her mouth too much cos I'm quite big, which i don't think i am) i have even on a few occasions gone else where for them but would like to receive ...
A. 11 August 2009: How can I get her to blow me more? Wrong question.
The real issue is you. When are you going to grow up? You are acting like a spoilt little boy. Your wife is a human being, not a machine or a plaything. Respect her feelings. Sex is all about plea... (read in full...)
My husband is very quiet and doesn't make much conversation with anyone... including me! What can I do?
Q. Hi, i'm at a loss as to what to do about my husband. He just doesn't make conversation- with me nor other people. He's got worse as he's got older, not better. And the worst thing about this is that i've got a really outgoing personality and ...
A. 8 August 2009: Well hold on a second. Where is the acceptance that each and every individual human being is different? He is your husband, but you say he comes across as ignorant, just because he is quiet around everyone? And to add that you are beginning to avoid ... (read in full...)
My gorgeous gf gets hit on by other guys and she hates it. How can we deal with this?
Q. Hi Aunts, My Problem isn't really a big one but its driving me mad!My Girlfriend is super attractive Shes 5 11' skinny long brown hair she could pass as a model.Thats not the problem though the problem is every where we go shes constant...
A. 8 August 2009: She hates it? Or do YOU hate it? I lived with a model. I know exactly what you are feeling. My ex didn't hate it at all, she couldn't handle it when men DIDN'T look at her! Yes, men stare, and ogle, and wonder what she is doing with you as her bo... (read in full...)
I feel men lack a moral compass
Q. I have issues with men and am not really sure what else can be done. I dont like feeling this way and dont hate men but I simply feel that the majority of them lack a moral compass. I look around the world and see rapes and murders daily on the news ...
A. 8 August 2009: I am not going to disagree with you at all. I think you have made some valid points. I believe that many men with wives, girlfriends and babies look at other women, and yes, in many ways it is disrespectful. I would also point out that in my exper... (read in full...)
Stay in a sexless marraige or take a chance?
Q. I;m only in my early forties ,and my husband does not want to have any sexual contact with me due to some unclear psychological problems. I need sex, i don't believe in cheating, shoud I leave him? It is a tragedy for me, I never thought it will tur...
A. 7 August 2009: I am wondering if the probelms are unclear to him, or to you? There needs to be some honesty here. And from what you are saying, the onus is on him to be straight with with you.
I believe that every person has the right to have a sexually fulf... (read in full...)
My fiance would rather sleep on the couch than with me..
Q. hello, I wonder how common this is: my fiance will not sleep with me in our bedroom, and has not for 7 months. she prefers the couch. i do not like this at all. we used to snuggle and fall asleep in eachothers arms everynight. i have made ...
A. 6 August 2009: Hello Mr Dutch.
As I took the time to read both your questions, I have to state in no uncertain terms, that the issue is unquestionably the sexual one.
You want her to swallow your semen. She refuses. Hmmm.
All the things you have done for her... (read in full...)
Does his sexual request reflect his level of respect for me?
Q. My new bf and I are having a long distance thing, we see each other every other wkend. We mainly communicate through daily txts. Naturally sometimes our txts turn abit dirty : ) We have told each other our sexual requests for nxt time we meet up....
A. 4 August 2009: If you have a problem, or feel uncertain about letting him do it, then don't let him. If allowing him to ejaculate in your mouth seems fine, but on your face and breasts seems somehow 'disrespectful', I accept your feelings, but can't quite un... (read in full...)
I want to lose weight... any diet tips?
Q. =[. That's a bad way to start a question haha my problem is, im fat. everyone tells me im normal but im almost a large and nothing in my closet fits out of all my 20 pairs of jeans only 2 pair fit and bearly! I can't buy new clothes it's out...
A. 3 August 2009: My dear, who on earth told you that you are fat? In England, we tend to use stones and pounds as a weight measure. I used to play linebacker, so I can quickly convert your weight in my head, and 8 stones and a few pounds is not fat. Nowhere near fat... (read in full...)
What's going on with my workmate? Does he like me or not?
Q. Any ideas what is going on with this guy? Girl starts new job, guy gives off all the signs he likes her, girl asks guy out, guy doesnt give an answer, guy backs off. Guy starts slowly giving off the signs again, girl isn't sure if he is just be...
A. 2 August 2009: Girl, from UK, aged 36-40, anonymous, very persistently asking the same type of question every couple of days.
Girl, from UK, aged 36-40, anonymous, needs to re-read the many answers to her previous questions on the same subject, even though quit... (read in full...)
He hasn't approached me for sex in a year, what's the problem?
Q. I am really concerned about the lack of a sex life between my partner and I. We have been together for 2 years and are both in our early/mid thirties. We've only managed to have full penetrative sex twice since the start of the relationship as I ...
A. 31 July 2009: Hmm, this is a touch confusing. I will first assume that before you met this man, you were not a virgin. You are very capable of having full, penetrative, painless, and hopefully pleasurable sex.
So this situation is a little weird for you, if your... (read in full...)
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