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My little brother has aspergers and hurts me when he gets mad. How do I get my parents to believe me?

Q.   my younger brothr is 9 years old and he makes me want to stab myself or him!!! the reason for this is that he has a type of autism called aspergers. all the time i have to hear "just ignore what hes saying" or "its only the aspergers" and even ...

A.   30 January 2012: I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. I happen to be a skills trainer for children with special needs, and in most typical cases, bad behaviors, obsessions and aggression stem from lack of routine and structure, especially in children with ... (read in full...)

What tips can you give me on masturbating??

Q.   Hello, I am 16 years of age and am a virgin. It's kind of bad between me and my mum so I was kind of hoping to ask questions here. So my friends gave me ways to masturbate but none of them seem to work for me. Does anyone have any ideas? If so I'm a...

A.   21 July 2010: YAY! I am so happy to hear that you are intrested in masterbating, rather than actually having sex at your age. AWESOME! I hope my daughter does the same. I must confess, I didnt experience my first orgasm untill I was 25, but don't let that ... (read in full...)

Pregnant and very confused

Q.   I just found out that I am pregnant. I am a fresh 26, in the middle of earning a Master's Degree, working full time, and currently with the man I will marry. I am surprised, we have spoken about having children - in a few years, not in a ...

A.   8 January 2010: Listen to your heart. I am a faithful person, and believe spirit will not give me something that was not intended for me. I have 3 children, and I am 27! Crazy, right? I am not very wealthy, but my house is full of love, and we live very ... (read in full...)

Do I have comittment problems?

Q.   Hi. I'm a senior in high school and I'm not sure what's wrong with me. I've only had one girlfriend my whole life, but I've been very close to having other girlfriends numerous times. My ex girlfriend and I broke up in my sophomore year and it was a ...

A.   8 January 2010: Soooo, here is the deal (and I am just sort of generalizing here), at your age, it is pretty common to not be in a commited relationship. It's the "age of exploring", so to speak. Most of your friends that are in relationships will probably not end ... (read in full...)

Should I take Antidepressants?

Q.   I believe myself to be a strong person and can deal with alot but i think it is this very mentality that has proved to be my downfall! The last few years i have coped with a lot from my grandmother's death to a miscarrige i told nobody about and...

A.   20 July 2009: My dad always told me that if I wasnt happy with my life, I should change it. However, depression can disable you from getting to a point in your life where you are truley happy. I know plenty of people who take anti depressants, who need them and ... (read in full...)

What are these bumps on my vagina?

Q.   My name is Melina and i have this problem. This isn't a problem that has to do with relationships or anything like that, this is a physical problem. I have these little white bumps on the outside and the inside of my vagina, and my vagina lips are ...

A.   20 July 2009: Hi sweetie. Don't tell us your name, we try to keep things on the down low here;) Sounds like a possible yeast infection. Is it soar, or itchy? Is there a funny smell, or discharge? You should always see an OB, no matter what your age if you are ... (read in full...)

Would I meet girls in bars and night clubs?

Q.   I am a fat, balding, bespectacled, virgin, 25 year old guy who is studying and working in a small town in the US. I do think girls sometimes give me looks, and maybe I'm not as ugly as I think myself to be. I honestly don't know. I'm too shy to...

A.   7 June 2009: The father of my 1st child is an older, balding, pretty ugly dude (to be frank), and I am (or was) a young, thin good looking gal when we met. Not all girls are shallow, in fact, the best girls care very little what you look like. I thought my ex ... (read in full...)

Why do men masturbate when they have girlfriends?

Q.   Why Do Men Masturbate When They Ave Girlfriends???? Plzzzzzzzzz Help My Bf Dose It N It Make Me Really Angry N We End Up Arguein About Itt!!! I Think It Rude N It Make Me Fill Like He Dosen't Love Me N That He Get More Pleasur Wen He Masturba...

A.   18 May 2009: It is what boys do. If you get mad and jump down his throat about it, he'll start hiding it from you, which will only make you more angry. It isnt that he dosnt love you, or isnt satisfied with you, it's just something he probably did before you, ... (read in full...)

What should I do? I can't keep feelling like this.

Q.   ok, this is strange one. what have i done!! this is even weird and awkward for me to type but... for years ive been really anxious and worried about what happened to me and my sister when we were young. i was about 12 and she about 6. we played ...

A.   15 May 2009: a some have said, "secret play" is supercommon for children, and it is natural. With that being said, as we grow older and realize exactly what "secret play" means, we have been taught that it is wrong, which it is. I am a female, and have had 2 ... (read in full...)

Should I keep our baby? Please help me...

Q.   I'm in a bit of a tricky situation. I'm almost 17 and my boyfriend is 19. I just recently found out i am pregnant, my boyfriend says he doesn't feel he's ready to be a dad and feels i should abort but says it's my decision, he'll be there no matter ...

A.   12 May 2009: Hon, I think you sould listen to your heart (which is already giving you an answer). I was 19 when I had my 1st, and ended up leaving the dad (he was a prick, for lack of a better word). It wasnt easy, but I am so happy to have my son. He is my ... (read in full...)

Should I keep our baby? Please help me...

Q.   I'm in a bit of a tricky situation. I'm almost 17 and my boyfriend is 19. I just recently found out i am pregnant, my boyfriend says he doesn't feel he's ready to be a dad and feels i should abort but says it's my decision, he'll be there no matter ...

A.   12 May 2009: Hon, I think you sould listen to your heart (which is already giving you an answer). I was 19 when I had my 1st, and ended up leaving the dad (he was a prick, for lack of a better word). It wasnt easy, but I am so happy to have my son. He is my ... (read in full...)

Update: He is overly protective of his email and workplace

Q.   Hi I was on here before about my boyfriend being over protective of his email and Blackberry. He viciously protects his office and the vicinity and wants me nowhere close. This is an update. He found that question here on DC, plus your a...

A.   12 May 2009: Well, glad to hear you are happy with, wait, are you? Confusing. Guess some ladies prefer the "challenge" type. Whatever floats your boat... I'll stick with water;)... (read in full...)

I don't know how to fix all the bad things I've said to him and now he's dying...

Q.   This isn't really about relationship, dating, love, or sex but I need help anyways. Well, actually I guess it could count as a relationship because I have a daughter/dad relationship with my dad. Well I'm fifteen. My dad has been out of my life a...

A.   21 April 2009: Your dad and my dad are exactly the same! When I was your age, my dad came back into my life after being M.I.A for 10 years, and while I thought I'd be getting a father in my life, I got a friend. He'd leave me home for weeks at a time with no food, ... (read in full...)

Why so jealous of other people's relationships?

Q.   why do i get so easily jealous of other peoples relationships? ive been with my boyfriend for over a year and are moving in together next month, we have never had an argument and never bicker or fight, we love each other so much, are really happy ...

A.   21 April 2009: Slightly petty, but I'm sure most of us here will say it seems there is something lacking in your relationship that is important to you and it is causing you to compare it to other relationships. It isn't uncommon to yearn for what you don't have, ... (read in full...)

Lack of oral sex in a relationship...

Q.   I've been dating a girl for 2 years now, and we never have oral sex. She doesn't want me to do it for her, but I do want her to do it to me. I'm not selfish though, I'd go down on her 7 days a week if she'd let me. I love giving oral to women. ...

A.   16 April 2009: Have you considered the possability that she may be a little self concious about her area down there? Maybe it's as simple as a mole that she thinks is absolutely hidious, or perhaps the last guy she was with told her she tasted like a can of tuna ... (read in full...)

Can you have an orgasm in your sleep?

Q.   Can u have a orgasm in your sleep? I think ive had this experience and it was lovely .but im not sure!...

A.   16 April 2009: Three cheers for sleep orgasms!!! LOVE THEM!! Except, waking up really bites. I've had sleep orgasms where I actually wake up to find myself (eh-hem) touching myself. Little more info than you need, I'm sure but, my point is, yeah, you can ... (read in full...)

Going through love

Q.   After the break up with my exhusband, I read a lot of books to heal and realize that I was a co-dependent and a love addict. I saw the signs and now am aware of why my relationships failed. 7 months ago, I met a man and we instantly connecte...

A.   8 April 2009: Arnt we all addicted to love to some degree? I sure am. I hate being alone. Get into trouble that way. I used to think I was going to end up alone, never allowing myself to be single, accepting the FWB thing too often, going for guys that were not ... (read in full...)

I'm a married woman with a huge crush on my married boss

Q.   Im a married woman who has a huge crush on my boss who is also married I know its wrong but I can't stop I think about him all day now im even picturing him while im "with" my husband I feel like if I tell him I will get it off my chest and get over...

A.   5 April 2009: You are married, yet have feelings for another man, and still make love with your husband? Huh. Anyway, crushes are perfectly capable of diong just that....crushing us. When you are married, especially, you have something huge to lose, and I have ... (read in full...)

I keep hearing rumors at work that my fiance is cheating

Q.   I keep hearing rumors at work that my fiance is cheating. i confronted him about it he said it didn't happen. but i found a letter from her. and one he had given her. she even sent me pics that he had even taken of his dick. i need help. we have ...

A.   4 April 2009: Just because you have kids dosnt mean you have to tolerate heartache. It would probably benefit your kids if they didnt have to see their mom out of sorts because of this. Have you told him that is no longer a question in your mind wether or not he ... (read in full...)

If a man cheats on his wife, does he tell her the truth or deny it?

Q.   If a man cheats on his wife does he tell her the truth. or does he deny it, and act like nothing ever happened to keep from loosing his family....

A.   4 April 2009: I suppose it depends on the guy. I know plenty of guys who seem to live by the "deny till you die" standard. It isn't right, but, guys and gals alike don't always seem to want to live the honest path.... (read in full...)

What does a casual relationship mean?

Q.   Hi, i would just like to know if someone says they what a causal relationship, what do they mean by this?...

A.   3 April 2009: I always saw the words "casual" and "formal" when used in terms of a relationship to translate as "just having fun" and "serious". I suppose it could mean something different to other people, but thats what my view of those words are. ... (read in full...)

Advice needed... I don't know what to do, should I stay or get out of this stressful relationship?

Q.   My girlfriend of almost 11 months now treats me like shit. She's controlling, demanding and takes me for granted... did I mention disrespectful... she insults me all the time and smacks me in the face or butt when she get's angry. Now I love her ...

A.   1 April 2009: In these situations, you have to ask yourself, "Is this what I want to deal with for the rest of my life?" You are only young once, do you want to waste these youthful years on a girl that has no respect for you? I wouldnt.... (read in full...)

Hormonal changes in women during their period... quick poll!

Q.   Quick poll: when a gal goes on her period: -Guys: does it happen that she can become difficult to deal with? As in, she's much shorter tempered and you can agitate her more easily? -Gals: do you tend to get short with people including your o...

A.   1 April 2009: Depends on the female. Before I had kids, my periods were super mellow, you wouldnt even know. After, however, they got crazy. It's painful, which alone will make you unpleasant to be around, but it also made me hormonal. So, of course, it can make ... (read in full...)

Can a marriage be worked on while one partner is still having an affair?

Q.   Hi, I've been married for 22 years, and found out my husband had an affair over a year ago. We have had a lot of good counselling and are due to go back to see her tomorrow. We are now separated and it is a relief to me not to have him around; ...

A.   1 April 2009: Wow, you are a very unique person! I don't know many ladies who are okay and understanding with their husband seeing another lady. How very selfless of you. On the other hand, you make a perfect doormat. What is their to council if he is not making ... (read in full...)

What do I do about porn in the workplace?

Q.   Ok...i have had heaps of issues with my hubby and porn over the past 8 years. He has finally dealt with it through counselling talking etc... Everything is great with us now. Now my problem is at work. See my boss has been visiting porn sites...

A.   1 April 2009: Seriously, if it is bothering you THAT much, you need to talk to your boss about it. However, it's only a big deal if you make it a big deal. My hubby watches porn, at first it bothered me untill I realized what a huge part of being a guy it is. Now ... (read in full...)

I envy the males!

Q.   I envy the males, they can be good looking and charming without trying. Girls have to make themselves into sluts at all ages to get a boyfriend that's not fair. Opinions please....

A.   31 March 2009: I envy males, but for completely different reasons. They can pee standing up, never have to bleed out of their sex organs and experience menopause (sp?) or PMS, they never have to carry a baby for 9 months and watch their bodies get sucked dry the ... (read in full...)

Porn good for my guy?

Q.   Is porn good for my boyfriend to watch once in a while, even though we live together?...

A.   31 March 2009: I think it's normal. Why, are you not feeling okay with it?... (read in full...)

Personal electric shaver? or Venus?

Q.   Very straight forward question. Is it worth it to switch to a personal electric shaver for shaving my private parts? Or should I just stick to my Venus brand?...

A.   31 March 2009: I have been shaving my personal parts for 10 years and found that the best tool in doing so is the gillet (sp?) power fusion. It vibrates, and has 5 blades. I've noticed that they make mens shavers more durable than womans shavers. It's weird, ... (read in full...)

Natural remedies for period pain???

Q.   Hello Ladies, it's another women's health question really... I've got really horribe period pains, I swear if child birth is anything like this I may just adopt. I've tried taking paracetamol and ibroprofen (together and separatly), other so called ...

A.   29 March 2009: What concerns me is that you have tred taking some pretty heavy duty pain relievers and they failed to work. I suggest mentioning this to your docter, as there might be a different reason why you are suffering this kindof pain. As for natural pain ... (read in full...)

I'm starting to think I sound really delusional

Q.   All of my life I've wanted to share my life with someone who loves me back just as much as I love him, but lately, I've been losing heart. I've been disappointed so many times, and I just wish there were that one person who loved me too much to c...

A.   29 March 2009: Sweetie, if you are not racist, then leave race out of it. Put all the men in a large pot, because in general, there are good ones and there are not so good ones, no matter where they come from. My very best friend was ripped to shedds by a latino ... (read in full...)

Help! My boyfriend has a low sex drive!

Q.   Hi Friends~ My bf, 33yrs old, and I, 26yrs old, have been dating for 6 months now. On our second date he told me that 3 months prior he had dated this girl for 2 weeks and after he broke things off with her she came to him 2 weeks later and ...

A.   29 March 2009: Well, I'm glad you can agree that head games are just not the way to get your point across in a relationship;) Sounds pretty complicated. At his age, I am suprised he has little experience with sex. How much do you really know about this girl he was ... (read in full...)

I saw a txt meant for my friend from my boyfriend that upset me.

Q.   my boyfriend and i were texting on the phone... my friend nick was sitting next to me and wanted to talk to him so i handed over the phone. they started talking but he wouldnt tell me what the were saying i took away the phone after an hour an...

A.   28 March 2009: What he is saying is reality, even though it seems like he is just being the lazy partner in the relationship. He is enjoying you right now, and even though it may get hard sometimes, he will want to work through it because he knows how good, fun ... (read in full...)

Negative pg test and you turned out to be pregnant?

Q.   So I havent had my "normal" period since the first week in December. In January I had alittle bit of bleeding for 2 days but then it stopped and I havent had anything since then. I have taken 3 urine test and 1 blood test recently and they all ...

A.   27 March 2009: I've had negetive urine results and still been pregnant, but never a blood test. The symptoms you are having could also be a medical issue like cysts in your overies or something of that nature, be sure and explain your concerns with your docter in ... (read in full...)

Doggy style...did I lose my virginity?

Q.   My boyfriend and I, are/were both virgins. I'm 13 and He's 15. We did "doggy style" tonight for the very first time, No protection was used. So did I actually..lose my virginity? That's the thing I'm confused about....

A.   27 March 2009: Sorry hon, I hope I wasnt coming off as rude. I'm just concerned. Perhaps I shouldnt be so much, guess it's a weakness of mine; an over concern for others. My intention was to answer your question and inform you on some other very important factors ... (read in full...)

I don't trust him and everytime he goes out I wonder where he is, and who he's with?

Q.   I am in a 3 year relationship, have one child and am 8 months pregnant for my second. My partner and i used to have a real good relationship but since october its been different. in october i found some txts on his phone and found out tht he had met ...

A.   26 March 2009: I know how you feel, and the question isn't what you can do to trust him, it's what he can do to earn your trust back. I found that with my husband, the more he over reacted to my telling him how I feel, and that my trust for him has been altered, ... (read in full...)

He cheated... now what?

Q.   I need all the help I can get! I just went on my boyfriend's myspace and he's been cheating, what the hell do I do? I'm scared, it's been happening for a couple months. I'm so stupid, why didn't I see it before? What can I do? I'm having his ...

A.   23 March 2009: Don't go beat her ass, she probably dosnt know about you either. He definetly needs to be confronted, but once you have calmed down a little. Remember, stress is the worst possible thing for your baby! How dare him do this to you and your baby, by ... (read in full...)

I was raped by my brothers best friend

Q.   i need help I'm 12 i was raped by my brothers best friend now I'm pregnant please any advice ...

A.   22 March 2009: Yes, go to the authorities straight away, tell yourparents, and your brother. He dosnt need a friend like that hanging about. ... (read in full...)

I'm 14 and pregnant and really scared.

Q.   Im 14 years old and I did a really stupid idea with my boyfriend that's 16. We had sex in his truck 1 time... 2-3 weeks ago and it was an accident. I found out 3 days ago that I'm pregnant. I don't believe in abortions because its just plain murd...

A.   22 March 2009: Wow. It is going to ruin your life. But, hey, thats the bad news. Oh, and that your boyfriend is too young to know what love is, so there no possible way he loves you. Other than that, you'll be happy to know that you have other options. I am not ... (read in full...)

Doggy style...did I lose my virginity?

Q.   My boyfriend and I, are/were both virgins. I'm 13 and He's 15. We did "doggy style" tonight for the very first time, No protection was used. So did I actually..lose my virginity? That's the thing I'm confused about....

A.   22 March 2009: Crash corse, then. He most likely did cum, and if he didnt, there is a such thing as precum, which every male does. It is a small amount of ejaculate that occurs just before he orgasms. Pre cum has more sperm count than an ejaculation (which is why ... (read in full...)

We both want a baby..but we know we're young!

Q.   I'm 14, and My boyfriend(16) and I are sure that We want a future together....but the only thing is, We are in a long-distance Relationship. We talk about this all the time and I'm having such a hard time deciding what to do. My Boyfriend is most ...

A.   22 March 2009: Babies don't bring a girl and a boy together forever. A commitment does. You guys are not ready to produce a baby. I am 9 months pregnant with my 3rd child, absolutely miserable, pain everywhere, feel like a fat cow, and my poor husband has to stand ... (read in full...)

Doggy style...did I lose my virginity?

Q.   My boyfriend and I, are/were both virgins. I'm 13 and He's 15. We did "doggy style" tonight for the very first time, No protection was used. So did I actually..lose my virginity? That's the thing I'm confused about....

A.   22 March 2009: If he was inside of you, yes, you lost your virginity, no matter how it was put in there, your virginity is gone. Not only that but you may be an expecting mommy! Thats right, no protection=baby. Havnt they taught sex ed in school at your age? If ... (read in full...)

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